I wasted my 20s.
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The best thing about being a grownup: no one tells you what to do
The worst thing about being a grownup: no one tells you what to do
The main reason i'm feeling lost is because other grownups suddenly just stopped ordering me around, and to think that i actually wanted this to happen when i was a teen but now that i'm being held responsible for my own life i feel like such a useless person who can't even figure out how to handle his own self
@@youneskasdi That is why you cultivate discipline, which will take work. I'm only figuring that out, really, at age 29. Started occurring to me maybe two years ago. Being an adult (that others would respect) means that you need to learn how to crack the whip on yourself. That is being an adult and that is being disciplined. Do difficult things because you know they will make you better. Children are incapable of this. But this is ideally, what makes adults different.
@@ams914 Great advice!
the problem is you morons are spoon fed your entire life and never listened to yourself or cultivated an understanding of yourself.so now you are completely empty and shallow. That has fucking nothing to do with discipline or the structure you were born into.. more structure does not lead to understanding of ones self.. its just more insanity and polarized thinking.
It takes a while to realize that you are a grownup. That's why you still have people out here clubbing at 65.
I'm only 3 and I'm already worring about wasting my 10's
Seriously though: Is that what that decade is called? I thought it would be called your "teens", but that doesn't include ages 10-12. Does anyone know?
selohcin Pre-teens
@@melvinhoward7308 NO, I'm talking about the decade of your life from ages 10-19.
@@selohcin your childhood
All those lego houses buildt in vain
I wasted my 20s, 30s and 40s. Now in my mid 50s I'm finally getting my crap together. It's never too late people. If you "are" in your 30s, be grateful and get to work on improving your life. One step at a time. 👽
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I just turned 30 this year, and I am finally starting to think about my future. Thank you for this advice, because it's something I need to keep telling myself to keep motivated.
im turning 20 this year
I am 32 years old and about to turn 33 I wasted... Absolutely WASTED every single day of my 20's. I'll never get it back. Until right this second I've never talked about it with anyone because I've felt so ashamed of myself and my life. I genuinely hated myself.. For about 8 straight years. Not just because I'm boring, it was "oh if I don't wake up tomorrow the world will be all the better for it." I didn't care if I lived or died because for almost 10 years I did nothing with myself because I lost everyone I thought was a friend and my Ex had cheated on me and was just going on dumb tinder dates that were meaningless until I stopped even going out because why even? After high school my friends either moved away or moved on and I stayed in place. My 20's... That whole decade where you hear people having the best times of their lives was so excruciating for me and to make it worse I had no one to talk to. I didn't tell my parents about my depression or suicide attempt because I couldn't take them thinking they did something wrong to produce a worthless son who tried to kill himself and even failed at that twice. THINGS CHANGED though. I know its going to sound cringe but it's what happened. My life got better when my dog came into my life. I never had a dog take to me like Ty did(My dog's name is Ty short for Tyrion) He has shown me so much love so unconditionally and I have experienced so much joy just because he is so attached to me. Why he became attached to me? We don't know but we are inseparable, He is a medium big dog which means he needs walks which means I had to get out of the house, which meant I probably had to interact with other humans... And I did.... And within a year our development or part of the town we live in... They all know me and they know Ty and I'm not alone. I found a part of myself I assumed was dead and I'm alive because of my dog. My relationship with my parents is the best it's ever been, people actual care about me... Our neighbors know me and even give me Christmas gifts it's insane. I thought I was too far gone, I had wasted too much of my life, I had done nothing with myself and while I'll never have my 20's back I always have right now, I will always have knowing that unconditional love is real and even though eventually Ty will pass on he will always be the reason I learned to love not just myself but love life. I've skipped a lot but this is too long as it it. I just want people to know that it is NEVER too late to change your life or find a reason to love yourself. Will it take time? Fuck yes. Will it be easy? No, but you will slowly find reasons you might have not known were there to love yourself to stick around. The world has some beautiful stories, you are one of them... I hope to hear yours. If anyone reading this wants to vent, or talk or tell me their story I'll always be here to listen feel fress to contact me. Thank you for your post and allowing me to tell my story and giving me hope for the future. It means more than you may ever know.
@@nervrenders I had a whole paragraph written down about my life and the things I regret, but it was all randomly deleted so I'll try writing it again: Reading your story made me cry; it's very inspiring, and I'm glad you're in a better position now. In my case, I spent most of my teenage years being a burden and doing nothing but playing games, I only became an excellent student on my last two years of highschool but for all the wrong reasons (seeking validation from people and expecting them to praise me), I didn't go into college right away cause I graduated in 2020 and COVID didn't allow me to study in US like I wanted to, spent every single fucking day after graduation just playing online games instead of studying, I don't even know how to fucking drive, the online friends who helped me get through depression and helped me accept myself as who I am turned on me and made up false accusations, spent half of 2021 doing nothing and the other half trying to do something but just failing to commit, trying to change in 2022 but it's the same fucking thing again. I'm turning 20 this march 2nd and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with my life. I'm afraid the years will pass and I'll be as useless as ever. I'm afraid I'll end up like my brother who, although graduated in civil engineering, is working at a bakery earning minimal wage. Hell, I'm afraid time is just gonna pass, I'll become older, and everyone will leave me behind while I still try to figure out my life... I don't know what the fuck to do and procrastinating is hard to get over...
I'm 26 right now and hit "reboot" on my life at 24. I had 2 choices, complain about my bad decisions and dwindling health, or take a step back and think about what I *really* want to do. Now I've moved back home, paid all my debts, and started writing my novel. I also started learning all the subjects I wanted to take in school but was afraid because they were for "smart people", namely programming, filmmaking, graphic design, and math. I've lost 88 pounds doing simple exercises and eating low carb, and got rid of my t2 diabetes that I inherited from a decade of ramen, pizza, and video games.
I have no idea where I'll end up doing all this, but I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'd rather have a low paying career doing what I want and be happy, than go back to my old life and bury myself in depression.
You truly are an inspiration, thanks for sharing!
Good job :)
good luck on your novel!
From one human being to another I'm proud of hearing this, when we make changes no matter what can bring a huge outcome towards a better direction in life 👏
I'm happy for you :)
"Most people die at 25....we just don't bury them until their 75" - Benjamin Franklin
K N O W L E D G E
@omnivore gains bruh 😂😂😂😂
I would let this go... But I can't :
*they're
@@khoitheboy do you not see the irony of the comment? Abraham linclon died over a century before the internet was invented, lmao he didn't even know what internet is
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Your 20s would of been a waste if you never came to this realization.
No need to be so negative
They're being the opposite of negative
@@m.zahiruddinmohhar6492 Agreed with Finnegan. The original commenter was inferring that most people in their 20s go through this. It's a lost transition period to where a person fully develops into an adult.
Zahir Leddajjar he isn’t being negative lmao
Clarification to those commenting. What if the one reading his comment is over 20s? Won't he feel negative thoughts?
That's what i found in that video:
1. Stop worry what people think about you
2. Stop playing the victim
3. Make you life more worthy rememberable
4. Move yourself out of the box | Make progress
5. Be confident in what you do
6. Only you know yourself, not others
7. Read books
8. What others can do, you can do it too
Thanks mate
Not all heros wear capes.
well the world doesnt work the way we all think it does, does it now
Thank you
I believe some of these points are right, but sometimes some people are just a victim of circumstances. I've seen tragic shit happen to other people, problems that they had no control over, and all of them coped differently. I guess I just feel empathy for them and wish the best and hope they heal soon.
I'll be 57 in December, and I can tell you that turning 30 was the most traumatic life change that I'd ever experienced. 40 was a breeze and 50 was nothing.
But with 30, I did feel as if I had wasted my 20s.
Thats how I feel mostly.
"Every day I wake up and try to be the person my dogs think I am."
Legendary comment.
I love that comment I’m going to “the rest of my life I will make sure to give you credit for to
I love that comment I will never forget it
Yes, life is about this!
I won't eat until my animals do. Yeah I'm strange hah.
i feel like 90% of people feel this way....
thank you for sharing.
this physically hurt me, an echo of my own thoughts as i turn 29 tomorrow.
I'm 25, in the middle of wasting my 20's, but I don't know what I really want to do instead
DEATH METAL facts.
I think it's actually 99%
Im 22 im learning my 3rd language and I plan to a 4th before I turn 30.
I dont know what you all like but do something you like, learn a language, learn a new skill, travel the world.
I just hope I dont feel this way when I turn 30
I'm turning 20 in a few weeks and I already feel like all my days are repetitive and it scares me.
Turning 20 in a little over a month and I feel the same. But I do not have any feeling whatsoever to stay in this feeling of repetitiveness. I just can't. Wish the best for you J.
im 16 right now and i feel the same. but just remember that we are still young. be grateful in the fact that we have these stories to guide us on what not to do, and what to value. time flies, so dont take it for granted, and waste it on useless things.
its just hard now with covid shit..
I turned 20 in May, and my days have been repetetive since I dropped out of college in 2019. No matter what I do, I always fall back into the coping mechanism that is gaming my life away. I’m introverted with no friends and no skills or career prospects and it scares me that so many people just…live like this. But at the same time, it’s getting harder and harder to stand out from the crowd (Employment wise and life-wise)
I felt the same for a while when I turned 19. It's alright. We know early and we will all make it, and live a life fulfilling to us.
"Every man has two lives, and the second starts when he realizes he has just one” - Confucius
great quote
Someone once told me, “When I was 20, I cared about what everyone thought about me; when I was 40, I stopped caring about what everyone thought about me; when I turned 60, I realized no one was even thinking about in the way I thought they did.” Don’t waste your life caring about what other people think about you. Insecurity will make you miserable.
Edit: I’m glad this resonated with a lot of people. Life gets so much better when you stop looking at the negatives and focus on the positives. Cheers
How do I stop though? 😅
This is either from the book 8th habit or 7 habits of successful people.
NarcatasCor Notice the way you react to it. Then conquer it. Be aware of your reactions. And then change the way they make you feel into something you want. Something positive.
NarcatasCor we can only change what we are aware of. If your body gets tense and your stomach tight and your posture gets small, etc. that’s what you need to change and turn into a positive automatic response, to replace the negative one most people have been conditioned to have
Love this sir -just turning 40
"It was much easier to level up in WoW instead of real life."
Hits home.
Better yet, as you level up, you go to new places, learn to know new people, etc., but that stops once you hit adulthood properly.
So this is the feeling I hade when I beat hollow knight and momodora 4...
you dont waste your time doing thing you enjoy whether it's playing video game or doing sky-diving...
I wasted my 5 year at wow!
@@necipakgz
So you didnt enjoy playing it ?
2020: I wanna buy my parents a house
2021: My family disowned me; I disowned my family
Unfortunately
@@JoshuaFluke1 Ik a lot how you feel. My entire family is narcissistic and not in my life for four years. I didn’t know about narcissism until my thirties either. My narcissistic ‘mother’ was very monetarily successful and I still wanted to pay her back for helping me financially until I became disabled and her true hate for me could no longer be hidden. Sorry we’re going through this and you’re never alone.
@Sejal Nerkar thanks, Sejal, God bless you.
I'm 19 rn
Thanks for bringing this to light right before I turn 20.
Video games may be a waste of time for u if they hog your time, but they're are not a waste of time themselves as they provide a source of creative input, which is vital if you want to produce great output.
Personally for me, life isnt just about what I accomplish, but what I enjoy doing.
I'm 31 and I've always said that I wasted my 20's but I never realized that in my 20's I was dealing with anxiety and depression until I was 26. Take control of your lives and live life in the moment. It's never too late to live the life you want. Much success to anyone who reads this.
What did you do to take control back from anxiety and depression? I’m turning 26 in a few weeks and feel the exact same. Last few years have been an unfulfilled, depression-blanketed blur.
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@@NPark-ne4ii I'm not sure of your current situation or you past experience, but from what I've been through when I hit my mid 20's I realized that I was not mentally equipped to take on the real world. Growing up we have the comforts of being a teenage to mask our true insecurities that will later trouble us down the road. Maybe these insecurities came from past childhood trauma or not hitting the milestones growing up to gain experience and confidence. What I can say to help you, is identify that you have issues like anxiety or depression and tell yourself that it's only a emotion or thought and that those emotions are temporary. I take long walks and and talk to people about how I feel. Keeping those feeling inside won't do you any good. If you ever have a chance in your life to travel somewhere in the world, it's definitely a life changer. That's just me. Sorry for the long response, hope you take something from it.
Thanks for this 24 and feeling lost
@@OUFN Appreciate your reply.
If you are reading this, this is directed to you:
I am a 22 y/o male. In college online part-time. I work full-time. I live with parents (good home life). I'm in a relationship. None of what I just said matters. None of my hardships or accomplishments matter. You are your own person with your own unique experiences, hardships, and accomplishments. DO NOT compare yourself to me, the guy in this video, your peers, or anyone else. I personally believe that this video was simply an expression of built up emotions from a 29 y/o guy who felt he was ready for change in his life. THAT'S GREAT. We all go through this sometimes and this video brought you here, as it did me, because we are probably in our twenties and looking for some sound advice, or maybe we also feel that we have "wasted our 20's."
Whatever the reason, just remember that you are freaking awesome, no matter who you are and no matter what other people say or think, and no matter what you have done or where you came from. Make the most of your life by accepting your mistakes as opportunities to grow and humbly enjoying your times of success.
I love you, and I am proud of you. Keep moving forward :)
Hey thanks
I love you. Thanks so much.
hey, you don't know me.
JustPeachyRL im 20 and I feel like I’ve wasted my 20s already lol
JustPeachyRL I love u G I’m trying I’m trying so hard to not let fear rule my life I’m going to a new school my senior yr have dreams of touring the world in arenas Nd have a big ass crush on this girl I really fcking like it’s just so hard but all I can do is do if I want to be tht person no matter the consequences💯man pray for me lol
You got married, bought a vehicle and a house, chose a proper career then started your own business. I don't see how is that wasting your 20s?
I have had none of those lollll not even a girlfriend
then you should rewatch the video
I think you missed the “I wasnt happy” part.
Marriage is definitely a waste, I’ve seen it suck like out of many people.
@@donmamon9263 Sounds like they needed to choose a better partner.
I didn’t start college until I was 25, didn’t graduate until 30, didn’t buy a home until 36 and never really understood life outside of books until my early 50s (that was a rough lesson).
We all would like to punch our younger versions in the mouth but, really, how do you gain wisdom if not by making hordes of mistakes? Make them and learn from them; use your time wisely.
you become wise by not using your time wisely
@@ellielikesmathThis!!
I had dropped out of college but went back at 28 years old for a STEM degree. It changed my life for the best. Luckily, I worked for a great company that helped with tuition and books and gave me a promotion when I graduated.
Talking about being old in college at 21 meanwhile I'm thinking about starting college and new career at 28 lol.
Do it bro you only live one life
Do it bro! I’m 29 and ready to do the same! Gotta take a chance.
Hey man, doing whats right for you is never the wrong decision. I know people who started studying to be doctors in their late 40s, and they graduated this year! Do it!!
I'm 18 and started uni last year. One of my friend is 33 and he's having the best time of his life at uni. You're totally fine.
I never thought that I would find a comment like this, I’m on the same page. Starting a new career at 28 and in a foreign country! We are not alone :)))
You wasted your 20s? Let's see, buying a house, getting married, landed a 65k job... If that's what wasted 20s looks like I'm butchering mine.
Its all relative besides he might not be doing what he wanted to do with his life
@@daimsaeed I want to play games, travel and enjoy life every day of my life, doesn't mean I am getting it. Look at the odds, average salary here is around 16800 eur a year, how do you become a millionaire in your 20s? Options: Buy a lottery ticket and win, have a rich daddy or create a company like Uber. All of that very unlikely. This guy is crying about his 60k a year while working non physical job, where he doesn't even have to get his ass off the chair. Priveleged 1st world white man problems. You got to enjoy what you have and think less about millions that you didn't earn because that is a straight road to depression.
@@xhengisroundstone4759 lol, 65k brings more happiness than 18k for sure. That is three times happier.
@@ErikMurt444 start a business, be the boss, make your own damn salary
@@Elnato23 lmao someone's been following too many rise and grind ig accounts
A lot of young men in their teens and early 20's need to watch your vid's. I'm almost 40 and your wisdom is already light years ahead for where I was at your age. I've wasted a lot of my life being a late bloomer because I didn't know what I wanted early in my early 20's. I have regrets, but there is no going back to knock some sense into myself. Keep making videos and I will keep watching.
Dude this breaks my heart hearing all this. Just starting my 20s and hope to learn from your advice.
I'm 46.. you still have another 17 years before you get to my old ass age... so enjoy while you're young
My biggest regret was having low self esteem and confidence and worrying too much about what other people thought.
You're speaking like you're finished. You're only getting started.
Yeah, obviously its better for it to be earlier but life can start at any time!
Words of wisdom thanks
LoLo you still have years on years buddy go live life!
yea
bro you got married & divorced
lived in another country
finished a college degree
own a house (however rundown)
had your dream car
own a company
now are getting started on your dreams
you are top 1% in the world, you didn't waste your 20s
This guy just shitted on every guy his age while crying crodile tears.
I don't think any of you understand his message, he wasted a lot of time doing stuff that in retrospect was useless for the future. (which is btw a common occurrence) So his current position could have been much better.
-> "wasted my 20s" is just a way to catch peoples attention, a catchy title. Something most understand and can relate to.
-> "crocodile tears" He didn't shit on every guy, he just expressed something many of us feel.
-> "c*nt*" Useless comment, what exactly was bad about this video or him as a person?
You're right Mike he is top 1%. Sounds like a motivating comment you posted, like tough love. Don't understand the negativity in the replies though.
@@thoughtfulluis6202I can understand you can relate, but am I supposed to feel sympathy? The thing about TH-cam and TV is that they somehow manage to create the idea that what they went through was tough and painful unlike anyone else and that they somehow deserve the attention. The crude reality is that there are millions of young men (women I have no clue) that went through worse and are not dressing it up as dramaticaly as he is doing. Look I don't really care, I just found it annoying.
I have respect for the guy and his achievements I am sure he had it rough. But he has his successes to show for. Many people watching are just in a rut. It is a bit annoying to watch this guy soft boast.
You don't have to care about my opinion. It's just one in a sea. That's just my thoughts. I'm sure he can be useful for many out there. But that whole victimhood stance and then showing his troophies was grandstanding and a bit deceiving. What am I supposed to have pity of his riches? LOL da fuck
@@brain0nfire I mean, at some point I just liked the video cause I understood what he was saying and many people don't learn about it until way later in their lives. Its my first time watching his content and well all I got out of it was "I feel like this" so the purpose of the video was more like him venting. Which basically means I'm not really gonna get anything out of it as I already know what he's talking about and I don't recall him giving a solution.
Uh as for the boasting/annoyed thing I didn't really interpret it like that. (I believe I zoned out halfway thru the video tho and started reading comments which might I add I read the married at 21 and was utterly surprised) So yeah not really defending him just your comment by itself seemed petty if you add the comment the next guy made... Like I didn't get where you both were coming from.
Now that you explained your view I guess if I rewatched the video I probably could see it, but the content in itself is mundane and that could be why I looked towards the comments for like stories of how ppl overcame their issues and whatnot. So i'll just take your word that he came off obnoxious if you look in between his words.
2/10 enjoyment
7/10 explanation
"manage to create the idea that what they went through was tough and painful unlike anyone else and that they somehow deserve the attention"- welcome to every social media platform :D where everyone has an opinion and you best believe it'll be shared.
anyway thx 4 the reply i appreciate it
ThoughtfulLuis so you’re saying this video was basically clickbait
I'm 28 years old, and feel like I have been in a coma for a decade, war started in 2011, displaced in late 2012 and moved to a rented apartment.
In 2018 my family's apartment has been destroyed and afterwards visited the ruins of my childhood memories, now in 2021 I've moved to Turkey, but life still didn't recover too much, as I suffer from depression/a bit of social anxiety particularly when I compare myself with my peers whom lived the same shitty circumstances or fled to Europe and graduated and have a job makes me feel more like a loser... while I was panicking and worrying about war, missiles, bad situation, what's going to happen next, I wasted my 20's and didn't manage to concentrate on studying which led to drop out of college...
But even though I feel broken inside and behind in life I didn't surrender, currently trying my best to improve my English and learn some useful skills and looking for an online job in order to help my old parents and boost self-esteem as well.
Go back
I'm 65 and this is what I think I figured out:
Every experience you had in the past got to where you are today....
Go back and change what? Different doesn't mean better just different
but
you still have lessons to learn that only experience can give you!
Taking an "L" doesn't mean necessarily mean "loss" but can mean "lesson" ...
From where I'm standing from your introspection and self-awareness, you're doing just fine! :-)
(Edit)
One last thing:
Growth is a constant process of refinement; you're not the same person you were and not the person you're going to be!
The late, great Muhammad Ali said something along the lines of:
"If you're the same person at 40 that you were at 20, you wasted 20 years of your life"
True
You are also an old piece of trash who completely destroyed the country, your advice is less than worthless.
Me: *Turns 20 today*
TH-cam Algorithm: You need this video.
ikr.. so thankful for youtube Algorithm.
Happy Birthday (a bit late but still)
Belated happy birthday boi!
💀 I turned 20 2 days ago
@@sisqobaker3496 belated happy birthday to you too 💀
Doing my job for the youtube algorithm. Nah, you're twenties were not wasted, it took you 10 years to learn not to waste your life until 65, I'd say that is a good trade :)
Couldn't put it better myself, on point!
Same opinion
That's a great point of view
Petrica Bota - your*
@@tylersmith1220 well, got the second your right, so there's that. Also, English is my second language so, pardon me.
Almost everyone is lost in their 20’s, even if they don’t recognize it until later.
It’s so true. Once you hit your 30s you realize you were just on autopilot living to please everyone but yourself.
@@nataliegrayhandle That’s great, but the fact remains, most people are lost in their 20’s and they shouldn’t feel bad about it. It’s a time of intense growing, learning about who we are, what we want and learning how to fail and try again. It’s perfectly ok.
I'm completely lost.
@@Julia-en1ok what's worse is not being lost but just unable to move forward because of money! "You really should move out of your parents house" how the fuck can i do that when rent is insane!
@@dericmederos1514 - I know it’s not ideal, but what about renting with housemates until you can find a little affordable place? That’s what I did in my twenties…it worked for that time in life. Or I guess, be willing to drive a bit and rent someplace where real estate is less.
Who are you quoting about “really should get out of your parent’s house”?
The original "I wasted my 20s" type video
I’m 20 this year and I keep worrying about whether I’m doing enough or if I’m wasting my time while I’m young, but I’m starting to realise that it’s not about how much I do but how present I am and how fulfilling it is.
Don't forget to set your life up though because if you go through your 20s without setting yourself up a career choice of some sort and doing the ground work to solidify what your going to do then it almost feels far too late by 30. Fulfilment will inevitably stand in line with financial success at some point no matter what people say. I promise. Be smart, enjoy your time but also put in work and effort to make it easier later to continue enjoying your life
That’s a good sentiment. I’m 19 and I’d say I worry far too much about if I’m wasting my time or not but it’s about doing what truly makes yourself happy currently, and lining yourself up to be happier tomorrow and beyond. That means appreciating now and accepting the future will come much sooner than expected :)
Start watching bigger pockets videos
What is fulfilling now may not be fulfilling in the future. I am not saying do not do what is fulfilling to you now, but it would be smarter to supplement that by finding something else that is also fulfilling that is more concrete and time-independent, e.g. future-proof. I wish I knew this ):[.
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1) Stop caring about other's opinion.
2) Don't be self concious.
3) Stop being sorry for yourself.
4) Appearance of time goes faster after 21age because doing same things everyday.
5) Do dopamine high things or else you'll have anxiety aging .
6) Stop spending too much time on gaming.
7) Make progress in life where it matters, unlike game where they can restart your progress.
8) Build self confidence ( do things which make you uncomfortable)
9) You're never DONE. you're always in the PROCESS.
10) Made video on YT and sounded how I WANTED TO BE and told that's not you by others. It hits hard.
11) For my dogs, I'm their EVERYTHING. For me they are a part of my LIfe. I remember that to keep myself humble.
12) 28-30 years, I read books. It sounds cliche but it's so true. Books justify your mentality that you've never heard anyone say before.
13) Books recommend - Unscripted by MJ DeMarco. Any book by Robert Greene. War of art by Steven Pressfield. Ryan holiday anything by him.
14) How to stay motivated ? You don't have to. You just gotta do what you gotta do. Eg - going to school.
Agreed!
I love you, especially the last part, u don't need motivation, just do what u gotta do...
it's not about how you feel, its about what you do !!!!!
In books recommend, you forgot Atomic Habits by James Clear, this book is really masterpiece btw
@Light Myst yamete kudasai
@JASSWWINDER SINGH why stop spending too much on gaming ? I sometimes plays 16 hours a day on it during summer or sometimes 24hours. Its just a hobby ! Whats makes it different than spending 10-16hours on bike, road trip, reading books, watching tv or netflix, martial arts, doing arts or golf or any other hobbys ? You might say its a waste of time but i could say that for anything you do in life.
I watched this video before I turned 20, now in a few months I’m turning 21 and I rewatched this video.
It’s easy for me to say that I think this is one of the best video in youtube. So genuine.
The hard part is to understand what we miss and accept it, not trying to fill that void with something else.
I am 29. I finally am doing what you are saying. I don't care about what people say. I also stopped comparing with people who are younger or anyone else. I have realised life is not about competing with others but with yourself. I have finally seeked therapy, I have medication for my depression. I have started hitting the gym again. I am trying to quit porn and its going well. I am saving money and plan on investing.
Sure, I dont have a girlfriend, or 20000 dollars in my bank or even a driver's license but its NEVER too late to hit the reset button. And like what you said, NEVER PLAY THE VICTIM. I have enough of playing victim. The wheel is my hands. I will get to my destination. Even if its slow. And I will enjoy every damn minute of the journey while I can.
I wasted my 20s too but then again I had severe depression for half my 20s. That’s ok though bc I’m in my 30s now and getting my life together!
Jenna Jams im about to end my 29th year on earth .. Its ok we suffer the same dont worry .. That had to happen so we become what we are today .. Stronger, wiser, better
@@imawarrior313 For real! I agree
Jenna Jams yup .. Cuz it doesn't matter how much you know .. Ure not gonna realize who you are until and unless stuff happens to you
@@imawarrior313 Facts
I wasted my teen years on depression, I'm 20 and don't want to lose any more of my time. I hope it gets better for you soon, stay strong ❤️
Self-discipline > Motivation
Morris Sutton that’s awesome man. Take advantage of that now before you take on more bills, get in a relationship, have a kid, etc. I’m only now learning the lessons, at 27, that you are learning.
@Morris Sutton Invest that money. You will be so happy you've decided to make money work for you rather than trading your time for money. Invest it in real estate, stock market, or making an ecommerce business. You won't regret it!
@Morris Sutton Invest in yourself before anything. Learn about yourself and your passions. Read books, Invest in knowledge. Its the best thing money can buy. Im only 19 so im just learning too.
This ^. And i'd also add consistency trumps talent.
@@ScantaniouslyCombust consistency doesn't best talent. Consistency only wins when talent gives up.
I feel like I wasted my 20s. It just went by like a blink of an eye. I never finished college either because I just didn’t know what to pursue. I was a straight A student back in HS but I didn’t really find my passion. I also didn’t want to rack up major debt to go to college. But at the same time I’ve picked up a few skills along the way like marketing (FB, Google Ads), some basic web dev, I have a lot of knowledge when it comes to fixing cars, I’m really passionate about real estate, I’m bilingual also (Spanish). So I’m trying to piece things together to see what I can do with these skills. I just turned 29 and im still figuring my life out but I know my life has a greater purpose.
You're smart to have skipped college. College does not guarantee you a job. Sounds like you have some excellent skills. I encourage you to learn a trade. Web development and car mechanics are in demand. Best of luck to you.
@@rthcats2 College teaches you how to think and maneuver in a way that a trade can't though. Everyone in my family went to a University and I considered going to a trade because although initially I liked school, I grew bored of it early on when I wasn't challenged enough. Now at 22 I'm trying to go to a Uni, but I think a big majority of that is due to the influence from my family.
Research the tech field
i’m 21 and staying true to myself is something i do everyday, i don’t care if people think i’m weird or whatever. this spoke to me thanks for sharing your experience!
20s are the new midlife crisis😪
25 years old...quarter life crisis
Except you don't have the money to spend on cars and gambling
@SupremeEgyptianGodsman yeah
That's why i said twenties
Haha ikr, social media is pushing our expectations higher and higher by the minute. When our parents were in their 20s the norm for them was to go work at a factory the equivalent to a mcdonalds job. That's how low the expectations were back then. Now you have to do some specialist role or you're a disappointment to society apparently
Lmaoooo
“I was introverted , didn’t know how to talk to girls”
Also him: I got married when I was 20
So he has no experience and he married to the first girl that caught an eye on him.
Of course this marrage had to lead to fall cause he didn't know anything about girls and making a relationship. There were many differents between them, he had some goals she had some other goals... The more common goals you have the more your relationship is successfull.
Yeah fuck this dude. At least hes good looking. Meanwhile I'm an ugly 26 year old with no girlfriends. Ever.
@@GreedAndSelfishness Some of the ugliest people have girlfriends. I'm a handsome guy myself, but I've seen absolutely beautiful women with ugly men. Your personality is the one that sucks, you walk around with the aura of "People think I'm ugly, because I am..." and it turns people off. How about you be proud of who you are, whatever that is, and double down on who you are. People will notice.
@@prezidenttrump5171 Absolute agreement. There has to be some sort of skill set that you have that is at the very least decent to be proud of. Hang on to that and let your confidence illuminate through that source even if its unadulterated. Thats they key unadulterated confidence. Confidence thats not even 'deserved'. Confidence, that doesnt even make sense. Confidence that when people look at you think why the fuck is he/she so confident. That unadulterated part comes from not giving a fuck about what people think or what peopls constructs or standards of beauty are. Be confident in your experience. For there is only one of you and you deserve your own confident self.
I don't know how to talk to girls and I could've married my first 3 gfs, you don't need to be super suave to get a girlfriend.
Thank you for talking about things like this I am 27 now and I feel exactly the same that is why I can relate to this video , I am an introvert too ☺️
Thanks for this video. It really resonates
People reminisce about the good old days because they're too scared to look for the good new days.
wise words
Most of the time the so called "good old days" are overrated or never existed at all, but people need to imagine things to avoid the depression that is caused by the shitty present time.
IK its unrelated but I LOVE Edna mode *^* such a queen
Yes because theres security in knowing what happened and how it went. U have the full picture looking back at it. Nobody knows whats ahead and that either excites or scares people.
Nah not really. More that they enjoyed the earlier years
title: "I wasted my 20s"
1.6 million people: well, same
tru
Lockdown is wasting my 20’s
More like....struggled in my 20s with life obstacles...but triumph and hard work will win.....etc, etc.
@@JoshuaFluke1 Lockdown wasted my last year of highschool, was about to go to my 2nd school dance... now I'm in my 2nd semester in community college struggling with Calculus and Programming trying to become a game designer.
corona virus waste my highschool years
What you said resinated with me deeply. I've had many similar experiences in my 20s and have felt the same way through most of it. Thanks for talking so openly like this, great watch.
Awesome video Josh. Thx for sharing it!
I'm 47 and what I have learned is that peace and happiness begins when you start creating things that come from your heart and soul.
Thats awsome advice.
That's deep. I'm trying to understand that myself
Sounds like something iroh would say
Oh thanks, I'll try that
Yup is true. Know thyself. Start with MBTI, get therapy, meditate, learn more about what makes you tick and learn about light and shadow personality. This will save you time and money and heartache
Thank you for talking about this, you don't even know how much you just helped me.
your pfp looks like DDOI almost
Yeah i know how you feel i still havent found what i an great at but would love to find it real soon i will be 30 in nov
@@michaelmoorhead7992 good luck fam
I want to give you a hug man. Thanks a lot for sharing this video, I'm 20 and this video really helped me
Swear I been thinking about this alot
Thank you for being so real. I relate so much to your story. 30 y.o just starting to push myself into realize my dreams. It’s scary.
I’m 22 and relate so much. I’ve had a good job for 3 years and a relevant degree but I felt so lost and knew that this isn’t the way I want to live my life. So, I’m quitting my job next month and going full-time on my own business (which I’ve been working on part-time for the past 2 years). I’m going to travel to all the places I want, challenge my fears, do things that scare me, and study philosophy part-time. And it’s scary to move away from this safe path I’m on, but at least I’ll want to live and get up in the morning.
How is it going?
@@BeautifulEarthJa Wow, thank you for reminding me of this 2 year old comment!
Oh it's been amazing! I did all I wrote, quit my job, became a full-time freelancer and had 0 difficulties finding consistent long-term clients. I also built up my personal websitie and wrote my first book (soon to be self-published). I'm even earning double my old salary now!
I moved abroad from Sweden to Berlin, Germany, and then Copenhagen, Denmark, as well as traveled to lots of other cities I wanted to visit! I've only needed to work part-time so I've had so much free time to read all the books I've wanted to and made many new friends and unforgettable experiences in different countries. It's amazing to think back to how scared but excited I was when I wrote that comment...
If you are thinking about doing the same - follow your dreams - DO IT! You make sure to plan ahead and provide some safety for yourself and then gooo
@@wendyzhoudesign beautiful story. well done to you 👏
I'm 19 right now. I won't waste my 20's.
what will you do to make sure you don't.
@@sebastiancrawford1774 free myself from the shackles of expectations and make the most of my time.
@@muhammadgbadegesin8043 that's awesome. More power to you. 🙏. I'm 22 in 4 months and I don't want to waste the rest of my 20s. I wasted so much so far.
@@SurrealExposure12 how would you say you “wasted” it?
Same. I turn 20 in January. 2020 has been a bad year for me, but I'm starting to do better.
it’s crazy ur 29 and i’m 17 and the fact that we can have the same anxiety about life moving too fast is absolutely crazy.
You may still feel that way on your last day.
Sameee!! I’m 17 and I’m supposed to be applying to colleges soon. I feel like I have to make the right choice to set myself up good for the future. Also, just the college application process in general “list your awards” “what organizations did you participate in” “where were you a leader” makes me realize how little of those I actually have. What was I doing?
Same here as well. I am 17, have to apply for a college but I just don't know what I want to do.
You guys are way too young for those thoughts. At 17 you are still children. You shouldnt expect yourselves to have amounted to anything yet.
Chill dude. Don't overthink.
right on brotha!
*I felt everything You said, and I definetly agree. I'm so sad that I wasted like 3 years because of other people, but now that I've learnt from my past, my future shines like a star and I'm confident that I'll succed and succed even more.*
I think the feeling of "wasting time" is basically just a feeling of ignoring the inner call to action. We become desensitized to our inner voice and when challenges arise we don't know how to navigate our emotional world. We start believing that the reason I am lost is because I am not where society thinks I should be which at some point you adopted as your own belief. The truth is we have been brainwashed (not in some conspiracy way) into believing in a story that is so far removed from the reality of our life. If you feel disconnected youtube a guy named Gabor Mate, his words have helped me along my journey.
You worded this beautifully 👌🏽
Only 48 likes for the most sensible comment on this whole video🤣🤣🤣 the masses will never accept this brother. The amount of freedom and inner peace you experience when this is realised is astounding.
Oh my gosh, wow. Just THANK YOU🙌🙏 and absolutely nailed it, spot on!!!
Very nice comment Bradley.
Wtf??? Dude just write a book.
"If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done."
NOW THAT'S WISDOM. You've oppend my mind man thanks.
Yes but is hard , for me is so fucking hard.
Thanks for this man. I'm 24 and doing an honest reflection of my life right now and try to make changes for the better, especially in job/career, health and finances. I'm tired of being complacent and making excuses.
I am so fucking lucky to have found you, friend. You are truly a kind, empathetic, and amazing human. We are hard to find anymore. I just sobbed while I listened to this, i finally hit my 'what the fuck am i doing' at 33 and man, i feel like i'm so fucking behind. I'm trying to pivot into customer success and I NEEDED to hear what you've taught us. I know you'll never see this, but thank you for being you, and sharing your story. Appreciate you man.
This is THE MOST underrated video on the internet right now. He's so vulnerable in this and poured his heart out there 🥺
Yup!
Your last name is funny.
Agree!
@@stackingflow and you last name is...... ra-WHAT?
@@anushkasingh2786 hahahah burn :')
This is quality. You also only look 24-25. Keep it up man. Thank you for what you do
Looks and sounds. I decided to grow goatee after 21 to look more mature. In 28 without it I looked like 20. But now I have a freaking beard because things happened and now I'm kind of look goofy. So yeah. Good job anyway. You sound good enough to me. Or I wouldn't even stop to look at your videos. I don't like some creators because they have nasty voices.
Well he won’t after male patterned baldness sets in 🙄
You don't age much between 24-29, dont worry my young friend ;)
@@zORg_alex Lol, same here. I've been rocking a goatee and a mustache as soon as I entered University. Otherwise people in the liqueur store would ask me for an ID.
Wise words. Great advise. Relatable.
I rlly appreciate your vulnerability in this video!! Ty for the book recs too
"I try to be the person my dog thinks I am."
Damn, that's some straight wisdom right there.
it hits me so deep when i heard that.
HAHAHAHA
That's hilarious and something great to strive for 😂😉 brilliant
Steven Shaw... your dog will put his paw on your shoulder and say “ but you are the man I think you are Steve” and then you’ll freak out because your dog just talked.
I'm 34, and I don't feel like I wasted my 20s. That decade was an important time to be miserable, embrace feeling depressed, lost and shut off from the world. All of those negative feelings forced me to shine a difficult light on myself and really work out what makes me tick. Nobody could tell me how to be me, not even my parents or people who cared about me. That's why everyone gave me the vanilla go to school / get a job and family story. It takes real work to come to a self understanding. Work I had to do myself. Work I had to do alone. And now that it's with me, looking back on that misery. It was a stepping stone to give me the spiritual happiness I have now.
Heck, that's so cool man. I'm delighted for you and I love your perspective. I'm trying to look back on my life (the mistakes and devolvement, self-sabotage etc from depression/anxiety) from 14ish to now (25) the same way so that I'm not filled with regret, hopelessness & fear. What a cool journey to read about as that's true progress, coming from a very low, dark place to elevating to a much better one! Wish you every success and happiness on your journey moving forward :)
love this, and i totally agree
Thanks for this perspective. I'm turning 23 in a week, and I realised I was feeling terrified in the lead up of it. Terrified because the last few years have been dark, shut off from the world, lost, depressed and now I'm heading in a new direction. I'm studying to go to university again, to study law. Did I need this dark miserable, unemployed, lost and lonely few years? Yes. Because without that, I dont think I would have ever found the will inside me to make something out of myself. And when I reach those milestones, when I finally get there, there will be nothing like it. :)
@@PringlesOriginal445 Once you learn to push through difficult times, you'll have those skills for the rest of your life! There are always good years and bad years. But you have the power to decide what to think and do about it! Good luck!
Thanks for posting this. It gave me some reassurance.
Great video man
I needed to hear it bro. All of it.
Holy shit man I randomly came across this video and was just shocked at everything you said. I was able to relate to literally everything you said in this video, it’s crazy how someone I have never ever met has these exact same thoughts and feelings as I do. I’m 22 and I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and that it’s just too late for me but in reality my life is just starting and this video gave me the validation to get off my ass and get to work. I don’t think you realize how much I resonated with you man, thank you for making this video.
Interesting your at this point with 22. I actually took 25 years to get to this point. And interesting you mention how relatable the video is. Same with me. I just realize we are all the same somehow. Very strange. But interesting as well.
SAme
same. did yo start college already?
Sooo, I'm about to turn 20 and I already regret playing counter strike for at least 2500h (not wanting to mention all those other games -.-). But as you mentioned already, this video is super relatable. Even tho I've just finished school I already feel like having wasted so much potential and not having committed enough. Anyhow, listening to other people feeling the same is somewhat reassuring because it makes me feel less naive / stupid. Uni is starting soon and this video is a real incentive to go "all out" ngl. Thank you honestly
Hey man. Dont worry. I felt the same being a 18 year old even though i did stuff
As a fellow 29 year old, this is extremely relatable.
Thank you for this
Man I felt that! Thanks for the honesty
Im 24 now, i was 17 yesterday wtf 😭
This makes me so sad. Especially since I relate so hard.
zeta orionis same :(
Same here yo
24 is the best. I wish I was 24. 41 sucks.
Invader Zim that’s deep can you please explain more
I am so thankful to youtube's algorithm for recommending me this!
excellent video dude!!
You are one most genuine youtuber I've ever seen, it's a lot interesting to watch your videos.
How have I wasted my 20's.
- Not eating healthy
- Not working out
- Heavy procrastination
- Bad Porn Addiction
- No clear logical goal
- being less social
- not taking risk
- not doing anything.
I am 27 this year and I am upset inside, I've lost my 20's. 😥
I'm 27 now but just started to take action on eating healthy, gym and social life.
life is meant to be enjoyed, once consciousness ends nothing matters. Enjoy and don't stress out we are all living for the first and last time.
I am 34 and I felt the way you felt. For most of 30-34 I worked on most of my regrets of my 20s and I am now better off. Recently I have been feeling shitty for not being productive enough over the past 3 months. You may not get over all of your issues completely but you can act now and make yourself better off. I did that from 30 until present and I can say I am a lot happier now. Keep trying man, you're not alone with your issues. We're rootin for ya
@AtR I know right idk what to do how to stop
Don't worry, you still have life ahead of you.
Thanks for the insightful video!
I needed to hear this, thanks. Just need to figure out how to proceed.
i feel anxiety when i think about time passing. if i watch a series or play a game, i think about how much time has passed, how many hours, days, months, of doing nothing. my pulse rises and i feel an ominous dread, like death is right around the corner.
can relate heavily
Ive felt the same way for 6 years. Good luck to you man
Well if it helps no matter what you do whether you spend 24 hours a day playing video games or 24 hours a day writing code, it won't matter in a billion years. Literally nothing that any one is doing in the world right now matters for anything in the long-term and if you take into account the ridiculous size of the universe it doesn't matter in the short-term either. You, me, jeff bezos, bill gates, some random homeless guy, in the big picture all of our contributions will be approximately the same: zero. I find that thought soothing in a weird way. It's all about not taking stuff too seriously while you are here I think.
@@teamspeak9374 tbh I don't find that soothing, but rather depressing, but perhaps I should look at it in your way
@@TheDrghu Sometimes I find it depressing too depending on my mood but when I'm really stressed out about something or I start feeling bad because I played videogames all weekend or something like that I always try to frame the situation in that way looking at things and it helped me a lot in some situations
I’m 24 and it’s hella scary out there yall
From 24-26 went by in a blur for me 😢 it's speeding up
get out thats 24/7 job trust
Yeah I’m 23 and already having thoughts that humans shouldn’t naturally live to like 80 or something. You feel like you’ve already done most of the special stuff in life, like you know what being an adult is, and you just have to keep yourself entertained for another 65 years or so with random exciting events in between (wedding, kids, etc) until you die?!? It gets grim guys, if you’re reading this and younger than me, go enjoy life instead of playing video games in your room. You have more than enough time to do that later, until you’re bored of it... 😬
@@ThatGuy09890 I'm reading this and younger than you (21) except I don't know what enjoying life is besides playing video games lmao
@@ThatGuy09890 I'm 17 and this hit hard. Any cool ideas to enjoy life?
Man your just amazing. I am 23 now I'm seeing myself as you are in 29 or now 31 telling me do more than what you are doing now. Do what you love and that can impact your life in a huge way. Your an amazing person. Thanks for sharing this, am feeling good after seeing this about all things in my life.
i love this man
‘Gonna do the same thing every day for the rest of your life..’
That’s my worst fear. That’s an awful life. I can’t imagine life being like that.
christian dawit all the best! You can do it ! ❤️
@rvidal0001 most sensible guy on here haha. Thanks for saying what most wont :)
TH-cam programming community needed a guy like you for a long time. Every coder I see on this website puts up a fake facade showing off how his/hers life is amazing and they just eat tasty lunch everyday. They catch attention of obsessive people like myself and turn them into lonely workaholics. With your realism, no bullshit policy and honesty you bring balance to this ecosystem by telling people to invest in multiple areas of life, so if one fails they have something to fall onto.
Thank you for influencing my life and making it better, you are doing amazing sir, keep doing what you're doing and I hope to see you become bigger and bigger channel over time. #grindreel
I can agree there are some fake people, but there are also many different personalities with different goals. I think josh is still very much in the search of his soul and what makes him happy, i can still hear in his voice that he has some questions in his head that he cannot answer.
Yeah, it’s cringe just seeing them eating food and drinking starbucks all day,
Check BradTraversy. He is very talented developer and talks a lot about struggling with depression, lack of motivation and how to "push" yourself to achieve your goals etc.
👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
Thanks for the insight. Wish you a better life ahead.
Big bro advice appreciated man
Crazy to think that I'm only 19 and I feel like I wasted soo much time, thinking about the future gives me anxiety lol
You're 19 bro... I'm 24 and I felt like a baby until the age of 22... You have more time thank you think
I'm 19 and I battled depression for 11 years & it got worse during the pandemic I've spent months suicidal & locked in my room. I started reading books, I dropped from uni & took a break now I am looking for another uni. I tried committing suicide but what did I do in my life to end it? I want to leave a mark in the world before I leave. I am now learning Italian & Spanish Just from youtube. IT'S NEVER THE END. I am living with depression & suicidal thoughts but I will never end my life that's what I know. KEEP FIGHTING.
I’m 20 and miss being 19 ffs it’s weird
@@shoazdon7000 Don't waste your 20 missing 19. That's life we won't be young forever you still have a long time in front of you, best of luck!
Joselina yeah that is true, and I know for you right now it’s tough but I can tell from your comment you are a fighter. Keep pushing through and you will make it and leave your mark. I’m battling constant anxiety issues and it does get easier their is light at the end of the tunnel. KEEP FIGHTING!!
It’s all about perspective man. At almost 24 I haven’t done squat compared to you. You lived overseas, completed a college degree that allowed you to make 65k a year, and now own a house. That’s like, the end game for a lot of people.
I know this videos about wanting more for yourself and being an ever-evolving person, but to say your 20’s were wasted is just not the truth.
Still a good title to clickbait a lot of people, for a good reason that too.
I'm 21 turning 22 this November, and this video has been an Eyeopener.
I am currently having sleepless night due to not having a job at my age.
The panic is real ngl.😨😰
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 I feel you man. We got this. It's very important to believe in yourself, to believe that you are NOT completely screwed. Of course, there are some people who have the skills to make $100k a year at about 16. And yes, if you compare yourself to them, you will absolutely feel devastated. But keep in mind that your twenties are only starting and you are already seriously concerned about your professional path and your well being in general (which is great, a lot of people wish they would've started being serious about their lives at your age) . Work toward your goals and keep track of your own progress, you can do it.
@@euku1 Thanks man.
I just got an Unpaid Internship today.
It's something atleast.
I'll learn and start earning someday.
I wish you good luck in life too.💯
Listen to this song.
Take me to the Top - Initial D.
@@euku1 Wait 16yr old and $100k a Year😳?
Who are you talking about exactly?
I was having a good day and you had to ruin it by saying that.
My insomnia just got worse by reading that.
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 don't worry man, I just said that to point out the fact that it's not a good idea to compare yourself to others in such way. Just as there are some geniuses, there are also people in their 30's who earn just enough to buy food and are still happy about themselves.
U have a great voice. It’s very calming and genuine
really touched on a lot of personal issues
20 - complete mess
21 - get married and moved to another continent WTF
What a normie stuff.
I wasted my 20s:
- married at 21 (I wouldn't do it, but it is a big experience for sure)
- went abroad in another continent
- graduated in this new continent
- returned in USA
- bought a house
- found a remote job that was paying 65k a year
- founded a company
The real problem is that he has giant expectations, like he wanted to be the new Steve Jobs (which is literally 1 over a billion people). That's the only problem. He did more than fine until now to be honest.
Marriage is for fools, and i absolutely love it when people say shit like you arent a real man if you dont get married, and if you get divorced get basically held at gun point by the law, but after that you are considered a adult, fuck marriage and fuck whatever
@@Graveyard55 I mean thats a personal choice, but marriage definitely has its Ups. The problem isnt marriage, its finding the right person & besides marriage has its financial positives.
@@es_three232 40% of marriages fail. Why is that? That could be many many reasons. The risk of getting fucked over by divorce laws for men is too high and it's pretty much not worth it. Better to just live life doing things for yourself and yourself only. If marriage comes along, great! If it doesn't, then that's okay too. I've seen a good friend of mine get so desperate looking "for the one" and he gets fucked over by women all the time and is still blinded by his desire for women. Your sole purpose of living shouldn't be to get wamen. Too many people want their love life to be like a Disney movie but that's not how the world works.
@It's a Bunnay yeah I don't think kids are on my to do list either. Getting a vasectomy doesn't sound so bad 😂
So glad you’re talking about this! I’m 26 and I’m learning the importance of just slowing down and ENJOYING the moments. I found that reducing social media and screen time really helps especially if you already work a job on computers. The more time you spend unplugged the more memories you have of real life moments.
True... The problem is during covid time if you are single it sucks. Really nothing to do except work, shopping, watch tv, internet and sports.
@@lothecruel it’s definitely hard. On the bright side it’s a great opportunity to read some books, go on hikes, learn a new skill, get creative and make art, etc. There’s plenty to do in the non virtual world, but also yes I totally agree now is the wrong time to guilt ourselves for having a lot of screen time given the circumstances. All about finding the balance that makes you feel happiest
@Turquoise Cheetah Not everybody has luck in love. As a woman, the more status & studies you have, the harder is to find the right partner, unless you really want to settle for less. Girls with no studies or good jobs find boys easier.
@Turquoise Cheetah first of all I am 26, married, and my first baby is due in March. Secondly, wtf do you mean by "hit the wall then no one wants you"...? not everyone subscribes to the idea that people over 30 are worthless lol in fact I would say thats a minority opinion
This video is truly inspiring and needed. Thank you
love this
I'm 29 too & only work. NOTHING ELSE.
Monday through Saturday. I never go out, rarely see my few friends, sleep in on Sundays & this guy is right - Every week goes flying for me.
My goal is to go out more, travel & try new experiences. No more sailing through life
I'm curious though - how? When? You work 6 out of 7 days a week. I feel like for me, there's no time to do anything cool!
ROFLgator LOl I can relate so much, but I'm only 18. I haven't gone out or done anything really since I finished high school. All I've been doing is working and studying. This shit is really depressing.
@@sirkamyk9886 I own my own business. Im a contractor. I work from 7am - 7pm most days. The more I work, the more money I make & the more I grow my business.
Its 12:40pm Sunday right now & I just woke up lol. Same drill next week.
Planning a trip to Hawaii on September though, need take advantage of my last year in my 20s...
@@ROFLgator1 I think you should be proud that you own a business. But, if anything does bother you or you feel nothing at the moment I hope all goes well bro.
@@sirkamyk9886 cool is subjective
watching this as a sixteen-year-old to feed my constant existential crises
thedivinezero soak up game shit iz real
thedivinezero existential crisis at 16? ... Ur just or the very beginning of the beginning of the beginning of knowing that you have a thing called consciousness, yon dont know what existential crisis means ..
I'm A Warr;or i just overthink
thedivinezero its normal my dear .. The best mental time for you is just about to start! Think .. Think big .. Think well and most importantly .. Always think positive
@@imawarrior313 "the best mental time" if that time is supposed to be at 17 I don't think I can see it, I have never felt this shit in my life
your authenticity is awesome man.
Thank you Josh!
"You don't need to be motivated to do something."
truth
Yeah but I mean, some motivation could help...
Obligating one self everyday is quite tiring lol
I think he got this mindset from the book "atomic habits"
I think of stoicism.
Yeah, your actions are what motivate you, rather than you needing motivation to act.