Women Speaking On The Moment They Knew Their Marriage/Relationship Was Over
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The BEAR. THE BEAR. THE F ING BEAR!!!!!
I’m not religious but I have to agree 100 percent. Amen! The bear, the bear, the bear!!
🐻🐻❄️🐨🐼🥰💯
💯 Exactly. Give me my bear 🐻
🐻🐻❄️🐻🐻❄️🧸🐻❄️
Lmmfao 😂
We’d been unhappily married for 5 years, and his mother and his uncle (whom I’d never met) were in the car with us going to a diner for lunch, and I was saying something to his relatives. He yelled at me, “Shut up! Will you just shut up!?!” It was so out of the blue, and I’d been at home alone for 3 years day and night with him hardly ever speaking to me except to say something mean whilst I recovered from breaking my neck and jaw. I was happy just to talk to his mom and uncle, and he humiliated me. When we were in the diner, tears just flowed out of my eyes. They were unstoppable, so I went to the restroom, looked in the mirror, and I said aloud, “You’re leaving! You’re getting a job next year. No one should have to live like this!” So that’s what I did. Got a job, apartment, and filed for divorce.
I can't believe his mother and uncle said nothing! What the actual F!? I hope he wasn't the cause of your neck and jaw break🥺 and I'm glad you had the strength to leave.
You are a strong woman for doing that, it's very hard to do, and the longer you're married and without work, the harder it is. I'm about six months in the separation stage, once a year hits, I will be filing for divorce. I saved up to move out, it took awhile, as I wasn't bringing in much income (worked from home part-time, most of my money went to bills). Moved out this past November into a studio apartment from a house, got a low wage job, as I don't have education or a lot of job experience. Couldn't be happier and more content. Was married for 21 years, got married at age 19. When he cheated for the second time (I let it slide the first time), I knew I was done with him. All the lying, cheating, gaslighting, manipulation, disrespect, hurtful words, it's simply not worth it, very draining. He's also bad with money, spent money we didn't have then complain how we were broke and blamed it on me because I didn't make enough money. We ended up accumulating debt because of his cars (I don't have a drivers license), tractor, trailers etc. I am going through some emotions dealing with everything, as everything is still new, and I'm still trying to process and adjust to this new lifestyle, but I know I am better off. I wish you the best of luck on your journey, hope it's an adventurous one!
Good for you! Glad you made the choice to leave 🎉. You deserved so much better 😢
Amen
Glad you left. My ex was a similar demon. You are so beautiful and I wish you so much more happiness in your life ❤
The common theme is having 3,4 kids with a guy who is a bum. Like why?
Probably religion. Christianity loves to shame women into staying married to bums.
It took them 4 kids to realize the flags😂
My neighbor had 7...7 kids with a bum who wouldn't hold down a job
@@zero1188 1st kid was the oopsie baby, 2nd kid was the “let’s fix this” kid, 3rd kid is the denial kid, and 4th kid is the “well, I messed up, so let’s keep going”. 😂
@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm7????!!
I knew my marriage was over when my husband told me he changed his mind and wanted kids after all. We were divorced 5 months later. No baby will EVER come out of my body to keep a man.
That's right.
I especially hate it when they lie that they're child free and stealth etc to get you pregnant...
@@FingerscrossedoutThat is rape, period.
@@Fingerscrossedout because some of them really think if they pretend to be nice long enough they can convince you to change your mind because why would you divorce a good man?
👏👏👏👏👏
To the first story : if your HUSBAND makes a reference to HIGHSCHOOL. He’s not ready to be ANYONES HUSBAND. eewww
I have a coworker mid 30s two kids under 3years. She told me her husband didn’t give her anything this past Mother’s Day because “she wasn’t his mother “ 😢and she said last year he left her with a new born to go hunting on Mother’s Day 🤬 🤦🏽♀️ why do some women put up with this crap? 💩
Exactly. 😢 Why?
Because they don’t think they deserve any better
@@gingerfellah5665 Yep. I had a conversation with my mother this evening about how Father’s Day is a scam cuz men will say “you’re not my mother” to the mother of their children, but expect their wife to treat them like they’re king for just donating spunk. We don’t have to accept this type of treatment, and it’s why for the past Father’s Days I’ve done nothing or the bare minimum cuz that’s what my dad has done to my momma. He changed his tune when he saw his own behavior mirrored.
The answer to your question is in your own statement. She has two small children. Even if she wants to leave, she can't yet because she's economically dependent on him. Small children need care literally 24/7 because even when they are asleep, they may wake up and need to be fed or changed. Childcare is more expensive than most single parents can afford. And if she tries to leave and get government assistance, it can take a long time. -time in which she and her children still need food and shelter. Leaving takes planning. Support her and let her know that you'll be there to help her
@@sarahcover7248 not in this case…he’s a firefighter but she’s an accountant and makes more than him honestly. I think it’s like someone mentioned above she doesn’t think she deserves better 😢
My marriage had been going downhill for a few years and I had been asking him for us to go to marriage counseling. For about three years he just said no. But one day, he said that I should go by myself. At that moment, I finally realized that I was in the marriage alone. So I decided to actually be alone.
Fuck that dude. He repeatedly didn't care about his marriage so why should you?
My heart aches for how many women suffer from low self-esteem. Women deserve better. We deserve a good upbringing that facilitates good self esteem, and we deserve a society that respect & values our humanity. We’re in a war and most of us sleep with the enemy without even realizing it.
I'm learning sometimes society really enforces that this bare minimum is acceptable. If you don't have any friends or families or models of great relationships, you only sorta compare yours to them.
Sometime women suffer from low finances, and that keeps them in an abusive relationship. So you just keep living life and then before you know it, 11 years have passed
@@alondrahernandez5626 During those 11 years you can come up with a plan and save what you can. Watching 11 years go by without doing anything is complacency.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809Here you go against with your characteristic, narcissistic lack of empathy towards abuse victims. Your comments don't help anyone. You only write them to feel better about yourself. Why aren't you happy with your own life?
When my exhusband did not wish me a Happy Mother's Day. We had been married for 12 years and have two children.
When I found out he was a gambeling addict in debt hiding it from me and when I confronted him about it he punched me in the face. That day it was over 🙅🏾♀️💯
I'm sorry, dear. I hope he went to jail.
💗 Very sorry you had to experience that, especially by someone who promised to love and respect you 😞
@@NovaPrincess No! the cop that came is his friend. They only made him leave. The Story is a real Lifetime movie if I really get into it🤦🏾♀️
@@Aeryaunne137 It was all a lie. And he and I grew up together in the same circle of friends and same neighborhood from 5th grade into H.S🤦🏾♀️ I was snaked. Im getting back on my feet .
Sorry that happened to you. My ex was a gambling addict too. I checked his location history on google maps and he would leave work most days and go gamble for up to 3 hours at a time. They don’t change.
OMG. I almost spit out my coffee when the first lady said she STAYED for 11 YEARS and had 4 not 1 or 2 or 3 but FOUR KIDS WITH A MANCHILD THAT DIDN'T LOVE HER. Sweet mercy Jesus take the wheel. Nothing she says to justify that decision will make any logical sense.
She didn't try to justify anything.
The universe gave her a sign with the miscarriage, but she just kept going. Any man that won't buy his girl pads/tampons is no man I want to be involved with
This is the reason we need to look at ourselves and how we participate in our own disrespect. Can’t ask someone else to respect you when you don’t even respect yourself. Thank god I’m a b!t(h.
Many women do this
I've heard women staying 20 years. 20 YEARS! I think it could not've been that bad .
I was with my fiancé for 7 years and we were living together for about 4 months. We got into an argument one night and he slapped a cup full of an icy drink into my face. I immediately told him to get out, he refused and I started picking up his things. He hit me in my face and I was gone. For good.
I watched my father do that to his wife. And when I tried to confront him about his mistreatment to me, she stood right in between us to defend him smh
Did he try to stop you? What happened after you left?
When I realized that he was being inconsiderate deliberately.
He wasn't just forgetful, it was very much intentional.
He did not respect or care about me, and he showed it.
How did you find out for sure that it was intentional? I am still trying to figure out for myself
@@Spokentruths725 Oh when I repeatedly communicated my feelings and my priorities....
he's either going to listen to them, respect them and care about them enough to follow through or he just isn't!
I wasn't asking for too much, and I didn't want to be a "nag".
There's no way he legitimately forgot about the daily tasks necessary for the household to function, or that our children eat at the same time every day...
He just didn't want to, and so he wasn't going to!
When he made a joke about my weight in a crowd of people. I’m a recovering bulimic. Anything for a laugh
As someone who previously suffered from an ED, I really empathise because people's comments can be triggering especially when you have been vulnerable enough to trust them with such information. I had put on some weight after starting to date my ex and he chose my birthday out of all days to call me fat before crashing a brunch I had with a friend. He ruined my whole day and I should have broken it off that day but stayed for a few more months. I broke it off some time ago and I feel so much relieved and I am slowly losing the relationship weight and I do not intend on dating anytime soon.
@@user-nz1mk7tj6q I’m sorry you had to go through this. I’m glad you freed yourself. He sucks
Go get your supplies. Come back. At some point, fix him a dinner (laxatives). Make sure there are no supplies in the house beforehand and then after a time after the dinner, have your bags packed and leave and don't come back. Have someone serve the divorce papers.
It isn't weakness for staying. It is a lifetime of being manipulated. It's so easy to shame the women who stay and have hope and took their vows seriously. Those of us who somehow got snapped out of the programming were lucky. We are no better than other victims. Kindness never hurt anybody. Mockery is unnecessary
Some of us participate in our abuse. I’m sure our bodies warned us, our intuition burned but we’d rather listen to others. Considering people and their opinions more important than ourselves. The only person we can control are ourselves
@@Enriquez2222 I'm in total agreement with this. I was choosing to stay in an abusive relationship years ago even though deep down I knew was disrespecting myself. My ex was emotionally abusive and jealous of me. In the end it was my rage and disgust with myself with the way my ex was treating me that got me to leave. I learned that I have to be selfish and love myself more than anyone to have healthy relationships.
This. Most women spend their entire lives, from childhood onwards, being taught that we don’t deserve to be respected or to have boundaries, especially when those boundaries inconvenience men. Mocking women who are still trapped in that cycle doesn’t benefit us or them.
Nah its a weakness. At some point you need to realize you are insecure and choose to stay because you chasing validation and the need to be loved
@@zero1188 Yep, plain and simple. Victims can be willing participants in their abuse, and lots of women aren’t even victims because they knew from the beginning. At some point we have to be honest with ourselves and take responsibility for ourselves and choices.
My Wedding night... i knew... i should have walked out.. i just acted cool.. i would learn 13 years later .. I should have listened to my heart..he is not a human.
I knew a young woman who was criticized for leaving her marriage on the third day. She knew by the wedding night...
She is at peace. People gonna talk. You gotta do you.
There were years of accumulated issues, but I was pushed over the edge when my ex said I deserved to be cheated on. We were fighting about him cheating, and he said I deserved it from him and my past partners who did it to me too. I literally screamed.
they love justifying cheating by blaming their partner smmfh
I've been told that I was the cause of my ex cheating. I punched her in the face and thankfully we are now divorced.
The older man was basically saying that he didnt have a problem getting the tampons for his mom because theres no way they could be for him and theres no reason to be embarrassed.
Imagine calling oneself “the logical gender” and then being embarrassed about buying maxi pads that are clearly for someone else
My father got me pads. My brother has gotten me pads. It's weird to me that men even have an opinion about this
Never married and never planning too cause 4B, but my ex of 3 months told me he told me everything I wanted to hear followed by telling me that he was such a “nice guy” followed by he was a “bare minimum kind of guy”. He truly was because he attempted to make me make his appointment that he ended up not going, so weaponised incompetence. I felt like a parent to him so dumped him.
Mind you, His first relationship he was 19 and his girlfriend was 15 😬. Full blown predator too.🚩🚩🚩🚩
4B for life!
I cant list all the terrible things my husband did to me.. but the horrible thing that gets me is that i stayed due to lack of funds to leave. Deep poverty is the only reason most women stay. My Family did not bat an eye when we divorced.. I could never love that man. No way.. he was cruel from day one. Rich women dont stay with mean men. That is why they want to keep up poor and uneducated. Ladies.. keep your own money. Im 63.. trust me. I paid for the divorce and later found out things from people that he was very cruel to a lot of people and ALL his cash was borrowed from retired old people he conned.. i could go on but you get the drift.
He promised his guy friends not to become "that" guy? What guy is he refering to? What is a guy that buys menstrual products? What does he think others will think if he buys them? Why does he think someone is interested in his purchase? How selfcentered is that? Someone should tell him people are going to therapy because of centering themself in such a unhealthy amount. 😩
This happened very recently to me. Im very angry. I wasted so much time, but at least I dont have to waste anymore
My intuition showed me just recently that I am always right with my first doubt . . Can’t stay for a real trial & error .
I knew my relationship was over when my father passed away and at my dad’s wake.. my ex started calling me a H@3 and B**** because my dads friends were hugging me and my family giving us condolences 😢
11 years?! Why give 4 kids that poor excuse for a father? 😢
First marriage: Less than a week in my partner was caught steeling bullet casings from the field of training (USArmy). He got demoted and took a major cut in pay and I had recently been laid off. The fact that he would be so careless was the moment I knew. I stayed for 10 more years 🤦🏾♀️. He was consistently financially abusive the entire time and even after playing with Alimony and Child support. My second marriage: 6 months in he took an illegal shortcut at work (even though other employees did the same) it was compounded by the fact that he regularly called out sick every single weekend. He got fired. Deja vu! I stayed for 5 years and he left me to go live with his mother. We are still technically married but we haven’t lived in the same state in 6 years and we are essentially no contact. I’m not in a hurry to get remarried if he wants a divorce he’s going to have to go through the motions in his own time.
But what if he's still collecting benefits on the basis of still being married to you?
It would behoove you to sever ties with your husband in the natural and spiritual realm, so that you can mature and grow as a being. ✝️🕊️🙏🏽🩸
3:03 😢 some ppl are wicked. I would have left after the refusal to buy the pad. He’d be out that very moment.
She was traumatized TWICE!
The first creator I would have left. She stayed and gave him 4kids? I agree not just love but respect each other.
The moment I knew it was over was when I asked him why he deleted the woman he had a sexual history with.
He kept inboxing her and she was making subliminal messages about insulting me and dating my now ex.
"I wanted to appease you."
Was his words.
I left him.
I knew specifically and undoubtedly 2 years in... 6 weeks postpartum 😮.
That first story is a wild ride. I dated a guy for a few months who ended up being a right wing weirdo who would scream at me whenever he got angry. I got my period once while we were having sex once and even he got up off his ass and went and bought me a bunch of pads.
And canesten another time when I had a yeast infection. I can’t imagine how many worse stories that woman must have to tell about her husband.
My partner makes me soup and forces me to drink it when I’m sick, I hate soup but his soup is good and always made with love I always feel soooo much better. 😊
I will always be suprised how some men are litteraly walking demons out there
Single and peaceful up by 10,000,000
That dark meat needs to stay on the side
It needs to stay at the store.
@@attitudeproblem6462 Leave it at the farm.
I’m sorry… NOT sorry…🤨
That first woman was given the ULTIMATE “gift”… a raging bull waving a HUGE “red 🚩flag”… with the words GET OUT! RUN” 👀
But, No… she put her cap on… and with her swollen eyes… and bleeding… she left and got her OWN needs met… And STAYED for 11 years… 4 kids…of disrespect and abuse…
Sorry… not sorry… He told her WHO HE WAS… and she “accepted it”… with her eyes WIDE OPEN…
She was the problem… 😒
..... No. He is obviously the problem. We gotta stop doing this... Blaming victims for the misfortune others bring them. She learned and left. Have some grace. And miscarriage is not a gift... It's traumatic.
@@AleciaRenece
We… You and I… will NOT agree on this…
Even in her “trauma”… She HERSELF acknowledged the BLARING “red flag”… when he told her the high school pack he made with his high school friends “never to be that dude that goes to buy pads”… she said she knew then…
“When someone shows you WHO THEY ARE… believe them the FIRST time”
*Maya Angelou*
And whatever happens AFTER that… are your choices made with your eyes wide open…
@@lencicollier6492That's true that she made a choice. I think it's good to remember that we didn't know what kind of past she has. Not everyone was lucky enough to have good parents or good send esteem.
I wish she talked to someone or went to a therapist so she could leave.
When my ex husband was shouting at me abd then said he wasn't. My young son who was 6 at the time told my husband that he was shouting at mummy. My ex husband went mad and was acting like a child making my son very upset. I couldn't believe how he was jealous that my son was standing up for me. It was then that the last bit about him that had kept me with him was gone, He was not acting like a good father. My kids happiness and a happy home meant him leaving.
Whst does she mean by respect? Thsts usually what a man will say
A couple examples could be:
Correcting each other privately vs public.
Kindly holding eachother accountable.
Not stepping out of line with hurtful words. If the words you say outloud, arent to build keep quiet. Applies to anyone.
Allowing space for reflection vs persistent attempts to talk, knowing both arent in the correct head space.
Being logical vs emotional.
Phones arent “private”. You have access, you maintain trust, your partner also shows that their is nothing to hide.
Some couples see social media as a deal breaker.
They show appreciation and admiration for what you do.
The first story is devastating to me. 11 years and 4 kids means it’s too late to jump ship, even after the divorce. You’ve wasted a decade plus and you can never get that back. I think that too often, women get caught up in the idea that if they wait long enough, and put it enough energy, that bad things will become good, and we forget (or ignore) the fact that they can have good things without having to make them good! You don’t have to hope for your husband to become decent, or try and mold him into a decent man, you can just marry a decent man. You are allowed to be picky, you are allowed to not settle for so-so.
10:52 - I assume he is saying this in response to the manchild who wouldn't buy his wife pads after she miscarried their child. If even he as a teenager could buy his mother tampons without embarrassment, surely a grown man can buy them for his wife.
Idc a lot of these women needed to leave years, decades ago and many many less kids later
My BP dey rise for dis episode. To the GALLOWS!!! 🪓
I was with my fiancé for 7 years and we were living together for about 4 months. We got into an argument one night and he slapped a cup full of an icy drink into my face. I immediately told him to get out, he refused and I started picking up his things. He hit me in my face and I was gone. For good.