Ladies!!!Date Without Having Marriage In Mind/Women Were The First Enslaved People
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“I dunno how women got tricked”
Disney.
Disney and hallmark movies.
No violence
And 'Romance' and Rom-Com movies. I hate Blue Valentine and The Notebook with a hellfire.
I roster date and I enjoy it. Keep in mind, I do not actually sleep with these. I just use them for dates and ego boost. 😂😂😂😂
Me too 😂
You will meet 1 man that will do the same to you. I used to do that with men until I met one man , and karma striked😂😂😂😂
My hero 😂🙂↔️
Me too 😂
"Dating to marry" is not about pleasing a man, but to figure out if he is husband and father material. NOT every boyfriend material is husband/father material.
Dating is dead, and the dude bruh killed it. Friend zone, as the Redpillers call it, is where it's at!
4b all the way
THIS IS THE WAY DATING IS SUPPOSED TO F***ING BE! I was the only one (out of the people around me) in this mindset for so long!
I had this conversation with my colleague yesterday. That now I’m either not gonna date at all, and if I do it’s gonna be purely to waste or pass time.
Dating is about to become a hobby I occasionally dabble in, instead of being the means to an end goal : Marriage & Children.
It’s true, you don’t need sexy time to be involved in dating. You can be dating to experience new places and new things.
Men reading this : “So now you wanna use us for a good time ?”
Yes ! Absolutely. You’ve been doing it for centuries and for majority of us the time was actually horrid. So kindly shut up and let’s go to that café you were talking to me about, I’m hungry !!!
Do as u please just ur presence should be compensated for just be careful hun
Lol, love this! I completely agree! Let’s make dating another hobby.
The good time part is the only fun you're ever going to have with a man, the rest afterwards is servitude.
@@khrisi9410 so true lol
LOL THIS!!!!
Marriage is to raise a family. If you're a woman and don't want kids, why the f would you get married? Make your own money and do you. ❤
Agreed. Kids or some other strategic benefit.
Right
You're right. Why the hell would you get married if you don't want kids??? I don't want kids but I don't want to sleep with different men.
It’s crazy but most married people I know don’t have kids & are quite happy. I think maybe that’s the mistake people make marrying just to have kids instead of finding an actual life long partner.
Some people are married and without kids and do well. I say if someone wants to marry it's fine as long as that is what THEY want and not someone else pressuring them to marry.
Single females you already have established earned succeed accomplished 💯 % on your own by being single don't allow yourself to drop down to 0% without any type of interest, You can do Good all by yourself don't need to do Bad with someone else !
Marriage is for the MAN. It is not for the woman. A man (or multiple) should be begging for your hand in marriage and seeing you walk down the aisle should be the greatest day of HIS life. A woman who knows her worth would “play” with her options and insure that every man who is pursuing her is adding tangible value to her life. Marriage is a deal that says “you add most value to my life so I’ll forgo all my other admirers, suitors and providers and choose you to take care of me”. So many western women are stuck in a pick me mindset that we are groomed to beg for a man to pick us, while offering our feminine wonder to them for free.
You think a man worshiping the ground you walk on changes how marriage drains women? Lmao
Unless you want a green card, there’s no reason to get married in today’s day and age.
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@@Emptytopfloorshe kinda right tho lol
@@Laquia ikr⁉️ I would add life insurance beneficiary on the list too. 😆
@@EmptytopfloorYou can be a beneficiary without marriage though. I made a women's charity one of my beneficiaries.
Only reason i would at this point.
When I was 22, i had an engagement end two weeks before I married. While I was heartbroken, and needed time to heal, I vowed just to date for fun after that. The next years were some of the best in my life. I worked, traveled and had lovely times with friends. I did date, but without husband hunting. Looking back as an elderly woman, my major regret is that I did eventually marry. It was everything we are warned about. He was abusive, unfaithful and worked me like a mule. Young women, stay free and happy. There is nothing in marriage but sorrow and unpaid work. You have one life.
Does anyone know who the poster was who pointed out that women were the first enslaved persons. I would like to find her, quite interesting.
Julia Cha
Please don't repeat that quote that females were the first to be enslaved. It is very false if you Google it, the study clearly shows that there isn't enough documentation on this topic but that BOTH men and women after a war were used for labor NOT marriage.
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Please don't repeat that quote that females were the first to be enslaved. It is very false if you Google it, the study clearly shows that there isn't enough documentation on this topic but that BOTH men and women after a war were used for labor NOT marriage.
Thank you! @@soppres7406
@soppres7406 thank you! I was looking for this 😊
Am I weird for always thinking of an escape plan and how to let him down gently so doesn't freak out, before I even get to the date? No date was ever physically violent with me but there were way too many demanding an explanation because the one I gave them wasn't "good enough" and apparently the word "no" is too ambiguous. The thought of marriage fills me with dread and anxiety but it just might be me being an introvert.
Not at all. I think it’s absolutely necessary to have an escape plan if things don’t work out.
I agree with this message. On the other hand, if a woman wants to marry, she should only date for that. She should state her intentions clearly (for some reason, people have made it seem crazy for a woman to say that she expects x, y and z for a man to do if she dates him). And if things don’t align she should move on very early. Have timelines in place.
She should just be extremely clear about why she wants to marry.
Im just ready for women to stop crntering their conversations around men. When are the conversations going to shift to how women can treat each other better?
Women treat each other the same way men treat us.
I refuse to believe women have "decentered men" when every conversation is about men.
When i see women worrking together and centering the conversation about how we can heal and improve our relationships with other women, then ill believe we are making true progress.
Exactly because when men are involved women are VERYYYY nasty to each other. So so true.
If the conversations weren’t about men then it wouldn’t get any views.
That’s cuz these women still want men, they just don’t want to admit it. Same with red pillers who keep talking about women, but say they’ve gone their own way. Not when they keep talking about women and trying to shame women into getting with them, they haven’t. You can always tell who has decentered and who hasn’t based on how much they still center their actions and conversations.
That’s cuz these women still want men, they just don’t want to admit it. Same with red pill men who keep talking about women, but say they’ve gone their own way. Not when they keep talking about women and trying to shame women into getting with them, they haven’t. You can always tell who has decentered and who hasn’t based on how much they center their actions and conversations around the things they claim to hate.
That’s cuz these women still want men, they just don’t want to admit it. Same goes for red pill men. You can always tell who has decentered and who hasn’t based on how much they center their actions and conversations around the things they claim to hate
Yup. I've been in a successful FWB for 5 yrs. now. We're both physically attracted to each other but our value and life goals don't match. Neither of us want to get married, we're both childfree. I wrote down rules to protect us (but mostly me), we visit those rules periodically. We only see each other twice a week. 90% of the time we just cuddle, kiss, watch shows, and fall asleep. Companionship basically. I don't like living with another man I can only tolerate having him over twice and I get 5 days to myself. We're free to see other people and we get tested often. Either of us can end it at any time for any reason. It's freedom! I'm good at compartmentalizing and separating emotions from s*x. Most women can't do that so they'll always be hostage to males desires and wishes. It gives me complete control and powder to be in a FWB. Any woman that can separate the two can have a successful free fun dating relationship but women who can't should never attempt to do what we can.
Men also aren’t good at compartmentalizing. They just lie about it. I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve heard about in my college years where they got hung up over a hook-up or were still stuck on their first love from high school. I think it’s human nature to get attached for whatever reason, but there are individuals who don’t.
Hostages will always be hostages to hostage takers, no matter what they do. Becareful, sure, be risk adverse, if that is what works for you. Trust what a hostage taking compartmentalist says. . . . .
In my mind this translates to having friendships. You can be friends with guys and hang out with them and enjoy their company. That means you get to know them without investing any feelings into them so you will know if you’re a good match or not. The issue with “dating casually” is that it usually involves kissing, holding hands, even sex which ultimately leads women to develop feelings towards the man. It’s inevitable, although some women argue they don’t. Physical touch is literally how women bond and form intimacy. Also the other side of the coin is if you are just friends with guys you can’t expect them to pay for you because there are no physical expectations from a friendship so you have to be okay with splitting bills/paying for yourself. Unfortunately it’s also inevitable that if a man is expected to pay for you it’s usually considered a “date” which inadvertently means they can have expectations of getting physical.
They can have expectations but you don't have to meet them. You can also have your guys friends pay for outings. Your feminine presence is the value.
@@gracefulgardenia7713 I just feel like letting them have false expectations creates future conflict and I’d rather not deal with it. To each their own though.
@@thrill102 Letting them have false expectations? Oh honey, they do that all by themself with no letting from you or anyone else.
Your idea that paying for company is the same as paying for sex is the same idea that you can dirty your diaper cause mommy will be around soon to change you. Both are childish and indications that the person holding them is not mature enough for the type of relationship they think they want.
@@rosevan7845 It’s not paying for company, it’s paying your way. If you are the type of friend who expects a male platonic friend to pay for them just because they are male maybe it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself who is the immature one.
@@thrill102 Or maybe I am not so ignorant as to not know that the one who extended the invitation is the one who pays. Nobody ever ask you out because they wanted your company? Gee shocker.
Marriage never has to be the end goal. Its perfectly ok to enjoy a relationship without that contract. Marriage is government and church. You can be completely committed without it...on a similar note, every relationship isn't meant to last forever. Enjoy the moments, learn the lessons, and continue to live.
100% learn to let go
Spoiling us lately! 🤸♀️
Leave love alone. Imagine relationships without love.
Thank you for this video! Yes, ladies, let's rise and take our place and dismantle the patriarchy!!!❤❤❤
Absolutely!!
NO, you should always have a purpose in dating. What do you want? What you don’t do is dictate how you going to get there. You set your goals for only you, and go with the flow. If it ain’t working for you, and things ain’t going well, you move along. Dating just for fun is waste of time cause friends come and go. Doing the same thing over and over for “fun” can become boring. You may stay stagnant if you BOTH just dating for “fun”. 😌
Thank you this is what I was thinking.
Everyone dates for different purposes
Dating means different things to different people. To me dating is supposed to be fun, but I have a clear goal, and will vet dates for relationship compatibility. Dating doesn’t have to be a one or the other type thing.
Dating for fun is a purpose. Not everyone wants marriage, children or long term partnership at the moment they are dating. But some people may want companionship, or to "sleep around" or to just feel good. If you get bored, your goals can change. Why is it okay for men to enjoy the dating experience but when women do it, "It's a waste of time"
Dating is supposed to be fun! Some women are desperate for an end goal thus dating becomes a miserable waste of time if the end goal isn't successful.
Love this conversation!!
I never dated to marry because I never wanted to marry. I would duck the bouquet at EVERY wedding. Drove my mom nuts. She hates it, but I can't imagine not living by myself. I only date to stay single 😂😂😂❤
wow, who is that asian women? she is good!
Julia Cha. She is amazing.
@@user_7239 thank you!
I have a girlfriend who pours into me ❤ I am finally thriving after decentering men
This
And they will be the first to merge with robot. Its already heading that way. First its plastic, next its some bionic shiz 😅
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yep, outcomes not guaranteed.
I was just saying this to my sister ❤
I told my relative [single woman] *YESTERDAY* : The last minute will always be enough time to find a man. *THEY will always be there* The lie was they [patriarchy] tricked women into thinking it was the other way around.
Men are always out there. The trick is finding one that you are compatible with.
of course, since women sign up to veiled slavery when they marry...but why would anyone with half a brain do that to themselves?
I don't believe men and women were ever really compatible men pretend they are the promiscuous ones but if they really were like that they wouldn't feel so attacked if a woman leaves them. They always look for women at there lowest point in life never there highest point and that's why a lot of them wind up single they expect women to lower there standards so it just doesn't work like that if you expect her to choose better she certainly can't choose men at her lowest point just because she's not the virgin Mary. And if those men don't think you deserve that because you have more experience then them then choose yourself because 9 times out of 10 those women with experience did not chase them they chased her first and tried to make it seem like women hit the pole the way men do they don't men are easy so you don't have to chase them.
I’m 31 and hvnt been in a relationship in 7 years . If this was true why I’m i single
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! I said I date for fun on another video and they came for me 🤣🤣. I used to envision every man I dated as my husband. And that's how you end up desperate. Once I stopped caring about marriage, I could date so much more easily. Let people go far earlier. Yes!!❤❤❤
Dating is whatever you want it to be. I date for fun, but I have an end goal and keep my involvement in each stage to what’s appropriate for each stage. This helps me to live in the moment, vet better, and I’m better able to see if someone is actually compatible instead of trying to make a square fit in a round peg like when I was younger cuz I desperately wanted a relationship. It takes pressure off for sure.
Trust u don't want to be married they lie to much
Marriage is the only legal protection if you ever decide to live together. But if you don’t intend to do that absolutely date for fun.
@@purevenus6359legal protection of what?
@@purevenus6359 I've already been married. I wasn't legally protected from him cheating, lying and withholding money. There's more to life than a marriage and once we as ladies embrace that...the FUN of life will return.
If y’all don’t believe in marriage - at the very least- you should also not believe in shacking up and pretending to live as a married couple!
That’s what gets me! So many women play themselves with the whole living with a boyfriend thing- or keeping a relationship for years- when the relationship has never really been about anything- is somehow better?
Nah. That’s stupid too.
Totally agree
That’s cope that these type of women tell themselves cuz they know their partner doesn’t want to marry them, so this allows them to get as close as possible to married life.
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yeah I agree, it's gross living with men, you become a slave and most men can't/won't even please their women in bed. The bar is so low for men they could cross it even if the had no legs or arms
So they’re supposed to not have a desire to have sex or build relationships with anyone?? Are their lives pointless to you because they choose not to be recognized by the church and country as married and have children. Like this is that slavery mindset they were talking about. Why should all women want to get married or have to behave as if marriage is the ultimate blessing? It’s the ultimate sacrifice on a woman’s behalf let’s be real.
I have lovers 🤷🏾♀️ lol, its okay to admit ❤ i have an extremely healthy 42 year old sex drive, no way one man can keep up, biologicslly. Im also great at compartamentalizing, so dont get caught up and still date for marriage, but this takes the edge off.
I hear you 💯 💯 💯
I only energy for me but good luck to y'all who have energy for other people i really don't want to be bothered honestly I choose peace and solitude n plants
Marriage IS A Business. It's Been Confirmed If You Look At The History Of It. That's Why It Affects Your Taxes, Income, && Comes With Financial Burdens - May It Be The Marriage Or May It Be The Divorce. That's Why You Need A Marriage License - It's A Financial Contractual Agreement When You Remove The Romanticism Of It. 🥀
Blah blah... whyyyyy are women talking about men alllllll day?
Stop talking about men and start talking about what women and young girls should be doing to better their lives without men.
You are alllllll obsessed about what to do with men.
Sooo all these talks about 4b's was just a bla bla???
Why are you so obsessed with women?
Good way to tell people that you don't have listening skills or critical thinking skills.
@@flutatious_music4 🤣🤣🤣🤣 i am woman and i care about women things....
These blah blahs about relationship with men and what about men...
Maybe women should keep these energy more to themselves..
I guess you miss the point i was making..
Have a wonderful day...
Exactly!!!
@@NiobeNeo First off, my apologies. And secondly, I now see your point now. I completely misinterpreted what you said. Women should indeed just focus on themselves. It is more fulfilling. There is more to life than worrying about men or anyone for that matter. It is your life.
Meh, I don’t really agree. Don’t date until you are steadfast in your worth, value, and know what you want in a man. Because if you are insecure, whether you’re dating for marriage or not, you will accept anything. When you know who you are, you can see a red flag across the ocean and won’t entertain foolishness for a second. If you’re dating for marriage with that mindset, you will save yourself a lot of heartbreak and wasted time.
Romance isnt real
There are woman who do not enjoy being alone or have friends. Changing how you date or mindset with the same result with what purpose.
Do you know what i think i will just stsy single then in that case
Wouldn't mind casually dating, but casual sex is a no-go. (If that is the goal)
If the goal is to eventually find your wife and he is casually dating me until then, that's a no-go.
I date to marry, which means I seriously consider if a man is good for me or not (I don;t waste time with bad men)