Want To Be Successful? It might ruin your life

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  • Most people have a "fear of failure" & struggle to find ways to overcome it, but what you never really hear talked about is having a "fear of success." Every TH-cam self-help video you come across details how to overcome failure, procrastination, how to become successful, an influencer, or how to build a brand, but what no one discusses is what can happen when you actually get there.
    Success can be daunting & intimidating because it can create massive pressure & accountability. Whereas before success, you are idealizing the image of it, the reality can have strings attached and be extremely stressful.
    Whether it is the growing number of people quitting social media for good, hearing the dark truth about being famous or being an influencer, or even being rich and having a business- we are all seeing that these lives sometimes aren't as rosy and perfect as we are all made to believe.
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ความคิดเห็น • 29

  • @celestecruz
    @celestecruz 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Actually in my case it's not the success that I fear, it's the amount of new responsibilities you have to face.

  • @shaaaairuuu
    @shaaaairuuu 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    The first time I realized how scary "success" is was when I was 10 years old and came 3rd in my school exam, and realized now I have to remain in the top 3 in class to not disappoint my parents and teachers, I could imagine a lifetime of having to carry the reputation of being a "good student" and I pictured exactly this image: my head in a tiger's open mouth, if I fuck up it's biting my neck and I'm done for.
    Now I'm a university student and struggled a lot because of mental health reasons, it took such a toll on me. Therapy is helping fortunately but I wouldn't be struggling so much if I didn't feel the need to keep up this image.
    Being autistic didn't help. I felt like an alien in school and got bullied a lot, grades eventually became the only way I could justify to myself why I belong in school, because otherwise I absolutely didn't.

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That sounds like “gifted child syndrome” (I think it’s called.) You are praised and appreciated at first for your “gifts” but then you quickly begin to feel pressure & it takes a toll as you fry & try to keep up never feeling like you really live up too it. Glad to hear therapy is working tho & thanks for commenting ❤️‍🔥

  • @100ralfus
    @100ralfus 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I never thought a guy my age covered in face tattoos would be challenging my entire upbringing worldview and helping me in an existential crisis. Thank you for what you do man, subbed as fast as I could 😅

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  19 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      We live in an era of paradox and subversion 😂
      Thanks for watching, glad you enjoyed!

  • @charmedprince
    @charmedprince 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    This is why I separate my work from my "self". I don't want to have the personal responsibility of upholding anything. Whatever success my work reaches, is its own reward. Meanwhile, I can do other things without using my prior "successful" work as a tool to measure the successes of my upcoming works.

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That’s definitely a good way to go about it. I think that’s also why famous people hate fame so much, because their appeal centers around their literal identity (or the public perception of who they are)

    • @borderlinebestie
      @borderlinebestie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is such a journey to achieve for some though. I am one of them. Strategizing and maneuvering through this separation of self and work, especially as a writer/creator who uses their experiences to inspire the work, is pivotal to overcoming feelings and thoughts centered on the idea that identity is measured in output. But we hold intrinsic value.

    • @charmedprince
      @charmedprince 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@borderlinebestie yes and for intellectual creatives. I graduated as Valedictorian in both elementary and high school. People especially my parents expected a lot from me. But in university, with only a semester into graduation, I dropped out to pursue my creative endeavors of fashion design. I did that. And now at 33, after the death of my younger brother two weeks ago, I decided to go into another venture inspired by me and my younger brother's previous plan, probably real estate development. I want to finally merge my intellect and creativity this time.
      We need to have a self separate from our works in order to achieve many things in life.

  • @goosewithagibus
    @goosewithagibus 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I love your comments about weed and stuff. I feel that to my core. Its just so fun to grab a book, my bluetooth speaker, some alcohol, weed, or shrooms, and go to the mountains, watch the sun cross the sky, read, listen to music, and vibe. So simple. So fun. Its beautiful.

  • @CLARA.MIMOSA-KE
    @CLARA.MIMOSA-KE 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    you are causing impact like you dreamed..by finding your page ,some part of my soul is unravaled hence healed

  • @GiftLee
    @GiftLee 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm so thankful the algorithm brought your channel to me. I resonate so deeply with your story, as if you can articulate something I was never able to put into words. Thank you.

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@GiftLee thanks for watching, glad it resonated with you! ❤️‍🔥

  • @cencent2189
    @cencent2189 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    For me I dont fear success, but I fear not meeting up to the responsibilities I've placed on myself. Success is still scary because I'm scared of losing it now that I'm close to it, but I fear more not helping my family, not getting my cousin out of his abusive parents, not being able to improve my living conditions.
    Success is scary, but I see it as something that is less scary than the responsibilities I've placed on myself.

  • @__rm307
    @__rm307 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Not even a minute in = 😭😭

  • @Documentationz
    @Documentationz 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Great great great stuff! This was perfect for me right now. Thank you!

  • @abideinchristalone
    @abideinchristalone 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The essence of your conversation reminds me of the content of Father Spyridon and Harmony (orthodox TH-cam channels)

  • @RetroGameBench
    @RetroGameBench 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    i found my purpose in watching youtube 24\7 & leaving dull comments in the comment section.

  • @Mavybwavy
    @Mavybwavy 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I LOVE your videos. They are so enlightening & engaging. So glad I came across this channel 🩵

  • @dwigzo15
    @dwigzo15 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Success is rented, not owned

  • @borderlinebestie
    @borderlinebestie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    555 views, I had to stop and watch. This was for me, thank you. So happy to have found a fellow friend.

    • @borderlinebestie
      @borderlinebestie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Doubling back to double down. You mentioned so many points my closest friend and I have discussed only in private settings, heads knotted closely together in what seems like the most obvious and sacred cosmic secret. This was a really really well done video and I feel like I landed here immediately before we both .. idk .. explode like stars into the right momentums of energy. If that makes sense. I’m rooting for you deeply.

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for watching & so happy you can relate & enjoy

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@borderlinebestie Thanks so much, I appreciate that! ❤️‍🔥

  • @theawsomestbanana1232
    @theawsomestbanana1232 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Its so interesting cause my whole life has felt like me waking up. Coming to realisations and being able to communicate them to the people I love in ways that I hope are profound enough for them to find even a bit of value in. My community is what supports me and my feeling of inevitable success has grown with me since I was a kid.
    And I want to make other people happy w that success. Whenever I thing of success I think of the people that I’ll be able to serve with those newfound opportunities. But at the same time I’m HORRIFIED because I have so much I need to work on. I’m not a very disciplined person and I lack self control. There are just things I need to work on before I get to where I know I belong (it’s still difficult tho). But having that awareness makes me a bit less scared to venture into the inevitable yet unknown.

  • @Plorf123
    @Plorf123 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    What is the lovely quote at the beginning, the one you are saying? :)

    • @Sagethis
      @Sagethis  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I wrote it- very spontaneously too
      Originally the first 2 minutes weren’t apart of the video. Basically I was searching for a background song on Artlist & I stumbled upon one & as I was listening I immediately began writing down the opening 😅
      “Flow state” is a very real thing aha

    • @borderlinebestie
      @borderlinebestie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Sagethiswow your brain 🧠 must be such a lovely and interesting place.