Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains? 07:28 How to Deal With Shame 14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma 18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today 27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions 33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings 37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness? 45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind 50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts 55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy 1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men 1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men? 1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity 1:25:56 Why TH-camrs Are Quitting 1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts 1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego? 2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K
11:00 You are stating completely that emotions are not valid. That is a dangerous and wrong statement. How does someone know LOVE if they ignore their emotions? It's not about turning off emotions. It's not about devaluing emotions. It's about learning with your emotions, and each person is different and so is their spectrum of emotions and you will never be able to write a book that "fixes" everyone's problems for them, nor will you ever be able to make a prescription medicine to "fix" their problems. I wish psychiatrists would understand this more. You're all looking creepy when you're trying to teach people to basically be mentally UNHEALTHY.
should have Buyng Chul han, his book "Tired society" it's just mindblowing on the efect of technology. This is not an era of viral diseases but Neurological ones, he says.
The idea is not to kick someone when they are down. Benzos are fucked up and Jordan should have massive amounts of empathy for addicts because their struggles mirror his but he doesn't. He still exists in his shame bound persona. He is shameless because he is shameful. He needs to feel his shame in order to recognize his ego/false persona. Call it a moral grey area but humanity needs to awaken to its shame in a big way so they can be human. Where does war come from?
@@HalfJapMarineare you implying and/or making the assertion that war comes as a result of (unrecognized / disowned) shame? Might be a gross simplification of multiple overlapping reasons as some are largely rooted in money and resources or control of ideology but yes if it’s ultimately a fragile ego state that’s running the show and captaining the ship, so to speak, then yes, I guess you can say that it’s ones shame that drives us to act out and/or kill / conquer. For some, there’s also a motivator for a “will to power” as Adlers psychology talks about. Whereas Freuds philosophy was a will to pleasure. And viktor frankls was a will to meaning. And they’re all right in their own way.
This is amazingly timely for me; I had a bad interaction, where I was at a pub, trying to talk to a group of new people who were talking to my friends who had just left. They weren’t clear at first, but eventually after buying a drink and trying to stay with them to make new friends, one of them told me to leave them alone. It sounds kinda dumb spelling it out, but it definitely hurt me. Putting myself into a hypothetical the way that Dr K describes makes me evaluate the emotions that I am feeling. Thank you.
The production value on this podcast is on another level. Love the background visuals, lighting, audio quality and obviously the content itself - all AAA+ stuff. Keep it up, Chris!
My wish is that formal education would evolve to include topics and discussions such as the ones shared on this episode. It was the perfect balance of intellectual, emotional and spiritual wisdom to spark curiosity and give us hope that we are not broken as a species. Understanding ourselves is key to compassion…and we so desperately need it at the moment. Thank you gentlemen for your beautiful display of modern manhood.
As someone in the digital marketing industry and create content regularly as well, I enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing your psych expertise Dr K in “modern” terms that I can relate to. So much needed in this time. Love Jordan P also who unselfishly share his knowledge and his compassion is obvious. Dr K, I’ll look more in your contents, hopefully you gain massive reach for our youth. Update: my most favorite take away part : losing ego. Dr K you articulated it so well! So grateful 🙏🕊❤️👏
@@AlmightyScorchyno, that’s just an escape from the true game of life, which is chess. If you’re not scheming on how to win from every angle at every moment can you say you’re really striving to evolve into a mega Chad like me? (All sarcasm) pls can we all just enjoy what we enjoy and not stand on watching videos like these as some kind of superior experience
then youre watching the wrong podcasters , alex o'connor , CosmicSkeptic is his channel is a good recommendation , diary of a ceo podcast , everyone knows huberman the man himself , tetragrammaton by rick rubin and startalk by neil degrasse tyson , all objectively great podcasts and interviewers with the best and most interesting guests
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
@@skadi6750apples and oranges. There's a difference between feeling embarrassment for your own behavior being called out, and feeling disgust and hatred for evil rhetoric.
As an Indian I feel proud and sad at the same time , why sad ? Because our heritage has so much practical knowledge and despite of that our education system is so colonised that we don't even hear of these things let alone studing about then And obviously i feel proud they my country has such rich heritage to solve modern issues. This is one of the best content pieces I have seen on TH-cam .
I scrolled through the comment section for such a comment. Thank you for sharing! Even though I’m from Europe, I felt the same mixed feelings you are describing. So much conscious living has been lost due to the ego revolution in the west.
As an Indian, I want to say it is not just Indian culture that is being eroded(Frankly speaking Hindutva has helped retain some culture in India). But it is traditionalism throughout the world that is in decline. Be it Europe, US, even the middle East and of course ASEAN and East Asia. Nietzsche was right.
I think it's best to feel proud because there's someone now teaching about it, we can learn as well and apply to our lives and help out others as much we can
@@Ven-zg3fj That's what he says the research is saying. I find it difficult to imagine in practice, although I have indeed experienced the losing sight of a goal from talking about it
Dr. K's insights on the impact of technology on our brains are spot on. A lesser-known tactic to combat the negative effects is to schedule "tech-free zones" in your day, where you intentionally avoid screens and stimulate your mind with activities like reading or engaging in face-to-face conversations. This can significantly improve focus and mental well-being.
We did no tech Sunday for the whole family yesterday. It was tough but good for everyone. Going to continue it. I think it helps to figure out when you default to tech/screens and why.
I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you
Real question: what do you do for your news? I won’t watch any MSM because they all have agendas and put crazy spin on everything, I just want facts. I have found independent journalists in the past that were decent sources for the most part, but it requires staying connected to social media and I really want to break away completely.
"Now I am dissolved Ego, the Taker of Shits." In all seriousness, it pleases both heart and mind to see two Chads of improvement and aiming upward, join together to have a sublime conversation. Looking forward to more collaboration and overlap in the future.
This has been a great eye opener of a podcast. My wife passed away at the height of the pandemic and seeking any help was really difficult. We were both 32 at the time and I had never really experienced loss or trauma before. I tried grief shares, therapy, and in the end the only thing that seemed to help was exercise. Grief is a very difficult reality. I wish I understood just how much It pulls mental, emotional, and physical resources from you. The term “Grief Brain” is a very real side effect. The tiredness you experience from the emotional rollercoaster. The constant effort to be present and not miles away in grief laden thoughts. The immediate burnout that sets in from the whirlwind of life events just experienced. Just hearing or reading this small paragraph would of helped me SO MUCH in understanding the monster that grief really is and the fallout it creates. I know men don't like to share or open up, trust me, as a young widower, its really really difficult to find anyone to relate too. If your going through something, people do care, your not alone, and love is really the only way out of your circumstances. Love for yourself, gratitude, and patience. Great work Chris and Healthy Gamer!
@@cwg9238 lol what? He's simply searchable by this name. Real name is Alok Kanojia, if that helps you, and his TH-cam channel is @HealthyGamerGG, with the official licensed doctor thang under every video
40:08 Dr. K in Indian accent: "you can't focus? Don't worry, I'll teach you practice. Laugh, I teach you to focus. Don't feel the cancellation" 😂 a mind blowingly down to earth authentic bullseye conversation. So happy to see and hear this collision as of my favourite 2 channels on TH-cam! Especially resonating with the "trauma" & "manta" analogy Dr. K alluded to on secrecy - keep what feels good inside, & speak on what does not feel good on the inside. Love you two to bits ever so much ❤
I really needed to hear this. I went back to using Twitter in 2020 when the UK 🇬🇧 was in lockdown. It self-soothed me as I was also caring for my Mother who had Alzheimers. I realised I was getting addicted to my phone by 2021. It wasn't until Jan 2022 when I deleted my Twitter account, a month after my mother had died. I only watch certain TH-cam channels nowadays that I consider informative like Chris's channel, Jordan Peterson and some Christian channels. You guys are great. Thank you.
I know you know this, but aren't missing anything, I was on Twitter yesterday and it's so depressing, people complaining, nothing's changed. You're so much better off. I need to find the courage to delete it.
This is one of the best mental health podcast I’ve ever listened to. Gonna have to listen again and again because there’s just so much gold I need to let sink in and apply
Bro i normally watch or listen to your podcast on my phone, but for this i literally went and open my laptop and put headphones on just to appreciate your hard work Keep it up brother!!!!!!!!!!
@@myself2noone I'm not going to get into my personal stuff, but I know it's true. I'm in a program specifically for fixing it and I've recovered 90%. I'm not talking about ignoring my emotions a little bit. I'm talking about half my life.
“All you can do is action, you cannot achieve any result” That comes from the bhagavad gita - “You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.”
Yesterday I was at the store and I got sad and pissed all in one because some POS put a rotisserie chicken on a regular shelf, letting it go bad. It upset me that a whole chicken was killed and some turd thought it ok to just waste this good food. I took it to the front and then later was mad at myself that I didn't just buy it and feed it to my dogs. I realize my emotions are too much, because they linger, at the same time, I don't want to be so detached that I don't give a damn about consideration and human kindnesses and most importantly GRATEFULNESS. I definitely needed this episode 😅😅
Would be a good idea to not feed that to your dogs those rotisserie chickens have a bunch of salt and other added ingredients that aren't good for dogs. If you do give your dogs chicken or meat it's best to cook it without any seasoning just trying to be helpful 👍
Conscientiousness is a blessing and a curse. You seem like a kind soul, hope you find a balance between caring enough to do something and being wise enough to know your own limitations
"It is never *THE ISSUE(the chicken)* that is your issue, *YOUR ISSUE(the anger)* is how you react and respond to the issue." - A course in Miracles Your issue is your anger, case in point; your usage of words like "some POS" , "some turd", "mad at myself" in the present tense illustrate that the anger is still with you and l bet it always has been before the chicken issue. I believe it was Jung who said our subconscious mind holds all our unresolved baggage which it tries to bring into our conscious mind to be resolved; and that one way it does this is through conflict (internal & external). The chicken scenario could very well be the conflict your subconscious self used to bring your anger issues to the surface of your conscious mind so that you could address them with a smaller conflict before/instead of a bigger conflict. Objectively nothing really gets wasted in this world because energy is never lost, it merely changes form. Thus, the chicken wasn't objectively a waste of "good food" because as biological organisms decompose, they become "good food" to other organisms and useful manure to the earth... When you look at the idea of "waste" in this way, you begin to see that your anger wasn't even rational in the grand scheme of reality/nature. If you address & resolve the internal anger directly, external situations won't trigger what is not there(in you). If you don't address it, it will colour ALL your experiences, big and small... Food for thought
@@andreaspapakanellou3804 Bare in mind that conscientiousness could very well be a dressed up form of Control. The human ego often dresses up its need for/coping mechanism of control in positive & palatable terminology... What's the litmus test for this? It's fear, for wherever the ego seeks to control, there is always fear (which can manifest/be expressed in the form of anger).
Shut off my emotions for years as a coping mechanism, and honestly it makes life so much worse later on. Early on its so useful and amazing, no more emotional pain? No more sadness? Sign me up! Problem is eventually they come back, and its not like flipping a switch on; its like the emotional Dam you built exploded and had a catastrophic failure. As a result the city of "good" emotions and things you enjoy or dont feel bothered by gets destroyed. Suddenly youre an adult now and the lack of shame and guilt has led you to a place where its very hard to get out, and now you ARE feeling the shame and guilt and things that make you feel that way are all around you.
I have a challenge for everyone reading this: Try a kind of trataka but the thing you are staring at is your turned of phone lying before you and hold it as long as you can. Watch your impulses go wild. (At least for me it was pretty crazy)
Litterally, just today, I had a conversation about children being taught meditation. As a 53 yr old with A.d.h.d. that has never had a quiet moment of thought. Both breathwork and meditation are giving me some peace . The sad part of a lot of keeping yourself healthy is free, and we have a healthcare system meant to keep you sick for profit.. I've told so many people about the show.. Thx Chris .
I've loved Dr. K for years and this is one of the best podcasts I can remember. Keep killing it Chris, Modern Wisdom is truly becoming one of the premiere podcasts on Earth.
What an outstanding podcast. Every time I see Dr.K I learn so much about myself and I'm provided with new tools to better my life. Chris, thank you for being an excellent speaker and interviewer. Your conversational skills and honesty during the podcast makes it that much better.
Fellow 21:9 aspect ratio enjoyers, please press the like button to show Chris his efforts into providing an A+ viewing experience aren't going unnoticed.
What a great episode! As someone who has had my first therapy session being a couples therapy session, with a female therapist, I can call myself lucky that she was extremely empathetic about how both my wife and I would be communicating and always making sure our points were mutually understood without giving any sort of judgement. What I especially liked was her ability to "translate" what we said and how we said it into what the other person needed to hear or even see. But to Dr K's point, we had spoken to 2 other couples therapists before that we had to pass on as it just didn't feel right. I only wish we had done it sooner (we are all good, but as Dr. K said, I was first against it as I thought we could handle it without the help of a therapist)... Fascinating stuff and I can only encourage more people to go into couples therapy!
55:00 This is fantastic. I have been through at least two therapists, and the work was always circular. I never got any kind of *solution*. No understanding of WHAT I was dealing with. I watched ONE Dr. K seminar on C-PTSD: *"This is your Brain on Trauma."* IT CLICKED. ALL OF IT. I've started digging into the depths of it. I'm still working on dealing with some things, but this is the farthest I have gotten in the last two years.
I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you
13:40 trauma fix 14:30 schema automatic thoughts, narcissistic ego defensive mechanisms, influence behavior 17:05 Reality vs survival 1:14:15 Shame towards your wins > turning them into losses = drinking poison towards your life 1:47:10 Comparisons are a fallacy, The Wonder of U 1:49:08 Self worth vs Accomplishment: Judge yourself by your actions, not your outcomes 1:56:00 A judgement by someone elses mind is not reality A judgement by your own mind is not reality Thoughts are not reality 1:57:00 How people treat you is not what you are, it's how people treat you. What and who you are is separate from how people treat you. Two different things..trauma needs to understand this...conclusion 1:57:40 Whatever comparison or thoughts or negative ego you endure, dissolve it by acknowledging that we all take shits 1:59:00 ,The nature of pleasure vs accomplishment and ego damage from attaching oneself to outcomes rather than actions is one of the main paths of pain in life 2:01:00 Dr K goes full David Goggins. Once your ego is dissolved, acknowledge what you could have done better, and the next day go get after it
Just 10 minutes in and I had to pause the video to say this: Chris, this is a WORLD-CLASS production. Thank you for continually investing in mastering your craft. Your viewers appreciate it far beyond words can explain
So happy you had Dr. K on. He is not only amazingly insightful and smart, but one can tell he has thought deeply about these subjects. I love how he brings ancient wisdom in. One of your best guests ever!
Interesting that it’s said you can’t feel the emotional state of a positive hypothesis… how does this correlate with Law of Attraction and Dr Joe Dizpensas work? I assume because it’s not a hypothesised feeling state but you convincing your mind that it’s happened already and the “wish fulfilled”?
Dissolving the ego is a herculean task. Start with knowing that the ego is your tether to this world/reality. You need it in order to continue existing. It is a symbiotic relationship that sometimes gets out of balance af.
It takes more than just genius to revolutionize the world; it takes a trait that only leaders possess to bring something new to life. I'm telling you with certainty that the entire podcast space will tap into this in the nearest future, all thanks to you for this contribution. See you soon my future friend.
Dr. K and the Platform of Chris ist just the perfekt match . the high lvl of his knowlege matches perfectly with chris high lvl of leading an conversation and asking the right stuff.. completing the thoughts.
Spirituality-framed- approaches blended with straightforward, empirically-driven, common-sensibilities aimed at objective truthfulness offers a strong foundation to build upon.
Haha omg I had to laugh out loud so hard : "I will teach you practice" 🤣🤣🤣 amazing episode overal! So many great Insights, whilst also having a good laugh here and there
I was mesmerized by the background scenery too ahah but Chris said it was visual screen, ahaha a little bird chirping some noises some wind and it will very realistic
Wow this is the best podcast I have ever watched about Psychology, Mental health and technology. Absolute master piece. Please do more collabs in the future like these!
If you want a manly, holistic, and emotionally informed way for a man to interact with and acknowledge his emotions then I highly recommend you read 'Spiritual Exercises' by Saint Ignatius of Loyola
the part about men being socialized to not be very “emotional” (except for anger) is so true. i assume that is because anger is seen as an emotion that portrays (on a surface level) strength, power, and aggressiveness, unlike the “female” emotions that many of us associate with vulnerability, weakness, and dependence. this made me realize that perhaps a lot of men turn their sadness, shame, insecurity, etc. into anger since it’s the only emotion that has been accepted and expected for men to express for so long. the other emotions get suppressed, but they have to be released somehow, so they’re released as anger.
100%. The part on the red pill stuff was so spot on. To me it's men with serious, unresolved trauma. Men need to be told it's okay to feel things and process them.
Dr K is a brilliant person ! So loved that he recognized your brilliance as well, Chris ! I will listen to this again. The amount of information was huge ! Thankyou
Thankyou for the stones of insightful dialog and topics yall both break... I'm truly blessed being sparked with these seeds. Love From Tanzania, didn't start here though, it's a habit and can't lie i see me progressing integrated vertically. 💚Stay blessed Radicals..
What a great conversation. Can’t wait to read the book- I have a 15 year old gaming son and am thrilled to have something aimed for parenting young men with Dr K’s insights.
Ultimate dream job: traveling on-set production team member for this podcast. Piterally hands-on development of the best podcast going while getting all the best info from the brightest minds straight from their mouths.
1:50:10 Dr. K just distilled the crux of Bhagvad Gita there! We are ever a catalyst of great or sorrow happenings, all action flows through us and there is no place in the universe to claim doership over any of it. No claim over a reward or result, we can only strive for being the best vessel for creation.
@@Photik If you check out some of my public TH-cam playlists, a link is in the description! I don't make any money off the site, and there isn't any type of brand
13:15 1. Reduce the emotions we feel in the moment. 2. Critically look at the conclusions we've drawn about the world. 3. How do these conclusions affect our behavior. *** . Thoughts - feelings - actions.
Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps:
00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains?
07:28 How to Deal With Shame
14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma
18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today
27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions
33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings
37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness?
45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind
50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts
55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy
1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men
1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men?
1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity
1:25:56 Why TH-camrs Are Quitting
1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts
1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego?
2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K
Could you interview Abigail Shrier about her new book "Bad Therapy" Love the podcast, thanks!
11:00 You are stating completely that emotions are not valid. That is a dangerous and wrong statement. How does someone know LOVE if they ignore their emotions? It's not about turning off emotions. It's not about devaluing emotions. It's about learning with your emotions, and each person is different and so is their spectrum of emotions and you will never be able to write a book that "fixes" everyone's problems for them, nor will you ever be able to make a prescription medicine to "fix" their problems.
I wish psychiatrists would understand this more. You're all looking creepy when you're trying to teach people to basically be mentally UNHEALTHY.
should have Buyng Chul han, his book "Tired society" it's just mindblowing on the efect of technology. This is not an era of viral diseases but Neurological ones, he says.
The idea is not to kick someone when they are down. Benzos are fucked up and Jordan should have massive amounts of empathy for addicts because their struggles mirror his but he doesn't. He still exists in his shame bound persona. He is shameless because he is shameful. He needs to feel his shame in order to recognize his ego/false persona. Call it a moral grey area but humanity needs to awaken to its shame in a big way so they can be human. Where does war come from?
@@HalfJapMarineare you implying and/or making the assertion that war comes as a result of (unrecognized / disowned) shame? Might be a gross simplification of multiple overlapping reasons as some are largely rooted in money and resources or control of ideology but yes if it’s ultimately a fragile ego state that’s running the show and captaining the ship, so to speak, then yes, I guess you can say that it’s ones shame that drives us to act out and/or kill / conquer. For some, there’s also a motivator for a “will to power” as Adlers psychology talks about. Whereas Freuds philosophy was a will to pleasure. And viktor frankls was a will to meaning. And they’re all right in their own way.
Thank you for having us and for the incredible conversation 💚 Truly unforgettable!
absolutely love you guys, so glad we get a second episode
This was an amazing podcast!
We need more pls.❤
I literally just watched this just to make sure that im doing 'it' properly, and im really glad it's confirmed. Thanks man
❤
This is amazingly timely for me; I had a bad interaction, where I was at a pub, trying to talk to a group of new people who were talking to my friends who had just left. They weren’t clear at first, but eventually after buying a drink and trying to stay with them to make new friends, one of them told me to leave them alone. It sounds kinda dumb spelling it out, but it definitely hurt me. Putting myself into a hypothetical the way that Dr K describes makes me evaluate the emotions that I am feeling. Thank you.
The production value on this podcast is on another level. Love the background visuals, lighting, audio quality and obviously the content itself - all AAA+ stuff. Keep it up, Chris!
My wish is that formal education would evolve to include topics and discussions such as the ones shared on this episode. It was the perfect balance of intellectual, emotional and spiritual wisdom to spark curiosity and give us hope that we are not broken as a species. Understanding ourselves is key to compassion…and we so desperately need it at the moment.
Thank you gentlemen for your beautiful display of modern manhood.
As someone in the digital marketing industry and create content regularly as well, I enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing your psych expertise Dr K in “modern” terms that I can relate to. So much needed in this time. Love Jordan P also who unselfishly share his knowledge and his compassion is obvious. Dr K, I’ll look more in your contents, hopefully you gain massive reach for our youth. Update: my most favorite take away part : losing ego. Dr K you articulated it so well! So grateful 🙏🕊❤️👏
Incredible guest, incredible production, incredible content. Another job well done Chris!
I got some great insights and validation of the path i'm on from this - thanks so much lads
The production quality is insane
looks awesome man, can't wait for the time interview
Finally doc K is at Your show ❤❤❤❤
Dr. K is the best thing to come to TH-cam in the last 10 years. So much free education. Thanks Doc!!!
Agreed, he rocks
came to comment that but you already did.
He's the Yogananda of our century
Advising kids to take pills?
I'm not sure about that
@@simonebenitozzi2892 When did he do that? Please give one concrete example. I challenge you to find one.
Chris and Dr. K laughing at the Indian accent and about getting cancelled was the most wholesome moment I've seen on a podcast in a long time hahaha
Hahaha me too i laughed so hard
As a fellow ethnic Indian and a doctor, I promise you I found it equally if not even more hilarious
40:00
So good
breath through the cancellation had me dying . it was so perfect
modern wisdom is playing chess while other podcast productions are playing checkers. I appericate how much Chris cares about the viewers experience.
Checkers is pretty fun too ngl
@@AlmightyScorchyno, that’s just an escape from the true game of life, which is chess. If you’re not scheming on how to win from every angle at every moment can you say you’re really striving to evolve into a mega Chad like me? (All sarcasm) pls can we all just enjoy what we enjoy and not stand on watching videos like these as some kind of superior experience
Mind of a CEO podcast also plays chess, both great podcasts!
then youre watching the wrong podcasters , alex o'connor , CosmicSkeptic is his channel is a good recommendation , diary of a ceo podcast , everyone knows huberman the man himself , tetragrammaton by rick rubin and startalk by neil degrasse tyson , all objectively great podcasts and interviewers with the best and most interesting guests
@@mumblaff the true game of life is poker. You do the best you can with the hand you're dealt with
This is the way. Was an honor hosting this production!
Congrats on having them! That’s awesome!
Amazing work. I am usually not a person who pays attention to the details, but it looked amazing even on Smartfon screen.
I watched behind the scenes video. Absolutely spectacular studio environment! The crew was also so admirable 🙂
I love the background, you guys are awesome!
Amazing production! Love the cinematic feel! 🎥
“No no .. don’t feel the cancellations just breeaaath” Dr k always makes me ball out laughing man 😂
It was amazing and hilarious 😂
Don’t fear*
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once.
Breathe. You're strong. You got this Take it day by
day.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.larks
you know they speak the truth when listening becomes uncomfortable
I dunno man, Nazi recordings are pretty fricking uncomfortable:-D
@@skadi6750 nay it just sounds stupid
@@skadi6750the nazis arent truthful though? What are you trying to insinuate?
@@skadi6750apples and oranges. There's a difference between feeling embarrassment for your own behavior being called out, and feeling disgust and hatred for evil rhetoric.
@@shlosher we shouldn't support mass factory farms because animals are getting tortured
As an Indian I feel proud and sad at the same time , why sad ?
Because our heritage has so much practical knowledge and despite of that our education system is so colonised that we don't even hear of these things let alone studing about then
And obviously i feel proud they my country has such rich heritage to solve modern issues.
This is one of the best content pieces I have seen on TH-cam .
I scrolled through the comment section for such a comment. Thank you for sharing! Even though I’m from Europe, I felt the same mixed feelings you are describing. So much conscious living has been lost due to the ego revolution in the west.
As an Indian, I want to say it is not just Indian culture that is being eroded(Frankly speaking Hindutva has helped retain some culture in India).
But it is traditionalism throughout the world that is in decline. Be it Europe, US, even the middle East and of course ASEAN and East Asia.
Nietzsche was right.
I think it's best to feel proud because there's someone now teaching about it, we can learn as well and apply to our lives and help out others as much we can
Plenty of sage advice in the Vedic sutras and Ayruveda.
This is something I feel sad about and definitely try to spend a small time every day to educate myself on my ancient roots
'' Whatever you want to cultivate within you, keep within yourself '' Dr. K, Amazing !
If there was only one takeaway, this is the one
I frankly dont get it. So like, dont share? Dont talk about yourself or what you want to do? I feel like this is casting too broad of a net.
Talking about doing something can sometimes feel like you've actually done it, but to truly cultivate that sense of accomplishment, just take action!
@@Ven-zg3fj here
@@Ven-zg3fj That's what he says the research is saying. I find it difficult to imagine in practice, although I have indeed experienced the losing sight of a goal from talking about it
This is like if the Joe Rogan show was good
💀💀💀
yeah chris is like +2 sigma over joe. love joe tho
@@ZachMeadorcan you translate that in English?
@@TyroneBiggums789 feed it into chatgpt
Would love to listen to dr. K on joe rogan preferably on a good day for joe sometimes his podcasts are realy inconsistent. :/
Dr. K's insights on the impact of technology on our brains are spot on. A lesser-known tactic to combat the negative effects is to schedule "tech-free zones" in your day, where you intentionally avoid screens and stimulate your mind with activities like reading or engaging in face-to-face conversations. This can significantly improve focus and mental well-being.
We did no tech Sunday for the whole family yesterday. It was tough but good for everyone. Going to continue it. I think it helps to figure out when you default to tech/screens and why.
It got so bad for my husband that he started watching Ring videos bc he so needed to watch TV/youtube at night to wind down lol.
@@francestaylor9156 That sounds so good
@@renelovemetalYour comment is poorly written
@@francestaylor9156my dad does this too 😭😭
I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you
Real question: what do you do for your news? I won’t watch any MSM because they all have agendas and put crazy spin on everything, I just want facts. I have found independent journalists in the past that were decent sources for the most part, but it requires staying connected to social media and I really want to break away completely.
Exactly
I'm right there with you brother
TH-cam is social media, look at us right now, being social, together online.. lol just FYI
@@Cyberpunk_Radio_PBSit’s long form content
"Now I am dissolved Ego, the Taker of Shits."
In all seriousness, it pleases both heart and mind to see two Chads of improvement and aiming upward, join together to have a sublime conversation.
Looking forward to more collaboration and overlap in the future.
Will someone please tell me who the hell Chad is!!?
This has been a great eye opener of a podcast. My wife passed away at the height of the pandemic and seeking any help was really difficult. We were both 32 at the time and I had never really experienced loss or trauma before. I tried grief shares, therapy, and in the end the only thing that seemed to help was exercise. Grief is a very difficult reality. I wish I understood just how much It pulls mental, emotional, and physical resources from you. The term “Grief Brain” is a very real side effect. The tiredness you experience from the emotional rollercoaster. The constant effort to be present and not miles away in grief laden thoughts. The immediate burnout that sets in from the whirlwind of life events just experienced. Just hearing or reading this small paragraph would of helped me SO MUCH in understanding the monster that grief really is and the fallout it creates. I know men don't like to share or open up, trust me, as a young widower, its really really difficult to find anyone to relate too. If your going through something, people do care, your not alone, and love is really the only way out of your circumstances. Love for yourself, gratitude, and patience. Great work Chris and Healthy Gamer!
I think his trauma guide would be an amazing resource once it’s out!!
Hugs dude!
Wow I'm so sorry. Wish I could help ease your pain
Sorry for your loss young man
Sorry for your lost dude
Love the BTS of the screen and the room and everything! And love Dr. K back on!! Amazing work, Chris. Amazing.
BTS?
@@shoutatthesky Behind the scenes
"Just because you don't feel it doesn't mean it doesn't exist"
Dr K incredibly based
That's what he said
Sorry
the sun shines in the morning, the sky is blue, rain is wet, Dr.K is based
why doesnt he give his full real name? his supposed credentials are unverifiable.
@@cwg9238 Google is SO HARD
@@cwg9238 lol what? He's simply searchable by this name. Real name is Alok Kanojia, if that helps you, and his TH-cam channel is @HealthyGamerGG, with the official licensed doctor thang under every video
40:08 Dr. K in Indian accent: "you can't focus? Don't worry, I'll teach you practice. Laugh, I teach you to focus. Don't feel the cancellation" 😂 a mind blowingly down to earth authentic bullseye conversation. So happy to see and hear this collision as of my favourite 2 channels on TH-cam! Especially resonating with the "trauma" & "manta" analogy Dr. K alluded to on secrecy - keep what feels good inside, & speak on what does not feel good on the inside. Love you two to bits ever so much ❤
This has actually been the most impactful episode I've seen.
Glad for u bro but how?
@@Seekingtruth63 a 2 hour episode from 5 months ago? Couldn't tell ya. Pay close attention.
Dr K and Chris Williamson and next world cinematography is certified gold
I really needed to hear this. I went back to using Twitter in 2020 when the UK 🇬🇧 was in lockdown. It self-soothed me as I was also caring for my Mother who had Alzheimers. I realised I was getting addicted to my phone by 2021. It wasn't until Jan 2022 when I deleted my Twitter account, a month after my mother had died. I only watch certain TH-cam channels nowadays that I consider informative like Chris's channel, Jordan Peterson and some Christian channels. You guys are great. Thank you.
I know you know this, but aren't missing anything, I was on Twitter yesterday and it's so depressing, people complaining, nothing's changed. You're so much better off. I need to find the courage to delete it.
@@renelovemetalGet help asap, copy pasting the same non-sense everywhere .
This is one of the best mental health podcast I’ve ever listened to. Gonna have to listen again and again because there’s just so much gold I need to let sink in and apply
Such a good episode! That part about hypotheticals activating negative emotions but not the dopaminergic system…🤯
Bro i normally watch or listen to your podcast on my phone, but for this i literally went and open my laptop and put headphones on just to appreciate your hard work Keep it up brother!!!!!!!!!!
I was listening to this at work, but I want to relisten to take notes. This was a good discussion/interview.
Kinda wish this was 4 hours...
Ignoring your emotions leads to chronic illness. I'm digging myself out of that right now.
You got this
@@myself2noone I'm not going to get into my personal stuff, but I know it's true. I'm in a program specifically for fixing it and I've recovered 90%. I'm not talking about ignoring my emotions a little bit. I'm talking about half my life.
“All you can do is action, you cannot achieve any result”
That comes from the bhagavad gita -
“You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.”
❤
Yesterday I was at the store and I got sad and pissed all in one because some POS put a rotisserie chicken on a regular shelf, letting it go bad. It upset me that a whole chicken was killed and some turd thought it ok to just waste this good food. I took it to the front and then later was mad at myself that I didn't just buy it and feed it to my dogs. I realize my emotions are too much, because they linger, at the same time, I don't want to be so detached that I don't give a damn about consideration and human kindnesses and most importantly GRATEFULNESS. I definitely needed this episode 😅😅
Would be a good idea to not feed that to your dogs those rotisserie chickens have a bunch of salt and other added ingredients that aren't good for dogs.
If you do give your dogs chicken or meat it's best to cook it without any seasoning just trying to be helpful 👍
Conscientiousness is a blessing and a curse. You seem like a kind soul, hope you find a balance between caring enough to do something and being wise enough to know your own limitations
"It is never *THE ISSUE(the chicken)* that is your issue, *YOUR ISSUE(the anger)* is how you react and respond to the issue." - A course in Miracles
Your issue is your anger, case in point; your usage of words like "some POS" , "some turd", "mad at myself" in the present tense illustrate that the anger is still with you and l bet it always has been before the chicken issue. I believe it was Jung who said our subconscious mind holds all our unresolved baggage which it tries to bring into our conscious mind to be resolved; and that one way it does this is through conflict (internal & external). The chicken scenario could very well be the conflict your subconscious self used to bring your anger issues to the surface of your conscious mind so that you could address them with a smaller conflict before/instead of a bigger conflict.
Objectively nothing really gets wasted in this world because energy is never lost, it merely changes form. Thus, the chicken wasn't objectively a waste of "good food" because as biological organisms decompose, they become "good food" to other organisms and useful manure to the earth... When you look at the idea of "waste" in this way, you begin to see that your anger wasn't even rational in the grand scheme of reality/nature. If you address & resolve the internal anger directly, external situations won't trigger what is not there(in you). If you don't address it, it will colour ALL your experiences, big and small... Food for thought
@@andreaspapakanellou3804 Bare in mind that conscientiousness could very well be a dressed up form of Control. The human ego often dresses up its need for/coping mechanism of control in positive & palatable terminology... What's the litmus test for this? It's fear, for wherever the ego seeks to control, there is always fear (which can manifest/be expressed in the form of anger).
@@MylezNevisonsheesh,so how do you directly face those emotions, those problems?. Do you go in a room, try to remember , what exactly do you do?
Shut off my emotions for years as a coping mechanism, and honestly it makes life so much worse later on. Early on its so useful and amazing, no more emotional pain? No more sadness? Sign me up!
Problem is eventually they come back, and its not like flipping a switch on; its like the emotional Dam you built exploded and had a catastrophic failure. As a result the city of "good" emotions and things you enjoy or dont feel bothered by gets destroyed. Suddenly youre an adult now and the lack of shame and guilt has led you to a place where its very hard to get out, and now you ARE feeling the shame and guilt and things that make you feel that way are all around you.
I have a challenge for everyone reading this: Try a kind of trataka but the thing you are staring at is your turned of phone lying before you and hold it as long as you can. Watch your impulses go wild. (At least for me it was pretty crazy)
Love that the "slow down on the screens" guy is on the first episode with a giant screen as the background. 💪
Lol, but in seriousness I think it’s more about what’s on the screens 🧐
Litterally, just today, I had a conversation about children being taught meditation. As a 53 yr old with A.d.h.d. that has never had a quiet moment of thought. Both breathwork and meditation are giving me some peace .
The sad part of a lot of keeping yourself healthy is free, and we have a healthcare system meant to keep you sick for profit..
I've told so many people about the show.. Thx Chris .
I love how all the censoring of profanity was ineffective 😂
Congrats for getting in early to interview Dr K. He's a rare diamond on social media. 100% valuable content from this legend
40:05 I love Doktor K makes Chris laughing using his Indian accent 😂
I've loved Dr. K for years and this is one of the best podcasts I can remember. Keep killing it Chris, Modern Wisdom is truly becoming one of the premiere podcasts on Earth.
Thanks for the guidance Dr. K
Very Respectfully,
- Jon
YES! I could listen to you talk to Dr K for weeks. Please have him on as many times as you can think of questions to ask him. This is wonderful.
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40:00 ABSOLUTE GOLD. Dr. K is both serious AND knows when to be comedic
He is a master communicator. He has thousands of hours on his channel, check it out
@@morganseppy5180 I have already.
How this podcast can be free😳
Glad you got Dr K on. Dude's doing important work. Really insightful.
Yes! Was waiting for this one!
What an outstanding podcast. Every time I see Dr.K I learn so much about myself and I'm provided with new tools to better my life. Chris, thank you for being an excellent speaker and interviewer. Your conversational skills and honesty during the podcast makes it that much better.
Fellow 21:9 aspect ratio enjoyers, please press the like button to show Chris his efforts into providing an A+ viewing experience aren't going unnoticed.
What a great episode! As someone who has had my first therapy session being a couples therapy session, with a female therapist, I can call myself lucky that she was extremely empathetic about how both my wife and I would be communicating and always making sure our points were mutually understood without giving any sort of judgement. What I especially liked was her ability to "translate" what we said and how we said it into what the other person needed to hear or even see. But to Dr K's point, we had spoken to 2 other couples therapists before that we had to pass on as it just didn't feel right. I only wish we had done it sooner (we are all good, but as Dr. K said, I was first against it as I thought we could handle it without the help of a therapist)... Fascinating stuff and I can only encourage more people to go into couples therapy!
55:00 This is fantastic. I have been through at least two therapists, and the work was always circular. I never got any kind of *solution*. No understanding of WHAT I was dealing with.
I watched ONE Dr. K seminar on C-PTSD: *"This is your Brain on Trauma."* IT CLICKED. ALL OF IT. I've started digging into the depths of it. I'm still working on dealing with some things, but this is the farthest I have gotten in the last two years.
I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you
This might be my favorite episode you’ve ever done. And not because of the dope screen. Great conversation dude, thank you.
The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think
This episode was wild. Properly one of the best ever, the ego death part that hit hard.
13:40 trauma fix 14:30 schema automatic thoughts, narcissistic ego defensive mechanisms, influence behavior
17:05 Reality vs survival
1:14:15 Shame towards your wins > turning them into losses = drinking poison towards your life
1:47:10 Comparisons are a fallacy, The Wonder of U
1:49:08 Self worth vs Accomplishment: Judge yourself by your actions, not your outcomes
1:56:00 A judgement by someone elses mind is not reality
A judgement by your own mind is not reality
Thoughts are not reality
1:57:00
How people treat you is not what you are, it's how people treat you.
What and who you are is separate from how people treat you. Two different things..trauma needs to understand this...conclusion
1:57:40
Whatever comparison or thoughts or negative ego you endure, dissolve it by acknowledging that we all take shits
1:59:00 ,The nature of pleasure vs accomplishment and ego damage from attaching oneself to outcomes rather than actions is one of the main paths of pain in life
2:01:00 Dr K goes full David Goggins. Once your ego is dissolved, acknowledge what you could have done better, and the next day go get after it
Never before have I felt so seen while at the same time given the knowledge and tools to free myself. Thank you for this infinitely valuable episode
My Favorite podcaster meets favorite therapist! Cant wait to watch this 10 times!
Just 10 minutes in and I had to pause the video to say this: Chris, this is a WORLD-CLASS production. Thank you for continually investing in mastering your craft. Your viewers appreciate it far beyond words can explain
@1:13:00 Cutting Dr K off mid sentence to plug your stuff is really jarring. Pretty lame.
“just because you’re not aware of the emotion doesn’t mean that the emotion doesn’t act”
Yes that was eye opening.
Screw the big screen. This episode is peak content, could've been recorded with a potato and would not lose a single bit of value.
So happy you had Dr. K on. He is not only amazingly insightful and smart, but one can tell he has thought deeply about these subjects. I love how he brings ancient wisdom in. One of your best guests ever!
Interesting that it’s said you can’t feel the emotional state of a positive hypothesis… how does this correlate with Law of Attraction and Dr Joe Dizpensas work? I assume because it’s not a hypothesised feeling state but you convincing your mind that it’s happened already and the “wish fulfilled”?
Straight into the deep end with this episode. Loved the "No intro".
Oh lord. Is the new "super" now
"Hundred percent " ? 18 minutes in I've heard it 5 times😬 girard memetic theory is 100% correct 😂
Dissolving the ego is a herculean task. Start with knowing that the ego is your tether to this world/reality. You need it in order to continue existing. It is a symbiotic relationship that sometimes gets out of balance af.
great podcast, really interesting.
Could have effortlessly listened to another 2 hours. Great conversations and questions. Thanks for having on one of my favorite people!
notes for self:
3:06 love that
28:25 reminds me of the chimp paradox
1:45:50 ego and comparison
It takes more than just genius to revolutionize the world; it takes a trait that only leaders possess to bring something new to life. I'm telling you with certainty that the entire podcast space will tap into this in the nearest future, all thanks to you for this contribution.
See you soon my future friend.
Dr. K and the Platform of Chris ist just the perfekt match . the high lvl of his knowlege matches perfectly with chris high lvl of leading an conversation and asking the right stuff.. completing the thoughts.
This set up is incredible! Really going so much further than anyone else
Spirituality-framed- approaches blended with straightforward, empirically-driven, common-sensibilities aimed at objective truthfulness offers a strong foundation to build upon.
Dr. K pls give me the Trauma Guide for free I always bought all guides and this time cant 😢
Haha omg I had to laugh out loud so hard : "I will teach you practice" 🤣🤣🤣 amazing episode overal! So many great Insights, whilst also having a good laugh here and there
Where are you guys??? The background is beautiful; y’all recording in the jungle?
I was mesmerized by the background scenery too ahah but Chris said it was visual screen, ahaha a little bird chirping some noises some wind and it will very realistic
Wow this is the best podcast I have ever watched about Psychology, Mental health and technology. Absolute master piece. Please do more collabs in the future like these!
Full throttle Indian accent dr k absolutely kills me 😂
when he says “samskara” it sounds like “sum scar” which is an apt description for samskara
If you want a manly, holistic, and emotionally informed way for a man to interact with and acknowledge his emotions then I highly recommend you read 'Spiritual Exercises' by Saint Ignatius of Loyola
the part about men being socialized to not be very “emotional” (except for anger) is so true. i assume that is because anger is seen as an emotion that portrays (on a surface level) strength, power, and aggressiveness, unlike the “female” emotions that many of us associate with vulnerability, weakness, and dependence. this made me realize that perhaps a lot of men turn their sadness, shame, insecurity, etc. into anger since it’s the only emotion that has been accepted and expected for men to express for so long. the other emotions get suppressed, but they have to be released somehow, so they’re released as anger.
100%. The part on the red pill stuff was so spot on. To me it's men with serious, unresolved trauma. Men need to be told it's okay to feel things and process them.
We can also let I out as aggression in a healthy way such as exercise.
Dr K is a brilliant person ! So loved that he recognized your brilliance as well, Chris ! I will listen to this again. The amount of information was huge ! Thankyou
Thankyou for the stones of insightful dialog and topics yall both break... I'm truly blessed being sparked with these seeds. Love From Tanzania, didn't start here though, it's a habit and can't lie i see me progressing integrated vertically. 💚Stay blessed Radicals..
What a great conversation. Can’t wait to read the book- I have a 15 year old gaming son and am thrilled to have something aimed for parenting young men with Dr K’s insights.
Ultimate dream job: traveling on-set production team member for this podcast. Piterally hands-on development of the best podcast going while getting all the best info from the brightest minds straight from their mouths.
1:50:10 Dr. K just distilled the crux of Bhagvad Gita there! We are ever a catalyst of great or sorrow happenings, all action flows through us and there is no place in the universe to claim doership over any of it. No claim over a reward or result, we can only strive for being the best vessel for creation.
Chris if I could buy stock in you I would. What a mind blowing, beautiful podcast
I’m a big Dr K fan, and got plenty of TH-cam playlists on my channel that organize his content, and a website with notes if anyone is interested!
Wheres the website?
@@Photik If you check out some of my public TH-cam playlists, a link is in the description! I don't make any money off the site, and there isn't any type of brand
Bravo, what a great conversation and so needed in this day & age . Thank you Chris Williamson for bringing this guest. 🇫🇷🇺🇸
23:56 “What you give your attention to matters“ just got a much deeper meaning.
I fuckin love Dr. K, excellent episode!
13:15
1. Reduce the emotions we feel in the moment.
2. Critically look at the conclusions we've drawn about the world.
3. How do these conclusions affect our behavior.
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Thoughts - feelings - actions.
One of the best podcasts I've ever watched! Very helpfull to understand our mind! Thanks!
~29:30 the "describe your body state then hypothetical" technique is a killer
I agree, helped me out a ton