Gracie always comes when I call her. I say " there you are" letting her know I am delighted to see her. She is rewarded by food, treats , playing with toys or petting. Her choice. Always her choice. We sit on the porch at night. Our special time to bond. Sing to her, talk to her. She lets me cover her with a light blanket. Gracie was a stray tiny kitten and was scared and hungry. She owns my heart.
My rescue adopted us about 3 months ago and the vet thinks he’s about 2 years old. He’s probably not going to be a cuddle bug, which sucks because he’s adorable but he just prefers to be in the room with us instead of cuddling. He usually will only get on you if it’s 8pm and he wants his nightly squeeze up treat then he’s a total suck-up. He also likes to join anyone for his chance to get out to our screened in porch. He’s just I’m a beautiful ginger with an independent as lightening streak personality I guess.
I have this tip that I just discovered and LOVE IT. So when my cat is relaxed I start rubbing my face all over her face, ears, and forehead, just like the mum does it. I swear that he doesn't only calm down instantly but also purrrs like crazy. And I obviously MELT!
I have three cats, and all respond differently to cuddles. My oldest cat is a real lap cat and comes to snuggle with me frequently and loves for me to pet her. I also have a Bengal who cuddles on her own terms 😸mostly at night under the covers. My third cat is new to my household so still not visiting my lap but loves for me to pet her otherwise
I figured out the reason why my cat hates me: I always look him in the eyes, meow at him, then start chattering so he’ll start meowing and chattering too and then he attacks me. I also scare him a lot. Mostly on accident.
My cat Henry loves his play tunnel, he will come to me sometimes and run ahead of me if I’m heading towards the lounge where his toys are. His favourite is his tunnel and he likes me waving a wand with a big tail on it, he goes to the far end of the tunnel and I wave the wand at the other,… his little bum starts to quiver before he pounces through the tunnel. I call this him “revving up” so cute xx
We also need to understand that the human's understanding of love and affection which involves physical touch etc may not always be the version of love from a cat. Some cats who are actually very independent could love and respect their owner but just may not prefer physical touch. They might think of you as their pack and love you just the same
I have a kitten and my boyfriends sisters little kids have messed with her too much, I’m trying to get her to associate hands with love but she keeps grabbing at my hands and biting and I want to reverse the damage they’ve caused I want a sweet kitty:( (Edit: She’s such a sweet kitty now and we have taught the kids how to behave around her the improvement is amazing thank you everyone who replied!❤️)
Ellie XoX you’re going to have to let them know to be gentle and be quiet around her. if they’re around them make a rule to let her be for a reward, can be a fun snack or anything.
during kittenhood, many kittens will attack (grab and bite) hands because they think that it's a play toy. I learned that if they start biting or grabbing your hand, just bring out a toy and take their energy out on the toy instead of your hand and then they will stop attacking your hand after a while.
I’ve been doing some research as to why my cat doesn’t cuddle and how I can try to convince him to cuddle more and it’s hopeless. He’s a good cat, and I’m always calm and gentle with him. He’s also extremely tolerant and will let me hold him for a bit and he doesn’t mind pets virtually anywhere. Everything is right. I’ve boiled it down to simply being his personality. Even as a kitten he’s never been cuddly. He’s very affectionate, in his own unique way. He’s just not really physically affectionate. He has a distant personality. I accept that and respect his boundaries. I still wish he’d cuddle sometimes tho
Same with mine he always wants to be with me but he doesn't let me touch him... only when i come home or he wakes up, but he touches me all the time walks over me jumps up on my, or tries to catch my feet but me touching him biiig NO NO....
Thank you for the hints on how to treat a new cat. I lost my 16 year old cat a little more than five years ago. I want to be the best Mom that I can be.
this was one of the best, most informative videos ive seen, and ive seen a lot!!! My cat has been with me for 7 months now (she's 1 years old) and as a kitten, used to be a lap cat, but not anymore. Im definitely going to try the treat\kibble thing. she often just takes the treat and runs away. Hopefully with more persistence it will get better
Me and my brother have been persuading my mum to get a cat and she is literally on the edge of saying yes.... Me: watching cat videos to learn about them even more... Also me: walks around the house practicing slow blinking to myself 😂
This was very helpful actually. My cat already likes pets but hates being on my lap or on my chest, probably from trauma from his previous owner. I'll try the treats and hopefully eventually he will be a lap cat!
I have one cat that cuddles me lots. The other cat jumps on me gets a few pets and leaves. He follows me or other people around the house from room to room. He usually wants to be with people just a few feet away.... He used to sit on people's laps but now he rarely does...
@@sbc129 No. But he's back to sitting on my lap again. He had an owwie on his booty (at the base of his tail) and had to have antibiotics and warm compresses. We bonded during that time. He was super lovey on pain medication. Now he's back to cuddling with my other cat almost daily in the afternoons on my bed and then they take turns on my lap in the evening when I am relaxing on the couch.
Watching this while having my cat grooming herself gently on my lap, licking and nibbling my fingers from time to time because I actually looked for "why does my cat groom on my lap". The video was so relaxing... Your voice is soft and soothing, also the clips of you petting your cats in such a tender way. It started feeling like ASMR and both my cat and I started dozing off haha. It was a nice and lovely video, thank you so much for sharing ☺♥
This video was so insightful. My sister will purposely hold our cat and make her growl and squirm and not let her go and we will stare into our cat thinking her punching Is olay. I definitely want an affectionate cat
I understand cats too flipping much :3 wish I could meet yours. Mine is pure black his name is Midnight. Also to know the cat has your trust it will gaze into your eyes. I am like a cat whisperer. Talk softly to your cat
My cat Ginger Beans likes being held in a blanket like a burrito. He brings me his favorite blanket to wrap him up. He falls asleep in my arms while we have kitty burrito time at least twice a day. I never force him to do anything. He's a smart being and he gets into dangerous situations if I don't pay attention to him. Having a cat is like having a permanent two year old child. I baby proofed my apartment before I brought a cat in. Also, my cat set's for treat's. I wasn't aware I was training him until he started setting for treat's every time I offered a treat. I play for five to ten hours a day with my cat. I am handicapped and unemployed. I have time for him. He sleeps all night because I play with him and feed him before bedtime. 8 PM is dinner time for my cat, 8 am and 12 pm is breakfast and lunch. He eats three cans of food and he has a bowl of dry food he can eat any time he chooses. He won't eat anymore if I try giving him extra. I only give him what he eats. He loves water, so I have bath toys that he plays with in the sink with the water on. He'd rather bathe in the sink than be stuck in the window all day. I am going to get him a kidy pool and put water in it and see what he does. I can use it for a pool and sandbox. He does like to dig in his dry food and litter. I think if I train him to use the sandbox for digging he will stop making misses with his food. 👍❤️
I have a feral kitten and they are not socialised we give them love but they get scared my kittens fur colour is tabby and a little bit of white they sneeze a lot and lick thereselfs a lot. Thanks for the help now I now know better I will use these tips now😊
We have a family cat and I have three young siblings who are constantly being to loud and “aggressively friendly” to him in my opinion. They have “trained” him to feel trapped when they are with him and that they won’t let him relax no matter what I tell them. So know he only likes being away from them, he is very sweet and relaxed when Me or my dad are alone with him but when my siblings are around he’s in “murder mode” as my siblings call it, they say he just needs to be outside all the time to get rid of energy and that he is just mean but he’s not! He does like being outside but I’m not sure if that’s just to escape the kids or because he really prefers it, cuz he wasn’t like that as a kitten and it seems more like a learned behavior or just a stress reaction to me
My cat is really friendly with me and she often throws her head into me, she does the kiss blind back :) and sleeps on my bed when I'm not home too, she hangs out with me a lot but she doesn't cuddle with me and jumps off when I pick her up
My cat stares at me for long period of time. She don’t like to be pet . But I know she loves the hell out of me. But she won’t get closer than 3 feet from me. I can only pet when she’s on cat tree and loves it. Holding is not happening at all. We go out on front porch but no further. She won’t leave . Just wished she would hangout a little closer.
I will be getting two 6 week old kittens. If I keep playing with them and show them affection, will they grow up lovable? Is it easier to start when they are young.
@@fernpear4789 soo true!! i had 4-week kitten, it was a nightmare. i found it on the street, now its 3 month but the biting and scratching is too much.
Don't touch a cats stomach... my 3 cats make it clear that they absolutely love their stomachs being rubbed, its the final checkpoint to show your cats love towards you in my opinion
“Cats like company” My cat hates everyone he doesn’t like cuddles he when you try and pet him he often walks away he only rubs around our legs when he wants food I really wish he’d be super cuddley like our previous cat
Me and my cat are very close she is a bengal and the problem I have is she doesn’t like to be held and she doesn’t liked being picked up but she will play with me lick me when she hurts me she bathes me constantly follows me can sit and go to an area on command she has to be in the same room as me and she will slow blink whenever she locks eyes before I even can but i need her to like water more so she can bathe easier and to snuggle more but she does let me snuggle her kiss her and she is good
i’m not sure if i’m anything special but i have never met a cat who doesn’t like me 🥴 i’ve seen “mean” cats who genuinely love me, and i’m in love with cats 🥰🥰
I guess I got lucky with my three cats all I have to do is pick one up lay down and put them on my chest or stomach and they will start cuddling with my neck and face awww. Then eventually they will turn on the belly and give slow blinks. And I always liked to kiss them on the head so I think they learned how and sometimes if we meet eyes they will come up and boop me on the lips or cheek haha. Even when I give the fluffy one a bath and he is super mad I dry him off and he will start cuddling and making the happy meow noises awww
So i got an kitten and in the car she was very comfortable, she slept on my lap. When we got home she was really tense and even hissed at me. Should i give her some space to get more comfortable? Or play with her, like bonding time. Or both i dont know😅
Yes, she just needs to get comfortable to the new space, you know, there's new scents, new space, be around and she'll slowly accept you in no time, best of luck ❤️
My boy hates me, what u re saying doesnt work atall.. he just dont like to be around me,maybe just when he is hungry, just then he comes to me for peting, in the rest of the time he is just away from me..all the time..on the fridge, under my bed but not around me and i never hited him or hug him to tight.. i love him very much but he is just distant :/
@@goldenphoenixnaruto he is not hiding because is afraid, he doesnt like to be around people.. he behaves with me like im his majordomo..he comes just when is hungry.. he is driving me crazy already.. my boyfriend likes him anyway so im stuck with a cat that doesnt like to be loved -_- I want to give him away to an other family so bad, ghhh..
@@ramonamihaela9182 it's not about you, it's about the cat. He does sound scared in her environment. Did you get him as a kitten or adult? How long have you had him? How many homes had he had? In extreme cases it can take weeks or months to adjust. Get him a nice enclosed cat bed so she can hide and make sure it's quiet and a place he can always get to. Play with him. Get catnip toys and toss them a short distance so he feels safe not to stray from his safe place. Be patient and remember it's about him and not you. Also I will add take him to the vet and make sure he does not have a underlying health condition. He could actually just be sick and have a heart problem or maybe a thyroid imbalance. All those things can make you miserable and not want to do anything and he could be hiding out of pain. If you hate him them please give him to someone who cares enough to take his feelings and health into consideration. When you got him it was to give him a permanent home and a life long commitment. Just because it's not all sunshine and rainbows and not how you thought it would be does not mean you take it out on him.
can anyone tell me how to bond w my 7 y/o cat when she already gets super stressed out when i bring her to my room? im 16 and have her since she was a kitten… once she is in my room she often meows and wants to go so i bring her back to the kitchen and there she wants to come upstairs… she also does not eat w our other 3 cats and is very anxious and nervous in general and she usually hides and sleepers the whole day on some chair… what can i do for her?
My 8 human month old kitten used to be really friendly and social and loved to be petted. Recently she started to be more distant and doesn’t love to be cuddles anymore. Is she going to grow out of this?
Good advice. Try petting your cat slower. Cats like you to quietly talk to them. In the shelter we read or talk to traumatized cats at first. Cats also do not like loud environments. Good luck.
It's better to get a kitten abt 2 months old and they not mean nor scratch or bite.i hold my kitten all the time. She sleeps in the bed with me and we cuddle in the bed.my kitten does come up to me all the time every day.she cry when she don't see me.she hugs me.she never feels threatened by me.she pass gas laying on me or by me oh snores alot and loud.you have to call them by their name alot untill they learn there name.i pet Suda all over her body stomach as well.she usually wants the hugs,pick up and being held like a baby.she goes to bed between 8~9 each night with me I hold her in my arms and we sleep together. She loves a human bed to sleep in.
The kitten I’m getting loves attention and being held. As she gets older, will she still like that if I keep doing it? Also I’ll definitely make sure to get feather toys and stuff for her to play with
My cat is so confusing he loves me but attacks me so this night he jumped on my bed and scratched,scratched scratched bite bite bite my leg BUT THEEEN HE CALLED ME TO CUDDLE HIM
I bought a kitten 2 months ago and she was so affectionate and every night she would always sleep with and often on me. And when she would go somewhere else in the house and sleep alone for about 30 min I would go to her and she would always give me a little meow and be really cuddly and then follow me into my room and sleep with me instead. But now she never sleeps with me and she’s not as affectionate at all anymore. Can someone please tell me why? And how I can make her “old personality” come back. Because I’m really sad about it.(and she is 5 months old)
If you want a cat that sits in your lap and shows a lot of affection, gives you the feeling rahat you have a loving being in your life, then get an adult cat knowing he/she already has those traits. We got BSH as a kitten, he was affectionate back then, but now he barely shows any affection and never sits or sleeps on lap, even tho we informed ourselves and have been applying all those tipps. He just doesnt like it and we have to accept him the way he is, which is not easy. It is like having a furniture that eats and shits and needs medical care every now and then and costs you money constantly. I simply regret it.
Me: Slow blink
Cat: Look away
Aki they were probably doing the same thing the cat language is to slow blink and look away for like 2 seconds
ikr lol
The HammerHead my cat just walks away when I do it he give no fucks
Same
Mrsbee B Has he been knowingly abused before the rescue? Especially by males...Or this might have happened in the streets.
How can I be quiet when my cat is near me when all I want to do is squish him from love because he is too darn cute!
Is that you in your pfp?
If that’s actually what you look like In your pfp you look like that teen from modern family lmao
Why is this so true tho
@@Student90210 lol, yeah thats me :D
I want to snuggle with him so bad and give his so many pats
My older cat rubs her cheeks on EVERYTHING. She likes to make sure everyone knows everything is hers lmao
Millie’s Cheetos lol
I think it's the sign that she need to married...like... With a male cat 🐱
Cats do own everything and are always the boss. And they train us well. But isn’t it soooo worth it 😻😻😻😻😻
U dont own the cat.the cat owns u
Congrats on 379 likes
Me: *touches cat on chest*
Cat: *EHEHTAFWYWGHETKTNT NTKR HSISSESS*
My cat is the opposite 😂
@@puddles974 same she loves when I pet her stomach
@@lloo3454 Same every time I touch my cat's stomach she starts purring
Ah, a fellow man of culture as I see from the pfp
@@lolozeeee wow my cat hates when people touch him
Tip: When a cat leans on you, by Cat Law your not allowed to move until they decide to.
Copy that
Well my cat lays on my lap so if she goes away my leg is sleeping by the time she is gone
This is a common fact to me
Very true. After all they are in charge and you are their staff😻😻😻
agreed
Im here so I can make my cat like me more then my mom >:)
Lol same Ive tried to love her, and it’s working. But if I touch her in the wrong spot....*WSDVNMLIFWQXHKL.L0KH HISSSSSSSSSSSS*
Same
lol thats why i’m here((:
Sameeeee..my theory is that, they can sense who is the maternal figure in the home and attaches to them
sorry im being that guy again.
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I tried this today and there was an immediate response. Thank you so much.
Gracie always comes when I call her. I say " there you are" letting her know I am delighted to see her. She is rewarded by food, treats , playing with toys or petting. Her choice. Always her choice. We sit on the porch at night. Our special time to bond. Sing to her, talk to her. She lets me cover her with a light blanket. Gracie was a stray tiny kitten and was scared and hungry. She owns my heart.
Thank you for taking in a stray, not many people these days are as kind as you
My rescue adopted us about 3 months ago and the vet thinks he’s about 2 years old. He’s probably not going to be a cuddle bug, which sucks because he’s adorable but he just prefers to be in the room with us instead of cuddling. He usually will only get on you if it’s 8pm and he wants his nightly squeeze up treat then he’s a total suck-up. He also likes to join anyone for his chance to get out to our screened in porch. He’s just I’m a beautiful ginger with an independent as lightening streak personality I guess.
@@laguna4lifesounds a lot like my orange boy
I have this tip that I just discovered and LOVE IT. So when my cat is relaxed I start rubbing my face all over her face, ears, and forehead, just like the mum does it. I swear that he doesn't only calm down instantly but also purrrs like crazy. And I obviously MELT!
Is your cat young or old? Asking because wondering if that would work better younger cat.
I love your cats mustache
I have three cats, and all respond differently to cuddles. My oldest cat is a real lap cat and comes to snuggle with me frequently and loves for me to pet her.
I also have a Bengal who cuddles on her own terms 😸mostly at night under the covers.
My third cat is new to my household so still not visiting my lap but loves for me to pet her otherwise
hey! when cats show acceptance of touch to their exposed stomach it shows extreme levels of comfort!
I figured out the reason why my cat hates me: I always look him in the eyes, meow at him, then start chattering so he’ll start meowing and chattering too and then he attacks me. I also scare him a lot. Mostly on accident.
Me: **slow blink**
Cat: **smack**
😂
Me : hiss
Cat; wtf
Me: yea that's right
Wow after watching and implimenting this he really made a 180 in behavior
Really good recommendations. Have a cat born feral and she is scared of everything, but now have strategies to help. Thank you.
How is she now?
@@jettahunt1185 yeah I'm interested to know as well
😉😆😅😅
My cat Henry loves his play tunnel, he will come to me sometimes and run ahead of me if I’m heading towards the lounge where his toys are. His favourite is his tunnel and he likes me waving a wand with a big tail on it, he goes to the far end of the tunnel and I wave the wand at the other,… his little bum starts to quiver before he pounces through the tunnel. I call this him “revving up” so cute xx
Sorry I couldn’t hear you over mY CAT FREAKING YELL/GROWLING AT ME 😂😂😂
IDK why 4:50 is so funny for me, "Pet your cat", there's a dog on the screen.
OMG I did the "kitty kiss" with my new kitten while listening to you and she did it right back. Love your tips!
We also need to understand that the human's understanding of love and affection which involves physical touch etc may not always be the version of love from a cat. Some cats who are actually very independent could love and respect their owner but just may not prefer physical touch. They might think of you as their pack and love you just the same
I have a kitten and my boyfriends sisters little kids have messed with her too much, I’m trying to get her to associate hands with love but she keeps grabbing at my hands and biting and I want to reverse the damage they’ve caused I want a sweet kitty:(
(Edit: She’s such a sweet kitty now and we have taught the kids how to behave around her the improvement is amazing thank you everyone who replied!❤️)
that’s so sad :(. make sure to try and let them know ur gentle and show them love :)
Ellie XoX you’re going to have to let them know to be gentle and be quiet around her. if they’re around them make a rule to let her be for a reward, can be a fun snack or anything.
during kittenhood, many kittens will attack (grab and bite) hands because they think that it's a play toy. I learned that if they start biting or grabbing your hand, just bring out a toy and take their energy out on the toy instead of your hand and then they will stop attacking your hand after a while.
@TheMatchaMO i pet their head and neck/under ears area mostly lol and it never fails, u can feel ur hand vibrate from their purr
I’ve been doing some research as to why my cat doesn’t cuddle and how I can try to convince him to cuddle more and it’s hopeless.
He’s a good cat, and I’m always calm and gentle with him. He’s also extremely tolerant and will let me hold him for a bit and he doesn’t mind pets virtually anywhere. Everything is right.
I’ve boiled it down to simply being his personality. Even as a kitten he’s never been cuddly. He’s very affectionate, in his own unique way. He’s just not really physically affectionate.
He has a distant personality. I accept that and respect his boundaries. I still wish he’d cuddle sometimes tho
Get another cat?? But no guarantees:(
Ur a great owner!
My cat is exactly the same
He Still the same ?
My cat is very similar!
my cat follows me everywhere, but when i pet her she gets scared
tiramisu that’s on odd cat. But I bet she is really cute
Same with mine he always wants to be with me but he doesn't let me touch him... only when i come home or he wakes up, but he touches me all the time walks over me jumps up on my, or tries to catch my feet but me touching him biiig NO NO....
Essah how my moms cat is 😂😂😂
My cat too!
But some cats just don’t like being touched that much and it’s totally normal
ok!! lol i love her so much. shes super cute, her name is bumble. she likes to sleep in my bed :)
Thank you for the hints on how to treat a new cat. I lost my 16 year old cat a little more than five years ago. I want to be the best Mom that I can be.
Me: slowly blinks
My blind kitten: b!tch tf u doing I can't see
LOL
💀
Thank you this tutorial was amazing I done all the steps and now my cat loves me 😸
this was one of the best, most informative videos ive seen, and ive seen a lot!!! My cat has been with me for 7 months now (she's 1 years old) and as a kitten, used to be a lap cat, but not anymore. Im definitely going to try the treat\kibble thing. she often just takes the treat and runs away. Hopefully with more persistence it will get better
How is she now?
Me and my brother have been persuading my mum to get a cat and she is literally on the edge of saying yes....
Me: watching cat videos to learn about them even more...
Also me: walks around the house practicing slow blinking to myself 😂
Have a cat yet?
@@cinderfoxx yes I do! We have 2 ragdoll cats🥰😆
This was very helpful actually. My cat already likes pets but hates being on my lap or on my chest, probably from trauma from his previous owner. I'll try the treats and hopefully eventually he will be a lap cat!
I’m def gonna try this on one of my kitties. My favorite tip is wait until they’re relaxed to pet them.
I get scared when my cats pupils become big lol
YES ME TOO I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE
My cat almost always has big pupils
the cat’s pupils become big when there is not a lot of light so this is not because of their mood, there’s nothing to be scared of 😊
When my cat is ready to attack a prey or a moving thing her pupils dilate. So I know what you mean.
Mine does this when they want to play
I have one cat that cuddles me lots. The other cat jumps on me gets a few pets and leaves. He follows me or other people around the house from room to room. He usually wants to be with people just a few feet away.... He used to sit on people's laps but now he rarely does...
This is my kitty 😞
Do u know why this has happened ?
That's my cat omgg
@@sbc129 No. But he's back to sitting on my lap again. He had an owwie on his booty (at the base of his tail) and had to have antibiotics and warm compresses. We bonded during that time. He was super lovey on pain medication. Now he's back to cuddling with my other cat almost daily in the afternoons on my bed and then they take turns on my lap in the evening when I am relaxing on the couch.
My cat does the same.
Watching this while having my cat grooming herself gently on my lap, licking and nibbling my fingers from time to time because I actually looked for "why does my cat groom on my lap". The video was so relaxing... Your voice is soft and soothing, also the clips of you petting your cats in such a tender way. It started feeling like ASMR and both my cat and I started dozing off haha. It was a nice and lovely video, thank you so much for sharing ☺♥
I don't even own a cat but when I do I will definitely be using these tips
I've had many cats though me life and your right on the money girl 👧
1:53 cat went rabbit mode lol
This video was so insightful. My sister will purposely hold our cat and make her growl and squirm and not let her go and we will stare into our cat thinking her punching Is olay. I definitely want an affectionate cat
Fun fact: If you say fun fact people will read the whole thing
I know u saw that from tiktok
@Eleasha Mellon Don't have TicTok
I understand cats too flipping much :3 wish I could meet yours. Mine is pure black his name is Midnight. Also to know the cat has your trust it will gaze into your eyes. I am like a cat whisperer. Talk softly to your cat
MLGfusion Gamer I used to have the exact same type of cat name and everything
Thank u ☺️ 4 the information
i’m most likely getting a kitten in so exciteedddd
Me to.5yrs of convincing my parents😂
did u get a kitten
@@lavender7725 YESS shes so cute her names juniper (june for short)
@@avaxlle4765 omgg yes
Congrats 🎊🎈🎉
my cat loves having her belly pet
layne anderson mine likes her tail
layne anderson same
My cat goes from this is nice when I’m petting his head from petting his belly FLHFKHDITDITSTKSUFSIT HISSSSSSSSSS when I pet his belly 😂😭😂😂
Me:eats
My kitten :that-that looks pretty good....can I have so- *NOM*
Male cats are my favorite 😻
oh my god, i had no idea staring was an act of aggression! This was so helpful
thanks so much my cats are very happy!
My cat Ginger Beans likes being held in a blanket like a burrito. He brings me his favorite blanket to wrap him up. He falls asleep in my arms while we have kitty burrito time at least twice a day. I never force him to do anything. He's a smart being and he gets into dangerous situations if I don't pay attention to him. Having a cat is like having a permanent two year old child. I baby proofed my apartment before I brought a cat in. Also, my cat set's for treat's. I wasn't aware I was training him until he started setting for treat's every time I offered a treat. I play for five to ten hours a day with my cat. I am handicapped and unemployed. I have time for him. He sleeps all night because I play with him and feed him before bedtime. 8 PM is dinner time for my cat, 8 am and 12 pm is breakfast and lunch. He eats three cans of food and he has a bowl of dry food he can eat any time he chooses. He won't eat anymore if I try giving him extra. I only give him what he eats. He loves water, so I have bath toys that he plays with in the sink with the water on. He'd rather bathe in the sink than be stuck in the window all day. I am going to get him a kidy pool and put water in it and see what he does. I can use it for a pool and sandbox. He does like to dig in his dry food and litter. I think if I train him to use the sandbox for digging he will stop making misses with his food. 👍❤️
I have a feral kitten and they are not socialised we give them love but they get scared my kittens fur colour is tabby and a little bit of white they sneeze a lot and lick thereselfs a lot. Thanks for the help now I now know better I will use these tips now😊
We have a family cat and I have three young siblings who are constantly being to loud and “aggressively friendly” to him in my opinion. They have “trained” him to feel trapped when they are with him and that they won’t let him relax no matter what I tell them. So know he only likes being away from them, he is very sweet and relaxed when Me or my dad are alone with him but when my siblings are around he’s in “murder mode” as my siblings call it, they say he just needs to be outside all the time to get rid of energy and that he is just mean but he’s not! He does like being outside but I’m not sure if that’s just to escape the kids or because he really prefers it, cuz he wasn’t like that as a kitten and it seems more like a learned behavior or just a stress reaction to me
Ahh the tabby cat is just like my cat “Henry’s cat” xx
my cat is like "touch me if u wanna die"
My cat is really friendly with me and she often throws her head into me, she does the kiss blind back :) and sleeps on my bed when I'm not home too, she hangs out with me a lot but she doesn't cuddle with me and jumps off when I pick her up
Really good advice, thanks so much 👍🐯💖
I love how you say that
What a great video ! All the suggestions has worked for my shy rescue kitties
Thing is my cat is very affectionate to everyone else in the house...
But me
My cat stares at me for long period of time. She don’t like to be pet . But I know she loves the hell out of me. But she won’t get closer than 3 feet from me. I can only pet when she’s on cat tree and loves it. Holding is not happening at all. We go out on front porch but no further. She won’t leave . Just wished she would hangout a little closer.
I have been looking for a good video like this, these recomendations are really good and i wil try them out
I love that cats moustache and goatee
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My cat loves his belly rubbed. We got him not that long ago
me: touches my cats head
my cat: no❤️
Thank you for posting
Omigod thank you so much this vid helped. I realized how many things I did wrong my cat is actually be cuddly thanks I totally recommend 😃
I will be getting two 6 week old kittens. If I keep playing with them and show them affection, will they grow up lovable? Is it easier to start when they are young.
6 weeks is to young! They might act problematic if taken away from mum before 9 weeks old. (Not trying to come out as aggressive sorry)
emily it’s 8 weeks
@@fernpear4789 soo true!! i had 4-week kitten, it was a nightmare. i found it on the street, now its 3 month but the biting and scratching is too much.
I don’t know how they handle that in the states but in Europe you’re actually only allowed to adopt a kitten from the 12. week onward
Would temptations cat treats work for to get my cat to come to laps and snuggle me
great video!!! you hit a lot of good points, thanks for posting :)
So helpful thanks!
Don't touch a cats stomach... my 3 cats make it clear that they absolutely love their stomachs being rubbed, its the final checkpoint to show your cats love towards you in my opinion
Thank you!!
“Cats like company”
My cat hates everyone he doesn’t like cuddles he when you try and pet him he often walks away he only rubs around our legs when he wants food I really wish he’d be super cuddley like our previous cat
My cat isn’t very affectionate as well :( however she loves keeping company and sleeping on my bed
you need to train it
He still the same ?
@@kidrobot. you can’t train a cat to cuddle lol
@@103a yes you can
My cat likes to get pet in the belly but if someone else dose it he goes crazy
That’s good! The belly is very uneasy to pet and it means he trusts you!
Thank you 😻
Thx for the advice!
I need you to come train my cat be nice to people because when I tried to do the same thing as you my cat just bit me three times
Sometimes they bite you in a playful way too
Me and my cat are very close she is a bengal and the problem I have is she doesn’t like to be held and she doesn’t liked being picked up but she will play with me lick me when she hurts me she bathes me constantly follows me can sit and go to an area on command she has to be in the same room as me and she will slow blink whenever she locks eyes before I even can but i need her to like water more so she can bathe easier and to snuggle more but she does let me snuggle her kiss her and she is good
NXT That1Dingo you seem short on commas and periods. Here: ,,,,,,,,,,, .............
i’m not sure if i’m anything special but i have never met a cat who doesn’t like me 🥴 i’ve seen “mean” cats who genuinely love me, and i’m in love with cats 🥰🥰
I pet my cat while he eats and it’s helped a lot with his petting aggression.
Thank you 😊
I guess I got lucky with my three cats all I have to do is pick one up lay down and put them on my chest or stomach and they will start cuddling with my neck and face awww. Then eventually they will turn on the belly and give slow blinks. And I always liked to kiss them on the head so I think they learned how and sometimes if we meet eyes they will come up and boop me on the lips or cheek haha. Even when I give the fluffy one a bath and he is super mad I dry him off and he will start cuddling and making the happy meow noises awww
So i got an kitten and in the car she was very comfortable, she slept on my lap. When we got home she was really tense and even hissed at me. Should i give her some space to get more comfortable? Or play with her, like bonding time. Or both i dont know😅
Yes, she just needs to get comfortable to the new space, you know, there's new scents, new space, be around and she'll slowly accept you in no time, best of luck ❤️
My boy hates me, what u re saying doesnt work atall.. he just dont like to be around me,maybe just when he is hungry, just then he comes to me for peting, in the rest of the time he is just away from me..all the time..on the fridge, under my bed but not around me and i never hited him or hug him to tight.. i love him very much but he is just distant :/
Maybe he isn’t used to humans. Try to be near it (don’t pet him till he is ready)
It sounds like your cat is uncomfortable in his environment. He's literally hiding.
@@goldenphoenixnaruto he is not hiding because is afraid, he doesnt like to be around people.. he behaves with me like im his majordomo..he comes just when is hungry.. he is driving me crazy already.. my boyfriend likes him anyway so im stuck with a cat that doesnt like to be loved -_-
I want to give him away to an other family so bad, ghhh..
@@thehammerhead6358 im trying but he is not trying at all :))
Fuck it, i will just ignore him from today
@@ramonamihaela9182 it's not about you, it's about the cat. He does sound scared in her environment. Did you get him as a kitten or adult? How long have you had him? How many homes had he had? In extreme cases it can take weeks or months to adjust. Get him a nice enclosed cat bed so she can hide and make sure it's quiet and a place he can always get to. Play with him. Get catnip toys and toss them a short distance so he feels safe not to stray from his safe place. Be patient and remember it's about him and not you.
Also I will add take him to the vet and make sure he does not have a underlying health condition. He could actually just be sick and have a heart problem or maybe a thyroid imbalance. All those things can make you miserable and not want to do anything and he could be hiding out of pain. If you hate him them please give him to someone who cares enough to take his feelings and health into consideration. When you got him it was to give him a permanent home and a life long commitment. Just because it's not all sunshine and rainbows and not how you thought it would be does not mean you take it out on him.
Thank you
Thank you, that was very helpful!
can anyone tell me how to bond w my 7 y/o cat when she already gets super stressed out when i bring her to my room? im 16 and have her since she was a kitten… once she is in my room she often meows and wants to go so i bring her back to the kitchen and there she wants to come upstairs… she also does not eat w our other 3 cats and is very anxious and nervous in general and she usually hides and sleepers the whole day on some chair… what can i do for her?
My 8 human month old kitten used to be really friendly and social and loved to be petted. Recently she started to be more distant and doesn’t love to be cuddles anymore. Is she going to grow out of this?
My cat tried to eat my fingers untill i gave him slow blinks, and stopped petting him in the places he doesnt like
Good advice.
Try petting your cat slower. Cats like you to quietly talk to them. In the shelter we read or talk to traumatized cats at first. Cats also do not like loud environments.
Good luck.
It's better to get a kitten abt 2 months old and they not mean nor scratch or bite.i hold my kitten all the time. She sleeps in the bed with me and we cuddle in the bed.my kitten does come up to me all the time every day.she cry when she don't see me.she hugs me.she never feels threatened by me.she pass gas laying on me or by me oh snores alot and loud.you have to call them by their name alot untill they learn there name.i pet Suda all over her body stomach as well.she usually wants the hugs,pick up and being held like a baby.she goes to bed between 8~9 each night with me I hold her in my arms and we sleep together. She loves a human bed to sleep in.
I love this!! any tips for kittens to be close to you?
The kitten I’m getting loves attention and being held. As she gets older, will she still like that if I keep doing it? Also I’ll definitely make sure to get feather toys and stuff for her to play with
Is this included for outside cats?
My cat is so confusing he loves me but attacks me so this night he jumped on my bed and scratched,scratched scratched bite bite bite my leg BUT THEEEN HE CALLED ME TO CUDDLE HIM
I bought a kitten 2 months ago and she was so affectionate and every night she would always sleep with and often on me. And when she would go somewhere else in the house and sleep alone for about 30 min I would go to her and she would always give me a little meow and be really cuddly and then follow me into my room and sleep with me instead. But now she never sleeps with me and she’s not as affectionate at all anymore. Can someone please tell me why? And how I can make her “old personality” come back. Because I’m really sad about it.(and she is 5 months old)
If you want a cat that sits in your lap and shows a lot of affection, gives you the feeling rahat you have a loving being in your life, then get an adult cat knowing he/she already has those traits. We got BSH as a kitten, he was affectionate back then, but now he barely shows any affection and never sits or sleeps on lap, even tho we informed ourselves and have been applying all those tipps. He just doesnt like it and we have to accept him the way he is, which is not easy. It is like having a furniture that eats and shits and needs medical care every now and then and costs you money constantly. I simply regret it.
What if my cat doesn't like treats???
You have a really calming voice, has anyone ever told you that?
My cat was a rescue I’ve had her for a year now. She’s 8. Every time I’ve tried to pick her up to try and cuddle she just hisses and meows… help
Great stuff!
That was great really
Didn't really work no but everytime I put my hand close to my cat when she's outside or even sometimes inside she hit it please help