The only dating advice you'll ever need
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The problem with "just be yourself" is that sometimes "yourself" needs work. I would phrase it as: don't try to put on some kind of act to substitute for putting real work into overcoming your flaws.
yes, confidence is made by one thing and one thing only; hard work
Ooooo yes. Good advice.
Working on yourself is always a good thing but there’s some things you can’t ever change. Thus you will always be flawed no one is perfect. But that should stop you from being yourself or the best you could be. I believe in a combination of self-acceptance and self-improvement works best.
Well said!!
I completely agree with you. You first need to work on yourself and when you feel good with your achievement, that's when you can fully be your true self with everyone. You first need to accept who you are and when that's done, you will not be perfect, because we're all humans, but we will the best self of ours. That's what being real is.
I would say becoming happy on your own first is the best advice. Almost as cliche as being yourself.
Cliche... yet 100% accurate.
I'm a year late but I didn't think I'd be seeing you here
Oh my god it's Tibees. Hello! I love your work.
Then be acceptable to not have to share every facet of your lives. That's been my wife's and I secret for 15 years. We got together in our early 20's.
Problem with being happy on your own is once you've done it, you don't necessarily want a relationship. And people can tell that when they talk to you.
"I was just in the shower, all naked and stuff"😂😂😂😂
Or the part she said, "Hey chickenbutt!"
@@lukehaddad5185 it was whats up chickenbutt thats creative verging on the poetical but really she makes a lot more sense than some of these others
Ahh yeah, because you usually do it with clothes on xD
honestly a lot of “dating advice” just seems manipulative...
@@AlastairGames .... No.... People want to live a lie.... Thanks to social media.
Because she is a manipulative person.
Not manipulative. Strategic. If someone doesn't respect you...you must demand it without being demanding.
especially from women to men.
@@CrystalDatingCoach i dunno about that one, chief /:
concept: being honest about ur feelings and having conversations about ur relationships w ppl?
I don't even date why am I watching this
So your prepared to help those that do?
Cause notifications
Cynthia Megan because Anna's nice to look at!
Cynthia Megan ikr
Me either but i guess part of us wanted to watch this to prepare for the future if that time comes
"Just be yourself" is great advice unless you're an unattractive jerk... then, be batman. You can always be batman.
Which "self" and which Batman? Adam West Batman? Michael Keaton Batman? George Clooney Batman? Val Kilmer Batman? Christian Bale Batman? Ben Affleck Batman? Animated TV Batman? Lego Batman?! ^H^ so many Batmans.
Sthemingway Batman works in all situations. Any Batman is still Batman
**goes to first date in bat suit riding bat mobile**
No one can resist me now.
No, no. Use the Bat-bike with side car, it's cushioned for her pleasure...
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice hahahaha u can always be batman
Only dating advice you need: Work on yourself, self invest, get your finances right, stay healthy and workout. When you do this you get confidence and as a result you dont chase anyone. Summary: dont chase woman and woman dont chase men. People hate when someone becomes needy.
Um men are wired to chase what they don't have. My advice is to stay with the one that is nearest to you or you'll always end up chasing and never get I,result is going to be the same: taking for granted what you already have
Isn't this just life advice? Lol. I'm Doing all of those things how I can with no intention of dating or attracting anyone ,bhuat doing it because I have a life to live in the best way I can!
@@yaninamiller5711 By "nearest to you", do you mean that you should look for someone who is closest to your ideal partner? Or do you mean, "Just keep whatever you've got right now, regardless of whether you like them or not,"? If it's the latter, this is terrible advice. You shouldn't follow it, and neither should anyone reading this.
@@vvelvettearss
he's basically just saying get your priorities and your life straight before you worry about dating. it's optional, just because you're doing all these things it doesn't mean you have to start dating. if you're ready you're ready. if you have no interest in it well then don't. dating is entirely up to you.
Women don't Chase Men. But should Chase Women. Men don't appreciate being chase...you seem desperate. Men like chasing Women. They challenge. It's in their DNA. There Hunters.
When a person mistreats service staff on a date, remember that they are on their best behavior. Once they are sure of you, they will treat you much worse.
Narc alert, run!!!
Yep that’s definitely a red flag!
Make sure she falls in love with your lifestyle, not necessarily just with your looks, because your lifestyle is part of your charisma, looks may change over time, but charisma rarely changes, good lifestyle rarely changes for worse.
but looks may change for better if you exercise and makes you look healthy etc
For example, if you are a kind guy who likes people and humor and helps people, and has a bunch of friends, It's called lifestyle,
you share advice about sports, music arts, and culture with friends.
Charisma is part of lifestyle and lifestyle is part of charisma. She falls in love with it much more than just with looks.
If she sees he helps his friend or colleague with something, she sees his priorities. The spiritual priorities and his humility, which is attractive thing.
Maybe therefore long-term relationship works with people who work in the same industry, for example, music, playing violin or instrument.
So she feels safe because all the people colleagues around him feel safe, and she will feel safe with all those people. For example musicians, and athletes.
Except if she is the kind of person who wants to live in isolation from people or doesn't have time for them.
Your grandma was right.
mugensamurai they all are
Cheers for this, I've been looking for "dating tips for women by men" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - HootDating.xyz ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my neighbour got great results with it.
Even if u start as a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur sexual arousement around girl
hope that help you out see her as a guy and u will feel no sexual desires to woman
ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it trought and get help
u start caring about her personality
im trying to help u guys so please analyze
the reverse psychology one is hella messed up. i shall use it.
No, stop. Don’t.
Dumped like 3 girls because of that bullshit, only works for a week and after that we are done with you
Jason Eric right
Jason Eric we don't live in a patriarchal society
+Jason Eric "tricks are for kids." Silly rabbit, Trix are for kids. hahaha.
Just be yourself is a good idea unless you're a very introverted, shy person who avoids socializing, lol.
My best friend is hella introverted and has been with her boyfriend for nearly four years now and my SO is the kind of guy that basically only responds with a single short sentence if he's approached by a stranger, only reaching out to people when it's a matter of functionality. I used to be very introverted, too, and the social anxiety has its own head and wants to stay for a little while. So, two hella introverted people.
I mean, it took us some years to make it clear how we felt and even another year after having expressed interest to actually start dating so... yeah, that definitely took it's time, but it happens. Don't give up. Make friends, if you feel comfortable and then see where that road leads you.
@@rubyrootless7324 I've tried that it ends in a cul de sac called "just friends street", which is like a pit of quick sand to get out of. :-(
Biologist Angler The most common topics for people are: Movies, Music, Family, Pets, Travel and Food! Lol Ask questions and you will find common ground. 😁
Actually I find introverted and shy people easier to talk to, even though I'm a extrovert myself.
i started talking so someone around March and we're both introverts. We said we like each other and I was being myself the whole time. he told me he likes my personality and that made my self-esteem level go up and i would compliment him too. we good for each other 😭
Problem is...I can't even talk more than 5 words with a guy irl
Sasaki Umiquema well many boys feel the same
Me too :( and sometimes idk what myself really is
Sasaki Umiquema damn I thought it was just vice versa
+Sasaki Umiquema You do know that just 5 words you say to the guy you like is brave, right? Some can't even say a single word.
wow, but why? You shy?
The graphic design and little animations are so amazing tbh
Holly Nephew twitch.tv/bethberad Watch her do animations for Anna besides other things!
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That editing in the sponsored part was beautiful. =)
Right? Most people do not put nearly that much work into their sponsor spots.
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Get back to League
League is for hamsters.
This is a simple but great dating advice. th-cam.com/video/u1KwlbXMEbc/w-d-xo.html
"Who's weirdness vibes with your weirdness" well said.
Truth. Twice I dated some that who pretend to be different, I got to like who I thought they were and when they started being themselves I felt like they changed and something I liked :/ I was always my self. So they ended up liking me for me. This caused them to like me a lot more than I liked them.. not being them selves caused us to become attached to something that wasn't going to last very long. And just caused pain.
This is right now I'm starting to fear of. Just now I have noticed when my parent member told me one female liked me where I hadn't know that which I automatically think of what you're thinking by it
"Being yourself is bullshit.
Be the best version of yourself."
- Based Zeus
Juubes yourself is the best you.
But also at the same time you are not being yourself if you are trying hard to "be yourself", there is a thin line you should follow, a middle point between Based Zeus advice and Anna Akana Advice. IT IS about being the best version of yourself, but the essence in your personality shouldn't be affected by this.
Being yourself is way batter then trying to be the best version, overtime your partner will see your true colors so just be yourself.
What if you fail to be the best? Because you're not always the best all the time. In that way, your partner will always be expecting the best from you, and putting you a lot of pressure, that's not what we want. It's best to be who we are.
This is what I've been telling my friends forever. But basically all they tell me is, "Nah bro. You gotta follow the rules and play the game. You can't say this or that."
Thank you for reinforcing my belief of just staying true to myself and things will work out.
Your friends are right
Juan Lopez the whole point of all of the games is that you can "game" your way into getting higher quality mates than by being yourself.
It's like wearing a suit to an interview vs dressing casually. Feel free to dress casually, but it will limit your options greatly. Wearing a suit, however, will show you at your best and get you the best possible options within your league.
Playing games gives you that edge. That's why literally everybody does it including Anna. She got a boob job instead of "being herself" because she knows men like boobs and she wants to attract better men than she was attracting pre-boob job.
"Be yourself" is literally the worst dating advice ever. It's so bad that Anna doesn't follow it but she preaches it because it makes her look sincere.
no one, repeat no one is just being the themselves. do you fart, belch and pick your nose in public? does one gender wear make up, padded bras and heels? do you see that it is all an act of deception, like a game of poker, no one is showing their entire hands- and if they did, the irony is that just being themselves right out of the batting cage will be perceived as unattractive and off putting, too much information.
Listen to your bros dating advice, chicks dating advice are useless for men.
@@K0ntakt5 there's a difference between being themselves and being polite..
" What's up chicken butt? " Anna akana 2k17
I can't believe I just came across your channel for the first time today! What an awesome way to kick off 2020! You're amazing!
He'll fall in love if you tilt your head to the left, twist your left foot to the right... and then whisper these magical words in his ear...
"I went to Wal-mart to drop a monster deuce earlier."
*whispering* "boy toy name troy used to live in detroit"
go away
"Avada Kedavra"
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice// it's peanut butter jelly time
anna akana is so goddamn underrated
Jess M 2m subscribers I don’t think so
Sterb ern still underrated tho.
big facts
Exactly!! The best dating advice Anna, your grandma is right! I wish my grandma was still here on this earth so i can talk to her about everything. Take care of her and yourself!!
I've just discovered your channel, watched a few of your videos and I've got to say: You spread so much positivity through your videos! Thanks so much for that!!
I don't even date... so I kinda just sat here numbly through this video.😑
Exactly, haven't been on a date in years
UnderscoreBrian cats dude cats ftw
Never been on one, probably not ever.
UnderscoreBrian
Same...
UnderscoreBrian Didn't we all?
Life is a game, people are the enemy, your soul mate is your arch nemesis and the prize is dying last.
Daniel Henry :0
Daniel Henry ... Who hurt u...?
Daniel Henry this is hilarious
ahhh no no this guy really does make a valid point
Santana Goff woAH i just realized how society doesn't approve of sadness and force us to be happy even when the reality isn't that whAAT
wow I love everything about your videos! Like the truth you're saying and length of it and the visuals and music in the back AND EVERYTHING
THANK YOU omg this really helped i absolutley LOVE the fact that you relized how dumb these step by step guides are! you are sooooo helpful
You need to start adding a clothes from: section in your videos because you know everyone likes your clothes. I like this top a lot...where is it from? Xd
Frankie Phillips yea I wanna know where she got that top that has like a sheen to it!!!That she is explaining herself in lol
I know! She has worn that top in two of her videos now and she never zooms out enough to see the whole shirt and its driving me crazy! I must know where to get one!
I'm with ya, there! I want it too 😂
I wanna know too! Honestly, it's the only reason I'm replying so I get a notification if someone replies with where it's from :D
It looks like it might be the Mermaid Rainbow Strapped Up Dress from Black Milk Clothing, but it seems like it was a limited edition run and they are now all sold out. :(
1. "Be yourself" is not that helpful if you are convinced you are utterly unattractive and unlovable. If that is the case, the dating advice you need is "figure out why you think you are unattractive and unlovable and fix your attitude." Then, "be yourself" applies.
2. If you get the "be yourself part," the next thing that will happen is you will sometimes be rejected for being who you are, which means you also need to learn to accept that is going to happen and there is no way to avoid it and getting rejected a few times doesn't prove you're unattractive and unlovable.
3. For me, I've had trouble with certain parts of dating that feel like pure maintenance, or formality, which don't seem to have anything to do with who "I" am but are necessary to move things along. I feel like screwing those up comes purely from not knowing what to do. However, I'm possibly coming around to your way of thinking. For instance, I used to worry about choosing the right place to meet. I am not picky at all, and I don't really like fancy restaurants, or being waited on. I used to worry, "what if this restaurant I pick isn't nice enough?" but then I kind of realized, would I want to date someone who expects a date to be at a fancy restaurant, or who would be put off by going somewhere casual on a first date? I needed to develop the confidence to say, if she is put off by my choice, then that's ok, we clearly weren't compatible.
You're an idiot lmao!
I love this so hard! I was just thinking about this the other day. Love the person, not your idea of them
That was the best explanation of the very simple and often used advice „just be yourself“ thank you thousand times ☺️🙏🏽❤️ wow a real game changer
Love your art style on these videos. Whoever the editor of it is does a great job. How big is the team behind the videos?
shot.by.austin the editor is named in the description 😊
shot.by.austin Art/graphics are done by Bethany Radloff actually, not the editor ;) and the rest of the credits are in the description box. Appears she's got a 7 person team.
shot.by.austin You can find the animator/illustrator Bethany Radloff by the handle bethberad. It's the same for most platforms. She's absolutely awesome! Watch her live at twitch.tv/bethberad. There are even VODs on there of her doing animations for Anna!
I was reading the comments and mentioned Bethany Randoff is the illustrator. She done an amazing job.
BethBeRad on TH-cam and she is amazing!!! She also does some stuff for snarled
I've been waiting for this notification for so long 😭 so glad 💛💛💛💛
Amine S Get the best book on dating, marriage, and relationships out there. It's called "Mrs. Loved: Learning to Love Your Lady the Right Way." Good for both men and women. It's on Amazon!
Instructions were unclear, my hand got stuck in the toaster
I always LOVE the background music in Anna's videos... like come on classical ughh I LOVE!!
Dude just recently learned what that means by going on real dates instead of just meeting girls at parties.
On parties I’d act as the personality that the girl seemed to be looking for. Sometimes the tough guy, sometimes the soft guy, sometimes this cheered up funny guy. I’d like 90% of what the girl likes and get into an argument about the 10 remaining percent. On my first date with real potential, like one year ago, I realized, acting is fun but if we ever got into a relationship, I couldn’t keep this up forever.
It didn’t work out with her. But that were good experiences. I learned part of what it means to be yourself.
Typical "advice". "Just be yourself" works if you're attractive. The truth is we all can improve ourselves in some way so being ourselves isn't what we should do. We should be our better selves.
A posteriori Of course. She's just saying to not be someone you're not in that moment. Yes, improve yourself, but it better still be you and not this fake persona.
Love yourself. If you love yourself, you will work on yourself, to improve yourself!
Not necessarily. There's someone in particular that I'm thinking of that's kind of chubby, has acne/dark spots, and isn't the best looking, more like average, but he's a cool dude that can keep a conversation going, can maintain long term relationships, has aspirations, goals, can keep things interesting and light hearted, can have serious in depth conversations, travels around and explores life, and has interesting ways of seeing things. He flirts around but it's pretty obvious that it's harmless and he isn't going to cheat and he isn't being serious, and he has many friends. A dude like that is valuable and honestly, quite a few girls like him. Looks wise he's average but if you got someone that can stimulate you mentally and can connect emotionally with who also has his own life going and everything looks great (good social life, good grades, goes out, goals for the future), it's a lot more attractive and sustainable. Remember, even if you are all of the above and the lady that you want is still brushing you off, you can't control that. People want different things and if someone just wants someone attractive, than what they're looking for is different than yours. They might just want a fling while you want a long term relationship. Maybe they want someone attractive because they're shallow and want to show you off to her friends. Maybe she thinks she deserves the best looking guys. Not everyone has similar values and so if she happens to place looks above certain qualities that you embody, than that just means you guys aren't going to cut it. Win or lose, sometimes you win some sometimes you lose. It's not the end of the world. It's like finding friends. Some people vibe better than others. Dating tends to be monogamous so that's akin to finding friends one at a time. If you meet someone and you're not compatible, that does not mean that you're not friendship material. It just means you guys don't vibe well. Onto the next one until you find the one that fits you best. If you keep meeting dead ends, that means that you keep gravitating towards the same kind of women and need to change it up.
She means don't pay games and try to act like some one else
if you ask someone out on a date and they say no that considered harassment or if you approach someone and they don't want to talk and you leave that is harassment. And two a person decided if they want to date you or not in one conversation after that then its harassment. or at least that is what i've been taught
After a bad break up about 4 years ago I decided to be myself and stop playing games. I've been single for 4 years. Things don't just work out. Life is about decisions. Unless you're someone who is approached often or is already successful in approaching people, deciding to be yourself is also deciding not to date. Good advice for making friends though.
isnt a SO a VERY close friend with benefits? like lots of benefits? lol
@@MicaelaFogolinFH what is your definition of Friendzone then?
Don't get me wrong. But after I have friendzoned someone, no matter how much I discover how awesome they are, they remain one thing - friend.
SO is someone you can be transparent with, but still not someone who will be happy about you being unserious/unmotivated about life - which your friends would never bother you about.
But that's my teenage thinking, what do you think?
As a introvert happened alot in my earlier years advice make it absolutely clear your into her and be playful in your banter with her cause as an introvert were great at building trust and connection but horrible at entertaining and small talk and often fall into the friend zone, if she still friend zone you remove her don't be an orbitor. Last advice don't try to get with an extroverted partner it unfortunately doesn't work were wired differently to them.
Ashutosh friends not bothering to motivate you about your life and only lovers doing that isn’t true.
That would mean I’m dating all of my friends, and boy oh boy I did not think I was a player!
I think lovers are the people who are not only great friends but you also feel physical and/or romantic attraction to.
I’ve heard the same advice about ‘Being yourself ‘ an infinite amount of times... but this is the first time it really struck me. Thank you Anna 😁
The "I was just in the shower" thing. That's so real.
Step one: Be attractive or wealthy.
Step two: There is no step two.
First Name Last Name THAT DOESNT ALWAYS WORK
Be yourself.
Your partner can have both of those things and you still will not be happy unless you like them for who they really are as a person.
So following your logic only wealthy and good looking (I guess that's what you meant as attractive usually refers to the entire person including personality, humor etc...) people have partners. Look around you. Notice something?
Then people will date you for the money... need to rethink if that is how you want it to go.
I never put on a mask. If they don't like what I am, that's on them. When it comes to dating you just have to allow yourself to be yourself. Open up and let them see who you are. Sometimes you'll get people who don't like it but then sometimes you find people who really like it. It's all about sharing your true selves.
Thank you for the Tschaikowsky music in the background of your videos :)) makes me so happy!
You put so much work into all your videos. It's inspiring.
It's so magical how, when somebody says "my grandma once told me" or anyone of that age will automatically make the advice credible.
Best advice is have meaningful hobbies that are unisex and talk about values early on in the relationship.
How would you talk about values?
@@Mr11kankan values as in common beliefs. Example, could ask if she has siblings. What her interactions were like and then talk about kids. Is she ready? How does her parenting style fit with yours? Does she agree with spanking or no? Wife and husband rolls?
Could ask about budgeting and how she feels money should be split between a couple.
Those are values that people often don't bring up because they're afraid to say the wrong thing. Well, the wrong thing will be said eventually and you just wasted your time. Don't be afraid to speak your values right wrong or indifferent.....just make it tactful and respectful.
My grandma could speak to me the same way, of all the many reasons I love her that is a big one. Maybe one day we’ll help someone at their time of need too.
I couldn't agree more Anna. You are absolutely right on that. I remember someone I know who doesn't believe on the dating stage anymore because for him, most people on this stage are pretentious. Which I see has a point. I know that first impression last but aren't you confident enough that you have something to offer that the other person would actually like without losing yourself?
I always say stay awesome Gotham with you but you're not doing it anymore
hahahaha
I wish I knew that sooner, my love life would have been a lot easier. Nowadays I'm a lot more chill and I don't even care if I'm dating anyone, but a few years back I was constantly worried about pleasing the people I went on dates with and ughhhhhh thats so much work.
Kero Kawana
Life is a learning experience.
That was the best b
"Be Yourself" advice I have ever heard. Straight and Concise. Loved your videos Anna
I agree with you. That's the best dating advice anyone could ever need (regardless of whether they "want it" or not).
STAY👏AWESOME👏GOTHAM👏
I love your top! It's so cool
I'm pretty straightforward, so I totally agree with the "be yourself" advice. I think people try to be who they think the other person wants, but fail to realize they are setting up an exhausting situation where they have to be "on" all the time. Plus they are wasting time that could be spent with (or finding) someone they are actually compatible with.
Your editing is so good!!
It’s easy to say “just be yourself” but dating extensively and internationally has taught me that many people (I only date women) don’t know who they are yet. Until that self discovery is made, it can be difficult to connect with someone in a meaningful and romantic way.
You need to stop taking dating advice from people like this!. I really don't understand how whyte incels or manosphere can even exist with all the advantages whyte men have in dating.It's has been proven scientifically with studies from data collected from Tinder, bumble,match, okcupid,eharmony etc that All women have a racial dating preference for whyte men and that they will privilege a man's whyteness over his real accomplishments, even worse over his height! or other genetic deformities. Asian and black men need to stop listening to whyte dating coaches or relationship whatever, it doesn't apply to you! Also, the same effect is seen in divorce rates, women of all ethnicity have the lowest divorce rates (of which women instaget 85%) with whyte men, that is to say that women put in more work to be in relationships with whyte men-even black women. Stop listening to this guy if you are not a whyte guy, because honestly as far as dating in the west and in europe all you have to be is a whyte man-that's it. Whyte incels are dumb idiots that don't know what they have and/are REAL losers!
@@tongajones2543 so black men are real incels from your research
Anna Kay - sweet. It's usually obvious when the other person is projecting an image, and getting to the real person can be fun or frustrating. Sometimes they've been projecting for so long that even they don't know what's underneath.
Thank you! Just thank you, and correct that love is not a game full of tricks into text or correct strategy or responses. This vid makes full of the whole quarantine period. Love lots. God bless
this channel is so relate-able
The only dating advice you'll ever need: Don't date.
Only date your hand :-P
Christopher pirtle amen to that.
No, you need to date. Don't be like the dude in this book
www.wattpad.com/story/132588797-lonely-boy-21-the-sorrows-regrets-of-being-single
F all this don't date & you won't get hurt ever again.
Christopher Pirtle lol
Preparing for a long time to get right person who like who we are!
This is so true, games , strategies and all are fun to watch in movies but in real life the best course of action is to be yourself
I luv her editing
If i text a girl and she text me a one word text, its simple as that. Shes not interested.
steve lee true bro or shes a wierd person
Very much agree Anna. You don't need to pretend to be someone in front of your date. He/she should like/love you for who you are.
Love the editing
I love this so much. So many videos and books analysis men mind and give advices about holding your love and emotion back to get the person you like. It may true but loosing you is never a happy time. Just go for it
I love seeing how your videos have evolved over the years, and it makes me so happy to see you doing so well. Congratulations! Love you lots.
True. I always choose to just be myself.
After 18 years I'm still single.
Yeah, and? Like, dude, that's still pretty young, don't sweat it, haha.
"just be yourself" is the best worse advice in any situation. How I understood it is the same as" don't act fake" or "don't lie". It tells you what not to do, but it doesn't tell you what to do. Not only specific to dating, if I have never been in a situation before I don't know how to "be myself" in said situation, which is why I am looking for advice.
I LOVE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS SO MUCH.
Crush: Hi, how are you
Me: * googles * how to reply to 'how are you'
i have never actually liked anyone... i am don't really understand why people get so nervous around crushes. if they don't like you for the real you, both people in the relationship will be unhappy. and if you aren't upfront with your feelings you will never really know how the person feels, and will never have the chance at being with them. (as more than a friend)
ananiakk have u ever consider being on the a romantic spectrum, not saying u won't like anyone in the future or anything
Well you wouldn't understand if you don't experience emotions...
It's like trying to understand dolphins at that point.
I dont understand why i get nervous around crushes either.
Fiona Hodkinson again, small possibility of you being on the aromantic/asexual spectrum? Could be a totally normal thing or a personality trait or just not finding the right one yet! Don’t be offended oc, just tryna help :)
Wait till you have a crush on someone--it's very real. Read this book to hear it from a guy's perspective.
www.wattpad.com/story/132588797-lonely-boy-21-the-sorrows-regrets-of-being-single
omg i just discovered you channel and i love it so much!!!
This... Was what I needed. Thankyou so much 💖
*ehem*matthew hussey*ehem*
Janine Canilang I was thinking this!
Yeah, I'm a little confused about the collabs if they both have different beliefs, and or standards. Then again, you can always still support, or work with others who don't share your same view. I think they're both great people either way.
The thing is Matthew doesn't ever say not to be yourself. It's more just helpful tips on how to communicate what you want. Even the best people can learn to communicate better.
Janine Canilang I was thinking the same thing😂😂
I agree with @enthusiastic agnostic. Being a guy and watching Matthew's videos, it's actually relatively helpful for guys too. I've noticed that Matthew breaks down high expectations that aren't healthy at all. What he also does is teach people how to understand the other person better. For example, if whether the other person cares or not, etc etc.
As what @enthusiastic agnostic said, Matthew gives helpful advice for communication. Anna's case is more so, she learned to communicate on her own. Many people lack the ability to communicate with people of their sexual preference.
Before watching: please don’t say be yourself 🤞
I've tried being myself but all it got me was being told to give up and go kill myself
Be yourself, not your ego.
You always keep my hopes up, thank you.
I would love that series of book of every possible scenario please.
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Jacob #notificationsquad
why doesn't she say it anymore?..
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It just seems wrong that she don't say it.
Fred Arroyo I agree
The Generation right now don't even know what dating is. They all confuse lust with love like once they finally get the person that they've desired for so long they tend to get "bored" after the chase. They start to make excuses and trying to exploit the flaws of their significant other. Sooner or later they want to find someone new already. Dating just seems so impossible in this time and era, who else agrees?
It highly depends on your standarts and where you look ;)
Perry therapy wanna go on a date😂
PerryTherapy ok boomer
Men( women too) get so caught up in chasing they end up taking for granted what they do manage to secure in their lives,and in the end decades go by and the chase never leads to the " perfect one " with the happily ever after.
So true, I agree! the whole dating game has changed since there are so many dumb dating apps has created. People losing abilities to communicate with others, being superficial. Damn dating is damn hard. That is why i do not settle, until i met my half reflection
Perfect! thank you for clearing that up.
Love your videos. You are very talented. Thanks, great laughs and wise words.
Very true! Being true to yourself is definitely the baseline for any kind of success - dating or otherwise. If you have "success" through calculated moves, it's only a matter of time until it falls apart because you won't be able to keep up the act forever and it will get worse over time trying to maintain it. Sometimes the ways we are being inauthentic can be below our awareness however so unearthing those is where the work begins. The roughest part is when you don't realize how you are bullshitting yourself and others.
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Great job brother. Still waiting for my time to shine. Stay strong.
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You just say everything I was thinking like last month ❤️❤️❤️ im already falling for youuu! Subscribing for sure
I just went through a break up with an ex I was with for over a year, till I realized that we are very incompatible with entirely different values. It's so good to hear advice pertaining to my situation, thank you dude!!
she makes me have so much confidence
Ikr!!!!
Yes your right
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Fake it till you make it
I LOVE YOUR ADVICES
😍 the waltz of flowers in the background nice
"Just be yourself", is flawed advice, since who you are is different in different situations, and it also changes from year to year, and I've even had times in my life where I became a very different person less than a week.
People aren't static. We learn lessons and grow, and these lessons can include being changed by new information learned via dating advice books.
Imagine you had a friend who was going to live in France for a year, and you asked, "have you been learning french, cultural customs, checking out maps of the area you'll be living?", and they replied, "nope, I just gonna be myself"
One thing I learn about interacting with other people, that changed myself to and new myself, was that each person you meet is like a foreigner from a country of one, or you could look at it in reverse, you're the foreigner from the country of one, either way, you like grow up under different parenting styles, in different school systems, in different countries or states, so you can't just assume they'll intuitively get you, or you will intuitive get them.
You have to figure out how to be part of their world, and they have to figure out how to be part of theirs; and it's only fair if you both adapt, not just one of you adapting for the other.
If you're thinking, "If you find the right person, neither of you will have to adapt, compromises, or sacrifice for each other"... then you've likely had very one sided relationships where people adapted for you, but you didn't adapt for them, so you didn't realize any adapting was going on.
Even just going from single to in a relationship with someone forces an adaptations, you can't act like a single person, even if you're polyamorous, you now have a set of people you need to be open and honest with and make decisions together with.
Oops, this got long.. hope someone found these thoughts constructive.
Stay awesome Gotham ;)
btdtpro Thanks for sharing this, your comment really makes sense!
somebody, call Matthew Hussey
Yah I like him better
Hi can i ask you please
I needed this. Thank you!
Thank you hun, you are on the right track!💖
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*Thank you, I needed this*
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