What to do when your life falls apart
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Wow! Life has really gone downhill the last month. Though I'm on the upswing, I was in a very dark place for awhile. Here are some tips for when life explodes in your face. Mostly it's about crying and relying on your friends and how I can totally relate to that little dog meme.
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" Are you okay ? "
" Are you really okay ? "
Sometimes saying something twice makes a huge difference .
or
"are you okay?"
"are you lying?"
Better--"are you okay" "are you being honest about that?" It's a positive framing of the same question that takes away the emotional connection most people have about lying=bad. if you have someone who gives a knee-jerk reaction to shut down and deny everything when lying is brought up, the positive frame might get the contemplation you're hoping for.
dude lol but its...its...a YOU TUBE COMMENT lol
I'm not okay (I promise)
Anon Anon yes it makes the problem worse
why is this a universal feeling? i feel like literally EVERYONE isn't happy. this is not the adulthood i envisioned when i was a child.
That's because we teach our children to have unrealistic dreams. And then we crush them.
katty kleo I strongly agree..
katty kleo Why did I read this and laugh?
Quinton Marks II Lol. If you have a few minutes I'd like to talk with you about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Quinton Marks II because its psychology and their are psychologist or therapist out their that know way more than you and i know about these feelings that why its usually a good idea to go and see them since they can offer really good help and if not at least coping techniques which will eventually allo oneself to get past it . - just a psychology student 😊
"Just cause your life falls apart, doesn't mean you have to lose your desire to live it. "
Damn right, Anna.
I read this comment just as she said it... she's definitely right though.
I’m scared to honestly admit to losing my desire.
But living is so hard....
Trhu but I have.
@@bencehun100 yo me too 😳 spooky
“text friends and family”
what if they’re the reason my life’s falling apart?
random person I’m in this comment and I don’t like it
Aww u can text me @hoeyzoeyisbetterthanu ig ❤️❤️ why are they making ur life fall apart ?? *Virtual hugs*
Just get involved in random chat or debates in internet or chat in multiplayer games ... (It helps me much when I feel cornered and I want to talk with somebody , but also don't want to chat with people I know )
Distance yourself a little, give yourself the time you need, indulge in hobbies that make you feel good and meet new people!
I utterly feel you , man.
Your life can't fall apart if you don't have one.
Totally, dude.
*Points to head.*
Tony Stan true philosophy
Ah touche
That meme
There's a dark humour in relating to something this much
Very dark, i thought I was the only one that saw it....and I am still trying to find the humor part. lol
Yeah for sure... :/
Hey Lucy!
+mckenna hodges I didnt realize Lucy is a popular TH-camr until you commented. lol
Right
that laugh after taking her deep breath 😂😂😂
My laugh when my car went up in flames at the shoulder of the highway and the paramedic asked me "are you hurt?". .
Haha I was just think of about that! 😂😂🤣
Linda B i read this when it happened
😂 too far gone
I love Anna tho
This is actually the most comforting thing I have ever seen. I feel so much less alone in this world. Thank you, earnestly.
Simeon Busano yeah
👍💯✔
May God blessed you!
❤️❤️❤️
Thank y'all for reaching out.❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's so saddening to see us all relating on this depressing level. We need a big group hug. Come here. We're all so sad.
I hope you're all ok tho. Keep your head above water, please. This comment section alone made me feel so much better knowing that I'm not the only one going through this.
hey
*HUGS* come here T.T
:'( !!!
Tis much better to come together to support one another than to tear others down all alone. ☺
Your life is falling apart and here you are, trying to help others deal with their lives. You are a good person, Anna.
and that's where all the paradox lies - she's so good at giving advices to others, but she's so disabled to help herself:/..
Reminds me of Richard Jeni and Robin WIlliams.
I feel more like she needs to express her feelings and that saying out loud the words which could heal her helps her in a certain way.
yes!
YES SHE IS A GOOD PERSON WITH A KIND HEART
Hey someone made a documentary about my life!
Meow Mew same!!! 😂😂
Meow Mew me 2
Meow Mew if you're in London, UK or live in London or visiting London, I will do this for you. I'm a photographer though, not a videographer but documentary photography is something I wanna do
anyone wanna help support each other :/
Meow Mew right
Her life is falling apart but her makeup looks good
My life can fall apart all it wants, but my makeup stays ON.
I don't need waterproof makeup, I need tear-proof makeup
And her skin looks fabulous!
I see a lot of comments regarding whether she brokeup or not.
You know... I have the good luck of having a supportive partner, and you can still feel like your life is falling apart. Sometimes that's me. Just know that having a partner or not is neither a solution nor a cause.
Even when someone breaks up with you, it is very likely that it's because some parts of your life have been quite messy already. It's more of a nail in the coffin rather than the cause.
The moral of the story, guys, happiness can only come from oneself. No one else is going yo give it to you.
I needed this reminder.
Alsol +
Alsol +
SO true and Beautifully said!
One of the best comments :)
I think they broke up :/ stay strong Anna we love you💕
Too many cats
noemie.edits she's way too good for him anyway though.
Dafuq seriosly?
Why did they break up tho
Common man dont be like that,he was a good guy
Or not enough cats...
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(Don't listen to me, I'm evil =w= b)
COVID 2020 led me here.
same
Same
same :D :D
Same
Covid 2021 led me here
Hey Anna,
I don't know if you'll ever see this comment but i just wanna say regardless of what happened in your private life (brad, friend, family, whatever related) it isn't our business. i just want to say I have been watching your videos quite regularly for several years. I have taken great inspiration from you in a number of your reactions to life. I am proud of you for looking for your support system and healthy things to be distracted with. I have had plenty of traumatizing life experiences make me just as hopeless and I think you getting up and deciding to keep going each day (even if you aren't happy even if it's not easy) is very strong of you and I want you to know that while I don't know know you , I do have a lot of respect for you , your brand of art , your humor, and in general being a role model. You are one of the few you tubers I'd encourage a younger person to look up to. I am 21 and have gone all through high school and college watching your videos and I just wanted to send love and encouragement. Cuddle all your sweet cats and keep making art !
I agree, her strength inspires people to find their own strength when everything hits the fan. We're all going to make it.
Ur right
My brother got me watching her vids pretty recently. I love how she's so vulnerable and cool at the same time.
And your comment is so wonderful, man.
This is one of the best comments I have ever read, ever. I don’t care if this is old news, thanks for your positive support especially to a young lady who seems to really need it!
Chandler Foushee well said
Perfect timing for this. I feel like it is never gonna get better
Ellie Alexander It Will❤
if it is love trouble and that is you in the picture, it will get better.
Ellie Alexander Same, hopefully it will tho.❤
It will get better. It sounds so dumb but it takes time. Sometimes it takes a looooooot of time, that's what I have learned the past year.
Ellie Alexander it's crazy how one person can effect us so much.
"Just because your life falls apart doesn't mean you have to lose the desire to live it". Anna Akana, thank you.
This could not have come at a better (worse?) time. Feelin' this right now. Hugs to everyone who wants hugs.
So... what if... you don't have friends? Or a support group?
Nely Ruiz unfortunately you can just take the pain by yourself (sorry for the bad english)
You can try the app talklife
Use the site: blahtherapy.com it's a free site (no paying, unless you want to)
Nely Ruiz if you want to be misery buddies i'm down.
Jessica Jackson Yes, let's do it.
i relate to this with every mitochondria i have
Diana Broja that's a lot
Diana Broja the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
Or do mitochondria have you?
Steven Caicedo-Suarez did superwoman teach you that?
Diana Broja mitochondria- the powerhouse of the human cell!
Relate to this on spiritual level
Sophie Leigh what happened to her?
Sophie Leigh you had 99 thumbs up so i couldn.t help it. i am the 100th :)
This is me right now
Same. The last straw was when my car broke down in the highway and started to get in flames :)
Stephanie Hernandez oh no! I hope you and your car are better now!❤
Stekiz Saaaaaame.
me too
wndrsusheu hope you get better soon! 😙
Honestly, at this point I've gone past wanting to be happy and just decided to strive for whatever Anna's got going on. Something like controlled despair and having fun when it's possible?
Being an adult be like
*sending a virtual hug* , *virtual hug send*
Emmely OurLittleWorld sends a hug back
*send virtual hug back and kisses*
hackin hugs and keepin them for myself, mwahahahaha
zistorbar Ha ha u don't have to hack a hug, have a freebie on me!
that's when you know things are REALLY fucked up, when you just start laughing about it all. like if i'll ever be in a plane crash i'll probably initially freak out and then just start hysterically laughing. cause losing everything you held dear and valued... well that's the biggest joke of all.
em v Omigods. It's in words.
Thank you, random stranger.
Saira Patel hey, anytime :)
Are you the Joker?
people start laughing to deal with horrible events because the mind isn't able to emotionally handle it all.
yeah
I love how she uses classical music in the background of her videos, it’s somehow very fitting
As my life has fallen apart starting two months ago. I’m slowly dragging myself out of the despair phase. And your videos help me to get a little further out of the pit. Thank you so much you’re awesome!
I've been broken inside since I was a kid.
i keep gluing the parts together since then.
I like what i made of myself... some sort of a Frankenstein Monster of bad decisions.
Sometimes it looks like it... but deep inside i don't regret anything.
Every single scar its unique and make me who i am today. I'm not the best i can be... but i've learned to love myself the way i am. I'm ready for the next adventure, bring it on life! You haven't seen the best and worst of me.
Thanks for your words DCED.
We are a little piece of that universe, we are all connected somehow, we matter :D
In some remote place in this world, there is someone who feels the same as you, we are not alone DCED, we wil never be. We have each other!
We will! we are not alone Danae, we have each other. The internet bring us together somehow. Its all about keep moving forward and trust ourselves, we can do this. Thanks for your words Danae! stay safe.
That is absolutely beautiful.
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
:)
I honor you for being so open to such a wide audience. Love (hope it helps). xx
dont be lose with the love
I've been rewatching so many of your videos lately. Life is definitely falling apart, or rather it has been falling apart for months now, and I never reached the rebuilding part. Your videos have always inspired or motivated me to want to be better, so this is me trying.
This has been the worst start of a year so far and I’ve been binging your videos on end - I don’t know why I haven’t watched you before, but I’m so so grateful for you because I needed your advice so badly. I needed someone to tell me that eventually, everything will be okay again. Thank you Anna, so much.
My boyfreind through three years just broke up, this is almost too relateble
Too bad your name is not Shanda
theodiggers ?
You too? Literally today, my boyfriend of three years and I just broke up. This is freakish coincidence.
Girlfriend broke up with me after 5 years so 3 is definitely not a max. ;p
MajaSalo 6 years and my relationship has come to a end to. hope you're ok I feel for you 💔
What is going on in her life?? i love her so much i hope she is well :(
Rose Haruno Creepy
Money doesnt fix everything. lol
her cat Congress is also having health problems
it'sMe TheHerpes Wow, tell me youre joking....thats insane.
her cat possibly dying would go into grief/mourning - not personal life exploding and burning around her
When she cackled after the deep breath is literally me all the time.
what if you don't have friends
You can still try to have a good time
I am in the same boat... You know what you can do... Go the strip club alone!
Reach out to ppl on the internet or around you, even when you feel alone you are never alone in this world 👍👍
@@ED-cj8cz What if you're unable to feel connected to people because your ptsd keeps reminding you of how much of a bad idea it is to show people your weaknesses?
@@holo6883 well first suggestion would be a therapist. But not everyone has that kind of money so if you can't go to a therapist...try reaching out to the next person you know.. maybe a neighbour...a classmate.. a colleague.. just try reaching out to someone.. a family member..anyone.. someone you can trust even a bit.. someone you feel you can open up to but your ptsd hits. Try to.. talk to them more often and ask them about their life and I hope someday you'll be comfortable once again, to share your pain and happiness without these issues..
You don't have to suffer alone.. .. I'm so sorry that you feel so.. but hang in there and try actively to seek some help.
+Anna Akana:
Stop the drinking. Best advice I can give you. The Alcohol's gonna' creep up on you, and before you know it you'll start needing it.
Dreaded88 but I need my Mountain Dew...
+WMWarrior13:
Yes, but did you know the main ingredient is Urine!?! :D
Dreaded88 I thought it was weed.
+WMWarrior:
Nah, if it was, they'd've put Pepsi and Coke out of business in 1972! :D
Dreaded88 lol abt the Pepsi-Coke
Your face is gorgeous.
true
+La Cecilia Olimpo Italiana anche tu?
+Ste La Ahah si
Anche io ✋🏻 #noncentronulla
I know💋
I'm so sorry this is happening to you, and i hope things get better. I know they will. I am going through the same or similar things and i have been since i left high school. When you get up something brings you back down. Just stay you and stay vocal about it. We love you!
2020: we need a part 2 that's called "what to do when the WORLD falls apart"
2022: Yes when world war 3 happened two years ago, but what do we do now?
Sorry Anna. You'll get through it. When my life is falling apart, I listen to "instructions for a bad day" this always seems to help me.
Just googled this. Thank you.
than you.
Geez. This came at the right time for me. Dissolving my marriage that I feel became toxic and he didn't want to work on it until I left.
Valerie Henneberger sending virtual hug!
Valerie Henneberger proud of you for leaving and taking care of yourself
Aw thanks ChiaraBells!
thanks for the vote of confidence IateAllTheBlueberris! We separated previously but I went back and I see now that that was probably a bad move.
Thanks rosa r!
This is so relatable.
My hole life has been pretty much a mess and most people know that, but whenever I talk about my problems I automatically smile so it doesn’t look like it’s hurting me, while I’m really struggling with stuff..
You really are a great person Anna for helping other people while struggling yourself
"But at least you're at the strip club" Somehow, never having been to a strip club, this hit home real hard.
WAIT BUT IF THEY BROKE UP CAN SHE KEEP ALL HER 6 CATS
Abbi of course! cats ALWAYS go to the mama.
I thought she only had 4....... wtf
well if they did break up, they are all her cats so they stay with her and i also think he was allergic to them so I doubt he would take any of them
The problem is in Los Angeles a person can only own THREE cats.
Peter Kosen but she loves ALL OF THOSE CATS?! Can't she just get a license? I mean I'm sure she already has one?
Don't drink alcohol, so much. Instead become a connoisseur of bottled water. Much healthier. In fact, take the time to become a connoisseur of anything you like. Meet people that like the same things. Try not to repeat the same mistakes. Lather, rinse repeat until you're in a good place. Good luck.
Kemal Unverdi I don't want to be a drag, but being a fluent French speaker, I feel obliged to say this.. it's spelled connaisseur. But I totally agree with you, this is great advise.
Valerie Unchurch haha, you mean "this is great adviCe". ;)
Valerie Upchurch it's definitely spelt connoisseur...
Alice Dibley it is but it shouldn't or you shouldn't pronounce it that way.
Victor I guess it's a word that changed when it passed into English, I've never seen it written connaisseur but apparently that's the French word
i just found this channel and im already loving you. I feel like we're meant to be, you are so relatable girl *cries in the corner*
I find your videos really therapeutic. Thank you, Anna!
You are so real and honest Anna Akana. I wish more people had the courage you do. All of us hit that lonely dark area of our lives at time and feel so alone when it happens. Because most people hide that and almost never share it we never see that side of people and think it is a shameful thing. It is something we need to embrace. Wish I could help you more but the world is a better place because you are in it!
Crovax Windgrace amen
RedFox41234 I am not sure what has happened in your life to have made you so negative and toxic but I hope at some point you reflect on it, move pass it and become a better person.
Take care of yourself Anna! You have 6 cats who look up to you! No but seriously feel better.
Thank you, Anna.
You are very relatable. Your videos are very consoling. Makes me feel that I'm not alone.
I really needed this. thank you so much💓
My life is so depressing I have no friends and have never really had any. I'm not even close with my family my sister lives abroad and I don't get along with my brother. I can't open up to my parents because they are old fashioned and I know they will judge me and I'll feel embarrassed. I'm starting University in September but I'm not really looking forward to it. I don't really know what career I want to pursue and I pretty much only chose to study the course that I'm going to study because my brother and sister studied it and it's popular where I live. I look around at my classmates and all of them have a group of close friends, are looking forward to Prom, are looking forward to summer holidays abroad with their friends and family, have a clear idea of what career they want, always have plans and just seem to be enjoying life but all my life consists of is going to school and coming home. I never go out because I have no one to go out with and I just feel like I'm wasting my life. Life is so precious and I want to make the most of it and enjoy it as much as I can but I can't because I'm a loner. I used to keep telling myself that I'll eventually make friends and not to worry about it but years later I still have no friends and am still wasting my youth. I'm missing out on so many experiences and it makes me so depressed.
I know exactly how you feel actually :'(
Username K Do you have any hobbies? Maybe if you get into this hobbies, you will have something in common with other people and can be friends and can lead into having long lasting friendships. (: If you're scared or shy, you should still push yourself to go. Trust me, you'll feel better as it goes.
Whale 109. My favourite hobby is football when I was about 9 years old I started playing football for my school team and then played for a boy's club for a few years but my parents made me quit when I was 14 to "focus on my studies" and because they couldn't be bothered driving me to matches every weekend.
Username K Do you think you could join again?
Whale 109. Probably not I'm almost 18 now so it would be difficult for me to get into a team if I haven't played for 4 or 5 years not to mention since quitting I've become so unfit I can barely run 100m without gasping for breath.
Hey Anna! I'm really sorry to hear that everything is pretty shitty :( but I know you can get through it and grow from the experience even if it does take some time. You gotta keep going because one day when everything is alright you will look back and realise that you survived and maybe at certain bits you might even laugh as something silly got way out of hand. I don't know your situation but I hope that with time you will be alright. Love from one of your loving fans! Stay strong cat lady :)
Izzi Rogers what happened
Alliee Raee I don't really know her currently situation :( sorry
Izzi Rogers CHAT NOIR
Miriam :3 MIRACULOUS THE LUCKIEST
POWER OF LOVE ALWAYS SO STROOOONG
I hope that your heart heals up real soon, you have a great sense of humor and the way you face the negative parts of life is very rad. :)
AW HELLYEAH SOMEBODY ELSE THAT USES RAD
You have helped my friends and I sooooo much with you insightful videos ! You really deserve every award out there for your craft and for spreading your knowledge, you are a true queen !!!!! WE LOVE YOU !
I understand that soooooo much.
At the end of this spiral of destruction, my boyfriend broke up with me saying he found another girl and he couldn't handle me anymore. And he blamed me for everything.
So I started going to the gym, focusing on my job, my studies, building another support group (the one person I had was my ex-boyfriend), traveling A LOT...
I'm still working on ignoring the flames around me and "focusing on the things I know I can fix" (step by step).
Thank you for sharing yourself.
Wow this is exactly how I feel. I feel like I have no friends, or at least the ones I do have probably secretly don't like me. My grades are falling apart. The guy I like will never like me back because I'm obviously incapable of being loved due to my looks and intolerable personality. My life has no purpose, and I'm smart enough to know that I will never be smart enough to fulfill the expectations of this purpose that I have set for myself. And this repetitive cycle of depression has led to me getting no sleep, which is only intensifying the pain.
I've felt just like that, verbatim. I still do sometimes. Depression sends us into a negative loop, and our self-perception becomes completely warped. This is what's happening to you. It's like a disease. Try and get some sleep. At least lie down and turn out the light and listen to some music. Eat well and exercise. And find someone to talk to... a counselor or therapist, maybe. Btw, you are pretty. And I bet you are much smarter than you think you are. It's really rough, being your age. There's a lot of pressure to be the best and self-imposed high standards. You can get through it, though. I was a pretty hopeless case, but if I could get through it, you can.
Evan Auburn
Friends are overrated. They are needy and will screw you over at some point. There are a billion guys out there. You're attractive put yourself out there and you'll be beating them off with a stick.
Are you sure they are fake friends? If not I think you should reach out to them how you feel about them. If they act like they don't care about you or any other kind of rejection, you should leave them right away. Toxic friendship isn't healthy, any kind of toxic reluationship isn't healthy and should be cut right ahead. If they tell you tell you that they care about you but don't show it, get out of it or, as I would - speak to them. If no changes get out. If they change in a possetive way, then they are likely to be real friends. I'm not any proffitional girl that knows everything, but I've been in many toxic friendship and my experiments have helped me to get real friends.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Tbh, I don't think looks matter, what matters is your personality. I promise that there is alot of people out there that would love you for the person you are. If you have hard times trying to find friends irl, try to find online. I've gotten many online friends and I hope you can do the same. Irl and online.
Sorry that I don't have any advice how to break out of your issolated 'bubble'. I haven't experimented that yet, but I guess it's just to push yourself? Anyways I hope you can feel better one day about yourself, you are amazing, you just haven't realised it yet❤
Evan Auburn SAME to the T we should commiserate sometime
Recently got in car accident and things are not great. Not super bad but still enough to cause the feeling to stay with me for a week now. Your videos always seem to cover all of life. Every situation. You also look at these issues objectively and are able to make these videos for everyone too!
You have no idea how much your videos help me Anna!!
Therapy.....AHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA LOOK AT MY WALLET GUESS WHAT IT'S EMPTY AHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Nonny No Name I am so sorry. Please look into DBT. Reading about this therapy and incorporating the skills can help you.
I was expecting a snarky comment about how food and underaged drinking always solves problems but this is fine
Nonny No Name same 😔
There are therapists who work on a sliding scale to help people who can't afford it!
Anna Akana Yeah, to get on a waiting list for a possible appointment in 6 months with a therapist too inexperienced to be effective.
naw, did she break up with her bf?
Sijenna_Poole she said she's going to die alone so I'm guessing yes. But we don't know who broke up with who. It's also weird she just announced that she's coming to the full screen with him. I assume that means they're in a movie together ?
So I've gone through different phases of who I subscribe to on TH-cam & I've stayed subscribed to you for I think now 3 years & I never get bored from watching your videos and you're just so amazing & I want you to succeed so damn much ❤
Always had a lot of respect for you Anna, these videos always put things in perspective for me. Great to know that you recognize what needs to be done. Keep on keeping on.
goddamnit, Akana! Why do you post too relatable videos!?!?
Mona F. I know right? When the flames of failure engulf my life, I'm roasting marshmallows in it.
Its As Real As It Gets ?
Did they break up???????
That's is what I want to know I am thinking they must have.
WHO IS THEY EVERYONE KEEPS SAYING 'THEY' I FEEL SO ALONE SO IM GONNA TEXT EVERYOE I KNO WA ND UGLY CRY AND POOP ON M CARPET COS I DONT CARE
Yana Gaskell It sounds like it..., all those "dates"to the cat shelter must'a taken their toll....
But with Anna, its hard to say - maybe just one of her cata got out and ran away, and thats got her super sad...., maybe her and Brad are fine (I mean a break up close to Valentines day doesn't sound like something Brad qould do.....)
***** I don't know..., Right now no one knows! Anna had been putting out "dark videos" since her "Feed Me, I'm Hungery" vid, maybe Anna ended things - feeling things were too stagnate. Maybe Brad is out there drinking and sobbing even more right now.
Digweed Schlong Thats kinda harsh..., but then again Anna's vid is trending? Could this all be a fabrication?
Anna, your videos mean the world to me. You have a gift of being able to express yourself well and your videos ARE therapy for me. Someone out there gets it. Stay awesome human
Okay but I love your brutal honesty so much and you always frame it in such a helpful way 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Please let's make this a safe space to share. Stay supportive people! It's probably what you would want if you were going through something.
You've been such an inspiration to me. You take as much time as you need to feel better because you deserve to but remember we as a team (your followers) are here any time you need something.
You are awesome, my first blood cousin took her life this morning. She was like a sister to me, at first I felt so guilty about watching videos that would make me laugh or distract me. But as I went on looking for info on the web I revisited your story and your videos and they are definitely helping out right now.
Hope you're okay. Please remember that this period will be tough but you're stronger than you think and you'll get through it xx
Keep your head up Anna, the girl who I wanted to marry left me after 4 years saying she doesn't feel the same and she started dating someone new and it's killing me. The best advice I can give you is keep moving forward do what you have to do to cope but keep moving forward and try your best to appreciate all the good in your life
Shadysfan1995 Self care is crucial. Use healthy coping skills and distress tolerance. Face your feelings. Rise and fall. Cry. Exercise. Create. Eat. Talk. Live.
Alexander Grey believe me I know, I'm slowly picking myself up. Go to the gym regularly and I've been doing spontaneous things. In the moment it does help the worse is that I think about her all the time. However, I've learned that isn't an awful thing I just have to keep moving forward and not give up on myself or life.
Shadysfan1995 How long ago did this happen, if I may ask? I'm going through a similar thing, and I just want to know when it starts to get better...
Ian Policarpio this happened 3 months ago she started dating someone a little over a month and a half ago, it's not really getting better but I'm able to push myself through the pain and just kind of accepted that I'm better off alone this doesn't work for everyone I do miss her and I would love to talk to her but I want her to be happy who am I to ruin the happiness that she found. I guess I've just kind of accepted it.
Mine ended about 2 months ago, she started seeing someone new very recently... I guess I'll hang in there.
don't worry Anna, you have plenty of great guys lining up to be with you and love cats!
Kaizen2011 I dunno about that. She's a good actress and everything, but she has some major issues she's talked about on her channel. She has a very evident drinking problem, even when she's not upset like this. And she's also admitted to being controlling and having a horrible temper. Might be why she can't keep a relationship. She needs to work on herself a lot. Her therapist needs to up their game.
Why would you comment this on somebody's page?
Kaizen2011 why do you assume it's her love life? It could be other problems in her life.
The Godly Monster don't jump to conclusions, buddy.
i think from what she has been saying as in 'lean on friends and family' and 'going to die alone' is a pretty big hint that its about her love life.
You just reminded me of why I love you so much. You're a strong soul Anna, Shine on !
A lot of us can relate to what you're going through, baby steps towards positive and healthy habits shall do it for us. Thanks again. :*
I needed this tonight, thank you for being up with me until 3 am Anna, you're the best!
HERE'S A LITTLE SONG I WROTE...
Roy Thomas YOU MIGHT WANNA SING IT NOTE FOR NOTE
Roy Thomas DONT WORRY! BE HAPPY!
Morally_ Bankrupt I've done it I broke it I ruined it
DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY NOW OOOHHH OOOHHH OOOH OOOH OOOHHH OOOH OOH OOH OOOHHH BE HAPPY
Roy Thomas Yall don't get it
My life has exploded as well, and social anxiety has gotten so bad I have had to quit rocking climbing. (witch I have been doing for 5 years) i hope you get though what ever your going, and that things will be ok!
Kathryn omgomgomg your name's Kathryn?! My name is Kathryn and my biggest pet peeve is when people spells my name wrong so my friends have been deliberately talking advantage of that and calling me Kathryn with a C which drives me insane but ya, hi, I saw your name and freaked ;-)
Oh, I'm really sorry to hear that as well,
and Thanks i will check that book out.
Nice to meet a 2nd Kathryn!
Kathryn ya check the book out it's quick and easy to understand I'm here if you need a ear 👍
i. having problems i my own life, and I came here for the breath of positivity that i normally have from you videos, But i think this helped me more. I think i really needed to hear that it is ok to feel hopeless and feel like your world is falling apart, and how hard it is to put in the work to get better. Just, thank you so much for putting all this stuff out there, it is really helping a lot of people. i hope things turn around for you. ❤️
Awesome vid Anna. I love your honesty & insight!!
Love you, Anna. Always channeling what's going on in your life into your work and helping others cope with theirs. Thank you for all that you do for everyone's mental health.
Whatever you are going through...please know that life gets better, it just takes time. Stay strong and you will get through this.
It's awesome how even when your life is falling appart you make videos for your viewers and give them advice ❤️ I usually relate sooo much with your videos (about death, religion...) but for once I don't relate and I'm very very happy about it when I see how many people relate 💔 I hope you will get better all of you ❤️❤️
Stay strong Anna. Your videos are relatable and inspirational. You got this.
I'm so sorry to hear that things aren't going well for you Anna :( sending you my best wishes! Things will get better eventually. You're intelligent, successful, and driven! You got this.
My husband and I just lost yet another pregnancy. It's the first time we conceived since losing our twins at 18 weeks almost a year ago. So I completely understand the feeling of life feeling like it's falling apart. Another helpful tip: take those mental health days. It really helps when you just have to take care of yourself. Always remember that it will get better eventually.
Um, here's a weird question completely out of the blue: What's worse, having a large number of friends who want you to lean on them and trust them but you just can't and still feel lonely and you feel guilty and mad at yourself for not being able to trust them , or not have any friends?
Fatima Khan Ik this is late but, not having any friends is worse. Try to get closer to the people you do spend time around, then you’ll know your fake friends and your potential real friends
SECOND.
I think be your own best friend. Talk to yourself as if your talking to another person that you trust the most. Believe me yourself knows you more than anyone in this world. TRUST WILL NEVER BE AN ISSUE.
So relatable to me right now... I'm pregnant and I've had to cut out my parents recently because they've been making my depression worse. I'm also not even sure I want to be with the baby's father but I feel trapped without help from my family. Hope you start feeling better, Anna. That goes to anyone going through a rough time - try to stay positive even though we might not want to. XOXO
Thanks Anna! You're an inspiration, been here since the beginning. Love ya
They're amazing friends...until you're more successful than they are. Some "friends" just want to pity you.
It's great when your friends are there when ever they need something, but gone when ever you do.
Most friends are like pyrite. You think you've found the real deal, and then you realize it was all for naught.
ok.....the meme was fire.....lol
What happened?
At least you have friends and i'm sure over a million people would date you.
I haven't had a friend or girlfriend in over 10 years. I don't even have cats. If it wasn't for my family i'd probably be dead.
Ireallyreally Hategoogle im glad you're still here. from one person to another..
you know, saying this makes people feel worse...
This is like reading a sinopsis of my life right now
What's going? I just wanna say that I love you, and that you are not alone.
I wish you the best, things will get better. All my best wishes Anna!
A couple of people I care about have either passed on or are currently in hospital, unlikely to walk out alive recently and it's understandable to say, I am VERY depressed at the moment. It's been three months since it all began and despite my best to keep exercising and eating decently (mostly), I've been having constant panic attacks and have even developed a pretty severe fear of death and dying. But like you were talking about, while I know I'm clearly far from okay at the moment, I know I will be. I've made plans to see a councillor, I'm volunteering at my local animal shelter, I'm donating blood, getting back into painting, the works! I'm determined to be happy again. I know it won't happen overnight and I have a lot of inner conflict to work out, but I'll be okay. And to anyone else that happens to be reading this, you will be too.
aprilblenk yes. I still miss my ex even though we broke up a year ago
you have so much strength
Oh no I hope Congress didn't decide to leave
It is not rare for TH-camrs to make videos about their life falling apart, but Anna yours is the coolest one yet I think. Thank you for being awesome.
this is the first vidoe of yours im watching but this one 4 minute long piece of vidoe is SO relatable that I've immidiately subscribed. even before the vidoe finished.
This cheered me up a lot bless your existence
Alcohol is a depressant. Drink when happy, feed ducks when sad. ;O)-
The Goat or just do cocaine instead of drinking. There ya go.. Found a stimulant.
Matthew, meh, cocaine is like Chinese food, you're hungry for more an hour later. ;O)-
The Goat I like this advice lol
Its a depressant because it slows your heart rate etc it shouldn't in and of itself make you depressed
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