5 negative traits that are actually good for you
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"But in real life, psychopaths are more likely to be in the police force"
Yes, and as it turns out that's not a good thing.
Yes criminals wishes to be sympathized with .
@@someonesomewhere9254 p
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@@someonesomewhere9254 sure, criminals. Definitely not innocent civillians, especially not from minorities.
@@someonesomewhere9254 Criminals do bad things that need to be stopped but they are still people and the reasons people turn to crime are complex. Dehumanization has NEVER been effective as a “stick” against any bad behavior.
Anxiety is normal even healthy when it *matches* the task at hand. We all get nervous when starting a new job or having to give a speech. However if the same level of anxiety is triggered when you're simply in a grocery store, then that's when it becomes a problem.
Exactly!
right!
It’s always the intensity that matters.
y do i feel so attacked lmao. This...this happened to me. Ful on anxiety attack in a grocery store. Y? Because a friend was helping me out and i felt like a bother and they were giving me TOO MUCH. Been in therapy for the last 4 yrs. MUCH BETTER...well?..
Intensity and frequency matters, yes for sure
Sure, anxiety does all those things, but it’s not helpful when there isn’t anything to be alert about.
But when there is anxious people are more likely to be ready and more likely to form a plan.
I would gladly be less alert if it meant being not anxious.
Yeah, if you have an unhealthy amount of anxiety, it will result in poor focus and distractibility. The excessive worrying would most likely only hinder you!
@@awkwardotter13 Which is usually wasted energy for no good reason, most of the time.
Yeah. This whole thing seems like it's trying to make anxious people feel better, which is fine, but the arguments made are just bs. None of these traits are actually worth the pain they cause you.
I really think this should be said, anxiety, anger and guilt are all emotions. On the other hand whilst narcissism and psychopathy are on a spectrum they are still considered disorders. Although there maybe benefits to them no person who wishes to be a functioning part of society should strive to be more in touch and build on their inner narcissist.
Maybe having some traits and not the disorder at all can be very helpful. I'm agree with you~
As she said, if you start getting angry for no reason this won’t be beneficial you’ll just seem crazy
It’s about being a little more angry that the average person, or a little more narcissistic that can be beneficial
@@victoriia Exactly, conducting some of the attitudes with responsibility, consciousness and for positives things only.
Was she talking about anxiety as the feeling or the mental disorder
@@lesbiangoddess290 Pretty sure it was just anxiety seeing that a disorder would mean it would inhibit normal functioning
I love seeing Congress in the corner just doing his own thing, minding his business, being a cat
Really is taking after his namesake
Yes
@@aidoll3692 OOOOOHHHHH SNNNSAAAAP
I see cat
I smile
Narcissistic people do tend to be successful. Where they come up short is in their relationships with other people.
They are successful because we live in a society that rewards that kind of behavior.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle all societies reward that behavior
"PsYcOpatHs ArE mOrE lIkELy tO bE In ThE pOlIcE FOrCe"
umm-
Oh so murderers? Police have a high level of domestic abusers
@UCxtwRR1fIife1HaR-Br17OQ remember that psychopathology in a psychiatric sense is not synonymous with the "psychopath" killer you know from popular culture. You don't have to be a murderer to possess psychopathic traits.
As Anna says, a spectrum of detachment can allow you to deal with situations other people may find crippling or traumatic, such as being an ER Doctor and dealing with horrific injury after horrific injury for a living. Similarly, you'd be a pretty bad soldier if you weren't able to compartmentalize killing people.
Obviously in the current climate people will jump on the Police Officer comment, but again whilst not 100% applicable since there are both good and bad officers across the entire world, a Police Officer in any country is pretty much always tasked with dealing with the worst that society has to offer and will repeatedly encounter people at their lowest moment in life. This doesn't make all Police Officers natural murderers or fighters since you could deal with a child abuser one call and then a suicidal person the next, but can be a desirable trait because we would of course want our officers to do what was required to protect innocent people if the time came, and to be able to keep a clear head under pressure or during horrific situations that regular people are fleeing from. Some of the highest mentally demanding jobs in the world require tapping into psychopathic traits without automatically making that person capable of cold-blooded murder.
@@vainpiers !!!
So are bullies, racists, sexists and violent people.
@@vainpiers You're jumping to conclusions. High level of domestic abuse =/= all cops are murderers. The main comment is also biased but that's another story. Furthermore, most people with ASPD aren't as bad as they're portrayed in pop culture.
"Positive relationship with congress" having a cameo by congress is one of the many sprinkles of awesomeness that make anna's videos so engaging !!
I loved this moment so much!!
There's a difference between temporary and chronic emotions. When it's from a clear situational trigger, emotions really are useful. However, the stuck chronic ones can make a person more than sick...
Personality illnesses like narcissm and psychopathy got just too many downsides to them.
Exactly!!!
Kinda hard to see my narcissistic parent as a positive. :c
My impression was good, but from a safe distance haha. That same hypothetical researcher would probably be a nightmare for their assistants and family.
I dont think there will be one in your case. Narccistic abuse is just awful
I think she means that some narcissists find their niche and benefit society, so it can be a plus in some instances. Definitely not all
Narcissists are positive only to themselves and to our individualistic profit and production based society.
In a balanced and fair society, or any balanced and fair group, they are detrimental.
@@houndhouse83 Everything can be a plus in an instance... doesn’t mean it should be applauded if the overall damage is higher
“Psychopaths are more likely to be a police officer” mmm yeah sounds right
“Psychopaths are more likely to be police or doctors-“
Me, a black woman: 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀
Black women are the best woman. Go girl!
@@oponomo there is no “best” or “worst” girl
Just saying-
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Fr. The fear is real
Yeah don't know why Anna framed that as a positive...
Yes, but let’s be clear, there are those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and then there are those who are just a bit more self-centered than others
I liked how you said "how is that like?" after describing narcissism 😂
No, really what is it like?
@@batzdoartz Fabulous
@@bubblegum.princess I can only imagine
@@batzdoartz but really we give the best pep talks, you should really get a narc friend!😂
@@bubblegum.princess lol maybe
Anna Doesn’t realize this but she makes everyone’s day better
the best online therapist XD
@@xixiamethyst definitely!!
only she can make me thankful for anxiety
I mean there’s a very good possibility that the book to which she refers could do that, and more.
This reminds me of alot of psychology disclaimers about stress: useful in the short term but bad if sustained over a long period of time.
"Sharper sense of hearing"
My almost deaf, but anxious self: What? What did you say?
Lol 😂😋
I used to hear my blood pumping tho, felt unpleasant
I love the message you're trying to put out here. But the collateral damage of narcissism and psychopathic traits is far too high for us to see them as positive traits. In fact, seeing narcissism / psychopathy in positive light is what gives us genocidal monsters and exploitative businessmen.
100%. Like, yeah narcissistic and psychopathic traits can be beneficial...for the person who has them, but definitely not for the people around them lol
Agreed especially considering cops are on a killing rampage
@@teebone8833 you clearly don't know what a rampage is
@@kikiii99 also all societies benefit from them. We just like to arrogantly think we don't need them to have a functioning society
5 Negative Traits That Are Good For You:
1. Anxiety - stimulates our brains to be more vigilant, detail orientated, and heightens perception. Also can improve vision
and hearing
2. Anger - receiving anger increases quality and originality of our ideas
3. Guilt - motivates us to repair damage we may have inflicted and helps us respect moral boundaries
4. Narcissism - more likely to reach ambitious goals as narcissists feel more entitled to success and are less impeded by
self doubt
5. Psychopathic - lack of emotional attachments allows psychopaths to better handle crises and make better leaders
as they are more persuasive and take more risks
Makes sense that traits normally seen as negative have positive aspects - there are two sides to every coin!
Say awesome, Anna!!!
*WHoleness > Happiness. WOW, a hard but realistic truth. :) Thank you, Anna!* We came to this earth to feel EVERYTHING.
Maybe not EVERYTHING but yes...
@@vir_rm yes, we came here to feel everything :-) what makes you think not?
The part that mentions congress while she kisses Congress what a cute Easter egg.
when Jupiter's legacy comes out, people are gonna look up the character Raikou and find her actress here saying "daddy Squarespace" 😂
What?
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle You'll catch up
@@KennyBky92 get lost troll
@Ishika Vishwas She is in it for like 20 minutes 😂😂
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle That was really rude and unnecessary
Remember: You can only feel happy if you know what it's like to feel sad
But when does the sad end?
@@JoeMakaFloe When the happiness begins
I disagree. You can only appreciate how different happiness is from sadness if you have felt sad, but it's definitely possible to experience happiness in isolation and compare it to a neutral emotional state.
@@Mrjackcool2 But the happiness never begins
I don't know about that dogs and babies sure do seem happy.
All these emotions aren’t necessarily bad in themselves, they’re just bad in excess
Yea that’s why emotional traits are not pathological until these traits cause harm/disturbance to self or others… otherwise it’s just a super power :)
You keep mentioning studies without ever citing them in the description. What was the sample size of these studies? How statistically significant were they?
Part of me was always convinced that the hype of just focusing on happiness and positivity is just hypocrisy
Same, it always felt like we were ignoring a part of us
Yes, it's good to be positive but if we're always happy we're not feeling everything we should, ignoring our own emotions
"Be careful, lest in casting out your demon you exorcise the best thing in you" Friederich Nietzsche
You should look into Brené Brown's work on shame. Complete life-changer
The queen is glowing as always. We love you, Anna!
"But in real life, psychopaths are more likely to be in the police force" And as it turns out, this in fact is not a good thing.
I think there are some lines here, like a narcissist or pychopath is bad, there are some behaviors they tend to that can help.
The gaslighting and emotional abuse is not part of those advantageous behaviors.
My supervillain origin story is watching Anna Akana videos telling me to let the dark emotions be my power
She does not promote narssisism and psychopathy😅🤓
Ironically she plays a supervillain in Jupiter's Legacy lol
“Since narcissists are so sure if their brilliance and individuality, what’s that like?” That interjection is a mood.
This is why nobody should just swallow their feelings but live through them, experiencing every aspect of them. Without harming others of course
I love your content! It’s so important to be reminded that we need to feel sometimes when all you hear sometimes is „good vibes only“.
Also, your setting is marvelous!
That cat is my spirit animal 😌💅
One of my few favorite quotes are "Everything is poison, all that matters is the dose" / "Anger isn't bad or good, it's how we use it." / "You wan to bring back someone you lost. You might want money. Maybe you want a lover or you might want to protect the world. These are all common things people want. Things that their hearts desire. Greed may not be good, but not so bad either. You human think greed is only for money and power, but everyone want something they don't have" / "Even a talent you are ashamed of can be a source of confidents if you use it for helping someone else " / "Life is made of 2 parts, half-happiness and half- hardship"
As long as we have self-control and are aware of our actions. Good things do come from the least likely places.
I mean, yes, the integration of all emotions and character traits is most beneficial, but when "negative" emotions become strong, intense, and exacerbated by stress, they lead to unfavorable actions and worsen your current circumstances. Likewise, the traits you mentioned, when working in unison and not against patience and compassion and such, can help people become more successful, but again, once a disordered state is reached, one's mental state needs to return to a healthier equilibrium to avoid catastrophic repercussions of abuse and violence.
Just when I’m pondering my negative personality traits Anna swoops in and saves the day 💜
You should probably still ponder about your negativa traits 😅
5:12 congress 😂 I'm dead🤣🤣
This is so interesting! I have a severe anxiety disorder and one of the ways I've managed to deal with it was by seeing my anxiety as my friend. My anxiety is trying to warn me about something - I try to figure out what it is and once I can break down that issue into smaller parts - I'm all good!!
This is very similar to what my therapist has been telling me, no emotion is good or bad, they're either comfortable or uncomfortable. We label some emotions as bad or negative because they made us feel uncomfortable but they're just as important as comfortable emotions because they are there to tell us something. It's important to take the time to listen to our emotions, even when it's hard, figure out why they're there, and then decide if we need to listen to them or not. We're allowed to feel sad, anxious, scared, angry or guilty and then decide for ourselves if what they're telling us to do or not to do is actually beneficial to us or harmful to us. It's not easy to do but it's important to look at our emotions simply as emotions and try not to judge them when they come up, noticing them and taking from them what we need to feel whole.
i'm curious to see what the downsides are to traits we precive as positive (:
i love you anna thank you for always making these videos that help us grow and improve, and accept ourselves, negative traits and all!
omg, this is super informative!!!! thank you anna!!!
0:09
Me: Sorry Anna, I'm too busy watching your cat lick itself in the background to pay attention 😅
Anna Akana is like Jeff cavaliere of mental fitness.
"Why your happiness may be killing your mental gains"
Sounds about right..
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Deffinetly agree on the narcissist front. Ive known a few doctors and surgeons and they've all been like this to some degree. Guys who think there word is gospel of they don't think they're a god themselves. But at the sane time if they didn't have that self confidence and self belief to act in times of crisis. You can't have someone second guessing every decision they make as they're doing open heart surgery
Please do not enable narcissism if you don't know what its like to be in the path of abuse. Please do not.
having narcissistic traits is not the same thing as being a narcissist though. Everyone may have some narcissistic traits and one point or another, but that doesn't make them a narcissist/abuser. The difference is in the quantity of narcissitic behavior displayed.
@@Etianen7 yeah you have to have 6 of the traits to be a narcisisst. I have 2.
I've never received angry feedback, but my family's overall anger, makes sense as to why I'm writing like crazy.
Good to see you in there Anna.
These aren't negative traits, we have been conditioned to think they are while expressing duality between "good" and "bad" emotions. We are emotional beings and we are born to feel all types of way there is and beyond. But as explained, there is a boundary between healthy side to these emotions and the excessive expression of these emotions.
"what's that like?" hahaha Anna you're hilarious. Such a great perspective!! Thank you!
I refuse to see myself in a good light. How dare you make me feel like i'm okay and it's fine.
There is a place for all our emotions!! 🥰🥰💗💗 Great new perspective! Thanks Anna!
thank you for blessing me bestie
I like looking at these traits in a different light- it's refreshing! Thanks Anna!
So happy that someone researched that being angry can make life easier regarding problems
This changed my mindset!
Never been 14 minutes earlier to Anna's therapeutic videos.
You are really engaging my gears with the content. Great work!
You go girl!
Anna...I admire you and appreciate all of the info and insights you provide and espouse... that being said, we can tell when you're "off". Wishing you well and sending positive vibes and love.
you rock, brutal honesty at its finest 👌
This was so helpful as someone who struggles with my mental health and have viewed it negatively!
I always learn something new through her videos! She is absolutely amazinggg ;-;
I love this freaking channel💝💝💝. So informative, funny, great animation and profound. Please don't ever stop contributing your knowledge on to society.
Thank you Anna 😊
Thank you for keeping it real
I love Congress in the background!! Hello little kitty!!
Thanks for the new information, Anna
Great seeing you in Jupiter's Legacy ! 🤩😍😘
This is my safe space.
Great.
4:17 She nailed that pose
Yes, it was really well done!
HEI!! I SAW YOU ON JUPITERS LEGACY!!!
You were awesome! It's always fun seeing you pop up in stuff like that!
Really loved this one 👏
I realize with my social anxiety (I had it for years) honestly it gives you an extra sense that you can use to get a “message” from people within your surroundings..you can become more of a empath
Thanks Sooo much for doing this Anna. You have helped me so much
"Negative feelings are an essential part of wholeness." Yep! In everything in life, finding the balance between "the good" and "the bad" is the ultimate goal.
I love you Anna!
It's so awesome how your videos over the years have never swayed from the quality and deep helpful content they've always had. Thanks. *thumbs up*
What happened to the catch phrase? Lol
Amazing, thanks 😊
Love your content!!!!!
Congrats Anna on your show Jupiter’s Legacy you nailed it! Love love 💕💕💯💯
Good for you, for understanding below the surface level.
Sorry for going off topic, but saw you on Jupiter's Legacy and admired what you did and how you did it! Hope to see you in more roles, good luck!
I've been subscribed since the beginning! Just recognized you in Jupiters legacy. Its crazy to see the lady from 6 years ago and you now Holy crap. You're inspiring 😁
The key to everything is balance
You're so good in Jupiter Legacy!!
I just got out of a toxic friendship and couldn't be more happy 🙌🏽
When Anna is speaking about anxiety at 0:24 Congress yawns in the background before Anna yawns in the cutaway!
Great Stuff!
Hey, love your work! ♡
It’s the *double-click* ‘great reframe for me’ for me ^-^
I wish she had mentioned that the main thing with most of these is balance.
Too much anxiety, guilt or anger when not needed is bad for your health.
Being over narcissistic - harder to acknowledge your faults or listen to others, over- Psychopathic - manipulating others and committing crimes without remorse.
Thank you, internet therapist ✨