How to casually date when you’re a serial monogamist
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Yes, but casually dating would require finding someone to date 😬
Everything takes time and understanding. You won’t know the game til you play the game. Go out there and start learning!
Step 1: be attractive
toebagscum haha it helps, but just because it can win a battle, doesn’t mean it’ll win the war 😜
No like it's a real question. How do you find people to date ? They are all either already in a relationship or emotionally draining (yeah I had an affair and it wasn't great, I'm overly social and the feeling of isolation, doubt and uncertainty it gave me was hard on me)
Keerya you gotta just go out and experiment what works for you. If you do one thing for an entire year with the goal to land a date but get none, do something else. You can hit up bars, make convo with someone next to you, go to a cafe and catch something interesting. If you pick a spot and realize you aren’t getting results, it’s more than likely that “crowd” is not your type so find another spot to test for couple weeks.
"Do you want to get married or what?"
Following that and the slap I had to take a moment to recover. I didn't even hear the next thing she said. 🤣🤣🤣
James Mason I literally died when that happened and had to come down to the comments and find this, thank you for posting hah
Hilarious for me too.
Swear to God, SAME XD
That was gold! 😂
I LOVE YOU SO PLEASE STOP CASUALLY DATING AND STAY CLOSE TO GOD. IF YOU WANT HELP TO KNOW HOW JUST REACH OUT TO ME 🐅
I crush cans for a living. It’s soda pressing.
Lol, I see what you did there!!
You are now my fave commenter
This is the kind of joke I make on first dates. If they like my terrible sense of humour, we’ll get along just fine 😂
Well at least you have a "can do" attitude.
I sent this to one of my tinder matches
"I READY FOR SQUISH NOOOOOOOWWWW"
If that ain't the most adorable thing I've seen anybody do on the internet. Also Me, 100% what I do when I get a gf
This needs to be a gif!
I was gonna type the same thing. Lol
@@kphu1075 i.giphy.com/kyiiXIIRjOwGygmQDn.gif
Here you go
This is my husband’s nickname for me, “Squish”. I LOVE it.
It ain’t happening
who isnt even interested in getting a companion but loves her content lmao
who is interested but knows its impossible more like lol
It's sooo good either way
I LOVE YOU SO PLEASE STOP CASUALLY DATING AND STAY CLOSE TO GOD. IF YOU WANT HELP TO KNOW HOW JUST REACH OUT TO ME 🐅
@@ernestogamez9220 What the heck is this ?
@@PredatorH2O me skating in Tucson after work
I'm single and a serial monogamist lol it feels weird to casually date different people I naturally just get close to and focus on 1 person :3
Luna Bambi I grew up that way because the “system” taught that to me. Living on my own definitely changed that perspective though 😅
@@godzilla101188 fair enough everyone's different :) as long as people r happy and no one gets hurt
@Trid ah that's different, kinda sounds like using someone for personal gain then throwing them away when you've got what u wanted out of them which I don't personally agree with but it's your choice :)
@Trid if u have a kid then leave cos u just wanted a kid its a bit sad..
Hey.
How does she literally know the perfect thing to post... this is exactly what I needed right now fr
breezysh _ her posts relates to the chapters she goes through in her life and since we are close to her age, we can relate 👍
Why hello there - Obi-Wan 😂
Agreed
Absolutely agreed!!
SAME!!
I too have ALWAYS identified as a serial monogamist. I can’t help it. Once I focus my attention on one person, I can’t casually start talking to another one. If I like someone while I’m thinking of someone else, I won’t commit. But I get that saying helps you get to know yourself. I just stayed single for a year and a half after a crazy relationship and then moved on. I took that time to reflect and look back on what each relationship taught me and the type of partner I wanted from there. Almost 4 years strong with my significant other now and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. 😘
“DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED OR WHAT?!”
*slaps across the face*
Me on a first date.
Edit: Anna, you’re the queen of queens. Love you ❤️💕❤️
🤣🤣🤣
I laughed so hard at that part 😆
*Anna's GF:
"So she's a bit into bondage.. Neato"
*Anna
"Let the interrogation commence :|"
I am eventually there... Within a month I guess.
Hassles of being overly/serially attached😅😅
I think she should just focus on finding a long term partner. If thats what she wants and shes already been in a few relationships, shouldnt she know what she want in long term relationships so she doesnt need casual dating?
Casual dating or playing the field is necessary to cull the herd. This goes for men and women. Play the field. Does not mean you have to sleep with anyone. That is up to you or any person. When dating, keep your standards high but flexible. Always approach dating as fun. Fun doesn't have to mean sex either. That is up to each person and couple to decide. Go to movies, museums, dinner, hikes, the beach or to parties. Does not have to include orgies, err... cough cough, I mean Toga Parties. Always remember the person(s) dating need to decide for themselves if you belong together in a long term relationship. "Why so serious?" Being a person who can be serious I have a recommendation. Let your hair down. Be you. Be the person who is funny, caring, smart, analytical, emotional, and passionate.. Anna, you have said before people should be themselves. That is very wise advice.
Well said.
I think a lot of young people assume that dating equals sex... And it doesn't.
Dating does equal romantic,.. and romantic equals physical... But I needn't be sex. Kissing and hugging are fine to explore romantic connection.
Very solid advice. I am a serial monogamist and this only leads me to having high expectations from my partner. I literally expect my partner to be a good husband whilst we dating😭😭😂😂
So glad I’m now aware that I’ve been doing this all wrong.
To help relieve the stress of dating, I don't label anything a date.
It's easier to just hang out.
Set out what you plan on doing: do some shopping, visit a coffee shop, etc.
Have no expectations and make no expectations.
Just spend time getting to know people and life will figure itself out.
Best advise ever!
i love this.
This is what I want 🤣
I've tried serious relationships, I've tried casual dating. I think it's time to try dating myself and getting to know myself better 😅 sometimes you're your own best partner. At least for now.
I feel you. Deeply.
amen girl 🙏🏼
YES. And spend that year taking a break from dating and strengthen your female friendships and going to the theater! At least that is what I did.
@@LaQuesaDeMI if only my female friends weren't just as toxic. 😂 Oh well.
@@TheGildedHeroPrice 🤣
I was in a serious relationship for two years, and when we broke up I refused to go on dates or anything romantic to try to sort my life out. And then I thought I was a monogamist too. But I actually realised it’s hard in this day and age to be a monogamist. So after a year of lonely thoughts, I started casually dating (tinder is the worse thing in the world lol), but I found somewhere along the way my fiancée.
In a very cliche way, I found my lobster when I was least expecting it. And the casual dating was quite eye opening for me. I learnt how to read ppl a lot better, and I also learnt how to read my self. Like saying no.
Also, tip for casual dating, always split the bill.
Thank God... A woman who advocates splitting the bill on dates.
yes... It prevents entitlement from men who think you owe them sex.
And... It prevents abusive women from taking advantage of men.
Thank you!
Aww you found your lobster^^
seriously contemplating to use tinder, guess I wont use it now, thanks :p
I'd love to hear what you did to find your fiancee. Tinder is indeed garbage, but I just don't know where else to look for casual dating.
breakingthemasks yeah legit. If your casually dating, you don’t want to feel like you owe anyone, and that anyone owes you. It levels the “playing field”. Makes you your own boss.
I like the approach of being friends first and if their is a connection it can escalate from there.
It also took me a while to get used to seeing multiple people at once. It did feel like cheating and deceptive even though I knew that that person was also seeing other people besides myself. But after a while you start to feel more comfortable with it and understand that seeing multiple people and getting to know them is like any other time you meet new people. I mean you don't feel like you're cheating on your friends when you start hanging out with someone new, do you?
Casually dating stressed me out, I was honest, upfront, and respectful. Still dating around was just too much.
that interrogation scene scene is so me.. :D like idk man, nowadays when more and more ppl are preaching polyamory, it's kinda nice to still have more old-school people just being themselves, despite the pressure of new relationship trends. but still, best of luck to you with this new approach :)
"preaching." lol none of my poly friends proselytize about why people should be poly. in my experience, polyamorous people tend to be more respectful of the lifestyle choices people make than monogamous people.
@@chaniatreides4639 your poly friends do not represent other polyamorous people who like to criticize monogamous relationships and call them "not natural"
@@poli8153 Poly people who do that are mostly just defending themselves and their relationships from shitty comments from monogamous people about how ''they won't last'' and ''y'all greedy''. We don't mind people choosing monogamy, but if someone wants to question my decisions then I'll question theirs too, even though I'd much rather we leave each other alone
polyamory isn’t a trend? it’s smth that’s been practiced across multiple cultures and societies, by many ppl and people living freely, critiquing monogamy as the only/truest/most valid way of having a relationship, and approaching them
I’m a serial monogamist who loves relationships. I have started casually dating since the start of the year, and it’s been great for my self growth! I really think I know myself and what I want better out of a partner better.
Casually dating sounds like an option hot women have.
Also crazy hot or crazy high status men.
Also people in the kink scene.
But yeah, much harder for average Joe's... Since woman will generally demand exclusively after a few dates.
Got to listen to Tom Leykis on casual dating for average joes
Go MGTOW. You'll be much happier in the long run.
Decent looking and hot women basically have 90% of the control over the dating world now. They call the shots.
Casually dating is the hot man’s world
"If you're looking to get married in the next five years..." OH NO, *stop* - get married only if/when that seems like a good idea - *not* because it's on your todo list!
I mean, it is just a goal. This is Anna we are talking about. She will not marry whoever she is dating 5 years from now just to meet a deadline.
People just usually want to marry before their 30s because having children of your own gets a lot harder after that age.
But she said she feels ready to get mermaid, meaning she is emotionally and mentally ready to commit to one person, and eventually everyone come to the point where they want to settle down and have the security of and stabilty with their choice of heart for some it is sooner and for some it is later and we should respect that.
It is not like she said that by the end of the year 2019 she wants to be mermaid or by the end of the month, she said 5 years witch is a long period of time that a lot of things can change and happen in that period of time, and its not like she is a 15 years old that her dream is to merry to celebrity she is an adult who has experience and knowledge and if she feels ready than let her be.
healla2000 not sure if ur joking around but u keep saying “mermaid” instead of “married”? I guess? Lol that’s all from me😆
@@tee4303 yhe i ment married 😅 even though i feel i have a high level of English there are still a few things that i get worng but also :
English is wired. But it can be understood through thorough thoughts though
healla2000 cool cool😊 yeh i understand lol English is just...complicated😆 anyways have a good day!😊👍
“I promise, I will only eat you every morning forever...”
I feel attacked...😑😑😑
Susu is that your name? And are you a guy? XD
CATHY B lol that sounds so suggestive... if you know what I mean... 😛😂😛
Dont say my name unless you know me LOL not really, it’s a nickname derived from my actual name... and yes, I’m a guy. Why?
Even as a 24 year old male casual dating is so foreign to me. I've always felt such pressure to have romantic relationships with people that I meet. I can really relate to these videos I've always been a very serious monogomist. Challenging all these beliefs I have and going on casual dates has been very scary haha.
Hookup culture isn’t for me.
My best relationships have been with people I was previously close friends with.
@lo l Why would someone date all of their closet friends?? I think if someone did that or is doing that they have some other kinds of underlying issues. Like afraid of being alone or the inability to separate friendship from lust 😟
WATCH OUT FOR THOSE PEOPLE.
Star Cherry GOOD POINT!
I relate, and that's why I've been single forever yikes :((
I was literally swiping through bumble as soon as you posted this. I'm convinced Anna is a MINDREADER
sarah kristen but bumble is for mostly casual in bed? As i have heard in murica
Abraham Norada Not necessarily! If you’re being upfront about what you’re looking for, you’d be surprised by how many out there would want to just casually date, without even having to talk about sex
None of the ‘app’ guys are honest about what they’re looking for.
I had a number of casual relationships in my 20's. Now in my Mid 30's I've been with the same woman for over 5 years now. I never settled just because a relationship was easy or comfortable and most of them were easy and were comfortable. But I kept looking and now I'm with someone who I can't imagine life without.
Yennefer, right? Definitely a good choice.
You have a knack for uploading videos about exactly what I currently need. Always short and to the point while being extremely informative. Keep up the good work!
You make something so hard like dating sound fun, that’s unique, I respect that.
Anna being cute: Squeezing time!
Me:
(Hugs cellphone) hiiiiiii
Anna: "I'M READY FOR SQUISH NOOOOOOOWWWW"
Me: *swoon*
I swear this kind of thing happens every time my crush on Anna starts to fade.
Same
Just one issue: Recommending casual sex to people who aren't naturally into the idea is terrible advice.
It's okay to not like it. If you push yourself to do it because people are telling you you're supposed to like it, you're putting their preferences above your own. It's not going to work out well for your mental health.
I agree
I lowkey felt pressure to partake in it, but it never felt good to my soul and was very stressed out.
Eres la única persona en internet que habla de cosas tan interesantes como esta, me gusta cómo te expresas y me encantaría conocer a alguien como tú. Saludos desde Bolivia :)
I am a serial monogamist and I did casual dating- which was weird and made me super uncomfortable buuuut in the end I found my person. So totally worth it!
Casual dating probably works for a lot of people and is great for figuring preferences out if that's what someone needs, but as someone who hates, loathes, cannot STAND the concept of being romantic with a person from the get-go, or even the expectation of romance from the get-go, I don't think casual dating will ever work for me. I have tried it. I dislike it immensly. I would rather be single than to have to deal with people whose main goal is to get to know you, but only get to know you in order to determine whether you are marriage material. It skeeves me out when people are so quick to decide that they want to know me in a romantic or physical context, even if we're getting along swimmingly. However, I recognize that my life situation definitely differs greatly from Anna's or even most people. I feel I know myself rather well, even being too introspective at times, and fall more towards the asexual side of things, but not entirely so. I hope someone out there relates with me. Sometimes I feel strange and alone in this preference.
Good god get over yourself, your ego comes across as toxic.
I definitely relate to you! Thank goodness. I feel relieved reading your logic.
I’ve been watching you for awhile. You never cease to make me laugh while also giving me a better understanding of whatever topic u discuss. Rock on Anna, stay awesome lol.
Omg THANK YOU SOOO MUCHHHH I REALLY NEEDED THIS!!! Your videos are so useful to me even when friends don’t know the answer. You are like my own therapist 😊thanks again!
where do I find people to date... as a big anxious introvert?
spaceagekitty online unfortunately for us introverts 😭😭😭
Online, but you can be upfront about your needs. Just don't do it in an aggressive way, and be honest!
"I'm anxious, I don't like super crowded places and I want to be able to say it if I ever feel uncomfortable" could be a start.
Find places where people with the same interests hang out, also get interests.
@@SIGSEGV1337 Yes, hobbies.
Hobbies are a big ice-breaker. Even if you're an introvert, you can definitely open up easily when the conversation arrives at your interests.
Like I tell my daughter all the time "from now on, women [especially her generation] have to be the aggressor and make the first moves. Especially if you want to date high earning educated professionals with 3 digit IQs. The best men are going to be too scared to make the first moves because of the metoo movement where any kind of flirting can be perceived as a malicious assault. You have to be the aggressor today. No more spinning a web and hoping you catch a good man like a lazy spider. You have to go get it like a lioness on a gazelle".
Introverts tend to be spiders. They sit around waiting for a man to fly by and get tangled up with them.
Not going to happen as much anymore. First moves are now officially dangerous for would be suitors.
If I were single and an introvert, I'd use a matchmaker service.
If I were too shy to do even that, I'd make an appointment with a therapist and see what magic they can weave.
I love how this comes out right when I enter in a situation like this! Thanks for the advice Anna!
Your friend dating coach has a good point. Before I met my current girlfriend and we've not only been together for many months now but we're very monogamous. But before we met, I was going about it in a not caring so much about what happens, like a whatever happens, happens mentality. And then I met my now current girlfriend who I love so very much. Best of luck to you!
Your videos have always made me laugh, but more importantly, you are helping me through some tough times of my own in the dating world. It can be so hard. I’ve put myself out there as a single mom for the first time since my daughter was born, and it is unreal. You have such an incredible way of communicating how you feel on a variety of topics. I’ve found your videos and music to be very relevant and helpful to me. All the love. ❤️
I'd love to hear about your experience... You said that putting yourself out there is unreal... That's an interesting sentence... What prompts you to say that?
I needed this! Thank you! ♥️
Ive been binging your videos since ive discovered you today! You have great content Thats entertainment and informative and I appreciate that so much i hope you never stop
Anna
You look so good! I’m so happy watching you progress in life through these videos and you look like you’re doing well or what we can all strive for; better! You’re glowing :-)
Cheers
xo
Pls make longer sit down videos!!! I love these!!
Needed this pep talk. THANKS!!!!!
This is so interesting. I’ve never heard this perspective before
Omg I love it, and I needed it, also anna you're super funny. I love you ❤
Technically it’s true but you can’t rush a relationship. You would risk going in to a toxic relationship or a situation where you are places outside your comfort zone.
I love this. Perfect. Needed this. Executed this amazingly and you’re hilarious!👏🏽😂
I don’t think I know what casual dating even is. I would’ve felt like cheating too, I guess I should look this up 🤷♂️
in 2019 no one wants to commit and everyone is playing the field, its basically hypergamy, always keeping options open because you want to trade up and get the best person or person who fits your needs temporarily for specific purposes, women need to be careful because for men that is always going to be to our advantage, we can just bust our nuts then leave and not be hassled because it was never a 'real relationship' to begin with, women have to decide whether hypergamy or monogamy is important, though its doubtful they will regress with the new technology available to them and while in their youth, things will likely change in their mid 30s however.
@@bleepbloop7039 ... The data is in. Young pretty women play the hypergamy game. Enjoying the attention their sexuality gets them.
Then as they approach the wall, they switch gears and look for a provider that will secure their financial future, and give them the Instagram family they always wanted as an end game.
For men who were overlooked in their younger years, this is the woman who is the target for pump and dump, lies and cheating. It's not "right"... But it is karma.
smart young women should find a good man and settle down with him early. They contribute their youth and fertility, and the man has a family as a base to grow from and a reason to conquer the world.
I think the pint is to be upfront about the fact that you‘re not looking for a long term relationship. As long as you make your intentions clear and the other person is on board with that, I don‘t think it‘s cheating.
@@samiraansari5686 ... I tend to agree.
This is the same for both sides.
Young women can tell men that they "want to have fun, and aren't too serious right now"... And some men will still be with them for whatever scraps of sex and intimacy they can get.
Older men can also say that they are "looking for something special, but don't want to get anyone's hopes up"... And some wen will stay around for whatever chance they feel they have of becoming the one that man settles down with.
Seems like a more or less fair trade.
Basically friends with benefits.
I stan you.
I'm so glad to hear this from Anna.
Casual dating - no strings attached - is the best way to ensure whoever you end up with is for life.
High divorce rate is caused by people not dating enough before settling on someone. The so-called exclusivity is the idea that causes people to cheat and divorce.
The READ you just gave me!!! LMAO Why am I like this?!
Hi Anna! I am a huge fan. I don’t agree with everything you do or say, but I genuinely appreciate all your creativity, hard work, sense of humor, and amazing talent! Keep up the good work. You ROCK!
This was so helpful and hilarious 😂🙌🏼💗 love this. Thank you for breaking this down
WHY DO YOU ALWAYS MAKE THE RIGHT VIDEOS FOR ME AT THE RIGHT TIME
Oh jeez, I feel this on a VERY personal level. o_o I was actually having this conversation with my mum, who was like "Well, maybe you just need to go on dates and get into relationships" and I was like "WHAAAT!? But I'll only get into a relationship with someone if that person could be my potential partner for life, I'm not gonna date some random person off the streets!" and she was like "Well, of course you gotta be interested in them. But it's good to get some experience, so you'll know exactly what you want."
I'm here still trying to wrap my head around it, so the fact that you got to hear the same thing from your counselor is like proof that my mum was right..? I guess? But honestly, I am scared s***less to date. I haven't had a date/relationship in at least 5 years. :') I've only been too busy with myself and my personal development. Do you maybe have any tips on where to find people and how to start dating?
As to where to find people, I think looking for persons with similar interests as you is a great start to look at. You like Music? Maybe a concert of an artist you like. Gaming? Conventions are held everywhere nowadays. Reading and books? The local library would be an absolutely fantastic place to both enjoy what you love (reading) and finding someone with the same book preferences.
Hope this helps you, random girl in the internet
@@Sidrouf Thanks for all the ideas. :) It's probably a good idea to see where I can meet like-minded people. I guess I should pay closer attention to my own hobbies, and see if I can find something cool to do around that with other people. And I'll definitely have to get over my fear of just approaching someone right there and then. Your comment really got my train of thought and ideas going again, so thank you, random guy on the internet! n_n
@@AnnaPietjeBlom ... Yes. You have to be ok with approaching people. But the plus side is that mennwill appreciate the gesture of your interest, and will be kind about it... Unlike many pretty girls.
Your entire job in this is to find guys you think you might like... And provide them with opportunities to talk to you. And if they take the bait, behave in ways that encourage them to continue and to escalate.
You have a super simple job.
@@breakingthemasks But isn't this super simple job exactly the same super simple job as men have? Just as much as both men and women have the less super simple job of having to work up the courage to talk to someone? I don't think women only have a passive role in this and have to wait, but maybe that's a cultural thing. :) I'm from the Netherlands, there's lots of equality going on here, so that's probably heavily influencing my idea on this.
Also, not all men appreciate the gesture of interest. n_n" Just like there are mean girls, there are mean guys. I wish all men would appreciate the gesture, though. That would be nice. Same for girls, by the way. It's really sad that lots of guys get demotivated because some girl very harshly rejected them. But no matter how harsh or soft the rejection, just opening up about your feelings and confessing to someone is always a scary thing. ;)
@@AnnaPietjeBlom ... It is probably a difference in culture that explains the difference in our opinions about this.
In America, especially in conservative circles, they're still heavy expectation that men initiate romantic conversations... Women have a very strong tendency to avoid that difficult task (in part because they don't want to be seen as aggressive or masculine... But large to because they're afraid of rejection)
so in America anyway, a woman can get very good results without even having to do full approaches. all she needs to do is signal her availability and interest to the man she would like to approach her.
This is why I say you have a super simple job (in America anyway) because all you need to do is drop a book near a man that you're interested in, compliment him in any way, smile, make eye contact, anything like that... That can be a signal that you are interested in being approached by that particular man.
If the man is also interested in you, then he will open a conversation with you, and if you show further signals of enjoyment... He'll escalate gradually to a date.
It may be different in the Netherlands... But I doubt it. Women rank 80% of men and below average in attractiveness... So most men get no female attention. If you like a guy, odds are he'll appreciate that interest.
Yes, there are men who are rude... Those tend to be the very top men the hottest men who get hit on constantly. Those men might not be so kind to you.
This whole dating thing is frustrating, because it doesn't need to be so hard. If we could just be honest with each other... Be who we are, say what we feels, and not be so guarded.
There are a lot of single men and women that watch a movie alone at night before bed... And that is a tragedy. We could all have partners and be comforted in that moment, but the fear keeps our hearts locked away.
Sigh.
Good luck!
(And hey, post back if you attempt some romantic approaches 🙂)
This is so hilarious relatable, and helpful. Thank u Anna❤
You! LADY! GOT MY HEART!! CLICKED THE BELL TO SEE YOU ALL THE TIME!!
Lol. Glad you are finding your way.
Omg 😂 I’d casually date Anna any day to understand what kind of woman I want hahaha
ageofbogyo never tell me the odds
-Han Solo 😂
Don't..... She looks like an attention seeker to me.
Indus Alladin bah looks are always deceiving, take it from a guy that’s casually dating 😂.
@@godzilla101188 i'll casually date too.
Indus Alladin as the emperor would proudly say, dew it 😂
I've been a long time viewer of hers and this is the biggest turn of events on her channel holy 😵
I NEEDED THIS
How to casually date as a monogamist: you don't. You can know what you want without casual relationship and as long you are casual... as a monogamist you don't get what you want.
Irene P I don‘t think it‘s that they couldn‘t, it would just take a lot longer. I think that was probably the point the counselor was trying to make: If you talk to four or five people at the same time, you learn a lot about what attracts and repels you in a very short time. If you are in a year long monogamous relationship, and then break up, you have only learned a very tiny part of your own preferences. It‘s obviously still possible, but it takes longer. So the suggestion is to use casual dating as a tool, to figure yourself out faster.
You are freaking great!!! So funny and intelligent and the videos are extremely well done!!! Subscribed!!
Tried to casually date, went back with a ring on the finger. You never know how it turns out!
The color in all your videos is just absolutely splendid.
“i ready for squish nowwww!”
anna you are so adorable, i loved you before that but you’re just making me question my sexuality
This was really helpful. Thank you!
Love you!
The comment section of this channel is so pure and sweet I love it.
you are the most adorable human ever ALSO your color palette is so amazing. i wike u
This is exactly what I needed
I always get too attached 🙄
Same.. I am like imagining dogs and children on second date.. Watching Netflix on my own is much more easier..
Désirée Rolff If you set goals for yourself that you absolutely can’t live without achieving, that makes casual dating a lot easier.
So let’s say you set the standard value for yourself that family number 1, friends number 2, and work number 3.
Even when you are at work, when a family emergency happens, you know to go to your family, it’s your highest value. If you’re living on your own like me, my rank is work, friends, myself, then family. So if I had to make a choice about working a weekend versus hanging out with friends, I know myself and my values and I will go with work. Now obviously everyone has a different list so if relationship is not your priority, that is what makes it easier to set aside as a casual engagement
@@godzilla101188 makes sense
@@godzilla101188 Wait, but what does prioritizing work and family and such relate to casual dating, or even casual dating? (FYI, I'm a guy 22 has only recently started dating this year)
Checkmate1138 OT relates to casual dating because if you rank relationship at number 5 instead of number one, you’re more than likely to not take that situation as seriously and do what most people do as mentioned here and get attached
this is so timely oh my god
epiphanies are rare for me but... this channel is definitely within top 3 most valuable channels i've subscribed to
Casual dating is super easy, make it clear you do not and have not interest in being exclusive. Explain you happy to go out for meals, drinks,cinema chill whatever but exclusivity if off the table. All I ask in return is when you with me your with me no texting arranging dates whilst on the date. What you do when your not with me is up to you. You will be surprised how many people are okay with this arrangement if your honest about it.
I love your humor so much 😍😍
Good luck, Anna! You’ll do great!
i feel that, i’m a serial monogamist too. i just got out of an extremely attached “relationship” (it was quite complicated) and this has now having me thinking about trying casual dating 🤔
Surely the safest option is to casual date multiple people but NOT have sec. What you just described us sleeping around.
So freakin awesome and helpful. This vid gets a huge thumbs up
The content I needed
Funny, I like it anna!
funny and good production quality, Impressive.
It's nice having options Anna.
ANNA!! I saw a trailer for an upcoming Netflix movie, and I saw you in it!! Congratulations, lady!! I love seeing your hard work pay off.
Thanks for the therapy session Anna see you next time
" Do you want to get married? What do you even want from me?!" Agh Anna that is so me.
I literally feel like this 1:47 whenever I think of casual dating. It's just, it's never really casual is it? Either you're not invested, in which case, why would you bother spending time with this person? Or you are invested, and then...
Timing’s never been better Anna 😌
Anna you're great!
Stg Anna is like the fairy inside my head who refuses to listen to my heart bc she knows better and at the end I do none
OMG hahah. The interrogation with the slap was hilarious! :D
Love you Anna
Honesty is openness is everything.
Please more casual dating content! I feel like I don't even know how
*_Was anyone else a bit shocked by reading the title?_*
No, not at all.
Why?
Why is this SOOOOO timely 😂
Once again, I feel attacked 😳
The dark room slap heard serial monogamist near and far 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Bravo
Love u akana