Why Are You Still Single? (And Other Questions To Keep To Yourself)
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"why are you still married?" yep that's gonna be my answer from now on 🙃
What if the one who asked isn't married?
@@funnyvideoguy3216 than ... why are you still in a relationship?
What would be an appropriate defense to "well because im still in love unlike you"
@@ozzyk558 well, so they know why then
But that answer is really easy. Because we're loyal, work together, communicate and are each others everything...totally different to being single as in you are alone and the connotation is you are defective in some way
Not building relationships on trauma bonds should be normalised.
not saying "X should be normalized" should be normalized.
@@americanhero8606 silence
@@americanhero8606 Careful He's an American Hero
All my relationships are based on trauma bonding tho... Damn
@@ushagadgil1963 Hope you spend some good time with yourself and realise your patterns/mistakes. All the best!
Being asked " why don't you drink?" at every single party is the worst
Especially when everyone treats it like it’s so important, since it’s considered a big part of your country’s culture
Yup… get this all the time. Yes, let me rehash my generations of alcoholic family history with you! Ugh.
Yuuuuuuup!
I'm allergic and highly prone to liver disease due to genetics yay!
I just don't like drinking, but it seems to be the worst one because you don't have an "excuse" and they think they can keep pushing
I feel like when people say "Why are you still single?" What they mean to say is "You know, you are so amazing that I'm surprised you haven't found someone you want to be with considering you are so attractive there is no way you're struggling for choices." But it ends up coming across as kind of the opposite in most cases.
The worst for me is "no one is deserving of you" as a compliment
Why is Donald Trump pretty and I am not? But why does he only have a wife but I have TWO HANDSOME GIRLFRIENDS who I show off in my masterpiece YT videos? Do you know the answer, dear dan
Most of the time its men saying it to attractive women they just met. Its not "wow youre an amazing person" its "wow youre hot"
To me it sounds like "Why haven't you lowered you standards yet?"
@@LauraSomeNumber to me it sounds like your hot...but what other flaws do you have that keep you single.
I've been single for so long my relatives don't even bother asking anymore. They think I'm a lost cause at this point, its a relief honestly 😭
It's better that way. No expectations
Your not a lost cause, you clearly acknowledge that a life long commitment is not a race, instead you and your life are worth the time and effort to do well. Celebrate your resolve and self worth, it's fabulous!
It's hard to be single but once you try to embrace it and enjoy yourself, people take notice... Do things alone that you might feel too self conscious to do with others, it can be liberating 🤗 from one lonely soul to another...
This is assuming your single and lonely but still good advice 😁
Relatable
*Has anyone ever called you a beach?*
*M A N Y T I M E S*
has anyone ever called u to a beach? no...... no one has :(
They call me a WItch.....
deach the beach
shes single now because her last chad gave her herpes
I've found that if a person really does want to talk about their trauma, and they feel comfortable with you to do it, they'll bring it up themselves, never need to ask them
Exactly, best thing to do if you're curious is to wait for them to bring it up while you "there there" them, biting your tongue. If you can wait for them to "get ready," you can wait for them to open up.
But beware of people who bring it up just....whenever.
I never pry.
As a philosophy
Yeah, and you could always say something like " if you ever need to talk about it, I'm here for you"
Everyone should know "Do you want to talk about it?" This gives a quick no at which time you change the subject allowing them not to dwell on it or they open up.
Definitely!!!
Ya, or the very simple how are you feeling?
Also, "Would you like to change the subject?"
this! because it acknowledges the thing that happened and just that and an offer to talk about it can help the person heal.
Socializing was an issue for me even before the pandemic. Being around too many people exhausted me, especially if they invited drama and stress that's unwarranted. I'm slowly getting back out there, but it's taking a bit of time
Sooooo...don't be around people that love drama. Trust me if they will talk to you about it then they will talk to others about you and you become the 'drama'
@@seankeenan2583 a valid point indeed. Gotta be mindful on who we confide to.
I deal with this too, you're not alone. Best of luck :)
If anything, people became better at socializing because of the isolation.
@@nickfierro3873 elaborate if you will please cause I've yet to see that...or perhaps I'm missing something
This is a really fine line, because if you don't ask any deeper or change the subject on those questions, it could be interpreted as you not caring and the person feels like their problems don't matter. All about how well you know the person and if you think they like to open up or not.
I find, if the situation is really uncertain and they brought it up first, asking them if they want to talk about it works pretty well. That way, you give the other person control of the conversation and make them feel like you're accounting for their feelings.
@@sosanmia3 same for me. Letting them know you're keen to talking about it if they want shows you're interested and you care, and letting them decide what they want to do shows you respect them.
Yeah, "do you want to talk about that? No pressure".
This is such a struggle with old friends I’m less close with now. It feels like they want all the deepest details of my life without maintaining any other part of the friendship
shut up an tell us what it is
That’s because they’re just trying to compare themselves.
Yeaah and the more they ask the more you dont wanna tell.
I went from feeling like the only person without a life, to the only one who has a life.
Normalize salary discussions! Don't let the moneyed trick us.
YES. If you talk about what you and other people make, it lets everyone know what's fair
yesss! (and unionize while you're at it!!)
no, people are assholes no matter what the number is
Can cause anxiety due to comparisons as some people don't have the best intentions but yup it needs to be normalised than what it is right now
Yess!!
It's crazy how I've related to most of her videos for years
...Don’t let her brainwash you
@@Americansikkunt why
@@ajithv5540 because racial discrimination, race-based wealth redistribution, and loss of Individual Rights is a bad thing.
@@Americansikkunt she has raised voice against all these problems
I congratulated my co-worker on her pregnancy. She wasn't. She still doesn't like me. I'm not good at conversations. So, in the future, someone can literally have a baby coming out of her and I'm not saying a thing.
That's awkward, but we'll done for reflecting and taking a lesson from the experience.
How long ago did this happen? Do you care to make amends?
Yes, unless you're her OBGYN, this is the best policy.
It’s okay. The other day on the bus this guy said to this other guy for this girl “let her sit , she’s pregnant” she said “I’m not pregnant”. These things happen, she had a little bump ish
How about you stop congratulating women on becoming pregnant as if that’s sort of accomplishment. All she did was spread her damn legs
"Why are you still married?" is a good response.
"when will you propose?" and "when will you get married?" are so awkward....
I'm single because having fun alone is more fun than having fun and worrying the entire time if someone else is also having fun
cyberpunk 2077 cures my loneliness
Please stop asking Disabled people for their private medical information, it can be traumatic and not something we want to relive for a stranger in a grocery store.
Agreed. Also, stop asking people if they're vaccinated. That's the same personal thing, that's no ones business.
@@factcheckingyourmum what
@@factcheckingyourmum No I think this matters bc some ppl don't wanna hang out irl with peeps who aren't.
@@jclyntoledo ah yes, the brain dead one's.
@@DahianaG if you csnt make the connection, I can't help you
I think many people prefer being single of be in a toxic relationship
Anna is spoiling us with two videos in a day, we dont deserve this brilliance
But it looks like the first one got hidden or taken down.
its gone /)_(\
@@sammym.6263 ):
That sad to hear .
I'm still single because let's see I'm an introvert, anti-social, manic depressive, plus my last relationship ended so badly that it seriously scarred me.
Same
...twin...?
Yo same
You have to move on from your past to make your future.
The spontaneous oversharing also isn't helping :P
j/k
If you ask 'how's the baby' and she makes clear from her look that something went wrong, just apologize. Don't change the subject. Acknowledge her pain and offer to comfort her...
I heard it best on tiktok. I'm not my types type. That's why I'm still single.
same and the type that does like me isn't my type
😂😂😂😂😂 Omgosh this is good
I'm going to start using this one.😅
100%. This.
Mind blown.
Whenever anyone asks “Why are you still single?” it’s a lowkey passive aggressive dig at you. Period. If someone has to bother asking you why you’re single without the context, there’s no need to explain yourself
Sometimes I think it depends
@@rainbow9987 elaborate
@@EricGraham94 The love ain+t hugs and kisses and sex, as this world presents. /be not deceived nor naive.
What is unknown life fact? - parenthood is GOD given and love is not LUST.
John 15:13
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
About being single:
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
@@EricGraham94 no. Stop making black or white judgments on things. Not everything is one or the other. Conversations are nuanced. In the past people have asked me why I’m still single, and I took it as a compliment and wasn’t offended at all. Not only does it mean they think I’m desirable, it means they think other people should think I’m desirable too. And their intention was curiosity about how a person who is clearly desirable to many people would not have found anyone yet, because all logic says they would have found someone.
Stop the polarized thinking and realize that not everything is cut and dry. People are complex and could have a multitude of different intentions behind the things they say.
Love Anna's face scrunch at 1:28 😂 thats the perfect reaction/expression to that
The one twin reminds me of Piper from the original Charmed series.
same!! the eyebrow arch!
I can see that!
2 videos on 1 day? Not too bad
Yup, it’s private
@@siliaflo3645 WHYY IT WAS ON MY WATCH LATER😭
Her manager did smth wrong with uploading schedule
Good thing I've already watched the other one
I just love how she demonstrates the topic she is talking about
Twentysomething at work: "When did you realize you were old?" Me: "About two seconds ago..."
Not only couldn't they hold a conversation, they left after having placed their order, presumably without paying.
Anna, your standard of integrity shows in your character of your videos. They are quite impressive young lady. Thanks for sharing your story with us that watch your channel. Yours truly Ed.
When your friends are getting married and your just here single like yup this is fine .....
At least you can use the "why are you still married" line
These questions were a problem BEFORE the pandemic
The quality of her videos is out of this world!!!
Most of us have been through alot of turmoil in relationships through out our lifetimes. The reason most of us our single ,is that as time goes by, we are looking for more of a deeper connection with someone, and most of us dont want to waste our time in reconnecting with people, and end up just getting hurt again and again and again. As they say ,better safe then sorry.
You have to move on from your past to make your future.
Love it!!! Thank you so much Anna for speaking up and talk about that
here in Brazil with the slow vaccination the priority group includes high-risk people who have a number of conditions... The number of inappropriate questions people are getting about their conditions like we're supposed to divulge our entire medical histories to others is bizarre
nasty :) i just cut relations with such people, oh well my friends tend to be less crazy and more relaxed xD
Thank you for so many videos I'm so happy with these!!
I have found that a good thing to ask instead of asking for details about a traumatic experience (particularly if the experience is recent and they brought it up) is "do you want to vent about that?" or "do you want to talk about it?"
That way they know I'm there for them but don't feel pressured to divulge any more information than they want to.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You are just spoonfeeding us inside info. Thanks, Anna!
Me : having a bad day
Anna : here you go baby girl two videos in a day
Why bad day
Hope your day gets in better
Two videos in one day!! We are truly blessed
Although it seems that first one isn’t available anymore.
love this message and so well told! love u anna
I love you Anna. Always giving us the BEST no matter the time or place.
I love your humor! Keep up the awesome videos!
Yas 2 vids on one day! ILY Anna!
Thank you for making such real, relatable content on such important topics that people gloss over
Your channel is substantially entertaining. Loving it and you. :)
Oh lord. This was a wake up call. Thank you!
You're videos are like practical therapy!
Love your videos. I think you’re very intelligent and funny but more importantly helpful, resourceful and inspiring.
It’s nice to have Melissa on your channel. She did a great job too. 😅
Anna you understand me 🥺 love you!!
Why are Americans so uncomfortable with silence?
Good question ...
The same reason people ask passive aggressive questions,.., insecurity.
A "bombardment" consumerist temporary/disposable lifestyle turns us into material addicts.
If somethings not attacking our 5 senses or wallet, it feels out of the ordinary
Thank you for sharing your curiosity at why we are the way we are.
I opened about my SA and a friend asked me for details like it was a movie 😅
But, for those who didn't socialize much, or were introverts, before all this started, didn't miss much, and will now just go back to their regular routine.
Finally, you natural socialisers are on an even keel with us now
Well done, Anna.
I been watching your videos here and there but I’ve never would have guess that you’re the voice of Sasha on Amphibia. Amazing range and just amazing in general love your videos
Love your videos! Thx for your insight!
And once again, Anna comes to rescue helping us with our antisocial problems
She was talking to me, not you.
Definitely keeping this in mind for future connections...
You are so cool , so pretty , and so smart . Keep up on those amazing - creative videos
Thank you for this.
You're BEST!!
Woah sooo much content
Bless you Anna.
Can we appreciate the little tail dance happening in the background? 2:15 THANK YOU 😽😽
I felt the "it's intruiging as hell" so baaaaad. Oh my...
Single and ready to be single
Crippling addiction to life not being on fire and having money in bank account.
GOOD VID ANNA.
2 videos in one day!!!!!!!! You're amazing....but you already knew that.
What happened to the first one tho?
It got taken down. Happened a few days ago as well
Oh my god thank you for saying it, Anna
When “why you still single” becomes the most offensive things ever said to me
good luck to us all truly I’m struggling to understand sarcasm online, imagine in person
Oh gods, why did you have to remind me how awkward it's going to be to socialize in groups now? *hides in a corner*
2:40 damn, if this is true, Anna deserves more!!
I can totally relate. That's why we need stronger drinks.
i'm single because i'm odd, unintentionally creepy and broke.
My antisocial a** needed this LOL THANK YOU AGAIN ANNA
thanks girl
"Okay, let me just relive my trauma at 11am.."
This sent me 🤣
I was once out for dinner with two friends and one of them asked the other “if and when she’d consider getting a nose job” the rest of the dinner was very awkward.
Haha whaaat?
Thank you.
Lol. Top shelf Anna. Thanks for injecting some levity into these troubling times :-)
Let's go.
2 videos.🥲
I love your vids
I JUST SAW YOU ON SUMMERSALT MAGAZINE!! (the upsidown A is not available on my phone keypad....) YOU BADASS YOU!!
I'm just going to skip the awkward questions and say you're gorgeous Anna. And thank you for the content. I'm pretty sure I've made some inappropriate questions before. Gotta watch out for those...
I’ve heard every insult and assumption in the book. I don’t understand why people can’t just leave you alone and let you live your life and then them live their own. Why does everyone expect you to be exactly like them?
YOU ARE AMAZING!!!! Just saying....
Everybody has been asking about my life choices and all it comes out as is "why aren't you enough?". They're just curious, but they don't understand what they're asking about when they get curious
Anna you're looking better and more beautiful.
Why do you want to be in love ? Thats something that we all need to embrase
The married questions always toward her friend (Melissa?) is so hilarious 😂
Ok Anna good work
I've been asking myself this same question everyday
Just to clarify:
You're wondering why Anna is single, or why you are?
@@themore-you-know me
people are normally very protective and don’t allow u to just BE ur friend and relax in their homes and socialize without issues EVEN AFTER they invited u IN THEIR LIFE. You never asked to be their friend. They led everything. And now everyone tends to escape the trauma bonds! We ARE such a catch that no one does want us. Ur right! It’s very true. All the more reason to just keep silent & keep our distance
You should check out the quiet north. The trees would probably connect you to your roots