And I would add descriptions in Dutch - mostly because it sounds as though you’re saying such awful things - even if you’re only reciting the dictionary! 😊
If you think its okay to teach your kid to throw an effing kickboard at someone in an effing swimming pool, then your kid is going to learn the effing vocabulary that the situation calls for.
Story 4: While the mental issue does explain her behavior, it still sucks that the kids had to put up with this for years until one really bad incident. Not to mention that it was getting worse over time
As a person with a bipolar co-worker, who thinks taking medication is optional, it is really really hard to deal with. I try to have compassion but it is honestly so hard. I have gotten a promotion and a transfer to head office and after 4 years, I DESERVE, it and more. I am happy to live because I was almost becoming an ableist thanks to my resentment of said coworker.
There's also the common practice of ppl in low-income situations and abusive relationships to "self-medicate" with whatever they can afford - usually alcohol like cheap box wine, beer, White Claw (eww), etc.
The second story. Yes yes FREAKING YES tell the grandparents. Not to get money but to let them know that the mom is one horrible person stealing from OP.
Even if OP was able to get a successful lawsuit against her parents to seize property, put liens on financial incomes, etc, OP still won't see anywhere near the amount of money her grandparents originally wanted her to have. I have no clue why her grandparents didn't put that money in a Trust Fund accessible only to OP at a certain age. And, they would have been able to set it up to pay out either a little bit at a time, or all at once. Either way, OP should just consider this a "Lesson Learned", and study up on Trust Funds and the like for the future. ☕🤔
OP took too long to grow a spine and why the hell did the grandparents give money to her egg donor whose greedy and bad with money. Were they blind and never questioned OP at all until now.
I 100% agree with you! That was my exact first thought after listening to this story. In fact, the grandparents could possibly file criminal charges against their daughter for stealing the money. We can only wish that they would do so!
But then again in their will they might have still planned to give more to the mom, telling the grandparents would possibly cause them to divert it to OP instead. That would help pay for any debts and going forward, especially if utilized wiser than the mother
Story 4 - While I understand OP protecting his younger siblings but him making excuses for his mother’s abusive behavior is not okay. She needs to be in jail for assault charges and child neglect.
Victims of childhood ab/use often downplay it because to them, it's normal. I feel so bad for OP he obviously loves his mom but can't accept the fact that her actions were her own. Yeah, she had BPD that makes it a little understandable but not an excuse.
@@gorilladisco9108 ,she is now...but the other children also suffered abuse from the mother, even after the situation OP told us of. There should have been more help and an arrest because now his/her sibs also suffer from trauma caused my mom after this event. That all could have been prevented by an arrest and removal of ALL the kids from the home.
Last Story: there is absolutely no excuse for op’s mother’s behaviour. She attacked her son by throwing objects at him and tried to get him arrested under false accusations. OP’s mother is a violent drunk and she should have been arrested. I mean she could’ve severely injured op or killed him by throwing objects at his head. OP should stop defending her.
Story 2: If I was in OP's situation, I'd first tell the grandparents what happened and then go see a lawyer and see if you could sue the parents for theft. Because that's basically what this is; the mother stole from OP for frivolous things.
Story 2: Tbh idk why Op didnt go NC with her POS parents, like why stay in contact with these people… Glad Op set the record straight and tbh i’m surprised the parents didn’t try to blame Op for “airing the family’s dirty laundry” .
S2. OP needs to ensure everyone knows what her mom did with the money meant for her. Her husband needs to be 100% behind her, wanting to go nc with her parents.
"My Moms not horrible she's just pathetic" No honey, she is horrible. She is horrible and abusive. Throwing things at you is vile and abusive. Trying to kill you with a statue is not "just pathetic". She needs to go to jail. I'm so so sorry you had to go through this.
I think "pathetic" is just the way he feels about her rather than what he actually knows to be true. Sometimes we just end up pitying our abusers since that's all that's left when love and hate are spent. It'll be a few more years before it fully sinks in. At least he and his siblings are in far better places both mentally and physically then where they were, and they've put distance from her without intent on closing it.
@@girl1213 As someone who grew up in an extremely abusive family I completely understand what you're saying. For me though, having other people straight up call my parents abusive to me helped me get out from the "they sucked but they werent monsters" mindset.
@@SedatedSadness I strongly disagree. It sounds like the mother got the help she needed, and is doing better. We don't need punishment, we need healthcare and reform. Too often we turn our thirst for justice into a thirst for blood. At that point we're stooping to a low level and we need to rise above. I completely understand that you are angry, and I do not know your background or your trauma. I would just caution that we not look at this as "she didn't learn because she wasn't punished" and instead see it for what it really was, a sick mother who needed help and finally got it, though much later than she should have. I hope you re-examine your view on this story with kindness towards yourself and others. Please take care and I hope you have a peaceful life.
Story 2: The grandparents should have had that money locked in a Trust Fund accessible ONLY to OP. Yes, banks do that. And, I hate to say it, but OP will NEVER see one red cent of that money returned. Might as well have considered it a gift to them. Just like my brother. Everyone figured out that you NEVER gave my brother money, because you would never see any of it again, no matter how much you hounded him. I hate it for OP, but the only thing she can do, is consider this a "Lesson Learned", and study up on Trust Funds and the like, so the same thing won't happen to any of her grandbabies. Also, completely right, DF. She is not required, nor to be expected to, forgive her parents. They don't deserve it. ☕😑
Story 3: People should just put up "We're not responsible for your children" signs. Maybe THAT will reduce random buildings being used as free babysitting services. Not to mention Karen ignoring calls or refusing to pick up the teens sooner, hey it was her choice to make everyone be a little in danger
Worked at a pool/water park and one of my friends had two saves at the same time. Little more than toddler siblings. They just dropped right into the bottom of the deep end when our lifeguard on the nearby stand was away helping someone and wasn't able to watch (slow day and the kids area is quite a walk away). Anyway, friend lifeguard noticed this and covered the area for him. We found that the mom was napping. Since that time, every ten minutes an automated notice would play over our speakers reminding parents to watch their kids and that the lifeguards aren't baby sitters
I work in retail and we have to put signs up every holiday because we close early. Parents will dump their kids or tell them to hide and parents would take their time trying to find them. Signs now say we don't babysit, kids will be subjected to whatever new kid song was out [babyshark and frozen my favorite years] and police will be called for abandonment. And yes we are to check under tables every hrs in our own department to make sure kids aren't hiding.
Those staff at the theater should have just called the police and had them escorted back to their house by them. Making it a memorable reason for her not to forget her kids as well as instilling some fear into them about their future if they keep it up.
Story 3: honestly there is a point when you should just call the cops. Child abandonment is not a joke and parents leaving their kids like this is how children get kidnapped.
@whoooozen it depends on how it was given, how old the person was at the time, and where in the world you are....likely unless something was written down, it would be hard to prove or sue for anything
The fact OP keeps saying "my mom isn't horrible" "she isn't physically violent" "I don't blame her" shows they are so used to it it doesn't even register as anormal. It's just sad. You shouldn't need a "routine" to talk to your parents without being attacked Edit: throwing objects at your 14 yo child IS physical abuse what
Theater Story: Theater Management should have called the Police to Trespass the kids after they were thrown out of the Theater and when they kept hanging around after being thrown out, call the Police again to report Abandoned Minors...ESPECIALLY if they're still outside the Theater doors AT MIDNIGHT!!! I would have...
regarding the kids at the movie theater - probably the best thing to do when the kids are outside at closing would have been to call the police and report the children as abandoned
Story 1: uh, who was the five year old again? The actual child, or the woman who acted like one? Story 2: Forgiveness is not an obligation. You don't have to forgive them. Even if they're relatives, don't fall for the family excuse. Story 3: it's not part of a worker's job to work as a babysitter, unless they are one. Parents like that are just asking for their children to get kidnapped or worse! Story 4: 😢. That's all I'm saying. Glad to hear that your mom got some help.
Last story: Having worked with a sporadically medicated, someone with bipolar 1 for 4 years, OP and his sibling are strong and resilient. I am so glad they are no longer in that situation...so glad and relieved.
Story 2: I would never talk to my parents again, disown them, tell my Grandparents the truth, and let the cards fall where they may. Make your own family with people who really care about you, OP.
Story 3 - Were the kids teenagers or were they younger. If younger, the police should have been called about child abandonment. If they were teens, the police should have been called to eject them from the building as soon as they started moving from one movie to the next. Not sure what the charge would be, but that is some sort of theft of services.
the last story... oh my god. op. i know op is trying to be understanding, but that was abusive. she was an abusive, horrible person, and her illness is only an explanation. mental illness is not, and will never be an excuse for this kind of behaviour. i'm glad all the siblings are doing better
Story #2: Fluff, I really liked your comment about how "some parents will do anything for their kids, they want to give their children the world. Then there are others like this, who don't give a care in the world about their kids' future" I can sympathize with OP....I had the second kind of parents like she does. Good luck, OP. NC is a great idea. Story #3: The security guard at the theater should have called the police so it was reported to CPS. Let the parents explain to the police why they hadn't picked their kids up or even answered their phones.
When OP said “she’s not bad, she’s just damaged” I understand, but that’s not a good reason when she’s basically using them as a human verbal punching bag. Really irritated me when he said.
First story OP should have had the cops called pressed charges for her throwing the kick board at him. Never NOT lay charges when you have been assaulted people.
Story 3: I used to work at a library, which also got used as a free community babysitter. Any kids left after closing were ushered outside. Manager would stay for up to 30 minutes. If still no parent by then, the police were called, and we let THEM deal with it.
I think it's utter bullshit that theaters and literally any other businesses can't just babysit and/or drive our kids home for us. What are we even paying them for? Parents should be able to drop their kids off with total strangers and go on a bender once in a while. Geez!
It is really sad that some people refuse therapy or accept that something is wrong with them. I told my son's father for 20 years that something was wrong and he needed help... instead, in those 20+ years, he just abused those around him and caused more trouble than was necessary. Since he's a narcissist, he refuses to believe that all that trouble was because of him and his actions, it's because of everyone else. The only people he has apologized to are his children and current wife.... and per my son it was the "i'm sorry you made me do this to you" type apology. Bi-polar or not, even on meds, if the person is a narcissist they will be abusive.
Last story, no, that's not normal, that's very bad. Been there with both parents; dad was verbally, emotionally, and slightly physically abusive; mom gambled our house away, along with all my dad's money. You cannot forgive a narcissist.
S1: My definition of forgiveness is a bit different. You don't have to let their actions go, just the negativity towards them. You don't even have to accept them, just not hate them. You forgive for yourself, but they do not deserve a second chance. You don't deserve more pain.
Final story: OP’s description of his placating behavior and his mother’s predatory behavior actually triggered flashbacks for me growing up with my alcoholic dad. Especially toward the end before he finally got help. I still feel sick to my stomach.
Ngl, OP in the last story sounds so beaten down. He put so much into defending his mother in the story, but frankly, I don’t care if she got better, she should still be in prison. The fact she has a new family to fuck with is a complete injustice.
Story 1. If a grown up ever assaults a child always call the cops and press charges. At the least that will give the person a criminal record so when she does it again, the Judge will see she has a history of assaulting children. Story 2. OP's Parents are Dead! They died long ago and all she has now are Psychic vampires trying to suck all the joy and happiness from OP's body. OP should tell her grandparents exactly where their money went and tell them that she has felt unloved and unwanted by them all her life because of this. Then tell them that your Tormenting Vampire was full of booze and finally let slip what really happened. See what they say. Heck, they may even have known what was going on and actually be the people you thought they were all along. But it will surely be interesting to find out for certain. Story 3. When parents abandon kids at your business for you to watch. Call The Police!!! Not your monkees! Not your circus! Not your problem!
This happened to me when I used to shop myself this crazy Karen would not leave me alone and when I felt threatened she accused me of hitting her I called her bluff and said look at the CCTV and after reviewing The CCTV She Was Arrested for P ublic Nusence & Intoxication and Shop Lifting
The theater story: When Karen started her screeching, Security should have just said, "Tell you what, ma'am, why don't we call Child Protective Services and ask them their thoughts on a mother dumping her very young kids at a theater, then never once checking up on them, never answering any calls, and never coming back to pick them up and leaving them to find their own way home? I'm sure they'd be quite interested to hear that story."
My mother is Bipolar. And before she got medicated, she turned into a Jocasta towards me in my twenties, and also tried to infantilize me badly. It was incredibly creepy. She even tried to say she could have been my prom date. And on a rare occasion she still tries those old habits. And I always call her out. Most recently she tried to say I couldn't use the word "Hell", and tried to refer to it as H-E-Double-Hockystick like she was talking to a little kid. I'm 38. I told her off, and she's not tried it again yet.
That last story... The love this guy has for his mom... Even while explaining everything, you can clearly hear he wishes for a better life for her... He will have a long life for honoring his mom like that even through everything she's done to him. As long as he has clear boundaries with her though...
Story 4: No. Her bipolar disorder dosn't excuse physically abusing kids, she was still aware of what she was doing as she was doing it and could also form memories what she did (so knew what she did afterwards). It's one thing if it happened once but then she should have taken immediate action to prevent it from happening again. Like sending the kids somewhere else and seeking help, at least stop drinking around them if it only happens when she been drinking. She was lazy and willfully irresponsible.
I love the bit where the family members hoping to shame OP ended up learning the truth. "I never got any money." "Where'd it go?" "Ask Mom about her BMW." Mom will go ultra-ballistic when she finds out that she's going to get blamed now, because she's the perfect pretty princess, and NEVER has to deal with blame!
Story 1 - Lol, that was awesome. To the random teen who ‘nudged’ Karen into the pool, bravo 👏. Also staff or cops should’ve been called because Karen was throwing things at OP. Hopefully she was banned from the pool. I feel bad for her kid though
Story 3: I did babysitting while I was job hunting a while back, and it was quickly added to the "never again" list because not only was I stuck with 2 8 year olds til 3 in the morning, they stiffed me because the cheque they gave me bounced, and because I was a petty vindictive teen, I came back a sprayed "Bounced" on their garage door (water based)
Story 3: You're going to call the cops on us? Okay, do it, no let us do it; I'm sure the police would be interested in hearing about your child abandonment issue yesterday. Frankly, instead of getting security to kick the troublesome kids out of the theater, cops should have been called because of abandonment.
Op needs to sue their parents for all the emotional distress and child care that they were negligent towards her as well as spending her inheritance that she was going to get and make it headline news so that they get grilled big time. And yes I would be emotional through the entire thing saying nobody loves me They freaking ruin my life to make it even worse for them.
I'm a nurse and, like many in the healthcare profession, I work 12+ hour nightshifts. Whenever I start to feel my body wanting to shut down from literally violating my own circadian rhythm, I just watch a couple of your videos and the antics of Karens gets me so irritated, it's like slamming an energy drink and I'm good for the rest of my shift. Thanks Darkfluff!
My first mother in law was the same as the mom in the last story. She scared the dickens out of us! She went after me with her claws and threw rocks at our house with our kids sitting under the window. She was stopped for DWI and got out of it with a high priced lawyer. She did that sort of thing for years. One day she unalived herself and I couldn't muster up any sadness over it. She was a terror! She probably also had bipolar disorder, but she refused to do anything about it. The rest of us got therapy. 😢🙄🤷
That last one made me think of the things my grandmother used to do to my mother. My mom is the eldest and she did everything she could to protect her sisters from the yelling, the abuse and everything. My mom basically raised her sisters. They both feel that way, even said so in their speeches at mom's wedding. my mom isn't perfect, she's a product of a broken, messed up family, but she's a hell of a lot better than she could have turned out to be. She fought to break the cycle of trauma, as did my dad. They both refused to allow generations of pain and abusive and neglect to effect how they raised me and my siblings. Now all I can hope is that my best friend gets out of her living situation. She has a bipolar father who isn't on medications and doesn't receive any sort of treatment for it. She also has religious trauma on top of it (they're from Utah if you catch my drift...), I keep telling her that she will get away and will be able to heal, she just has to continue being the strong warrior I know her to be.
Story 3. Call CPS if they are under age. Story 4. I think it is wonderful that all of you have lived, survived and progressed in a positive way. Hardship is meant to teach us to overcome and grow, sounds like you have all done that Well done.
For story 2, if i was now financially stable...id call up the grandparents and thank them for including me, amd ask they still be in the lives of my children....explaining i dont want any money and im good now, but since my parents will never see the kids great grandparents from my side would be wonderful to include.....doesnt have to be about money, but as horrible as your mother was they didnt hold it agaisnt you...and it gives you grandparents to visit for your kids so they arent hampered on that.
The story with the kids at the movie theater made me remember something about my own experiences. I had the OPPOSITE happen. Hung out with a friend whose mother would NEVER show up on time. We called her, asked her to come and get us both. The movie theater was midway between MY house and my friend's. We had to wait outside because friend's mom took so long to show that the theater closed. We were terrified so I called my mom to come get us and mom. was. LIVID. She showed up, mad as hell that friend's mom hadn't shown up and she got there WAY before friend's mom did. So I get into the car and ask mom if she would mind waiting for friend's mom, and mom (who would normally allow it) let friend sit in the back of the car. Her mom didn't show up for another 45 minutes....for reference we were 20 minutes away and we had called HER mom an hour before we called mine.
Wealthy grandparents didn't know how to set up trust funds only accessible to their grandchildren at the appropriate age and situation where they can use it?
Second story, I’d sue my mum for misappropriation of funds that were supposed to be mine and tell my grand parents about what happened to the money, get a restraining order on my parents and go no contact. Get ‘mummy dearest’ to sell all of designer bags and her house to give the money back that she stole..
2nd story. One thing about paying for college or expenses. Don't give it to someone, pay the bill up front to the college or electric company or landlord. Skip the middleman.
Last story: Situations like that are ticking time bombs. It'll escalate and escalate until incidents like this happen. Always get them help as soon as you are able. Don't wait for an attempt on your life.
At the movie theater, there needs to be a sign posted on every entrance, and or exit. Not responsible for your children, police will be called if children are left unattended under the age of say 17.
Pool story: So what was the lifeguard doing while Karen was yelling and throwing things at you? Should have tossed her from the pool. Parents spent wedding gift money story: TBH, tell your grandparents and other relatives what happened when they arrive at the courthouse for your wedding. I wouldn't bother inviting your parents or telling them the date. Tell your grandparents you don't expect them to replace the money, only that they should know what your parents did with it. UPDATE: Well at least everyone knows the truth now. As for contact, if it were me, it might be reduced to a text on birthdays and holidays. About the only good thing is that OP's mother didn't take out loans or credit cards in her name and I'd be watching my credit report like a hawk eyeing dinner. Movie theater story: At some point you have to call the police for trespassing or child abandonment or whatever works. Last story: I'm glad everyone is okay and everyone got the help they needed.
I'm just left both completely and utterly speechless and disgusted by these stories, especially the 2nd story. It's stuff like this that makes me believe that they are some people out here in the world that shouldn't be parents or deserve to have children. Plus, I'm really glad that OP in the 4th story is doing okay now alongside his mother and siblings.
Story 3: When I was 9 my friend invited me to go to the movies with her. When we arrived, her mother gave us some money and left. We found out that we were late to the most recent showing and the next one wasn't for an hour. So, we just hung out in the lobby until it was time for the movie. Four of us. Two 9-year-olds and her 2 younger sisters probably about 6 and 7 or 8. This is wild to me now. I don't think my mother would have let me go if she had known we'd be unsupervised.
story 2, no I would cut ties with my parents and also sue them for the money i was supposed to recieve for my college, house down payment, and other such things. and explain to my grandparents what has happened and tell them why I may have treated them badly in the past and apologize.
That last story hit hard. My mom was the same way. We had to stop her many times from killing herself. We were all so young. My mom was worse tho. She was killed by a stupid lady. I do miss her but I'm happy I can sleep now
Is there a way for story 2 OP to sue their sorry excuse for a mother 🤔🥃 Story 3: "Why did you let my kids walk home in the dark?" Because they have a competent mother who picked them up... right? Your not such an incompetent mother that you made them walk home at midnight... right?
11:40 Sounds like this Irresponsible Mother likes having her kids Kidnapped, IMO 🙄😂😂😂. How dare she come to threaten Employees for her Neglect over the Children
Additional comment to part 4 - GOP says I would never justify her actions and that's not what I'm trying to do right now and I'm not trying to down everything that they are saying is trying to justify the mother's actions and making excuses for her and basically just down playing the whole damn thing!! Also, I have bipolar disorder and it doesn't make me a psychopath who would literally try to assault my children with statues after drinking two boxes of effing wine
STORY #4-... OH MY GOD I FEEL SO SORRY FOR THIS OP DO YOU HEAR THE EXCUSES SHE KEEPS MAKING FOR HER MOTHER? DO YOU KNOW HOW GAS LIT AND COMPLETELY INDOCTRINATED THIS GIRL IS THINKING THAT A LOT OF THIS BEHAVIOR IS JUST BECAUSE HER MOM IS DAMAGED AND IT'S OKAY AS LONG AS YOU DO CERTAIN THINGS IT WON'T GET BAD BLAH BLAH BLAH? LIKE THE SHEER FACT THAT SHE HAS TO COME UP WITH EXCUSES AND HAS TO TRY TO SHIELD HER YOUNGER SIBLINGS FROM CERTAIN THINGS AND CAN TELL WHEN HER MOM'S GOING TO GO OFF ON A BENDER AND "SHE FINISHED HER SECOND BOX OF WINE"...🤦🏻♂️...🙈🙉🙊. I mean I knew the story was going to be a doozy when the Opie started by saying my mom wanted to rebel against my parents so it's 17 years old she went out and got herself pregnant by a homeless person... Which is kind of okay because at least he wasn't an addict or anything but he did have mental health issues....LIKE WTF? , & JESUS TAP DANCING CHRIST!! SHE WAS MAKING EXCUSES FOR HER MOTHER'S BEHAVIOR EVEN ABOUT THAT! THIS WHOLE STORY JUST SHOWS CYCLES OF ABUSE AND MENTAL TRAUMA AND HOW A LOT OF PEOPLE JUST ADAPT TO IT AND IGNORE IT OR MAKE EXCUSES FOR IT RATHER THAN ACTUALLY TRYING TO GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM OR TRYING TO ACTUALLY HELP THE PERSON BY GETTING THEM HELP EVEN IF THEY DON'T WANT IT! DON'T GET ME WRONG HOWEVER AS YOU REALLY CANNOT HELP SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T WANT TO HELP THEMSELVES AND I WILL BE DAMNED IF I'M GOING TO DO MORE WORK ON SOMEONE'S LIFE THEN THEY'RE WILLING TO PUT INTO THEIR OWN LIFE.... WHAT SUCKS IS VOP FELT OBLIGATED AND I WOULD HAVE TWO WITH YOUNGER SIBLINGS, THAT SHE COULDN'T EVEN LEAVE WHEN SHE TURNED 18 LIKE BECAUSE SHE WOULD BE LEAVING BEHIND YOUNGER SIBLINGS TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS BS SO BASICALLY SHE HAD TO BE A PARENT TO THESE TWO KIDS AND WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN ABLE TO LEAVE UNTIL HER YOUNGER SISTER WAS GETTING READY TO LEAVE THE HOUSE...AND BY THIS TIME SHE'S IN AN EARLY 30S AND SHE'S HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS DUMPSTER FIRE TRAIN WRECK OF A HUMAN BEING FOR THAT LONG AND I GUARANTEE SHE WOULD HAVE NO RELATIONSHIPS HARDLY ANY FRIENDS LIKE A JOB MAYBE BUT NO CAREER NO SCHOOLING LIKE JUST UTTER DESTRUCTION AND MAYBE THAT'S WHEN SHE WOULD START DRINKING AND THE CYCLE WOULD CONTINUE.... SITUATIONS LIKE THIS LEAVE HUGE STARS MENTALLY ON PEOPLE AND THEY DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND IT LIKE ONCE SHE REALIZES ALL THE SHIT SHE BEEN THROUGH HELL DOING DRUGS AND DRINKING IS A REAL GOOD WAY TO BURY ALL THAT SHIT... NOT SAYING SHE IS GOING TO DO THAT BUT I'M JUST SAYING IT'S REALLY HARD TO BREAK THOSE CYCLES OF ABUSE AND I JUST HOPE THAT THE OP STAYS THE PATH AND HER DUMPSTER FIRE MOTHER GETS HELP
Second story where the parents squandered all the money from OP's grandparents. I'd inform the IRS about the total stolen and turn them in as they almost certainly did not report what must have been a massive sum as income. Tax fraud was good enough to put away Capone so should do nicely for theiving parents.
"Don't use profanity in front of my kid!" If anybody ever says that to me, they are gonna get a very vulgar vocabulary lesson.
I'd give her a huge taste of my US Navy sailor lexicon, full bore. 😅
And I would add descriptions in Dutch - mostly because it sounds as though you’re saying such awful things - even if you’re only reciting the dictionary! 😊
Insert George Carlin language lesson here.
And I'm going to add some rude things in both German and Spanish. 😈
If you think its okay to teach your kid to throw an effing kickboard at someone in an effing swimming pool, then your kid is going to learn the effing vocabulary that the situation calls for.
Story 4: While the mental issue does explain her behavior, it still sucks that the kids had to put up with this for years until one really bad incident. Not to mention that it was getting worse over time
As a person with a bipolar co-worker, who thinks taking medication is optional, it is really really hard to deal with. I try to have compassion but it is honestly so hard. I have gotten a promotion and a transfer to head office and after 4 years, I DESERVE, it and more. I am happy to live because I was almost becoming an ableist thanks to my resentment of said coworker.
There's also the common practice of ppl in low-income situations and abusive relationships to "self-medicate" with whatever they can afford - usually alcohol like cheap box wine, beer, White Claw (eww), etc.
The second story. Yes yes FREAKING YES tell the grandparents. Not to get money but to let them know that the mom is one horrible person stealing from OP.
OP is utterly useless and spineless!
Even if OP was able to get a successful lawsuit against her parents to seize property, put liens on financial incomes, etc, OP still won't see anywhere near the amount of money her grandparents originally wanted her to have. I have no clue why her grandparents didn't put that money in a Trust Fund accessible only to OP at a certain age. And, they would have been able to set it up to pay out either a little bit at a time, or all at once. Either way, OP should just consider this a "Lesson Learned", and study up on Trust Funds and the like for the future. ☕🤔
OP took too long to grow a spine and why the hell did the grandparents give money to her egg donor whose greedy and bad with money. Were they blind and never questioned OP at all until now.
I 100% agree with you! That was my exact first thought after listening to this story. In fact, the grandparents could possibly file criminal charges against their daughter for stealing the money. We can only wish that they would do so!
But then again in their will they might have still planned to give more to the mom, telling the grandparents would possibly cause them to divert it to OP instead. That would help pay for any debts and going forward, especially if utilized wiser than the mother
Story 4 - While I understand OP protecting his younger siblings but him making excuses for his mother’s abusive behavior is not okay. She needs to be in jail for assault charges and child neglect.
Victims of childhood ab/use often downplay it because to them, it's normal. I feel so bad for OP he obviously loves his mom but can't accept the fact that her actions were her own. Yeah, she had BPD that makes it a little understandable but not an excuse.
Why? OP said his mother is okay now with her therapy, and he thinks it works out.
And there you are on your high horse. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@gorilladisco9108 ,she is now...but the other children also suffered abuse from the mother, even after the situation OP told us of. There should have been more help and an arrest because now his/her sibs also suffer from trauma caused my mom after this event. That all could have been prevented by an arrest and removal of ALL the kids from the home.
@@kat8753borderline personality disorder is BPD not bipolar disorder
@@gorilladisco9108wow. You sound like you have problems as well. Seek help
Last story: that happy ending with a new family was way more than that mother deserves.
No disease justifies what she did.
Story #1: She should have been removed and banned from the pool for throwing the kickboard and striking OP. That is assault.
Yup. What would Karen have done if OP got knocked out and started drowning?
@@lentrax2991Probably demand a free lifetime pass for her poor traumatized son who had to watch OP drown
Absolutely! How can people act this way?
Last Story: there is absolutely no excuse for op’s mother’s behaviour. She attacked her son by throwing objects at him and tried to get him arrested under false accusations. OP’s mother is a violent drunk and she should have been arrested. I mean she could’ve severely injured op or killed him by throwing objects at his head. OP should stop defending her.
Story 2: If I was in OP's situation, I'd first tell the grandparents what happened and then go see a lawyer and see if you could sue the parents for theft. Because that's basically what this is; the mother stole from OP for frivolous things.
The grandparents should have had that money locked in a Trust Fund accessible only to OP, in the first place. 😑☕
Also OP doesn't need forgive their parents for destroying their future, what's the point of loving your parents when they don't give the love back
the grandparents might be able to do something depending if any signed papers etc and if there is they can sue the parrents on ops behalf.
@@Josh_the_jester exactly
You do have to wonder why the grandparents thought it was a good idea to give a TON of cash to a couple of drunks with zero safety guards. 🙄
Story 2: Tbh idk why Op didnt go NC with her POS parents, like why stay in contact with these people…
Glad Op set the record straight and tbh i’m surprised the parents didn’t try to blame Op for “airing the family’s dirty laundry” .
Don't you mean her donors
S2. OP needs to ensure everyone knows what her mom did with the money meant for her. Her husband needs to be 100% behind her, wanting to go nc with her parents.
100% behind her choice, can suggest other options if he knows her well to help her
With the 2nd story I would’ve told the whole family EVERYTHING, mom’s reputation be damned
"I know they're my parents and I need to forgive them no matter what"
WTF? NO!! This physically hurt me to hear.
Story 2: it's just as they say... money can't buy class.
Absolutely tell the grandparents EVERYTHING. Spill every bean.
"My Moms not horrible she's just pathetic" No honey, she is horrible. She is horrible and abusive. Throwing things at you is vile and abusive. Trying to kill you with a statue is not "just pathetic". She needs to go to jail. I'm so so sorry you had to go through this.
I feel so bad for them…… their mom really didn’t get the punishment she should’ve so she never learned her lesson. The police failed them
I think "pathetic" is just the way he feels about her rather than what he actually knows to be true. Sometimes we just end up pitying our abusers since that's all that's left when love and hate are spent. It'll be a few more years before it fully sinks in. At least he and his siblings are in far better places both mentally and physically then where they were, and they've put distance from her without intent on closing it.
I third this
@@girl1213 As someone who grew up in an extremely abusive family I completely understand what you're saying. For me though, having other people straight up call my parents abusive to me helped me get out from the "they sucked but they werent monsters" mindset.
@@SedatedSadness I strongly disagree. It sounds like the mother got the help she needed, and is doing better. We don't need punishment, we need healthcare and reform. Too often we turn our thirst for justice into a thirst for blood. At that point we're stooping to a low level and we need to rise above. I completely understand that you are angry, and I do not know your background or your trauma. I would just caution that we not look at this as "she didn't learn because she wasn't punished" and instead see it for what it really was, a sick mother who needed help and finally got it, though much later than she should have.
I hope you re-examine your view on this story with kindness towards yourself and others. Please take care and I hope you have a peaceful life.
Story 2: The grandparents should have had that money locked in a Trust Fund accessible ONLY to OP. Yes, banks do that. And, I hate to say it, but OP will NEVER see one red cent of that money returned. Might as well have considered it a gift to them. Just like my brother. Everyone figured out that you NEVER gave my brother money, because you would never see any of it again, no matter how much you hounded him. I hate it for OP, but the only thing she can do, is consider this a "Lesson Learned", and study up on Trust Funds and the like, so the same thing won't happen to any of her grandbabies. Also, completely right, DF. She is not required, nor to be expected to, forgive her parents. They don't deserve it. ☕😑
Story 3: People should just put up "We're not responsible for your children" signs. Maybe THAT will reduce random buildings being used as free babysitting services.
Not to mention Karen ignoring calls or refusing to pick up the teens sooner, hey it was her choice to make everyone be a little in danger
Next time the movie theater should just not play games and call the police and let the cops deal with it
Worked at a pool/water park and one of my friends had two saves at the same time. Little more than toddler siblings. They just dropped right into the bottom of the deep end when our lifeguard on the nearby stand was away helping someone and wasn't able to watch (slow day and the kids area is quite a walk away). Anyway, friend lifeguard noticed this and covered the area for him.
We found that the mom was napping. Since that time, every ten minutes an automated notice would play over our speakers reminding parents to watch their kids and that the lifeguards aren't baby sitters
I'd be putting up a sign saying that any unaccompanied minors will have the police and CPS called on them.
"Children must be attended" is better and neutral.
I work in retail and we have to put signs up every holiday because we close early. Parents will dump their kids or tell them to hide and parents would take their time trying to find them. Signs now say we don't babysit, kids will be subjected to whatever new kid song was out [babyshark and frozen my favorite years] and police will be called for abandonment. And yes we are to check under tables every hrs in our own department to make sure kids aren't hiding.
Movie theater manager should have called the police about abandoned children. Let the cops sort out the irresponsible parents.
Those staff at the theater should have just called the police and had them escorted back to their house by them. Making it a memorable reason for her not to forget her kids as well as instilling some fear into them about their future if they keep it up.
Story 3: honestly there is a point when you should just call the cops. Child abandonment is not a joke and parents leaving their kids like this is how children get kidnapped.
Story 2: you actually /are/ entitled to the money. Your mother thinks /she/ is. And forgiveness is earned. They haven't earned a red cent.
Honestly, she should sue her parents for every single cent, as in the parents could (should) lose everything having to pay it all back.
@whoooozen it depends on how it was given, how old the person was at the time, and where in the world you are....likely unless something was written down, it would be hard to prove or sue for anything
Story 3 - It’s not security’s job to babysit kids. Next time pick up the phone and pick up your kids when they call you Karen!
I feel so bad for OP, and his brother and sister in the last story
It's just so sad that some kids grow up in those types of households 😢
The fact OP keeps saying "my mom isn't horrible" "she isn't physically violent" "I don't blame her" shows they are so used to it it doesn't even register as anormal. It's just sad. You shouldn't need a "routine" to talk to your parents without being attacked
Edit: throwing objects at your 14 yo child IS physical abuse what
Theater Story: Theater Management should have called the Police to Trespass the kids after they were thrown out of the Theater and when they kept hanging around after being thrown out, call the Police again to report Abandoned Minors...ESPECIALLY if they're still outside the Theater doors AT MIDNIGHT!!!
I would have...
regarding the kids at the movie theater - probably the best thing to do when the kids are outside at closing would have been to call the police and report the children as abandoned
Story 1: uh, who was the five year old again? The actual child, or the woman who acted like one?
Story 2: Forgiveness is not an obligation. You don't have to forgive them. Even if they're relatives, don't fall for the family excuse.
Story 3: it's not part of a worker's job to work as a babysitter, unless they are one. Parents like that are just asking for their children to get kidnapped or worse!
Story 4: 😢. That's all I'm saying. Glad to hear that your mom got some help.
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You do NOT have to forgive your parents. They're unforgivable, IMO.
Last story: Having worked with a sporadically medicated, someone with bipolar 1 for 4 years, OP and his sibling are strong and resilient. I am so glad they are no longer in that situation...so glad and relieved.
Story 2: I would never talk to my parents again, disown them, tell my Grandparents the truth, and let the cards fall where they may. Make your own family with people who really care about you, OP.
Story 3 - Were the kids teenagers or were they younger. If younger, the police should have been called about child abandonment. If they were teens, the police should have been called to eject them from the building as soon as they started moving from one movie to the next. Not sure what the charge would be, but that is some sort of theft of services.
Could get them on loitering. A misdemeanor, but it's still something to get police involved over.
Story 2: Tell everyone about what they did. You do NOT have to forgive them. You may be able to sue them or have them arrested.
the last story... oh my god. op. i know op is trying to be understanding, but that was abusive. she was an abusive, horrible person, and her illness is only an explanation. mental illness is not, and will never be an excuse for this kind of behaviour. i'm glad all the siblings are doing better
Story #2: Fluff, I really liked your comment about how "some parents will do anything for their kids, they want to give their children the world. Then there are others like this, who don't give a care in the world about their kids' future" I can sympathize with OP....I had the second kind of parents like she does. Good luck, OP. NC is a great idea.
Story #3: The security guard at the theater should have called the police so it was reported to CPS. Let the parents explain to the police why they hadn't picked their kids up or even answered their phones.
In the last story, I'm glad that op's family is doing good n that op's mom got help.
When OP said “she’s not bad, she’s just damaged” I understand, but that’s not a good reason when she’s basically using them as a human verbal punching bag. Really irritated me when he said.
@@poohbear4515 And because of that, OP grew up to be emphatic person. I chart that as a win.
8 dollars for lasagna? What kind of bargain bin food was that crap
I thought my headset just had static and it was meant to be 80... to know I heard right is wild.
Great Value brand from Walmart? And not the family size casserole.
@@hellfire66683 That's so expensive! How dare she pay that much to make lasagna! 🙄
First story OP should have had the cops called pressed charges for her throwing the kick board at him. Never NOT lay charges when you have been assaulted people.
You DO NOT have to forgive your parents no matter what. Some things are unforgivable.
Story 3: I used to work at a library, which also got used as a free community babysitter. Any kids left after closing were ushered outside. Manager would stay for up to 30 minutes. If still no parent by then, the police were called, and we let THEM deal with it.
I think it's utter bullshit that theaters and literally any other businesses can't just babysit and/or drive our kids home for us. What are we even paying them for? Parents should be able to drop their kids off with total strangers and go on a bender once in a while. Geez!
1st story. Hold her under water until the bubbles stop.
Nah. That would pollute the pool.
Uhm Sir? I know she was an ass and all, but drowning a whole ass person in front of their kid is like not as cool as your playing it to be
@@condorboss3339 I never thought about that.
@@condorboss3339 That pool water must not be touched by Karen hands.
It is really sad that some people refuse therapy or accept that something is wrong with them. I told my son's father for 20 years that something was wrong and he needed help... instead, in those 20+ years, he just abused those around him and caused more trouble than was necessary. Since he's a narcissist, he refuses to believe that all that trouble was because of him and his actions, it's because of everyone else. The only people he has apologized to are his children and current wife.... and per my son it was the "i'm sorry you made me do this to you" type apology. Bi-polar or not, even on meds, if the person is a narcissist they will be abusive.
Last story, no, that's not normal, that's very bad. Been there with both parents; dad was verbally, emotionally, and slightly physically abusive; mom gambled our house away, along with all my dad's money. You cannot forgive a narcissist.
S1: My definition of forgiveness is a bit different. You don't have to let their actions go, just the negativity towards them. You don't even have to accept them, just not hate them.
You forgive for yourself, but they do not deserve a second chance. You don't deserve more pain.
Final story: OP’s description of his placating behavior and his mother’s predatory behavior actually triggered flashbacks for me growing up with my alcoholic dad. Especially toward the end before he finally got help. I still feel sick to my stomach.
Ngl, OP in the last story sounds so beaten down. He put so much into defending his mother in the story, but frankly, I don’t care if she got better, she should still be in prison. The fact she has a new family to fuck with is a complete injustice.
Story 1. If a grown up ever assaults a child always call the cops and press charges. At the least that will give the person a criminal record so when she does it again, the Judge will see she has a history of assaulting children.
Story 2. OP's Parents are Dead! They died long ago and all she has now are Psychic vampires trying to suck all the joy and happiness from OP's body. OP should tell her grandparents exactly where their money went and tell them that she has felt unloved and unwanted by them all her life because of this. Then tell them that your Tormenting Vampire was full of booze and finally let slip what really happened. See what they say. Heck, they may even have known what was going on and actually be the people you thought they were all along. But it will surely be interesting to find out for certain.
Story 3. When parents abandon kids at your business for you to watch. Call The Police!!! Not your monkees! Not your circus! Not your problem!
Yeah, OP SHOULD have contacted the grandparents. And, no, I'm not looking for more money, just letting you know what happened to YOUR money.
I would have told my grandparents.
Story 1: "Mom, please stop unleashing your inner demons in public. It's embarrassing."
Movie theatre should call CPS or the cops on abandoned children
This happened to me when I used to shop myself this crazy Karen would not leave me alone and when I felt threatened she accused me of hitting her I called her bluff and said look at the CCTV and after reviewing The CCTV She Was Arrested for P
ublic Nusence & Intoxication and Shop Lifting
The theater story: When Karen started her screeching, Security should have just said, "Tell you what, ma'am, why don't we call Child Protective Services and ask them their thoughts on a mother dumping her very young kids at a theater, then never once checking up on them, never answering any calls, and never coming back to pick them up and leaving them to find their own way home? I'm sure they'd be quite interested to hear that story."
The last one's mother is insane.
I wonder what Karen would say to the guard at the movie theater if he told her that next time, he was going to call CPS.
Story 2 I hope OP tells the grandparents the truths about that money. His parents should have their thieving ways made public
I hate stories like story 2. Tell the freaking grandparents already. Ugh
Some people prefer to just suffer in silence. Or expect the situation to fix itself maybe. 🤦
Fina story: Is it wrong that I'm happy everyone is doing better? Good on the mom for working on herself.
My mother is Bipolar. And before she got medicated, she turned into a Jocasta towards me in my twenties, and also tried to infantilize me badly. It was incredibly creepy. She even tried to say she could have been my prom date. And on a rare occasion she still tries those old habits. And I always call her out. Most recently she tried to say I couldn't use the word "Hell", and tried to refer to it as H-E-Double-Hockystick like she was talking to a little kid. I'm 38. I told her off, and she's not tried it again yet.
Story 3: The theater should have called the cops for child abandonment.
That last story... The love this guy has for his mom... Even while explaining everything, you can clearly hear he wishes for a better life for her...
He will have a long life for honoring his mom like that even through everything she's done to him.
As long as he has clear boundaries with her though...
Story 4: No. Her bipolar disorder dosn't excuse physically abusing kids, she was still aware of what she was doing as she was doing it and could also form memories what she did (so knew what she did afterwards). It's one thing if it happened once but then she should have taken immediate action to prevent it from happening again. Like sending the kids somewhere else and seeking help, at least stop drinking around them if it only happens when she been drinking. She was lazy and willfully irresponsible.
I love the bit where the family members hoping to shame OP ended up learning the truth. "I never got any money." "Where'd it go?" "Ask Mom about her BMW." Mom will go ultra-ballistic when she finds out that she's going to get blamed now, because she's the perfect pretty princess, and NEVER has to deal with blame!
Story 1 - Lol, that was awesome. To the random teen who ‘nudged’ Karen into the pool, bravo 👏. Also staff or cops should’ve been called because Karen was throwing things at OP. Hopefully she was banned from the pool. I feel bad for her kid though
Story 3: I did babysitting while I was job hunting a while back, and it was quickly added to the "never again" list because not only was I stuck with 2 8 year olds til 3 in the morning, they stiffed me because the cheque they gave me bounced, and because I was a petty vindictive teen, I came back a sprayed "Bounced" on their garage door (water based)
Story 3: You're going to call the cops on us? Okay, do it, no let us do it; I'm sure the police would be interested in hearing about your child abandonment issue yesterday.
Frankly, instead of getting security to kick the troublesome kids out of the theater, cops should have been called because of abandonment.
Op needs to sue their parents for all the emotional distress and child care that they were negligent towards her as well as spending her inheritance that she was going to get and make it headline news so that they get grilled big time. And yes I would be emotional through the entire thing saying nobody loves me They freaking ruin my life to make it even worse for them.
I'm a nurse and, like many in the healthcare profession, I work 12+ hour nightshifts. Whenever I start to feel my body wanting to shut down from literally violating my own circadian rhythm, I just watch a couple of your videos and the antics of Karens gets me so irritated, it's like slamming an energy drink and I'm good for the rest of my shift. Thanks Darkfluff!
My first mother in law was the same as the mom in the last story. She scared the dickens out of us! She went after me with her claws and threw rocks at our house with our kids sitting under the window. She was stopped for DWI and got out of it with a high priced lawyer. She did that sort of thing for years. One day she unalived herself and I couldn't muster up any sadness over it. She was a terror! She probably also had bipolar disorder, but she refused to do anything about it. The rest of us got therapy. 😢🙄🤷
That last one made me think of the things my grandmother used to do to my mother. My mom is the eldest and she did everything she could to protect her sisters from the yelling, the abuse and everything. My mom basically raised her sisters. They both feel that way, even said so in their speeches at mom's wedding. my mom isn't perfect, she's a product of a broken, messed up family, but she's a hell of a lot better than she could have turned out to be. She fought to break the cycle of trauma, as did my dad. They both refused to allow generations of pain and abusive and neglect to effect how they raised me and my siblings.
Now all I can hope is that my best friend gets out of her living situation. She has a bipolar father who isn't on medications and doesn't receive any sort of treatment for it. She also has religious trauma on top of it (they're from Utah if you catch my drift...), I keep telling her that she will get away and will be able to heal, she just has to continue being the strong warrior I know her to be.
Story two: get a laywer!
The Karen shover is our new spirit animal....
Story 3. Call CPS if they are under age. Story 4. I think it is wonderful that all of you have lived, survived and progressed in a positive way. Hardship is meant to teach us to overcome and grow, sounds like you have all done that Well done.
Story 4. Wow. How much this one reminds me of my childhood. “Stand still, so I can hit you”. Don’t know how many times I heard that!
For story 2, if i was now financially stable...id call up the grandparents and thank them for including me, amd ask they still be in the lives of my children....explaining i dont want any money and im good now, but since my parents will never see the kids great grandparents from my side would be wonderful to include.....doesnt have to be about money, but as horrible as your mother was they didnt hold it agaisnt you...and it gives you grandparents to visit for your kids so they arent hampered on that.
The story with the kids at the movie theater made me remember something about my own experiences. I had the OPPOSITE happen. Hung out with a friend whose mother would NEVER show up on time. We called her, asked her to come and get us both. The movie theater was midway between MY house and my friend's. We had to wait outside because friend's mom took so long to show that the theater closed. We were terrified so I called my mom to come get us and mom. was. LIVID. She showed up, mad as hell that friend's mom hadn't shown up and she got there WAY before friend's mom did. So I get into the car and ask mom if she would mind waiting for friend's mom, and mom (who would normally allow it) let friend sit in the back of the car. Her mom didn't show up for another 45 minutes....for reference we were 20 minutes away and we had called HER mom an hour before we called mine.
Wealthy grandparents didn't know how to set up trust funds only accessible to their grandchildren at the appropriate age and situation where they can use it?
Story 4:
Just because your mom is bipolar doesn't excuse her being abusive.
She needs therapy and so do her kids. Because this crap is not okay
Second story,
I’d sue my mum for misappropriation of funds that were supposed to be mine and tell my grand parents about what happened to the money, get a restraining order on my parents and go no contact. Get ‘mummy dearest’ to sell all of designer bags and her house to give the money back that she stole..
2nd story. One thing about paying for college or expenses. Don't give it to someone, pay the bill up front to the college or electric company or landlord. Skip the middleman.
Last story: Situations like that are ticking time bombs. It'll escalate and escalate until incidents like this happen. Always get them help as soon as you are able. Don't wait for an attempt on your life.
The younger brother in the title story, something of an unsung hero. "He needs HELP, not QUESTIONS!"
Why didn’t the movie theater call CPS?
story 2, tell the whole family what the parents did! and you never have to forgive them
At the movie theater, there needs to be a sign posted on every entrance, and or exit. Not responsible for your children, police will be called if children are left unattended under the age of say 17.
Yanks don't read signs; and especially not Karens.
Pool story: So what was the lifeguard doing while Karen was yelling and throwing things at you? Should have tossed her from the pool.
Parents spent wedding gift money story: TBH, tell your grandparents and other relatives what happened when they arrive at the courthouse for your wedding. I wouldn't bother inviting your parents or telling them the date. Tell your grandparents you don't expect them to replace the money, only that they should know what your parents did with it.
UPDATE: Well at least everyone knows the truth now. As for contact, if it were me, it might be reduced to a text on birthdays and holidays. About the only good thing is that OP's mother didn't take out loans or credit cards in her name and I'd be watching my credit report like a hawk eyeing dinner.
Movie theater story: At some point you have to call the police for trespassing or child abandonment or whatever works.
Last story: I'm glad everyone is okay and everyone got the help they needed.
Break time is fluff time Happy Friday everyone
I'm just left both completely and utterly speechless and disgusted by these stories, especially the 2nd story.
It's stuff like this that makes me believe that they are some people out here in the world that shouldn't be parents or deserve to have children.
Plus, I'm really glad that OP in the 4th story is doing okay now alongside his mother and siblings.
Story 3: When I was 9 my friend invited me to go to the movies with her. When we arrived, her mother gave us some money and left. We found out that we were late to the most recent showing and the next one wasn't for an hour. So, we just hung out in the lobby until it was time for the movie. Four of us. Two 9-year-olds and her 2 younger sisters probably about 6 and 7 or 8. This is wild to me now. I don't think my mother would have let me go if she had known we'd be unsupervised.
story 2, no I would cut ties with my parents and also sue them for the money i was supposed to recieve for my college, house down payment, and other such things. and explain to my grandparents what has happened and tell them why I may have treated them badly in the past and apologize.
That last story hit hard. My mom was the same way. We had to stop her many times from killing herself. We were all so young. My mom was worse tho. She was killed by a stupid lady. I do miss her but I'm happy I can sleep now
Oh man I wasn’t sure how they were going to explain that money didn’t go to the OP. Until the mentioned the BMW. What an epic way to get them back.
Is there a way for story 2 OP to sue their sorry excuse for a mother 🤔🥃
Story 3: "Why did you let my kids walk home in the dark?"
Because they have a competent mother who picked them up... right? Your not such an incompetent mother that you made them walk home at midnight... right?
11:40 Sounds like this Irresponsible Mother likes having her kids Kidnapped, IMO 🙄😂😂😂. How dare she come to threaten Employees for her Neglect over the Children
Story 3: I personally think if a parent abandons the child at the theater, CPS should be called
Story 2 the Rich grandparents should gift her with the money taken. ITS THEIR DAUGHTER THAT DID THIS!
Additional comment to part 4 - GOP says I would never justify her actions and that's not what I'm trying to do right now and I'm not trying to down everything that they are saying is trying to justify the mother's actions and making excuses for her and basically just down playing the whole damn thing!!
Also, I have bipolar disorder and it doesn't make me a psychopath who would literally try to assault my children with statues after drinking two boxes of effing wine
On the story about the kids in the movie theater, I would have called the cops and gave them and told them what happened and let them dealt with it.
STORY #4-... OH MY GOD I FEEL SO SORRY FOR THIS OP DO YOU HEAR THE EXCUSES SHE KEEPS MAKING FOR HER MOTHER? DO YOU KNOW HOW GAS LIT AND COMPLETELY INDOCTRINATED THIS GIRL IS THINKING THAT A LOT OF THIS BEHAVIOR IS JUST BECAUSE HER MOM IS DAMAGED AND IT'S OKAY AS LONG AS YOU DO CERTAIN THINGS IT WON'T GET BAD BLAH BLAH BLAH? LIKE THE SHEER FACT THAT SHE HAS TO COME UP WITH EXCUSES AND HAS TO TRY TO SHIELD HER YOUNGER SIBLINGS FROM CERTAIN THINGS AND CAN TELL WHEN HER MOM'S GOING TO GO OFF ON A BENDER AND "SHE FINISHED HER SECOND BOX OF WINE"...🤦🏻♂️...🙈🙉🙊.
I mean I knew the story was going to be a doozy when the Opie started by saying my mom wanted to rebel against my parents so it's 17 years old she went out and got herself pregnant by a homeless person... Which is kind of okay because at least he wasn't an addict or anything but he did have mental health issues....LIKE WTF? , & JESUS TAP DANCING CHRIST!! SHE WAS MAKING EXCUSES FOR HER MOTHER'S BEHAVIOR EVEN ABOUT THAT!
THIS WHOLE STORY JUST SHOWS CYCLES OF ABUSE AND MENTAL TRAUMA AND HOW A LOT OF PEOPLE JUST ADAPT TO IT AND IGNORE IT OR MAKE EXCUSES FOR IT RATHER THAN ACTUALLY TRYING TO GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM OR TRYING TO ACTUALLY HELP THE PERSON BY GETTING THEM HELP EVEN IF THEY DON'T WANT IT!
DON'T GET ME WRONG HOWEVER AS YOU REALLY CANNOT HELP SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T WANT TO HELP THEMSELVES AND I WILL BE DAMNED IF I'M GOING TO DO MORE WORK ON SOMEONE'S LIFE THEN THEY'RE WILLING TO PUT INTO THEIR OWN LIFE.... WHAT SUCKS IS VOP FELT OBLIGATED AND I WOULD HAVE TWO WITH YOUNGER SIBLINGS, THAT SHE COULDN'T EVEN LEAVE WHEN SHE TURNED 18 LIKE BECAUSE SHE WOULD BE LEAVING BEHIND YOUNGER SIBLINGS TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS BS SO BASICALLY SHE HAD TO BE A PARENT TO THESE TWO KIDS AND WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN ABLE TO LEAVE UNTIL HER YOUNGER SISTER WAS GETTING READY TO LEAVE THE HOUSE...AND BY THIS TIME SHE'S IN AN EARLY 30S AND SHE'S HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS DUMPSTER FIRE TRAIN WRECK OF A HUMAN BEING FOR THAT LONG AND I GUARANTEE SHE WOULD HAVE NO RELATIONSHIPS HARDLY ANY FRIENDS LIKE A JOB MAYBE BUT NO CAREER NO SCHOOLING LIKE JUST UTTER DESTRUCTION AND MAYBE THAT'S WHEN SHE WOULD START DRINKING AND THE CYCLE WOULD CONTINUE.... SITUATIONS LIKE THIS LEAVE HUGE STARS MENTALLY ON PEOPLE AND THEY DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND IT LIKE ONCE SHE REALIZES ALL THE SHIT SHE BEEN THROUGH HELL DOING DRUGS AND DRINKING IS A REAL GOOD WAY TO BURY ALL THAT SHIT... NOT SAYING SHE IS GOING TO DO THAT BUT I'M JUST SAYING IT'S REALLY HARD TO BREAK THOSE CYCLES OF ABUSE AND I JUST HOPE THAT THE OP STAYS THE PATH AND HER DUMPSTER FIRE MOTHER GETS HELP
Last story: Brings back painful memories. I'm glad op is doing well.
You don't have to forgive anyone, not even relatives.
Second story where the parents squandered all the money from OP's grandparents. I'd inform the IRS about the total stolen and turn them in as they almost certainly did not report what must have been a massive sum as income. Tax fraud was good enough to put away Capone so should do nicely for theiving parents.