I met a compulsive complainer and it just completely turned me off. I thought wow what is he gonna do when things get sour? Complain? No thank you. I need my man strong and ready to solve
I feel like a lot of men today (in the US, anyway) don't know HOW to be masculine. They lack the confidence. My ex put on the front like he was strong and masculine when we first met, but when problems arose, he showed his true cowardly nature. I learned he was basically raised by his (lovely) mother, and picked up ALL the feminine traits you mention in this video: passive aggressive, complain, always asked ME what we should do, asked ME for help, etc...unfortunately, it put me in my masculine energy, bc SOMEONE had to be the "man"! And I hated every minute of it.
I resonate with this deeply, it also made me sick dating boys (I’m calling them boys because they don’t deserve to be called men!) who didn’t know how to be a man, who made me operate in my masculine energy for THEIR lack of self-actualization. No leadership, no protecting, no initiative. It was so “icky” as Lisa put it and unnerving. They weren’t man enough to care for the woman or even operate in their designated role. I feel like America is in a crisis with this one!
How is it reasonable that women decide what masculinity is rather than men themselves? Whenever women describe what masculinity means, it usually sounds like a man servant.
I understand completely. To build healthy masculine energy, men need good role models and sometimes it is not the case unfortunately. Sometimes you can make him feel more masculine with your own feminine energy. But in other cases if he is really passive, and does not let you be feminine, it is better to move on.
My fiance is a very masculine man but to my surprise, he is so gentle and kind hearted. He always pulls the chair for me when we dine out, I never paid for anything, he doesn't let me do it. Always encourages me to progress in my career ❤. When we take a walk together, he always puts me on the safe side and protects me as if I'm a school kid 😂 . I feel so safe when he's around. I often cook for him and I know that my food tastes pretty good but his reaction is so much extra 😂 , he acts as if he's tasting the food of a MasterChef 😂😂😂. I'm so lucky that he's in my life 🧿🧿
I have a masculine husband. Just the other day I ran out of the bathroom because there was a spider and he said look babe as he killed it. He wanted to show me that he could protect me 😂😂😭💖 I’ve never touched a bill with him, opened my car door as he gets upset if I do it + he allows me to be a stay at home wife. This man takes out the trash and does the dishes and always thanks me when I do them. He wears his wedding ring like a crown 👑 and always talks about his wife “me” in front of his friends/family. He gave me flowers a day after his birthday even though I didn’t gift him anything like he is so empathetic and thoughtful 😭😭💖 I went through trash to find my gold and to learn my boundaries/standards so don’t beat yourself up if you’ve dated femininè men.
Oh girlie!! That purple on you is STUNNING ❤ Lisa I just want to say thank you- you are the person who taught me not to see other women as competition, but that we can build each other up. I love that you teach that ❤
Today (after watching this video) I let my bf know I enjoy his strong male energy, him being a generous provider and all his lovely gifts and keeping me safe. He totally loved hearing that and went for it. He ate it up like pasta. Thank you Lisa Glamour!
I once met one man who was complaining about feminine women who wore dresses, skirts and high heels; he found that so repulsive and ridiculous and he actually liked how I was dressed (I was so damaged and in my wounded femininity and so pick me back then) I agreed with him a never dressed like that even if I wanted during the time I went out with him. Looking back, he was only a red flag and I was so easy to manipulate and so naive.
This video might as well be under my ex's name. I had called him before to pick me up because he wanted to see me but I was super sick and couldn't drive and he just said "cowboy up" This was only 1 instance among many more. But my current man, put me back into my feminine energy and im so grateful. I am definitely treated like a queen.
The reason why some of us women are so in our masculine energy is not just our demanding careers and working with men but lots of men are not masculine enough to bring out my feminine energy
I can’t suffer men that complain, especially because I don’t complain. My father never complained as well, so I am not able to tolerate. I don’t do 50/50….. never 😊.
Thank you for this! Going through a divorce and realized I was married to a feminine man. His mom is more masculine and has a lot of control over the house and I’m not willing to be that woman. He would rarely plan dates, or make decisions on where to go if we did go out.
Thank you so much for this clarity! I just left a short term relationship and felt that “ick” from this guy who is so effeminate. I felt lost almost like his feminine energy was overtaking mine. So unattractive and not sexy. 😢 I was beating myself up these past few days thinking I was a sociopath because he’s such a nice man. I just can’t handle men like this. 😢 Thank you for clearing up things.
I am quite a feminine women from India yet when I tried dating I only came across men who were 50/50 and looking for casual relationship both of which repulsed me. So I stopped dating altogether, I thought it was a me problem but after coming across quite a few successful ambitious pretty single woman who shared they had the same experience as me, I come to conclusion finding a masculine provider in my city is like hitting the lottery 😅
I disagree I think you don’t have the tools to attract and obtain a provider man. You have to be straightforward when it comes to your standards and boundaries just as they are. The only reason they say 50/50 and casual is because they are used to other women giving that to them easily. And of course it never works out. Be the difference and a challenge by not accepting that.
Say “I’m used to being treated (this way) by the men in my family so I wouldn’t want to waste your time if this is not you” or “ I’m used to men stepping up financially allowing me to be the woman that he desires” or “I’m a lady I’m not into that. I want you to earn it” this puts a mascûline battery in their back that they have to step up or step aside for a true gentleman. I almost missed my husband because of his age. I said “I typically date older men as I am very high maintenance” I thought he was too young but he is the most generous man I’ve ever met. He said let me prove it to you. I have 3 wedding rings from him proposing. With that being said if doesn’t accept your standards, walk away. Make sure you are wearing makeup, dressing nicely, and having a strong feminine presence. Let them be afraid to lose you.
Say “I’m used to be treated (this way) by the mèn in my family so I wouldn’t want to waste your time if this is not you” or “ I’m used to gentlemen stepping up finàncially allowing me to be the woman that he dèsires” and “I’m a lady, I’m not into casual. I’m here to be a stay at home wife. I want you to earn it, I’m sure that you’re up for the challenge 😉I’m definitely worth it” If he asks you how refer back to 2nd example.
My man is both in his feminine and masculine 😅. He complains about the world, but he loves to step up and do things for me. He is concerned about money, but he never asks me to pay for dinner. He cooks for me all the time, and makes sure I’m well taken care of. Fully supports all my career goals reminding me of my value. It’s a little confusing to me haha - overall he is masculine, but he also has these other feminine traits.
Yes he sounds femininè. A few tips would be to say “I’m sure you’ll figure it out hunny” when he complains to you or say “I’m not sure what to say” so that you’re not his problem solver and can activate his masculinity. Stop talking to him about your career and instead your hobbies. Like baking, shopping or things that make you happy. Start asking him to pay for things like “will you take care of this for me?” See what he says. Cooking is nice but it’s beneficial to him as well as he has to eat too. See if he will do things without expecting anything in return.
Your value? You mean advertising your face to the world instead of giving undivided attention to your husband? Him concerned about money and you not stepping up? Where’s the value again?🤦
I'm not going to lie. Feminine men freak me out! I don't feel safe, I feel like he always wants me to lead, and I don't like that. Being overly needy and emotional is a huge turn-off! Yes, I can provide for myself, but he should be thinking about how he can provide, even if it's only a symbolic role. Passivity disgusts me, he does not have to defer to me all the time! Make an executive decision most of the time. Be logical more than emotional. I need your logic. You need my emotions. We balance each other out!
There was a man on TikTok that wanted women to chase him he said in one of those vids that he wants to talk about your salary that’s such a turn off you had a few women making excuses for him that gave me the ick so I ended up blocking him it ended up just turning me off completely.
Thank you for this information, it has been the confirmation that I needed to accept and release my ex. I was always so confused by his mixed messages, but really it was because he must be looking for another man.
Once we've gone thru the ringer, it's easier to know what we don't want. But that doesn't mean we will get it. There really are no men in my area who even ask me out, even tho a ton of them flirt with me.
As a man who just randomly saw this video, I completely agree with everything you’ve said here. The one amendment that I would add is that men today who do not exhibit masculine energy may not be working entirely from feminine energy but rather a state of inner confusion. Men today often don’t know if a woman is going to get offended if he holds a door for her, helps her with her coat or holds her chair at the dining table. When I was a boy, I was taught how to do all of these things by one of my grandmothers, who was a traditional lady. To this day, I enjoy doing these things and it feels right to do them. Today I find it difficult to tell when it will be welcomed and when it won’t however. Academic Feminism has even coined a new term, ‘benevolent sexism’ for this very thing. It can leave men wishing that all people who desire a world with traditional behaviors could just go off somewhere and start a new society. This was a very interesting talk for me because it shows that there still are women who enjoy being traditionally feminine and want traditionally masculine men. Hopefully this will grow and eventually reclaim the wreckage of the world and rebuild from there. Many thanks!
I agree. Its so good to have a man talking about this topics. I'm a woman and I have male friends that struggle with the same things. I, in turn, like to have a man holding the door, etc. etc. Its... I don't know... I think its so reassuring to have basic etiquete defined you know? This way, we can give respect to others who interact with us. But i'm not young (i'm 41!), so maybe the modern day feminism doesn't apply?
Over 99% of women want a provider and protector. The issue is, at least where I live, such men either don't exist or they have impossible beauty standards that I just can't meet.
@@thelostpony6678 That’s interesting because a lot of men today complain that women have outrageous standards for men. A lot of this comes from online dating sites and apps. Women will joke on social media about men needing to have all of ‘The Sixes’ (at least six-feet tall, six-figure income, six-pack abs and at least six inches below the waist). The internet has made everyone start seeing one another as commodities, which is sad.
I agree, I actually mentioned in the video that yes, a lot of men want to be masculine but if a woman does not let him do it, or does not show appreciation for his masculine energy, then it is not going to work. I understand that a lot of men are confused nowadays, and I have empathy for them. I loved your story with your grandmother and I absolutely love to hear masculine men say that they love to be gentlemen and take care of their loved ones 😇 Thank you for your comment, it will reassure a lot of women that high quality masculine men are out there 🙏
To me this is like saying “because dating sûcks, I will never date again” You should feel confident in getting offended if a womàn acts repûlsive if you are being a gentleman and opening up the door etc. That means that she is màsculine and not used to healthy men which means she will be unhealthy for you in the long run. The same thing with ladies like me. if a màn is repûlsed that we feel uncomfortable being with a màn that döesn’t protect, próvide, and respect us then he isn’t the one. The more no’s you hear the more closer you are to getting your yes. When I met my husband he checked off every box and before him I left many mèn at the table. The honest truth is that you will never fully know what another person is going to do but as long as you trust yourself to walk away with your self respect, good intentions, and morals when you see these behaviors from them then the worst thing that can happen is that it’s not a match and that’s okay as you can start looking for your dream girl.
This video actually identified feminine/passive men very accurately, however the video and many comments seemed to be saying that being feminine/passive/demanding is bad and wrong or disgusting as a man, but ok and normal for women. Everyone has the right to choose what kind of partner they want, and it's ok to dislike dating feminine men as a woman, but a man has the right to be feminine JUST LIKE a woman can be masculine and shouldn't be shamed/belittled/despised for doing so.
I really love my husband and he is masculine leaning but the only thing is that he is in his "building phase" and I did notice that he does have that 50/50 mentality. He does want to provide and he is trying to pursue his dream career but he so often asks for my help. In this case, his idea of my support is in the form of a second income, which would be me working. This makes me feel like I have to help him to achieve his dream when it is his dream and feel like he is putting the burden on me, like our whole future lies in my hands and if I don't get a job, we won't have a future. I DO support him in his dreams and career but also know that men are natural born leaders and providers but I wished I could trust that my husband has things taken care of. We're in a season where we're wanting to start a family and when I'm working, I tend to lean away away from my feminine side and more to my masculine. This is solely the main reason why I don't want to get a job because I don't want to be living in my masculine and focus on nurturing being a mom. This is something I have a hard time explaining to my husband for him to understand.
Don't do it. If you do, you will lose everything. You will become the masculine in the relationship and he will betray you, and when he gets promoted, he will betray you and consider you like his mother. The solution is that you act as if you are spoiled and unable to do some tasks so that he does not think that you are strong and capable. In order to help you, you must make him distrust your leadership. Pretend that you make many mistakes.
Damn this describes my relationship perfectly like everything. Just we're not married yet. And yes he wants 50/50 too He has already told me that In marriage a woman takes on the role of a mother and the man the father like WTF. I already called off the relationship but he's trying to be emotional to make me come back. But after watching Lisa's video and reading your comments I'm not going back. WEAK MEN CREATE HARD TIMES
If you were in his position wouldn't he help you? If he would then you also should help him and having a job won't make you "less feminine" or "muscline woman" actually I see that you're a good wife who helps her husband in the times he needs (but only if he's a good husband not abusive!) Especially now money is hard not like in the 1900s , and him needing help won't make him "feminine"....would you be happy if he called you muscline cause you have a job or not having the feminine standards shit? No! So think of it this way but only if he would help you if you need help
I'm a walking pink rose (very warm, feminine, elegant, sweet-smelling etc.) and literally can't get a man to buy me even a 2$ cookie. It's definitely an epidemic, and I would *really* like to know where exactly do gentlemen still exist.
@manfaaaa If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard that tired cliche from strangers on the internet, I could literally afford a Chanel bag. Every single one of my girlfriends would describe me as the definition of femininity and sweetness, and I'm very far from being the only woman who's struggling with finding even one generous man.
@@thelostpony6678Hi there! Maybe I can help ☺️ I’m currently living in Scandinavia (infamous for 50/50) and I haven’t paid at dates except one (he is a student so I was prepared for that, still he’s out of my rotation). With the other men that have stable jobs what has helped me the most is remaining still and patient. They message first, initiate and plan the dates and when it’s time to pay I don’t move. Only go out with the ones that show the most enthusiasm and excitement about you and they will want to impress you so you won’t have to worry about paying. It’s usually the nonchalant ones or the ones who aren’t that interested that will ask for contributions.
We're up against three generations of men who were raised without fathers and have no idea how to be masculine. And then unfortunately some of these men turn to people like Andrew Tate to learn how to be masculine and end up looking at women like they're only good for housework, making babies and shtooking. It's dismal. Instead of passport bros, maybe it should be passport sisters where American women go overseas to find masculine men in places like Eastern European, Russia, Ukraine, etc.
Oh! And when you’re getting to know them ask them how they were raised in terms of their parents’ relationship. You can then say you were raised traditionally (even if you weren’t) and if they start to go on about how their mother was strong and worked 100 jobs, or they go into a rant then steer clear of them. I hope this helps 💕
Married a feminine man who married me only when i got pregnant with our daughter. Expects me to pay 50/50 in all (I underearn him a bit), he nags me to get more degrees (I already have 2) and expected me to accept my boss physically yelling at me and making violent gestures at me to intimidate me just so I would not lose my paycheck.
get a better job, stop being a bum and a leach to society, stop making excuses for your shortcomings, he is 100% right, stop being a freeloader, pull yourself by the bootstrap and pay your share
I'm 22M and fem AF. I wouldn't _advise_ anyone get married/financially dependent, and 50/50 is a person to person thing. But expecting you to get MORE degrees instead of himself is insane. And I can't expect him to gun down the boss but expecting you to take the disrespect is even crazier. I think character means more than mannerisms. There's some shtty macho men out there.
Your videos are really eye openers. Videos of worst dates might be funny and helpful. Also on an other subject that we rarely find, with summer coming and pretty dresses, it would be nice to have advice on lingerie to wear that is elegant and invisible. Thank you so much for your work 🙏💐🥰
Keep your options open, date outside your race and date older men that can provide financially. If you do research Asiàn and White mèn are the top earners. If a man is asking you to go 50/50 it’s mostly because he doesn’t have the 💰 and because he is selfish. You want a generous man that respects and protects you.
I had the experience when I had an accident and can't walk for 1 month. He told me that I was a strong woman I can take care of myself. 😢 after I felt not right with that action and I left that man [ not protector of doer]. Other hand i realise over my energy what was attracting. You are ❤
I'm a feminine woman with a big masculine energy with a passive man. It's ok for me because I love to lead but I'm encouraging him to gain more and more more masculine energy because, like you said, if there is any issue and I'm not able to help, I want him to step in and lead, so I can fully trust him. You're gorgeous and I like your advices
This proves that even for masculine women, they resent passivity in men. I wish we could stop being so politically correct and just give everyone the training needed. We as feminine women are so tired of these passive men and the request to switch polarities. Absolutely not.
@@Anonymous-je5wv Ah right because women totally weren't into the hair metal rockstars or any boytoy with a feminine model face. Bi women and lesbians dont exist? There's plenty of masculine men waiting to use you and a whoooole bunch of "feminine" men both in appearance or behavior that treat themselves better than you can treat them. Be the better option and stop waiting for someone to build You. A masculine mindset from a very feminine man.
I've always been feminine, but I've been learning how to enhance it. As I learn and apply, I've noticed that the guy I've been with has been giving me the 'ick'. It really did seem very sudden, and I've been unsure of 'why'. But after watching this video. I realized that he checks...every...box!!🤭 I'm still not sure if he was like this the whole time, then switched up on me... or if I simply ignored the red flags. Thank you so much for sharing💞
I know this is late. But this is a great video. In my case, my mother was always the one who stepped up to be mom and dad so I never had an example in real life of a strong masculine role model to follow. She is the smart one, skilled, knowledgeable and taught me a lot of things and I love her deeply. My dad was in the picture but we barely had any interaction and he was like a stranger. There are not a lot of role models in my space that are men. Most are from books I read or movies I watch. I definitely understand your points of view.
I had dated a femenine man and Dear lord . ..... They project insecurities and mine almost destroyed my goals were over and the weight was removed also expected me to be his mom,therapist etc.,..totally not worth being with
I agree with everything you have said, but I didn't realize how obvious it is until you put it so plainly. Yes, it is repulsive when they display this behavior.
Husband is more masculine in front of other women. Not just any women, attractive women. He will do more for an attractive woman than a woman who he doesn’t feel is attractive. Before I used to be bothered by it. Now I realize it’s only because he isn’t with them 24/7. He does it for praise and it’s not genuine. I stopped focusing on him and started focusing on myself.
My ex husband spot on! His biggest disadvantage is his mother treating him like a princess instead of raising a man. On top of that he is on an autism spectrum. It’s disgusting how his mother is raising him, not as a gentleman, not as a provider, not to care for his woman, run away from responsibility …. Yuck!!!!!!
Thank you for this video. I seem to get a lot of feminine men and it's such a huge turn-off for me. I remember I was walking with my bf at the time and he always had me walking a step or so in front of him while we were going on walks. It really bothered me that I was always leading the walks. So I purposely slowed down so he would take the lead. When I slowed down, he also slowed down and remained behind me. It was very disturbing. He never paid for our dates, actually I ended up paying for everything and bringing him flowers. I thought that he would treat me better once I showed him a good example. Well he never learned from that. And I would drive an hour away (1 way) 2-3x a week just to see him and he never made the trip to see me. It's amazing how much my standards have gone up from 3 years ago.
Ladies, trust me on this: I used to know a man who had barely any money (we were teens in school) who would always buy me whatever he could afford (tea, food, etc.). If a man is asking you for 50/50, run. Masculine men exist! Also, I laughed out loud at the "Bob the builder comment"😂
Lisa when I tell you I was on this dating app and he literally said “I have a lot of girls who want me if you don’t” and I was like “okay have fun and happy thanksgiving”. Lol if you did sweetie you wouldn’t be on here.
Realizing that some of these characteristics describe my dad and maybe that's why I've been attracting that type of man: simply because it's familiar....
You are adorable Lisa! 💗🤗 Thank you because you are helping me so much! I've been such a tomboy all my life. I love learning how to be in my feminine energy from you. You're very beautiful, classy & elegant, so I feel I'm learning from the right lady on how to be more of a lady! 💜
Yes I dated a guy here, he was the most feminine man I’ve been with. Wanted me to pay for my own food, and always wanted me to fill his tasks like keeping us safe in public as an expample. Ugh🙄
I'm a self-sufficient woman who just likes to pursue her goals and dreams. I feel more comfortable in the role of active doer than passive receiver. Apparently I radiate so much masculine energy, needless to say a swarm of feminine baby boys is following me, wanting me to manage their shit too. It's so exhausting.
Also Men masculine doesnt always mean tough guy. He can be masculine and still have emotions it's just being in your wise mind. Men can cry that doesnt make him feminine that makes him human.
How about we stop obsessing over requiring any gender to have certain traits? It's about weird as this video or the patriarchal people in this comment section. It's to no wonder conservatives reinforce their values when they watch videos like this all day.
This is excellent. It was probably the furthest thing on my mind. I'm just going about my day, but I had to stop, and say I see you. You're phenomenal.... 💜
I am lost if I want to be with my partner or not because he is feminine in SOME ways but super masculine in others. The problem is ME. I’m too in my masculine because I don’t know what I want to do career wise and am in scarcity so I have to figure myself out.. he provides what he can to help me even though I broke up with him. He cares so much and wants to be my hero. He hasn’t given up on us and knows I’m just stressed. But I got the ick so much in our relationship because of the feminine traits I saw that were a response to my masculine. I guess I should just forgive myself and him and become feminine and I’m sure he will be good. I just don’t know how to be feminine and make my own money as an entrepreneur.
A lot of men are in their feminine energy in America because a lot of females i've noiced here in the USA are trying to do everything.. they want to be the boss babe, and have all these high standards that are highly unattainable. Men want to provide and protect, but if the woman is hard and more masculine energy like she's like i have my own place, my own business, my own job, i bring everything to the table then what is the man going to provide. I once heard Men date out of their league but women will date their caliber and above, and these days Men are not meeting those standards anymore. It was normal back in the day for the man to work and provide and yes maybe the woman had a job or stay at home wife, but now women can make just as much as a man does, and so i feel like there's a disconnect, because when a Man doesn't know what to bring to the table, they go into their feminine energy,.. especially if the female is in her masculine energy. I just get annoyed with these girls on social media that i see that are like "I dont want a man to open doors for me" or to "pay for my dinner" then it's like what are they supposed to do, Men like action.
I'm the type of girl who don't want a man to open her door or pay for me...I want a good paying job and that doesn't make a woman less "feminine" and don't put excuses for American men that "a woman has money and a job now what can I do am I woman??" Plz stop this misogyny, women back then were abused every possible way, you wanna be abused ??
If a man is "initiating contact", but is not actually saying anything (i.e., sending a reaction to your IG story or sending a reel), what does this mean? I then end up asking him questions to have a conversation since he doesn't start one. He also rarely asks me about what is going on in my life. He knows I am in school and working and he knows my hobbies and interests, but rarely asks me about them or how they are going. We end up talking about surface level things, or I have to talk about his interests to have a conversation. But he also tells me that he is really into me, he wants only me, and in fact a few times he has expressed love for me. He is just using me for the attention, right?
@@sitiranisa5581 Yes we stopped talking a few months ago after he was becoming more distant. Turns out he wanted someone else actually, but I had to find that on my own as he never told me. Coward.
🤓I am born in Germany,my background is Persian (Iran),I need to say I’ve been over all Europe and I’ve met different people of many ethnic backgrounds and these kind of men who are very masculine and “real man” are an endangered species😂I maybe met in my 36 years 1-2 men who are like this. The rest of it had feminine traits. One thing which is interesting was the difference between men from countries like Greece, Italy, Spain they were more the gentleman taking care of the woman type but those from Germany, Netherlands, Belgium were the 50:50 how much you make or as a date let’s Netflix and chill type. And the funny thing is even those who are Persian like me but born in Germany they tend to be more like these feminine type of man than the men I met or I’ve seen in Iran. So I guess it depends on where you live how those men grew up in what kind of a place. Because I tend to be that feminine type of woman but what I often hear with the men I met is that iam not like all the other women they ever met and that “iam difficult”. This is funny to hear that when a woman has high standards and is willing to walk away, it’s called that you’re difficult. I think it’s a big problem of society as well women are more and more like men and they don’t need them anymore that’s why everything is going down to the wrong way.
Lisa! I agree with most of your opinions but sometimes it is such too much! Keep in mind, that a real man like to be generous with is loved one but it is his role as well to define the limits. Although, a real man will appreciate deeply a feminine woman, her support in the couple should more than just looking good in a dress and speaking well.
Im starting to think maybe my boyfriend is kinda feminine... he displays a lot of masculinity but one thing that ticks me off or gives me the ick is him being all up in my money n stuff, acting like i gotta give him a dime... Im generous but i also want to keep my money to ME. Its not like he was in a dire situation. I dont want to do 50/50
@@SeraphicGoddess888how long were u with him for? My bf has all of these traits and he’s been giving me the i ick tbh since I got with him but I guess I kind of settled cause no one is perfect. But he’s also a single mamas boy and his mama is crazy and obsessed with me. She’s always trying to stress me out and he takes mommy’s side, sees no wrong in her faults. I’m afraid that he’s always gonna place his mommy before me and I’m sure he gets his female tendencies from her. I care about him a lot as a person but can’t see this guy being a good husband, I see him allowing his mother to be involved in our marriage just as much as she has been in our relationship and trying to control things. I’m mad at myself for wasting almost 2 years with him.
@tokyodiva leave it doesn't get better. Peace if mind and knowing your value is 100 times better then settling. Trust me been there,done that. It never ends well
Men can be both masculine & Feminine, Neither is Static although some people may stay in one of those energies for longer than the other. I was raised by a Single Mum so I have alot of the traits She has however the issue I have is that Women do not take accountability and I think when a man calls you out on your behaviour you decide that he is being too emotional thus femenine or when he doesnt want to listen to your gossip about your friends he is being ignorant. I think what you are looking for is an emotionally Blunt man that is willing to be walked over whilst also acting in your service, You are trying to create something perfect for YOU based on TV shows and internet, That is NOT REAL LIFE. The Majority of the comments here are from women who are Masulins yet think they are Feminine, Feminism has shifted the bar and it is now all fucked up. Masculine men do not want to be with emotionally immature & Entitled Women...I never knew this side of youtube existed, It's painful.
OMGGGGG I love that dress! And color too🔥🔥🔥 The video on feminine men is great too b/c I use to attract feminine men and I hated it. I'm a work in progress.
My best friend's ex has all these traits that you have mentioned in this video.That is why I never get along with this guy from the moment he was introduced to me. He finally cheated on my friend.
My husband is fully in a feminine energy, we have a lil daughter and makes complicated to leave him. Can I change his energy with mine feminine energy?
Men with Oedipus complex truly need a change of heart. No problem solving, dealing with emotions, the third and fourth signs are evident.(Greedy and contradicting at its most ugliness.) The sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth and tenth signs proves instability and wish they had a better mother, also are careless plus lack respect and ASKING FOR TOO MUCH. None of these traits will bring them a wife or children. Or will lose it all. There's a reason why men like that makes enemies easily. Great video Lisa! P.S. Lovely dress too.
Lisa I am so so so so grateful to watch this video and I really really never missed any one of your videos and today you are looking too beautiful and I will support you so so much 🥹🥹🩷🩷✨
I totally ghosted a guy that I liked soooooo much coz of the complaining and constantly acting like a victim.. I still love him but anything with him is total hell... And of course, he is the center of attention and I am a princess that has everything. Never asks me anything about me...
Hi ladies. Be careful of masculine looking body buiders. Dont confuse masculinity looking or masculine protecting jobs like police men etc. (thank you all for your service) for masculine deposition. Still do this vetting of his behaviors. Sometimes this can be an overcompensation Thank you so much for your beautiful insights. I love your gorgeous voice and spirit. You are so healing for me . ❤
There are a lot of misconceptions about masculine men, so i watched this video and broke down what this looks like from the perspective of a man. Now i agree that a lot of men are feminine nowadays, but women have become masculine too. Now here comes the long part : Women nowadays are raised to be masculine, even to masculine men, because they have been raised in feministic family, hence it's why its hard for them to get back in feminine energy. There are many examples of a masculine woman who wants to be in her feminine energy, but remains in masculine energy. The compulsive complainer is mostly the woman, but men are wired to solve problem and think logically, but because of boys getting supressed at school by feminist teachers and feminists too, they start to give in and behave the way feminists desire. There is a giant increase of hysterical men, ( who are annoying, even for masculine men ) Men can take hysteria from females and be their rock, however when a man displays this hysteria in emotions, yes they are FEMININE. Yes feminist men are mostly feminine, they talk like females and act like them, not masculine at all, and believe me, it takes YEARS for those men to recover again. There is a conflict on taking the lead when you are in a feminist country, a lot of women are leaders, but they are unhappy, and masculine/dominant women don't want to be leaded. they might say they're looking for men who can lead, but nothing will ever be good enough for them to follow. About the chasing part : This is because of the predatory men, and men being rejected more than women, sure we expect a woman to be nurturing when we are wounded so we know that she's reliable. But a man chasing a woman doesn't work too, its like tennis, give/take/give/take. Yes easily offended men are feminine 100% Someone who is looking for a fight is never a good sign, this happens mostly from masculine man to masculine woman, masculine women show these signs a lot. But cowardly men are always picking fights, just to fight are feminine and misunderstanding masculinity, i knew a feminine guy packed behind a jacked body who always wanted a conflict with people, and be argumentive, this behavior was draining to be around, and thats not simply feminine, but toxic too!, they are being difficult with the illusion of asserting dominance. I don't care honestly about how much money a woman makes, her money is hers. But male golddiggers are WEAK. Men are easily satisfied with feminine energy, and anyone being too demanding is TOXIC!. Some points are her own opinions, which could differ from yours, but here is a broad explanation of a man who's seeing a video which women watch. so i know what they could potentially learn from influencers.
You can't spot one right away, behaviors usually show up sometime later. I know a guy, who, in the beginning displayed very masculine traits and I thought I had found the one, only to be surprised 2 dates later, when he switched the roles and asked me to "see him", "take him out on a date", "take him on vacations", ( because "his women did so in the past"). He turned into a complainer, how I should do more. I was utterly surprised and felt deceived. Oh and he also mentioned he liked pricey gifts as well 😅
I think there are a lot of go getting women who are therefore into their masculine energy choosing men who are into their feminine energy. It's all the wrong way around but I think it can work.
11:44 ughhhh i feel i have let myself be taken advantage of for a while now. it is so disgusting and makes me feel so sad. i am so ready to move on. thank you for the confirmation
It would expose this channel and its main audience. This is one of the female versions of male red pill channels. One-sided when healthy relationships should as close to equal as possible
I used to wonder this all the time. I either got the really hot guy who was so far into him himself he never saw me, or the loser I settled with. I had given up on dating for years until I realised I can't be alone forever. But the good guys never ask me out either. Married men seem to be attracted to me, or super young guys (10-20 years younger) who have NO life experience. I still wonder what is going on in this world with men.
@@bumblebee_msfurther away people go away from God, the more God whispers “told you so, ungrateful douchebags lol” goes for both men and women, meanwhile virgins are staying at home being made fun of by those who say, “where are all the good men and women at?”
It's not that men commit to their dream woman after you leave. It's that they realize they have to commit if they want to keep a woman around. The next woman is NOT better! Give yourself more credit. You are a dream woman, always have been, always will be.
Oh absolutely ! You are all dream women, that is why I want you all to be treated like dream women, and not used by men when they build themselves or something. Queen treatment only !
Leave room to consider self improvement. The men with actual self respect you value will continue to leave you if it turns out you're the problem. If you aren't the problem, then usually a break up is the kick in the ass to men to show them that true consequence does exist and they can make legitimate improvements. Either way, both men and women seriously need to reflect on themselves after a breakup and be prepared to take potential responsibility. Unfortunately men do it in the form of completely giving up afterwords. Women do it by bringing their flaws right into the next relationship. These are equally unproductive approaches.
Goddess you look fabulous as always! The topic is on point about some of these men in Los Angeles! So sad. OMG They’re in their femininity. I recognize it, I dismiss them, block and delete. These types of men think they’re THE PRIZE 😮… I just do next. and say to the girly man…. Excuse me Ma’am.. there can only be one prize here! ME!!! Byeee Period. I agree with you! You’re on point! Love your purple outfit!! Thank you. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜🥳
I met a compulsive complainer and it just completely turned me off. I thought wow what is he gonna do when things get sour? Complain? No thank you. I need my man strong and ready to solve
stay single then!
@@cjgokuhomes10 that’s the plan 💁🏽♀️ until then 💅🏽. God bless you
Or find a man who has grown a pair and can take care of business...@@cjgokuhomes10
@@cjgokuhomes10 found the feminine man ladies! Stay away from that one. 💅🏽
@@SR77736noted! lol
I feel like a lot of men today (in the US, anyway) don't know HOW to be masculine. They lack the confidence. My ex put on the front like he was strong and masculine when we first met, but when problems arose, he showed his true cowardly nature. I learned he was basically raised by his (lovely) mother, and picked up ALL the feminine traits you mention in this video: passive aggressive, complain, always asked ME what we should do, asked ME for help, etc...unfortunately, it put me in my masculine energy, bc SOMEONE had to be the "man"! And I hated every minute of it.
I resonate with this deeply, it also made me sick dating boys (I’m calling them boys because they don’t deserve to be called men!) who didn’t know how to be a man, who made me operate in my masculine energy for THEIR lack of self-actualization. No leadership, no protecting, no initiative. It was so “icky” as Lisa put it and unnerving. They weren’t man enough to care for the woman or even operate in their designated role. I feel like America is in a crisis with this one!
How is it reasonable that women decide what masculinity is rather than men themselves? Whenever women describe what masculinity means, it usually sounds like a man servant.
Probably another reason they are labelled toxic masculinity when they just act like men. Men these days can't win.
I understand completely. To build healthy masculine energy, men need good role models and sometimes it is not the case unfortunately. Sometimes you can make him feel more masculine with your own feminine energy. But in other cases if he is really passive, and does not let you be feminine, it is better to move on.
I agree. US and western men lack masculine energy in the last 20 years or so.
My fiance is a very masculine man but to my surprise, he is so gentle and kind hearted. He always pulls the chair for me when we dine out, I never paid for anything, he doesn't let me do it. Always encourages me to progress in my career ❤. When we take a walk together, he always puts me on the safe side and protects me as if I'm a school kid 😂 . I feel so safe when he's around. I often cook for him and I know that my food tastes pretty good but his reaction is so much extra 😂 , he acts as if he's tasting the food of a MasterChef 😂😂😂. I'm so lucky that he's in my life 🧿🧿
I have a masculine husband. Just the other day I ran out of the bathroom because there was a spider and he said look babe as he killed it. He wanted to show me that he could protect me 😂😂😭💖 I’ve never touched a bill with him, opened my car door as he gets upset if I do it + he allows me to be a stay at home wife. This man takes out the trash and does the dishes and always thanks me when I do them. He wears his wedding ring like a crown 👑 and always talks about his wife “me” in front of his friends/family. He gave me flowers a day after his birthday even though I didn’t gift him anything like he is so empathetic and thoughtful 😭😭💖 I went through trash to find my gold and to learn my boundaries/standards so don’t beat yourself up if you’ve dated femininè men.
I am so happy for you, love to hear this darling ❤️❤️
I hope one day I can be in a marriage just like yours, this is so cutee🥹
Love💜. I feel curious, May I ask why he does the dishes?
@@Lisaglamour thank you girly 💕
@@Beingher2004 You can all you have to do is require princess treatment💕🫶🏽
Oh girlie!! That purple on you is STUNNING ❤
Lisa I just want to say thank you- you are the person who taught me not to see other women as competition, but that we can build each other up.
I love that you teach that ❤
Today (after watching this video) I let my bf know I enjoy his strong male energy, him being a generous provider and all his lovely gifts and keeping me safe. He totally loved hearing that and went for it. He ate it up like pasta. Thank you Lisa Glamour!
I would love a video of the ways you and him interacted that brought out his masculine “bring the man out of your man”
I once met one man who was complaining about feminine women who wore dresses, skirts and high heels; he found that so repulsive and ridiculous and he actually liked how I was dressed (I was so damaged and in my wounded femininity and so pick me back then) I agreed with him a never dressed like that even if I wanted during the time I went out with him. Looking back, he was only a red flag and I was so easy to manipulate and so naive.
This video might as well be under my ex's name. I had called him before to pick me up because he wanted to see me but I was super sick and couldn't drive and he just said "cowboy up" This was only 1 instance among many more. But my current man, put me back into my feminine energy and im so grateful. I am definitely treated like a queen.
The reason why some of us women are so in our masculine energy is not just our demanding careers and working with men but lots of men are not masculine enough to bring out my feminine energy
Because of Feminism
lol, a lot of men are not in their masculine energy because of feminism and girl boss attitude 😂
I can’t suffer men that complain, especially because I don’t complain. My father never complained as well, so I am not able to tolerate. I don’t do 50/50….. never 😊.
Ti-as multumi pe veci daca mi-ai zice unde gasesti baieti/barbati care sa accepte sa plateasca. Parca ar exista peste tot, numai in Romania nu 😒
Barbatii din Romania majoritatea sunt saraci din cauza lenei sub orice forma@@thelostpony6678
You're complaining in this comment...
@@Beginning-l3sIm sharing according to the video /information.
Go argue somewhere else. Thx ☺️
@@Beginning-l3s She Is! . . . and then She bites your head off! This one's a " Hot Head " Too!
Thank you for this! Going through a divorce and realized I was married to a feminine man. His mom is more masculine and has a lot of control over the house and I’m not willing to be that woman. He would rarely plan dates, or make decisions on where to go if we did go out.
Ladies! Listen to Lisa she's speaking facts
Thank you so much for this clarity! I just left a short term relationship and felt that “ick” from this guy who is so effeminate. I felt lost almost like his feminine energy was overtaking mine. So unattractive and not sexy. 😢 I was beating myself up these past few days thinking I was a sociopath because he’s such a nice man. I just can’t handle men like this. 😢
Thank you for clearing up things.
I am quite a feminine women from India yet when I tried dating I only came across men who were 50/50 and looking for casual relationship both of which repulsed me. So I stopped dating altogether, I thought it was a me problem but after coming across quite a few successful ambitious pretty single woman who shared they had the same experience as me, I come to conclusion finding a masculine provider in my city is like hitting the lottery 😅
Even I am a Feminine Girl of 16 year from India.
I disagree I think you don’t have the tools to attract and obtain a provider man. You have to be straightforward when it comes to your standards and boundaries just as they are. The only reason they say 50/50 and casual is because they are used to other women giving that to them easily. And of course it never works out. Be the difference and a challenge by not accepting that.
Say “I’m used to being treated (this way) by the men in my family so I wouldn’t want to waste your time if this is not you” or “ I’m used to men stepping up financially allowing me to be the woman that he desires” or “I’m a lady I’m not into that. I want you to earn it” this puts a mascûline battery in their back that they have to step up or step aside for a true gentleman. I almost missed my husband because of his age. I said “I typically date older men as I am very high maintenance” I thought he was too young but he is the most generous man I’ve ever met. He said let me prove it to you. I have 3 wedding rings from him proposing. With that being said if doesn’t accept your standards, walk away. Make sure you are wearing makeup, dressing nicely, and having a strong feminine presence. Let them be afraid to lose you.
Say “I’m used to be treated (this way) by the mèn in my family so I wouldn’t want to waste your time if this is not you” or “ I’m used to gentlemen stepping up finàncially allowing me to be the woman that he dèsires” and “I’m a lady, I’m not into casual. I’m here to be a stay at home wife. I want you to earn it, I’m sure that you’re up for the challenge 😉I’m definitely worth it” If he asks you how refer back to 2nd example.
Sadly, there are many soy men in the world now. It's even worse in the Western countries filled by LGBTQ propaganda and wokeness.
My man is both in his feminine and masculine 😅.
He complains about the world, but he loves to step up and do things for me. He is concerned about money, but he never asks me to pay for dinner. He cooks for me all the time, and makes sure I’m well taken care of. Fully supports all my career goals reminding me of my value. It’s a little confusing to me haha - overall he is masculine, but he also has these other feminine traits.
He is a healthy masculine man in that case! And have a nice balance of his masculine and feminine energy 😉
Yes he sounds femininè. A few tips would be to say “I’m sure you’ll figure it out hunny” when he complains to you or say “I’m not sure what to say” so that you’re not his problem solver and can activate his masculinity. Stop talking to him about your career and instead your hobbies. Like baking, shopping or things that make you happy. Start asking him to pay for things like “will you take care of this for me?” See what he says. Cooking is nice but it’s beneficial to him as well as he has to eat too. See if he will do things without expecting anything in return.
@@fosthedollagree… my ex was like that, and he was feminine
Your value? You mean advertising your face to the world instead of giving undivided attention to your husband? Him concerned about money and you not stepping up? Where’s the value again?🤦
What do you do for him back?
I'm not going to lie. Feminine men freak me out! I don't feel safe, I feel like he always wants me to lead, and I don't like that. Being overly needy and emotional is a huge turn-off! Yes, I can provide for myself, but he should be thinking about how he can provide, even if it's only a symbolic role. Passivity disgusts me, he does not have to defer to me all the time! Make an executive decision most of the time. Be logical more than emotional. I need your logic. You need my emotions. We balance each other out!
So you’re basically saying, in the nicest possible way: F**K FEMEN*AZISM
I like that - logic v emotions! Well said!
Got you ! Its like dating your girlfriend
Feminine men are so annoying. They don't lead and they try to live off women.
The purple dress suits you beautifully 😍 you look so mysteriously-calm persona
There was a man on TikTok that wanted women to chase him he said in one of those vids that he wants to talk about your salary that’s such a turn off you had a few women making excuses for him that gave me the ick so I ended up blocking him it ended up just turning me off completely.
Same
@@SirenaSpades yeah there seems to a lot of those kind of men on social media and dating apps too that’s why I tell women not to go on dating apps.
Thank you for this information, it has been the confirmation that I needed to accept and release my ex. I was always so confused by his mixed messages, but really it was because he must be looking for another man.
„ I know, I know - great things are coming your way” 🌹 AFFIRM
Great video my ex was all of these and of course I am a single parent now. but I know what I do not want
Once we've gone thru the ringer, it's easier to know what we don't want. But that doesn't mean we will get it.
There really are no men in my area who even ask me out, even tho a ton of them flirt with me.
As a man who just randomly saw this video, I completely agree with everything you’ve said here. The one amendment that I would add is that men today who do not exhibit masculine energy may not be working entirely from feminine energy but rather a state of inner confusion.
Men today often don’t know if a woman is going to get offended if he holds a door for her, helps her with her coat or holds her chair at the dining table. When I was a boy, I was taught how to do all of these things by one of my grandmothers, who was a traditional lady. To this day, I enjoy doing these things and it feels right to do them. Today I find it difficult to tell when it will be welcomed and when it won’t however.
Academic Feminism has even coined a new term, ‘benevolent sexism’ for this very thing. It can leave men wishing that all people who desire a world with traditional behaviors could just go off somewhere and start a new society.
This was a very interesting talk for me because it shows that there still are women who enjoy being traditionally feminine and want traditionally masculine men. Hopefully this will grow and eventually reclaim the wreckage of the world and rebuild from there. Many thanks!
I agree. Its so good to have a man talking about this topics. I'm a woman and I have male friends that struggle with the same things. I, in turn, like to have a man holding the door, etc. etc. Its... I don't know... I think its so reassuring to have basic etiquete defined you know? This way, we can give respect to others who interact with us. But i'm not young (i'm 41!), so maybe the modern day feminism doesn't apply?
Over 99% of women want a provider and protector. The issue is, at least where I live, such men either don't exist or they have impossible beauty standards that I just can't meet.
@@thelostpony6678 That’s interesting because a lot of men today complain that women have outrageous standards for men. A lot of this comes from online dating sites and apps. Women will joke on social media about men needing to have all of ‘The Sixes’ (at least six-feet tall, six-figure income, six-pack abs and at least six inches below the waist).
The internet has made everyone start seeing one another as commodities, which is sad.
I agree, I actually mentioned in the video that yes, a lot of men want to be masculine but if a woman does not let him do it, or does not show appreciation for his masculine energy, then it is not going to work. I understand that a lot of men are confused nowadays, and I have empathy for them.
I loved your story with your grandmother and I absolutely love to hear masculine men say that they love to be gentlemen and take care of their loved ones 😇
Thank you for your comment, it will reassure a lot of women that high quality masculine men are out there 🙏
To me this is like saying “because dating sûcks, I will never date again” You should feel confident in getting offended if a womàn acts repûlsive if you are being a gentleman and opening up the door etc. That means that she is màsculine and not used to healthy men which means she will be unhealthy for you in the long run. The same thing with ladies like me. if a màn is repûlsed that we feel uncomfortable being with a màn that döesn’t protect, próvide, and respect us then he isn’t the one. The more no’s you hear the more closer you are to getting your yes. When I met my husband he checked off every box and before him I left many mèn at the table.
The honest truth is that you will never fully know what another person is going to do but as long as you trust yourself to walk away with your self respect, good intentions, and morals when you see these behaviors from them then the worst thing that can happen is that it’s not a match and that’s okay as you can start looking for your dream girl.
This video actually identified feminine/passive men very accurately, however the video and many comments seemed to be saying that being feminine/passive/demanding is bad and wrong or disgusting as a man, but ok and normal for women.
Everyone has the right to choose what kind of partner they want, and it's ok to dislike dating feminine men as a woman, but a man has the right to be feminine JUST LIKE a woman can be masculine and shouldn't be shamed/belittled/despised for doing so.
I really love my husband and he is masculine leaning but the only thing is that he is in his "building phase" and I did notice that he does have that 50/50 mentality. He does want to provide and he is trying to pursue his dream career but he so often asks for my help. In this case, his idea of my support is in the form of a second income, which would be me working. This makes me feel like I have to help him to achieve his dream when it is his dream and feel like he is putting the burden on me, like our whole future lies in my hands and if I don't get a job, we won't have a future. I DO support him in his dreams and career but also know that men are natural born leaders and providers but I wished I could trust that my husband has things taken care of. We're in a season where we're wanting to start a family and when I'm working, I tend to lean away away from my feminine side and more to my masculine. This is solely the main reason why I don't want to get a job because I don't want to be living in my masculine and focus on nurturing being a mom. This is something I have a hard time explaining to my husband for him to understand.
Don't do it. If you do, you will lose everything. You will become the masculine in the relationship and he will betray you, and when he gets promoted, he will betray you and consider you like his mother. The solution is that you act as if you are spoiled and unable to do some tasks so that he does not think that you are strong and capable. In order to help you, you must make him distrust your leadership. Pretend that you make many mistakes.
Don't let emotion fool you, no matter how much he complains, don't take the initiative to help. I did it and lost, and I don't want you to lose.
Damn this describes my relationship perfectly like everything. Just we're not married yet. And yes he wants 50/50 too
He has already told me that In marriage a woman takes on the role of a mother and the man the father like WTF. I already called off the relationship but he's trying to be emotional to make me come back. But after watching Lisa's video and reading your comments I'm not going back. WEAK MEN CREATE HARD TIMES
If you were in his position wouldn't he help you? If he would then you also should help him and having a job won't make you "less feminine" or "muscline woman" actually I see that you're a good wife who helps her husband in the times he needs (but only if he's a good husband not abusive!) Especially now money is hard not like in the 1900s , and him needing help won't make him "feminine"....would you be happy if he called you muscline cause you have a job or not having the feminine standards shit? No! So think of it this way but only if he would help you if you need help
@@StudyPlaseidk why people care about these feminine and masculine stuff so much. Like fuckin live bruh
I'm a walking pink rose (very warm, feminine, elegant, sweet-smelling etc.) and literally can't get a man to buy me even a 2$ cookie. It's definitely an epidemic, and I would *really* like to know where exactly do gentlemen still exist.
It's your energy. Looking traditionally feminine is one thing, being in your feminine energy is a different thing altogether.
@manfaaaa If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard that tired cliche from strangers on the internet, I could literally afford a Chanel bag. Every single one of my girlfriends would describe me as the definition of femininity and sweetness, and I'm very far from being the only woman who's struggling with finding even one generous man.
@@thelostpony6678Hi there! Maybe I can help ☺️ I’m currently living in Scandinavia (infamous for 50/50) and I haven’t paid at dates except one (he is a student so I was prepared for that, still he’s out of my rotation). With the other men that have stable jobs what has helped me the most is remaining still and patient. They message first, initiate and plan the dates and when it’s time to pay I don’t move. Only go out with the ones that show the most enthusiasm and excitement about you and they will want to impress you so you won’t have to worry about paying. It’s usually the nonchalant ones or the ones who aren’t that interested that will ask for contributions.
We're up against three generations of men who were raised without fathers and have no idea how to be masculine. And then unfortunately some of these men turn to people like Andrew Tate to learn how to be masculine and end up looking at women like they're only good for housework, making babies and shtooking.
It's dismal.
Instead of passport bros, maybe it should be passport sisters where American women go overseas to find masculine men in places like Eastern European, Russia, Ukraine, etc.
Oh! And when you’re getting to know them ask them how they were raised in terms of their parents’ relationship. You can then say you were raised traditionally (even if you weren’t) and if they start to go on about how their mother was strong and worked 100 jobs, or they go into a rant then steer clear of them. I hope this helps 💕
Married a feminine man who married me only when i got pregnant with our daughter. Expects me to pay 50/50 in all (I underearn him a bit), he nags me to get more degrees (I already have 2) and expected me to accept my boss physically yelling at me and making violent gestures at me to intimidate me just so I would not lose my paycheck.
get a better job, stop being a bum and a leach to society, stop making excuses for your shortcomings, he is 100% right, stop being a freeloader, pull yourself by the bootstrap and pay your share
Oh no. So so sorry to hear this from you.
Hope your situation gets better for you 🙏🏻
I'm 22M and fem AF. I wouldn't _advise_ anyone get married/financially dependent, and 50/50 is a person to person thing. But expecting you to get MORE degrees instead of himself is insane. And I can't expect him to gun down the boss but expecting you to take the disrespect is even crazier. I think character means more than mannerisms. There's some shtty macho men out there.
Me too, and now we are divorced. When my son grew up I felt able to leave, and I am 100 percent happier now.....those type of men should stay single
From your description, this seems like a pretty fair relationship
Your videos are really eye openers. Videos of worst dates might be funny and helpful. Also on an other subject that we rarely find, with summer coming and pretty dresses, it would be nice to have advice on lingerie to wear that is elegant and invisible. Thank you so much for your work 🙏💐🥰
your hair looks beautiful in this video!
Thanks
I've only met feminine men my whole life. I think it has to do with where I am from too, most men here are feminine the 50/50 type. Black guys
Ewwww
Keep your options open, date outside your race and date older men that can provide financially. If you do research Asiàn and White mèn are the top earners. If a man is asking you to go 50/50 it’s mostly because he doesn’t have the 💰 and because he is selfish. You want a generous man that respects and protects you.
Divest. But are taught to settle and tolerate their crap and there's no need to. Leave them alone.
@@fosthedollthis gives me hope 🌟
Where in the diaspora are you? Are they African American, Caribbean, Afro Hispanic, African, british etc.
I had the experience when I had an accident and can't walk for 1 month. He told me that I was a strong woman I can take care of myself. 😢 after I felt not right with that action and I left that man [ not protector of doer]. Other hand i realise over my energy what was attracting. You are ❤
So you 403s want to show yourself as strong, independent women but as soon as a guy repeats that, you dump him? Do us a favour and stay single
I'm a feminine woman with a big masculine energy with a passive man. It's ok for me because I love to lead but I'm encouraging him to gain more and more more masculine energy because, like you said, if there is any issue and I'm not able to help, I want him to step in and lead, so I can fully trust him.
You're gorgeous and I like your advices
It's reverse, you are masculine woman with feminine energy
This proves that even for masculine women, they resent passivity in men. I wish we could stop being so politically correct and just give everyone the training needed. We as feminine women are so tired of these passive men and the request to switch polarities. Absolutely not.
@@Anonymous-je5wv Ah right because women totally weren't into the hair metal rockstars or any boytoy with a feminine model face. Bi women and lesbians dont exist? There's plenty of masculine men waiting to use you and a whoooole bunch of "feminine" men both in appearance or behavior that treat themselves better than you can treat them. Be the better option and stop waiting for someone to build You. A masculine mindset from a very feminine man.
@@Anonymous-je5wvand we are tired of restarted women like you
How you can wear everyyyy color? Amazing! Everything looks so good on you 😍
I've always been feminine, but I've been learning how to enhance it. As I learn and apply, I've noticed that the guy I've been with has been giving me the 'ick'. It really did seem very sudden, and I've been unsure of 'why'. But after watching this video. I realized that he checks...every...box!!🤭 I'm still not sure if he was like this the whole time, then switched up on me... or if I simply ignored the red flags.
Thank you so much for sharing💞
I would love a video on a topic girls in a muscular energy ! Just to know more about inner me
me tooo
beautiful video, loved every minute! Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
I know this is late. But this is a great video. In my case, my mother was always the one who stepped up to be mom and dad so I never had an example in real life of a strong masculine role model to follow. She is the smart one, skilled, knowledgeable and taught me a lot of things and I love her deeply. My dad was in the picture but we barely had any interaction and he was like a stranger. There are not a lot of role models in my space that are men. Most are from books I read or movies I watch. I definitely understand your points of view.
A video of worst dates will be great for sharing and learning
Yes!, what you said describes their behavior so well! I love this! It was so helpful!
Men in LA(Los Angeles) are confused……. It’s tiring for me that I have to train them to step-up…. I just gave up at this point……….
L.A. is demonic. I lived there 3 months & had to leave. Lots of Satanism there. No joke.
I had dated a femenine man and Dear lord . ..... They project insecurities and mine almost destroyed my goals were over and the weight was removed also expected me to be his mom,therapist etc.,..totally not worth being with
I agree with everything you have said, but I didn't realize how obvious it is until you put it so plainly. Yes, it is repulsive when they display this behavior.
It also repulsive when you 403s show more skin on your bodies than fabric
Husband is more masculine in front of other women. Not just any women, attractive women. He will do more for an attractive woman than a woman who he doesn’t feel is attractive. Before I used to be bothered by it. Now I realize it’s only because he isn’t with them 24/7. He does it for praise and it’s not genuine.
I stopped focusing on him and started focusing on myself.
My ex husband spot on! His biggest disadvantage is his mother treating him like a princess instead of raising a man. On top of that he is on an autism spectrum. It’s disgusting how his mother is raising him, not as a gentleman, not as a provider, not to care for his woman, run away from responsibility …. Yuck!!!!!!
Thank you for this video. I seem to get a lot of feminine men and it's such a huge turn-off for me. I remember I was walking with my bf at the time and he always had me walking a step or so in front of him while we were going on walks. It really bothered me that I was always leading the walks. So I purposely slowed down so he would take the lead. When I slowed down, he also slowed down and remained behind me. It was very disturbing.
He never paid for our dates, actually I ended up paying for everything and bringing him flowers. I thought that he would treat me better once I showed him a good example. Well he never learned from that. And I would drive an hour away (1 way) 2-3x a week just to see him and he never made the trip to see me. It's amazing how much my standards have gone up from 3 years ago.
Ladies, trust me on this: I used to know a man who had barely any money (we were teens in school) who would always buy me whatever he could afford (tea, food, etc.). If a man is asking you for 50/50, run. Masculine men exist!
Also, I laughed out loud at the "Bob the builder comment"😂
Regardless of gender, I'm not sure I'd want a partner who doesn't pay. You don't like 50/50? Good to know you're not willing to be fair 🚩🚩🚩.
If a man is asking for 50/50 and you aren't willing to do that, indeed run before you ruin his life
Lisa when I tell you I was on this dating app and he literally said “I have a lot of girls who want me if you don’t” and I was like “okay have fun and happy thanksgiving”. Lol if you did sweetie you wouldn’t be on here.
Omg exactly 😂 They have no idea that it is not something attractive or even believable to say that
@@Lisaglamour What if a man has devine feminine energy ?
I mean he IS on a dating app
When you tell Lisa that, then what?
I love 💜 your dress. Style and color. 4:32 You always have the prettiest clothes.
Realizing that some of these characteristics describe my dad and maybe that's why I've been attracting that type of man: simply because it's familiar....
You are adorable Lisa! 💗🤗
Thank you because you are helping me so much! I've been such a tomboy all my life. I love learning how to be in my feminine energy from you. You're very beautiful, classy & elegant, so I feel I'm learning from the right lady on how to be more of a lady! 💜
I agree. It is an epidemic. Houston Texas.
Yes I dated a guy here, he was the most feminine man I’ve been with. Wanted me to pay for my own food, and always wanted me to fill his tasks like keeping us safe in public as an expample. Ugh🙄
It's spiritual. It's a demonic pandemic. Know this. Read Ephesians 6 : 12 in the Bible
Wow; and I was interested in moving to Houston because I thought they were more masculine in the south. It really is an epidemic!
I'm a self-sufficient woman who just likes to pursue her goals and dreams. I feel more comfortable in the role of active doer than passive receiver. Apparently I radiate so much masculine energy, needless to say a swarm of feminine baby boys is following me, wanting me to manage their shit too. It's so exhausting.
Boo hoo, must be so annoying being so attractive to the other gender, right? I can relate
Also Men masculine doesnt always mean tough guy. He can be masculine and still have emotions it's just being in your wise mind. Men can cry that doesnt make him feminine that makes him human.
How about we stop obsessing over requiring any gender to have certain traits? It's about weird as this video or the patriarchal people in this comment section. It's to no wonder conservatives reinforce their values when they watch videos like this all day.
Yeah but when we do cry, you women judge. Not condoning the act of crying as a man but please pick a lane
This is excellent. It was probably the furthest thing on my mind. I'm just going about my day, but I had to stop, and say I see you. You're phenomenal.... 💜
I am lost if I want to be with my partner or not because he is feminine in SOME ways but super masculine in others. The problem is ME. I’m too in my masculine because I don’t know what I want to do career wise and am in scarcity so I have to figure myself out.. he provides what he can to help me even though I broke up with him. He cares so much and wants to be my hero. He hasn’t given up on us and knows I’m just stressed. But I got the ick so much in our relationship because of the feminine traits I saw that were a response to my masculine. I guess I should just forgive myself and him and become feminine and I’m sure he will be good. I just don’t know how to be feminine and make my own money as an entrepreneur.
A lot of men are in their feminine energy in America because a lot of females i've noiced here in the USA are trying to do everything.. they want to be the boss babe, and have all these high standards that are highly unattainable. Men want to provide and protect, but if the woman is hard and more masculine energy like she's like i have my own place, my own business, my own job, i bring everything to the table then what is the man going to provide. I once heard Men date out of their league but women will date their caliber and above, and these days Men are not meeting those standards anymore. It was normal back in the day for the man to work and provide and yes maybe the woman had a job or stay at home wife, but now women can make just as much as a man does, and so i feel like there's a disconnect, because when a Man doesn't know what to bring to the table, they go into their feminine energy,.. especially if the female is in her masculine energy. I just get annoyed with these girls on social media that i see that are like "I dont want a man to open doors for me" or to "pay for my dinner" then it's like what are they supposed to do, Men like action.
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I'm the type of girl who don't want a man to open her door or pay for me...I want a good paying job and that doesn't make a woman less "feminine" and don't put excuses for American men that "a woman has money and a job now what can I do am I woman??" Plz stop this misogyny, women back then were abused every possible way, you wanna be abused ??
modern day feminism has caused this confusion
We definitely don’t want to have to do everything but the men are totally incompetent
Thank you Lisa! Can you make a video about how to make a man feel like a King around you?
If a man is "initiating contact", but is not actually saying anything (i.e., sending a reaction to your IG story or sending a reel), what does this mean? I then end up asking him questions to have a conversation since he doesn't start one. He also rarely asks me about what is going on in my life. He knows I am in school and working and he knows my hobbies and interests, but rarely asks me about them or how they are going. We end up talking about surface level things, or I have to talk about his interests to have a conversation. But he also tells me that he is really into me, he wants only me, and in fact a few times he has expressed love for me. He is just using me for the attention, right?
Right, he is fishing
I am currently in a condition like this too. What next step you did? Did you leave him?
@@sitiranisa5581 Yes we stopped talking a few months ago after he was becoming more distant. Turns out he wanted someone else actually, but I had to find that on my own as he never told me. Coward.
🤓I am born in Germany,my background is Persian (Iran),I need to say I’ve been over all Europe and I’ve met different people of many ethnic backgrounds and these kind of men who are very masculine and “real man” are an endangered species😂I maybe met in my 36 years 1-2 men who are like this. The rest of it had feminine traits. One thing which is interesting was the difference between men from countries like Greece, Italy, Spain they were more the gentleman taking care of the woman type but those from Germany, Netherlands, Belgium were the 50:50 how much you make or as a date let’s Netflix and chill type. And the funny thing is even those who are Persian like me but born in Germany they tend to be more like these feminine type of man than the men I met or I’ve seen in Iran. So I guess it depends on where you live how those men grew up in what kind of a place. Because I tend to be that feminine type of woman but what I often hear with the men I met is that iam not like all the other women they ever met and that “iam difficult”. This is funny to hear that when a woman has high standards and is willing to walk away, it’s called that you’re difficult. I think it’s a big problem of society as well women are more and more like men and they don’t need them anymore that’s why everything is going down to the wrong way.
If you don't know how to treat men then don't date them simple. They are not slaves for women. They have life and interests
🥰🥰🥰Thanks gorgeous Lisa!!!. I would be interested hearing about nightmare dates!
After watching this, I've concluded that I'm the masculine woman who's attracted to feminine men (of course, positive femininity)
Lisa! I agree with most of your opinions but sometimes it is such too much! Keep in mind, that a real man like to be generous with is loved one but it is his role as well to define the limits. Although, a real man will appreciate deeply a feminine woman, her support in the couple should more than just looking good in a dress and speaking well.
That is an amazing colour on you…. You look fab.xx
Thank you so much Lisa. This helps as a fellow.
this is so true
Im starting to think maybe my boyfriend is kinda feminine... he displays a lot of masculinity but one thing that ticks me off or gives me the ick is him being all up in my money n stuff, acting like i gotta give him a dime...
Im generous but i also want to keep my money to ME. Its not like he was in a dire situation. I dont want to do 50/50
Marry yourself not him
@@-Clarence- I broke up w him lol
@@SeraphicGoddess888how long were u with him for? My bf has all of these traits and he’s been giving me the i ick tbh since I got with him but I guess I kind of settled cause no one is perfect. But he’s also a single mamas boy and his mama is crazy and obsessed with me. She’s always trying to stress me out and he takes mommy’s side, sees no wrong in her faults. I’m afraid that he’s always gonna place his mommy before me and I’m sure he gets his female tendencies from her. I care about him a lot as a person but can’t see this guy being a good husband, I see him allowing his mother to be involved in our marriage just as much as she has been in our relationship and trying to control things. I’m mad at myself for wasting almost 2 years with him.
@tokyodiva leave it doesn't get better. Peace if mind and knowing your value is 100 times better then settling. Trust me been there,done that. It never ends well
Men can be both masculine & Feminine, Neither is Static although some people may stay in one of those energies for longer than the other.
I was raised by a Single Mum so I have alot of the traits She has however the issue I have is that Women do not take accountability and I think when a man calls you out on your behaviour you decide that he is being too emotional thus femenine or when he doesnt want to listen to your gossip about your friends he is being ignorant.
I think what you are looking for is an emotionally Blunt man that is willing to be walked over whilst also acting in your service, You are trying to create something perfect for YOU based on TV shows and internet, That is NOT REAL LIFE.
The Majority of the comments here are from women who are Masulins yet think they are Feminine, Feminism has shifted the bar and it is now all fucked up.
Masculine men do not want to be with emotionally immature & Entitled Women...I never knew this side of youtube existed, It's painful.
OMGGGGG I love that dress! And color too🔥🔥🔥 The video on feminine men is great too b/c I use to attract feminine men and I hated it. I'm a work in progress.
Lisa, you are so gorgeous and so wise. Thank you!
My best friend's ex has all these traits that you have mentioned in this video.That is why I never get along with this guy from the moment he was introduced to me. He finally cheated on my friend.
My husband is fully in a feminine energy, we have a lil daughter and makes complicated to leave him. Can I change his energy with mine feminine energy?
Men with Oedipus complex truly need a change of heart. No problem solving, dealing with emotions, the third and fourth signs are evident.(Greedy and contradicting at its most ugliness.) The sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth and tenth signs proves instability and wish they had a better mother, also are careless plus lack respect and ASKING FOR TOO MUCH.
None of these traits will bring them a wife or children. Or will lose it all. There's a reason why men like that makes enemies easily.
Great video Lisa! P.S. Lovely dress too.
Lisa I am so so so so grateful to watch this video and I really really never missed any one of your videos and today you are looking too beautiful and I will support you so so much 🥹🥹🩷🩷✨
All such helpful pointsnto thunk aboit and reminders to analyze if this is the kind of masculine man you should be dating
Where is the dress from?? So stunning 🤩💜
Spent decades in Los Angeles, sooooo many feminine men !!!
🤣 Yes...... and I bet most of them do like each other better than they do like ladies!!
I totally ghosted a guy that I liked soooooo much coz of the complaining and constantly acting like a victim..
I still love him but anything with him is total hell...
And of course, he is the center of attention and I am a princess that has everything.
Never asks me anything about me...
Hi ladies. Be careful of masculine looking body buiders. Dont confuse masculinity looking or masculine protecting jobs like police men etc. (thank you all for your service) for masculine deposition. Still do this vetting of his behaviors. Sometimes this can be an overcompensation Thank you so much for your beautiful insights. I love your gorgeous voice and spirit. You are so healing for me . ❤
There are a lot of misconceptions about masculine men, so i watched this video and broke down what this looks like from the perspective of a man.
Now i agree that a lot of men are feminine nowadays, but women have become masculine too.
Now here comes the long part :
Women nowadays are raised to be masculine, even to masculine men, because they have been raised in feministic family, hence it's why its hard for them to get back in feminine energy.
There are many examples of a masculine woman who wants to be in her feminine energy, but remains in masculine energy.
The compulsive complainer is mostly the woman, but men are wired to solve problem and think logically, but because of boys getting supressed at school by feminist teachers and feminists too, they start to give in and behave the way feminists desire.
There is a giant increase of hysterical men, ( who are annoying, even for masculine men ) Men can take hysteria from females and be their rock, however when a man displays this hysteria in emotions, yes they are FEMININE.
Yes feminist men are mostly feminine, they talk like females and act like them, not masculine at all, and believe me, it takes YEARS for those men to recover again.
There is a conflict on taking the lead when you are in a feminist country, a lot of women are leaders, but they are unhappy, and masculine/dominant women don't want to be leaded.
they might say they're looking for men who can lead, but nothing will ever be good enough for them to follow.
About the chasing part : This is because of the predatory men, and men being rejected more than women, sure we expect a woman to be nurturing when we are wounded so we know that she's reliable.
But a man chasing a woman doesn't work too, its like tennis, give/take/give/take.
Yes easily offended men are feminine 100%
Someone who is looking for a fight is never a good sign, this happens mostly from masculine man to masculine woman, masculine women show these signs a lot.
But cowardly men are always picking fights, just to fight are feminine and misunderstanding masculinity, i knew a feminine guy packed behind a jacked body who always wanted a conflict with people, and be argumentive, this behavior was draining to be around, and thats not simply feminine, but toxic too!, they are being difficult with the illusion of asserting dominance.
I don't care honestly about how much money a woman makes, her money is hers.
But male golddiggers are WEAK.
Men are easily satisfied with feminine energy, and anyone being too demanding is TOXIC!.
Some points are her own opinions, which could differ from yours, but here is a broad explanation of a man who's seeing a video which women watch.
so i know what they could potentially learn from influencers.
That purple color looks so feminine and gorgeous on you.
You can't spot one right away, behaviors usually show up sometime later. I know a guy, who, in the beginning displayed very masculine traits and I thought I had found the one, only to be surprised 2 dates later, when he switched the roles and asked me to "see him", "take him out on a date", "take him on vacations", ( because "his women did so in the past"). He turned into a complainer, how I should do more. I was utterly surprised and felt deceived. Oh and he also mentioned he liked pricey gifts as well 😅
you are the best lisa i love u❤❤plz create a video about the way of femme talking
The way she’s trying to hold back her laugh at 8:48 mark lmfaooooooo
What tea do you drink??😊 /like
I think there are a lot of go getting women who are therefore into their masculine energy choosing men who are into their feminine energy. It's all the wrong way around but I think it can work.
Great video though Lisa ! ❤
11:44 ughhhh i feel i have let myself be taken advantage of for a while now. it is so disgusting and makes me feel so sad. i am so ready to move on. thank you for the confirmation
A video on narcissistic men please.
It would expose this channel and its main audience. This is one of the female versions of male red pill channels. One-sided when healthy relationships should as close to equal as possible
Well she's talking about narcissists in this video I think. Many traits are the same. Selfishness, passive aggressive, emotional, users etc.
You just tryna make yourself believe all men are degenerate or smth?
I love u so much .
You look so wonderful
You’re so kind for telling us ladies the positive possibilities as a feminine lady
I wonder why I seem to attract men I don't want at all and the ones I want don't pay attention.
I used to wonder this all the time. I either got the really hot guy who was so far into him himself he never saw me, or the loser I settled with. I had given up on dating for years until I realised I can't be alone forever. But the good guys never ask me out either. Married men seem to be attracted to me, or super young guys (10-20 years younger) who have NO life experience.
I still wonder what is going on in this world with men.
@@bumblebee_msfurther away people go away from God, the more God whispers “told you so, ungrateful douchebags lol” goes for both men and women, meanwhile virgins are staying at home being made fun of by those who say, “where are all the good men and women at?”
God this sounds like my ex husband extremely negative, hot headed insecure and no accountability
Love your channel so much 🙂💝
Great info! Thank you x
It's not that men commit to their dream woman after you leave. It's that they realize they have to commit if they want to keep a woman around. The next woman is NOT better! Give yourself more credit. You are a dream woman, always have been, always will be.
Oh absolutely ! You are all dream women, that is why I want you all to be treated like dream women, and not used by men when they build themselves or something. Queen treatment only !
Thank you sis 🎶
Preach!
Leave room to consider self improvement. The men with actual self respect you value will continue to leave you if it turns out you're the problem. If you aren't the problem, then usually a break up is the kick in the ass to men to show them that true consequence does exist and they can make legitimate improvements. Either way, both men and women seriously need to reflect on themselves after a breakup and be prepared to take potential responsibility. Unfortunately men do it in the form of completely giving up afterwords. Women do it by bringing their flaws right into the next relationship. These are equally unproductive approaches.
Can you do the same video but signs of a masculine woman?
This is that video
@@-Clarence-Dyslexia: +100
Thank you this is very true 👑🌹
Goddess you look fabulous as always! The topic is on point about some of these men in Los Angeles! So sad. OMG They’re in their femininity. I recognize it, I dismiss them, block and delete. These types of men think they’re THE PRIZE 😮… I just do next. and say to the girly man…. Excuse me Ma’am.. there can only be one prize here! ME!!! Byeee Period. I agree with you! You’re on point! Love your purple outfit!!
Thank you. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜🥳
I can totally agree and it has been my experience that men who like to be chased and courted later on come out as gay.
Where do we get the affirmations??
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