I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
I'm trying to figure out what femininity is. Please help me if you can and want to. This is what I got so far: 1. Prioritize yourself - Do what you love (hobbies, socializing) - Create chaotically (arts, projects) - Take time for yourself - Surround yourself with what you love (people, home) - Channel anger into rage (create and destruct) 2. Stay calm - Take time to calm down, and be present (meditate, do nothing) - Focus on your body rather than rationality - Don't perform/work too hard - Don't control: let life be - Don't fill every silence - Allow yourself to be mysterious/don't focus on proving yourself 3. Present yourself with grace - Dress feminine - Take care of yourself - Hold a delicate posture - Personalize how you dress 4. Communicate tenderly and clear - Use a feminine voice - Use polite language - Express your desires - Talk tenderly, clearly, and mainly through showing rather than talking 5. Don't fight - Let men be free - Respect men - Keep peace - Don't criticize men - Allow men to be unexpressive about their emotions - Allow yourself to disagree - Don't require people to agree 6. Be thankful - Honour men's protection and provision - Receive men's affection - Show appreciation 7. Listen actively - Read and consider people's emotions - Don't fill every silence 8. Be joyful - Be playful (in conflict too) - Enjoy your time - Remind people how great it is to be a woman and to be alive 9. Focus on your body - Direct your spirit before your action - Don't focus on rational debate - Sit down and relax 10. Be down to earth (humble, unentitled and confident with boundaries) 11. Show love to children
I think femininity is the complete opposite of masculinity obviously. Being feminine is being submissive and soft and gentle and down to earth while displaying our beauty our presence our confidence. Speaking with grace and walking with elegance. Dressing with elegance. It’s just being extremely….im not sure the exact word lol.
I think this is a mess. I am trying to figure out what they mean about femininity and high value women, but most of seems to me like being submissive,which I don't believe in, because we have personalities and it seems to me like hiding ourselves for men to love a facade. No, thank you.
@HB-vc4bf This "femininity" thing is misogynistic BS. Are you a woman? Then Just be yourself, do what you need to do, and you are feminine by definition. Everything else is just a cultural expectation that differs with time, place, and social stratum.
Arguing never works! And if you express your feelings in a feminine way and he doesn't try to fix the problem, he's the wrong one. There's so much power in femininity! Also love your dress🤍
Not exactly. It's complicated as we don't always understand the actual problem. What we see as the problem is not always the problem, the problem is that she's upset about the problem. Let's say she's driving, parks the car, then there's an underhood fire, quickly extinguished, no one hurt. To me, the problem is fixing the car, maybe alt transportation, fixed. Not so. She's scared, worried, trying to figure out how it impacts her in the near future, and many what-ifs. The problem is how she feels about it and needs a shoulder to cry on. This is very confusing as we fixed the problem but she's crying about it.
@@theclassyconsultant. Thank you. Only those who care about their spouse's happiness will try to understand that concept. I can't picture a marriage that works w/o caring for each other's happiness. thx for reply
@@JimKittell6486Thank you for pointing that out. I can admit that is me to the T. I just need someone to comfort me in that moment and if any advice is given, it be as simple as "Hey, we got through (say extinguishing the fire like in your example) together, if such and such concern does occur, we'll handle that together too. I'm right here with you. We got this."
@@MistyfaeryThat's the magic. WE got this. I can't tell you how many times wifey and I put our heads together to solve a problem, with better results. Doing this is very very bonding thx for reply
Note to self "when you argue with him he sees that as an attack on who he is and you're attacking the basic human need of someone wanting to feel seen and valued."
I am curious to know your thoughts on how a woman can balance her feminine energy while working a corporate job? Embodying more masculine energy at work for 8 hours a day (productivity, meetings, objectives, managing etc) makes it difficult to disconnect from it outside of work
I was in the same shoes working in a an men centric industry for years. I realized I carried the masculine energy to my private life after a comment from my father. I changed and stopped it immediately after stepping out of the office and in car ( like a on and off power switch) and embrace my female feminine energy. Left work behind and did not go to any gatherings/ after hours drinks with coworkers and did not bring work home either.
Don’t become a manager. Choose jobs that focus on creativity and service. People will be overjoyed and thankful for you. You’ll be in your serving energy rather than domineering. Jobs of service can also be high paid as well.
This is great advice Lisa! If you don't mind, I will share my point of you and hope to hear your thoughts on it. You often refer to Angelina Jolie but I find her energy more intimidatingly dark feminine, which is seductive but often attracts men who are just looking for a challenge and excitement. Last night I watched the movie Clueless and was amazed by Cher Horowitz's dazzling light femininity! Everything about that character was high-value but light feminine rather than dark and I found it so much more attractive. She was kind, playful, light-hearted, giving and highly feminine but had strong boundaries, high standards and clear goals for herself. Her character is a perfect balance of light and dark femininity, with a touch of innocence while Angelina Jolie type characters always look like they're deceptive and unhappy at their core. When you think about it, all the femme fatales you refer to seem sad deep down, while the light feminine characters like Cher Horowitz in Clueless, Brigitte Bardot in God Created Woman, Grace Kelly in High Society, even Holly Golightly in Breakfast at Tiffany's all exhude a bright joyful energy that translates into irresistible charm. In conclusion, femme fatales mesmerize men, but light feminine women shine the brightest. 💖
That is why I always say that you need both energies! A balance of the light and the dark feminine energy, both form the divine feminine 😘 In the movie the tourist, Angelina actually has both energies. You can see her smile, laugh, being warm and caring. While she is also very mysterious, seductive and alluring, and has strong boundaries, and high standards. Cher from Clueless cleary has both energies as well. She just look more like the light feminine in her appearance, but she is very confident, playful, knows what she wants and has very strong boundaries (which is the dark feminine). Sometimes a character in a movie can dress and have the appearance of the dark feminine, but actually be in her light feminine. And vice versa ;) It is much more complex actually. Plus my teaching is very balanced, I talk about both energies in all of my videos. Being caring and loving, while having self love and self care. Femme Fatales actually use both energies as well. In real life BOTH energies are magnetic. There is not one energy that is better than the other. If you are only the light feminine, you will be taken advantage of. It is the “nice girl” people pleaser syndrome. When you are only the dark feminine you will be too emotionnally distant and will have trouble forming connections. When you master both, this is when you become your highest level self as a woman ❤️
@@Lisaglamour Thank you for your answer Lisa. 💗🌹 You're right, it's all about balancing the light and dark feminine energies. I will watch The Tourist again just to analyze Angelina's feminine traits. One movie that I would highly suggest you watch and talk about is Rear Window with Grace Kelly. In that film, she is the ultimate pick-me, nice girl who works way too hard to win over a low value man. I found it so eye-opening because it showed me that even the most beautiful, glamorous, high society woman can devalue herself by being too much in her light feminine. For example, she was doing things like bringing expensive restaurant take-out dinners with wine and everything to a man's house who didn't even ask her to be his girlfriend. 🤣 I'm telling you, Rear Window is a classic movie of what not to do as a woman. 😄
There are 4 different types of feminine energy and each of them has a lower and a higher manifestation. Femme fatale is one of the possibilities and usually this type of women are at their core unable to connect to anyone, even a partner on an emotional level. These tricks and pretenses are for the most part meant to mask that inability. Out of the movies you've mentioned I've only watched Breakfast at Tiffany's and the main character is basically a little girl looking for a daddy wrapped in the body of a young woman, but isn't actually a mature woman. Women should better get educated on the different types of feminine energies, see which one they resonate with the most and incorporate elements of the other types. Basically you're going to attract men that like your core feminine energy. If you try to become a completely other type of woman, you'll put on a mask that men will fall for, but that mask will drop eventually and the relationship will dissolve because it rests on deception. We all have both masculine and feminine energy and it's wise to work on the inner balance between the two in order to become more complete beings instead of trying to emulate being something we may not be in order to extract a specific type of behaviour from a man. If a woman is emotionally mature, she will attract a mature man who will treat her like a lady because he loves her essence, not because she's playing a role.
I always take others advice with a grain of salt. Lisa has always provided great information and I intend on remaining a strong creole woman with a strong personality. Cultural distinctions matter and certain demeanors may not seem alluring to YOU but someone else might be delighted at your unique and sassy energy! Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and not accept bad behavior. If you are strong, be espresso in a world of decaf! Y’tú sabes!
This is a big problem in todays society. We got taught to be competitors to men. That we always have to proof our worth, how intelligent we are, how capable and independent we are and that we need to work ten times harder then everybody else just to be accepted. And that's called feminism??? "Modern Feminism" is just the biggest lie of all. That killed our feminine energy and anything that made us feel comfortable in being a feminine woman. I'm so grateful for you and all other women who help others how to relearn who we truly are and to find back to our power, true fulfillment, happiness and peace in every aspect of our lives again ❤❤❤
nah. what you realize is that feminism has always been more popular with men than women. That is literally because men hate this "feminine energy" crap. What "modern feminism" shows us is that you're gonna get the feminine energy/delusion/irrationality no matter what you do.
No, feminism is about equal rights as humans my dear. It’s not about being the same as men or being in competition with men. It’s about being treated the same in society and in a partnership when it comes to having choices, being respected and having basic rights.
No one has ever told me this now I know why some guys run from me is that they see a lot of masculine energy. On the other side my best friend has feminine energy and she gets any man I swear 😂
Besides my body, the initial thing that attracted my boyfriend to me when we met was my intellect. My intellect sexually arouses him, as well as my femininity. He's a masculine man and a professor.
Same love. I’ve had a few men mention what a breath of fresh of fresh air it was to talk to me about their intellectual ideas. They typically don’t get an outlet for the things that they think about everyday. I also prefer men who value that and are attracted to it. To each their own I guess
So sorry to hear this ! In other videos I am talking about boundaries, and I also have a video about signs that a man is not high caliber, check it out
@20:36 I ❤️ you but that is a blanket statement that can cause lots to feel gaslit cause many teenage girls were loving soft, sweet, naive and innocent and r (their v taken away from them) instead of protected and admired! Lotsa women who been through that are still very loving soft, sweet and empathetic by nature and get, nada!
That is why I am also teaching to have boundaries, standards and self worth ! I have a femme fatale course dedicated to that 😘 You can be soft while having strong firm boundaries
This is very instructive. Haven’t being married for some years now, I understand what you are saying. One needs wisdom and understanding to deal with a man.
What to do with men who don’t stop talking, sometimes it’s exhausting to be with a person who doesn’t even stop long enough to take a breath or I start to forget what he’s talking about or my face gets tired of smiling & I get tired of being so “present” while the guy just talks & talks
Your advice here has helped me finally understand something I have been confused about and struggled with for years and how to correct it. Thank you so much for the clear honesty about communicating in a feminine way. It is not something that appears to be modeled often in society. Your direct teaching is such a blessing. 🌷
@@Aisha_babii I don't think so, her video of moving to Dubai, she said "I". No way she would have left hubby behind. However, it's possible hubby is in Dubai. My best guess is that she isn't, a crying shame.
@@Aisha_babii She is very young, she is in her tweenies, 25 or something so she still have a lot of time. She does have a boyfriend, and I think she is engaged
Oh crap ola!Ola!! I have definitely brought my masculine energy to my dating. The nature of my work is a blessing and a curse. I'm in a highly competitive field...always on my A+ game, strategy, planning....so my banter is very intellectual. I had no idea this could be a turn off. I am far from being a damsel in distress (not saying this is what you are purporting)...my takeaway is to be a little bit of a damsel. I had a guy friend who I secretly loved tell me that I act like I don't need a man many years ago...I didn't understand what he was saying. He just got engaged and getting married in July. It was a crazy learning for me. I'm happy for him...he is a great man and father to his son...but I did let my work self overpower my feminine self. We constantly talked about critical events and had deep conversations. Now....I get it! Thanks for these tips. Now I can evolve in this area 😂
Croatia! I was born there I love your videos. I learned really a lot from you I hope you continue doing them so that I never have to even think about stopping watching you, I like how you include flowers every time you can and how you took time to represent yourself in such a beautiful manner and grace truly magnificent!
They never bring gifts or be romantic anymore. It’s just if you get like a free lunch or dinner that’s probably means you’re very lucky because most men nowadays don’t even want to pay for lunch or dinner.
@@IVvOOvVIIf you listen to some of the videos oriented towards men, they are being taught to aim for the most attractive women available and to not spend time, money, and attention on a woman. For example, the TH-cam channels Psychacks, Hamza, etc. Men are not being taught or coached to be protective and providers towards women or a family . A fact, they’re being told that marriage is ad for the man, and will cause his financial demise. It’s so sad that vulnerable men are being misled by these channels.
Could you please make a video about specific cases of conversations itself? Not the way a feminine woman has to behave but what and how she actually has to talk
Yes, good, but as an intj female, i am a bit more masculine. Being too femenine exhausts me and i am not myself. So note to all tp and tj females in the mbti spectrum, please be still yourself, there are men outthere who find you hot the way you just are! They love the more masculine women. Now i am not talking about not behaving like a woman anymore, just try to find balance. Not all men want hyper feminine women!
Thank you for this. I have alot of feminine energy but I do talk alot about intellectual topics. This was good advice. Thank you and your dress is lovely💎
How do I tell a guy about what I like that men do or express my standards but in a feminine way? Ex. I had a guy that I went out on a date with. When he first saw me he didn’t really greet me(which I thought was weird), throughout the date he didn’t compliment me not one bit, he didn’t try to make conversation as much or try to get to know. To make it worse, he was on the phone alot(he owns a business and so he said he was working a bit). I’m used to men being chilverous, putting their phones down, complimenting when needed and so on. All these things he was doing/not doing bothered me a lot and so I “corrected” him on them, to which he took them as I was giving him instructions. I’d like to know a feminine way to tell a guy about what you like and dislike without coming off like you are giving instructions?
@@ladyfl0werstough to hear 😭but you are very right!! I just thought he must be interested since he wanted to take me out to dinner. I guess in my mind, i just wanted to give him benefit of the doubt. But anyways, a couple days after I wrote my question up there, I dropped the guy. Lesson learned: Not every guy that asks you out on a date is truly interested.
What if he never makes plans at weekends? Its hard to feel playful? Then I jump into my masculine energy and plan things which he's happy to go along with but if I didn't plan we'd just sit around and do nothing
He is happy bc he likes confort. Men are like that they have a switch to conserve energy if u activate that switch he wont do anything for you. In the end you will feel tired, and with no energy. (Our "masculine energy is little so dont waste it, do important things for you with it) Focus on your beauty, on yourself. And do nothing for him. Men dont fall in love in that way, we women do. We fall in love when sb does things for us but they dont. They fall in love when they have to fight to earn our attention, time and presence. Show him your value by doing nothing.😊
This is a very interesting and useful topic. It would be nice if you developed it more in the future. Perhaps, you could give examples in given situations? It would also be helpful to give this kind of advice, for not only the dating game, but also for the marital life… I’m sure that would save a lot of couples. Anyways, thank you 🙏🥰
How do I have my boundaries and it not feel like a criticism? Serious things, painful things. Could you please come back to us with how to handle difficult situations and still maintain our feminine energy and not threaten his sense of integrity? What is an appropriate, feminine, and constructive way to navigate those deal-breaker moments?
Well, it depends. However if you speak from your body or from from your heart (if sth is hurting you, or it is against your etics or morals, or your own values) will work out. The best way to start is... i feel
And when I'm having fun and being playful I had a dude told me I was acting like a kid so I don't know I have tried all this and it's still not working maybe it's the men
How do you bring up something that is bothering you in a relationship in a way that won't scare him away? I am in a long distance situationship and I am waiting for him to take the lead regarding next steps. I have asked him his perspective on how he sees things working between us (he won't come and see me, I have to go and see him) but he just says "I don't know". I want to bring it up again but I can't bear to hear that sort of response a second time. Maybe I just need to move on
Sounds like you have your answer already. Men "speak" through action. And if he does not reciprocate the travel requirement, he's not invested. If it were me, I would pull way back from this person and date other men.
A man should be the one coming to see you especially for the first time, and make efforts towards you to court you. If he does not, you have your answer. Give your time to a man that show you that he deserves your time. If he is just lazy and say “I don’t know” about him wanting to see you, he is not in his masculine energy and not worth your energy.
I agree. He's not invested or making an effort to win you. Your too precious to God to get in situationship. Don't do it. Don't give your heart and body to a man without commitment. Ask the Lord to guide and help you.
Thank you@@Lisaglamour. My intuition is that he should be the one to come and meet me but he has never offered. He is waiting for me but never discusses details about how/when. It is a 9hr drive for me, or a $500 plane ticket. He is too afraid to talk about the "real" things and just keeps it fantasy when we talk. I am starting to reflect and just think he likes having me for validation and someone to talk to. It has been 8 months of talking but no action. I am moving on.
Thanks for these tips -- they're so well-explained! It's great to be able to come back to these videos for reference, especially when preparing for dates! -- Love your channel! 💛🏆😊
When someone offers something that is below standards, this is one kind of response that has worked for me: “That’s very generous, but that just does not work for me”
My man and I are long distance. How can I show him my feminine side over the phone. We got engaged in October and that was the same time he stopped sending me flowers
I lost my high caliber man bc i smothered him. It was my first relationship and he was nothing but loving, romantic, and compassionate. Now that I'm single, all i see are bad men :( idk if I'll ever find a gentleman like him again
Oh my goodness, I wish I had your influence in my 20’s ❤ I spent so much time, energy, and money trying to impress my dates! So ridiculous. I was soooooo in my masculine then that I didn’t even really enjoy dating these nice men, I felt competitive
Yes my cousin can get any man to do anything for her and I could not get my husband to do anything for me 😭 Men do not like debates unless you are playing I think 🤔
I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
I got it, truly a good book
I'm trying to figure out what femininity is. Please help me if you can and want to. This is what I got so far:
1. Prioritize yourself
- Do what you love (hobbies, socializing)
- Create chaotically (arts, projects)
- Take time for yourself
- Surround yourself with what you love (people, home)
- Channel anger into rage (create and destruct)
2. Stay calm
- Take time to calm down, and be present (meditate, do nothing)
- Focus on your body rather than rationality
- Don't perform/work too hard
- Don't control: let life be
- Don't fill every silence
- Allow yourself to be mysterious/don't focus on proving yourself
3. Present yourself with grace
- Dress feminine
- Take care of yourself
- Hold a delicate posture
- Personalize how you dress
4. Communicate tenderly and clear
- Use a feminine voice
- Use polite language
- Express your desires
- Talk tenderly, clearly, and mainly through showing rather than talking
5. Don't fight
- Let men be free
- Respect men
- Keep peace
- Don't criticize men
- Allow men to be unexpressive about their emotions
- Allow yourself to disagree
- Don't require people to agree
6. Be thankful
- Honour men's protection and provision
- Receive men's affection
- Show appreciation
7. Listen actively
- Read and consider people's emotions
- Don't fill every silence
8. Be joyful
- Be playful (in conflict too)
- Enjoy your time
- Remind people how great it is to be a woman and to be alive
9. Focus on your body
- Direct your spirit before your action
- Don't focus on rational debate
- Sit down and relax
10. Be down to earth (humble, unentitled and confident with boundaries)
11. Show love to children
I think femininity is the complete opposite of masculinity obviously. Being feminine is being submissive and soft and gentle and down to earth while displaying our beauty our presence our confidence. Speaking with grace and walking with elegance. Dressing with elegance. It’s just being extremely….im not sure the exact word lol.
I think this is a mess. I am trying to figure out what they mean about femininity and high value women, but most of seems to me like being submissive,which I don't believe in, because we have personalities and it seems to me like hiding ourselves for men to love a facade. No, thank you.
@HB-vc4bf This "femininity" thing is misogynistic BS. Are you a woman? Then Just be yourself, do what you need to do, and you are feminine by definition. Everything else is just a cultural expectation that differs with time, place, and social stratum.
Thank you! This helps me process longer videos 😅
Thanks for this! ❤
Arguing never works! And if you express your feelings in a feminine way and he doesn't try to fix the problem, he's the wrong one. There's so much power in femininity! Also love your dress🤍
Not exactly. It's complicated as we don't always understand the actual problem.
What we see as the problem is not always the problem, the problem is that she's upset about the problem. Let's say she's driving, parks the car, then there's an underhood fire, quickly extinguished, no one hurt. To me, the problem is fixing the car, maybe alt transportation, fixed. Not so. She's scared, worried, trying to figure out how it impacts her in the near future, and many what-ifs. The problem is how she feels about it and needs a shoulder to cry on. This is very confusing as we fixed the problem but she's crying about it.
@@JimKittell6486 that's true as well! (I mean when people don't care about another's happiness)
@@theclassyconsultant. Thank you. Only those who care about their spouse's happiness will try to understand that concept. I can't picture a marriage that works w/o caring for each other's happiness.
thx for reply
@@JimKittell6486Thank you for pointing that out. I can admit that is me to the T. I just need someone to comfort me in that moment and if any advice is given, it be as simple as "Hey, we got through (say extinguishing the fire like in your example) together, if such and such concern does occur, we'll handle that together too. I'm right here with you. We got this."
@@MistyfaeryThat's the magic. WE got this. I can't tell you how many times wifey and I put our heads together to solve a problem, with better results. Doing this is very very bonding
thx for reply
I’m 59 years old , married 39 years and This is such great advice. ❤. Wish I knew this sooner.
“Loose lips sink ships.” Certainly.💡
Note to self "when you argue with him he sees that as an attack on who he is and you're attacking the basic human need of someone wanting to feel seen and valued."
Every time she says "hello my beautiful darlings" I melt! Love her!
Same! ❤
My 4 year old daughter just said, mommy, shes a princess!
Everyday and consistency are the keys. I watch your videos frequently to stay in touch and keep the masculine me at bay.
One major change to make is to wear dresses rather than jeans.
what about if you go to school?
I am curious to know your thoughts on how a woman can balance her feminine energy while working a corporate job? Embodying more masculine energy at work for 8 hours a day (productivity, meetings, objectives, managing etc) makes it difficult to disconnect from it outside of work
This is the same challenge I am facing!
I was in the same shoes working in a an men centric industry for years. I realized I carried the masculine energy to my private life after a comment from my father. I changed and stopped it immediately after stepping out of the office and in car ( like a on and off power switch) and embrace my female feminine energy. Left work behind and did not go to any gatherings/ after hours drinks with coworkers and did not bring work home either.
Don’t become a manager. Choose jobs that focus on creativity and service. People will be overjoyed and thankful for you. You’ll be in your serving energy rather than domineering. Jobs of service can also be high paid as well.
"Don't be intellectual around men." About sums it up 😂😂😂😂😂😅
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suggesting rather than demanding . expressing your desire instead of demands
This is great advice Lisa! If you don't mind, I will share my point of you and hope to hear your thoughts on it.
You often refer to Angelina Jolie but I find her energy more intimidatingly dark feminine, which is seductive but often attracts men who are just looking for a challenge and excitement. Last night I watched the movie Clueless and was amazed by Cher Horowitz's dazzling light femininity! Everything about that character was high-value but light feminine rather than dark and I found it so much more attractive. She was kind, playful, light-hearted, giving and highly feminine but had strong boundaries, high standards and clear goals for herself. Her character is a perfect balance of light and dark femininity, with a touch of innocence while Angelina Jolie type characters always look like they're deceptive and unhappy at their core. When you think about it, all the femme fatales you refer to seem sad deep down, while the light feminine characters like Cher Horowitz in Clueless, Brigitte Bardot in God Created Woman, Grace Kelly in High Society, even Holly Golightly in Breakfast at Tiffany's all exhude a bright joyful energy that translates into irresistible charm. In conclusion, femme fatales mesmerize men, but light feminine women shine the brightest. 💖
That is why I always say that you need both energies! A balance of the light and the dark feminine energy, both form the divine feminine 😘
In the movie the tourist, Angelina actually has both energies. You can see her smile, laugh, being warm and caring. While she is also very mysterious, seductive and alluring, and has strong boundaries, and high standards.
Cher from Clueless cleary has both energies as well. She just look more like the light feminine in her appearance, but she is very confident, playful, knows what she wants and has very strong boundaries (which is the dark feminine).
Sometimes a character in a movie can dress and have the appearance of the dark feminine, but actually be in her light feminine. And vice versa ;)
It is much more complex actually.
Plus my teaching is very balanced, I talk about both energies in all of my videos. Being caring and loving, while having self love and self care.
Femme Fatales actually use both energies as well.
In real life BOTH energies are magnetic.
There is not one energy that is better than the other.
If you are only the light feminine, you will be taken advantage of. It is the “nice girl” people pleaser syndrome.
When you are only the dark feminine you will be too emotionnally distant and will have trouble forming connections.
When you master both, this is when you become your highest level self as a woman ❤️
@@Lisaglamour Thank you for your answer Lisa. 💗🌹 You're right, it's all about balancing the light and dark feminine energies. I will watch The Tourist again just to analyze Angelina's feminine traits.
One movie that I would highly suggest you watch and talk about is Rear Window with Grace Kelly. In that film, she is the ultimate pick-me, nice girl who works way too hard to win over a low value man. I found it so eye-opening because it showed me that even the most beautiful, glamorous, high society woman can devalue herself by being too much in her light feminine.
For example, she was doing things like bringing expensive restaurant take-out dinners with wine and everything to a man's house who didn't even ask her to be his girlfriend. 🤣 I'm telling you, Rear Window is a classic movie of what not to do as a woman. 😄
@@Lisaglamour Looking beautiful as always 😍😍
That's a great analogy...So true , femme fatals would do Tango not salsa, for example, 😏Grace Kelly , type would dance by the moon...
There are 4 different types of feminine energy and each of them has a lower and a higher manifestation. Femme fatale is one of the possibilities and usually this type of women are at their core unable to connect to anyone, even a partner on an emotional level. These tricks and pretenses are for the most part meant to mask that inability. Out of the movies you've mentioned I've only watched Breakfast at Tiffany's and the main character is basically a little girl looking for a daddy wrapped in the body of a young woman, but isn't actually a mature woman. Women should better get educated on the different types of feminine energies, see which one they resonate with the most and incorporate elements of the other types. Basically you're going to attract men that like your core feminine energy. If you try to become a completely other type of woman, you'll put on a mask that men will fall for, but that mask will drop eventually and the relationship will dissolve because it rests on deception. We all have both masculine and feminine energy and it's wise to work on the inner balance between the two in order to become more complete beings instead of trying to emulate being something we may not be in order to extract a specific type of behaviour from a man. If a woman is emotionally mature, she will attract a mature man who will treat her like a lady because he loves her essence, not because she's playing a role.
Thank you for making it clear what do do and that most of us don't have a clue how to act around a man. I LOVE your videos Lisa!
I always take others advice with a grain of salt. Lisa has always provided great information and I intend on remaining a strong creole woman with a strong personality. Cultural distinctions matter and certain demeanors may not seem alluring to YOU but someone else might be delighted at your unique and sassy energy!
Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and not accept bad behavior. If you are strong, be espresso in a world of decaf! Y’tú sabes!
Please tell me I'm not the only one who noticed a diamond 💍 on Lisa's left ring finger. If it's what I think it is, congratulations!!!
This is a big problem in todays society. We got taught to be competitors to men. That we always have to proof our worth, how intelligent we are, how capable and independent we are and that we need to work ten times harder then everybody else just to be accepted.
And that's called feminism??? "Modern Feminism" is just the biggest lie of all. That killed our feminine energy and anything that made us feel comfortable in being a feminine woman.
I'm so grateful for you and all other women who help others how to relearn who we truly are and to find back to our power, true fulfillment, happiness and peace in every aspect of our lives again ❤❤❤
nah.
what you realize is that feminism has always been more popular with men than women.
That is literally because men hate this "feminine energy" crap.
What "modern feminism" shows us is that you're gonna get the feminine energy/delusion/irrationality no matter what you do.
No, feminism is about equal rights as humans my dear. It’s not about being the same as men or being in competition with men. It’s about being treated the same in society and in a partnership when it comes to having choices, being respected and having basic rights.
thank you so much, you are saving my marriage after we almost divorce...
No one has ever told me this now I know why some guys run from me is that they see a lot of masculine energy. On the other side my best friend has feminine energy and she gets any man I swear 😂
Ur friend sounds like the princess tbh...
How timely. I need this lesson now. Thanks
Besides my body, the initial thing that attracted my boyfriend to me when we met was my intellect. My intellect sexually arouses him, as well as my femininity. He's a masculine man and a professor.
Amazing 😘
Same love. I’ve had a few men mention what a breath of fresh of fresh air it was to talk to me about their intellectual ideas. They typically don’t get an outlet for the things that they think about everyday. I also prefer men who value that and are attracted to it. To each their own I guess
I REALLY appreciate you discussing the performative aspect of femininity.
Feed into his ego. Yup and later he gaslighted me and cheated on me. He wanted an audience to marvel at him.
So sorry to hear this ! In other videos I am talking about boundaries, and I also have a video about signs that a man is not high caliber, check it out
@@Lisaglamour will do thank you
Can you maybe help me find the video you talk about, 'not high caliber men'?
Leo Man
@@Justmek200 stop it. You zodiac has nothing to do with anything
@20:36 I ❤️ you but that is a blanket statement that can cause lots to feel gaslit cause many teenage girls were loving soft, sweet, naive and innocent and r (their v taken away from them) instead of protected and admired! Lotsa women who been through that are still very loving soft, sweet and empathetic by nature and get, nada!
That is why I am also teaching to have boundaries, standards and self worth ! I have a femme fatale course dedicated to that 😘 You can be soft while having strong firm boundaries
@Lisaglamour oh alright, but I'm just saying that a lotta sweet souls do Not get the treatment they are worthy of!
This should attract higher quality men. Because most men today cannot handle feminine women.
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Not at all lol
And who's that fault ?
Most women think, being feminine means receiving money from a man!
@@RamsesII-zx8fy femimism. But men lead! So step up
This is very instructive. Haven’t being married for some years now, I understand what you are saying. One needs wisdom and understanding to deal with a man.
What to do with men who don’t stop talking, sometimes it’s exhausting to be with a person who doesn’t even stop long enough to take a breath or I start to forget what he’s talking about or my face gets tired of smiling & I get tired of being so “present” while the guy just talks & talks
best question ever!
Ugh those types of guys are annoying. If you don't like that don't date them!
Yeah, they were guys who loves to talk and hear their own voice
You need to heal your patterns in how you choose men
She has mastered the art of femininity
As a young girl I definitely needed this one! Thank you!!! 💖
Your advice here has helped me finally understand something I have been confused about and struggled with for years and how to correct it. Thank you so much for the clear honesty about communicating in a feminine way. It is not something that appears to be modeled often in society. Your direct teaching is such a blessing. 🌷
I just found Lisa on TH-cam and I’m so happy I did! I’m truly feeling that “princess treatment” coming in.
It's incredible how well you can combine dresses and accessories. You look great 🤍🤍🤍
I found your channel and it changed my life❤
@12:16 and lotsa males are super hot-headed with females that's sooo bad, he's supposed to be protective of her!
I’m so far gone I don’t even know how to be playful in conversation lol
I also read your energy - since Dubai your energy is so clearly. Dubai suits u so great 😍😍😍
I thought u were married bcs of the dress LOL
Love u❤❤
She’s not married?
@@Aisha_babiiEngaged.
@@Aisha_babii I don't think so, her video of moving to Dubai, she said "I". No way she would have left hubby behind. However, it's possible hubby is in Dubai. My best guess is that she isn't, a crying shame.
@@JimKittell6486 oh I see! Yea
@@Aisha_babii She is very young, she is in her tweenies, 25 or something so she still have a lot of time. She does have a boyfriend, and I think she is engaged
I appreciate you for explaining this subject to its simpler form. I hear femininity but no one has quite explained it like you. ❤💐💜
It’s not giving marriage vibe !!! 👀 to me it’s giving royal vibe 💖 GLAMOROUSSSSSSS ✨
Thank you for putting up Henry Cavill's image on the thumbnail 😅😂🤩
Oh crap ola!Ola!! I have definitely brought my masculine energy to my dating. The nature of my work is a blessing and a curse. I'm in a highly competitive field...always on my A+ game, strategy, planning....so my banter is very intellectual. I had no idea this could be a turn off. I am far from being a damsel in distress (not saying this is what you are purporting)...my takeaway is to be a little bit of a damsel. I had a guy friend who I secretly loved tell me that I act like I don't need a man many years ago...I didn't understand what he was saying. He just got engaged and getting married in July. It was a crazy learning for me. I'm happy for him...he is a great man and father to his son...but I did let my work self overpower my feminine self. We constantly talked about critical events and had deep conversations. Now....I get it! Thanks for these tips. Now I can evolve in this area 😂
Drop the need to convince anyone !
Croatia! I was born there I love your videos. I learned really a lot from you I hope you continue doing them so that I never have to even think about stopping watching you, I like how you include flowers every time you can and how you took time to represent yourself in such a beautiful manner and grace truly magnificent!
Those flowers are almost as gorgeous as you! 😍
Queen! You look absolutely stunning and inspiring!! 💕💕💕
She looks so pure ❤
Honestly, forget gifts, romance etc at this point I'll happily settle for not cheating.
They never bring gifts or be romantic anymore. It’s just if you get like a free lunch or dinner that’s probably means you’re very lucky because most men nowadays don’t even want to pay for lunch or dinner.
@@IVvOOvVIIf you listen to some of the videos oriented towards men, they are being taught to aim for the most attractive women available and to not spend time, money, and attention on a woman. For example, the TH-cam channels Psychacks, Hamza, etc. Men are not being taught or coached to be protective and providers towards women or a family . A fact, they’re being told that marriage is ad for the man, and will cause his financial demise. It’s so sad that vulnerable men are being misled by these channels.
this fit ! ♡ elegant Jackie O aura
Could you please make a video about specific cases of conversations itself? Not the way a feminine woman has to behave but what and how she actually has to talk
Yes, good, but as an intj female, i am a bit more masculine. Being too femenine exhausts me and i am not myself. So note to all tp and tj females in the mbti spectrum, please be still yourself, there are men outthere who find you hot the way you just are! They love the more masculine women. Now i am not talking about not behaving like a woman anymore, just try to find balance. Not all men want hyper feminine women!
You’re so beautiful. Been listening to you the whole day! Just what I badly needed. Thank you, thank you. ♥️
I love your calm and happy energy
Thank you for this. I have alot of feminine energy but I do talk alot about intellectual topics. This was good advice. Thank you and your dress is lovely💎
How do I tell a guy about what I like that men do or express my standards but in a feminine way?
Ex. I had a guy that I went out on a date with. When he first saw me he didn’t really greet me(which I thought was weird), throughout the date he didn’t compliment me not one bit, he didn’t try to make conversation as much or try to get to know. To make it worse, he was on the phone alot(he owns a business and so he said he was working a bit). I’m used to men being chilverous, putting their phones down, complimenting when needed and so on. All these things he was doing/not doing bothered me a lot and so I “corrected” him on them, to which he took them as I was giving him instructions.
I’d like to know a feminine way to tell a guy about what you like and dislike without coming off like you are giving instructions?
Why would u "correct" some lost cause? He was clearly not into you
@@ladyfl0werstough to hear 😭but you are very right!! I just thought he must be interested since he wanted to take me out to dinner. I guess in my mind, i just wanted to give him benefit of the doubt. But anyways, a couple days after I wrote my question up there, I dropped the guy.
Lesson learned: Not every guy that asks you out on a date is truly interested.
@@luv2luvya4ever yes sometimes they’re just using you because they don’t wanna go out and sit by themselves
@@IVvOOvVI exactly
Thanks Lisa
i have been looking for this video thanks once again Lisa
What if he never makes plans at weekends? Its hard to feel playful? Then I jump into my masculine energy and plan things which he's happy to go along with but if I didn't plan we'd just sit around and do nothing
Yeah objectively it’s hard not to act and not to be in control and so on… it comes natural in my opinion
He is happy bc he likes confort. Men are like that they have a switch to conserve energy if u activate that switch he wont do anything for you. In the end you will feel tired, and with no energy. (Our "masculine energy is little so dont waste it, do important things for you with it)
Focus on your beauty, on yourself. And do nothing for him. Men dont fall in love in that way, we women do. We fall in love when sb does things for us but they dont. They fall in love when they have to fight to earn our attention, time and presence.
Show him your value by doing nothing.😊
Relatable
He’s not a masculine man. Find someone who is masculine ;)
This is a very interesting and useful topic. It would be nice if you developed it more in the future. Perhaps, you could give examples in given situations? It would also be helpful to give this kind of advice, for not only the dating game, but also for the marital life… I’m sure that would save a lot of couples. Anyways, thank you 🙏🥰
Yes I developp that subject even more (for dating, relationships and married couples) in my femme fatale siren course 😘
@@Lisaglamouroh yes, exactly, you mentioned it at the beginning 😊 Thank you 🥰
Wow!!!!! Pretty flowers!!! Yes great info.!!! xoxo
I swear you look like Ursula when she became Vanessa in the Little Mermaid! 😂❤
How do I have my boundaries and it not feel like a criticism? Serious things, painful things. Could you please come back to us with how to handle difficult situations and still maintain our feminine energy and not threaten his sense of integrity? What is an appropriate, feminine, and constructive way to navigate those deal-breaker moments?
yeah I never get real life vibes here
“Your offer is very generous but it just doesn’t work for me”
Well, it depends. However if you speak from your body or from from your heart (if sth is hurting you, or it is against your etics or morals, or your own values) will work out.
The best way to start is... i feel
Gooood i feel i fall into his intellectual talk always and do not know what to do
Everything is true.
100%
I am trying to learn from your videos… but… my emotions get the best of me. Just had a huge fight with my husband. Ay..
Jesus in a person’s life gives a person the ability to control their emotions.
Aww I have learnt so much from this channel -luv u gorg xx
I jus want to say thank you soooo much for these chats this info is very helpful
Some women have Trinity like character, in matrix and he was in love with her....
Yep. It’s better for us to all just be ourselves in the end. There’s no one way to be and all men don’t like one type of woman.
Gems!!!!!totally getting course!!😊
I love the way you explain
..and dont make it to be everything about him.
And the thing is to talk with love and be ...love surrounded ❤
You made some very, very valid points, dear❤
❤ Thank you. You look gorgeous.
Thank you! i love this advice. it is great. You look beautiful, will you do a makeup tutorial ?
And when I'm having fun and being playful I had a dude told me I was acting like a kid so I don't know I have tried all this and it's still not working maybe it's the men
Maybe you need to find a balance. There is can always be a too much
You just earned a subscriber ❤
I LOVE your videos Lisa. You're so inspiring!!❤❤❤
Thank you for your valuable information that really change our lives.. Please video about teenage problems ❤
How do you bring up something that is bothering you in a relationship in a way that won't scare him away? I am in a long distance situationship and I am waiting for him to take the lead regarding next steps. I have asked him his perspective on how he sees things working between us (he won't come and see me, I have to go and see him) but he just says "I don't know". I want to bring it up again but I can't bear to hear that sort of response a second time. Maybe I just need to move on
Sounds like you have your answer already. Men "speak" through action. And if he does not reciprocate the travel requirement, he's not invested. If it were me, I would pull way back from this person and date other men.
A man should be the one coming to see you especially for the first time, and make efforts towards you to court you. If he does not, you have your answer.
Give your time to a man that show you that he deserves your time.
If he is just lazy and say “I don’t know” about him wanting to see you, he is not in his masculine energy and not worth your energy.
I agree. He's not invested or making an effort to win you. Your too precious to God to get in situationship. Don't do it. Don't give your heart and body to a man without commitment. Ask the Lord to guide and help you.
Thank you@@Lisaglamour. My intuition is that he should be the one to come and meet me but he has never offered. He is waiting for me but never discusses details about how/when. It is a 9hr drive for me, or a $500 plane ticket. He is too afraid to talk about the "real" things and just keeps it fantasy when we talk. I am starting to reflect and just think he likes having me for validation and someone to talk to. It has been 8 months of talking but no action. I am moving on.
I agree, move on. He's too immature and has no goals regarding a relationship.
You are so smart!! Very informative video. Thanks a lot ❤
Thanks for these tips -- they're so well-explained! It's great to be able to come back to these videos for reference, especially when preparing for dates! -- Love your channel! 💛🏆😊
You look like a Disney princess 👸
Your videos are so helpful!! I was going at all this the wrong way! Probably why I'm still single. Thank you so much!!
How Can i show my standars without explain it?
When someone offers something that is below standards, this is one kind of response that has worked for me:
“That’s very generous, but that just does not work for me”
My man and I are long distance. How can I show him my feminine side over the phone. We got engaged in October and that was the same time he stopped sending me flowers
another amazing video from the queen, so many good tips and advice ! you look so beautiful
Aw I always love your videos! I'll be using the tips in this one, thank you 😇❤️
healthy relationships ✝️🔑
Thank you so much.
what's the film at 1:26 w the girl in the feathery dress surrounded by the men?
I lost my high caliber man bc i smothered him. It was my first relationship and he was nothing but loving, romantic, and compassionate. Now that I'm single, all i see are bad men :( idk if I'll ever find a gentleman like him again
What do you think about terms of endearment? Are there terms you like or don’t do it?
You're helping me
I need this thank u so much ❤❤❤
I enjoyed your enrgy dear Lisa, very useful.🙏
Your dress is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.
You’re so wonderful thank you so much
Thank you. Can you give some flirting tips too please❤
Oh my goodness, I wish I had your influence in my 20’s ❤ I spent so much time, energy, and money trying to impress my dates! So ridiculous. I was soooooo in my masculine then that I didn’t even really enjoy dating these nice men, I felt competitive
Yaaay! Was waiting for this
Do you have any videos about incorporating feminine energy into your social media?
Yes my cousin can get any man to do anything for her and I could not get my husband to do anything for me 😭 Men do not like debates unless you are playing I think 🤔