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I agree with everything you said, but a woman cannot achieve this if she does not feel secure. Femininity flourishes with a masculine man who is supportive and protective.
@nu376 thanks for sharing. I do agree that femininity can flourish with security from the masculine man but I will say that, as human beings, the journey is to find security within ones self through internal personal growth so that needs to be generated as much as possible. Life acts like a mirror - what we feel and believe on the inside is usually reflected back on the outside and hence what we desire, we have to hold onto internally as much as possible. When we need things too much from another person then we give our power away and that can cause many issues. I’m intentionally touching more on psychological and spiritual growth here rather than on the feminine side of things so that a more holistic approach can be taken. Hope that makes sense
@@powerfullgoddess5797most definitely that occurs but we also have to ask ourselves that if that’s who we are dealing with and there is no willingness to shift on their part, is the relationship for our highest good and should we stay…
I can't believe that in this generation a woman has to give her husband the right to feel masculine. I agree that women should be paid the same for the same job. I don't agree with women trying to assert themselves so much that they loose the fact that they have a XX chromosome.
@@karenpalmer2195if I understand your point correctly, it’s not about giving men the right to be masculine - all this is about is recognising that patterns play out in relationships and if we don’t adequately foster both the feminine and masculine energies with the respective individuals, then problem can arise. Also, under stress there tends to be a pattern called reverse polarity that then results in individuals taking on the reverse roles and energies. I’ve seen it time and time again in my practice and it can result in some real issues - this is not about generations and what should happen in 2023 v back in the day etc. Thanks for sharing your views 😊
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Staying single is so much easier and less complicated. I would really enjoy having someone to grow old with and have as a partner, but not at the expense of always having to stroke his ego, or tiptoe around his pride, guessing what’s too needy or not needy enough. At 53 that just doesn’t even sound appealing anymore.
I completely hear you but I can assure you that when you have an amazing relationship, it's the best thing ever! And even though I raise these points, there are absolutely amazing men out there who you don't have to tip toe around and constantly feel you have to get everything right in terms of words, actions etc. When you find the right partner and the fundamental values etc are aligned, then it can flow in a beautiful way and the challenges that inevitably come along can help each other to grow. All the very best to you :)
I’m 59-60 next month and have been dating a man that was previously my friend … omg…wow. After 6 years on my own, he’s a real treat. I’m not well and he looks after me- now I let him. I’m happy to say ..there is hope!
Thanks for this. Whilst this may sound lovely, the truth is that some individuals have some really deep wounds on the inside that they’ve been carrying for a long time and and hence they sometimes attract a partner that treats them poorly and they struggle to live without them because it retains their sense of identity ie feeling inadequate etc. Just something to be mindful about. Have a wonderful Xmas 🎄
Not all men deserve this. So watch for red flags right off the bat and make sure the man you give this to is a man who deserves it. Otherwise you might spend all of your faith and patience and love on the wrong man which will in turn make you bitter and impatient. Allow the right men into your life and giving them these things will make you both thrive in the relationship.
Thanks for your comment. As a general rule I agree with you completely but there are complexities to relationships and it’s important to focus on internal growth as well as mental and emotional clarity to ensure the right decisions and environment is created :)
# 1. Ability to enable the masculine. #2. Balance between dependence and independence. # 3. Understands the needs of the masculine. # 4. Simplify your approach to the relationship.
Well it’s actually about all people learning and doing their best to grow - I just primarily help women learn about male psychology and go deeper into relationships with men
Totally agree with you. I did meet some women whose energy are just so feminine and peaceful. They don't have a hot face but they are always leave a very strong impression for me within a long time since we met. Also, I want to give some extra points to the video: It is all the femininities should be natural and come from her inner self. A feminine woman for me is also a lady who are able to make herself happy, know what she wants, what she deserves and can say no gently (not aggressively) with what don't match her core values. Anyway, thank you so much for such a clear and right explanation.
Geez. Thanks for reminding me of why I've been single for 25 years. Be independent but not too independent, show him that you need him but don't be needy, enjoy spending time with him but also make time away from him, don't forget he's the alpha.... Bloody hell, no wonder the world is so F'd up!
I can understand why it may seem confusing but everything is about balance and that can absolutely be attained to create incredible relationships. Thank you for sharing and I wish you nothing but the best on your journey 🙏
Very informative. Can we also ask that nen start vocalizing their needs vs. us women having to guess what's going on with them. Just like women have stepped up, men should, too. I personally find the guessing game difficult. There's nothing more attractive than a male who communicates ❤
Thanks for your comments :) I agree with you definitely- men do need to vocalise their needs- but I will also say, I think this is important from both sides and as long as there is open communication then that can only be a good thing.
@@lrsr5398 just remember to not look for perfect communication right from the outset. Relationships can absolutely evolve and grow and that’s the magic of them - you can’t always wait for the ‘finished’ product. Also, we have to make sure that we are taking care of our side of the street as well to make sure we are creating the right environment for quality communication
Thanks I will keep this in mind if I start actually dating! My previous relationship was 17 years and he wanted to marry me without talking about how we were going to handle finances. I just couldn’t do it, unfortunately I think I was too young to realize how much time I had wasted. But I did learn to not waste that much of my time ever again. Better/clearer expectations and boundaries is what growth I got out of that relationship. I will try to make my expectations of communication reasonable in correlation to time dating.
I just don't like it when a man thinks a woman is always "the damsel in distress" We can do things ourselves sometimes... Also, if men just take out the trash when it gets full, women wouldn't keep hounding them to take it out. There's been times where l won't say anything about the trash, but my husband won't ever take the trash out, so l have to say something!! Also, men need to treat women like a queen 👑 as well. It's a two way street. It's not all about the man, it's about the woman too. It takes two.. reciprocation...
That's a difficult one w/ men. They don't like to be told, but many of them (not all) won't take the initiative if you don't say anything. Then they resent you for "nagging". You can't have it both ways.
@@moderngentlemanschoolGeorge, it sounds like you want your cake and to eat it too:). Telling her, then don’t bother men, if you can’t take out the trash. Feminine women want a man to do the manly tasks so the woman can stay in her feminine energy. The fact you don’t understand this simple fact means that you will never have a long term relationship with a feminine woman. I wish you well though.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 This is tactics from its finest. They wait for the moment, when the women gives up, and does everything "nasty" herself. This is bliss for them.
❤🔥My former spouse was given multiple opportunities over our many years of marriage to step into his Divine Masculinity, but repeatedly failed to do so. After so many disappointments of being tangibly let down, essentially forced out of my Divine Femininity, I checked out. I realized that he was not willing to do the inner work to embrace his masculine side. He was more comfortable staying shallow & distant, playful & light-hearted. I needed a masculine man, & he wasn't willing to be one. Now that I am single, I am very much balanced in my masculine & feminine energy. I feel like a girl again! Lol! 😊
I think there are so many more independent women because they were in relationships where their men were weak or users. So the woman had to do even more to make up for him!! So you meet a decent guy and you are afraid to totally trust that he is going to do his part!
If you do anything, let it be from the heart. If you say something, let it also be from the heart ❤ Simplicity in everything makes it all more real and substantial. It's unusual for me to agree on the extreme on subjects such as the ones you've discussed. However, it's rare for someone to speak the way you have, like an accurate reflection of my own femininity ❤ There is a 99.999% match between your thoughts about Femininity and it's natural effects on organic Masculinity, and my attitude about my own femininity and its evolution❤ I'm a realist writer, and apart from supporting you totally on everything you've said, I also resonate with advocating transparency not only in relationships but every situation in life. It brings more solutions!
I know exactly what the masculine wants/needs, and I would have no problem offering these things if I would find someone worthy of them. The issue is, at least in my country, it seems that most men simply aren't connected to *their* masculinity. I show numerous signs of femininity, both visually and in gestures, yet they usually either ignore them or have the nerve to mock them/try to take advantage of them (just try, since they never succeed). The woman can be as soft as a pink lily - if the man stubbornly refuses to take on "the hero role" (yes, even for something as little as carrying the supermarket bags), there's no use. As you said, there can't be two feminines or two masculines, and me being the fighter/breadwinner is out of discussion.
Most of them do absolutely nothing if they see a woman struggling with a heavy object/being in visible danger, try to intimidate the ones they perceive to be helpless and, assuming they even take the chance to invite a lady out (as the vast majority expect women to do the chasing), they will try *anything* to avoid covering even a 3$ bill - the reason why I won't even go out with someone who won't assure me, prior to getting ready, that it would be his treat. The irony is, I live in a country that likes to present itself as traditional. Can only bitter-laugh at this statement.
Wow, this is one of the most informative videos in feminine/masculine energies!!! Love the analogy between the feminine/masculine energies and positive/negative energy in batteries!!! 🤯 I hope this video goes viral! And I love that you’re talking to wives! So much content like this is geared towards women who are dating! I’ve been a boss babe and my masculine energy negatively effected my marriage. I am SO grateful I realized if before it was too late! My marriage is so much better because of the changes I made! I’m always looking to learn and improve to make my marriage even better! Thank you for this video - please do more of these! I’m a new subscriber!!!! P.S. I appreciate advice to us, committed married women, from a married committed man. It gives you so much credibility! And your wife sounds amazing! Best of luck!
Thank you so much for your beautiful words @VickyLashenko 😍 so glad you found the content valuable and I wish you nothing but the best for your marriage/life. Please do reach out if you have any questions 🙏 Blessings to you!
Shortly after getting married i witnessed a woman get into a verbal fight with a man. She then went outside & got her man. I then asked my husband if he'd do that for me. If i had to ask... His response was "I'd expect you to be smart enough not to get in that situation". I think i lost all respect for him there & then.
@@Himmiefan for a weak man that stands for nothing, maybe. But not for a man who's secured in his identity and that of his wife and is willing to show support to her in the face of bullying.
I don't have the energy to play mind games. These are for kids and those who haven't really evolved when it comes to dating. I like the direct approach. Say exactly what you mean - needs, wants, what's bothering you etc.
I’m glad you like the direct approach so I wish you the best with all of that. Just to be clear, it’s not about mind games - it’s about understanding the deeper aspects of masculine feminine energies in the context of a relationship and then adapting accordingly. Wishing you all the best 🙏
@@SriRajasekar Yes. I think my natural feminine energy radiates when my partner is in his full masculine energy. But most people mistakenly think that being masculine is being physically muscular. It's about being courageous and taking action.
I have realized that love is all about giving the joy of giving where u act like god , in life we meet people we r drawn to but the the love they reflect is the veey love we r from inside that can be realized through inner work.. the very thing when we start to seek out u will realize u have always been its source
@nargismahmud2959 communication is key. Yes there are patterns but naturally there are going to be exceptions and hence, this is where you need to have some open dialogue in an honest way where both parties are aware of each others needs. Is this relating to your own situation? If so, do you both communicate well?
@@SriRajasekar thank you and yes its related to my situation and he doesn't communicate well. I'm all ears to listen and understand but he is a type of guy who has difficulty in sharing what he is going through and has lot of mood swings. What to do in that case?
Not all men want to feel needed. I had one like that and his wish to feel needed was so low that i ended up feeling like i needed him too much and it ended up suffocating him because he didn’t want to feel needed in the first place.
Just remember that in any video it’s impossible to point out every single scenario however there are patterns and that’s what is being explained. Thanks for sharing
I like your Chanel , your information is so enlightening, I love my independence of being a female and my femininity but I still haven’t found a guy who accepts me for me, like to learn more about the masculine energy in myself
Thanks so much! Really glad to hear you enjoy the channel :) that’s great that you have a desire to learn about these things! Are you currently getting any help or support on your journey?
Yes my second husband used to check out other women all the years ago he’s not my husband anymore but I remember he always wanted to be intimate after we had been to a function where lots of women were present
From 7:50 - 10:20 is so informative. I cannot stand being badgered, criticized, etc. when if a woman asks me something, I'm more than happy to do it if they just sit back and LET ME. Let me come to you and impress you. The more you demand it, the less I want to do it. My ex-wife and so many ex-girlfriends are so guilty of this.
Lmao u probably didn't do it in a timely manner, nobody likes to badger and nag, do u like asking someone for something over and over again? Neither does ur wife, but she's doing it bc ur not getting shit done in a timely manner
Families are central to Gods Plan…. They are eternal! That is what comes first!! You don’t need distractions from the family…the two of you are one! If men know their stewardship as protector and provider and the wife is the nurturer they work together. That means they are helpmeets and partners in everyday life. When a man comes home he must realize his wife has been busy with 6 kids so he needs to pick up right away and give her the space! Minister , mentor and uplift each other…
Human beings are complex and each person has a different series of experiences, challenges, pressures and emotional wounds. Yes, I agree that in an ideal world, he would come home and immediately serve his wife and kids but all I’m trying to say is that in some instances, the pressures weighing down on him with other life circumstances can affect his ability to step up. In depth communication is required to navigate through these challenging times. Thanks for commenting
@@SriRajasekar In that case you are eliminating the need and application of Jesus Christ s infinite loving atonement to lift him so he can perform those duties he was asked to perform when sealed in the Temple… House of the Lord!
For me is dam if i do and dam if i dont.. i dont show enough feelings , doesnt work out, n now i ahow my feelings more n have more femininity vs masculinity n it doesnt workout , i just dont know anymore the balance n i feel lost everytime. This last guy literally just pushed me away n it was perfect. So idk anymore.. i tend to have masculine energy but when i notice it i leanback n give him space. He said im very assertive but i see it as i know what i want n i dont play games. And now i notice he is back on fishing online but yet has me matched ..after 5 mo of building a emotional connection kind of hurt my heart a bit.
Thanks so much for sharing this and I really Appreciate the honesty. Sometimes in relationships there are some blind spots that we need to be aware of and that can help us to make sense of some of these patterns. Have you been getting any help at all?
Major assumptions of men in this video # 1 desire to deliver masculine energy to help her. Does the man actually have this desire to step up. Many do not. Maybe for the first 1-2 years when sex gets to be expected. Then the desire to step up is gone and unfortunately now comes the saying “using sex as a weapon”. How about the saying he is doing things for me ..doing things to help as the bargaining chip for sex. That is what he is doing. #2 major assumption that men are okay with their female partner having independence. All okay provided it is in sync that at that moment he is not interested in you or your activities. If he is sitting alone at home and no football to watch, good luck. Your example of the woman having to ask him to take the garbage out-she would not ask him if the garbage was not full but if it is spilling over -she is not being needy. He is not being pro active and doesn’t care. He will devide ehen HE is ready to take it out and if he does not feel like it st THAT moment the full garbage can stay in the kitchen or at the door till the next day. Then blames the woman. Such a sexual turn off this for women hate petulant pubertal teenage boys and that is what he is behaving as but if course she is the nagging wife. #3 needs of the masculine energy - freedom and space fair enough. Hard to be intimate if the man has expectations that he is king with a maid in the house vs having a queen in the house. #4 Bits of advice does not included judgmental attitude that she has no reason to feel frustrated or sad or upset And so there is the dogma for her to stop bring so sensitive or so emotional. They don’t mind the passion and sensitivity in bed -then suddenly passion and sensitivity is great! Another petulant pubertal teenage boy mentality.
Naturally, in a short video I can’t go through every scenario when it comes to relationships. I am explaining points that I have observed over the hundreds of relationships I’ve seen through working with clients in my practice. Yes there are men who apply some of the behaviours you describe but this video is about patterns but occasionally some patterns need to be explained with assumptions - not about explaining every exception to the rule.
Questions: Don't both have to have those traits/states before the relationship interaction to some extent too? And what about insecure attachment styles playing out? Hardly anybody has healthy attachment style having healed. Do you reckon a couple can heal together? Would you know to make a video on how to get a lazy man the will to work on himself, not just read/listen to personal development, Attachment styles etc? Getting out of that automatic habitual laziness that we so easily get stuck into, especially men who work and haven't found out that the ability to live doesn't come automatically unless we got and learnt it in infancy? Should a broken, unhealed, mistreated but good and valuable woman practise and act the healthy behaviours even then, or is it no use until one helaed? Not wanting to deceive, but alsió not wanting to be alone anymore. I suppose that some stabilizing , good habits and healing have to be in place first.
Attachment styles are a bit of a common buzz word these days but really it comes down to the deeper emotional wounds and patterns one engages in. Yes a couple can heal together but only to the extent that they have a desire too…I’m more of a fan of ‘planting seeds’ when it comes to communication so that you aren’t forcing anything upon anyone but you are slowly leading them down a path. Comms is also very much about our own internal emotional states so that the messages we express are passed on in the right way and that we aren’t triggered deeply by their responses. Always focus on your own healing - that’s the key to it all.
The humility trait is an interesting one - I agree with you but at the same time, it depends on the women you’re dealing with and also ones definition of humility. Sometimes Individuals might think they are humble but they also lack confidence and trust in themselves and that can lead to other challenges in terms of relationships. Hope that makes sense
Great video. Has anyone also listened to Alison Armstrong ? She devoted her life to the study of men and is an amazing person to listen to for understanding male/female dynamics & understanding the male psyche - one of my favs
These videos never address the fact that many men do not like feminine energy. They don't want to do things for women. They expect a woman to take care of herself. It is the new mindset of a lot of men and would be an interesting video from that perspective.
Thanks for sharing your views - I really appreciate it. I think a lot of this comes down to what is your definition of feminine energy…some people interpret it incorrectly and hence they think men don’t like feminine energy but it’s the incorrect perception that’s the problem. A truly masculine man will be drawn to genuine feminine traits.
I can’t with this borderline sexist video! I have been married 30 years and the best obervation I have seen is that if couples treat each other as humans who deserve respect regardless of sex; in a unit unique to themselves - they will be fine. Some “feminine”, dainty women are high-rolling bitches and many women who laugh loudly, burp in public and express their opinions when tf they feel like it are the sweetest women on Earth. He makes men sound like figurines you have to polish in just the right way or they will either break or find another shelf to sit on. I have never needed a “king” to serve - I need a compadre to experience life with together. Holy smokes - this video burns my ears!
Well I’m sorry this video burnt your ears and that you feel that this is borderline sexist. I’m so appreciative that you’ve shared your views with your vast experience and can enlighten everyone. Thank so much 🙏 btw I’d strongly suggest that before you make judgments about my so called ‘sexist’ views that you go deeper into my work - happy to speak to you directly or you can speak to my clients and then make an evaluation from there. Lots of blessings to you!
Very well said, thank you for sharing from my heart! Suggestion, There are a lot of people who do not know or understand medically the male and female brain function differently, If people learn how the brain function differently when it comes to the thought and emotional differences, It can really make for a wonderful change in a positive way in their relationship. Just my thoughts, I hope it's okay I shared!😊
Thanks so much for sharing - of course it’s ok! :) yup I agree - definitely differences biochemically and when you understand that, it makes an ocean of difference. All the very best to you 🙏
That men are biologically soooo different is a theory, that men have put up recently, to counterattack feminism. Even though there are some differences, they are not big enough to justify this black and white thinking. Women have testosterone hormone in their body and brain, just as men do. Some even more, than an average man. And vice versa with Oestrogene in men. Not to speak about the menopause and andropause, when the hormonal shift to the other gender is undeniable. The right attitude for both should be: We are both humans, even if we have different reproductive organs.Don't forget: The y-chromosome is actually a x-chromosome, that has lost one leg in the early phases of evolution.
@@perieven6357 I will explain this the best I can, the male brain ,say it has 2 sides one side is logical thinking the other side is emotional thinking. With the male their logical thinking is on nonstop until their they are asked an emotional question or there is an emotional event. Then it take 3 to 7 seconds for the male brain to transfer from logical thinking to emotional thinking to respond correctly. Example say a girlfriend says, do you remember the first song we dance to? And you say yes a pause for a sec, the girl says, well if you have to think about it you must not really care about me!. The start of a lovers fight hahaha when actually the pause is your logical side of the brain shutting down and your emotional.side starting up. So scientifically you could not answer the question any quicker! Now for the female brain the whole brain works all at the same time non stop, here is example of the female. Female talk all the time and change their mind all the time. Reason female's talk so much is because that is how they think ,then they make a decision quickly then they change their mind 10 to 15 min later that is because that is how long it takes the female brain to solve the question. Were men need to be quite to think and solve a question or men will play basketball or something to think and solve their issues. Women get angry thinking all you do is play ball, because they do not understand that is how the male brain works to help the man figure out how to solve the problem. I hope this makes sense to you, I am so bad at texting. Blessings to you and all your loved ones in Jesus name Amen
I did exactly this respected him loved him cared earned for him in return he got extrmely comfortable and I became kind of a doormat. From the very beginning started breadcrumbing me and I put more effort in the marriage thinking he will be madly in love with me if i make him and his fsmily happy and we eill be having rock solid marriage, on the other hand he started fliring in ofc below his level, starting lying, hide things even on smallest matter when asked said i didnt think it matters. He gets too comfortable as if he has hunt one now he has to hunt others wirh his charm. I am in early 40s married from last 20 years my eyes have opened now deprived by him emtnly physically mentally.
Sorry to hear about the difficulties you have had to face all these years. What you describe can absolutely occur and you've clearly experienced a lot of pain in your situation. It could be that he doesn't respect you at the level you desire and possibly has expectations of you that you are to be a subservient partner (which isn't right). Regardless of patterns I describe in my videos, it's important to note that there are exceptions to the rule and there are both men and women who can be abusive, manipulative and controlling. Wishing you the very best and sending you lots of love and light on your journey.
I'm a single mother and I'm also happy on my own with my family. However it's great to watch videos such as this now for later on in life. So when the right time comes and we're ready to invest our time and energy into a new serious relationship we'll be better prepared for what's to come!
I get and agree with a lot of it here that you’re saying, but no one wants to badger. No one wants to hear themselves nag. And if it is a constant that our man shows us that we can have faith in him because he does the things that he “should” do, like taking out the trash, then I think women wouldn’t feel like they need to ask and they would already have that faith. It’s hard to fake having faith when you know there’s none there to have. Does that make sense?
Thanks for sharing and yup it makes perfect sense. Part of this is also looking honestly at the situation and then determining what course of action to take. Sometimes it’s not about holding faith - it may be more to do with having some honest conversations and looking to establish high standards in the marriage. Every marriage/relationship is an opportunity for us to grow individually and sometimes that means having the tough conversations 🙏
Thanks so much and I’m glad you’re enjoying the content :) when you connect with your true feminine essence it will completely raise your vibration and energy as a being. Amazing stuff!
I just came across with your video and you are so spot on. We need men to be men and women to be women in a relationship. This feminine empowerment is going too far and depriving women from the blessings of being feminine and the joy of having a partner that is a manly man.
Thanks so much for sharing your views and I’m glad you enjoyed it :) I agree with you in terms of stepping into the masculine/feminine energies in relationships 🙏
I think that is up for each person to decide whether or not feminine empowerment is "going too far." What is too far for you is fine for another person, and they have the right to their opinion.
Just to your third point. I don't think that has much to do with masculine or feminine. Anyone who works a full-time job out in the never-ending buzz of public, talking to 100 people all day long (as myself), needs to decompress when they get home, even women. Anyone who has been home all day alone immediately sees an adult wants to start talking. It's a clash of worlds, not genders, imho. I also think anyone who works more than 40 hours a week with a longer drive might need even more time to sit in silence, however, if you have small children they need to sacrifice that silence a bit for a few years.
@bluliite thanks for sharing your views :) So yes there are instances of course where women will also need time to decompress after massive days/weeks with work etc but the overwhelming pattern that I’ve observed in my practice and in research is what I’ve explained in my video. to be clear though, we’re talking about masculine energy and not always about men. I’m just primarily referring to men because most of my clients are married to men who predominantly carry the masculine energy. As another point, there are also some biochemical reasons why the masculine primarily needs that level of decompressing after stress based events and hence there is an inclination towards escaping into their ‘cave’ for a bit of time. Really appreciate you taking the time to comment 🙏💕
@@SriRajasekar Predominantly carry the masculine energy. Do you mean work in public? And you are saying that men need more decompressing after stressful days at work more than women?
@@bluliite nope masculine energy isn’t about working in public - all humans hold both masculine and feminine energies but one is usually more dominant. Generally speaking men tend to have their core energy as masculine and women the feminine. Doesn’t mean there aren’t women who are masculine or men who are more feminine. As far as decompressing, I’m not saying men need to decompress more than women, it’s more about how that is experienced.
@@SriRajasekar I'm just saying everyone who works full time needs to decompress afterwards, and that is not a genderized thing. Nor is the need to talk when day after day you are alone. I think sometimes we try genderize things that shouldn't be.
The only time a chik has to prove her femininity to a guy is when he’s insecure. Emancipation occurs only in his head when a guy can’t help the damsel in distress. Help yourself Felipe. Chix wouldn’t be so self reliant if guys stepped up. Quit flipping the dynamic cuz it’s backwards, chix don’t chase n men pursue. Boys do all the other bs.
@@rosiemackenzie5976 as much as I want to provide in depth replies to everyone, I also have to commit to serving my clients and sometimes that means I am short of time…I hope you can appreciate that
I have the ability to make the most money, so I work and he takes care of the home but when I cry/sad/happy/scared/anything I run into his arms, when there’s a spider, I scream for him to save me (and he does), but I’m gone so much for work it makes me sad. He checks out other people sometimes. I don’t go running into his arms for that. It makes me standoffish.
Thank you for sharing about your situation. I understand it is tricky when there is force distance through work etc but there are still ways you can adopt to ensure that the bond is still there and there is total commitment to you. How open are the two of you when it comes to communication? I’m assuming there hasn’t been any infidelity?
I don't understand why many women insist on the man to take the trash out. Id much rather take the household trash out myself rather than wait or nag him to do it. Problem solved. Let him take the larger heavier can to the curb and back once a week.
It’s absolutely ok to have these dynamics in a relationship - I think it’s more about ensuring that the masculine energy is enabled in the relationship - however that is done :)
@@tlc6756 spot on! Relationships are a complex beast but I tell you what, most of the problems come from when the other person opens up wounds inside of us individually. If we heal our stuff, then we can react in much more positive ways 😍
@@SriRajasekar I agree. A successful relationship really takes both partners to understand these dynamics and be willing to work towards healing. Great videos.
@@tlc6756 most definitely :) It’s always wonderful when both partners are committed to the journey but sometimes that isn’t the case and hence we have to make sure individually we are always doing the work. Glad you enjoy them 😍
@@SriRajasekar We moved and I wanted the pictures put up. I asked and waited and then asked the next weekend with no results. When not done I gave up. I didn't ask any more. So in situations like this how to have faith and not nag?
@@susan6906 ok but when you asked him The first time, what did he say? Did he ignore you or did he say he was going to do it and then just got distracted?
@@susan6906 ok in that case, you can either use some humour (if you guys engage in a lot of jokes etc) to get him to do it or just politely ask him “hey hun, I know you’re super busy but I’d love it if you can just spare some time to help out with this stuff - can you let me know when a good time is please?” Now I’m making a lot of assumptions on your comms styles, what he’s going through in his life etc but this can be a good way to address it. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with asking!
Thanks for your message - so when you say he refuses to help you, do you mean around the house? With finances? Everything? If you can elaborate on that it would be great. Thanks
I told my husband when he retired and I was still working, I asked him to allow me to retire from a household chore. He choose washing the dishes and doing his own laundry. He also vacuums on occasion...
What if the guys doesn’t wanna do anything except working & watching TV…nothing else matters ! What to do in this case ? Decades later never have I ate food he cooked for me … never have I been helped out around the house 😢what to do in this case ? Cause I ain’t have any idea anymore at this point, I just wanna leave and start over ! Cause it is difficult to maintain the balance between my expectations and what is the actual reality
Thank you for this video. I think there are cases where the woman needs to ask the man to help or to contribute. For instance, there is the case where they both work equally on a daily basis, and the man does not help with the household chores. In addition to being hard for the woman to do this on her own, this situation is unfair because the woman is actually working more in the house. How can she make her partner contribute more without making him feel bad?
@comete youtula there absolutely are cases where asking is important. In terms of getting him to contribute more, a lot of this comes down to the ability to communicate and express one’s needs - but in a way that isn’t presented as an attack or constant criticism. A clear insight into your needs and using the right words/body language can have a really powerful impact on him and result in more of an effort to step up. There are many nuances to this but as a general rule, this is important. Thanks
Also put perspective of what men need to think about. Its oldfashioned to think that the woman have all the responsibility in a relationship. Men are not children, right?
Just to be clear, I’m not saying woman have the responsibility for everything. I’m just a big believer in each individual taking ownership of areas that they can work on internally - otherwise we end up taking the victim mindset that only causes issues long term
Well ... most men when you ask them to "do something for me" usually get it done in a lower quality that it would have been done personally. And sadly ... they feel frustrated by the lady being disappointed by their performance instead of having a desaire to do better next time.
@@queen_oftheNIGHT I know that a woman doesn’t need a man to bring out her feminine BUT he can play a part in creating a space for her to feel safe enough to relax into her feminine. Thank you for sharing your expertise on this
The man leads in the marriage whether he knows it or not. Women are responsive to their mates. He's nice to her, she's feeling safe and is giving. He's mean and the woman goes into safety mode and pulls away. Then if she's distant. .. The man gets mad and controlling. It goes downhill from there
when i got my own hobbies and independance and planning more with my friends, he immeidately started to look for other women and found one, caught him in a 2 year affair. ruined everything.
Im sorry to hear about the affair but I can assure you, There’s nothing wrong with you having the independence and engaging in hobbies…that’s not the problem.
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I agree with everything you said, but a woman cannot achieve this if she does not feel secure. Femininity flourishes with a masculine man who is supportive and protective.
@nu376 thanks for sharing. I do agree that femininity can flourish with security from the masculine man but I will say that, as human beings, the journey is to find security within ones self through internal personal growth so that needs to be generated as much as possible. Life acts like a mirror - what we feel and believe on the inside is usually reflected back on the outside and hence what we desire, we have to hold onto internally as much as possible. When we need things too much from another person then we give our power away and that can cause many issues. I’m intentionally touching more on psychological and spiritual growth here rather than on the feminine side of things so that a more holistic approach can be taken. Hope that makes sense
@@powerfullgoddess5797most definitely that occurs but we also have to ask ourselves that if that’s who we are dealing with and there is no willingness to shift on their part, is the relationship for our highest good and should we stay…
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I can't believe that in this generation a woman has to give her husband the right to feel masculine. I agree that women should be paid the same for the same job. I don't agree with women trying to assert themselves so much that they loose the fact that they have a XX chromosome.
@@karenpalmer2195if I understand your point correctly, it’s not about giving men the right to be masculine - all this is about is recognising that patterns play out in relationships and if we don’t adequately foster both the feminine and masculine energies with the respective individuals, then problem can arise. Also, under stress there tends to be a pattern called reverse polarity that then results in individuals taking on the reverse roles and energies. I’ve seen it time and time again in my practice and it can result in some real issues - this is not about generations and what should happen in 2023 v back in the day etc. Thanks for sharing your views 😊
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@bartholetbayana9198how did it goes with the spiritual guru?
"Enjoy the process of letting him do things for you" Oh absolutely! Love this
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Staying single is so much easier and less complicated. I would really enjoy having someone to grow old with and have as a partner, but not at the expense of always having to stroke his ego, or tiptoe around his pride, guessing what’s too needy or not needy enough. At 53 that just doesn’t even sound appealing anymore.
I completely hear you but I can assure you that when you have an amazing relationship, it's the best thing ever! And even though I raise these points, there are absolutely amazing men out there who you don't have to tip toe around and constantly feel you have to get everything right in terms of words, actions etc. When you find the right partner and the fundamental values etc are aligned, then it can flow in a beautiful way and the challenges that inevitably come along can help each other to grow. All the very best to you :)
Ugh, Im only 40, and I feel this comment on multiple levels...
I’m 59-60 next month and have been dating a man that was previously my friend … omg…wow. After 6 years on my own, he’s a real treat. I’m not well and he looks after me- now I let him. I’m happy to say ..there is hope!
@@megangardner2766 so happy to hear that things are going well with him :) Wishing you all the best for your health 🙏
@@Nicki17321same
*Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you can't imagine living without.*
Thanks for this. Whilst this may sound lovely, the truth is that some individuals have some really deep wounds on the inside that they’ve been carrying for a long time and and hence they sometimes attract a partner that treats them poorly and they struggle to live without them because it retains their sense of identity ie feeling inadequate etc. Just something to be mindful about. Have a wonderful Xmas 🎄
Not all men deserve this. So watch for red flags right off the bat and make sure the man you give this to is a man who deserves it.
Otherwise you might spend all of your faith and patience and love on the wrong man which will in turn make you bitter and impatient.
Allow the right men into your life and giving them these things will make you both thrive in the relationship.
Thanks for your comment. As a general rule I agree with you completely but there are complexities to relationships and it’s important to focus on internal growth as well as mental and emotional clarity to ensure the right decisions and environment is created :)
Well said!
So true.
She talking about abusive relationship where men take someone gudness for granted along with that start abusing their partner @@SriRajasekar
# 1. Ability to enable the masculine.
#2. Balance between dependence and independence.
# 3. Understands the needs of the masculine.
# 4. Simplify your approach to the relationship.
Thanks for this
Took a screenshot
@@SriRajasekar thank you so much sir!
Thanks for saving my 16 mins and 26 seconds! ❤🙃
13:38 I love it when a man gives me advice, because it means he cares. It just really helps if he validates or acknowledges my feelings first. 🙂
Glad that really helps for you 😍
I'm 60 lol...and Im an older "feminine" woman, but only after I get off my motorcycle.
Great!
❤️❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍Awesome
😂 love the answer 👌🏻
Go girl 😊
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teach the men. they need the advice more than we do.
Well it’s actually about all people learning and doing their best to grow - I just primarily help women learn about male psychology and go deeper into relationships with men
Oh? Is that why I've dumped every woman I date for not understanding not to badger or harass me and divorced my wife for being so nagging?
@@moderngentlemanschoolyes.
For certain
Yeah all of this game playing and them pulling away and what we need to do to get him back?? I am better than that. Pull away? Good bye👋
Totally agree with you. I did meet some women whose energy are just so feminine and peaceful. They don't have a hot face but they are always leave a very strong impression for me within a long time since we met.
Also, I want to give some extra points to the video: It is all the femininities should be natural and come from her inner self. A feminine woman for me is also a lady who are able to make herself happy, know what she wants, what she deserves and can say no gently (not aggressively) with what don't match her core values.
Anyway, thank you so much for such a clear and right explanation.
You’re most welcome and thanks so much for elaborating 🙏 Definitely agree with your points 😊
Geez. Thanks for reminding me of why I've been single for 25 years. Be independent but not too independent, show him that you need him but don't be needy, enjoy spending time with him but also make time away from him, don't forget he's the alpha....
Bloody hell, no wonder the world is so F'd up!
I can understand why it may seem confusing but everything is about balance and that can absolutely be attained to create incredible relationships. Thank you for sharing and I wish you nothing but the best on your journey 🙏
It's about balance. Extremity will never be a beautiful thing.
Trusting him to get things done has made me responsible for everything.
How I lived for years ...don't do it.
Very informative. Can we also ask that nen start vocalizing their needs vs. us women having to guess what's going on with them. Just like women have stepped up, men should, too. I personally find the guessing game difficult. There's nothing more attractive than a male who communicates ❤
Thanks for your comments :) I agree with you definitely- men do need to vocalise their needs- but I will also say, I think this is important from both sides and as long as there is open communication then that can only be a good thing.
Wow you just called out the single reason I’m single. I’ll marry when I find a man who can and is not afraid to communicate.
@@lrsr5398 just remember to not look for perfect communication right from the outset. Relationships can absolutely evolve and grow and that’s the magic of them - you can’t always wait for the ‘finished’ product. Also, we have to make sure that we are taking care of our side of the street as well to make sure we are creating the right environment for quality communication
Thanks I will keep this in mind if I start actually dating!
My previous relationship was 17 years and he wanted to marry me without talking about how we were going to handle finances. I just couldn’t do it, unfortunately I think I was too young to realize how much time I had wasted. But I did learn to not waste that much of my time ever again.
Better/clearer expectations and boundaries is what growth I got out of that relationship. I will try to make my expectations of communication reasonable in correlation to time dating.
Men don't feel the need to vocalize and analyze their feelings all the time like women do, unless they are a simp.
I just don't like it when a man thinks a woman is always "the damsel in distress"
We can do things ourselves sometimes... Also, if men just take out the trash when it gets full, women wouldn't keep hounding them to take it out. There's been times where l won't say anything about the trash, but my husband won't ever take the trash out, so l have to say something!! Also, men need to treat women like a queen 👑 as well. It's a two way street. It's not all about the man, it's about the woman too. It takes two.. reciprocation...
Good. Don't bother men then.
That's a difficult one w/ men. They don't like to be told, but many of them (not all) won't take the initiative if you don't say anything. Then they resent you for "nagging". You can't have it both ways.
@@moderngentlemanschoolGeorge, it sounds like you want your cake and to eat it too:). Telling her, then don’t bother men, if you can’t take out the trash. Feminine women want a man to do the manly tasks so the woman can stay in her feminine energy. The fact you don’t understand this simple fact means that you will never have a long term relationship with a feminine woman. I wish you well though.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 This is tactics from its finest. They wait for the moment, when the women gives up, and does everything "nasty" herself. This is bliss for them.
@@moderngentlemanschool Well, you're not getting a good relationship with that attitude.
❤🔥My former spouse was given multiple opportunities over our many years of marriage to step into his Divine Masculinity, but repeatedly failed to do so. After so many disappointments of being tangibly let down, essentially forced out of my Divine Femininity, I checked out. I realized that he was not willing to do the inner work to embrace his masculine side. He was more comfortable staying shallow & distant, playful & light-hearted. I needed a masculine man, & he wasn't willing to be one.
Now that I am single, I am very much balanced in my masculine & feminine energy. I feel like a girl again! Lol! 😊
Really glad to hear you’re in a very balanced place now 😍
I think there are so many more independent women because they were in relationships where their men were weak or users. So the woman had to do even more to make up for him!! So you meet a decent guy and you are afraid to totally trust that he is going to do his part!
Thanks for sharing
If you do anything, let it be from the heart. If you say something, let it also be from the heart ❤ Simplicity in everything makes it all more real and substantial.
It's unusual for me to agree on the extreme on subjects such as the ones you've discussed. However, it's rare for someone to speak the way you have, like an accurate reflection of my own femininity ❤ There is a 99.999% match between your thoughts about Femininity and it's natural effects on organic Masculinity, and my attitude about my own femininity and its evolution❤ I'm a realist writer, and apart from supporting you totally on everything you've said, I also resonate with advocating transparency not only in relationships but every situation in life. It brings more solutions!
Thanks so much for your lovely comments and I’m glad the video resonated with you 😍
Ugh 😑
@@SriRajasekar I would resonate with realism any time😊🙏😊 Thank you too!
I know exactly what the masculine wants/needs, and I would have no problem offering these things if I would find someone worthy of them. The issue is, at least in my country, it seems that most men simply aren't connected to *their* masculinity.
I show numerous signs of femininity, both visually and in gestures, yet they usually either ignore them or have the nerve to mock them/try to take advantage of them (just try, since they never succeed). The woman can be as soft as a pink lily - if the man stubbornly refuses to take on "the hero role" (yes, even for something as little as carrying the supermarket bags), there's no use. As you said, there can't be two feminines or two masculines, and me being the fighter/breadwinner is out of discussion.
Thanks for sharing your views - when you say most men aren’t connected to their masculinity what specifically do you mean?
Most of them do absolutely nothing if they see a woman struggling with a heavy object/being in visible danger, try to intimidate the ones they perceive to be helpless and, assuming they even take the chance to invite a lady out (as the vast majority expect women to do the chasing), they will try *anything* to avoid covering even a 3$ bill - the reason why I won't even go out with someone who won't assure me, prior to getting ready, that it would be his treat.
The irony is, I live in a country that likes to present itself as traditional. Can only bitter-laugh at this statement.
Wow, this is one of the most informative videos in feminine/masculine energies!!! Love the analogy between the feminine/masculine energies and positive/negative energy in batteries!!! 🤯 I hope this video goes viral! And I love that you’re talking to wives! So much content like this is geared towards women who are dating! I’ve been a boss babe and my masculine energy negatively effected my marriage. I am SO grateful I realized if before it was too late! My marriage is so much better because of the changes I made! I’m always looking to learn and improve to make my marriage even better! Thank you for this video - please do more of these! I’m a new subscriber!!!! P.S. I appreciate advice to us, committed married women, from a married committed man. It gives you so much credibility! And your wife sounds amazing! Best of luck!
Thank you so much for your beautiful words @VickyLashenko 😍 so glad you found the content valuable and I wish you nothing but the best for your marriage/life. Please do reach out if you have any questions 🙏 Blessings to you!
Great advice
Thankyou
Women who work their arses off for the family day in day out deserve a shout out too yeah
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Shortly after getting married i witnessed a woman get into a verbal fight with a man. She then went outside & got her man. I then asked my husband if he'd do that for me. If i had to ask... His response was "I'd expect you to be smart enough not to get in that situation". I think i lost all respect for him there & then.
@mariangraham9074 thanks for sharing. Out of curiosity are you both together still?
@@SriRajasekar NO! Lol
Although I'd like to say we were together for over a dozen years. Just not happily.
He kind of had a point, but I guess it depends on the specifics of the situation.
@@Himmiefan for a weak man that stands for nothing, maybe. But not for a man who's secured in his identity and that of his wife and is willing to show support to her in the face of bullying.
I don't have the energy to play mind games. These are for kids and those who haven't really evolved when it comes to dating. I like the direct approach. Say exactly what you mean - needs, wants, what's bothering you etc.
I’m glad you like the direct approach so I wish you the best with all of that. Just to be clear, it’s not about mind games - it’s about understanding the deeper aspects of masculine feminine energies in the context of a relationship and then adapting accordingly. Wishing you all the best 🙏
@@SriRajasekar Yes. I think my natural feminine energy radiates when my partner is in his full masculine energy. But most people mistakenly think that being masculine is being physically muscular. It's about being courageous and taking action.
Energy attraction is so amazing you mentioned. Yes this is true. Thank you for your brilliant ideas.
Thanks so much for your kind words 🤗
@@SriRajasekar my pleasure 💖
I have realized that love is all about giving the joy of giving where u act like god , in life we meet people we r drawn to but the the love they reflect is the veey love we r from inside that can be realized through inner work.. the very thing when we start to seek out u will realize u have always been its source
Thanks for sharing
9:15 what if the woman has faith also doesn't pester him repeatedly and the man still doesn't do anything? What should one do that time?
@nargismahmud2959 communication is key. Yes there are patterns but naturally there are going to be exceptions and hence, this is where you need to have some open dialogue in an honest way where both parties are aware of each others needs. Is this relating to your own situation? If so, do you both communicate well?
@@SriRajasekar thank you and yes its related to my situation and he doesn't communicate well. I'm all ears to listen and understand but he is a type of guy who has difficulty in sharing what he is going through and has lot of mood swings. What to do in that case?
Not all men want to feel needed. I had one like that and his wish to feel needed was so low that i ended up feeling like i needed him too much and it ended up suffocating him because he didn’t want to feel needed in the first place.
Just remember that in any video it’s impossible to point out every single scenario however there are patterns and that’s what is being explained. Thanks for sharing
Hearing this wisdom from an indian man is magical and feels like home! ❤
thank you so much for your kind comment!
Seems this gentleman is a Kiwi ..? 🤷♀️🤷♀️
loved it, will come back to it!
@@HeptaLanguages glad to hear 🙏
Straight to the point, thank you!👍🏾
@@rosepetals1117 you’re most welcome 🙏 thanks for watching :)
I like your Chanel , your information is so enlightening, I love my independence of being a female and my femininity but I still haven’t found a guy who accepts me for me, like to learn more about the masculine energy in myself
Thanks so much! Really glad to hear you enjoy the channel :) that’s great that you have a desire to learn about these things! Are you currently getting any help or support on your journey?
Yes my second husband used to check out other women all the years ago he’s not my husband anymore but I remember he always wanted to be intimate after we had been to a function where lots of women were present
Thank you for sharing and I hope you’re in a much better place now 🙏
Your content feel geniuine. I appreciate it and enjoyed listening to your advice
Thanks so much for your lovely comment Jessica 😍
Very informative 👏. Also love the idea of the pie..your absolutely 💯 % it works both ways !!
Thanks so much and really glad you found it informative 😍
From 7:50 - 10:20 is so informative. I cannot stand being badgered, criticized, etc. when if a woman asks me something, I'm more than happy to do it if they just sit back and LET ME. Let me come to you and impress you. The more you demand it, the less I want to do it. My ex-wife and so many ex-girlfriends are so guilty of this.
Thanks for sharing this and glad you found it informative 🙏
Do you do it when they ask you too though or do you make them wait. That gets really old for women.
Lmao u probably didn't do it in a timely manner, nobody likes to badger and nag, do u like asking someone for something over and over again? Neither does ur wife, but she's doing it bc ur not getting shit done in a timely manner
@@28FlyingDutchman He is the common denominator.
But do you do things in a timely manner?
Its true an old dog can learn new tricks! In a new relationship at 66 yrs. Old.😊
So happy for you :)
I took notes… every time I put these things into practice my husband eats it up 🥰❤
That’s great to hear 😍
Families are central to Gods Plan…. They are eternal! That is what comes first!! You don’t need distractions from the family…the two of you are one! If men know their stewardship as protector and provider and the wife is the nurturer they work together. That means they are helpmeets and partners in everyday life. When a man comes home he must realize his wife has been busy with 6 kids so he needs to pick up right away and give her the space! Minister , mentor and uplift each other…
Human beings are complex and each person has a different series of experiences, challenges, pressures and emotional wounds. Yes, I agree that in an ideal world, he would come home and immediately serve his wife and kids but all I’m trying to say is that in some instances, the pressures weighing down on him with other life circumstances can affect his ability to step up. In depth communication is required to navigate through these challenging times. Thanks for commenting
I think this advice works for both sexes. Respect, love and space build people.
@@SriRajasekar In that case you are eliminating the need and application of Jesus Christ s infinite loving atonement to lift him so he can perform those duties he was asked to perform when sealed in the Temple… House of the Lord!
Thanks for this tips ❤
My pleasure 😊
Just subscribed your channel
Hi ! Your insight in the subject is
informative.
Thank you Mr Rajashekar🙏
Thanks so much 🙏
For me is dam if i do and dam if i dont.. i dont show enough feelings , doesnt work out, n now i ahow my feelings more n have more femininity vs masculinity n it doesnt workout , i just dont know anymore the balance n i feel lost everytime. This last guy literally just pushed me away n it was perfect. So idk anymore.. i tend to have masculine energy but when i notice it i leanback n give him space. He said im very assertive but i see it as i know what i want n i dont play games. And now i notice he is back on fishing online but yet has me matched ..after 5 mo of building a emotional connection kind of hurt my heart a bit.
Thanks so much for sharing this and I really
Appreciate the honesty. Sometimes in relationships there are some blind spots that we need to be aware of and that can help us to make sense of some of these patterns. Have you been getting any help at all?
Very insightful video, thank you !
Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it 😍
Major assumptions of men in this video
# 1 desire to deliver masculine energy to help her. Does the man actually have this desire to step up. Many do not. Maybe for the first 1-2 years when sex gets to be expected. Then the desire to step up is gone and unfortunately now comes the saying “using sex as a weapon”. How about the saying he is doing things for me ..doing things to help as the bargaining chip for sex. That is what he is doing.
#2 major assumption that men are okay with their female partner having independence. All okay provided it is in sync that at that moment he is not interested in you or your activities. If he is sitting alone at home and no football to watch, good luck. Your example of the woman having to ask him to take the garbage out-she would not ask him if the garbage was not full but if it is spilling over -she is not being needy. He is not being pro active and doesn’t care. He will devide ehen HE is ready to take it out and if he does not feel like it st THAT moment the full garbage can stay in the kitchen or at the door till the next day. Then blames the woman. Such a sexual turn off this for women hate petulant pubertal teenage boys and that is what he is behaving as but if course she is the nagging wife.
#3 needs of the masculine energy - freedom and space fair enough. Hard to be intimate if the man has expectations that he is king with a maid in the house vs having a queen in the house.
#4 Bits of advice does not included judgmental attitude that she has no reason to feel frustrated or sad or upset And so there is the dogma for her to stop bring so sensitive or so emotional. They don’t mind the passion and sensitivity in bed -then suddenly passion and sensitivity is great! Another petulant pubertal teenage boy mentality.
Naturally, in a short video I can’t go through every scenario when it comes to relationships. I am explaining points that I have observed over the hundreds of relationships I’ve seen through working with clients in my practice. Yes there are men who apply some of the behaviours you describe but this video is about patterns but occasionally some patterns need to be explained with assumptions - not about explaining every exception to the rule.
I prefer balance over equality😊
You are an amazing speaker. Message was good also.
Thanks so much for your kind comments 😍🙏
Questions: Don't both have to have those traits/states before the relationship interaction to some extent too?
And what about insecure attachment styles playing out?
Hardly anybody has healthy attachment style having healed. Do you reckon a couple can heal together?
Would you know to make a video on how to get a lazy man the will to work on himself, not just read/listen to personal development, Attachment styles etc? Getting out of that automatic habitual laziness that we so easily get stuck into, especially men who work and haven't found out that the ability to live doesn't come automatically unless we got and learnt it in infancy?
Should a broken, unhealed, mistreated but good and valuable woman practise and act the healthy behaviours even then, or is it no use until one helaed? Not wanting to deceive, but alsió not wanting to be alone anymore.
I suppose that some stabilizing , good habits and healing have to be in place first.
Attachment styles are a bit of a common buzz word these days but really it comes down to the deeper emotional wounds and patterns one engages in. Yes a couple can heal together but only to the extent that they have a desire too…I’m more of a fan of ‘planting seeds’ when it comes to communication so that you aren’t forcing anything upon anyone but you are slowly leading them down a path.
Comms is also very much about our own internal emotional states so that the messages we express are passed on in the right way and that we aren’t triggered deeply by their responses.
Always focus on your own healing - that’s the key to it all.
Thank you for sharing a very nice reading I'd to hear more from you, God bless.🙏
Thanks so much 😍
looove your message. great anecodtes w the lady on the bus!! just subbed :) single gal here
Thanks so much and really glad you enjoyed the video 😍
Stay single.. No hassles 🤣
lol
So true🤣
Excellent video!!
Thanks so much 😍 glad you enjoyed it 🙏
I love this. Very informative ❤
That’s so great! Glad you enjoyed it!
I guess women also like humility about men like helping a friend etc.
The humility trait is an interesting one - I agree with you but at the same time, it depends on the women you’re dealing with and also ones definition of humility. Sometimes Individuals might think they are humble but they also lack confidence and trust in themselves and that can lead to other challenges in terms of relationships. Hope that makes sense
Great video, thank you.
@judypatrick8137 thanks so much - glad you enjoyed it 🙏😍
Great video. Has anyone also listened to Alison Armstrong ? She devoted her life to the study of men and is an amazing person to listen to for understanding male/female dynamics & understanding the male psyche - one of my favs
Glad you enjoyed the video :)
You can study men all you want, but no woman ever will know what a man really thinks like and vice versa
I wish the younger me knew about the man cave and needing time after work, but we didn't have utube 😢 I had to learn all of this on my own.
A Big THANKYOU i appreciate good advice the understanding it is most helpful ! Part of the journey! Love and light
Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it and much love and light to you too 🙏
These videos never address the fact that many men do not like feminine energy. They don't want to do things for women. They expect a woman to take care of herself. It is the new mindset of a lot of men and would be an interesting video from that perspective.
Thanks for sharing your views - I really appreciate it. I think a lot of this comes down to what is your definition of feminine energy…some people interpret it incorrectly and hence they think men don’t like feminine energy but it’s the incorrect perception that’s the problem. A truly masculine man will be drawn to genuine feminine traits.
I can’t with this borderline sexist video! I have been married 30 years and the best obervation I have seen is that if couples treat each other as humans who deserve respect regardless of sex; in a unit unique to themselves - they will be fine. Some “feminine”, dainty women are high-rolling bitches and many women who laugh loudly, burp in public and express their opinions when tf they feel like it are the sweetest women on Earth. He makes men sound like figurines you have to polish in just the right way or they will either break or find another shelf to sit on. I have never needed a “king” to serve - I need a compadre to experience life with together. Holy smokes - this video burns my ears!
Well I’m sorry this video burnt your ears and that you feel that this is borderline sexist. I’m so appreciative that you’ve shared your views with your vast experience and can enlighten everyone. Thank so much 🙏 btw I’d strongly suggest that before you make judgments about my so called ‘sexist’ views that you go deeper into my work - happy to speak to you directly or you can speak to my clients and then make an evaluation from there. Lots of blessings to you!
No jealousy. I don't compete. Later. Self-love ❤
Very well said, thank you for sharing from my heart! Suggestion, There are a lot of people who do not know or understand medically the male and female brain function differently, If people learn how the brain function differently when it comes to the thought and emotional differences, It can really make for a wonderful change in a positive way in their relationship. Just my thoughts, I hope it's okay I shared!😊
Thanks so much for sharing - of course it’s ok! :) yup I agree - definitely differences biochemically and when you understand that, it makes an ocean of difference. All the very best to you 🙏
Damn I agreed my girl …. ♥️♥️😘😘
That men are biologically soooo different is a theory, that men have put up recently, to counterattack feminism. Even though there are some differences, they are not big enough to justify this black and white thinking. Women have testosterone hormone in their body and brain, just as men do. Some even more, than an average man. And vice versa with Oestrogene in men. Not to speak about the menopause and andropause, when the hormonal shift to the other gender is undeniable. The right attitude for both should be: We are both humans, even if we have different reproductive organs.Don't forget: The y-chromosome is actually a x-chromosome, that has lost one leg in the early phases of evolution.
@@perieven6357 I will explain this the best I can, the male brain ,say it has 2 sides one side is logical thinking the other side is emotional thinking. With the male their logical thinking is on nonstop until their they are asked an emotional question or there is an emotional event. Then it take 3 to 7 seconds for the male brain to transfer from logical thinking to emotional thinking to respond correctly. Example say a girlfriend says, do you remember the first song we dance to? And you say yes a pause for a sec, the girl says, well if you have to think about it you must not really care about me!. The start of a lovers fight hahaha when actually the pause is your logical side of the brain shutting down and your emotional.side starting up. So scientifically you could not answer the question any quicker! Now for the female brain the whole brain works all at the same time non stop, here is example of the female. Female talk all the time and change their mind all the time. Reason female's talk so much is because that is how they think ,then they make a decision quickly then they change their mind 10 to 15 min later that is because that is how long it takes the female brain to solve the question. Were men need to be quite to think and solve a question or men will play basketball or something to think and solve their issues. Women get angry thinking all you do is play ball, because they do not understand that is how the male brain works to help the man figure out how to solve the problem. I hope this makes sense to you, I am so bad at texting. Blessings to you and all your loved ones in Jesus name Amen
@@perieven6357 And these so-called brain differences have recently been debunked.
Excellent advice!❤
Thanks so much 🙏
Thank you for this very interesting advice! For me, at my age, it is very late, but who knows??..😀
You’re most welcome 🙏 and I honestly think it’s never too late
@@SriRajasekar Thank you ! 😃
I did exactly this respected him loved him cared earned for him in return he got extrmely comfortable and I became kind of a doormat. From the very beginning started breadcrumbing me and I put more effort in the marriage thinking he will be madly in love with me if i make him and his fsmily happy and we eill be having rock solid marriage, on the other hand he started fliring in ofc below his level, starting lying, hide things even on smallest matter when asked said i didnt think it matters. He gets too comfortable as if he has hunt one now he has to hunt others wirh his charm. I am in early 40s married from last 20 years my eyes have opened now deprived by him emtnly physically mentally.
Sorry to hear about the difficulties you have had to face all these years. What you describe can absolutely occur and you've clearly experienced a lot of pain in your situation. It could be that he doesn't respect you at the level you desire and possibly has expectations of you that you are to be a subservient partner (which isn't right). Regardless of patterns I describe in my videos, it's important to note that there are exceptions to the rule and there are both men and women who can be abusive, manipulative and controlling. Wishing you the very best and sending you lots of love and light on your journey.
You did so well in this video. Good job
Thanks for your kind message 😍
Thankyou ❤❤❤
You’re most welcome! 🙏
Thankyou for this good and helpful video.
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You’re most welcome 🙏 so glad that you found it helpful 😍
@@SriRajasekar Thankyou.
I am sure this is great advice but at the moment, I just can't bothered with a relationship. Really am very happy on my own with my family
I'm a single mother and I'm also happy on my own with my family. However it's great to watch videos such as this now for later on in life. So when the right time comes and we're ready to invest our time and energy into a new serious relationship we'll be better prepared for what's to come!
Totally hear you 🙏 Don’t force it and often when we release any pressure of trying to create something extraordinary, then wonderful things happen 😍
Spot on 💯 thanks for sharing 😍
@@SriRajasekar agreed! Thank you.
@@AJ-kb9hf you’re welcome ☺️
I get and agree with a lot of it here that you’re saying, but no one wants to badger. No one wants to hear themselves nag. And if it is a constant that our man shows us that we can have faith in him because he does the things that he “should” do, like taking out the trash, then I think women wouldn’t feel like they need to ask and they would already have that faith. It’s hard to fake having faith when you know there’s none there to have. Does that make sense?
Thanks for sharing and yup it makes perfect sense. Part of this is also looking honestly at the situation and then determining what course of action to take. Sometimes it’s not about holding faith - it may be more to do with having some honest conversations and looking to establish high standards in the marriage. Every marriage/relationship is an opportunity for us to grow individually and sometimes that means having the tough conversations 🙏
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Enjoying your content. I love being feminine with my husband ❤
Thanks so much and I’m glad you’re enjoying the content :) when you connect with your true feminine essence it will completely raise your vibration and energy as a being. Amazing stuff!
Simplicity in a breath of fresh air, peace, and a cozy place to land, together.
I like to go into my women cave when I get home from work lol.
I hate talking about my day, I need to relax. My husband does the same thing.
Ok great :) sounds like you are both really compatible in this regard and I’m really happy to hear that 😍
@@SriRajasekar I understand you are speaking in general terms but, my mind is more masculine wired. Not all women are how you say.
@@nate2759 yes absolutely - there are patterns but naturally there are going to be exceptions to the rule
Your accent is charming and the content is spot on 🤗💜
@paniq_fnite thanks so much for your kind comments and I’m glad you enjoyed the video 😍 blessings to you 🙏
I was thinking the same thing. ☺️
@@hildagladden254 thanks so much 🙏
New subscriber❤thank you ❤
Thanks! 🙏
I just came across with your video and you are so spot on. We need men to be men and women to be women in a relationship. This feminine empowerment is going too far and depriving women from the blessings of being feminine and the joy of having a partner that is a manly man.
Thanks so much for sharing your views and I’m glad you enjoyed it :) I agree with you in terms of stepping into the masculine/feminine energies in relationships 🙏
I think that is up for each person to decide whether or not feminine empowerment is "going too far." What is too far for you is fine for another person, and they have the right to their opinion.
Just to your third point. I don't think that has much to do with masculine or feminine. Anyone who works a full-time job out in the never-ending buzz of public, talking to 100 people all day long (as myself), needs to decompress when they get home, even women. Anyone who has been home all day alone immediately sees an adult wants to start talking. It's a clash of worlds, not genders, imho. I also think anyone who works more than 40 hours a week with a longer drive might need even more time to sit in silence, however, if you have small children they need to sacrifice that silence a bit for a few years.
@bluliite thanks for sharing your views :) So yes there are instances of course where women will also need time to decompress after massive days/weeks with work etc but the overwhelming pattern that I’ve observed in my practice and in research is what I’ve explained in my video. to be clear though, we’re talking about masculine energy and not always about men. I’m just primarily referring to men because most of my clients are married to men who predominantly carry the masculine energy. As another point, there are also some biochemical reasons why the masculine primarily needs that level of decompressing after stress based events and hence there is an inclination towards escaping into their ‘cave’ for a bit of time. Really appreciate you taking the time to comment 🙏💕
@@SriRajasekar Predominantly carry the masculine energy. Do you mean work in public? And you are saying that men need more decompressing after stressful days at work more than women?
@@bluliite nope masculine energy isn’t about working in public - all humans hold both masculine and feminine energies but one is usually more dominant. Generally speaking men tend to have their core energy as masculine and women the feminine. Doesn’t mean there aren’t women who are masculine or men who are more feminine. As far as decompressing, I’m not saying men need to decompress more than women, it’s more about how that is experienced.
@@SriRajasekar I'm just saying everyone who works full time needs to decompress afterwards, and that is not a genderized thing. Nor is the need to talk when day after day you are alone. I think sometimes we try genderize things that shouldn't be.
@@bluliite yup that’s fair enough - there are complexities to this topic but I respect your views. Thanks
Sorry but 60 s ain't old. But bless you.
Older…not old.
@@SriRajasekar thanks Meowww
AGREE 👍🏼
He said older, not old. 60 is definitely older than 30 for example.
@@EMorton901 that’s exactly what I meant so thanks for understanding :)
Excellent explanation i am engaged recently so learning these things❤️
Wonderful - glad to hear it helped and a massive congrats on the engagement 😍
Sometimes, we are forced to because, well, survival.
@@CynthiaBachorski agree 👍
Thank you iy was fruitfull
You're welcome ☺️
The only time a chik has to prove her femininity to a guy is when he’s insecure. Emancipation occurs only in his head when a guy can’t help the damsel in distress. Help yourself Felipe. Chix wouldn’t be so self reliant if guys stepped up. Quit flipping the dynamic cuz it’s backwards, chix don’t chase n men pursue. Boys do all the other bs.
Thank you for commenting
You obviously are a complete pro on how relationships work by your comments, and pearls of wisdom..
@@rosiemackenzie5976 as much as I want to provide in depth replies to everyone, I also have to commit to serving my clients and sometimes that means I am short of time…I hope you can appreciate that
I have the ability to make the most money, so I work and he takes care of the home but when I cry/sad/happy/scared/anything I run into his arms, when there’s a spider, I scream for him to save me (and he does), but I’m gone so much for work it makes me sad. He checks out other people sometimes. I don’t go running into his arms for that. It makes me standoffish.
Thank you for sharing about your situation. I understand it is tricky when there is force distance through work etc but there are still ways you can adopt to ensure that the bond is still there and there is total commitment to you. How open are the two of you when it comes to communication? I’m assuming there hasn’t been any infidelity?
I don't understand why many women insist on the man to take the trash out. Id much rather take the household trash out myself rather than wait or nag him to do it. Problem solved. Let him take the larger heavier can to the curb and back once a week.
It’s absolutely ok to have these dynamics in a relationship - I think it’s more about ensuring that the masculine energy is enabled in the relationship - however that is done :)
@@SriRajasekar true, and I think many men can feel emasculated when women ask since many men relate that to Mommy asking them to do certain things.
@@tlc6756 spot on! Relationships are a complex beast but I tell you what, most of the problems come from when the other person opens up wounds inside of us individually. If we heal our stuff, then we can react in much more positive ways 😍
@@SriRajasekar I agree. A successful relationship really takes both partners to understand these dynamics and be willing to work towards healing. Great videos.
@@tlc6756 most definitely :) It’s always wonderful when both partners are committed to the journey but sometimes that isn’t the case and hence we have to make sure individually we are always doing the work. Glad you enjoy them 😍
My god now I know why I’m single all that messing about…..I’m exhausted
Always remember to focus on your own growth- that’s the real key long term
How to have faith when you ask for help and it been a few days? Do you politely ask a few days later?
Do you mind sharing what kind of help you’re asking for and also, how did he respond when you first asked him?
@@SriRajasekar We moved and I wanted the pictures put up. I asked and waited and then asked the next weekend with no results. When not done I gave up. I didn't ask any more. So in situations like this how to have faith and not nag?
@@susan6906 ok but when you asked him
The first time, what did he say? Did he ignore you or did he say he was going to do it and then just got distracted?
@@SriRajasekar No, I was not ignored. I believe he just forgot.
@@susan6906 ok in that case, you can either use some humour (if you guys engage in a lot of jokes etc) to get him to do it or just politely ask him “hey hun, I know you’re super busy but I’d love it if you can just spare some time to help out with this stuff - can you let me know when a good time is please?”
Now I’m making a lot of assumptions on your comms styles, what he’s going through in his life etc but this can be a good way to address it. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with asking!
New subscriber,nice content...
Thanks so much 🙏
Fabulous
Thanks - glad you enjoyed it!
Well my husband refuses to help me. He is retired and I am still working. Any tips for this???
Thanks for your message - so when you say he refuses to help you, do you mean around the house? With finances? Everything? If you can elaborate on that it would be great. Thanks
I told my husband when he retired and I was still working, I asked him to allow me to retire from a household chore. He choose washing the dishes and doing his own laundry. He also vacuums on occasion...
What if the guys doesn’t wanna do anything except working & watching TV…nothing else matters ! What to do in this case ? Decades later never have I ate food he cooked for me … never have I been helped out around the house 😢what to do in this case ? Cause I ain’t have any idea anymore at this point, I just wanna leave and start over ! Cause it is difficult to maintain the balance between my expectations and what is the actual reality
I can totally empathise with the frustrations you’re feeling. How has he reacted when you’ve brought this up with him?
I am feminine for my man outside Im badass
Love it!
Okay, I'm only 36 seconds in, but I had to grab my pen and paper for this! 🙏💜
Wonderful! Always good to take notes 😍
@@SriRajasekar ☺️Thank you!
Thank you for this video. I think there are cases where the woman needs to ask the man to help or to contribute. For instance, there is the case where they both work equally on a daily basis, and the man does not help with the household chores. In addition to being hard for the woman to do this on her own, this situation is unfair because the woman is actually working more in the house. How can she make her partner contribute more without making him feel bad?
@comete youtula there absolutely are cases where asking is important. In terms of getting him to contribute more, a lot of this comes down to the ability to communicate and express one’s needs - but in a way that isn’t presented as an attack or constant criticism. A clear insight into your needs and using the right words/body language can have a really powerful impact on him and result in more of an effort to step up. There are many nuances to this but as a general rule, this is important. Thanks
Also put perspective of what men need to think about. Its oldfashioned to think that the woman have all the responsibility in a relationship.
Men are not children, right?
Just to be clear, I’m not saying woman have the responsibility for everything. I’m just a big believer in each individual taking ownership of areas that they can work on internally - otherwise we end up taking the victim mindset that only causes issues long term
Well ... most men when you ask them to "do something for me" usually get it done in a lower quality that it would have been done personally. And sadly ... they feel frustrated by the lady being disappointed by their performance instead of having a desaire to do better next time.
yes sometimes this can happen...
you don’t NEED a man to bring out your feminine energy. If you think this you have to go back many steps and learn yourself as a person.
@@queen_oftheNIGHT I know that a woman doesn’t need a man to bring out her feminine BUT he can play a part in creating a space for her to feel safe enough to relax into her feminine. Thank you for sharing your expertise on this
The man leads in the marriage whether he knows it or not. Women are responsive to their mates. He's nice to her, she's feeling safe and is giving. He's mean and the woman goes into safety mode and pulls away. Then if she's distant. ..
The man gets mad and controlling. It goes downhill from there
@@DebYarbrough-sh3cd thanks for sharing your views 😍
Nice
Thanks 🙏 hope you enjoyed the video :)
when i got my own hobbies and independance and planning more with my friends, he immeidately started to look for other women and found one, caught him in a 2 year affair. ruined everything.
Im sorry to hear about the affair but I can assure you, There’s nothing wrong with you having the independence and engaging in hobbies…that’s not the problem.
This will not work with the wrong man ladies.
They say women are complicated. OMG.
I can see why you might feel this way...
I'd be all over mine like a rash if he would just show me some attention,
That's every girls problem
And I'm a cute 60 year old
Thanks for sharing Your thoughts 🙏