I love that you said this is about specifically high-value men. I used to feel bad about myself because being classy made no one interested in me, but then I moved to a different city and the high value ones are flocking here!
Omg my point exactly! I was so girly so confident high value and I bump in the worst ones. They seem so high value n next thing you know it was all fake n im just tired I don't even wanna date anymore. I don't even know how to be. I'm myself n they love my energy next thing you know they act this person they're not n voila I wasted my time. Here were I live I'm surrounded by Mexicans but since I'm by the border you can't trust anyone I got married with a Mexican who had his visa yet I married him n I find out he wanted to use me for papers n I didn't fix anything instead I divorce him. I recently broke up w one who she mentioned exactly I'm not his dream girl he was just settling n wanted to control me yet I we didn't even live together n he still wanted to see if we make it w/out arguing at all if so he'll marry me. I dress how she 👆 does n he doesn't like it that it's for attention yet he met me like that 12 yrs ago. I just don't know who what to be anymore I've done all that she has mentioned except the available to have fun other than that idk what to do I'm to the point where I don't wanna date anymore n I'm barely in my 30s 😢
@liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984 I do but they run. Mexican men love to cheat they're good looking but will make you go thru hell when u least expect it.
Because they want access. They want to take what they can get. But what is easily obtained isn’t always appreciated. It’s like when you get something from the dollar store vs Saks Fifth.
I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
I been marry 40 yrs to my high value men since age 20. We have respect for each other. We have made wealth together. We have 5 children all with college degrees and all married. We have aged, but we kept our bodies is very good shape. I am not bragging!!! Just sharing with you ladies to be elegant, feminine, be in your feminine energy always. You will find that high value men. Greetings from U.S.A.
True but a lot of guys now a days aren't the same. Dating apps and women with low standards have made a lot of men show up with bare minimum behavior. This is why many of us are staying single and abstinate. 5:57 this is what I'm referring to.
@@SR77736 I totally agree with your comment. Apps and dating sites attract many low value men and women. Stay true to yourself. A women of value that you are. Don't loose hope!!! That special men will show up one day for you. You don't need a man with low value who will not respect you and mistreat you. Life is short. You deserve much better!! I wish you the best in your journey and many blessings in your life. Greetings from U.S.A.
I am married for 40 years with no children. I keep my body in shape and have a size 6 to 8 or S/ 36 European messure. Even if my husband is hardly interested in me anymore, I still keep myself classy and atractive, in clothes, make up and posture. I like wearing stiletto heals. Ok, I think I get the smirk smile look from younger women and even women my age who let themselfs look their age. By trying to look younger and still attractive I lose contact with women my age who think I am an anomaly and cannot connect with younger people because I am still older in their eyes. I don t care. I still will do anything to look 20 years younger and elegant and attracive. For myself. I even planned a little facelift.❤😊 Greatings from Belgium Europe. Bonjour tout le monde❤
Sometimes we forget it's not just about beauty / attractiveness, but inner power. That knowing you are internally the ultimate feminine alpha and Omega and radiate that Truth no matter what you have on. High esteem is not something we put on we embody always.
I think I’m the “ good enough girl “ in being that breaks you so bad. But if you a “ good enough girl” just boss up & level up and watch how he won’t even be your type anymore. Because we already got it but we sell ourselves short being humble & understanding 💯
10:20 masculine women becoming the mother 19:20 good enough girl there is no passion in their eyes they don’t wanna put in too much effort 21:00 dream woman- he will do thi in his career and his health to make her happy
I was the "good enough girl" for 14 years!! I've been single since December 2023. I'm on my feminine journey, and I'm really really sad. I'm 52, and starting over. Thank God I don't look it!!!
Don't waste your time being sad. You should be excited to start a new chapter... anything you want... and you still look good. We always miss what we're leaving behind... but mostly because it was familiar... not because it was so great. Now you have the opportunity to upgrade and find the things you weren't getting in the past but would've enjoyed. It's exciting. You have endless options/ possibilities. You're not losing something... you're gaining something. You can choose to see it either way... but if you go out there feeling sad... you are going to attract things that are a vibrational match to sadness... and that's not what you want. Go out there feeling excited, optimistic, hopeful & confident and you'll attract high vibrational people/ experiences into your life. A second chance with good looks & all the added wisdom you've gained over the years is a fantastic opportunity.
Even if you looked your age, it really doesn't matter in the end. Looks are not everything. Same thing with money. A good heart is what is important. Know the difference between what is truly valuable and what is not. Be happy with the things you do and the rest will come along in its due course. Good luck!
@@theshadylady1982 Thank you so very much for your words of encouragement and love. You're absolutely right. I miss what was familiar, but engaging in new activities and learning about myself. Thank you so much, your words have truly helped me.
I wish more women would tell other women not to get in situationships and to wait to give themselves to men! The majority of men these days dont seem to respect and value women anymore, and its all become hook up culture. As far as relationships go, I think it is important to be a team. Communication, trust, listening to each other are all important. As a woman who values herself highly, she should be looking at the mans character, not what can be given to her. "Love bombing" is very common. Also, I tend to think most men get lazy in relationships after awhile in general, or dont really want to put in all the work required for it to be healthy. I am continuing to work on myself to be the best I can be, and have no expectations anymore because its just not that great out in the dating scene.
100 % agree , Im much happier alone for 16 years, than being with sick perverts with mental problems, lowself-image and mommy issues. Was married for 27 yrs, widowed. So now its my time. Singles are mostly r£j£cts for a reason and the good partner will not be single long, if theyre not widowed, with all due respect.
5:48 agreed. I dsted a guy briefly who was trying to push to sexual things by date 2. I established boundaries sayibg i want a relationship and i dont put out that fast. He left a week later when I said i want to wait. He tried to pretend he wasn't into hookups, and said he wasnt but i found out he slept with women on date 1 and 2 a few times. Im use ti being courted and taken seriously.
My husband of 20 years…was pushing by date 3 and he got it. Don’t think it matters when you give in. The question is how attached and needy you get thereafter.
How men see you is how they treat you. That's why it's important to become the dream girl and to present ourselves as the dream girl from the get go! Thank you Lisa for another wonderful video!
Please realise that all of these toxic/non-toxic, high/low value, feminine/masculine traits, are applicable to both men and women of all races and ages. Not just men. Not in the real world. Don't be scared to dress in a variety of ways. People can be sexy & high-value in both an "upper-class" dress & a "lower-class" tracksuit. Alot of sex-appeal, attraction & value comes from personality. There is no single, definitive way to be high-value. Everybodys values are different. Closed-mindedness is not high-value, though. Valuable partners are always comprised of mixtures of Open-mindedness, humility, confidence, self-awareness, discipline. These things are even great traits to work on in the journey to securing phenomenal financial futures. The real lesson of this video, which I Do actually agree with, is that you can't expect anybody to show you the love, respect & attention that you crave from life, before you've given those things to yourself. Good message from Lisa
You can be the most feminine, most beautiful, most femme fatale, etc. But if it’s not GODs will it’s either not gonna happen, not gonna last, or you’re gonna be miserable in a relationship trying to make it work. If it’s meant for you, it’s meant for you. All this video does is help you weed out what’s not for you. What’s for you will stay. You won’t have to play mind games, change who you are, or force it. 💙
I’ve felt like the good enough girl and the dream girl as well. It depends on the male you’re with and of course as you said the way they see you. Being the good enough girl is truly a soul crusher because even when I try as hard as I can I’m still in the category.
Basically she is saying lose your mother instincts when you’re with a grown man. Don’t worry and care about how he will make your Chanel bag and will be tired or something. You have to have certain standards and if he can’t provide that don’t allow him instead of babying him.
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
Lets be real. Most of us girls will never be the dream girl, no matter how hard we try. Even if we succeed, once kids and stress are around, our dream girl image will start to have cracks and he will start wishing to be with his “true” dream girl. Girls, wake up, mental peace is just around the corner.
It’s interesting the more feminine you become Lisa the more clearly you can understand and explain the masculine perspective. Thanks for the tips, Lots of love!
I'd say 70% are low value nowadays. No boundaries either no incentive to behave or come correct. You can thank the "free love" and the internet for that..🤣
I've been ALL of these at one point or another. It was hard trying to figure myself out, so when I was the pick me as a teenager, men would run. When I became the dream girl, men chased. When I gave it up too easily, I was no longer the dream girl. I think I've been the good enough girl to most men I've dated. I landed in my masculine after years of trying and I'm good here. It's safe. I'm in my 40's and most men are looking for 30's and 20's at my age. While I have a fun, feminine side, I'm not interested in dating seriously in this current time of hook up culture and situationships. It's a mess out here and takes too much energy to be worth it.
I hear you.. I've busted my but to be the good enough girl and now I'm single and being the masculine girl. I like some men but not from a girl point of view they are just respected . I don't need a man . I'm 63 and it would take a miracle to love again.
thank you..i knew i was just the okay girl., the for now girlfriend. Hurt so much i stayed when i knew i wasnt valued. thanks for this content. i was not crazy. listen to your intuition ladies!
I was, or became, overly independent in my past relationships. I also became very unattracted to the men because they did not seem to be as masculine to me anymore. This video really helped me identify why there was a breakdown in what had been so promising in the beginning, especially in the few that were several years long. Always appreciate your content.
This pick me girl/desperate girl is the most abused, low self esteem, childhood trauma and needs the most healing. I hope if you are there at this moment, I hope you can get the healing that you need 🙏 don’t ever be the piece of meat for anyone or anyone else’s servant or used or property -you don’t need anyone else’s validation but your own.❤
Ladies, go to Lowes, church, Auto zone. You have to go where men are and look dainty and elegant, and in need of assistance. (Men are problem solvers) wherever you go, dress modest and natural. Be comfortable
Love this video!! I’ve been seeing a lot of Pick Me Girls in Love is Blind (US, Mexico, and UK) and I do agree that Carrie Bradshaw is a pick me girl. I really want a man who goes above and beyond for me
Ok to sum that up. If you’re not your best self guys treat you like crap. They assume that you are easy if you are nice, they think you’re a pick me if you desire a relationship from a man you dont know, and you cant be a dream girl unless your status and your beauty is above theirs by anyones standards not just theirs
Dear Lisa, thank you so much for all the support and encouragement you give us women, with all the tips and unique perspective you bring. You really help us remember who we are and what we truly deserve as women❤
The most powerful is mix of looking like a wonder woman and act like a masculine woman. Decisiveness is most important. If he cannot share it, he will not teach my daughters either - and I invest in my daugthers to be at least as succesful as I am. Not a dad material for children I would like to have
Dear Lisa, as someone who is not single and is in a long relationship from when I didn't even know what feminine energy truly is, I absolutely love watching your videos. I would love to see a video of you talking about how to keep the sparks in a relationship going, I don't think you've ever had a video like this. There are a lot of amazing videos out there on how to set high standards and seduce when you are meeting someone, but I believe there are many women in long-term relationships or marriages who would like to keep it interesting all the time. You are like the big sister I never had, I wish I had advice like this. How to make your man fall in love always. Sometimes it can be difficult to save the sparks, when you both have some difficulties in college or work, or family problems. A lot of people say it is not possible once the kids and problems come around. I am still young, but want to have a great marriage and make my future husband blessed to have me. Thank you in advance, I think that would be a wonderful video, that many women need. You are honestly one of the most beautiful, soft spoken woman I have ever seen. Wish you all the best 💙✨❤️🔥
I'm kind of confused here with the description of the easy woman. As I see It, a high value man does not hace double standards. So, if a man likes easy women just to hook up but do not respect women who maybe are after the same, isn't it a double standard?
Also, what about people who are into each other physically and love that 'electricity' hanging in the air when they are around each other... It doesn't seem right to me to call these women and men easy or low quality. Not if they are looking for the same thing and don't want to behave like a person they really aren't. I know Lisa's channel is about the standard relationships but I've always been fascinated about this kind of relations. It's rare but when it happens... it's amazing :)
You are so pretty. I've been stepping into my feminine energy and trust me, things have changed🥰 the way men treat me have really changed. Thank you for schooling us love
While I agree with you, at the same time, not everyone looks like you (seriously. Look at you…you’re gorgeous!) I don’t think EVERYONE can be the dream girl, no matter how they behave. Maybe I’m wrong?
Yeah I agree. I believe all women can do better than someone who won’t commit, even single is better than that. However, many of us like myself don’t have much issue securing commitment, because men will commit to the woman they think is the best THEY can personally do, but that’s not the same as their dream woman (who is someone most know they probably cannot get). They’ll put a ring on it, but they won’t go out of their way to give her more than what is required for her to stick around. I’ve never received “Princess treatment” except when being lovebombed by a narcissist. Which is okay but kinda depressing.
@@hannahl5663Wrong. I’ve seen natural born males completely transform themselves to stunning women. If you’re a natural born woman, you’re already a step ahead.
Dear Lisa ❤️ Thank you so much. Unknowingly, I was a pickme girl. I just realized about it. I was like that because they pretended to love me. Now I have the chance to correct my mistakes. Thank you very much
Use the phrase "Trust is built" and then walk away - if you find yourself being perceived as an "easy girl." Why, shows you value yourself and makes them check themselves.
Sounds like an ab user/narc. My ex husband was this way. Some men are REALLY good at hiding who they are and they only let the mask slip off when they've got you where they want you (married/pregnant)
So basically it’s pretty obvious that if he doesn’t treat you like the dream woman, then he’s one of the feminine guys that you called out in the beginning. That’s what I got from this.
02:32 ugh unfortunately i can relate to experiencing those types. Ever since i hit 14 I’m looking for a high value one by leveling up myself and my environment but it’s mostly tough out there.
yes and I don’t even consider them as my mistake since most of them are so good at hiding themselves in the beginning. Even though I’m still so young I’m so fed up dealing with those ones. Right now I date a man who’s looking good on the paper and even though I’m not attracted to him physically i hope he won’t be the same.
So now what should a woman do if she is in a marriage and recognizes that she is the "good enough" girl and that her husband does not really notice her and only does the very bare minimum?
I just love this video.. i think im acting as a picky wife here. Husband being disrespectful, low maintenance, no princess treatments, no love or passion in eyes..
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Interesting content Lisa. Could you please do a video discussing how you met your boyfriend and how it compared to before your levelling up journey. It would be very educational to compare before and after to help get a better vision of how to grow and evolve, especially for those starting their levelling up journey. ❤❤❤
Lisa please please make a Video about your Hair and how to maintain beautiful hair throughout the week. I Go to the Gym everyday and I cant style them everytime 😢
You need some of my hair product. I wash my hair 3-5 times a week. I smooth it down with my product after washing, and pin it up afterwards; letting it air dry. It grows like crazy and looks healthy and strong! All natural, except for the preservative(naturally derived) just an option. I don't usually do this, but I really think it would help you.
Women don't choose the relationship or marriage. The men always choose. it's like picking a flower in the garden. Yes it's unfair but life is not fair.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Not true ! We have way more choices than men. And we do choose, since we have to say yes to the proposal, or choose to be with someone. Statistically, when women are single it is because they choose to be single. When men are single, they have no choice. Remember your value !
wooh. You're really delusional i can see that already. Most men never get the flirting signs from women. 80% of men are invisible and women chase the top 10-15% of men. Stop saying your life is hard, just make a dating profile as a man and you will regret saying this.
Lisa I have a question in the early stages of talking or going on dates should I tell him that I want flowers, gifts, etc (like bare minimum) 😂 or see if he does it naturally? I don't want to tell him always you know.
You can say that you love flowers, and you love going to fancy places without telling him directly... it is better to say "i love that" dont you think those flowers are beautiful?? See how he reacts, most of the time they bring you sth (but remember he must be into you!!)
@Elliefebruary2that’s not true, you’re trying to make her believe that it’s her fault if he doesn’t buy her things. Like so many men, he could just be cheap.
Its then easy to be perceived as a "gold digger" I think Lisa is pointing out that a man who is serios about you will do these things naturally "If I make you happy then it makes me happy to see *you happy"
@@emmsue1053 the idea of "gold digger" comes from dusties (men that dont have a job). Dont listen to them. Men who are prepared to date will be proud to give
@@iaf4454Well there are people who use others for money so it is a real danger. Haven't you heard of marriage scams? I know a rich guy who keeps it secret that he has a lot of money when dating because he is afraid of being taken advantage of.
In Spanish we call the "good enough woman" as "La mujer del proceso" meaning the woman that was by the guy's side for a long time always supporting him, but he never proposed to her and then when he graduates or gets a better paying job he immediately ditches her for another woman who he often marries asap. My cousin had two friends that were a couple for a long time, but the guy never proposed and we could all tell that he only saw her as the good enough girl, but that he had a dream girl type and even tried to chase another girl while with her even saying tha their relationship was not that serious. My cousin and everyone that saw that dissuaded him but we could tell the relationship was doomed and they indeed broke up, she is now happier in a relationship with a guy that cherishes her
Have you ever experienced these types in yourself Lisa? I feel discouraged because a life long on and off parter has kept me as the easy girl soon after we took each others virginity at 15. We waited 9 months, but of course I made the mistake to not vocalize marriage question first. It was my assumption we would, he went away to college and among many other things broke us and he keeps me as “easy” girl eventhough it’s because I love him and have not been able to move on fully, I’ve been confused ever since. Over 10 years
Dont some men feel some women are entitled or high maintenance, even high value men? I think I've mostly acted like a pick me girl but I had my feminine phase too. I felt invisible and in some ways laughed at when I tried to be feminine. I think they saw me as delulu. I agree though that the easy girl is a straight up fail. Most of my friends are men and they always tell me how they avoid the easy girl like a plague because they worry, she will project the same energy on other men so not desirable for a long term partner. Yet I see women continue to do that because women are often brainwashed by social media that if you are sexual, that will attract men, but it often attracts the wrong kind.
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Hm, I think I could be the masculine woman but boys/ men have always found me pretty, I sometimes get treated like the dream girl. But I'm uncomfortable with it, I don't want the princess treatment all the time. I'm not a doll, I don't want my boyfriend to feel like he needs to serve me. When I'm sick and he's taking care of me, that's so sweet and such a good feeling. But sometimes I really do wanna take care of him in return (is this the motherly thing?), I wanna know what he's thinking and feeling and I want us to get things done TOGETHER. Like I want us to be there for one another and I want him to be 100% honest, even if it could hurt me. When I love someone, I love everything about him, even his bad sides. I like playing soccer, I love silly jokes and getting into a little trouble... what can I do. I like driving my car and he doesn't have to carry my bag all the time, although it would be nice to have some help here and there. I can also be kinda closed off, especially to other guys once I'm in a relationship. I don't even want other men to look at me and I don't want them to like me/ desire me, I always feel like that's reserved for my boyfriend. Anyone here who feels the same about this?
You have "settled down" .. Keep up your friends and hobbies.. Do not flirt around when out alone so he can trust you but it will make him step up his game, if that's what you want? No real relationship should be hard work.
I love that you said this is about specifically high-value men. I used to feel bad about myself because being classy made no one interested in me, but then I moved to a different city and the high value ones are flocking here!
Which city did you move to?
I've always told people moving doesn't fix problems, just has you running away from them. But who said it couldn't be both...other than me!😂
Omg my point exactly! I was so girly so confident high value and I bump in the worst ones. They seem so high value n next thing you know it was all fake n im just tired I don't even wanna date anymore. I don't even know how to be. I'm myself n they love my energy next thing you know they act this person they're not n voila I wasted my time. Here were I live I'm surrounded by Mexicans but since I'm by the border you can't trust anyone I got married with a Mexican who had his visa yet I married him n I find out he wanted to use me for papers n I didn't fix anything instead I divorce him. I recently broke up w one who she mentioned exactly I'm not his dream girl he was just settling n wanted to control me yet I we didn't even live together n he still wanted to see if we make it w/out arguing at all if so he'll marry me. I dress how she 👆 does n he doesn't like it that it's for attention yet he met me like that 12 yrs ago. I just don't know who what to be anymore I've done all that she has mentioned except the available to have fun other than that idk what to do I'm to the point where I don't wanna date anymore n I'm barely in my 30s 😢
You see,you must align with people like yourself.
@liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984 I do but they run. Mexican men love to cheat they're good looking but will make you go thru hell when u least expect it.
he treats me like a "good enough girl" and that makes him not good enough for me ✨
Stop lying. If that would be the case, he would have respect for you
@@Ghhgvvnnbbbnbvvvv what are you saying lol. he did treat me with respect? just didn't make me feel special or loved?
Kinda fair😂
I kinda hate that men settle and waste women's time tho, like dont pursue her unless shes ur dream girl idk
Maybe his dream girl only cares about money, only take from him and isn't empathetic, caring and being pleasant to be around.
@@xantonify but why be with a girl if you're not gonna care about her
Because they want access. They want to take what they can get. But what is easily obtained isn’t always appreciated. It’s like when you get something from the dollar store vs Saks Fifth.
@@GiannaStoltz Definitely goes both ways and women who keep you in friendzone... Maybe he just wants to empty his balls.
Exactly
I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
I got it, truly a good book
I been marry 40 yrs to my high value men since age 20. We have respect for each other. We have made wealth together. We have 5 children all with college degrees and all married. We have aged, but we kept our bodies is very good shape. I am not bragging!!! Just sharing with you ladies to be elegant, feminine, be in your feminine energy always. You will find that high value men. Greetings from U.S.A.
True but a lot of guys now a days aren't the same. Dating apps and women with low standards have made a lot of men show up with bare minimum behavior. This is why many of us are staying single and abstinate. 5:57 this is what I'm referring to.
@@SR77736 I totally agree with your comment. Apps and dating sites attract many low value men and women. Stay true to yourself. A women of value that you are. Don't loose hope!!! That special men will show up one day for you. You don't need a man with low value who will not respect you and mistreat you. Life is short. You deserve much better!! I wish you the best in your journey and many blessings in your life. Greetings from U.S.A.
I am married for 40 years with no children. I keep my body in shape and have a size 6 to 8 or S/ 36 European messure. Even if my husband is hardly interested in me anymore, I still keep myself classy and atractive, in clothes, make up and posture. I like wearing stiletto heals. Ok, I think I get the smirk smile look from younger women and even women my age who let themselfs look their age. By trying to look younger and still attractive I lose contact with women my age who think I am an anomaly and cannot connect with younger people because I am still older in their eyes. I don t care. I still will do anything to look 20 years younger and elegant and attracive. For myself. I even planned a little facelift.❤😊 Greatings from Belgium Europe. Bonjour tout le monde❤
Sometimes we forget it's not just about beauty / attractiveness, but inner power. That knowing you are internally the ultimate feminine alpha and Omega and radiate that Truth no matter what you have on. High esteem is not something we put on we embody always.
@@soulonice99 Thank you!!! I totally agree. Enjoy your day!!! Greetings from U.S.A.
I think I’m the “ good enough girl “ in being that breaks you so bad. But if you a “ good enough girl” just boss up & level up and watch how he won’t even be your type anymore. Because we already got it but we sell ourselves short being humble & understanding 💯
That's true babe.
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10:20 masculine women becoming the mother
19:20 good enough girl there is no passion in their eyes they don’t wanna put in too much effort
21:00 dream woman- he will do thi in his career and his health to make her happy
She forgot the vultures! They have tons of passion and you are the dream girl!!! The high value woman or man they want to destroy!!!
I was the "good enough girl" for 14 years!! I've been single since December 2023. I'm on my feminine journey, and I'm really really sad. I'm 52, and starting over. Thank God I don't look it!!!
God bless 😢
Don't waste your time being sad. You should be excited to start a new chapter... anything you want... and you still look good. We always miss what we're leaving behind... but mostly because it was familiar... not because it was so great. Now you have the opportunity to upgrade and find the things you weren't getting in the past but would've enjoyed. It's exciting. You have endless options/ possibilities. You're not losing something... you're gaining something. You can choose to see it either way... but if you go out there feeling sad... you are going to attract things that are a vibrational match to sadness... and that's not what you want. Go out there feeling excited, optimistic, hopeful & confident and you'll attract high vibrational people/ experiences into your life. A second chance with good looks & all the added wisdom you've gained over the years is a fantastic opportunity.
Even if you looked your age, it really doesn't matter in the end. Looks are not everything. Same thing with money. A good heart is what is important. Know the difference between what is truly valuable and what is not. Be happy with the things you do and the rest will come along in its due course. Good luck!
Good luck hun! I know you'll find happiness and love in your life :).
@@theshadylady1982 Thank you so very much for your words of encouragement and love.
You're absolutely right. I miss what was familiar, but engaging in new activities and learning about myself. Thank you so much, your words have truly helped me.
If he is willing to do anything for you his words align with his actions he think of you as a Queen👑
I wish more women would tell other women not to get in situationships and to wait to give themselves to men! The majority of men these days dont seem to respect and value women anymore, and its all become hook up culture. As far as relationships go, I think it is important to be a team. Communication, trust, listening to each other are all important. As a woman who values herself highly, she should be looking at the mans character, not what can be given to her. "Love bombing" is very common. Also, I tend to think most men get lazy in relationships after awhile in general, or dont really want to put in all the work required for it to be healthy. I am continuing to work on myself to be the best I can be, and have no expectations anymore because its just not that great out in the dating scene.
"Most of the men get lazy in relationships over time.." 💯‼️
100 % agree , Im much happier alone for 16 years, than being with sick perverts with mental problems, lowself-image and mommy issues. Was married for 27 yrs, widowed. So now its my time. Singles are mostly r£j£cts for a reason and the good partner will not be single long, if theyre not widowed, with all due respect.
5:48 agreed. I dsted a guy briefly who was trying to push to sexual things by date 2. I established boundaries sayibg i want a relationship and i dont put out that fast. He left a week later when I said i want to wait. He tried to pretend he wasn't into hookups, and said he wasnt but i found out he slept with women on date 1 and 2 a few times. Im use ti being courted and taken seriously.
You mean he didn’t lie and say he wanted marriage and the. Use your? Sooo many do that to!
My point! Dont tell them your deal breakers or whatnot takes to keep you!!! Hold your cards ladies!
My husband of 20 years…was pushing by date 3 and he got it. Don’t think it matters when you give in. The question is how attached and needy you get thereafter.
Fuck I could have saved so much time not trying to make it stable with people like that.
How men see you is how they treat you. That's why it's important to become the dream girl and to present ourselves as the dream girl from the get go! Thank you Lisa for another wonderful video!
Absolutely right, the first impression matters, to everyone, but especially in men, the first 5 seconds are crucial!!
@@dweight8888 Agreed. It's just like first impression with a man is very important to me too.
Please realise that all of these toxic/non-toxic, high/low value, feminine/masculine traits, are applicable to both men and women of all races and ages. Not just men. Not in the real world.
Don't be scared to dress in a variety of ways. People can be sexy & high-value in both an "upper-class" dress & a "lower-class" tracksuit.
Alot of sex-appeal, attraction & value comes from personality. There is no single, definitive way to be high-value. Everybodys values are different.
Closed-mindedness is not high-value, though.
Valuable partners are always comprised of mixtures of Open-mindedness, humility, confidence, self-awareness, discipline.
These things are even great traits to work on in the journey to securing phenomenal financial futures.
The real lesson of this video, which I Do actually agree with, is that you can't expect anybody to show you the love, respect & attention that you crave from life, before you've given those things to yourself. Good message from Lisa
0:00 intro
4:10 easy girl
8:42 The masculine woman
12:33 The pick me girl
17:22 the good enough girl
20:16 the dream woman
You can be the most feminine, most beautiful, most femme fatale, etc. But if it’s not GODs will it’s either not gonna happen, not gonna last, or you’re gonna be miserable in a relationship trying to make it work. If it’s meant for you, it’s meant for you. All this video does is help you weed out what’s not for you. What’s for you will stay. You won’t have to play mind games, change who you are, or force it. 💙
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That's your opnio
@@3arhodes exactly 💯
amen ❤
& not all guys have a heart of gold. its not our fault if they dont appreciate us❤
I’ve felt like the good enough girl and the dream girl as well. It depends on the male you’re with and of course as you said the way they see you. Being the good enough girl is truly a soul crusher because even when I try as hard as I can I’m still in the category.
Basically she is saying lose your mother instincts when you’re with a grown man. Don’t worry and care about how he will make your Chanel bag and will be tired or something. You have to have certain standards and if he can’t provide that don’t allow him instead of babying him.
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
The FEMININE GODDESS spoke 👑! Every women should listen to you. You really want the best for us ❤❤ Love you so much 🥰
Lets be real. Most of us girls will never be the dream girl, no matter how hard we try. Even if we succeed, once kids and stress are around, our dream girl image will start to have cracks and he will start wishing to be with his “true” dream girl. Girls, wake up, mental peace is just around the corner.
It’s interesting the more feminine you become Lisa the more clearly you can understand and explain the masculine perspective. Thanks for the tips, Lots of love!
They are a lot of low value men out there.
I'd say 70% are low value nowadays. No boundaries either no incentive to behave or come correct. You can thank the "free love" and the internet for that..🤣
I've been ALL of these at one point or another. It was hard trying to figure myself out, so when I was the pick me as a teenager, men would run. When I became the dream girl, men chased. When I gave it up too easily, I was no longer the dream girl. I think I've been the good enough girl to most men I've dated. I landed in my masculine after years of trying and I'm good here. It's safe. I'm in my 40's and most men are looking for 30's and 20's at my age. While I have a fun, feminine side, I'm not interested in dating seriously in this current time of hook up culture and situationships. It's a mess out here and takes too much energy to be worth it.
Date older
I hear you.. I've busted my but to be the good enough girl and now I'm single and being the masculine girl. I like some men but not from a girl point of view they are just respected . I don't need a man . I'm 63 and it would take a miracle to love again.
Easy to be a hospice wife 🤢@@GoddessExotica
Yes!
@@GoddessExotica older doesn't mean more mature and emotionally available. There are men in their 50's and 60's who are still acting like teenagers.
thank you..i knew i was just the okay girl., the for now girlfriend. Hurt so much i stayed when i knew i wasnt valued. thanks for this content. i was not crazy. listen to your intuition ladies!
I was, or became, overly independent in my past relationships. I also became very unattracted to the men because they did not seem to be as masculine to me anymore. This video really helped me identify why there was a breakdown in what had been so promising in the beginning, especially in the few that were several years long. Always appreciate your content.
As a man, there is not a single take in this video that I would disagree and you explained well about all of my thoughts. Thanks!
This pick me girl/desperate girl is the most abused, low self esteem, childhood trauma and needs the most healing. I hope if you are there at this moment, I hope you can get the healing that you need 🙏 don’t ever be the piece of meat for anyone or anyone else’s servant or used or property -you don’t need anyone else’s validation but your own.❤
Powerful and true
This video will go viral 😍 amazing concept 👑
You seriously talk and look like a feminine goddess ❤ can you please share where to meet high value men?
If u r high value yourself, u will naturally exist where those men frequent. It is your default setting.
Ladies, go to Lowes, church, Auto zone. You have to go where men are and look dainty and elegant, and in need of assistance. (Men are problem solvers) wherever you go, dress modest and natural. Be comfortable
Only the High Value one ✨✨✨
yas queen, let the demographic collapse commence
Love this video!! I’ve been seeing a lot of Pick Me Girls in Love is Blind (US, Mexico, and UK) and I do agree that Carrie Bradshaw is a pick me girl. I really want a man who goes above and beyond for me
Carrie Bradshaw was awful. I can't believe people glorified her.
It’s scary to think potentially a whole group and generation women thought her behavior ‘the way’ or even normal.
Yep! I’m the same but be careful as that can be life bombing too.
I am a masculine woman and my high value husband loves me and treat me like a queen. I am his dream woman.
Ok to sum that up. If you’re not your best self guys treat you like crap. They assume that you are easy if you are nice, they think you’re a pick me if you desire a relationship from a man you dont know, and you cant be a dream girl unless your status and your beauty is above theirs by anyones standards not just theirs
Dear Lisa, thank you so much for all the support and encouragement you give us women, with all the tips and unique perspective you bring. You really help us remember who we are and what we truly deserve as women❤
The most powerful is mix of looking like a wonder woman and act like a masculine woman. Decisiveness is most important. If he cannot share it, he will not teach my daughters either - and I invest in my daugthers to be at least as succesful as I am. Not a dad material for children I would like to have
Dear Lisa, as someone who is not single and is in a long relationship from when I didn't even know what feminine energy truly is, I absolutely love watching your videos. I would love to see a video of you talking about how to keep the sparks in a relationship going, I don't think you've ever had a video like this. There are a lot of amazing videos out there on how to set high standards and seduce when you are meeting someone, but I believe there are many women in long-term relationships or marriages who would like to keep it interesting all the time. You are like the big sister I never had, I wish I had advice like this. How to make your man fall in love always. Sometimes it can be difficult to save the sparks, when you both have some difficulties in college or work, or family problems. A lot of people say it is not possible once the kids and problems come around. I am still young, but want to have a great marriage and make my future husband blessed to have me. Thank you in advance, I think that would be a wonderful video, that many women need. You are honestly one of the most beautiful, soft spoken woman I have ever seen. Wish you all the best 💙✨❤️🔥
High value women are light and playful. Looks do not matter, your misgivings do not matter, your attitude does.
I'm kind of confused here with the description of the easy woman. As I see It, a high value man does not hace double standards. So, if a man likes easy women just to hook up but do not respect women who maybe are after the same, isn't it a double standard?
Good point. A high value man wouldn't waste his time with a woman who's not - at least potentially - his dream girl, would he? 😮
Also, what about people who are into each other physically and love that 'electricity' hanging in the air when they are around each other... It doesn't seem right to me to call these women and men easy or low quality. Not if they are looking for the same thing and don't want to behave like a person they really aren't. I know Lisa's channel is about the standard relationships but I've always been fascinated about this kind of relations. It's rare but when it happens... it's amazing :)
You just described misogyny 🎉
@@ilariamasullo3353 Yes, they do. But they don't value those women.
Exactly, it’s ridiculous trying to shame us when they encourage us to engage with us like that.
I have modesty girl my whole life and still got treated like garbage
The length of your skirt, the cut of your jeans, your cleavage, etc have zero to do with your humanity.
I have never been in relationship so now it makes me desperate to get one but the thing is guys never approached me what should I do
That moment when you realize you're terminally the "good enough" girl 😭😭😭
Not anymore darling!
@@samrose5664 I love this reply so much.
Leave
Leave u deserve better
You are so pretty. I've been stepping into my feminine energy and trust me, things have changed🥰 the way men treat me have really changed. Thank you for schooling us love
Waw, can you tell me more the way it changed?
While I agree with you, at the same time, not everyone looks like you (seriously. Look at you…you’re gorgeous!) I don’t think EVERYONE can be the dream girl, no matter how they behave. Maybe I’m wrong?
Yeah I agree. I believe all women can do better than someone who won’t commit, even single is better than that. However, many of us like myself don’t have much issue securing commitment, because men will commit to the woman they think is the best THEY can personally do, but that’s not the same as their dream woman (who is someone most know they probably cannot get). They’ll put a ring on it, but they won’t go out of their way to give her more than what is required for her to stick around. I’ve never received “Princess treatment” except when being lovebombed by a narcissist. Which is okay but kinda depressing.
@@hannahl5663Wrong. I’ve seen natural born males completely transform themselves to stunning women. If you’re a natural born woman, you’re already a step ahead.
Without watching the video I already know I'm a masculine woman.
Dear Lisa ❤️ Thank you so much. Unknowingly, I was a pickme girl. I just realized about it. I was like that because they pretended to love me. Now I have the chance to correct my mistakes. Thank you very much
I think the term mistress should be erased too. There’s no male equivalent and I personally find it a really misogynistic term.
Maybe women need to stop going married men.............
Great context, but I wonder what the types of men are in your eyes? Very grateful for your Goddess energy🌹
Video starts at 4:10
Thank you Lisa❤️❤️❤️ totally love your content!
Use the phrase "Trust is built" and then walk away - if you find yourself being perceived as an "easy girl."
Why, shows you value yourself and makes them check themselves.
Thank you for spreading the word. Being yourself is the key to true love.
How did i become from dream woman to trash woman for him? He used to do everything for me, after marriage he changed 360°. I guess you never know 😢
Sounds like an ab user/narc. My ex husband was this way. Some men are REALLY good at hiding who they are and they only let the mask slip off when they've got you where they want you (married/pregnant)
Be her podcast
You married narcissist
Well if u can't leave him, atleast make him jealous or obsessed!
@@Editsforyouu7 how?
I wished I would have heard this 35 years ago... Thank You! 💝
Case by case basis becuz there are one night stands that turned into long lasting marriages.
Not extremely common but does happen at times
So basically it’s pretty obvious that if he doesn’t treat you like the dream woman, then he’s one of the feminine guys that you called out in the beginning. That’s what I got from this.
I love this episode, it’s so helpful! ❤
02:32 ugh unfortunately i can relate to experiencing those types. Ever since i hit 14 I’m looking for a high value one by leveling up myself and my environment but it’s mostly tough out there.
Everybody make mistakes, we can always learn and grow from it 😘
yes and I don’t even consider them as my mistake since most of them are so good at hiding themselves in the beginning. Even though I’m still so young I’m so fed up dealing with those ones. Right now I date a man who’s looking good on the paper and even though I’m not attracted to him physically i hope he won’t be the same.
So now what should a woman do if she is in a marriage and recognizes that she is the "good enough" girl and that her husband does not really notice her and only does the very bare minimum?
And additionally what should a woman do if she finds out, that her partner is like that because of autism and therefore he could never really change?
I’m definitely not the easy, pick me or masculine woman. I’m more between of the good enough and the dream girl.
I just love this video.. i think im acting as a picky wife here. Husband being disrespectful, low maintenance, no princess treatments, no love or passion in eyes..
Ask him if he's okay (not stressed or overwhelmed) with other things in his life
@@thekindredstoil he is overly stressed and have anxiety issues
Lisa, Amazing message and lesson for all ladies to know!!! Thank you. Greetings from U.S.A.
Lisa raised me in some way🩷🌷
Same here 🥹🥹, who was gonna tell me all this
Same!! She is so amazing 🥰
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
You're awesome Lisa! New subscriber. Really love the way you explain things and of course your beautiful vibe and aura ❤❤
Wow, you just explained my partnership problems for me, thank you so much!
Every woman , young lady should know this !!! Love and I have not even began to watch it… just the thumbnail itself I already know ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This was so helpful and timely for me… thank you, beautiful ☺️💕
That's what I was saying the inner beauty is what you need
Love the floral dress ❤❤❤& the whole look. Give it to me please when you are done with it 🤩
Thanks , I was all of them except the dream girl 😭😭
Where is your father?
Even if you have toxic father, your father will never let you to be that kind of woman
Interesting content Lisa. Could you please do a video discussing how you met your boyfriend and how it compared to before your levelling up journey. It would be very educational to compare before and after to help get a better vision of how to grow and evolve, especially for those starting their levelling up journey. ❤❤❤
This is why I choose to be single
Lisa please please make a Video about your Hair and how to maintain beautiful hair throughout the week. I Go to the Gym everyday and I cant style them everytime 😢
You need some of my hair product. I wash my hair 3-5 times a week. I smooth it down with my product after washing, and pin it up afterwards; letting it air dry. It grows like crazy and looks healthy and strong! All natural, except for the preservative(naturally derived) just an option. I don't usually do this, but I really think it would help you.
Your dress is so lovely ❤
I love this video summary! I also noticed your floral dress, it's looks beautiful. Where did you get it?
Good point I enjoy being treated like a queen 👸
Why is it too hard being women. Need to understand these things.. while men just be them and boom. Still have a girl, doesn't worry about nothing😅💔
Women don't choose the relationship or marriage. The men always choose. it's like picking a flower in the garden. Yes it's unfair but life is not fair.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Not true ! We have way more choices than men. And we do choose, since we have to say yes to the proposal, or choose to be with someone. Statistically, when women are single it is because they choose to be single. When men are single, they have no choice. Remember your value !
@@laramodel8433 Well said and True! Also, if a man don’t treat you well the woman has the choice to walk away and replace him. Men know this.
It's the Curse of Eve 🤷🏾♀️😩😒
wooh. You're really delusional i can see that already. Most men never get the flirting signs from women. 80% of men are invisible and women chase the top 10-15% of men. Stop saying your life is hard, just make a dating profile as a man and you will regret saying this.
Lisa I have a question in the early stages of talking or going on dates should I tell him that I want flowers, gifts, etc (like bare minimum) 😂 or see if he does it naturally? I don't want to tell him always you know.
You can say that you love flowers, and you love going to fancy places without telling him directly... it is better to say "i love that" dont you think those flowers are beautiful??
See how he reacts, most of the time they bring you sth (but remember he must be into you!!)
@Elliefebruary2that’s not true, you’re trying to make her believe that it’s her fault if he doesn’t buy her things. Like so many men, he could just be cheap.
Its then easy to be perceived as a "gold digger" I think Lisa is pointing out that a man who is serios about you will do these things naturally "If I make you happy then it makes me happy to see *you happy"
@@emmsue1053 the idea of "gold digger" comes from dusties (men that dont have a job). Dont listen to them.
Men who are prepared to date will be proud to give
@@iaf4454Well there are people who use others for money so it is a real danger. Haven't you heard of marriage scams? I know a rich guy who keeps it secret that he has a lot of money when dating because he is afraid of being taken advantage of.
In Spanish we call the "good enough woman" as "La mujer del proceso" meaning the woman that was by the guy's side for a long time always supporting him, but he never proposed to her and then when he graduates or gets a better paying job he immediately ditches her for another woman who he often marries asap. My cousin had two friends that were a couple for a long time, but the guy never proposed and we could all tell that he only saw her as the good enough girl, but that he had a dream girl type and even tried to chase another girl while with her even saying tha their relationship was not that serious. My cousin and everyone that saw that dissuaded him but we could tell the relationship was doomed and they indeed broke up, she is now happier in a relationship with a guy that cherishes her
Speaking from experience you automatically become the controlling mother after 20 years together, no matter how they viewed you in the beginning 😂.
Thankyou for all your advice. You are helping me to change❤
Lisa whenever you posts a new video it's makes my day instantly🥹💗💫✨ and today you are looking pretty and How's your health
Thank you dear ❤❤
Can you do a video on your clothes? Because you always have the most gorgeous dresses!
Yes! I loved the little flicker the ruffle was doing going down the stairs. She just exudes femininity. I wish I could do that
thank you another great video…by the way you look amazing in this beautiful dress
Have you ever experienced these types in yourself Lisa? I feel discouraged because a life long on and off parter has kept me as the easy girl soon after we took each others virginity at 15. We waited 9 months, but of course I made the mistake to not vocalize marriage question first. It was my assumption we would, he went away to college and among many other things broke us and he keeps me as “easy” girl eventhough it’s because I love him and have not been able to move on fully, I’ve been confused ever since. Over 10 years
This is new for me .I thank you for this information.Pretty dress and hair.
Dont some men feel some women are entitled or high maintenance, even high value men? I think I've mostly acted like a pick me girl but I had my feminine phase too. I felt invisible and in some ways laughed at when I tried to be feminine. I think they saw me as delulu.
I agree though that the easy girl is a straight up fail. Most of my friends are men and they always tell me how they avoid the easy girl like a plague because they worry, she will project the same energy on other men so not desirable for a long term partner. Yet I see women continue to do that because women are often brainwashed by social media that if you are sexual, that will attract men, but it often attracts the wrong kind.
Lisa you are so inspiring I love the visuals in the videos 💐💐
I love the "Chennai Express" scene lol. Love the video!!
lmaoo Im definitely masculine energy woops
Loved this video ❤
Beautifully said
Thank you Lisa for being our wise big sister❤. Jesus bless you!
Fue excelente cómo explicaste todo. ❤
I just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge with us
Wow, the end of the video hit me: you paimted a picture of a man in love quite abnormally high. Not all men shows his love all ways you mentioned.
Thank you Lisa! Good content!
It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!
Hm, I think I could be the masculine woman but boys/ men have always found me pretty, I sometimes get treated like the dream girl. But I'm uncomfortable with it, I don't want the princess treatment all the time. I'm not a doll, I don't want my boyfriend to feel like he needs to serve me. When I'm sick and he's taking care of me, that's so sweet and such a good feeling. But sometimes I really do wanna take care of him in return (is this the motherly thing?), I wanna know what he's thinking and feeling and I want us to get things done TOGETHER. Like I want us to be there for one another and I want him to be 100% honest, even if it could hurt me. When I love someone, I love everything about him, even his bad sides. I like playing soccer, I love silly jokes and getting into a little trouble... what can I do. I like driving my car and he doesn't have to carry my bag all the time, although it would be nice to have some help here and there. I can also be kinda closed off, especially to other guys once I'm in a relationship. I don't even want other men to look at me and I don't want them to like me/ desire me, I always feel like that's reserved for my boyfriend. Anyone here who feels the same about this?
Great video, Lisa.
What happens when you go from a dream woman to the good enough woman treatment ?
You have "settled down" .. Keep up your friends and hobbies.. Do not flirt around when out alone so he can trust you but it will make him step up his game, if that's what you want? No real relationship should be hard work.
That dress is fantastic, I'm engaged to an amazing man. But I've known low value men your right they won't change.