3 UPDATES: Ex Wife Demands That I Pay More Child Support But My Kids Only Spend The Weekends With...
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- 3 UPDATES: Ex Wife Demands That I Pay More Child Support But My Kids Only Spend The Weekends With Her So I Decide To Do Some Snooping And Find Out THIS Is Where All The Child Support Money Has Been Going And Decide To File For Full Custody Immediately After My Children Tell Me Everything… My Ex Wife Is Begging Me To Cancel The Proceedings & my Parents Are Calling me 'Cold Hearted'
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Hi, everyone, so I recently did something and I don’t know if it’s right or wrong, but everybody is really upset with me for it. It wouldn’t usually matter, but even my parents are not with me on this, so I’m here for some clarity. So this is about me and my ex-wife, I will refer to her as Tara. She and I are both 30 and we have two kids together. We have a seven year-old son and a five-year-old daughter. However, we have been separated for two years now and she has partial custody but the kids only visit her on the weekend since that’s what she wanted. we got married when we were 22 after dating throughout college and it was a blissful time initially. But then, it was the monotony that started getting to us, and we started falling out of love. We just grew apart, I guess we started fighting a lot after our daughter was born and we couldn’t bring ourselves to agree on anything at all. She wanted something different from life, and I really didn’t want the same thing as her. We just realized that we were very different as people and we couldn’t make it work anymore. We had been trying our best, for the sake of our kids, but we were fighting so often that it wasn’t really good for them either. I suggested marriage counseling towards the very end, as a last-ditch effort to make it work, but she declined and said that she would much rather just get divorced than draw it out and I thought it was fair.
OPs parents are the worst. They pressured him into accepting paying alimony. Hopefully he’s stopped paying alimony.
They are misandrists.
Hi OP's parents hope you get the retirement home
Let his parents pay the child support.
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I’ll never understand how a man can have majority custody and still have to pay child support. Makes no sense smh.
It's ridiculous, but it's called equal standard of living. It's because they want the kids to have the same kind of homes at both parents. Basically, Income Shares is the child support formula used by 30 states. It's name comes from it's stated objective: to ensure that any child has the same "share" of each parent's income available for its care as if its parents were married.
My brother got bit on this one, and it caused him to go broke.
He wasn't ordered to pay that amount. His idiot parents basically forced him to accept it.
It's any partial custodial parent.
@amandab8433 no it's not, stop lying. You know it's only because it's a mother
It sounds like he just agreed to it bc of the pressure from his parents. I don’t think it was awarded.
Those poor children: being put in a dangerous position and being threatened that their lives will be miserable if they ever speak up against their so-called "mother." They're innocent in all of this. I'm glad that OP did the right thing to get full custody for their own safety 🙏🏾
For those asking how she got child support and alimony. He said at the beginning of the story that he let his parents guilt trip him into agreeing to her lawyers terms during the mediation of their divorce. Because she was the mother of his children.
OP could have got an emergency protective order because her ex was living with a violent offender
Should be able to, I did
Should have gone to the police immediately and let them interview his son and daughter, before having the lawyer file.
Anyone trying to tell me "I need to give X money" will get the same answer - then you go and give those money
why do I think that from the description of Tara's behavior at the end she will need to save for her own rehab
Yes I said that op was blind if he doesnt realize shes doing drugs also in my comment
@@AndrewPureMI Even if she isn't, since her boyfriend is doing intravenous drugs it would be super easy for him to do it to her while she's sleeping and get her hooked.
OPs parents should pay child support if they feel so strongly about the ex wife. The kids should be with dad as they are in danger with mom. Dating a much younger guy with a drug addiction is her top priority.
Why would she even get any child support AND alimony? Like fr. She would have to pay him child support if he has them the majority of the time. He pays for everything else... If she wants more money, she should do what millions of other parents do, get a second job.
ETA: If the parents like her so much, they should be paying her the money.
Keep your kids away from your parents they will guilt trip your kids too. Take her name off papers at school that would allow her to take them out of classes.
Your parents are the worst! Who pays for child support for two days the other parent has.? That’s ridiculous! Get the full custody and keep them safe and loved.
Op is really milked out of money in this divorce
so let me get this straight? o.p's parents say it's cold hearted for o.p to think of his kids safety, respect the fact his kids are scared of their mom's boyfriend who they've confirmed has some personal issues , possibly bringing his addicting he's allegedly trying to kick into the house putting the kids in more danger, they ignore the signs and say that he needs to respect the kids mother whose shown more love for her new man and lies to o.p. and after all that they still think the kids need such a toxic mother in their lives? O.p did a good thing. Cut the parents out. if they love Tara and her Hallmark romance with a junkie then they can consider her their child and pretend o.p and the grandkids don't exist. they can have their happy pretend family while o.p can have a healthier real one.
ONLY A WEEKEND MOTHER ?? PAYING CHILD SUPPORT ? WHEN ! SHE DONT EVEN HAVE THEM !
I dont know why OP cares what his parents think. You’re the kids dad and u make decisions Not them !
You did great!! Thanks for being a support for all the dads out there battling similar demons. You and your kids will be okay.
Op. Needs to tell his parents if they don’t keep your opinion to yourself I will make sure y’all never see the kids again and the only reason why op ex want op to pay extra child support so she can feed her boyfriend drug addiction
Agreed, OP's parents are so g*§&@#% naive.😠
Well said. It sounds to me like OP's wouldn't mind their grandkids going into the foster care system, and then, being raised by randos, because of their mother.
2:23 Why should he have to pay her anything?When the kids live with him that doesn't make any sense ?! She's the last person I would want teaching my children !! She's the one that should be paying him child support.
If you win full custody against an abusive ex, i would suggest moving and changing as many details of your life as possible.
Op should’ve informed her employer after because something tells me that Tara is doing drugs too.
(Before updates.) Absolutely NTA OP and you're doing exactly the right thing. Your parents are senile and should mind their own business. You are putting your children first, as you should, and no responsible jurisdiction would allow children to stay in a house with a drug addict. I suspect your ex-wife is no longer a teacher by other than her own choice because of her dubious connections. She is not a good mother. Take your children out of that situation and keep them out, giving your ex-wife no more money to spend on her junkie. Good luck.
When a woman is still reasonably young, alimony os normally only padi for 6 months, to give her time to get a job.
One thing that caught my attention is the talk about the rifle. Rifles are no indication whatsoever of the character of a person
Just so Tara is happy OP’s parents don’t care that the grandkids are in danger when in their mother’s custody and are not taken care of? Wow I hope OP explained to extended family why he’s NC cause you know that they are probably going around complaining about how their son and grandkids won’t speak to them anymore.
Not only that, Tara is also happy that OP's parents don't care that the grandkids are on their way to the foster care system.
OP should get tough with his parents and tell them to pay their ex DIL alimony. Typical NIMBY. We want this to happen but we cannot take any trouble
Tara must be using the same drugs. If she's still a teacher, OP should call the school system and suggest a drug test.
Well said, or better yet, get the DEA after her.
“I need more child support because I’m ready to embark on a new job path with my friend who can’t do it alone (a loan?!?).
“Lady, WHAT YOU WANT IS A SMALL BUSINESS LOAN” - that’s the only response such a talk deserves.
Ex’s aren’t there to be used to create a second career.
The ex is messed up. And if the parents are on her side it’s because they have some unnatural relationship.
It’s somewhat reasonable that grandparents might want their ex DIL to have a ton of resources for the good of the kids.
But trying to start a business with a friend is the OPPOSITE of gathering resources to use to raise children.
OP needs court to tell the ex to get her own life. If she quits her job she should lose all alimony and child support.
He divorced her. He doesn’t have to keep funding her nonsense or even the best idea ever for a new biz, OP has done his part. Ex is a greedy pig.
Good thing op cut his parents off. Or else they would have been taking the kids to their mom. I bet Tara was also using drugs. Also if she needed money so bad how did she get a great lawyer. I bet ops parents paid for it.
They wanted a daughter so bad I bet Tara was having affairs before the divorce. Also that was the real reason she wanted weekend's because she had her different men during the week.
It's going to be funny if Tara attacks op's parents for not helping her get the kids back. Which she will most likely do. Sadly she won't get clean and spiral more and lose her teaching job. Because I doubt a school will employ a woman who lost custody of her kids because she prioritized her drug addict boyfriend.
Parents are crap and need help. How they claimed he was being selfish when the Ex wanted more money on top of the ton she was already getting to help her boyfriend, not the kids but the boyfriend. You want to help the boyfriend then fund it yourself. Child support is for the kids not you. I hate these selfish , entitled, deluded people. Dump the whole bloody lot of them.
I would investigate what your wife is really using the money for she is not asking for something that is reasonable I would definitely ask the children a little more about the weekends
I think you are going to find she is allowing a unsuitable man around your children so she allowing drugs around your children I think what your wife has threatened your innocent children I would not allow her to access the children and she also using drugs around the children I think you need to send the police to your ex wife's house as they will find drugs and they will both be arrested
Your parents are willing to risk the grandchildren are they suffering from dementia do not take heed of those ignorant please get the court to get a child therapist to listen to the children and the trauma she caused the children she a addict
She's the one who wanted the divorce and she's trying to be greedy
Same thing happened to my husband with his ex and she was on every drug imaginable. We had to get family services involved because she basically kidnapped my stepdaughter when she found out we knew. My stepdaughter was 7 at the time and used a sprite bottle wrapper to show dcfs how to roll a joint! It was a MESS but we finally got full custody and the judge told her if she went to therapy and set up appointments with dcfs she could visit a couple hours a week with supervision but she just gave up. She was still harassing us 8 yrs later and when finding out we moved halfway across the country, she called the police there to tell them we kidnapped her. Legit crazy. Luckily, the cops were really nice, and when they found out the truth, they threatened her with arrest if she called again😂It was great because where we lived before, they wouldn't do anything. My stepdaughter is now 25 and has nothing to do with her. She gave her a chance after she turned 18, but she's even worse now. My husband had child support taken out of his check until 5 months after we legally got custody, and she never had to pay anything back. Family legal system sucks!
This is how kids end up murdered by mommies boyfriends!! I see these stories all the time here on TH-cam.
Same here. Not only do kids end up murdered by the mothers' boyfriends, they also end up in the foster care system.
If you have to ask this you do not deserve to have your children in your life.
So the ex-wife got greedy and ended up with nothing. Hopefully he didn’t have to pay alimony any more either.
I remember watching the movie, “House Arrest” Mr. Finley (Shawn Wallace) was on the phone with his ex wife and she demanded child support. He said, “I have the kids, why should I pay YOU child support.”
I laugh every time I see that part.
No laughing matter in The real world.
OP got the shaft!
No, no, no! No one gets child support when they only have their children on the weekends! They might get alimony but child support always goes to the parent who has the majority custody. In other words if one parent has custody 55% & the other has custody for 45% then the parent with less custody has to pay child support! Also alimony is never considered when it comes to child support
Oh my parents told me, she had a super lawyer that apparently gets to decide what is paid and who gets what instead of a fair distribution of assets etc... what is this dude? It doesn't matter how great an attorney is, being robbed and railroaded unfairly and what some parents who arent on your side have to say is irrelevant and nobody with a spine would put up with this.
Tara's on drugs too. This sudden change in behavior would suggest that.
Alimony is free money is a scam in most cases. She wanted to separate and yet still depend on him? Unless he was a abusive asshole ... she should get nothing and she should pay the child support.
Op. Go no contact with the parents.
Not the a$$, but your parents have shown that you mean very little to them, and by saying that it doesn't matter if she's in love with a dangerous junkie (and they're all potentially dangerous) they are saying that their grandchildren don't mean much to them either.
They wanted a daughter so badly that they accepted a bottom feeder over all else.
Tell them that while you still love them, it's pretty obvious that they don't love you, or their grandchildren, just the woman that they have become psychologically bound to, and you are taking the kids, and she can gave her junkie.
OP didn't know what happened after he no longer had to deal with her, but I would not be at all surprised of he found out at some point that she OD'd, or was offed by Sean.
OP/ First off keep your parents out of this battle. I think that the fact that they pushed you into an agreement that was very generous in the first place was sure not acting like they were on your side. Unless of course you were some awful person who cheated on her or abused her. She is getting alimony and child support. And she has a perfectly good job as a teacher. No granted a teachers pay is far from a fortune, but I would like to point out there are more than a few single mothers who are raising their kids alone on a teacher's salary. She had supplemental income from you. Maybe you could point out to her that the selfish one is her for wanting to quit a job that is helping her take care of the kids for her awesome commitment of 48 hours a week. She sounds self-entitled and a witch. Your parents are toxic and unsupportive of you.
Fight her over additional child support because she isn't using the child support for your children, she is using it to quit her job. I have some doubts about how much it can actually cost you to have kids in the household for a mere 2 days. I sort of think you got the shaft without any lube from your lawyer and hers. And for gods sakes quit listening to your parents. They are not on your side.
This man is a doormat. This woman broke her marriage and he let his parents talk him into paying her CS for weekend visits. OLD or not, no and mind your business parents. Is that really a surprise? He a sucker which is why she was bold enough to ask for more money. This is 💯 Op fault....
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WOW!!
You need a better lawyer!!
You shouldn't have to support her if she's wanting a divorce!! You care for the kids fulltime and pay her child support???
Bet they aren't even YOUR biological kids!
Tara is a high school teacher and "smoking funny smelling cigarettes" ..... She needs to find a different job and not with children!
OP...good job keeping your children away for Tara!!!
R op's parent crazy . She is threatening the kids and they wabt their dear ex DIL to get more money, n custody. Give ur parents an earful op n tel them to mind their own business if in their old age thye they cant see right from wrong.
U don’t owe Tara a Dam thing I mean u owe her nothing she is a real real user and dump fire for using her kids get money she should be ashamed of her self
Tara be tweaking
Stop being a simp. You let your parents control you and your money. I hope you will get a better lawyer. And go low contact with your parents. Some parents don't have their child's best interest at heart. Be a grown up and tell your parents to go sit down. Go get the best lawyer you can get and Scotch the earth.
He shouldn’t judge people for smoking weed. That makes him an asshole. A lot of people have tattoos now. Don’t be a dick about it. Shouldn’t have to pay child support tho. Although he’s being stalkerish as well
@vaseline69 100% agree
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