Let Yourself Be Skinny
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****Please note this video was created 11 years ago. This goes far beyond being skinny. It's genuinely about us letting go of any upper limits in our lives. Whether it's how we look, how much money we make, or whatever our desired life experience is... we can allow it all.
We can ask ourselves...
Can I let myself be HAPPY? RICH? HEALTHY? FEMININE?
First of all, let me define for you what I mean by skinny.
I'm talking very healthy, very gorgeous, and very beautiful...allowing your body to reflect your desires.
Have you ever thought to yourself, "What if I allowed myself to have the body I desire?"
In most women I talk to, it doesn't matter what size they are; they always have this going on in their heads.
The first thing I'd like to address is Why the majority of women do not let themselves have the body they desire?
We are afraid that if we allow ourselves to have the bodies we want, someone else will be upset about it.
Another reason is that we are sometimes afraid of what will happen when we get there.
What will that attention look like if we allow ourselves to have a gorgeous body?
What will I have to work on if I allow myself to be gorgeous? What will I complain about?
******* This video is intended to support us in allowing what we desire into our lives without self-sabotaging. To let go of the upper limit that stops us from allowing the truth "the better it gets, the better it gets."******* - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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Why so many people got this video on their home page after 11 years including me in 2024 ?
Ikr
I guess we all need it🫥
real
You got this, too?
Because skinny is coming back😉
You don’t find the video. The video finds YOU.
that makes me feel so guiltyy
shes the gas station commercial lady at the gas pump dude. seriously, check out her later videos. Speedway advertises her
2024 and this came up. Okay, ill go get skinny.
Lol
Just eat natural foods that nourish your body and don't leave you craving crap. Do you see any fat animals in the wild? No. Slim and fit is our natural state.
@@Neophemawalruses are pretty fat.. also whales need to be to stay warm.. and wombats are pretty round
@@Neophemathere are fat animals..also humans are animals and can be naturally skinny or fat lol
@@NeophemaI seen fat animals out in the wild 😭
"If i gave up on being pretty i would not know how to be alive" - Mitski
thats a dumbass quote 😭
@@soshisushi7421 not really. a lot of women center their lives around becoming prettier.
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Honestly this video hit home for me so hard but when it comes to success and following my dreams. I am so afraid of my own abilities and my own vast potential for success that I recognize- because I know it could leave me isolated, and I feel alone, and I don’t want to be alone forever, so I sabotage my own abilities that I know will lead to envy because I want to be loved.
I’m afraid to be as talented as I am.
I like this lady, even if her video was about being skinny, for everyone they have their core values and the self sabotage and fear of being beautiful is real. She’s wise.
Honestly, came here expecting really problematic advice, but what she says actually makes sense.
Yes there is much more to the video;) I am glad you stayed and heard the underlying message 🖤
I allow myself to be pretty again and stop dressing down to make others around me feel comfortable, I allow all the attention and love from myself so I can truly be my best version of myself
never water yourself down to make others comfortable❤
This is what i needed to hear today❤
thank you
11 years ago i thought wow great video quality for 2000s then i realised 11 years ago was 2013
Frrr💀
Reminds me of part of a poem. "There is a lion in my living room. I feed it raw meat so it does not hurt me. It is a strange thing to nourish what could kill you in hopes that it does not kill you." Also, "Feel it. The thing you dont want to feel. Feel it. And be free."
Oooooh That. Now that comment helps me Lol. For real tho.
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Beautiful
Who wrote the first one?
What poem?
It’s not just that I want to get skinnier, I want to get my life together in so many ways. I want to look better, yes, but I also want to function better too.
Yes!
THIS🖤
What holds me back is the *fear* that I will become skinny and then gain weight again, bc that's happened to me before. I need to just let that go!
learn how to count kcal?
@@Bankai90 yes but counting and sticking to it is a different thing
So I think it’s more about discipline
@@roksanarudzinska7737 well discipline is better than luck
You may have some sneaky triggers that you don’t register yet… journaling could be very helpful for you: if you’ve reached your goal, look carefully when you find yourself doing something like overeating fast food for example. While you’re eating it, think about what was happening before you made the choice to buy it, where you eat it (ex: alone in your car, or with others), how you feel while eating it, and then how you feel after. The act alone of creating awareness around the situation can help a lot. Sending you lots of love💖
This showed up in my feed 11 years later. I just did the journal prompt and had to come back and comment. I realized that I am afraid if I allow myself to be skinny I will no longer fit in with my boring, stressful, unhappy life. So if I allow myself to be skinny I will have to go out and live the life of my dreams. That would require so much bravery. I am afraid if I could not find the bravery within myself, I would be even more unhappy.
Maybe some inner child prompts?
Congratulations you found the key. Fat is a sheltering mechanism of the body to keep you safe from outside stressor or trauma. Once you let go, you allow yourself to be safe in your body, you shed the fat.
Here to tell you you're still allowed to be stressed out and unhappy when you improve your looks by weightloss, which might give a little comfort. Not a very encouraging comment perhaps but what I basically mean to say is, allow yourself to take one step at a time. These things aren't as attached to eachother as you make them out to be, it's just whatever you improve about yourself makes it's a little easier to deal with other areas in your life that need improvement. Gaining weight might have been a disfunctional coping mechanism, connected with your belief system at the moment, but not getting your whole life together at once doesn't make you a failure.
“Why am I afraid of living the life of my dreams?” Keep it going !
Congratulations bc youre being very honest with yourself!! Not a lot of people have the courage to admit to this. Its not only being skinny or whatever of course, but any “good” thing that we have an excuse for not doing. Nothing wrong with being fat but i feel like most people dont truly want to be, they just find excuses bc its scary to change…
If I let myself be skinny I would be more involved in my community and friendships. I would interact with everyone and say YES to every invite out. I would get dressed with ease. I would enjoy getting ready. I would not be fearful of being seen. I would actually enjoy compliments and believe them. I would feel accomplished. I could move on to other things in my life.
I hope you get your dream body, you deserve it🙏🏻
me too❤
I felt this.
"I started self-sabotaging. Have you ever done that?" YES. Every time. :(
11 year old video, I’m not a woman wanting to get skinny and I watched the whole video anyways. Now I’m writing in my journal about setting goals about who I want to become.
this is so amazing. i will journal about "can i let myself be happy?" because i think thats a beautiful journaling prompt. i dunno if im ready to do the skinny prompt, guess im afraid of that one
@@SaphiraLeander you can. Realize, think and feel what it would be like to be skinny. “I got to buy all these new pants because my old ones don’t fit”
How would your lifestyle change? Maybe you would go for a walk, run or workout each day?
How would your nutrition change? Making healthy meals, having quality food.
Realize that right now you are a healthy person, you are skinny, and your decisions you make going forward will follow that change of mentality.
Right I’m a woman who is already skinny due too fast metabolism I’m taking the advice for other aspects of my life
i don’t understand what i should journal out though
Love that for you
I watched this about a month or two ago, then I started journaling why I’ve been on the bigger side throughout my teen and adult life, since then I’ve lost probably 10-15 pounds, it keeps dropping too. I am a firm believer that weight is tied to trauma, working through it in a healthy way can definitely get those pounds down.
So writing magically drop the. Weight?
@@urlmellowyes
@@urlmellow I think what this is about is that journaling about the topic creates a healthier relationship with food and therefore people will "magically" drop the weight.
@@urlmellowYou sound like someone who has never journaled.
It is therapeutic, you allow yourself to really connect with your inner self and you start being more conscious about a lot of stuff
@@YukiKunikida I’ve journaled before just not often but maybe I should more
What you're saying sounds ridiculous at first, but for the people who also think like me, this makes total sense. I've been obese my whole life. I've never been enormous, but large enough that I've never been the smaller girl in my group of friends. In my up-bringing, that was just the life style that I've learned. I'm actually trying to get some weight off so I can feel great on my wedding day and it's been so difficult. I know exactly what to do. It's been working, but I get complacent and I just can't seem to understand why. Some weeks ago, it occurred to me that I'm actually scared to be skinny and full of energy. That sounds so stupid when I type it out. I'm serious, though. Being more beautiful, fit and energetic actually scares me because it's means permanent life changes, unknowns and how much more attention am I going to get? I don't like attention because of the lifetime of insecurity. Weight loss is a real struggle on plains that I hadn't ever considered before until I started really trying. I know that I can't be alone in this.
You're not. I hope your wedding day was beautiful.
this is exactly how I feel today, I just turned 18, I am my no means fat but I would love to be thin, and beautiful but I'm somehow scared women will be mad at me for being thin, I am never mad at other women for being beautiful or thin because I realize that it takes a lot of intention and work, but for me I feel like I'm betraying some of bigger friends and I don't want them to be jealous of me, I don't want men to hit on me, but I still want attention and to know I'm desirable, I feel like I'm going crazy its a daily struggle of deciding if I want to be thin or stay the same and satisfy my family and friends.
I so hear you...and I recorded this so long ago. I might use different words today, but the essence is the same. Allowing ourselves to experience and express ALL of who we desire to be. I hope you had a stunning wedding day!
This is so real. I totally feel you. Your are beautiful for the simple fact that you know and speak your truth. ❤️
@@ElegantFemmehi
What are Frenchy and Indy? Where do these terms come from? Or where are they used? I have never heard them before. They sound like psychology terms?
I allow myself to be skinny. I ve lost all my so called “ friends” who were always jealous, competitive and mean. Now am ready to step into my new era and be my best version, best friend, cheerleader 📣 and fan. ❤
I'm actually so happy this isn't some pro-ed stuff and it's actually reasonable and sound discourse. I find that everytime someone mentions how they notice I've been losing weight I always subconsciously revert back to my unhealthy ways. I don't know why I hate it so much when people point it out to me. I think it's because I don't allow myself to be skinny, as you say. Sort of like I punish myself in a way.
I feel like when ppl tell me I’m losing weight, I start to subconsciously think "they think I’m fat, or they thought I was fat and they’re noticing my fat is lessening” and this starts to make me feel sad, that they noticed I’m losing weight bc they initially noticed I was fat to begin with, and then I guess I revert and sabotage myself bc I feel bad that they’re noticning? Idfk 😢
@@okaywhat123pretty accurate
@okaywhat123 omg same happening to me , specifically when my in laws do comment on me loosing one or 2 kilos I go and eat like crazy and gain 5 or even 6 more than before 😢😢😢
@@okaywhat123 Someone at work said I'd lost a noticeable amount of weight and I found it encouraging and have lost a bit more weight since then. She probably thought I was fat before. I know I was.
So funny - I’m the same. In fact when she said to journal about it, I immediately thought “someone would comment to me in my weight loss, meaning it as encouragement, but I would be so embarrassed and just quit”. Why are we like this?!
Mom comment really got me. Everytime I try to better myself my mom starts competing. Makes me not want to try because I don’t want to be apart of her competition. But this is about me not her. Will give myself permission to be better
I so hear you...it is truly about allowing yourself to be all of who you desire to be. Others may get activated when they see us living our truth, but holding our truth back doesn't support them either. Sending you love
@@ElegantFemmethank you ❤️
Wow! Cheering you on.
Universe makes sense. I don’t feel the need to be skinnier, I just now realize that I don’t allow myself to live to my full potential. Seeing this today was exactly what I needed. The perfect day for me to see this. Like I said, Universe makes sense. Thank you for having never erased this vid. Even if I’m late to it, it found me:)
exactly its not about any special body type, its about the deeper allowing without limits! Cheering you on!
i found this video right when i’m in the sabotaging phase. Thank you.
oh I am so glad it is supportive to you.
I am now skinny, but it was not my main goal. I just wanted to look healthy and sweat more by doing regular home exercises. It wasn't easy, and it involved a lot of crying, but my body image has relatively improved and I can wear any clothes I want now. You can do it too. Believe in yourself!!
I needed this. I remember being 8kg lighter and way sexier😭 I'm not overweight, it's just that little extra weight which is too much. If only I lost 3kg, that would be enough
This was me and I lost half the weight so far. Intermittent fasting and 1200 calories of healthy food works
Did you allow ur self ?
Same, I am now 20lbs heavier and i am so unhappy. I was so happy, when I was skinny I was so confident. I am letting myself be skinny and do not worry what other people think
I realized recently that I self sabotage my weight loss because I am afraid of male attention. I know a lot of men are still attracted to me at a bigger size, but if I were skinny, I'd get 10x more attention. I don't like them approaching me or even looking at me for too long. I want to go about my life without being perceived, which is kind of impossible. I realize that being overweight doesn't just make me invisible to the men who are not attracted to me, it also makes me hide more. I assume I'd probably still cover up a lot even if I were skinny but I'd be less self conscious about going out and just living my life, but at the same time I'd be scared to receive too much male attention. I was an early bloomer and I had a curvy body as a teenager and none of the guys at my school were interested in dating me, they dated all the skinny girls who had mostly flat chests but they asked to see me naked or want to have sex or want me to take nude pictures. But they never publicly pursued me in any way. I also got a lot of attention from older men as a teen. I think this made me sabotage my own body and gain a lot of weight over time. I'm in my mid 20's now and I'm mostly just tired of being exhausted and not feeling good, not being able to wear the clothes I like, my back hurts, etc... I just want to be healthy and live my life and not have people assume things about me bc of my appearance. I think I'm just afraid of what comes with being a woman, I feel really unsafe in the world, objectified and always observed. Being overweight in a way is protection and also somewhat a form of rebellion but it's also something I'm deeply ashamed of.
17 yo and I completely agree with you, I’d say my way of feeling about myself is kind of different but about the subject of male gaze I agree with you at a 100%, I feel like having lived as an obese person really makes you see the bad side of some people, you don’t value them much so they won’t be afraid to mistreat you or to not give you so much attention, I really think it has helped me to be stronger in a way, to just understand that people will never really like me as they’re too stupid to understand that I have worth even as a person suffering from obesity, and in the same way, it made me disguised by most mens, the fact of objectifying women so much and litteraly disrespecting them when they don’t correspond to their beauty criterias just makes it impossible for me to actually believe that they are on the same level of intelligence and maturity as me, I don’t regret because overweight even tho it has caused me a lot of physical and psychological pain, I just feel so much detached from people now, and I can’t even imagine having a deep connection with someone who may disrespect me or being ashamed of me if I would simply have more fat in my body, and in general not pleasing their eyes. Before starting my weight loss I actually was actively looking for a man who would love me and be proud of me with and without my fat, and I can tell you, even though I’m younger than you, that even though you may be more ugly, undisciplined, more poor etc… when you’re fat, people still DONT have the right to disrespect you, being fat doesn’t mean belonging into a category of people with lower worth, we’re just normal people, with different bodies, we shouldn’t be ashamed or regret our habits choices, even our mistakes that made us fat, we need to be proud in order to evolve , because God Nevers makes mistake in our destiny, if we experienced a situation, we were meant to learn something from it !
We’re not just fat, we are people, we are souls, we were not supposed to be products of beauty , we shouldn’t fall into that societal thought of objectifying our bodies just like it has objectified our lives in order to create them abundance
@psychedelia5402 u worded this so perfectly
Omg never found someone who had the same thought process as me… wow. We should be friends
Five years ago I started therapy at my highest weight (109kg), I didn’t know why I couldn’t lose weight. Until after a lot of therapy sessions I found out that, one of the reasons I didn’t allowed myself to lose weight, was that if I did so, I was going to feel attractive enough to be in a relationship, and that scared me so so so much. It was true! I worked on it, I lost the weight, and found a loving partner
After losing 120 lbs I sometimes have to remind myself that I’m allowed to do this. It’s as if I’m waiting for someone to tell me I’m doing something wrong. I know I’m not doing anything wrong at all but that voice of self doubt has been a huge player in my life. It’s hard to shut her up now.
You are ALLOWED! You can feel safe in the body you desire to experience. Sending you so much love
@@ElegantFemme"you can feel safe in the body you desire to experience " you hit the nail on the head! Thank you!
Yep! I have been skinny all of my life, 105 pounds naturally. I started to feel shameful about my weight because of the media...I gained 20 pounds last year by taking a ton protein powder and forcing myself to eat when I wasn't hungry... Whenever I lost weight i'd get anxiety. Like how is that healthy? Learn to love yourself wherever you're at. Eat with love, not with fear. Forget what others think.
I can relate..desperate to be curvier...thank you.
hi girl, how tall are you?I am also 105 pounds but still I feel so fat like a baby elephant after eating a little more and sometimes when im stuck somewhere ,cannot eat and extremely hungry then I feel like im weak and thin.I don't know what sort of mental disorder is this..I keep my eyes on calories a lot which is not very beautiful.
@@POTPOURRI.1 Hey girl! I am 5'4.
It sounds like you might need to do some shadow work, love! is it a self-image issue? If it is, I would look at ways you can heal your self-image and start loving yourself for exactly the way you look NO MATTER WHAT. We've ALL been conditioned to think we are not beautiful exactly the way we are!!
You can try somatic healing practices: Eat when you're hungry and stop eating when you are no longer hungry... Have a conversation with your body.. ask what it needs and give it that!
Remember, you are not your mind or thoughts. Any beliefs you;ve been conditioned to have can be deconditioned but it starts with you and self-love. We need to train the mind that we want to be HEALTHY, not bigger, or smaller. Being skinny doesn't mean being weak and eating a little more doesn't mean we're fat.... these are false beliefs.
I hope that helps🧡
I’m 5’4” like you, weighing around 90 pounds soaking wet and I have had a similar experience. With so many overweight people projecting onto me, I started trying to force myself to eat more, follow stricter workout regimens and wear larger clothing to hide my body. Then I had to consider the source. These ppl hate themselves. Why would I take their own lack of self love personally? I am working on loving my natural slimness and being grateful for the beautiful life it affords me. 💕
Of course, this can be taken to extremes, but my doctors have never had a concern for my body. This is simply how God made me. 😊
@@tendingmytiara I love this!!!! "this is simply how God made me." YES. Thank you for your comment, love! ❤
It's summertime 2024... we can all be skinnier by Christmas! Let's do this!
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if i were skinny and didnt have to worry about it anymore, i would finally be able to wear the outfits i put together in my head, I'd finally know what it's like, I'd finally feel like i am enough and not inferior to others. i wouldn't have to worry about my belly or my excess fat and i could just be at peace for once. i would finally be the best version of myself. i would finally get it. i would feel even better than others at time because i got to my goal and they didnt. i know people would be jealous of me as i am of others now and hopefully i wouldnt have to be jealous of anybody else anymore. i would feel confident while dancing, working out, being active, wearing my outfits and just throughout the whole day. i would have enough to focus on even then because i have plenty of other obligations and interests that need my attention so i wouldnt get bored.
All this could be solved with exercise. I used to be quite chubby in high school. I started at home exercises and it changed my life (I’m not even exaggerating). If you don’t like something about yourself, do something about it if possible. When you look good you feel good imo
this video and these comments are so toxic, u dont NEED to be skinny to do all these stuff period. if you want to be more healthy eat better and exercise more but all this is not NEEDED to live a happy life and love yourself and stop judging ys, youre so frustrated and i assure you are focusing on the wrong aspects to fix
i literally have been eating so much these last days after months of consistency and seeing results and finally starting to feel confident. this video helped sm i saw it at the perfect time
I am so happy to hear this! It's amazing how when we start to feel good, we will limit ourselves from the next level. Having the power to identify this is HUGE! Bravo.xoxoxo
Sameee unfortunately but remember we can back on track🤍 Good luck on your journey✨
Wow this popped into my feed and honestly you're a genius. I'm someone who has almost everything going on perfectly in my life and I just realized that I keep myself a bit on the heavier side because I'm afraid of being too perfect. It's like I self sabotage. Thank you so much for this. From now on I allow myself to be skinny and I allow myself to be perfect.
I'm not perfect, but everybody thinks I am (don't know why), the envy, the passive agressive comments, etc is a lot for me. When I gained weight people seemed to enjoyed it, and behave as if I was more easy to get along, more approachable, but my behaviour was the same as when I was skinny. I'm now losing fat, looking slimmer and have the feeling of being more vulnerable because I'm feeling lighter, smaller and found out that I gained the fat I lost because I was scary to feel vulnerable. I am now developing skills to feel I'm safe in a smaller and lighter body.
perfect lol looks like gods blessed u in the perfect life cards
@@user-mj3vm2kb5t yes thank God I'm very grateful ❤️
Same. Most of my family members are overweight and I only post my body pics on my close friends story so they don't feel bad because that's how I used to and sometimes still feel...
From now on, I'll allow myself to be skinny, healthy, toned, sexy, and confident!
From personal experience other women find it threatening …
Being skinny would mean I wouldn't have to stress out about what to wear all the time and how to make it look just so. ;)
I allow myself to be skinny and allow myself to be beautiful without worrying about the changes 💟I let myself be skinny
this moved something so sensitive and hidden in me. I have three sisters and my mom as well, and I grew up as the fat middle kid. I have always worried about telling them about my achievements so as to not make them insecure/offended somehow. oh gosh.
This is me. Right down to the fat middle kid. I'm choosing to switch my identity. I allow myself to be skinny, even if they judge
2024 now, and this is the most refreshing thing I’ve seen in years.
It’s like stepping back into reality where “woke” didn’t exist, and people were normal.
OMG THIS! 🖤
Wow, thank you so much for this. It took a few pages of journaling to change the story from, "my body is scared" to "my body is sacred." Blessings to you! 💖
SOOOOO Good!
11 Years after this video was made and it popped up for me because I was searching for content on how to stop hating my body. I swear it's like the universe brought me here. I just finished the journal prompt and wow! It was definitely enlightening. Now, as for what it would be like if I let myself be skinny? Wow. I would actually live my life instead of obsessing about my size, I'd stop letting other people's expectations and opinions dictate how I live my life. Succinctly, I would be a much happier person! I am so glad I found this video!
I am so happy it served you and that you allowed yourself to take it deeper. It's so freeing! Bravo
I’m allowing myself to be skinny because after all I deserve to be skinny. I deserve to feel pretty and lovely and healthy so why keep depriving myself from it? I deserve to feel happier in my body, and from today I let myself be skinny
😂😂❤
I literally cannot believe I manifested you into my life. Although my 1st time on your page I was pondering why I kept sabotaging my wt loss efforts every time I’d start seeing results. It’s insane but now I realize I need to grant myself permission. I love this very simple concept and applying now! Thank you so much!
This video and all of your beautiful testimonies really moved me. It brought me to tears. This message and this conversation are so powerful. I’ve never tapped into myself so deeply as I did right now asking myself that question. My whole life I’ve fixated on weight loss and my desire to be skinny. And failing every time. For the past two weeks I’ve finally changed my lifestyle and have stayed committed. I’m finally seeing changes and the reality that this could finally be the time that I let myself be skinny and leave this chapter of my life in the past is so scary. To leave my old habits and unhealthy relationship with food in the past is completely new territory. And now that it feels real I’m afraid to believe it. I deserve to be happy and no longer focus on my body and just get out there and live my life. Thank you
I have tears reading your message!!!! THIS is what it is all about. Freeing ourselves and allowing ourselves to live the life we truly desire. I am cheering you on! BRAVO
you are a genious. i felt like talking to a therapist while watching this. i’ve lost 10 kgs. in this process, i have to face people who tell me that my overweight state was more beautiful and tell me to quit dieting over and over and honestly i get really fed up and want to eat like crap after hearing them. i was actually experiencing what you said before losing weight, i wish i had seen this video from the beginning. i allow myself to be skinny. i have 7 more kgs to lose, and i won't let anyone make me give up and i won’t be affected by what they say, because i allowed myself to be in the way that i want.
You are awesome, and you will get there❤. Take the power back, do not give in to those who say "you looked better when you were plump". Let them say whatever they want, keep going with your routine, keep improving
I'd be able to have the closet that I know I could just reach in without any thought and whatever I grabbed would look beautiful on me. No more planning outfits ahead of time to make sure I don't look too fat. No more feeling disgusted at how I feel when I try on a beautiful dress that would look soooo perfect "if I could just be a little skinnier"
I am 5 2” and I got skinny shamed like crazy when I got down to 130 from 160. Everyone told me I looked bad and that I looked better fatter, including my husband. His family was the worst. The only person who told me I looked better after my weight loss was my mom.
I started binging on food to gain it back and so I could stop being told I looked bad everyday from everyone around me. So now I am 180, want to lose weight again, but am terrified to get to 130 again. I don’t want to be harassed again and be told that I look grossly skinny.
they just want to compare themselves with you to make themselves feel better! don't listen to anyone but yourself!!
No one's opinions about you should matter to you except yours. Not even your spouse's. Especially if you are bettering yourself. Are you happy? Then let yourself be happy! You're amazing. Remember that.
@@priyar2902 this ^^
There is physically no way you looked too skinny at 130 being 5’2”. I am 5’6” and 130 just looks like a normal weight on me, maybe leaning into being considered thin. Those people were most likely trying to tear down your confidence because they knew you were doing well and being healthy.
Your critics are probably all overweight themselves.
You can’t imagine how much this has helped me. I’ve struggled stepping into adulthood and my self image. I’m scared to step into my womanhood because subconsciously I feel others will compete with me and I can’t stand at their level.
I so hear you and this is such a vulnerable thing for us to admit. We play small for this exact reason. Inside of Elegant Femme women share with me all the time that they went from feeling like a little girl to a woman. It may be so helpful for you to start with The Femme Design Assessment and activate your FemmeTypes so you can begin to trust your power. Www.ElegantFemme.com/FDA
Xoxo
when im at my lowest weight, i get attention from everyone, the wrong or the right kind. my eating habits and body will be scrutinized. men who had bad intentions would pursue me. I've learned since and have better boundaries, plus now my style is more modest. i will be skinny so i feel comfortable in my own skin again and can focus on my goals instead of worrying bout calories, the next meals, outfits not being flattering, etc
Such an interesting concept! Times in life I've gotten more fit I always retreat back to my old ways because I feel I don't deserve to be at my fittest, healthiest and happiest. This video has certainly opened my eyes to what's really going on in my psyche. Thank you!!
So powerful!
You deserve to be fit and healthy!❤
I'd be a lot happier. I'd look forward to getting dressed. I would be able to focus on other parts of my life--how I live. I would probably be less ashamed and have more confidence.
I'm so glad to have found this video. I save it and come back to it when I need a reminder. Everything from the title to the message felt like it was just for me. I used to be effortlessly skinny but then I lost trust with my body. I grew scared of food and started to believe that if I didn't control what I ate, I would gain weight. But the opposite happened- the less I listened to my body, the more weight I gained. But I've realised now that I need to just stop and allow my body to get back to its skinny state again. To trust it and let go of the rules. Thank you so much. This video has been so freeing for me ❤
In college I started getting skinny and my sis who had always been skinny was like "You're competing with me." It was unfair because I had always wanted this, it had nothing to do with her.
i wanna be skinny but once i get hungry i forget about the world. i just wanna feel good, even temporarily. i have nothing meaningful in my life. food is the only thing that brings me pleasure.
Eat the best food, because your body deserve the best food and eat it in conscious. Nourishing the body is giving love to it, that’s why it’s better to do it consciously.
yesss when I lost that last 10ish pounds my family all of a sudden was super into fitness and made comments of me being too skinny
Wear BULKY CLOTHS -- sometimes -- and stand up straight and proud of yourself in a healthy kind way.
Bulky CLOTHS givex you the advantage in many ways.
I wish I had known this sooner.
I can weigh what I want and live my best life.
No one will say you're too skinny, or be jealous then.
needed this 💗 resonating with this so deeply - a few years ago i lost some weight to the point i saw some jawlines i had never seen on myself before - and it made me freak out, it didn't 'feel like me', so i went back to self-sabotaging and gained a lot of weight as a result. i love this perspective Tara - loosing weight is not only about exercise/the physical effort, there is SO much mental work involved with it too. thank you for sharing this 💜 to be honest, i think loosing weight or 'being skinny' would make me loose my self-identity, i've no idea how life would look like - and that feels scary!
I don't want to be skinny, I want to be jacked af, ripped and bench press almost ×2 my weight.
nice
Same, thicker legs too.
Skinny is not my goal. But, this video is from 2012, people were obsessed with being skinny then. Not too surprised.
@@Mii..Good god, the point is not the skinnyness this applies to being jacked to.
@@user-us3jy2mb5r What are talking about? That's literally her point, being skinny, slim, you're just talking.
@@Mii..why'd u click on the vid if its not what ur looking for?
I let myself be skinny. I was traumatized by the jealousy to be honest but who cares because other people are skinny? I really didn't want to attract shallow guys either. But truthfully I am intelligent and can handle it.
I almost had it this month. I had almost amazing abs and everything... then I felt strange or almost empty. I had no more self hatred and I was actually content with who I was.. and that scared me the most because all this time I had been living that way and I wondered if I even deserved to feel this way. I wondered what all my friends and family would think. I realized I never would have to worry about looking good in clothes again. My forever goal was gone, and I had to find a new one but at the end of the tunnel I didn’t know what I was even passionate about anymore. All of my energy and decisions went to striving for that body. And when I almost had it, knowing my purpose would be gone, I caved and went back into old habits again. It’s not too late! I give myself permission to be skinny because I deserve to be happy too and I deserve to be free from my past self
I did this journaling activity several weeks ago and have since lost nearly 30lbs. It changed my mindset and I'm so glad I stumbled upon it!
Wow…bravo for your commitment and devotion to you!
I can't express how this came at such an opportune time I really struggle with this and I gaslight myself into thinking I was being narcissistic and should stay the way I am. To think this video is 11 years old!
I feel exactly the same and I think it's because of social media and the 'body positivity' movement and the ED obsession and how everyone who 'diets' is automatically accused of promoting an ED and not eating enough. I feel that fitness influencers are lying too. They say they eat these BIG potions at every meal + snacks and still have the body of their dreams bcs if they said the truth they would be cancelled for promoting diet and ED. It's all so confusing.
I’m sorry but can I just say we should perhaps question why we have the desire to be skinny in the first place? Why should you want to look a certain way, why does it matter at all. Because societal structures (i.e. patriarchy) tie women’s worth to their physical traits as they have historically seen as first and foremost mothers to bear babies. Now, 2024, do we really still need to direct so much of our energy to how we look, and still feed into that desire of appealing to somebody else, finally getting a perfect body to show off? Aren’t there more interesting things to work on?
You are so right. I’m glad that someone agrees with me in this comment section because everyone seems to support this without questioning. It’s like if everyone’s a brainless lamb in here.
Also, this video can be really triggering to some people. Asking myself the question, why am I not allowing myself to be skinny is just equivalent to asking why did I eat today at all. And this video, the question makes me even more guilty about eating, pushing me even more into my ed. And I know that I’m not alone. This is so dangerous. Eating is not self sabotaging, we literally need to eat to STAY ALIVE for god’s sake. I’m so tired of being a part of this system where I’m killing myself to fit in this stupid standard.
im so glad someone said it
the deeper meaning of this video goes far beyond and nto allowing ourselves to express all of who we are without upper limiting. I created this 11 years ago;) and would not name it the same today...but the message has helped a lot of women to let themselves embody what they desire. It is not about being skinny...as much as being whatever truly honors you. There is an updated podcast here podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-91-body-image-real-talk-the-love-the/id1611435615?i=1000652988869
I so hear you...and I agree. The deeper message of the video is to support letting go of any upper limits.
This is for yourself. Would you say this to a woman if they wanted to become jacked and have great muscles and show them off? In a way you sound mysognistic harping on the fact that making it sound like the only reason a woman would want to look a certain way is for men. Gross.
when you give yourself permission to be skinny, your confidence becomes palpable and you become skinny. replace skinny with pretty, smart, healthy, etc. when you are confident in your own decisions, you are able to feel in any way that is powerful to you. you can feel skinny; you can be skinny, because you are sure in the security of your own decision-making capacity to be the person you wish to become
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I watched this video four months ago, it truly changed everything.
Ever since this video i have shed physical and psychological weight!
I truly adopted that mindset of knowing and truly being the woman who has That body & mind.
She’s so right about being so close and then stopping. I finally chose myself!
Wow seeing this reflection from a video I did 11 years ago, brings me tears! Sending you so much love and cheering you on!
If my body’s been taken care of, I’d finally be happy looking at the mirror. I’d finally be excited to actually see myself lol
I'd stop comparing myself to everyone else and I'd be closer to permit myself to reach my own goals. I'd feel beautiful, worthy and Id be less depressed.
+Gee Meggers - let's do it then! :-)
If I no longer had to be worried about being skinny because I finally achieved that goal, I suppose I would no longer worry about my clothing fitting me a certain way. I'd be happy my fits look similar to my pinterest boards.
Thank you for this. I did some journaling and came to the realization that what I'm afraid of is that I'll still dislike myself if I lose weight. So what I need to work on is self-acceptance and instead just listen to my body (not overeating or complicating things) and let myself naturally get the body I am meant to have
I hate people around me call me "skinny" when I am of substantial weight for my body type and bone density. A bunch of people call me skinny as in "under weight." I would like to be skinny as in "toned" or "muscular."
When I become skinny and worry free it will feel like freedom. I feel this reality will evolve in my current to near future.
I realized this a while ago, but I'm so scared of losing all my female friends and terrified of relating to men in my full glory.
Don't be afraid girl, if you lose the friends because you got fitter, they were never Truly your friends in the first place. Focus on being the best version of you, and whoever wants to go from your life, gracefully let them go. Don't ask questions or don't look for explanations, just let them go. You deserve to be fit without having the fear of losing people from your life. True friends will stay in your life, and will even want to improve themselves because of you.
You are a beautiful soul, be calm and go with the flow, you will be alright ❤
I thought all these things and I know I'm late to respond but this is what I needed at the moment. If I were skinny and I know this may be rooted in vanity but it runs deeper...but I wouldn't be worried that the man I'm interested in is disinterested in me.
This is really the way for all change. I did this in reverse recently "what would happen if I gave myself permission to stop tracking macros, even if I gained a little weight?" Now Im 4lbs up but maintaining a slim healthy figure without needing to track. I can focus on other thinfs besides my meals.
It's all about allowing ourselves to live into our truth, and I totally agree not obsessing is best. There is an updated podcast on this here podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-91-body-image-real-talk-the-love-the/id1611435615?i=1000652988869
I can totally let myself be skinny, but I feel like my family won't let me. And I have a friend who's all about criticizing anyone who has a traditional view on beauty, even though she herself is skinny and beautiful but she's just naturally like that so I don't think she understands how much work that is for someone who doesn't have similar genetics. I'm scared more of what will happen because of the people I know reacting to me. But excited for meeting new people. I've fluctuated 30 pounds at my current height and I've noticed that people's niceness toward me is directly proportional to how skinny I am. When I'm thinner people are without a doubt ALWAYS nicer and friendlier to me right off the bat.
I did the journaling and I realised for me it’s impatience!! Because I know that being skinny is a lifestyle and it takes time for it to be consistent, so I just give up trying.
we are here for a short time; everything takes time...or we can see it as allowing ourselves to participate in the life we desire.
This is the best video I have ever seen in regards to weight loss. I thought what she described was only experienced by me. Didn’t know anybody else was thinking this way
this short video transformed me! thank you for sharing tara!
What a gem channel, I am really grateful for finding you now :3
I'm so glad this came up on my recommended . I haven't allowed myself to be skinny because last time I was ridiculed, shamed for it. I lived with my mother (who was a nightmare during this time calling me anorexic, a skeleton, and disgusting). She would hide me from the world, and not allow me to leave the house due to fear of people commenting on my weight. Well I'm past that now. Its been 5 years of gorging myself into misery, and funny enough, I have less of a life then I did back then. I replaced all my friends, work, desires and ambitions with food. I know that if I allow myself to be skinny (healthy, gorgeous, and beautiful) I'll finally feel happy, and my depression will go away. My constant binge eating and self sabotaging has caused so must pain in my life, it does not serve me well. If I lost weight and took care of myself physically and mentally, I would wear clothes I like, show off my body, socialize again, maybe get a boyfriend. I want to be proud of myself, and if someone is reading this and has had something similar happen or somewhat relates, then just know you are not alone, and you deserve happiness too , you deserve to be skinny , confidant , beautiful and healthy mentally and physically xx
Omg!!! I never thought of it that way, but it's so true!!!! I really needed this. Thank you so much for making this video 11 years ago that randomly ended up on my homepage today. Im giving myself permission to be skinny! Who cares if anyone in my life gets offended by it. I'm so over being worried about my weight and self sabotaging when I get close to my goal. I can't stand it when people try to convince me not to lose "too much" weight when I'm literally still overweight!
Well, I am 16. Just an average "Ordinary" girl. I never really cared so much for my appearance and looks until I hit my teens. I used to be a bookworm back then. Always busy in studying. No time for my self-care. I was insecure and overweight. I used to overeat to overcome my stress. My classmates bullied me for being the "Ugly" one. I got into depression and suicidal. I still remember crying alone in my room, thinking why I am like this? Why I look like this? I can't see my face and body in mirror. I started to hate and compare with jealousy from other better looking women. Being a brownie, I was always jealous with fair and skinny girls. My height is only 5ft2. I considered myself short. Now, this video pop out. I realized that "being skinny" is like a "healthy privilege" to me. I have to digest the truth. Skinny is better than my current body type. I am NOT body shaming anyone but putting my mere raw opinions without any sugar coating fillers. I took a challenge to lose at least 5 kg and start a daily exercise + diet routine. Hope, God bless me. Keep going my girls! ❤❤❤
Sending you such deep love and acceptance. There is so much here...please find the support you need and also know how loved you are.
This just came through into my feed, I am surprised this is 11 years old lol! This is a really good way of look at this! Ill have to give it a go :) thanks for sharing
This video clicked something in my brain so good
Casually listening to this when all of a sudden tears started to roll down on my face. I feel heard.
Thank You so much.❤
i never knew i needed this!!💓 thank you💓💞
For me when I was at my goal weight & I exercised all the time .. I had no Best girlfriends.. people were envious my Guy friends said because I was so Beautiful.. Now I don’t care what others say or feel about me that’s their path , their choice.. I am getting healthy
You can wear BULKY CLOTHS sometimes whenever you need to.
Its a fun thing to watch how people treat you differently.
Dress how it suits you.
I could hike and do climbing walls without feeling self conscious. I'm short and strong but people see my extra curves and assume I'm lazy and weak. I often surprise people with how strong and hard working I am and it's annoying. If I let myself be skinny I think people would believe in me more and maybe I could believe in me more too.
+Stefanie Allen Do it for yourself! It doesn't matter what other people think! Good luck!
+Stefanie Allen You're perfect just as you are.
omg thank you. i absolutely needed to hear this.
THE TITLE IS SO REAL.
What would it be like? It would be FANTASTIC. I could only imagine all the outfits I would wear 🥲 better treatment from people.
I think it applies to other things too. For myself, i was thinking about why i just cannot be myself and it showed up. Its likely i dont give myself permission to be myself at all times. Im happy i watched it despite of being skinny already
I’ve been skinny my whole life, but still needed this video lol
I'm still young and I always imagine "that" dream self of mine. I think I'm loving the idea of just dreaming, doing nothing for the past years. Though I hated myself for it!! (It's confusing I know) and even though I find myself beautiful, I still don't feel the best. I'm just sharing this heavy thought of mine because yeah you are right. I'm afraid to take action because I don't want to live that perfect dream yet. It's too good to be true, so I don't want it.
But this night, 9:36 PM I know to myself how much I desire it. I still have that body to achieve and I'm going to take action now!! I'll come back soon.
June 19, 2024
This is so accurate.
i always think, what if I’m finally thin enough, and no one still wants me? I get that once im out of high school there would be a lot of people who have lots of different preferences, but I also just want to feel like im likable in this environment. its my greatest fear
Yes it is a way of procrastination and self protection. But you need to want you when you're skinny.
I started your exercise and funnily enough it came out like this: Yes, because in the past four years, I have *digested* everything from my past.
I needed this video right now 😭 im looking forward to journaling. Ive been struggling with these questions but i never wrote it down and followed through with answering them. Thank you ❤
so glad the questions supported you!
I would wear whatever I wanted and walk out the streets showing off my tank tops! Posting more pictures of myself and focusing on things that make me happy. I would also never be afraid to eat things because I know that I would stay like that forever. I won’t be so afraid of making friends because I know that my weight doesn’t look bad at all.
5 pages of journal. I hope this helps. I am saving this. I want to do this for myself not for anyone else.
update?
Thank you so much for the video 🙏, the exercize you recommend is so valuable
Wow, I did not expect this video to make as much sense as it did😳
It's not really just about being skinny, is it? Why are we not allowing ourselves to self actualize? What's truly holding us back from reaching our true potential?
Absolutely! It is about gifting ourselves full permission to be all of who we are and not holding back 100%
I feel me getting skinny would make people around me insecure. I want them to be comfortable around me . Also whenever I try to be skinny I'm said I'm trying to hard . I feel guilty.
I think this is fantastic advice and I love that you mentioned to click on the video and watch it entirely to have deep sense of what you’re conveying. Honestly, had you not not put that note on the title, don’t think I would click this video but I’m so glad that I did! Today I’m gonna be expressing my thoughts and how I feel about my way and what is preventing me from being a better version of myself and reading the comments is super healing and refreshing to see so many women relate the journey method to dig deep and figure out how They want to lose weight and be their better self but equally introspect how and what caused us to have these beliefs, I think that’s super important. I’m really glad that 11 years on this video is still so useful!
The one thing I struggle with when journaling is not knowing how to go about prompts I’d love to know from you Tara or any one who’s triggering or anyone who wishes to attempt to do so please could you share some prompts that you used to support your journey and get to know yourself better and of course in this context of weight management I’d love to hear all your thoughts !
I watch this ritually