i listened to all of the video while I was washing the dishes. i even listened to it again right after - to take notes. you are verbalising the thoughts that I had struggled to come up w to express them. and your videos are exactly like you creating a bouquet. you arrange the beauty of each experience and at the end, there is a beautiful beautiful arrangement that is imperfectly perfect. and I love u for that, and I love me for clicking on this video because it affirmed so much of what I needed to hear.
In my life, I have watched many videos about confidence and so on, but your video touched my heart because you really talked about real and realistic things that we do, and it is also the first time I have watched a long video without getting bored. You are amazing. I would be grateful if you did. Talk about whether we can start from nothing.. ❤
I have too many words to explain how good this video is and how much I enjoyed the experience of hearing you whilst drawing, but the main point I'm trying to elaborate is that you - Inayah, you are incredible in my eyes and I really relate to everything you said in this wholesome video!
this is the format i miss. just sitting down naturally doing things not all the music effects and animations and crazy transitions and editing. just human to human. thank you
trusting yourself is a big one. the ONLY reason i start to doubt myself is when other people butt into my life and start giving advice that i didn't ask for lmao.
Lol @ attractive women lecturing on confidence. My buddies ex is up to like 260 pounds now and still has tons of dudes messaging her. I don't think women live in the same world as men. It's easy to be confident when your entire value(for better or worse) comes down to remembering to put your make-up on. What if you were judged on your height? Face (no make-up allowed!)? penis length? Job? Status? Income? Car? "confidence"? Hairline? Ethnicity (yes, even in 2024). I say this as a 5'11 180 pound white guy with a car and job and full head of hair who lifts and yada yada. My value doesn't even compare in the slightest to any random woman who can still walk without a wheelchair or something. Nah, fuck that - I bet wheelchair girls still live in a world where they think people message other people like 15 times a day.
!Please read the following as straightforwart, but benevolent critique: Maybe try forgetting to take yourself so seriously from time to time. Most people give way less fucks about you than you imagine to even consciously notice you and especially not to want to judge you, unless you are in an environment that cultivates toxic shame.
Confidence will grow naturally with being brave, pushing your boundaries and abstain from identifying with feelings of shame, if you decide that they don't make sense. If you own them a couple of times in a friendly environment, that is not overly critical towards you, they will magically loose their power.
@@happymixtapes If self confidence is based on perception about him/her of knowing person people's then it is value by itself induced by maditations and long time creation of own image. . Then how much would person give and what would do for escaping any public accusations ? For somebody who has selfconfidence based on known around factual achievements in own life and on wisdom eventual accusations may be confronted with facts.
@@Mikexception I am interested in your argument. Unfortunately I can not exactly make sense of the text. Could you maybe make your point a little bit more clear?
@@happymixtapes Thing is when making effort only to create selfconfidence without having real reasons of that confidence then such person is fully depending on that elaborated impression which say is not supported. Confidence is based on knowledge of genuine life facts. Is it justified to be confident in young age before getting life experience? It may be misleadiing. . Such status is virtual . Such people are vulnerable for any damage in public and may be used. .
Becoming your desired self is like decluttering a wardrobe. You cannot just throw away everything all at once; there is this process of thinking, where in you keep some pieces and discard the others, until you buy a new one and replace everything with clothes that fit you better. It is a long, tedious process. But once you did so, it would feel like a fever dream. I, sometimes, get riled up over how far I've come with my mental state and how I see myself, whether that is physically or not. I've spent my whole high school life gaining confidence and now, I'm here, walking on Earth in a way that shows I deserved to walk on it.
Got me really emotional when you started talking about how we should be excited for the people who’ll get to experience us and how we should be excited we get to experience them as ourselves, saving that for whenever I need a pick me up! Thank you for sharing your journey and yourself!
Watched the whole video, it was very moving and informative. Thank you and continue doing what u do it’s always great to see somebody putting out positivity in the world
Once you start to practice the confidence, your passions start to make themselves known stronger and you can fully breathe them in. The passion and compassion you're exhaling in this video is beautiful
Guys the flowers at the end is the best part!😂 Anyway, as a 19 year old dude watching this, I actually needed to hear this. At some point a few years ago I realised I had feminine energy inside of me, and quite a lot of it. And then after working with it, I realised I have masculine energy too. And a lot. I can be sooo loud, confident, boisterous... But I can be quiet. I can listen. Yh life is good.
Hi Inayah and anyone else possibly reading this. I wanted to share this little revelation of mine to the world rather than keep it to myself in a journal because I'm working on the confidence of believing that my words have the power to impact and influence others. For a greater portion of my life, I've deeply struggled with my mental health, battling long bouts of depression, immense anxiety and suicidality among other issues. For my whole life-up until today-I've wondered internally 'what's so wrong with choosing to end your life, why is the world so upset by a choice like that' and I've finally realized why: Every single heartbeat on this planet is on a path, a path that will lead them to share and contribute to the world in a fashion that is entirely unique to them. Ending your life is a disservice. I truly believe that even if you have no alive family members, no friends, no allies-the universe loves you, the universe is cheering you on, the universe wants you to help her grow. I hope this reaches whoever needs to hear it, i love you all so much :)
This was so sweet of you to share! I hope you're in a better place mentally now I know it can be hard and exhausting sometimes. But your presence on this tiny planet is appreciated more than you can imagine 💗
This is so lovely and I want to thank you so much for sharing this!! you are so right, everyone on this planet is important and is here for a reason. Even if that reason is to just share some kindness and wisdom like you have just now. You never know how much of an impact your presence can have on people's lives and its easy to think that our presence isn't felt by anyone. However, just because you may not hear that you are valued and appreciated often, never forget that you are appreciated. So keep on failing, growing, changing and learning because you are important and the world deserves to see you shine!
thanks for sharing. i’m not in that worst case scenario and yet i’m moved to tears reading this. and yh, your words have impacted me positively. much love 💕
It’s crazy to think that the most conventionally attractive people in the world can also be most bullied, insecure, and abused. And it happens at a young age, so you don’t understand why you were bullied until your adult years :(
@@BnBLion. It always makes me laugh seeing attractive, hot, sexy, whatever adjective you want to give them, people saying they always struggle with their bodies and insecurities and such, because I am like BITCH how the fuck I'm supposed to feel better knowing that someone objectively more attractive than me also feels insecure xd
@@DajuSar Yess, this so much. Also for these people gaining confidence is just a matter of fixing your thoughts that tell you lies about your body created on the basis of the bullying you've experienced and convincing yourself that the truth is very different from these thoughts. So in short you need to believe the truth despite your brain not wanting to. For ugly people it doesn't work like that. For us gaining confidence is way harder because we already know the truth and this is the source of our insecurity. The solution for us is actually believing the lies that we create for ourselves in our brain. And it's way harder because of course you can try but you will face the reality and you will confront the public opinion that will clearly show you that you just live in a fairytale. If you're attractive and start believing it people will be happy that you finally understood and will in fact treat you better. But of ugly people it's not the case, people will treat you bad no matter what you believe.
@@eskybakzu712 in their case it’s true. They just need to fix something mentally but in other peoples cases they do not only need to fix the mental shit but the irl shit as well as
I was brought to tears in the last 7 minutes of the video. Which is funny because i wasn’t planning on crying while putting this on at the treadmill in the gym. Holy shit thank you for this insight, and giving me a reason to believe in myself. I feel like this has shifted my perspective immensely. I’m overall a pretty positive person but I have bouts of negativity that I find it hard to get myself out of. This resonated deeply within.
That alter-ego/visualization trick works very, very well for people that grew up consuming a lot of media while having little to no adult role models around. It was the case for me after years and years of failing miserably at motivating myself to do anything at all, both with and without professional help.
i think the biggest stepping stone into being confident is realizing that self love and self respect are two different things. to be okay in your self, you have to not let people walk over you or put yourself in situations where you feel ‘loved’ but with side effects. once you respect yourself, even if you’re insecure this gets you in the mentality of not letting people waste your time and finding people who actually enjoy you and your presence.
if you have self-respect you dont care if people walk over you because it doesnt bother you. everyone has the right to say what they want as long theyre not harming you physically. respect in general is a very strong egoic idea. as far as im concerned respect is non existent, theres just being a good person and treating others well no matter who they are
@@swoop2386 For me, letting people walk over me isn’t a good idea. I tend to shy away from necessary confrontation/boundary setting so speaking up for myself is uncomfortable, healthy, growth.
@@n.a.199 thats true, but really it all depends on what someone means when they say "walk all over", for different people have different meanings for it
@@swoop2386 not to add on to the already philosophical statement, but "The way I see it, good is merely a word applied to people who are convenient to our needs in some way. Its purely subjective. Any way you try to look at it, labeling people dehumanizes them." -Armin | AoT (its getting deep) It doesnt necessarily apply, I just love the quote :)
I really needed to hear everything that was said in this video 😭 here are some things I noted down in my journal - there is someone waiting to look up to you - the world is waiting for you to do all the things that only you can do - "everyone is stupid and I just decided not to be" - you are on the right path and going backwards is only going to be way more uncomfortable than going forward and making it (my personal note) - people need an example and there are so many people who are in the same situation as you and they need you to do what you need to - you are that person and you have that vision for a reason - it is worth it - everybody is going through the same thing it's just a matter of who is good at combatting it and who is consistent with being uncomfortable - pave the way ❤
I’m so happy you came across the video 😭❤️ and it’s powerful that you wrote these points down. I hope you keep coming back to these things! You got this!
loved everything about this video i'm really going thru it with depression and i feel like you literally opened a window for me and it's not the end of the world for being sad:) thank you very much
@@rico14honestly is a good comparation, the ideia of self confidence and caring about yourself can be seen as difficult having both, but in the true, for one work correctly need the presence of other Yin and yang are not opposites that repel each other but complement each other
If person whom I do not value, ( because is not valued by others too) says bad about me it is like very positive for me signal that I am not mixed to his companion. My boss at company dinner once named me publicaly "strange duck" . It gave me confidence in work so he felt obligation to write ma special letter of admiration at completing the job.
A quote that had helped me a lot with this is “putting yourself first isn't selfish, its self love” Its really helped me realise that you can still do whats right while still feeling good about yourself even in delicate situations ❤
thank you for this! i also want to add: the way you talk about yourself, whether it's a "joke" or not, also can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. i used to make a lot of self-degrading jokes (like, "oh, i made a tiny mistake, i'm the worst person in the world"), and it didn't do anything good for me. even though i was never completely serious when i said things like that, it still impacted me in really small ways. after a while i shifted to self-uplifting jokes (where, for example, if i messed up when cooking something, i'd call myself the best chef in the world), and while it was still sarcastic, i saw a huge boost in confidence in myself after making that shift. i think i started doing this because of something i read a long time ago (but i don't completely remember), so i'm passing on this tip to hopefully help someone who still might be struggling with something of this nature :) (btw, did watch the whole video! beautiful arrangement at the end
My mom makes self-degrading jokes to me like that. Idk if it could be called as a joke but it didn't make me feel good. After a while, I unconsciously started to make self-lifting jokes such as "COME HERE AND FIGHT ME I'M THE STRONGEST ONE HERE! LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!" at my friends. And even though my a chubby+weak person, it feels good to be delulu abt myself :>
I did this exact same thing! I love that you are mentioning this because its acc so REAL. Also this is in no way supposed to make anyone feel bad, but being around someone who makes self degrading jokes just consistently can be really uncomfortable, and even painful if its someone you love. Being full of silly love and confidence for yourself spreads that energy, and can lift other people around you up as well. (For example, its so much nicer when someone says "You look so good today!" instead of "I look so awful, ugh I wish I looked like you lol"
i wannabe confident yet mysterious asf like i give off that kind of high level confidence to the point that i don’t have to speak anymore. i’m not bothering you, you’re not bothering me type of confidence
my girlfriend sent me this video during a rough time that i was personally having to where i felt almost helpless without her emotionally. i personally feel that confidence is somewhat different between men and women, especially in westernized society - so as a man, i feel like more of us men need to hear out women OR any opposing view on the same types of negativity we feel. thanks for the video.
I'm actually tearing up listening to you. The part about people waiting to look up to you and meet you and learn from you made me feel like so much more of a real person. I don't know how to describe it, but i think one of my biggest fears is that i won't leave an impact on the people around me, and the way you put it just feels so genuine. Thank you so much
i get this, so, so hard. i'm sure with this sort of passion about it you WILL make a good impact on people, and i truly believe that. all the best to you.
Can you impact your life to your wishings? Maybe you dont see yourself impacting your own life as much as you wish to and see it as weakness. But there is always an impact on yourself and others, we just tend to perceive it as "not enough" so we have a dream which will never get reached and this pain drives us to continue the journey to be worthy of ourselves, to be worthy to ride the ride till we die.
You’re really good at explaining and advice giving. The way you approach this topic seems so genuine. A lot of TH-camrs regurgitate generic advice that never resonates nor feels achievable, but this…this is different. Great job. And beautiful arrangements 🩷
@@inayah0 Your authenticity of your experience and feelings vibrates towards others what attracts them to you. You really did show it’s about being real with oneself by knowing thy self. I think I can understand whatever one does with one self will do the same for others, such as self honesty leads to honesty towards others, self-love to love others, and the list goes on. Just like the old saying, “ treat others the way you want to be treated. “
Why am I crying when I finish watching this video... I'm now in the loop of questioning my self about my confidence, about my dream self that I want to be. I can do many things but I feel like I'm doing nothing. I really in the terms of closing myself with the world. Luckily, after watching your video, I know that I'm not anti social, and I just feel insecure about everything. I call that 'lucky' cause I still love this world so much. Thanks for your sharing, I absolutely love your perspective 🌷
My brother sent me this video and it makes me so happy. I’ve been telling him what you say in this video all the time, it confirms that he is listening to his big sis, all I want is to breathe life into him and remind him of who he is, the person in confident and who has his dream life. Beautiful video Inayah (love your name) thank you for sharing this wonderful empowering message 💖
Inayah I don’t ever comment on TH-cam videos😭 I’m 19 turning 20 in two weeks and the past half year has been a period where I focused on growth. Let me say I’ve never been so profoundly moved by such a TH-cam video. I’ve watched plenty of self love, up your confidence, Divine feminine energy TH-cam videos but never has one been so true, raw, and real. Please keep up the good work and I truly appreciated watching the entire thing.
This is the biggest compliment ever. I am so grateful that you took the time to comment and give me this feedback ❤️ We are around the same age so I understand the growth period! We are in this together 💞
made it to the end and wanted to say this all resonates so much! i’m on a very intentional journey of self discovery right now and it’s amazing to see and hear like minded people my age going through similar things and doing the work! i just keep thinking back to when i was 13, 15, 17 year old me and who i knew i could be and how badly i want to make her proud! i honestly believe i am right now, and it feels incredible 🥰
I'm a 28 year old guy and this video was really moving. It really matches many processes and changes I am and have been experiencing lately. After 4 years of therapy I have come to a point in my life, where, for the very first time, I can look at myself in the mirror and say 'hey, I like you, I think, I can maybe even love you' without cringing and feeling like a joke, like a liar and an impostor. What you say is so true, it is a long journey of reinforcing yourself in the smallest things, over and over and over again until it starts sounding believable. I look back on so much pain and hurt, feeling worthless and inadequate, unable to acknowledge my own value, beauty and competence. Since I was a little child I have treated myself with disdain and put myself down whenever I didn't meet the expectations I projected onto everyone and everything around me. For me it was an essential step to deconstruct the relationship with my parents, especially with my father, to realize how my own system of beliefs about myself was formed. The things you laid out so beautifully and empathically in this video, alongside with a few years of therapy and ultimately confronting my parents on the role they played in me forming very hurtful and dysfunctional ways of interacting with myself and the world around me finally led me to a point where I can actually catch a glimpse of me as a beautiful being worthy and deserving of unconditional love, both from myself and from others. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. I can only encourage everyone to listen closely. You might feel like there is such a long journey ahead of you, but every little step will get you closer and closer and before long you might realize that even if you're not exactly where you want to end up, you've already come such a long way. You can do it! I didn't believe I would ever be able to believe in myself, but here I am, actually starting to do so. Not every day, not in every situation, but every day a tiny bit more. ❤❤
I’m a 26 y/o guy and feel quite the same. I have yet to confront my parents on why I am the way I am (nor do I think I will anytime soon). However, I feel the same way you describe on learning about my habits and how I have been programmed for self disdain. I am good to myself often these days, but there are times where I feel that negativity coming back again. It’s a day by day process and you’re right, even if we aren’t where we want to be…we surely have come so far. Cheers.
"Neurons need to Fire to Re-wire" is a quote that changed me. I found it when studying to return to Stanford to take Mechanical Systems Design in order to graduate with my engineering degree. It helps me understand that these well-established grooves are or are not serving me.
thank you for everything you said!!! I love that you clocked yourself at the end for second-guessing yourself, wondering if anyone even watches to the end, bc these feelings creeping in randomly are so real. I really needed to hear all of this, and I’m so grateful you chose to make a vid on this topic 🥺🫶
wow!!! i watched this while washing the dishes and i genuinely stopped once you said that confident people trust themselves. that i have to become a person i trust!! i love that concept and it made something in my brain click! this video is so beautiful and fulfilling, thank you :)
I LOVE the whole video. I love the video quality, I love the camera angle, I love the idea kitchen, I love THE PLANTS, I love the dress, I love the hair, I love the wisdom, GIRL KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
oh my goodness, i saw your video when i was scrolling and i felt so drawn into watching it. you truly have such a way of explaining that everything will be okay and you truly made me feel so good about myself. when you were talking about your cat and how you didnt even notice he changed until you looked back on photos, it really helped put things in perspective for me. your energy is so beautiful and genuine, thank you for this.💜
I just wish that we all felt vulnerable and lifted each other up was really touching to hear. Thank you for spreading so much kindness and self love to others :)
I listened to the whole thing, thanks a ton honestly, its really uplifting and satisfying for me to hear someone else talk about this. I've been going through it dramatically for a few years now, got somewhere better out of my terrible health and severe depression as well as identity crisis, but then got stuck for awhile in the final fazes of becoming my fully "new" self. I WAS very uncomfortable, and it was difficult, but especially because I pressured myself too much for awhile to know what I want in life and who I want to be. I couldn't figure that out so quickly though, and had to learn to have much more patients and understanding for myself as I was, it was only when I was able to let go of the need to have it all figured out RIGHT NOW that I was able to relax. THEN things naturally started to flow and I gradually picked up the pace.... I've got so much I want to share with people just to get it out there incase it helps anyone else, but I'm also not a big social media person and am struggling to get the feeling for it and understand how to be involved (and stay safe online lol) just yet. I'm worried I won't be very succinct with my talking and explaining to others just yet..Its like, its all so clear inside me, but as soon as I start talking out loud, I start to lose it, or get disorganized...Guess that's why im starting here, in typing comments, even this was very strange and uncomfortable for me just a year or more ago, and im slowly getting more used to it now....Anyways, one of these days I'll be really happy to share a lot of things on video's for people.! 😂❤🎉
Healing the traumas and learning to love yourself is a great way to destroy a lack of confidence. When you're healed and no longer care what people think, you'll have confidence. That's been my experience. Crappy self talk shatters confidence. Stop the inner critic, heal, love yourself. Confidence then becomes natural.
The thing with shifts in mentality is that it’s so so important to remind oneself that while these shifts can change you as a person, the whole journey is uniquely a non-linear process in itself which deserves to be treated with extreme delicacy and love. Change has to be unpleasant, which is exactly why accepting that you’ve got your own soft spots that require your attention and care is the utmost necessity yet worth a long way ahead. This video cured my anxiety at the moment almost instantly. Thankyou so so much for sharing! Stay blessed🌼
Yesterday was really tough for me. I sat down in front of the mirror and I burst into tears, saying everything I hated about myself and my life. I felt so lost and hopeless that I cannot do anything about it. That maybe, I'm just fated to be like this. Constantly falling short, disappointing people who used to believe in me, giving up on becoming better because I hated being me. But it gets so unbearable. I couldn't live like that. You're right. Learning how to love yourself or being confident is not something you'll work hard for for one time and then you'll have it rest of your life. It's something that we need to keep working on like a muscle. Thank you for your words. I will try to regain my trust to myself. Your flower arrangement is beautiful, by the way ❤️
I hope you are doing better love❤ it’s a long journey but we only have one life and we have to make sure we make the best of everything we have. We will get out of this phase!
100% agreed. I appreciate how passionate and sincere you are when describing your process and self-discovery, all the while being very objective about it.
The easiest way to become confident is to prove yourself you can achieve something high. It could be about money, it could be about your job position, it could be about having finished a huge project, it could be about a lot of things and the main problem is you have to do something. Staying home wont make you confident even after reading/seeing top 100 books/videos on the topic
This randomly popped up on my explore page when I needed it the most. I am so glad I watched the whole thing. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear everything you said. You seem like a wonderful person, thank you for your contributions to the world.
I’m glad there’s people on the internet who have something to say. This is so so so inspiring, I think a lot of videos like this are sort of “self improvementy” but this isn’t just advice. There’s compassion in your message and it’s naturally catchy. Thank you!!
It's crazy how motivational it is to hear from people who are a little further down the path than you. My therapist says the same things but "you deserve love" feels like "you deserve to be a millionaire" like ok :/ but when someone who has recently felt the same pain as you says it, it really hits home. Thank you
the energy you give off is so.. magnetic, I can relate to much of what you said, and that fact that you were once at a place where I am now (and have been for a while) is astounding to me, because of the way you carry yourself now. it’s so easy to believe confident people are just born that way- but no they’re kinda like me, going thru the same journey. you spoke what I absolutely needed to hear, thank you
I love this so much! You just sitting in your kitchen, making a flower arranging and talking feels like I’m sitting there with you chatting. Thank you!💕
i watched this whole video and it honestly made me feel so much better about myself and life in general. Ive been in a really weird place lately and youre so inspirational. im so grateful i came across your video and your flowers are GORGEOUS!
I didn’t *need* this video but I still really appreciate it because it feels like having a friend who’s doing a hard thing with you (I used to have a friend I would always run with, for instance), and it feels really affirmative of the kind of stuff I’ve been doing and working on to hear someone talk about basically the exact same stuff. Thank you for this. :)
i’ve watched countless videos about confidence but you really made me feel like you were truly speaking to me!! maybe it’s because i relate to you so much. you touched on all the subjects i am dealing with right now and have been dealing with my whole life as well. thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing!!
I listened to your whole video! It felt like getting advice from a friend I've known for my whole life. Thank you for this helpful guide and hope! Im happy crying as I go to get my journal to start envisioning my best self
LOVED listening to all of this. had it going in the background while I cleaned and after a certain point, just sat myself down and put my full attention to it. you are so worth listening to and so inspiring.
I listened to everything. I'm so grateful you exist. I'm finally confident, but feel so guilty about triggering people who are struggling with insecurities I worked through. I was bullied so badly in the areas I shined by kids and adults as I grew up and I am afraid of the hatred and meanness that comes from those who aren't aware of how their insecurities manifest. You've allowed me to feel more confident being confident, less afraid to rise (I'm healing fears of success because of this past trauma), and less afraid of harm and abuse. So thank you, Inayah🦋
i had literally just finished a journal entry about confidence before opening up YT and seeing this on my recommended. i've been going through the same journey in my own way and its refreshing to hear another story about this struggle. the part about giving your self grace and patience is so important. if you're too hard on yourself, its a lot easier to give up all together. the grace allows us to keep pushing even when we slip
I absolutely listened to the whole video. This is something I really needed to hear from someone genuine, and I appreciate you having the courage to make such an important video! Thank you so much for your time and thoughts.
I loved listening to this. It is so important to see others practicing what you hope to embody as well! genuinely powerful and uplifting. thank you fro being vulnerable.
im so happy i got to listen to this. i was feeling incredibly anxious today because i am moving soon and ive never moved out by myself before. i was just away living with a friend for about 6 months and i got home a few weeks ago. while i was away i learned a lot about who i am and how i want to present myself and how that means i will be changing somethings that i might be resistant to changing. i got back home and started to doubt id really changed at all while i was away, and i was just fooling myself as well as all of the people i met while i was out there. but hearing this, i can acknowledge that i did make changes, and they were real, and i dont have to get down on myself or make up reasons to invalidate myself and the things i learned. change is slow and gradual and when you have finally put in the many little steps over and over again, then you can realise you were right to believe in yourself, because look how far you've come.
this video couldn’t have come across at a better time for me - I couldn’t stop watching and listening once I started because of how compelling and affirming your words were. thank you for putting this out there, you’re an inspiration
listened to the whole thing. because you were being vulnerable and being yourself. and speaking fundamental truths. thank you, you helped me on my journey as a human. much appreciation for your existence on earth
i wanted to but couldn't cry for a few weeks now. i gave up on being functional today and just sat around in my bed watching cartoons. after that your video found me. at first i thought, funny, how it's in a lot of ways matt d'avelia but for girls. i'm here for it. the more i listened the more i felt hugged, and the tears broke out. thank you.
i watched this whole thing through. didn’t think i would or that i could but i did and i don’t regret it one bit. this was beautiful honestly i loved all every second. thank you for this :)
thank you so much. i’ve been suffering about how to show up and overcome my self doubt. i don’t have any confidence right now. i have a lot of insecurities and i think it’s affecting my life. i can’t be the best version of myself
This video led me to the awareness I needed in a moment of despair. Thank you for believing in the possibility of someone listening to every word you have to say because looking at these notes it’s truly eye opening and amazing to see the support you shared, that you also have worked with. It is inspiring and I know it may not have been easy, but still. Thank you so much for your courage. I know the little-you would be proud. Just as the little-me is now more excited than ever to walk into a room to let the whole world know who she is and how that can be welcoming for others who may be struggling with seeing themselves as the amazing person they are or anything else for that matter❤️
I hope lots of people see this. You deserve all the recognition people are giving. Thank you! I especially like the part about holding space for yourself and having grace to grow. Its possible to be a confident person while having feelings of insecurity sometimes, those moments don't define us, its the consistent way we speak to ourselves after those moments that will define us❤
I used to watch your earlier videos on my other account so so so much. They've always resonated in a beautiful way. I found this video in my suggested, and I am so so happy to see your videos again but years later. So much growth has happened throughout that time. I am proud of you and your journey :)
Thanks for this. It's so helpful to hear from someone who has done this work and seen actual, tangible results. For me (and I think many others,) the most challenging aspect of self-acceptance is the need for sincere belief in that "confident" or "ideal" version of yourself. It's easy to fall into the trap of understanding all of the positive self-talk as something that's kind and compassionate but ultimately untrue, like the white lies we all tell each other from time to time: "That dress looks amazing on you," "Your work sounds very rewarding," "Everything happens for a reason," etc. etc. But that's *not* what self-acceptance is about. It's about recognizing and focusing on the *actual truth* that you *already are* the person you want to be. You just sometimes forget to act like it.
I hear you, and thinking about your experiences from an insecure individual to working your struggles to become the better version of your current self is so insightful. I have been struggling with confidence myself these past years and hearing from a fellow person struggling in these things, creates a feeling of relief that I'm not alone in this journey along with the 902k viewers. Sharing your experiences and becoming vulnerable to the internet inspired me to tackle the path of discomfort for the betterment of myself. I can't take you enough for inspiring me, a literal stranger from a corner of the world. This has been a pleasant experience, please continue with your videos! Also, I want to highlight of you sharing the process, in this method, it has created insightful ideas and I hope I get to share this to others one day. Again, thank you for sharing!
the level of thought you must’ve put into this topic shows intensely. even the small details like the flower arrangements you make every week moves mountains for me. the authenticity above all else makes your dedication and perseverance shine like gemstones. i wish i could listen to you talk about this for hours. but 30 minutes will have to do thank you for sharing your experiences
I listened to all of this and I think this was genuinely a very good video on confidence. I've seen quite a few and this is definitely the best that I've seen in a while. I actually avoided clicking on it in my feed for a while cus these videos are usually all the same and pretty unhelpful but you did a really great job - the posture thing especially resonated with me
This video was so good. So sincere and refreshing. I feel like I've been feeling so down and not confident for the last 3 years (at least) , and just now I heard words that I really needed.
hi everybody
i listened to all of the video while I was washing the dishes. i even listened to it again right after - to take notes. you are verbalising the thoughts that I had struggled to come up w to express them. and your videos are exactly like you creating a bouquet. you arrange the beauty of each experience and at the end, there is a beautiful beautiful arrangement that is imperfectly perfect. and I love u for that, and I love me for clicking on this video because it affirmed so much of what I needed to hear.
thank you for this video
I needed to hear it today 🙏🏼
In my life, I have watched many videos about confidence and so on, but your video touched my heart because you really talked about real and realistic things that we do, and it is also the first time I have watched a long video without getting bored. You are amazing. I would be grateful if you did. Talk about whether we can start from nothing.. ❤
ur lovely and keep making content!!!
I have too many words to explain how good this video is and how much I enjoyed the experience of hearing you whilst drawing, but the main point I'm trying to elaborate is that you - Inayah, you are incredible in my eyes and I really relate to everything you said in this wholesome video!
I live by this motto “discomfort is the potential for more comfort” and it has changed me life.
i will be carrying this with me moving forward, thank u for the gem lovely
I need this tattooed 😮🤌🐸✨🦒🫶✨Thank you for blessing my brain with this!
That was great
@@escapetheboxes8473 of course :)
@@angelviviana888 of courseee
I love when random small youtuber videos pop up on my feed and the video is so good
same vro❤
Ikr
Same
*Sweetheart, that is no random small youtuber. Thats Charlotte Sartre.*
@@ak_naral wtf no
this is the format i miss. just sitting down naturally doing things not all the music effects and animations and crazy transitions and editing. just human to human. thank you
i was trying to figure out why i liked this so much, you’ve explained it perfectly!
yeah this is my favorite format as well.
trusting yourself is a big one. the ONLY reason i start to doubt myself is when other people butt into my life and start giving advice that i didn't ask for lmao.
and practicing doing it anyway is the uncomfortablity that will get you there !!👏🏽 ✨
Lol @ attractive women lecturing on confidence. My buddies ex is up to like 260 pounds now and still has tons of dudes messaging her. I don't think women live in the same world as men. It's easy to be confident when your entire value(for better or worse) comes down to remembering to put your make-up on.
What if you were judged on your height? Face (no make-up allowed!)? penis length? Job? Status? Income? Car? "confidence"? Hairline? Ethnicity (yes, even in 2024). I say this as a 5'11 180 pound white guy with a car and job and full head of hair who lifts and yada yada. My value doesn't even compare in the slightest to any random woman who can still walk without a wheelchair or something. Nah, fuck that - I bet wheelchair girls still live in a world where they think people message other people like 15 times a day.
I miss when TH-cam pushed out all different kinds of small creators to the forefront, I love thisss
TH-cam is still doing that. The problem is that there are 10000x as many small creators as there used to be, so most of them will never catch on.
My TH-cam does that, maybe is what you watching
my yt does that and i wish it didnt
Exactly
@@harresdirksen1950 keep getting those bot channels or the lil kids with 1 subscriber posting cringe content
Being a painfully self-aware and self-conscious person who has a vision but not the confidence, I feel this. Thank you.
!Please read the following as straightforwart, but benevolent critique: Maybe try forgetting to take yourself so seriously from time to time. Most people give way less fucks about you than you imagine to even consciously notice you and especially not to want to judge you, unless you are in an environment that cultivates toxic shame.
Confidence will grow naturally with being brave, pushing your boundaries and abstain from identifying with feelings of shame, if you decide that they don't make sense. If you own them a couple of times in a friendly environment, that is not overly critical towards you, they will magically loose their power.
@@happymixtapes If self confidence is based on perception about him/her of knowing person people's then it is value by itself induced by maditations and long time creation of own image. . Then how much would person give and what would do for escaping any public accusations ? For somebody who has selfconfidence based on known around factual achievements in own life and on wisdom eventual accusations may be confronted with facts.
@@Mikexception I am interested in your argument. Unfortunately I can not exactly make sense of the text. Could you maybe make your point a little bit more clear?
@@happymixtapes Thing is when making effort only to create selfconfidence without having real reasons of that confidence then such person is fully depending on that elaborated impression which say is not supported. Confidence is based on knowledge of genuine life facts. Is it justified to be confident in young age before getting life experience? It may be misleadiing. . Such status is virtual . Such people are vulnerable for any damage in public and may be used. .
Becoming your desired self is like decluttering a wardrobe. You cannot just throw away everything all at once; there is this process of thinking, where in you keep some pieces and discard the others, until you buy a new one and replace everything with clothes that fit you better. It is a long, tedious process. But once you did so, it would feel like a fever dream. I, sometimes, get riled up over how far I've come with my mental state and how I see myself, whether that is physically or not. I've spent my whole high school life gaining confidence and now, I'm here, walking on Earth in a way that shows I deserved to walk on it.
this is such a good way of describing it. you have a way with words
Got me really emotional when you started talking about how we should be excited for the people who’ll get to experience us and how we should be excited we get to experience them as ourselves, saving that for whenever I need a pick me up! Thank you for sharing your journey and yourself!
soo important to talk about this!! confidence is a CHOICE it is not bestowed upon you naturally
Yas
@coomerkillerit becomes natural once you continuously make the choice to be confident. it is still a choice though...
@coomerkiller your source?
@coomerkiller😭
Watched the whole video, it was very moving and informative. Thank you and continue doing what u do it’s always great to see somebody putting out positivity in the world
Once you start to practice the confidence, your passions start to make themselves known stronger and you can fully breathe them in. The passion and compassion you're exhaling in this video is beautiful
Absolutely
what a beautiful comment. i love the way you articulated this !
did you mean exhaling or exuding?
is this true? because i've been trying so hard to find something i'm passionate about but its so difficult.
THESE are the words I was looking for
Guys the flowers at the end is the best part!😂
Anyway, as a 19 year old dude watching this, I actually needed to hear this.
At some point a few years ago I realised I had feminine energy inside of me, and quite a lot of it. And then after working with it, I realised I have masculine energy too. And a lot. I can be sooo loud, confident, boisterous...
But I can be quiet. I can listen. Yh life is good.
Hi Inayah and anyone else possibly reading this. I wanted to share this little revelation of mine to the world rather than keep it to myself in a journal because I'm working on the confidence of believing that my words have the power to impact and influence others. For a greater portion of my life, I've deeply struggled with my mental health, battling long bouts of depression, immense anxiety and suicidality among other issues. For my whole life-up until today-I've wondered internally 'what's so wrong with choosing to end your life, why is the world so upset by a choice like that' and I've finally realized why: Every single heartbeat on this planet is on a path, a path that will lead them to share and contribute to the world in a fashion that is entirely unique to them. Ending your life is a disservice. I truly believe that even if you have no alive family members, no friends, no allies-the universe loves you, the universe is cheering you on, the universe wants you to help her grow. I hope this reaches whoever needs to hear it, i love you all so much :)
This was so sweet of you to share! I hope you're in a better place mentally now I know it can be hard and exhausting sometimes. But your presence on this tiny planet is appreciated more than you can imagine 💗
This is so lovely and I want to thank you so much for sharing this!! you are so right, everyone on this planet is important and is here for a reason. Even if that reason is to just share some kindness and wisdom like you have just now. You never know how much of an impact your presence can have on people's lives and its easy to think that our presence isn't felt by anyone. However, just because you may not hear that you are valued and appreciated often, never forget that you are appreciated. So keep on failing, growing, changing and learning because you are important and the world deserves to see you shine!
thanks for sharing. i’m not in that worst case scenario and yet i’m moved to tears reading this. and yh, your words have impacted me positively. much love 💕
That's beautiful, thank you so much for your gorgeous poetic wisdom
It’s crazy to think that the most conventionally attractive people in the world can also be most bullied, insecure, and abused. And it happens at a young age, so you don’t understand why you were bullied until your adult years :(
Pretty isn’t immune to hate
@@BnBLion. It always makes me laugh seeing attractive, hot, sexy, whatever adjective you want to give them, people saying they always struggle with their bodies and insecurities and such, because I am like BITCH how the fuck I'm supposed to feel better knowing that someone objectively more attractive than me also feels insecure xd
@@DajuSar It should tell you that insecurity doesn't come from "objective attractiveness"
@@DajuSar Yess, this so much. Also for these people gaining confidence is just a matter of fixing your thoughts that tell you lies about your body created on the basis of the bullying you've experienced and convincing yourself that the truth is very different from these thoughts. So in short you need to believe the truth despite your brain not wanting to. For ugly people it doesn't work like that. For us gaining confidence is way harder because we already know the truth and this is the source of our insecurity. The solution for us is actually believing the lies that we create for ourselves in our brain. And it's way harder because of course you can try but you will face the reality and you will confront the public opinion that will clearly show you that you just live in a fairytale. If you're attractive and start believing it people will be happy that you finally understood and will in fact treat you better. But of ugly people it's not the case, people will treat you bad no matter what you believe.
@@eskybakzu712 in their case it’s true. They just need to fix something mentally but in other peoples cases they do not only need to fix the mental shit but the irl shit as well as
this visual vibe is perfect for my eyes
I was brought to tears in the last 7 minutes of the video. Which is funny because i wasn’t planning on crying while putting this on at the treadmill in the gym. Holy shit thank you for this insight, and giving me a reason to believe in myself. I feel like this has shifted my perspective immensely. I’m overall a pretty positive person but I have bouts of negativity that I find it hard to get myself out of. This resonated deeply within.
That alter-ego/visualization trick works very, very well for people that grew up consuming a lot of media while having little to no adult role models around. It was the case for me after years and years of failing miserably at motivating myself to do anything at all, both with and without professional help.
i think the biggest stepping stone into being confident is realizing that self love and self respect are two different things. to be okay in your self, you have to not let people walk over you or put yourself in situations where you feel ‘loved’ but with side effects. once you respect yourself, even if you’re insecure this gets you in the mentality of not letting people waste your time and finding people who actually enjoy you and your presence.
if you have self-respect you dont care if people walk over you because it doesnt bother you. everyone has the right to say what they want as long theyre not harming you physically. respect in general is a very strong egoic idea. as far as im concerned respect is non existent, theres just being a good person and treating others well no matter who they are
@@swoop2386
For me, letting people walk over me isn’t a good idea. I tend to shy away from necessary confrontation/boundary setting so speaking up for myself is uncomfortable, healthy, growth.
@@n.a.199 thats true, but really it all depends on what someone means when they say "walk all over", for different people have different meanings for it
@@swoop2386 not to add on to the already philosophical statement, but
"The way I see it, good is merely a word applied to people who are convenient to our needs in some way. Its purely subjective. Any way you try to look at it, labeling people dehumanizes them."
-Armin | AoT
(its getting deep)
It doesnt necessarily apply, I just love the quote :)
I really needed to hear everything that was said in this video 😭 here are some things I noted down in my journal
- there is someone waiting to look up to you
- the world is waiting for you to do all the things that only you can do
- "everyone is stupid and I just decided not to be"
- you are on the right path and going backwards is only going to be way more uncomfortable than going forward and making it (my personal note)
- people need an example and there are so many people who are in the same situation as you and they need you to do what you need to
- you are that person and you have that vision for a reason
- it is worth it
- everybody is going through the same thing it's just a matter of who is good at combatting it and who is consistent with being uncomfortable
- pave the way ❤
I’m so happy you came across the video 😭❤️ and it’s powerful that you wrote these points down. I hope you keep coming back to these things! You got this!
Nice
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@@inayah0 i got big pp because of ya hehehe
the captions IN VIDEO is such a nice touch, thank you.
loved everything about this video i'm really going thru it with depression and i feel like you literally opened a window for me and it's not the end of the world for being sad:) thank you very much
It's so hard to hold confidence at the same time as being sensitive to your feelings, like the moon and the sun
Brilliant
Ying and Yang
@@rico14honestly is a good comparation, the ideia of self confidence and caring about yourself can be seen as difficult having both, but in the true, for one work correctly need the presence of other
Yin and yang are not opposites that repel each other but complement each other
If person whom I do not value, ( because is not valued by others too) says bad about me it is like very positive for me signal that I am not mixed to his companion. My boss at company dinner once named me publicaly "strange duck" . It gave me confidence in work so he felt obligation to write ma special letter of admiration at completing the job.
A quote that had helped me a lot with this is “putting yourself first isn't selfish, its self love”
Its really helped me realise that you can still do whats right while still feeling good about yourself even in delicate situations ❤
thank you for this!
i also want to add: the way you talk about yourself, whether it's a "joke" or not, also can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. i used to make a lot of self-degrading jokes (like, "oh, i made a tiny mistake, i'm the worst person in the world"), and it didn't do anything good for me. even though i was never completely serious when i said things like that, it still impacted me in really small ways.
after a while i shifted to self-uplifting jokes (where, for example, if i messed up when cooking something, i'd call myself the best chef in the world), and while it was still sarcastic, i saw a huge boost in confidence in myself after making that shift.
i think i started doing this because of something i read a long time ago (but i don't completely remember), so i'm passing on this tip to hopefully help someone who still might be struggling with something of this nature :)
(btw, did watch the whole video! beautiful arrangement at the end
My mom makes self-degrading jokes to me like that. Idk if it could be called as a joke but it didn't make me feel good. After a while, I unconsciously started to make self-lifting jokes such as "COME HERE AND FIGHT ME I'M THE STRONGEST ONE HERE! LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!" at my friends. And even though my a chubby+weak person, it feels good to be delulu abt myself :>
I did this exact same thing! I love that you are mentioning this because its acc so REAL.
Also this is in no way supposed to make anyone feel bad, but being around someone who makes self degrading jokes just consistently can be really uncomfortable, and even painful if its someone you love. Being full of silly love and confidence for yourself spreads that energy, and can lift other people around you up as well. (For example, its so much nicer when someone says "You look so good today!" instead of "I look so awful, ugh I wish I looked like you lol"
i watched this whole thing and felt you literally pull me into that next phase of my journey of healing. thank you so much.
i wannabe confident yet mysterious asf like i give off that kind of high level confidence to the point that i don’t have to speak anymore. i’m not bothering you, you’re not bothering me type of confidence
bro i love the quality of the camera plus the letters font plus her style plus shes making flowering while speaking facts
decriminalize yapping sessions
😂😂💯
More than sixty percent of TH-cam channels are just Professional yappers
Oh so I have been a criminal all along? Huh, that's cool
there is good yap and there is bad yap
If yapping is a crime, then spank me, officer.
my girlfriend sent me this video during a rough time that i was personally having to where i felt almost helpless without her emotionally. i personally feel that confidence is somewhat different between men and women, especially in westernized society - so as a man, i feel like more of us men need to hear out women OR any opposing view on the same types of negativity we feel. thanks for the video.
"Think of discomfort as the gas/fuel taking you where you want to be" this literally just unlocked something within me, thank you so much!!
I'm actually tearing up listening to you. The part about people waiting to look up to you and meet you and learn from you made me feel like so much more of a real person. I don't know how to describe it, but i think one of my biggest fears is that i won't leave an impact on the people around me, and the way you put it just feels so genuine. Thank you so much
i get this, so, so hard. i'm sure with this sort of passion about it you WILL make a good impact on people, and i truly believe that. all the best to you.
wish you all the best
@@startaru thank you so much. I wish you the best on your journey too!
@@nguyentran4290 thank you!! I'm wishing you the best as well
Can you impact your life to your wishings? Maybe you dont see yourself impacting your own life as much as you wish to and see it as weakness. But there is always an impact on yourself and others, we just tend to perceive it as "not enough" so we have a dream which will never get reached and this pain drives us to continue the journey to be worthy of ourselves, to be worthy to ride the ride till we die.
You’re really good at explaining and advice giving. The way you approach this topic seems so genuine. A lot of TH-camrs regurgitate generic advice that never resonates nor feels achievable, but this…this is different. Great job. And beautiful arrangements 🩷
This feedback means a lot to me. I really appreciate you watching 💞
@@inayah0 Your authenticity of your experience and feelings vibrates towards others what attracts them to you. You really did show it’s about being real with oneself by knowing thy self. I think I can understand whatever one does with one self will do the same for others, such as self honesty leads to honesty towards others, self-love to love others, and the list goes on. Just like the old saying, “ treat others the way you want to be treated. “
Why am I crying when I finish watching this video... I'm now in the loop of questioning my self about my confidence, about my dream self that I want to be. I can do many things but I feel like I'm doing nothing. I really in the terms of closing myself with the world. Luckily, after watching your video, I know that I'm not anti social, and I just feel insecure about everything. I call that 'lucky' cause I still love this world so much. Thanks for your sharing, I absolutely love your perspective 🌷
My brother sent me this video and it makes me so happy. I’ve been telling him what you say in this video all the time, it confirms that he is listening to his big sis, all I want is to breathe life into him and remind him of who he is, the person in confident and who has his dream life. Beautiful video Inayah (love your name) thank you for sharing this wonderful empowering message 💖
your beauty, your mindset, the background, the quality of video 🤯 just wow 🤍
you are too
Yeahs, this ✨kitchen✨ is 😍
Inayah I don’t ever comment on TH-cam videos😭 I’m 19 turning 20 in two weeks and the past half year has been a period where I focused on growth. Let me say I’ve never been so profoundly moved by such a TH-cam video. I’ve watched plenty of self love, up your confidence, Divine feminine energy TH-cam videos but never has one been so true, raw, and real. Please keep up the good work and I truly appreciated watching the entire thing.
I Watch many self help or confident videos but this one really made me feel like she cared and was loving of the audience. I also feel very moved🥹
This is the biggest compliment ever. I am so grateful that you took the time to comment and give me this feedback ❤️ We are around the same age so I understand the growth period! We are in this together 💞
@@aldra8507thank you 🥹❤️ that means so much to me.
@@inayah0Are you on tiktok too inayah??
Thank you for speaking. I feel like I’ve been in a confidence rut so it’s nice to hear confident people talk about the process
made it to the end and wanted to say this all resonates so much! i’m on a very intentional journey of self discovery right now and it’s amazing to see and hear like minded people my age going through similar things and doing the work! i just keep thinking back to when i was 13, 15, 17 year old me and who i knew i could be and how badly i want to make her proud! i honestly believe i am right now, and it feels incredible 🥰
I'm a 28 year old guy and this video was really moving. It really matches many processes and changes I am and have been experiencing lately.
After 4 years of therapy I have come to a point in my life, where, for the very first time, I can look at myself in the mirror and say 'hey, I like you, I think, I can maybe even love you' without cringing and feeling like a joke, like a liar and an impostor. What you say is so true, it is a long journey of reinforcing yourself in the smallest things, over and over and over again until it starts sounding believable. I look back on so much pain and hurt, feeling worthless and inadequate, unable to acknowledge my own value, beauty and competence.
Since I was a little child I have treated myself with disdain and put myself down whenever I didn't meet the expectations I projected onto everyone and everything around me. For me it was an essential step to deconstruct the relationship with my parents, especially with my father, to realize how my own system of beliefs about myself was formed. The things you laid out so beautifully and empathically in this video, alongside with a few years of therapy and ultimately confronting my parents on the role they played in me forming very hurtful and dysfunctional ways of interacting with myself and the world around me finally led me to a point where I can actually catch a glimpse of me as a beautiful being worthy and deserving of unconditional love, both from myself and from others.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. I can only encourage everyone to listen closely. You might feel like there is such a long journey ahead of you, but every little step will get you closer and closer and before long you might realize that even if you're not exactly where you want to end up, you've already come such a long way. You can do it! I didn't believe I would ever be able to believe in myself, but here I am, actually starting to do so. Not every day, not in every situation, but every day a tiny bit more.
❤❤
I’m a 26 y/o guy and feel quite the same. I have yet to confront my parents on why I am the way I am (nor do I think I will anytime soon). However, I feel the same way you describe on learning about my habits and how I have been programmed for self disdain. I am good to myself often these days, but there are times where I feel that negativity coming back again. It’s a day by day process and you’re right, even if we aren’t where we want to be…we surely have come so far. Cheers.
@@itsnotthecloudyouknow2635
this comment healed something in me
"Neurons need to Fire to Re-wire" is a quote that changed me. I found it when studying to return to Stanford to take Mechanical Systems Design in order to graduate with my engineering degree. It helps me understand that these well-established grooves are or are not serving me.
one of my fav pep talks on the internet undoubtedly
thank you for everything you said!!! I love that you clocked yourself at the end for second-guessing yourself, wondering if anyone even watches to the end, bc these feelings creeping in randomly are so real. I really needed to hear all of this, and I’m so grateful you chose to make a vid on this topic 🥺🫶
wow!!! i watched this while washing the dishes and i genuinely stopped once you said that confident people trust themselves. that i have to become a person i trust!! i love that concept and it made something in my brain click! this video is so beautiful and fulfilling, thank you :)
beautiful video
Thank you! It means the world to me that I could help at all. Proud of you!
I LOVE the whole video. I love the video quality, I love the camera angle, I love the idea kitchen, I love THE PLANTS, I love the dress, I love the hair, I love the wisdom, GIRL KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
Wow this means the world to me! THANK YOU MY LOVE! ❤️
frr everything in this video is such a mood i love her aesthetic and the words she said! 🫶🏼
The world needs more videos like this. So uplifting!
oh my goodness, i saw your video when i was scrolling and i felt so drawn into watching it. you truly have such a way of explaining that everything will be okay and you truly made me feel so good about myself. when you were talking about your cat and how you didnt even notice he changed until you looked back on photos, it really helped put things in perspective for me. your energy is so beautiful and genuine, thank you for this.💜
The overall vibe of this video. Direct, simple, dainty, blooming, sweet. It's like I'm there 🤍
I just wish that we all felt vulnerable and lifted each other up was really touching to hear.
Thank you for spreading so much kindness and self love to others :)
you’re pathing the way for a lot of people ❤ thank you for your compassion and deep wisdom
It really moved my heart when you said "I love myself" that is so wonderful to hear. It's so wonderful when people love themselves after having not.
i listened to the whole thing. videos like these feel like a breath of fresh air in the midst of the media.
I listened to the whole thing, thanks a ton honestly, its really uplifting and satisfying for me to hear someone else talk about this. I've been going through it dramatically for a few years now, got somewhere better out of my terrible health and severe depression as well as identity crisis, but then got stuck for awhile in the final fazes of becoming my fully "new" self. I WAS very uncomfortable, and it was difficult, but especially because I pressured myself too much for awhile to know what I want in life and who I want to be. I couldn't figure that out so quickly though, and had to learn to have much more patients and understanding for myself as I was, it was only when I was able to let go of the need to have it all figured out RIGHT NOW that I was able to relax. THEN things naturally started to flow and I gradually picked up the pace.... I've got so much I want to share with people just to get it out there incase it helps anyone else, but I'm also not a big social media person and am struggling to get the feeling for it and understand how to be involved (and stay safe online lol) just yet. I'm worried I won't be very succinct with my talking and explaining to others just yet..Its like, its all so clear inside me, but as soon as I start talking out loud, I start to lose it, or get disorganized...Guess that's why im starting here, in typing comments, even this was very strange and uncomfortable for me just a year or more ago, and im slowly getting more used to it now....Anyways, one of these days I'll be really happy to share a lot of things on video's for people.! 😂❤🎉
Healing the traumas and learning to love yourself is a great way to destroy a lack of confidence. When you're healed and no longer care what people think, you'll have confidence. That's been my experience. Crappy self talk shatters confidence. Stop the inner critic, heal, love yourself. Confidence then becomes natural.
The thing with shifts in mentality is that it’s so so important to remind oneself that while these shifts can change you as a person, the whole journey is uniquely a non-linear process in itself which deserves to be treated with extreme delicacy and love. Change has to be unpleasant, which is exactly why accepting that you’ve got your own soft spots that require your attention and care is the utmost necessity yet worth a long way ahead.
This video cured my anxiety at the moment almost instantly. Thankyou so so much for sharing! Stay blessed🌼
Yesterday was really tough for me. I sat down in front of the mirror and I burst into tears, saying everything I hated about myself and my life. I felt so lost and hopeless that I cannot do anything about it. That maybe, I'm just fated to be like this. Constantly falling short, disappointing people who used to believe in me, giving up on becoming better because I hated being me.
But it gets so unbearable. I couldn't live like that. You're right. Learning how to love yourself or being confident is not something you'll work hard for for one time and then you'll have it rest of your life. It's something that we need to keep working on like a muscle. Thank you for your words. I will try to regain my trust to myself.
Your flower arrangement is beautiful, by the way ❤️
I hope you are doing better love❤ it’s a long journey but we only have one life and we have to make sure we make the best of everything we have. We will get out of this phase!
100% agreed. I appreciate how passionate and sincere you are when describing your process and self-discovery, all the while being very objective about it.
you are such a beautiful person. thank you for giving your light to us! it moved me to tears
This is honestly one of the most reassuring self-help videos I've come across. Thanks for "paving the way" for us.
The easiest way to become confident is to prove yourself you can achieve something high. It could be about money, it could be about your job position, it could be about having finished a huge project, it could be about a lot of things and the main problem is you have to do something. Staying home wont make you confident even after reading/seeing top 100 books/videos on the topic
this was genuinely so life changing to watch, you’re an amazing role model
This randomly popped up on my explore page when I needed it the most. I am so glad I watched the whole thing. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear everything you said. You seem like a wonderful person, thank you for your contributions to the world.
There’s a Pristine Balance in your life that I can feel from miles away. You look and sound like an eclectic Angel. Thank you for this wonderful you.
Your words mean a lot to me, thank you so much beautiful
I’m glad there’s people on the internet who have something to say. This is so so so inspiring, I think a lot of videos like this are sort of “self improvementy” but this isn’t just advice. There’s compassion in your message and it’s naturally catchy. Thank you!!
It's crazy how motivational it is to hear from people who are a little further down the path than you. My therapist says the same things but "you deserve love" feels like "you deserve to be a millionaire" like ok :/ but when someone who has recently felt the same pain as you says it, it really hits home. Thank you
the energy you give off is so.. magnetic, I can relate to much of what you said, and that fact that you were once at a place where I am now (and have been for a while) is astounding to me, because of the way you carry yourself now. it’s so easy to believe confident people are just born that way- but no they’re kinda like me, going thru the same journey. you spoke what I absolutely needed to hear, thank you
i like that this video is not just about physical confidence, but loving how you are as a person
I love this so much! You just sitting in your kitchen, making a flower arranging and talking feels like I’m sitting there with you chatting. Thank you!💕
i watched this whole video and it honestly made me feel so much better about myself and life in general. Ive been in a really weird place lately and youre so inspirational. im so grateful i came across your video and your flowers are GORGEOUS!
I didn’t *need* this video but I still really appreciate it because it feels like having a friend who’s doing a hard thing with you (I used to have a friend I would always run with, for instance), and it feels really affirmative of the kind of stuff I’ve been doing and working on to hear someone talk about basically the exact same stuff. Thank you for this. :)
i’ve watched countless videos about confidence but you really made me feel like you were truly speaking to me!! maybe it’s because i relate to you so much. you touched on all the subjects i am dealing with right now and have been dealing with my whole life as well. thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing!!
I listened to your whole video! It felt like getting advice from a friend I've known for my whole life. Thank you for this helpful guide and hope! Im happy crying as I go to get my journal to start envisioning my best self
LOVED listening to all of this. had it going in the background while I cleaned and after a certain point, just sat myself down and put my full attention to it. you are so worth listening to and so inspiring.
I listened to everything. I'm so grateful you exist. I'm finally confident, but feel so guilty about triggering people who are struggling with insecurities I worked through. I was bullied so badly in the areas I shined by kids and adults as I grew up and I am afraid of the hatred and meanness that comes from those who aren't aware of how their insecurities manifest. You've allowed me to feel more confident being confident, less afraid to rise (I'm healing fears of success because of this past trauma), and less afraid of harm and abuse. So thank you, Inayah🦋
i had literally just finished a journal entry about confidence before opening up YT and seeing this on my recommended. i've been going through the same journey in my own way and its refreshing to hear another story about this struggle. the part about giving your self grace and patience is so important. if you're too hard on yourself, its a lot easier to give up all together. the grace allows us to keep pushing even when we slip
I absolutely listened to the whole video. This is something I really needed to hear from someone genuine, and I appreciate you having the courage to make such an important video! Thank you so much for your time and thoughts.
those flowers at the end are truly beautiful
Something about this just makes it feel so real and right, like a handmade quality. Thank you, good work
I loved listening to this. It is so important to see others practicing what you hope to embody as well! genuinely powerful and uplifting. thank you fro being vulnerable.
im so happy i got to listen to this. i was feeling incredibly anxious today because i am moving soon and ive never moved out by myself before. i was just away living with a friend for about 6 months and i got home a few weeks ago. while i was away i learned a lot about who i am and how i want to present myself and how that means i will be changing somethings that i might be resistant to changing. i got back home and started to doubt id really changed at all while i was away, and i was just fooling myself as well as all of the people i met while i was out there. but hearing this, i can acknowledge that i did make changes, and they were real, and i dont have to get down on myself or make up reasons to invalidate myself and the things i learned. change is slow and gradual and when you have finally put in the many little steps over and over again, then you can realise you were right to believe in yourself, because look how far you've come.
this video couldn’t have come across at a better time for me - I couldn’t stop watching and listening once I started because of how compelling and affirming your words were. thank you for putting this out there, you’re an inspiration
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
i'm really glad i found this video, it helped me calm down, your presence is really comforting :)
I’m so happy to hear that 💕 thank you friend :)
listened to the whole thing. because you were being vulnerable and being yourself. and speaking fundamental truths. thank you, you helped me on my journey as a human. much appreciation for your existence on earth
i wanted to but couldn't cry for a few weeks now. i gave up on being functional today and just sat around in my bed watching cartoons. after that your video found me. at first i thought, funny, how it's in a lot of ways matt d'avelia but for girls. i'm here for it. the more i listened the more i felt hugged, and the tears broke out. thank you.
This is pure golden energy and so tangibly honest & true and such an overwhelmingly welcome existential reminder . Thank you for sharing.
i watched this whole thing through. didn’t think i would or that i could but i did and i don’t regret it one bit. this was beautiful honestly i loved all every second. thank you for this :)
I really appreciate you :)
You're honestly so beautiful, your soul warms my heart.
watched all the way thru, you have so much wisdom and beauty, go you girl
American girl, I love listening to you, the way you talk is so calming.
thank you so much. i’ve been suffering about how to show up and overcome my self doubt. i don’t have any confidence right now. i have a lot of insecurities and i think it’s affecting my life. i can’t be the best version of myself
I understand. This community is here for you and we are on this journey together. Sending you so much love
This video led me to the awareness I needed in a moment of despair. Thank you for believing in the possibility of someone listening to every word you have to say because looking at these notes it’s truly eye opening and amazing to see the support you shared, that you also have worked with. It is inspiring and I know it may not have been easy, but still. Thank you so much for your courage. I know the little-you would be proud. Just as the little-me is now more excited than ever to walk into a room to let the whole world know who she is and how that can be welcoming for others who may be struggling with seeing themselves as the amazing person they are or anything else for that matter❤️
I hope lots of people see this. You deserve all the recognition people are giving. Thank you! I especially like the part about holding space for yourself and having grace to grow. Its possible to be a confident person while having feelings of insecurity sometimes, those moments don't define us, its the consistent way we speak to ourselves after those moments that will define us❤
Thank you for saying this ❤️ it means the world to me! You’re so right :)
I used to watch your earlier videos on my other account so so so much. They've always resonated in a beautiful way. I found this video in my suggested, and I am so so happy to see your videos again but years later. So much growth has happened throughout that time. I am proud of you and your journey :)
You have no idea what it means to me that you’re still here ❤️
I watched and listened all the way! It’s so nice to hear that someone else has the same struggles as me and that there is a way to overcome them ❤
you are about to change my life! thank you for sharing your self love.
You got this ❤️ thank you for listening
Oh wow I love your message, this is the only "confidence" video I have ever finished
What a compliment! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for this. It's so helpful to hear from someone who has done this work and seen actual, tangible results.
For me (and I think many others,) the most challenging aspect of self-acceptance is the need for sincere belief in that "confident" or "ideal" version of yourself. It's easy to fall into the trap of understanding all of the positive self-talk as something that's kind and compassionate but ultimately untrue, like the white lies we all tell each other from time to time: "That dress looks amazing on you," "Your work sounds very rewarding," "Everything happens for a reason," etc. etc.
But that's *not* what self-acceptance is about. It's about recognizing and focusing on the *actual truth* that you *already are* the person you want to be. You just sometimes forget to act like it.
I hear you, and thinking about your experiences from an insecure individual to working your struggles to become the better version of your current self is so insightful. I have been struggling with confidence myself these past years and hearing from a fellow person struggling in these things, creates a feeling of relief that I'm not alone in this journey along with the 902k viewers. Sharing your experiences and becoming vulnerable to the internet inspired me to tackle the path of discomfort for the betterment of myself. I can't take you enough for inspiring me, a literal stranger from a corner of the world. This has been a pleasant experience, please continue with your videos! Also, I want to highlight of you sharing the process, in this method, it has created insightful ideas and I hope I get to share this to others one day. Again, thank you for sharing!
the level of thought you must’ve put into this topic shows intensely. even the small details like the flower arrangements you make every week moves mountains for me.
the authenticity above all else makes your dedication and perseverance shine like gemstones. i wish i could listen to you talk about this for hours. but 30 minutes will have to do
thank you for sharing your experiences
This means a lot to me. Thank you 🙏 ❤️
I listened to this whole video while getting ready this morning and I wanted to say, thank you❤️
I listened to all of this and I think this was genuinely a very good video on confidence. I've seen quite a few and this is definitely the best that I've seen in a while. I actually avoided clicking on it in my feed for a while cus these videos are usually all the same and pretty unhelpful but you did a really great job - the posture thing especially resonated with me
This video was so good. So sincere and refreshing. I feel like I've been feeling so down and not confident for the last 3 years (at least) , and just now I heard words that I really needed.