What About Polyamory?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.พ. 2019
- Polyamory sounds like a fantastic idea: all the joys of exploration and all the security of a solid relationship. But can the reality really measure up?
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As someone who is in a functional yet not perfect polyamorous relationship I find most of the comments here to be misrepresenting polyamority and being very against it. Talk about everything with the person and I mean everything down to how you have sex. Be like best friends who aren't afraid to share. Of course you need honor your emotions and feelings and be true to yourself about what you want from each individual. It's about love and growth not sex.
Acting is surprisingly good.
When you add more people into the equation it probably will become even more complicated than what a monogamous relationship can be.
now that's a statement I can get behind. I've been scrolling through the comments and they're full of vitriol and hyperbole, and it's pretty sad ...
As an overly anxious person, I find it hard to keep up with one romantic interest at a time, I cannot imagine having to juggle several interests all at once, rather than enjoyable I see that as something extremely exhausting. But whatever floats your boat as they say.
Me ☝️
Jealousy: *exists*
Some people go crazy when they try to love and care for only one person, but the opposite can happen when some people try to do the same for more than one person. When I was younger and more naive, I genuinely cared about everyone in the world, but it drove me insane and I eventually learned that I have a capacity to only care for so many people. If I tried to love more than one person intimately, I would probably drive myself crazy, becuase sometimes even just one person is a lot to handle. That being said, everyone is different in their capacity to care and love.
‘Open your mind’
‘No you shut your legs’ ... lol
Sooooooo she’s not gonna tell him she cheated with “Moe”?? I guess not unless he somehow feels the need to ask, then she can be “Radically Honest” 😩🤦🏾♂️
Personally, my heart wouldn’t allow me to love more than one person in a romantic way. But If that is what works for you you should not be ashamed of it and just go for it
Polyamory without total honesty is pure madness.
Polyamory is different from a relationship where you can sleep with other people and not commit to them.
I think what school of life is saying is that monogamy may be a response to us being human, to us being fragile and having our own weaknesses as a result of being human. I don't think their saying, "
go fix yourself so that you can be polyamorous, but rather to own what being human means and what it comes with that. Not that that necessary means that polyamory won't work for some.
It always be a biased issue when one don't really knows what love is. Sex is not love, posession is not Love, ego is not love.
a lot of ppl can't even find one partner whom they could trust; and you talking about having many 😹
Do whatever makes you happy. But for Christ's sakes, give your partner a heads up before you assume they're on board with this. For example, if someone tells you before you have a relationship with them that they are definitely monogamous, maybe don't agree to be in a monogamous relationship with them.... only to wait until they've invested a year, and inform them that they need to be cool if you fall in love with someone else. At which point you have the temerity to expect them to just suck it up,, and accept the that you want to invest Your Love in and screw other people all of a sudden, and insist that all of us "sit down like adults and figure out how this is going to work out between the three of us" ( regardless of the fact that we didn't agree to be in a polyamorous relationship from the beginning, and specifically so.) Fuck that noise. Just keep it between yourselves. If you want to be polyamorous, be with polyamorous people. I think that's really mature and really beautiful. Also really mature and really beautiful, monogamy for people who are monogamous in nature. Not fucking with people who are monogamous and insisting they need to change. Fuck on your own side of the fence. Be okay with that.
Polyamory isn't for everyone. But as long as all parties are knowing and consenting, I can't see anything wrong with it. I know a couple married for 10 years, and they allow each other to have their fun with others. But to make one thing special for them: Their bedroom is off limits to others but themselves. They can hook up at others' places or use the guest bedroom or couch - but their own marriage bedroom is their personal special bed that no one else can use. That way there's a little something special that's only between their marriage to keep one another special.
As a monogamously minded person who has tried (and failed) to adapt to polyamory for the sake of a supposedly woke but actually recklessly promiscuous (both emotionally and physically) partner, I found this both a bit contrived and also way too real. The offended commenters are fascinating - I interpreted this video to be depicting the failure of polyamory and the enduring emotional advantages of monogamy. Promoting polyamory it is not, but it does demonstrate the common emotional guilt trip of feeling too “weak” & human to rise to its lofty ideals. But I guess that even admitting the concept of poly exists and that monogamy maybe isn’t perfect either is way too triggering for some people 😂 I find this almost encouraging; unlike a lot of liberal content, at least this channel isn’t just preaching to the choir. Clearly lol!
I am not sure if I like polyamory or if i would ever try it,but I just like the thought that every person has something new to offer to you,that can make you grow as a person,new ideas etc. one person cant give you everything life has to offer
If your girlfriend is reading a book on polyamory your relationship is probably over lol
I feel like thats the sort of thing you need to start out in not gradually shift to
The thing is that if you’re not in a stable, trusting relationship, you should absolutely not try polyamory/open relationships. You can’t build new relationships like that if the foundation is compromised.
Not only that but infidelity exists in polyamorous relationships - you set out the rules with your partner so if one of the rules is that they need to know the people you’re with and you keep one or more partners on the side unbeknownst to your partner, that’s still considered infidelity.
LordWinter I would agree with that. I've been burned by buy a polyamorous person who wasn't completely honest from the get-go. I am monogamous. It's where I'm at. I'm okay with that. I'm okay with people being polyamorous. But I think it's something you already are in the beginning, I don't think you can turn into a polyamorous person anymore and I can turn into a fire hydrant. I could be wrong about that, but this is my understanding as I have seen things. Even sometimes the people who are raised that way don't go that way comfortably.
based on what people I know have experienced, it does seem possible to slowly 'turn' poly, and for many people it seems to be a long and ongoing process. however, I do agree that it probably won't work for an already existing relationship unless both people are genuinely interested and very, very honest with themselves and each other. anything else will probably result in the end of the relationship.
*Mixed feelings intensify* I'm polyamorous, so this was obviously scary to click on, but... I can't even tell what the point is. My boyfriend said after watching it that it doesn't really seem to be helpful for anyone, and I have to agree. It sounded like cheating at one point, which is very much not the same as polyamory. It sounded like you were saying monogamous people are weak, but also that polyamory can't work. I just don't understand the message here.
Edit: it's also not something you can just start in the middle of a relationship. You have to lay that shit on the table first chance you can lest someone gets hurt.
Less than a century ago, interracial (especially Black male, White female) couples were as taboo if not more so than polyamory is today. Now a video about polyamory starts by featuring an interracial couple. I wonder what we will be discussing 100 years from now.
I honestly can't do that but if that's what floats your boat, then go ahead lol
To each their own. One person is difficult enough as it is. For me.
I'm confused whether the comments- saying they're disgusted and angry- are AGAINST polyamory and they just looked at the title, or they are FOR polyamory and they don't like that guy for throwing away the books.
I think a lot of them didn't even watch until the end...
My views on polyamory ? If it's what makes people happy and fulfilled, go for it ! If it's monoamory that makes you happy and fulfilled, then go for it too ! As an ace and aro person, the only way i can imagine a sort of relationship that is beyond friendship or family is with another ace aro person or a polyamorist. Because I think if the polyamorist has their other needs fulfilled in other relationships, we could have our own without sex or romantic stuff. More like a profond friendship with share or something like that, a relationship we build in our own terms. Sorry if you don't understand my words, english is my third (or fourth) language^^
Cheating and polyamory are not the same thing. Being honest *up front* is the whole point.
So wait she cheated on him, didn't tell him. Now they live happily ever after. modern American love story
I was in a poly relationship last year, it was amazing until the minute it wasn’t. Then it was the worst.
isnt that just the same with any relationship that goes bad?
Monogamous relationship also doesn't guarantee lifetime satisfaction. That's just your experience, sad that it didn't work out, but it is still your personal experience.
Amit Kumar Rai actually , relationship isn’t about lifetime satisfaction. It is about creating something together, being there for someone else when needed, knowing that someone is covering Your back; satisfaction is just a part of love
@@acfatemi Agree! But my response was to a particular person in a particular context here.
Same here...I was so happy until it got too complicated and everyone ended up hurt. My primary and I broke up too and its opened my eyes to the issues I was hiding from in poly..I hope it works for some people. I am too broken to make it work. I did my best..goodluck to anyone pursuing love in any sense. Its never easy
I’m in a polyamourus relationship right now and couldn’t be happier. We have been together for two years. But its not for everyone, and just like monogamous relationships each polya one is unique
Fact is we're not perfect nor perfectly rational, and we never will be
Man im going to church today
When you are in a relationship but still want to see other people
I agree.
When you want to let everyone else smash but need someone to help you pay the bills
This isn't new. This was the idea of many ancient American cultures. That we don't possess one another. And we're free to see who we please. I don't think capitalism has anything to do with why polyamory isn't popularized in modern times. I'd blame Christianity. Roast me if you want to.
I think it could possibly work in certain situations, but you’ll have to have a certain level of maturity and trust that the majority of people don’t have.
In a perfect world the open relationship concept could work but with people being what they are jealousy and insecurities could easily take root.
Therefore very few couples could be able to pull it off.
This is really beautiful. I love how well it's made, and the spirit behind it. And the final tag about being more perfect and rational is amazing!
Wtf? Monogamy has been around before capitalism or an abstract understanding of market economics in general.
Wtf Buddhist thought was not polyamory!
Polyamory is fine for people who really understand what it means. The key is honesty and openness between all parties. It doesn't necessarily involve sex.
My girlfriend and I are polyamorous and have been together for over 6 months. We have a beautiful loving honest and respectful relationship which is far more open and feels far more rational safe than any other relationship I’ve had. This video seems to have very little point to me. The conversations seemed vaguely realistic and the point that monogamy is the easy option as it is pretty much the default one is valid but this film seemed not really to know where it was going or what it wanted to say.
I cant understand polyamory, not because i am a possessive person (i am certainly not), but i personally feel that investing in a relationship takes a lot of time and energy, but most importantly INTIMACY. So what i really dont understand, is how can people be so intimate with so many people without this affecting the quality of their sensitivity toward one person, that person that we feel close to more than anyone else.
This question rises for me when i see actors in very intimate love scenes, and i ask myself, now that they can do this with a perfect stranger, do they feel the same with their real partners, is the quality of a touch the same ? is sensitivity as intense ?
Anyway !
Yes! I wonder the same thing myself. Maybe it differs, depending on how sensitive you are? Maybe some people don't really get to a profound level of intimacy, preferring multiple "less intimate" relationships?
I wondering if that’s like saying i couldn’t Truly love my parents because there’s two of them. If I only had one parent, then I would truly be able to love them.
Love becomes a Lifestyle Choice more and more.
Sometimes i feel like i am not normal because this Love/relationship ideas from the 60s are becomming more and more popular, Sex often seems to be more about stimulation than about trust and commitment.
I do not want to love more than one person.
I dont want so share my partner with someone other.
This is the kind of relationship i want.
Take it or leave it.
I usually really like the perspectives of the School of Life, and was hopeful to see a possible expansion to include polyamory. But this video doesn't address polyamory as being a committed mutual relationship with three or more people... instead, it showed a couple attempting ethical non-monogamy, disliking it, and giving it up... which is fine, but it doesn't address what different successful situations can be like. And then the text frames polyamory as an attack on monogamy... Which feels, by extension, homo/bi/panphobic, since the likelihood of there being non-hetero love in a relationship with more than two ppl is really high. Was that this channel's intent?
GET A BIGGER BED FIRST!! DAAAAMN!!
All I want to add is that school of life needs to rethink how they make these videos. In most of their polyamory videos they say things like " stupid irrational people aren't good enough to handle polyamerous relationships" and that makes people who favor monogomy feel attacked. And no one who feels attacked will listen to anything you say no matter how true it is or not. Just saying.
People like you are why they call us the snowflake generation. Grow up.
I think you're missing the point. Humans aren't always rational beings and we certainly aren't perfect. If you noticed they even mentioned "if WE were a little more perfect and rational". Emotion is not always rational, art is not always rational, our responses aren't always rational. They were pointing to the human condition, not exactly only to monogamous individuals and then calling them irrational. Not saying then the opposite, that palymoury is not for any of us because humans aren't rational. Just that it's a bit more complicated then a clear cut answer. Irrationality isn't always a bad thing, life would be boring and people would be robots. What logic lies behind painting a picture or writing a song? Spending hundreds of thousands of dollars looking for extra terrestrials? Years of research and even more money to send people to the moon just to say "we did it first"? Mourning a loved one that we've lost even years after they've gone? A tad bit of irrationality is part of what makes us human and I'm glad it is, as life would be a whole lot bleaker without it. Palymoury may be the logical answer but we aren't pure logic, we are human. (To clarify, not saying that monogamy is irrational at all. Just that people may try to find palymoury as a logical answer to a broken relationship but this isn't necessarily a good answer)
@@sebastianelytron8450 And what kind of person would that make you? Finding a comment that may be quick to say "they are judging" and then to say that the person who made the comment is a problem. They atleast had a point presented from a calm argument. And all you have to say is, "you're the reason why they call us the snowflake generation"? Could you atleast give the benefit of the doubt or refute with an argument rather than reading an invalid argument and then claiming the person is the problem?
@@isaach.1135 "Feeling attacked" is not a valid reason to stop listening (even and especially when, as OP said, what's said is true)
Polyamory isn’t for everyone, or even most people. A lot of times it can be a way to escape the unfulfilled desires and curiosity one has. However, this video basically shows polyamory as about “fucking everyone” and concludes with them throwing those dumb polyamory books in the trash. TAKE THAT. I find this video to be really lacking of different perspectives. It might’ve been better if they got the idea from a healthy functioning poly couple, because those do exists. This video treats polyamory as a failed philosophical position and not something many people find fulfilling even if those people aren’t the majority. The whole narrative also justifies all the people who are judgmental about the couples decision to do polyamory rather then be supportive. Doing a video like this that has a narrative is much different then just making a philosophical argument like usually happens on this channel. In conclusion, really disappointed by this video, but I hope this series can improve in the future.
Is the first woman in the video also the voice at the end of it, as well as the voice in other videos?
my thoughts on the video: while I appreciate you guys dealing with important relationship topics in new and creative manners (the acting was pretty good on this one!), this video seemed pretty onedimensional in substance, mostly due to you pushing the idea of poly being the ideal, perfect mindset in the end, without supporting it in any way. I feel that's what has many people feeling offended and attacked and stops them from engaging with the topic in any way. it just feels judgmental, as if mono-minded people were somehow lacking in the emotional and intellectual skills necessary to achieve 'proper' relationships. you probably didn't mean it that way, but the result stays the same.
anyways, I'm glad there is still a little bit of engagement and conversation happening in the comments. I do think there is a lot that can be learned about relationships in general by engaging with this topic, and I'll gladly watch future videos on the matter!
*But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.*
I think for some people this can work and it has the capability to be beautiful, but if done right. Also I see a lot of poly people putting down monogamous people. Its depressing to see these beautiful souls throwing judgement to others when we should all be practicing love.
It's probably retaliation more than anything. Just take a look at the other comments around here. lol
@@sparrowseven6022 right, like when will people on both sides of this learn that it doesnt need to be explained...like do what you want...I'm monogamous but you dont see me trying to spread my monogamy on others lol..it doesnt need validation
My husband and I just had one of our best friends come out yo us as a polyamory couple. The wife introduced a girlfriend. The husband littelry broke down to my husband and I. I was shocked how hard my husband took it. It really upset him and I. We always know this couple to be so adorable but you can see how it only benefits one side. Selfish in opinion unless both sides are completely on board
A solution to the tensions and compromises of a long term relationship ship? That IS a long term relationship. Others are free to do as they wish, however, though my opinion still remains that sacrificing what you could have in other people to make an effort cooperating with one is the most healthy and mutually beneficial love.
A little bit of constructive criticism.
I loved the idea of the serie in the last video but inmeaditaly thought that it was going to be a little bit on the nose. Specially when speaking about "the deepest questions" and "the meaning of life". And that is what i see in this short. Everything is rushed, i barely care for the couple and the emotional ups and downs of the characters are way too fast. I hope to see more of this but with the adequate development. Personally, i think the mini series "People Watching" on the channel Cracked is pure gold and aims in the same direction.
As i said before, i love the idea. But that is not enough, the execution is the most important part. For the moment, this series feels overall incomplete. This doesnt mean it is step in the right direction. As an old subscriber and reader of blog, i am very fond of this channel and its content. I will never unsubscribe but the substance is starting to feel quite repetitive. Even more after reading it on the site.
Well thats all. I really hope this can be usefull to someone. And if its not, remember i am just an online commenter pretending to be an expert. Au revoir!
Being polyamory only works if you’re single
Trying to re-invent the wheel again, only it may be more helpful to listen to other people who have tried it, It isn’t ownership just the appeal of commitment as very sexy. You can still be aware of oneness with the many as a Spiritual practice
Wrong wrong wrong. Accepting it, does NOT mean you have to act on it. And NEVER throw away books. It shows a lack of understanding of acceptance. True Acceptance frees the mind.
I'm personally monogamous, but I found this video super thought provoking. Don't listen to all of these negative nellies, you're ahead of your time!
I don't understand the downvotes. The video was very well written, very well played and amazingly relatable! Very human. And I loved it!
My problem is it isn't based on anything other than opinion. It's an emotional plea with no philosophical or scientific foundation to back up the claims they are making. They used to be much better laying out the reason and premises that lead to their conclusions. They have stopped doing so perhaps out of laziness or are simply expressing opinions now without an argument.
If that's the case I can get unwarranted opinions just about anywhere, the local church, street corner, the pub down the road,... It's fine to have an opinion on something but if it's not backed up by more than gut feelings I simply couldn't care less what that opinion is and I'm not sure why anyone else should either.
I didn't downvote but I'm sure as hell not going to give it a thumbs up.
If TSoL pump out the amount of vids they do just for couples, adding more to the equation should be fun.
In fact, this is probably a subtle plan to screw us all up some more so we need TSoL more. :)
1:22 Woah, don't bring capitalism into this.
Nessie Andrew just watched this part
yep.. this channel is going deep with the agenda.
People in here using the term “degenerate” unironically, as if there is a universal definition for normalcy. Just don’t hurt other people and be honest.
Samwhey Gnarly there is a universal definition of normalcy when that's what 90%+ of people do it
Lol monogomy is a construct of capitalism 😂
I liked this channel back when you where using reason and rationale to present an argument with substance to your audience.
You have instead begun to make videos like this, pronouncements and conclusions with no substance. Where are you getting this answer? What are your premises? Are you looking Any actual data or have some philosophical framing to back up your statements?
I'm 90% sure I agree with what little argument you made here but this video was lazy, pandered to emotion and as far as I can tell the rock bottom for you guys intilectually.
I want reasoned arguments of substance, pronouncements are handed out weekly at any church or soapbox. You can do better,... You have done better. Be better.
There's a difference between pointing out the reality of polyamory; pointing at the gaping holes in the myth of monogamy- and living as though jealousy and fragility didn't exist. I will always point it out that monogamy and marriage have always been a social construct, but I won't say that people should use that as an excuse to just do whatever. Furthermore, the real issue with the reality of polyamory is that there are laws that force monogamy onto people, and this just shouldn't be the capacity of a society. If you marry someone and you don't mesh, it's not anyone else's business whether you stay together or split. Divorce is costly and a legal mess. It should be a cleaner break because that shit winds up screwing with children the most. Polyamory is the reality of the human psyche because we are driven by natural impulses to procreate. So, when a husband cheats, or a wife cheats, or the two are simply annoyed or miserable with each other, it should be very simple to separate, especially when either have been reported as abusive. But socially constructed norms have made it so that abusive parents are a constant pox, and divorce is a long and drawn out dog and pony show that gets in the way of everyone's daily lives.
I'm just here to say that monogamy isnt a social construct. Humans do have neurological structures and processes found in other monogamous animals but not to the extent that we are completely monogamous
If someone is in a monogamous relationship and then proposes to switch to polyamorous, they are shady. If someone gets caught cheating and proposes it, they are extremely shady.
Bottom line! Exclusivity DOES NOT EQUAL Commitment. Repressing your subconscious desires is not the same as commiting to someone. It has never been about whoring around. It's about loving people in a way where you do not want to restrict them at all. Even sexually. And where both parties equally enjoy the fact that other person is enjoy themselves and that it does not make people love you less. Love is not a finite resource. Do you decide you love your father and then you have no capacity to care about your mother? Well the same is true of relationships you don't stop loving your partner the moment you kiss someone else. You only don't love someone if you lie or hide things. So if we communicate everything. And are honest. It could work fine.
I personally don't believe in marriage, but raising children could be messy. Idk the logistics yet but I'm only 23 and I'm quite happy in my 4.5 year polyamourous relationship.
I am dissapointed with this representation of a Polyamory couple because it is the epitome of stereotypes and what you expect to happen, normalizing all the friends dissaproval and dramatizing the womans cognitive dissonance and dishonesty nevermind revealing the real reason for their trial to be the womans desire for someone else. It would have made more sense to show multiple couples/individuals in different situations living their pollyamory lifestyle- instead of one depiction of kids trying to figure it out. If this is what sticking to one perspective looks like I would have rather not seen it. Thanks for covering this I guess.. and solidifying for many their negitive stigmas. Using the word "perfect"...really?
If you by chance make another video expanding on perspectives, Id like to see a relationship that began as a polyamory one and stayed one, showing some strugles they faced and how they overcame them and how it can be for some people, while also not being for everyone- and maybe hitting base on attatchment styles too. Another idea, monogomus person falls for a polly folk, they struggle with the adgustment and falls for their partners lover and how they would all handle that and how it might look after the passion and confusion dies down and it just 3 people that love eachother living their lame lives. Just an example, there are plenty real life examples to choose from- not saying this video doesnt roughly depict someones actual experince - but it is so unbearably biased and fitting into every stereotype that this must have wrote its own self! Leads me to beleive that there must not have been a single person practicing polyamory on your team. Showing some of the actual struggles in polyamory and explaining why it can't be for everyone would have not only been the better thing to do for education and understanding's sake but it also would have been a better watch. Ya'll can write better scpript than this, come on!❤
And I can't seem to work one out...
School of Life hits the lowest of lowest mixing type of love to political and economic type. ( 7 mins is not enough to explain polyamory ). One thing always will remain constant: Every great company starts to become popular with great quality content(service) after time takes over the quality material degrades over time when views are not dependent on quality anymore.
Whatever works for you. Just be happy and fulfilled and content and honest with yourself and those in your life.♡♡♡♡
This. If people want open relationships, be swingers, wife sharing, etc. I'd rather they did that than turn to crime, drugs, etc.
@@acfatemi just report him and be done with it
Damien Blackthorne at the expense of others????
Im so disapointed with the comment section... I thought viewers of tsol are on particular relatively high vibration, but i was so wrong. It repels me from using your app to socialise...
The atmosphere on the app is different. Most users are kind and very open-minded.
Low key tho,the irony is that most people are living this type of relationship and don't realize it,that's why cheating is so high
Cheating on someone, and being in a poly relationship aren't the same. Ya see, cheating on someone means the other person doesn't know their partner is with someone else. When in a poly relationship multiple people, who all are aware of each other, love each other without jealousy
All I need is one woman. If she needs more then one man then toodles.
I disagree with polyamoury, more people equals more problems. I'd rather have quality over quantity, love, I personally feel would get diluted with more people. I don't see it as the logical solution that any rational person would come to. It may be for a few people but not everyone, I also don't see monogomy as a "brain washing" from society. Although monogomy isn't the natural state of humans neither is polyamoury. We've been polygamous for hundreds and thousands of years, the primitive idea that only a few men had the right to breed. I don't agree with that either but our minds still work that way in a fundamental level. I think it's a cold and dry thing to share someone you love, moments stop being special when they're not exclusively with you. That's just my two cents though.
Whenever polyamory or some type of open relationship subjects are discussed the cover image is always of a mix ( black and white) couple.
I love how even though this channel tends to the left philosophically, they still made the honest case that monogamy isn't a capitalist conspiracy ~ it's natural
Polyamory would work if we were all perfectly rational and in complete control of our emotions. Unfortunately that is far from the case. Add to that the hassles of managing shared assets, children and family relationships with all your lovers and you’ve got a recipe for disaster.
I don’t think such relationships are wrong or degenerate but simply they’re too much of a pain in the ass to make successful over the long term compared to a monogamous couple.
This is a very strange video, it kind of raises and opinion or view point and then just fucks it off with the idea that we are emotionally invested in these characters enough to care about their relationship as if we've been following them for long enough to care.
I dont understand the purpose of this video
I just watched the previous I guess trailer for this series, are these characters lives going to continue in future videos?
I don't need to be polyamorous because I can have the woman I actually want
I agree.
Mate Marijan THaT mEAnS yOU WanT tO oWn HeR
Polyamory is working pretty well for me. To each his/her own I guess.
And do you genuinely love them?
I would guess they do, considering they said it was "working pretty well" for them.
Happy Valentine's I guess 😂
It's usually the one who is sexually tired of the person he/she is involved with, or who's a psychopath who craves excitement and *can't* put down roots with just one partner, who broaches the topic of opening one's...erm, mind!
How do I unsubscribe from the people in your comments section?
I'm all for monogamy and being faithful, etc. But as a straight guy I know for a fact that deep down every red blooded man alive has fantasies of multiple women, threesomes, etc. Does NOT mean we should act it though!
Sebastian Elytron you’re social conditioning is insane. Women love multiple partners and many fantasize about multiple guys at once. Making this about “red blooded” is Beta male virtue signaling.
Go learn evolutionary biology mate. Women's desire for multiple men is nothing compared to men's desire for multiple women.
Why shouldn't we ?
So is it is folly to expect a man to be faithful? Please tell me. Very confused here.
@@sebastianelytron8450 it is not as simple as you make it out to be. Many females in many species will mate with multiple males and that for a number of reasons.
1. females will have offsprings of different males, therefore spreading the risk that their one partner produces only shit offsprings.
2. even for a single impregnation some females will have sex with multiple males. the "healthiest" sperm will make it, unhealthy sperm will fail.
3. food. in some species the female will attract many males, mate with some but ultimately eat them all. this is a good source of proteins
Having said all that.. it actually doesn't really matter what other species do. If some people are happy having multiple relationships, just let them be. be offended by something else, like the US government shutting down because of incompetent politicians.
the idea of sharing my partner with someone else and calling that love makes me physically sick. I will never support polyamory.
I agree too much.
So just because it won't work for you makes it unviable for everyone else?
@@JonAaargh How can you support something you can't practice or don't like at all? Do you support politicians you look down upon because their ideas might be seen as good ideas by somebody else?
@@mattpck your example is missing the point. If you are straight and can't fathom to have gay sex, does that mean every gay person is wrong and needs to be corrected ?
Same with polyamory, if it doesn't work for you that's ok. But keep your nose out of other people's business
@@mattpck By simply acknowledging their right to exist ,treat people who are in those relationships with respect like everyone else and simply be a decent human being?
Support in this case isn't specified any further but from the context and phrasing I just derived the conclusion that this person is going to shame people for their orientation and thus far I felt the need to point out that this person maybe should reconsider their Ideas.
Your analogy lacks any connection to this sort of situation whatsoever btw.
I'm glad they used a black guy because otherwise I wouldn't have been able to know if they are racist or not
Do you have to have a lisp to get a leading role in your videos? Anyway, I find their lisps super sexy and adorable. Also agree with the message!
Monogamy is the most stable form of relationship for humans it's been practiced for thousands of years there's plenty of research on this I don't understand why none of it was presented in the video, its a pretty dangers practice for relationships it really shouldn't be underestimated.
So people dislike the video because they think polyamori is stupid?In the end they live monogenous. is your attentionspan so Bad or what. if you dont like finding a truth through this form or art (movie/video) or dont like the quality of this art you should stop watching netflix, cause 90%of it is complete spectacular attentionseeking bullshiat with no deeper truth to it
It's sad how the comments turned into a place of hate instead of a discussion about the many forms that we can express love.
Murilo Coelho Pires de Almeida How is it sad? There are people who find the idea of ‘polyamory’ truly horrible. Are they not allowed to think and feel the way they do?
@@kornuithildr4129 They are allowed, but what we see here it's just plain offensive. Not a discussion with arguments and respect.
They want to browbeat us into their reproduction only sex life. Sad.
@@kornuithildr4129 Everyone is free to say how polyarmory doesn't work for them, but outright calling people "degenerative" or similar really does not qualify as a base of an intellectual and mutually respectful discussion
Murilo Coelho Pires de Almeida People like you are the most annoying kind of virtue signaller. Everything, and everyone that disagrees with you is hateful huh?
"Capitalism has taught us..." That right there makes that idea discardable
OMG these two again 😅
What about it?
love is a verb 😚
What ever works for you I guess, just know that 99% of the time it's a mistake and you're opening the box of Pandora. Beeing together with somebody for a long time is work and if you don't treat it like that, the reality about it will hit you hard and you will think that it's not working out.
But if you acknowledge that there will be hard times and struggle, then your relationship will be ready for hard times and survive.
And surely the answer is not to bang around with other people bc the sex got boring. This won't fix anything and will estrange you from your partner.
Very nice video. 2 thumbs up
Wow this makes such a profound observation and so subtly, at first I was skeptical about School of Life's switch to 'sketches' as opposed to their earlier animated shorts but this proved me wrong. I'm glad it did. ❤️
Don't know why people downvote this video. For me, that I've been always a superficial supporter of polyamory, it's been eye-opening
Don't talk about V.D....S.T.D.'s...just find your freedom....B.S. I know couples that are now dead because there outside lovers were not very honest. AID's,Herpes ETC. is the risk you take....relationships are built on TRUST. Trust in judgment,NOW... who gave who what? Who's child is it and what do they now have.........
Jealousy will always be a tough nut to crack. Evolution can be a bitch.
And here I thought the people who frequented this channel were mature.
The comment section would like to disagree, it seems.
Everyone who disagrees is immature and I am the only mature person in this comment section because I agree, right?