Very true. And even after learning, it can still be very difficult for those who haven't been allowed to express or process their feelings in the past.
Most people don't have time, by the time life finishes making it's constant demands and we finally find ourself. We have to crash course it like uni when we're young. Or we have to wait until we're retired.
This video should be translated and showed everywhere: at the bus stop, inside a mall, in cinemas before watching a movie. There’s so much unnecessary and unaware pain in the world just because no one has ever taught us the importance of doing inner work.
@@vega306 I tried, I translated dozens of their video on Croatian. They didn't want to accept it, waiting for comunity to do so, which nobody wanted and then TH-cam canceled those contributions of community and all translations got lost.
This comment section is so healing. I've been working on the hurt from a lost friendship a decade ago in therapy. People have always questioned why I care and can't just flip a switch and move on. However, I've always felt that a lot of people are dealing with things that they avoid and don't want to talk about and that it shows up in their lives in many other ways.
I've got free when I started to not be embarrassed about feelings. Let's feel, and feel it fully with our whole heart. Let's love without be afraid of being hurt.
damn this is kinda what i needed. im trying to move on from a situationship that happened some time ago and i always asked myself why do i process it for so long when most people stop caring after a week or a month. from observing my friends and other ppl i came to the conclusion that they don’t- it just becomes embarrassing to show that you’re still processing it but it comes back in different ways
I get stuck on relationships that don't work out because I want to understand why it didn't, and although sometimes that can bring some good clarity, sometimes it drives you crazy. It is so disheartening that my brain can comprehend the path to peace but not locate it. I try to remind myself that it's just one modest step at a time, not the entire journey today. Peace and love to you! 😊❤
@agnesg woah, this is exactly how I felt. I still remember when I had the realization that my logic and emotion didn't matter, that my brain was still ruminating and hurting over that broken relationship and I couldn't simply move on. 💔
@@missophelie3781 endo actually has a LOT to do with gut health. Theres emerging research on this topic. I also have endo and working on gut health has improved my condition.
I feel so unsafe. I have to stay on alert on the time. I am tired. I am getting bitter, pessimistic, unlively, and pretentious all the same time. Tired of popping in painkillers every single day. I wish I could leave everything and go to the mountains or something.
Talk to someone. A younger neglected, or hurt current part of you must be honored. I really hope you are able to find free resources or find a suitable therapist.
@@tobyokoi0909 yes I can talk to a friend may be. Can’t afford therapy. I earn bare minimum to survive. I also study alongside in hope of a better future. Thank you for taking time out to reply. I wish a good life for you my friend.
Please stay hopefull that there are still good people out there! If that is the reason you are getting bitter. Hope helps me out with that. Also just looking specifically for kindness around me. Also, about your pain, have you heard of 'the medical medium'? This book has helped me out with some health issues, so because of that I recommend it to everyone. Goodluck stranger!
I've dealt with abuse and drama and loss all my life by burying it deep down and moving on because I had to be strong for everyone in my life. At 51 I started having full blown anxiety attacks (sweaty palms, people talking sounding like bees far off or in a tunnel, tunnel vision and the desire to just be alone, not around anyone) Once again true to my nature, I view this as a weakness and try to hide this by withdrawing from everyone except work. At 56 I am now having nightmares, insomniac, physical health issues, grinding my teeth in my sleep, even sleep paralysis. All due to never taken care of my issues and shoving them down. It isn't a weakness dealing with your mental issues, I wish someone would have told me this and let me know true weakness is not allowing yourself to heal and get help in the beginning. If anyone is reading this and feels hurt, less than or dealing with loss, get help. You are worth it now and future you is depending on it. Blessings to all.
Sadly I have all those same issues and ailments too, teeth grinding, can't sleep, anxiety trembling, awful thoughts, OCD the list goes on, CPTSD, I have the issues
@@andrewrees8749Please find resources in your area, mental health professional, a group, Clergy, even putting your feelings in writing. You are not alone and are worth happiness and sleep :), Get a night teeth guard to keep from chipping your teeth or biting the inside of your mouth during rough nights. Good Luck to you, I truly wish you all the best in this crazy journey we call life.
Thank you for posting this comment. I am 42, I feel all of these things. I am afraid I am going to walk away from everything I love just because I cannot deal with the emotions I’m overwhelmed with from repressing pain. Only one time in my life I was successful for a one year period of ridding myself of the past emotions rising up. Your comment makes me feel I might have hope to deal with these things head on. I know I’m not blameless, my situation has caused me to use my emotions and inability to cope with them to hurt others as well. The time to let go and restart is now. As i cannot physically or emotionally continue without sleep. Thank you.
I grew up in a toxic familiy system. Emotions were never save or really allowed to have, especially not negative ones. I am so out of touch with them. I'm struggling with severe debilitating mental health issues and I seriously doubt that I will ever be able to overcame all these scars. It is so crucial to teach children how to deal with their emotions in a healthy way. Great video.
@@neann6 We'll see. I don't have much hope left after so many years and so little perspective. Maybe when I can overcome my severe depression. There's so many issues I have to work on.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
This is fascinating. I developed brain inflammation after a period of huge stress where I was suppressing my true feelings about a situation for two years. I partially lost my eyesight and got headaches, and the inflammation spread to both sides of my brain. The body keeps the score.
I suffered sever chest pain and back pain for almost 2 years out of chronic anxiety and boredom. I was a highly functional depressed employee for 3 years until I realized that my pain is psychosomatic.
Stress tends to exacerbate any kind of autoimmune issues. MS flares are notoriously triggered by stress. Stress can be physiological or emotional or physical. That much is scientific. But we can’t eliminate all stress, besides, even positive stresses can do that. And absolutely if we don’t deal with things in a healthy way, and are continually subjected to emotional stress, it’s going to weaken your entire immune system, which is highly influenced by your autonomic stress responses.
Speedy recovery! 🙏 I had something similar with the brain, but also seizures and hyperacusis developed driven by stress. Taken 7 months to fully recover thanks to docs! But changing my whole life and most importantly illuminated those stress triggers that caused it. It's a tough journey but do trust your docs and the bright happy future you have ahead 😊 Take care ❤
Always suppressed my emotions, now I’m dealing with lots of somatisations and depression. In life you will pay the price of everything, sooner or later.
i am 21 only, i was a happy kid once i dont remember much honestly, but then my dad drinking and mom shouting and their daily fighting police neighbours showing up at my house at 3 am at night somehow affected me i guess , i had a lot of bullying and a little sexual harrasment, verbal abuse?? i really dont care about it much honestly , life is tough , but like.i stay alone dont have any group of friends nobody with me , completely alone people say i need therapy some people who i got close to a very little bit , and they also say i need someone to take care of me. i honestly think sitting in a room talking about emotions isnt going to do, do anything . or idk i never knew what its like to be at peace my entire life i was just going through shit!! even in school and even at home .Well i sometimes ...i feel like i will go mad sooner , something inside me keeps telling me that .
@@chillvibes71 Therapy doesn’t just have to be talking about your feelings, although in my experience that can help more than you might expect. There’s therapies like EMDR that help encode traumatic memories like normal memories so they don’t cause so much disruption, there’s therapies that will look at things like your family systems and social supports. There’s a lot of options! It does take time to find a therapist that knows how to work with you but it is possible :)
@@chillvibes71felt this, can’t remember almost anything anymore but when I do I realize it’s better if I didn’t, there’s no switch we can push to become normal and handle the way life is now, and I don’t know how to take any of it. I hope we stay sane and get out ok
Even if it lasts a long time, continue with therapy. If you don't feel confident with a psychologist, you can try another. You're intelligent, not everyone dares to go to therapy. 🪴
that’s why meditating is life changing. i love this video. so so so true. i thought i had stomach problems for years, it hurt every single morning. it wasn’t until i started going to therapy and meditating that it stopped and then i realized it had always been my anxiety, not any problems with food.
i’ve had “morning sickness” for the past couple years as well. wake up early in pain, and it feels like there’s a knot in my stomach. on the worst days it feels like a stomach ulcer, and it’s almost impossible for me to get up. I’ve always resented therapists, so maybe I’ll try meditation instead
Me sorprendió verte aqui, pero al mismo tiempo no tanto para ser honesta. A veces estando tan clavado en el entretenimiento, uno podria llegar a olvidar o dejar de lado que la persona detrás de la pantalla también es un ser humano. Sé que sufres de problemas de ansiedad también, como muchas de las personas que estamos aquí. Suelo ir directamente a los comentarios cuando rondo por videos así. Sobre ansiedad, sobre depresión... Quizá buscando consuelo, quizá buscando una voz que represente las cosas que jamás puedo decir. Y solo quiero decir que fue lindo bajar a la sección de comentarios y sentir que vez a una cara familiar. Tu y yo, que no nos conocemos en realidad. Que en otras circunstancias solo somos Creador/consumidora, aquí somos lo mismo. Solo personas que luchan contra todo esto.
Wow that resonates. My gastroenterologist actually told me that it might be anxiety, not stomach problems, and hell it is true! Can't afford neither therapy or meditation sadly, so I have to live with it for a while
@@mauersegler Can't you meditate by yourself ? Maybe some videos on youtube can guide you, or using apps on your phone? Meditating is a solo activity, usually, so maybe you can start that way!
A few years back, Dr. Suzanne O'Sullivan wrote a book called 'It' s all in your head'. Wise and insightful book about psychosomatic illnesses. Interesting she says that nowadays, food is blamed for our tiredness, bloating etc etc. Even the sanest and most balanced of us suffer with psychosomatic pain but we deny it so much. Fascinates me as to why? It's so human for psychological pain to be felt as physical pain but we don't want to believe it.
I do believe food plays a big part. Yet I simultaneously also feel that our minds might even play just that little bit more. Maybe a 40/60 ratio of food/mind when it comes to what affects our health. But food also affects our mindset. And our mindset affects what food we eat so it's all kind interlinked
As more research is being done on functional cognitive disorders as well as gut health in relation to our well-being, this argument is moving towards more psychologists agreeing that psychological pain/distress is intrinsically linked with physical pain/issues. I suppose denial may stem from stigmas around mental health?
@@tigerkahlua1609interestingly new research has suggested that the gut seems to have its own sort of consciousness, acting almost like a 2nd brain; affecting our decision making, hormones, and mood among other things
After my dad passed l flew home and had the worst lower back pain. After l went to the chiropractor he barely manipulated it and l had the worst sharp pain ever and l started to sob uncontrollably. He felt so bad he thought he hurt me. After l had that good cry, my back began to heal. I truly believe our emotions are held in different parts of our bodies and my grief at my dad’s passing manifested in my lower back.
hey regardless please dont go to chiropractors, they genuinely arent an evidence based practice! please go to a physio in the future. for your own safety
@@saltiestsiren not all of them. The ones who are only there for a paycheck yes absolutely but some people genuinely need chiropractic care due to serious and intense pain
@@sprixxcy9495or go to one with a good reputation. Chiropractors CAN help as long as they aren't the greedy kind and actually do their jobs instead of shifting you a bit and forcing you to come back forever.
@@SheyMirza nothing is stopping me really. I am in contact with her now. And I think we have this unspoken thing between us that we both had a loot to grow, we didn’t have harmful intentions for the other at the core at all, so a sorry right now sounds like maybe a little unneeded. But if I ever bumped into her in person, I’ll say my sorries then. 🙂
At the age of 16, I started growing random white hair. My mom plucked one hair and it was alternating between black and white. It ranged in centimeters. Almost like it was following patterns of stressful and good periods in my life. I've noticed strands of my hair turning white during extreme stress. And when I feel better, it can fully revert back. That was when I realized the way my body worked together with my mind
I've been in the same boat for twenty five years on my second marriage,the first one too. So hey I went to school in NM with a guy that has your same name.
This is definitely crazy, but it's true. When I'm anxious before a big exam, my stomach gets very upset. Last time, I was so anxious the week of, that the night of my sinuses swelled up and I became 99% congested. I couldn't breath through my nose even a little, but there was no mucus in my nose. Then when I got my heartbroken, I knew I experienced that heartbreak in my mind but I physically 💔 felt it in my heart. My heart physically ached at the loss of the relationship.
i have been anxious enough to start feeling sick. it was confusing at first but slowly I've been able to tell the difference between sick sick and anxiety sick
I feel the exact same way! I cannot breathe through my nose when im anxious. And my entire body will be in pain even though my doctor keeps telling me nothing is wrong.
A few years back, I was really struggling with depression and mental health issues. I was hooked on cigarettes and alcohol, but then my wife suggested I try psilocybin mushroom therapy. Honestly, it saved my life. It's been 11 years since I've been totally clean. Those shrooms are like a miracle.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in UK. Really need
Yep, so very true and I am an example for this video - extensive health issues of the last year, as underlying problems were not addressed for a while. Our bodies is a microcosm of hormones, starts with cortisol and then it imbalances prolactin, parasympathetic nervous system, etc. It's like a domino effect. Do look after yourselves people and don't neglect those negative emotions or situations roots for those ❤
after a big heartbreak, i've been sick and tiresome with severe shoulder pain. just when i've been pondering how my mental health might be causing adverse effects on my physical health... this pops up😂 guess my shoulder is screaming at me to let go of that avoidant bastard
Or maybe your shoulders are telling you that it was ok that you cared about him once upon a time, because you only wanted to be loved too. Just a thought.
I think this is where praying without ceasing would also have its literal benefits - when we bring every anxiety, every anger, even evil thoughts of envy and the like to God and settle it with Him. Maybe that's why there's a promise after commanding Christians to not be anxious about anything but praying about everything and making requests and petitions known to God and with Thanksgiving, and the PEACE of God which surpasses understanding shall guard the hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. And this peace, shalom, is literally wholeness - nothing missing and nothing broken. Amazing!
You reminded me of Jesus(peace be upon him). Let me share a gentle reminder with you. Almighty God says: "O People of the Book, do not exceed the limits of devotion in your religion or say anything about God which is not the Truth. Jesus, son of Mary, is only a Messenger of God, His Word, and a spirit from Him whom He conveyed to Mary. So have faith in God and His Messengers. Do not say that there are three gods. It is better for you to stop believing in the Trinity. There is only One God. He is too glorious to give birth to a son. To God belongs all that is in the heavens and the earth. God alone is a Sufficient Guardian for all." Qur'an (4:171) Almighty God says: " And [for] their saying, "Indeed, we have killed the Messiah, Jesus, the son of Mary, the messenger of Allah(God)." And they did not kill him, nor did they crucify him; but [another] was made to resemble him to them. And indeed, those who differ over it are in doubt about it. They have no knowledge of it except the following of assumption. And they did not kill him, for certain" Qur'an 4:157 "Certainly they disbelieve who say: Surely Allah, He is the Messiah, son of Marium; and the Messiah said: O Children of Israel! serve Allah, my Lord and your Lord. Surely whoever associates (others) with Allah, then Allah has forbidden to him the garden, and his abode is the fire; and there shall be no helpers for the unjust." Qur'an 5:72 " The Messiah, son of Marium is but an apostle; apostles before him have indeed passed away; and his mother was a truthful woman; they both used to eat food. See how We make the communications clear to them, then behold, how they are turned away." Qur'an 5:75 "And when Allah will say: O Isa son of Marium! did you say to men, Take me and my mother for two gods besides Allah he will say: Glory be to Thee, it did not befit me that I should say what I had no right to (say); if I had said it, Thou wouldst indeed have known it; Thou knowest what is in my mind, and I do not know what is in Thy mind, surely Thou art the great Knower of the unseen things." Qur'an 5:116 Then Jesus(peace be upon him) will say: "I did not say to them except what You commanded me to (say): ‘Worship God, my Lord and your Lord.’ I was a witness over them so long as I remained among them; and when You took me back, You were Yourself the Watcher over them. Indeed, You are Witness over everything. Qur'an 5:117 Peace.
I was alexithymic for most of my life. Moved out on my own when I was 24 and finally had the opportunity to start honestly examining my life. It’s been a couple hard years of cognitive behavioral therapy, shadow work, etc but it really does make all the difference.
This was a lifesaving video, one I needed to hear. My 17yo son actually shared it with me. As a parent, wife and daughter I have much to learn. Grateful for my son that is teaching me and grateful to you for your content.
Uploaded when I needed it the most. Whenever I try to repress my feelings my mind won't leave me alone until I've resolved my emotions. I would always feel so annoyed with myself for not being able to focus on my work whenever I felt emotional, but now I know this is an amazing mechanism, and I feel happier than ever now after listening to myself again. Thank you so much! :)
I am sorry self. I feel sorry for not speaking up early with the things I carried. My mom, I don’t know if she really cared with my mental health. I can’t remember good memories when in my childhood and I can only remember my suffering and anxiety attacks during my adolescence stage.
I developed high blood pressure from too much stress of being my father's caretaker. I also have a very strong fibromyalgia that flares up all the time I face a problem in my life. I had a childhood that didn't allow me to express my feelings, so my body learned to bottle up every feeling. I had my first panic attack when I was only 10.
I'm sorry for all this pain you're facing yet I hope you notice how strong you really are. If you ever feel like starting a journey towards feeling better I wish you to give yourself lots of love, compassion and patience. As someone that has lived repressing everything ever since I can remember, there will be many bumps on the road yet, You CAN do it! Lots of love, ❤
i was pressured to get good grades(like full marks) in my finals. it become a daily thing to remind me about my grades, i was expected to study all day stuck in room. i started dreading studying, the pressure was getting to me. i had headaches, i puked all the time, no appetite and intense fear of failure. this sort of physical reaction ended up manifesting even now. whenever my emotions get too intense, i experience headaches, coughing and puking with this sick feeling in my stomach.
Better understanding of how our psychology impacts our physiology and body will be the modern medical challenge. I hope the Western medical model can adjust to this necessary perspective shift.
It has in the Netherlands atleast, I can’t speak for the rest. We have PMT - Psycho Motoric Therapy, which makes patients understand the dynamic of psychology vs the body.
Hormones ... they are able to penetrate any cells or organs. Western medicine mostly focused on various organ systems without looking at our body as a more complex system
My friend who like esoteric and alternative medicine told me about this relation of mental problems and body pain. Its already a thing in old chinese (or maybe japenese) medicine knowledge. I think the west consider this pseudo science, what surprise me to see this video.
@@augusto7681 to be fair, it is pseudo science if there is no scientific research backing it up. If there is research tho then it’s real science. For example, homeopathy has been shown thru research to not be effective. Is there research behind this? I get that stress hormones do have a causal relationship with illness due to inflammation, but this video seems so specific about anger in the back and fear in the stomach that I’d need to see real research to believe it
Been in therapy and on medication for severe unremitting mental illness for twenty-five years. Never tried to repress or suppress anything emotionally, always been upfront with my feelings, but at age 41 my body is broken. I am more sick and depressed than ever before and I've decided to stop treatment. I'm tired of fighting every day for a lost cause. I'm tired of working so hard to feel like garbage anyway. I wish I hadn't wasted my entire adult life on remedies that never actually helped.
I read your message, i am your age and i am so sorry you feel so hopeless, that's an awful feeling. I feel the need to tell you that i love you. Please, keep on trying, there must be a way, try different medications, try talking to different doctors, read books, join some groups. Hope you are better so far.
I’m about to turn 18 and I never realized that my issues were manifesting into real physical symptoms. When I was in elementary I faced a lot of social outcasting and exclusion (I was the only asian student) and physical/emotional abuse from my parents. I started being paranoid of everything and started seeing shadows and white figures at night, like someone’s always watching me and every move I made, intending to harm me. It was so bad I had insomnia every night 2nd-6th grade. I found friends online that were willing to listen to my issues and my problems slowly subsided after getting things off my chest. I’m still friends with them 4 years later! The hallucinations halted and only appear every now and then, and I can sleep normally now.
When I need some psychological assistance, I come here. Sometime I wish they can make a longer video about these topics. My ultimate psychotherapist “ The School of life”.
I think the reason why im so happy most of the time is i always allow myself to sift through all my feelings and interactions with the world as they happen and like sitting with my sadness or negative experiences until im happy again, it feels kind of nice
This is exactly one of the principles homoeopathy works on...we don't only ask the patient about their symptoms physically but also how it started ..the events that took place before the symptoms appeared... I'm so glad people around the world are now considering this concept
So glad to find someone who talks about how homeopathy works! My Dad is a homoeopathy practitioner for 30 years now. He shares such concepts with me all the time :D
This vid is valid. My boss was toxic. She always overwork the good employee and simply ignore the unresponsible employee free from their daily duties. She even gave the unresponsible employee's unfinished job to them. I hate this unfairness, but i cant manage to complain because this boss has anger management issue and i dont want to make a fuss in the office. I said nothing for 3 damn years and then that monday morning i couldn't get up from my bed. The back of my head spinning like crazy and my heartbeat slowed down. I was screaming for help and my husband take me to emergency unit. I even got MRI but there's nothing wrong. Finally decided to leave that toxic manager and now i never got that kind of headache again.
Sounds like you got vertigo. I get vertigo when I'm stressed out about something. Even when I don't know I'm stressed, the vertigo will come and remind me! 😂
i will never forget the horror of panic attacks. my doctor told me that my body is reacting to what's happening in my thoughts. i was sent to the hospital for all kinds of tests and guess what, i was totally fine. i went to therapy and im ok today. sometimes i still forget to take a break and sort my thoughts and a little bit of physical discomfort comes back to me. but then i remember i have some thoughts to unpack and that helps
I work at a high volume restaurant and Ive never seen any coworkers show real emotion. At work I’m routinely on the verge of tears, panic attacks and rage outbursts but have to to hide it so customers and staff aren’t brought down. Showing emotions is a privilege.
I saw an ex girlfriend from 25 years ago. My first true love. I have had many relationships since. I felt sick in my stomach and lost my appetite for a week.
I often find the videos of the school of life theoretical to a certain extent. But for those who say that this video doesn't have a practical side, I disagree. The message at the end is a direct invitation to fulfill suppressed needs for rest, departure from a relationship or a lifestyle, or liberation from certain imposed or self imposed barriers. I think that's valuable.
I spent a year getting the flu every single month, even twice a month. I had migraines every single day too. Felt heart palpitations, my hair started falling out, my body trembled, couldn't sleep... I went to many doctors trying to find an answer. Later this year, my body let me know by making me incredibly sad and unable to wake up every day. Thats when I decided to reach a psychiatrist. Turns out it was anxiety and depression I wasn't completely aware of. Along with therapy, everything's getting better. If you're going through the same thing, you're not alone ❤
I've been diagnosed with FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder this year (was mis-diagnosed with cervical dystonia a few years ago) ... and this video makes perfect sense to me ...
The one thing that most people always forget is to actually say what you think and feel. Most people tend to be polite and please everyone so that they aren't being hated. But the fact is, to please everyone is just impossible.
I strongly second this video. I've had a stomach inflamnation for 4 years, and the doctor told me that the i've had no conventional reason to get it other than living in an immense amount of stress.
Felt this! Used to throw up every morning out of anxiety and dread for the day. Once I started going to there and working out all my emotions, it stopped. I thought there was something wrong with me for the longest time. Your body keeps the score
@@mayohere9214 what "tools" did you use? I have stress/anxiety and panic attacks that índuced my chronic gastritis for 6yrs and i cannot handle it anymore, tried every pill and quick fix.. and still here i am, the same..
I've been struggling with my health for years, and went to every single doctor to find out what was wrong. I have health issues that come from my body just being broken, but I had no idea my mental health could make it worse. I feel better hearing this, knowing what else I can do to get better. Thank you so much.
This is absolutely true. I have been through all of this and ended in depression and hospitalized. They forced me, through the therapy process, to finally look into myself and face all my anxieties, fears, emotional pains and things that dwelled for decades in me. And what happened is just what is described in this video. I was in so much pain and different health issues in less than a year and all of that is almost gone in some 5 months. So I would really invite everyone to take this video very seriously and do the work as suggested in it. Thank you very much for sharing these informations ❤❤❤
My father passed away this past Friday at the age of 75. I have been feeling such a sense of heaviness in my body. My abdominal pain came back, I'm getting headaches, fatigued. I said my goodbyes, but for some reason, it feels that I didn't say enough to him before he passed. 💔
Maybe you are in the first steps of the very painful process of grief, which is so overwhelming and hard. I lost a close person recently and it changed me for a while. Very heavy feeling of loss. And loosing a parent is very profound - I have lost both. It’s hard to get through, but my experience is that you become a somewhat different person who can better deal with the fact that it hurts. It’s a stage of growing up and it’s good if you can get support from others who have gone through it. Take it easy when you can. Sending hugs.
@maeandbob Thank you for your kind and profound words. 💜 I appreciate that you took the time out of your morning to tell a stranger your wisdom. 😇 Take care❣️
Sorry for your loss ❤ it's hard to see someone go, more so when it's someone as close as a parent. Deep down your Dad still did know how much you loved him, even if you feel that not enough was said. It's never enough really and grief is a journey. Take care and cherish the memories of your father ❤
I struggle with hypothyroidism, I believe a contributing reason is my lack of self expression. I never say how I feel, always sugarcoating things with fear of confrontation. This is definitely my body’s way of telling me to speak up.
Damn Sostey78. I also have hypothyroidism. I am the same way. I was never allowed to express myself as a kid (there were consequences for it). Our father loved taking off his leather belt and using it to instill fear in us. I was also bullied as a kid. I now realize this shaped my personality and I tried everything to avoid confrontation & conflict. I’m the same way with sugarcoating everything and in certain it has led to my health issues which include chronic pain, thyroid issues, and many others.
My doctor told me i have high blood pressure when nope, i have decades of anxiety and OCD...started working on myself a few years ago, bp dropped, funny how that works.
Became fully sober, started jogging, began facing my fears rather than running away from them, gave up pop/soda, started meditating. I refuse to start taking pills from a doctor to make my problems magically go away.
shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. she is love. and she will walk with you now, picefully.if you let her. its form donna ashworth. grief is not gonna get away. we have to accept and live with it.
One day when I was in high school, I suddenly got bullied by a good friend. I never told anyone. Chronic muscle pain, stomach pain, depression and anxiety hijacked my body for the next 9 years and I didn't know why and neither did doctors or psychologists. One day, the moment of the bullying suddenly popped back up in my head and I knew this was my chance. I talked about the event with my psychologist and all of my symptoms were immediately gone. I didn't think I would ever feel this free again. Now I enjoy every day that I live.
it has happened to me as well, and i wanted to slap my friend, but i don't know why & how i stopped myself that time,,,, and months later i am angry,,,, it is annoying when all your mind is want revenge and it repeats in your mind,,, people like you and i are not angry on others but *WE ARE ANGRY ON OURSELVES THAT WE DIDN'T PUNISH THEM* and we feel like we are weak,,, it increases our anger even more,,,, anyways i am glad to see that many people are sharing their experience,,,, bye☺
@@deadpoolgaming8161 I'm sorry for what happened to you. Revenge is never the solution though if you ask me. If you still feel affected by what happened, try to be open about it with someone you trust. This will serve as a coping process. Writing a letter about your feelings, adressed to that friend might help as well. You don't even need to send it. Good luck with the process 🙏
as a follower of Jesus Christ, this is so important to understand. we have to be able to confront these hidden roots of bitterness in order to get better & love better-to love at the capacity we were made for. thank you for this video ❤️
All I can say is that this video is spot on and it reflects my own experience. As an adult, I have this feeling of needing to keep going no matter what. It was easier in school and university to take a break and focus on mental health. Now I have a family which means I need to constantly keep an eye on other people’s happiness and I have a demanding job where I am expected to perform. My impression is that when I was younger, we would share negative feelings more commonly with friends and those friends would open up more easily to me as well, but now people just say “I’m doing fine” and these honest conversations don’t happen anymore. It is as if people think they must have it together because they are grown ups now.
This is putting the horse before the cart. You talk about emotions and feelings as if they are some ethereal thing. Your emotions are 100% physical in every possible way. You don't feel stressed or feel happy, you ARE stressed and you ARE happy. They are physical states of the human body. There is never a point where your emotions are something less than a wholesale engagement of your entire physical self. They are responses in your body to real physical processes. Consciousness is always lagging behind the emotion, experiencing it, but never creates an emotion. When you feel something, that is just you becoming aware of the physical process that has already occurred in your body.
Lovely sounding fiction: “Consciousness….. never creates emotion”?? So conscious recognition of information someone you love has died? Remembering a time when you were afraid? When we’re dreaming and the body is inert we don’t feel sadness or fear? I fully accept that many emotions are sub conscious or arise from physical stimulus but not exclusively. You can absolutely consciously generate emotion.
I agree somewhat, I think some emotions are more physical than others. I like to think of them as existing in their own separate space somewhere within us, and we either shine light on that space or keep it dark via the contents of our minds and lives.
I have an overbearing, gas lighting, somewhat narcissistic 87 year old mother and I've been dealing with anxiety, depression and IBS for years, so yeah, I can see how all of the above could work.
The psych is the immaterial will conscience and consciousness. The psych controls the body through the will (consciousness) and the autonomic nervous system through the conscience. When the will acts contrary to the conscience, adrenaline and over a period of time shuts down the circulation in various organs producing pain and excessive cortisone weakens muscles and the immune system and alters sugar balance amongst other things.
Incredibly eye-opening! I’ve never realized how much unprocessed feelings could impact my body. This really makes me want to look deeper into my own emotions instead of brushing them aside. Thank you for this valuable lesson!
i’m 23 and realised about all of this by myself about a year ago. So much have changed from then on and I literally wanted to d** from all that was going on through my head. Today I can’t say it was easy, but for sure worth it, since finally i’m starting to feel calmed after so many years of unconscious suffering, even though this past year has been the worst of my life for understanding all of my emotions. Don’t be scared to feel, pain can be beautiful once you faced it and realized how strong you’ve become. No dru** no doctors no therapist will help you until you start to know yourself, so stop distracting your mind and get your sh** together. It’s never too late
Also anti-social disorder, schizophrenia (in all its forms: schiphreniform, schizo-affective etc.), neurosis (all forms) and even the most serious psychoses (still in all forms).❤️
Literally the story of my life as an autistic person. Always told that who I am as a person is undesirable and to mask every day from morning til night, never allowing me to express myself as my body needs. It's like neurotypical people just can't help but be cruel the minute my mask begins to crack. They pick up on it like sharks smelling blood in the water, and immediately lunge on it. That's why I swore never to expose my heart again. I will never allow anyone outside of my immediate family ever so close again.
I have mentioned this very thing to several people. I do wish that this was common knowledge. And the endless solutions towards healing, forgiving and detaching an endless conversation.
Over recent years I've noticed how after an extreme bout of stress, say a few weeks of worry/anxiety and burnout i inevitably have a breakdown where i cry and let it all out, I talk about it. The following week I get a horrendous "flu" where I'm pretty much bedridden for days. I don't believe that this is "flu", I believe this is my body's way of detoxing and ridding itself of the bad energy that has been allowed to move.
After my dads death I had over 1 year of INTENSE lower back pain. Could barely walk somedays and tests showed nothing wrong. I had an emotionally healing dream with him and a sense of closure and in 1 week the pain stopped and didnt return.
Once my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w me and straight away got in a relationship with my best friend. After this I got so I'll out of nowhere and for about a week I could not stop being sick, headaches all the time and overall just awful. I thought it was the situation that made me this way but I was never sure how. This has explained it so well thank you!
I do agree that not dealing with our emotions can get trapped in our bodies; but I think this framework is a thine line to walk. Reducing ailments and disabilities to the responsibility of the individual is ableist. And there are people who are disabled in their bodies not because of any neglect of their own but because that is how their body is. This framework of “work on yourself and your body will feel better” is helpful in some circumstances-but also necessary to consider the ableist implications
I agree. But the title is about how repressed emotions can make us sick, excluding other factors. Of course sickness does not necessarily stem from suppressed emotions but other factors such as injuries, genetics, etc. I think the video is just to shed light onto one under looked factor that may lead to sickness and disease.😅
Who said disabilities???? Of course this doesn't extend to disabilities! That's a completely different ballpark! /nm To offer a different perspective: in the part where the narrator talks about how we kind of need to help ourselves with these pains, I saw it as a presentation of an unfortunate truth. He starts with how doctors seldom ask the right questions, which is a fact, even if definitely not a good one. Of course, go to a doctor! If it IS a physical issue you'll need physical help! But if it's not, you may need to learn how to help yourself, because sadly no one else is probably going to. :(
After getting my heart broken by my first love, I went through years of extreme emotional agony. However, slowly but surely I was able to move on-- at least I thought I did. Instead of acknowledging my negative emotions, I started repressing them through distractions or basically gaslighting my brain into thinking, "I shouldn't be sad/angry anymore." Every situation where I sensed that I would feel something negative, my instinct was to always go flight-mode. Presently, I've subjected myself into having a calm persona, and a lot of people wonder why I rarely express emotion or why I'm emotionally distant at times. They don't know that I've ended up numbing my sense of emotional empathy which makes it extremely difficult to understand the current emotion I'm going through. A lot of people wish that they could remove the pain in their hearts, but being empty is also a very lonely and bleak experience.
yo im having this exact problem rn. after my situationship ended i felt literally nothing at all except being angry a little bit+ i didn’t have time to process it because it was summer and stuff was happening all the time but due to several attempts from this person to come back over the course of a few months+ the emotions finally hitting, i feel like im processing the situation for too long and i tend to stop myself from thinking about it because of this thought that „my time to grieve has passed, i should move on already”. i don’t wanna make myself miserable and let myself ruminate about the situation, but i also don’t want to repress emotions and i can’t rlly grasp what to do
As for how much we like to think that we are soul. For there to be soul we need a body to feel, for there is no soul without body first. And if the soul aches, the body follows
Yeah the true nature of psychosomaticization I believe is more complex than we currently comprehend, but mind is certainly embodied somatically in addition to neurologically.
I had a lot of anxiety about 7 years ago and I was so focused on my anxiety that I couldn't really study until I firmly believed that I am just unable to study and I gave up. I cried for days and I believed I did the right thing because no one was there to listen to me or to give me a good advice. Last year I started again to study and I am so happy that I can continue again to learn. And the mind can make you believe that you can not do it as long as you allow it
This is the bitter truth that I have been running from for years. I am only 25 years old, yet my brown hair has already begun growing in uneven white patches in my beard and mustache over the last 2 years. The thinning and whitening of my beard has been spreading painfully slow, but I know it’s from the mental stress of my unspoken problems that I cannot bring myself to deal with. The trauma I faced as a child has beaten me down to the point that I do not have the courage to face myself, and the things I know I should do. I indefinitely suppress and postpone the actions I know I should take while distracting myself with school and self-gratification. I never thought I’d end up so broken and hopeless. It is vital to raise the future generations with self-respect and confidence so that they don’t have to experience the pain and slow death of emotional suppression cultivated by the trauma that we accumulated as children. Love your children, love others, and end the cycle.
i thought i found the love of my life, my literal soul mate. i can attest that after a breakup with suppressed emotions can lead to heart issues. i’m currently seeing a cardiologist for my heart, i going for an echo after having to use an mcot for 30 days. please take care of yourself people because in the end that’s all you really have.
My parents are sick from avoiding meaningful discussion, conflict resolution. And refuse to take personal responsibility for their actions. Years of disrespect and neglect have taken a toll on their health and wellbeing.
It’s so true that things can result physically. When I’m in an overwhelmingly stressful time, I get nauseous and my throat feels incredibly tight for no physical reason.
The unprocessed emotions get stuck in the body (lymphatic system). After all, emotions create chemical reactions (micro expressions). Anger is stored in the jaw and liver, sadness in the diaphragm, etc. And can be released.
After a 4-year friendship betrayal and a 5-month situationship ghosting me (they knew each other and were both my closest friends) I went to the doctor for chest pain I had never experienced in my life scared because of my family history with heart disease… every test came back negative and I was told I was healthy and okay. But the chest pain didn’t go away until I stumbled upon the idea that I was hurting more than I realized. And once I admitted that to myself I started to hurt greatly but the chest pain was better. At first I was embarrassed and ashamed to admit the way that they both hurt me. But I couldn’t heal, forgive, and learn to love myself fully until I admitted that.
This is so insightful. I need to read that book The Body Keeps the Score because I have a feeling mine is holding a lot of stuff I need to look at and resolve.
I love the way you point to “this side of eternity.” Even this horrific event is not lost in God’s eyes. Everything that ever happens on this earth will have a just a perfect end. Praise God for He is good. Blessed be the name of YHWH, the creator. He sent his son Jesus Christ who died in our place to take the burden of our own depravity. Depravity such as this.
Meegraines ? Is that really how it’s pronounced in UK? By the way, we shouldn’t also leave people with the impression that all illnesses are the result of repressed emotions. Went through that too with doctors who wouldn’t listen to me. They didn’t know me before the pain so they blamed it on my depression instead of blaming my depression on the pain. I was filtering out a lot of pain. Women tend to do that or we wouldn’t make it month-to-month. And once they actually did surgery, I was fine for a few years until the spinal arthritis caught up with me. Yeah, none of us had perfect childhoods but some of us actually didn’t pay attention to the physical hurts we sustained and later on down the road those manifest joint damage. or maybe we were involved in an activity that did so chronically and we didn’t realize it because we had all those youthful hormones covering for us.
THANK YOU, amen. sometimes things really are that simple. my feet don’t constantly hurt because i’m repressing some terrible inner feelings, they hurt cause i stand on a concrete floor all day 40hrs/week lmao
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It's not lack of courage--many of us don't know how to access our feelings because it was never safe to, so we have to learn
Very true. And even after learning, it can still be very difficult for those who haven't been allowed to express or process their feelings in the past.
@@fe3613 exactly - we learn to repress as an instinct for survival, which is what the narrator is telling is, albeit in a dull flat way
Access our emotions ?? What the hell does this mean ?
Most people don't have time, by the time life finishes making it's constant demands and we finally find ourself. We have to crash course it like uni when we're young. Or we have to wait until we're retired.
So true Colette Lee 😢
Hope the person who needs this video finds it.
I think that’d be everyone
good news, I did.
Thank you i did
I certainly did.
i did
This video should be translated and showed everywhere: at the bus stop, inside a mall, in cinemas before watching a movie. There’s so much unnecessary and unaware pain in the world just because no one has ever taught us the importance of doing inner work.
Yes. But they dont alow us to translate it.
I agree this should be paramount
@@vega306 I tried, I translated dozens of their video on Croatian. They didn't want to accept it, waiting for comunity to do so, which nobody wanted and then TH-cam canceled those contributions of community and all translations got lost.
What would doing the inner work look like? Actionable tips would be helpful. Thanks
Absolutely yessss
“Even if you try to bottle it all up... it all comes out somehow.”
-Basil (omori 2020)🌻
@@burndandelions317 Way to be unable to take the situation seriously.
@@burndandelions317 cmon man thats rookie numbers, im on day 9961135380973920573095235532523 of not taking a dump get on my level
🍉x8 so it forms a full watermelon
@@enderguardian7443 you are either an omori fan because I get the watermelon reference or the watermelon coincidentally fits
@@LuznoLindosometimes comedy is all we have.
This comment section is so healing. I've been working on the hurt from a lost friendship a decade ago in therapy. People have always questioned why I care and can't just flip a switch and move on. However, I've always felt that a lot of people are dealing with things that they avoid and don't want to talk about and that it shows up in their lives in many other ways.
I've got free when I started to not be embarrassed about feelings.
Let's feel, and feel it fully with our whole heart.
Let's love without be afraid of being hurt.
damn this is kinda what i needed. im trying to move on from a situationship that happened some time ago and i always asked myself why do i process it for so long when most people stop caring after a week or a month. from observing my friends and other ppl i came to the conclusion that they don’t- it just becomes embarrassing to show that you’re still processing it but it comes back in different ways
I get stuck on relationships that don't work out because I want to understand why it didn't, and although sometimes that can bring some good clarity, sometimes it drives you crazy. It is so disheartening that my brain can comprehend the path to peace but not locate it. I try to remind myself that it's just one modest step at a time, not the entire journey today. Peace and love to you! 😊❤
@agnesg woah, this is exactly how I felt. I still remember when I had the realization that my logic and emotion didn't matter, that my brain was still ruminating and hurting over that broken relationship and I couldn't simply move on. 💔
How do you find good therapists? I'm poor so I feel like I've wasted money on therapy because they seem to only take money and not help me
Medical student here- this is so so true. For anyone wondering about it's scientific basis, I recommend you to read gut brain axis in depth.
I'm a med student aswell, is there a certain book you would reccomend? Thanks!
Thank you
@@nightmode95gut & psychology syndrome by Natasha Campbell Mcbride
Yeah but don't tell ladies who've got endometriosis that it's psychological! Why? Cos you can't see a thing on MRIs!
@@missophelie3781 endo actually has a LOT to do with gut health. Theres emerging research on this topic.
I also have endo and working on gut health has improved my condition.
I feel so unsafe. I have to stay on alert on the time. I am tired. I am getting bitter, pessimistic, unlively, and pretentious all the same time. Tired of popping in painkillers every single day. I wish I could leave everything and go to the mountains or something.
Talk to someone. A younger neglected, or hurt current part of you must be honored. I really hope you are able to find free resources or find a suitable therapist.
@@tobyokoi0909 yes I can talk to a friend may be. Can’t afford therapy. I earn bare minimum to survive. I also study alongside in hope of a better future. Thank you for taking time out to reply. I wish a good life for you my friend.
Please stay hopefull that there are still good people out there! If that is the reason you are getting bitter. Hope helps me out with that. Also just looking specifically for kindness around me. Also, about your pain, have you heard of 'the medical medium'? This book has helped me out with some health issues, so because of that I recommend it to everyone. Goodluck stranger!
Go to the mountains, for real! You might have to go to the doctor first, but go to the mountains ❤❤❤
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I've dealt with abuse and drama and loss all my life by burying it deep down and moving on because I had to be strong for everyone in my life. At 51 I started having full blown anxiety attacks (sweaty palms, people talking sounding like bees far off or in a tunnel, tunnel vision and the desire to just be alone, not around anyone) Once again true to my nature, I view this as a weakness and try to hide this by withdrawing from everyone except work. At 56 I am now having nightmares, insomniac, physical health issues, grinding my teeth in my sleep, even sleep paralysis. All due to never taken care of my issues and shoving them down. It isn't a weakness dealing with your mental issues, I wish someone would have told me this and let me know true weakness is not allowing yourself to heal and get help in the beginning. If anyone is reading this and feels hurt, less than or dealing with loss, get help. You are worth it now and future you is depending on it. Blessings to all.
Sadly I have all those same issues and ailments too, teeth grinding, can't sleep, anxiety trembling, awful thoughts, OCD the list goes on, CPTSD, I have the issues
@@andrewrees8749Please find resources in your area, mental health professional, a group, Clergy, even putting your feelings in writing. You are not alone and are worth happiness and sleep :), Get a night teeth guard to keep from chipping your teeth or biting the inside of your mouth during rough nights. Good Luck to you, I truly wish you all the best in this crazy journey we call life.
Thanks
Thank you for posting this comment. I am 42, I feel all of these things. I am afraid I am going to walk away from everything I love just because I cannot deal with the emotions I’m overwhelmed with from repressing pain. Only one time in my life I was successful for a one year period of ridding myself of the past emotions rising up. Your comment makes me feel I might have hope to deal with these things head on. I know I’m not blameless, my situation has caused me to use my emotions and inability to cope with them to hurt others as well.
The time to let go and restart is now. As i cannot physically or emotionally continue without sleep.
Thank you.
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I grew up in a toxic familiy system. Emotions were never save or really allowed to have, especially not negative ones.
I am so out of touch with them.
I'm struggling with severe debilitating mental health issues and I seriously doubt that I will ever be able to overcame all these scars.
It is so crucial to teach children how to deal with their emotions in a healthy way.
Great video.
I'm rooting for you, dear! You're much stronger than you think, I'm sure of it.
@@neann6 Thanks, that's nice of you to say
@@mangantasy289 Not just saying it, I believe it wholeheartedly. You can do it 💕
@@neann6 We'll see. I don't have much hope left after so many years and so little perspective. Maybe when I can overcome my severe depression. There's so many issues I have to work on.
@@mangantasy289 I can't imagine all you're going through, but let's take it one day at a time💕
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
dr.zachary3 is the man
On Instagram?
Yes
Can dr.zachary3 send to me in UK?
This is fascinating. I developed brain inflammation after a period of huge stress where I was suppressing my true feelings about a situation for two years. I partially lost my eyesight and got headaches, and the inflammation spread to both sides of my brain. The body keeps the score.
I suffered sever chest pain and back pain for almost 2 years out of chronic anxiety and boredom. I was a highly functional depressed employee for 3 years until I realized that my pain is psychosomatic.
Did it go away ?
Stress tends to exacerbate any kind of autoimmune issues. MS flares are notoriously triggered by stress. Stress can be physiological or emotional or physical. That much is scientific. But we can’t eliminate all stress, besides, even positive stresses can do that.
And absolutely if we don’t deal with things in a healthy way, and are continually subjected to emotional stress, it’s going to weaken your entire immune system, which is highly influenced by your autonomic stress responses.
The body gives warning signs beforehand though, but we choose to ignore it unfortunately until it’s too late.
Listen to your body!
Speedy recovery! 🙏 I had something similar with the brain, but also seizures and hyperacusis developed driven by stress. Taken 7 months to fully recover thanks to docs! But changing my whole life and most importantly illuminated those stress triggers that caused it. It's a tough journey but do trust your docs and the bright happy future you have ahead 😊 Take care ❤
Always suppressed my emotions, now I’m dealing with lots of somatisations and depression. In life you will pay the price of everything, sooner or later.
i am 21 only, i was a happy kid once i dont remember much honestly, but then my dad drinking and mom shouting and their daily fighting police neighbours showing up at my house at 3 am at night somehow affected me i guess , i had a lot of bullying and a little sexual harrasment, verbal abuse?? i really dont care about it much honestly , life is tough , but like.i stay alone dont have any group of friends nobody with me , completely alone people say i need therapy some people who i got close to a very little bit , and they also say i need someone to take care of me. i honestly think sitting in a room talking about emotions isnt going to do, do anything . or idk i never knew what its like to be at peace my entire life i was just going through shit!! even in school and even at home .Well i sometimes ...i feel like i will go mad sooner , something inside me keeps telling me that .
@@chillvibes71 the same situation with me too buddy except my dad died when I was 9
@@chillvibes71 Therapy doesn’t just have to be talking about your feelings, although in my experience that can help more than you might expect. There’s therapies like EMDR that help encode traumatic memories like normal memories so they don’t cause so much disruption, there’s therapies that will look at things like your family systems and social supports. There’s a lot of options! It does take time to find a therapist that knows how to work with you but it is possible :)
take care of it ! af
@@chillvibes71felt this, can’t remember almost anything anymore but when I do I realize it’s better if I didn’t, there’s no switch we can push to become normal and handle the way life is now, and I don’t know how to take any of it. I hope we stay sane and get out ok
I started therapy on monday for this very thing. Thank you ❤
Good luck with your journey 😊
Even if it lasts a long time, continue with therapy. If you don't feel confident with a psychologist, you can try another. You're intelligent, not everyone dares to go to therapy. 🪴
Good luck ❤
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good luck!! i start mine thursday im looking forward to it a lot☺️
that’s why meditating is life changing. i love this video. so so so true. i thought i had stomach problems for years, it hurt every single morning. it wasn’t until i started going to therapy and meditating that it stopped and then i realized it had always been my anxiety, not any problems with food.
i’ve had “morning sickness” for the past couple years as well. wake up early in pain, and it feels like there’s a knot in my stomach. on the worst days it feels like a stomach ulcer, and it’s almost impossible for me to get up. I’ve always resented therapists, so maybe I’ll try meditation instead
wait this might be the cure to my ibs
Me sorprendió verte aqui, pero al mismo tiempo no tanto para ser honesta.
A veces estando tan clavado en el entretenimiento, uno podria llegar a olvidar o dejar de lado que la persona detrás de la pantalla también es un ser humano.
Sé que sufres de problemas de ansiedad también, como muchas de las personas que estamos aquí.
Suelo ir directamente a los comentarios cuando rondo por videos así. Sobre ansiedad, sobre depresión... Quizá buscando consuelo, quizá buscando una voz que represente las cosas que jamás puedo decir. Y solo quiero decir que fue lindo bajar a la sección de comentarios y sentir que vez a una cara familiar. Tu y yo, que no nos conocemos en realidad. Que en otras circunstancias solo somos Creador/consumidora, aquí somos lo mismo.
Solo personas que luchan contra todo esto.
Wow that resonates. My gastroenterologist actually told me that it might be anxiety, not stomach problems, and hell it is true!
Can't afford neither therapy or meditation sadly, so I have to live with it for a while
@@mauersegler Can't you meditate by yourself ? Maybe some videos on youtube can guide you, or using apps on your phone? Meditating is a solo activity, usually, so maybe you can start that way!
A few years back, Dr. Suzanne O'Sullivan wrote a book called 'It' s all in your head'. Wise and insightful book about psychosomatic illnesses. Interesting she says that nowadays, food is blamed for our tiredness, bloating etc etc. Even the sanest and most balanced of us suffer with psychosomatic pain but we deny it so much. Fascinates me as to why? It's so human for psychological pain to be felt as physical pain but we don't want to believe it.
I do believe food plays a big part. Yet I simultaneously also feel that our minds might even play just that little bit more.
Maybe a 40/60 ratio of food/mind when it comes to what affects our health. But food also affects our mindset. And our mindset affects what food we eat so it's all kind interlinked
Because there's no easy way to measure someone else's mind.
As more research is being done on functional cognitive disorders as well as gut health in relation to our well-being, this argument is moving towards more psychologists agreeing that psychological pain/distress is intrinsically linked with physical pain/issues. I suppose denial may stem from stigmas around mental health?
@@tigerkahlua1609interestingly new research has suggested that the gut seems to have its own sort of consciousness, acting almost like a 2nd brain; affecting our decision making, hormones, and mood among other things
Studies show that things like stress directly affect our ability to effectively digest food and prosess nutrients.
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22314561/
After my dad passed l flew home and had the worst lower back pain. After l went to the chiropractor he barely manipulated it and l had the worst sharp pain ever and l started to sob uncontrollably. He felt so bad he thought he hurt me. After l had that good cry, my back began to heal. I truly believe our emotions are held in different parts of our bodies and my grief at my dad’s passing manifested in my lower back.
Look into the 7 chakras with an open mind please
hey regardless please dont go to chiropractors, they genuinely arent an evidence based practice! please go to a physio in the future. for your own safety
Chiropractic is a sham but whatever you think helps you I guess
@@saltiestsiren not all of them. The ones who are only there for a paycheck yes absolutely but some people genuinely need chiropractic care due to serious and intense pain
@@sprixxcy9495or go to one with a good reputation. Chiropractors CAN help as long as they aren't the greedy kind and actually do their jobs instead of shifting you a bit and forcing you to come back forever.
“Our hearts want a chance to say sorry.” I felt this! ❤💔
Me too, and after 4+ years of no contact I'm afraid to send a message. What stops you from saying sorry if I may ask
@@SheyMirza nothing is stopping me really. I am in contact with her now. And I think we have this unspoken thing between us that we both had a loot to grow, we didn’t have harmful intentions for the other at the core at all, so a sorry right now sounds like maybe a little unneeded. But if I ever bumped into her in person, I’ll say my sorries then. 🙂
My ex wife made me physically ill with digestive issues. Once divorced, all symptoms were gone
Glad you feel better. Here’s hoping you find some good people to support you.
At the age of 16, I started growing random white hair. My mom plucked one hair and it was alternating between black and white. It ranged in centimeters. Almost like it was following patterns of stressful and good periods in my life.
I've noticed strands of my hair turning white during extreme stress. And when I feel better, it can fully revert back. That was when I realized the way my body worked together with my mind
I've been in the same boat for twenty five years on my second marriage,the first one too.
So hey I went to school in NM with a guy that has your same name.
you just made me laugh so hard, thank you!
This is definitely crazy, but it's true. When I'm anxious before a big exam, my stomach gets very upset. Last time, I was so anxious the week of, that the night of my sinuses swelled up and I became 99% congested. I couldn't breath through my nose even a little, but there was no mucus in my nose. Then when I got my heartbroken, I knew I experienced that heartbreak in my mind but I physically 💔 felt it in my heart. My heart physically ached at the loss of the relationship.
i have been anxious enough to start feeling sick. it was confusing at first but slowly I've been able to tell the difference between sick sick and anxiety sick
@@ruscell0000 stress also lowers the immune system, so there’s that
I feel the exact same way! I cannot breathe through my nose when im anxious. And my entire body will be in pain even though my doctor keeps telling me nothing is wrong.
I'm so glad im not the only one who feels that heart ache too
A few years back, I was really struggling with depression and mental health issues. I was hooked on cigarettes and alcohol, but then my wife suggested I try psilocybin mushroom therapy. Honestly, it saved my life. It's been 11 years since I've been totally clean. Those shrooms are like a miracle.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode enough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in UK. Really need
He’s on insta?
Does he make delivery across the UK??
The Body Keeps The Score ❤
Waking the Tiger 🥰
Great book 👍
And some people would rather see you miserable, than ever help.
Common theme.
Yep, so very true and I am an example for this video - extensive health issues of the last year, as underlying problems were not addressed for a while. Our bodies is a microcosm of hormones, starts with cortisol and then it imbalances prolactin, parasympathetic nervous system, etc. It's like a domino effect. Do look after yourselves people and don't neglect those negative emotions or situations roots for those ❤
after a big heartbreak, i've been sick and tiresome with severe shoulder pain.
just when i've been pondering how my mental health might be causing adverse effects on my physical health... this pops up😂
guess my shoulder is screaming at me to let go of that avoidant bastard
Broken heart can lead us to die. Hence with some old people couples, when one dies, the other one often dies soon after.
Or maybe your shoulders are telling you that it was ok that you cared about him once upon a time, because you only wanted to be loved too.
Just a thought.
It's probably shoulder pain you get from carrying all the load of the relationship 😂
check out the free audiobook "Healing Back Pain" it cured me of chronic pain and now I help people get rid of theirs, good luck
going through the same thing rn except its endless bouts of anxiety and insomnia:,)
God, its like these mental health channels can read our minds when they upload
Thinking the same thing, Randomly got their notification and was like okay here we go .
Either that ...or the human experience is just universal and we might not be as unique as we think we are.😅
@@TerrorTerrosExactly
I was just thinking of the possibility that my prolonged unusual stomach problems might be related to my anxiety and then this video shows up
Literally just got done throwing up from a panic attack..
I think this is where praying without ceasing would also have its literal benefits - when we bring every anxiety, every anger, even evil thoughts of envy and the like to God and settle it with Him.
Maybe that's why there's a promise after commanding Christians to not be anxious about anything but praying about everything and making requests and petitions known to God and with Thanksgiving, and the PEACE of God which surpasses understanding shall guard the hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. And this peace, shalom, is literally wholeness - nothing missing and nothing broken.
Amazing!
You reminded me of Jesus(peace be upon him). Let me share a gentle reminder with you.
Almighty God says:
"O People of the Book, do not exceed the limits of devotion in your religion or say anything about God which is not the Truth. Jesus, son of Mary, is only a Messenger of God, His Word, and a spirit from Him whom He conveyed to Mary. So have faith in God and His Messengers. Do not say that there are three gods. It is better for you to stop believing in the Trinity. There is only One God. He is too glorious to give birth to a son. To God belongs all that is in the heavens and the earth. God alone is a Sufficient Guardian for all."
Qur'an (4:171)
Almighty God says:
" And [for] their saying, "Indeed, we have killed the Messiah, Jesus, the son of Mary, the messenger of Allah(God)." And they did not kill him, nor did they crucify him; but [another] was made to resemble him to them. And indeed, those who differ over it are in doubt about it. They have no knowledge of it except the following of assumption. And they did not kill him, for certain"
Qur'an 4:157
"Certainly they disbelieve who say: Surely Allah, He is the Messiah, son of Marium; and the Messiah said: O Children of Israel! serve Allah, my Lord and your Lord. Surely whoever associates (others) with Allah, then Allah has forbidden to him the garden, and his abode is the fire; and there shall be no helpers for the unjust."
Qur'an 5:72
" The Messiah, son of Marium is but an apostle; apostles before him have indeed passed away; and his mother was a truthful woman; they both used to eat food. See how We make the communications clear to them, then behold, how they are turned away."
Qur'an 5:75
"And when Allah will say: O Isa son of Marium! did you say to men, Take me and my mother for two gods besides Allah he will say: Glory be to Thee, it did not befit me that I should say what I had no right to (say); if I had said it, Thou wouldst indeed have known it; Thou knowest what is in my mind, and I do not know what is in Thy mind, surely Thou art the great Knower of the unseen things."
Qur'an 5:116
Then Jesus(peace be upon him) will say:
"I did not say to them except what You commanded me to (say): ‘Worship God, my Lord and your Lord.’ I was a witness over them so long as I remained among them; and when You took me back, You were Yourself the Watcher over them. Indeed, You are Witness over everything.
Qur'an 5:117
Peace.
I was alexithymic for most of my life. Moved out on my own when I was 24 and finally had the opportunity to start honestly examining my life. It’s been a couple hard years of cognitive behavioral therapy, shadow work, etc but it really does make all the difference.
Did you find shadow work useful?
This was a lifesaving video, one I needed to hear. My 17yo son actually shared it with me. As a parent, wife and daughter I have much to learn. Grateful for my son that is teaching me and grateful to you for your content.
Uploaded when I needed it the most. Whenever I try to repress my feelings my mind won't leave me alone until I've resolved my emotions. I would always feel so annoyed with myself for not being able to focus on my work whenever I felt emotional, but now I know this is an amazing mechanism, and I feel happier than ever now after listening to myself again. Thank you so much! :)
I am sorry self.
I feel sorry for not speaking up early with the things I carried. My mom, I don’t know if she really cared with my mental health. I can’t remember good memories when in my childhood and I can only remember my suffering and anxiety attacks during my adolescence stage.
Yes she did comfort me with words but until now, she can’t understand me or the way I perceive things.
Sometimes, I blame her for not saying to me that what I’m feeling back then was normal because of hormonal change.
🙁😕
I developed high blood pressure from too much stress of being my father's caretaker. I also have a very strong fibromyalgia that flares up all the time I face a problem in my life. I had a childhood that didn't allow me to express my feelings, so my body learned to bottle up every feeling. I had my first panic attack when I was only 10.
Love and respect ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️
I'm sorry for all this pain you're facing yet I hope you notice how strong you really are. If you ever feel like starting a journey towards feeling better I wish you to give yourself lots of love, compassion and patience. As someone that has lived repressing everything ever since I can remember, there will be many bumps on the road yet, You CAN do it! Lots of love, ❤
Just watch Dr Sarno's video and Dr howard schubiner, dear.
i was pressured to get good grades(like full marks) in my finals. it become a daily thing to remind me about my grades, i was expected to study all day stuck in room. i started dreading studying, the pressure was getting to me. i had headaches, i puked all the time, no appetite and intense fear of failure.
this sort of physical reaction ended up manifesting even now. whenever my emotions get too intense, i experience headaches, coughing and puking with this sick feeling in my stomach.
Better understanding of how our psychology impacts our physiology and body will be the modern medical challenge. I hope the Western medical model can adjust to this necessary perspective shift.
It has in the Netherlands atleast, I can’t speak for the rest. We have PMT - Psycho Motoric Therapy, which makes patients understand the dynamic of psychology vs the body.
Where is the research to back this up tho? Can we trust this without research?
Hormones ... they are able to penetrate any cells or organs. Western medicine mostly focused on various organ systems without looking at our body as a more complex system
My friend who like esoteric and alternative medicine told me about this relation of mental problems and body pain. Its already a thing in old chinese (or maybe japenese) medicine knowledge. I think the west consider this pseudo science, what surprise me to see this video.
@@augusto7681 to be fair, it is pseudo science if there is no scientific research backing it up. If there is research tho then it’s real science. For example, homeopathy has been shown thru research to not be effective. Is there research behind this? I get that stress hormones do have a causal relationship with illness due to inflammation, but this video seems so specific about anger in the back and fear in the stomach that I’d need to see real research to believe it
Been in therapy and on medication for severe unremitting mental illness for twenty-five years. Never tried to repress or suppress anything emotionally, always been upfront with my feelings, but at age 41 my body is broken. I am more sick and depressed than ever before and I've decided to stop treatment. I'm tired of fighting every day for a lost cause. I'm tired of working so hard to feel like garbage anyway. I wish I hadn't wasted my entire adult life on remedies that never actually helped.
I read your message, i am your age and i am so sorry you feel so hopeless, that's an awful feeling. I feel the need to tell you that i love you. Please, keep on trying, there must be a way, try different medications, try talking to different doctors, read books, join some groups. Hope you are better so far.
I've been dealing much more closely with my emotions in the past years, and my body feels great (again).
This is so true.
I’m about to turn 18 and I never realized that my issues were manifesting into real physical symptoms. When I was in elementary I faced a lot of social outcasting and exclusion (I was the only asian student) and physical/emotional abuse from my parents. I started being paranoid of everything and started seeing shadows and white figures at night, like someone’s always watching me and every move I made, intending to harm me. It was so bad I had insomnia every night 2nd-6th grade. I found friends online that were willing to listen to my issues and my problems slowly subsided after getting things off my chest. I’m still friends with them 4 years later! The hallucinations halted and only appear every now and then, and I can sleep normally now.
When I need some psychological assistance, I come here. Sometime I wish they can make a longer video about these topics. My ultimate psychotherapist “ The School of life”.
I think the reason why im so happy most of the time is i always allow myself to sift through all my feelings and interactions with the world as they happen and like sitting with my sadness or negative experiences until im happy again, it feels kind of nice
what happens when awareness becomes a form of its own repression? Constant existential crises can become crippling.
it's a way of living
@@zlrivobut no way to live
This is exactly one of the principles homoeopathy works on...we don't only ask the patient about their symptoms physically but also how it started ..the events that took place before the symptoms appeared... I'm so glad people around the world are now considering this concept
So glad to find someone who talks about how homeopathy works! My Dad is a homoeopathy practitioner for 30 years now. He shares such concepts with me all the time :D
When The Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Mate details this nicely.
What TH-cam video is one that is best please?
This vid is valid. My boss was toxic. She always overwork the good employee and simply ignore the unresponsible employee free from their daily duties. She even gave the unresponsible employee's unfinished job to them. I hate this unfairness, but i cant manage to complain because this boss has anger management issue and i dont want to make a fuss in the office. I said nothing for 3 damn years and then that monday morning i couldn't get up from my bed. The back of my head spinning like crazy and my heartbeat slowed down. I was screaming for help and my husband take me to emergency unit. I even got MRI but there's nothing wrong. Finally decided to leave that toxic manager and now i never got that kind of headache again.
Sounds like you got vertigo. I get vertigo when I'm stressed out about something. Even when I don't know I'm stressed, the vertigo will come and remind me! 😂
i will never forget the horror of panic attacks. my doctor told me that my body is reacting to what's happening in my thoughts. i was sent to the hospital for all kinds of tests and guess what, i was totally fine. i went to therapy and im ok today. sometimes i still forget to take a break and sort my thoughts and a little bit of physical discomfort comes back to me. but then i remember i have some thoughts to unpack and that helps
I work at a high volume restaurant and Ive never seen any coworkers show real emotion. At work I’m routinely on the verge of tears, panic attacks and rage outbursts but have to to hide it so customers and staff aren’t brought down. Showing emotions is a privilege.
That hurts but it's true. Showing emotions is a privilege.
Try crying in the walk-in 🤙
@@mariannastephens8515 sometimes I don’t have time lol but you’re definitely right. Also sometimes there’s too many people in the walk in to cry fully
I saw an ex girlfriend from 25 years ago. My first true love. I have had many relationships since. I felt sick in my stomach and lost my appetite for a week.
Did she see you too? Or did you guys pretend not remember each other?
@@pineapple365 We said hello and some very short small talk.
Happened to me too, it's nice to know I'm not alone at that. Hope you feel better
Same here
being confronted with your past is so hard :(
Asking my body what's wrong and getting an inkling of the answer is making me fing cry.
I often find the videos of the school of life theoretical to a certain extent. But for those who say that this video doesn't have a practical side, I disagree. The message at the end is a direct invitation to fulfill suppressed needs for rest, departure from a relationship or a lifestyle, or liberation from certain imposed or self imposed barriers. I think that's valuable.
I spent a year getting the flu every single month, even twice a month. I had migraines every single day too. Felt heart palpitations, my hair started falling out, my body trembled, couldn't sleep... I went to many doctors trying to find an answer. Later this year, my body let me know by making me incredibly sad and unable to wake up every day. Thats when I decided to reach a psychiatrist. Turns out it was anxiety and depression I wasn't completely aware of. Along with therapy, everything's getting better. If you're going through the same thing, you're not alone ❤
I've been diagnosed with FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder this year (was mis-diagnosed with cervical dystonia a few years ago) ... and this video makes perfect sense to me ...
The one thing that most people always forget is to actually say what you think and feel. Most people tend to be polite and please everyone so that they aren't being hated. But the fact is, to please everyone is just impossible.
100% true, I have struggled with this myself.
I strongly second this video. I've had a stomach inflamnation for 4 years, and the doctor told me that the i've had no conventional reason to get it other than living in an immense amount of stress.
Felt this! Used to throw up every morning out of anxiety and dread for the day. Once I started going to there and working out all my emotions, it stopped. I thought there was something wrong with me for the longest time. Your body keeps the score
@@mayohere9214 what "tools" did you use? I have stress/anxiety and panic attacks that índuced my chronic gastritis for 6yrs and i cannot handle it anymore, tried every pill and quick fix.. and still here i am, the same..
I've been struggling with my health for years, and went to every single doctor to find out what was wrong. I have health issues that come from my body just being broken, but I had no idea my mental health could make it worse. I feel better hearing this, knowing what else I can do to get better. Thank you so much.
This is absolutely true. I have been through all of this and ended in depression and hospitalized. They forced me, through the therapy process, to finally look into myself and face all my anxieties, fears, emotional pains and things that dwelled for decades in me. And what happened is just what is described in this video. I was in so much pain and different health issues in less than a year and all of that is almost gone in some 5 months. So I would really invite everyone to take this video very seriously and do the work as suggested in it. Thank you very much for sharing these informations ❤❤❤
This was one of the key lessons I learned when becoming an NLP coach. well done for sharing this life changing secret
My father passed away this past Friday at the age of 75. I have been feeling such a sense of heaviness in my body. My abdominal pain came back, I'm getting headaches, fatigued. I said my goodbyes, but for some reason, it feels that I didn't say enough to him before he passed. 💔
Sorry for you loss. It's surely a tough time for you. You can definitely work it out with time. Stay strong.
@@listsign6121 Thank you for your kind & supportive words. 💜
Maybe you are in the first steps of the very painful process of grief, which is so overwhelming and hard. I lost a close person recently and it changed me for a while. Very heavy feeling of loss. And loosing a parent is very profound - I have lost both. It’s hard to get through, but my experience is that you become a somewhat different person who can better deal with the fact that it hurts. It’s a stage of growing up and it’s good if you can get support from others who have gone through it. Take it easy when you can. Sending hugs.
@maeandbob Thank you for your kind and profound words. 💜 I appreciate that you took the time out of your morning to tell a stranger your wisdom. 😇
Take care❣️
Sorry for your loss ❤ it's hard to see someone go, more so when it's someone as close as a parent. Deep down your Dad still did know how much you loved him, even if you feel that not enough was said. It's never enough really and grief is a journey. Take care and cherish the memories of your father ❤
I struggle with hypothyroidism, I believe a contributing reason is my lack of self expression. I never say how I feel, always sugarcoating things with fear of confrontation. This is definitely my body’s way of telling me to speak up.
Damn Sostey78. I also have hypothyroidism. I am the same way. I was never allowed to express myself as a kid (there were consequences for it). Our father loved taking off his leather belt and using it to instill fear in us. I was also bullied as a kid. I now realize this shaped my personality and I tried everything to avoid confrontation & conflict. I’m the same way with sugarcoating everything and in certain it has led to my health issues which include chronic pain, thyroid issues, and many others.
Wow this actually made me cry. I definitely need a release
My doctor told me i have high blood pressure when nope, i have decades of anxiety and OCD...started working on myself a few years ago, bp dropped, funny how that works.
how do you work on it?
Became fully sober, started jogging, began facing my fears rather than running away from them, gave up pop/soda, started meditating. I refuse to start taking pills from a doctor to make my problems magically go away.
@@zell6108 congratulations on getting there. Keep up!
Hah... the ol' mind body connection, my familiar friend.
... no matter how much I acknowledge the grief of losing people I care about, still I grieve
shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. she is love. and she will walk with you now, picefully.if you let her. its form donna ashworth. grief is not gonna get away. we have to accept and live with it.
One day when I was in high school, I suddenly got bullied by a good friend. I never told anyone. Chronic muscle pain, stomach pain, depression and anxiety hijacked my body for the next 9 years and I didn't know why and neither did doctors or psychologists. One day, the moment of the bullying suddenly popped back up in my head and I knew this was my chance. I talked about the event with my psychologist and all of my symptoms were immediately gone. I didn't think I would ever feel this free again. Now I enjoy every day that I live.
it has happened to me as well, and i wanted to slap my friend, but i don't know why & how i stopped myself that time,,,, and months later i am angry,,,, it is annoying when all your mind is want revenge and it repeats in your mind,,, people like you and i are not angry on others but *WE ARE ANGRY ON OURSELVES THAT WE DIDN'T PUNISH THEM* and we feel like we are weak,,, it increases our anger even more,,,, anyways i am glad to see that many people are sharing their experience,,,, bye☺
@@deadpoolgaming8161 I'm sorry for what happened to you. Revenge is never the solution though if you ask me. If you still feel affected by what happened, try to be open about it with someone you trust. This will serve as a coping process. Writing a letter about your feelings, adressed to that friend might help as well. You don't even need to send it. Good luck with the process 🙏
"Meegraines" kinda hurt, but it was also funny.
Laughter good medicine...
right?
Hahaha I heard that & I was wondering if anyone else was gonna say something about that or not 😅😅
Meegraines for your apparaytus
I saw this at the same time he said it 😂
as a follower of Jesus Christ, this is so important to understand. we have to be able to confront these hidden roots of bitterness in order to get better & love better-to love at the capacity we were made for. thank you for this video ❤️
Very true. God Bless, Amen.🙏🏻
This video is a major blessing for me; especially today. Thank you!!!
Thank you. You are most welcome.
Mental health has an impact on physical health all as one ❤
All I can say is that this video is spot on and it reflects my own experience. As an adult, I have this feeling of needing to keep going no matter what. It was easier in school and university to take a break and focus on mental health. Now I have a family which means I need to constantly keep an eye on other people’s happiness and I have a demanding job where I am expected to perform. My impression is that when I was younger, we would share negative feelings more commonly with friends and those friends would open up more easily to me as well, but now people just say “I’m doing fine” and these honest conversations don’t happen anymore. It is as if people think they must have it together because they are grown ups now.
This is putting the horse before the cart. You talk about emotions and feelings as if they are some ethereal thing. Your emotions are 100% physical in every possible way. You don't feel stressed or feel happy, you ARE stressed and you ARE happy. They are physical states of the human body. There is never a point where your emotions are something less than a wholesale engagement of your entire physical self. They are responses in your body to real physical processes. Consciousness is always lagging behind the emotion, experiencing it, but never creates an emotion. When you feel something, that is just you becoming aware of the physical process that has already occurred in your body.
Beautifully said.
Lovely sounding fiction: “Consciousness….. never creates emotion”??
So conscious recognition of information someone you love has died? Remembering a time when you were afraid? When we’re dreaming and the body is inert we don’t feel sadness or fear?
I fully accept that many emotions are sub conscious or arise from physical stimulus but not exclusively. You can absolutely consciously generate emotion.
I agree somewhat, I think some emotions are more physical than others. I like to think of them as existing in their own separate space somewhere within us, and we either shine light on that space or keep it dark via the contents of our minds and lives.
"I have become, and I am becoming."
I think you got your idiom backwards there....
This channel is a bliss , each video is a big solution put forward in simple words . Thank you Alain and team 💙
School of life always finds me when I need it most I swear
“If this could speak, what would it want to tell me”
I love this!! Such a simple yet eyes opening practice to be in tune with yourself💜💜
I have an overbearing, gas lighting, somewhat narcissistic 87 year old mother and I've been dealing with anxiety, depression and IBS for years, so yeah, I can see how all of the above could work.
Forgiving is so empowering ❤
i’ve always said i stress myself sick and this just proves it 😭 i’ve never been able to stop it either so i’m trying to learn
John Sarno and many, many others have been saying (and helping people heal) with this insight for years.
The psych is the immaterial will conscience and consciousness. The psych controls the body through the will (consciousness) and the autonomic nervous system through the conscience. When the will acts contrary to the conscience, adrenaline and over a period of time shuts down the circulation in various organs producing pain and excessive cortisone weakens muscles and the immune system and alters sugar balance amongst other things.
Incredibly eye-opening! I’ve never realized how much unprocessed feelings could impact my body. This really makes me want to look deeper into my own emotions instead of brushing them aside. Thank you for this valuable lesson!
i’m 23 and realised about all of this by myself about a year ago. So much have changed from then on and I literally wanted to d** from all that was going on through my head. Today I can’t say it was easy, but for sure worth it, since finally i’m starting to feel calmed after so many years of unconscious suffering, even though this past year has been the worst of my life for understanding all of my emotions. Don’t be scared to feel, pain can be beautiful once you faced it and realized how strong you’ve become. No dru** no doctors no therapist will help you until you start to know yourself, so stop distracting your mind and get your sh** together. It’s never too late
How to confront ur feelings and emotions especially losing a crush 😢
Tell me bro
By writing down thoughts?
This is all very true. So many people have back problems, when it really stems from psychological problems.
Stress = incresing level of cortisol = stomach somatization, irritable bowel syndrome, dysphagia (due to hysterical bolus), anorexia, nausea, lack of appetite, anxiety, tiredness, anedhonia, clinomania, abulia, depression, agoraphobia, narcolepsy, panic attacks with arrhythmias, syncope, dyspnea, sense of constriction in the chest, bruxism, dermatitis, doc, self-harm, paraphilias, addictions, alteration of the circadian rhythm, neurodegenerative diseases: Parkinson's, Alzheimer's and dementia.
Everything connected, guys.
Also anti-social disorder, schizophrenia (in all its forms: schiphreniform, schizo-affective etc.), neurosis (all forms) and even the most serious psychoses (still in all forms).❤️
That's why therapists are needed there has to be an awareness spread for this everywhere in the world
Literally the story of my life as an autistic person. Always told that who I am as a person is undesirable and to mask every day from morning til night, never allowing me to express myself as my body needs. It's like neurotypical people just can't help but be cruel the minute my mask begins to crack. They pick up on it like sharks smelling blood in the water, and immediately lunge on it. That's why I swore never to expose my heart again. I will never allow anyone outside of my immediate family ever so close again.
I have mentioned this very thing to several people. I do wish that this was common knowledge. And the endless solutions towards healing, forgiving and detaching an endless conversation.
Over recent years I've noticed how after an extreme bout of stress, say a few weeks of worry/anxiety and burnout i inevitably have a breakdown where i cry and let it all out, I talk about it.
The following week I get a horrendous "flu" where I'm pretty much bedridden for days.
I don't believe that this is "flu", I believe this is my body's way of detoxing and ridding itself of the bad energy that has been allowed to move.
After my dads death I had over 1 year of INTENSE lower back pain. Could barely walk somedays and tests showed nothing wrong. I had an emotionally healing dream with him and a sense of closure and in 1 week the pain stopped and didnt return.
Once my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w me and straight away got in a relationship with my best friend. After this I got so I'll out of nowhere and for about a week I could not stop being sick, headaches all the time and overall just awful. I thought it was the situation that made me this way but I was never sure how. This has explained it so well thank you!
I was told to always bury my feelings but the problem was it really does make you physically sick when you do that. It's not good for your health
I do agree that not dealing with our emotions can get trapped in our bodies; but I think this framework is a thine line to walk. Reducing ailments and disabilities to the responsibility of the individual is ableist. And there are people who are disabled in their bodies not because of any neglect of their own but because that is how their body is. This framework of “work on yourself and your body will feel better” is helpful in some circumstances-but also necessary to consider the ableist implications
I agree. But the title is about how repressed emotions can make us sick, excluding other factors. Of course sickness does not necessarily stem from suppressed emotions but other factors such as injuries, genetics, etc. I think the video is just to shed light onto one under looked factor that may lead to sickness and disease.😅
Who said disabilities???? Of course this doesn't extend to disabilities! That's a completely different ballpark! /nm
To offer a different perspective: in the part where the narrator talks about how we kind of need to help ourselves with these pains, I saw it as a presentation of an unfortunate truth. He starts with how doctors seldom ask the right questions, which is a fact, even if definitely not a good one. Of course, go to a doctor! If it IS a physical issue you'll need physical help! But if it's not, you may need to learn how to help yourself, because sadly no one else is probably going to. :(
We are the result of broken individuals of a broken system in a very fake environement 💔💔
After getting my heart broken by my first love, I went through years of extreme emotional agony. However, slowly but surely I was able to move on-- at least I thought I did. Instead of acknowledging my negative emotions, I started repressing them through distractions or basically gaslighting my brain into thinking, "I shouldn't be sad/angry anymore." Every situation where I sensed that I would feel something negative, my instinct was to always go flight-mode. Presently, I've subjected myself into having a calm persona, and a lot of people wonder why I rarely express emotion or why I'm emotionally distant at times. They don't know that I've ended up numbing my sense of emotional empathy which makes it extremely difficult to understand the current emotion I'm going through. A lot of people wish that they could remove the pain in their hearts, but being empty is also a very lonely and bleak experience.
yo im having this exact problem rn. after my situationship ended i felt literally nothing at all except being angry a little bit+ i didn’t have time to process it because it was summer and stuff was happening all the time
but due to several attempts from this person to come back over the course of a few months+ the emotions finally hitting, i feel like im processing the situation for too long and i tend to stop myself from thinking about it because of this thought that „my time to grieve has passed, i should move on already”. i don’t wanna make myself miserable and let myself ruminate about the situation, but i also don’t want to repress emotions and i can’t rlly grasp what to do
As for how much we like to think that we are soul. For there to be soul we need a body to feel, for there is no soul without body first. And if the soul aches, the body follows
Yeah the true nature of psychosomaticization I believe is more complex than we currently comprehend, but mind is certainly embodied somatically in addition to neurologically.
I had a lot of anxiety about 7 years ago and I was so focused on my anxiety that I couldn't really study until I firmly believed that I am just unable to study and I gave up. I cried for days and I believed I did the right thing because no one was there to listen to me or to give me a good advice. Last year I started again to study and I am so happy that I can continue again to learn. And the mind can make you believe that you can not do it as long as you allow it
This is the bitter truth that I have been running from for years.
I am only 25 years old, yet my brown hair has already begun growing in uneven white patches in my beard and mustache over the last 2 years. The thinning and whitening of my beard has been spreading painfully slow, but I know it’s from the mental stress of my unspoken problems that I cannot bring myself to deal with. The trauma I faced as a child has beaten me down to the point that I do not have the courage to face myself, and the things I know I should do. I indefinitely suppress and postpone the actions I know I should take while distracting myself with school and self-gratification. I never thought I’d end up so broken and hopeless.
It is vital to raise the future generations with self-respect and confidence so that they don’t have to experience the pain and slow death of emotional suppression cultivated by the trauma that we accumulated as children.
Love your children, love others, and end the cycle.
I resonate with your comment.
Thank you for sharing that.
@@FridoGrahnify Of course. I know I’m not the only one.
Praying for you Tony! You will get through this! Love yourself so much that you want to heal🙏🏼
@@authenticallyjess9915 Thank you. I really appreciate your thoughts and prayers.
i thought i found the love of my life, my literal soul mate. i can attest that after a breakup with suppressed emotions can lead to heart issues. i’m currently seeing a cardiologist for my heart, i going for an echo after having to use an mcot for 30 days.
please take care of yourself people because in the end that’s all you really have.
My parents are sick from avoiding meaningful discussion, conflict resolution. And refuse to take personal responsibility for their actions. Years of disrespect and neglect have taken a toll on their health and wellbeing.
It’s so true that things can result physically. When I’m in an overwhelmingly stressful time, I get nauseous and my throat feels incredibly tight for no physical reason.
Thanks for putting these videos that everyone can relate too and wants to understand better.
This video inspired me to reach out to a therapist and book an initial consultation - something I’ve been putting off for a long time - thank you!
The unprocessed emotions get stuck in the body (lymphatic system). After all, emotions create chemical reactions (micro expressions). Anger is stored in the jaw and liver, sadness in the diaphragm, etc. And can be released.
After a 4-year friendship betrayal and a 5-month situationship ghosting me (they knew each other and were both my closest friends) I went to the doctor for chest pain I had never experienced in my life scared because of my family history with heart disease… every test came back negative and I was told I was healthy and okay. But the chest pain didn’t go away until I stumbled upon the idea that I was hurting more than I realized. And once I admitted that to myself I started to hurt greatly but the chest pain was better. At first I was embarrassed and ashamed to admit the way that they both hurt me. But I couldn’t heal, forgive, and learn to love myself fully until I admitted that.
Looking back on it it all feels like a mirage…how broken I was. It’ll take time. And it’ll be up and down. But you will get better! ❤️🩹
This is so insightful. I need to read that book The Body Keeps the Score because I have a feeling mine is holding a lot of stuff I need to look at and resolve.
I love the way you point to “this side of eternity.” Even this horrific event is not lost in God’s eyes. Everything that ever happens on this earth will have a just a perfect end. Praise God for He is good. Blessed be the name of YHWH, the creator. He sent his son Jesus Christ who died in our place to take the burden of our own depravity. Depravity such as this.
Meegraines ? Is that really how it’s pronounced in UK?
By the way, we shouldn’t also leave people with the impression that all illnesses are the result of repressed emotions. Went through that too with doctors who wouldn’t listen to me. They didn’t know me before the pain so they blamed it on my depression instead of blaming my depression on the pain. I was filtering out a lot of pain. Women tend to do that or we wouldn’t make it month-to-month. And once they actually did surgery, I was fine for a few years until the spinal arthritis caught up with me. Yeah, none of us had perfect childhoods but some of us actually didn’t pay attention to the physical hurts we sustained and later on down the road those manifest joint damage. or maybe we were involved in an activity that did so chronically and we didn’t realize it because we had all those youthful hormones covering for us.
Yes, that is how they say it.
I'm from the UK and yes unfortunately that's how some people pronounce it ☹️ however a lot say it the American way.
THANK YOU, amen. sometimes things really are that simple. my feet don’t constantly hurt because i’m repressing some terrible inner feelings, they hurt cause i stand on a concrete floor all day 40hrs/week lmao
I'm English and say "MY-GRAINE."