I feel you. I would give one advice. Stop visualising the interview and dont prepare specifically in terms of what questions would be asked and what would you answer. Your brain is so smart that can react much better in real time while the extreme visualisation and preparation approach panicks you because interview don't go according to plans. Simply put try interviewing as if you dont give a fuck I mean literally. That works as you effectively are dealing with anxiety and reducing pressure on yourself in that situation while your mental smartness and abilities can take over and work for you.
I felt that adulting. Feeling like you're missing all these milestones at the time you are supposed to. It's hard but I think it's important to realize that a lot of these "things" you're supposed to do are societies expectations. You should focus on what you're goals are not the goals you've adopted because society expects you to have them.
Thanks for sharing this, I usually feel so alone in the experience. I'm also 28, on the spectrum, and have only worked in positions that didn't require an interview, or were very desperate for anyone. I have a decent GPA , 3 licenses, and am a hard worker with a clean work history, but don't think I can get anywhere because of the socially mis-judgmental aspect of interviews. I believe that God made everyone and loves everyone, and that he has a special plan for our lives whether we find a job or not, but I'll be praying for us to find something.
hello dear ! I am in the same situation : autism and I am looking for a job and feel like I didn't achieve anything in my life, but we keep to be nice to ourselves, you got this Elena, YOU GOT THIS. Be patient with yourself, it's gonna be fine
I struggle with interviews so much, I always struggle to convey what I’m thinking - like I have this whole script in my head but then when I try to say them it doesn’t flow well it’s like what I was thinking was chopped up and pushed haphazardly out of my mouth. It’s difficult, like sometimes the interview is going somewhat well and then they throw something at you that makes you internally freak and you panic and stutter and stay silent - then I feel embarrassed about that silence and start to over talk and repeat myself and make mistakes. I feel exactly as you do, it’s so difficult
As someone who has messed up every interview even when getting to know what they would ask, the video is relatable. I have to say you really conveyed your thoughts very well in this video. You will eventually find your strengths and would excel in that. Don't worry a bit, no age is too much for doing something great
Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m 27 and in a similar boat. Been struggling for a while with shame of not being where I feel like others are at this point. I have two interviews today, and I’m really nervous. This video made me feel less alone. ❤
Thank you for this 😭your vulnerability saved so many ppl so quickly you don’t even know….. I am struggling to get my autism diagnosis as a single mom so I have been unemployed.. now I have an interview Friday and I am worried about exactly what you have been talking about in this video……. Or I will say a bunch of words that I assume gets my point across and they will understand something entirely different and I’ll have yet another scary job experience
I went back to school for a computer science degree just before I turned 28. Then worked my way up to well-paying positions at high levels within a few years. It takes a bit of luck and then some hard work once you’re in a role, but it’s not over yet at 28. I was diagnosed with autism recently. I still have issues with interviews and it only seems to get worse as I get older. Just be careful not to forget how terrible they are once you’ve found a career, because, in my experience, they don’t get much better and they get worse in some ways.
I love you Elena, in an Agape way. All the wonderful videos you've made. You're the one i'd want to hire. You're so real and authentic and raw and a deep thinker and intelligent and capable. And a wonderful person. An awesome date for any lucky guy. To you all my love and best wishes. From half a world away.
Hi Elena, For what it is worth, having trouble with expressing yourself verbally isn't necessarily limited to autism. I am an INFJ personality type, and sorting through all the detail we collect gets jammed in the doorway on the way out, as it were lol. Also you speak very well. I found your videos to be some of the easiest to watch with the way your message 'flows' in the video. Also don't feel embarassed. I have a bachelor of commerce, and going to teach in Thailand for a fraction of what I can earn. Mainly because I can't stand the stuffyness of 'professional' workplaces and the nonsense that comes with them. If you need to go from "here to there" I find you have to drop the template of how to do it that is handed to you by societal expectations and make your own ;)
if other people can find a way to success then you can too we all have problems and somtimes they are way too big for us but in the end poeple with good will would win all you need to do is try your best and god or univers or what ever you call it will help when you do your best try we all make mistakes and learn from them
Hey Elena. Being on the spectrum as well I totally understand communication issues and catastrophizing and thought spirals, etc. It's a pain. But you know what, I was in a similar situation two years ago. I was working a shitty job as a cart clerk for a company I'm not going to name. I had bad hours and even worse pay. It's also not great being in a parking lot pushing carts when it's freezing Winter or scorching summer. I was searching for a new job but I was getting turned down left and right and I almost gave up. However, I told myself to keep going and eventually, I found a new job as a store associate at a thrift store. It's not my dream job but it was way better than where I was. My point is don't give up on yourself and don't beat yourself up so much. Just because it's tough now, that doesn't mean there isn't good stuff coming soon. Just keep going and if you make a mistake, tell yourself what you'll do differently in the future instead of telling yourself your a failure. I hope this helps.
there are tons of jobs for those who ddont want to get hired and work for others .remember sallary is the price they give you to forget about your dreams . you can start your own busness and build it up from ground i knw this state is paiinfull but this pain is what drive you throgh sucsess its like a metamorfesis forgive me for my bad spelling🤦♂
Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel so alone going through a very similar process. Getting interviewed and just not understanding how to establish a connection with interviewer or how to not ask the wrong questions. I double check with people around me with my prepared answers but still it’s so difficult to deal with the impromptu moments. I hope things get better for us and I really appreciate you sharing this despite your fears of doing so. 🫶
I feel you. I would give one advice. Stop visualising the interview and dont prepare specifically in terms of what questions would be asked and what would you answer. Your brain is so smart that can react much better in real time while the extreme visualisation and preparation approach panicks you because interview don't go according to plans.
Simply put try interviewing as if you dont give a fuck I mean literally. That works as you effectively are dealing with anxiety and reducing pressure on yourself in that situation while your mental smartness and abilities can take over and work for you.
I felt that adulting. Feeling like you're missing all these milestones at the time you are supposed to. It's hard but I think it's important to realize that a lot of these "things" you're supposed to do are societies expectations. You should focus on what you're goals are not the goals you've adopted because society expects you to have them.
Completely agree, what even is normal?
Elena-I was diagnosed with Autism last year. You're not alone.
Thanks for sharing this, I usually feel so alone in the experience. I'm also 28, on the spectrum, and have only worked in positions that didn't require an interview, or were very desperate for anyone. I have a decent GPA , 3 licenses, and am a hard worker with a clean work history, but don't think I can get anywhere because of the socially mis-judgmental aspect of interviews. I believe that God made everyone and loves everyone, and that he has a special plan for our lives whether we find a job or not, but I'll be praying for us to find something.
hello dear ! I am in the same situation : autism and I am looking for a job and feel like I didn't achieve anything in my life, but we keep to be nice to ourselves, you got this Elena, YOU GOT THIS. Be patient with yourself, it's gonna be fine
I struggle with interviews so much, I always struggle to convey what I’m thinking - like I have this whole script in my head but then when I try to say them it doesn’t flow well it’s like what I was thinking was chopped up and pushed haphazardly out of my mouth. It’s difficult, like sometimes the interview is going somewhat well and then they throw something at you that makes you internally freak and you panic and stutter and stay silent - then I feel embarrassed about that silence and start to over talk and repeat myself and make mistakes. I feel exactly as you do, it’s so difficult
As someone who has messed up every interview even when getting to know what they would ask, the video is relatable. I have to say you really conveyed your thoughts very well in this video. You will eventually find your strengths and would excel in that. Don't worry a bit, no age is too much for doing something great
Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m 27 and in a similar boat. Been struggling for a while with shame of not being where I feel like others are at this point. I have two interviews today, and I’m really nervous. This video made me feel less alone. ❤
Spot on about catastrophizing - I do that all the time. And then later I realize that I've probably overreacted. But it happens every single time.
Thank you for this 😭your vulnerability saved so many ppl so quickly you don’t even know….. I am struggling to get my autism diagnosis as a single mom so I have been unemployed.. now I have an interview Friday and I am worried about exactly what you have been talking about in this video……. Or I will say a bunch of words that I assume gets my point across and they will understand something entirely different and I’ll have yet another scary job experience
I went back to school for a computer science degree just before I turned 28. Then worked my way up to well-paying positions at high levels within a few years. It takes a bit of luck and then some hard work once you’re in a role, but it’s not over yet at 28. I was diagnosed with autism recently. I still have issues with interviews and it only seems to get worse as I get older. Just be careful not to forget how terrible they are once you’ve found a career, because, in my experience, they don’t get much better and they get worse in some ways.
I love you Elena, in an Agape way. All the wonderful videos you've made. You're the one i'd want to hire. You're so real and authentic and raw and a deep thinker and intelligent and capable.
And a wonderful person. An awesome date for any lucky guy. To you all my love and best wishes. From half a world away.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS
God bless you darling lady Elena. Sovereign Father will illuminate your paths every step of the way if you have faith in Him 🙏✨️♥️
Hi Elena,
For what it is worth, having trouble with expressing yourself verbally isn't necessarily limited to autism. I am an INFJ personality type, and sorting through all the detail we collect gets jammed in the doorway on the way out, as it were lol.
Also you speak very well. I found your videos to be some of the easiest to watch with the way your message 'flows' in the video. Also don't feel embarassed. I have a bachelor of commerce, and going to teach in Thailand for a fraction of what I can earn. Mainly because I can't stand the stuffyness of 'professional' workplaces and the nonsense that comes with them. If you need to go from "here to there" I find you have to drop the template of how to do it that is handed to you by societal expectations and make your own ;)
💜 💜 💜
Elena, I wish you good luck getting the job you want and getting the guy you want.
This is so kind, thank you
if other people can find a way to success then you can too
we all have problems
and somtimes they are way too big for us
but in the end poeple with good will would win
all you need to do is try your best and god or univers or what ever you call it will help when you do your best try
we all make mistakes and learn from them
Thank you 🥺
age is just a number. but if you disagree, a lot of people became "(financially) successful" in their 50s. let the bigger picture give you hope
Very true, thanks for that
Hey Elena. Being on the spectrum as well I totally understand communication issues and catastrophizing and thought spirals, etc. It's a pain. But you know what, I was in a similar situation two years ago. I was working a shitty job as a cart clerk for a company I'm not going to name. I had bad hours and even worse pay. It's also not great being in a parking lot pushing carts when it's freezing Winter or scorching summer. I was searching for a new job but I was getting turned down left and right and I almost gave up. However, I told myself to keep going and eventually, I found a new job as a store associate at a thrift store. It's not my dream job but it was way better than where I was. My point is don't give up on yourself and don't beat yourself up so much. Just because it's tough now, that doesn't mean there isn't good stuff coming soon. Just keep going and if you make a mistake, tell yourself what you'll do differently in the future instead of telling yourself your a failure. I hope this helps.
What an amazing story to share, thank you so much for taking the time to write your comment
there are tons of jobs for those who ddont want to get hired and work for others .remember sallary is the price they give you to forget about your dreams . you can start your own busness and build it up from ground
i knw this state is paiinfull but this pain is what drive you throgh sucsess
its like a metamorfesis
forgive me for my bad spelling🤦♂
Being youtubers suits us.
Haha yes!! I loved being my own boss
What’s stopping you from doing yt full time?
Its not making money right now, but I'd love to again
First comment.❤
🎉 YAY
Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel so alone going through a very similar process. Getting interviewed and just not understanding how to establish a connection with interviewer or how to not ask the wrong questions. I double check with people around me with my prepared answers but still it’s so difficult to deal with the impromptu moments. I hope things get better for us and I really appreciate you sharing this despite your fears of doing so. 🫶
Aw thank you for sharing your experience! Makes me feel less alone too 💜