Choose Wisely: Why Men Must Pick Women Who Choose Them (Sadia Khan)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 มี.ค. 2024
- Sadia Khan talks about the critical aspect that men must select partners who are deeply attracted and invested in them.
Skipping this vital step, spells disaster for any relationship.
It's time to make the right choice for your heart and your future!
/ @breakupbounce
#sadiakhan #sadiapsychology #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #chooseyourpath
She has a lot of valid points, but she misses how social media has given just as many women the illusion that they are 10s who deserve the top tier of men.
Even the best people who comment on the issues miss that point
I was just about to say this; it's on both sides.
But who gave them that illusion? Men! so it comes back to us😂
Those dudes use them not wife them. They accept that and this is the new norm.@@nanakwesinyantakyi9408
You’re focusing on women who are out of your league - get off social media and focus on the women around your job/workplace, church, or local spots you frequent often.
My cousin gave me the best advice. He said if a woman definitely does not like your looks when you meet, nothing you can do will win her over. I met this attractive young lady (very much a lady) who was neutral to my looks but found me "interesting". Thus my work began. This was many years ago and courtship was in vogue. She filled my checklist: beautiful (beauty is in the eye of the beholder), intelligent, Hispanic, Catholic and pure. I won her over and we both fell in love. She passed away last year after 50 years of marriage. I always felt I married the woman of my dreams.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can only hope I can find this kind of love in my lifetime.
@@13sprintuser Thank you and keep doing your best. You will be rewarded.
so when you first met she didn't like your looks? neutral?
I dint get it
@@mohsinali4783 She felt I looked OK but nothing like an outstanding first impression looks wise. She did NOT dislike my looks. I think she preferred a taller guy. However she did not rule me out.
I married the first girl who was sufficiently attracted to me after a certain age, things are working out very well. We're broke as can be but she's still sweet to me.
At least she gave you a chance....most women prefer to stay single and dream about rich actors coming at their doorstep than get settled with a normal guy!
You did great. You have the basis of true happiness. Work hard, be frugal and save for a rainy day. We did such and ultimately retired debt free. We were able to do our bucket list. Good luck.
@@johnclayton4946 "get settled" as in average woman thinking they "settle" if they go for an equally average man lmao..
My father told me long ago that the best women are the ones you don't find attractive at first. Love will come eventually with time because we men are bonded by taking care of others.
My dad said the same thing pretty much lol He said basically my mom wasn't his first initial pick but he chose her because he'd knew she be better wife and mother for us. So he went with what made more sense and not who he was more attracted to. They been married since. Going like 30 plus years or so
Your father lived 50 years ago.....today even women you find ugly do not want to date you! Most men in U.S. are lonely virgins.....Why? Because women would rather die alone with cats and dream to marry a rich actor or a rich football player or basketball player than marry an average guy and build a foundation and a family with him! These are facts that cannot be denied, hence why the birth rates are so low!
@@MikeyLee559 I agree with your father, but today it's different!
@johnclayton4946 yes is all messed up lol today is different. People sleeping around and men simping
I’m sorry but I’m just not that kind of guy. If I’m not attracted to someone I’m not attracted and there’s nothing I can do to change that. Plus what do I need a woman for anyway?
woman is a 6 and she become 8-9 to me if she's attracted to me and treat me right. it's easy to like a girl if they're in to you and be authentic about it.
This is so true!
Great point
My exact situation. She is a 💎 in my eyes cause she treats me right
She's right about that. Always choose a Woman that chooses you. Great video.
Except most women aren't interested in the bottom 80 or 90% of men, so it could be a long wait.
I used to always see you commenting on Rom Wills videos
@@ellisjackson336 That's right. Shout out to Big Brotha Rom.
I always wonder how some men don’t have the self respect or intelligence to move on after a clear rejection. WHY would you want a girl who doesn’t want you? What could you possibly achieve by that? And what could possibly make you take out time, to chase her, thereby refusing to let go? If you were friends, you can remain friends because that’s genuine. But if you weren’t, why do you care?
Maybe she rejected you for reasons unrelated to you. Could be work, moving, different values/lifestyle/choices, etc. Obviously she SAW elements of incompatibility which made her reject you. How can you say that that incompatibility doesn’t exist?
Or she rejected you because she is at a point in life, where you’re not the right person for her. She may be working towards a goal, that you aren’t equipped to be a part of because you don’t display the traits that someone on that journey would have.
@@Ashnesss I’ve thought about this too. And I’ll tell you what. It is my opinion that the main reason a guy would be hung up on a girl that doesn’t like him is because she looks good to him
A lot of them act attracted and then switch up halfway through
They weren't attracted....it's called manipulation.
That usually happens when men advance way more than women and she realizes that you're more invested than her. That's this myth of ''men making the first move'', ''men making advances into intimacy'' The truth is a woman don't love you if you're the one advancing first and always seeking her. Essentially what she's saying is: Women are very clear when they want a guy, she'll make sure he knows it and she'll not wanna lose that guy. And that's the woman you should look for
@@renanstxr And most women don't want most men so that still solves nothing. But men should not chase or validate women that don't want them.
no they dont not how people are you ignored the red flags because you didnt care
@@johngalt6838 or attraction to the lifestyle, not the person.
My advice for men - pick women who chose you BUT ONLY with the additional precondition of them being about the same 'level' you are, otherwise, just be alone. World should not revolve around women's desires only and by any means, as is indirectly suggested in this video.
You said it perfect, that's my issue...I can't find that same level it always tilts one way or another
I quit porn masturbation and craving for sex, when urges come I do 10 pushups 10 squats 10 breaths , only thing in my mind is financial freedom , great health and fortune,
You've ascended, my man. Keep the grind and become your best version.
Maybe rub one out twice a month or so. Just do things in moderation. . Use your mind. Let it come naturally
Stoicism & Solitaire will leave women hurt because we men aren't naturally emotionally wemon are
I think this will help me as , I have been struggling at it.
You're physically much better off. The best solution is a healthy relationship, which is possible only when both people are healthy. Until that looks like a strong probability, it's best to keep your distance (don't let yourself be drawin in).
In my experience, if she’s about you and she’s attractive to you, do your best everyday. But if she’s not submissive or respectful, just walk away.
Submissive are u kidding me. Replace that with cooperative. Idk what workd you want to live in, but I want no part in any dictating what another person has to do. If they don't they can leave. The person who dictates is simply just the oppressive side of what we know the condition of slavery is.
In the current dating environment, especially with the laws as they are, if he is lucky, he will have to accept that women are a temporary thing. Relationships do not last today for about 90% of men due to her tendency to get bored and her unreasonable expectations. If he wants marriage, he will have to look to either Asia or Latin America.
@@josuejimenez3562 If you need submission you likely need a psychologist yourself before you should start even talking to other humans.. I'm not sure if he simply wanted to say that you should walk away from a woman that is combative all the time.
@@josuejimenez3562These religious men need to get a life, don't they? "Submission"
@@LunnarisLPNo, that man means that he wants a doormat who'd be able to be easily controlled.
The problem is that social media has inflated women's egos because they get so much attention and validation that even average-looking women aren't willing to invest in a relationship with most men.
So you got it right that the Internet is ruining the dating scene but no it's not that men feel entitled to dating a supermodel.
exactly... it's more often that average woman wants the top 5% guy (which she has a chance for but only short term😂) while an average man would absolutely welcome regular sex (relationship) from an average woman (average = decent, fairly attractive, fit)... but people are mostly single these days
Sadia knows a thing or two but never sees the whole picture because she is biased by her own situation and being a woman
Actually it is the other way around. Men usually date out of their league and women mostly settle for men below their looks.
@@SaintNath Assuming there are actually as many men as women above and below average, this makes no mathematical sense, unless women are just generally more attractive than men, in which case it would be automatically the case that most men are dating out of their league. Either way, your point makes no sense..
@@SaintNath
How is that mathematically possible?
@@jakelesnake4927yes they are and also there are more women out there. Also women care a lot more about their looks and are guided by society into being more pretty than your average man.
Im 38, and in the last 10 years, it is so easy to see how much meaner and evil women behave.
Yeah and men are suuuuper nice :}
@@pb-wt2ckcompared to women... yes, they are.
@aldomonti813 heck yeah. Also lots of women blame guys often the nice ones for their poor choices only to repeat the pattern again
Boohoo :(((
@@pb-wt2ck yes, but what about what about what about what about what about whataboutism. So that women can NEVER take accountability.
Pretty much go where you are wanted and desired💯
Men have no idea where that is since women dont approach men
She needs to drop the mic after the first 30 seconds. This is absolutely the key to a lasting relationship. The woman has to like/ love you more than you like/ love her. Why? Because she will get much more sexual attention from men out there in the street. If you're more into her than she is into you, she will never respect you or take you seriously. Ask any women in your friend or family circles. The honest ones will admit this.
She Is So Right! So Many Guys Attached To Women Who Aren’t Attracted To Them, By Not Honoring Her No’s. If She Says No, It’s No! Have Some Self Respect And Move On! Quit Persisting And Chasing Her! She Has To Feel Deeply Attracted To You In Order For Your Presence Not To Bother Her. Males Need To Be More Self Aware. Read The Woman! 💅🏻
I definitely agree with her. We always pursue the most attractive women. We pay the price when the relationship fails.
No they don't, look at Robert DeNiro. Went through 3 marriages with ugly women and they ALL divorce raped him. What you say is nonsence.
Exactly the same for women placing a man’s height on a pedestal because of their social media attention addictions.
The only truth there is, is that do not f*ck with women who do not f*ck with you. If she was insanely attracted to you in the beginning and still initiates divorce proceedings later on, it just means that either you got played or you've simped your way to lose your earlier position.
It's a hard game to play, boys. Good luck to y'all.
Eventually ‘simped your way through’ means you got played anyway because you can’t simp on a woman thats attracted to you
most women have game, they will show you what you want to see at first and when you are already in the relationship, only then they will show their true colors..
my approach is date to marry but too often it's only when you are together (like in a relationship) that you get to know the real her.
What Sadia didn't mention, which deconstructs her narrative somewhat, is how many other men that woman, who is deeply sexually attracted to you, is also attracted to-especially if she finds them equally, and in some cases, even more sexually appealing, especially if he's the new thing on the block.
Plus, high-voltage sexual attraction combusts and consumes very quickly. If that's the ontological foundation of the relationship, you've got a heady cocktail breeding ground for sexless marriages and cheating once the high-voltage sexual attraction fades.
Good point. It's one thing to find a woman who is physically attracted to you and a totally different one to find a woman who is mentally and emotionally attracted to you
Be polygamous
But that's how mine started. She's my ex now but that spark is still there. However there's 0 compatibility
Personally my sexual voltage doesn't die down until the person starts misbehaving. Or wants out. Maybe I'm a nympho
@@robinthomas5068 Polygamy is reserved for those who can afford it sir.
The honest truth is that most average people are not going to find TOO many people who are “deeply, hopelessly sexually obsessed” and all this delusional nonsense. Work on your personality to be more likeable and fun to be around, work on your style/presentation/hygiene and actively work to become someone that another person would like to invest themselves in committing to. A lot of you really need to come back to Earth and stop worrying about OF girls, cornstars, and “Chad” and get off social media and start focusing on women at your church and local area where you run errands and live your actual life.
to sum up this 2 minute video.
date with the women who actually like you even if they are not as hot as you would like
Sigh, I really wish she would have added "that like you AND you find attractive" otherwise you're just settling for someone who you don't really want and then that person falls in live meanwhile you're just "meh" about her
@@dericmederos1514 yes to be fair im sure she doesnt mean just go for butt ugly.
Her point is corn and social media caused men to find average looking women some what unattractive because they are used to seeing 10/10 photoshoped women
But if she doesn't look enough attractive for you, she will feel that she's only a second choice. How can you expect dedication from her instead of resentment ?
And how shaming it is for her !
@@marie-soleildauphinais9530 there is a balance
Good luck getting a woman to admit that she likes you. Go for someone you are attracted to, and hope your game is good enough to get her to like you back.
I agree with this..men are putting up with women that treat them like garbage ..its sad .. some men care too much what their homeboys think but ignore their mom or sister who plead with them.. not that chick honey..but men turn around oh shes hot.. ignore all red flags ..some men are just gluttons for punishment..there is more than that one woman in the world..
The reason why I make my statement is because she also felt to understand that if the man does not choose her, the relationship is just going to remain platonic
I feel like this is more relevant toward women. Most guys will date whoever they can, it’s a small percentage with over inflated ego and expectations. On the reverse you see low-average women seeking the top 1%
Bingo 100%. Even the less attractive and way less attractive women(ugly in this case), will look for the highest quality male. They can do this, cos a ton of normal and desperate guys lower their standards so much. That's why you constantly see 5/10 guys date 3/10 women, or worse. Never take any dating advice from a woman,. Most of the time they don't know what they want themself.
It's a fact that women are more picky than men, since men will literally sleep with a woman they don't know with no protection on just for the thrill.
Now who's smarter?
Women choose first, men choose back. Depends on how many options each guy has. Some guys take who they can as you put it, others have their pick of the litter
She is right.
Long ago, I used to deny beautiful women who were really attracted to me, ticked all the positive boxes on paper, just because I wasn't attracted to them back or "I didn't feel it". When I grew up, I learned to appreciate women instead of seeking a feeling of immediate attraction. I learned that if I gave them a chance we might cultivate a higher bond, something more like partnership and complicity, and maybe mutual admiration. This is how I operate now.
And you are single..
The reason why a less attractive girl might be more attached is because she has less options. If she was more attractive she might behave differently.
Female nature 101
Who said otherwise? The day a woman thinks she can do better is the day she steps out. Get with a woman that chooses you especially when they are less than 25 yrs old
But that's the whole point. An attractive woman will see most men as disposable tools, ATM machines. She's saying that men should stop going for women who think they're 10/10 (anything above 7 really, but it depends on how attractive she thinks she is, the entitled ones).
@@manovonorthe point is that, according to this fake psychologist full of plastic and rolled in make up, you need to pick women below your aesthetic level and below your level under every department.
Basically submitting to the female hypergamous biological imperative and suppressing your own natural instincts (which she deems to come from cornography 😂😂😂😂😂).
Thanks but no, thanks!
Not really, you are using paper logic.
*Relationship is a choice, not a contest.*
Unfortunately, a lot of relationships become some sort of competition between each other rather than teamwork.
@@BreakupBounce People are feared or afraid to be single. Yet people never learned to clean their own hearts and become a genuine good person. There’s no shortcut to be a good person. It takes time to detach oneself from the world’s or society’s way and then replace with love, wisdom, care and other things.
The world has everything but it has no true value or reward.
@@BreakupBounce In the end, adults are just delusional children in every era. They are no different from actual childrens.
Sometimes the smarts of certain women become too much for my little brain! 🤯🧠
@@oosmanbeekawoo it’s not your brain is weak but your spirit within you is weak.
Typical message from a modern woman. Don't have standards. Just date
down with the first woman who likes you. It's all about the woman getting
the man she's attracted to, not vice versa.
👏👏👏
She's still right though. If you like her more than she likes you, the relationship is doomed.
@@keithlamontdavis8047which shouldnt be the case.
like it wasnt decades ago in a better society where feminism didnt do its damage
Uh what? Who said anything about dating down? If you are worthy of a "baddie" being attracted to you... you're not dating down.
If you are not... then what are you going to do?
But I see her point. Both genders are chasing what they want but not what wants them; leading to all kinds of heartbreak and anxiety.
This Video highlights the challenges of finding the right life partner due to the fear of being deceived after marriage. It emphasizes the importance of intelligence and perseverance in making this difficult decision. Trusting someone fully is scary given the possibility of them changing post-marriage. The text reflects a genuine concern about building a lasting, trusting relationship and avoiding frustration and disappointment.
Here's a tip for women who want a long term and committed relationship: Don't waste your youth dating immature guys. Find a mature, good man and give him your youth and your health, and he will be grateful to you and loyal to you for life. If you've already given up the best times of your life to someone else or something else, you will find it harder to gain loyalty from a man.
Where do i find a good mature man?
@@Cutiejuliya not at a bar, maybe try the library.
@@CutiejuliyaThey are everywhere, go out more and pray God directs you to one
@@CutiejuliyaMature men can be at a bar or library. Anywhere
There is no mature good man.
This is a HIGHLY intelligent, wise, and knowledgeable woman. All my respect.
The first time I saw my now wife, I thought that she was not the type I was looking for. But we became friends very easily. The chemistry slowly followed and now we are still best friends, partners and happy with each other for 32 years...❤
Today's relationships are materialistic. Stay single stay happy.
I see it everywhere
@@jaddyrose9318 Ours is a singles group for 40+, all never married and we all are very happy.
Maybe you need to start finding new ppl to be around cuz that’s no fun
@@inverteadSpear13 It's your opinion. BTW, ours is a singles group for 40+, all never married and we all are very happy. 🙏
Sexist and wrong. You don't know a damn thing. Maybe cause cuz women don't get anything, never got love from you a--------------. So she had to. Women stay single, stay happy.
Someone who likes you today might not like you tomorrow, today she likes you tomorrow you are a stranger
Thats litersly every relationship you realize that dont you? So its always better to go for someone who likes you first
She's no yours it's just your turn.
Briffault law, female nature 101
@@youtibe2320 except thats BS. Who hurt you?
@@youtibe2320 then remain celibate and single cuz why would you be around people like that??
@@xMckingwill that's the truth men. She had men before you and when she'll be bored or whatever, she will leave you for another. So yes, it's just your turn, know it and enjoy and much as you can. Don't be surprised and don't overreact when she'll leave you, it's called life.
"the number one
determinant of how healthy your
relationship will be is
how attracted a
woman is to you
as a man if you bypass
this very fundamental component you will
suffer in the form forms of very abusive
relationships
when you're a man who is
dating a woman who's super attracted to
you regardless of how you feel about her
she's attracted to you she treats you
with respect she'll be available she'll
be accessible she'll be very easy to
kind of get her to comply she'll be all
of those things that men are looking for
she'll be more agreeable"
In other words she will be a feminine woman and not a toxic masculine woman.
This probably the best advice I’ve heard to find the right woman.
This was very insightful. It also brings to mind that I've watched psychology professionals claim there are more cases of narcissistic men than women. Since the majority of divorces are filed by women and knowing she is planning to "take the most out of you as she leaves" then the actions tell us that the majority of narcissists are women.
There's three fs. 1).Feed them. 2) Finance them. 3) F them. That's all. Everything else is a blur.
Go for that if you want a hollow empty relationship, and dont bitch when your relationshios fall a part.
Its clear you dont even like women, if you were to have a daughter would you want her future husband to view her as nothing more than a pet?
That's the women that you like
@@auemmjee but soon he realize he was wrong lol, its like u take care a dog with no abilty n no help at all
So much said in just under 2 minutes! Superb!! I immediately subscribed.
Once I travelled through turkey as a youngster. A man from Antep invited me to some tea. He has given me the following advise:
Don't marry the girl you like but marry the girl who likes you on the first hand. If you don't follow this advice you'll suffer on the long term.
Attraction should be weighed by the outside mirroring what is on the inside. That is how I determine real beauty in a woman.
This doesn't make sense. My wife was absolutely full on attracted to me. Two babies later, youngest turns 4, she tells me she fell in love with a Swedish guy and we are going to do this thing she heard about from the US called "open marriage". I left her, she took the children hostage and filed for divorce. Whoever the Swedish guy is, falling in love with an old 36 year old woman with 2 young children. That's really messed up.
Open marriage :) haha! she thought she can have it all, new relationship and you as a fallback guy. its unfortunate that kids have to suffer from the choices she made. I dont believe that Swedish guy there to take your place. He will be out as soon as looking after kids and looking after the house starts ;) Karma is a b*tch (I know everyone saying that, but it true), they will feel the same what they did to you. I dont get women who are using kids to get back at person that they have cheated on themselves... It makes no sense! Wait till she will want to go on a holiday or on a date :) She will run to you begging to take the kids. Your day will come ;)
@@BreakupBounce my God I needed to hear that. Thank you for giving me hope. I mean it out of the bottom of my heart ❤️
Attracted to you, sure. But dont ever pick a woman who is smater than you. Just letting you know for the next one 😉
Don't worry if he ( your ex wife's new crush) enters a committed relationship with her then he is stupid because he is picking her when she is at her left over stage withe her at this stage in lowest value sexually and maritally ( for divorcing you of course). And only you the former husband can appreciate her at that stage because you had memories with her when she was younger and hotter. The only reason a man dates a married woman or divorcee with kids is for sex/ short term relationship
@@tochukwuifeanacho3843 thank you ❤️
True. I dated based purely on looks and a few beauties drove me insane. One was even married and I never knew until we bumped into her husband lol. Then I met my future wife at work. She is how Sadia describes and I almost let her slip from my grasp until a good friend gave me the kick up the backside I sorely needed. Ten years, one marriage, and two kids later and I'm the one who cannot be without her. Sadia nailed it.
Thats why i dont chase
Exactly. I am a hetero sexual man. The only time I made the move, I was rejected. All my best relationships started when she made the first move. I strongly believe that today, as a man, you must focus on presenting yourself in the best possible way because at the end of the day it's women who decide whater a relationship will start or not...even when it's not them making the first move...Also, a man who is focused on his own goals and doesn't really chase women is considered far more attractive
@@giuseppemaggio5894 💯
Agree with you 💯
@@giuseppemaggio5894 Agree 💯
@@giuseppemaggio5894Same for me mate, 100% true
Or, just spend your time and effort on fully developing yourself and you won't need a relationship and/or worry about which one finds you attractive/unattractive. It will save you loads of money and heartache.
That's actually a great breakdown of the social media influence
What a joke, relatinship are destroyed by lennbecause they want the most beautiful woman?
Who fills for divorce?
Who goes from men to men in her youth?
Who is full of shitest and listen to aher no brained girlfriend?
All points taken and reinforced.
It doesn't matter my friend whether a woman is attracted to you or not.. she will eventually lose interest quickly.. here is why:
Women are followers by nature.. when society and social media puts them on a pedestal and paints "prostitution" in beautiful colors, they will eventually leave.. it is only a matter of time
Okay, ms. Know it all
The best solution is a healthy relationship, which is possible only when both people are healthy. Until that looks like a strong probability, it's best to keep your distance (don't let yourself be drawin in).
ABSOLUTELY….. eventually they treat you as if you are a nuisance.
Exactly what happens when they lose respect for you.
When you aren’t interested in promoting.
Excellent advice, men would be so wise to always remember this
Your attraction to her has no bearing on her attraction to you. Men wrongly think that because they are the pursuers, their pursuit alone will make them attractive. It does the opposite. It lowers your value (absent game).
As usual it’s again the men’s fault.
Exactly. That's is my problem with Sadia's and a few other people's content these days. Blaming men is nicely wrapped and fed to us. What will come next? Maybe we'll have to date women with an unhealthy BMI who we don't even find attractive at all? Or will they try to sell us that it's men's fault in general that combative, 24/7 nagging, manipulative single mothers are single?
This time it is
In many cases its is i know accountability is hard.
@@xMckingwillyou are everywhere in this video, defending her. You sure you are not that type of guy that she told us about? I agree with her about "men should chase other things than women" (That's basically what she said), but disagree with her saying it's entirely men's fault. I mean, duh, women are the main contributors in pornography, you can't lie to yourself about that.
But here you are, protecting this lady, am i right?
Edit: oh right, you are that guy who subs to those weird v-tubers.... Sorry, then
Leaders take accountability. That is man's calling.
The best way to protect your self-esteem, is to make sure she sends you signals saying she's attracted to you BEFORE you approach. I always check for who's checking ME out.
It's men AND women. All women nowadays think they are Goddesses because they are being told "Everbody is beautiful". And so even the fat, mousy Plain Jane feels that Mr. Average is not good enough for her anymore. What people need to realize is that no, we are not ALL beautiful. (As a matter of fact, most of us are NOT, not by objective standards.) And we don't need to be to have a happy relationship. Just find someone who is in your league, and you'll be fine. BTW, I still think that attration should always be mutual, more or less. Otherwise one of the partners involved might end up being the doormat. So I STRONGLY disagree with Sadia Khan here. Especially because she stresses that it will be easier to "get the woman to comply" if she is more attracted to you than you are to her. Certainly not my ideal of partnership!
You are the 10% left of the good women. Please don’t change.
Sweetie, that goes both ways.
There are so many influencers nowadays giving "advice" nowadays... like, holy shit.
You have ex porn stars, resentful men who call themselves sigmas, alfas, whatever, pseudo writters, car entrepreneurs...
@@Lucas-ck1po I'm almost at the point where I'll only watch documentaries and videos about my hobbies. No entertainment, no talk shows, no random stuff because all these people on social media will say or do anything to draw views; all in the guise of catering to people's needs. All make believe and very manipulative.
Except it is worse....it doesn't go both ways! Most guys I know just want to find a normal girl and those normal girls reject them and decide to stay lonely and dream about rich actors coming at their doorstep proposing for marriage! Enough said!!!!😑
What are your hobbies?@@abdul-kabiralegbe5660
Wrong. Both should choose each other. That's true love
2 minutes was enough. Thank you.
What she describes about attractiveness predates social media.
Can't agree more. Men would still do their duty & be there for the women even if they are not attracted to her.
And one day, this faithful less attractive woman will wake-up and realize that during all this time she's been caring for everyone and devoted to her man, he was betraying her with porn and dreaming about others.
And then, she will be blamed because she has trust issues, because she lacks self-confidence and self-worth, because she feels threatened by other women's youth and beauty. She will be the one to afford for expensive therapists (often without seeing any results). She will be the one who will be afraid to end her life alone but won't be able to open her heart to any man because being faithful (body, mind and spirit) is almost impossible in our modern world.
If a woman is not attractive for you, guys, don't even touch her. Stop taking advantage of someone's love just for your own sake. If you do so, you're only perpetuating the cycle of lies, betrayal and pain. Relationships suck because we have stopped caring about other people's vulnerable heart.
They don’t care, it’s all about the women fulfilling a role, it’s a means to the end (the end being a successful life for a man). If you don’t learn to value and live your own life for the sake of YOUR OWN FULFILLED LIFETIME, you will be chasing validation from men for the rest of your life while being deeply unsatisfied and depressed. Wake up please, take your self-respect back from all the men who hurt you. They’re literally just other humans, they’re not Gods or anything like that.. stop giving all your power away and embarrassing yourself like this. Reclaim your dignity and self-respect.
I usually don't agree with her, but she has a valid point here
This time I agree with you.
This is good advice for sugar daddies. For the rest of us it's worthless. If she's not attracted to you, she won't go out with you, UNLESS you've got something else she IS attracted to.
Never listen to a fish on how to catch fish. They are hypergamous and most of them reach above their pay grade/level.
Nice one for putting that here
Sadia Khan is the only woman who really knows what she is talking about when it comes to relationships and the sexual marketplace! Well done...
She change once her needs changes no matter how good and kind you are . Lets say if she loved you for money and position "her desire will vanish once you loose it or once she don't need it anymore( or if she's got someone got more ) and trust me she will creat 100 thousand excuse // easy she can say you treat her bad or you emotional abusive.. and mostly community support women coz they feel sympathy and they belive tears if she that type of manipulative women
Thats a deep truth! 😥
thanks
I always found myself more attracted to women who are nice to me. Not so worried about she looks like. The good looking ones are a pain in the ass and usually need to be put in their place. And then the come after to get rejected cause we must be authebtic
She said the " truth " !!!!
Interesting. I am 54 so clearly a different time. Pakistani American who has been in the US since I was 19. I never went out with any girl who did not ask me out. Even some who did ask me out but not in very clear direct ways that I did not get, I missed because I truly was that clueless and would figure it out later when friends would tell me. I met my wife in a club. She literally kicked my knee cap on the dance floor and then said sorry and ended up asking me to hang out. We have been together for 25 years now and married for 22 and relationships are a lot of work and take commitment and have ups and downs but that are the promises we make and try to keep them the best way we can.
As a Men who has been married for 30 years. SHE IS 100% RIGHT. This is what I keep telling my son. Not sure if many actually understand how important this is.
I guess this is why so many married men are in sexless marriages
She has a point however her "why men struggle more" is very far from the truth, we are simple creatures in that aspect we like someone we express it and if we get rejected we move on, the problem I think is that women's now days searching for the perfect Chad billionaire that elusive top 1% alpha ....beta gama epsilon....all that modern jazz. A man nowadays is in search for a normal woman but like Plato with a lighter that doesn't mean we are going to accept "anything goes mentally"(looks, appearances, attitude, agreeableness). And I don't think we need someone soooo damn agreeable I am not looking for a pet I am looking for a partner in life. Most of the other points she said is true. Then again everyone wants at least normal looking girl besides him not someone from a body positivity movement because that's in "anything goes" territory. And one more thing, how exactly to trully be with someone if you aren't attracted to them but they are....that wouldn't last long either.
One of the best advice I've gotten from a lady
Like Morgan freeman said, “don’t chase”
Unfortunately this woman spits out a ton of bs, so I'd avoid anything with her in it.
So, what does a guy do when the woman is so in love with you for 2 years and then once you are married poof it disappears, and then you can’t do anything right for the next 2, and turns out they were manipulating and lying the whole time… I believe they call it covert narcissism, but I’m genuinely curious how are you supposed to see this coming?
Why would you get married?
@@auemmjee because I didn’t think she was a devil in human skin.
This man should go back to education: Female Nature 101
Best advice EVER!!
Thank you so much
So, I should pick a woman that I find unattractive?
If only unattractive women are attracted to you, perhaps you should work on yourself
are those the only ones who would respect you?
This woman is contradicting herself, if there's no mutual attraction from both sides men or women they are just delaying the break up, end of story😢
No shes saying if you find them attractive as a man and they women dont find you attractive then xyz will happen, she always has pearls
No you fool she is saying if you pick a woman who DOES NOT LIKE YOU. Your relationship will FAIL.
She is saying many men OVER
VALUE BEAUITY and will choose to be with a women who doesnt like them because she is hot.
She is sort of saying don’t be a “7” trying to date “9’s” and “10’s.” Maybe date another female “7,” possibly an “8,” but a “6” will treat you like a God.
@@somethingawesome9547 that is NOT what she is saying jesus.
She is saying many men make the wronge choice to date a woman who is bad for them because she is hot. Or would ignore a womens red flags because she has big tits.
@@somethingawesome9547only if she's EXTREMELY attracted to you. Someone being somewhat less attractive doesn't mean they're going to be insanely attracted to you.
Thank you.
Translation: Women get to be picky about how a man looks but men should settle for whoever is willing to offer respect and cooperation regardless of how bad or good she looks.
"Regardless of how you feel about her."
That's one of the unwisest thing I have heard in a while. :D
So if I understand correctly...women are hypergamous and men should tolerate it, accept it, embrace it, and I go further...men should adopt to women's hypergamy. Let's just finally cut the cap. If society in this form is destined to be doomed why should men be the ones who put up with women's nonsense? Sadia Khan is preaching things that have absolutely nothing in common with men's logic.
She’s explaining woman’s logic. No mens! Sadia is sharing the psychology of how women think and the moves that they may make in relationships. That’s the point here.
These are your own conclusions, Sadia didn't give any tips on top of her observations. She just said, that for relationship to thrive, woman's attraction to a man is crucial. The "regardless" part pinpoints that it's an isolated factor, and you can't compensate this in other areas, because you want her so much so you will make it work - you will not.
And she's right about that. Man can grab a woman he wants based on his status, money, power, or even just by providing her safety and calming her fears. But it ain't enough for a stable long term relationship to last, without this basic attraction from a woman it's gonna fail, and if you build your marriage on that, it's just a divorce with delay.
@@ntr86 nah mate, the context is that she critizes men for their preferences. It's a classic pushing the blame on men, a.k.a. victimblaming.
To sum it up: You want a beautiful woman? Too bad. It's your fault you cannot get her. You should settle with a woman you don't necessarily like JUST BECAUSE she's into you.
This is the message of her words.
The thing is men also feel. It's not a privilege of women to feel. So if you settle with a woman who really likes you or even loves you, but vica versa these feelings aren't there or even worse you as a man don't feel anything then your life will be miserable because you won't want to be your best version for her. And you'll always have the temptation to do unfaithful things if you meet a woman who generates feelings.
It's time for men to step up their existence and be proud of themselves, and I'm not talking about the f.ckboys who ruin many women's self confidence, self esteem just to turn them into misandrists but average men who turn into low level dogs in the pack to get the attention of a woman. If a man can't get a woman he wants he needs to step back and remain single. It's better to have a backbone than being in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
what tf are you talking about? she is saying focus on the women who actually like you
Actually you have it backwards.
Hypergamy is VERY logical.
Women are logical in long-term partner selection...
whereas men are romantic, idealistic, and emotional.
In other aspects of life, of course, it's the opposite.
She's 100% right.
No she's not because most average normal looking women these days are not attracted whatsoever to the average guy! Listen you think we ask out models and pornstars on dates? Nope we ask normal women in our normal boring lives and most of the women I know and knew are single and they're reaching their 30's. Why? The answer is quite simple the average woman is simply not interested at all in the average men or want to do anything with him, hence why you have low birth rates everywhere in our modern system!
Sadia wisdom is impressive.
Great points
I will take "Things to say No shit" to for 500 Alex.
Most women do not choose most men......that will not work.
that is objectively false if that was tru humanty would have gone extinct a loong time ago , its more accurate to say most people wont like you which is life
Not directly you have to be smart enough to recognize their advances or suttle hints. I’ve had women tell me straight up tell me they’re interested, then i’ve had women who have given hints and I read between the lines. There is no one size fits all approach. Just use your brain it will be obvious.
@@finnessejets4231 No....most women are NOT interested in the vast majority of men
@@johngalt6838 thats simply OBJECTIVLY NOT TRUE what are you even talking about?
If that was true explain all the average men with women?
If that was true humanity would have gone extinct.
@@johngalt6838 okay, keep living bud. You’re not used to getting them, so you obviously don’t know, get your confidence up and you’ll understand game buddy.
She's making sense
Sadia is really spitting some truth here
You don't ask a deer how to hunt. Never take dating advice from a woman..
Amen!
she is right about this one tho...
You’ll somehow get it…but will you maintain it? That’s what she’s saying here…
The advice men give each other is laughable.
@@auemmjee you know what's more laughable ? Feminism 🤣
It's always men's fault.
Actually an interesting take
What Sadia is saying is True and is really shows how shallow and surface the World is. It's a terrible thing and leads to so much Unrighteous behavior...
She gives half baked opinion
So, lead someone on, lie to her to make her feel ok, all the while wanting something more for myself. If you reversed men and women in this take you’d be mobbed in the streets.
No ? Thats not what she said what?
She said go for women who already like you and want to be with you
@@xMckingwillbro missed the whole take 😂😂
Sounds like you don't know how to attract attractive women
@@-441- yeah idk 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
she spoke the truth!!!
Very well said! ❤