Sadia Psychology: The Untold Truth About Attraction
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Join Sadia Khan and Tom Bilyeu on Impact Theory for a revealing conversation about modern relationships, the psychology of attraction, and sexual compatibility. Learn why self-control is crucial, how impulsivity impacts relationships, and the role of experience in sexual satisfaction. Sadia and Tom discuss the importance of honesty, the pitfalls of promiscuity, and strategies for cultivating long-term commitment. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of love, desire, and maintaining a healthy relationship in today's world.
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
If you truly loved your partner you should be okay with letting them go and letting them find happiness because obviously it wasn’t with you
I've always thought that someone who has tons of one night stands is not better at sex than someone who only has sex within the confines of a relationship.
I've been with 4 women, but I've had sex thousands of times. So, who's really more experienced? The guy who's had 100 one night stands or the guy who's had sex thousands of times?
Bruce Lee said I am not afraid of someone who has learned one thousand types of kicks but the one who has done one type of kick for one thousand repetitions.
Exactly!
More experienced at doing missionary is irrelevant. We all know in relationships after a certain point, there's no more adventure. You can pretend otherwise but we know. Pumping for 5 minutes then rolling over to catch some tube thousands of times is not the experience anyone wants.
@@modickens1272 Speak for yourself. That's not how my sexual experiences went.
@@modickens1272 we eat everyday but we are hungry everyday. But we don't seek pleasure and adventure only from food alone. Also the environment around the table of food changes the taste (feeling) of food. For example it is different to have sex with the same woman on vacations, after a difficult day in work, after days being away, after a disagreement etc. Not only the body but circumstances make an experience unique. For example some people say that having sex with the same gender is a new adventure but since I am heterosexual I wouldn't enjoy it at all. The same way having sex with women with not any emotional depth is like doing it with many different plastic dolls which I don't enjoy.
I watch her for a minute or two and always think ''what load of rubbish''. One day I might be surprised and she might say something sensible.
Men want a good woman to have children with - a woman they can trust will be a good mother. That doesn’t mean that men will stop being promiscuous with women they have no intention of having children with.
Do we fight our urges to make sure the future of our offspring and companionship are secure? Yes, if you’re a good man. There are even men willing to sacrifice his own life for a woman, but sleep with other women. Wrap your mind around that.
There are plenty of men with multiple children from multiple women that don’t care about their children’s future or mental well-being, while also never willing to sacrifice themselves like previously mentioned.
Women want loyalty so this is a mismatch.
Thanks.
I dont think guys sleeping with 100 women care whether or not those women were satisfied or not 😂😂😂
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What book are they talking about around 5:37 time. “Getting my kids”. I could not find that book.
I want to know too.
Otherwise, this needs to be shared worldwide. Facts only!
There is no rule book here. You can have someone sleep around and be bad at sex.
Someone sleep around and be good at sex.
Someone have a handful of partners in a lifetime and be good at sex.
Someone have a handful of partners in a lifetime and be bad at sex.
This is utter BS.
Stick to the psychology of attraction and maintaining relationships.
Did she hurt your feelings?
@@thebirdclanwho hurt u lol come up with something else 🙄
What book is he talking about?
It's crazy this talk about sexual experience. Men value a woman who's sexualy compatible and has fewer experiences. I recently heard my favorite quote of the year: "Women are interested in a man's future, while men are interested in a woman's past." Body count matters.
Nope....we care about a man's past as well....if we have low body count we don't want to be with a man with a high body count....there's a massive difference between a guy who had few long term relationships and a guy who slept with a ton of girls....
@fluffycalico I think you get the gist of what I'm saying. I generally don't think the person to whom body count matters is indiscriminately sleeping around. In fact, the people in this chat would generally make good matches for each other but will likely never meet.
I knew this guy who married a girl because she was a virgin and rejected another who had one boyfriend before him. 19 years later his wife divorced him, got tatoos, and raised both his daughters to be very promiscous, she allowed them to date early. The other woman whom he had rejected, married someone, still in a happy marriage and her daughter is a doctor engaged to a surgeon. Go figure. Body count is important only if its outrageous. Morals and personality are way more important than the body count.
The research is clear, virgin women are the most happy in their marriage. And every sexual partner after that decreases the chance of a happy marriage. 5 sexual partners indicates already an abysmal low chance of a successful marriage.
Drop some studies links.
For starters, correlation doesn’t equal causation. Something being associated with a decrease or increase in something else doesn’t mean that it is the cause of said decrease or increase. This is basic stats.
@@Youttubeuser20932 the correlation/causation excuse is the biggest bullshit. Look the studies up yourself and google it. Correlation indicates correlation. That means there is a correlation and that in itself is already enough. These studies have been done on a very large number on women. And then as an intelligent person you go look how this correlation works. In this case it’s obvious. Since for women sex is normally a bonding experience, but this ability to bond decreases. Another study found a huge correlation between the number of sex partners and cheating in a marriage. Women with 10+ sex partners had a 6x higher occurrence of cheating than virgin women.
You're 100% correct. This may be why it was practiced for thousands of years until the final stages of Western uncivilization.
@@kennethedwards3095 Except he's not right. Being associated with a decrease is not the same as being the cause of a decrease.
Same goes for virgin men..and I don't think women who are virgin want men who sleep around..
If I can say in my very limited experience with women, women seem to be more attracted long term, not to looks and not to youth, or even experienced, its the type of person the woman is. In a serious woman, who from youth look for guys, who are traditional, meaning conservative and family oriented, they are attracted to mature people not just youthful men. The more a woman is attracted to beauty, atleast in women of that type who love beauty and pure emotion, they are interested in the physical appearance, physicality, or sexual prowess. On the majority of youth in women starting out that choose the men they want and often the most desired women, with intelligence, purity, and above all beauty that men unconciously desire from an early age, those women before they are disenfranchised and filled with ideas beauty alone is all a man wants with a good time, desire mature men, and many just don't seem to see that and they base it purely on one aspect of a person, of what is attractive. Basically, I say most women, and women that are secretly the most desired, base their wants and needs not on appearance or sexual prowess as is popularly believed, but on intelligence, assuredness, and maturity. I guarantee you if you ask a woman, that is smart and attractive, namely the most desirable ones, they don't list sexual prowess, but intelligence and maturity.
They don't say anything because it gives them an excuse to look for it somewhere else.
I think the piece you are missing is that men employ both r and k reproductive strategies. That is both high quantity/low investment and high investment/low quantity. The former being "hit it and quit it" the latter being "LTR". For men, both are available, both are "successful" reproductive strategy-wise from an evolutionary perspective. The difference here being, for the latter, paternity certainty is critical vis a vis the investment. So I would argue the opposite. With "good sex" being proxy for promiscuity being proxy for LOW paternity certainty, that will actually be an "ick" vis a vis an LTR. But for the former strategy, it's about numbers and there isn't investment costs, so paternity certainty isn't an attraction factor one way or another, so "good sex" would be more alluring.
The point being, whether "good sex" is attractive or not is going to be a factor of the strategy in the particular circumstance.
The problem is when people assume a singular strategy, it results in wrong conclusions about what is or is not attractive.
This is why men will date 304s but want a "virgin" for a LTR. And why people don't understand this.
She is 💯. % Right!!!
Men do not fall in love with women through sex. I totally disagree.
Me too
Me too
Yeaaaa it’s not black and white. It def affects bonding, but probably to a lesser degree than it does for women.
Sex is a piece of the puzzle. But it's absolutely not all. Good sex can be created over time as both get to know each other better.
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If you take time to research the psychology talked about in the bdsm community I have found that just because people like rough sex does not mean they are promiscuous. That is a incorrect stero type.
In fact bdsm and power exchange couples in long term relationships and marriages tend to have a very unbreakable bond and find healing and deep connections once they find a partner that "gets it"
And i actually 100% agree with the stats that say the fewer sexual partners you have the better chances your marriage will not end in divorce. However myself, and pretty much every woman ive ever dated, has had more than 10 sexual partners easily. So if i cant turn back time, then i have to push on ahead and explore and understand my own sexuality and my partners sexuality so expertly without jealousy, fear, or judgment.
There is a point of connection and understanding that creates space for healing instead of creating more trauma if you take the time to learn and execute upon the intricacies of you and your partners sexual proclivities.
Healing and connection begins to happen instead of the perpetuation of more trauma.
You dont hear about it though because people tend to keep this information to themselves.
You cant exactly talk about you and your partners weird fetishes that bring connection and joy into your life at the neighborhood BBQ.
Yes but you both have to be wanting to do that if only one of you is willing it won’t work if both of you are willing then it may work
@@silentalliance3269 I agree. What helped me is writing down exactly what I wanted and expected from my future partner..
I also constructed a list I called.....
5 Must Haves For a Fucking Awesome Relationship
1) Agreed upon conflict resolution protocol
2) both of us have to be curious about what makes healthy relationships between 2 people
3) know each others core values and understand how they would work in alignment or oppose each other's
4) Decide in advance how to part ways
5)Know we are going. Both individually and collectively as a couple
My girlfriend was attracted to the fact I knew exactly what I wanted, what I would NOT tolerate, and where I was going. She could come with me, or leave, The choice was hers.
We are still together.
When you know exactly what you want and what your boundaries are it helps vet people out and will save everyone time and potential heartache.
Hope this helps
@@silentalliance3269 Well of course! I thought that was implied in my comment.
I had trouble finding healthy enough people to explore a deep connection with in the past. I found it had more to do with my own self esteem than the people I was dating. When I worked on my self worth and value....then I attracted people with higher self esteem and value as well. Then everything started to get easier with dating. It's simple......but not easy.
A promiscuous woman can still be a GOOD woman...just depends on your definition of GOOD.
So would you consider that a man that is married and promiscuous rather prefer a promiscuous woman rather than his wife and would say that the only reason he has a wife is that he's emotionally attached to her.
You should have both!
Attraction is based on a pretty face and shoulders.😮
LTRs are where it’s at. You ruin them for the STR. They always come crawling back to a slammed door 💪
The whole reality can be determined by the biological evolution laws, technology level, established social structure and statistics.
The evolution necessity of women to show off and evaluate their own attractiveness via exposure combined with today's technological ability of social media give women thousand of possibilities of the best male to choose. But today women having thousand of choices of men makes women unable to decide who man is the best choice for sure. Too many choices paralyze. So today statistics indicate that majority of women jump from one man to another unable to make a final "best" choice. At the same time this majority of women looking for the "best" man hunt or open the "green light" to be hunted only by a small minority of men looking to be in the high rank of society's recognition. So statistics reality and biological evolution rules creat a today's reality that many men are deprived of women's company. So even if all men became supermen with great personalities women would still choose the best supermen of the best and thus leaving again the majority of men deprived of women's company.
Considering the above logical factors I think the best strategy for a man is to have a clear preference to a "good" woman being prepared to make a long relationship with her at any time he finds one. But due to this scarcity of these kind of women at the same time it is logical for a man to make relationships with women with lower perspective for a long relationship in order to not be completely without women's company for many years but being prepared to stay with one woman if she fulfils the standards. So that may happen with the 1st woman or 25th woman or the 125th woman. If it happens with the 1st woman maybe it is the best but you can't know, it can be with the 18th woman. As long as someone doesn't articulate false promises and commitments it is moral to have as many low perspective relationships cover his biological needs. Also someone should be aware of possible phycological crazy women that may do unprovoked attacks during having relationships with them.
Unbelievable, I'm I really the first to comment here?
The V or P obsession problem😂😂😂.
Humans are also animals, but they just have intelligence.
Sadia…… A promiscuous woman isn’t better at sex the same as a promiscuous man is not better at sex remember? & I totally agree with One nightstands do not out rank good long term relationship sex performance by any means! If you have sex with 200 girls in a year then any guy in a good long term sexual relationship will beat you by 165 more times that yr…. Minimum (for me 😁)
U do it everyday ?
@@TheMegaTusharno, he's lying. The internet will let you pretend.
@@TheMegaTushar most girlfriends at least once bj in the morning then sex once at night…. But many times up to 3 times (Friday to sun is good for that 😉)
@@modickens1272 not lying it’s one thing every ex missed when we broke up …. Every time I would see one of my exes we have sex again.
You're perfect for Andrew tate mam, you're definitely his type
But he is not her type.
@@aramisy.cajigas744 that's not true,in fact she's obsessed with Andrew Tate,a lot of her videos have Andrew Tate picture in it,if That's not obsession I don't know what is
@@ryanfernando7033 Maybe as a click bait?
@@aramisy.cajigas744 that is too picture of him in all those videos,sure there's a part of click bait but also there's part of provocation there,she may not say it because it's politically incorrect to like Andrew Tate or maybe even subconsciously liking him,who knows but we'll see in the future,but just wanted you to know,I said it first
@@ryanfernando7033 Who knows...?
I think something has been missed out here.
A woman’s cycle has a lot to do with the way she responds sexually.
I know for me,I’m super sexual right after my period and the next half of the month I’m more sensual.
My Husband and I try and keep in spicy,and throw in a lot of variety to keep it interesting and it takes work,from both parties.
Women don’t have to DO anything! What a ridiculous thing to even talk about. ALL of the pressure falls on the man, every time. Getting guys off is NOT rocket science. Happens every time, doesn’t it? 🤔
At-least there's a guy who don't agree with everything she says.After all "Life is not a one size, fit all"
I think the fault in logic is when she says men fall in love when women who give them better sex. I don't know how much that tracks. I think most non-bad sex if repeated can make a guy fall in love. (But even that whole premise I don't think I really agree with anyway)
I will say it again, I started to believe that sex became very overrated.
Is the lady in the thumbnail Sadia herself?
No
Tell me you’re a pillow princess without telling me you’re a pillow princess…
Pheremones.😂
😮
IDK
...WHATTTTT. happened with these two host in THIS segment. ( I feel as if in prior videos you both were more on point...
A) promiscuous women aree horrible and weak lover's much .ore often that not.
B) only the guy who ends up EXCLUDED from a klan or clique is the one talking on " how good SHE was in bed" as the rest of us laugh him right out of the conversation as 'Green' , a 'novice' &/or Pnssy whipped
Frankly, I'm surprised you all don't know this...
Psychology, as a field is experiencing a sort of renaissance as it is being discovered that much of the statistical data complied over decade was based on surveys that failed to account for lies and misinformation from subjects..
The subjects delt with in THIS video however, should be able to be corrected by simple common sense. Vertically Ever other video on TH-cam understands and agrees that basically ANY human male (especially if he has had more than a couple of sexual partners) fall for her spirit, her pre bedroom persona, etc.
Watch ANY BODY elso videos... Almost EVERYBODY ELSE knows this basic part
What other TH-camr are you referencing here?
Every woman I ever dated or slept with said I was the best they ever had and I thought they were just saying that but I’ve had sex with a one night stand and then they fall in love… and I’ve still been cheated on (in my mind do they think there’s better??? Is that the reason they cheated??)
They cheat because you’re not giving them what they need emotionally.
@@user-kv6cw5km8m interesting I always thought, that they thought that there was someone else who could be even better in bed
😂Fed's should be watching this video.
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If sex is key to falling in love then they don't know what is true enduring love. Men are falling in love with LUST.
This is not true. Attraction through sex wears off. There must be something else that keeps two people together
What you are saying may be true, but the average woman today is having a good deal of sex . So what choice do men have? Unless you live in a country that is very traditional , you are not finding women like this.
There are perfectly compatible high drive people who are not “promiscuous “. What does that even mean? (We cannot just categorize people this way. Women stay in relationships they are happy in. Sex is a part of that. For women too. These are overgeneralizations I guess. Sadia is both naive and jaded at the same time. I’m glad I don’t live in this world. I’ll pray for her. Men can have sexual adventures with their wives. This is so weird to assume otherwise. Why can’t both sexes have it all with each other ? Why all the resistance to this? Happy marriages with lots of sex. There is no reason in my world. Why this cannot be
High drive people can be loyal and loving too it’s not an either or. In men or women❤
Men don’t fall in love Sadia.
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🤣 whaaaaat?! Yall crazy!! She’s an 11 😍
What happened to Sadia's left chick?
She got bitch slapped!!!😂
oranges and apple dude..... Humans are NOT animals, not even close.....come on get educated guy
Why do we keep rushing past the part that matters, Sadia. Can you speak for someone else?. I am not the one confused, I’m really not. It’s taken quite the time to tell.
2:40 totally wrong. Sadia mixes nonsense with some great stuff.
How can he be a man if he has a need for anything!
This woman complains about the stuff that Tate type guys do (which is smart, because Tate does stupid shit), but then she fawns over him and buys his bullshit when he comes to the podcast she was on with him. 🙄
Dominant man meets submissive woman. That's as natural as it gets.
@@MHLivestreams 🙄
She is talking trash
i see no lies
this women have NOT comen sence
Men do NOT fall in love through sex…..