HOW TO STOP BEING MANIPULATED BY WOMEN

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  • @sadiapsychology
    @sadiapsychology  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +201

    This video was brought to you by my patreon which contains over 30 exclusive videos and ability to ask me any question www.patreon.com/Sadiapsychology

    • @omesinas
      @omesinas 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      You have changed my whole life for the best. Thank you soo much Sadia 🙏

    • @JeromeClassen-r7g
      @JeromeClassen-r7g 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Your videos have been so insightful and helpful. Thank you

    • @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl
      @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      The reason why I hate online dating is because I don't know who I'm speaking with what or not those pictures are real as well as the person

    • @Nutritioneats
      @Nutritioneats 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hi ma Sadia you are really a gem how I wish you could l also include in your content value teachings for new parents esp the
      Mother to give proper guidance to raise a good human being men and women alike, in this way some childhood trauma can be addressed if not eliminated if parents have a sort of blueprint to glean on and not just grope in the dark by hit or miss in raising kids especially these challenging digital era

    • @hexadecimal5236
      @hexadecimal5236 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      3:00 Oof. You're not insulting me, you're describing me...

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4652

    Experienced divorce lawyer here. So many men would save themselves from a trainwreck of a marriage and nasty divorce if they simply listened to this video and walked away from a disrespectful woman. Great video!

    • @lifeneverends7068
      @lifeneverends7068 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

      Wow a lawyer. Such a high status person. Thank you for commenting❤

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Men got indoctrinated into thinking that they only become truly happy through marriage. So if they don't have women lined up, they stay and try to fix the problem that doesn't want to get fixed.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Men were taught to think that they only become truly happy through marriage. So if they don't have women lined up, they stay and try to fix the problem that doesn't want to get fixed.

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Yes 👍

    • @simy83
      @simy83 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +157

      Experienced married man here . Curious which woman is not disrespectful ?

  • @MattsInspiration
    @MattsInspiration 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3908

    When you walk away from her make sure to walk towards yourself and not someone else.

    • @argyify
      @argyify 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      Wise advice!

    • @argyify
      @argyify 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

      @@oneloveoneheartonedestination Don't try to replace her with the first opportunity to ease your pain, wait for the one who deserves to come!

    • @beezeal2042
      @beezeal2042 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      ​@oneloveoneheartonedestination soul twin? Just move on, if it hurts that's life. Just work in yourself and better things and women will eventually gravitate your way

    • @maduokafor
      @maduokafor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Solid advice here.

    • @Godschosen25
      @Godschosen25 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I walked away to my car to leave I got five shots and one was in my back case still open cause her dad a powerful master mason but my body is the proof it was all close range but honestly this lady is right sometimes we see red flags and blind ourselves. Fellas always value yourself or anybody really value yourself. But God brought me back and even though I lost everything I built up until that point I'm well on my way to getting all that back plus more God gave me a major vision and it's been fruitful and will pay out major soon real soon. Success is the best revenge let GOD deal with any and everything trust with your whole soul and the higher power got you I promise you that ❤

  • @HonorEtVirtus
    @HonorEtVirtus 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +344

    Never never tolerate disrespect. Always have boundaries and self respect

  • @ramirogebara8766
    @ramirogebara8766 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2207

    Women show, they don't tell. Don't listen to what she says, watch what she does.

    • @hugevagiine
      @hugevagiine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      FACTS

    • @adammcallister9675
      @adammcallister9675 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +161

      Never listen to a woman. Always watch.

    • @twoweeledsoto6072
      @twoweeledsoto6072 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

      Yep! All that matters is what she does. What she says is often meaningless. What she says is what she wants to believe and portray, rarely the reality.

    • @laurivaltter
      @laurivaltter 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@twoweeledsoto6072why? why why why why why

    • @OneHandOnTheKeyboard
      @OneHandOnTheKeyboard 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This right here.

  • @lawrencedolan1999
    @lawrencedolan1999 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2048

    I just walked away from a beautiful strong woman because she broke my boundaries with the way she thought she could talk to me. Once I left she begged and apologized for everything until I told her bluntly .. it's time to move on it's over. Then she became the victim. It was and still is painful but I respect myself for walking.

    • @KS3_Samela
      @KS3_Samela 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +123

      Thats powerful. Thats shows you got Power. It pains, but there no Game without Pain.

    • @godsbruh
      @godsbruh 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

      @@KS3_Samela not pain. walking away always makes u better and stronger. its a win win

    • @beloastropena7236
      @beloastropena7236 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      My respect for your decision

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      I had exactly the same woman……it’s very painful but we’ve made the right decision and moved on……

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      @@godsbruhit is painful but time heals

  • @Ted-NJ
    @Ted-NJ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
    -- Maya Angelou.
    Men -- if a woman is not willing to be a fair person or personally accountable and personally responsible for her behavior,...leave immediately and walk way immediately. Do NOT tolerate any abuse or manipulation or disrespect or drama.

  • @AndrewTheFrank
    @AndrewTheFrank 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +580

    One of the best things a man can be taught is that he can tell people no. Especially to those he loves and adores.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I concur. Kindness is weakness ONLY if you allow it. You can always say 'no,' as long as you are polite, honest, & direct. Equally important is to have the strength to stand by your words. This means standing your ground, or walking away as appropriate.

    • @barryduff5058
      @barryduff5058 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen to that

    • @NANINANI-cs6rn
      @NANINANI-cs6rn 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ace.0.0.0. you're right

    • @Niko132
      @Niko132 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      And to walk away. Walking away is a powerful ability

    • @makkan49
      @makkan49 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Niko132walking away is the man's biggest strength

  • @adrienblancke4826
    @adrienblancke4826 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +379

    "When you value the connection more than the respect that's she's giving to you"
    Wooooaw, such a revelation for me, i can't thank you enough.

    • @zxenon555
      @zxenon555 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      That phrase hit me like a brick.

    • @enjoytheplays
      @enjoytheplays 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Itnis so true. My Ex was A beauty. But found it odd she was showing off pics in bikini while her male coworjer were commenting on that. I asked her to stop doing that cos I don't like it. Instead off saying ok she rather argue me. I spoiled her cos i Ioved her. And sometimes man aren't perfect too we all have red flags and itnis give and take. But the fact she love getting attention was a big thing for me.

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@enjoytheplays i feel you

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yea, that hit me too. Right in the gut. I am divorced from a woman who I tried desperately to hold in connection because we had children together. I thought I was doing the right thing to maintain a connection and puzzled out a million ways for it to work out. Of course it never did as it was already over.

  • @grantlaurence2060
    @grantlaurence2060 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    the best line for me: "and if she sees that you can't respect yourself and you can't leave her you've already lost her" Priceless!

  • @wa9165
    @wa9165 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Exactly what I needed to hear. Going through it as I’m writing this. When she cheated I forgive her but kept going with the same person and her excuse was I don’t have anyone else to hang out with, here I stepped back and ignored her she went into a roller coaster of emotions without addressing that she made mistake and she is willing to change, she only came when she feels down want me to tap on her shoulders. The fact is I believe in forgiveness life is too short to inflate your ego, but even that didn’t change she jumped into another man in less than month and called me to check if I had replacement ( I said I focused on myself) I don’t need to be in relationship just to continue living. She will come back either to make me feel bad or try to get me back to her, but I won’t pick up the phone anymore. I hope she heals, she was good until she wasn’t.
    Thank you Sadia for your work

  • @techl2843
    @techl2843 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +307

    It’s been said, “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting.”

    • @pmcclaren1
      @pmcclaren1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

      'but a woman who fears the LORD is to be honoured' (Proverbs 30)

    • @incomewriter2360
      @incomewriter2360 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I had this happen to me last year, she was very charming (voice, smile and behaviour). Being in the position I am now (stronger) and looking back I can see her for what she really is, I thank God for protecting me from her and making me learn the lessons needed.

    • @spiegeltn
      @spiegeltn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The more the body count and abuse drugs, cigarettes and alcohol in their youth the harder they hit the wall. I've seen so many pretty women I used to know that were in the party scene back in the day that are late 30's and 40's and damn near unrecognizable now. Straight up tadpole to frog, a few are my exes.

    • @AKrst3vsk1
      @AKrst3vsk1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Guys just coping here, accept that she defeated you and that is over for you. Religion is just a coping mechanism, lool hahah.

    • @spiegeltn
      @spiegeltn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AKrst3vsk1 Ever read Ecclesiastes 7 or Romans 7? It is true, we all might be simply hypnotized by aliens, who's fault is that? We may never know. 🦋🦋✝✝🤡🤡👽👽💀💀

  • @gageharms9398
    @gageharms9398 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Young men don’t ever I mean EVER tell your woman anything!!!! She will use it against you she will take things you said in confidence in your lowest moments and then flip it into a weapon against you

  • @audio-video-stereo
    @audio-video-stereo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +240

    This is spot on. I just dumped a gal after 4 episodes of disrespect (name calling). She actually was a pretty good person other than that - but the boundary had been crossed repeatedly and it was time to move on.

    • @asdfxcvbn746
      @asdfxcvbn746 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      4 episodes? u should've left after the first & showed u were a beta male by letting her push past your boundaries 4 times & putting up with it. she already knew you were a doormat. imagine thinking she's a good person after calling you out of your name 4 times lol smh

    • @IwillEndureToTheEnd
      @IwillEndureToTheEnd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It took you FOUR times???

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@asdfxcvbn746And you’ve just done the same by name calling and disrespecting that person……the irony 🤡

    • @coolnchilled2456
      @coolnchilled2456 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      I’m glad you gained the strength to leave brother Ik it’s hard

    • @gigabuyceps
      @gigabuyceps 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      It's a test U will pass next time from 1st go

  • @tallspicy
    @tallspicy 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +809

    Choose better. Have criteria beyond attraction.

    • @JeffCaplan313
      @JeffCaplan313 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      None of them cook or clean anymore.

    • @lawrencedolan1999
      @lawrencedolan1999 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Straight up!

    • @NBl-qw8cg
      @NBl-qw8cg 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Love is not a choice

    • @tallspicy
      @tallspicy 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @NBl-qw8cg love is both a choice and a verb. To insist otherwise shows me someone who is not in a space to self reflect and is most likely a partner who blames the other person for their own choices. You can choose who you are attracted to and partner with, but you need to want to do the work. You are not a victim

    • @andreichetan4694
      @andreichetan4694 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@JeffCaplan313thats a belief system that will hurt you in the long run. Because you”ll see and atract only that type of women.
      Where is the real proof no women is doing those things in this whole entire world?
      Take care

  • @edwardroark7122
    @edwardroark7122 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Killer video. Wish I heard it before my 2 marriages, both which ended in divorce after I finally set boundaries. As soon as I did, they turned on me like a viper and took everything with the help of ridiculously unfair divorce courts. I’m wiser now, but this video explains a lot and will help that it never happens again. Much thanks.

  • @stevegungel787
    @stevegungel787 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +245

    Some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop. If someone really loves you, no matter how many other people they meet, their feelings for you wouldn't change. A real lover can't be stolen.

    • @juliemorris9082
      @juliemorris9082 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yup

    • @KibyNykraft
      @KibyNykraft 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Love only exists as an instinct for the survival of your clan and your kids.
      The genes serve your mind the illusion of love.

    • @realguapo_mma
      @realguapo_mma 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Brada love is the instinct to procreate 😉 that's where it starts and ends

    • @tonyd.9156
      @tonyd.9156 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Players only love you when they're playin'.

    • @bedroid7801
      @bedroid7801 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@KibyNykraftwell maybe I do want to feel like protecting my wife and kids

  • @tessg4799
    @tessg4799 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +361

    Woman here. Sadia is 💯 percent right. A man with clear boundaries and who doesn't accept disrespect is seen as high value. Also, always be willing to walk away after disrepect no matter how beautiful the woman is. She will get in line if the feelings are mutual. 👍❤

    • @MattitudePlays
      @MattitudePlays 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      Basically, women need to be treated like children to keep them in line? 😂 Sounds a little odd, from both perspectives. Personally I agree with everything Sadia said in this video, but it seems to me like this is more a problem with women's attitudes than it is with a guy's intentions?

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@MattitudePlays Most people push boundaries in new relationships (like children)...to see what they can get away with. Men and women both. Sadia is helping men with this advice. Sorry you see it this way. But it is just the truth.

    • @Tennis-3582
      @Tennis-3582 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Wow! Well said 🎉

    • @hugevagiine
      @hugevagiine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Unless she is a narcissist she will run away when you expose the truth to her

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      @DefineHatespeech The right woman will hold herself accountable and change her disrespectful behavior when she sees she has crossed a boundary. That's the point. Sadia is right... She says that having a happy relationship starts with choosing the right person in the first place. If the woman has been disrespectful and you have shown her your boundaries, but she remains disrespectful...it's time to leave...no matter how attractive or beautiful/sexy she may be.

  • @johnv5926
    @johnv5926 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks! I wish I had this information 25 years ago.

  • @Broonzied
    @Broonzied 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +268

    It wasn't just the lies, it was the absolute refusal to admit the lies even in the face of incontrovertible evidence. She tried to convince me that I was paranoid and suffering from mental illness rather than admit the lies. We are no longer together.

    • @thewhitetailwizard6615
      @thewhitetailwizard6615 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Heard that , 3 days ago I found out mine was having a full blown new favorite love of her life relationship with another man clear back in 2022 for 6 months while living with me and the 2 kids and telling me she loved me and made love to me 5-7 times a week .. she still won’t admit it either and called me a stalker now taking me to court for custody and to stop getting in her business and since we broke up in January she says he’s lying it’s all in the past so just let it go and I just met the man who she was with.. he told me everything and apologized 40 times. He said she told him that her and I split up at my daughters birth but still lived with me to make it easy on the kids so that’s why he can’t come over until she gets her own house …

    • @Broonzied
      @Broonzied 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@thewhitetailwizard6615 Sorry to hear that. Keep thinking about the kids and you will get through it.

    • @Nastynati-pm8dy
      @Nastynati-pm8dy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Literally just went through that for 2.5 years, finally seen the proof. Good riddance.

    • @williamcarson4863
      @williamcarson4863 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      That's called gaslighting Bruh

    • @tonyd.9156
      @tonyd.9156 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      This is classic "gaslighting" by a malignant narcissist.

  • @MeneerHerculePoirot
    @MeneerHerculePoirot 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +759

    "You'd be surprised at how plain most women are without makeup." - My Dad

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      Wise dad

    • @nedcramdon1306
      @nedcramdon1306 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Smoke and crazy-ass bullshitery!

    • @nedcramdon1306
      @nedcramdon1306 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Two t's?

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Wise mad

    • @yankee2666
      @yankee2666 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Your dead was wrong. He just never got used to women not wearing make-up. The women I've been with looked much better without it.

  • @CageLeone
    @CageLeone 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    She just perfectly explained to you , how to be single. She just told you to stand up for yourself, but that a woman will pick the person she can get away with the most.

  • @Icarus6783
    @Icarus6783 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +195

    Very right. Therefore in my own instance, I saw the red flags from the onset but chose not to take them seriously, thinking it is a man's utmost duty to chase a woman until it works or try to change who she is fundamentally. Does not turn out well, and I take the majority of the blame for ignoring the red flags.

    • @mcsando1154
      @mcsando1154 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      1st commenter i`ve seen own it - well done!!

    • @kinggizzard8499
      @kinggizzard8499 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      This is exactly what I found myself doing. I even thought after the chaos was over "I saw the red flags from the start" and I marched on thinking I could fix them, and whilst the crossed lines weren't cheating or stealing etc, there was a LOT of stuff I didn't address when it happened. I let it build up. That's on me.

    • @johnrenehan7406
      @johnrenehan7406 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      For what it's worth , many of us have been down the same path - as long as we learn from it and run the other way next time

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Yep, exactly. Men stay and try to fix a problem that doesn't want to get fixed. And women rely on that, they know they can behave as badly as they want and that he won't leave. They blame him for her behavior as a cherry on top.

    • @andrewharris373
      @andrewharris373 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Wow. Victim here. I feel like I can fix everybody and everybody.... especially her. What a shell of a man I have become. I can't fix anything with a woman who is no good. It's hard fellas but you must you must leave when you are disrespected. Boundaries must be set it only gets worse

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    Once I had a girlfriend who had kids. My childhood was so wholesome that I tried to pass that to the kids too. So they had great family moments. But apparently she felt jealous of her own kids because I dedicated time to them, so she broke with me. Did I beg her to come back? No.
    She met a guy who scammed her, so he took the money and left her a big debt. She told my brother it was a mistake to break with me. But by that time, I was already marred. Once I break, I do not look back. There is a reason why we broke and going back will not make it work. I always to my best and if that ends up being not good or not enough, not my problem. Breaking is the best solution for both.

    • @Pitty212on
      @Pitty212on 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      see, you already failed at step 1. Having a gf with kids. IGNORE THESE SINGLE MOTHERS. They are single for a reason. They will never love like they love their kids.

    • @tonny9168
      @tonny9168 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      You are not as good as you think. No high-value man will marry a single mother. No matter how good she is.

    • @josepablolunasanchez1283
      @josepablolunasanchez1283 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tonny9168 You got it wrong. High value is a matter of values and behavior supporting these values.
      The good thing is that I do not need to prove anyone anything. Thinking is difficult, this is why people judge.
      She was not a single mother. She was divorced. She met her man at the church, but some years after marrying he started to get drunk, spend the salary at the bar and came up empty handed, and one day she discovers he had an affair. Her only option was to get divorced, find a job and be the provider at home.
      Her father always kept her away from men, but since this man was from the church, he did not oppose the marriage. That husband was her first man in her life. I know her mother and father, who verified the story.
      Do you see how bad you judged her? Many people depict church men as simps. This was the opposite case. She thought a man from the church would have the proper values to form a family. But he did not. Church men are just like other men in the street,.

    • @mwaxsol
      @mwaxsol 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tonny9168 maybe you overwatch this new craze of men obsessed with relationships the way women are but they hide behind "manhood coach",alpha e.t.c, because even hard sciences have general laws , theories, postulates but you seem to think that what your relationship 'gurus' tell you are absolutes

    • @12akul
      @12akul 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tonny9168 Not true. Some are single mothers because the dad left. Incel behaviour🚩

  • @ronaldmcdonald9538
    @ronaldmcdonald9538 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Now that I have lived through exactly this for the last 4 years, broken down into these 8 minutes, your words make so perfectly sense. Im just sitting here, smiling, nodding, an occasional giggle. How low my self esteem was, but now I just laugh at myself in hindsight, looking confidently in to the future, knowing I will not repeat my mistakes. Cant wrap my head around the thing youre saying with my mother and inconsistent love, but Im sure ill get to the bottom of it. Thank you!

  • @markberger5739
    @markberger5739 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +391

    " women don't lie - they simply don't tell the truth!???"
    & Bait N Switch!

    • @Kyousei.
      @Kyousei. 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I think it's to be understood in the following way: they do not necessarily try to deceive you on purpose, but they are themselves unaware of what they believe in. Thus not telling the truth.

    • @markberger5739
      @markberger5739 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@Kyousei. For many of them it's a career plan - half a dozen divorces & live it up forever. - Why do you think they favour the rich guys or the high flyers?

    • @AlexTule
      @AlexTule 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      @@Kyousei. That is just justification for lying. If they know the difference between good and bad and choose to hide the truth to protect themselves, their feelings, etc, that is lying. Plain and simple.

    • @bellagatto9670
      @bellagatto9670 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If you can't rely on what she says, that it's "technically not a lie" is a distinction without a difference. Leave her.

    • @JoaoFigueiredo-sc7fi
      @JoaoFigueiredo-sc7fi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Proceeds to show how they lie....

  • @D.M.S.
    @D.M.S. 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +247

    You manage to communicate a life changing information in eight minutes, that other so-called coaches can't explain in 30 minutes. That was solid.

    • @kalonjeebless
      @kalonjeebless 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Absolutely

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Simply put- don't reward bad behavior. If a person crosses a reasonable boundary, tell them it's not acceptable. If they do it again, it will be met with actions, not words. Then do it! This indicates you do what you say, or, you can be trusted. Not following through shows at best you are all talk, or at worst, you are a deliberate liar. Neither is a good look to wear.
      I concur with Sadia. Just be 1) polite, honest, & direct. 2) ensure that your words & actions ALIGN.
      The rest should take care of itself.

    • @Mrbfgray
      @Mrbfgray 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No offense and it's worth reinforcing but most of this should be absurdly obvious.

    • @niallg3551
      @niallg3551 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ace.0.0.0.easy to say if you physically attractive, not if you aren’t. To allow a physically unattractive male to live by these rules is to basically consign him to a life of singledom and loneliness.

  • @DevonSanderssinger
    @DevonSanderssinger 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video was so therapeutic. @ 6:25 explained me so perfectly that I had to subscribe to you. My mother suffered from schizophrenia so I’ve never had consistent love from a mother figure so I always chase after the wrong women due to having low self esteem and it never works out. This helped me a lot mentally

  • @saneman7177
    @saneman7177 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +288

    Most guys should’ve learnt this through experience by the age of 25… one of the sad facts you have to face is often once a woman realises you can’t be manipulated she’ll completely lose interest & sometimes actually become quite unpleasant towards you.

    • @cwcountri
      @cwcountri 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Lived it but a little later in years lol. That's legit

    • @MuscleBandit
      @MuscleBandit 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Very true. Immature women who cN't manipulate a self respecting man are similar to the naughty kid in school who has contempt for the strict teachers who take no bs and instead the kid will gravitate toward the leanient teachers who let shit slide.
      Needless to say that a mature high value woman won't encounter these issues as they never exist to begin with.

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Theres literally no women like that. Theyre all into it, at some level or another and you have to have some allowance for it. The trick is to impress her on a higher level in order to make her manipulation productive for yourself. No, this is not a contradiction. She helps, she finds the details, she improves and makes beauty if youre on the same path. If theres no path then what are you even doing

    • @saneman7177
      @saneman7177 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@NDakovic did you make that comment using google translate?

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@saneman7177 very appropriate response dude

  • @N0obusMaximus
    @N0obusMaximus 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +262

    When I was a kid, my mom would slap me almost every day. One day, when I was almost as tall as her, I stood my ground and put up my fists to defend myself. She backed off and never tried to hit me again. If you show weakness, you will be taken advantage of. If you show strength, you will be respected.

    • @incorrigiblycuriousD61
      @incorrigiblycuriousD61 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Damn dude, that never should have happened!

    • @tikihutdweller5944
      @tikihutdweller5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      When I was a kid, my mother used to sit me out on the back porch and feed me with a slingshot every day. Then one day I became big enough to buy my own......

    • @sash7551
      @sash7551 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Sorry you had an abusive mother that is very traumatic

    • @uchennakingsley1354
      @uchennakingsley1354 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Samething happened to Me Max ✓

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@tikihutdweller5944 Buy your own what? Slingshot, mother, food, back porch ? Inquiring minds must know!

  • @R2D2.69
    @R2D2.69 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    The real problem is that women think that if you dont allow them to get away with whatever they want you dont love them.

    • @Kit-kk9cb
      @Kit-kk9cb หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Those women are bad news. And also what's the alternative anyway? Let them do whatever they want? They'll hate you and hate themselves. Set your boundaries and hope she'll accept them. If not, move on. If she wants to be toxic, she can be toxic with the next guy.

    • @Serpicouk
      @Serpicouk 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      No that's like thinking if your father doesn't let you do whatever ever you want, he doesn't love you. She understands that you can be both firm and loving from her parents. It's just a manipulative tactic she uses to get what she wants.

  • @Ziggle-ky9kv
    @Ziggle-ky9kv 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4126

    There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

    • @schnarf5
      @schnarf5 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Playbooks? Ugh so over it

    • @Medjed-pi5pw
      @Medjed-pi5pw 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Pretty sure it's a scam and how is the author?

    • @veracity5977
      @veracity5977 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      how much did you pay for those thumbs up

    • @nolackin60617
      @nolackin60617 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🤔

    • @shaneryan9076
      @shaneryan9076 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      fake, these comments are everywhere

  • @HunkyMan777
    @HunkyMan777 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +106

    Intelligence and depth of character is far more sexy than looks. There are so many beautiful women out there with ugly hearts

    • @edwardcacho7331
      @edwardcacho7331 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ugly hearts are a dime a dozen.

  • @BOT-dv9lz
    @BOT-dv9lz 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This video is gold in my eyes.
    She just explained my entire life, why and how i ended up "rock bottom". I am taking these steps, its superhard but works. The bad people leave, and the good ones you let into your life and you love and build your self independently.
    Love yourself first....

  • @zeb.3d
    @zeb.3d 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +109

    I believe many men who struggle with asserting themselves with women might have been raised by narcissistic mothers. In such environments, any attempt to establish personal boundaries during childhood was likely met with punishment, ingraining a pattern of behavior that persists into adulthood. Asserting oneself could have made things worse, leading to a learned helplessness in standing up for oneself. While I may be projecting my experiences to some extent, I'm convinced that distancing oneself from such a toxic influence and focusing on personal growth is crucial. Embracing your autonomy and worth is, in my view, one of the most transformative steps you can take.

    • @giannibravo347
      @giannibravo347 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      💯 agree.

    • @edobwoy
      @edobwoy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Not always the case. Some men may not look attractive physically. Whether it is height, facial looks etc so it will have some impact on their confidence

    • @angrygopnik2317
      @angrygopnik2317 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      literally my childhood experience...learning to unlearn learned patterns and behaviors now in my adulthood

    • @arifq123
      @arifq123 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Very perceptive comment.

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dude you can literally not be a parent who doesnt set boundries. No child can set a boundry, its your job and obligation as a parent to do that for them. Makes little to no sense in context you said it. You set your boundries with ur buddies, gfs etc and with ur parents eventually when ur an adult

  • @danmaertens7872
    @danmaertens7872 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    “If you want to know someone’s mind listen to what they say, if you want to know someone’s heart, watch what they do.”

  • @stoicismphilosophy178
    @stoicismphilosophy178 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    "You become strong when you no longer rely on external things to make you happy."

  • @deeveeoh
    @deeveeoh 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    This video confirmed it for me - there's no point in even bothering 🫠

    • @starpooper1681
      @starpooper1681 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I came to the same conclusion.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I don't know if that's true. It is certainly something I am contemplating. But I don't think that was her message. After all, life = death and yet we still keep trying. So love may = no point, but if you keep trying to fix yourself then it might happen.
      Just don't chase it. She has to find you.

    • @AlucardVD__
      @AlucardVD__ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Maaaann....😂

  • @peteferguson6164
    @peteferguson6164 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1132

    When she says women never lie! That is a lie in itself.🤣🤣🤣

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      ikr

    • @kratosgod-ci4tq
      @kratosgod-ci4tq 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +219

      You didn't understand what she said brother. What she meant was, women always showcase their red flags, it's us men that choose to ignore it.

    • @stretch4168
      @stretch4168 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​So if my wife tells me she was with Hailey and I then discover that she was with Paul what do you call that? A red flag?​@@kratosgod-ci4tq

    • @6bt_str86
      @6bt_str86 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      This ☝🏾

    • @vilkers2211
      @vilkers2211 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

      @@kratosgod-ci4tq Hiding the truth is also a lie

  • @sanjayverma4068
    @sanjayverma4068 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This is an absolutely fantastic video. A must see for every man. An eye opener.
    Many times men do not even realise what is happening to them. By giving an inch every time, they give a mile and don’t even realise it.

  • @nuudelz3711
    @nuudelz3711 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +163

    She sounds so much like the last women I dated, she was also a psych. Very self centred and felt she needed to explain everything to me. Also turned out to be a serial cheater while telling me I was crazy.

    • @Eric92000
      @Eric92000 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Gosh... You've dated the best one😂. To me sounds a bit like rhetoric to explain how women, even bad ones, are still not doing harm, as they "showed" you how nasty they might be... Imagine how men would be treated if they doing the same... 🙄

    • @TheSpaceHobo
      @TheSpaceHobo 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      In my experience looking at close friends and family who dated psychologists, most of those chicks were crazy who needed some hardcore treatment growing up and now are projecting the issue they had into every patient.
      I know I shouldn't generalize but man, 2 borderline chicks, one with extreme anxiety and heavy put dependant, and two others who focus so much on childhood trauma due to a cheating parent.

    • @DRLEGEND82
      @DRLEGEND82 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Fax

    • @getl0st
      @getl0st 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I'm sure never cheated on you, she was just exploring her Sexuality with other people...

    • @derrickmangram7441
      @derrickmangram7441 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Damn Crazy 😮

  • @princemlambo8270
    @princemlambo8270 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    Woooow. I have been a weak man. Thanks for awakening the beast in me

    • @riteshkumarsah7828
      @riteshkumarsah7828 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      U R THE MOST POWERFUL PIECE OF GOD]

    • @piuli95
      @piuli95 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Roar :3

    • @TLewis-zm5rl
      @TLewis-zm5rl 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Cringe

    • @johngalvin3124
      @johngalvin3124 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Go get 'em tiger

    • @Qquack7ho
      @Qquack7ho 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Argh 🐺

  • @VuongHoangChinh
    @VuongHoangChinh หลายเดือนก่อน +2036

    Good video, but there's nothing specific here. I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation; you'll be shocked by the attraction techniques it contain about manipulation.

    • @Tutorials-for-IT
      @Tutorials-for-IT หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you hint at where to look?)

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is a bot. Don't be fooled. Many youtube videos linked to manipulation have similar comments from different accounts created on the same day. Also has fake likes to make it rise on the comments.

    • @woodysutton4159
      @woodysutton4159 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Where can I find this book.

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Tutorials-for-IT The account and the book are fake! The same comment is on many "manipulation" videos by acccounts created on the same date this year!

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@woodysutton4159 The account and the book are fake! The same comment is on many "manipulation" videos by acccounts created on the same date this year!

  • @sindust150
    @sindust150 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +352

    If she is talking she is lying 🤥

    • @mymontyboy
      @mymontyboy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      😂

    • @williambozarth6517
      @williambozarth6517 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      amen brother

    • @BillyTurner-vb3hf
      @BillyTurner-vb3hf 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Was it eve that committed the first sin

    • @jeffheesakkers6541
      @jeffheesakkers6541 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nope she is saying the truth really

    • @MiMysmelfandI
      @MiMysmelfandI 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Whatever she’s accusing you of is what she just did to you behind your back.

  • @chetking1116
    @chetking1116 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +175

    I'm chosing to walk away from her again and respect myself. Thank you.

    • @boomshine7
      @boomshine7 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      again? that means you didn't do a good job the first time

    • @laurivaltter
      @laurivaltter 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@boomshine7i gave another chance aswell and broke myself 😭😭😭😭😭

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@laurivaltter We all make mistakes. In school, first you get lesson, then you get the test. In life, first you get the test, then you get the lesson. And the test will be repeated until the lesson is learned.
      I am confident you learned the lesson, and you not be tested again.
      Here's to a brighter tomorrow.

    • @Pfor_Podi
      @Pfor_Podi 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@boomshine7 it's ok..at least now he is free and he was able to rise up from his weak mindset

    • @chaucerparks2042
      @chaucerparks2042 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      YOU AREN'T ALONE FAM..

  • @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw
    @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    My X realized that I wasn't putting up with her BS. My X attempted to control, manipulate and gaslightt. Soon after, my X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. I blocked her from my cellphone and I dodged the bullet. Got back my swagger and salvation

  • @jimmybazza6824
    @jimmybazza6824 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Great short vid, lots of truth!
    I 100% ignored multiple red flags in my past relationship in the beginning & throughout. Can almost certainly say my trauma as a child led me to not set boundaries from the get go. In doing so i definitely clung onto the connection rather than leaving the relationship, respecting & putting my health & wellness 1st. I can now say I've learned a very valuable tough leesson &
    I wont be ignoring any red flags in my future relationship.
    Thankyou!

  • @reubenmurphy7053
    @reubenmurphy7053 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    It's not just low self-esteem. It can also be that you have such a great impact on a woman but you don't recognize you can't heal her from certain issues like trauma

  • @Mysterr77
    @Mysterr77 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1109

    It's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden psychology ebook called the manipulation enigma

    • @michaelblag
      @michaelblag 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Seeing how much people have praised this book recently, I'm hopeful it will help me with my intentions

    • @Tipo74
      @Tipo74 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      👀 Too similar to borlist and shirlist spammers. Also all accounts less than 12 month old. Suspect

  • @NoName-jq7tj
    @NoName-jq7tj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    This is true. Many years ago I ignored red flags consistently from women & the damage to me was devastating. It destroyed an already shattered self esteem. Now I have zero tolerance to them.

    • @slydoskibelieveinc.7748
      @slydoskibelieveinc.7748 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Now you will be treated as the King of your Castle

    • @NoName-jq7tj
      @NoName-jq7tj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@slydoskibelieveinc.7748 You have to have self respect & follow your own path. What I’ve experienced is that the more beautiful the woman the more headaches she causes. The sheer self canteredness is excessive.

    • @AlphaSigmaRichMan
      @AlphaSigmaRichMan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@NoName-jq7tj no, it's opposite in my case she was very ugly, still I loved her by heart. Im handsome, rich guy. Still got over confident & cheated me, despite she had proposed me 😢😮

    • @AndrewDaniele87
      @AndrewDaniele87 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same happened with me, on the positive note, they broke us and we rebuilt ourselves better than we were before. I'm actually glad I went through that experience, it's almost like they slapped it out of us lol (she wasn't physical though)

  • @sumanjeetmitra3264
    @sumanjeetmitra3264 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    You have to be willing to lose who you love in order to protect who you are 🤞

    • @ALINUED
      @ALINUED 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      true that, its either that or you going to find yourself in pieces with zero self-esteem-confidence at the end.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen!!! What a good quote

  • @kanteannightmare
    @kanteannightmare 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    You don't love someone you don't respect. Without respect they are just someone you use to satisfy yourself with...

    • @neechee5150
      @neechee5150 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That reciprocal of that truth is that the one who does not give out common respect and decency until it is not deserved do not/can not truly love themselves.

  • @ryv6659
    @ryv6659 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Lessons I unfortunately had to learn the hard way. This is 100% spot on.

  • @Robbelution
    @Robbelution 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    I wish I had heard your content 4 years ago. Thank you for sharing, it’s really made a difference in my life hearing this.

    • @treboryoung2167
      @treboryoung2167 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Me too!

    • @beavinator420
      @beavinator420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Casey Zander is the master, look him up

  • @RobbiJamesVogt
    @RobbiJamesVogt หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My woman loves my boundaries. Took me a long time and a lot of work on myself to realize my self worth

    • @JJ-vp3bd
      @JJ-vp3bd หลายเดือนก่อน

      What did you say your boundaries are

    • @RobbiJamesVogt
      @RobbiJamesVogt หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ my boundaries - don’t disrespect me and I will respect you

  • @Kingvegetanbigjohn404
    @Kingvegetanbigjohn404 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    2:46 That makes soo much sense value the respect over the connection she is giving you. Currently going through a divorce and trying to understand 😢 thanks Sadia

    • @mandoman7626
      @mandoman7626 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stay strong! Also going thru one as well

    • @grizzlymcgill4117
      @grizzlymcgill4117 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      keep improving yourself man. choose a manageable uncomfortable process every day to follow to build self-esteem and resilience, speak your worst thoughts into your phone's voice recorder and listen to them on repeat to deconstruct the narratives and lies about yourself and the situations you encounter. stay consistent even if you feel like you are going to die. you will emerge as a beast.

  • @dwcushman1
    @dwcushman1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    As a clinical outpatient therapist who works with equal numbers of men and women, I commend you for speaking candidly but also wisely on this topic. While there are certainly many toxic men out there the reverse is equally true but is not spoken about as often. Women will oftentimes find social acceptance for their toxic behavior which serves to reinforce the pattern.

  • @neilcooper287
    @neilcooper287 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

    Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

    • @nehemirador5333
      @nehemirador5333 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I aint reading all that

    • @wallypido-mp5tl
      @wallypido-mp5tl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Wow this is so interesting... Please continue to counter tactics

    • @firefadez9315
      @firefadez9315 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Every victim needs to read this

    • @JerryAllen1919
      @JerryAllen1919 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nehemirador5333 Me neither 😂

  • @rubytech
    @rubytech 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    As someone who’s been blessed to attract beautiful women whether through the physical, demeanor or being an artist I’m definitely going to share this vid to my male inner circle as it contains irrefutable truth. Sometimes we “Win” in locking her down as a girlfriend but “Lose” due to the motives behind her choosing us.

    • @facelessandnameless
      @facelessandnameless 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That last sentence. I can relate so much to that haha

    • @svtk5104
      @svtk5104 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      last thing was very wise!

    • @rubytech
      @rubytech 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@facelessandnameless ikr lol

    • @rubytech
      @rubytech 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@svtk5104 much appreciated 🙏🏾

  • @alanguages
    @alanguages 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Effectively, actions speaks LOUDER than words.

    • @obaroaluya3762
      @obaroaluya3762 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      By action, mean body language. Demeanors is a better tell tale sign

  • @dougjstl1
    @dougjstl1 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just love to see this lady talk. When I hear talking and see you're talking I just love it.

  • @Remedii2life
    @Remedii2life 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    There is so much truth to this. I grew up that way. Because I never received that unconditional love I accepted whatever I could get from women in realtionships. So this lead to being lied to and accepting it. This lead to being cheated on ect. It took time for me to learn my childhood tramas and see that I was allowing all of this which made me bitter. Boundaries are so important for a realtionship and yourself.

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @NoMoneyOut
    @NoMoneyOut 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    I went silent and now I avoid them... too manipulative, even to complete strangers.
    I liken that to pure evil.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Manipulation is accomplished through lying. So when Sadia said in the beginning that women never lie, she was lying.

    • @user-cf6yp7qg1h
      @user-cf6yp7qg1h 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      BillKlacks is cool too?

  • @jamesferguson536
    @jamesferguson536 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My GF was disrespectful. I chose to buy a property I could retire to that she wasn't enthusiastic about. Then during the pandemic when I was told to WFH, I moved to that property, 200 miles away from where I was living. This has been an effective way to withdraw from the relationship.

  • @swirlcrop
    @swirlcrop 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

    This woman is so interesting. She doesn't seem to have the anger so many people who talk about the opposite sex have, whether it's the men talking about women or the women talking about men.

    • @armandoramirez875
      @armandoramirez875 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Couldn’t agree more

    • @sloebone7399
      @sloebone7399 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      She’s selling something and she knows her target audience.

    • @sluurr6171
      @sluurr6171 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      ​@sloebone7399 💯 but she's good at it and she knows it! 😅

    • @NB-yu4lj
      @NB-yu4lj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Her anger does come out against men

    • @Pitty212on
      @Pitty212on 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sloebone7399 she is selling the truth. At least you know it's correct.

  • @armandsant1143
    @armandsant1143 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I’m dealing with this past week and yesterday I appreciate it to stand up and infuse great self respect. I have been watching your videos and I have found a fuel source I needed to make a breakthrough in my life at 42. Best regards!! I am open minded to navigate with a current toxic partner that I now don’t trust and cope and arm myself with confidence I need to stand my ground and expect to heal myself for over 8 years of wasted time it’s so stomache wrenching at the thought how far evil has grown being together for so long that the disrespect is out of control like getting out the car and being yelled at and people in the parking lot looking at me so humiliating and I just built callouses and powered through until i recently said enough

    • @dubsmith7
      @dubsmith7 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You described the last 5 years of my life. After 25 years in a seemingly, mostly happy relationship. It has become painfully apparent that there is no respect, empathy or recognition of my contribution to our family. It's a strange mix of emotion, loss, heartache and yet an excitement to grow and perhaps someday get the relationship that will value and deserve.

  • @navimann2651
    @navimann2651 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You couldnt be more correct on this . SPOT ON

  • @lovengine
    @lovengine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +206

    Guys, go your own way. No woman, no problem.

    • @easter_sunday
      @easter_sunday 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      True.

    • @MalcolmLoomis
      @MalcolmLoomis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I agree 💪

    • @elcheleloco
      @elcheleloco 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      that aint what she's saying, she's saying real strong men should have boundaries and selfrespect

    • @lovengine
      @lovengine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@elcheleloco What is your definition of a "real strong man" ? Are you a "real strong man"?

    • @benanders4412
      @benanders4412 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@elcheleloco That's not going to help you with the modern Western woman when she calls her pimp. {the government}

  • @gglehteswhtemnAdChrstns
    @gglehteswhtemnAdChrstns 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The best advice and video I’ve ever seen. I watched it 20 or more times to memorise it. It describes the whole demise of marriage in my life. She picked early on that my mother was abusive and that’s all she needed.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm Gen X and the dark side of feminism killed us young boys. I think Millennial Moms tried harder but only ended up doing the double dance of helicopter parenting while blowing the trumpet of "girl boss." Maybe Gen Z or whatever comes next will bring women full circle back to the true female power of nurturing. Dunno.
      As they often say, it's going to get worse before it gets better. I have noticed that men are waking up to the diseased game of modernity. Walking away (setting these boundaries) will continue to low sex lives and low birth rates but it's at least half up to us to fix what's broken.

  • @brycecampbell4845
    @brycecampbell4845 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    A woman that disrespects me once. Will not do it again 2nd time. Because I will be gone. And I just proved it about 2 weeks ago. I won't put up with disrespect. Ever.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👑👑

  • @davideboiardi
    @davideboiardi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    The only love you need in life is your own. You don't need anyone to validate you or love you to make you feel better. Tell yourself that you love yourself. That's all you need.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Reminds of that line (Johnny Cash cover of Hurt), "What have I become, my sweetest friend?" A soliloquy to love yourself despite your imperfections. As you say, only then is there space in the room for someone else.

  • @raddadization
    @raddadization 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    it's amazing what communication and boundaries will do. I told my newish gf that i was doing all the work in the relationship. When I got home she had cleaned my house, did my laundry, and made dinner.

    • @antonioarmando1938
      @antonioarmando1938 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      The problem is that it is not natural or maintainable. You had to take action for her to adopt the behaviour.
      This to me is redflag. It is a play and deceiving.

  • @ThunderBoy2500
    @ThunderBoy2500 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    ⁠agreed … honestly I’ve been through too many shit test to understand that it’s just another form of rejection . My tolerance is low for those who don’t have the ability to reciprocate , it often ends with resentment . I’m comfortable in my peace respectfully .

  • @richardjohnson4052
    @richardjohnson4052 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    I worked in the divorce court for 30 years. My Supervisor told me, "You know how to tell if a woman is lying? Her lips are moving."
    Every woman who worked there would deal with a female customer and come to me and report, "people like that make me ashamed to be a woman."

  • @Truthspreader70
    @Truthspreader70 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    My ex walked all over me for 25 years because I didn't stand up for myself. Definitely, will not happen again with my new relationship. Learn to say no and stand strong with your boundaries

  • @gbcardo4544
    @gbcardo4544 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I can appreciate a woman's perspective. I have sisters, so I try to understand, knowing women's shortcomings. I was never intimate with my sisters, so this is the area where I feel like I am walking in the dark. My father raised me to be tough, so I'm not one to allow my boundaries to be crossed. However, since I have been single a long time, I noticed I am easily impressed by a woman's beauty. This was very helpful. Thank you.

  • @edbradley6815
    @edbradley6815 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    It appears after watching numerous videos like these women are simply children. They need somebody to give them boundaries and otherwise hold them accountable because they are incapable of doing it themselves. Why would anyone get with a person like that?

    • @HashDogg06
      @HashDogg06 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      On the other end of the spectrum after setting boundaries, you get told that you are a control freak just like all men & then she continues to stab you in the back to her friends about how controlling you are making them all have an unjustified bad opinion of you. It's a lose-lose situation.

    • @orionp.9476
      @orionp.9476 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      yeah just be homosexual, problem solved Bradley.

    • @mikkischuk3634
      @mikkischuk3634 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      To clean your house and cook your meal

    • @uchennakingsley1354
      @uchennakingsley1354 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As mundane as might come across., this is exactly it - and Sons too We like Sons 💪🏾 ​@@mikkischuk3634

    • @parrymylogicthen290
      @parrymylogicthen290 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂 I guess you took the easy way out huh? ​@@orionp.9476

  • @matthewpepler9673
    @matthewpepler9673 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Thank you Sadia 🙏 I didn't receive the consistent love you were talking about as a child and have been working with this for a while now. In you breaking down the mechanics of this, I feel a clarity presenting that unifies all the work I've been doing and streamlines it for understanding and implementation! Deep Gratitude!

  • @alikk6
    @alikk6 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    After 6 years in relationship been through everything, support and provide. Now I’ve been told “ im with femine guy and not in a relationship with a man with a kid” 6 years together and 0 respect.

  • @mirciupop
    @mirciupop 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Hiding the truth is called lying!
    That is one of my boundaries..🤷‍♂️

  • @swemariner
    @swemariner 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Facts hitting hard thank you Sadia! 47 year old lad out here

  • @jasona8613
    @jasona8613 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Just 2 minutes into her video, she speaks absolute truth. Thank you!

  • @colcooper9928
    @colcooper9928 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It all comes down to self awareness. Then comes self respect and compassion. Our world is but a mere reflection of who we are...stay strong!

  • @wisemanj2934
    @wisemanj2934 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Sadia. Thank you. I am a nurse and worked psychiatry too. Your insights are really valuable. I am in the middle of a crisis at the moment and I find it hard to just abandon ship. Over the years I embarked on a health journey to become the most fit person and the more mentally strong I could ever been. There is not a day that pass without me achieving religiously that goal. I see the manipulation, the emotional blackmail very clearly now. How every little sentences I say becomes the start of an argument for my partner, I see how the tables flips around and I am called disrespectful while having to hear many insults and tearing me down comments at the same time. I have a hard time creating the consequence of the boundaries. My boundaries are known, basically dont bring me problems without a dialogue about finding solutions, dont disrupt my peace just to lash out and be overly critical of everything. Etc. Inside of my heart I just want to leave and I feel like I cant. The old me got into a relationship with her but now I am in a different place I can see who truly put the work. Everytime I mention I want out of this toxicity I get the "oh now we see your true colors, thats why you didnt last with your exes etc" comments. Yeah, well. Besides looking really intimidating now, this part of my life prevents me from blooming into a smiling laughing happy or at least peaceful person. I developed anger issues, I react loudly now I am this "I am going to burn the whole world before you come burning me once again" mode.

  • @halfcentury1112
    @halfcentury1112 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow - This is spot on - I am actually shocked how spot on this is. You have described me and my relationship to perfection...This has to end

  • @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl
    @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Yes I have been there
    That's why I hate online dating
    Face to face

  • @andrewschultz5101
    @andrewschultz5101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It is truly shocking how well you can lay this out. I needed this advice 15 years ago, thank you!

    • @lovelygreenbonsai
      @lovelygreenbonsai 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      15 years ago you wouldn't be listening to it with the same ears bro, trust me. Life experience is only thing which makes us open for the truth. In my case it was a big pain when my ex wife left me.
      I was doing all for her and she was disrespecting me. And she was disrespecting me only because I didn't respect myself.

  • @actorsheart3142
    @actorsheart3142 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maam!
    This is the best video I’ve come across
    No BS but only valuable content

  • @PeteSinHouston
    @PeteSinHouston 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Avoid any woman that plays games and acts like a child which is exactly what she is describing here. If a woman is cheating - don’t take it personal - it simply means they’re not ready to be a grownup.
    The world is difficult enough as it is - the last thing you want in your life is to make it more-so.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That’s a good way to look at it. They aren’t worthy of you if they are cheating

  • @PassionateSpirit88
    @PassionateSpirit88 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Simply they have too many options and also no consequences for cheating...sums it up

  • @Username-ze1ux
    @Username-ze1ux 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    “Women never lie”…I’ve heard enough internet BS for today…and it’s only 4:00 in the morning

    • @kingket4
      @kingket4 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Have you watched the vid? If you haven’t woman shows her red flags in her actions.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lmao

  • @justone3243
    @justone3243 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I could almost give you a hug for so much truth and love

  • @EbayvideosR
    @EbayvideosR 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Very good video. I had my first gf at 41 and she was older but never told me her real age. She always compared me to different men and flirted all the time with other guys.
    Although I was a weak man, I wasn’t aware of how weak I’m actually am and how immature I was as a person.
    I kept telling her to dump me because she can do much better. She even told me she had to lower her standards to go out with me a few times.
    Although I ended it out of love for her, I couldn’t stop thinking about her and wanted her back. After 7 months of begging, she said told me I can take her out providing I pay her £225 for her beauty treatment. Gave her the money and she blew out on purpose, telling me she never had any intention of meeting me or giving me another chance.
    After being hurt so bad, I decided to retire from women completely until I’ve finished working on myself. Women are very dangerous and manipulative

    • @RatnaDewiWithin
      @RatnaDewiWithin 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Ouch I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. I think it's a good choice to do your own inner work. Not all women are manipulative and dangerous though. There are good respectful women out there. But we attract anything that mirrors to us our own shadows, so own that for yourself, so you can work on these parts of yourself and heal. You'll see that you will most likely attract other women in your life, women that will not treat you bad. I wish that for you.

    • @EbayvideosR
      @EbayvideosR 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@RatnaDewiWithin My Hospital consultant told me I’d have to find an understanding woman who would tolerate my misfortunes and that’s going to be a very tough task. That was when I was 35. Now I’m 43, I feel the boat has sailed, especially after the Jennifer experience, which was mostly my fault for being a low value man. I wasn’t expecting to attract a beautiful woman like her but women have a great sense of smell and she knew I was weak, but didn’t realise I was hard work.

    • @Faxtron
      @Faxtron 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Man you have to be awake and learn the truth by know the power of the red pilled man. You need to convert your self in a real man, an alpha man with balls of steel. Find videos to learn the power of the red pill you need it.

    • @mrmysterious6006
      @mrmysterious6006 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      With all due respect this is beyond being weak.
      Downright stupid to be frank.
      I hope you have learnt your lesson.
      I sure have.
      My ex was a highly educated woman and I was just your average guy back then.
      Things didn't work out as she kept crossing my boundaries with disrespect.
      She was begging me for 3 months to take her back.
      Once I leave there is no turning back.
      Make

    • @EbayvideosR
      @EbayvideosR 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mrmysterious6006 I do agree with you about being beyond weak, which was why I retired from women completely.
      When your like me, women will only use and abuse me. It’s not worth it.
      I’ve realised from this experience that it takes time to heal a broken heart and that heart can be easily broken again. If you feel your not good enough, walk away and allow another woman/man to take over.
      The reason why I wanted to see her was to find out why she refused to end it when I asked her to? Why was she possessive when she never liked me in the first place? Why accuse me of pursuing her when it was her that didn’t let go of me? Why ask me to give her chance at valentines after she hit me and verbally abused me for 3 hours?
      Nothing made sense
      Valentines incident was my fault because I asked her to be my woman and then told her to find someone else that would suit her needs as I didn’t feel I was going to be good enough for her.
      I didn’t know how to be affectionate and tried to copy what the opposite couple were doing, but she humiliated me. This was when the overthinking began.

  • @BlackBearDogTrading
    @BlackBearDogTrading 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I have a completely different view about this: if a woman values and respects herself to begin with she doesn't need to play these games. She acts with honor and integrity. She has no need to manipulate, lie or cheat. She knows her worth.

    • @neechee5150
      @neechee5150 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely true!!!! A woman who needs to be constantly reminded (boundaries) that she should respect you and treat you well is just like a person who wants to rob a home but does not have the courage to break the lock. As soon as the opportunity comes they will sneak and and rob the people/place. There is a saying that if a lock is the only thing that keeps you honest you really were never honest in the first place. You are a thief in waiting. So it is with women. Conditional character is not character. Conditional ethics are not ethics, Conditional empathy is not empathy. Conditional basic respect to treat others as you would have them treat you is not respect. Conditional kindness is not kindness. Conditional morals are not morals.

  • @dhruvbhatia7
    @dhruvbhatia7 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    This is true and have known this for the last 2 years after having dated more than a few bad apples. However it is virtually impossible to meet a woman nowadays who doesn't do at least one of these things sometimes

    • @MagoCelta
      @MagoCelta 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Your looking in the wrong places.

    • @niallg3551
      @niallg3551 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MagoCelta Where should he look then?

    • @bellagatto9670
      @bellagatto9670 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@niallg3551 not at -church, work, gym, bars/clubs, school, online dating apps- . I think all of those have been eliminated. What's left? Who knows?
      By design, I think.

  • @novaheads
    @novaheads 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +452

    If she’s breathing she’s lying

    • @Saloneboy90s
      @Saloneboy90s 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      😂

    • @beavinator420
      @beavinator420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      They hold their breath and tell lies too

    • @azharkalyani4273
      @azharkalyani4273 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hahahah😂

    • @deloredan
      @deloredan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yesssssss

    • @Hellhounds808
      @Hellhounds808 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      This is the truest statement on the internet. Period. If a woman is speaking. She’s lying. He’ll. They lie in their sleep

  • @merlinch4256
    @merlinch4256 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I totally agree with you, Sadia, and can confirm all the points, having experienced them myself.
    Thank you for this insight.

  • @muzilubisi2251
    @muzilubisi2251 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Omitting key details is lying, this is something I can't tolerate. When it comes to those behaviours that are contrary to the kind of person she is, I can agree that we tend to ignore things until they become too much.

  • @antipaganda5635
    @antipaganda5635 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    How to know she's lying: Her mouth moves

  • @darubaru
    @darubaru 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You make it so clear in such calmness that it hurts me :) Thank you!