WHY MEN CAN NOT GET WOMEN
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This was a great interview. I learned alot. Glad to hear a professional and woman's perspective voice. You are very sophisticated and intelligent. The only thing I did not like about the interview was that you stated to be a muslim then some parts of the interview you used profanity. None of us are perfect, however I think it would be better for you to not use profanity at all or not in public/media. It looks distasteful because you appear classy and sophiscated.
@@MrCasinoChips And what exactly have you learned from this interview? Can’t find anything that enlightens me.
Great interview! Sadia
What's so great about it? What did you learn? @@caribbeancruise4148
Very impressive, spot-on analyses. I like very much how you are contextualizing these issues in a larger social and sociological context - esp. in locating the overall role of social media - because this is my own approach. Thanks for the insights, the razor-sharp analysis and wisdom, and please, please keep them coming!
Many people seem to treat marriage like one of those bucket list challenges. Some kind of fun party thing to experience once in a lifetime, rather than having any real meaning.
A big party and being able to dress up like a princess for a day.
@@P.90.603 I had no money and few friends when I got married. It's amazing the bullet I dodged. LOL
Her voice is so soothing ❤
🙊
She’s well spoken
Because of the botox her lips don't move
@@DS-wb2we dearest DS-wb2we,
How sweet the vocals which harmonise with the flicker of facts flying off her sweet lips 👄
Well, if youre ugly and broke, that could have a lot to do with it...or maybe some people are just destined to be single. Instead of fighting it, embrace it. Make it work for you 😊
@darktraveler56 well I am definitely ugly and broke and enjoy being that way. If a woman can't accept me for who I am then that is definitely a red flag for me.
@terrancecooley3165 I agree totally,.brother !
I recommend a vr headset and a ai bot for lonely people, aint nothing you can do but adapt. I also got Vector AI robot, check that out.
@@terrancecooley3165lol. Just in case if you are not trolling by saying what you said. LOL. I can completely understand why you would claim that. Because honestly who wants to admit that they wish they were doing better and who wants to honestly admit that they're lazy or stupid or have no ambition and or is bad with money.. nobody wants to admit that, so they lie and say that they are absolutely okay with how they are and how their lives are because that's a whole hell of a lot easier than taking accountability and responsibility for their choices and actions in life
Most woman do not come from family's with out 2 partners causing her to lack the experience of a family relationship
Amazing interview. ..I left with one major truth...I have exchanged empathy for desire ... Nothing more profound nothing more true about my control of choice and how that has subconsciously steered my life in the direction lust over genuine connection ..thank you Dr Sadia Khan...
All what you say resonates me… thank you for being precise and the same time coming across in the simplest way. Keep it up. Thankyou.
She nailed it! Well done Sadia
Looks like a painting when she’s still.
I’m grateful for this conversation
Great contrast with the background and your outfit.
Do you even know what the word contrast means?
Love listening to Sadia….so knowledgeable.
That's debatable.
Thats why I am staying single. I can't be bother with all the BS. I don't give a shit about being on my own.
@@BravobravogrlLame attempt to shame someone.
Monk Mode 💯 🙋🏽♂️ 👈🏽
@@BravobravogrlWho hurt you? Chad...?
No an incel@@taqeemhilton
@@Bravobravogrl That doesn't make any sense. How can an incel possibly hurt you? 🤔
Aaaaaaaaaaannnnnddd subbed! Thank you Sadia!
It's an interesting point about how polarising attractive people can be for others. Ironically in dating you aim to polarise but that's a given for an attractive person. I would personally find it quite anxiety inducing to think about other people having strong intention towards me whether positive or negative. Human being are so imperfect that its scary to have any strong intention directed at you from them. Thank you for making me appreciate my unattractiveness a bit more haha.
One of the most truthful sessions on this topic I watched, thank you
you're very much able to put yourself on this unbiased view and actually analyse what's going on
thank you very much, for it has opened my eyes to a lot of things i wasn't paying attention to
Love you sadia, you are such a great human being. All your videos are so educative
I said it a million times and will again. Work on Yourself and you will attract whatever women you can imagine. Work on yourself more than anything and be great. Women know greatness it’s impossible to hide.
So true. However, most people want to grasp for excuses, why they can't find a decent partner.. it's less work!
The greatest quarter back in the history of football still got cheated on and dumped for a jiu-jitsu instructor.
@@obviouslyasockpuppet he should have stayed out of football instead of going back after "retiring" ... when you make a commitment keep it OR BYE FOOL!
That's why I'm focusing on me. If I find someone, cool. If not, I'm OK just the same 😀
I don’t get women. I worked on myself until many tried to “get” me and then I had my pick.
Men… A woman is not the first step on your journey.
Don’t chase women. Be a man that they chase.
I think men have to discover themselves first before discovering women
Men should chase, if you want to be chased by women you’ll attract the wrong people
'Be a man that they chase' would be great, but we dont live in a perfect world. Social Media and dating apps are the reason why woman get that kind of attention nowadays. There arent that many women out there who actively chase someone. I as a man also like to chase. However there are times when I like to be alone as well.
The only thing they chase is success. In the end most of these women will only hang with you for your success, and if you EVER are less than that successful man they leave. This is terrible advice. Just tell the truth that these women don't want most men, they don't need men anymore like in the old days for survival, that's why everyone is lonely.
@@Nico-kz9bv depends where you look. Yes they’re in the minority but still at least a billion. Less educated, more rural, better odds.
She is brilliant
Thankyou for your wisdom and voice!!❤❤❤
Great informative talk. My favourite female speaker on mens and womens issues.
Thank you, Sadia!
It is so amazing how you unpacked unconditional love and also the essence of attraction that should exist for a true relationship.... Sadia your work is super wow
Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌...social media is also very, very dangerous....GOD BLESS FROM IRELAND 🇮🇪 🙏
Hey Sadia, If you see my comment I'd like to hear your opinion!
I just broke up and it was my decision because i honestly lost feelings. It started decent for the first 2 months until we went long distance. I was okay with it until i started going to see her about once a month. Every time i went, she was so cool and not excited to see me while i was quite happy and expecting some energy back. We couldnt stay more than 3-4 hours together because her parents didnt let her, but they let her go travelling (?!). Over time i saw we werent on the same page so it started to feel like a one sided relationship. The last time i went, i rented an apartment and drove for 3 hours. I waited for her to get out of the damn bed for 40 minutes (having limited time to spend together), and she was so disrespectful and cold that day, with a weak apology the next day. It was a breaking point for me, and i told her everything that was on my mind. Couple days later i decided to end the relationship and it didnt quite hit me because she disappointed me many times before. One thing i know for sure is that i controlled my expectations but still got only words and not actions from her.
Edit: She barely showed any signs of jealousy.
Unbeliveably wise woman. I do not know how it is but everything come to conclusions.
Love your insight, always rings true 🙏
You should read the book Saat sen mistä luovut (you will get the thing which you relinquish) written by Tommy Hellsten. Probably it is published only in Finnish. So, it is a challenge for you.
What a wonderful wise woman
Single for life. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Hi Sadia, Your content is great.
Sadia all the way !
I really love this woman's insights
12:00 That information alone was already worth the vid.
For all of us desiring to improve ...its talks like these that shows us what the next step in self accountability and responsibility for the next generation .
I am deeply thankful ...you have indeed made an indelible mark on my path to true love in marriage and for humanity...
Thanks Sadia
A good prima facie analysis of the issues concerned. That, however, is the problem. Since there are serious (albeit non-ubiquitous) counter-examples to the arguments expressed in this video.
She’s so right! When people think you’re attractive they just assume you know it and you think you’re better than them. It is a very lonely place indeed. I struggle with keeping friends coz everyone wants to compete. I’ve tried being nice to people that’s even worse coz you can’t be nice as well. It’s exhausting.
Someone once told me, if you’re pretty and nice and not fat then forget about friends. People always try to look for what’s bad about me or imperfections and they marginalise that to make themselves feel better
hmmmmm Did you have female friends as a child? I think making friends as an adult is just hard. You probably need to find someone on the same beauty level as you who has stuff going for her too. The problem is that you might not be compatible. My sister was a real traffic stopper and claims she never had friends. She was a party girl though. I always had friends as a child, but not really in adulthood. We have become close after years of her acting out and alcoholism. We are compatible in blood due our upbringing as it's the only one we'll ever get. Good luck.
@@CocoisagordonsetterI had lots of friends in childhood, one of whom is still my friend now. All the other ones fizzled out as I moved to a different country. I had friends in my mid 20s, the dynamics changed when I chose a career path that people associate with success. Made friends in university but there was competition. Figured people think you can’t look good, be nice, slim and successful. They always point out how I don’t have the best nails 😅, from childhood up to now.
@@danayi_ Well, if that's the best they can come up with. LOL Super dumb! I'm 48 and I only want a once a month female lunch friend and I'm in Idaho if you want to hang out. Otherwise, I have a dog, a husband, and 3 kids.
@@CocoisagordonsetterThat’d be lovely but I’m all the way in England 😅.
Yes very rightly said . Have experienced this .
Very informative content. 👏 ❤
brilliant wisdom ❤
This is one who has the courage to accept the truth as it is rather than talking than most of the women in todays generation with the whole new movement.Its so soothing to hear her talking.Perfect combination of beaty and personality
Great point Sadia!!! So glad you said that about men not even considering if the woman is attracted to them. As a middle-aged woman still on the dating scene, men keep saying, "Why is such beautiful, kind, intelligent and well-cultured woman like you still alone? There must be scores of men who want you"
When I answer that well "there are almost no men who take pride in a well-groomed appearance anymore. Sorry, sloppy appearances, overweight, scraggly beards, tatoos and piercings, annoying, insensitive personalities are a no-go, but seem to be more and more the norm". To that they always answer "But it's not important for the man to be attractive..."
WRONG!! DEAD WRONG, guys!!
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT!
We attractive women also have desire and need to be with someone who we are attracted to!! And ya know what? It's so important that we'd rather be alone than with a slob!
These men who ignore improving their own appearance prefer to choose the pretty but heartless, narcissist (and often emotionally sadistic) women who use them for money and only sleep with them to keep them hooked.
A bit of basic grooming, physical fitness, proper social skills and good communication skills would go further to attract kind women who truly desire you.
This is why you're single because you're looking on the outside instead of looking inside of a person heart. Not every guy is bless with good looks he may be the most ugliest but also can dress nice and have a kind heart. Every guy can't be a Jeremy meek by the way you can look him up.
What is average body count of average middle aged woman ?
@@jerry-mind-skywomen who’ve never been married, women who were married for 20yrs but now divorced, religious women who may fit into both of t these categories?
that question is cryptonite for women @@jerry-mind-sky
Random side note...Most people (not all but most) that say they choose to be single...are lying ha. Of course these people will say they are choosing to be single because who wants to admit that they are not able to attract the type of partner he or she wants...these people tend to ALWAYS want someone who is out of their league....single moms who are maybe a 6 at best think they are 10s and who have bad bad choice after bad choice and have only fans accounts believe that they really do deserve the top 5% high value man...lmao 😂😂
Sadia the West needs these types of discussions more, keep speaking your mind. Despite not believing in the same God, as I Christian in the West I highly resonate with a lot of concepts you try and teach in your videos.
The thing that gets a little confusing in this video is men prioritizing attractiveness, but at the same time you talk about it being extremely important that a women is attracted to you.
Wasn't that not the case for centuries because women had to marry for for safety and didn't have as much of a voice, and marriages worked? Not saying that always lead to healthy marriages, but I'm saying we have lost site of what it means to work at love and make it work.
It seems to me that both men and women in the West need to stop prioritizing feelings over commitment.
I'd like to hear your thoughts on a talk by Allen de Botton called "Why you will Marry the wrong person". It's a clickbaity title, but I love several of the points he makes and I think you'll largely agree with it. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts
This was such a beautiful raw conversation especially about rape, as a rape survivor.
Under spoken about and very essential topic I will try and shift to helping survivors
Thank you. I look forward to it. ❤️
Love the look!
A good human being
Super Sadia K !!!! ⭐🌟✨🥇💯
I agree with Sadia on a lot of points, especially the part of jealous female rivalry as I have experienced this. The only thing that I disagree with is Sadia's advice not to get married if you're a western man. The institution of marriage has already been dismantled to a sad degree. My advice would be for men and women to grow up and choose their partners wisely. We need to realize that we need each other and should work toward coming together again. This is how society and the family can be strengthened. The advice to not get married is just the final nail in the coffin.
It has only risks. No benefits for a man today
1 in 4 marriages these days are sexless
@@travelnomad9281 because women dream of chads but msrry simple men next door
That doesn’t work. If you’re given power and control by the state in the form of biased divorce laws. You will (as a woman) naturally never be able to respect or allow your husband’s authority and are more likely to abuse the power given to you, as we’re clearly seeing today.
@@keylanoslokj1806same risk for woman
Love this video. ❤😊
I love you I agree with everything
Sadia is very beautiful but most of all highly intelligent with a great insight to we’re society sits today . Her voice is also beautiful
She's a unicorn with how most women are today, especially American women
Great content. Just one remark: the sound is not good. There is some kind of noise that distracted me.
Thanks!
Great video, this tuned me up very good.
The reality is most men and a lot of women are addicts of something: alcohol, sex, porn, food, drugs, attention. An era of weakness that craves stimulation and or novelty. Weak men and broken women.
Before blaming modern society, clean up all addictions 100 %, even nicotine. Stay sober from all these , then come back 365 days later and see if you still have the same stance on society on women and men. Addicts carry these in the subconscious, similar patterns of impulsivity and child like with emotional sensitivity. They all end up alone.
Change your fait and clean up the bs.
All addictions were created to destroy and disconnect humans
I agree with this 💯 😊
To the point : weak men & broken women.
It’s people trying to fill the hole in their soul with the object of their addiction.
"It seems promiscuity has advanced ever since the sexual revolution..." Well, perhaps by women, but on the whole men through history had something closer to a blank check. I'm not saying promiscuity by anyone is good, just pointing out the lopsided question/statement. Esther Perel draws a parallet between higher divorce rates and women having the financial option to leave unhappy marriages. It isn't just down to sex or narcissism.
While it was comparably more acceptable in society for men to promiscuous in the past than woman, that didn't mean the cast majority of men were just sleeping around as they liked. It was mostly a small subset of men doing that. The vast majority of men just got married and settled down as most women did.
thanks!❤
I love to hear your voice
Everything u say is true
Pretty privilege
True. But she speaks reasonable too.
I have to say, out of all these channels about dating, red pill, sex, etc., she’s the best so far. An academic perspective that accounts for multiculturalism, psychology, and human nature. Very good.
Its not an "academic perspective' though because her degrees are purchased through an online learning portal that also offers tarot reading lessons. She's not an academic. She hasn't published. She's not a clinical psychologist either. She's got a Bachelors in Psychology which is a generalist degree. Everything shared is opinion and conjecture.
@@ejohns492 from the website: Sadia holds a BSc in Psychology, Master's in Education and Developmental psychology, Qualified Teachers Status, Diplomas in Psychotherapy, Advanced CBT, Psychoanalysis, and Inner Child Healing.
@@ejohns492 Agreed, I only heard BS in this video.
Enrico - your concerns are very legitimate - the world can be a very lonely place, when left up to your own devices - however , there are better solutions rather than ending up a victim of your own circumstances - but - it will take some finances :
- Arrange a trip in a singles group
- Rent a lady for the evening
- Seek out a support group catering to singles
May god bless 🙏 to give you the strength to help yourself..
Not been able to read a book in full is also a symptom of low attention span ...GOD BLESS FROM IRELAND 🇮🇪 🙏
And or being flat out lazy and stupid lol
@@nexpro6118 true 👍
@@jamesrussell1979 thank you!!!
Until the value system is changed nothing worthwhile will change wake up
Emerald.
Sadia appreciate all you do! Especially around marriage, relationships and dangers of pornography to our culture. Will definitely watch later.
On a funny note this video was released less than 1 minute ago and already 41likes and obviously no one watched it yet 😂...
People love Sadia so much that they like her videos instinctively 😆
You are incredible
I like the work she does . We really need to undo the nonsense that is being promoted by these matrix men
I agree 100% with everything she says. Also , she is beautiful with such a soothing voice. I have a girl crush on her.
Great video. I like the fact that she said unconditional love doesn't exist between a partner, and that marriage is of no benefit to men in the west.
@@P.90.603only if the women is having hard times, if the man has a hard time she will leave and take everything she can
@@P.90.603 you are not wrong
All wells today but I definitely agree with this one ❤❤❤❤much love to Ms. Sadia it's really crazy how we destroy our future threw our kids we got to stop repeating history like this ❤❤❤❤ to islamic nation
Why is it so hard to treat each other mutually respectfully? How many problems would go out the window if we apply "I treat you the way I want to be treated by you."?
Thanks to that
Sadia totally gets it, she is very smart
I don't particularly mind being alone. I don't need a relationship to define my flourishment as a person. I do, however, need to ensure that as someone who chooses to stay single and who doesn't have children, that I have everything taken care of for myself so that as I grow older, I am not dependent on others financially speaking. So for the most part, I enjoy a simple life, I platform my thoughts on paper, I ponder on life, and have realized that the world we are in living in today is not one I want to procreate in and instead just live as peacefully and as tranquil as possible. If I were to meet someone along the way, it would be for companionship, but certaintly not a relationship or marriage. I understand that about myself perfectly.
What baffles me about it is that when I say it to my friends, I'm like an alien of some sort as they cannot fathom being by themselves. I don't waste my time calling them out as all have had tremendously failing relationships, but I digress...
Rollo said you're not a psychologist.
🙏🏽Is it you is you Nefertiti???👑
On point
The marriages I see don't seem happy once you take a start look at them. They fight often and put on a face to the public. I am all for healthy relationships, but I have yet to find very many that reflect that. I know one and they had to really work at it and they are in their 80s now.
dear sadia, i discovered your beautiful mind on better bachelor channel, and i would like god to bless your beautiful sould for your thoughts who went straight into my heart. i needed to hear that so much. i'm 30 and i'm considerating dating 50+ women only because they're not mindfucked by socials and dating apps. when i talk to a 50+ women, i can have any normal conversation. but even in a bus a 20 years old woman never seat next to me. she's disgusted to seat near to a man that she probably don't qualify awesome, even on a public bus. and when i'm home, i'm crying because this girl who i don't even looked once changed seat because i was disgusting to her. also, staring has turned into a crime, while non-verbal is 90% of seduction. how can you get into someone's heart if showing any emotion in public is prohibited in our society. i feel like i don't belong to this robots society. only talking with machines, ignoring humans. i love you sadia take care ❤
Hey! It cut off at the most important part. I wanna know if my wife is a gold digger and Sadia was going to list up all the signs but then the video abruptly finished
Did the end of the video get cut off? i noticed it ended mid-sentence
Oh, no it's not right, wise women like you dear will never hit the wall. Intelligence is always the sexiest. Bless you sister, as a man I enjoy your Chanel so much. Thank you
Imagine trying to spit game to Sadia she would figure you all out like Sherlock Holmes right away and tell you everything about your past life like a psychic 😂
adhd try Brahmi herb and ashwaganda will help a lot.
Sadia, have you studied Corey Wayne's work?
Any man gets easy to triger a scariesity mindset in man. Ellites does it on massess but does not seem to have any mass problems. Wach Ted Bandy, it was last and honest intake on this.
answering the title:
“WHY WOULD I BUY A COW IF I COULD GET MILK FOR FREE .”
i heard someone say.
there’s some truth to that ONLINE makes it easy for people to get a partner with no strings attached,& no emotional investment …
but for those looking seriously, it’s difficult in modern times , women very demanding they ‘re building high maintenance status otherwise they are moody,& they expect the love affection every minute of the day ; nowadays human relationships are demeaned by materialism to a point of no return,& if a person is patient enough & putting up with his partner, it’s only because there are no alternatives … in the future we all will be singing ADIOS LIFE COUPLES..
1000%
How to watch the full video?
In college we had sparknotes. 😁
Interesting🎉
Real phychology babby expreince sadia
Your chameleon-green outfit is pure elegance, giving off superhero vibes. It's so chic that even capes are feeling jealous, fashion-forward and ready to save the day, one stylish stride at a time! :P
Pornography does not lead to violence and rape .Pornography is to men what jobs are to women - A mechanism that frees them from dependence on the other sex. Sadia and women in general oppose pornography because men no longer need pursue them. The onus of finding relationships is now on women. You'll find me in my basement with my laptop.
Porn is a horrible addiction. Walk away. You will be much better off.
Young men are struggling to get young women. Men in their thirties and up are not struggling.
Then why is divorce highest for them?
@@sadiapsychology the video is titled "why men cannot get women"
Not true. Men of all ages are struggling.
@@sadiapsychology. How about women getting paid to file for divorce? Does that make any sense to you?
@@sadiapsychology Because of biased divorce laws favouring women. It has nothing to do with age.
this is full interview
Where is full version of this?
The full version is on the channel named "Soft White Underbelly"
And there are men who are marrying promiscuous pretty high maintenance girls knowing that she is not into him. She is in it for money and better lifestyle. and they are absolutely willing to pay for it. They will pursue and again repeat the same cycle with another similar type of girl. Its their choice. Just like women are valued for their beauty, men are valued for their ability to provide. In what century this was not the case? But here we are, listening to this and saying hw right she is. Whereas I find many of the things she says coming from her own trauma of being cornered by other girls. And also projecting her thoughts as other women's. This is very one sided, and doesn't give the full picture.
Women have too many choices, and they are like kids in a candy store. I'm glad I'm not looking for love these days.
Attraction is a fundamental building block and I think it is often misunderstood. We get instagram “attracted” to beauty, wealth, power, status…without always identifying what is attraction vs. ego dopamine rush. Look for the oxytocin rather than the cortisol. I know many clients who married someone they were attracted to in their daydream fantasy about what they have to offer in the future. Some women are attracted to nerdy dad bods but they chase after the men their friends are chasing after instead of being with their actual type.
There is no market for everyone. Some ppl are lucky and some with end up alone forever.
sighhhhhhhh she is the perfect example of my dream woman
For being a simp, someday you’ll pay the price.
plz do explain how by being attracted to the opposite sex makes me a simp . as they say every bread has its cheese and i understand whatever about her irritates you is your opinion but the fact that she tries to just tell it as it is is what i like and exposing the bullshit that women do and what men should look out for . so quite frankly there arent many modern day women out there being near as real . oh well as i said every bread has its cheese @@Chad-Tyrone-Pookey