We should all be feminists | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | TEDxEuston
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www.tedxeuston.com Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie a renowned Nigerian novelist was born in Nigeria in 1977. She grew up in the university town of Nsukka, Enugu State where she attended primary and secondary schools, and briefly studied Medicine and Pharmacy. She then moved to the United States to attend college, graduating summa cum laude from Eastern Connecticut State University with a major in Communication and a minor in Political Science. She holds a Masters degree in Creative Writing from Johns Hopkins and a Masters degree in African Studies from Yale University. She was a 2005-2006 Hodder Fellow at Princeton, where she taught introductory fiction. Chimamanda is the author of Half of a Yellow Sun, which won the 2007 Orange Prize For Fiction; and Purple Hibiscus, which won the 2005 Best First Book Commonwealth Writers' Prize and the 2004 Debut Fiction Hurston/Wright Legacy Award. In 2009, her collection of short stories, The Thing around Your Neck was published. She was named one of the twenty most important fiction writers today under 40 years old by The New Yorker and was recently the guest speaker at the 2012 annual commonwealth lecture. She featured in the April 2012 edition of Time Magazine, celebrated as one of the 100 Most Influential People in the World. She currently divides her time between the United States and Nigeria.
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Anybody watching in 2024
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@@benitaraymond6837 yeah 😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙
I am actually wondering how this speech is eleven years old because it is totally current in 2024.
I am so upset a lot of times with the inequality.
No😊
"a man who is intimidated by me is exactly the type of man i am not interested in"
Care to explain either of those points further, Mikey?
Mikey Gray can you elaborate? Cause to me that quote is just about being a confident women, and wanting to be with a man who appreciates that about you
Mikey Gray yeah sorry your speaking in circles and just not making sense compared to what my original comment was. Maybe try reading my comment again? I think it speaks for itself.
S. O. Pathetic woman !
Madison Grooters he is talking sense we men are logic you creatures are emotional!😭
"Boys and girls are undeniably different biologically. But socialization exaggerates the differences." 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Not really. Anything you can do, a male can do better.
@@saurabhm383 did you even hear to what she said and that's just about the orthodox mentality of some people. They still go on with the cliches. I fear how their future generations will survive with this kind of mindset.
They should be treated as equals.
@@saurabhm383 Anything you can do, a female can do better.
@@saurabhm383 and anything a man can do, women can do BLEEDING
@@yourfavoriteoompaloompa139 Not nearly as well as a man though. How many female mechanics, electricians, plumbers, engineerrs, miners, fishermen, construction workers do you see?
"we praise girls for virginity but we don't praise boys for virginity and its always makes me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out. Because the loss of virginity is usually a cause of involved....++" 👏👏👏👏👏
Because that's how tribes worked.
Its because a man want a woman with no past and a woman wants a man with a future. It's like mia Khalifa trying to be taken seriously
@@sheesh5591 all choices have a positive and negative reaction just because someone feels bad about it doesn't mean it's wrong science doesn't give af
@@sheesh5591 science is how people think and react (someone says something then a chemical reaction happens in the brain making positive or negative reactions) aka psychology
@@sheesh5591 np
" culture doesn't make people, people make culture." - I felt that! amazing words!
Yeah you right.
Maybe, but still very arguable.
Its really not that amazing its completely decent.
@@bo_kandar well its amazing to me, but that's your opinion.
C-2-RESH-18 KEK or for equality?
Frankly, I feel ashamed because I being a man, did a lot of those things that she mentioned. Now I cannot change the society but I can definitely change myself. At least, I will try to. And I will raise my son and daughter appropriately, as individuals.
Janki Jan
Are you living in a 3rd world Nation? Or just another 1st world man that doesn't realize that women in the 1st world have more rights than men?
Doesn't matter 1st world or 3rd world, gender discrimination exists everywhere. In some cases, men are discriminated and in some cases women are discriminated. Until there is self-realization, we cannot be better human beings. And I'm just trying to change my perspective for men and women and try my best to treat them equally. Is that a bad thing?
Fluffy Snatch
Do you feel like a victim? Because I sure don't.
If, (when?) war, system-state collapse and famine happens, I'll be on the preferable half of the psychopathic Mad Max foodchain.
your comment made my day . I'm so proud of people like you
we need more people like you who are open to suggestions and are actually willing to listen.
This is the best speech I have ever listened to. I am proud to be a woman, I am proud to be African. Thank you Chimamanda!
Except that from her speech, it's not her gender that made her do this speech so you don't need to be proud of being a woman because she did a great job. It's ability skill and talent and not gender that produced it. Plus her speech should not make us proud of Africa or womanhood but it's a gentle rebuke that we need to do better. In my opinion but I stand to be corrected.
@@mofimTV So stand to be corrected. The comment I felt was only expressing happiness foe being what she is and saying thanks to an inspiring woman. Is ALL!
the ads are very disturbing!! I can't stand that!!! It's a form of violetion of our privacy. I never allow anyone to put ads into my watching videos
You should be more proud about being in the kitchen, because atleast you are able to get water from the tap unlike your country :)
The fact that it was 8 years ago and still very relatable is just--
Ikr? yes its just sad af
Don't worry, feminism will be revealed as the hate movement that it is very soon.
A proof of women don't work
What m
“The problem with gender is that it prescribes to how we should be rather than recognizing how we are”
True for some people, but for me the normal gender roles feel completely comfortable to me
@@noodlebrains2689 This sounds extremely old fashioned an uneducated. The world no longer functions under the status quo. Open your eyes.
@@noodlebrains2689 that's great! i couldn't be happier for you! but i hope at the same time, you respect people who do not feel the same, people who are not comfortable with the gender/roles that have been prescribed to them.
@@spacejinkies
He said for himself, personally. He literally is accepting it's true for other people not to feel comfortable in traditional gender roles.
Nothing uneducated about acting how you feel, regardless of i it conforms to prior archetypes or not.
@@StickNik oh I see. sorry I misinterpreted
"you should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man" so true! I'm studying to be a lawyer and I once got told that I should get married before I qualify as an advocate because it will be harder for me to find a husband thereafter. Is that all my existence as a woman is reduced to? A wife? Not a woman who is able to be strong, independent and impact her environment? I would rather die alone, an accomplished successful lawyer, than submit to the patriarchal standards of my society, thank you very much.
I certainly support you in your journey, but I have the funny feeling that you will be quite mad when you happen to wake up someday and realize that you are in your late 30's with a strong wish for children creeping into your head and no "suitable" man around to fulfill that wish. Just make sure that you are aware of the consequences and hardiness of stepping outside the beaten path and if that is truly what you want in your life. If that is not the case, then you set yourself up for a lot of late grief...just saying, you wouldn't be the first woman to regret. Biology can be a bitch, just keep that in mind.
starlet russe
You didn't understand my comment, but that's not surprising considering your hysteric reply.
starlet russe
Jeez, can you at least TRY to understand ANY point I have brought forth? It really hurts to read your stuff.
Asto508123 adoption is a thing. Sperm donation is a thing. Single parenthood is a thing. Right now I'm following my dream first. Children can be future me's problem
Tesslyn Francis
Just make sure your future you won't hate your present you. ;)
"A man who is intimated by me, is exactly the man I would have no interest in"
I remember my English professor at university made us read Adichie's book called "Purple Hibiscus" & I had no interest in it or any of the books written by Africans that were part of the English module, because I knew its rare to find journal articles to reference since not many people analyze African writers. Silly me I thought I'll definitely fail that module, but the moment i started reading her book I couldn't put it down & the more my professor gave us a background story about Adichie my interest for her work grew. In conclusion my final mark for that module in that semester was 80% & starting from then I learnt to respect African authors because their writing is just excellent.
Beautiful
My grandmother said there's no such thing as a man's job......you either can do it or you can't. Period.
periodt. i love ur grandma. :)
Agree we need more female miners, off-shore oil workers, sewer repairers, refuse collectors, commercial tyre fitters, abattoir works. Wouldn't you agree?
@@dh1474 yep definitely cause they're totally gonna do those jobs -_-
@@dh1474 if only it wasn’t look down on women to work on those jobs and joked about like there’s no women on those fields then this comment wouldn’t be necessary
@@weluvflash yup and the internalized mysogyny is just oozing out
I've finally found someone who understands my anger. It really breaks my heart that a lot of women just accept that. As long as I am alive, I will keep fighting
Orinnnnnnn
You go girl!
Hahhahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhhahahhahaha
Same
True
I cannot tell you the number of times I have rewatched this talk. so much of what Chimamanda says is so similar to Indian culture. Such an inspiration.
Alas, you'll find that abiding by her nonsense will only result in you dying bitter, alone and confused. Hardly inspirational. You will realize this some day, hopefully before it's too late.
@hellogoodbye4061 what must you have experienced in this life to be completely oblivious to the truth when you see it
An inspiration indeed. Exactly as you say, similar to other cultures too. Mine Romanian...so many things similar.
Gosh, she sounded so much like she's lived in India all her life. So much relatable.
ikr? i was watching an indian video on the same topic a while back and the comments were so toxic, i felt bad for the people in their lives from the way they treat other people
A women commenting on youtube that India is harsh place for a women ... the irony
@@arawnat2441 just because we aren't deprived of the internet doesnt invalidate any of the struggles women go through here
@@rwitabina Free education, free rides, free jobs, laws and police support in marriage court ... what a hard life you must have.
Men enjoy those things too. Still doesn’t mean there isn’t gender inequalities Lol. What’s not clicking?
"Culture doesn't make people, people make culture" 😍😍💖❤
You do realize that is a completely meaningless insight, right? Yes, people make the culture, and then culture influences people. If that impressed you, you need to get your lips pried off this lady's big backside.
Thanks for pointing out the obvious, something that queen of kings completely missed somehow.
queen of kings told my friend same thing
It is not meaningless, or do you imply that culture cannot change ?
+Evelance Fairchild True. What is considered as normal is only considered as such because it's what the majority are doing. The thing is that sometimes (not always) there are actually some good reasons for it being the way it is.
"Marriage is a language of ownership rather than language of partnership".
It strikes me!
It can be, certainly. But I want to get married (eventually) and I've never thought about having "ownership" over my partner.
@@diegoarroyo1641 it depends upon our partners.
@@parvinbanu9203 Indeed.
wtf, no one owns anyone what clapped out world do you live in. Obviously not married.
@Lost your name suits you
All humans should learn to cook for themselves! My eldest brother cooked and took care of us. I dedicate this talk to him Charles A. Skinner.
After 7 years of growth myself, I deleted my comment and believe all of us should be feminists. men should support women in all areas of growth
Fvck off, I don't owe you anything. I'm just trying to live my life and I'll support whoever I thinks needs support regardless of their gender.
That's so on point "a man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would not be interested in"
We are not intimidated,just disgusted.
@R1 African men feel threatened when a woman earns more than him
@Rosa San Martin you’re not living in Nigeria so you’ll never understand. Nigerian men don’t like women earning their own money so that she can’t divorce him. Our country doesn’t really have alimony or child support laws since most people are married traditionally and divorce is a taboo
@Rosa San Martin are you an African? Are you a Nigerian?
@Rosa San Martin Nigerian men prevent their wives from working so that no matter how much abuse she receives, she can’t divorce him, he’ll chase her out with the kids into the streets to fend for themselves. Nigerian laws are mainly governed by religions . In Nigeria the reason why women work is to earn money for herself so whenever he chases her away she can fend for herself. A Nigerian man can chase away his wife and 9kids to take in another woman without consequences.
“They grown up to women who have turned pretence into an art form” That’s where “IM FINE” comes from.
Yeah, men also do this though. I think everyone is pretending to be honest.
Divine Lia whatever you say is fine by me comes from
Yessss
*when you say the truth,people hate u*
That's exclusive to women.
This is true feminism. Women empowerment without pulling other genders down. I don't know why some people hate entire feminism just because of few deviated fringe elements.
It's not a few, it's dragging the entire Western society down the sewage. I'm sure it was started with good intention , but over the time it has been twisted and turned into the monstrosity we see today. (Communism and Nazism were also started with good intention btw )
I dont think its a few fringe elements
It doesn’t care men and hurts women more
Feminism ideology is based on victim mentality tool indoctrinated from marxim to fight illusionary patriarchy
@@veodebouev definitely its not few….
Only few good women
But not few bad feminists
Ugh. This is feminism . Something that pulls genders down is not feminism. That said, I am going to listen to this woman more
@@veodebouev Maybe not a few in strength, but relatively few.
"Culture doesn't make people, people make culture" What a wonderful words 😍😍😍 I will always remember this😍😍😍😍😍
I disagree
I've been told alot of times by my teachers and mentors that I'm too ambitious and I will not get married because no man will have me under their roof. Today my career has been all about growth and I'm married. The modern man will love an ambitious woman for all she stands for. Dont ever let your ambition be disregarded because people believe you shouldn't be as successful as your counterpart. Thanks Chimmanda for speaking out!
Agreed 100% you have good sense sis
Nice lie
@@kevinmarshall3198 No. She might be married, but her husband is a feminine man. Not on the outside but within. This lady is full boss, in her relationship. That's not equality, but rather greed.
@@kimberleyjane2338 You don't even know them or know the guy what are you even talking about
@@kevinmarshall3198 Maculine men, agree that women should be equal, most certainly, (like women's lib) but manly men dont like this whining feminism stuff. Women in Canada gripped so much that are all way ahead of men now. Watch your pants
This reminds me of years ago, back in secondary school when a teacher divided my class into two groups for a quiz. Boys versus Girls and at the end of the quiz the girls won and he said to us (guys) "Why did you let the girls win?" I complained that he was being sexist by assuming that the girls won because we allowed them to win and he called me a woman and insulted me. Funny enough, everyone in class laughed at me, including the girls. Like Chimamanda expounds here, some African women aren't raised to be feminist, and I grew up believing everyone is equal, not just gender but race and sexuality. It is ok for a man to be feminist too, as John Stuart Mill supported the equality of women and the freedom of individuals.
@@alansamuel2454 Why's that?
So much respect to you for that sir👏👏👏
@@alansamuel2454 lmao you're insecure
And exactly opposite happens in our school😂😂
so that was the point in time you got emasculated. what a sad story
This speech is inspiring. A lot of what she talks about in Nigeria can be applicable everywhere. I realise I'm not doing enough to support feminism.
At 16 I was told by a friend that no honorable man will marry me because I want to make a documentary on prostitutes . I told her that I don't want to marry a man whose fragile ego is more important to than what an entire segment of society is going through.
Most guys probably don't care about that, but things which mark you as a flight risk matter alot. Guys get destroyed when a marriage ends, their suicide rate is 9 times higher than the average woman going through the same thing.
So it's not the prostitutes, which should be a more respected industry than it is, it's about whether your behavior gives off red flags that you'll be a quitter down the line
Girl be you! ❤ Live a life u will never regret.
The comment section is basically just men making this about them.
***** We wouldn't HAVE to make them ''all about us'' if we had them in the first place.
Give me a call when women stop being discriminated and treated as sexual objects that only exist for the pleasure of men.
I'm sorry,but you clearly have no comprehension of what feminism really is.
Feminism does focus more on women,mostly because women face social injustice far more than men these days,but it's also concerned about men,especially male rape victims. The name has 'fem' in it because it was started by women,but it does not under any circumstance help only women. Why do you think we're so against patriarchy? Because it was PATRIARCHY that teaches us that men want to have sex all the time and therefore actually enjoy rape,as gruesome as it sounds. That's what we're against.
What you're trying to call me has a name and it's a misandrist,which I'm not. ''Feminazis'' as you'd like to call them are misandrists,not feminists.
It's not just about legal protection,it's about the way society percieves women.
the video is basically women making it about them.
***** Can't we just acknowledge that gender, or sex for that matter is still a big deal in society, and that we all experience problems, men and woman alike, but individuals to different extends?
***** can you give an example of what you are talking about?
Also- have you ever hit a woman?
"I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femininity" Amen and Amen to that🤗
@Leon Discuss so why are you here?
@Leon Discuss did you watch yhe video 😶
omg chimpanda so wise!
Why did you use to be apologetic?
awomen
“Culture doesn’t make people, people make culture” these words hit differently!
I finally got around to watching this speech and all I want to do is scream from the rooftops, "I've been saying this for years!".
It's truly amazing to hear all the experiences that we as Nigerian women have had to go through presented so eloquently.
I only wish that my spirit never dies, because if there's one thing society does best, it is to kill the spirit of anyone who dares to challenge it's norms.
Thank you Chimamanda, for this and for all you do.
Lol… short sightedness is a female condition.
And your other feature of being the social glue of society makes you cheer each other on even when you’re heading for a cliff
Lol. Smh
"The higher
you go, the fewer women there are"
- Wangari Maathai
Deep stuff!
Toluwalemi Oluwadare wdym😂
This Quote is actually from the lady talking here
@@user-mq1ny9fu4v that means we have gender issues, empowered by chauvinistic polemicists like you
Ecclip tikk lol good excuse. Get out of ur illusion
@@user-mq1ny9fu4v no excuse, no illusion. This is like a baldy laughing at another baldy because he looks weird...
“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, we say to girls you can have ambition- but not too much, you should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man” - Chimanda Ngozi. What a powerhouse, her simplicity in explaining this was immaculate.
@ Cassandro Steingo
That butch in the video would like to "threaten" all men in order to feel an artificial power running through her body and mind , feeling extatic for a while and then crying like a baby that there are no men anymore .
No one teaches girls to shrink themselves. At least not in Canada
@@mateosag4924 true. another scam artist preaching about problems she dreamed up.
Beyonce put that in a song
Now guess what happens
When you teach women to be ambitious like men and men to be soft like women , you end up flipping the table🤣🤣🤣🤣🤓🤓🤓
"The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are".... This quote says everything about the matter ❤️
Tell me that u are being sarcastic for the sake of hope for a world where the intelligence isnt declining . U choose the most absurd thing.
Lets ask the question for the sane, Y?
Salut Madame je me nomme Sandrine et je cherche une correspondant qui pourra m'aider à parler l'anglais
Honestly I am grateful that I found this through Beyonce at a young age. Without her this wouldn't have been exposed to me when I was 12, and has stuck with me up until now. And I will continue to come back to it.
Thank you. In India and feminism is still a taboo. I feel angry and suffocated because nobody else is angry about the daily discrimination that happens here. This video has really re-instilled motivation in me
Nishi Poddar
We have the same thing here in Saudi Arabia.
❤I know it is tough but i hope you will eventually be strong enough to stand up for the right cause to educate the people around you, don't give up India needs women like you angry women will change the world (:
@dskmb3 your mom ?
@dskmb3 Which part? Your dad?
Girl I feel ya. Tragically from India.
As I began this video, I thought "what a gorgeous woman, I love her hair and her whole look" and as she spoke, I thought "she's a very confident speaker and I love her accent too" then at the end of the video I thought, "She's a gorgeous human being, she sees the truth of the injustice. She's not only beautiful to look at, like one would think of first of a woman, but she's beautiful inside, based on the things she says, because she's well-educated and smart." Such a great video.
Tjankes man/
+Cathy North. What injustice?
You should read her books, I recommend Americanah and Half of the Yellow Sun
Feminists are women masculinised by patriarchal way of thinking and carrying a lunatic ideology of equality.
Cathy North I neither find her beatiful nor do I like the way she speaks.
Whoever that raised this woman, is a Gold to this world 🌎🌍
Hands down this is one of the best Ted Talks I've had the pleasure to listen to!!!
I cannot express how much i apreciate this speech. She adresses everything that needs to be adressed, I wish more people could see this
Yeah if you haven't listened to Jordan peterson or more cleaver people. Omg grow up
@@el29 :0
@@el29 Shut up
@@el29 exactly...
Women consider their view of the world to be the only correct one and do not consider it sexism, and the male view of the world is considered sexism if it is not identical to the female view of the world. Conclusion: feminism is sexism, not equality.
I feel sad about the way women and men are afraid to say they are feminists. Chimamanda says, "a world of happier men, and happier women who are truer to themselves". Please, don't accuse all feminists of hating men. Focus on the love and positivity of wanting equality for men and women! I want a world where men can cry without being called "gay" and where women can ask for fairer pay without being called feminists in a negative way. Let us strive towards this equalism, to become better human beings. Much love, Morgan.
Feminism is not pro-equality, because it selectively ignores the issues that men or transgendered people face.
Ryan M no, it doesn't.
scootigger I dont know about you, but I have never heard one feminist talk about problems such as unfair custody or the fact that men make up 94% of work-related fatalities.
Ryan M I once campaigned for the equality of male and female nurses? Males are often assumed to be worse at nursing which is ridiculous, so I campaigned for them and with them. Now you can add a feminist who gives a damn about men to your list :) I care about everyone x
Morgan Daisy If you give a damn about men, that means that you aren't a feminist, because what you did extends outside of the definition of feminism.
This actually made me cry. Thank you so much for your words. ♡ Beautiful and inspiring speech that I'll have to listen to again.
Here’s your reminder to listen again :)
@@amandadavis8525 thanks :)
When we all become Feminists, the Earth would surely be a more happier place to live in.
Thanks Chimamanda for this evergreen discussion!
Brilliant speech!!
If you watched the entire video and still think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just didn't get the lecture... If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be a feminist. Simple as that.
The anti-feminists generally don't watch videos like this. They just post hateful comments and put up straw men. Sad.
+Yasmim Pessoa
She starts her propaganda with "The problem with gender is...", I call that supremacy.
+Yasmim Pessoa Or, you could be an egalitarian. Feminist itself is a gendered word in favor of females lol
If you don't think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just aren't paying attention. Your bias blinds you. As for Greg Pagel, anti-feminists respond to criticism and videos from feminists constantly. Can't say the same for feminists though. They just write off any criticism as misogyny, or people "not getting it"
If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be an egalitarian. Simple as that.
+Yasmim Pessoa Let's not judge all feminist based on the words of Chimamanda. Chimamanda is one of the few sensible feminist out there, she is one of the few I will sit down to listen to. Having conversed with her before, you could tell she really cares about equality. Many of the people who tag themselves under the name feminist do not care about equality. I like Chimamanda, I'm not sure if I could say the same for most feminists.
Rotimi4 You waste your words friend. We judge feminists and people by their actions and words. Just as yasmin has done.
"The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are" 🗣🗣
@@minutemilitia6498 elaborate further please?
@@minutemilitia6498 sahikunillalle 😂
"As for the Nigerians here, I'm sure we're all familiar with how quick people are at giving unsolicited advice"
"whoever got the highest score would be the class moniter, now the class moniter was a big thing....you got to wrote down the names of noise-makers"
THIS ICON HERE SUMMED UP INDIA FOR US ALL.
The 23k people that disliked this video are probably still stuck in the 1800's because this world is evolving and I'm here for it.
Na, they just seem passed the BS
Evolving into degeneracy lmao
Its probably all boomers who don’t even try to understand it
I'd say it to all feminists who think they're living in unequal world during living in developed countries which are full of opportunities, bruh
@Gary Cute fairytale. I don’t see why Feminism is bad for women. If done correctly, it does no harm whatsoever.
"We have been raised to think ofwomen as inherently guilty and have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings without any control is somehow acceptable" 👏👏
I don't know where you've been raised that it's taught like that. But I feel sorry for you, feel even more sorry for the people who were raised to think women are innocent until proven guilty and that men are guilty until proven innocent. Or in other words, our modern law
You clearly only listen to one side.And,really,it's the exact opposite.
@@MrDude-yk8vy yaa alot of police most of the time arrest men even if they are innocent and the women is the criminal
And men barely have any shelter in us there are only 1 shelter for men in India there is only 1 shelter per 4 states for men and the law isn't meant to privilege us it is made against us child support, divorce, and so on
It’s the opposite for Western society 😶
Where were you raised? I assume Nigeria or India lol
I can tell right off the bat there are people in the comments who didn't even watch the video and just responded to THE TITLE.
DeathKnight5608 im gay
LP15 Good luck with that.
feminism supports the murder, enslavement, and dehumanization of men. They should not have any platform anywhere, let along be allowed entry in the US. We don't let ISIS terrorists in the US, why should we let feminists?
Never change, General Troll.
LP15 WHO CARES
Amazing speech, every point she makes is so perfect and necessary, it’s a standing ovation for every sentence
One of the best ted speech not only because of her topic but also bcoz of the way she deliver it, how she make her point, how she communicate it. Its very delightful to watch her. And her voice is so powerful and so clear.
Once again, we get a chorus of ignorant dudebros crying their male tears of oppression after a feminist drops a whole ton of knowledge on them. Truth hurts, huh dudebros? Too bad. Deal with it.
Great job, Ms. Adichie!
Feminists want men to be more open with their emotions. Why? So they can make fun of them!
I would rather stick to "gender roles" and suppress my emotions.
_"after a feminist drops a whole ton of knowledge on them."_
Knowledge stemmed from ignorance of feminism and its damage in the Western countries.
Cool story bro, why don't you move to Sweden and see how you feel being a man over there.. that's what feminism does to societies. It isn't about equality, it's about man shaming, power, control and silencing dissent.
MDOY79 Yes, men are so oppressed in Sweden. I'm sure you just pulled that comment right out of your ass, right?
Keep crying your tears, dudebro
MDOY79 Men aren't oppressed in Sweden. Hush.
a man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I'd have no interest in...
I bet there's an infinite number if men who are "intimidated" by you then.
That's not a bad thing
is there any guys interested in you ?
THAT PART!
Yeah, men are now choosing women a LOT more carefully, since they now have the power to end the relahionship at will and get all the legal rewards afterwards
Everytime I hear Chimamanda speak I'm enriched with knowledge! I LOVE this! ❤
Very well-spoken, thank you for the amazing ted talk!
I was born in Russia. My dad is Chinese. My dad beat my mom, yells at her all the time, and thinks he's the boss. Because of this, my psyche collapsed. In Russia, they can't stand women, they are constantly insulted. Feminism is needed all over the world, especially in Russia, Asia and Africa. Western countries have passed the path of feminism, but there is still no full equality.
Beautifully said! People forget that so many countries exist where certain groups of people lack any human rights
Say it louder for the people in the back! I can't believe men and some women can be so close minded to this horrible fact
the same here in latin america
Lol, Russia is a hard-core matriarchal society. In all Russian families I know, the man is a c u c k who is being bossed around by his wife.
And if you don't want to be bossed around by women, you are called a p*ssy. Russian women HATE independent men.
Also, your father isn't even Russian.
@@raytracer5726 yo thats messed up
I feel bad for the people who stumbled upon this video and skipped it .. or heard the first five minutes and stopped.. it's the most positive way of talking about the subject
It's a boring video, she's just generalizing and doesn't consider different cases, she only is tryin' to make it look like all women have problems and are oppresed, which is not.
@@thegreenwood6645 did you not watch the part where she talked about how men are oppressed as well?
@@thegreenwood6645 11:15
@@chlo_xo333 I don’t believe in equality, at least for me and my kin. Why should I, a pure blooded descendant of the first men of this continent, be equal to the likes of you? I also carry noble blood, so that should also be the more reason to grant me the privileges I rightfully deserve. Except I don’t have any privileges, I hate that fact because it is my right or at least it should be.
@@commanderoom-9269 i dont even know what you're talking about
Ten years ago and it's still so powerful and fresh, girl you're amazingly talented 😇
Comments prove that there's still so much to do for feminists! I love all women, love you, sisters!
No, the comments prove that people are finally waking up to the nonsense.
So true. Still much to do but we stand on the shoulders of other women who fought before us and we will be the shoulders for the future women :)
feminism is bs concept and thank God women in my country has recongnized it
I love how most of the insecure commenters clearly didn't watch the video and just got triggered by the title. None of the people hating on feminism are making relevant comments to the video.
and do men have to shut up and listen to every word every single time a feminist talks? especially that the title aint helping at all
Her talk is very different from Western feminist. She should have given this talk in Nigeria. Watch the video
+mrwarmind Literally no where in my comment did I say that, so I'm not sure what you're mad at here. I was pointing out the ignorance of getting angry at a video you haven't even watched.
you called men insecure for not listening to this woman, so i asked, do you expect men to listen everytime a feminist talks, especially that the title doesn't hint that she is gonna say anything different from any typical feminist
+mrwarmind I didn't say men were insecure for not listening to her. So I can't answer your question since I never said or implied that was the reason they were insecure. Also your conclusion doesn't make sense either. No where in my post did I tell anyone what action they should take and you arbitrarily created an action, asked if you should follow it, and then acted offended over an action you made up.
"A man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in. "😂😂😂😂✋✋✋✋✋✋✋
Ananda Birungi is there any man who’s interested in you or her or the thousands of other women that posted this exact same thing
I'm not intimidated by women. It's the fact that they expect me to be intimidated and are offended when they realise I'm not. That pisses me off.
@David Kinney technically your'e not wrong, offence can be associated with intimidation.
But fortunately, your'e not right either. If I was intimidated, I wouldn't have commented at all. Good try though.
@David Kinney Your not wrong that people use the internet to make themselves feel bigger.
But you're not right either, I am 6ft 2 and am rarely intimidated by anyone. The few people that do are family. How could I be intimidated by someone I don't know.
(P.S. People that are intimidated in real life but feel big online are called bullies. An internet troll is just someone who fucks around online for a bit when in need of entertainment, and to do something new. It's actually really fun once in a while.)
@David Kinney ah~ I see now. YOUR INTIMIDATED BY ME!
Absolutely brilliant!!! I was captivated right until the end! This is our future as a civilization, we need to change the world's culture.
this must be the most amazing ted talk I've ever seen. thank you so much Chimamanda.
Beyoncé brought me here, but chimamanda's power and eloquence kept me here.
Truly inspiring.
well put.
My younger brother came to live with me, will go to the kitchen and get his food, then drop the utensils for my niece to return from work and wash, because according to him washing plates is not for men. Of course I did not put up with that. You do the dishes and any other domestic work when its you at home or leave my house. He got the message clear.
I need more people like you in the society
of course you should do that, but while doing that make sure there is no "boys only" work like : cutting grass or fixing appliances in the house if not the societal effects would not be equal it will be reverse.
Most of these domestic work stereotypes were actually created in african settings due to the fact that there are a lot of jobs like heavy farming, cutting firewood e.t.c that were heavily physical and so were exclusively male and so women took up other jobs in order to balance labor.
It's important that while we are changing the society we do not break it
@@ekenemadunagu1654 lol in my house my mother and I fix all the appliances, lift the furniture, and bring in the heavy objects
@Tbh Its sad most activists do not GO OUT MORE OFTEN
Your house is not a typical African or European setting
The exact same thing I've seen done by my female friends towards their maids.. Abuse of power, jealousy and sick entitlement
I love this, I love coming back to watch it, love seeing the comments who understand and appreciate. Going to ignore those that struggle to understand that discussing one problem doesn't eliminate other problems and that a problem can be exacerbated or dimnished in different situations. Privelege, most of the time, is accidental because we can't anticipate where and what we'll be born as but like in all aspects of living it comes with responsibilities e.g. eating to keep on living and being alive is a privilege. So we should seek to understand our privilege and use it for making things better, not worse. Having privilege doesn't make you immune to trauma or discrimnation but in general shouldn't the goal be to eliminate all unjust discrimination on things we had no choice over?
if only we can have this content simplified to all levels of intellect and broadcast throughout Nigeria. what if we can re-identify the religious norms of our communities throughout Nigeria? even create a curriculum which new generation can inculcate slowly through time? what if? what if? CNA, you're a blessing in our time.
It seems weird to me that there are women in the comment section, claiming how they are anti-feminist. If it had not been for feminism, you wouldn't have the same rights as you have today. You are brushing off all of the actions done by feminist prior you, who dedicated their lives, to make sure that women got these rights that we have today. Just because you don't experience inequality in your every day life, doesn't mean that no one else doesn't either. What happened to empathy?
And to the men sitting here complaining about how 'feminism is all about women', you clearly haven't listened to her speech before you commented. Feminism is about equality for all genders.
Feminism is not flawless because it is made by humans, and humans aren't perfect, but it's the best thing that we have. The best hope for us, who don't want our dreams to be questioned because "Isn't that a man's job?" The best hope for us, who are questioned if we want "career or family?"
I am a feminist. Not only because I want the same opportunities as my brother has; but because there are so many people out there, men and women, who should be free to be who they are and do what they want.
***** I don't really see what you see as flaws with feminism, and therefore I have a hard time understanding why you won't call yourself a feminist when you believe in equality of the sexes, and still see the differences in society. (Sorry for any mistakes btw, my first language isn't English)
***** Okay let me ask you something: How often do you see male politicians being asked what brand of shoes they are wearing? I'm just wondering, that's all. For the record, I'm from Denmark, where we have a woman as our prime minister, and she is constantly scrutinized for the brands her clothes, shoes and bags are. All of which she pays for herself. Her opponent is a male whom has his expensive suits paid by the party, and has loads of scandals (His name is Lars Løkke... You can look him up if you don't believe me.) and everyone just seems to shrug it off?
I don't know where you're from of course, but I'll take the liberty to quote an American newspaper, describing Hillary Clinton:
"She was wearing a rose-colored blazer over a black top. The neckline sat low on her chest and had a subtle V-shape. The cleavage registered after only a quick glance. No scrunch-faced scrutiny was necessary." This article was from Washington Post in 2007, but I really don't hope you'll go as low as to tell me that it 'has changed' because I can easily find other articles to prove you wrong. I'm just wondering if you have ever heard anything like that with a man?
Women are being scrutinized for what they wear in politics, like it was some fashion show. No wonder Angela Merkel wears the same thing in different colors every day.
When Theresa May (UK) in 2012 made a mistake in timing of the deportation of Abu Qatada, the main focus wasn't on the mistake in itself, but on her age and her gender - or rather that the implication that she had a feeble unreliable woman's mind.
You are right that there are female mayors, senators, business owners, governors and whatever more, but if you look at the per cent of them all, then the numbers are ridiculously small.
That's not the sound of equality, that's the sound of my dreams crushing.
***** "there are no laws preventing you, or any other women from being in those fields, so what is the big deal?" I'm glad you ask, because it brings up a very important point: legal rights and cultural rights are not identical. Women have the legal right to walk down an out-of-the-way city street at night without getting raped, but they don't really have that right in practice (and sure, she can prosecute, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Men have the legal right to wear a dress without being harassed or even assaulted, but they don't really have that right in practice (again, he can take legal action, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Now these are extreme examples to illustrate the point, but the same concept applies. Men and women are treated completely differently by our culture, and probably more importantly: they are raised completely differently by our culture, so having the same legal rights doesn't mean having equal opportunities.
*****
1. But it is important! It is a problem when half the population has to be rated on appearance before they can get heard. If they can't be heard, how are they supposed to get anywhere? Some manage to of course, but if you look at it statistically, you can see how underrespresentrated women are in places of power. Representation is one of the key stones in democracy, especially if you want to deal with issues that aren't just "rich people's problems" as you like to call them.
2. Denmark is a monarchy.
Siff Petersen So true!!
This is one of the best talks in feminism. I am really amazed at how she explains the idea of feminism? Great and Very helpful.
Bobs and vegana is that you?
Fake comment is fake.
longrider okrrr
Put a man's face on the comment to make it appear a man is agreeing with her rhetoric, if a fake post is necessary, then, Houston, there is a problem.
Just because you can't get laid doesn't mean women shouldn't have rights, you basmenet dweller.
Living in families and having 10 babies didn't bring us to the current level of advancement
Edit : Great they deleted their comment
Over many years including a visit to Nigeria in 2018, I believe there is something special about Nigerian people, particularly Nigerian women. I have seen and listened to, met and talked with Nigerian women and so many of them are strong and thoughtful, beautiful and opinionated. I have never been to a country that smiled as much as Nigerians do - some of the most beautiful smiles in the world, across all economic and familial spectrums. Nigerian people are proud and joking and humor is a part of their culture. Nigeria is a nation engaged in change on many levels, the enchanting, intelligent and dedicated speaker is a prime example of the success far more Nigerian women AND MEN will strive for and experience, as long as the government constructs and invests in education for its youth. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BRILLIANT AND ENTERTAINING AND IMPORTANT SPEECH about equality and opportunity for all.
This speech was inspiring and very beautiful. Africa as whole has a big role to play in dealing with such issues and I am glad to see others passionate about it.
I realized I was a feminist because of church. I was tired of the pastors preaching to women, as it we are the root of evil. From there I started noticing other things outside of church. I would speak up about it and getting people to notice what I was noticing. What angers me the most is the unequal pay. Thanks Beyonce for exposing me to Chimanada Ngozi Adichie!
could agree with almost everything you said until the pay gap nonsense. It has already been debunked numerous times.
www.cbsnews.com/news/the-gender-pay-gap-is-a-complete-myth
Ask your women;s study teacher to update the curriculum because their teaching is making you look like a fool if you claim pay gap outside your classroom.
uunknown uunknown no, it really hasn't. it is ongoing and real. try college - it's fun. you may learn about the critical difference btwn research sources and the construct of a scientific study. good luck.
Sen Tra it is actually your woefully under-punctuated sentence and erroneous reply to an established fact that is making YOU look like a fool. read lots more of the scientific literature; speak less, till you're done.
beccahday
English is not my first language and I can read, write and speak a total of 5 languages including english. You do sound like a typical feminist, when logic fails you attack grammar and language. Btw, what is established fact ? go and search gender pay gap and you will find the facts.
What i find funny is people commenting here that "feminists hate men" or "feminists want to be superior"... I mean, DID YOU EVEN WATCH THE VIDEO? wtf are you here for then? Haven't you got anything else to do besides hate on people fighting for equal rights?
Ignorance doesn't give you free ticket to talk shit on the internet. Google feminism, please.
And btw, keep in mind that feminism does favor men as well. Like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie beautifully mentions in the video, you are all expected to be the one with the money, or to be extremly tough, to an extent that anything as little as carrying your girlfriend/wife's purse on the mall can damage and put to risk your masculinity/sexuality (that was just an example okay)
Also, yes men are raped. But they are never blamed for it. "What were you thinking? Walking alone at that time of the night in a deserted street? You certainly wanted to get raped, (insert male name here)." THAT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU HEAR, although the other way around is pretty common.
Also, if men are raped, the shame in assuming it is SO HUGE that most keep it a secret. It shouldn't be, since it wasn't the victim's fault. Again, patriarchy implies that men being raped is shameful. "Why should he admit it, if it probably damaged his masculinity, anyway?"
Can you see where I'm getting at?
So PLEASE PLEASE people, get to know a movement before judging it.
+lalaglaser I know! Seriously. As much as I support feminism because I care about the women in my life, like my wife and my daughter and countless other family and friends, I also know that I (a man) benefit directly from it. Much of what MRA's talk about are issues that feminism has been addressing for generations.
Also, you suggest "google feminism." Here's an idea for critics of feminism -- try picking up a damn book! I've been reading "Feminist Theory" by bell hooks. I highly recommend it.
+Greg Pagel thank you! And I only recommend googling it cause I suppose the type of people that judges feminism by it's stereotypes wouldn't care to pick up a book. They are already wasting their time hating on the internet, why not waste a minute to really know what you're talking about?
But books are always better, of course.
I'm really glad there are some men who can see clearly (:
lalaglaser Sure. I knew what you meant. The obvious problem with google and the Internet in general is that it directs you to misinformation and simple-minded bloggers just as quickly as legitimate, informed writers. And since many information-seekers are angry to begin with, which sites do you think they'll visit first?
Here's an interesting thing I read just today in the book I mentioned: She says that many women who have clearly and obviously benefitted directly from the feminist movement will almost invariably distance themsleves from it, and trash feminism. Even though they will agree with all of its aims, point by point. And this was published *in 1984!*
The reason people are commenting that is because it happens more often than not, however you are right the women in the video is not like that.
Feminists are against the fight for equal rights. Thats the last thing they want. Just because someone says they're something doesn't mean they are. I'm glad you're not a judge, you'd let everyone who says they're not gulity go.
Just came across this and this is an entire gold mine.
" Culture does not make people. People make culture" .So true . Best thing I've ever seen today 💯💯💯
Get in the kitchen you tramp
@@macnchegjrjdj Are you okay?💯💯
@@viviannenge9982 make me a sandwich
@@macnchegjrjdj I ain't your mama💯💯💯
@@viviannenge9982maybe so but you are a woman so get in the kitchen and make me a nice juicy sandwich
Men are last to leave a sinking ship, we are drafted to needed wars, we are firefighters and coal miners, we get screwed w divorce, usually pay for wives personal needs and kids tuition for college, depression and suicide bc of this, domestic abuse is ignored when men are the victims and men cant strike back, prostate cancer is ignored, 1in 8 women get breast cancerand 1in 7 men get prostate cancer, but breast cancer is looked on more, 70% of the homeless are men bc women could just marry a men, and finally masculinity is worse than feminitity.
+lexluther512 No, no. They really are. I mean, last to leave a sinking ship! Dude!! Men are drowning!! LIKE LITERALLY DROWNING!!!!
+lexluther512 Men and women are about equally victims of domestic abuse actually. Sadly, men have almost no shelters to go to, yet women have plenty all over the place. As for women in wars and fire fighters, interesting fact, women have lower standards than men for physical fitness for certain positions and promotions in those fields. Breast cancer gets a hell of a lot more funding than prostate cancer, and men have been turned away from free breast cancer screenings on quite a few occasions. Men get screwed a hell of a lot more in divorce than women do. Especially when it comes to being jailed over not paying child support, or having to pay child support or get custody of the children at all.
Plus it is not until recently, and thanks to father's rights groups, yet this is not policy everywhere, that men can get a dna test to see if they even are the father of the child without the mother's permission.
Let alone the draft, women can fight in wars. Yes. But they will never be compelled to against their will. Men on the other hand, can be drafted.
As for the homeless being mostly men, that is because women have various support structures that are not available to men. For instance, they could just get pregnant, and live off of the state. Or go to one of the many women's shelters that are all over the place and get support.
Women are the furthest thing from victims in the world you fucking moron. Go to the middle east and then start speaking this bullshit.
+Comeonmate7 it's really wrong to compare the oppression women face. obviously, the extent of oppression women face in different parts of the world will differ. but it doesn't mean they don't exist.
SystematicSarah
No, it's not wrong to compare the "oppression" women face. Especially when you are trying to determine which is the more important issue to address, or which is demonstrably hurting women more. Where as you have a bunch of women in the west crying persecution and oppression because a guy sits on a train with his legs spread, or there is an advertisement with a thin woman in it, there are girls in Africa that literally have their growing pubescent breasts beat down with hot sticks, and their clitoris removed via unsanitary sharp stones.
Where you have women in the west claiming they are oppressed because a scientist wore a shirt they don't like, or there are too few video game characters they like, there are women in the Islamic world that were made to marry older men when they were just kids, and can't go out in public without draping themselves in sheets and being escorted by a man.
The difference is you see, women are not oppressed in the West. There is just this ridiculous ideology called feminism that does everything to convince them that they are. To the point where they ignore the suffering of men, and go after the most inane innocuous bullshit to validate their persecution complex. Where as in other parts of the world, women actually are being oppressed.
This is the standard for what a feminist should be. Instead of whining about how mysoginistic and sexist this joke is, or that video game character is, but actual problems women have, and not stupid microagressions. And it wasn't just about women, she talked about how boys should be raised so they don't feel they have to be "hard man" but can be themselves. This amazing woman was clearly focused on equality, rather than female superiority, which is sadly what the most vocal feminists represent. I wish the name was not so tarnished that half the commenters seem to have not watched the video and think it's just another man-hater.
this is a sexist joke you spasm
I'm a female game designer and my feminism starts with making games more comfortable for women and LGBT+ people. That is not irrelevant or stupid.
Am I the only person who thinks it's weird for a black woman to be talking about feminism? Shouldn't she be worried about all the black people killing each other in the inner cities or something else? I feel lik feminism is for middle class white women who are bored and have nothing better to do with themselves.
If you're working to reduce toxicity targeted at women in gaming cutlure, that's fine.
No videos here I think the reason people are automatically turned off by feminism is because it would be like a white supremacist saying I'm all for the equal rights of black people.
رائعه فذه ذكيه معبره واضحه رقيقه منصفه ودوده هي و خطابها
من شفت انو الفيديو مدته نصف ساعه تكاسلت اشوفه و توقعت أني اتركه بالنص لكن كملته بدون ما احس و حته حزنت لان خلص هذا ما تمثله النسويه و شيء جميل ان نتبنى هذه الأسس في افعالنا و تربية اطفالنا من أجل جيل واعي متسامح أنساني و سليم
مليئ بالحب و العدل ❤️
I swear I love my Nigerian people. We always find a way to make things funny to keep people interested
This woman aspired me alot.
Am a girl and I don't hate men❌
I have been raised by a dad I loved ❤️
I have been a sister to a brother that I loved ❤️
And am hoping to marry a kind hearted person that I'll love❤️
I love men and respect them 💁♀️
I do believe in equality.
And I believe that being equal doesn't mean by being harsh to the other gender.
I know that men have been pressuring women but that doesn't mean that when you seek for equality doesn't mean to understimate men.
I don't care about what men did in the past but am in the present and I've never met a guy who understimated me in my family nor in my school.
Please excuse my English if you didn't understand 🙃
This deserves more likes.
Thank you! You are awesome 😁😁😁 Have a lovely day and thank you for making sure men aren't your enemy - our goal is equality!
Amal Ahmad just change aspired to inspire. great comment.
Exactly my thoughts..👍
Egalitarians support equality
I am an asian woman who is a feminist. i felt encouraged by watching this video. so thank you!
Eeeewhh
SH Karen Wish you could challenge those nerds in Saudi Arabia or Asian men are tolerable.
You are a misandrist.
Hello cancer
Antifeministische Aktion Kommt von jemandem der Antifeministische Aktion heißt... 🤔🤔
I love this!! Finally something that completely resonates with my values of faminism.. It's not about invalidating men's struggling but recognizing women's issues.
2020 anyone? This message is still powerful and relevant today!
Yeah
Definitely still powerful and relevant!
Yaaaaaas
Yaaaaaas
No its still bs
This video is such an eye opener. I see Nigeria (Africa) is soooooo soooooooo much similar to India. Word by word it's the same. The cultural perspectives, the expectation of gender roles....impossible!!!!
Yeah?
But we don't have bold and outspoken women like her here. Women here are demure and get controlled by patriarchy very easily. Nigeria is seeing a new wave of strong outspoken women who are making a difference. Name one woman from India who speaks like this. We still have a long way to go.
Be the change you want to see in the world. Be that bold woman and you will see there is a whole army of men and women who will support you. This is what I experienced.
All the very best for your life journey🙏
And by the way, if you can't name an Indian women doing her own thing you are blind.
@@elva136 It's why Nigerian women get described as 'loud' sometimes.
@@raylevi5343 Yeah, people hate people who call them out.
Oh my gosh!
She made me cry because I loved her speach so much!
I'm literally in tears because my dad who pays my tuition once said that he's empowering me because " Men don't want a woman who can't do anything...so I'm getting a profession so that someone can come and empower me💀" cringe💔
"The person more likely to lead is not the physically stronger person, it is the more creative person, the more intelligent person, the more innovative person and there are no hormones for those attributes."
Shinryu Why not really? Hormones makes us a bit different, but not men or women more or less suited to govern, be a boss or a principal.
Shinryu Have you heard the TED talk? If not; this quote might need it's context to be understood. She is encouraging change, stating the fact that women CAN lead. Women are in majority in many fields,(f.ex. childcare, elder's care, social services and nursing*) but they are not in charge of as many hospitals, they do not as often own companies or occupy higher positions governments as men. This originates from gender norms that we are taught from birth, and it results in misrepresentation**. *www.businessinsider.com/pink-collar-jobs-dominated-by-women-2015-2?r=US&IR=T&IR=T
**www.inquiriesjournal.com/articles/129/exclusion-misrepresentation-and-discrimination-still-prevalent-for-women-in-american-media-and-politics
Shinryu You mean that all men are jerks- that's NOT TRUE!!!
Frightened little boys don't respect women, you mean. Not thinking men.
That is one of my favorite quotes from this talk :)
I'm Nigerian myself (Igbo) and I can really relate to this this. All my life, my mother has always taught me to cook for everyone, clean everywhere, keep quiet, always worry about everyone else but your self, ect. What Chimanda has said has really touched me and no words can describe how I feel that someone can relate to me so well .
Doing domestic duties... The biggest problem of world's society
Same in Ireland !
@Құралай Сұлтанева would you prefer to go out and work in the coal mines while the men stay home and do the dishes?
Bless your soul. Thank you for understanding. *Wipes away tears and is speechless.* 🙏💘🌹
Listening to this in October 2021 and wondering why I am just seeing it now.
Thanks Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
I am a guy and i am a feminist
Kunal carter No u r an idiot LOL if you are a man be a masculinist... not a little puppy dog to women. These women are just butthurt that they are the weaker sex, and so now seek to TRY to dominate men, which they will never do because men are naturally the dominant sex, and so will always be the strongest and will always be the leaders both in the relationship and also out of it in the world, in every field man dominate, every invention that makes
womens lives easier was invented by a man, the only thing that can be
attributed to a woman is the invention of something entirely useless
such as the toilet seat, yes i think a women invented that, it was
something to do with a toilet, anyhow, men have invented everything,
cars, planes, refrigeration, cooking appliances, men dominate and women
cannot compete with men, not in a boxing ring, not in a chess match, the
greatest fighters are men, the greatest chess players in the world are
men, there is no match for the males physical prowess nor his
intellectual capabilities, women are there to be submissive to men and
to follow a mans command, not to dominate, but to follow behind the man,
and to bring the next generation into this world,...
Sebastian Caine this is the only reason why we need more feminists in the world. Just bc of people like you who don't see women as equal. Women could have invented many things in the past but they never got the chance to bc even in the past people listened to men and thought women are dumb to invent anything. Feminists don't wanna dominate in any way. They just want to be treated equally like men and I don't think that's a bad thing. They also want opportunities to excel in market and business and politics. They can compete in it with men but our society doesn't see them as compatible. But the world is changing and they are surely getting equal rights. Stop being a dick head and respect women bc she brought you in this world by keeping you inside her for 9 months. Men can't do that and it requires dedication and patience and now you're repaying it by talking crap about them? Grow some balls dude and by respecting women and fighting for their rights won't make you less of a man.
robert juan You sound dumb
Kunal carter
is a mouse equal to a man, is a dog equal to a man,... understand men and women will never be equal,... why should a woman for example get equal pay to a man when a man does the job of 10 women, men can work 18 hours a day without breaking a sweat or complaining, men are stronger and have more endurance, women will never be equal...
Sebastian Caine that's your opinion sir and you're entitled to it but I think differently. I completely agree if a man works harder for a certain job then women then he should surely be paid more but for the same work and same amount of strength if the woman is paid less than that's inequality and Sir you are forgetting that women work day and night to take care of their jobs and when they return home they also need to do the house chores and also take care of their kids whereas when men come home from work they are lazy lads and depend totally on women. My mother used to work 9 hrs daily and then also used to work at house to do the entire house chores without breaking a sweat or complaining bc that's what the society has implemented on women from ages. Women may not be equal in strength then men but they surely have more will power and patience then men. You should appreciate that and support women rights bc there are many single mothers in the world who are striving day and night just so they can give their children a better future whereas their fathers abandon them to live with some other women. This is called dedication and they surely are more dedicated than men.
"A man who was intimidated by me, obviously, I have no interest in". Love this!
@Leon Discuss Of course we want power, how is that supposed to be a bad thing when men hold all the power in society already?
@@mlsysm3543 give some examples of "men hold all the power in society"
@@mlsysm3543 “Western thinking” champions men over Women, and her westernized colloquial stereotypes prove it. The examples she uses portrays assumed/presumed westernized colloquial thought throughout, however, the point of her speech is presented at the end and demolishes the over emphasized pro-male laden lecture majority because a drop of truth overpowers a landslide of falsity/fantasy. Regardless of the assumed/reported ratio of men to Women planet wide of almost one to one (1:1) - she says 52% of the world’s population is Women; every man is delivered to this Temporary Human Experience through a Woman, so yes, “We should all be Feminists!” ☪️
@@mlsysm3543 men built society and protects it but if women want that responsibility they can have it.
This is the most intelligent Nigerian woman that I have ever come across
I have a question
THIS IS SO AMAZING! THIS IS LIFE CHANGING!
she is very well spoken, i totally agree with everything she says. especially the part about how feminism benefits men. i really don't know why so many men are so against it.
Jason Bailey wtf? feminism does not encourage these things, they help stop them! you need to understand not teaching boys they need to be 'masculine' would help stop these things from happening. they are all resultant from pressure being put on men to be manly. did you even watch this video?
Jason Bailey there is no 'hard wiring', things like mothers being favoured for custody of children come from the way we teach people women are soft and caring and men are the breadwinners, it is because we are taught men and women have different roles. as chimamanda said in this video, there are people who think they are feminists but they are not, these are the people who you are describing, no feminist would want to see their kids taken away from their father.
Jason Bailey harriet harman is no feminist. again all the things you are listing are acts of people who think they are feminists but they are not. real feminists do not 'paint men as monsters' they point out that society tell men they need to be hard, and not show emotion, and too much pressure is put on men to be manly and dominate as chimamanda says in this video. by teaching all children to strive for the same things, rather than teaching boys to be strong and women to be accommodating the view that men are 'monsters' would not exist. i know if one person who claims to be a feminist says something hurtful it can be hard to see the feminist movement as anything else but try to understand that's not what true feminism is about
Jason Bailey the radicals have the loudest voices because people respond to them the most, for example youtubers against what they call feminism constantly quote ludicrous statements from 'tumblr feminists' and ignoring the just, fair feminist who want to see men have equality just as much as women. also, if you do truly believe gender roles are set without us teaching our kids them why do you want men to be seen as more maternal? surely that's a contradiction in your eyes.
Jason Bailey maternal and paternal mean the same thing, or they should.
Blown away. She is articulate, well-mannered and also clear on the points. She handles and expresses the problem effectively and fairly, emphasising both sides, in such a way that is not about defense, but about hope, and about uniting and celebrating the goodness in all genders. What a wonderful speech. Thank you.
"Articulate" and "well mannered"?! How were you expecting her to sound/ behave?! Ugh
***** I'm sorry, what? Did you not understand anything that was said in this speech? What part of articulate and well-mannered offended you, exactly? The fact that I am praising and appreciating someone's ability to perform a speech. Or should I have commented on how she looks? I'm sorry, what did you expect ME to have replied and commented on this video? If you are implying I have said something sexist, I beg you to please show me exactly how I have managed to do that. And if you are right I will apologise. But as far as I am aware, I did not say anything that related towards her gender, and if it is my glee and appreciation towards her delivery that makes you think it is implied sexism, then you are wrong. I do not expect anyone to give an immaculate speech, man or woman, and my appreciation for that has nothing to do even remotely with gender, and your reaction towards that is completely unwarranted and unnecessary. But even if I had expected something (hey it's a ted talk - so it must be great!), it is still part of me as a person to appreciate and celebrate that (the specific thing I even stated in my comment). Thank you.
Nanciefy Amber wasn't saying that your comment implied sexism, she was saying that it implied racism- the first sentence anyway. Historically if a white person says that a black person is "articulate" and "well-mannered" or anything of that nature it comes off as "Wow! I didn't know you people could form complete sentences and conduct yourselves with the rest of society!" I'm sure that's not what you were going for, but I'm 99.9% sure that is why she was offended.
What does that say about someone's expectations of me? For someone to take what I said and assume it had something to do with that, to twist a compliment, what does that say about their expectation of me, and should I also be offended by that? I won't be. But it's ironic. Thanks for explaining anyway. It's definitely not what I was going for. I do find it funny how she had to find something bad in my comment though when just a few comments down there are people blatently saying obscene things. Either way, I am sorry for anyone who interpretted it that way.
Nanciefy You're welcome! I don't think you should be offended, because people just process information through the prism of their own experiences. So, if someone has experiences with something negative (like racism), things that could be misconstrued as such will more than likely be viewed that way.
Her charisma and sense of humor are outstanding. I listened totally captivated. Remarkable speach.
A powerful message to women and men all over the world,applicable under all circumstances, thank you my sister
After watching this talk, I felt a sense of pride. The events she cites where gender inequality is obvious are things I can't relate to, despite being a girl. Looking back at how I was raised, I felt grateful to my parents. They taught my brother and I differently; they raised us equally. My brother isn't pushed to "man up", nor am I pushed to get married. I was raised in a house where there was no such thing as gender roles. If only the rest of the world would raise the next generation like that, too.
I salute you!
I've been raised the same way! Only now, my brother has suddenly started talking to me about how feminists are weak women asking for special attention. He grew up just like me and assumes everyone did. He even asked me to watch some milo yanapolis videos. Whoever that is. Milo seems like an advocate for anti feminism. My brother doesn't realize that that just because our parents raised us equally doesn't mean all daughters had that privilege.
I just realized this. Thanks for your comment.
How's it going for you in the 19th century?
Indrid Cold Submit to her husband? LMFAO. Dude, you might as well call her your slave and have her go "woof woof!" xD
hahaha gender roles are meant to be challenged!