This brought me to tears; so many "feminists" have treated me as a pariah because I don't think the same way they do. I'm a woman against feminism because today's feminism isn't for all women...:/ thank u thank u for this talk. It was candid, refreshing and healing.
Every man I've heard go off about how "feminism isn't about gender equality" always wound up saying that he thought the loss of his male privilege was gynocratic misandrisitic oppression.
@Ult_R4nger 94 Yeah, you're right, it couldn't possibly be because of any of that paranoid hoseshit. After all, feminists never get doxxed, or physically menaced, or victimized by regressive legislation, or have to face hostile panels of powerful men in front of a national audience and have to take their families into hiding for fear of violent reprisals against their children and their husbands.... And if you don't think male privilege exists, I invite you to create a TH-cam account under a conspicuously female name, with a female photograph, and start expressing your opinions freely on videos, and see what happens.
Exactly! Feminism has shifted from gender equality to female domination. I find women that speak out against feminism are stronger than those who BLINDLY follow it
@@TheHappyLeperBeaver Because that would mean you would have to bring other people down in order to lift one up. Why negate the achievements of one, to compensate for the lack of another? There's nothing fair about equality of outcome.
@@TheHappyLeperBeaver equality is outcome is simply so unequal. it comes to contradict feminism. where women are not wanted because of their skill or competence but because they are needed. this makes it seem as if we are chosen as a number and not as an individual
I define my self as a MASCULINIST. But don't worry, it just means I want gender equality. If you have to explain that feminism means equality, then wouldn't it just be easier to actually use the word equality?
This woman is very intelligent. But, while I was watching, I was thinking: "She is way ahead of her time, she's gonna have trouble". I scrolled down, and my thoughts were confirmed.
Betsy Cairo you have just put into words all the thoughts I have been struggling with lately. Women's right + Men's rights = Equal rights. Why is it so hard for people to understand that you can strive for both at the same time they are not mutually exclusive the constant infighting between the groups is just slowing down the process. If people can begin to understand that rather then dividing the world needs to stand together to fix all of our problems. If we continue to only see one side of the argument as important we all just prove how bigoted and sexist we truly are.
You are absolutely right. This is the real crux of the matter. Feminism needs MRAs to balance it out, and if feminists truly believe in gender equality, then they should be supporters of MRAs, and vice versa. Less fighting between the genders, more listening to women's AND men's issues! And watch The Red Pill movie - a movie with heart, and a message of peace and understanding at its core.
Totally right everyone. One of the arguments I always used against the word 'feminism' is that sexism oppresses and defines men too. So why to call him 'feminism'? Men have the right to be vulnerable and to do whatever it is suitable to their personalities (if they do respect others, of course, and that applies to everyone, women, men, others). So the word actually was partly shifting the standard roles of sexism, instead of just unblocking equality.
Totally agree we must fight for the rights of both gender. To the question "why is it so hard for people to understand" : simply because in the long time women suffered a zillion time more of gender discrimination than men. But men discrimination does exist, of course. Just indeed, it is hard to hear for women. But totally aligned it must be heard and understood.
Nobody would care any more than they care now. In fact he would be praised for being so brave as to make such a speech knowing he'd get so much backlash. A good idea is a good idea, doesn't matter what's between the inventor's legs.
Men make up over 90% high-ranking corporate positions. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality. WAIT... Men make up over 90% of sanitation workers. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality. Men make up over 90% of workplace deaths. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality. Oh, I forgot equality now means women can't make their own decisions.
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90% of Men's Work Place Deaths is on obsolete dangerous Labor Intensive Jobs kept in place by dominating Patriarchy, NOT Women. Work to get rid of those Jobs.
Liam Sena, I agree. Men should stop digging the coal, stop drilling the oil, stop building the roads and cars, stop building the skyscrapers. We should stop being almost all the police and firefighters. This patriarchal structure was setup to support a system that buffers women from reality. “Woman and children first” children yes, but why women? They are not better at parenting, they are not “gentler, kinder, or more nurturing.” Have you ever held a door open to “help” a woman? Stopped to help her change a tire? Protect her from some crazy dog? Why? How often have they ever done that for a man? Break the patriarchy, stop helping women.
Truth. WELL put! Want equality? Pay half the bills, work yourself into a grave, become a protector and provider, then we can talk about equality. When I see women marching for men's reproductive rights, then I will believe they want equality.
Montes Foreman, if there are so many workplace deaths, then something is not right. Perhaps proper safety procedures are not in place to begin with. Who says that women are not accountable for their actions? Which women are you referring to?
finally , i have been saying this for years, at last someone bring it forward, no male chauvinism or feminism but equality. thank you. finally someone with common sense.
I sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter. Ever since I was a boy I dreamed of soaring over the oilfields dropping hot sticky loads on disgusting foreigners. People say to me that a person being a helicopter is Impossible and I’m fucking retarded but I don’t care, I’m beautiful. I’m having a plastic surgeon install rotary blades, 30 mm cannons and AMG-114 Hellfire missiles on my body. From now on I want you guys to call me “Apache” and respect my right to kill from above and kill needlessly. If you can’t accept me you’re a heliphobe and need to check your vehicle privilege. Thank you for being so understanding.
Meeshka Petite Don't use Christ as a way to show your annoyance. He's a person, show respect. Also, if you want something original, I identify as a tree.
IS. He is a person. He always has been a person, and always will be. Stop trying to shove your antireligous beliefs down my throat. (I'm not religious either, by the way, I'm Christian)
Meeshka Petite What does STFU stand for? By the way, to assume that someone is brain dead because they have different beliefs than you is not a very open-minded attitude or very tolerant. I don't know if those things are important to you, but if you hold other people to that standard, you should live it out. That's called integrity. By the way, if the comment about the tree offended you, I really am sorry. I'm just trying to make a point. If a human thinks that they're a tree, they need help to recognize the truth. You don't plant them in the ground and water them, you send them to get counseling.
what is a tree? what is a woman? What is a man? Language matters, and so do definitions. Can we just call whatever we want as we feel without it having consequences?
I am always concerned when people give words to much power. So though I don't like the term feminist I would not judge you to harshly for using the word, if you think it helps describe you, because I not a big fan of word authoritarians either.
panglossDr: It is not common knowledge anymore that feminism seeks equality, it's literally in the name FEMINISM. Men have no platform in feminism and most of what I am discovering about the current movement is that it seeks a life over men. Finally someone who suggest that we seek a life WITH each other not separated on one side or the other.
Right, but we can actually study the real impact of word usage in the society. And studying it, people found it is big. Of course, any linguistic specialist knows language is a social phenomenon, can't be controlled with authority. Betsy Cairo just propose to use more correct words. to everyone to understand the mechanism she describes and the need to indeed, control what we say. Because to fight for any cause, the alternative to words is mostly violence, I would definitely take good care of words :)
Newspeak! none of us are equal! this is bollocks! Equality of Opertunity is good but to fight for equality of outcome is stupid! I am not equal to Usain Bolt at running, he is far better than me and we should celebrate our differences not try to equalise everything like it "aught to be".
Yes. She is not saying that we are all the same in our abilities and trades. She say people should be equal in opportunity and rights. Why would you be against that?
so your point is that women should stop fighting to have equal rights as men cause they are simply not equal to them and therefore cant call themselves that? lmaoo evey time there is a topic of feminism i wonder what have women done to men to hate us this much, lol you;re a teriible person and your mama didnt raise you right
I'm not a feminist. Even though I'm female. I don't think that girls should be given more rights. I think that EVERYONE should be given EQUAL rights. No matter if they are male, female, or anything else. We should stop going on about women's rights because equal rights is more important.
You know, holding political beliefs doesn't rule out the possibility of having a personality... in fact, having opinions about things is one of the main indicators of a personality. Are you saying that the only way for people to 'be themselves' is to have absolutely no opinions one way or another? I might have misunderstood your comment. Are you saying that people with good personalities don't have an opinion on social inequality!? What's the link that you're trying to draw between personality and political beliefs? Genuine question, not being sarcastic.
I AGREE TO HER POINTS. This is one of the best speech i have ever had about this topic. and she have arranged all the perfect words together of what i was straggling to explain..
I am currently studying the grounds of feminism. I am fascinated by this word and it led me to different conversations, talks, and discussions. But this talk is remarkable, her convictions and principles are amazing. I'll definitely search for more of her talks
The problem with Feminism, as with many well intended movements, is that it takes an issue that is really about a functioning whole (Healthy dynamics for men and women to interact together in society) and focuses on just a part (the empowerment of women) If there is an abusive husband, having a more powerful wife doesn't fully address the underlying dysfunction (although hopefully she can get to safety) The man's dysfunction has to be dealt with because the family marriage only works well when both parties are having their needs met and working together. I've noticed this with activist of all sorts. They take a systemic issue involving multiple people groups and only want to advocate for a particular group (which may have legitimate concerns) without considering the ideal functioning of the whole. Activists' passion for a single group or issue frequently results in a loss of perspective of the best interest of the whole.
You have no idea how I glad to see your comment. I think the same, a lot of troubles of humanity has only complex decision. It's very sad, that each group of activisties isolate themselves from solidarity. Man and woman are not different, we have one human nature.
Marriage was never simply about two people loving each other. The roots of the word Matrimony lay in the celebration of Motherhood: Middle English, from Anglo-French matrimoignie, from Latin matrimonium, from matr-, mater mother, matron. If the nature of a union is sterile it is not truly « Marriage » it is a legal union.
She has noble ideals, but what she is referring to is humanism. Original Feminism must still prevail to look after the interests of women. I would like to see a Ted talk on the influence of MRA on the push for humanism.
She is way too ahead of time ..,may be after 100 years or so we can say word feminism is outdated but not now because she don't know the struggles a 'common woman ' around the world faces
Betsy did a great job of explaining a very noble goal. I don't think Feminism is about equality as with many other group causes. I think that most of the group causes are about focusing on times founding individuals were wronged, and make no mistake, many individuals have been slighted, taken advantage of and abused. Once there is a group which recognizes and identifies with the founding individual's victimization, the focus becomes on making everyone else pay. I am all for inclusion and equality but I am really tired of the endless parade of historic injustices which some how make it right to require repayment by people who were never involved in the injustice. Confront it where it exists and get over it. Group causes don't really seem to be seeking fairness but rather unmerited advantage, and making other pay. The world is not now nor will it likely ever be fair.
And what about the significant amount of violence against women in this world? Are we just going to pretend like men and and women are equal in that context? I understand her point but it sits quite superficially
I have disagreements about certain agendas some feminists have(as I have disagreements about any ideology), but I am very much against “banning” words and controlling people’s language. If you don’t like something then I prefer to speak out against it, not “ban” it, this usually makes martyrs and pariahs and ends up having the opposite effect you want
If we are asking a whole culture to reevaluate and change their use of the language (IE gendered pronouns) we should be willing to reevaluate our use of the word feminism. It's just a word, and the insistence to use it is starting to sound like a temper tantrum.
This is very much a perfect world idea. It sounds like the line "I don't see color" when taking about race. It isn't helpful at all to ignore the differences we have. We can be inclusive AND different individuals. Feminism is to put the spotlight on the disadvantages various women have faced and still struggle with today. If you were born female and later no longer identify as one, you still have experiences being one and perhaps struggled with issues many women have faced. It's not a polarizing word, men, anyone can be feminists by supporting equality and assisting in issues women face. It stands up for men's right to be feminine as well. To see childcare or nursing jobs for anyone, not sterotypically for women. It also isn't an excuse to hate men or feel more important than anyone else. It doesn't come with a rule book either. You can be a plummer, stripper, or scientist. The point is you CAN be different. You can look however you like. Get a facelift, or embrace your grey hair without judgement. We are amazingly different and sharing our differences opens gateways to knowledge and wisdom. The "middle ground" or whatever, is that we're all humans. "equalism" is broad, dissociative word. It doesn't do the struggle for women's rights the justice it deserves and doesn't give it the voice it needs. I find it similar to the "All Lives Matter" statement. It takes away the spotlight the disadvantaged need. Perhaps make a new word for gender non subscribers. Celebrate eachothers individuality and listen to what struggles someone different faces. Recognize them without discarding a whole historic movement towards equality, a movement that paved the way for other non binary or transsexual people to be more acknowledged as well.
exactly my thoughts, we have not ‘grown out of feminism’ when millions of women around the world still face inequality. how are we supposed to move forward and not acknowledge any of the issues
@@blhootz I’m glad someone actually read what I said-and appreciated it on top of that! Thanks for your response and positive feedback, it means a lot to me. :)
@@ShadowMcSneaky well, if you're talking gender equality, I would say the genders are pretty much equal, actually, I'd argue that women have more rights than men. Reproductive rights that is.
@@flatearthdenier8454 : The only equality I support is equal treatment and rights under the law. Women have, and have had, this for some time, and additional privilege both de facto and legal.
The muddling of contemporary vocabulary, using words or inventing words to mean whatever you want them to mean, is being used to conceal hypocrisy and intolerance. The word this woman speaks of has been used to seek privilege, rationalize prejudice, and demonize dissent.
Don’t listen to her!! She’s probably one of Amon’s lackeys!!! . . . . . . . . . _(For those of you who aren’t total geeks and didn’t understand, here’s the explanation for the joke, which is an Avatar: the Legend of Korra reference: the Equalists were a terrorist faction in this show, led by a masked man named Amon who wanted elemental bending to be eradicated, so that no one could have access to elemental powers)_ But yeah, really good talk. I always did find it weird and ironic that a group of people literally called “feminists” were against gendered language, when you couldn’t get any more gendered than that.
some people don't understand: this woman isn't saying that feminism is bad, she is saying that there shouldn't have to be an identifier for everyone to have the same rights, just like the people who don't identify as male/female shouldn't have to prove why they feel what they do. just saying.
I'm always intrigued by the science behind non binary . XX female, XY male. There's no other option. The intersex argument doesn't fit as it is such a rare genetic mutation. How people "feel" is not enough of a justification to break the rules of biology. I agree with the fact that equalism should replace feminism overall but not for the same reasons.
Albert Balbastre-Morte because language is everything. We communicate with language. It's everything. Why do we know about the past? How do we share knowledge?
I really get her point about leaving gender qualifiers out of language, but that isn't gonna change the whole movement at once. Ofc a lot more should happen to make it a better and more inclusive movement. I get that feminism to this day still has a very negative association, but it has proven to be (since it's 2021 now) very difficult to change a term that has been used for so long (even if it would be better because I still agree on that). I'm only saying that it would be better to educate people about how intersectional and 'not agressive' (cause why on earth do people even think it is agressive) feminism is instead of only changing the name/starting over with a new movement that has the same goal.
Why does she feel it's necessary to create a new word, equalist, when there are already words for it. What is wrong with egalitarian or humanist? I guess those identities already exist so couldn't be credited with their creation.
@@MsRubyet Inanimate objects or abstract concepts are egalitarian. People are Egalitarianists and believe in Egalitarianism (or Equalitarianism, and Equalism is apparently already a synonym)
This is the gender loaded equivalent of "All Live Matter".. its ignoring years and years of oppression and discrimination and once again centering the privileged population. Yes feminism is about equality, but we didn't all start from the same place of advantage and that needs to be taken into consideration.
Why can't we all just be friends and stop fighting over the topic. I do agree with what she said AND with the flipsides of comments. But in the end, all we want is to be treated as the same. One people. And fighting over a topic isn't gonna help.
Oh my. Marriage is not two people who love each other. Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman, joined in the eyes of the Creator and creation, which is a for fruitfulness and multiplication, aka companionship and reproduction. It is two people joined together as one, with unique identity but represented as one, spiritually and psychologically. Marriage is a biblical concept and so can be defined and explained as. I can be dating someone and love them but im not married to them. That is such a watered down version of what marriage really is, according to the context of the literature from which is origionated from. If you dont believe that is what marriage is, call it a partner ship, since everything to the secular world is a social construct.
If a woman wants to be a plumber, electrician, welder, mechanic, construction worker, skyscraper window cleaner, etc. I'll show them the same respect as I show men. IF on the other hand they just want to be treated equal but have special treatment like lower standards...then we're not equal are we? An independent woman can pay for her own meal on a first date, an independent woman doesn't need men to open doors, walk them to the door, pay for them at public places, or defend them in times of trouble. THAT is equality. Women talk chivalry, but they don't want chivalry. They want the right to cherry pick what they want and don't want. Men aren't going for that anymore.
Look at how she lists all her "accomplishments" to raise a cheer from the audience. "I'm so good, please celebrate me". Absolutely embarrassing. These kind of people are pathetic. Learn to be judged for what you say, not who you are.
@@golDroger88 "A speech is an action, by the way." How? A speech is just a bunch of words. It's a far cry from an action, like saving someone from being ran over by a car.
I'd the most important aspect is not the tiny tiny minority that don't conform to male/female, but how the word feminism focuses on the female side, and the movement reflects it. Feminism fights for women, which makes sense with the word, and it makes sense when women are oppressed. But in the western world we have reached that, and should focus on equality not for women, not for men, but for everyone. Equality of opportunity and treatment, but not opportunity of outcome. We still need to accept that there are differences between the sexes. Fight for equality, for everyone. Not for one group.
Please don't fight to take away my right or make it offensive for me to say I'm a woman, I like girly things, & I'm attracted to masculine men. We might as well all walk around wearing brown sacks with shaved heads and all think & say & do the same things so that no one gets "left behind." It's a very disturbing thought. The reason society works & the reason we love people is because they're unique & special, different than everyone else.
"Equalist" is not really a good word because it doesn't say that it's for equality between men and women. So if you want to use it as an umbrella term for any movement that protect equality between the sexes, skin colours.... It's ok But if you want to use that name for the movement that specifically adresses men and women rights, it's not a good term
In short, we have outgrown the word feminism and it doesn’t represent what the movement stands for. What we want are egalitarian terms so that we don’t unintentionally misportray issues.
The difference between people creates stereotypes, and stereotypes cause discrimination. Everyone is working hard for life, and there is no empty talk about freedom and equality, only picking things that are beneficial to themselves, so the real way to solve these problems is to solve poverty
I agree with her, but the word ‘egalitarian’ already exists and serves the same purpose. I used to call myself ‘equallist’ 10 years ago (I kinda made it up in my head at the time, though I realised I wasn’t the only one to do so) and a few years later discovered egalitarianism so have used that as I found it less jarring to say and it expresses clearly what I believe, covering all bases.
One of my biggest problems with this movement, is the name, itself. It automatically states that it focuses on women. That is not equality and can never be equality. Not if you put focus on one gender. I believe that it is, in and of itself, a sexist movement. Men and women are not equal, only in worth. We are both the same amount of worth, but we are different. That's not a bad thing. It has achieved some great things, but the it has also achieved devastating things in the world.
I guess we don't. But English already has lots of redundant words which have more or less the same meaning, so why not add another? Sometimes similar words evolve to have slight differences in meaning. For example: "liberalism" and "libertarianism" are basically from the same Latin word but nonetheless have separate dictionary entries. Similarly "equalism" could be a neologism employed to refer specifically to gender-egalitarianism, whereas "egalitarianism" would be more broad. So the redundancy allows for more nuance, maybe.
If men and women are identical, then there is no point in being together. She said she was a Wife. I wonder if she married a man? Not that it matters. We’re all identical. What I strange world I find myself in. How did this happen?
I think that there's room for a new word (Or just increased use of an already existing word) but I see no reason why is has to REPLACE feminism. If a movement focusing on women makes men and nonbinary people feel excluded, that's their problem. Like it or not, feminism is specifically about women's rights. There certainly should be movements based around injustices experienced by men or nonbinary people, but claiming that feminism should just disappear and be replaced by some vague crowd-pleasing term like "equalism" just seems petty and counter-intuitive.
As a Linguist, I agree with some of her points. In Systemic Functional Linguistics we also notice how changing one simple word can change an entire meaning or concept. However, as a Linguist, I also know that gender technically is a binary in many different ways. People in just about every profession have noted the fundamental differences between men and women. Neuroscience has proven that a man's brain works differently than a woman's brain. Psychologists have shown that men and women hand emotions differently. Several medical professionals have noted that men are more susceptible to certain illness while women and more susceptible to others. While I agree that it is bad to dwell on these differences, I also believe that pretending that they don't exist does more harm than good. On just about every level of science we have, Non-Binary does not exist. A person always falls into one of the two categories.
This brought me to tears; so many "feminists" have treated me as a pariah because I don't think the same way they do. I'm a woman against feminism because today's feminism isn't for all women...:/ thank u thank u for this talk. It was candid, refreshing and healing.
I totally agree. Her message in of itself could bring men and women closer together!
Chris Raz There are certain feminisms that do include men.
Dont cry miss you are probably a real woman
Carefull young women, she's just branding it a new
@@jacobs3671 closer to what specifically?
And I would add, if a man had given this talk, he would've been labelled a misogynist.
Agreed
Every man I've heard go off about how "feminism isn't about gender equality" always wound up saying that he thought the loss of his male privilege was gynocratic misandrisitic oppression.
@Ult_R4nger 94 Yeah, you're right, it couldn't possibly be because of any of that paranoid hoseshit.
After all, feminists never get doxxed, or physically menaced, or victimized by regressive legislation, or have to face hostile panels of powerful men in front of a national audience and have to take their families into hiding for fear of violent reprisals against their children and their husbands....
And if you don't think male privilege exists, I invite you to create a TH-cam account under a conspicuously female name, with a female photograph, and start expressing your opinions freely on videos, and see what happens.
@@johnburt7935 Do u believe male privilege exists?
Exactly! Feminism has shifted from gender equality to female domination. I find women that speak out against feminism are stronger than those who BLINDLY follow it
I can proudly say I am an equalist... as long as that means equality of opportunity and not equality of outcome.
Shadow IV - Amen. If someone says they are interested in promoting “equity”, run.
Why not equality of outcome ?
@@TheHappyLeperBeaver Because that would mean you would have to bring other people down in order to lift one up. Why negate the achievements of one, to compensate for the lack of another? There's nothing fair about equality of outcome.
Yay Jordan peterson!
@@TheHappyLeperBeaver equality is outcome is simply so unequal. it comes to contradict feminism. where women are not wanted because of their skill or competence but because they are needed. this makes it seem as if we are chosen as a number and not as an individual
If equality means that I have the same chance escaping the titanic on that lifeboat. Then I'm all for it.
haha bill burr would certainly be happy about that!
also let those lunatics work the most dangerous jobs and go to war
Hardest laughter of the day. Epic mic drop.
bill burr
@@xxxmmm3812 Yeah - let us. The problem has always been that men wouldn't let us!
I define my self as a MASCULINIST. But don't worry, it just means I want gender equality.
If you have to explain that feminism means equality, then wouldn't it just be easier to actually use the word equality?
I agree!!
I thought that's what she was saying anyway - the main thrust of her argument.
Because feminism wants empowerment to women
egalitarianism, right? lol
Agree 100%
This woman is very intelligent. But, while I was watching, I was thinking: "She is way ahead of her time, she's gonna have trouble".
I scrolled down, and my thoughts were confirmed.
This is so true, she gave a brilliant solution to an ever-spreading division in our community. What's all the hate about?
"ahead of her time"
she's parroting the same old rhetoric meant to shut women fighting for female emancipation up so not really
Hb Rhh feminism isn’t needed in America, only developing countries really need it.
@@TONTON-ds3km Like Afghanistan?
@@xarastewartmusic WOMEN ARE EQUAL GET OVER YOURSELF
"If it is equality we want, why aren't we using the word equality?"
Your guess as good as mine...
Well not with that attitude
Betsy Cairo you have just put into words all the thoughts I have been struggling with lately.
Women's right + Men's rights = Equal rights.
Why is it so hard for people to understand that you can strive for both at the same time they are not mutually exclusive the constant infighting between the groups is just slowing down the process.
If people can begin to understand that rather then dividing the world needs to stand together to fix all of our problems.
If we continue to only see one side of the argument as important we all just prove how bigoted and sexist we truly are.
You are absolutely right. This is the real crux of the matter. Feminism needs MRAs to balance it out, and if feminists truly believe in gender equality, then they should be supporters of MRAs, and vice versa.
Less fighting between the genders, more listening to women's AND men's issues!
And watch The Red Pill movie - a movie with heart, and a message of peace and understanding at its core.
Totally right everyone. One of the arguments I always used against the word 'feminism' is that sexism oppresses and defines men too. So why to call him 'feminism'? Men have the right to be vulnerable and to do whatever it is suitable to their personalities (if they do respect others, of course, and that applies to everyone, women, men, others). So the word actually was partly shifting the standard roles of sexism, instead of just unblocking equality.
Totally agree we must fight for the rights of both gender. To the question "why is it so hard for people to understand" : simply because in the long time women suffered a zillion time more of gender discrimination than men. But men discrimination does exist, of course. Just indeed, it is hard to hear for women. But totally aligned it must be heard and understood.
Yeah, we shouldn't be focusing on only one gender. We should focus on both.
Totally don't agree. We are nowhere near 'equal'. There is so much left to do.
“If equality is what we want then equality is the word we should be using”
Exactly!
Then we are not addressing the problem
@@gayatriiyer969 Exactly. Because that would require you to quash anti male laws that you're not willing to address.
But is equlity what feminism wants cause from what iv seen that is not what it aims for
All Might in what you’ve seen, what do you think feminism wants? I’m not trying to attack you or nothing but I’m just curious
I can't imagine what would happen if that speech was given by a "man"
That's why she is exploiting a hole in the market, like Candace Owens
The fact that man couldn't give this speech means the worlds not ready for it and neither is feminsm not that i though it would be or ever will be
Nobody would care any more than they care now. In fact he would be praised for being so brave as to make such a speech knowing he'd get so much backlash. A good idea is a good idea, doesn't matter what's between the inventor's legs.
Exactly
I feel the question of Equality vs Equity needs to be asked.
Yess
Wow one sensible person exists
Men make up over 90% high-ranking corporate positions. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality.
WAIT...
Men make up over 90% of sanitation workers. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality.
Men make up over 90% of workplace deaths. Wouldn't it be nice of there were more women in those jobs? That would be MORE equality.
Oh, I forgot equality now means women can't make their own decisions.
90% of Men's Work Place Deaths is on obsolete dangerous Labor Intensive Jobs kept in place by dominating Patriarchy, NOT Women. Work to get rid of those Jobs.
Liam Sena, I agree. Men should stop digging the coal, stop drilling the oil, stop building the roads and cars, stop building the skyscrapers. We should stop being almost all the police and firefighters.
This patriarchal structure was setup to support a system that buffers women from reality. “Woman and children first” children yes, but why women? They are not better at parenting, they are not “gentler, kinder, or more nurturing.”
Have you ever held a door open to “help” a woman? Stopped to help her change a tire? Protect her from some crazy dog? Why? How often have they ever done that for a man?
Break the patriarchy, stop helping women.
Truth. WELL put! Want equality? Pay half the bills, work yourself into a grave, become a protector and provider, then we can talk about equality. When I see women marching for men's reproductive rights, then I will believe they want equality.
Liam Sena obsolete? Really? Better check your privilege. Your blinders have been on from being female privileged.
Montes Foreman, if there are so many workplace deaths, then something is not right. Perhaps proper safety procedures are not in place to begin with. Who says that women are not accountable for their actions? Which women are you referring to?
finally , i have been saying this for years, at last someone bring it forward, no male chauvinism or feminism but equality. thank you. finally someone with common sense.
I’ve been trying to explain this thought to everyone but I just couldn’t find the right words and she did it wonderfully
I sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter. Ever since I was a boy I dreamed of soaring over the oilfields dropping hot sticky loads on disgusting foreigners. People say to me that a person being a helicopter is Impossible and I’m fucking retarded but I don’t care, I’m beautiful. I’m having a plastic surgeon install rotary blades, 30 mm cannons and AMG-114 Hellfire missiles on my body. From now on I want you guys to call me “Apache” and respect my right to kill from above and kill needlessly. If you can’t accept me you’re a heliphobe and need to check your vehicle privilege. Thank you for being so understanding.
Meeshka Petite Don't use Christ as a way to show your annoyance. He's a person, show respect.
Also, if you want something original, I identify as a tree.
IS. He is a person. He always has been a person, and always will be. Stop trying to shove your antireligous beliefs down my throat. (I'm not religious either, by the way, I'm Christian)
Meeshka Petite What does STFU stand for?
By the way, to assume that someone is brain dead because they have different beliefs than you is not a very open-minded attitude or very tolerant. I don't know if those things are important to you, but if you hold other people to that standard, you should live it out. That's called integrity.
By the way, if the comment about the tree offended you, I really am sorry. I'm just trying to make a point. If a human thinks that they're a tree, they need help to recognize the truth. You don't plant them in the ground and water them, you send them to get counseling.
Why thank you.
+Kathleen Light Lol is an imaginary friend
"The moment we change the language, we change the movement." She said it all, perfect !
Yes, that is Newspeak. Read 1984.
Isn't it the other way round? We change the language, because the change has already happend in the minds of the people?
For those who are confused, she’s not bashing the movement she’s bashing the marketing
Better marketing just makes it that much more insidious.
PhD holder says key to changing gender imbalance is to remove the language describing it. This is the equivalent of "All lives matter"
what is a tree? what is a woman? What is a man? Language matters, and so do definitions. Can we just call whatever we want as we feel without it having consequences?
This is the "I don't see color" race argument applied to the sexes.
frfr ignoring history. ignorance is bliss isnt it
Say it louder for the people in the back
This is one of the underrated talks I've ever heard. This talk should deserve at least 10M views.
I am always concerned when people give words to much power. So though I don't like the term feminist I would not judge you to harshly for using the word, if you think it helps describe you, because I not a big fan of word authoritarians either.
Mark Hidden Word are ideas, words form thoughts. that's literaly a metaphysique question
Feminism has a simple, well known definition: men and women are equal. She is trying to change that. It must not be allowed.
panglossDr: It is not common knowledge anymore that feminism seeks equality, it's literally in the name FEMINISM. Men have no platform in feminism and most of what I am discovering about the current movement is that it seeks a life over men. Finally someone who suggest that we seek a life WITH each other not separated on one side or the other.
The idea of women being better than men isn't feminism, it's misandry
Right, but we can actually study the real impact of word usage in the society. And studying it, people found it is big. Of course, any linguistic specialist knows language is a social phenomenon, can't be controlled with authority. Betsy Cairo just propose to use more correct words. to everyone to understand the mechanism she describes and the need to indeed, control what we say. Because to fight for any cause, the alternative to words is mostly violence, I would definitely take good care of words :)
As a man, I respect and adore this woman! Equality and love, that's all we need 🙂
sureee as a man you will respect women who are not feminists
“Men and women are two wings of a bird, and it is not possible for a bird to fly on only one wing”
~ Swami Vivekananda
Newspeak!
none of us are equal! this is bollocks! Equality of Opertunity is good but to fight for equality of outcome is stupid! I am not equal to Usain Bolt at running, he is far better than me and we should celebrate our differences not try to equalise everything like it "aught to be".
David Laird thank you
Yes. She is not saying that we are all the same in our abilities and trades. She say people should be equal in opportunity and rights. Why would you be against that?
Fairness. Or, at a push, egalitarian.
so your point is that women should stop fighting to have equal rights as men cause they are simply not equal to them and therefore cant call themselves that? lmaoo evey time there is a topic of feminism i wonder what have women done to men to hate us this much, lol you;re a teriible person and your mama didnt raise you right
misashhh ...I think he's just pro 'equality' & anti 'equity'
I'm not a feminist. Even though I'm female. I don't think that girls should be given more rights. I think that EVERYONE should be given EQUAL rights. No matter if they are male, female, or anything else. We should stop going on about women's rights because equal rights is more important.
Uhm that's feminism
hope you get over your internalised misogyny and self hate soon
Exactly!
equal pay! duh!
@@Peem_pom if that's feminism then there is no more need for feminism
Nope, I'm not a feminist neither an equalist. I am me.
hellotychelle This is how I hope more young girls start to think. Keep thinking for yourself kid.
hellotychelle
No matter if you're ugly or cute, mean or nice, you just gained like a bunch of attractiveness points! :D
What does that even mean?
You know, holding political beliefs doesn't rule out the possibility of having a personality... in fact, having opinions about things is one of the main indicators of a personality. Are you saying that the only way for people to 'be themselves' is to have absolutely no opinions one way or another? I might have misunderstood your comment. Are you saying that people with good personalities don't have an opinion on social inequality!? What's the link that you're trying to draw between personality and political beliefs? Genuine question, not being sarcastic.
congrats
I AGREE TO HER POINTS.
This is one of the best speech i have ever had about this topic.
and she have arranged all the perfect words together of what i was straggling to explain..
Really nice! Too bad there are so many people here that didn't watch the video until the end and started attacking her without good arguments.
I am currently studying the grounds of feminism. I am fascinated by this word and it led me to different conversations, talks, and discussions. But this talk is remarkable, her convictions and principles are amazing. I'll definitely search for more of her talks
I find potential in this perspective, it has some hardships ahead but promising if done well and maintained equality.
The problem with Feminism, as with many well intended movements, is that it takes an issue that is really about a functioning whole (Healthy dynamics for men and women to interact together in society) and focuses on just a part (the empowerment of women)
If there is an abusive husband, having a more powerful wife doesn't fully address the underlying dysfunction (although hopefully she can get to safety) The man's dysfunction has to be dealt with because the family marriage only works well when both parties are having their needs met and working together.
I've noticed this with activist of all sorts. They take a systemic issue involving multiple people groups and only want to advocate for a particular group (which may have legitimate concerns) without considering the ideal functioning of the whole.
Activists' passion for a single group or issue frequently results in a loss of perspective of the best interest of the whole.
You have no idea how I glad to see your comment. I think the same, a lot of troubles of humanity has only complex decision. It's very sad, that each group of activisties isolate themselves from solidarity. Man and woman are not different, we have one human nature.
@@regina_m3358 Thank you for your response Regina. If enough of us advocate for common sense and compassion we can make a difference!
i disagree with her on the "gender-neutral" language, because it doesn't apply so easily to other languages such as spanish or portuguese
No matter how you talk, but it's important, what you do.
Marriage was never simply about two people loving each other.
The roots of the word Matrimony lay in the celebration of Motherhood: Middle English, from Anglo-French matrimoignie, from Latin matrimonium, from matr-, mater mother, matron.
If the nature of a union is sterile it is not truly « Marriage » it is a legal union.
If feminism is about equality, it would be called EQUALITY.
Its about the oppression women have suffered due to pathetic males.
@@edanya And youre a pathetic woman
Equalist? There already is a very similar word - egalitarianism (or equalitarianism).
She has noble ideals, but what she is referring to is humanism.
Original Feminism must still prevail to look after the interests of women.
I would like to see a Ted talk on the influence of MRA on the push for humanism.
Short summery: progressive talks for 9 minutes about how they created a word for egalitarianism, not realizing the egalitarianism already exists
she is using and creating a word that people don't have to look up on Google to begin to understand
She is way too ahead of time ..,may be after 100 years or so we can say word feminism is outdated but not now because she don't know the struggles a 'common woman ' around the world faces
I'd add "patriarchy" to the list of not useful terms
I'd second that.
most societies are matriarchial
Sad
@@PanglossDr Could you elaborate on that?
@@PanglossDr As far as I know, only 6 societies are matriarchal.
Perfect!! Equality is all!! Love one another ever
Betsy did a great job of explaining a very noble goal. I don't think Feminism is about equality as with many other group causes. I think that most of the group causes are about focusing on times founding individuals were wronged, and make no mistake, many individuals have been slighted, taken advantage of and abused. Once there is a group which recognizes and identifies with the founding individual's victimization, the focus becomes on making everyone else pay. I am all for inclusion and equality but I am really tired of the endless parade of historic injustices which some how make it right to require repayment by people who were never involved in the injustice. Confront it where it exists and get over it. Group causes don't really seem to be seeking fairness but rather unmerited advantage, and making other pay. The world is not now nor will it likely ever be fair.
My issue is the name. "Feminism" inherently, puts women above men. Let's just call it equality.
Equality of opportunity is good, individual choice is good, equality of outcome is bad/unfair
And what about the significant amount of violence against women in this world? Are we just going to pretend like men and and women are equal in that context? I understand her point but it sits quite superficially
The world needs more people like Betsy Cairo
I have disagreements about certain agendas some feminists have(as I have disagreements about any ideology), but I am very much against “banning” words and controlling people’s language. If you don’t like something then I prefer to speak out against it, not “ban” it, this usually makes martyrs and pariahs and ends up having the opposite effect you want
Embrace masculinity and feminine. We complement each other, not to be rule the other.
So basically she said all lives matter?
I like how calm she is. I'm so tired of fake outrage.
The word that will replace Feminism it is MGTOW.
Like your comment
You are right son
@@mgtowindia9549 damn 😂
If we are asking a whole culture to reevaluate and change their use of the language (IE gendered pronouns) we should be willing to reevaluate our use of the word feminism. It's just a word, and the insistence to use it is starting to sound like a temper tantrum.
Says an incel 😂
This is very much a perfect world idea. It sounds like the line "I don't see color" when taking about race. It isn't helpful at all to ignore the differences we have. We can be inclusive AND different individuals. Feminism is to put the spotlight on the disadvantages various women have faced and still struggle with today. If you were born female and later no longer identify as one, you still have experiences being one and perhaps struggled with issues many women have faced. It's not a polarizing word, men, anyone can be feminists by supporting equality and assisting in issues women face. It stands up for men's right to be feminine as well. To see childcare or nursing jobs for anyone, not sterotypically for women. It also isn't an excuse to hate men or feel more important than anyone else. It doesn't come with a rule book either. You can be a plummer, stripper, or scientist. The point is you CAN be different. You can look however you like. Get a facelift, or embrace your grey hair without judgement.
We are amazingly different and sharing our differences opens gateways to knowledge and wisdom. The "middle ground" or whatever, is that we're all humans.
"equalism" is broad, dissociative word. It doesn't do the struggle for women's rights the justice it deserves and doesn't give it the voice it needs. I find it similar to the "All Lives Matter" statement. It takes away the spotlight the disadvantaged need. Perhaps make a new word for gender non subscribers. Celebrate eachothers individuality and listen to what struggles someone different faces. Recognize them without discarding a whole historic movement towards equality, a movement that paved the way for other non binary or transsexual people to be more acknowledged as well.
exactly my thoughts, we have not ‘grown out of feminism’ when millions of women around the world still face inequality. how are we supposed to move forward and not acknowledge any of the issues
This is exactly what I was thinking, too. Thanks for expressing it so thoroughly and so well.
@@blhootz I’m glad someone actually read what I said-and appreciated it on top of that! Thanks for your response and positive feedback, it means a lot to me. :)
This video should be called: “Why I don't call myself a 'feminist'!“
Yea I think that would've implored people to actually watch the video
She should have called it Humanism
One day, feminism will be treated the same way we now treat racism, and for the same reasons. -Karen Straughn
Funny thing to see someone I agree with for once in my life.
Beautifully articulated. Thanks for showing courage, strength, and vision to speak to this.
its called EGALITARIANISM.
no its not. Egalitarianism
includes way more than she discribes here. gender equality is just a small part of Egalitarianism.
@@ShadowMcSneaky well, if you're talking gender equality, I would say the genders are pretty much equal, actually, I'd argue that women have more rights than men. Reproductive rights that is.
@@flatearthdenier8454 : The only equality I support is equal treatment and rights under the law. Women have, and have had, this for some time, and additional privilege both de facto and legal.
@@briansisko2608 did you read my comment all the way through? I stated that women have more rights than men at the end of my comment..
@@flatearthdenier8454 : Yes, I know you did. I elaborated a bit and reiterated your point.
The muddling of contemporary vocabulary, using words or inventing words to mean whatever you want them to mean, is being used to conceal hypocrisy and intolerance. The word this woman speaks of has been used to seek privilege, rationalize prejudice, and demonize dissent.
Don’t listen to her!! She’s probably one of Amon’s lackeys!!!
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_(For those of you who aren’t total geeks and didn’t understand, here’s the explanation for the joke, which is an Avatar: the Legend of Korra reference: the Equalists were a terrorist faction in this show, led by a masked man named Amon who wanted elemental bending to be eradicated, so that no one could have access to elemental powers)_
But yeah, really good talk. I always did find it weird and ironic that a group of people literally called “feminists” were against gendered language, when you couldn’t get any more gendered than that.
Legally forcing people to change their language has historically been bad by every calculation.....
Refer to Jordan Peterson
I lost her at "safe space." If you're looking for a speech about truth, move on to something else.
Maybe you threw the baby out with the bath water
Yes, many are missing the subtle error in her ideology.
some people don't understand: this woman isn't saying that feminism is bad, she is saying that there shouldn't have to be an identifier for everyone to have the same rights, just like the people who don't identify as male/female shouldn't have to prove why they feel what they do. just saying.
I'm always intrigued by the science behind non binary . XX female, XY male. There's no other option. The intersex argument doesn't fit as it is such a rare genetic mutation. How people "feel" is not enough of a justification to break the rules of biology. I agree with the fact that equalism should replace feminism overall but not for the same reasons.
These days I viewed a lot of video on MGTOW, feminism etc...I must say that this one is the ultimate way to go. Thank you madame.
At least she acknowledges partial harm of the feminism. But the heck with this obsession about the language.
Albert Balbastre-Morte because language is everything. We communicate with language. It's everything. Why do we know about the past? How do we share knowledge?
As a woman, I detest the word feminism. It doesn't solve problems, it creates problems. It's time to move forward. I like her idea, equalism.
I really get her point about leaving gender qualifiers out of language, but that isn't gonna change the whole movement at once. Ofc a lot more should happen to make it a better and more inclusive movement. I get that feminism to this day still has a very negative association, but it has proven to be (since it's 2021 now) very difficult to change a term that has been used for so long (even if it would be better because I still agree on that). I'm only saying that it would be better to educate people about how intersectional and 'not agressive' (cause why on earth do people even think it is agressive) feminism is instead of only changing the name/starting over with a new movement that has the same goal.
Why does she feel it's necessary to create a new word, equalist, when there are already words for it. What is wrong with egalitarian or humanist? I guess those identities already exist so couldn't be credited with their creation.
GordieGii those words have been morphed and skewed to be things that aren't... the greatest
Because humanism means something else entirely. Egalitarian is a good one though, agreed. It's good to have a term with '-ist' attached though.
Humanism has nothing to do with egalitarianism
@@MsRubyet Inanimate objects or abstract concepts are egalitarian. People are Egalitarianists and believe in Egalitarianism (or Equalitarianism, and Equalism is apparently already a synonym)
This is the gender loaded equivalent of "All Live Matter".. its ignoring years and years of oppression and discrimination and once again centering the privileged population. Yes feminism is about equality, but we didn't all start from the same place of advantage and that needs to be taken into consideration.
respect to this smart woman. I am an equalist
Why can't we all just be friends and stop fighting over the topic. I do agree with what she said AND with the flipsides of comments. But in the end, all we want is to be treated as the same. One people. And fighting over a topic isn't gonna help.
Oh my. Marriage is not two people who love each other. Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman, joined in the eyes of the Creator and creation, which is a for fruitfulness and multiplication, aka companionship and reproduction. It is two people joined together as one, with unique identity but represented as one, spiritually and psychologically. Marriage is a biblical concept and so can be defined and explained as. I can be dating someone and love them but im not married to them. That is such a watered down version of what marriage really is, according to the context of the literature from which is origionated from. If you dont believe that is what marriage is, call it a partner ship, since everything to the secular world is a social construct.
She deserves 20,000 likes from me. A super wise smart woman!!!
Let a domestic war break out.women will be nowhere in sight.EQUAL THAT!!
You have an art of teaching. Appreciate your lecture.
Women and men are physically not equal at all.
If a woman wants to be a plumber, electrician, welder, mechanic, construction worker, skyscraper window cleaner, etc. I'll show them the same respect as I show men. IF on the other hand they just want to be treated equal but have special treatment like lower standards...then we're not equal are we? An independent woman can pay for her own meal on a first date, an independent woman doesn't need men to open doors, walk them to the door, pay for them at public places, or defend them in times of trouble. THAT is equality.
Women talk chivalry, but they don't want chivalry. They want the right to cherry pick what they want and don't want. Men aren't going for that anymore.
Look at how she lists all her "accomplishments" to raise a cheer from the audience. "I'm so good, please celebrate me". Absolutely embarrassing. These kind of people are pathetic. Learn to be judged for what you say, not who you are.
Lolwat. People should be judged by their actions. Not their words.
@@halofreak1990 This is a panel for speeches. She wanted to be applauded for something else. A speech is an action, by the way.
@@golDroger88 "A speech is an action, by the way." How? A speech is just a bunch of words. It's a far cry from an action, like saving someone from being ran over by a car.
I'd the most important aspect is not the tiny tiny minority that don't conform to male/female, but how the word feminism focuses on the female side, and the movement reflects it. Feminism fights for women, which makes sense with the word, and it makes sense when women are oppressed. But in the western world we have reached that, and should focus on equality not for women, not for men, but for everyone. Equality of opportunity and treatment, but not opportunity of outcome. We still need to accept that there are differences between the sexes. Fight for equality, for everyone. Not for one group.
She has a good point. A wrong use of word without an explanation of the meaning, is really hurting every message from feminism
Please don't fight to take away my right or make it offensive for me to say I'm a woman, I like girly things, & I'm attracted to masculine men. We might as well all walk around wearing brown sacks with shaved heads and all think & say & do the same things so that no one gets "left behind." It's a very disturbing thought. The reason society works & the reason we love people is because they're unique & special, different than everyone else.
"Equalist" is not really a good word because it doesn't say that it's for equality between men and women.
So if you want to use it as an umbrella term for any movement that protect equality between the sexes, skin colours.... It's ok
But if you want to use that name for the movement that specifically adresses men and women rights, it's not a good term
There is no women I have yet seen that I agree with more than her.
Take a look at Cassie Jaye and Karen Straughn
equality isn’t a solution … justice is what tha mankind need
In short, we have outgrown the word feminism and it doesn’t represent what the movement stands for. What we want are egalitarian terms so that we don’t unintentionally misportray issues.
Indian?
At this rate, i can't keep up with all the 'isms' popping up.
The difference between people creates stereotypes, and stereotypes cause discrimination. Everyone is working hard for life, and there is no empty talk about freedom and equality, only picking things that are beneficial to themselves, so the real way to solve these problems is to solve poverty
I agree with her, but the word ‘egalitarian’ already exists and serves the same purpose. I used to call myself ‘equallist’ 10 years ago (I kinda made it up in my head at the time, though I realised I wasn’t the only one to do so) and a few years later discovered egalitarianism so have used that as I found it less jarring to say and it expresses clearly what I believe, covering all bases.
One of my biggest problems with this movement, is the name, itself. It automatically states that it focuses on women. That is not equality and can never be equality. Not if you put focus on one gender. I believe that it is, in and of itself, a sexist movement. Men and women are not equal, only in worth. We are both the same amount of worth, but we are different. That's not a bad thing. It has achieved some great things, but the it has also achieved devastating things in the world.
Finally someone explains it like how it is .
Thanks and Respect
“Feminism is all about the differences and none of the similarities.” 🎉🎉🎉🎉 🎯
Doesn't equalisum already exist just under a different word (egalitarianism)
I really think it's only fair that women do the most dangerous jobs and make up half the workplace deaths. We really need to get equal about this
Already a word for that: humanism
Humanitarianism is more fun than humanism.
@@SycosenMerihem human trafficking is more fun
@@lukecarlin9946 Moar profitable too.
stop using terms. be yourself, be a useful human being, be a self-sufficient, independent woman. life is short, be healthy and be happy.
Best damned speech I've heard on this topic.
Why do we need a new word for egalitarianism?
I guess we don't. But English already has lots of redundant words which have more or less the same meaning, so why not add another? Sometimes similar words evolve to have slight differences in meaning. For example: "liberalism" and "libertarianism" are basically from the same Latin word but nonetheless have separate dictionary entries. Similarly "equalism" could be a neologism employed to refer specifically to gender-egalitarianism, whereas "egalitarianism" would be more broad. So the redundancy allows for more nuance, maybe.
If men and women are identical, then there is no point in being together. She said she was a Wife. I wonder if she married a man? Not that it matters. We’re all identical. What I strange world I find myself in. How did this happen?
I think that there's room for a new word (Or just increased use of an already existing word) but I see no reason why is has to REPLACE feminism. If a movement focusing on women makes men and nonbinary people feel excluded, that's their problem. Like it or not, feminism is specifically about women's rights. There certainly should be movements based around injustices experienced by men or nonbinary people, but claiming that feminism should just disappear and be replaced by some vague crowd-pleasing term like "equalism" just seems petty and counter-intuitive.
her voice is really soothing ommmmg
As a Linguist, I agree with some of her points. In Systemic Functional Linguistics we also notice how changing one simple word can change an entire meaning or concept. However, as a Linguist, I also know that gender technically is a binary in many different ways. People in just about every profession have noted the fundamental differences between men and women. Neuroscience has proven that a man's brain works differently than a woman's brain. Psychologists have shown that men and women hand emotions differently. Several medical professionals have noted that men are more susceptible to certain illness while women and more susceptible to others. While I agree that it is bad to dwell on these differences, I also believe that pretending that they don't exist does more harm than good. On just about every level of science we have, Non-Binary does not exist. A person always falls into one of the two categories.