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Yes, they do, sadly. An important step in addressing triggers is creating safety. Be mindfully aware of the situation. See what parts are related to a past experience and observe what’s new. You may see someone resembling a person who has hurt you in the past. Be mindfully aware of the fact the fact that, although they resemble that person, they are not them. Ask yourself: “In this context, at this time, in this situation, am I safe?”
@@NightWolfiethey are trying to survive using dysfunctional strategies they learned during the trauma.Unfortunately,that rarely involves any awareness of the issue unless theyve recovered with treatment.
-I get in an fight/ flight modus when people I love or like, makes me feel unsafe. Thinking they are going to hurt, abonnen or abuse me.. Be patient, I will come back after a while, and then be able to talk in a calm state. -I handle stress badly, so as much as possible I try to stay in a calm state. So please don't stress me, lol
I’m going through this with my boyfriend! We got into a fight and I yelled at him😢 he has PTSD from his parents always fighting when he was little! he’s been staying away from me, he’s hot & cold. He keeps saying he needs time to think! I’m freaking out because I’m afraid he’s going to breakup with me! What should I do?! I’m so sad!
@@S3113jshb keep yourself busy and be there for him when he comes back and give him a hug and listen to what he shares and then tell him how it felt for you when he left you all alone and didn’t communicate…
thats not PTSD,it could be complex PTSD if he has been diagnosed by a psychologist.Also,many kids who went through repeat trauma never develope the maladaptjve adult symptoms,some are just more resilient or experienced positivee periences that counteracted the negative.
I have severe CPTSD. I was surprised there was a name for what I've been living with. The points Dr.Snipes states are all 100% true. I live daily seeing the "leftovers"...the scars from my perpetrator. Makes it way too hard to forget. How do we deal with that? 😢 Thank you and God bless
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i think that as well...i am not 100% sure about myself, but... i feel like its geting more clear, like a mist is geting out of my face, i can start to see clearly. and its making me happy. i understand that and i feel happy. it feels good when you start to understand yourself, when you dont feel completely lost anymore, like a total freak in the world. this is so good. Thank you, doctor!
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Triggered my girlfriends DV trauma by saying things to her when i was drunk. That blew up so bad that she said she doesnt want to see me and she needs space. Said she doesn't feel the same way about me at the moment and she doesn't know how long it will take for her to feel better. Just asked me for space...from being part of the daily life, I am now nobody. She said she understands and knows I am sorry but she said it doesn't change how i feel. She had a massive physical reaction when we met to try and discuss things however that didn't last long as i could see she was really uncomfortable. So i excused myself. No contact now at all and all i can do is wait. God knows how much i hate myself for triggering her and how sorry i am but it is what it is and I might lose her for good.
If you can't tune yourself to a person like this you don't deserve her. I am now with the sweetest and most loving person I've ever known because with her help I've managed to grow up and go beyond what my other loves felt were acceptable behavior. You might not be the problem my friend but you and your actions are the answer until you can work together to help her unpack her problems when she's ready. Hope you hung in there. I did. ❤
I got a woman I liked triggered without understanding why. I showed patience and did not hear from her for several years. We reconnected later and I actually saved her life, but at that time she had gotten abused so much more that she is now physically broken for life. We are now an item, and she deeply regret once pushing me away. Now I know that what I did wrong was simply that I liked her. She was at the time afraid of all men, due to how her ex had treated her.
Jesus this just happened to me too mate ..She has now unblocked me though but not replied to my message...We are akways splitting up though , and shes always doing the finishing..
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@@DocSnipes Dear Doc Snipes, I really appreciated your suggestions about how to support people affected by PTSD and I love all of your videos, always full of wisdom as well as many useful tips. I' m suffering from an affective codependency and I hope to overcome this problem after a 4 year relationship with an istrionic narcissist . Thank you so much for your precious help dear Doctor . My very best greetings, always following you. Francesca
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@@DocSnipes hey can you let me know if one should live with their parents if they have caused you the PTSD by abusing you in childhood. Please let me know.
THANK YOU for that description of some of the dysfunctional issues that arrive for those with disorders, remedies for care givers of those with disorders to manage, since i've experienced the test of it and no need to elaborate here.
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I've been with my wife for 24 years. She doesn't know what I went through in Combat. I dont talk about it. I have severe flash backs and get triggered by certain smells and sounds but I tend to go in protective mode of her. I have severe nightmares and she soothes me and has been so loving and supportive and that has helped tremendously. I feel like we have Both withdrawn do to my condition. I absolutely cannot stand civilians I'm only comfortable around other combat vets or my wife. I dont understand why I get so angry when I'm out shopping and there is someone else in the isle but I wanna react and I dont understand why.Alot of times I think of offing myself because I feel so guilty that I lived and my friends died.
Thank you for your service and for sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to open up about these deeply personal experiences. It’s clear that you’ve been through so much, and it’s completely understandable that you’re struggling with the weight of those memories. The fact that you’ve been able to maintain such a long and loving relationship with your wife, despite these challenges, speaks volumes about the strength and love you both have. Your reactions and feelings-like being triggered by certain sounds and smells, or feeling anger and discomfort in public spaces-are common among combat veterans. These are responses your mind and body have developed to protect you, even if they don’t always make sense in everyday situations. Survivor’s guilt is also something that many veterans experience, and it’s a heavy burden to carry. But it’s important to remember that your life has value, and the love and support your wife offers are testaments to that. If you haven’t already, reaching out to a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma or working with other combat veterans could be really helpful. They can offer tools to manage these feelings and thoughts in a way that doesn’t isolate you or make you feel even more burdened. You don’t have to carry this alone, and there are people who understand what you’re going through and can help you navigate it. Please keep talking to your wife about what you’re feeling, and consider letting her in a bit more on what you’ve experienced, if you feel ready. You’ve been strong for her, and now it might be time to let her be strong for you, too. You deserve peace and healing, and there are ways to find it, step by step. Also, if you're interested in learning more about healing from PTSD or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
@@Lyrielonwind I don’t know what EDMR is. I don’t use my VA benefits because I watched the VA kill my father. A Vietnam vet. Plus I don’t want the government telling me what to do. I have so many buddies that are slaves to the VA so they don’t lose their disability money. I just suck it up and go day to day. My wife keeps me from putting a round in my melon.
Reach out to a psychologist and find out more about EMDR therapy. It is an eye movement + visualization practice that unlocks frozen (traumatic) memories. It is helping me right now to rock my eyes back and forth, keeping me in the present instead of ruminating over the past. I hope you get better over time. Best wishes.
vintagetrk. Well said I deal with it the same way OIF III vet. Stuff that should’ve been left in the sandbox and will stick with you till the end of days. My wife is my best therapist I’ve ever had, she gets it. God Bless you
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Yes, it can. What tips from the video will you use to address that? Thanks for watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=cptsd
It sounds like you’ve made an insightful connection between your husband’s preference for closed blinds and his possible triggers. Many individuals with PTSD or cPTSD may feel safer in environments that reduce external stimulation or visibility. This can sometimes stem from a desire to feel more secure and in control of their surroundings. On the other hand, enjoying the light is natural and may contribute to your sense of well-being. Understanding these differences can help foster compassion and open dialogue between you. You might gently ask him about his preferences and how he feels about the light versus having the curtains closed. This can open up opportunities to explore compromises, like finding specific times or spaces where both needs are honored. If you found this insight helpful, please consider sharing the video to spread awareness. For more in-depth information and resources, feel free to visit DocSnipes.com/Clones. Your journey to understanding and connection is a powerful step toward mutual growth.
I actually have cptsd along with mdd and anxiety. nobody really understands about the crowds and how it triggers me. I just need someone I know next to me especially at line in the store or at the mall
That’s interesting because we were down and Disney at Christmas time and it was so crowded. Never really bother me too much but this one night of a super crowded. I was worried about losing my kids. Other than that I didn’t mind the crowd now in a pandemic, I would not like a crowd.! 😂
@@DocSnipes I found the information you provide helped/s me to understand how traumas and ensuing PTSD can and do affect my daily existence. Knowledge IS power.
If you are in a relationship with someone with PTSD, cPTSD or Borderline personality, what symptom of theirs do you struggle with most, and what strategy helps you cope?
@@billthelen6524 I think we all end up playing out our subconscious programming from childhood as adults. But becoming aware of that can be very helpful if the person is motivated to change for the better.
Seems like small things, but... Replaced all the kitchen cabinet hardware so they cant slam. (And replaced ALL the doors. Not the cheapest maybe... but So worth it. The Sound is different. Like a breath of fresh air!)
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@@DocSnipes I found that a lot of what you were discussing applies to myself and one or two people I have been involved with in the past. It's sort of like having to be in a relationship with yourself in order to spot any triggering objects, environments and character traits. And then provide the tailor made coping strategies and the language of substitute responses. A sort of detachment and constructive use of splitting, instead of ....well you can probably guess...switching into self therapist mode instead. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
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Thanks for this video and all of the information provided. I'm just starting a relationship with someone who shared with me that she has a cPTSD diagnosis, so I'm trying to get up to speed on both cPTSD and how I can navigate the relationship and be supportive to her. This is all very helpful.
Have had PTSD for years never got help When Beruit Anniversary a couple years ago all that I repressed and made light of came and I finally got help I have a long way to go and it’s hard on some days .
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Thanks means much people don’t realize what goes on with people with PTSD had a family met tell me don’t say that you have it to anyone. . But now I do and it’s nothing to ashamed of
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Everyone has triggers, and no one can prevent every single one of them. The problem is that when one is triggered, there is no room for forgiveness and understanding. Ironically, that's what the one triggered wants, yet they don't give the same response that they ask for. Relationships ends and that's that. Hard truth
Hence the reason for the video. Helping people who are in relationships with someone with PTSD understand. Part of the onus is on you to communicate what your triggers are and what is needed when you are feeling triggered. They may not know how to show you compassion and understanding in a way that you receive it. Don't expect mind reading.
Though we’re not in a relationship anymore we are talking again now as friends and I’ll always love her even though she doesn’t see me like that anymore so I wanna be whatever I can be for her and this video is helpful for friendship too, thank you 🙏
@@DocSnipesDo you think it's crazy that I still consider her my partner? Shes the love of my life and I wont be moving on to another person, its been many years now and she never leaves my heart, I feel my purpose is to be there for her and so I'm dedicating my life to it, being alone on stand by ready for whatever she needs... It sounds crazy but to me it feels real and inevitable.
It can be something as far as where you sit your money can freak someone out, and I had a rule in my house money had to be in your purse your wallet somewhere, but it wasn’t allowed to be on the counter I mean that seems maybe OCD, but it’s more of a trigger from a trauma! But what’s interesting about that is overtime it’s gotten so much better I went from PTSD to complex PTSD and I like see PTSD better because it fried my brain to where I didn’t feel crap and I know that’s not healthy but not honest, it was easier to deal with the depression, and not feeling or not feeling at all then it was to deal with anxiety if I had to pick a pick depression any day over anxiety❤🙏
I wanted to ask you on the subject of autoimmune diseases due to pre-existing non-avoidable stress levels, is eczema or singles or hives a symptom of the autoimmune system being attacked?
I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with these difficult symptoms. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Teeth grinding, stomach upset, sleep problems, and feeling frequently dysregulated can be really challenging to manage. These symptoms are often signs of stress or trauma, and it's important to take care of yourself. Here are a few gentle suggestions that might help: 1. Mindfulness and Relaxation: Gentle practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or mindfulness meditation can sometimes help calm your nervous system and ease stress. 2. Sleep Hygiene: Try to establish a calming bedtime routine, such as reading a book or taking a warm bath, and aim for a consistent sleep schedule to improve your rest. 3. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular, gentle exercise like walking, yoga, or stretching can help reduce stress and improve your overall mood. 4. Seek Support: Talking to a therapist who understands trauma can be incredibly beneficial. They can offer techniques and support tailored to your needs. 5. Balanced Diet: Eating nutritious foods and staying hydrated can support your body in managing stress better. 6. Express Yourself: Writing in a journal or expressing your feelings through art can be a soothing way to process emotions. Which strategy do you think would work best for you. Remember, it's okay to seek help, and taking small steps toward self-care can make a big difference. You don't have to go through this alone, and there are people who care and want to support you. You can also use my AI to find put more tips and tools on support someone with PTSD cPTSD and trauma: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
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My Friend have suffered from a SA trauma and I don't know how to help him feel better and come back to life. be a happy person again. it has been one month. and he is still feeling same and tell me he can not forget it, it is still like it was yesterday, I am on long distance and can not visit him because of Visa problem and idk how I can help him forget it. I hope this helps me to treat his trauma, and bring joy and happiness back in his life. I wish all of you quick recovery.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend's experience. Supporting someone who has gone through a traumatic event, especially from a distance, can be challenging. Here are some ways you can help your friend: Provide Information and Resources: Share information about trauma and its effects. Sometimes understanding what they are going through can be the first step in healing. Encourage them to seek professional help. Trauma recovery often requires the assistance of a therapist who specializes in trauma. Emotional Support: Be a good listener. Let your friend express their feelings without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can be incredibly healing. Validate their feelings. Acknowledge that what they are feeling is real and understandable. Encourage Small Steps: Help them set small, achievable goals. Successes, even small ones, can promote a sense of competence and empowerment. Encourage them to engage in activities that used to make them happy, even if these activities don't bring the same level of joy as before. Create a Safe Environment: If possible, help them create a safe and empowering environment. This can be their home or any place where they feel secure. Long-Distance Support: Use technology to stay connected. Regular video calls, messages, or even sending them something thoughtful can help them feel less isolated. Encourage them to join online support groups where they can connect with others who have had similar experiences. Patience and Compassion: Be patient and compassionate. Recovery from trauma is a process and can take time. Encourage them to be patient and compassionate with themselves as well. Remember, while you can provide support, professional help is often necessary for trauma recovery. Encourage your friend to seek therapy and provide them with resources to do so. Also, feel free to share what you found most useful from the video and, if you're interested in learning more about helping someone with PTSD or want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
❤ thank you this video I forwarded to a few people in my life that are left due to childhood trauma and then for more major TRAUMAS in my adulthood. isolate, I have autoimmune disease. I just found out I have cancer and I don't think I've felt safe my entire life. Only now at 48 years old with health issues that are life-threatening. Do I really take a look at myself and my addictions throughout my life and why. Sometimes I think I'm getting better but just two days ago I've triggered and it took me back to two years ago. The people that knew me before my PTSD. I only have two girlfriends left, but they still struggle to understand as I'm still in a situation where I'm powerless I've been fighting to get out of that situation for three years now I hope that one day I'll be able to find someone who will allow me to do the things that you mention in this video in order to heal
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I told the women at a breast center that I jump so doing medical procedures like a core biopsy of the breast is important to let them know that you’re jumpy, or if your kids are snapping a table up in the back of a Highlander then that can make you jumpy, so you need to let them know ahead of time because it does trigger you make you jump in when you’re driving a vehicle that’s not a good idea
I have CPTSD and was married for 30 years to a spouse who has BPD and I don't recommend it. Tip one: Don't do it. Tip two: Don't do it. You can't fix broken & this was not for a lack of trying. Even though we divorced over a decade ago and have not so much as communicated with one another since then, they still suffer with the same condition & so do I. The symptom that caused the most distress was their ability to lie and manipulate the system in order to cause the most damage to my reputation as possible. The only way to cope was to finally terminate the relationship. Cheers
I was a volunteer firefighter and severely injured I fear hospitals and sirines make me remember what happened 😔its hard to deal with at times I've witnessed friends brothers die I can't go in the fire station without breaking into tears hospital's make me uneasy because I died 4 times because of my injuries I can't talk about this sorry I'm remembering now
It’s terrible when someone with PTSD lashes out and falsely accuses when they are triggered over a normal thing. Inflexible thinking and impulses creating lash outs that are destructive.
I agree, it can be really challenging when someone with PTSD reacts strongly to a trigger. It's important to remember that their reactions are often not about the current situation, but a result of their past experiences.
I knew someone with ptsd and their behaviour was all over the place. 1 day treating me so well, next day changing again. Trust became an issue due to their indecive behaviour as well sometimes. I feel i didnt know her symptoms well enough to understand the problem might not even be me
People with CPtsd tend to react to their neurotypical spouses as their abusers once they are triggered. They brain works that way. I feel like giving up every time I tried to explain what makes me angry. He lashes out and blame me for everything just like narcissists in his life did to him.
I hope that people understand that it's the central nervous system that goes into overdrive. For me my mind knows I am good. However my body is screaming fight or flight. Chest vibration is exponentially rapid. That example alone will drive one into heart issues at a young age. Calm the nerves. My Go To Is Epsom Salt baths to stop the over active nerves in a pinch. ❤
You’re absolutely right-when trauma activates the central nervous system, it can feel like your body is completely out of sync with your mind. Even if you rationally know you're safe, the physical sensations can be overwhelming, like that rapid chest vibration you described. It's great that you've found something that works for you-Epsom salt baths can be incredibly soothing for calming those overactive nerves and creating a moment of relief. In addition to that, deep breathing exercises or grounding techniques can also help slow down the body's stress response in real-time. Finding multiple go-to tools can be really helpful when your nervous system is in overdrive, so it’s all about discovering what works best for you! For others watching, what have you found most helpful when managing a triggered nervous system? Did any of the tips in the video resonate with you? Feel free to share your thoughts!
Thank you so much gor this one, I always respected that my worst symptoms were when I was in my own house. Never liked domestic life, do you have suggestions to minimize triggers at home.
@@DocSnipes I feel safe and thank you. Just depleted, unproductive, and depressed. My best self is spent outside the hone and would love to reverse that.
Thank you for sharing this-it’s a great insight to have. Tone of voice can indeed be a significant trigger for someone with PTSD or cPTSD, as it can unconsciously remind them of past traumatic experiences. A raised, sharp, or even neutral tone may be interpreted as threatening or dismissive, depending on their history. Becoming aware of this is a powerful first step, as it allows you to adjust and communicate in a way that feels safer and more supportive. Softening your tone, being mindful of your volume, and using calm, reassuring language can make a big difference. Asking for feedback, like, “Is this tone okay for you?”, can also help build trust and show you care about their comfort. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it to support others in navigating trauma and relationships. What strategies have you found helpful for managing communication? I’d love to hear your thoughts! For more indepth information on addressing triggers and all things mental health, please use DocSnipes.Com/Clones.
doc-WHAT ABOUT SEVERE PTSD AND TBI FROM COMA AND 3 OPEN EXPLORATORY SURGERIES WITH BODY PARTS REMOVED...2 MARRIAGES AND LOTS OF TERMINATED RELATIONSHIPS...LOVE TO HEAR YOUR TAKE...OR PERSPECTIVE...VIP THE TBI AND PTSD SEEM TO DANCE ME INTO DIFFERENT REALITIES THAN MY EX PARTNERS-MANYTHXS looking forward to your presentation live...if i can remember...oh yea that tbi thingie
assesment or not--expertise is about the knowledge and experience of the practicioner and the factors known on the relative issues...it would be hard to assess both physical and mental unless one is a surgeon-the physical complications post trauma surgery can and do linger and in my experience act as triggers...the coma aspects are extended complications..was just asking for baseline response...@@scarred10 i find that when you have issues with complications especially ptsd and tbi-s associated--those scars and removed body parts and continued inflammation internally--its a circle-viscous -and a ley dr will have a different softer approach toward resolution than would a military war surgeon..ptsd is a high stress state-as above so below...we are biochemical entities..inflammation infections and psychological manifestations thru the ptsd stress perceptions just agrivates and magnifies the ptsd..as you can tell by above which is written at 4am and another better awake and ready kinda start of another day...take care @scarred...how deep are those scars and is the tissue at the suture lines internally hard between the fingers like a cord braided...oh well morning and best of days to you my friend
OMG thank you so much for this video. It describes my actions to a t. I also suffer from ADHD and autism. The superintendent at the blind School bullied and harrassed me. I kept telling him that I did not feel safe and I kept asking for a union representative and he kept denying it. I asked three times and he kept bullying me over and over and over. Are publicly requested his notes and he kept saying that I was emotional about the situation and he could not understand why I was afraid of him. I finally got up and ran out of the room after telling him multiple times that I feared him. I have read his notes hundreds of times and this video makes it clear why I did not feel safe. He is a superintendent with a psychology degree and he does not understand my behavior. He also demoted me and then wanted to fire me because of my behavior. He refused to put me on FMLA when I told him I was having a mental health breakdown due to my toxic workplace. Thanks again for what you do.
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Any tips for someone with silent BPD(me) trying to help their partner who has cPTSD? Bit hard when the cPTSD parter literally helps the silent BPD one with exactly what needs to be done but dissociation comes into play because of previous flashback of cPTSD partner. Feels like a vicious circle that never ends. Thank you.
If you prefer to be alone and not engage with the people in your environment, are you considered to be avoidant? If so, is that considered to be a problem that needs changing? If so, then that goes completely against the advice of abuse experts who tell us to cut off the abusive perpetrators and everyone connected with them.
Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD) is a Cluster C personality disorder characterized by excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g. self-imposed social isolation) as a maladaptive coping method.[1] Those affected typically display a pattern of extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and rejection, a belief that one is socially inept or personally unappealing to others, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for it.[2] It appears to affect an approximately equal number of men and women.[3]
@@DocSnipes I can't remember what I found useful but I'm sure there was something in the video that was useful or I wouldn't have commented. I know there are millions of people in my shoes who are disabled with chronic illness and we come off as avoidant but we're not. However, because of how we're abused by others for having invisible disabilities we almost all have CPTSD. In my case I don't really prefer to be alone as I had stated above, it's that I HAVE to be alone or be abused. Which one would you choose?
@@iamsomeone8266same here, leave people message on views, so overwhelmed by socialisation, conversation but also feel lonely loooool the paradox .... But isolation is a symptoms of cptsd However I want to focus on myself right now maybe starting some vomuntering to meet people without stressing myself with their expectations
I experience all of these things as someone with cptsd, anxiety and being highly sensitive. The trouble is my partner is both my supporter and the one who causes the most trauma. How do I handle the situation of wanting to avoid reminders by not wanting to watch the same movies as him and feeling bad because it causes him to feel disappointed by not being able to watch the things he wants to watch with me namely rated R movies??? In the end no one is happy because he feels disappointed and missing out and like I shouldn't be so sensitive but I am not okay to endure the triggers just to make him happy either.
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I am dealing with a husband that has Cptsd😢 it really makes me feel bad and sad and manythings. Its hard and its a lonely life. He don't want to trust anybody. He has no friends. He just want to be inside the house. Sleeping the whole day. Too lazy and easily gets mad in anything. I didn't know that he has it before we get married. I just found out after 4yrs of getting married to him. I almost end up quiting to our marriage. Please help me what will i do.. he said he dont want to get into medication or treatment anymore.
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Is there a way ptsd can become cured? My mom always leaves the lights on and closes the blinds when she goes to sleep she doesn’t sleep until she knows someone’s gonna be up all night. She blocks a locked door with a stool, bag, and whisk. I’m gonna try to help relieve her anxiety and take on some duty, but by doing so will her anxiety fade? Will she still need her door blocks? Will she still need to leave the light on? Will she still need someone to stay up and watch the house? Or does she need those constants for the rest of her life to feel safe and happy?
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I need help. I believe my boyfriend has PTSD! His parents used to fight and yell a lot when he was little, so he triggered by any kind of yelling. Well we had a fight and I yelled at him😢 (long story) and now he really won’t talk to me. It’s been a month of back and forth, he gets hot and cold. I don’t think he wants to breakup, I’ve been giving him space. What should I do?! I’m so worried he’s going to leave me! 😢
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@@DocSnipes I apologized almost immediately. I also told him he can feel safe around me, I realize he had a traumatic childhood and I will never yell again. I hope he can look past this..
It’s really tough when you want to help, but your loved one with PTSD or CPTSD isn’t communicating what they need or open to hearing your suggestions. One thing to keep in mind is that trauma can make people feel like they need to guard their sense of control, so even well-meaning advice can feel overwhelming. Instead of offering solutions, focusing on simply listening and validating their feelings can sometimes create a safer space for them. Phrases like “I’m here for you” or “It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling” show support without pressure. It’s also worth remembering that they might not know what they need or how to express it. Gently asking questions like, “Is there anything I can do to support you right now?” can be more effective than trying to find solutions. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes. Lastly, take care of yourself too. Being there for someone with trauma is challenging, and you don’t have to have all the answers. Often, just being present and patient can be enough.
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Thank you for watching the video. There are some things you can do: Communication Open communication is crucial in this situation. Both partners need to express their vulnerabilities and triggers to each other. The partner who yells hurtful things as a coping mechanism needs to understand how this behavior triggers the other person. Understanding Triggers The person who yells should try to identify what triggers this behavior and work on alternative coping mechanisms. They should also be aware that their behavior might resemble someone from the other person's past who caused trauma, even if they don't intend to be violent or hurtful. Developing Coping Mechanisms The person who gets triggered by yelling should also develop coping mechanisms for when they get triggered. This could include grounding exercises or other strategies that help them feel safe emotionally and physically. Seeking Professional Help Both individuals might benefit from seeking professional help, such as therapy. Therapies like cognitive behavioral therapy or EMDR can be beneficial for individuals with cPTSD. A therapist can also help them develop a safety plan, which involves identifying things that help them feel safe and things that should be avoided. Creating a Supportive Environment Both partners should strive to create a supportive environment. This includes being compassionate, understanding, and accommodating to each other's specific needs and triggers. It's also important to respect each other's boundaries and give each other space when needed. You can watch videos on improving communication at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=communication You can also watch the video on Healthy Interventions on CPTSD
At what point when my loved ones reach Treats is it technically abusive towards us I’ve gone as long as 11 days without seeing my spouse while he shot himself in his room to do think that soonest him watch TV read books work on his model airplanes etc. he has abjectly refused for years to seek any sort of treatment that would give him some coping mechanisms at what point do I have to throw my hands up
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Thank you for sharing your experience-it takes courage to open up about something so painful. It’s completely understandable that you’d feel triggered in situations where you sense someone might try to control or pressure you. When you’ve experienced abuse, especially in childhood, your brain and body learn to stay on high alert to protect you from further harm. This is a natural survival response, but it can feel overwhelming and exhausting. Learning to set boundaries and recognize your triggers are powerful steps toward reclaiming your sense of safety and autonomy. Therapy can be incredibly helpful in this process, particularly trauma-informed approaches like EMDR or somatic experiencing, which can help you process those old wounds and reduce the intensity of your triggers over time. You deserve to feel safe and in control of your life. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it-it might provide someone else with the tools or encouragement they need to start their healing journey. Have you tried any strategies that help you feel grounded or safe when these triggers come up? Sometimes small practices, like deep breathing or grounding exercises, can provide immediate relief. You’re not alone in this, and healing is possible!
@@SftrguugjiijhdhioygffI’m interested in psilocybin also for cptsd, but they are illegal where I am still, I do go to therapy tho and emdr has worked tremendously for me.
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Understanding and Patience When dealing with someone who is argumentative and unwilling to talk about their trauma, it's important to approach them with understanding and patience. Their argumentative behavior may be a defense mechanism to protect themselves from reliving their traumatic experiences. Creating a Safe Environment Creating a safe and calm environment can help reduce their anxiety and make them feel more comfortable. This could involve minimizing potential triggers in their surroundings and ensuring that they feel physically safe. Non-Verbal Communication If they're unwilling to talk, consider other forms of communication. This could be through art, music, or writing. These non-verbal forms of expression can provide an outlet for their feelings and experiences. Professional Help Encourage them to seek professional help. Therapists and counselors trained in trauma can provide strategies and techniques to help them cope with their symptoms. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) are two evidence-based treatments for trauma. Self-Care Activities Encourage them to engage in self-care activities. This could be exercise, relaxation techniques, or hobbies that they enjoy. These activities can provide a distraction from their symptoms and promote overall well-being. Avoid Force Avoid forcing them to talk about their trauma. This could lead to further distress and resistance. Instead, let them know that you're there to listen whenever they're ready to talk. Remember, recovery from trauma is a personal and often long journey. It's important to respect their pace and provide support in ways that they find helpful.
Does anyone know if she has a video about how to help someone heal from CPTSD? I completely understand and agree with the importance of making them feel safe. But what about transcending the trauma? I mean, does someone like myself have to keep my fiance wrapped in bubble wrap for the rest of my life and never go on adventures? She has been overactive and angry for over seven years and was the same with her ex-husband for 10 years. Her traumas started years before that. I love her to death but it sounds like there's now healing happening in this video, just the secure partner making changes to accommodate the traumatized partner indefinitely. What about exposure therapy?
Helping someone heal from Complex PTSD (CPTSD) involves a multifaceted approach that includes creating a safe environment, understanding their triggers, and supporting them through various therapeutic interventions. Here are some key points and strategies: Creating a Safe Environment: It's crucial to make your partner feel safe and empowered. This involves understanding their vulnerabilities and triggers and working together to create a supportive environment. Transcending Trauma: Healing from CPTSD is not just about making accommodations but also about helping the person process their trauma and regain a sense of control over their life. This can involve various therapeutic approaches, including trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness practices, and exposure therapy. Exposure Therapy: Exposure therapy can be beneficial for individuals with CPTSD as it helps them gradually face and desensitize to their trauma-related triggers in a controlled and safe manner. This process should be guided by a trained therapist to ensure it is done safely and effectively. Balancing Support and Independence: While it's important to provide support, it's equally important to encourage independence and self-efficacy. This means helping your partner take small steps towards facing their fears and building resilience, rather than wrapping them in "bubble wrap" indefinitely. Self-Care for Caregivers: Taking care of yourself is vital. If you're not rested and supported, you won't be able to provide the necessary empathy and support for your partner. Ensure you have your own support system and take time for self-care. Understanding and Addressing Symptoms: Recognize that symptoms like emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, and hypervigilance are common in CPTSD. These symptoms are a result of the trauma and can be managed with appropriate interventions and support. For more detailed strategies and insights, you might find these videos helpful: th-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswg6FS0YzaQLwvX7jj1avd_F.html&si=bcgo-UNdIVSwwUhX I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Also, if you're interested in more videos on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I know this is an old video but my wife of 7 years that it is me and my fault that I make myself stressed and that I can't stand being in crowds and can't stand being at celebrations for a long period of time. And I also as well don't trust people and find many people to be fake and phony. And I just prefer to be inside the warmth and safety of my own home away from others. I'm fine one one but in a group I feel very uncomfortable and judged. I am service connected TDIU 100% by the VA for this. Right now I feel especially judged and unsupported by my wife whenever I'm triggered
Thank you so much for sharing your experience-it takes strength to open up about these challenges, especially when feeling unsupported. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and your feelings of discomfort in crowds and distrust of others are very common responses in PTSD and cPTSD. Your body and mind are working hard to keep you safe after what you’ve endured, and those reactions are not your fault. Feeling misunderstood by a loved one can be incredibly painful, especially when you’re already managing the weight of trauma. It may help to have an open, calm conversation with your wife during a time when you’re both feeling grounded. You could explain that these reactions aren’t about avoiding her or others but rather your brain’s protective response after trauma. Sharing resources about PTSD with her or involving her in couples counseling with a trauma-informed therapist could also help bridge understanding. At the same time, it’s essential to prioritize your healing, even when those around you struggle to fully understand it. Practices like grounding techniques, journaling, and connecting with a support group (either through the VA or online) can offer additional validation and coping tools. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it so others can better understand trauma responses in relationships. You’re doing the best you can, and it’s okay to ask for the support you deserve. If you’re interested in learning some grounding techniques or ways to communicate these feelings with your wife more effectively or more tips on addressing this, please don’t hesitate to use DocSnipes.com/Clones. You’re not alone in this.
@DocSnipes Thank you also for the kind words Doctor. I am gonna be beginning therapy from a therapist at a vet center on January 15th. I hope I can convince my wife to join me on some of the sessions so that maybe she might be able to understand my limitations better
I hear you, and those words carry so much pain. It’s common to feel “damaged beyond repair” when dealing with the weight of PTSD or complex trauma, especially when it’s been ongoing. Trauma can impact so many aspects of our lives and our sense of self, making it feel like healing isn’t possible. But, with support, compassion, and the right tools, people often find that even deep wounds can begin to mend over time. Healing is rarely a quick or easy journey, but many who have felt this way have found renewed strength and hope. Please remember, you don’t have to face this alone. There are people who understand trauma and can walk alongside you in this process. You deserve support, and you’re worth every step of healing. Have there been any small moments or tools that have brought you a little comfort or peace? Sometimes even the smallest shifts can be meaningful.
theirs pansexual person with a lot of issues bi polar anixey anger split personalities but very dangerous but can get away with anything too disrespectful scarastic racis young big narracists I should of been careful but god is always witching me period
@@DocSnipes sorry but only single mistake and cptsd person will stop even recognise you like you are stranger so we are human not robot we can make mistakes and with cptsd person you can't make even single mistake
I'm always in flight or fight i dont remember accident so all I do is anylize that day over and over its been 5 yrs im fine one day then tripin the next day. I get startled by alot its crazy ill see the person walk in he says hi I say hi then I get startled. Plus with the mild brain trauma it's difficult to control my feelings. I prefer to b alone don't like being people I get over whelmed n confused I've asked every1 I know to help cause I can' buy clothes trouble making decisions and being over whemled by everything in the store. I have every symptom up there. I'm sitting in the car we stopped at stop sign ibsay a car conming down the road I found myself telling myself not going to hit us n 2 secs later I freaked screamed like a girl that the car was going to hit us. Mind u I never saw the car hit me the guy drove sidewalk n speed up n ran me over all I know I was found 50 feet on other side of fence landed my soccer net it was a hit and run. He's threaten me 3 times after that. I don't know why he tried to kill me haven't seen him in 15 yrs. It's been 5years n I am still learning. Are u still learning
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People with PTSD often get triggered by someone or something, thats why they avoid socializing
Yes, they do, sadly. An important step in addressing triggers is creating safety. Be mindfully aware of the situation. See what parts are related to a past experience and observe what’s new. You may see someone resembling a person who has hurt you in the past. Be mindfully aware of the fact the fact that, although they resemble that person, they are not them. Ask yourself: “In this context, at this time, in this situation, am I safe?”
Also, please let me know what you have found most helpful from the video
@@DocSnipes Yea but they are still trying their best to move on in life
@ramoliddinrabbimov890 do the things to self-r self-regulation, if you feel unsafe leave the situation
@@NightWolfiethey are trying to survive using dysfunctional strategies they learned during the trauma.Unfortunately,that rarely involves any awareness of the issue unless theyve recovered with treatment.
-I get in an fight/ flight modus when people I love or like, makes me feel unsafe. Thinking they are going to hurt, abonnen or abuse me..
Be patient, I will come back after a while, and then be able to talk in a calm state.
-I handle stress badly, so as much as possible I try to stay in a calm state. So please don't stress me, lol
Lol. I wouldn’t dream of it. What tips from the video will you use to address that?
That's TRUE FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE
I’m going through this with my boyfriend! We got into a fight and I yelled at him😢 he has PTSD from his parents always fighting when he was little! he’s been staying away from me, he’s hot & cold. He keeps saying he needs time to think! I’m freaking out because I’m afraid he’s going to breakup with me! What should I do?! I’m so sad!
@@S3113jshb keep yourself busy and be there for him when he comes back and give him a hug and listen to what he shares and then tell him how it felt for you when he left you all alone and didn’t communicate…
thats not PTSD,it could be complex PTSD if he has been diagnosed by a psychologist.Also,many kids who went through repeat trauma never develope the maladaptjve adult symptoms,some are just more resilient or experienced positivee periences that counteracted the negative.
I have severe CPTSD. I was surprised there was a name for what I've been living with. The points Dr.Snipes states are all 100% true. I live daily seeing the "leftovers"...the scars from my perpetrator. Makes it way too hard to forget. How do we deal with that? 😢
Thank you and God bless
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Yep,most Cptsd sufferers have no idea their behaviour and struggles aren't normal.
This is my life...literally. Thank you for putting it into words
This made me cry because i finally feel understood. Continuing to use tools to heal. Thank you for sharing this for us ❤
You are so welcome
You are so welcome
i think that as well...i am not 100% sure about myself, but... i feel like its geting more clear, like a mist is geting out of my face, i can start to see clearly. and its making me happy. i understand that and i feel happy. it feels good when you start to understand yourself, when you dont feel completely lost anymore, like a total freak in the world. this is so good. Thank you, doctor!
This is excellent, thank you for this - you're fantastic at conveying information concisely, but in an engaging manner
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Triggered my girlfriends DV trauma by saying things to her when i was drunk. That blew up so bad that she said she doesnt want to see me and she needs space. Said she doesn't feel the same way about me at the moment and she doesn't know how long it will take for her to feel better. Just asked me for space...from being part of the daily life, I am now nobody. She said she understands and knows I am sorry but she said it doesn't change how i feel. She had a massive physical reaction when we met to try and discuss things however that didn't last long as i could see she was really uncomfortable. So i excused myself. No contact now at all and all i can do is wait. God knows how much i hate myself for triggering her and how sorry i am but it is what it is and I might lose her for good.
Same happened with me. So I'm not going to be in relationship with anyone have this . Big red flag.
If you can't tune yourself to a person like this you don't deserve her. I am now with the sweetest and most loving person I've ever known because with her help I've managed to grow up and go beyond what my other loves felt were acceptable behavior.
You might not be the problem my friend but you and your actions are the answer until you can work together to help her unpack her problems when she's ready. Hope you hung in there. I did. ❤
I got a woman I liked triggered without understanding why. I showed patience and did not hear from her for several years. We reconnected later and I actually saved her life, but at that time she had gotten abused so much more that she is now physically broken for life. We are now an item, and she deeply regret once pushing me away.
Now I know that what I did wrong was simply that I liked her. She was at the time afraid of all men, due to how her ex had treated her.
Jesus this just happened to me too mate ..She has now unblocked me though but not replied to my message...We are akways splitting up though , and shes always doing the finishing..
Two way street , it's up too the person with PTSD too,easier said then done when someone is triggered all the time..
One of the more useful videos on the subject. Thank you
Thank you for watching
Thank you for this I was diagnosed with CPTSD thank you for this Doc Snipes hallelujah 🙌🏻 a great help for me 🙌🏻
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Thanks
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@@DocSnipes Dear Doc Snipes, I really appreciated your suggestions about how to support people affected by PTSD and I love all of your videos, always full of wisdom as well as many useful tips. I' m suffering from an affective codependency and I hope to overcome this problem after a 4 year relationship with an istrionic narcissist . Thank you so much for your precious help dear Doctor . My very best greetings, always following you. Francesca
Thanks!
You’re so welcome, Dee!
If I could just make all my family and friends watch this them my life would become a whole lot better.
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@@DocSnipes hey can you let me know if one should live with their parents if they have caused you the PTSD by abusing you in childhood. Please let me know.
@@EricaVanHelsing no fuckin way. why would you do that ?!
@@pavelescucristina4734 yeah ikr. Thanks btw
@@EricaVanHelsing no problem. its been a year since you asked that, so i guess its all clear now for you. hope so
THANK YOU for that description of some of the dysfunctional issues that arrive for those with disorders, remedies for care givers of those with disorders to manage, since i've experienced the test of it and no need to elaborate here.
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I've been with my wife for 24 years. She doesn't know what I went through in Combat. I dont talk about it. I have severe flash backs and get triggered by certain smells and sounds but I tend to go in protective mode of her. I have severe nightmares and she soothes me and has been so loving and supportive and that has helped tremendously. I feel like we have Both withdrawn do to my condition. I absolutely cannot stand civilians I'm only comfortable around other combat vets or my wife. I dont understand why I get so angry when I'm out shopping and there is someone else in the isle but I wanna react and I dont understand why.Alot of times I think of offing myself because I feel so guilty that I lived and my friends died.
Thank you for your service and for sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to open up about these deeply personal experiences. It’s clear that you’ve been through so much, and it’s completely understandable that you’re struggling with the weight of those memories. The fact that you’ve been able to maintain such a long and loving relationship with your wife, despite these challenges, speaks volumes about the strength and love you both have.
Your reactions and feelings-like being triggered by certain sounds and smells, or feeling anger and discomfort in public spaces-are common among combat veterans. These are responses your mind and body have developed to protect you, even if they don’t always make sense in everyday situations. Survivor’s guilt is also something that many veterans experience, and it’s a heavy burden to carry. But it’s important to remember that your life has value, and the love and support your wife offers are testaments to that.
If you haven’t already, reaching out to a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma or working with other combat veterans could be really helpful. They can offer tools to manage these feelings and thoughts in a way that doesn’t isolate you or make you feel even more burdened. You don’t have to carry this alone, and there are people who understand what you’re going through and can help you navigate it.
Please keep talking to your wife about what you’re feeling, and consider letting her in a bit more on what you’ve experienced, if you feel ready. You’ve been strong for her, and now it might be time to let her be strong for you, too. You deserve peace and healing, and there are ways to find it, step by step.
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EMDR can help you with those symptons. It's been tested with war veterans. You can do it online too. Take care 💜
@@Lyrielonwind I don’t know what EDMR is. I don’t use my VA benefits because I watched the VA kill my father. A Vietnam vet. Plus I don’t want the government telling me what to do. I have so many buddies that are slaves to the VA so they don’t lose their disability money. I just suck it up and go day to day. My wife keeps me from putting a round in my melon.
Reach out to a psychologist and find out more about EMDR therapy. It is an eye movement + visualization practice that unlocks frozen (traumatic) memories.
It is helping me right now to rock my eyes back and forth, keeping me in the present instead of ruminating over the past.
I hope you get better over time.
Best wishes.
vintagetrk. Well said I deal with it the same way OIF III vet. Stuff that should’ve been left in the sandbox and will stick with you till the end of days. My wife is my best therapist I’ve ever had, she gets it. God Bless you
❤Thank you. This information is really helpful ❤
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Yes, yelling with sporting games or video games like some people do can startle you
Yes, it can. What tips from the video will you use to address that? Thanks for watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=cptsd
13:02 this now makes sense because my husband closes the blinds and curtains and I love the light. It’s probably a trigger for him. 😔
It sounds like you’ve made an insightful connection between your husband’s preference for closed blinds and his possible triggers. Many individuals with PTSD or cPTSD may feel safer in environments that reduce external stimulation or visibility. This can sometimes stem from a desire to feel more secure and in control of their surroundings. On the other hand, enjoying the light is natural and may contribute to your sense of well-being.
Understanding these differences can help foster compassion and open dialogue between you. You might gently ask him about his preferences and how he feels about the light versus having the curtains closed. This can open up opportunities to explore compromises, like finding specific times or spaces where both needs are honored.
If you found this insight helpful, please consider sharing the video to spread awareness. For more in-depth information and resources, feel free to visit DocSnipes.com/Clones. Your journey to understanding and connection is a powerful step toward mutual growth.
I actually have cptsd along with mdd and anxiety. nobody really understands about the crowds and how it triggers me. I just need someone I know next to me especially at line in the store or at the mall
I am sorry about that. Has this always been an issue or is this related to a traumatic experience?
I was abused physically and sexually in my childhood and by an ex of mine
UNDERSTAND THAT TOTALLY
@@emmasbusybuildersllc1616 GET PROFESSIONAL HELP ASAP IF U CAN
That’s interesting because we were down and Disney at Christmas time and it was so crowded. Never really bother me too much but this one night of a super crowded. I was worried about losing my kids. Other than that I didn’t mind the crowd now in a pandemic, I would not like a crowd.! 😂
What an excellent video! Many thanks and Merry Christmas Doc Snipes🙏❤️🎄✝️
Thank you for watching. What did you find most helpful from the video?
@@DocSnipes I found the information you provide helped/s me to understand how traumas and ensuing PTSD can and do affect my daily existence. Knowledge IS power.
Love the analogies you use.❤
Thank you!
This is fantastic 👏🏼 Appreciate you 🥰
You are so welcome. Thank you so much for your kind words
If you are in a relationship with someone with PTSD, cPTSD or Borderline personality, what symptom of theirs do you struggle with most, and what strategy helps you cope?
The fact that she wants to be in control is what quite often upsets me. She has the told me of how her father was controlling.
My wife suffers from a lot of the physical symptoms of fatigue, muscle soreness, upset stomach.
I just want to thank you for helping us.
@@billthelen6524 I think we all end up playing out our subconscious programming from childhood as adults. But becoming aware of that can be very helpful if the person is motivated to change for the better.
Seems like small things, but... Replaced all the kitchen cabinet hardware so they cant slam. (And replaced ALL the doors. Not the cheapest maybe... but So worth it. The Sound is different. Like a breath of fresh air!)
Excellent advice.
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@@DocSnipes I found that a lot of what you were discussing applies to myself and one or two people I have been involved with in the past. It's sort of like having to be in a relationship with yourself in order to spot any triggering objects, environments and character traits. And then provide the tailor made coping strategies and the language of substitute responses. A sort of detachment and constructive use of splitting, instead of ....well you can probably guess...switching into self therapist mode instead. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Love your video's helping me ao much thank you
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As a victim/ survivor of causes of diagnosis cptsd.
I recommend I stay single and not interested in commiting to anyone but myself care from it all.
I am grateful for you watching. What tips from the video will you use to help you cope with cPTSD?
@@DocSnipes keeping my files to myself and scheduling/keeping appointments for self care.
I’ve been considering this myself. I have trust issues everywhere
Very wise
Thanks for this video and all of the information provided. I'm just starting a relationship with someone who shared with me that she has a cPTSD diagnosis, so I'm trying to get up to speed on both cPTSD and how I can navigate the relationship and be supportive to her. This is all very helpful.
I am grateful to have been of service and I appreciate you watching the video
Have had PTSD for years never got help When Beruit Anniversary a couple years ago all that I repressed and made light of came and I finally got help I have a long way to go and it’s hard on some days .
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Thanks means much people don’t realize what goes on with people with PTSD had a family met tell me don’t say that you have it to anyone. . But now I do and it’s nothing to ashamed of
Great tips for helping someone, &: how to take care of yourself when feel your walking on eggshells & keep doing wrong things? Thanks
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video.
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Everyone has triggers, and no one can prevent every single one of them. The problem is that when one is triggered, there is no room for forgiveness and understanding. Ironically, that's what the one triggered wants, yet they don't give the same response that they ask for. Relationships ends and that's that. Hard truth
Hence the reason for the video. Helping people who are in relationships with someone with PTSD understand. Part of the onus is on you to communicate what your triggers are and what is needed when you are feeling triggered. They may not know how to show you compassion and understanding in a way that you receive it. Don't expect mind reading.
For BPD: The worst is when they push you away and say "I'm never going to talk to you again."
For combat PTSD: I get worried about sleep walking.
Thank you so much for watching the video, Elizabeth. How would you address those issues?
Thank you so much
You're most welcome
Though we’re not in a relationship anymore we are talking again now as friends and I’ll always love her even though she doesn’t see me like that anymore so I wanna be whatever I can be for her and this video is helpful for friendship too, thank you 🙏
That’s beautiful and I am grateful to be of service. Thanks for watching
@@DocSnipesDo you think it's crazy that I still consider her my partner? Shes the love of my life and I wont be moving on to another person, its been many years now and she never leaves my heart, I feel my purpose is to be there for her and so I'm dedicating my life to it, being alone on stand by ready for whatever she needs... It sounds crazy but to me it feels real and inevitable.
Cut your losses amigo trust me you'll save yourself from a world of hurt
Good morning 🌹🌹
Hi, Brad! Thank you so much for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
It can be something as far as where you sit your money can freak someone out, and I had a rule in my house money had to be in your purse your wallet somewhere, but it wasn’t allowed to be on the counter I mean that seems maybe OCD, but it’s more of a trigger from a trauma! But what’s interesting about that is overtime it’s gotten so much better I went from PTSD to complex PTSD and I like see PTSD better because it fried my brain to where I didn’t feel crap and I know that’s not healthy but not honest, it was easier to deal with the depression, and not feeling or not feeling at all then it was to deal with anxiety if I had to pick a pick depression any day over anxiety❤🙏
Thank you for watching and for sharing!
Raise resilient children
Thanks for watching the video
I wanted to ask you on the subject of autoimmune diseases due to pre-existing non-avoidable stress levels, is eczema or singles or hives a symptom of the autoimmune system being attacked?
I leave the blinds open at night, so the natural sun comes in and wakes me up in the morning because I have too much trouble regulating sleep.
It’s awesome, that you are doing that. If you are interested in videos on sleep, you can find them at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=sleep
OMG so do I!
I have the teeth grinding and stomach upset. Also sleep problems. And of course I am frequently dysregulated.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with these difficult symptoms. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Teeth grinding, stomach upset, sleep problems, and feeling frequently dysregulated can be really challenging to manage.
These symptoms are often signs of stress or trauma, and it's important to take care of yourself. Here are a few gentle suggestions that might help:
1. Mindfulness and Relaxation: Gentle practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or mindfulness meditation can sometimes help calm your nervous system and ease stress.
2. Sleep Hygiene: Try to establish a calming bedtime routine, such as reading a book or taking a warm bath, and aim for a consistent sleep schedule to improve your rest.
3. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular, gentle exercise like walking, yoga, or stretching can help reduce stress and improve your overall mood.
4. Seek Support: Talking to a therapist who understands trauma can be incredibly beneficial. They can offer techniques and support tailored to your needs.
5. Balanced Diet: Eating nutritious foods and staying hydrated can support your body in managing stress better.
6. Express Yourself: Writing in a journal or expressing your feelings through art can be a soothing way to process emotions.
Which strategy do you think would work best for you.
Remember, it's okay to seek help, and taking small steps toward self-care can make a big difference. You don't have to go through this alone, and there are people who care and want to support you. You can also use my AI to find put more tips and tools on support someone with PTSD cPTSD and trauma: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Do you have some advice for a couples where both suffer from CPTSD?
Yes I would like that too please. I feel like we set each other off.
Imo I feel like you should heal before going into another relationship because it can make it hard on the person your dating
Yes, you are right. Sometimes trauma can happen to you while you are in a relationship, though. Thank you so much for watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=ptsd
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Thank you so much! What tips would you use first to help someone with trauma?
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@@DocSnipes very professional.💯
My Friend have suffered from a SA trauma and I don't know how to help him feel better and come back to life. be a happy person again. it has been one month. and he is still feeling same and tell me he can not forget it, it is still like it was yesterday, I am on long distance and can not visit him because of Visa problem and idk how I can help him forget it. I hope this helps me to treat his trauma, and bring joy and happiness back in his life. I wish all of you quick recovery.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend's experience. Supporting someone who has gone through a traumatic event, especially from a distance, can be challenging. Here are some ways you can help your friend:
Provide Information and Resources:
Share information about trauma and its effects. Sometimes understanding what they are going through can be the first step in healing.
Encourage them to seek professional help. Trauma recovery often requires the assistance of a therapist who specializes in trauma.
Emotional Support:
Be a good listener. Let your friend express their feelings without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can be incredibly healing.
Validate their feelings. Acknowledge that what they are feeling is real and understandable.
Encourage Small Steps:
Help them set small, achievable goals. Successes, even small ones, can promote a sense of competence and empowerment.
Encourage them to engage in activities that used to make them happy, even if these activities don't bring the same level of joy as before.
Create a Safe Environment:
If possible, help them create a safe and empowering environment. This can be their home or any place where they feel secure.
Long-Distance Support:
Use technology to stay connected. Regular video calls, messages, or even sending them something thoughtful can help them feel less isolated.
Encourage them to join online support groups where they can connect with others who have had similar experiences.
Patience and Compassion:
Be patient and compassionate. Recovery from trauma is a process and can take time.
Encourage them to be patient and compassionate with themselves as well.
Remember, while you can provide support, professional help is often necessary for trauma recovery. Encourage your friend to seek therapy and provide them with resources to do so.
Also, feel free to share what you found most useful from the video and, if you're interested in learning more about helping someone with PTSD or want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
❤ thank you this video I forwarded to a few people in my life that are left due to childhood trauma and then for more major TRAUMAS in my adulthood. isolate, I have autoimmune disease. I just found out I have cancer and I don't think I've felt safe my entire life. Only now at 48 years old with health issues that are life-threatening. Do I really take a look at myself and my addictions throughout my life and why. Sometimes I think I'm getting better but just two days ago I've triggered and it took me back to two years ago. The people that knew me before my PTSD. I only have two girlfriends left, but they still struggle to understand as I'm still in a situation where I'm powerless I've been fighting to get out of that situation for three years now I hope that one day I'll be able to find someone who will allow me to do the things that you mention in this video in order to heal
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. Please remember that you're not alone, and there are people who care about you. Also, I'm here to offer support and encouragement. If you have any questions or just want to talk, feel free to reach out. Wishing you strength and healing on your journey and thank you for watching the video and for sharing. Also, here is the video on cancer and mental health: th-cam.com/video/Iqb_916tnPU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=l3PZ4sY0L2g-G-i5
so easy on paper
I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use to help someone with trauma?
@@DocSnipes Run away :?
@@jimmyjames8164 pushing away you mean
I told the women at a breast center that I jump so doing medical procedures like a core biopsy of the breast is important to let them know that you’re jumpy, or if your kids are snapping a table up in the back of a Highlander then that can make you jumpy, so you need to let them know ahead of time because it does trigger you make you jump in when you’re driving a vehicle that’s not a good idea
Yes, it’s important to let them know that those things startle you.Thanks for watching, Anitra!
Thank you for this!
I learned a lot of new things but also feel validated in my efforts to support my loved one.
You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching
I have CPTSD and was married for 30 years to a spouse who has BPD and I don't recommend it. Tip one: Don't do it. Tip two: Don't do it. You can't fix broken & this was not for a lack of trying. Even though we divorced over a decade ago and have not so much as communicated with one another since then, they still suffer with the same condition & so do I. The symptom that caused the most distress was their ability to lie and manipulate the system in order to cause the most damage to my reputation as possible. The only way to cope was to finally terminate the relationship. Cheers
That’s awful and I am sorry it happened to you. You can find more videos on CPTSD at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
I was a volunteer firefighter and severely injured I fear hospitals and sirines make me remember what happened 😔its hard to deal with at times I've witnessed friends brothers die I can't go in the fire station without breaking into tears hospital's make me uneasy because I died 4 times because of my injuries I can't talk about this sorry I'm remembering now
Thanks so much for you service. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
It feels very burdensome to the ones I love
It’s terrible when someone with PTSD lashes out and falsely accuses when they are triggered over a normal thing. Inflexible thinking and impulses creating lash outs that are destructive.
I agree, it can be really challenging when someone with PTSD reacts strongly to a trigger. It's important to remember that their reactions are often not about the current situation, but a result of their past experiences.
@@DocSnipes absolutely. Emotional flashbacks. …. Thank you Doc, you are a true gem.
I don’t want to go anywhere bc people will ask how I’m doing and I hate lying. But I don’t want to tell the whole story.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I knew someone with ptsd and their behaviour was all over the place. 1 day treating me so well, next day changing again. Trust became an issue due to their indecive behaviour as well sometimes. I feel i didnt know her symptoms well enough to understand the problem might not even be me
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
My anger often reminds my wife of her father.
They say we marry our parents.
People with CPtsd tend to react to their neurotypical spouses as their abusers once they are triggered. They brain works that way. I feel like giving up every time I tried to explain what makes me angry. He lashes out and blame me for everything just like narcissists in his life did to him.
@@grey_nyc I hear ya.
I am sorry about that
Well u know what u need too work on to bless her 😊
I hope that people understand that it's the central nervous system that goes into overdrive. For me my mind knows I am good. However my body is screaming fight or flight. Chest vibration is exponentially rapid. That example alone will drive one into heart issues at a young age. Calm the nerves. My Go To Is Epsom Salt baths to stop the over active nerves in a pinch. ❤
You’re absolutely right-when trauma activates the central nervous system, it can feel like your body is completely out of sync with your mind. Even if you rationally know you're safe, the physical sensations can be overwhelming, like that rapid chest vibration you described. It's great that you've found something that works for you-Epsom salt baths can be incredibly soothing for calming those overactive nerves and creating a moment of relief.
In addition to that, deep breathing exercises or grounding techniques can also help slow down the body's stress response in real-time. Finding multiple go-to tools can be really helpful when your nervous system is in overdrive, so it’s all about discovering what works best for you!
For others watching, what have you found most helpful when managing a triggered nervous system? Did any of the tips in the video resonate with you? Feel free to share your thoughts!
@@DocSnipes baths or salt baths are similar to what is used for my fiance. She likes to take a cold shower to shock her body
Thank you so much gor this one, I always respected that my worst symptoms were when I was in my own house. Never liked domestic life, do you have suggestions to minimize triggers at home.
You’re so welcome, April. I am sorry you don’t feel safe in your own house. What are those triggers related to?
@@DocSnipes I feel safe and thank you. Just depleted, unproductive, and depressed. My best self is spent outside the hone and would love to reverse that.
I guess it’s hard to instantly build trust without a little gaslighting.
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My tone can be a BIG TRIGGER.
Thank you for sharing this-it’s a great insight to have. Tone of voice can indeed be a significant trigger for someone with PTSD or cPTSD, as it can unconsciously remind them of past traumatic experiences. A raised, sharp, or even neutral tone may be interpreted as threatening or dismissive, depending on their history. Becoming aware of this is a powerful first step, as it allows you to adjust and communicate in a way that feels safer and more supportive.
Softening your tone, being mindful of your volume, and using calm, reassuring language can make a big difference. Asking for feedback, like, “Is this tone okay for you?”, can also help build trust and show you care about their comfort.
If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it to support others in navigating trauma and relationships. What strategies have you found helpful for managing communication? I’d love to hear your thoughts! For more indepth information on addressing triggers and all things mental health, please use DocSnipes.Com/Clones.
doc-WHAT ABOUT SEVERE PTSD AND TBI FROM COMA AND 3 OPEN EXPLORATORY SURGERIES WITH BODY PARTS REMOVED...2 MARRIAGES AND LOTS OF TERMINATED RELATIONSHIPS...LOVE TO HEAR YOUR TAKE...OR PERSPECTIVE...VIP THE TBI AND PTSD SEEM TO DANCE ME INTO DIFFERENT REALITIES THAN MY EX PARTNERS-MANYTHXS looking forward to your presentation live...if i can remember...oh yea that tbi thingie
Are you seriously asking for advice on such complex topics on youtube from somone who hasnt even assessed you?
assesment or not--expertise is about the knowledge and experience of the practicioner and the factors known on the relative issues...it would be hard to assess both physical and mental unless one is a surgeon-the physical complications post trauma surgery can and do linger and in my experience act as triggers...the coma aspects are extended complications..was just asking for baseline response...@@scarred10 i find that when you have issues with complications especially ptsd and tbi-s associated--those scars and removed body parts and continued inflammation internally--its a circle-viscous -and a ley dr will have a different softer approach toward resolution than would a military war surgeon..ptsd is a high stress state-as above so below...we are biochemical entities..inflammation infections and psychological manifestations thru the ptsd stress perceptions just agrivates and magnifies the ptsd..as you can tell by above which is written at 4am and another better awake and ready kinda start of another day...take care @scarred...how deep are those scars and is the tissue at the suture lines internally hard between the fingers like a cord braided...oh well morning and best of days to you my friend
OMG thank you so much for this video. It describes my actions to a t. I also suffer from ADHD and autism.
The superintendent at the blind School bullied and harrassed me. I kept telling him that I did not feel safe and I kept asking for a union representative and he kept denying it.
I asked three times and he kept bullying me over and over and over. Are publicly requested his notes and he kept saying that I was emotional about the situation and he could not understand why I was afraid of him. I finally got up and ran out of the room after telling him multiple times that I feared him.
I have read his notes hundreds of times and this video makes it clear why I did not feel safe.
He is a superintendent with a psychology degree and he does not understand my behavior. He also demoted me and then wanted to fire me because of my behavior. He refused to put me on FMLA when I told him I was having a mental health breakdown due to my toxic workplace.
Thanks again for what you do.
You’re most welcome
I have all of them
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Any tips for someone with silent BPD(me) trying to help their partner who has cPTSD? Bit hard when the cPTSD parter literally helps the silent BPD one with exactly what needs to be done but dissociation comes into play because of previous flashback of cPTSD partner. Feels like a vicious circle that never ends. Thank you.
If you prefer to be alone and not engage with the people in your environment, are you considered to be avoidant?
If so, is that considered to be a problem that needs changing? If so, then that goes completely against the advice of abuse experts who tell us to cut off the abusive perpetrators and everyone connected with them.
Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD) is a Cluster C personality disorder characterized by excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g. self-imposed social isolation) as a maladaptive coping method.[1] Those affected typically display a pattern of extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and rejection, a belief that one is socially inept or personally unappealing to others, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for it.[2] It appears to affect an approximately equal number of men and women.[3]
As, Elizabeth Sarver pointed out, it’s more than simply not engaging with people in your environment.
What have you found most useful from the video?
@@DocSnipes I can't remember what I found useful but I'm sure there was something in the video that was useful or I wouldn't have commented.
I know there are millions of people in my shoes who are disabled with chronic illness and we come off as avoidant but we're not. However, because of how we're abused by others for having invisible disabilities we almost all have CPTSD.
In my case I don't really prefer to be alone as I had stated above, it's that I HAVE to be alone or be abused.
Which one would you choose?
yes. i totally agree. I stuggle to meet ppl because i do this very thing even if people are actually very nice.
@@iamsomeone8266same here, leave people message on views, so overwhelmed by socialisation, conversation but also feel lonely loooool the paradox ....
But isolation is a symptoms of cptsd
However I want to focus on myself right now maybe starting some vomuntering to meet people without stressing myself with their expectations
I experience all of these things as someone with cptsd, anxiety and being highly sensitive. The trouble is my partner is both my supporter and the one who causes the most trauma. How do I handle the situation of wanting to avoid reminders by not wanting to watch the same movies as him and feeling bad because it causes him to feel disappointed by not being able to watch the things he wants to watch with me namely rated R movies??? In the end no one is happy because he feels disappointed and missing out and like I shouldn't be so sensitive but I am not okay to endure the triggers just to make him happy either.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you wanting the video. Videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=trauma
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He should understand your situation, bring him to treatment with you next time,he will appreciate a professional opinion more.
I am dealing with a husband that has Cptsd😢 it really makes me feel bad and sad and manythings. Its hard and its a lonely life. He don't want to trust anybody. He has no friends. He just want to be inside the house. Sleeping the whole day. Too lazy and easily gets mad in anything. I didn't know that he has it before we get married. I just found out after 4yrs of getting married to him. I almost end up quiting to our marriage. Please help me what will i do.. he said he dont want to get into medication or treatment anymore.
I am truly sorry you and your husband are struggling with this. Thank you for watching the video.
You can find more videos on cPTSD at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Also, feel free to use my AI for any questions you might have: AllCEUs.com/DocSnipes-AI
I have CPTSD and found this very helpful in knowing what to ask of my partner to help help me. It's hard for me to articulate to him.
I am grateful to have been of service and I appreciate you watching the video. You can use my AI to more for FREE on cPTSD and all things mental health allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I apealed but none to answer and push resposibiltie to my side, I filled the forms on time ,afraid to admised have hearing. I had letter to envidence.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness
I'm SEEING THE DISREGULATION NOW
That’s do awesome! Thanks for watching
Is there a way ptsd can become cured? My mom always leaves the lights on and closes the blinds when she goes to sleep she doesn’t sleep until she knows someone’s gonna be up all night. She blocks a locked door with a stool, bag, and whisk. I’m gonna try to help relieve her anxiety and take on some duty, but by doing so will her anxiety fade? Will she still need her door blocks? Will she still need to leave the light on? Will she still need someone to stay up and watch the house? Or does she need those constants for the rest of her life to feel safe and happy?
Thank you for watching the video. I am planning to do some self help classes on curing PTSD on DocSnipes.com in the near future. The videos on the channel do a great deal when it comes to helping someone with PTSD, too. Here’s the link: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
I need help. I believe my boyfriend has PTSD! His parents used to fight and yell a lot when he was little, so he triggered by any kind of yelling. Well we had a fight and I yelled at him😢 (long story) and now he really won’t talk to me. It’s been a month of back and forth, he gets hot and cold. I don’t think he wants to breakup, I’ve been giving him space. What should I do?! I’m so worried he’s going to leave me! 😢
I am sorry about your video and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to help your boyfriend? Here are more videos on PTSD:
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@@DocSnipes I apologized almost immediately. I also told him he can feel safe around me, I realize he had a traumatic childhood and I will never yell again. I hope he can look past this..
What if she neither communicates what she needs nor is willing to hear my solutions?
It’s really tough when you want to help, but your loved one with PTSD or CPTSD isn’t communicating what they need or open to hearing your suggestions. One thing to keep in mind is that trauma can make people feel like they need to guard their sense of control, so even well-meaning advice can feel overwhelming. Instead of offering solutions, focusing on simply listening and validating their feelings can sometimes create a safer space for them. Phrases like “I’m here for you” or “It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling” show support without pressure.
It’s also worth remembering that they might not know what they need or how to express it. Gently asking questions like, “Is there anything I can do to support you right now?” can be more effective than trying to find solutions.
Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Lastly, take care of yourself too. Being there for someone with trauma is challenging, and you don’t have to have all the answers. Often, just being present and patient can be enough.
I should send this video to my wife.
Thank you for watching the video. Please feel free to share it with anyone else who might benefit from it. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally if you're interested in learning more about PTSD or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
What do you do if both you & your partner have cptsd & one person’s coping mechanism (yelling hurtful things) is the other person’s trigger?
Thank you for watching the video. There are some things you can do:
Communication
Open communication is crucial in this situation. Both partners need to express their vulnerabilities and triggers to each other. The partner who yells hurtful things as a coping mechanism needs to understand how this behavior triggers the other person.
Understanding Triggers
The person who yells should try to identify what triggers this behavior and work on alternative coping mechanisms. They should also be aware that their behavior might resemble someone from the other person's past who caused trauma, even if they don't intend to be violent or hurtful.
Developing Coping Mechanisms
The person who gets triggered by yelling should also develop coping mechanisms for when they get triggered. This could include grounding exercises or other strategies that help them feel safe emotionally and physically.
Seeking Professional Help
Both individuals might benefit from seeking professional help, such as therapy. Therapies like cognitive behavioral therapy or EMDR can be beneficial for individuals with cPTSD. A therapist can also help them develop a safety plan, which involves identifying things that help them feel safe and things that should be avoided.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Both partners should strive to create a supportive environment. This includes being compassionate, understanding, and accommodating to each other's specific needs and triggers. It's also important to respect each other's boundaries and give each other space when needed.
You can watch videos on improving communication at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=communication
You can also watch the video on Healthy Interventions on CPTSD
@@DocSnipes thank you ♥️
At what point when my loved ones reach Treats is it technically abusive towards us I’ve gone as long as 11 days without seeing my spouse while he shot himself in his room to do think that soonest him watch TV read books work on his model airplanes etc. he has abjectly refused for years to seek any sort of treatment that would give him some coping mechanisms at what point do I have to throw my hands up
behind made trubles ,always didn't feel safe
Thank you for watching the video
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I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=ptsd
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Thanks for watching the video
I was abused my whole childhood and I get triggered by anyone that’s bling there gonna make me do something I don’t want to do
Thank you for sharing your experience-it takes courage to open up about something so painful. It’s completely understandable that you’d feel triggered in situations where you sense someone might try to control or pressure you. When you’ve experienced abuse, especially in childhood, your brain and body learn to stay on high alert to protect you from further harm. This is a natural survival response, but it can feel overwhelming and exhausting.
Learning to set boundaries and recognize your triggers are powerful steps toward reclaiming your sense of safety and autonomy. Therapy can be incredibly helpful in this process, particularly trauma-informed approaches like EMDR or somatic experiencing, which can help you process those old wounds and reduce the intensity of your triggers over time. You deserve to feel safe and in control of your life.
If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it-it might provide someone else with the tools or encouragement they need to start their healing journey.
Have you tried any strategies that help you feel grounded or safe when these triggers come up? Sometimes small practices, like deep breathing or grounding exercises, can provide immediate relief. You’re not alone in this, and healing is possible!
@ I’ve never tried therapy but what do you know about psychedelic therapy I’ve heard many people say it’s cured them
@@SftrguugjiijhdhioygffI’m interested in psilocybin also for cptsd, but they are illegal where I am still, I do go to therapy tho and emdr has worked tremendously for me.
I'm in need for a veteran wife group for support in az
Thanks for watching the video. From what I know, there are several groups on that on Facebook.
What tips would you consider using first to help someone with PTSD?
Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
What if they will not talk Just very argumentative. Help
Understanding and Patience
When dealing with someone who is argumentative and unwilling to talk about their trauma, it's important to approach them with understanding and patience. Their argumentative behavior may be a defense mechanism to protect themselves from reliving their traumatic experiences.
Creating a Safe Environment
Creating a safe and calm environment can help reduce their anxiety and make them feel more comfortable. This could involve minimizing potential triggers in their surroundings and ensuring that they feel physically safe.
Non-Verbal Communication
If they're unwilling to talk, consider other forms of communication. This could be through art, music, or writing. These non-verbal forms of expression can provide an outlet for their feelings and experiences.
Professional Help
Encourage them to seek professional help. Therapists and counselors trained in trauma can provide strategies and techniques to help them cope with their symptoms. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) are two evidence-based treatments for trauma.
Self-Care Activities
Encourage them to engage in self-care activities. This could be exercise, relaxation techniques, or hobbies that they enjoy. These activities can provide a distraction from their symptoms and promote overall well-being.
Avoid Force
Avoid forcing them to talk about their trauma. This could lead to further distress and resistance. Instead, let them know that you're there to listen whenever they're ready to talk.
Remember, recovery from trauma is a personal and often long journey. It's important to respect their pace and provide support in ways that they find helpful.
@@DocSnipes They are going through PTSD counseling once every 3 months. Does not seem like enough. Next session October.
Does anyone know if she has a video about how to help someone heal from CPTSD? I completely understand and agree with the importance of making them feel safe. But what about transcending the trauma? I mean, does someone like myself have to keep my fiance wrapped in bubble wrap for the rest of my life and never go on adventures? She has been overactive and angry for over seven years and was the same with her ex-husband for 10 years. Her traumas started years before that. I love her to death but it sounds like there's now healing happening in this video, just the secure partner making changes to accommodate the traumatized partner indefinitely. What about exposure therapy?
Helping someone heal from Complex PTSD (CPTSD) involves a multifaceted approach that includes creating a safe environment, understanding their triggers, and supporting them through various therapeutic interventions. Here are some key points and strategies:
Creating a Safe Environment:
It's crucial to make your partner feel safe and empowered. This involves understanding their vulnerabilities and triggers and working together to create a supportive environment.
Transcending Trauma:
Healing from CPTSD is not just about making accommodations but also about helping the person process their trauma and regain a sense of control over their life. This can involve various therapeutic approaches, including trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness practices, and exposure therapy.
Exposure Therapy:
Exposure therapy can be beneficial for individuals with CPTSD as it helps them gradually face and desensitize to their trauma-related triggers in a controlled and safe manner. This process should be guided by a trained therapist to ensure it is done safely and effectively.
Balancing Support and Independence:
While it's important to provide support, it's equally important to encourage independence and self-efficacy. This means helping your partner take small steps towards facing their fears and building resilience, rather than wrapping them in "bubble wrap" indefinitely.
Self-Care for Caregivers:
Taking care of yourself is vital. If you're not rested and supported, you won't be able to provide the necessary empathy and support for your partner. Ensure you have your own support system and take time for self-care.
Understanding and Addressing Symptoms:
Recognize that symptoms like emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, and hypervigilance are common in CPTSD. These symptoms are a result of the trauma and can be managed with appropriate interventions and support.
For more detailed strategies and insights, you might find these videos helpful:
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I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Also, if you're interested in more videos on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I know this is an old video but my wife of 7 years that it is me and my fault that I make myself stressed and that I can't stand being in crowds and can't stand being at celebrations for a long period of time. And I also as well don't trust people and find many people to be fake and phony. And I just prefer to be inside the warmth and safety of my own home away from others. I'm fine one one but in a group I feel very uncomfortable and judged. I am service connected TDIU 100% by the VA for this. Right now I feel especially judged and unsupported by my wife whenever I'm triggered
Thank you so much for sharing your experience-it takes strength to open up about these challenges, especially when feeling unsupported. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and your feelings of discomfort in crowds and distrust of others are very common responses in PTSD and cPTSD. Your body and mind are working hard to keep you safe after what you’ve endured, and those reactions are not your fault.
Feeling misunderstood by a loved one can be incredibly painful, especially when you’re already managing the weight of trauma. It may help to have an open, calm conversation with your wife during a time when you’re both feeling grounded. You could explain that these reactions aren’t about avoiding her or others but rather your brain’s protective response after trauma. Sharing resources about PTSD with her or involving her in couples counseling with a trauma-informed therapist could also help bridge understanding.
At the same time, it’s essential to prioritize your healing, even when those around you struggle to fully understand it. Practices like grounding techniques, journaling, and connecting with a support group (either through the VA or online) can offer additional validation and coping tools.
If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it so others can better understand trauma responses in relationships. You’re doing the best you can, and it’s okay to ask for the support you deserve. If you’re interested in learning some grounding techniques or ways to communicate these feelings with your wife more effectively or more tips on addressing this, please don’t hesitate to use DocSnipes.com/Clones. You’re not alone in this.
@DocSnipes Thank you also for the kind words Doctor. I am gonna be beginning therapy from a therapist at a vet center on January 15th. I hope I can convince my wife to join me on some of the sessions so that maybe she might be able to understand my limitations better
My wife has had an abusive father.
I am sorry about your wife, Bill. How has the video helped you help her and yourself?
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Your video has given me a deeper insight, knowledge, and understanding about my wife. It has also given me more acceptance.
Damaged beyond repair
I hear you, and those words carry so much pain. It’s common to feel “damaged beyond repair” when dealing with the weight of PTSD or complex trauma, especially when it’s been ongoing. Trauma can impact so many aspects of our lives and our sense of self, making it feel like healing isn’t possible. But, with support, compassion, and the right tools, people often find that even deep wounds can begin to mend over time. Healing is rarely a quick or easy journey, but many who have felt this way have found renewed strength and hope.
Please remember, you don’t have to face this alone. There are people who understand trauma and can walk alongside you in this process. You deserve support, and you’re worth every step of healing.
Have there been any small moments or tools that have brought you a little comfort or peace? Sometimes even the smallest shifts can be meaningful.
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Thank you so much for being here. I am looking forward to seeing you at the premiere of the video.
For me I just don't. I know it's like that but still I'm all ears.
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BIG NO NO . BIG RED FLAG SORRY DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH CPTSD .
Love the person, empathize with the trauma and dislike the behavior
@@DocSnipes sorry but only single mistake and cptsd person will stop even recognise you like you are stranger so we are human not robot we can make mistakes and with cptsd person you can't make even single mistake
I'm always in flight or fight i dont remember accident so all I do is anylize that day over and over its been 5 yrs im fine one day then tripin the next day. I get startled by alot its crazy ill see the person walk in he says hi I say hi then I get startled. Plus with the mild brain trauma it's difficult to control my feelings. I prefer to b alone don't like being people I get over whelmed n confused I've asked every1 I know to help cause I can' buy clothes trouble making decisions and being over whemled by everything in the store. I have every symptom up there. I'm sitting in the car we stopped at stop sign ibsay a car conming down the road I found myself telling myself not going to hit us n 2 secs later I freaked screamed like a girl that the car was going to hit us. Mind u I never saw the car hit me the guy drove sidewalk n speed up n ran me over all I know I was found 50 feet on other side of fence landed my soccer net it was a hit and run. He's threaten me 3 times after that. I don't know why he tried to kill me haven't seen him in 15 yrs. It's been 5years n I am still learning. Are u still learning
I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use to address Trauma? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=trauma
Going from being happy and healthy to a grand mall seizure in an emotional sense, at Pizza 🍕 Hut 🛖
Not sure what that means. Care to elaborate?
13:02 this now makes sense because my husband closes the blinds and curtains and I love the light. It’s probably a trigger for him. 😔