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As someone who has both PTSD and CPTSD, while it describes both fairly accurately, it's too ... removed is the best word I can find. People suffering from it need practical steps, not just to cope with it, but to actually heal from it, and yes, it can be done. I've been to 15 therapists in my life and none recognised it; it was only because I knew something was wrong and kept researching I finally knew what was wrong. The biggest cause of problems we face is dysregulation. The other things are just symptoms of it. Recognising dysregulation, and learning how to catch it before it goes off the charts, and how to soothe it, is KEY. I wish more mental health professions knew this so they can provide meaningful help to their clients struggling with this.
Just read your comment… can empathize with the exhaustion that comes from one after another, after another, etc… help that has mainly just helped me believe stronger with each let down that it’s hopeless. With that then, I believe there are basically three options for me in life, of which two of them I’m not willing to accept… yet. My name’s Jay too. How did you happen to discover the whole dysregulation issue? Just tons of digging? And have you found anyone out there who’s capable of providing therapy for individuals who have such a substantial collection of experiences in their life when compared to most others? I know hardship isn’t comparable so please don’t think me arrogant. It’s just that I’ve sensed lately that I’m really nearing the end of trying to “make it”. I’m exhausted… guess by some miracle, I happened across this video, including your comment. Thanks
amen to that these brainwashers dont want to speak in facts and most of all how do they know their MARKETABLE blanket "solutions" helpm reminds me of the legal system and the domestic violence "resources" available which then rolls over to why dont u leave him? something that NEVER WORKED. this is now a saleable thing and the disconnect is this person and so many has and have cut out human interaction. take good care jay. aloha🤙🏽
@@akaLuptonPittman From one Jay to another ... I just got your comment. Sorry it's taken me so. long to respond. I first learned about dysregulation from the TH-cam channel The Crappy Childhood Fairy. This was after having seen 10+ therapists, none of whom recognised it, or understood CPTSD. She's a starting point for understanding that and a bit more, but only that. She's limited, but a decent place to start. I get it. I was also exhausted from all this, and also felt hopeless. I'd already tried everything people said were the answers: talk therapy, drugs, and EMDR. Looking for answers, and not finding any, IS exhausting. Just living this way is exhausting. I used to describe it as having your foot pressed to the metal on the acceleration pedal, and at the same time on the brake. Not one of the many therapists I saw knew anything about CPTSD, and looking back, it's astounding to me they also didn't recognise how extremely dysregulated I was, or what the cause of it was. That wasn't for the lack of me being open about what was going on, it was their lack of ability to understand and put it together. There is help, you can heal, but it takes time, and learning how to be compassionate to yourself. Sounds easy, but it's not. I wish you the best.
When I was first hospitalized, they diagnosed me with bipolar II, second time=MDD, 3rd time=BPD, 4th time= PTSD. I feel the BPD and bipolar were misdiagnoses as I don't feel my symptoms fully align with those But I have PTSD from a car accident but I feel my symptoms 100% align with those described as C-PTSD. I know labels are not important but when it comes to treatment and medication, it can definitely help. I wish I had gotten trauma-informed therapy sooner.
No surprise. My wife has been going to a psychiatrists for 30+ years. Just 2.5-3 years ago she was finally properly diagnosed with CPTSD by a licensed professional counselor. A counselor I found for myself who specializes in anger management. We quickly figured out that I was so overwhelmed from living with a person with CPTSD for 28 years without a proper diagnosis or any understanding of why she kept making the same mistakes and bad decisions over and over year after year, having major health problems, depressive episodes...that I was overwhelmed, flooded, and unable to process my emotions in a healthy way anymore. We had been to another counselor before who was of no help. The psychiatrists she had been seeing were of no help, probably caused more harm with the drugs they prescribed. Often a person needs to try many different professionals in this field before finding one who is really good and knows what questions to ask. Unfortunately a lot of these "professionals" have given into the medical industrial complex and are now only concerned with billing for patience visits and prescribing the latest drugs. This new counselor has saved our marriage and my wife has been able to finally start the heeling process and we are making some real progress. Out counselor recommended The Body Keeps the Score. That book was a huge revelation. Also Loving Someone with PTSD is another book that has been a huge help to my understanding of what is happening with my wife. I wish you all the best!!!
I didn't know what I had until a month ago. I learned what I had because someone else has ptsd. When I talked to that random stranger they told me have that and I didn't know what it was but I was like oh ok. After I decided to look into it I right away realized I have cptsd. I think doctors try to avoid that maybe? Or it's something that doesn't get talked about much. I told my doctor several this about me. He gave me anxiety medication and suggested marriage counseling. Since that time I have only got a lot worse and I don't even know how I'm going to solve this. I haven't slept in the longest time ever. I self medicate now every day. And I'm at the end of my rope. The only person that would even care is probably my wife and I don't even want to talk to her about it. Now, for the first time I'm forming other friendships with other woman. I haven't cheated. I try to keep it as friends. So that I have someone to talk to. It makes things less complicated when you know someone doesn't owe you anything but they are just there. I'm worried that I'm going to destroy everything that I've managed even while having cptsd.
@@waydwalker3674I am so impressed by the degree to which you stood by your wife in such an understanding and compassionate way. I've not been able to come across that myself. I've been single now over 30 years. Yet at this point I'm pretty enlightened and know mindful practices and quick remedies that regulate me or re-regulate me. Ican even catch myself and stop on the way to a quick 100 and actually redirect myself.😊 It's been a long journey and I would have given anything to have that special someone stand by me and help see me through it, but I just kept attracting abusers and violent men. So crazy. I'm pretty sure I am done with that pattern, thankfully. I'm very happy for both you and your wife that you're getting measurable help and that it sounds like you're coming out the other side. That's wonderful! I'm only about half way thru this video and it's further informing me about the chgs that CPTSD have likely done to my brain which I've long suspected and wondering whether or not it can be fixed. My traumas are many and started very young. I find myself today with a diagnosed neurological syndrome (no real surprise given my history of traumas) that has put me off work - a strange blessing. Though I've less money than ever to live on I'm finally getting to do a deep dive into my traumas with a therapist who actually understands me and my CPTSD. I thought I'd have to be one of the forever walking wounded. Kind of gratefully, current challenges are causing old wounds to resurface where i can work them out without also having to hold down a job. It's been a sacrifice of the flesh and creature comforts, but God is good and I guess His timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will come. Enter this video. It's not the first time I've heard about CPTSD, but it is the first time I've heard it discussed exactly this way. I hope and pray you and your wife's next half will be smooth sailing and more enriched for knowing what you've come through - together. Still together! Wow!!! Good job! And good job on realizing you needed help yourself after being your wife's support for so long. This may sound strange, bc I know I don't know you, but since you seen to have a good spirit, if you wouldn't mind, if you have any "good man" angel connections, will you please consider saying a prayer for this girl of 64 years that she find a patient, kind and loving man? 🤗Maybe you're the best person to know what character traits to ask for in a man that stays. He won't come away empty handed and he will be twice blessed for it. All the best to you and your wife! 🙌🏼🙏☝
@@SexyBulldozerManI think the real payoff is in being honest with your wife. Sorry. I know you didn't ask, but it's easy for a stranger to listen and yet easier for one of you to slip one night. :/ It might feel safe talking to female friends but you want to have the breakthrough with your wife and get through it together with HER, building trust even if scary. I wldn't want you losing what it seems you have. And see if you can determine what you need from her to help you move forward. It's hard to ask for help, but many of us don't ask for help and never knew we could bc even if we had asked no one wld have been there for us. But if you're ever going to take a chance on trusting someone maybe you can try a traumas therapist (CBT Trained) who can bring your wife in for a visit to help broach the topic to your wife if you don't quite have the words just yet. Personally, I wldnt want to be the wife who found out my husband felt more comfortable confiding in strangers than he did with me, but maybe she's more allowing or more secure that way. Idk. If the meds aren't working maybe have them lessened or ask for new ones or get off of them all together, but wait till you have another method of support b4 you try that in case they're helping you more than you realize. Get some reliable, professional support first. CPTSD IS something I worked on in safe 12-step mtgs (with strangers) like CODA and ACA. I just knew I cldnt do meds as I live alone and certain meds can give ya suicidal thoughts and I can hardly take my vitamins regularly (like many previously traumatized people) so meds was too big a gamble for me plus I don't like being the medical industry's guinea pig as mental health drugs are a crap shoot. Every patient is different and unique. So I went with counseling and 12-step mtgs and fitness. The mtgs are free and you will find others with similar backgrounds/traumas/stories and that really helps to know you're not alone, and to see how others deal/dealt with their traumas. You can get a sponsor or a fellow traveler get in a phone list and call others to chat and join a small grp if you want to work the 12 steps together. It's the first place I recall going where I didn't feel judged. Just acceptance - which was a very new experience for me. I was still afraid to tell the whole truth of how I felt inside about myself, but what a relief when I let it all out, little by little, and no one ran away or dismissed me or gaslighted or diminished my experience. You will see the growth and the hope for change in others, and yourself. Over time, the next thing you know you're changing and improving and sharing hope of your own to others. You just have to stick with it. The program works when you work it. It's been proven many times over. You just try different mtgs til you find a fit for you. Then try to do 30 mtgs in 30 days. But don't worry about doing it perfectly. It's ok. When you get that 30-day chip you really know you're on the road to somewhere better and to a better you. You become the parent to your inner child that you never had. You get a re-do. Then in time you can incorporate meditation or mindful breathing into your everyday life or walks in nature or other activities that bring you back in alignment with your true self, as you discover who that is, and you're united with parts of you that you maybe haven't seen or heard from for years. :) All the best to you! Someone once said courage is feeling afraid and doing it anyway. Just take one step at a time. You'll find your way. Oh, and if you don't believe in God, you can call it a higher power, nature, the universe, the spirit or whatever works for you. Best to you!
@@SexyBulldozerMan because the C for complex is not in DSM V (or IV) and straight PTSD doesnt cover all the symptoms. As long as you find effective treatment, the diagnosis technical name doesn't matter
Some days I just wish it was all over (this dysregulated feeling) and I could go back to feeling like a human again but then I remember that I've got 20+ years of trauma to recover from. I'd say that I'm in my second year of healing. I cut off everything and everyone. I'm doing this for me.
Discovering CPTSD explained EVERYTHING that was wrong with me/my life, and realising my negative 'character traits' weren't character flaws at all but rather the effects of trauma stress and the Fearful Avoidant attachment style it created. I am currently three parts into 'The Body Keeps The Score' and despite having enough childhood abuse to score 8-9/10 on the ACES test I have not found it triggering at all, even though the graphic descriptions of abuse and neglect made me cry at the injustice and suffering. On the contrary, I am finding this book freeing and empowering, as it is putting all the pieces of the puzzle together for me, and lifting the shame. I've been attending the TRF book club while reading the book and many other CPTSD sufferers report the same thing - that reading this book has been life-changing for them. So I will have to disagree that people with trauma stress should not read this book, unless they are extremely fragile. This video was useful too, with a few details I wasn't aware of. Thank you.
I read about 150 pages and found it too difficult to keep going. It did teach me some things though. I've since been reading the recovey chapters and Pete Walker's from surviving to Thriving.
6 months ago, I was diagnosed with CPTSD. I endure an abusive father, bullied most of my school life, sexually assulted in high school, had a horrible relationship and found a loved one dead. It is so hard to deal with it. And for a long time, I couldn't find help. Though therapy is helping, but I'm still struggling. I'm still having a hard time regulate my emotions, from being defensive, crying spells and low self esteem I just want all of this to stop and be able to feel normal. Because I do not feel normal and struggle to be positive
I remind folks that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to rage when you need to rage, or cry when you need to cry, or whatever. Our society tries to promote toxic positivity. Nobody is positive all the time, except fakes and psychopaths. It's okay to hurt. It's okay to take time out for yourself, and lie down for a two-hour nap if that's what your body tells you it needs. If you have a job, check to see if they have an EAP program, which usually provides a free series of counseling. I've heard that therapies like EMDR, tapping and neurofeedback can be helpful. Not sure how insurance companies can cover those.
Tapping videos EFT on you tube have really been helping me over the last 2 years. Many different people have videos, and I've been amazed at how much more they've helped than all the terrible therapists I've been to did. It's just for you; I know there are introductory books about it too. I find it hard to have to talk about horrible, shaming things with therapists; they're not a friend, and sometimes I didn't feel valued or cared about, just seen as part of a paycheck. TH-cam has been so much better for me! I really Like Tapping with Brad; he's like a wonderful older brother, or loving uncle, cousin, some positive male figure like I never had. There are women who do tapping videos also; take a look and I hope it helps! Be blessed!
I spent the first 50 years of my life living in neglect, trauma. Through many years of going through counseling and have come to the conclusion "normal" does not exist. Healthy exists and healthy is something I can identify especially through programs such as this one.
I loved that book and People of the Lie. It was very comforting for someone to not excuse the abuser, for being 'mentall ill' - I don't care. Being mentally ill does NOT give anyone license to abuse others! It was also fascinating to realize that so many 'pillars of the community' are narcissistic, and are 'pillars' because they need to show people that they are a 'good person' but have no way of knowing how to actually 'be' a good person. My mother and my first love's father were both very involved in the church, and were both extremely abusive.
How um, friendly is the book? My inner child is very sensitive to any bad scenarios that happen to be described in text, as imagined images haunt me for a long long time if it’s graphic enough. I need informative books that will not um, scar me emotionally.
@@tiffanyribbons It is scholarly, written by a noted authority. Don't recall anything that triggered me emotionally. I would recommend it to anyone serious about using the techniques mentioned for recovering from and understanding how the body functions under CPTSD. It focusses on the brain with actual photographs. Gives suggestions such as yoga and theatre work, the premise being that it is stored in the physical body and the physical ways to recover.
I finally have herd the truth about my mental health, all this resonates true with me, it even sounds like a true discrimination of me. CPTSD is the first diagnosis that actually makes sense.
@@charlotteburdine192 oh, honey, I so wish I could help you know and understand with your whole being, mind, body, and soul, that you are absolutely not worthless. Indeed, Charlotte, you are intrinsically, and inherently valuable!! (priceless even!) There are many, many precious, lovable folks who are suffering/enduring, like we. I’m telling you, my love, there absolutely, positively is help, hope, and healing available❣️ please hear me…From conception, forward, many events/experiences have contributed to your beliefs, as well as your physiology/biology… It is not too late to have the life you’ve dreamed of; love, joy, peace, purpose, freedom/autonomy, and belonging are available to you, to me, for our well-being, our enjoyment. You are in an excellent place with Doc Snipes! Listen to all of the videos provided on her TH-cam channel; any title that catches your eye, or seems potentially relevant to you! Also, Dr.Gabor Mate❣️ He is beyond brilliant! Compassionate, intelligent, wise… If only I could bring him home, to teach, help, and heal all of the people I love… Search for him on TH-cam. Irene Lyon is an excellent source of information and exercises/applications to promote our healing at the very root of our “stuckness”. One thing that I learned, of immense importance for wholesome, healthy, joyful existence… Do not withdraw/isolate yourself, no matter what… (Even chatting with a clerk at the grocery store causes helpful things to happen in our physiology, our bodily systems, contributing to our healthy mind, body, and soul❣️ God bless you, Charlotte. (I believe, as well, that God’s Word, the Bible, contains all truth needed for the abundant life we long for). The understanding of “what”, “how“, and “why” that I find within the teachings of Mate, Snipes, and Lyons Is of significant value to me.
Please get a doctor's opinion. One should never self diagnose from a youtube video, and assigning yourself that label can cause you to feel very hopeless, which is the last thing you need. I don't doubt at all that you have it, but you need to see a doctor to get treatment, which DOES help! EMDR is working for me but there are multiple treatment options. Best wishes.
All of the above and then some. I do agree, with each time you go through the same trauma it becomes harder to "recover" to heal. Each time it takes away more of you, of the person you are. Though it's always there it gets harder to push it behind and leave it behind. You become less able to bounce back from the damage. Each time you become less and less of yourself. It agressivly invades your thoughts until it's all consuming. Because now your waiting, dreading and preparing for the next blow. All while your still living the pain from the prior. The worst thing though is when you look in the mirror and what you see is terrifying. That once beautiful, strong, witty, intuitive person with a mischievous spark in there eye is no longer looking back. Instead this unrecognizable sad being, that suddenly looks years past its age, that looks afraid and drained of its strength, holding on and hoping, this pittiful lifeless thing is looking back.
@@bmst6162 that's OK, I'm 58 and barely hanging on....we can DO this. If we weren't tough as nails, we would not have survived so, nowhere to go but UP....
I feel you. It is said anxiety is worrying about something that 99.9% won't happen, but some of us DO go from one nightmare to another with no time to recover in between. I'm tentative with EVERYTHING I do, everyone I speak to. The moments of joy and peace are brief even though I have more than enough to be grateful for - and I am. Sending you love and understanding.
we 'hang on' to a diagnosis because it explains our suffering, pathology, panic or anxiety attacks, fears, flashbacks, pains and suicidality when we have no security otherwise
I totally agree with you about this. For me not just to tell someone else it is very important for me to understand myself and why I have been feeling so horrible for 40 years with a regular counselor who knows nothing about Trauma 😢. And people in my life now or before obviously can't understand how rough this is.
You mentioned the word relax and I just realized the reason I hate it so much it because it feels like an invalidation for my current feelings (granted now I understand that though my feelings are valid, they may be arising from a false premise based on my thoughts or beliefs) but I have always hated it as well as its variations, take it easy, stop overreacting, chill etc etc. Thank you for this and I hope you can do some more videos on cptsd
I have CPTSD for 46 years.. The willingness to have a relationship if any kind I almost completely impossible..I let any person or person's only get so close , I don't feel that I'm capable of loving anyone..,I don't what to hurt anyone the way I've been hurt.. I know how the ending of the start of things will turn out .. It's okay to realize your reality of the failure of all relationships.When you feel most people to say it happened 46 years,you have to move on a let go .. Yeah No!!! I miss kissing and cuddling and togetherness or intamicy, sex isn't that important to me.. Nightmares every day and night, terror's every day and night, talking and fighting in my sleep...I don't want to harm anyone knowing what that feelings can become. ... I'm 58 now and Haven't had any relationship in 8 years, it's not okay knowing the ending to hurt other people..My depression for many years has been deep down depression, lately in the past 6 months I'm just a emotional mess, crying over what some may say why or what are you crying about? I have no answers but its me ,like it or not ,it's me ...
You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor. -You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search: allceus.com/Psychology_Today_Therapist_Search -If you are in crisis, there is a national Suicide Hotline available at: allceus.com/Suicide_Prevention_Lifeline -There is a Domestic Violence hotline at: allceus.com/Domestic_Violence_Hotline OR Dial 911 for assistance in the U.S. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I had an epiphany this early morning. I avoided good people, and attracted abusers, because I was taught through trauma and abuse that Danger is Safe and Safe is Dangerous. The one time I had someone safe who truly loved me, my narcissistic mother figure and her flying monkey eldest son (my brother) destroyed our connection, in more ways than I can say here. I was told that he was evil, and that my 'family' who 'loved' me were good. So, years later, when I keep wondering why I can only seem to attract users, abusers, cheaters, etc. and a good guy comes along, I fear being with him....because, the last time I was with a good guy, my life was turned inside out and upside down, and my subconscious was terrified that I would be a destructive force in his life. So I rejected him, and carried on with more users, abusers, cheaters, et. al. Because they were 'safe' - meaning, my mother-figure would NOT abuse me if I was already being abused by someone else. Until today. That sh** stops today.
I had similar experiences of having toxic friend groups, it’s not something easy to recover from and it really messes up your sense of self. Hope you can get better ❤
I have complex PTSD from emotional abuse and I have PTSD from being stabbed in the chest with a kitchen knife. I can tell you the only thing that brought me true relief. Jesus. John 3:16. God bless everyone :)
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This is the best description of CPTSD I've ever seen. I was abused as a child for 4-5 yrs and had so much crap in my life i lived in continual hypervigilance and was going insane for 45 yrs. The issue was I couldn't remember 90% of it, just big black spaces for years. I've said "until my diagnosis my personality was CPTSD" so many times but this is the first time I've heard it described like that, thank you!!!! I thought it was just how I was not what many people get. This is me 100%.
I grew up in a very dangerous neighborhood where I was shot at multiple times. Got in many many fights and even watched people almost beaten to death and drugged with pcp when I was 13 . I’ve had such a hard time understanding what is wrong with me as a adult until as of late
💥 35 plus years in therapy, psychiatrist,....have had almost EVERY DIAGNOSIS, BUT THIS. and I , after ACCIDENTALLY discovered this page,. Not only Did I DIAGNOSE myself, I am NOW, at 50 FINALLY, SEEKING the CORRECT ways to professionally HEAL AND CREATE,,,," MY CHOSEN MINDSET" THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS
It seems very dysfunctional that CPTSD is still not included in the DSM-5. It is so serious, yet will continue to be misduagnosed and ignored . I wonder why it is not included? Do the people making these decisions have our best interests at heart? Or do they not want to think about severe trauma any more than the rest of society ? They are supposed to be better than that . Or is it because they can't find a cure, seeing as the response to trauma is normal? Or is it that insurance companies don't want to pay for treatment? Whatever the reason, it is reprehensibke .
It’s hard to measure that’s why. Or at least why I suspect. A lot easier to get academic funding for other disorders since you can prove effectiveness of treatment easier. Ex: heart rate went down ____ which proves our anxiety med works!
Well, I have CPTSD. I read many of the responses from others on here. I am so sorry for all you have been through on here. I had to move 1500 miles away from the narcissists who caused me to get this. It has been five years. I am in the middle of going back now. I will be there in about two weeks. I would say the worst part of still having this is the constant fear I have of something crazy happening all of a sudden. I am trying to reason myself out of this fear. Please don’t tell me to get therapy. I tried many times. Most therapists have no idea what CPTSD is. My heart ❤️ is with all of you who have this condition.
I have c-ptsd (and bpd) & these videos have helped me so much, especially since 'graduating' from therapy... helps keep me on track. Thank you so much for what you do.🙏🏾🙂
Seems like cptsd is the cause of all the dysfunctional attachments in relationships that can be generational as well. Is that true? If so, that’s a significant portion of society that would benefit from EMDR and trauma therapy. Sad that it is not already recognized in DSM and that insurance generally does not cover therapy however will pay for anti-depressants. Thank you for your outstanding videos! You enlighten so many.
So they pay to get you into a veggie instead of investing in therapy wich is the only solution to go to the roots of tthe trauma . This society is so wrong and realise is just a buisness
"the word relax can be triggering because their abuser used to use it" that was such an eye opener for me! My x kept telling me to be thankful they (him and his mom) don't throw me out to the street (in a new country where I couldn't speak the language, with a newborn) and now I always just get anxiety when I'm expected to do "thankfulness exercises"
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. If you’re interested in videos on ptsd, you can find them at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Wow! I’ve been practicing IFS for quite a while. Didn’t know it had a name 😄 I visualize myself holding myself as an infant, fully enjoying her presence, taking her to the park and play dates and showing her how precious she is in my eyes 💜 I would have loved to have a beautiful green eyed strawberry blonde daughter like me. So I’ve been giving her the love and cherishing that is never got💜💜💜💜
I found an old book called Healing The Child Within. Worth ordering and reading it and journaling your memories that surface and your responses to them. Therapeutic!
I lived in a very hostile city during the lockdowns and riots two years ago. I lived within a few miles of serious and constant destruction, which lead toward my current symptoms. God willing, I can make it through this rough period of my life. 🙏👍
You speak so well, thank you. I was extremely traumatized at school ages 12-16 by a best friend and what I like to call "the bystanders" with a barrage of vicious verbal abuse and disregard for my feelings. I had other traumas before those nasty girls, such as child abuse, and a seriously mentally unwell parent whilst the other was neglectful. I feel like the majority of my life I've been ignored and isolated with heaps of verbal abuse. I've got a few happy moments but not many to be honest. I was diagnosed with C-ptsd along with some co-morbidities, early last year. I'm coming up to 40 soon, but I don't feel regret that it's seemingly taken so long for me to address the C-ptsd. I wasn't ready to heal in my in my teens or 20's. I've only had awareness of my inner constitution being related to my traumatic experiences a few months ago. Since this diagnosis, I've come to the conclusion that I'm not particularly weird, weak or broken. I suffered great traumas that could've happened to anyone and they would've reacted in similar ways. My responses were the best I could manage at the time and I was a child when most of my traumas happened, so I'm no longer ashamed of those trauma responses. Healing is a process and my heart and mind are starting to process everything now.
Whew. This is me. To the core. I kept getting the BPD, but that’s was not it. I’m constantly in fear of insecurity, in every way possible! Thank you for your work. I started this work on my own, with help of drs I’ve met with at conferences out in school. This is it. Thank you for the treatment options.
Thank you Doc Snipes for presenting the detailed rundown on Complex PTSD. I have CPTSD and your explanation (by characterizing the symptoms) reconfirmed my suspicions. Mine was the result of an older sibling, 21 years of daily beatings since 10 months of age. Then random nightly strangulation since age 7 (for 15 years) while sleeping. Both parents from broken homes did not protect me from the abuse so, (as you mentioned) I developed numerous harmful self-protection mechanisms (that are involuntary today); the hyper-vigilance, depression, anxiety, inability to trust others, fear of death in any new environment (and so on). Through much prayer, God has delivered me from a great deal but, there still is considerable "hidden baggage" affecting my daily life. Over the years, it has been very difficult to actually find a therapist that is helpful. Another deception is our single point of view; we grow up assuming what we experience is normal thus, most of my findings have occurred over the past 20 years. To end on a positive note: I have observed that most of us suffering with this condition are primarily kind-hearted and caring people so, all is not bad.
I've started to gather my tribe, as it were, and slough off the chaff. I have decided that I now choose my 'family,' not biology. I choose my friends, not a sense of obligation or a need to fulfill their needs. I choose my partners, not my trauma or subconscious. We kindhearts must stick together, to defeat the demonic attacks all around us.
9:55 meditation is NOT recommended for everyone. For dissociatives , meditation can even be one of the causes of it, often forced meditation especialy, and so it does only harm to someone trying to heal. Anyone subjected to coercive control techniques previously or currently will/most likely be harmed meditating until healed unless they have dissociative parts specifically wanting to meditate..[ however should be done with caution since other parts could be effected negatively outside of the awareness of parts participating in meditation]. EMDR is also not recommended for people with dissociative altered parts and causes severe distress, it is not the way to achieve integration in memory and can and does backfire on the traumatized multiple.
I don’t know what to do my anxiety disorders are way too severe and all my mental disorders. It’s torture 24/7 every single day non stop, and impossible to handle. There’s nothing that stops my severe anxieties no matter what I do (+I have a weird sleeping disorder) and I can’t handle anti-depressants due to side effects such as sexual(I already suffer with that part) and numbness side effects.
You describe it better than any of the countless people I've sought help from, so grateful its finally starting to be understood so appropriate strategies for help can be made available
I did find The Body Keeps the Score to be very triggering and disregulating, but it also prompted me to get real help as I realized I needed a Sherpa to guide me through my own traumas safely.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching videos on the channel. I am truly grateful. Here are more videos on PTSD: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
I stay away from certain types of people. The types of people that trigger my over the top reactions are bad people anyway. I never should have been around these people in the first place but life happens. It's sad that I can't be around my own family members. When I was young I would hope that things would get better but it always ended up with me getting hurt. I would stay away for months until I felt ok and then I would go back and try again. I would forgive and give another chance just to end up hurt, betrayed again. I finally decided that I couldn't waist months of my life getting over being traumatized just to go back and it all happen again. When I went no contact from my family and others in my life, I got better and stayed better. Now I'm careful to spot the same type of people early on and keep a safe distance from them for my own good. I noticed that I can't be around drunken or dopey people. I end up freaking out because of the things they do. Most of the time it's them trying to get me involved in their drama. They want me to rescue them from something or they betray me somehow. I notice the reoccurring theme now, it took me a while to catch on. I should have know this right from the start but this started when I was a child I guess and didn't know any different. I knew something was wrong but I thought it was me, I thought that next time I would have a loving family that supported me. No way, it will never happen. I had to grieve the loss and get better and stay better. It's sad because they say I should forgive and give them another chance and I should let the past go.... it's always something that I am doing wroung, something that is wroung with me... that's the part that makes me feel crazy. It is so hard for me to say that there is nothing wroung with me and accept that it's them who are abusive, and I can't handle it. They all can get drunk and forget about what ever happened but I can't. I am the one who has to suffer and remember cuz I'm not drunk.
I found out I had CPTSD about 4 years ago when I began trauma informed therapy. This has got to be the most concise explanation I have ever heard. I feel so understood. I'm currently feeling flooded with so many self hating feelings. I worked today so I did the best I could to get through the day by hiding away in my cubicle because I'm already scared of everyone anyway and being flooded increases that fear to the 1,000th power. Listened to this on my way home. It was very validating and helped me not feel so ashamed for my lack of functioning today. 😪
I appreciate you watching. What would you say was your favorite strategy for coping with cPTSD? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
Thank you Doc Snipes! living with this condition is near on impossible. You described and understand it beautifully breath fresh air as help for complex post traumatic stress disorder is Not forthcoming… having taken 38 years for acknowledgement. Wish anyone suffering this hope and that more help becomes available. It’s really not in your head. Thank you for this acknowledgement too Doc Snipes! 🙏
I have children your age. So good your working on this at a young age. I think, the older you get to harder it is....because for me, I was victimized on multiple levels (very little food, house that was beyond filthy, never soap or shampoo or toothbrush and paste. Neglect, and emotional, sexual assaults for years. I was always terrified of closets, weirdo right...women love closets. Come to learn from a sibling that they used to hide me in the closets and pile clothes on me to hide me, I was the baby. We can and will overcome this cruelty we all experienced. And we will be stronger people.
I've always felt a weird sense of kinship toward military veterans. Not because I was enlisted- I wasn't, but because I felt like they were the only ones that understood what I felt, even if neither of us could quite explain what we felt. My trauma came from a very difficult childhood, which influenced me to make terrible choices which greatly affected those that loved me. To realize such malice existed/exists within me, even though I genuinely believed I had "the best of intentions," broke me. It took over a decade to become what I considered functional and a productive member of society, and then a terrible idiopathic disease completely upended everything I worked so hard for. That disease then led to an addiction, which again caused me to bring great harm to those that loved me- again. While I thankfully have been in remission for two years, and clean even longer, the mental trauma is still there. Indeed, the scars of that trauma still exist within what personal relationships I was able to hold onto. Perhaps the worst part is that I feel as though I still am victimizing those around me by not being as capable as I once was- that by virtue of me suffering, they too are suffering alongside me. Whether it's my shorter-than-usual temper my children experience, or the nights I don't go to bed with my wife from fear of horrific and vivid nightmares that leave me and the bed drenched in sweat, or the times I keep to myself in another room so I can cry in peace, or the time I spend ruminating instead of socializing. I am very thankful that I am at least as stable as I am today- that self-harm, or addiction is not among the monsters I contend with. Perhaps there is a way to heal this other than time weathering it away. I don't know. I don't think I want to talk to anyone I know about this, which perhaps is why I'm saying this here to a comment section with full anonymity.
TY for giving away the paths to understanding and healing. I am learning to be my own rescuer after a long life of crippling experiences. I can now take responsibility for my part in the tragedy of my life without the pain of not understanding why I didn’t make better choices. It isn’t all a “me thing.” These things happen to anyone in these circumstances. You are a hero in the story of so many lives by giving your gifts of insight on this platform. I recognized my myself, mother, father, sister, friends in this lecture. I will be more compassionate towards all who fit this model.
After realising that PTSD described one event only and yet I was like a broken record of responses I brought my own cPTSD to a trauma therapist in 2012 when I googled 'chronic and ongoing' ptsd and found a tiny little seed of the concept. This amazing trauma specialist had never heard of it but had the intelligence and compassion and courage to delve into the concept when it was only a single concept posted on the Interwebs.. I am now somewhat of an expert in the field and I can tell you Doctor Snipes your encapsulations and delineations are superb. Well done for the succinct and lucid clarifications ! The DSM is a bloody joke but this still needs to be listed among all the other cash cow diagnoses! I commend your work - thank you!
I have just recently been discovering what CPTSD is. It explains SO much! I’m 68 yo and have been feeling like giving up. I have withdrawn from the world. Except for my husband who doesn’t really ‘get’ me but loves me very much (❤️). I’m very blessed I have him. But the depression I have and withdrawal I desire; the conflicted feelings around my family just makes we feel like I just don’t want to live anymore. I would like to find a good CPTSD therapist; but it’s not even in the DSM
I am sorry you are struggling with cPTSD and I appreciate you watching the video. Please feel free to use my AI to learn more about cPTSD and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I got c-ptsd because of sudden loss and prolonged grief. Well prolonged illness which my mother died from and then trauma 3 mo later my father died suddenly. I also lost my grandmother earlier that year and 4 years before my grandfather died suddenly. I am not the same person I was. My short term memory and anxiety now is terrible.
The cross over between BPD and CPTSD is why I havent received a direct diagnosis. I was adopted into a family where my father is a narcissist, and my mother enabled him to protect herself. I was bullied at school for two solid years, and have had several life threatening accidents and traumas over my life time.
I was diagnosed with BPD years ago, and now I honestly just don’t know. Since I’ve had kids in the last two years my symptoms have gotten better except in regard to their narcissistic father who emotionally/financially/mentally abused me constantly until I made him leave and still struggle with daily. CPTSD really fits me, I was emotionally neglected as a child and the family scapegoat, dealing with this man has shown me how I was gaslighted and emotionally/mentally abused by my mother as well as neglected, and I had never processed that as my mother was the one who pushed the BPD label on me so hard - it HAD to be me. How would one go about clarifying if they have BPD or CPTSD when they have a diagnosis already? I would like to be reevaluated to see if I was misdiagnosed but am unsure how to go about that since years of records say borderline
I thought I had ADHD. To be sure I got neuropsychological testing. It is a battery of test that see how you answer certain questions. It is not a therapist using their opinion only. It turned out I have PTSD. I disassociate but I don't have inattention.
Thank you so very much for putting this information out. As someone who lives with CPTSD and spent many years with misdiagnosis this level of information is not only helpful but gives me hope for better quality of care that can prevent deterioration. I've been hearing CPTSD will be in the next dsm for over a decade after being diagnosed properly
Superb video! You discussed briefly in part 1 the rat study and the relationship of the microbiome with the brain via the vagus nerve. It’s taken me years to put this together. Brain fog, as well as many other debilitating symptoms,has been severe due to nutrient deficiencies. As in my case, multiple traumas led to a chronic sympathetic driven state. Cortisol stayed chronically elevated and my gut shut down. Obviously, the microbiome is directly affected. This led to food allergies, leaky gut, autoimmune, etc. Rumination is just as devastating as the original trauma. The subconscious mind can’t differentiate between the actual trauma or just thinking about it. It’s a nightmare. It is important to address the gut imbalance as well as the trauma. Intermittent fasting, keto diet, probiotics. Fresh garlic, ginger, turmeric, cinnamon, camomile, licorice, bitter’s, etc Hcl with pepsin and digestive enzymes to breakdown nutrients and retrain the gut. Daily meditation, exercise, sunlight. No blue light(phones, pads, tv) Quality sleep!!!! Thanks again for sharing your knowledge. Peace and blessings 🙏
Look into Hashimoto’s and Brain Fog Dr Martin Rutherford makes amazing connections too. I have to be my own rescuer. TH-cam surfing has helped more than my clinicians.
It is so valuable to acknowledge the intersections between PTSD CPTSD, BPD. The trajectory of treatment, the stigma around the diagnosis alone, there are a lot of layers that need to be considered, and it's great to have a holistic approach.
The Body Keeps the Score is also spot on, yes I was triggered to a depressive state, but only for a short period as I realized I was on the path of healing starting with discovery...you helped me clearly self diagnose CPTSD with BPD...TY TY TY
I've now been diagnosed with CPTSD. My trauma - an ASD husband who couldn't deal with his ASD. Compounded by our ASD son reacting to my seeking to make him "socially invisible" and dealing with binge eating and food addiction who's also diabetic. Compounded by an older son with anger management issues who would vent sideways - always in my direction. Then there's the ongoing psychological abuse I get subjected to in every day life. Like being put on a blood pressure medication I in all probability shouldn't have been put on. Like people who can't be bothered to give you all pertinent information that may well affect a decision you make. Like people who say they'll get back to you but then don't get back to you. Like having to repeat your story twice to find out you don't fit into the remit of a service you've contacted - before you ask that was the very first question I asked on connecting with a person as a direct result of listening to messages about that service while on hold. Like having parts of your identity demonised regularly by all sectors of society. And NONE of that stuff is neccesary. There's absolutely no call for such rudeness - because that's what it is - rude, ignorant and ill-mannered. I don't get dizzy. I go straight to anger. I live on my own and most likely always will for the rest of my days. Exercise helps - walking/swimming helps defuse those angry emotions & calm me. Until recently - due entirely to the massive amount of psychological abuse I've been subjected to in the past 3 months - sleep was never an issue. At the moment I'm on medication that works to dull the vigilant state substantially and sleep. At the moment I can see my path back to stability. I don't know the exact direction or length - I just know I'm on that path.
That sounds awful and I am sorry you have gone through it. I appreciate you watching the video and I am glad to read that you can see your path back to stability. What tips from the video will you take with you, on your path to healing? Here are more videos on CPTSD that might help: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
I got abused sexually, felt domestic abuse through years, substance abuse, abandonment, emotional abuse, all in the same 15 years :( i feel so broken that i blame nyself for everything i cant let go of so many issues i have. I am also unable to healthy search for a therapist because it was weaponized so much as a way of being “crazy” that now just thinking of going to one even though knowing it isnt bad scares me.
I'm deeply touched to read that the video resonated with you and that you're finally getting the treatment you deserve. Your strength and resilience are truly inspiring. Remember, healing is a journey, and you're taking important steps forward. Please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video and, if you’re interested in learning more about healing porn addiction recovery or to search for videos in the video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
It would be great to get some information on how to manage this in the chronically ill. The trauma is not caused by another individual so there's a different level of fear when it's your own body that's attacking you and you're aware that it's incurable and lifelong.
@@scarred10 not sure who you could say caused my autoimmune diseases that I was born with, but okay. And yes, chronic literally means neverending, lifelong. Unfortunately not all diseases can be easily treated or managed, especially autoimmune diseases. The treatments aren't very effective for a lot of people. Even if they do work they can also stop if your body makes antibodies to the medication after time and most also carry serious cancer risks. With some degenerative diseases there's only medications that slow down the disease progression/destruction, but there is nothing that can actually stop it. Then there are some people like me, that have refractory disease, which means you don't respond to any available treatment and there's nothing anyone can do to help you. The only thing left to do is wait for the inevitable complications, try to treat those as they happen and hope you don't die yet.
I sincerely hope they add cptsd to dsm6. A single trauma is painful enough but having your personality and brain form under significant recurring trauma is a whole other ball game. I know cptsd isn’t just ACE but it is a significant portion of cptsd cases
I suffer from cptsd as I was drugged and abused. I had told people what was going on in confidence and was pressured to keep up my relationship with this person. When I confronted my abuser publicly, when Id truly had enough, they accused me. Nobody believed me or stuck up for me, so as well as not being well, I was made homeless, lost contact with all friends, family. Its the not being believed or validated and the things that came after the abuse that really hurt. I just wanted to say the #1 rule with someone suffering from this condition is DO NOT say "I don't believe you" and DO NOT say things about them that are untrue. It sends me on a 2 week bender when someone does this. I have had doctors give false accounts of conversations and as such removed myself from care a few times. I've had family members say they didn't believe me and tbh I will never speak to them again. It doesn't get better with time and infact the makeup of your brain is PERMANENTLY rewired. I've been told by my doc the only treatments are coping mechanisms and the only way I'd feel better is if the perpetrator was held accountable which will never happen. It makes you want to take things into your own hands as you cannot trust anyone. I don't leave the house anymore and I don't have any friends as the back of my head tells me all the time "if it happens again nobody will help you". I have a partner and I've dumped her multiple times only to apologise hours later. I can't really be left on my own with my thoughts. Gainsborough police said "He is a nutter" and have ignored a total of 17 complaints over the past 3 years. I had to explain I am diagnosed with cPTSD and usually this is the result of continued abuse and systematic failures of people who are supposed to help. I wouldn't have cPTSD if the police did something about the abuse, whilst it was happening, but the police didn't want to. I can't deal with them myself as they outright say things like "I don't believe you" intentionally and it makes me lose it. If anyone ever tells you about something like this going on, tell then you believe them even if you don't and if you're sure it's true, you need to do something personally as the police won't help. it's also really important to not be alone all the time and to take a 3rd party look at your behaviour. Mood swings etc can intimidate and scare people. I have a regular 5 minute check with my partner. One time a few years ago, I woke in the middle of the night with her hand on my belly. Its the same spot my abuser ran her hand over. I went nuts and started screaming, throwing things, calling her a predator, dumped her and threw her out. That was the 1st time it happened. When I was better we had a chat about it, I asked her if she was OK and what it was like, we came up with a plan on what to do if it happens again etc. You have to be self aware of what you have done. When the warning signs come up I make her stay at home and don't let her live with me all the time. Final piece of advise is do not speak to the police about anger or violent thoughts. This will be used to threaten you which will set you off. You will ask why they would go to such lengths to threaten someone who is forthcoming and seeking help whilst not caring about the person who did this to you to begin with and it will make you rage which gets you in a deeper hole. If you ever end up in some kind of situation involving an abuser you say "no comment" else they try lying to pin all sorts of stuff on you. They really don't care about you at all. Remember don't do anything stupid kids and seek trusted family / friend / medical help when you need it
I can relate with your story and sadly I’m stuck in the hell hole situation with my abusers as I’m freshly out of highschool with no money to move out. My dad is the one who gave me my PTSD and seeing him daily sends me into a rage. It feels like living in a prison and I do everything to sabortage this evil man from throwing his car keys in the bush, destroying 3 of his phones in the microwave, popping his tires, stealing money and I plan to try to get him to step on some glass I will break and hopefully I can get him. Besides from this I’m going to try to get a job anything to free me from this hell hole with this evil man 😡😡😡😡😡😡
@@ruehl3853 I'm so sad for you. I experienced horrendous abuse and trauma at the hands of my mother when I was a teen, stuck at home with no license and being on constant watch, lest I run off...which I probably should have, and my life would have turned out much better. At any rate, all i can advise is (1) NEVER tell your abuser your plans. I was not aware of the abuse /abnormalcy of it until it was too late. I did not learn to shut my mouth until she tortured me and changed my personality entirely. Don't say a damn word about what you are going to do or when. Be subversive. (2) Hide a 'go bag' somewhere they would not look. (3) squirrel away money however you can and get a solid plan in place. Maybe a notebook with phone numbers, addresses, etc. that you keep at school or someplace where your abuser cannot find it. (4) when you do leave turn off your phone if you are on your abuser's plan and get a burner for a short while so that you cannot be tracked. Leave the state if you have to. I find it very empowering to have an 'escape plan.'
I agree with the misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder or a bipolar 2 with Rapid Cycling. It makes more sense that if you have PTSD when you get a trauma trigger you're not in the present moment so really what you're doing is you're not going in and out of mood swings you just going in and out of present moments cuz you're not in the present moment when you have a PTSD trigger an episode, you're at the present the time of the usually the original trauma.
My two sons and I all had this from a lot of abuse from their father and our extended family. I was able to get some therapy and EMDR years ago when we were finally divorced, but my sons were still in it. I eventually got full custody of them as teenagers but the trauma was set in by then and my eldest son was using drugs to cope. I just wanted to get the to 18 and out of high school because then they could leave the area and start to heal. We had just gotten there in 2016 and my youngest son graduated and 3 weeks later his 20 year old brother died. We just kept going and my surviving son was in two consecutive codependent and abusive relationships, but since his relationship ended he has been struggling, but I didn't understand to what extent until he joined me where I live in Mexico. I was stunned when I saw him . He looked terrible and had lost all of his confidence. He has every single symptom of CPTSD in this video, but the problem is that he wants only to distract himself from thinking about it, and for that reason he has not grown or healed or matured in the years since his brother died. Since he has been here with me his behavior has been really troubling. He is broken and I don't know how to help him. . I'm wondering if I should show him this video. It is awful to see my 24 year old so broken. . I am so worried about making things worse. I want him to know that I'm happy he is here and he is safe to heal but we have to take some steps to heal. He has been revictimized over and again because of the reasons you mentioned and because he wants to belong to a family, but his family is not well. and his dad is a sociopath. I don't know what to do but he is so clearly suffering.
I can’t even find a mental health professional to act like they gaf enough to correctly diagnose me or listen to me. Just throw me meds and send the invoice. I’ve learn more from this video about myself than ever before. Thank you!
I am sorry you can’t find a mental health professional to correctly diagnose you and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Yes yes yes! You break it all down so we'll. Sent this video to my therapist to discuss further and enhance treatment. I'm articulate and I think that is also a defense mechanism on my part never allowing my Self to go there. Thank you very much!
Well done, you, Francis Alex. It's great that this lady totally understands it. My daughter suffers from addiction. I hope that she can find someone to help. I would like help on gaining confidence and not fearing establishing romantic relationships and friendships. I am not sure where to start on building trust. People seem to avoid friendships with me. I think I need to make a plan of action to work on various aspects of this condition 🤔
Or a lecture hall full of 600 students. I've realized that for the first three years of my undergraduate I have been drinking the entire time. Every time I went to lecture I had been drinking. And then adding cancer on to that is just like so much stress. I'm so happy though that I decided to sit here and look at all this. I feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel
Hi my wife was diagnosed with C-PTSD 3 years ago. We have been together for 17 years and married 14. In year 14 of our relationship she got all her suppressed memories back from an abusive relationship she was in a few years before we met. Since her memories came back along with flashbacks my wife sounds like everyone on here. She made me go to therapy with her every Friday for last 2.5 years and never opened up. She recently told me she couldn’t open up because I was in there with her and blamed me for her not going alone when she always asked me to please come or she wouldn’t go. She finally went alone last week and she said her past memories are so front and center in her mind that she feels unsafe even around me now. I get it I think, her trauma happened in a relationship so being in a relationship while she is not even close to healing is making me an unsafe person. Have you and your husband ever been git where he feels unsafe from you? My wife is staying at her mom’s house now and I’m giving her space to feel safe and start her healing journey.
Thank you, very accurate and clear presentation. PLEASE look into the relationship between cPTSD, if I'm correct there is very strong correlation between this and multiple chronic syndromes and illnesses. Though the research is backing this it is NOT DISCUSSED ♥️
There us much mention of peope experiencing changes as a result of abuse, but people who are abused from early childhood or infancy don't ever even have anything healthy to change. For example, their senss of self-worth won't change because they have always felt worthless. They will also never have had an ability to trust other people. So the word "recovery" almost doesn't even apply. There is nothing to recover, and the survivor has to somehow create these things for the very first time. All while living life and functioning as an adult.
There is a re-parenting type of therapy that you may try. It might help to visualize certain defining moments / traumatic experiences and acting as both the child and the healthy parent, the parent you needed at that moment in time. I've done this for several one-time events in my childhood and it seemed to help a great deal.
This is such a thorough video. I wish there were more examples on how to deal with the feelings of PTSD CPTSD and BPD. I definitely did go in and out of being able to listen and concentrate through this video. I saved it to re-watch on the bits I may have missed. Thank you for this video.
@@DocSnipes personally for me I think you saying "people with CPTSD think that, that is just the way they are" for years as a child I and family would think that, that's just the way I am, especially in my teen hood years.... I think my mum knew a few times that I may be acting out as a child due to all of the trauma.. but as a teen I guess ppl just assumed I was an @**ho!E...which in actual fact made it worse for me. Had I gotten the proper care as a child before hitting into my teen years.... Maybe it would have been different. Unfortunately I still ended up suffering with trauma as a teen as well and now as a young adult. I also really resonated with you saying that ppl who may experience this can be tense. Unfortunately due to dv I suffer with chronic pain... But it makes my chronic pain 100 times worse when I'm anxious or am reliving the trauma all over again through nightmares and flashbacks. I struggle with concentration. I use to be able to do the square breathing that you mentioned in your vid.... But these days it seems so much more difficult to do that. I've also recently started implementing meditation when I do my stretches... And it's too difficult to focus and my mind wonders. If you could do a vid on coping strategies for ppl with this that'd be awesome.💜
Fantastic presentation. Thank you very much. I'm dealing with this among with the "Healing the Inner Child" video. I just turned 48 and have been trying to fix this by myself for years. I'm very self aware but need some real treatment. Perhaps EMDR and Yoga.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
Thank you for this video. I am working with a wonderful psychologist and in the last year was diagnosed with c-PTSD. The superficial symptoms, being depression and anxiety, were usually what my diagnosis entailed. I appreciated a collegial PowerPoint presentation of the diagnosis, and some of the misdiagnoses. When we know more, we can do better.
I have cptsd but I’m at a point where I’m tired of being a victim and want to get my power back. I’m tired of being paranoid, and tired of avoiding forming relationships and friendships. I want to do emdr but everyone I contact want to do it virtually and I rather do it in person. Do you feel emdr can be done affectively over video call?
While there is a lot of evidence EMDR can be effective when done virtually, I would worry about your safety if you do it alone. Def. Have someone in the house or next door that can respond if you go into crisis and who will check on you at the scheduled end of the appointment.
It is truly a daily work for me and I am healing daily. The only thing I hate is feeling by myself in the process. I push myself daily to reset and reprogram but some days are better than others. 🙏🏽
Thank you for watching and for sharing. Please feel free to use my AI to learn more about cPTSD and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I've experienced several traumatic events in my life. A few manifest as outright flashbacks and persistent dreams. So much so that I've contemplated hypnotherapy.
I am sorry that happened to you. Here is my video on 10 tips to cope with flashbacks: th-cam.com/video/iB7rkRrshn8/w-d-xo.html Please let me know what you think of it. Thank you!
I really appreciate this video. I have ADHD comorbid with C-PTSD, and it's been a wild ride trying to get a handle on everything. The biggest challenge I face now is the closer I get to sobriety the more the symptoms become pronounced, which are exacerbated by my hypersensitive ADHD nature, so I tend to remain in an inebriated state. It's gotten to the point where I'm maintaining a healthy lifestyle; performing strenuous exercises, climbing the ladders at work, engaging in the arts, but because I can't handle being sober I've figured out a way to do these things while maintaining a somewhat extreme habit of substance abuse. I fear my body organs might be taking quite a beating.
I have a major CPTSD, I struggle to get a job. I struggled to function and my family doesn't believe in mental health, and they think I am just lazy and irrational because I am an " emotional little girl" even though I'm an adult and do not identify as a woman. No one understands that just because I'm not in a wheelchair every day, doesn't mean I'm not disabled, and I'm not majorly negatively impacted by something everyday. I might be homeless soon because, my parents are fed up with me not being able to get a job fast enough to help them pay rent and move out on my own(I am 19 and live in a place where living is extremely expensive and everyone is very rude, anti-vax, anti-mental health, anti-LGBTQ, I am vigorously gay and fear being punished for it, when I got the Omnicron variant I nearly died due to being immunecompromised, and if I get it again, I don't know if I'll make it. ) but I hope eventually your videos will spread enough awareness
I think this is me! I'm Empathic yet when i try to be strong or say NO, i'm quickly apologetic. Confused constantly, wouldn't hurt a fly but i offend constantly even by being present, i can't be read. I've been told, i don't understand you. I don't understand myself lol. I was raised by an abusive and cold mother and held out for my Father to rescue me who later rejected me till death recently. 34 years of hope for my father to love me but refused to see me. I don't know what security or love is. I know what it isn't, thats my foundation of motherhood. To love naturally and in opposition to my trauma. Treat people, how you would treat yourself And yes, i have demonic nightmares and feel others emotions, sometimes i confuse others demons for myself.
I wouldn't wish cptsd on anyone. I'm always on edge, go from 0 to 100 if even a glass breaks, depressed all the time, have a lot of sleep disruption from nightmares which exasperates all my other symptoms, etc. But, at least I don't get black out drunk anymore. So I have made progress.
Watching this as a 37 year old, realizing a lot of long and ongoing traumas, running down the highway of realization and new perspectives. This is so helpful, and still gives so much sadness. Might be BPD, as some maybe end up in, me as an example not knowing exactly how one’s life has rooted in one self. But this feels incredibly amazing. 500h+ of therapy has never given me this much insight been this close-hitting. I’m so scared, but happy. But so, SO incredibly scared. Does it get better?
I understand now I have cPTSD .. after trying 3 psychiatrists, different medications, different diagnosis like dysthamia, depression, severe anxiety, splitting etc... My own sister who is clinical psychologist but hasn't talked to me over 10 years... I cared for my people and protected them and her .. I now understand I have cPTSD.. i have spent hours and days trying to figure what's wrong with me.. after 40 years i understand this is it.. feel a little relief listening talk to you.. how can you be so understanding when even family members feel like a threat... 😢
Thank you for watching the video. I am sorry you’re struggling with cPTSD. You can find videos on that on: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
I thought I was just a bad person. Broken in a way that I didn't understand and was afraid to try and explain. Relationships always essentially following the same trajectory of a harmful cyclical nature. 2 cycles was the average a partner could tolerate. 3 cycles seems to be the hard limit. Time does not heal all wounds.
BPD is one of the most mis-diagnosed disorders out there while cPTSD is vastly misunderstood by entirely too many agency counselors. Particularly those who work with survivors of domestic violence. I can't tell you how many of my peers or cohort in the field who were trite when speaking of BPD clients or future clients.
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As someone who has both PTSD and CPTSD, while it describes both fairly accurately, it's too ... removed is the best word I can find. People suffering from it need practical steps, not just to cope with it, but to actually heal from it, and yes, it can be done. I've been to 15 therapists in my life and none recognised it; it was only because I knew something was wrong and kept researching I finally knew what was wrong. The biggest cause of problems we face is dysregulation. The other things are just symptoms of it. Recognising dysregulation, and learning how to catch it before it goes off the charts, and how to soothe it, is KEY. I wish more mental health professions knew this so they can provide meaningful help to their clients struggling with this.
Just read your comment… can empathize with the exhaustion that comes from one after another, after another, etc… help that has mainly just helped me believe stronger with each let down that it’s hopeless. With that then, I believe there are basically three options for me in life, of which two of them I’m not willing to accept… yet. My name’s Jay too. How did you happen to discover the whole dysregulation issue? Just tons of digging? And have you found anyone out there who’s capable of providing therapy for individuals who have such a substantial collection of experiences in their life when compared to most others? I know hardship isn’t comparable so please don’t think me arrogant. It’s just that I’ve sensed lately that I’m really nearing the end of trying to “make it”. I’m exhausted… guess by some miracle, I happened across this video, including your comment. Thanks
I’m trying the healing codes at a therapists suggestion. It’s Christian based but there are more secular versions available online.
amen to that these brainwashers dont want to speak in facts and most of all how do they know their MARKETABLE blanket "solutions" helpm reminds me of the legal system and the domestic violence "resources" available which then rolls over to why dont u leave him? something that NEVER WORKED. this is now a saleable thing and the disconnect is this person and so many has and have cut out human interaction. take good care jay. aloha🤙🏽
the work is never done and your introspection is sharp, ur doing everything u can. right on. be well.
@@akaLuptonPittman From one Jay to another ... I just got your comment. Sorry it's taken me so. long to respond. I first learned about dysregulation from the TH-cam channel The Crappy Childhood Fairy. This was after having seen 10+ therapists, none of whom recognised it, or understood CPTSD. She's a starting point for understanding that and a bit more, but only that. She's limited, but a decent place to start.
I get it. I was also exhausted from all this, and also felt hopeless. I'd already tried everything people said were the answers: talk therapy, drugs, and EMDR. Looking for answers, and not finding any, IS exhausting. Just living this way is exhausting. I used to describe it as having your foot pressed to the metal on the acceleration pedal, and at the same time on the brake.
Not one of the many therapists I saw knew anything about CPTSD, and looking back, it's astounding to me they also didn't recognise how extremely dysregulated I was, or what the cause of it was. That wasn't for the lack of me being open about what was going on, it was their lack of ability to understand and put it together.
There is help, you can heal, but it takes time, and learning how to be compassionate to yourself. Sounds easy, but it's not. I wish you the best.
Cptsd is often time misdiagnosed as Bipolar Disorder. I have various clients that were misdiagnosed by clinicians who have zero experience with trauma
Thanks for watching and commenting.
When I was first hospitalized, they diagnosed me with bipolar II, second time=MDD, 3rd time=BPD, 4th time= PTSD. I feel the BPD and bipolar were misdiagnoses as I don't feel my symptoms fully align with those But I have PTSD from a car accident but I feel my symptoms 100% align with those described as C-PTSD. I know labels are not important but when it comes to treatment and medication, it can definitely help. I wish I had gotten trauma-informed therapy sooner.
I have a number of friends who've run into this situation.
It's called Fraud & Abuse Go on front lines diagnosis Steven King his It Clown ,You Fool🚓
That was my experience.
I cannot I believe I been in therapy for over 10 years I just got diagnosed with PTSD but CPTSD explains my entire life.
No surprise. My wife has been going to a psychiatrists for 30+ years. Just 2.5-3 years ago she was finally properly diagnosed with CPTSD by a licensed professional counselor. A counselor I found for myself who specializes in anger management. We quickly figured out that I was so overwhelmed from living with a person with CPTSD for 28 years without a proper diagnosis or any understanding of why she kept making the same mistakes and bad decisions over and over year after year, having major health problems, depressive episodes...that I was overwhelmed, flooded, and unable to process my emotions in a healthy way anymore.
We had been to another counselor before who was of no help. The psychiatrists she had been seeing were of no help, probably caused more harm with the drugs they prescribed. Often a person needs to try many different professionals in this field before finding one who is really good and knows what questions to ask. Unfortunately a lot of these "professionals" have given into the medical industrial complex and are now only concerned with billing for patience visits and prescribing the latest drugs.
This new counselor has saved our marriage and my wife has been able to finally start the heeling process and we are making some real progress.
Out counselor recommended The Body Keeps the Score. That book was a huge revelation. Also Loving Someone with PTSD is another book that has been a huge help to my understanding of what is happening with my wife.
I wish you all the best!!!
I didn't know what I had until a month ago. I learned what I had because someone else has ptsd. When I talked to that random stranger they told me have that and I didn't know what it was but I was like oh ok. After I decided to look into it I right away realized I have cptsd. I think doctors try to avoid that maybe? Or it's something that doesn't get talked about much. I told my doctor several this about me. He gave me anxiety medication and suggested marriage counseling. Since that time I have only got a lot worse and I don't even know how I'm going to solve this. I haven't slept in the longest time ever. I self medicate now every day. And I'm at the end of my rope. The only person that would even care is probably my wife and I don't even want to talk to her about it. Now, for the first time I'm forming other friendships with other woman. I haven't cheated. I try to keep it as friends. So that I have someone to talk to. It makes things less complicated when you know someone doesn't owe you anything but they are just there. I'm worried that I'm going to destroy everything that I've managed even while having cptsd.
@@waydwalker3674I am so impressed by the degree to which you stood by your wife in such an understanding and compassionate way.
I've not been able to come across that myself. I've been single now over 30 years.
Yet at this point I'm pretty enlightened and know mindful practices and quick remedies that regulate me or re-regulate me. Ican even catch myself and stop on the way to a quick 100 and actually redirect myself.😊 It's been a long journey and I would have given anything to have that special someone stand by me and help see me through it, but I just kept attracting abusers and violent men. So crazy. I'm pretty sure I am done with that pattern, thankfully.
I'm very happy for both you and your wife that you're getting measurable help and that it sounds like you're coming out the other side. That's wonderful!
I'm only about half way thru this video and it's further informing me about the chgs that CPTSD have likely done to my brain which I've long suspected and wondering whether or not it can be fixed. My traumas are many and started very young. I find myself today with a diagnosed neurological syndrome (no real surprise given my history of traumas) that has put me off work - a strange blessing. Though I've less money than ever to live on I'm finally getting to do a deep dive into my traumas with a therapist who actually understands me and my CPTSD. I thought I'd have to be one of the forever walking wounded. Kind of gratefully, current challenges are causing old wounds to resurface where i can work them out without also having to hold down a job. It's been a sacrifice of the flesh and creature comforts, but God is good and I guess His timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will come. Enter this video. It's not the first time I've heard about CPTSD, but it is the first time I've heard it discussed exactly this way.
I hope and pray you and your wife's next half will be smooth sailing and more enriched for knowing what you've come through - together. Still together! Wow!!! Good job! And good job on realizing you needed help yourself after being your wife's support for so long.
This may sound strange, bc I know I don't know you, but since you seen to have a good spirit, if you wouldn't mind, if you have any "good man" angel connections, will you please consider saying a prayer for this girl of 64 years that she find a patient, kind and loving man? 🤗Maybe you're the best person to know what character traits to ask for in a man that stays. He won't come away empty handed and he will be twice blessed for it.
All the best to you and your wife!
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@@SexyBulldozerManI think the real payoff is in being honest with your wife. Sorry. I know you didn't ask, but it's easy for a stranger to listen and yet easier for one of you to slip one night. :/ It might feel safe talking to female friends but you want to have the breakthrough with your wife and get through it together with HER, building trust even if scary. I wldn't want you losing what it seems you have. And see if you can determine what you need from her to help you move forward. It's hard to ask for help, but many of us don't ask for help and never knew we could bc even if we had asked no one wld have been there for us. But if you're ever going to take a chance on trusting someone maybe you can try a traumas therapist (CBT Trained) who can bring your wife in for a visit to help broach the topic to your wife if you don't quite have the words just yet. Personally, I wldnt want to be the wife who found out my husband felt more comfortable confiding in strangers than he did with me, but maybe she's more allowing or more secure that way. Idk.
If the meds aren't working maybe have them lessened or ask for new ones or get off of them all together, but wait till you have another method of support b4 you try that in case they're helping you more than you realize. Get some reliable, professional support first.
CPTSD IS something I worked on in safe 12-step mtgs (with strangers) like CODA and ACA. I just knew I cldnt do meds as I live alone and certain meds can give ya suicidal thoughts and I can hardly take my vitamins regularly (like many previously traumatized people) so meds was too big a gamble for me plus I don't like being the medical industry's guinea pig as mental health drugs are a crap shoot. Every patient is different and unique.
So I went with counseling and 12-step mtgs and fitness. The mtgs are free and you will find others with similar backgrounds/traumas/stories and that really helps to know you're not alone, and to see how others deal/dealt with their traumas. You can get a sponsor or a fellow traveler get in a phone list and call others to chat and join a small grp if you want to work the 12 steps together. It's the first place I recall going where I didn't feel judged. Just acceptance - which was a very new experience for me. I was still afraid to tell the whole truth of how I felt inside about myself, but what a relief when I let it all out, little by little, and no one ran away or dismissed me or gaslighted or diminished my experience. You will see the growth and the hope for change in others, and yourself. Over time, the next thing you know you're changing and improving and sharing hope of your own to others. You just have to stick with it. The program works when you work it. It's been proven many times over. You just try different mtgs til you find a fit for you. Then try to do 30 mtgs in 30 days. But don't worry about doing it perfectly. It's ok. When you get that 30-day chip you really know you're on the road to somewhere better and to a better you. You become the parent to your inner child that you never had. You get a re-do.
Then in time you can incorporate meditation or mindful breathing into your everyday life or walks in nature or other activities that bring you back in alignment with your true self, as you discover who that is, and you're united with parts of you that you maybe haven't seen or heard from for years. :)
All the best to you! Someone once said courage is feeling afraid and doing it anyway. Just take one step at a time. You'll find your way. Oh, and if you don't believe in God, you can call it a higher power, nature, the universe, the spirit or whatever works for you.
Best to you!
@@SexyBulldozerMan because the C for complex is not in DSM V (or IV) and straight PTSD doesnt cover all the symptoms. As long as you find effective treatment, the diagnosis technical name doesn't matter
I agree, CPTSD needs to be in the next DSM.
Some days I just wish it was all over (this dysregulated feeling) and I could go back to feeling like a human again but then I remember that I've got 20+ years of trauma to recover from. I'd say that I'm in my second year of healing. I cut off everything and everyone. I'm doing this for me.
Me.2 girl I feel you❤
Discovering CPTSD explained EVERYTHING that was wrong with me/my life, and realising my negative 'character traits' weren't character flaws at all but rather the effects of trauma stress and the Fearful Avoidant attachment style it created.
I am currently three parts into 'The Body Keeps The Score' and despite having enough childhood abuse to score 8-9/10 on the ACES test I have not found it triggering at all, even though the graphic descriptions of abuse and neglect made me cry at the injustice and suffering. On the contrary, I am finding this book freeing and empowering, as it is putting all the pieces of the puzzle together for me, and lifting the shame. I've been attending the TRF book club while reading the book and many other CPTSD sufferers report the same thing - that reading this book has been life-changing for them. So I will have to disagree that people with trauma stress should not read this book, unless they are extremely fragile.
This video was useful too, with a few details I wasn't aware of. Thank you.
Thanks for watching and commenting.
Interesting! Where can I find this TRF book club?
I read about 150 pages and found it too difficult to keep going. It did teach me some things though. I've since been reading the recovey chapters and Pete Walker's from surviving to Thriving.
I couldnt agree more. Whats the TRF bookclub?
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, by Pete Walker is really really good and useful too 👍
6 months ago, I was diagnosed with CPTSD. I endure an abusive father, bullied most of my school life, sexually assulted in high school, had a horrible relationship and found a loved one dead. It is so hard to deal with it. And for a long time, I couldn't find help.
Though therapy is helping, but I'm still struggling. I'm still having a hard time regulate my emotions, from being defensive, crying spells and low self esteem
I just want all of this to stop and be able to feel normal. Because I do not feel normal and struggle to be positive
So sorry to hear of all that. Condolences on you loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I remind folks that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to rage when you need to rage, or cry when you need to cry, or whatever. Our society tries to promote toxic positivity. Nobody is positive all the time, except fakes and psychopaths.
It's okay to hurt. It's okay to take time out for yourself, and lie down for a two-hour nap if that's what your body tells you it needs.
If you have a job, check to see if they have an EAP program, which usually provides a free series of counseling. I've heard that therapies like EMDR, tapping and neurofeedback can be helpful. Not sure how insurance companies can cover those.
God loves you, so do I
Tapping videos EFT on you tube have really been helping me over the last 2 years. Many different people have videos, and I've been amazed at how much more they've helped than all the terrible therapists I've been to did. It's just for you; I know there are introductory books about it too. I find it hard to have to talk about horrible, shaming things with therapists; they're not a friend, and sometimes I didn't feel valued or cared about, just seen as part of a paycheck. TH-cam has been so much better for me! I really Like Tapping with Brad; he's like a wonderful older brother, or loving uncle, cousin, some positive male figure like I never had. There are women who do tapping videos also; take a look and I hope it helps! Be blessed!
I spent the first 50 years of my life living in neglect, trauma. Through many years of going through counseling and have come to the conclusion "normal" does not exist. Healthy exists and healthy is something I can identify especially through programs such as this one.
The Body Keeps the Score was a wake-up call for me. I devoured it and it formed the basis of my therapy after long term abuse.
Glad to hear the book was helpful!
I loved that book and People of the Lie. It was very comforting for someone to not excuse the abuser, for being 'mentall ill' - I don't care. Being mentally ill does NOT give anyone license to abuse others! It was also fascinating to realize that so many 'pillars of the community' are narcissistic, and are 'pillars' because they need to show people that they are a 'good person' but have no way of knowing how to actually 'be' a good person. My mother and my first love's father were both very involved in the church, and were both extremely abusive.
Good For you 👍👍❤️☮️
How um, friendly is the book?
My inner child is very sensitive to any bad scenarios that happen to be described in text, as imagined images haunt me for a long long time if it’s graphic enough.
I need informative books that will not um, scar me emotionally.
@@tiffanyribbons It is scholarly, written by a noted authority. Don't recall anything that triggered me emotionally. I would recommend it to anyone serious about using the techniques mentioned for recovering from and understanding how the body functions under CPTSD. It focusses on the brain with actual photographs. Gives suggestions such as yoga and theatre work, the premise being that it is stored in the physical body and the physical ways to recover.
I finally have herd the truth about my mental health, all this resonates true with me, it even sounds like a true discrimination of me.
CPTSD is the first diagnosis that actually makes sense.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@charlotteburdine192 oh, honey, I so wish I could help you know and understand with your whole being, mind, body, and soul, that you are absolutely not worthless. Indeed, Charlotte, you are intrinsically, and inherently valuable!! (priceless even!)
There are many, many precious, lovable folks who are suffering/enduring, like we. I’m telling you, my love, there absolutely, positively is help, hope, and healing available❣️ please hear me…From conception, forward, many events/experiences have contributed to your beliefs, as well as your physiology/biology…
It is not too late to have the life you’ve dreamed of; love, joy, peace, purpose, freedom/autonomy, and belonging are available to you, to me, for our well-being, our enjoyment.
You are in an excellent place with Doc Snipes! Listen to all of the videos provided on her TH-cam channel; any title that catches your eye, or seems potentially relevant to you!
Also, Dr.Gabor Mate❣️ He is beyond brilliant!
Compassionate, intelligent, wise…
If only I could bring him home, to teach, help, and heal all of the people I love…
Search for him on TH-cam.
Irene Lyon is an excellent source of information and exercises/applications
to promote our healing at the very root
of our “stuckness”.
One thing that I learned, of immense importance for wholesome, healthy, joyful existence… Do not withdraw/isolate yourself, no matter what…
(Even chatting with a clerk at the grocery store causes helpful things to happen in our physiology, our bodily systems, contributing to our healthy mind, body, and soul❣️
God bless you, Charlotte. (I believe, as well, that God’s Word, the Bible, contains all truth needed for the abundant life we long for).
The understanding of “what”, “how“, and “why” that I find within the teachings of Mate, Snipes, and Lyons
Is of significant value to me.
Please get a doctor's opinion. One should never self diagnose from a youtube video, and assigning yourself that label can cause you to feel very hopeless, which is the last thing you need. I don't doubt at all that you have it, but you need to see a doctor to get treatment, which DOES help! EMDR is working for me but there are multiple treatment options. Best wishes.
"Core of trauma is disempowerment and unsafeness"
wow! Been only 10:45 of video and Ive learned a lot already. Thanks so much for the great content 🙏🏽
I appreciate you watching!Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
All of the above and then some. I do agree, with each time you go through the same trauma it becomes harder to "recover" to heal. Each time it takes away more of you, of the person you are. Though it's always there it gets harder to push it behind and leave it behind. You become less able to bounce back from the damage. Each time you become less and less of yourself. It agressivly invades your thoughts until it's all consuming. Because now your waiting, dreading and preparing for the next blow. All while your still living the pain from the prior. The worst thing though is when you look in the mirror and what you see is terrifying. That once beautiful, strong, witty, intuitive person with a mischievous spark in there eye is no longer looking back. Instead this unrecognizable sad being, that suddenly looks years past its age, that looks afraid and drained of its strength, holding on and hoping, this pittiful lifeless thing is looking back.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Describes precisely what happened to me. Age 63 now 😞
This is possibly the best comment I've read. Thanks so much
@@bmst6162 that's OK, I'm 58 and barely hanging on....we can DO this. If we weren't tough as nails, we would not have survived so, nowhere to go but UP....
I feel you. It is said anxiety is worrying about something that 99.9% won't happen, but some of us DO go from one nightmare to another with no time to recover in between.
I'm tentative with EVERYTHING I do, everyone I speak to. The moments of joy and peace are brief even though I have more than enough to be grateful for - and I am. Sending you love and understanding.
we 'hang on' to a diagnosis because it explains our suffering, pathology, panic or anxiety attacks, fears, flashbacks, pains and suicidality when we have no security otherwise
Thanks for watching.
I totally agree with you about this. For me not just to tell someone else it is very important for me to understand myself and why I have been feeling so horrible for 40 years with a regular counselor who knows nothing about Trauma 😢. And people in my life now or before obviously can't understand how rough this is.
I’m a firefighter/paramedic with 24 years experience and I’m 100% convinced I have CPTSD. 😞
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thank you! I have every symptom you’ve mentioned. It sounds like a video about me specifically.
I will be praying for you, Eric.
Find a Traumatologist who is trained in EMDR.
I hope that one day you can heal 💛 thank you for helping so so many people, i’m sure you’ve changed many lives for the better 💛 keep fighting friend 🥰
Thank you so much guys!! 🙏🏼❤️
You mentioned the word relax and I just realized the reason I hate it so much it because it feels like an invalidation for my current feelings (granted now I understand that though my feelings are valid, they may be arising from a false premise based on my thoughts or beliefs) but I have always hated it as well as its variations, take it easy, stop overreacting, chill etc etc. Thank you for this and I hope you can do some more videos on cptsd
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I have CPTSD for 46 years.. The willingness to have a relationship if any kind I almost completely impossible..I let any person or person's only get so close , I don't feel that I'm capable of loving anyone..,I don't what to hurt anyone the way I've been hurt.. I know how the ending of the start of things will turn out .. It's okay to realize your reality of the failure of all relationships.When you feel most people to say it happened 46 years,you have to move on a let go .. Yeah No!!! I miss kissing and cuddling and togetherness or intamicy, sex isn't that important to me.. Nightmares every day and night, terror's every day and night, talking and fighting in my sleep...I don't want to harm anyone knowing what that feelings can become. ... I'm 58 now and Haven't had any relationship in 8 years, it's not okay knowing the ending to hurt other people..My depression for many years has been deep down depression, lately in the past 6 months I'm just a emotional mess, crying over what some may say why or what are you crying about? I have no answers but its me ,like it or not ,it's me ...
You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor.
-You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search:
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-If you are in crisis, there is a national Suicide Hotline available at:
allceus.com/Suicide_Prevention_Lifeline
-There is a Domestic Violence hotline at:
allceus.com/Domestic_Violence_Hotline
OR Dial 911 for assistance in the U.S.
Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I had an epiphany this early morning. I avoided good people, and attracted abusers, because I was taught through trauma and abuse that Danger is Safe and Safe is Dangerous.
The one time I had someone safe who truly loved me, my narcissistic mother figure and her flying monkey eldest son (my brother) destroyed our connection, in more ways than I can say here. I was told that he was evil, and that my 'family' who 'loved' me were good.
So, years later, when I keep wondering why I can only seem to attract users, abusers, cheaters, etc. and a good guy comes along, I fear being with him....because, the last time I was with a good guy, my life was turned inside out and upside down, and my subconscious was terrified that I would be a destructive force in his life. So I rejected him, and carried on with more users, abusers, cheaters, et. al. Because they were 'safe' - meaning, my mother-figure would NOT abuse me if I was already being abused by someone else.
Until today. That sh** stops today.
It's as if I was hearing my life story. I suffer from CTPSD because of being bullied by my school "friends" for around 6 years.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Shit bro if that's you on your pfp that's p based
@@Robin-bk2lm compassion to your Robin 💚. You have had some horrible experiences. I hope life can get better, step by step.
Horrible experience LonelyPolishPerson be your own best friend. Maybe also get a pet. Unfortunately I’m allergic. Pets are wonderful
I had similar experiences of having toxic friend groups, it’s not something easy to recover from and it really messes up your sense of self. Hope you can get better ❤
I have complex PTSD from emotional abuse and I have PTSD from being stabbed in the chest with a kitchen knife. I can tell you the only thing that brought me true relief. Jesus. John 3:16. God bless everyone :)
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Bless you as well.
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Amen
I try god for many years, but nothing is i cant heal
I really hope CPTSD will be in the DSM.
This is the best description of CPTSD I've ever seen.
I was abused as a child for 4-5 yrs and had so much crap in my life i lived in continual hypervigilance and was going insane for 45 yrs. The issue was I couldn't remember 90% of it, just big black spaces for years.
I've said "until my diagnosis my personality was CPTSD" so many times but this is the first time I've heard it described like that, thank you!!!! I thought it was just how I was not what many people get.
This is me 100%.
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I grew up in a very dangerous neighborhood where I was shot at multiple times. Got in many many fights and even watched people almost beaten to death and drugged with pcp when I was 13 . I’ve had such a hard time understanding what is wrong with me as a adult until as of late
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💥 35 plus years in therapy, psychiatrist,....have had almost EVERY DIAGNOSIS,
BUT THIS. and I , after ACCIDENTALLY discovered this page,. Not only Did I DIAGNOSE myself, I am NOW, at 50 FINALLY, SEEKING the CORRECT ways to professionally HEAL AND CREATE,,,," MY CHOSEN MINDSET"
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS
So welcome. Glad to know I have been of help to you! Thanks for watching.
It seems very dysfunctional that CPTSD is still not included in the DSM-5. It is so serious, yet will continue to be misduagnosed and ignored . I wonder why it is not included? Do the people making these decisions have our best interests at heart? Or do they not want to think about severe trauma any more than the rest of society ? They are supposed to be better than that . Or is it because they can't find a cure, seeing as the response to trauma is normal? Or is it that insurance companies don't want to pay for treatment? Whatever the reason, it is reprehensibke .
It’s hard to measure that’s why. Or at least why I suspect. A lot easier to get academic funding for other disorders since you can prove effectiveness of treatment easier. Ex: heart rate went down ____ which proves our anxiety med works!
I wonder if big pharma makes
more $ prescribing unnecessary anti-depression drugs instead of therapies like EMDR?
@@dnk4559I agree! A lot of C-PTSD are misdiagnosed with other disorders and take medications unnecessarily or improperly.
What is DSM-5?
Like for say BPD?
Well, I have CPTSD. I read many of the responses from others on here. I am so sorry for all you have been through on here. I had to move 1500 miles away from the narcissists who caused me to get this. It has been five years. I am in the middle of going back now. I will be there in about two weeks. I would say the worst part of still having this is the constant fear I have of something crazy happening all of a sudden. I am trying to reason myself out of this fear. Please don’t tell me to get therapy. I tried many times. Most therapists have no idea what CPTSD is. My heart ❤️ is with all of you who have this condition.
I have c-ptsd (and bpd) & these videos have helped me so much, especially since 'graduating' from therapy... helps keep me on track. Thank you so much for what you do.🙏🏾🙂
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Omg congrats on graduating! What a huge accomplishment!
How did youI graduate from therapy? That's fantastic. I usually quit when it gets hard and I feel worse than i started...
Seems like cptsd is the cause of all the dysfunctional attachments in relationships that can be generational as well. Is that true? If so, that’s a significant portion of society that would benefit from EMDR and trauma therapy. Sad that it is not already recognized in DSM and that insurance generally does not cover therapy however will pay for anti-depressants. Thank you for your outstanding videos! You enlighten so many.
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I am still suffering w/ CPTSD and it SUCKS.
@@Introvertwoman1989 Me too and it does suck.
may wall off more severe, surreal, unavoidable, unrelenting, exhhauting ...eventually stuck in fight or flight response with no relief
So they pay to get you into a veggie instead of investing in therapy wich is the only solution to go to the roots of tthe trauma .
This society is so wrong and realise is just a buisness
wish i had all this kind of information 50 yrs ago. i have been struggling all of my life with this. i'm 65 years old now.
@Paige Elliott no i'm good. when you've had this as long as i have and you make it to 65 i think i've done pretty good with it.
"the word relax can be triggering because their abuser used to use it" that was such an eye opener for me! My x kept telling me to be thankful they (him and his mom) don't throw me out to the street (in a new country where I couldn't speak the language, with a newborn) and now I always just get anxiety when I'm expected to do "thankfulness exercises"
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. If you’re interested in videos on ptsd, you can find them at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
Wow! I’ve been practicing IFS for quite a while. Didn’t know it had a name 😄
I visualize myself holding myself as an infant, fully enjoying her presence, taking her to the park and play dates and showing her how precious she is in my eyes 💜
I would have loved to have a beautiful green eyed strawberry blonde daughter like me.
So I’ve been giving her the love and cherishing that is never got💜💜💜💜
I found an old book called Healing The Child Within. Worth ordering and reading it and journaling your memories that surface and your responses to them. Therapeutic!
thats wonderful, I wish I could do that too :) whats your secret? I dont know that I could successfully 'psych' myself into doing that (??)
I lived in a very hostile city during the lockdowns and riots two years ago. I lived within a few miles of serious and constant destruction, which lead toward my current symptoms. God willing, I can make it through this rough period of my life. 🙏👍
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What neighborhhood was it?
You speak so well, thank you. I was extremely traumatized at school ages 12-16 by a best friend and what I like to call "the bystanders" with a barrage of vicious verbal abuse and disregard for my feelings.
I had other traumas before those nasty girls, such as child abuse, and a seriously mentally unwell parent whilst the other was neglectful. I feel like the majority of my life I've been ignored and isolated with heaps of verbal abuse. I've got a few happy moments but not many to be honest.
I was diagnosed with C-ptsd along with some co-morbidities, early last year. I'm coming up to 40 soon, but I don't feel regret that it's seemingly taken so long for me to address the C-ptsd. I wasn't ready to heal in my in my teens or 20's. I've only had awareness of my inner constitution being related to my traumatic experiences a few months ago.
Since this diagnosis, I've come to the conclusion that I'm not particularly weird, weak or broken. I suffered great traumas that could've happened to anyone and they would've reacted in similar ways. My responses were the best I could manage at the time and I was a child when most of my traumas happened, so I'm no longer ashamed of those trauma responses.
Healing is a process and my heart and mind are starting to process everything now.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Whew. This is me. To the core. I kept getting the BPD, but that’s was not it. I’m constantly in fear of insecurity, in every way possible! Thank you for your work. I started this work on my own, with help of drs I’ve met with at conferences out in school. This is it. Thank you for the treatment options.
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Thank you Doc Snipes for presenting the detailed rundown on Complex PTSD. I have CPTSD and your explanation (by characterizing the symptoms) reconfirmed my suspicions. Mine was the result of an older sibling, 21 years of daily beatings since 10 months of age. Then random nightly strangulation since age 7 (for 15 years) while sleeping. Both parents from broken homes did not protect me from the abuse so, (as you mentioned) I developed numerous harmful self-protection mechanisms (that are involuntary today); the hyper-vigilance, depression, anxiety, inability to trust others, fear of death in any new environment (and so on). Through much prayer, God has delivered me from a great deal but, there still is considerable "hidden baggage" affecting my daily life. Over the years, it has been very difficult to actually find a therapist that is helpful. Another deception is our single point of view; we grow up assuming what we experience is normal thus, most of my findings have occurred over the past 20 years. To end on a positive note: I have observed that most of us suffering with this condition are primarily kind-hearted and caring people so, all is not bad.
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I've started to gather my tribe, as it were, and slough off the chaff. I have decided that I now choose my 'family,' not biology. I choose my friends, not a sense of obligation or a need to fulfill their needs. I choose my partners, not my trauma or subconscious.
We kindhearts must stick together, to defeat the demonic attacks all around us.
@@Hawaiiansky11 Agreed, sounds like you have found a useful step towards freeing yourself, glad to hear it!
9:55 meditation is NOT recommended for everyone. For dissociatives , meditation can even be one of the causes of it, often forced meditation especialy, and so it does only harm to someone trying to heal. Anyone subjected to coercive control techniques previously or currently will/most likely be harmed meditating until healed unless they have dissociative parts specifically wanting to meditate..[ however should be done with caution since other parts could be effected negatively outside of the awareness of parts participating in meditation]. EMDR is also not recommended for people with dissociative altered parts and causes severe distress, it is not the way to achieve integration in memory and can and does backfire on the traumatized multiple.
I don’t know what to do my anxiety disorders are way too severe and all my mental disorders. It’s torture 24/7 every single day non stop, and impossible to handle. There’s nothing that stops my severe anxieties no matter what I do (+I have a weird sleeping disorder) and I can’t handle anti-depressants due to side effects such as sexual(I already suffer with that part) and numbness side effects.
@@heytherenordic7230 sexual side effects and numbness are not severe side effects.
You describe it better than any of the countless people I've sought help from, so grateful its finally starting to be understood so appropriate strategies for help can be made available
Too kind. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I did find The Body Keeps the Score to be very triggering and disregulating, but it also prompted me to get real help as I realized I needed a Sherpa to guide me through my own traumas safely.
Thanks for sharing. Wishing you, peace, health, and, happiness.
I love this dictor she speaks plainly, with knoweldge, experience and thoroughness, no over prromising, no psycho bable
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching videos on the channel. I am truly grateful. Here are more videos on PTSD: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=PTSD
I stay away from certain types of people. The types of people that trigger my over the top reactions are bad people anyway. I never should have been around these people in the first place but life happens. It's sad that I can't be around my own family members. When I was young I would hope that things would get better but it always ended up with me getting hurt. I would stay away for months until I felt ok and then I would go back and try again. I would forgive and give another chance just to end up hurt, betrayed again. I finally decided that I couldn't waist months of my life getting over being traumatized just to go back and it all happen again. When I went no contact from my family and others in my life, I got better and stayed better. Now I'm careful to spot the same type of people early on and keep a safe distance from them for my own good. I noticed that I can't be around drunken or dopey people. I end up freaking out because of the things they do. Most of the time it's them trying to get me involved in their drama. They want me to rescue them from something or they betray me somehow. I notice the reoccurring theme now, it took me a while to catch on. I should have know this right from the start but this started when I was a child I guess and didn't know any different. I knew something was wrong but I thought it was me, I thought that next time I would have a loving family that supported me. No way, it will never happen. I had to grieve the loss and get better and stay better. It's sad because they say I should forgive and give them another chance and I should let the past go.... it's always something that I am doing wroung, something that is wroung with me... that's the part that makes me feel crazy. It is so hard for me to say that there is nothing wroung with me and accept that it's them who are abusive, and I can't handle it. They all can get drunk and forget about what ever happened but I can't. I am the one who has to suffer and remember cuz I'm not drunk.
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I found out I had CPTSD about 4 years ago when I began trauma informed therapy. This has got to be the most concise explanation I have ever heard. I feel so understood. I'm currently feeling flooded with so many self hating feelings. I worked today so I did the best I could to get through the day by hiding away in my cubicle because I'm already scared of everyone anyway and being flooded increases that fear to the 1,000th power. Listened to this on my way home. It was very validating and helped me not feel so ashamed for my lack of functioning today. 😪
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Thank you so much for this material. It might be a life changer for many victims of abuse.
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I'm grateful eternally for this. I hope we can all be less judgmental of one another with this enlightening info💚
Thanks for watching
What hurts the most is finding out this is the only choice you ever had.
Thank you and thank my Guardian Angels for bringing me to you. I am so incredibly grateful.
Thank you Doc Snipes! living with this condition is near on impossible. You described and understand it beautifully breath fresh air as help for complex post traumatic stress disorder is Not forthcoming… having taken 38 years for acknowledgement. Wish anyone suffering this hope and that more help becomes available. It’s really not in your head. Thank you for this acknowledgement too Doc Snipes! 🙏
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I have children your age. So good your working on this at a young age. I think, the older you get to harder it is....because for me, I was victimized on multiple levels (very little food, house that was beyond filthy, never soap or shampoo or toothbrush and paste. Neglect, and emotional, sexual assaults for years. I was always terrified of closets, weirdo right...women love closets. Come to learn from a sibling that they used to hide me in the closets and pile clothes on me to hide me, I was the baby. We can and will overcome this cruelty we all experienced. And we will be stronger people.
I’ve been struggling with mine a lot lately. It feels even more hopeless when you can only control your symptoms and not eliminate them all
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I've always felt a weird sense of kinship toward military veterans. Not because I was enlisted- I wasn't, but because I felt like they were the only ones that understood what I felt, even if neither of us could quite explain what we felt.
My trauma came from a very difficult childhood, which influenced me to make terrible choices which greatly affected those that loved me. To realize such malice existed/exists within me, even though I genuinely believed I had "the best of intentions," broke me.
It took over a decade to become what I considered functional and a productive member of society, and then a terrible idiopathic disease completely upended everything I worked so hard for. That disease then led to an addiction, which again caused me to bring great harm to those that loved me- again.
While I thankfully have been in remission for two years, and clean even longer, the mental trauma is still there. Indeed, the scars of that trauma still exist within what personal relationships I was able to hold onto. Perhaps the worst part is that I feel as though I still am victimizing those around me by not being as capable as I once was- that by virtue of me suffering, they too are suffering alongside me. Whether it's my shorter-than-usual temper my children experience, or the nights I don't go to bed with my wife from fear of horrific and vivid nightmares that leave me and the bed drenched in sweat, or the times I keep to myself in another room so I can cry in peace, or the time I spend ruminating instead of socializing.
I am very thankful that I am at least as stable as I am today- that self-harm, or addiction is not among the monsters I contend with. Perhaps there is a way to heal this other than time weathering it away. I don't know. I don't think I want to talk to anyone I know about this, which perhaps is why I'm saying this here to a comment section with full anonymity.
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TY for giving away the paths to understanding and healing. I am learning to be my own rescuer after a long life of crippling experiences. I can now take responsibility for my part in the tragedy of my life without the pain of not understanding why I didn’t make better choices. It isn’t all a “me thing.” These things happen to anyone in these circumstances. You are a hero in the story of so many lives by giving your gifts of insight on this platform. I recognized my myself, mother, father, sister, friends in this lecture. I will be more compassionate towards all who fit this model.
Thanks for watching! I appreciate your kind words.
After realising that PTSD described one event only and yet I was like a broken record of responses I brought my own cPTSD to a trauma therapist in 2012 when I googled 'chronic and ongoing' ptsd and found a tiny little seed of the concept. This amazing trauma specialist had never heard of it but had the intelligence and compassion and courage to delve into the concept when it was only a single concept posted on the Interwebs.. I am now somewhat of an expert in the field and I can tell you Doctor Snipes your encapsulations and delineations are superb. Well done for the succinct and lucid clarifications ! The DSM is a bloody joke but this still needs to be listed among all the other cash cow diagnoses! I commend your work - thank you!
You’re so welcome. Thank you for your kind words. I truly appreciate you watching.
The DSM is indeed a ridiculous tool and a constant cashflow cow to big pharma and all the ones who have a job within.
I have just recently been discovering what CPTSD is. It explains SO much! I’m 68 yo and have been feeling like giving up. I have withdrawn from the world. Except for my husband who doesn’t really ‘get’ me but loves me very much (❤️). I’m very blessed I have him. But the depression I have and withdrawal I desire; the conflicted feelings around my family just makes we feel like I just don’t want to live anymore. I would like to find a good CPTSD therapist; but it’s not even in the DSM
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I got c-ptsd because of sudden loss and prolonged grief. Well prolonged illness which my mother died from and then trauma 3 mo later my father died suddenly. I also lost my grandmother earlier that year and 4 years before my grandfather died suddenly. I am not the same person I was. My short term memory and anxiety now is terrible.
My condolences on your loss.
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Whoa. Almost identical to my story. I’m having a very hard time right now. Stuck is an understatement.
The cross over between BPD and CPTSD is why I havent received a direct diagnosis. I was adopted into a family where my father is a narcissist, and my mother enabled him to protect herself. I was bullied at school for two solid years, and have had several life threatening accidents and traumas over my life time.
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@Stella Marris thanks for this information. I’ll look them up
@Stella Marris I got scammed by one on insta already.
I was diagnosed with BPD years ago, and now I honestly just don’t know. Since I’ve had kids in the last two years my symptoms have gotten better except in regard to their narcissistic father who emotionally/financially/mentally abused me constantly until I made him leave and still struggle with daily. CPTSD really fits me, I was emotionally neglected as a child and the family scapegoat, dealing with this man has shown me how I was gaslighted and emotionally/mentally abused by my mother as well as neglected, and I had never processed that as my mother was the one who pushed the BPD label on me so hard - it HAD to be me.
How would one go about clarifying if they have BPD or CPTSD when they have a diagnosis already? I would like to be reevaluated to see if I was misdiagnosed but am unsure how to go about that since years of records say borderline
I thought I had ADHD. To be sure I got neuropsychological testing. It is a battery of test that see how you answer certain questions. It is not a therapist using their opinion only. It turned out I have PTSD. I disassociate but I don't have inattention.
Thank you so very much for putting this information out. As someone who lives with CPTSD and spent many years with misdiagnosis this level of information is not only helpful but gives me hope for better quality of care that can prevent deterioration. I've been hearing CPTSD will be in the next dsm for over a decade after being diagnosed properly
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Superb video!
You discussed briefly in part 1 the rat study and the relationship of the microbiome with the brain via the vagus nerve.
It’s taken me years to put this together.
Brain fog, as well as many other debilitating symptoms,has been severe due to nutrient deficiencies.
As in my case, multiple traumas led to a chronic sympathetic driven state. Cortisol stayed chronically elevated and my gut shut down. Obviously, the microbiome is directly affected. This led to food allergies, leaky gut, autoimmune, etc.
Rumination is just as devastating as the original trauma. The subconscious mind can’t differentiate between the actual trauma or just thinking about it.
It’s a nightmare.
It is important to address the gut imbalance as well as the trauma.
Intermittent fasting, keto diet, probiotics.
Fresh garlic, ginger, turmeric, cinnamon, camomile, licorice, bitter’s, etc
Hcl with pepsin and digestive enzymes to breakdown nutrients and retrain the gut.
Daily meditation, exercise, sunlight.
No blue light(phones, pads, tv)
Quality sleep!!!!
Thanks again for sharing your knowledge.
Peace and blessings 🙏
Look into Hashimoto’s and Brain Fog Dr Martin Rutherford makes amazing connections too. I have to be my own rescuer. TH-cam surfing has helped more than my clinicians.
@@sacredrain7757 Thanks 😃
Check out Dr Eric Berg, Dr Sten Ekberg and Dr John Bergman channels.
Peace and blessings 🙏
It is so valuable to acknowledge the intersections between PTSD CPTSD, BPD. The trajectory of treatment, the stigma around the diagnosis alone, there are a lot of layers that need to be considered, and it's great to have a holistic approach.
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The Body Keeps the Score is also spot on, yes I was triggered to a depressive state, but only for a short period as I realized I was on the path of healing starting with discovery...you helped me clearly self diagnose CPTSD with BPD...TY TY TY
You’re so welcome. I am am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from this video?
I've now been diagnosed with CPTSD. My trauma - an ASD husband who couldn't deal with his ASD. Compounded by our ASD son reacting to my seeking to make him "socially invisible" and dealing with binge eating and food addiction who's also diabetic. Compounded by an older son with anger management issues who would vent sideways - always in my direction.
Then there's the ongoing psychological abuse I get subjected to in every day life. Like being put on a blood pressure medication I in all probability shouldn't have been put on. Like people who can't be bothered to give you all pertinent information that may well affect a decision you make. Like people who say they'll get back to you but then don't get back to you. Like having to repeat your story twice to find out you don't fit into the remit of a service you've contacted - before you ask that was the very first question I asked on connecting with a person as a direct result of listening to messages about that service while on hold. Like having parts of your identity demonised regularly by all sectors of society.
And NONE of that stuff is neccesary. There's absolutely no call for such rudeness - because that's what it is - rude, ignorant and ill-mannered.
I don't get dizzy. I go straight to anger. I live on my own and most likely always will for the rest of my days. Exercise helps - walking/swimming helps defuse those angry emotions & calm me. Until recently - due entirely to the massive amount of psychological abuse I've been subjected to in the past 3 months - sleep was never an issue. At the moment I'm on medication that works to dull the vigilant state substantially and sleep.
At the moment I can see my path back to stability. I don't know the exact direction or length - I just know I'm on that path.
That sounds awful and I am sorry you have gone through it. I appreciate you watching the video and I am glad to read that you can see your path back to stability. What tips from the video will you take with you, on your path to healing? Here are more videos on CPTSD that might help: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=CPTSD
I got abused sexually, felt domestic abuse through years, substance abuse, abandonment, emotional abuse, all in the same 15 years :( i feel so broken that i blame nyself for everything i cant let go of so many issues i have. I am also unable to healthy search for a therapist because it was weaponized so much as a way of being “crazy” that now just thinking of going to one even though knowing it isnt bad scares me.
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Thank you for verbalizing my life. It helped me. Finally after 30 years of constant trauma I’m getting treatment without judgement.
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It would be great to get some information on how to manage this in the chronically ill. The trauma is not caused by another individual so there's a different level of fear when it's your own body that's attacking you and you're aware that it's incurable and lifelong.
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it is caused by another person or situation always and its not incurable nor lifelong if you get the correct treatment.
@@scarred10 not sure who you could say caused my autoimmune diseases that I was born with, but okay. And yes, chronic literally means neverending, lifelong. Unfortunately not all diseases can be easily treated or managed, especially autoimmune diseases. The treatments aren't very effective for a lot of people. Even if they do work they can also stop if your body makes antibodies to the medication after time and most also carry serious cancer risks. With some degenerative diseases there's only medications that slow down the disease progression/destruction, but there is nothing that can actually stop it. Then there are some people like me, that have refractory disease, which means you don't respond to any available treatment and there's nothing anyone can do to help you. The only thing left to do is wait for the inevitable complications, try to treat those as they happen and hope you don't die yet.
I sincerely hope they add cptsd to dsm6. A single trauma is painful enough but having your personality and brain form under significant recurring trauma is a whole other ball game. I know cptsd isn’t just ACE but it is a significant portion of cptsd cases
Or even living as an adult under chronic trauma (violence etc)
I suffer from cptsd as I was drugged and abused. I had told people what was going on in confidence and was pressured to keep up my relationship with this person. When I confronted my abuser publicly, when Id truly had enough, they accused me. Nobody believed me or stuck up for me, so as well as not being well, I was made homeless, lost contact with all friends, family. Its the not being believed or validated and the things that came after the abuse that really hurt. I just wanted to say the #1 rule with someone suffering from this condition is DO NOT say "I don't believe you" and DO NOT say things about them that are untrue. It sends me on a 2 week bender when someone does this. I have had doctors give false accounts of conversations and as such removed myself from care a few times. I've had family members say they didn't believe me and tbh I will never speak to them again. It doesn't get better with time and infact the makeup of your brain is PERMANENTLY rewired. I've been told by my doc the only treatments are coping mechanisms and the only way I'd feel better is if the perpetrator was held accountable which will never happen. It makes you want to take things into your own hands as you cannot trust anyone. I don't leave the house anymore and I don't have any friends as the back of my head tells me all the time "if it happens again nobody will help you". I have a partner and I've dumped her multiple times only to apologise hours later. I can't really be left on my own with my thoughts. Gainsborough police said "He is a nutter" and have ignored a total of 17 complaints over the past 3 years. I had to explain I am diagnosed with cPTSD and usually this is the result of continued abuse and systematic failures of people who are supposed to help. I wouldn't have cPTSD if the police did something about the abuse, whilst it was happening, but the police didn't want to. I can't deal with them myself as they outright say things like "I don't believe you" intentionally and it makes me lose it. If anyone ever tells you about something like this going on, tell then you believe them even if you don't and if you're sure it's true, you need to do something personally as the police won't help. it's also really important to not be alone all the time and to take a 3rd party look at your behaviour. Mood swings etc can intimidate and scare people. I have a regular 5 minute check with my partner. One time a few years ago, I woke in the middle of the night with her hand on my belly. Its the same spot my abuser ran her hand over. I went nuts and started screaming, throwing things, calling her a predator, dumped her and threw her out. That was the 1st time it happened. When I was better we had a chat about it, I asked her if she was OK and what it was like, we came up with a plan on what to do if it happens again etc. You have to be self aware of what you have done. When the warning signs come up I make her stay at home and don't let her live with me all the time. Final piece of advise is do not speak to the police about anger or violent thoughts. This will be used to threaten you which will set you off. You will ask why they would go to such lengths to threaten someone who is forthcoming and seeking help whilst not caring about the person who did this to you to begin with and it will make you rage which gets you in a deeper hole. If you ever end up in some kind of situation involving an abuser you say "no comment" else they try lying to pin all sorts of stuff on you. They really don't care about you at all. Remember don't do anything stupid kids and seek trusted family / friend / medical help when you need it
I can relate with your story and sadly I’m stuck in the hell hole situation with my abusers as I’m freshly out of highschool with no money to move out. My dad is the one who gave me my PTSD and seeing him daily sends me into a rage. It feels like living in a prison and I do everything to sabortage this evil man from throwing his car keys in the bush, destroying 3 of his phones in the microwave, popping his tires, stealing money and I plan to try to get him to step on some glass I will break and hopefully I can get him. Besides from this I’m going to try to get a job anything to free me from this hell hole with this evil man 😡😡😡😡😡😡
@@ruehl3853 I'm so sad for you. I experienced horrendous abuse and trauma at the hands of my mother when I was a teen, stuck at home with no license and being on constant watch, lest I run off...which I probably should have, and my life would have turned out much better.
At any rate, all i can advise is
(1) NEVER tell your abuser your plans. I was not aware of the abuse /abnormalcy of it until it was too late. I did not learn to shut my mouth until she tortured me and changed my personality entirely. Don't say a damn word about what you are going to do or when. Be subversive.
(2) Hide a 'go bag' somewhere they would not look.
(3) squirrel away money however you can and get a solid plan in place. Maybe a notebook with phone numbers, addresses, etc. that you keep at school or someplace where your abuser cannot find it.
(4) when you do leave turn off your phone if you are on your abuser's plan and get a burner for a short while so that you cannot be tracked. Leave the state if you have to.
I find it very empowering to have an 'escape plan.'
I've listened to many of these videos. This lady is amazing!
Thanks so much!
I agree with the misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder or a bipolar 2 with Rapid Cycling. It makes more sense that if you have PTSD when you get a trauma trigger you're not in the present moment so really what you're doing is you're not going in and out of mood swings you just going in and out of present moments cuz you're not in the present moment when you have a PTSD trigger an episode, you're at the present the time of the usually the original trauma.
You are 100% spot on especially with overlap...TY TY TY
Thank you. I am grateful to be of help
My two sons and I all had this from a lot of abuse from their father and our extended family. I was able to get some therapy and EMDR years ago when we were finally divorced, but my sons were still in it. I eventually got full custody of them as teenagers but the trauma was set in by then and my eldest son was using drugs to cope. I just wanted to get the to 18 and out of high school because then they could leave the area and start to heal. We had just gotten there in 2016 and my youngest son graduated and 3 weeks later his 20 year old brother died. We just kept going and my surviving son was in two consecutive codependent and abusive relationships, but since his relationship ended he has been struggling, but I didn't understand to what extent until he joined me where I live in Mexico. I was stunned when I saw him . He looked terrible and had lost all of his confidence. He has every single symptom of CPTSD in this video, but the problem is that he wants only to distract himself from thinking about it, and for that reason he has not grown or healed or matured in the years since his brother died. Since he has been here with me his behavior has been really troubling. He is broken and I don't know how to help him. . I'm wondering if I should show him this video. It is awful to see my 24 year old so broken. . I am so worried about making things worse. I want him to know that I'm happy he is here and he is safe to heal but we have to take some steps to heal. He has been revictimized over and again because of the reasons you mentioned and because he wants to belong to a family, but his family is not well. and his dad is a sociopath. I don't know what to do but he is so clearly suffering.
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I can’t even find a mental health professional to act like they gaf enough to correctly diagnose me or listen to me. Just throw me meds and send the invoice. I’ve learn more from this video about myself than ever before. Thank you!
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This was very validating. Thank you 💜
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching.
Yes yes yes! You break it all down so we'll. Sent this video to my therapist to discuss further and enhance treatment. I'm articulate and I think that is also a defense mechanism on my part never allowing my Self to go there. Thank you very much!
I am studying to obtain a certificate in Trauma and Addiction and the information is very helpful. Thank you.
Best of luck! Thanks for watching.
Well done, you, Francis Alex. It's great that this lady totally understands it. My daughter suffers from addiction. I hope that she can find someone to help. I would like help on gaining confidence and not fearing establishing romantic relationships and friendships. I am not sure where to start on building trust. People seem to avoid friendships with me. I think I need to make a plan of action to work on various aspects of this condition 🤔
Or a lecture hall full of 600 students. I've realized that for the first three years of my undergraduate I have been drinking the entire time. Every time I went to lecture I had been drinking. And then adding cancer on to that is just like so much stress. I'm so happy though that I decided to sit here and look at all this. I feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel
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@@DocSnipes tlThank you very much
As always, your presentations are so very clear and caring for healing people! Thank you Donna.Lee!!!!
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
This is my husband to a T. We’re both trying to work through this. It can be frightening and disheartening, but I have hope.
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Hi my wife was diagnosed with C-PTSD 3 years ago. We have been together for 17 years and married 14. In year 14 of our relationship she got all her suppressed memories back from an abusive relationship she was in a few years before we met. Since her memories came back along with flashbacks my wife sounds like everyone on here. She made me go to therapy with her every Friday for last 2.5 years and never opened up. She recently told me she couldn’t open up because I was in there with her and blamed me for her not going alone when she always asked me to please come or she wouldn’t go. She finally went alone last week and she said her past memories are so front and center in her mind that she feels unsafe even around me now. I get it I think, her trauma happened in a relationship so being in a relationship while she is not even close to healing is making me an unsafe person. Have you and your husband ever been git where he feels unsafe from you? My wife is staying at her mom’s house now and I’m giving her space to feel safe and start her healing journey.
I spend more than a decade in treatment of providers and have had enough of them and their "Medications".
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Same here they need to address the cause and stop minimizing it.
Thank you for this. I got my diagnosis, thankfully.
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This explains so much to me. I had a traumatic event that was a life changer 💯
Thank you, very accurate and clear presentation. PLEASE look into the relationship between cPTSD, if I'm correct there is very strong correlation between this and multiple chronic syndromes and illnesses. Though the research is backing this it is NOT DISCUSSED ♥️
This has to be the most well explained video I have ever seen, and I've seen many, about CPTSD. Very helpful info.
Thank you for watching the video and for kind words. I am grateful to be of service
There us much mention of peope experiencing changes as a result of abuse, but people who are abused from early childhood or infancy don't ever even have anything healthy to change. For example, their senss of self-worth won't change because they have always felt worthless. They will also never have had an ability to trust other people. So the word "recovery" almost doesn't even apply. There is nothing to recover, and the survivor has to somehow create these things for the very first time. All while living life and functioning as an adult.
There is a re-parenting type of therapy that you may try. It might help to visualize certain defining moments / traumatic experiences and acting as both the child and the healthy parent, the parent you needed at that moment in time. I've done this for several one-time events in my childhood and it seemed to help a great deal.
Good point. You are not recovering, you are emerging.
This is such a thorough video. I wish there were more examples on how to deal with the feelings of PTSD CPTSD and BPD. I definitely did go in and out of being able to listen and concentrate through this video. I saved it to re-watch on the bits I may have missed. Thank you for this video.
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
@@DocSnipes personally for me I think you saying "people with CPTSD think that, that is just the way they are" for years as a child I and family would think that, that's just the way I am, especially in my teen hood years.... I think my mum knew a few times that I may be acting out as a child due to all of the trauma.. but as a teen I guess ppl just assumed I was an @**ho!E...which in actual fact made it worse for me. Had I gotten the proper care as a child before hitting into my teen years.... Maybe it would have been different. Unfortunately I still ended up suffering with trauma as a teen as well and now as a young adult. I also really resonated with you saying that ppl who may experience this can be tense. Unfortunately due to dv I suffer with chronic pain... But it makes my chronic pain 100 times worse when I'm anxious or am reliving the trauma all over again through nightmares and flashbacks. I struggle with concentration. I use to be able to do the square breathing that you mentioned in your vid.... But these days it seems so much more difficult to do that. I've also recently started implementing meditation when I do my stretches... And it's too difficult to focus and my mind wonders. If you could do a vid on coping strategies for ppl with this that'd be awesome.💜
Fantastic presentation. Thank you very much. I'm dealing with this among with the "Healing the Inner Child" video. I just turned 48 and have been trying to fix this by myself for years. I'm very self aware but need some real treatment. Perhaps EMDR and Yoga.
Thanks for watching.
those are only part of the problem and not effective by themselves
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
It is hard to be our own rescuer when we have been crippled, but I have great hope for everyone who listens to these videos. It is very helpful to create a therapeutic alliance with a pro who can become the world’s leading expert in you. I had to shop around and state my expectations for my therapist clearly to get more than a compassionate listener. I give my therapist homework and ask her for my lesson of the week. I am responsible for my progress. I am eighth of 8.😄 I’m 56 and learning what I CAN DO to help myself, and the first step was to decide I need help and a bit of company on the path. I thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me.
Thank you for this video. I am working with a wonderful psychologist and in the last year was diagnosed with c-PTSD. The superficial symptoms, being depression and anxiety, were usually what my diagnosis entailed. I appreciated a collegial PowerPoint presentation of the diagnosis, and some of the misdiagnoses. When we know more, we can do better.
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I have cptsd but I’m at a point where I’m tired of being a victim and want to get my power back. I’m tired of being paranoid, and tired of avoiding forming relationships and friendships. I want to do emdr but everyone I contact want to do it virtually and I rather do it in person. Do you feel emdr can be done affectively over video call?
While there is a lot of evidence EMDR can be effective when done virtually, I would worry about your safety if you do it alone. Def. Have someone in the house or next door that can respond if you go into crisis and who will check on you at the scheduled end of the appointment.
It is truly a daily work for me and I am healing daily. The only thing I hate is feeling by myself in the process. I push myself daily to reset and reprogram but some days are better than others. 🙏🏽
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I have ADHD and cPTSD and married to a narcissistic alcoholic, fun times.
I've experienced several traumatic events in my life. A few manifest as outright flashbacks and persistent dreams. So much so that I've contemplated hypnotherapy.
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Please let me know what you think of it. Thank you!
I really appreciate this video. I have ADHD comorbid with C-PTSD, and it's been a wild ride trying to get a handle on everything. The biggest challenge I face now is the closer I get to sobriety the more the symptoms become pronounced, which are exacerbated by my hypersensitive ADHD nature, so I tend to remain in an inebriated state. It's gotten to the point where I'm maintaining a healthy lifestyle; performing strenuous exercises, climbing the ladders at work, engaging in the arts, but because I can't handle being sober I've figured out a way to do these things while maintaining a somewhat extreme habit of substance abuse. I fear my body organs might be taking quite a beating.
Thanks for watching and for sharing
I have a major CPTSD, I struggle to get a job. I struggled to function and my family doesn't believe in mental health, and they think I am just lazy and irrational because I am an " emotional little girl" even though I'm an adult and do not identify as a woman. No one understands that just because I'm not in a wheelchair every day, doesn't mean I'm not disabled, and I'm not majorly negatively impacted by something everyday. I might be homeless soon because, my parents are fed up with me not being able to get a job fast enough to help them pay rent and move out on my own(I am 19 and live in a place where living is extremely expensive and everyone is very rude, anti-vax, anti-mental health, anti-LGBTQ, I am vigorously gay and fear being punished for it, when I got the Omnicron variant I nearly died due to being immunecompromised, and if I get it again, I don't know if I'll make it. ) but I hope eventually your videos will spread enough awareness
@@patrick8030 thank you
This video has helped me better understand how to approach and better help my friends who suffer from CPTSD. Thank you for sharing this info
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"relax" is one of the most triggering words for me. Thank you, I loved your video.
So welcome. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I have just come across this. Amazing. I have CPTSD and have been in Hell for six years but I'm now healing
I am sorry about that. What tools from the video are you planning to use to address PTSD / cPTSD?
I think this is me! I'm Empathic yet when i try to be strong or say NO, i'm quickly apologetic. Confused constantly, wouldn't hurt a fly but i offend constantly even by being present, i can't be read. I've been told, i don't understand you. I don't understand myself lol.
I was raised by an abusive and cold mother and held out for my Father to rescue me who later rejected me till death recently. 34 years of hope for my father to love me but refused to see me. I don't know what security or love is. I know what it isn't, thats my foundation of motherhood. To love naturally and in opposition to my trauma.
Treat people, how you would treat yourself
And yes, i have demonic nightmares and feel others emotions, sometimes i confuse others demons for myself.
I wouldn't wish cptsd on anyone. I'm always on edge, go from 0 to 100 if even a glass breaks, depressed all the time, have a lot of sleep disruption from nightmares which exasperates all my other symptoms, etc. But, at least I don't get black out drunk anymore. So I have made progress.
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have this in side over 50 years it wont leave me alone
Try magic mushrooms.
This is excellent, thank you so much!
Watching this as a 37 year old, realizing a lot of long and ongoing traumas, running down the highway of realization and new perspectives. This is so helpful, and still gives so much sadness. Might be BPD, as some maybe end up in, me as an example not knowing exactly how one’s life has rooted in one self. But this feels incredibly amazing. 500h+ of therapy has never given me this much insight been this close-hitting. I’m so scared, but happy. But so, SO incredibly scared. Does it get better?
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I understand now I have cPTSD .. after trying 3 psychiatrists, different medications, different diagnosis like dysthamia, depression, severe anxiety, splitting etc... My own sister who is clinical psychologist but hasn't talked to me over 10 years... I cared for my people and protected them and her .. I now understand I have cPTSD.. i have spent hours and days trying to figure what's wrong with me.. after 40 years i understand this is it.. feel a little relief listening talk to you.. how can you be so understanding when even family members feel like a threat... 😢
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I thought I was just a bad person. Broken in a way that I didn't understand and was afraid to try and explain. Relationships always essentially following the same trajectory of a harmful cyclical nature. 2 cycles was the average a partner could tolerate. 3 cycles seems to be the hard limit. Time does not heal all wounds.
The fact that you are aware of it is a good first step.
Thank you, thank you, thank you
You’re so very welcome. How will you start coping with PTSD (cPTSD)?
BPD is one of the most mis-diagnosed disorders out there while cPTSD is vastly misunderstood by entirely too many agency counselors. Particularly those who work with survivors of domestic violence. I can't tell you how many of my peers or cohort in the field who were trite when speaking of BPD clients or future clients.
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