i heard this ALL the time as a child, too. i see now that this is done to turn your 'sensors' off - because your verbal/physical reactions are loud in their ears, they're trying to get you to shut them off. for me, it was actually true. i have sensitivity as a natural part of my personality. but i believe that toxic families can amplify this trait. the instability and inconsistent hot-and-then-cold treatment can have you seeing yourself in a distorted, clown mirror for years.
I learned years ago how to stop this despicable gaslighting from the narcissist. When they tell me, “You’re soooo sensitive,” I simply respond, “And you’re soooo INsensitive.” That usually stops them in their tracks, because they’re not expecting such a response from you. They’re expecting you to second-guess yourself once again.....you know.....the way they’ve “trained” you to.
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 You're welcome! I inadvertently discovered this golden nugget years ago while conversing over the phone with my narc sister. I told her how tired I was of her narc husband disrespecting me. She told me she needed to remain "neutral." Then she said in a disdainful voice, "You're soooo sensitive." My immediate response was, "And you're so insensitive." For the first time, there was silence on the other end. That's how I knew that it was an effective response. Although their abuse towards me continued until I went NC with both of them 8 years ago -- I will continue to arm myself with this response if any narcissist ever dares to use this gaslighting technique on me again. 👊
I can understand and relate to your story to a high degree from personal experience. It sounds like you have all the knowledge and strength to move into the fullness of who you are ......and were meant to be ....
Yes very well said. Sometimes, in the moment, it is unfortunately a temptation to doubt ourselves. It helps me to learn how gaslighting attempts to control a person.
That's my step-dad's favorite phrase to me. He still says it to me. I realize I've never seen him cry except for his mom's funeral. Lol she was also a narcissist. But that was only at the funeral. After that nothing. And yup us scapegoats are empaths. Hypervigilance is key to our survival as scapegoats.
YES, girl. I had a narcissist Gemini and a narcissist Leo say I am "too sensitive". I do not like Leos and Geminis because they are 2 face ! And they are sensitive hypocrites themselves. Also I had a water signs do this and they are sensitive.
YES! @Grace.2. Grace is so right ✅ this is right on the spot. I notice this type of behavior with narcissistic traits is SOOOOOOOO prevalent in Jamaican families or Caribbean culture 🤔
I was either too sensitive or “didn’t go along with it, that’s how he’s always been” (referring to my dad). I need to get with it and he will start being nice to me again, when he thinks I’m no longer a risk to him/whistleblower.
This is facts!!!! The whole “that’s how he’s always been” definitely sets you up to believe you’re just suppose to accept being abused ugh😤thank you for sharing
too sensitive apologize too much couldn't choose my meal McDonald's fast enough and got yelled at by my brother. "sorry doesn't mean anything" -mom (thus making me afraid of failure since I wouldn't be forgiven my mom said she walks on egg shells around us. but she make us feel like that
I hear every single day from my boyfriend you talk about your family mine is about my boyfriend but all your videos are exactly what I'm going through it feels like it's impossible is there anyway you can private message me
I heard that I was too sensitive all the time. I believe this is how narcissistic parents groom their scapegoat child to accept abuse.
Wow 😳 I love this comment so much truth
i heard this ALL the time as a child, too.
i see now that this is done to turn your 'sensors' off - because your verbal/physical reactions are loud in their ears, they're trying to get you to shut them off. for me, it was actually true. i have sensitivity as a natural part of my personality.
but i believe that toxic families can amplify this trait. the instability and inconsistent hot-and-then-cold treatment can have you seeing yourself in a distorted, clown mirror for years.
Whoa!!!! This!! I love this comment it’s so true thanks for sharing !!!💕💕
I learned years ago how to stop this despicable gaslighting from the narcissist. When they tell me, “You’re soooo sensitive,” I simply respond, “And you’re soooo INsensitive.” That usually stops them in their tracks, because they’re not expecting such a response from you. They’re expecting you to second-guess yourself once again.....you know.....the way they’ve “trained” you to.
Wow this is awesome I love love love your response!! Thank you so much for sharing 💕💕
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 You're welcome! I inadvertently discovered this golden nugget years ago while conversing over the phone with my narc sister. I told her how tired I was of her narc husband disrespecting me. She told me she needed to remain "neutral." Then she said in a disdainful voice, "You're soooo sensitive." My immediate response was, "And you're so insensitive." For the first time, there was silence on the other end. That's how I knew that it was an effective response.
Although their abuse towards me continued until I went NC with both of them 8 years ago -- I will continue to arm myself with this response if any narcissist ever dares to use this gaslighting technique on me again. 👊
Oh! Priceless response!
I can understand and relate to your story to a high degree from personal experience. It sounds like you have all the knowledge and strength to move into the fullness of who you are ......and were meant to be ....
I was told it too, repeatedly, by my mother
Mine said the same thing. If we are so sensitive why are they always saying things that are hurtful?
Yes, I heard it all the time. I was only allowed to express happiness. No other feeling was allowed to be felt. Thank goodness for therapy.
Yes very well said. Sometimes, in the moment, it is unfortunately a temptation to doubt ourselves. It helps me to learn how gaslighting attempts to control a person.
Absolutely
Heard this all the time! Thanks for speaking on this!
So needed this today. SPOT ON. Thank you!
Wow thank you for listening 💕💕
thank you for your videos!!! they are really helpful
Aww thank you so much 💕💕
“You are over thinking it” that’s what I got
Bomb that’s another one! That’s literally a myth
That's my step-dad's favorite phrase to me. He still says it to me. I realize I've never seen him cry except for his mom's funeral. Lol she was also a narcissist. But that was only at the funeral. After that nothing. And yup us scapegoats are empaths. Hypervigilance is key to our survival as scapegoats.
Them: "You're too sensitive"...
Us: "I respectfully disagree, but you're free to think whatever you'd like about me."
💪🏻👊❤💥
constantly told im too sensitive
Don’t listen! Being sensitive is your super power💕💕
Excellent video..spot on...missed your videos..
Wow thank you so much 💕💕
I recall being told this as a youth by the father role, and it didn't make sense to me for the longest.
Yes, I definitely heard this all of the time by my covert narcissistic mother.
The worst thing anyone can do is carry other peoples self esteem on their back.
Thank you for this 💕
I heard I was too sensitive all the time. Love this video
YES, girl. I had a narcissist Gemini and a narcissist Leo
say I am "too sensitive".
I do not like Leos and Geminis because they are 2 face ! And they are sensitive hypocrites themselves.
Also I had a water signs do this and they are sensitive.
YES! @Grace.2. Grace is so right ✅ this is right on the spot. I notice this type of behavior with narcissistic traits is SOOOOOOOO prevalent in Jamaican families or Caribbean culture 🤔
I was either too sensitive or “didn’t go along with it, that’s how he’s always been” (referring to my dad). I need to get with it and he will start being nice to me again, when he thinks I’m no longer a risk to him/whistleblower.
This is facts!!!! The whole “that’s how he’s always been” definitely sets you up to believe you’re just suppose to accept being abused ugh😤thank you for sharing
I swear you stay telling my life
How many years since you left them?
Definitely over 10 years, still healing..
Thank you for your content
Thank you for receiving what I have to say💕💕
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 thanks for doing that, now it's my turn😁
too sensitive
apologize too much
couldn't choose my meal McDonald's fast enough and got yelled at by my brother.
"sorry doesn't mean anything"
-mom (thus making me afraid of failure since I wouldn't be forgiven
my mom said she walks on egg shells around us. but she make us feel like that
Posted this on my fb channel. This is 100%
WOW , thank you so much 💕
I hear every single day from my boyfriend you talk about your family mine is about my boyfriend but all your videos are exactly what I'm going through it feels like it's impossible is there anyway you can private message me