Do THIS ONE THING To Stop A Bully In Their Tracks | Adult Bullying And Harassment

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    ****** Thank you for joining me on this exploration of the complex realm of psychology of adult bullying. Stay with me until the end of this video, and you'll not only develop a deep understanding of this intricate matter but also acquire valuable techniques to navigate through it, emerging with greater strength and resilience.
    Sources:
    Smith, A., & Jones, B. (2018). Relational Aggression in Adulthood: A Comprehensive Review. Journal of Social Psychology, 45(2), 123-136.
    Williams, C., et al. (2019). Long-Term Effects of Workplace Bullying on Mental Health: A Meta-Analysis. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 28(3), 345-357.
    Johnson, R., & Smith, D. (2020). The Role of Social Support in Coping with Adult Bullying: A Qualitative Study. Journal of Applied Psychology, 33(4), 567-580.
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  • @Catnip-uh5pi
    @Catnip-uh5pi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    I had a nervous breakdown because of bullying by customers, co-workers and management when I worked at Walmart. I thought that bullying was supposed to end after high school graduation

    • @upstatenewyork
      @upstatenewyork หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I am so sorry to hear this. I had emotional trauma from one of the managers and some employees when I worked at Best Buy. And believe it or not, at an apartment complex. I really was damaged by it with sadness, depression and anxiety that would not go away because being in that ongoing environment does not give you a chance to heal.

    • @Catnip-uh5pi
      @Catnip-uh5pi หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@upstatenewyork I think retail chain stores and restaurants are a toxic work environment.... especially if you are a good worker with a kind personality. I hope you have moved out of that apartment complex because you should be able to at least have peace at home

    • @mosesjones5376
      @mosesjones5376 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      So sorry to hear that. Not surprised to hear that about Walmart. That store gives off vibes that some employees are bullied.

    • @Che-v7v
      @Che-v7v 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Very sorry to hear. Bullies will never go away. They are all over. 2x I had to confront bullies but both ignored them and said nothing. They shrunk back because it showed I was not afraid but I was calm and peaceful. Peace is power. This is what bullies are fighting for

    • @maygardens-ey5pn
      @maygardens-ey5pn 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      As a mere regular paying customer, I am currently being unfairly targeted and bullied by a receipt checker at Walmart no less!
      I have been going to that store each week for groceries for the past 2 years at the exact same time on the exact same day! I told this to and complained to management about him. He then, in retaliation, had a plain-clothed security guy follow me around the store next time I went in, which of course resulted in nothing and the PC security guy even wished me a good day.
      But that doesn't seem to matter. Now the receipt checker is back to physical proximity intimidation tactics and hitting the security alarm when I am about to walk out of the store to check my receipt when I always have a bus to catch.
      The staff now treat me with suspicion bc of the lies he has spread.
      I live an hour away with no car and that is my closest place to shop for cheap groceries. I have to go in again tomorrow. I don't know what to do. 😢 I always have to watch my back now when I am in there. I don't know what he will pull in terms of flying monkeys or something. I just don't want to get banned for no legitimate reason at all. I don't know how, but I think he will find a way.

  • @mikesmith6594
    @mikesmith6594 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    This is what I experience adult bullying, being excluded, gaslighting, malicious intent, silent treatment, gossiping behind my back, treated less than.

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Me too, and it is my family members doing it.

    • @cynthiawarren9379
      @cynthiawarren9379 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@rubberbiscuit99- That has also happened to me with a family member- probably a Narcissist. Remember with a toxic person- do not defend, explain, engage in conflict or drama, and do not personalize. As needed set boundaries.

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@cynthiawarren9379 Yes, I have stopped all of those. It was the boundaries though that really sealed the deal. They really hate me to have boundaries, unless they can step over them for their own amusement. They will eventually find a new target.

  • @danitajminer3279
    @danitajminer3279 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    DEEP. .
    Dont defend
    Dont engage
    Dont explain
    Dont personalize

    • @jo-annahicks3324
      @jo-annahicks3324 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks to Dr Ramani for THAT technique!

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    We need to keep pushing for coercion control and bullying be made a felony in this country. I’m with everyone here, I’ve been the family scapegoat and in employment, no child or adult should be subjected to this kind of abuse.

  • @LisaJohnson-h1f
    @LisaJohnson-h1f หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I confronted the bully and called out their bullying and then they avoided me which made me perfectly happy!

    • @upstatenewyork
      @upstatenewyork หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      👍👍👍👍

    • @mosesjones5376
      @mosesjones5376 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      A lot of bullies seem to count on their target(s) being non-confrontational.

  • @kejda_bako
    @kejda_bako หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So bad that this harmful and evil behaviour are supported. THOSE PEOPLE ARE SO HARMFUL BECAUSE THEIR FRIENDS SUPPORT THEM AND BE SILEND WHEN HARMFUL BEHAVIOR HAPPEND.In fact victim is blamed even if she/he fight back.Its difficulties when you are victim of bullying becuase psychopath and narcist just get obsessed with a exact human and everything that do or say is reason for hate and conflicts.THAT CAUSE DEPRESSION,TRAUMA
    ,PSYCHOSIS,SUICIDE,WHEN BULLIES JUST DONT CARE AND CONTINUE THEIR LIFE.

  • @takitakirumba22
    @takitakirumba22 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    I don't know why I'm a frequent target for bullying.. Be it family workplace among supposed friends online.. 😢 Is it because I look soft or is too kind or something.. Do I need to become a nasty bitch to avoid this kind of behavior from others??

    • @Fromtheseatoriver
      @Fromtheseatoriver 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Try to communicate more with people who treat you well. And make a little barrier with people who treat you badly. There are many sad and angry people only way is to shield from them.

    • @IamCherished
      @IamCherished 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@Fromtheseatoriver sound advice thanks! but what if the nasty ones pretend to be or monitor the behaviour of the ones who are nicer?

    • @Fromtheseatoriver
      @Fromtheseatoriver 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@IamCherishedif things are that bad better to learn to protect your interests especially from close relatives. But its important to still be not aggressive as aggressiveness creates more aggressiveness. Its important to become independent financially and mentally. Do sports also helps becoming more confident. Explore life and new people.

    • @Fromtheseatoriver
      @Fromtheseatoriver 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@IamCherishednot sure if i understand your question

    • @wellnesslenses
      @wellnesslenses  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Some people do seem to invite this kind of behavior, and it is not your fault. You just gave me a new video idea, hope it will help!

  • @upstatenewyork
    @upstatenewyork หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Some of the worst treatment I’ve experienced has been from “therapists and counselors”. They are regular people who got a degree to figure out your problem(s) and give advice. Without that degree they are the same as anyone. And having the degree doesn’t make them a higher quality nor higher level of person. It makes them a regular person with a degree in counseling. So what!

    • @Che-v7v
      @Che-v7v 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Yes, very true.

    • @Catnip-uh5pi
      @Catnip-uh5pi 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@upstatenewyork the last 2 therapists I had didn't really listen to my problems. They only wanted to talk about my immediate family, my painting hobby and my favorite foods. Some help that was. I have social anxiety

    • @DontTreadOnMeAnymore1964
      @DontTreadOnMeAnymore1964 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      They are very dangerous.

  • @donnamoore7300
    @donnamoore7300 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I was dealing with this for 6 years with my neighbors brought me way down but i sought out a counselor

    • @LadyhawksLairDotCom
      @LadyhawksLairDotCom 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My counselor made it even worse.

    • @dryan6793
      @dryan6793 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My neighbors constantly belittle me. It is terrible.

  • @soniczforever5470
    @soniczforever5470 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I had a seizure after dealing with this lady. Horrible. She makes restrictions and rules on the spot. Do not appreciate her approach.

  • @tristanavakian
    @tristanavakian 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    skip to 5:57
    youre welcome

    • @margyb7469
      @margyb7469 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you.

  • @khg3235
    @khg3235 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thanks so much for this information.

    • @wellnesslenses
      @wellnesslenses  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      thank you for watching!

  • @jo-annahicks3324
    @jo-annahicks3324 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is an excellent description!
    The illustrations really help too.

  • @trudytriad4574
    @trudytriad4574 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I experienced early adult bullying in varsity and sadly the memory tails behind me to this day.
    I had been screamed at in my face and I hate that I had enough self control not to punch that person in the face.
    All I can control now is the decision that, that person is not my friend.

  • @RebeccaBecc
    @RebeccaBecc 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I'm so sick of this 😤 I'm having episodes now!

  • @donnamoore7300
    @donnamoore7300 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thankyou for explaining

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Silence 😎❤

    • @victoriavitoroulis3273
      @victoriavitoroulis3273 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Exactly silence is golden .. don’t give a reaction

    • @Che-v7v
      @Che-v7v 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@victoriavitoroulis3273i also hung around the bully but stayed quiet. It freaked the hell out of her.

  • @Olive-ro9rt
    @Olive-ro9rt 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I know all about the different forms of bulling - I dont to know why people bully -I want to know how to stop it. HOW TO STOP IT?????

  • @RicklessSanchez
    @RicklessSanchez 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Once I have self-confident Tucson Arizona people becoming bullies how they becoming hater as hell. I'm serious -_- they real cruel then play victimization like 🤪 or😵‍💫 or even 😑.

    • @TheMazinoz
      @TheMazinoz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I blame social media influencers for a lot of this. Life used not be like this. I've even been accused of 'faking' a genetically based disability because it became fashionable on social to do this. Also to call out people using handicapped parking as not really needing it despite having handicapped parking cards with their photo on it. (I've never had one or used disability parking btw.) My "crime" was using a cane because of a multi system disability, OA and CPPD!
      ,

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@TheMazinoz Anyone who mistreats another person like this is pathologically insecure, and is kidding themselves. I am sorry you have dealt with people like this.

  • @estherrayos
    @estherrayos 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    These people feel this is the way to get someone to do their bidding it’s is not it can be done right back at you till you sit down and mind your place.

  • @RJSGEN
    @RJSGEN 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

  • @Olive-ro9rt
    @Olive-ro9rt 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    To set boundaries is useless. Empowerment is just a fancy word. It does not stop the bulling -- I know all about bulling and your advice is all fluff.

  • @danceaway6463
    @danceaway6463 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    At about bullying by neighbours