Adult bullying: The epidemic no one talks about | Kevin Ward | TEDxSantaBarbara

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ต.ค. 2018
  • Bullying doesn’t stop when childhood ends. Schoolyard bullies often become bullying adults, but there is a way to stop them in their tracks.
    Kevin Ward considers himself still a shy country boy and a recovering victim of bullying. Today he is an author and speaker who trains real estate agents how to make money and have a life.
    “Most important, I help people find the courage to stand up and fight for their dreams.” Kevin Ward considers himself still a shy country boy and a recovering victim of bullying. Today he is an author and speaker who trains real estate agents how to make money and have a life.
    “Most important, I help people find the courage to stand up and fight for their dreams.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

ความคิดเห็น • 2.2K

  • @Stedemn
    @Stedemn ปีที่แล้ว +986

    I grew up to believe that if I am nice to people they are nice to me. Unfortunately I learned that life doesn't work like that.

  • @mybraineatseverything7404
    @mybraineatseverything7404 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Notice how if you fight back at school, you get in more trouble than the bully.

  • @bratzsnoopy
    @bratzsnoopy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was fired for standing up to a bully. This is precisely what is wrong with our society.

  • @sugarcayenneseven1454
    @sugarcayenneseven1454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +586

    "Bullies don't fight fair. Why should you?"

  • @Psychoclaw
    @Psychoclaw 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was always taught to 'just ignore it', or in other words 'just let it happen and don't react'. The worst lesson I was ever taught as a child and decades later I'm still unlearning it.

  • @anne-marieashdownbrandstro914
    @anne-marieashdownbrandstro914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +188

    After years of being diplomatic, I realised it didn't work. I now fight back. No mercy.

  • @sa-iw4dr
    @sa-iw4dr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +349

    Bulling is serious, and comes in many forms. It's all about power and control!

  • @terrythompson7535
    @terrythompson7535 4 ปีที่แล้ว +964

    This is why kids shouldn't get in trouble for punching a bully in the face. It's necessary.

  • @davidhand9721
    @davidhand9721 4 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    Truth. The internalization of bullying can ruin you for decades.

  • @KevinWardNOW
    @KevinWardNOW 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's amazing all the emotion that wells up watching myself tell that story. To all those out there who are...or who ever have been bullied...you can stop it. You can win. And you can overcome it. 🙏

  • @robertah2353
    @robertah2353 3 ปีที่แล้ว +242

    Bullying is personal because bullies know exactly who to pick on and who not to

  • @Kerrsartisticgifts
    @Kerrsartisticgifts 3 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    Bullies are cowards and back down when confronted.

  • @christinnorthuis9287
    @christinnorthuis9287 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Unfortunately there is no standing up to someone who has a mental or personality disorder. They bulldoze right over any boundaries you set. Sometimes you just have cut those toxic people out of your life.

  • @ValiantSkyRider720
    @ValiantSkyRider720 3 ปีที่แล้ว +509

    Ever notice that all those people who claim they're against bullying keep focusing on how the victim reacts but never once blame the bullies for their initial decision to bully them in the first place?

  • @thescapegoatclub
    @thescapegoatclub 3 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    Parents and siblings bully too... it starts from day one and doesn’t stop when you hit adulthood. It only stops when you wise up and stand up. Even then sometimes you still have to walk away. We need to talk about this more, thank you for the talk.

  • @avisbro
    @avisbro 5 ปีที่แล้ว +452

    I like knowing I don't need acceptance from anyone but myself.

  • @jenniferliggett6385
    @jenniferliggett6385 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    We live in a sick society. Periodt.

  • @Shasta4737
    @Shasta4737 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I was bullied horribly in school and in jobs until I went to art school and met some very cool student friends who'd also been bullied. It was then that I realized that we'd been bullied because we wanted to be authentic people and not just followers of the crowd.

  • @Junokaii
    @Junokaii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Bullying destroys everything you are inside. Changes you, turns you into something/someone else and only until you hit rock bottom does it ever go away it seems.

  • @misspinkpunkykat
    @misspinkpunkykat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    Teacher bullying as a young child almost led me to suicide. "Teachers don't bully" is what I was always told. My parents didn't believe me.