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im tired and exhausted of being crazy in love. i want to be healthy in love too. honestly my relationship is so toxic. it’s horrible i want to be happy. and if it doesn’t happen i’ma be on my own
C- Continue to live your great life (don't binge date, be scarce) R- Respect your boundaries A- Ask for what you want V- Validate your interest E- Eliminate Self Doubt
I've been doing these especially respecting boundaries and asking for what I want. None of these have worked. The men vanished. If the guy isn't into you, I guess it doesn't matter whether you have these traits or not.
I thought I found a perfect man and it's crazy cuz because I found at 36 I put him on a pedestal and never thought that I will be hurt and disappointing with all this I don't what people concern cheating this just because I didn't sleep with her does mean it's ok if the phone didn't ring that day then will where would be right now I know he was talking to someone else online he even sent pic he say he stop he asked me to move in with it him so to me I felt betrayed because you know we are we did everything thing together he waited for me to get to the house so we can have dinner he came home they where no sign at all I believe if something wrong communicate you have nothing and when the trust is broke what do u have I try to everything I can to make this man happy and if he can come to me to talk to after a year 9 months then what do the future holds I don't want to spend my like with someone that is keeping things from me I know we not perfect and temptation is out there that as they come to me I don't engage in conversation that will end up destroying us I forgive him but Its still in my heart feminine and I feel like that's probably why he is interested in somebody else is because like I don't go out and do anything so I don't feel like you know getting dressed and doing nothing may I do my hair I mean I really know where City clothes and try to make myself look pretty but sometimes I don't feel pretty inside because for so many years this person says I don't know what is type of clothes don't wear this type of clothes and you know you had to change within yourself and make yourself happy and when I was alone I did that and now it's like I'm living a life to make the other person happy because I wanted to be happy and he gave me everything that I wanted not but because I gave so he figures he should give me I don't know what I'm really confused I did everything you say how to keep a man and I'm writing down what you saying and some of these stuff I'm doing so I'm so what am I doing wrong maybe I'm not feminine enough I never wear makeup just for especially occasions I don't really dress up because we don't go anywhere so when we do go somewhere I try to make myself look personable and pretty but I don't feel pretty inside it's just hard when you love someone and you don't feel they love you the same
Me too girlie! & I've finally found that in my amazing partner! I love it so much! 🥰❤ He's so masculine, yet is in touch with his emotions & is able to communicate his emotions with me and be vulnerable, & knows what wants & isn't afraid to express it to me daily. Everything I've always wanted. I love it so much. 🥰❤
We’ve been together for 13 years and we have 2 kids together but I’m still learning something new everyday. Your videos are helping me become the best wife I can possibly be. Thank you!
How about this for a guy you definitely need to get rid of? G - get ready to redo your life with strength and determination R - rid yourself of a man who is toxic (lies,cheats,sabotages,etc) A - allow yourself plenty of time for self healing and personal growth before your next relationship V - value the things that are important to you and make them priorities in your life E - end any and all relationships that are not for your highest good (friends, lovers, colleagues,etc)
The same thing happened to my girlfriend, she went out one night with this guy, spent the night with him and they never separated ever since, married and had a baby
Same happened to me. We ended up being together for just under 7 years. I was the one who broke off because I wasn’t ready to take the next step. He was 17 yrs younger than me and I guess I couldn’t take the next step because I got scared of a lot of things including the age gap and I wasn’t that happy anymore towards the end of the relationship for a lot of reasons :(
I finally found a term that helps explain my difficulties in developing relationships. I am emotionally immature. Growing up I did not have examples of how to deal with negative emotions that did not involve food. It became my drug of choice since as a kid I did not have access to alcohol or drugs to eliminate my emotional pain. This led to lots of alienation socially. Additionally, I did not have a strong male figure to feel safe with. The dominant male figure while I was growing up was a bully so I have trust issues with men. Please keep sharing your videos so I can continue to learn and grow. Thanks for your spirit, wisdom and compassion to spread love in the world.
@Pioneer7 Don't do like me. Don't let the depression, anxiety and bad moods direct your choices. Stop the carbs first. Gradually will be easiest. Treat carbs like crystal meth and you are an addict. Next, find some self help program to help you learn to control your emotions. Nat's Mom has a good one if you can afford it. May want to first use audio books from the library to get your momentum going. Books about believing in yourself, making positive changes in your life and nediration. Read up on the Keto lifestyle. YOU ARE NOT DOING A DIET. YOU ARE CHANGING YOUR LIFE AND LIFESTYLE. As the carbs go down your mental clarity goes up. If feel yucky while eliminating carbs your electrolytes have dropped. Salt or pickle juice for a quick fix. Dr Ken D Berry has tons of videos on TH-cam for a faster way to learn Keto. Dr Robert Cywes is the carb addiction Doc and helps you keep the right focus. Sorry for him his videos are so good you don't need to pay to be his patient to get the help you need. I am 60 and have become so strong I can do this on my own. It is sad to say really, but I will be successful alone. Over 100 lbs lost so far. If you need help ASK FOR IT. The health issues that will develope if you don't are so much worse than any embarrassment or anything else. Get your life back now while you can still have so many decades left to enjoy them...Espicially to help you open up and find great relationships. Mat is on point working to spread Love in the world. You need to Love yourself SO MUCH MORE before you will be open enough to let others in. I wish you all the determination in the world. No one else can do this for you. Be a Make It Happen Kind of gal. You deserve no less. Peace & Joy Char M
Well the point now is -1)u survived ! So 2)what do you want to do with all the experience u have? It s a great point to start, u ll have skills and capacity to detect what you DON T WANT and focus on what u really genuinely want from a man
Men are hard to read. Your man might be hiding something. But it’s not what you think. Are you overlooking his cry for help? ManSecretObsession5.blogspot.com
Self-awareness is the key to changing your behaviour - many never gain insight so continue with negative emotion & behaviour! You are well on the way now ..
Too often when we immerse ourselves in a person/relationship we lose ourselves. When we change what we do and who we are, we are changing who he was falling for. Let him see our passion and creativity outside of him. It's contagious and he will want to witness our shine not just be a part of it.
We have to understand relationships, we need to understand each other and surprise your partner in a good way, trust me. for example, my man surprised me and gave me natural aphrodisiacs called Spanish Fly (he decided to buy the Pro version as they relieve stress and i have a stressful job) and we’re absolutely pleased about all the effects. he really LOVES me!
Just started watching your videos, these are actually healthy addictions, nothing cunning or manipulative. It’s nice to hear from a Gentleman’s perspective.....but a good, honest & healthy one. Thank you Matthew!🙂
Perhap the word "addiction" wasn't the best... get past it & hear the concepts of what is being shared. If one allows space for this... you will come to know these are ways You show You your value, worthiness, and lovability. Commit to yourself first & all else will follow ❤
Definitely kindness, and thoughtfulness. The sweetest thing I think my partner ever did for me will sound silly, but meant the world to me because it was sweet. His family had an old friend visiting, who had a dog with him. My partner knows how much I love dogs, that I will abandon him to pet one if it's in eyesight lol. He took pictures of the visitor's dog, and sent them to me saying "I know you'd like to see this dog, she's beautiful". Such a simple thing, but at that moment he thought of me and sent me those, just because he knew it would make me smile 😃 He has a level of sweetness in him that simply melts my heart and puts a smile on my face that radiates like the sun with happiness, just because he's in my life. It's one of my favourite things about him, among so many other qualities I adore him for. All unique to him. He's an amazing, sweet, kind, thoughtful man, and I'm so lucky and grateful for every day we have together on this earth.
Mate, its pretty simple I let him know I appreciate those little things he does. Praises any indications of thoughtfulness, kindness and empathy he shows. After all thats what warms my heart. 😉🇦🇺💗
Mat .. your videos have made me realize how amazing my man is! I listen and take your advice. Our relationship after 4 years is becoming even better. You are such a great relationship coach and you have helped me more than you will ever know! 💗💗
I’m amazed not only at the positive response I’m getting from my man, that I never imagined!!!- but how much MY thoughts and fears have changed . I was working on reinforcing his fears and doubts, but ultimately it changed me and regained my own confidence
This video is so full of wisdom that i plan on rewatching several times and taking notes. There is a lot of meat in here that needs to be slowly digested. Thank you Mat!
"It is never late" 😉 I'm starting a new life, new relationships in this 2nd half of my life 👍😁 Matt is a wonde4ful coach, so TRUE!! I can tell it, from my experience. Go on spreding Love
Thank you so much for this video, Mat! I felt such a relief when watching this. I always thought that the "addiction" feeling is something only I feel, and that there's something seriously wrong with me for feeling it. I thought that it would prevent me from having a happy, healthy relationship, because I saw that feeling as "neediness." I'm so happy to know that it's not necessarily a bad feeling, but just one that needs to be managed well.
1. Human nature is we want more of what is less. Indulge in him a little at a time then schedule something right after. 2. Trust boundaries _ trust needs to be earned. 3. Sexy ask - dopamine rising ask that he can consider a mission to accomplish. 4. Validate your interest/desire. Balance acknowledging desire for him with my personal boundaries. 5. Eliminate self doubt. You're enough. More than enough. Both of you are valuable.
CONTINUE LIVING YOUR GREAT LIFE.. amazing advice and I dont have words to express my gratefulness.. really thanks a lot for that advice.. hats off matt..
Great list.... Just like to add 1. Please remember the right birthdate. 2. Please put the toilet lid back down . 3. Be generous with sincere compliments and count your blessng . 4. Live with his or her " negative " factors. No complain no explain to keep harmony...can be helpful..
For me, I think I initially attracted him because of calm but authentic nature plus kindness. But then I blew all of that by showing too much interest and availability for him.
You are probably. It can probably make you look clingy. Remember that your partner is just a part of your life as an accessory it should never be the primary feature of your life
Thanks - I love the idea of self-worth contagion! That means, conversely, that the more we love and approve of ourselves, the more he will!! Working the self-love/self-approval piece, big time
Wow! I appreciate the candor of 5:11 when you say you overindulged with your date.. that is so true and I’ve experienced that a couple of times lol ladies, keep your life and hobbies no matter how much he desires your regular attention!
Once again great coaching Mat! Next week will be a year since I have been dating this wonderful man. And your coaching has been a tremendous help. What has ignited his craving for me is that I know how to make him laugh.
To me, I understand planning additional things in the evening if you have a morning date with someone... but if I was on a date with a man in the late afternoon/evening - I would find it very rude if a man made plans to go see other people after our date because it would make me feel like he made a backup plan in case I wasn't enough.
I have someone that i liked a lot but he stop investing me and watching your videos makes me reavaluate my self worth. And the thing is since him, i cant get connected with any man.. even when they say they loved me... but i tried your tips and it does work.. i wish to be in a relationship with someone i like or love.
Am wondering... when you started to notice his beginng to "non-invest" in you... where you sliding in the ways you invested in youself? The "C &V" acronyms in this video.? In the past, I have done this many a time ☺ You know how to do this... easy to get back on the horse & stay commited to tourself ❤
I use to love going out on lunch dates and feeding him the desserts as a tease and the best initial.part was the eye contact, then he would come back with his hair entirely wet from the jacuzzi. And then we would have to meet up in a conference meeting and I use try to compose myself in the meetings knowing the why we showed up slightly late. The good old memorable times. He was my 11 yr soulmate and he passed away at a young age 64. That was ten yrs ago. The good old days, I am 54 now and glad I had the experience to confirm one of your picks 👌✅
Hi Matt, my ears perked up when you mentioned Rose Festival in Portland, Oregon.. It’s always a fun annual event. The Navy comes in on the Navy Ships and downtown is flooded with Navy men and women. But this Pandemic has put a screeching halt to this year’s event..😢😢... I love you Matt, and your videos and insights are very valuable to me. I’m a huge fan. Thanks for all you do. 💕❤️
I found this video exactly like my relationship..my man says, there's nothing more beautiful than a trustworthy, honest woman.I have loved him thru very hard time's..Our motto..is never give up..and love with all your heart..Thank you Mathew..🙏👍
The final word to the video, MAKE HIM FEEL UR MAN A MAN, Thank u so much, be blessed, , Emotional maturity is a must for any relationship, u r doing a great job, keep going.,
Omg! 😭😭😭😭 That squirrel story used to make me sob as a child because I thought she’d be alone forever! I’m fairly sure Merlin said they mate for life and she’d already chosen him. My friends in HS used to tease me with that story all the time. 🤣 Synchronistic example
I've been in a relasionship for about half a year and I struggle with self doubt. Its so hard for me not to feel that way and I'm so unsure of how to get rid of this feeling because I know it will effect my relasionship ib I don't get it under control. So it was nice running into this video because I know that what I'k feeling isn't something I'm the only one going through. I need to try better!
Hey Matt, Your videos have had always been a super source of motivation for me. Love your way of explaining each and every facet of relationships. But recently i am going through a really rough patch in my life. Been married 5 months back and to the surprise just got diagnosed with early depression. And the root cause for that depression is no other than my In-laws and their high value expectations from me. I m trying really hard to keep them happy. Thank fully got a supportive husband but the clear fact is my in-laws they don't like me because me and my husband we married on our own terms. And in a country like India almost every woman faces this kind of challenge. So it would be really helpful if you could just help people like me in dealing with all such things through one of your video. Thanks for all the motivational content. Regards, Sushmita Bhardwaj
You are blessed to have someone who married you in spite of other people's opinions, especially his family's opinions. Looks like it's both you and your husband against the world type of love. 😅 you shouldn't pressure yourself too much to be liked by your in laws. Just continue what you're doing but know it will take time maybe. The good thing here is you are a good person to them, you are doing your part.
Know who you are and the value that you have and set the boundaries without any apprehension. The man who honestly desires you for who you really are will still have the desire to be with you.
I really love myself I have my own things going I have taken my time with him I step away from him when I felt there was an imbalance of give and take I never made it easy for him to get back in .I truly see the good in him I support his passion and projects I trust him and I listen to him.
Wish I were to find this clip earlier. I did a marathon date exactly like you described. It was super fun and neither of us wanted to part. And you're right... He had enough of me and didn't want to date me again. I was so confuse how such a wonderful date had ended up like that. Thanks, Mat. You enlighten me. Now I know and I'll never repeat the same mistake. 😄
I wish I cold have seen this video 10 years ago, that would have helped in my relationships... I'm meeting someone new and I really want this to work. I noticed that I'm doing the same as before but now I know what I need to fix.. Thanks so much for this!!
So well said!! I love your videos and your voice 😻 My only pitfall is the marathon dates.. for the past three months I’ve spent every Friday-Sunday with him, but it feels so natural!
I still live my life, I have boundaries from certain people in my life, I don't ask for that much and the things I ask for are too much to ask for, I'm too good for men to be with.
These things need to be taught and studied by both male and female students in secondary school... Preparing them with this knowledge and skills that lead to healthier, more fulfilling lives
The best advice I can think of that I wish i'd thought of when young is to take an accredited basic psychology course. It will help you to understand yourself and what YOU need first, and also help you pick out those who are putting on an act - which most men and women do at first, and some can keep it up until after marriage a couple of years along the line. Still, there will be tells and a basic psychology course will help you spot important things you might otherwise not notice or may dismiss.
I am really enjoying watching these videos, love how positive and healthy his advices are. And they're not positive in a detached from reality way, but in a very pragmatic way. Really loving it
I have seen many relationship gurus. And got nothing from it. And paid lots of money. you are the first relationship couch I'm getting something from your teaching. I like what I hear from you. Thank you so much Matt. Naomi
Matt I love all of your videos they are very inspiring. The one thing I do for my man is send him 'Good Morning' texts, and just because texts. You see my man is in the Army and stationed overseas right now... so I need to keep him CRAVING me. It's working and I can use all the help I can get 🥰♥️
Of the five things in CRATE, I think R is most important for me!! Thank you for this powerful advice. I almost forgot about this "R" while falling in a love with my relation.
That's been my problem, the whole "instant relationship" thing. I feel so grateful that I've grown and I'm ready to take steps in the right direction. Thank you for your videos!
Wow great information....ready to move forward and start a new relationship....my husband past away 3 years ago after being married for 39 years....will remember these advises....thanks Mathew....looking forward to watching your other videos
I am so beautiful, I am so worthy…..it is a powerful feeling both fir you and for him. Be yourself always. Just learning this at 59 and I know I will find the right man for me with this attitude. I love love 💕 this video Matt! I am going to put this CRAVE on my fridge to remember daily. Thank you 🙏
Many thanks!!! Thanks to your video, I find not only useful information (how better to understand man's psychology), but also I practise my English skills! Your speech is always so impressive and pictorial!!! Greetings from Russia!!!!!
My much younger Pisces man likes it when I tell him I appreciate him and value him for being pure of mind & heart and makes me optimistic (like him), seeing the good side in everything and improve myself.
Yes I do too. It brightens his day, and looks forward to my funny, positive attitude. And am like the sunshine in his life. Thank you Mat. I love all of your videos and your passion when you do one. 👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏
Always works! Good ice breaker as well. Just tell a stupid joke or something. Once a guy starts laughing it is game on! But don't be obnoxious or use bad language. Keep it subtle. Keep it feminine.
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I don't want to be crazy in love again. I want to be healthy in love!
Hello alli
lol that's a wise decision, let see if we'll make it !
Exactly! Love should not be an addiction.
im tired and exhausted of being crazy in love. i want to be healthy in love too. honestly my relationship is so toxic. it’s horrible i want to be happy. and if it doesn’t happen i’ma be on my own
@ Hope.... You deserve to be happy!!! And i hope you find that love.
C- Continue to live your great life (don't binge date, be scarce)
R- Respect your boundaries
A- Ask for what you want
V- Validate your interest
E- Eliminate Self Doubt
these words.from Incredible Mr Mark.
way girl !!!
you are Enough !!!
Thank you @via Bella Appreciated mate🇦🇺👏🌸
Thanks
I've been doing these especially respecting boundaries and asking for what I want. None of these have worked. The men vanished. If the guy isn't into you, I guess it doesn't matter whether you have these traits or not.
@@Mrs.T305 well it means he would not deserve you. And some amazing guy is out there
To me a diamond quality in a man is kindness. If he has true kindness in his heart I would want him that much more.
100% agree. Respect + kindness more important than anything
I agree
I been listened to all your video and I am
I thought I found a perfect man and it's crazy cuz because I found at 36 I put him on a pedestal and never thought that I will be hurt and disappointing with all this I don't what people concern cheating this just because I didn't sleep with her does mean it's ok if the phone didn't ring that day then will where would be right now I know he was talking to someone else online he even sent pic he say he stop he asked me to move in with it him so to me I felt betrayed because you know we are we did everything thing together he waited for me to get to the house so we can have dinner he came home they where no sign at all I believe if something wrong communicate you have nothing and when the trust is broke what do u have I try to everything I can to make this man happy and if he can come to me to talk to after a year 9 months then what do the future holds I don't want to spend my like with someone that is keeping things from me I know we not perfect and temptation is out there that as they come to me I don't engage in conversation that will end up destroying us I forgive him but Its still in my heart feminine and I feel like that's probably why he is interested in somebody else is because like I don't go out and do anything so I don't feel like you know getting dressed and doing nothing may I do my hair I mean I really know where City clothes and try to make myself look pretty but sometimes I don't feel pretty inside because for so many years this person says I don't know what is type of clothes don't wear this type of clothes and you know you had to change within yourself and make yourself happy and when I was alone I did that and now it's like I'm living a life to make the other person happy because I wanted to be happy and he gave me everything that I wanted not but because I gave so he figures he should give me I don't know what I'm really confused I did everything you say how to keep a man and I'm writing down what you saying and some of these stuff I'm doing so I'm so what am I doing wrong maybe I'm not feminine enough I never wear makeup just for especially occasions I don't really dress up because we don't go anywhere so when we do go somewhere I try to make myself look personable and pretty but I don't feel pretty inside it's just hard when you love someone and you don't feel they love you the same
@@carmencribbs8000 men are hunters... Few are keepers. Lol
Respecting his space and letting him lead is hard but it makes them want more and be addicted.
This is the hardest! I've been on my own so many years, but I see the importance!!!
plus it's great a feeling to be chased and pursued
@@mariairmasaiz248 true. This is the first time I allowed myself to step back and let a man lead and it’s scary and feels great at the same time
I like a masculine man with a big heart. A man that knows what he wants is very sexy to me.
🙌🏼 me too!
Oo
Yes, sis, my man has to be masculine, every inch of him.
I agree! I love being with a high masculinity man.
Me too girlie! & I've finally found that in my amazing partner! I love it so much! 🥰❤ He's so masculine, yet is in touch with his emotions & is able to communicate his emotions with me and be vulnerable, & knows what wants & isn't afraid to express it to me daily. Everything I've always wanted. I love it so much. 🥰❤
We’ve been together for 13 years and we have 2 kids together but I’m still learning something new everyday. Your videos are helping me become the best wife I can possibly be. Thank you!
Well done, had I done this before it would have saved my marriage
@@barbrathompson9798 I'm sorry to know that. I hope you're in a better place though. ❤
Aw ❤️❤️❤️
You sound like an angel!
I'm so single, I don't even know why I'm watching this
Maybe for my imaginary boyfriend :')
@Vicky i'm also single too ,so just know that you are not alone.I like watching all the videos from Mathew Bogg's because they're educative.
@@barbrabusingye2619 yes they are, but I really hope that one day I'll have the chance to apply his tips
Me too😂
Vicky- doing research for the future
Me too
How about this for a guy you definitely need to get rid of?
G - get ready to redo your life with strength and determination
R - rid yourself of a man who is toxic (lies,cheats,sabotages,etc)
A - allow yourself plenty of time for self healing and personal growth before your next relationship
V - value the things that are important to you and make them priorities in your life
E - end any and all relationships that are not for your highest good (friends, lovers, colleagues,etc)
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Love this😘😘😘
First time I went on a date with my boyfriend we stayed 2 days together and we have been together for 3 years
The same thing happened to my girlfriend, she went out one night with this guy, spent the night with him and they never separated ever since, married and had a baby
Same happened to me. We ended up being together for just under 7 years. I was the one who broke off because I wasn’t ready to take the next step. He was 17 yrs younger than me and I guess I couldn’t take the next step because I got scared of a lot of things including the age gap and I wasn’t that happy anymore towards the end of the relationship for a lot of reasons :(
This is prob the exception and not the rule
Yea, this is the exception, not the rule.
Guys. When it’s meant to be all theese rules have no meaning sorry.
I finally found a term that helps explain my difficulties in developing relationships. I am emotionally immature. Growing up I did not have examples of how to deal with negative emotions that did not involve food. It became my drug of choice since as a kid I did not have access to alcohol or drugs to eliminate my emotional pain. This led to lots of alienation socially. Additionally, I did not have a strong male figure to feel safe with. The dominant male figure while I was growing up was a bully so I have trust issues with men. Please keep sharing your videos so I can continue to learn and grow. Thanks for your spirit, wisdom and compassion to spread love in the world.
@Pioneer7 Don't do like me. Don't let the depression, anxiety and bad moods direct your choices. Stop the carbs first. Gradually will be easiest. Treat carbs like crystal meth and you are an addict. Next, find some self help program to help you learn to control your emotions. Nat's Mom has a good one if you can afford it. May want to first use audio books from the library to get your momentum going. Books about believing in yourself, making positive changes in your life and nediration. Read up on the Keto lifestyle. YOU ARE NOT DOING A DIET. YOU ARE CHANGING YOUR LIFE AND LIFESTYLE. As the carbs go down your mental clarity goes up. If feel yucky while eliminating carbs your electrolytes have dropped. Salt or pickle juice for a quick fix. Dr Ken D Berry has tons of videos on TH-cam for a faster way to learn Keto. Dr Robert Cywes is the carb addiction Doc and helps you keep the right focus. Sorry for him his videos are so good you don't need to pay to be his patient to get the help you need. I am 60 and have become so strong I can do this on my own. It is sad to say really, but I will be successful alone. Over 100 lbs lost so far. If you need help ASK FOR IT. The health issues that will develope if you don't are so much worse than any embarrassment or anything else. Get your life back now while you can still have so many decades left to enjoy them...Espicially to help you open up and find great relationships. Mat is on point working to spread Love in the world. You need to Love yourself SO MUCH MORE before you will be open enough to let others in. I wish you all the determination in the world. No one else can do this for you. Be a Make It Happen Kind of gal. You deserve no less. Peace & Joy
Char M
Well the point now is -1)u survived ! So 2)what do you want to do with all the experience u have? It s a great point to start, u ll have skills and capacity to detect what you DON T WANT and focus on what u really genuinely want from a man
@@giulz8 Love, trust, passion, companionship, support...what every woman wants.
Men are hard to read. Your man might be hiding something. But it’s not what you think. Are you overlooking his cry for help? ManSecretObsession5.blogspot.com
Self-awareness is the key to changing your behaviour - many never gain insight so continue with negative emotion & behaviour! You are well on the way now ..
Too often when we immerse ourselves in a person/relationship we lose ourselves. When we change what we do and who we are, we are changing who he was falling for. Let him see our passion and creativity outside of him. It's contagious and he will want to witness our shine not just be a part of it.
We have to understand relationships, we need to understand each other and surprise your partner in a good way, trust me. for example, my man surprised me and gave me natural aphrodisiacs called Spanish Fly (he decided to buy the Pro version as they relieve stress and i have a stressful job) and we’re absolutely pleased about all the effects. he really LOVES me!
I smile at him and tease him a lot. We tease each other. His sense of humor is a turn-on, and I tell him so.
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe?
Just started watching your videos, these are actually healthy addictions, nothing cunning or manipulative. It’s nice to hear from a Gentleman’s perspective.....but a good, honest & healthy one. Thank you Matthew!🙂
I don’t need anyone who has an addiction for me. I need a healthy person.
Completely agree! I was with a double winner for 22 years! Gambling and alcohol! Made my life hell as a result.
Perhap the word "addiction" wasn't the best... get past it & hear the concepts of what is being shared. If one allows space for this... you will come to know these are ways You show You your value, worthiness, and lovability. Commit to yourself first & all else will follow ❤
@@julielewis2191 I agree. I reckon it was just a "catchy" title to engage viewers.
Seriously. I’m done with the psychopaths. 😅
Definitely kindness, and thoughtfulness. The sweetest thing I think my partner ever did for me will sound silly, but meant the world to me because it was sweet. His family had an old friend visiting, who had a dog with him. My partner knows how much I love dogs, that I will abandon him to pet one if it's in eyesight lol. He took pictures of the visitor's dog, and sent them to me saying "I know you'd like to see this dog, she's beautiful". Such a simple thing, but at that moment he thought of me and sent me those, just because he knew it would make me smile 😃 He has a level of sweetness in him that simply melts my heart and puts a smile on my face that radiates like the sun with happiness, just because he's in my life. It's one of my favourite things about him, among so many other qualities I adore him for. All unique to him. He's an amazing, sweet, kind, thoughtful man, and I'm so lucky and grateful for every day we have together on this earth.
You are very lucky. Most people don't get that kind of intimacy
Lindsey S I hope you are still wearing your mask 😂
May your days together be unending!
Mate, its pretty simple I let him know I appreciate those little things he does. Praises any indications of thoughtfulness, kindness and empathy he shows. After all thats what warms my heart. 😉🇦🇺💗
Hello
For sure!
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
@@richardrivas3294 Thanks Richard. I will take this gem of wisdom on board.
@@MsOLWYNN yes miss!!I know you’re gonna find your soulmate sent by God!Are you single?
Mat .. your videos have made me realize how amazing my man is! I listen and take your advice. Our relationship after 4 years is becoming even better. You are such a great relationship coach and you have helped me more than you will ever know! 💗💗
Thanks, Mat. My new affirmation is "I've got a sexy ask!" :)
I’m amazed not only at the positive response I’m getting from my man, that I never imagined!!!- but how much MY thoughts and fears have changed . I was working on reinforcing his fears and doubts, but ultimately it changed me and regained my own confidence
This video is so full of wisdom that i plan on rewatching several times and taking notes. There is a lot of meat in here that needs to be slowly digested. Thank you Mat!
Mat, Wish your videos were around 20+ years ago!!!!! I would have avoided soo many major Mistakes!!!!! ♥️ Your Amazing! ♥️
@Nicole Anker absolutely agree!!!
Ditto.....I agree.
Same
"It is never late" 😉 I'm starting a new life, new relationships in this 2nd half of my life 👍😁 Matt is a wonde4ful coach, so TRUE!! I can tell it, from my experience. Go on spreding Love
Agree !
Thank you so much for this video, Mat! I felt such a relief when watching this. I always thought that the "addiction" feeling is something only I feel, and that there's something seriously wrong with me for feeling it. I thought that it would prevent me from having a happy, healthy relationship, because I saw that feeling as "neediness." I'm so happy to know that it's not necessarily a bad feeling, but just one that needs to be managed well.
Thanks, Mathew...I needed to hear this, especially the self-doubt. I'm hard on myself sometimes, even when people tell me I'm beautiful.
OMG, the ice cream analogy at 9:00 just made my day! 😆
Thank you for helping me realize that loving myself produces positive outcomes.
1. Human nature is we want more of what is less. Indulge in him a little at a time then schedule something right after. 2. Trust boundaries _ trust needs to be earned. 3. Sexy ask - dopamine rising ask that he can consider a mission to accomplish. 4. Validate your interest/desire. Balance acknowledging desire for him with my personal boundaries. 5. Eliminate self doubt. You're enough. More than enough. Both of you are valuable.
CONTINUE LIVING YOUR GREAT LIFE.. amazing advice and I dont have words to express my gratefulness.. really thanks a lot for that advice.. hats off matt..
Great list.... Just like to add 1. Please remember the right birthdate. 2. Please put the toilet lid back down . 3. Be generous with sincere compliments and count your blessng . 4. Live with his or her " negative " factors. No complain no explain to keep harmony...can be helpful..
For me,
I think I initially attracted him because of calm but authentic nature plus kindness. But then I blew all of that by showing too much interest and availability for him.
You are probably. It can probably make you look clingy. Remember that your partner is just a part of your life as an accessory it should never be the primary feature of your life
Thanks - I love the idea of self-worth contagion! That means, conversely, that the more we love and approve of ourselves, the more he will!! Working the self-love/self-approval piece, big time
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Wow! I appreciate the candor of 5:11 when you say you overindulged with your date.. that is so true and I’ve experienced that a couple of times lol ladies, keep your life and hobbies no matter how much he desires your regular attention!
Once again great coaching Mat! Next week will be a year since I have been dating this wonderful man. And your coaching has been a tremendous help. What has ignited his craving for me is that I know how to make him laugh.
To me, I understand planning additional things in the evening if you have a morning date with someone... but if I was on a date with a man in the late afternoon/evening - I would find it very rude if a man made plans to go see other people after our date because it would make me feel like he made a backup plan in case I wasn't enough.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Mat Boggs, I really like your voice.
Makes it so easy to listen too.
Without feeling overwhelmed.
Men that I date tend to get to addicted to my voice, accent, smile, and positive energy.
You should teach how to do it.
I loved your example of overindulgence of a person LOL I never thought of it that way, but you're completely right! 💖
I have someone that i liked a lot but he stop investing me and watching your videos makes me reavaluate my self worth. And the thing is since him, i cant get connected with any man.. even when they say they loved me... but i tried your tips and it does work.. i wish to be in a relationship with someone i like or love.
Am wondering... when you started to notice his beginng to "non-invest" in you... where you sliding in the ways you invested in youself? The "C &V" acronyms in this video.? In the past, I have done this many a time ☺ You know how to do this... easy to get back on the horse & stay commited to tourself ❤
I use to love going out on lunch dates and feeding him the desserts as a tease and the best initial.part was the eye contact, then he would come back with his hair entirely wet from the jacuzzi. And then we would have to meet up in a conference meeting and I use try to compose myself in the meetings knowing the why we showed up slightly late. The good old memorable times. He was my 11 yr soulmate and he passed away at a young age 64. That was ten yrs ago. The good old days, I am 54 now and glad I had the experience to confirm one of your picks 👌✅
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe?
He makes some of the best, healthy, and realistic advice videos I have ever seen and researched tbh
Hi Matt, my ears perked up when you mentioned Rose Festival in Portland, Oregon.. It’s always a fun annual event. The Navy comes in on the Navy Ships and downtown is flooded with Navy men and women. But this Pandemic has put a screeching halt to this year’s event..😢😢... I love you Matt, and your videos and insights are very valuable to me. I’m a huge fan. Thanks for all you do. 💕❤️
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
“you have a sexy ask” 😂😂😂 so much great advice mat!!
Ya👍😁! This is about LIVE, being what we really are: confident, beautiful, attractive, authentic!! Having real, deep, good relantionships
I found this video exactly like my relationship..my man says, there's nothing more beautiful than a trustworthy, honest woman.I have loved him thru very hard time's..Our motto..is never give up..and love with all your heart..Thank you Mathew..🙏👍
The final word to the video, MAKE HIM FEEL UR MAN A MAN, Thank u so much, be blessed, , Emotional maturity is a must for any relationship, u r doing a great job, keep going.,
Omg! 😭😭😭😭 That squirrel story used to make me sob as a child because I thought she’d be alone forever! I’m fairly sure Merlin said they mate for life and she’d already chosen him. My friends in HS used to tease me with that story all the time. 🤣 Synchronistic example
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe?
Love the way you understand how we feel and wanna act when we are in love.
A man to me is someone who wants to protect me and is always kind towards me and others.
That is a nice definition for a man but in my experience it also applies to great women.
This video just made my weekend. Self doubt has always been my greatest problem. Thanks so much Matt. Hope you are staying safe.
I've been in a relasionship for about half a year and I struggle with self doubt. Its so hard for me not to feel that way and I'm so unsure of how to get rid of this feeling because I know it will effect my relasionship ib I don't get it under control. So it was nice running into this video because I know that what I'k feeling isn't something I'm the only one going through. I need to try better!
Hey Matt,
Your videos have had always been a super source of motivation for me. Love your way of explaining each and every facet of relationships. But recently i am going through a really rough patch in my life. Been married 5 months back and to the surprise just got diagnosed with early depression. And the root cause for that depression is no other than my In-laws and their high value expectations from me. I m trying really hard to keep them happy. Thank fully got a supportive husband but the clear fact is my in-laws they don't like me because me and my husband we married on our own terms. And in a country like India almost every woman faces this kind of challenge. So it would be really helpful if you could just help people like me in dealing with all such things through one of your video. Thanks for all the motivational content.
Regards,
Sushmita Bhardwaj
You are blessed to have someone who married you in spite of other people's opinions, especially his family's opinions. Looks like it's both you and your husband against the world type of love. 😅 you shouldn't pressure yourself too much to be liked by your in laws. Just continue what you're doing but know it will take time maybe. The good thing here is you are a good person to them, you are doing your part.
Know who you are and the value that you have and set the boundaries without any apprehension. The man who honestly desires you for who you really are will still have the desire to be with you.
This advice also works men.
So helpful and inspirational, thank you for ur vids 💪🏻🤍
I make sure to tell him how much I love what he does for me and himself...little rewards to feed that intrinsic motivation!
To ignite....yes ....be scarce...be a rare diamond 💎
everytime I watch Mathew Boggs, I fall in love with my partner moreover again
I love the ice-cream analogy it was beautiful; poetic even.
I really love myself I have my own things going I have taken my time with him I step away from him when I felt there was an imbalance of give and take I never made it easy for him to get back in .I truly see the good in him I support his passion and projects I trust him and I listen to him.
Wish I were to find this clip earlier. I did a marathon date exactly like you described. It was super fun and neither of us wanted to part. And you're right... He had enough of me and didn't want to date me again. I was so confuse how such a wonderful date had ended up like that. Thanks, Mat. You enlighten me. Now I know and I'll never repeat the same mistake. 😄
I wish I cold have seen this video 10 years ago, that would have helped in my relationships... I'm meeting someone new and I really want this to work. I noticed that I'm doing the same as before but now I know what I need to fix.. Thanks so much for this!!
So well said!! I love your videos and your voice 😻 My only pitfall is the marathon dates.. for the past three months I’ve spent every Friday-Sunday with him, but it feels so natural!
I still live my life, I have boundaries from certain people in my life, I don't ask for that much and the things I ask for are too much to ask for, I'm too good for men to be with.
wow this video made me try out one move you mentioned on video my man went crazy he said he excited to be with me. now he so into me.God bless
My word! I super love the ice cream metaphor, Matt!
R and V are like warm and cool with a hint of spices!!!😂
I am already doing this and I never know it " CRAVE" is what I am doing ❤️
Aishwarya Lakshmanan ditto
Every so often this video is shown to me, and I learn from it each time. You’re awesome, Mat!
😳 That self doubt spilled over to my man and he couldn’t explain what happened but he became overwhelmed with doubt...
Love your videos they are so helpful. Thank you. 32 years of marriage and still learning
Soft voice and approach, definitely appreciation
This video is so informative! It definitely decodes the tangled web of relationships, especially as we get lost in our feelings. Thanks so much, Matt!
I love the way you put it
🤣😂🤣😂🤣The ice cream metaphor brought something else to mind.... 🤣🤣😂🤣😂
Wow im gonna rewatch this video so many times, thnk you for this learning
Thank you, Mat❤🙏! It's so TRUE and intuitive what you say. No that easy to implement, it's an art 😉
These things need to be taught and studied by both male and female students in
secondary school... Preparing them with this knowledge and skills that lead to healthier, more fulfilling lives
I so love this topic matt feels like your really talking to me.. I'd love to try this even me and my boyfriend is in LDR. This topic is 👌 perfect
The best advice I can think of that I wish i'd thought of when young is to take an accredited basic psychology course. It will help you to understand yourself and what YOU need first, and also help you pick out those who are putting on an act - which most men and women do at first, and some can keep it up until after marriage a couple of years along the line. Still, there will be tells and a basic psychology course will help you spot important things you might otherwise not notice or may dismiss.
I can't believe you just quoted the sword in the stone. I love you. Haha
I feel I lost my self too when I falling in love with my significant other, and It tooks time to move on from that behaviour :(
Needed this today - just fighting off self doubt
I am really enjoying watching these videos, love how positive and healthy his advices are. And they're not positive in a detached from reality way, but in a very pragmatic way. Really loving it
I have seen many relationship gurus. And got nothing from it. And paid lots of money. you are the first relationship couch I'm getting something from your teaching. I like what I hear from you. Thank you so much Matt.
Naomi
"I've got a sexy "ask", LOVE IT!
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Great sharing 👌End of the day, ladies need be independent, confident and most of all, be involved with the man in a right mind!
Matt I love all of your videos they are very inspiring. The one thing I do for my man is send him 'Good Morning' texts, and just because texts. You see my man is in the Army and stationed overseas right now... so I need to keep him CRAVING me. It's working and I can use all the help I can get 🥰♥️
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Of the five things in CRATE, I think R is most important for me!! Thank you for this powerful advice. I almost forgot about this "R" while falling in a love with my relation.
That's been my problem, the whole "instant relationship" thing. I feel so grateful that I've grown and I'm ready to take steps in the right direction. Thank you for your videos!
I love the 'ice cream' example! You always somehow manage to help us understand some things better! Thanks!
This was a gold nugget video thanks Matt, you speak and coach so beautifully
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe?
Always great advice. Thank you Matthew. I already have a guy but your advice helps me keep achecj in the relationship! x
I allow my videos to run the course when I’m able to view them, and respect the effort and time😊
Wow great information....ready to move forward and start a new relationship....my husband past away 3 years ago after being married for 39 years....will remember these advises....thanks Mathew....looking forward to watching your other videos
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Thank you!!! This is the best advice I’ve ever heard...
Such a great video! Thank you for sharing! Also so funny about the ice cream!
I am so beautiful, I am so worthy…..it is a powerful feeling both fir you and for him. Be yourself always. Just learning this at 59 and I know I will find the right man for me with this attitude. I love love 💕 this video Matt! I am going to put this CRAVE on my fridge to remember daily. Thank you 🙏
Many thanks!!! Thanks to your video, I find not only useful information (how better to understand man's psychology), but also I practise my English skills! Your speech is always so
impressive and pictorial!!! Greetings from Russia!!!!!
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe?
I love the connection to the King Arthur cartoon story !
Mat, I love your analogy about the ice cream. It took me a little to realize what you were saying. It's a delicious way to put it.
I am so very thankful for your videos! Thank you for doing what you do. And thank you for delivering the messages so well. Great job!!
My much younger Pisces man likes it when I tell him I appreciate him and value him for being pure of mind & heart and makes me optimistic (like him), seeing the good side in everything and improve myself.
I use humour. It works every time. What man doesn’t like to laugh? That and positive affirmations to him every day.
Yes I do too. It brightens his day, and looks forward to my funny, positive attitude. And am like the sunshine in his life. Thank you Mat. I love all of your videos and your passion when you do one. 👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏
Always works! Good ice breaker as well. Just tell a stupid joke or something. Once a guy starts laughing it is game on! But don't be obnoxious or use bad language. Keep it subtle. Keep it feminine.