It's easy to know in theory that there's no point of comparing ourselves to others, but then I think about my favorite philosopher Mike Tyson.... "Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth." We're all human and sometimes it happens. Goal IMO is to do it less over time.
Great points from both of you. While I don't agree with on everything, I really love Ramit's take on home ownership. Personally, I'd rather skip the headache and re-invest the money into the market or other business ventures. Appreciate the food for thought!
Wow I'm turning 31 soon and your video and how open you are made me feel not alone because I have the exact same tendencies as you! Thank you for sharing !
@@KevinYeePharmDthank you! Please make more videos like this and also maybe the progress you make along the way because you will certainly gain very loyal and genuine followers
I watched your TH-cam video, and it resonated with me so much that I had to reach out. You speak a lot about fear, and it’s important to recognize that fear is self-awareness-it shows you care deeply about your life and goals. Fear can either set you back or motivate you to attack those goals head-on. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy-don’t measure yourself against others, as everyone’s path is uniquely valuable. You’ve voiced fears about your weight, relationships, career, and more, but the fact that you’re reflecting so deeply shows incredible strength. The only way is forward, and that’s exactly where you’re headed. Keep moving-progress, not perfection, is what matters most, and you’re more capable than you realize. Also, I’m an ABC too, so I completely understand the cultural pressures you’re feeling. It’s tough, but it’s also something that shapes our resilience.
Thank you so much for this incredibly thoughtful and supportive comment. It really means a lot to me that the video resonated with you. I love how you framed fear as a form of self-awareness-it’s such a powerful reframe that reminds me to look at it as a motivator instead of something to shy away from. I've spent a LOT of energy and intention on being more self aware and noticing my repeating patterns. Another thing - you’re absolutely right about the comparison can be a thief of joy, and I’m working on appreciating my own unique path instead of measuring myself against others. So thank you for that encouragement. It’s also great to connect with another ABC! Mannn - the more abc's i talk to the more I realize we go through similar things. Anyways really appreciate you taking the time to write this 🙏
I’m in the same situation, mid 30’s, no wife, no kid, not in a relationship. I too struggled with feeling like I was behind and that something was wrong with me. But I’m enjoying the peace and tranquility and working on myself physically, mentally, emotionally and financially most of all.
Thanks for sharing bro takes alot of courage to share ones feelings. Sounds like you know what you want and are very self aware. Youre doing very well. Better than most. Just keep doing what you doing bro and make the moves when you are ready. Everyone is on a different time line and comparison is the thief of joy.
Appreciate your comment, man. Honestly, we’re all just navigating life in our own ways-success is relative, and the struggles are real no matter what. Keep pushing forward, bro. You're not alone 👊
I didn’t meet my now wife until I was 36. We dated for 10 years before we decided to get married and have kids. I’m now a father of a 7 year-old at 53. Would I have preferred to have kids when I was younger? Yes. But I love my life right now and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I cannot imagine raising a 7 y/o in my 50s haha. But it's also nice to hear that you love your life now too and wouldn't trade it for anything
Bro, it’s been a minute! Welcome back to the channel Thanks so much for the kind words-it means a lot. Sometimes I wonder if people kinda see the work LOL. I've been trying to be really intentional about living like an athlete on the mats, gym, and in business lol. Anyways glad to see you back, and I hope life’s been treating you well over the years 🔥
Kevin you are doing great. I know it’s easy for me to say but be proud of yourself and how far you have come. Everyone’s journey is different and comparing yourself to others in your age group is not going to help. I’m at 31 starting my life from 0, living pay check to pay check. Life will have ups and downs. In the end of our lives- our experiences, our family, and the love we give to the world is what we will remember. Focus on what you can control and how you can live every day if yours to the fullest. Focus on the present and the great things you do have, the blessings and connections.
Thanks Sarah for dropping the comment. There's saying by Ben Hardy that I love... Focus on the gain, not the gap. as you probably know, concepts are easy to understand, but more difficult to internalize
Such a honest video. You’re doing amazing, Kevin! Remember that people rarely show their losses online, I’m sure you’re doing better than many! Please do a follow up video later down the track. Looking forward to seeing more of your progress 💪
@@bythuycao thank you thuy. Really appreciate you 🙏 yeah a lot of amazing things have also happened this year. I got my bjj purple belt, I landed Ali Abdaal as a client, my TH-cam mastermind is growing, I'm meeting dope as friends, and planning to live in Asia for a bit. Things are never so sexy behind the scenes, but definitely wanna share all the amazing things that are happening too
You’re doing great Kevin. Stick in there. It doesn’t matter how far ahead someone seems to be, we’re all dealing with the issues you’ve discussed. But that’s life! It’s a self journey and it’s up to you to define what it means. 🤝🏻
Thanks so much for the encouragement. It really means a lot. You’re 100% right - everyone’s dealing with their own stuff, no matter how put-together they seem. Appreciate you taking the time to share this perspective 🙏 btw... you've built up quite a big channel 💪
im a bit older than you and im chinese american. my mom was apathetic when i told her i dont care to have kids but later i noticed she does care a lot. my dad cared a lot but hes passed. i find the golden years for dating is between 24 to 34 approx. it gets harder as you get older as you face single moms, women with emotional baggage and etc... . i rather be single as i been through it all
First of all thanks for sharing your experience man. I definitely still want to have kids from my end, but at the end of the day if it doesn't happen I've still lived a good life. Tbh, i think im still in my golden years, but i notice myself getting pretty jaded with the bad experiences. i think the good thing is that i have a lot of tools (therapy, journaling, reflection) to process those moments where I notice myself holding on less and less over time.
Thanks for the comment Leslie! It’s nice to know we’re not alone in how we feel. You’re absolutely right-everyone’s running at their own pace, and comparing timelines doesn’t really help. Appreciate you sharing and reminding me of that perspective 🙂
I think you are fine at 36 as you are taking action. Just don't be having the same problem at 46 where you still feel behind because you didn't take action
thanks man. yeah - I highly doubt that I'll be having the same problems at 46. my life looks really different from 26 and even 6 months ago. appreciate the perspective 🙏
Thanks! I appreciate the kind words-trying to stay young at heart and take care of myself along the way. Been trying to eat well, train jiu jitsu & yoga, and burn off this visceral fat. Hope you’re doing well!
As a man, time's on your side if you're this passionate about business and trending up. Truth is, often marriage is grinding a paycheck, being disrespected then losing kids, house and salary in divorce. Kudos on living your dream.
Appreciate the perspective 🙏 I agree-time really is on our side when we’re building something meaningful and trending upward. When I look back in five years, I think I'll be definitely proud of myself for refocusing on myself instead of settling for a relationship I wasn't happy in. You bring a really good perspective about the other side of marriage and divorce. Thanks for the encouragement man
You're so welcome. I know a lot of people are probably thinking similar things and it's natural to feel these things. I hope people can see that it doesn't stop me from continuing to improve myself. But in terms of social interactions, having real convos about these things has deepened my relationships. You'd be surprised how many people are quietly going through the similar experiences
Its exponentially more difficult with kids. Its not just supporting them now and needing a bigger place, but saving for the future eg your retirement and their college. The points you're bringing up, I don't think they're inscurities, you're making reasonable points
Thanks for the thoughtful comment! Yeahhhh I can only imagine how much more complex things get when kids enter the picture. It’s definitely a big responsibility, and I appreciate you acknowledging that the points I’m bringing up aren’t just insecurities but real considerations. Perspectives like yours really adds a lot of depth to the conversation. Thanks for sharing 🙏
Appreciate the support, man-it’s a reminder that we’re all on different journeys, and it’s never too late to figure things out. Thanks for things on your end man.
We as a society need to stop comparing ourselves to others. Everyone’s journey is going to be entirely different from one another. It does comes down to your mindset and thoughts. You are what you attract or don’t attract. What a lot of people don’t realize is your subconscious beliefs can hinder what it is that you want. The nice thing about life is that you can change right now and move forward with what you want in life. Nothing stays the same.
Thanks for sharing your perspective-it’s such a great reminder that everyone’s journey really is unique, and comparing ourselves to others can be such a trap. After watching a bunch of Quazi videos and re-reading Psycho-cybernetics I definitely agree that subconscious beliefs play a huge role in shaping our lives. I also try to remind myself that progress isn’t always linear. Life has its seasons, and as you said, nothing stays the same. That realization has helped me shift focus to what I can control and what I really want to create moving forward. Appreciate your thoughtful comment-it’s inspiring to hear this kind of positive outlook
Exes who get married soon after your breakup usually just found a bigger sucker. Don't feel bad about that, you wouldn't want to be that guy. Just be glad you learned more about yourself, and use that to build a better relationship with someone willing to work with you.
I love that you’ve embraced your lifestyle choice. I actually have a few friends who decided not to have kids. I even dated one too awhile back. Something I worry about is like regretting it if I get older. Plus I really want to start a family. At least for me, there's something so primal about continuing my bloodline 😂 Anyways, it’s so refreshing to see someone own what works best for them. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
first time here, cool vid. Do you have any high ticket walkthrough vid? Trying to do stay at home job. Thanks Gluck on your journey through this time of your life
Yep I have a lot of videos on my channel, but you should start with the free high ticket sales course on my channel. Here's my free course - kaizenclosing.com/masterclass
Real talk - that’s the vibe I’m trying to embrace 😂😂😂 These days I'm trying to lower the intensity, doing my best, and letting the rest go. Appreciate the comment LOL
Honestly all of these things you're feeling are just symptoms of much larger problems. The part where you mentioned that people will leave you if you don't add value to them is true, that's just what happens when we get older - we start looking for different things in people and them from you in turn. Now are you falling behind compared to peers your age? Maybe it depends on the circumstances. If you live in an area with HCOL then I wouldn't worry about it because realistically owning a home in such areas is a pipe dream. I think there's a divide between what we expect and what we can accomplish. Have you pushed yourself to your limit? When you mentioned you became a pharmacist; that was a career that paid really well and you left it behind because you didn't like it which is ok, but honestly the older we get the more we have to lose so maybe it wasn't the best choice.
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts-I really appreciate your honesty. I wanted to touch on a couple of things you brought up because they got me reflecting. The part about people leaving if you don’t add value is interesting, but I think I see it differently based on my own experiences. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed that my relationships have actually improved. The transactional connections tend to fade away, and the people who stay are the ones who genuinely like me for who I am, not just what I can do for them. It’s been a powerful reminder that depth often comes with time and shared experiences. On the pharmacy point-I’d say it’s subjective for sure. For me, the decision to leave wasn’t easy, but over time, I’ve leaned more and more into believing it was the right choice. Not just financially, but because of the meaning and impact I’ve been able to create in my work now. Of course, when times are tough-like during a low-revenue month-it’s natural to second-guess. But overall, I feel more aligned with who I am and what I want my life to represent. Thanks again for sharing your perspective. It’s clear you put some thought into this, and it’s given me some good things to think about too.
I met my ex wife in Korea 10 years ago when I was 33 and we got married in 2016 it was good marriage but I was the small percentage that divorces the women. She was submissive but she had to much trauma from her childhood that she never resolved.
Thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and I really respect your willingness to reflect on it. Have you dated or remarried since?
Kevin, you're not behind in your life. It only feels or seems that way because you're comparing your life to the lives of your friends. Become financially stable and secure first. Kids aren't cheap and divorces are even more expensive 😅
Thanks for the perspective-I really appreciate it. You’re right, comparison can definitely make things feel off-track when in reality, everyone’s timeline is different. Financial stability is a solid focus. Over the last year or so I've really focused on the business and it's really blowing up so I think I can afford to focus on the family life now. Plus - yeah, kids and divorces aren’t exactly cheap 😂 I’ll keep reminding myself to focus on my own journey and not get caught up in the comparison game. Thanks for the reminder!
Im same as you bro i dont have a woman sometimes i feel better alone sometimes i need someone te have kids etc but havin financial problems and behind im not thinking to get married any soon
I feel you, man. Life can feel like a balancing act between wanting connection and focusing on sorting out other priorities like finances. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time to figure things out before diving into big commitments like marriage or kids. We’re all moving at our own pace-just focus on building the life that feels right for you. I know it sounds cliche - but my business blew up this year. I went from like $500-$2,000 months to like $30,000 months man. So life can change real quick - in a good way. Appreciate you sharing. You got this man
you dont have to keep up with the status quo. Society , media and old school asian families tell us you need to marry and have kids. why not just live your life and do what you want. live life for yourself
Thanks man. You’re so right-society and cultural expectations can feel heavy. But at the end of the day, it’s about living my life, not my Asian parents or my ex-asshole corporate boss' life 😂 Appreciate the reminder 🔥
I think pornography really can flub up our ability to connect. My boyfriend talked to me everyday for 2 years. I dated other people when we were friends. His neighbor is a well-aged marine who told me my boyfriend was in love with me then. It took a really loyal friend to tell me about the true feelings. We fought. We still fight. But we still joke… mid fight. Relationships are tough. But we sit in the mud together. Pop open MREs… then talk about how chili Mac isn’t so great…cold… Me and him are not possible without Jesus Christ. Might not like how it sounds. But it’s the truth. Ain’t easy.
You're probably not a horrible partner if you can even entertain the idea you could be. What im hearing is self-awareness and intelligence in how your past has impacted you - please give yourself some credit and compassion. Also, this might be the case for you as it was for me - my last relationship was 3-4 years ago. Had a short fling 6 months later then celibate for almost 2 years wasnt looking for anything. Had another fling this summer got starry eyed thibkibg he was the "one" and I was completely changed. As if all the work ive done to not distract myself paid off and it gave me a chance to apply the lessons learned in real life. He wasnt the "one" haha 😆 but instead of repeating patterns, I walked away soon, I now had self-respect. I very much impressed myself - give yourself the opportunity to apply your learnings and it might work and be sunshine and rainbows or you will have the self-respect to move on, either way you will create a new belief about yourself. Put yourself out there if you feel compelled - the right partner will understand where you are in life, your priorities and will support you.
Also, damn, your last reason 😢 completely resonate, most of your points actually. My whole perception of myself has been what I could GIVE people. Money, gifts, time, support etc. Its manipulation, id buy people to love me and give me affection and then i felt used and abused. I take ownership of my role, it was doomed to fail. Especially the resentment we build, we can't over give because it will doom it all. Damn dog, giving you a virtual hug. Its a whole journey. Just found your channel, new sub here.
Damn, I really appreciate your vulnerability and the thoughtfulness in what you’ve shared here (esp the last two comments you left). It sounds like you’ve done an incredible amount of work on yourself, and it’s so inspiring to hear how you’ve broken patterns and built self-respect through your journey. Walking away from something that doesn’t serve you anymore takes real strength, and it’s awesome to see how you’ve channeled that into building a new belief about yourself. Your point about giving too much and how it can lead to resentment really hits home. It’s such a hard cycle to break, especially when it feels like overgiving is tied to our value. But taking ownership of your role and deciding to change the dynamic is such a powerful move-it sounds like you’ve truly turned a corner. Thank you for the virtual hug and for being part of this journey with me. Your story really resonates, and I’m grateful for your support. Glad to have you here. Really appreciate you 🙏
Are they though, in these days and times, girls have a huge selection, bigger than ever before. So online dating is extremely hard for a guy, and meeting them in person isn't any easier.
Wait til you hit 40 bro. Shit gets real......real tired LOL. but for realz, if you're under 40 you're still young and still got time to find your stride
This video came up on recommended. You need to stop comparing yourself to other people, or you constantly live in this person is doing better than me, why haven’t I done this? I’m 25 and got out of a relationship of about two years, I thought the same way you did. Now that I’m out of relationship I can focus on what I need to better my business, and I can say that if you are pursuing women you will be distracted from your business as they will direct you in the opposite direction(usually). I would always find myself comparing myself to my younger friends that had a way better start than me, the parents had money they were funded for the business, they have more connections. Honestly, and honestly, yeah, I have a slower start, but I’m doing it all myself, and I can live with that. Stop living in comparison
You can also manipulate the way you think, I know how you said you get into depressive episodes, you feel down, you feel unhappy. I used to think that you have to live your life happily, but in reality as a man your true fulfillment come from following your purpose, whatever your purpose is, it most likely is not easy, it’s not supposed to be easy, that’s what makes it worthwhile. The suffering you go through, the emotional hardships, your stress, that’s what holds everyone back. You’re supposed to suffer, you’re supposed to live in stress, so why would you not use that negative, or positive energy as fuel to work harder and move forward. Mental illness is real, you don’t have mental illness. You seem quite competent, you don’t have depression. That’s what you let yourself believe. Stop letting others influence you negatively because it only holds you back, don’t be afraid of people leaving your life because you don’t add “value” that means they used you, and you are much better off without them around you. Consider it a gift that you found their true intentions.
@@SnarkyBullet Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. I can tell you’ve put a lot of thought into this, and I think you're coming from a good place. That said, I think there’s a bit of a gap between where we are in our respective journeys, so let me share some context that might help. I’ve lived through a few phases in my life-Pharmacy, my stoic phase, life as a start up entrepreneur, a mental health journey, and now trying to find balance as I navigate my current path. Something you might not know is that I went "monk mode" for about 3-4 years to focus on my business. During that time, I avoided relationships, turned down hookups, and social distractions. It was (and is) one of the things that helped me grow internally and professionally and is probably the reason why I've been able to land bigger clients and close more deals because of the personal development and self awareness. That period of intense focus also helped me discover my purpose and how to live in alignment with that purpose and my strengths. One thing I’ve learned over the years is that it’s easy to understand things in theory, but in practice, it’s a whole different game. For example, I’m not sure if you train jiu-jitsu, but any white belt can teach you how to do an armbar. The reality is, when you’re rolling live, things don’t always go as planned. It’s like that Mike Tyson quote: ‘Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.’ Life has plenty of those ‘punch in the face’ moments, and how we adapt is what defines us. It seems like you’ve read books like The Way of the Superior Man or something similar, which is honestly super impressive for your age. When I was 25, I wasn’t even thinking about running a business-I was deep in my pharmacy career. So props to you for being ahead of the curve and doing the work. Where I really agree with you is about letting go of people being a gift. Over time, I’ve come to value friendships where people like me for who I am, not just what I can do for them. But letting go of long-time friends-especially those you’ve grown up with over 20-30 years-isn’t easy. It’s a process, and I’m learning to cherish the memories while making space for relationships that truly align with where I’m going. Appreciate your perspective and the thoughtful dialogue-it’s great to connect with someone who’s clearly on a growth journey.
@ thank you for sharing your experience, I followed you on Instagram. I’d like to connect down the line after watching several of your videos you seem very genuine with good intentions, which is how I see myself. However I’ve built myself a little cold so I can be shameless and confident, not sure if it’s right but it’s working
Dude- how are you behind careerwise. You own your own company and you even have a PharmD to fall back on if evrything goes down the toilet. I don't know you personally so i can't say about other aspects of your life. Look into Christianity that's one thing you didn't mention.
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as long as people are born into different advantages and disadvantages, its pointless to compare yourself to others
It's easy to know in theory that there's no point of comparing ourselves to others, but then I think about my favorite philosopher Mike Tyson....
"Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth."
We're all human and sometimes it happens. Goal IMO is to do it less over time.
Nobody owns their home, the banks owns it until you paid if full.
You still don't own it. You still have insurance, property taxes and HOA if any.
Great points from both of you. While I don't agree with on everything, I really love Ramit's take on home ownership. Personally, I'd rather skip the headache and re-invest the money into the market or other business ventures. Appreciate the food for thought!
If you don't pay for any of what zzdlover said, the gov can take that home. So yeah. He's right. You don't really own that home.
Wow I'm turning 31 soon and your video and how open you are made me feel not alone because I have the exact same tendencies as you!
Thank you for sharing !
You're welcome. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we're not going through the same things alone Appreciate you 🙏
@@KevinYeePharmDthank you! Please make more videos like this and also maybe the progress you make along the way because you will certainly gain very loyal and genuine followers
I watched your TH-cam video, and it resonated with me so much that I had to reach out. You speak a lot about fear, and it’s important to recognize that fear is self-awareness-it shows you care deeply about your life and goals. Fear can either set you back or motivate you to attack those goals head-on. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy-don’t measure yourself against others, as everyone’s path is uniquely valuable.
You’ve voiced fears about your weight, relationships, career, and more, but the fact that you’re reflecting so deeply shows incredible strength. The only way is forward, and that’s exactly where you’re headed. Keep moving-progress, not perfection, is what matters most, and you’re more capable than you realize.
Also, I’m an ABC too, so I completely understand the cultural pressures you’re feeling. It’s tough, but it’s also something that shapes our resilience.
Thank you so much for this incredibly thoughtful and supportive comment.
It really means a lot to me that the video resonated with you.
I love how you framed fear as a form of self-awareness-it’s such a powerful reframe that reminds me to look at it as a motivator instead of something to shy away from. I've spent a LOT of energy and intention on being more self aware and noticing my repeating patterns.
Another thing - you’re absolutely right about the comparison can be a thief of joy, and I’m working on appreciating my own unique path instead of measuring myself against others. So thank you for that encouragement.
It’s also great to connect with another ABC! Mannn - the more abc's i talk to the more I realize we go through similar things.
Anyways really appreciate you taking the time to write this 🙏
I’m in the same situation, mid 30’s, no wife, no kid, not in a relationship. I too struggled with feeling like I was behind and that something was wrong with me. But I’m enjoying the peace and tranquility and working on myself physically, mentally, emotionally and financially most of all.
Thanks for sharing bro takes alot of courage to share ones feelings. Sounds like you know what you want and are very self aware. Youre doing very well. Better than most. Just keep doing what you doing bro and make the moves when you are ready. Everyone is on a different time line and comparison is the thief of joy.
Thanks bro. Really appreciate that you recognize that and the mind words 🙏
i feel your pain..... you're me ... just much more successful
Appreciate your comment, man. Honestly, we’re all just navigating life in our own ways-success is relative, and the struggles are real no matter what. Keep pushing forward, bro. You're not alone 👊
I didn’t meet my now wife until I was 36. We dated for 10 years before we decided to get married and have kids. I’m now a father of a 7 year-old at 53. Would I have preferred to have kids when I was younger? Yes. But I love my life right now and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I cannot imagine raising a 7 y/o in my 50s haha. But it's also nice to hear that you love your life now too and wouldn't trade it for anything
You're doing great Kevin 🫶
Thanks dood ❤️🩹
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@@StatusZeroTwo worddd. Appreciate you bro! Lets goooo
great stuff man! I never comment but this resonates with me. Subscribed 🙏🏻
You're welcome man. Something I realize is that a lot of us are going through similar experiences and I'm glad this resonated with you bro!
Bro, I haven't seen your videos since 6 years ago and you have glowed up for sure. Looking good, bro!
Bro, it’s been a minute! Welcome back to the channel
Thanks so much for the kind words-it means a lot. Sometimes I wonder if people kinda see the work LOL. I've been trying to be really intentional about living like an athlete on the mats, gym, and in business lol.
Anyways glad to see you back, and I hope life’s been treating you well over the years 🔥
Kevin you are doing great. I know it’s easy for me to say but be proud of yourself and how far you have come. Everyone’s journey is different and comparing yourself to others in your age group is not going to help. I’m at 31 starting my life from 0, living pay check to pay check. Life will have ups and downs. In the end of our lives- our experiences, our family, and the love we give to the world is what we will remember. Focus on what you can control and how you can live every day if yours to the fullest. Focus on the present and the great things you do have, the blessings and connections.
Thanks Sarah for dropping the comment. There's saying by Ben Hardy that I love... Focus on the gain, not the gap. as you probably know, concepts are easy to understand, but more difficult to internalize
@ we believe in you!
Such a honest video. You’re doing amazing, Kevin! Remember that people rarely show their losses online, I’m sure you’re doing better than many! Please do a follow up video later down the track. Looking forward to seeing more of your progress 💪
@@bythuycao thank you thuy. Really appreciate you 🙏 yeah a lot of amazing things have also happened this year.
I got my bjj purple belt, I landed Ali Abdaal as a client, my TH-cam mastermind is growing, I'm meeting dope as friends, and planning to live in Asia for a bit.
Things are never so sexy behind the scenes, but definitely wanna share all the amazing things that are happening too
You’re doing great Kevin. Stick in there. It doesn’t matter how far ahead someone seems to be, we’re all dealing with the issues you’ve discussed. But that’s life! It’s a self journey and it’s up to you to define what it means. 🤝🏻
Thanks so much for the encouragement. It really means a lot. You’re 100% right - everyone’s dealing with their own stuff, no matter how put-together they seem. Appreciate you taking the time to share this perspective 🙏
btw... you've built up quite a big channel 💪
im a bit older than you and im chinese american. my mom was apathetic when i told her i dont care to have kids but later i noticed she does care a lot. my dad cared a lot but hes passed. i find the golden years for dating is between 24 to 34 approx. it gets harder as you get older as you face single moms, women with emotional baggage and etc... . i rather be single as i been through it all
First of all thanks for sharing your experience man. I definitely still want to have kids from my end, but at the end of the day if it doesn't happen I've still lived a good life. Tbh, i think im still in my golden years, but i notice myself getting pretty jaded with the bad experiences. i think the good thing is that i have a lot of tools (therapy, journaling, reflection) to process those moments where I notice myself holding on less and less over time.
Commenting because this video find me in some way. I'm 32 and i feel like I'm in the same boat.We're all running at our own pace, no one is ahead!🙂
Thanks for the comment Leslie!
It’s nice to know we’re not alone in how we feel. You’re absolutely right-everyone’s running at their own pace, and comparing timelines doesn’t really help.
Appreciate you sharing and reminding me of that perspective 🙂
I think you are fine at 36 as you are taking action. Just don't be having the same problem at 46 where you still feel behind because you didn't take action
thanks man. yeah - I highly doubt that I'll be having the same problems at 46. my life looks really different from 26 and even 6 months ago. appreciate the perspective 🙏
You look young ! Your aging well!
Thanks! I appreciate the kind words-trying to stay young at heart and take care of myself along the way. Been trying to eat well, train jiu jitsu & yoga, and burn off this visceral fat. Hope you’re doing well!
As a man, time's on your side if you're this passionate about business and trending up. Truth is, often marriage is grinding a paycheck, being disrespected then losing kids, house and salary in divorce. Kudos on living your dream.
Appreciate the perspective 🙏
I agree-time really is on our side when we’re building something meaningful and trending upward. When I look back in five years, I think I'll be definitely proud of myself for refocusing on myself instead of settling for a relationship I wasn't happy in.
You bring a really good perspective about the other side of marriage and divorce.
Thanks for the encouragement man
Appreciate you making this video bro.. I’m going through the exact same thing. Do you think that what you’re going through impact social interactions
You're so welcome. I know a lot of people are probably thinking similar things and it's natural to feel these things. I hope people can see that it doesn't stop me from continuing to improve myself.
But in terms of social interactions, having real convos about these things has deepened my relationships. You'd be surprised how many people are quietly going through the similar experiences
Its exponentially more difficult with kids. Its not just supporting them now and needing a bigger place, but saving for the future eg your retirement and their college. The points you're bringing up, I don't think they're inscurities, you're making reasonable points
Thanks for the thoughtful comment!
Yeahhhh I can only imagine how much more complex things get when kids enter the picture.
It’s definitely a big responsibility, and I appreciate you acknowledging that the points I’m bringing up aren’t just insecurities but real considerations.
Perspectives like yours really adds a lot of depth to the conversation. Thanks for sharing 🙏
I'm 46, still single and falling behind... so dun feel bad for yourself
Lol 46 here as well. It seems passport broing is the only option.
Appreciate the support, man-it’s a reminder that we’re all on different journeys, and it’s never too late to figure things out. Thanks for things on your end man.
Haha, funny enough I'm going to Asia. Idk if I'm looking for a partner there, but it'll def be new and different.
We as a society need to stop comparing ourselves to others. Everyone’s journey is going to be entirely different from one another. It does comes down to your mindset and thoughts. You are what you attract or don’t attract. What a lot of people don’t realize is your subconscious beliefs can hinder what it is that you want. The nice thing about life is that you can change right now and move forward with what you want in life. Nothing stays the same.
Thanks for sharing your perspective-it’s such a great reminder that everyone’s journey really is unique, and comparing ourselves to others can be such a trap. After watching a bunch of Quazi videos and re-reading Psycho-cybernetics I definitely agree that subconscious beliefs play a huge role in shaping our lives.
I also try to remind myself that progress isn’t always linear. Life has its seasons, and as you said, nothing stays the same. That realization has helped me shift focus to what I can control and what I really want to create moving forward.
Appreciate your thoughtful comment-it’s inspiring to hear this kind of positive outlook
Exes who get married soon after your breakup usually just found a bigger sucker. Don't feel bad about that, you wouldn't want to be that guy. Just be glad you learned more about yourself, and use that to build a better relationship with someone willing to work with you.
You need to go party it up in Vegas to clear your head Kevin 🚧
@@jejudo3000 that is if you can get past the Vegas construction from F1 🥲
I’m 36 and I do enjoying being single, childfree , it’s a choice of lifestyle.
Don’t you get lonely?
I love that you’ve embraced your lifestyle choice. I actually have a few friends who decided not to have kids. I even dated one too awhile back.
Something I worry about is like regretting it if I get older. Plus I really want to start a family. At least for me, there's something so primal about continuing my bloodline 😂
Anyways, it’s so refreshing to see someone own what works best for them. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
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Thank you bro. Looks like my channel is getting back into the algo 🙏
first time here, cool vid. Do you have any high ticket walkthrough vid? Trying to do stay at home job. Thanks Gluck on your journey through this time of your life
Yep I have a lot of videos on my channel, but you should start with the free high ticket sales course on my channel.
Here's my free course - kaizenclosing.com/masterclass
@ perfect thank you bro
I'm 40 i dont give a F anymore 😂
Real talk - that’s the vibe I’m trying to embrace 😂😂😂
These days I'm trying to lower the intensity, doing my best, and letting the rest go. Appreciate the comment LOL
Honestly all of these things you're feeling are just symptoms of much larger problems. The part where you mentioned that people will leave you if you don't add value to them is true, that's just what happens when we get older - we start looking for different things in people and them from you in turn. Now are you falling behind compared to peers your age? Maybe it depends on the circumstances. If you live in an area with HCOL then I wouldn't worry about it because realistically owning a home in such areas is a pipe dream. I think there's a divide between what we expect and what we can accomplish. Have you pushed yourself to your limit? When you mentioned you became a pharmacist; that was a career that paid really well and you left it behind because you didn't like it which is ok, but honestly the older we get the more we have to lose so maybe it wasn't the best choice.
wtf bro
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts-I really appreciate your honesty. I wanted to touch on a couple of things you brought up because they got me reflecting.
The part about people leaving if you don’t add value is interesting, but I think I see it differently based on my own experiences. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed that my relationships have actually improved. The transactional connections tend to fade away, and the people who stay are the ones who genuinely like me for who I am, not just what I can do for them. It’s been a powerful reminder that depth often comes with time and shared experiences.
On the pharmacy point-I’d say it’s subjective for sure. For me, the decision to leave wasn’t easy, but over time, I’ve leaned more and more into believing it was the right choice. Not just financially, but because of the meaning and impact I’ve been able to create in my work now. Of course, when times are tough-like during a low-revenue month-it’s natural to second-guess. But overall, I feel more aligned with who I am and what I want my life to represent.
Thanks again for sharing your perspective. It’s clear you put some thought into this, and it’s given me some good things to think about too.
I met my ex wife in Korea 10 years ago when I was 33 and we got married in 2016 it was good marriage but I was the small percentage that divorces the women. She was submissive but she had to much trauma from her childhood that she never resolved.
Thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and I really respect your willingness to reflect on it. Have you dated or remarried since?
Kevin, you're not behind in your life. It only feels or seems that way because you're comparing your life to the lives of your friends. Become financially stable and secure first. Kids aren't cheap and divorces are even more expensive 😅
Thanks for the perspective-I really appreciate it. You’re right, comparison can definitely make things feel off-track when in reality, everyone’s timeline is different.
Financial stability is a solid focus. Over the last year or so I've really focused on the business and it's really blowing up so I think I can afford to focus on the family life now. Plus - yeah, kids and divorces aren’t exactly cheap 😂
I’ll keep reminding myself to focus on my own journey and not get caught up in the comparison game. Thanks for the reminder!
Im same as you bro i dont have a woman sometimes i feel better alone sometimes i need someone te have kids etc but havin financial problems and behind im not thinking to get married any soon
I feel you, man. Life can feel like a balancing act between wanting connection and focusing on sorting out other priorities like finances.
There’s nothing wrong with taking your time to figure things out before diving into big commitments like marriage or kids. We’re all moving at our own pace-just focus on building the life that feels right for you.
I know it sounds cliche - but my business blew up this year. I went from like $500-$2,000 months to like $30,000 months man. So life can change real quick - in a good way.
Appreciate you sharing. You got this man
takes a lot of bravery to speak about such things 🫡
@@kaalraam thank you bro. Appreciate you man 🙏
Almost 31 and still behind.
you dont have to keep up with the status quo. Society , media and old school asian families tell us you need to marry and have kids. why not just live your life and do what you want. live life for yourself
Thanks man. You’re so right-society and cultural expectations can feel heavy. But at the end of the day, it’s about living my life, not my Asian parents or my ex-asshole corporate boss' life 😂
Appreciate the reminder 🔥
I think pornography really can flub up our ability to connect.
My boyfriend talked to me everyday for 2 years. I dated other people when we were friends.
His neighbor is a well-aged marine who told me my boyfriend was in love with me then. It took a really loyal friend to tell me about the true feelings.
We fought. We still fight. But we still joke… mid fight.
Relationships are tough. But we sit in the mud together. Pop open MREs… then talk about how chili Mac isn’t so great…cold…
Me and him are not possible without Jesus Christ. Might not like how it sounds. But it’s the truth. Ain’t easy.
You're probably not a horrible partner if you can even entertain the idea you could be. What im hearing is self-awareness and intelligence in how your past has impacted you - please give yourself some credit and compassion.
Also, this might be the case for you as it was for me - my last relationship was 3-4 years ago. Had a short fling 6 months later then celibate for almost 2 years wasnt looking for anything. Had another fling this summer got starry eyed thibkibg he was the "one" and I was completely changed. As if all the work ive done to not distract myself paid off and it gave me a chance to apply the lessons learned in real life. He wasnt the "one" haha 😆 but instead of repeating patterns, I walked away soon, I now had self-respect. I very much impressed myself - give yourself the opportunity to apply your learnings and it might work and be sunshine and rainbows or you will have the self-respect to move on, either way you will create a new belief about yourself. Put yourself out there if you feel compelled - the right partner will understand where you are in life, your priorities and will support you.
Also, damn, your last reason 😢 completely resonate, most of your points actually. My whole perception of myself has been what I could GIVE people. Money, gifts, time, support etc. Its manipulation, id buy people to love me and give me affection and then i felt used and abused. I take ownership of my role, it was doomed to fail. Especially the resentment we build, we can't over give because it will doom it all.
Damn dog, giving you a virtual hug. Its a whole journey. Just found your channel, new sub here.
Damn, I really appreciate your vulnerability and the thoughtfulness in what you’ve shared here (esp the last two comments you left).
It sounds like you’ve done an incredible amount of work on yourself, and it’s so inspiring to hear how you’ve broken patterns and built self-respect through your journey. Walking away from something that doesn’t serve you anymore takes real strength, and it’s awesome to see how you’ve channeled that into building a new belief about yourself.
Your point about giving too much and how it can lead to resentment really hits home. It’s such a hard cycle to break, especially when it feels like overgiving is tied to our value. But taking ownership of your role and deciding to change the dynamic is such a powerful move-it sounds like you’ve truly turned a corner.
Thank you for the virtual hug and for being part of this journey with me. Your story really resonates, and I’m grateful for your support. Glad to have you here. Really appreciate you 🙏
You are a cute guy someone is waiting for you
Are they though, in these days and times, girls have a huge selection, bigger than ever before. So online dating is extremely hard for a guy, and meeting them in person isn't any easier.
Kevin, take my advice. Get yourself a girl from overseas. They are less needy and will be grateful you brought them to America.
funny enough I'm planning to visit Asia later this year / next year haha
then they divorce you and run off with the green card and half your cash
Ew
@@aahsimovieprojectsget a good one. Just make a good judgement and not just someone who is attractive
I rather be alone than having relationships that is so business like
It’s sad
Wait til you hit 40 bro. Shit gets real......real tired LOL. but for realz, if you're under 40 you're still young and still got time to find your stride
What do you mean still single? I thought you were seeing someone
@@SoftDoughboy it's been a LONG time since those days haha
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You need to stop comparing yourself to other people, or you constantly live in this person is doing better than me, why haven’t I done this?
I’m 25 and got out of a relationship of about two years, I thought the same way you did. Now that I’m out of relationship I can focus on what I need to better my business, and I can say that if you are pursuing women you will be distracted from your business as they will direct you in the opposite direction(usually).
I would always find myself comparing myself to my younger friends that had a way better start than me, the parents had money they were funded for the business, they have more connections.
Honestly, and honestly, yeah, I have a slower start, but I’m doing it all myself, and I can live with that.
Stop living in comparison
You can also manipulate the way you think, I know how you said you get into depressive episodes, you feel down, you feel unhappy. I used to think that you have to live your life happily, but in reality as a man your true fulfillment come from following your purpose, whatever your purpose is, it most likely is not easy, it’s not supposed to be easy, that’s what makes it worthwhile.
The suffering you go through, the emotional hardships, your stress, that’s what holds everyone back. You’re supposed to suffer, you’re supposed to live in stress, so why would you not use that negative, or positive energy as fuel to work harder and move forward.
Mental illness is real, you don’t have mental illness. You seem quite competent, you don’t have depression. That’s what you let yourself believe.
Stop letting others influence you negatively because it only holds you back, don’t be afraid of people leaving your life because you don’t add “value” that means they used you, and you are much better off without them around you. Consider it a gift that you found their true intentions.
@@SnarkyBullet Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. I can tell you’ve put a lot of thought into this, and I think you're coming from a good place. That said, I think there’s a bit of a gap between where we are in our respective journeys, so let me share some context that might help.
I’ve lived through a few phases in my life-Pharmacy, my stoic phase, life as a start up entrepreneur, a mental health journey, and now trying to find balance as I navigate my current path. Something you might not know is that I went "monk mode" for about 3-4 years to focus on my business. During that time, I avoided relationships, turned down hookups, and social distractions. It was (and is) one of the things that helped me grow internally and professionally and is probably the reason why I've been able to land bigger clients and close more deals because of the personal development and self awareness. That period of intense focus also helped me discover my purpose and how to live in alignment with that purpose and my strengths.
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that it’s easy to understand things in theory, but in practice, it’s a whole different game. For example, I’m not sure if you train jiu-jitsu, but any white belt can teach you how to do an armbar. The reality is, when you’re rolling live, things don’t always go as planned. It’s like that Mike Tyson quote: ‘Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.’
Life has plenty of those ‘punch in the face’ moments, and how we adapt is what defines us.
It seems like you’ve read books like The Way of the Superior Man or something similar, which is honestly super impressive for your age. When I was 25, I wasn’t even thinking about running a business-I was deep in my pharmacy career. So props to you for being ahead of the curve and doing the work.
Where I really agree with you is about letting go of people being a gift. Over time, I’ve come to value friendships where people like me for who I am, not just what I can do for them. But letting go of long-time friends-especially those you’ve grown up with over 20-30 years-isn’t easy. It’s a process, and I’m learning to cherish the memories while making space for relationships that truly align with where I’m going.
Appreciate your perspective and the thoughtful dialogue-it’s great to connect with someone who’s clearly on a growth journey.
@ thank you for sharing your experience, I followed you on Instagram. I’d like to connect down the line after watching several of your videos you seem very genuine with good intentions, which is how I see myself. However I’ve built myself a little cold so I can be shameless and confident, not sure if it’s right but it’s working
Honestly, just go to Asia.
Dude- how are you behind careerwise. You own your own company and you even have a PharmD to fall back on if evrything goes down the toilet. I don't know you personally so i can't say about other aspects of your life. Look into Christianity that's one thing you didn't mention.