@@johnfisher8401 seriously even getting a job to get those cars and the house was as easy as going and asking a manager for a job and they’d hire you on the spot. You used to be able to ask Women for marriage by meeting them for the first time. Holy shit boomers had it easy
Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television, feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy falling in love is not just about having sex falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people. She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner. As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction, therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife. Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.
I’m 26 and my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me in November and subsequently we broke it off. I found out soon enough the reality of single life particularly attracting women and how extremely difficult it is to find a partner or even get a date on tinder. Let’s face it, the world we live in now doesn’t support developing relationships as it did pre social media days. I work 9-5 Monday to Friday everyday at home and my own few friends rarely go out. Modern tech has completely destroyed human interaction and women’s perception of guys. Man, how I envy the people who got to experience being young adults in the 80s & 90s the last decades of normality.
Yeah man it sucks. I’ve done some traveling a lot since being in the military. East coast, west coast, a couple of western european countries. Its just not looking good anywhere like the previous generation before social media 😅
As someone who is 35 and grew up before even AOL was a thing.... Let me tell you life was amazing in every way!! From good music and people!! And guess what life happens OUTSIDE! I come from a household of men were it's 10 of us. I co.e from a time where people with beeper were popular and house parties was the thing kids would do cut class to meet up at someone home. The good old days without social media and honestly women were approachable!!! You could actually walk up to a female and have a conversation and most were polite EVEN while rejecting you (granted) not all but most. In the beginning believe it or not social media was amazing because it was taboo at the time and when I started trying it out rejection WASN'T A THING!! imagine back in the day I had a 80-90% success rate on meeting women "ghosting" wasn't a thing!! To this day those were really the best time to be a introvert or even a extrovert so much was happening. Nowadays I feel sorry for the generation coming up, as a successful man to experience what a "normal" relationship looks like I had to travel overseas 😂 I know multiple languages so my experience varies. Good times good times! To this day me and my group of friends constantly talk about how good life was
I am 28 years old and I just decided to stop looking for a romantic or sexual relationship with women, because at some point in previous years, I realized i was spending too much resources on it and i didnt see any good result except for some satisfaction and a lot of headache. One year has passed and I can not believe how peaceful and how many things I was able to do since I decided just to dont give a shit about sex. My income in one year just doubled up basically, I took some trips, bought nice things for myself, I built better relationships with my friends and family and grow up as an individual as never before.
Sounds like your meeting the completely wrong kind of person. You should be able to focus on improving yourself and your relationships and financial success. While having the closest "friend/ life partner " right by your side. Have an open mind. I found my sole mate at 25, while she was 34. Now I'm 34 and wouldn't have enjoyed my accomplishments even half as much alone.
@@parkservice6293 Needle in a haystack? That's at least worth a try. I can barely find someone to have a normal conversation with, without them acting like emotionally damaged member of The Adams family.
@@gotinogaden to be for real, in this day and age there aren't many groups that call themselves boys/lads. Me personally I've not been in a group for around a decade, resultant of which now I have no real friends so nobody to talk to really. Luckily I'm good on my own.
I've never thrived or been more at peace than when being single and celibate. I've finished a degree, built up my career and financial security. Its awesome.
This is my experience as well. Women date someone, talk to other guys behind their back, then leave for the "better" option. No loyalty anymore. I swear this is by design
@@okaySam It's the price you pay for continuing to date/marry in a conquered, feminist society. Accept you are going to share her with multiple men or don't date/marry at all. They are your only two options.
Imagine trying to explain to your great great grandfather that your wife has a magic box with a password that can fit in her pocket which allows her to instantaneously and secretly communicate with any man on the planet 24/7
One of my female friends who I now dread to even be around claims that she is a respectable traditional women yet she has already fucked 2 guys and has tried many more all the while claiming she doesn’t ever want to settle because she deserves the finest man. She is alright in appearance
It's really quite simple: -Women are dating older more successful men. -Women are dating other women. -Some guys are dating multiple women at once whether the women know about it or not. -Alot of men have given up because they don't qualify as a partner anymore to ridiculously high standards. That's why there are twice as many single men than women. It's no secret that being an average normal man isn't good enough anymore, we have to become a somebody just to attract below average to average women.
Most women are chasing the high value men. Those guys got more trim than they can handle. Your average woman goes for the best, even if they are the third choice.
woman are getting more masucline and angry by the day......woman are turning into men and all men see is we cant get it up ED commecials....no connection ??
Women aren't suddenly "turning gay" at a far higher rate than men. Women are more likely to lie in a study or poll where a stranger asks them if they are in a committed relationship. Women often think the guy they are getting booty calls from twice a week at 3am constitutes a committed relationship. Both modern men and women have been brainwashed by social media, porn culture and entertainment to see themselves as flawed physically, financially or psychologically. They're both acting insecure and selfish, we cant act like all of a sudden women are fucked up and that's the only issue at play here? Young men spending all day working out, avoiding relationships and listening to male "self help gurus" like Andrew Tate is a symptom of their obvious unhappiness and problems. We both suck but luckily the world doesn't need a population increase at the moment so it's not an emergency.
Went on my first date in over five years a few months back. She seemed nice enough. But the week prior we were supposed to have the date, but she cancelled and we rescheduled for the week after. Because she was going to see family in Toronto.....seemed odd we even set up a date for that week then.....but ok. Cut to the date and I ask about her trip. "Oh it was good, saw some family friends and stuff" So I asked if she did anything exiciting. "Well I went to the club until like 4am one night, havent done that in years" "Oh? with friends?" "yeah a buddy was visiting from Italy so we met at the club and danced" "How do you know a guy from Italy?" "Oh I met him there when I travelled and we remained friends" "and he just happened to be in Toronto the same week you were?" "Yeah...." Soooooo what I gathered from this. She cancelled on me to go to Toronto to see this guy and they probably hooked up and all that. No thanks lady. Havent seen her since. But isnt it strange how every man I tell this story to is like "oh ok I get it". But every woman ive told thinks I was too judgmental? Even my own mom. Like mom, you really think shes in Toronto the same week as a random pal from Italy just as a coincidence????? Food for thought
Most of these women look semi hot. And all they do is go to clubs drink all night and live for the weekend. Basically South parks version of parison Hilton. Lol
Brother, don't expect women to understand what men deal with or to take your side. This includes your mother. They will blame the men, defend the women and it will always be your fault somehow. Your instincts are right, you properly realized you can ignore their opinions. You want to find a woman who will drop everything to run and meet you whenever you show up suddenly. Next time, if a woman cancels on you, tell her ok but you have a standing rule that she will now have to buy you dinner. Don't reward bad behavior. It will separate you from the other guys.
I've met a few guys who straight up told me they couldn't care less if they are still a virgin at 70 years old. That just tells how bad the situation is.
@@jaysouthmusic8230 The fact of the matter is that's what they think. Getting rejected multiple times or living in a toxic relationship for so long will turn people off completely FOR GOOD! Some people do not want drama at all and would rather stay alone than deal with it.
As a 43 year old “old man” No, I see it, but I’m wondering why there are still so many “young men” simping to these girls????? And why do you go the gym for others , instead of yourselves???
Because feminism and modern society have melted women’s brains. They have no idea what they want, and even if they think they do, nothing is good enough. This problem mostly stems from social media and it’s detrimental impacts all around
i'm 66 & i don't find todays dating marked shocking...i find it sad & aggravating...seems all women today are basiclly prostitutes....they only care about 2 things...how hot is he & how much money does he make .. ? that's it....& PS...they HATE a nice guy...& this problem is getting worse....
Actually its been the worst and best thing to happen, now we know most women are harlots and use men for their needs and advantages. No point in playing when they are extremely insecure manipulative losers
And not just romantic relationships but friendships too. Facebook was a factor in the ending of a long term relationship with my best guy friend of over 30 years. He always had a toxic side to him and our relationship was having problems apart from FB but some of the things he posted on FB finished off our friendship. We haven’t spoken to each other in almost 2 years and I doubt we ever will again. I’m fine with that.
In my Mid-40's, looking back on life, I've realized that the majority of problems, mistakes, regrets I've had in life almost always involved a women, girlfriend, wife, etc. Being single may be a blessing.
At a bar in NY, a lady sat next to me complaining about her Mercedes in the shop, she turned to me and asked me what i drove. I said a Nissan Titan, she said "oh", and turned away like i was garbage. Im handsome, built, retired when i was 38 years old, make more than the average American man, for the rest of my life, im funny, got my stuff together. And she only saw what i drove...smh...thats something thats wrong right there. Frankly id rather stay single
Yeah. As a 27 year old single guy in todays age, I’ve never felt more romantically alone. Haven’t been on a date for 4 years. Haven’t been in a relationship for 7. It’s sad to say but I truly don’t care anymore. It’s not worth the trouble.
I’m in my mid 40s and can’t believe how many attractive young adult females I see walking their dogs all by themselves and living by themselves. When I was young these type of women were NEVER EVER single or without a boyfriend. At the apartment complex I live, if you throw a little party, all the single ladies bring their dogs and no date it’s weird to me.
@@daniellove162 it's because a lot of them are dating "unavailable" men aka they are pining for a man who has multiple women and he isn't giving them a full fledge relationship.
@@daniellove162 yup I commented the same thing. Social media has ruined dating. All the good looking women have some idea in their head that they are holding out for the rich and famous guy they are gunna meet on Instagram and get married to and instantly become wealthy. Good looking women only care about social media followers and climbing the social status ladder. Regular guys with regular jobs can look like brad pit yet have no chance of dating a really pretty women unless you have a bunch of fake pictures on the internet of you flaunting money and luxury goods you don’t even own.
Im turning 27 soon and ive never been on a date. I tried dating apps in my early 20s and that just lead to depression from the abysmal choices so i gave up. Dating has only gotten worse since then. Id like a long term relationship deep down but those dreams have died. Social media is cancer and ruined any chance of that happening.
For me it's an economic thing. It's annoying to try dating when you still live with your parents in your late 20s/early 30s, which most young people still do because housing is unaffordable and rent is just as bad. And it's impossible to think about starting a family when you can barely afford to support yourself on your current salary. The boomers had the luxury of pursuing romantic relationships because their jobs paid them a liveable wage, housing/college was affordable, and they felt financially secure enough to plan for their future. Our generation was robbed of that.
@@JackCarsoniteYeah OP is partially correct. We need to stop downplaying how corrupted and incompatible most modern women are in relationships now. All they do is monkey branch to the next guy who’s hotter and/or richer. Their pair bonding capabilities are nonexistent these days.
Basically dating apps and hookup culture, along with female entitlement have destroyed the dating system. A lot of women are seeing or in contact with multiple guys. So as a guy you can either enter an extremely competitive, toxic and brutal dating game, end up getting chewed up and spat out at the other end, or just forget about the whole thing. With the odds against men, I don’t blame anyone for staying at home, buying a PlayStation console, going off travelling, concentrating on careers etc etc. Chasing women is a mugs game. It is something that benefits women but rarely benefits guys.
U get rejected for any little thing as a guy. Women have delusional high standards due to social media, and they don't value any one guy anymore. Flake/ghost on u for no reason. Women have too many distractions. It's super easy dating for women. Very hard for men.
Attraction is not the same for guys vs girls. Girls have value based on looks only, which makes it super easy for them with social media and dating apps. Guys need to showcase their personality/social skills to attract girls, which is not possible with apps.
@@norsketilbakeblikk3717 because the guys have to compete with all the other guys, the women just have to choose from an endless pool of men competing for the few decent ones left. It's a sweet shop for women. As a guy, the odds are not in your favour.
The worst part about this is that it’s not really just depression. Most people actually are happier being single today. That’s what is frightening. Some single try to go out, then they feel the weight of being with someone, and then just ghost and go back to being alone. There are too many things to do when alone.
I'm late to this party, but my god, in a weird way, it is comforting to know that I'm not the only guy that has given up on putting so much effort into a relationship that will be a waste of time.
@@OscarUnratedabsolutely not god gave you two hands for a reason also he gave us a function that when you sit on your hand it goes numb😂2 plus 2 equals 4😆nah im just playing
27 year old. My five year relationship ended because she left me for a felon with criminal records. I guess he has something I don't. I recover after one year of pain. I may not have the risky behavior she liked about him. But I have $$$, my own house, healthy, I travel, my body is fit, I work in the aerospace industry. I rather be single. Modern women are a pain in the ass.
@@FART-REPELLENT Yes indeed i used to have sex alot and there was one girl that really liked to be treated that way later on i found out on the internet by real confessions that most woman can be pleasured like that 😅whild stuffs however she went to live with another dude i mean she was not naive she knew what she wants and she asks for it i felt alone afterwards without spending time with her but i wasn't that much attached to her nor she was into me that much cause that was my second and last long term relationship and the first one that i had was very difrent from the second one what I've learned is that the more she acts like she loves you or cares about you the more you know she doesn't i guess maybe it's just my view and my own personal perspective but maybe applies to many who knows
Think of it this way you have something that’s too good for her, not other way around she chose a deadbeat just for bad boy and interest and she can change him, Get a girl traditional values drops everything for you. And have confidence knowing you’re a winner , you have goals and both of you connect. Can take time but when you find it you’ll know
I have four friends who are in their mid 30s and are still single. 2 of them are definitely hooking up with a bunch of younger women. They tell stories about the bullshit lies they tell these women. The other two are some of the best dudes you'll ever meet. Had their hearts broken one too many times and moved on.
@@tomzadvydas1758Nope. A lot of women don't care about being in a relationship like men think they do. Especially if the older guys are spending money on them. Like seriously, there's plenty of women who don't want a relationship with guys either. They can take money, free meals or something expensive from the guys, then give whatever the guy wants and then continue to go their own way and enjoy life. Maybe even find more guys who are willing to spend money on them.
@@sreeyansarout6497 I think you are being a bit disingenuous. Most women fall for it because most men now days are feminized and have no idea how to be a man. That isn't to say there isn't degeneracy in the culture overall, but women are going to go with the confident guys even if they are full of crap and don't care, over the men who are soft and try to fit into a social justice culture rather than fight against it.
Well, on my last date the young lady told me “men are obsolete, we have sperm banks now” with the most smug smile I’ve ever seen. That shocked me. After that remark, I decided to ask to split the bill & she absolutely Lost Her mind right in front of the waitress.
Not sure how this is surprising. Hypergamy + Social Media = Women are no longer limited to their local pool of men. The sexual market has expanded worldwide, allowing Becky from your hometown to be reached by Dimitri in Russia or Jacob in London or Ahmed in Dubai with a swipe on their phones. You're no longer competing with the popular college player, you're also competing with the millionaire sitting on his Yacht in Miami.
@Freedom Forever Yea that's realistic. Why is the response always "men need to do [x]" instead of the obvious answer which is that "women need to not be allowed to do [y]"
Girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me. Made me question everything, even myself. Really couldn’t care less for the degeneracy that people my age do (18-26), so I suppose I’m a part of that 63%. Just isn’t worth it. Low quality females, drugs, and lack of discipline make good dudes either turn bad or become disconnected from the world. Just my two cents
Yep (21 m ) same I don’t want a girlfriend because most have been places doing things I never want to think about I’m truly disgusted and can’t be bothered playing detective constantly to find a reasonable partner. Some people say meet people in real life and all girls my age have phones with a ridiculous amount of men they’re talking to so it’s hopeless because they want to keep this after your commitment because they need a backup guy just in case.
I was married 15 years, everyone else saw she was draining the happiness out of me. She waited till I lost my job, and my now late father text me he had terminal cancer, she decided to walk out when I needed her the most. Now in my late 50's the first thing a woman tells me about themselves is that they are on their menopause.
I have a friend who is a firefighter in his late 20’s. He’s handsome, in decent shape, and has had a lot of attractive girlfriends. He desperately wants to meet a woman he can marry, but the girls always play games with him. They never seem to take the relationship as seriously as he does. It’s actually pretty tragic. He’s doing everything right that would attract a girl, but none of them are ready to settle down.
Your friend has the same problem as me, we can't settle for 6's and only wanna smash 9's and 10's but those girls are all insane. Not one hot girl is a wife. That's why you always see dudes with these dog ass wife's 🤣🤣🤣
I'm in late 30s and have my own house with mortgage paid off, no student debt, no car debt, no debts at all. I tell this to any family member that questions my stoic lifestyle and all of them go silent and never ever ask me the stupid question.
@@memebro3181 They get what they want. If they want a relationship, they get that too. While salty normies and uggos pretend they're "monks" or some sh1t. There seem to be more "monks" in the west now than there are in India and China combined.
I'm 6 foot and is not like I have magic powers or anything. I've had 2 sexual partners in my life (I'm 29). Sometimes I get glanced at, but they always expect from you to chase them like a rabid dog. And that sickness me so I just ignore them.
23 never had a gf, date , 1st kiss, nothing. It just seems that girls have too many options, and I can't compete. Just look at a girls snap with 20+ guys trying to snap her everyday! I workout, eat good, go to church, and take care of myself financially. It seems like I will never be good enough. Im also scared that when I start making more money, it might be hard to tell which girl is genuinely interested in me.
28 going on 29, and I am in the same boat as you. I will admit I am a romantic nut at times and wish I had a relationship, but seeing how people treat me through body language "your not important enough," even if you do all the right things just tells me not to care at all what everyone else thinks. I tried being a "people pleaser," and I am done doing so.
I was in your shoes at 23. Then I studied attraction, seduction material (this was pre pua craze) and found value in it. Managed to conquer the (then) woman of my dreams at 26, she was my first girlfriend. It didn't last, but managed this feat two times after that. (studied more seduction/pua stuff in between, around the time 'the game' came out). There is a lot of trickery and some mysogyny in the pua material, but the way I did it was try to learn what resonated with my personality and reject all the rest (which was 90+%). YMMV and your way might not by my way. But there is always hope and learning to do. Good luck.
The worst thing about this is that much of the reason many men would previously drive themselves to be their best in life is by virtue of having a partner or family that relied on him. Now that that's gone, and everyone just keeps telling them to work on themselves for eternity, it's no surprise that depression rates have skyrocketed and isolation is increasing. Go ahead and find that better job, make more money, find a new hobby, go to the gym, be everything that you could ever be. No one will be around to hear the tree fall.
@@nickbarber2080 no, I don't think so. More women are gay or bi than men to start with, and women qre more likely to seek relationships than men including gay men. So there ya go.
@@KFrost-fx7dtI can confirm 4-9+ of them are with me at any one time, depending on how busy I am. I work between London and Bangkok, so it makes it easier splitting things :)
One of the best phrases I have read: "Love is like a fart... If you have to force it, its most likely crap". I always feel so exhausted when I try my best to be in a relationship with a woman, its rarely ever rewarding. All the truly "happy" relationships I see around me seem to have manifested so effortlessly. This is the best way to live imo. If you meet the right person, it will flow effortlessly, if you don't, you'll be alone but at least you won't be in a toxic relationship... Imo, its better being alone than with someone who will drain your emotions and mental well being.
Stop trying. You're looking at this logically and emotional intelligence is designed to be illogical. I could explain to you the evolution behind it but you need to have at least one rotation dating four or more women to unlock the answer.
I wouldn't say those successful relationships were "effortless", cuz there are sacrifices and compromise involved on both ends. I will say though, that the women have more leverage or steering power than ever before.
I'm a young man, and thing is we're only single because we don't have a choice. Constantly getting rejected, constantly getting ghosted, we've just had had enough of it so most of us gave up lol.
@richardy2071 has a good point. If you’re bent on finding love move to a nice Latin American country, learn Spanish and find you a Latina. You’ll know they’re good because they won’t be marrying you to move to the US
Honestly I’m done with modern dating. It’s all so shallow. I’ve learned that if I ‘chase’ women you’ll often keep finding ones you’re incompatible with.
Yep , you need to be active and go after your types don't chase but you got to initiate otherwise only ones you will get are some narcissistic or toxic ones based on my experiences every woman who has come to me was to exploit and any successful relationship I had i initiated and carried it on that's my reality
*"Social media was like a good experiment but it just didn’t work. I have a theory that technology should have stopped right around 1995. We could cure enough diseases, cars were good enough.. it was right around there, we should have just stopped, but we’re not. We’re gonna keep going and I don’t know where any of this goes.”* Bill Burr
Nah most men are forced out unfortunately.. women use the average man then treat him like shit cause that’s the best she can do at that time. Then destroy that man’s life to find someone “better”
Just turned 38, and finally accepted I’ll never find a good woman. Nothing has made me feel as worthless as dating western women. God bless everyone still trying.
Im 40 your not alone i that situation, do yoir hobbies save money to make up for it. Wamen are shallow and selfish. Most women at work divorced and cheated on their so. I dont think the grass is greenee on the other side either.
@@bluemoon8498amen brother 32 here and i agree with you %100.i rather pay $80 for a quickie when i get lonely. rather than get cheated on with kids and a home.
I met my husband later in life. My parents also met late in life and this was very unusual for those times. I think around our age we all kind of assume everyone is married or taken.
You have 3 amazing options. #1 Find a single mom who wants her child(ren) to grow up with a father. #2 Find an ugly girl who has a great personality #3 Find a woman outside of the U.S. (that is what I did, and am now engaged to a Swedish woman my age [28]) and now, i have no money...no job...im a deadbeat that lives in a garage....we like each other for who we are, not what we are or what we can give the other. She wont even let me buy her food on dates, sje pays for all her own things.
You can get a DATE. Women would be happy to eat on your dime. But any type of physical connection is probably not in the cards unless you are a Chad or a Tyrone.
Loyalty is dead in this country. The fact that your wife can divorce you at any moment and take half of your hard earned money is scary as shit. It's a complete turn off on dating for me, because i don't want to go through all the effort of dating, marriage, starting a family, only for it all to end with me having nothing but a broken heart
I'm there too, seen it happen to guys around me. I worry for my best friend, him and his girl are good but you never know and would hate to see it happen to him.
Its made on purpose by the government to create a week womenized society They got this "skit" from the communsit manifesto Women shouldnt have a saying in many things in life
Most men cannot provide for a family on a single income currently. So while I believe it is deplorable for women to whore themselves out every single date with the top end guys; I also do not expect them to be too excited at the prospect of a guy who cannot provide for a family. Sadly it is the times we live in. The average man in the US, under 40, currently makes around 39k a year. It isn't feasible in most parts of the country.
@@someone-ji2zbThis is complete nonsense. You can live more humbly and still live on a normal household salary with kids. What you're unwilling to accept is that this means conceding luxury clothing/accessories and unnecessary vacations.
@@smellypatel5272 Depends where you live of course, but in general most men are making around 39k under the age of 40. If you want a stay at home wife, then that isn't enough in most parts of the US. The reality is that we are at record low marriage and birth rates across the globe, and the US saw its biggest drop last year. Most men when asked why they are not in a relationship/marriage will respond it is financial. Most women will respond saying they can't find a man who can provide. I am not saying it is impossible for a man to make it happen, but most are not going to. Most men have always been "poor" throughout history, and it has been the task of governments to figure out how to balance out the issue of poverty with still being able to raise a family/workers. Right now we are not in a good time economically and it is what it is.
@@someone-ji2zb again the cited reason is apocryphal. The reality is that women are indoctrinated into a luxury and career lifestyle mindset instead of sacrificing for family. It's a societal value issue stemming from feminism, not an economic one for the most part. Also the 40k number is not accurate anymore, not to mention tons of subsidies exist for larger families. The reality is much more bleak than mere financial troubles
Men need to stop being feminine. Stop spending 5+ hours a day on video games. Stop jacking off to porn. Start learning skills often and helping others as a part of life. Guys need to be apart of a community rather than self indulge.
The best love , the most important love is learning to love yourself and you can love others .. some from a distance , some up close .. just don’t confuse love with slavery.. be your own person and let others be who they are .. then you know for sure who your right person is.
Plenty of below average looking women you can marry though. Its just that too many guys are so addicted to porn and seeing attractive women all the time on a screen, that they can't stomach the idea of being with someone who is plain. I've now known too many guys who have been like this and they will die alone because they think they can someday find a model.
I’m a man almost 28 years old and I’ve certainly lost all interest in dating. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year who I thought I was in love with and was going to propose to. She was very ungrateful and didn’t reciprocate anything I did for her. She was very toxic and had that mentality of “I am a woman therefore I am a prize and I’m not obligated to do anything for you because women are not your slave. If you don’t do certain things for me I can find 100 other guys that can”. Anytime she came over to my house I had food ready for her, I ran errands for her, picked up and dropped off her mail, taught her how to workout and eat healthy, would drive 30 minutes each way to her house to check up on her cats while she’s at work, fixed her car and put new brakes on it myself, bought her gifts, always treated her to going out to restaurants and bars, etc… One day I had worked a 12 hour shift and hadn’t really eaten anything. I called and asked her if she could make dinner ready for when I got home because I’m starving (I already had chicken washed, cut, and marinated in a pan with vegetables. All she had to do was put it in the oven). You know what she said to me? “Hahaha are you kidding me? I’m not going to let a MAN tell me to cook for him. I am not your slave. This isn’t the 1920’s where women are only reduced to being in the kitchen. Go find you another BITCH that will let you disrespect her and boss her around with your toxic masculinity” I was speechless. Like I’ve gone to great lengths to do everything for this woman and she thinks like that? Treats me this way? I ended it with her then and there. But even before dating her and these past couple of months I’ve done pretty well at getting girls. I have a good career, nice house, built physique, tons of hobbies, and a good personality with a big circle of friends so I always had options when it came to women. The one thing I keep realizing is that most women are opportunists. Meaning that no matter how good of a man they are dating, they will always leave and date someone else that has something that you don’t have. Oh this guy has a boat This guy always gets tables in VIP at the club This other guy owns a jewelry store This one guy has a lake house Etc… Girls have so many options due to social media and dating apps that they don’t see a need to be with one man. They are unable to pair bond and they know that they don’t have to put any effort in and still hundreds of guys will simp for them and provide them with everything. The average girl has the same sexual pull as a male celebrity. The other day I went out on a first date with this girl and she wanted me to take a picture of her next to my sports car so she can post it on her story (she has about 450 followers on IG). Later in the evening after we hooked up she had 100+ DM’s all from guys who are local asking her to go out for drinks or when they can go out for a date again. Meaning a lot of those guys she’s already gone out with or they are next in line. Yea no thanks. I don’t want to feel like I have to compete with over 100 men for an average girl.
It was an eye opener for me when I realized how much attention women get. Social media and all this tech absolutely annihilated dating for our generation. Frankly it seems sociopathic to me. I was out at the bars with some girls and they started talking about tinder, social media and guys. Oh my god literally a women nobody would look twice at has dudes simping every single day, all day every day. Money, gifts, trips, constant praise and attention, the endless compliments about everything they do, literally dozens of dms and messages every day with like a 2-6~ guys? What kind of world are they living in man. How is this sustainable?
Dude you're wrong when you say they have tons of options, they have FOR NOW, and they feel omnipotent because of the power of their boobs and genitals, but with great power comes responsibility. Sooner or later they'll it a huge fucking wall sometimes as early as 35 and they will hit it no matter what before they even realize, at that moment it'll be too late, their power they abused instead of putting it to good use is OVER. Relax, they'll get it, it just takes time.
@@howtosnatch not yet. It’s been almost 2 months now since the breakup. I think she’s under the impression that she was the one that got a better deal by getting rid of me because of how misogynist I was and because I didn’t do enough for her 😂
It's because harems are back. Women are okay with sharing the top tier best looking men. A modern woman would rather share Chad than settle for a Normie.
Some women maybe, not the majority of women. It's a redpill myth that today the _majority_ of women is like that. Most aren't. Maybe if you look at the social media/dating apps and look at few hottest women or 'working girls' (Only Fans, etc.),but that's *not* the majority.
@@joane24 you only say this because women are incapable of being completely truthful about their own psychology. I don't even say this in a reproachful way, it is just an evolutionary necessity. To select the potentially best mate, you girls have to be brutally selective under the mask of female and maternal empathy you enact at the surface level. This is why one of the great tropes and concerns of men throughout and across civilizations and art has been the subject of female deceit. This is where it comes from, when it's not malignant (because malignant deceit will always have an element of conscious manipulation to it e.g.). To the point discussed: it is a major cultural trope, best exemplified in literature (Madame Bovary is a good example for this), that most women will prefer being the concubine to the king than the wife of the loyal and lowly shoemaker. So the initial argument still holds up in my opinion.
This is truly an eye opener. I've been single throughout my whole life and I know very little of relationships. I've been wanting to engage with women for some time now but everywhere I look, there are even less opportunities to do so. I thought since everyone moved to social media that I could find women there. Apparently it's very hard to find commitment or patience in anyone these days. Nobody knows what the hell they want in life. No wonder why our ancestors were so successful. They had no other choice but to accept whatever they had, whoever they had around them. We reached out too far and are caught up and lost in a vast internet of information that has overstimulated us. Now we are anxious and depressed. Younger generations like myself are hit the worst. This is how depopulation begins.
From what I remember, about 20% of men are going to be relatively undesirable, another 20% being single is normal depending on societal factors. I think 60% is an indicator that somethings wrong. But we might be in uncharted territory when compared to the rest of history.
I honestly agree with this, though the exact numbers may be off. There have always been young men who did poorly with the opposite sex. Look at any university and especially those in fields like engineering or the hard sciences, most of those are not players lol. Then you also have young men that are just quite undesirable, basically what you imagine when the term "incel" comes to mind (bad hygiene, obese, etc.). The thing is, the vast majority of men are relatively normal and otherwise potentially dateable. They don't have severe social issues, mental health problems, are not drug addicts, alcoholics, etc. I am convinced there is some very wrong with the current dating market but I believe there are many variables to blame that are collectively causing this.
I like to use myself as an example. I'm 33 now, white, 6'4" 235 with an athletic build and one of the fittest guys at the gym I go to, I go hiking a lot, etc. I'm taller and in better shape than the vast majority of men, for those over 30 I'm at a whole different level. Anyway, I've gotten a ton of rejections over the years and while some of them were from women that were hot many of them were from women that were completely average and even at times slightly unattractive. A few years back, 2019, I got this idea to try out a speed dating event from a guy I knew, I thought it would be interesting so I signed up. Anyway, there were about a dozen women around my age, late twenties through early 30s. There were no ugly women, but a couple that were legitimately fat and the rest were within an average range for women that age. Anyway, long story short I got nothing from the event and that experience really opened my eyes, this was back in 2019. Women around my own age that were single and actively looking did not think that a man their own age that was 6'+ and clearly in shape was not good enough to consider for a real date. They literally at face value rejected this, so it's not like they were filtering out for things related to compatibility, which happens after a couple dates. Granted, this isn't the best way to meet women but it's a fantastic example of what I'm talking about here.
@@oglocbaby520 Women aren't like computers, that you put a right code in, and you're guaranteed a success. Not only we have various preferences, but also it's mor actually more about a actual connection than what's on a paper/'bio'. For me, personally, you'd be too tall, I'm myself not too tall and don't like very tall men. Personal preference. Also, there's other factors: face, behavior, tone of voice, mannerisms, character/personality, scent - many of the preferences are actually unconscious, and vary across the individual women.
@@joane24 I totally agree and as a man you are NOT going to be every woman's type. However, the point I was getting at is that there is an issue with many women with how picky they are, which is preventing them from potentially getting into relationships with men that are acceptable. That's why I was using myself as an example with that speed dating event I cited. If women at an event like this, who are obviously single and looking, are deeming a man that is 6'+ and in shape worthy of the reject pile I would like to know what it is that they are actually looking for. This is the reason why they are single and looking, it's because they are far too picky. They want a guy that is 6'+, which is the minority of men, but then he is too skinny. They find a guy that is 6'+ and has the right body type for them but they don't like attire. They find a guy that has the height, body and style but he has some quirks that bother them. Do you see what I"m getting at here? I believe the biggest issue is that women have this perception of overabundance due to social media and dating apps, where they feel they can be incredibly choosey. What ends up happening though is they just end up perpetually single because they are programmed to believe they can find some perfect match, which in reality doesn't exist.
@@oglocbaby520 I agree with you that I also see this (worrying) trend, I see it actually in both women and men, though you're right it's probably more often in women, that they're not even willing to give a chance and actually see if maybe he/she has a great character and a relationship partner. It's like people seem to have this ideal in their head and anything less means automatically out. And I agree dating apps skewed many women's expectations, to something that doesn't even make sense in real life when it comes to forming connection and building a relationship. Which is really stupid, it's not how people in the past, and I'm talking now just my parents or grandparents generation, used to date and form families. It used to be you meet someone, you get to know them at least a bit and see if you both 'click', but it wasn't just based on some long checklist, but getting to know someone as a person. It's really sad and I'm sorry for those who have to date today, from what I see it's really hard, especially for men.
Just turned 28 and been single for 10 years. I’ve given up on dating since I’m either rejected or just a friend/brother. The last girl I tried to date put me in friend zone, was ok with it until we had a talk saying she wishes she could find someone like me. I snapped and told her off. That was 3 years ago. My self confidence and self esteem is down the trash. My depression makes it twice as hard to get back but there’s no point for me. I’ve accepted that I’ll live and die alone.
Don’t say that. Stay up man, this happens to fuckin everybody, or at least every man. I’d know. If she really felt that way she’d be begging to have you back. Now screw your head on right, get strong & get after it. We’re rooting for you. 👇🏻 Give this guy some motivation
That's horrible man, I'm sorry. You're not alone and you can do it. Idk if my advice will be useful at all because idk 90% of the situation, but I'd say you have to approach everyone in person, not online, and that you just need to approach a shit ton of women to make up for the fact that 9/10 of them will say no. I have no money and I'm not super attractive and talking to people in person and being genuine has worked WAY better than I expected, but I also don't want to say "look it's easy." Could be different in different parts of the country. Just my two cents. I hope everything works out.
@@bufficliff8978We are talking about dating, not marriage. Average and below average looking men are settled for by women who spend their entire 20s hoeing around. That isn't the type of marriage men want.
People are more fickle than they have ever been. Even your male friendships will fade out. Especially as you get older and they close off their social circles once they get married. It sucks and I've just had to make the most with my solitude because at least it's better than being with the wrong people.
@@yt-user03561 exactly. I went to college hoping to have friends, meet girls, party…. Sadly my life isn’t like that. I wish it was, but I just don’t fit it in anywhere at this point in my life. I gave up trying to integrate to society and just have to cope with the fact that I’m an outsider.
Chris Rock said it the best. The number one reason why your lady is mad at you, you're not her first choice. Women have plenty of Men tossing themselves at them. They have limitless options.
I’ve hired many high end escorts and yes they are bought but they are more capable of having an intelligent conversation, prettier, and better in bed than many women on Tinder
@@simpleuser0001exactly right. Nobody can be agreeable anymore it’s always one way or the highway. People used to be able to compromise and negotiate and work through a situation that maybe didn’t favor them.
I was married for 26 years and now all of a sudden she doesn't love me anymore. We are getting divorced and she tell me her boyfriend, who is also married tells her she is beautiful and sexy all the time. To me they are both pieces of shit made for each other. I will remain single and work on myself. She threw away stability and security for attention and validation
the fact that you can call your ex wife, who you shared 26 years of life with, a piece of shit now indicates you were probably never very great to her or loved her in a deep unconditional way. None of the men I’ve been with would ever call me that because they loved me in a profound way that a human being should love another in the sharing of such an intimate space. No man I’ve been with would stoop so low, even if I acted out, because their virtue isn’t dependent on how others respond to it.
@@ANKET47 No I just have found through life experience that the men who talk poorly about their exes usually were abusive and the men who move on and only talk respectfully aren’t. I’m not denying your ex did something awful, but I’m just confused on how people can go from spending 26 years with someone to seeing that person in such a black and white way with seemingly no nuance.
I spent a lot of time in my early 20s chasing women and not focused enough on a stable life and financials. At some point during the same thing over and over, I decided focusing on and building my career is more rewarding. I am now 28 and made a lot of strides in my career without all the distractions in my way.
More men need to understand that being independent is a great thing and nothing to be embarrassed about. I am 35 years old and have never had a girlfriend, I haven't had sex since the pandemic started and I haven't used a dating app or chased after a woman since that same time. I spent way too much time and energy on trying to chase women in my 20's which got me nowhere and I wasn't even getting rejected by women personally because I couldn't get to that point with them and it was soul crushing and caused too much depression and self hate towards myself until I turned my life around by hitting the gym, getting a better well paying job and most importantly doing skillful hobbies that I love that and have progressed at which occupies my time. Fast forward to now and I have bought my own house on a single income, I have some impressive PBs in the gym (not the greatest but I am chuffed) I play golf 3 times a week, I paint Bob Ross style, I have a little herb garden and succulents to look after amongst other things and I have to tell you that the moment I let go of women as something to be obtained in life my mental health skyrocketed and I am in an infinitely better place now financially, emotionally, health-wise etc why would I ruin my great balance by getting involved with a woman now? I don't believe in loneliness anymore, I thought I was lonely being alone but really I was just bored with nothing to do and once I started taking my fitness seriously, playing sport and doing fun hobbies my happiness went up the depression went down and "loneliness" was gone. It wasn't "loneliness" dragging me down it was a stagnating life bankrupt of activity. There is so much more to life than women and sex and it makes me sad to see so many brothers fall victim to the trap that our lives exist purely to chase women. I agree with the "go to the gym and take up hobbies" rhetoric we constantly get told but not as an end result to get women but as the end result to improve our health, our skills and our mental health. We don't need women we need activity
Men testing the waters and going on a few dates a month says he’s single. Women doing the same say they are not. Also I think it’s true that more men are unafraid to say they are single, while for a woman to admit that is hard because they worry about what their friends think more than most guys.
I got broken up with a year ago, and I was heart broken. I checked my credit score the other day and it shot up 120+ points. It would seem society rewards me for being single.
@@chrisstone2506 For all men. Except maybe some religious people who abstain out of conviction. For the rest of young men, I don't think there's anyone out there who wouldn't want to get laid, or at least a real relationship with sex.
@@mr.goldenproductions_0143 But I can get laid if I want and I am in a relationship. It wasn’t granted to me because I can’t. I had the choice to make it happen and I did. Don’t put women in the power seat so much.
I chose to stay a virgin until I found the woman I knew I would marry...and I found her...but I am a very rare type of man...😂 I am ok looking now, but in highschool I was good looking, but I denied every woman (and a man) because I knew the personality wasn't right for me...that's all that matters, beauty fades and is meaningless.
I am 35, no wife no kids no mortgage. I am using this time to do everything I can to make my dreams a reality. I welcome a wife and kids if that happen's, but if it doesn't, I love what I do and that fullfilment, that purpose, that moment of giving back when My Dreams Become Reality will be all worth it. Stay Strong Brothers.
@@AWarriorFromNatureand who will afford kids my bro? i wish my parents earned a lot before having me so i can have a chill life instead of this soul sucking job
Women also expect to be in a relationship and marry someone of 6 figures. But that is the 1% of men. So you have these women dating/marrying older men, and having sugar daddies than men who are still working their way up. Plus as you said, modern women and these feminist movement is causing many young men to refuse to date.
I've been single my whole life until 32. I stopped dating Mexican, American and European women. I went to the Caribbean and found an amazing wife, you can find a good woman, just not in the States.
it seems like a total mess over in the states, herein the UK, things don't seem that bad. we do have feminists here, but it seems a much worse problem over in america
I found my life changed when I moved away from dating Western Women....too independent, feisty and too much competition. As soon as I dated non western like Asian, my hit rate sky rocketed. If you have POND1 with hot western women but tons of guys competing and POND2 with women just as hot and more lovely and traditional with less competition I decided to fish in POND2! Why less competition? Because the women in POND2 aren't out dating 5 men at once, meeting tons of guys drinking, clubbing, whatever. It's just a culture difference. Biggest advice to men, is change the culture of women you go for and your life will change, did for me.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Me and my ex broke up due to finances and she started dating a doctor twice her age that had other girlfriends as well. Now that women have become the top earning sex but won’t date down. So their sharing the same top 10% of men
There’s a reason we had set up society the way we did prior. Then we let pussies and morons into positions of governance, and they completely demolished the Western world. This is why revolutions and wars occur. This isn’t the first time sht like this has happend in human history.
Then you can pretty much kiss civilization goodbye. It's extremely bad as it is, and this is a problem that we seriously need to address if we don't want to eventually suffer irreparable population collapse.
I saw my grandfather get taken advantage of by his wife, my father get taken advantage of by my mother, I've seen many other men get taken advantage of by their girlfriends, a good deal of my aunts and uncles are divorced. I can understand why people, especially young men, would prefer being single than to being in a relationship. If the sacrifice is high and unappreciated, many men, or women, will not take that risk. This is then compounded by other factors like economics and compatibility. Additionally, when you're single long enough, you realize it's not that bad. It just is what it is. I can firmly say by what I've witnessed, it's better to die alone than to marry the wrong person. In some ways, I think a lot of young men are simply tired and fed up and the results is a kind of strike. They feel that since voicing their concerns, no matter how eloquent or polite they are, they will be dismissed: nothing ever changes. So, they move onto more productive pursuits.
They are in denial, the most unbelievably crazy part of it to me is the mental backflips & rationalizations they'll make to continue seeing themselves as the victims at all costs. It's disturbing, our society is through because common-sense & clear thinking is dead.
@@mwfmtnman when he says older he does not talk about 50 yo to 60 yo. It was my case when i was 31 and à 18 yo old girl approached me (it was weird and i told to myself it was fishy. Im not an attractive man). Im 34 in the near futur.
@@FrionelzThe number of old men and women in relationships are roughly equal. It's only the 18-29 age group that's screwed. There are not many women dating older men.
😆 No. There is not 50% men and 50% women. There are more men in this country than women that could be due to various reasons, but there are a lot more men in this country than women so women have more of an option.
I got cheated on in my Earl 20's so I've been single for a decade now. I don't see a relationship any time soon. That kind of pain is one I can't handle, never again.
I didnt get cheated on, but I know what you mean. I was with my ex for 5 years, 20-25. She comes home from a girls day with her sister and says "I think im going to spend the weekends at my parents, they said they miss me" SURE DEAR, I know how close you are with them. She never came home :) Five years, thats how it ended. That shit is rough
I've been through that over and over and I can tell you that is just female nature. They all do that. You learned the ugly truth. Congratulations, you're not alone. Exception: There is only one small group of women don't all do that, and those are the religious conservatives - and I mean the ones who go to church every Sunday and pray to be forgiven. They are afraid to go to hell, so they try not to sin. That is a very small minority. So, if you're into that, maybe you can find a faithful wife. Religious Muslims kill their women for adultery. Either way, monogamy is about marriage and marriage is about religion, so monogamy is a religious thing.
@Constantly Learn And Grow I did move on. My point was REALTIONSHIPS are something I won't get into. Friends with benefits has been the best way to go for me and I don't see that changing.
I’m 38 and I stopped dating years ago. Women just used me for free food, drinks, shows, to do things for them and money with no intention of being intimate with me.
It's weird that you only did those things for women under the hopeful expectation that they would be intimate with you. They didn't owe you sex because you spent money on them. What a disgusting mindset. I can see why you struck out and gave up.
@@Kelly-nt2rq Maybe he started out with good intentions, but then realized over time that he was being taken advantage of, which made him cynical. Who knows.
Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television, feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy falling in love is not just about having sex falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people. She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner. As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction, therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife. Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.
I'm 30, and I get hassled at every family gathering about why i'm still single. Very frustrating. Even my parents and sister are going after me, too. Mom tells me I need to 'get on the dating apps' and all that, so to shut her up I did. I met a nice girl there, we were getting along great (so I thought), but she always made an excuse when I tried to ask her out, for a video chat, or even a simple 30 minute phone call. So she kept me on the back burner while she was out actively dating another guy, then finally said to me that 'she should stop leading me on now' Dating sites/apps suck, living in a small country town doesn't help, meeting someone in real life doesn't work, and being sober now doesn't help anything in the dating department, and having graduated college years ago doesn't allow me to meet a nice girl in school like everyone else seems to have done.. It's difficult, that is 100% certain.
Man that year and a half I spent alone thanks to COVID screwing with my only ability to meet people at the time (through school) really fucked me up. It’s 2023 and I’m still trying to pickup the pieces
thats why most of women will be 30 and childless. There was a financial insentive for you to settle there isnt anymore. society will disolve together with the family unit
I'm a single man, 40 years old and I never had a GF during the last 20 years. Had sex a few times by paying. I don't even hire prostitutes anymore as I hate women so much. When I'm ready to die, I'll not just leave alone, I'll take a few women with me. You know how it happens. Now you have a reason to live in fear.
My mom truly believes that women are innocent. She believe it is always the guys fault. I haven’t dated since high school and I’m freshly out of college. Women’s expectations are insane compare to men’s. 12 inch you know what, abs, making a 100k plus a year and having already a house paid is not something anyone in 30s and 20s can provide. But if guys just want someone who is honest and genuine we’re the misogynists one.
I'm a woman fresh out of college as well. I never dated in highschool and never dated in college. I know tons of other girls just like me. I have yet to meet any girls that describe the standards/ expectations you describe. Every other girl I know just wants someone honest and genuine as well, including myself. So this broad generalization of what women want and expect is either anecdotal, meaning the only women you encounter or go after have these expectations, or it is a theory that because you do not meet these expectations and also do not have your desired woman, this must be the only thing women want. Good girls are out there, but they aren't gonna fall into your lap and it's not all of women's fault when we don't. Keep an open mind, women like that.
@@julesb2415 first off a lot of what you’re saying is mainly speculation. The statistics are supporting my experience though. There’s a reason why men are twice as much as single. I am not expecting anyone to fall in anyone’s lap. I am just saying what I have experienced and been verbally told. I don’t doubt the existence of any women that are good out there but I and other men who have told me their struggle cannot seem find anyone that is interested in anything long term and actually real.
@@MattattaxkTo be fair, what you're saying is also speculation. I also know a lot of women with high earning potentials who are looking for a serious relationship. Most of the qualifications that you listed aren't what they're looking for. Most of them want a genuine man who is willing to mature with them, not some hyper- masculine bro. Actually, most of them broke it off with their exs in college because their BFs were static in mindset. Women want someone they can grow old with (have kids, have a life, support them in their own career goals, etc). It doesn't necessarily come down to monetary means either. Support can be given in a lot of ways. Emotional support for instance is a desired trait. Maybe it's all speculation, but I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless.
@@shanemacas-senn6347 "I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless" this has been my experience too, if you're interested in women that simply want a partner to help each other grow & have children with, you'll find plenty. for the record, i live in europe.
This is escalating quickly, now women are looking for over 6ft dudes. Man I'm praying for something to happen, we need hard times to bring back the normality when survival is a thing. If a economic crash is a thing, men no longer pay OF or donations the women would low the standards and become more trad.
I was with my girl from 1994 until 2019. I have ZERO interest in being with another woman again because I don't want to restart a relationship. I've found the single life to be fucking awesome! I wake up in the middle of the night and play my guitars VERY loud. Nobody tells me to turn it down. I buy my RC cars and nobody asks why i spent my money on "toys". I have my Xbox and gaming PC's setup the way I want. I drive my M4 as fast as I want and nobody tells me to slow down. I'm 47 and living a teenager's dream right now
I'm 60 and stopped looking for a partner 15 years ago because it's impossible to find a woman who is sweet, warm, affectionate and nurturing. Instead, they are too "male" for my liking (cold, competitive, opinionated, etc.). And it doesn't help that the vast majority of women over 40 are overweight, have emotional issues, drink too much wine, and have unhealthy lifestyles.
I don't drink, am not over 40, and not overweight, but I am on the spectrum so I probably come across as 'cold' to my partner. It's something I have been working on but being nurturing does not come naturally to me. Keep in mind that I can't be the only person with this issue
But I thought y’all men said, men dating value gets better with age? Oh so that was a lie. Oh okay. Cuz y’all kept shaming women that the older they got men would stop waning then but here you are saying that’s actually a male problem. Oh well
Growing up I had bad asthma and stopped breathing one day during dinner, that feeling of losing breath was peaceful and every time I feel scared to die alone, I think of that moment and realize once you get there it really goes silent and in the end you go alone even if you’re surrounded by family, you see pretty memories and then that’s it. So live your life
Bull crap statement. Both men and women are social creatures, and men have a far higher suicide rate. Most men are not fine being single forever if they have the drive to raise a family. It is simply in our nature to want to do it in most cases. The more I read these comments in these types of videos, the more certain I become that men have failed society as a whole. Nothing but excuses and avoidance of reality; no different these women.
@@Mnaoke and why shouldnt it be? Nobody is forcing women to sleep with these guys they are attracting multiple women because of someting that women are attracted too, be that fitness money status or a combo of all of those. Either become one of these type of men or take a backseat and pick up whats left complaining about it isnt going to change it.
this is the problem. Women dont want men who are working on themselves in their 20s. But then when these men become attractive after years of hard work these same women are ran through by then and the men no longer want them. What real man would marry a girl who gave her body up easily? Modern woke culture will say this is wrong thinking but this is how men have always thought naturally.
Well the world was doing a lot better in regards to moral culture when pre marital sex was taboo anyway. Most people before the 60s lost their virginity in marriage. This was especially true in the US. Turns out, promoting having uncommitted sex has consequences, and we are living it.
Dating is the #1 thing that have made me feel like the most epic loser one can ever be. When I don't bother with it I feel a lot better. Even good for the most part. For example my last experience was an absolute nightmare. Got really passionate about a girl and she wasn't into me at all. I don't know if that's even true though, because women aren't always honest and there's always the confusion you get from mixed messages. But, she didn't at least have the feelings on the level that I had. It was a nightmare to be forced to accept that I had to go on without her, while she's living her life with other men. I can sometimes still feel that self doubt from time to time. "What kind of loser am I if I can't even get the woman I want." I grew up with seeing relatives and family members being romantically successful. Especially some of my relatives are those kind of couples that were always that unit of those two. Couples that met in the 1960s or 70s and they're still together now! My father ended up getting divorced. But he at least had those good years with a woman he loved and they got three kids. When it comes to dating nowadays. I don't even have the mental energy for that. My hope is that I might get to know some woman organically, without needing to think of it as taking part in a competitive game. That's just depressing. Constantly overthinking your every move and it causes hatred, anger and resentment towards women to be a part of all the BS that's going on in modern dating. I want a woman to look at me like I'm a human being. Not try to get into the head of some idiot with a checklist containing 10+ points on what she's demanding from a man, while simultaneously not offering anything more special than all the other average women are offering. And perhaps even being a modern feminist who will mostly cause conflict.
I am an 24 apprentice in hospitality. I just came back from 5 weeks of school with mostly 16-20 year girls around me. I personally wasn’t attracted to any of them because i like a character in a woman that is just not fully developed at that age. Another thing i realized tho, was how the very few boys in the school got brutally rejected or cheated on in a 5 week span in the same school… even for me (fairly extroverted) it was a struggle just to have simple talks with most girls in that school. My approach to dating is to let things fall into place. And if they don’t, i focus on my hobbies and well being. Actively dating seems rather pointless and exhausting for me. When you genuinely connect with someone, you don’t need a rulebook of things to be done in order to form a connection. „Only after so and so dates, i do this or that“ If that means you are lonely for long periods times, you gotta look for human connection in other friendships or family. I feel with alot of stories in the comments here, it really is a bigger trend that dating is so complicated and you shouldn’t only blame yourself if things don’t work out. Another thing to consider may be looking for women in different continents and countries. Russian girls are different than South American or African girls etc. Our world is globalized - explore 😄
The problem is if you let things be as you say.. by the time something extremely bad happens.. all the used us extremely picky women who have slept around will just gravitate towards any dude to stay safe or to just have a man. That generally won’t work cause they will make that mans life hell and secretly hate the guy and leave first chance she can when another opportunity comes along.
Hypergamy makes it so that women by nature want to mate up. Physically and socioeconomically. Social media and hookup culture has compounded this instinct as to where women select top guys in phenotype and status growing more indifferent to the average guy and further sophisticating her taste in men placing a new competitive pressure on men for even average women. The end result is certain guys have a harem of women they have no incentive to commit to(Or have multiple women in situationships that may seem like relationships to them) while less attractive guys are ignored.
@@yeflynne We used traditionalism to solve this side of our nature but now we are back as traditionalism has fallen. Touched-starved sons and harem daughters everywhere.
Right? China is worse in that regard I believe If you set a one child policy with men being born more frequently what did you think was going to happen?
Normies will refuse to accept facts, if the implications of accepting those facts means that their worldview will be overturned. The implications of accepting the truth about female nature is that everything we have been taught about equality and freedom for women being good was a lie that was intentionally pushed to destroy western civilization. That's too much for most normies to wrap their minds around so they just call you names instead.
@@therearenoshortcuts9868 That's right, you can see some shit coming 10 years in advanced & it won't reach surface level until a decade later. People will start debating it, 10 years too late.
Such a good comment section. Thanks for sharing, fellow men. Personally I'm 31, got bullied at school and was really bad most of my life with girls and throughout the last years I really got a grip by facing lots of inner demons and both inner and outer big challenges (sometimes it's been quite horrible honestly, but also I've experienced lots of truly amazing wonderful blissful moments while developing my social and relational skills. Now I'm quite attractive despite I'm quite broke, and I have a mostly good, sometimes amazing, quite stable but sometimes still very difficult and challenging relationship with a woman my age and she might be the mother of my kids. First time living together with a partner for both and we're learning a lot together. No one said it would be easy. But it's definitely worth it, I think. Wishing us all the best, truly. Keep it up, warriors.
I’m happy for you brother. I hope one day (the sooner the better) I can experience what it is like to be in a loving and stable long term relationship.
Man i just saw the " First time living together with a partner" and i felt the pain for your future self. find a reason and live seperatly. No relationship holds while co habiting that or she will make you her beta while fucking alphas on the side
Love finds us when we're not looking. Living with someone is the best indicator of whether you can be with them. Conflict resolution redlining on occasion is perfectly normal as long as each time you're there it's not because of the same shit
^^^ It's funny how this random JR video with shitty quality just has all these dudes calling out woman/ society for its shit. I'm tired of being gaslit by woman when I mention basic truths.
Modern dating is like having to work overtime and not getting paid.
could you imagine dating in the 50s-60s? Must have been outrageously easy, married at 21 with a house and two cars working as a factory worker.
@@johnfisher8401 yet some still talk shit on us for having it easy
@@johnfisher8401 seriously even getting a job to get those cars and the house was as easy as going and asking a manager for a job and they’d hire you on the spot. You used to be able to ask Women for marriage by meeting them for the first time. Holy shit boomers had it easy
Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television,
feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair
that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy
falling in love is not just about having sex
falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people.
She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner.
As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction,
therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants
his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife.
Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.
@@johnfisher8401then you get shipped off to korea or vietnam
I’m 26 and my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me in November and subsequently we broke it off. I found out soon enough the reality of single life particularly attracting women and how extremely difficult it is to find a partner or even get a date on tinder. Let’s face it, the world we live in now doesn’t support developing relationships as it did pre social media days. I work 9-5 Monday to Friday everyday at home and my own few friends rarely go out. Modern tech has completely destroyed human interaction and women’s perception of guys. Man, how I envy the people who got to experience being young adults in the 80s & 90s the last decades of normality.
Yeah man it sucks. I’ve done some traveling a lot since being in the military. East coast, west coast, a couple of western european countries. Its just not looking good anywhere like the previous generation before social media 😅
As someone who is 35 and grew up before even AOL was a thing....
Let me tell you life was amazing in every way!! From good music and people!!
And guess what life happens OUTSIDE! I come from a household of men were it's 10 of us.
I co.e from a time where people with beeper were popular and house parties was the thing kids would do cut class to meet up at someone home.
The good old days without social media and honestly women were approachable!!! You could actually walk up to a female and have a conversation and most were polite EVEN while rejecting you (granted) not all but most.
In the beginning believe it or not social media was amazing because it was taboo at the time and when I started trying it out rejection WASN'T A THING!!
imagine back in the day I had a 80-90% success rate on meeting women "ghosting" wasn't a thing!!
To this day those were really the best time to be a introvert or even a extrovert so much was happening.
Nowadays I feel sorry for the generation coming up, as a successful man to experience what a "normal" relationship looks like I had to travel overseas 😂
I know multiple languages so my experience varies.
Good times good times!
To this day me and my group of friends constantly talk about how good life was
Literally.😢
Go out bro, it’s fun, you’ll meet dummies but there are cool girls too. Enjoy that shit, the world changes you gotta get over it.
@Falloutnewskyrim yeah that probably means you’re undesirable in some way lol. Fix it.
I am 28 years old and I just decided to stop looking for a romantic or sexual relationship with women, because at some point in previous years, I realized i was spending too much resources on it and i didnt see any good result except for some satisfaction and a lot of headache. One year has passed and I can not believe how peaceful and how many things I was able to do since I decided just to dont give a shit about sex. My income in one year just doubled up basically, I took some trips, bought nice things for myself, I built better relationships with my friends and family and grow up as an individual as never before.
I can tell you right now that by the time you are 35, you'll have them lining up to be with you.
Sounds like your meeting the completely wrong kind of person. You should be able to focus on improving yourself and your relationships and financial success. While having the closest "friend/ life partner " right by your side. Have an open mind. I found my sole mate at 25, while she was 34. Now I'm 34 and wouldn't have enjoyed my accomplishments even half as much alone.
@@mikeybronny6579 unless you've been living in the East, it's a needle in a haystack to find somebody decent.
@@parkservice6293 Needle in a haystack? That's at least worth a try. I can barely find someone to have a normal conversation with, without them acting like emotionally damaged member of The Adams family.
@@gotinogaden to be for real, in this day and age there aren't many groups that call themselves boys/lads. Me personally I've not been in a group for around a decade, resultant of which now I have no real friends so nobody to talk to really. Luckily I'm good on my own.
I've never thrived or been more at peace than when being single and celibate. I've finished a degree, built up my career and financial security. Its awesome.
cope and sneed lol
I am 70, still single and celibate. AMerica is death valley for single men wanting a wife. I have given up. Better to be alone with pets.
I stopped dating years ago after I realized I hadn't met an actual single woman in a very long time.
Everyone had multiple partners in their phone.
Underrated comment.
This is my experience as well. Women date someone, talk to other guys behind their back, then leave for the "better" option. No loyalty anymore. I swear this is by design
@@okaySam It's the price you pay for continuing to date/marry in a conquered, feminist society.
Accept you are going to share her with multiple men or don't date/marry at all. They are your only two options.
Imagine trying to explain to your great great grandfather that your wife has a magic box with a password that can fit in her pocket which allows her to instantaneously and secretly communicate with any man on the planet 24/7
One of my female friends who I now dread to even be around claims that she is a respectable traditional women yet she has already fucked 2 guys and has tried many more all the while claiming she doesn’t ever want to settle because she deserves the finest man. She is alright in appearance
It's really quite simple:
-Women are dating older more successful men.
-Women are dating other women.
-Some guys are dating multiple women at once whether the women know about it or not.
-Alot of men have given up because they don't qualify as a partner anymore to ridiculously high standards.
That's why there are twice as many single men than women. It's no secret that being an average normal man isn't good enough anymore, we have to become a somebody just to attract below average to average women.
Or men THINK they don‘t qualify
Most women are chasing the high value men. Those guys got more trim than they can handle. Your average woman goes for the best, even if they are the third choice.
woman are getting more masucline and angry by the day......woman are turning into men and all men see is we cant get it up ED commecials....no connection ??
Women aren't suddenly "turning gay" at a far higher rate than men.
Women are more likely to lie in a study or poll where a stranger asks them if they are in a committed relationship.
Women often think the guy they are getting booty calls from twice a week at 3am constitutes a committed relationship.
Both modern men and women have been brainwashed by social media, porn culture and entertainment to see themselves as flawed physically, financially or psychologically. They're both acting insecure and selfish, we cant act like all of a sudden women are fucked up and that's the only issue at play here? Young men spending all day working out, avoiding relationships and listening to male "self help gurus" like Andrew Tate is a symptom of their obvious unhappiness and problems. We both suck but luckily the world doesn't need a population increase at the moment so it's not an emergency.
Not in other countries. I am a King in South East Asia - here... not so much.
Went on my first date in over five years a few months back. She seemed nice enough. But the week prior we were supposed to have the date, but she cancelled and we rescheduled for the week after. Because she was going to see family in Toronto.....seemed odd we even set up a date for that week then.....but ok.
Cut to the date and I ask about her trip.
"Oh it was good, saw some family friends and stuff"
So I asked if she did anything exiciting.
"Well I went to the club until like 4am one night, havent done that in years"
"Oh? with friends?"
"yeah a buddy was visiting from Italy so we met at the club and danced"
"How do you know a guy from Italy?"
"Oh I met him there when I travelled and we remained friends"
"and he just happened to be in Toronto the same week you were?"
"Yeah...."
Soooooo what I gathered from this. She cancelled on me to go to Toronto to see this guy and they probably hooked up and all that. No thanks lady.
Havent seen her since. But isnt it strange how every man I tell this story to is like "oh ok I get it". But every woman ive told thinks I was too judgmental? Even my own mom.
Like mom, you really think shes in Toronto the same week as a random pal from Italy just as a coincidence?????
Food for thought
Most of these women look semi hot. And all they do is go to clubs drink all night and live for the weekend.
Basically South parks version of parison Hilton. Lol
You are spot on.
Smart guy
Brother, don't expect women to understand what men deal with or to take your side. This includes your mother. They will blame the men, defend the women and it will always be your fault somehow. Your instincts are right, you properly realized you can ignore their opinions. You want to find a woman who will drop everything to run and meet you whenever you show up suddenly. Next time, if a woman cancels on you, tell her ok but you have a standing rule that she will now have to buy you dinner. Don't reward bad behavior. It will separate you from the other guys.
They always tell on themselves
Getting rejected multiple times makes you wanna quit everything
I've met a few guys who straight up told me they couldn't care less if they are still a virgin at 70 years old. That just tells how bad the situation is.
Damn even Gigachad is getting rejected nowadays
@@SeraphoftheRoundTablethat's alarming man and messed up and im a virgin myself
@@jaysouthmusic8230 The fact of the matter is that's what they think.
Getting rejected multiple times or living in a toxic relationship for so long will turn people off completely FOR GOOD!
Some people do not want drama at all and would rather stay alone than deal with it.
@@SeraphoftheRoundTable ain't that the truth
Young men: “yeah, that’s accurate”
Old men: “how could this possibly be? It’s shocking.”
That could be anything, the Economy, usefulness of degrees, housing market. Lmao
As a 43 year old “old man”
No, I see it, but I’m wondering why there are still so many “young men” simping to these girls?????
And why do you go the gym for others , instead of yourselves???
@@carljohnson6264 old men simp harder for younger women, including my father who is 10 yrs older than mother. Always been the case
Because feminism and modern society have melted women’s brains. They have no idea what they want, and even if they think they do, nothing is good enough. This problem mostly stems from social media and it’s detrimental impacts all around
i'm 66 & i don't find todays dating marked shocking...i find it sad & aggravating...seems all women today are basiclly prostitutes....they only care about 2 things...how hot is he & how much money does he make ..
? that's it....& PS...they HATE a nice guy...& this problem is getting worse....
The worst thing that ever happened to relationships, was social media.
Actually its been the worst and best thing to happen, now we know most women are harlots and use men for their needs and advantages. No point in playing when they are extremely insecure manipulative losers
Happened to the human race.
It happened to both. They aren’t mutually exclusive.
And not just romantic relationships but friendships too.
Facebook was a factor in the ending of a long term relationship with my best guy friend of over 30 years. He always had a toxic side to him and our relationship was having problems apart from FB but some of the things he posted on FB finished off our friendship. We haven’t spoken to each other in almost 2 years and I doubt we ever will again. I’m fine with that.
@@bdflatlanderdamn sorry too hear this i can kinda relate too this
In my Mid-40's, looking back on life, I've realized that the majority of problems, mistakes, regrets I've had in life almost always involved a women, girlfriend, wife, etc. Being single may be a blessing.
Single men are less happy, healthy, make less money and are more suicidal than married men. That's what the studies show
I was thinking the same thing recently
Right, must be the females' fault and not the one common denominator's ...
Like the divorce laws in this country?
What about having children?
At a bar in NY, a lady sat next to me complaining about her Mercedes in the shop, she turned to me and asked me what i drove. I said a Nissan Titan, she said "oh", and turned away like i was garbage. Im handsome, built, retired when i was 38 years old, make more than the average American man, for the rest of my life, im funny, got my stuff together. And she only saw what i drove...smh...thats something thats wrong right there. Frankly id rather stay single
she acts like she’s mrs hollywood driving a mercedes for gods sakes 😂
also i’d pick a reliable truck over a lousy mercedes any day of the week dont let it get to you boss
Dodged a bullet.
I'd understand if you said a Juke or an Altima but a Titan is pretty good.
I don't drive i was born to be driven
Get the riz game up haha
Yeah. As a 27 year old single guy in todays age, I’ve never felt more romantically alone. Haven’t been on a date for 4 years. Haven’t been in a relationship for 7. It’s sad to say but I truly don’t care anymore. It’s not worth the trouble.
I’m in my mid 40s and can’t believe how many attractive young adult females I see walking their dogs all by themselves and living by themselves. When I was young these type of women were NEVER EVER single or without a boyfriend. At the apartment complex I live, if you throw a little party, all the single ladies bring their dogs and no date it’s weird to me.
@@daniellove162 it's because a lot of them are dating "unavailable" men aka they are pining for a man who has multiple women and he isn't giving them a full fledge relationship.
@@daniellove162 They are all getting pounded by the same 10 percent of men.
@@daniellove162 yup I commented the same thing. Social media has ruined dating. All the good looking women have some idea in their head that they are holding out for the rich and famous guy they are gunna meet on Instagram and get married to and instantly become wealthy. Good looking women only care about social media followers and climbing the social status ladder. Regular guys with regular jobs can look like brad pit yet have no chance of dating a really pretty women unless you have a bunch of fake pictures on the internet of you flaunting money and luxury goods you don’t even own.
Im turning 27 soon and ive never been on a date. I tried dating apps in my early 20s and that just lead to depression from the abysmal choices so i gave up. Dating has only gotten worse since then. Id like a long term relationship deep down but those dreams have died. Social media is cancer and ruined any chance of that happening.
For me it's an economic thing. It's annoying to try dating when you still live with your parents in your late 20s/early 30s, which most young people still do because housing is unaffordable and rent is just as bad. And it's impossible to think about starting a family when you can barely afford to support yourself on your current salary. The boomers had the luxury of pursuing romantic relationships because their jobs paid them a liveable wage, housing/college was affordable, and they felt financially secure enough to plan for their future. Our generation was robbed of that.
That’s exactly how I feel. It’s disgusting
That's likely a factor but not really. It's HoFlation and Hypergamy according to the stats.
@@JackCarsoniteYeah OP is partially correct. We need to stop downplaying how corrupted and incompatible most modern women are in relationships now. All they do is monkey branch to the next guy who’s hotter and/or richer. Their pair bonding capabilities are nonexistent these days.
@@JackCarsoniteyes likely. Plus what you said.
Thanks to capitalism.
Basically dating apps and hookup culture, along with female entitlement have destroyed the dating system. A lot of women are seeing or in contact with multiple guys.
So as a guy you can either enter an extremely competitive, toxic and brutal dating game, end up getting chewed up and spat out at the other end, or just forget about the whole thing. With the odds against men, I don’t blame anyone for staying at home, buying a PlayStation console, going off travelling, concentrating on careers etc etc. Chasing women is a mugs game. It is something that benefits women but rarely benefits guys.
U get rejected for any little thing as a guy. Women have delusional high standards due to social media, and they don't value any one guy anymore. Flake/ghost on u for no reason. Women have too many distractions. It's super easy dating for women. Very hard for men.
But why does it benefit women and not guys? There are the exact same amount of men and women.
Attraction is not the same for guys vs girls. Girls have value based on looks only, which makes it super easy for them with social media and dating apps. Guys need to showcase their personality/social skills to attract girls, which is not possible with apps.
@@norsketilbakeblikk3717 because the guys have to compete with all the other guys, the women just have to choose from an endless pool of men competing for the few decent ones left. It's a sweet shop for women. As a guy, the odds are not in your favour.
@@Answersonapostcard Dudes need to tone down the thirst maybe?
The worst part about this is that it’s not really just depression. Most people actually are happier being single today. That’s what is frightening. Some single try to go out, then they feel the weight of being with someone, and then just ghost and go back to being alone. There are too many things to do when alone.
I'm late to this party, but my god, in a weird way, it is comforting to know that I'm not the only guy that has given up on putting so much effort into a relationship that will be a waste of time.
fellas is it time to switch teams?
@@OscarUnratedhey you calm down😂
@@OscarUnrated the technology exists. Someone's gonna have to take one for the team and go get some nice tits for the boys
And that’s why you will die alone your lazy
@@OscarUnratedabsolutely not god gave you two hands for a reason also he gave us a function that when you sit on your hand it goes numb😂2 plus 2 equals 4😆nah im just playing
It’s very depressing out there.
Most men are happier not being with women thanks to the social revolution.
They're making a rational choice.
Amen to that brother
For men.
Only alternative is learning to love to be alone.
@@TrueLixe Or you know.., become crazed with loneliness & go on a rampage.
27 year old. My five year relationship ended because she left me for a felon with criminal records. I guess he has something I don't. I recover after one year of pain. I may not have the risky behavior she liked about him. But I have $$$, my own house, healthy, I travel, my body is fit, I work in the aerospace industry. I rather be single. Modern women are a pain in the ass.
Pain in the ass is IMMENSELY pleasurable for some 😂
@@FART-REPELLENT Yes indeed i used to have sex alot and there was one girl that really liked to be treated that way later on i found out on the internet by real confessions that most woman can be pleasured like that 😅whild stuffs however she went to live with another dude i mean she was not naive she knew what she wants and she asks for it i felt alone afterwards without spending time with her but i wasn't that much attached to her nor she was into me that much cause that was my second and last long term relationship and the first one that i had was very difrent from the second one what I've learned is that the more she acts like she loves you or cares about you the more you know she doesn't i guess maybe it's just my view and my own personal perspective but maybe applies to many who knows
Think of it this way you have something that’s too good for her, not other way around she chose a deadbeat just for bad boy and interest and she can change him,
Get a girl traditional values drops everything for you. And have confidence knowing you’re a winner , you have goals and both of you connect. Can take time but when you find it you’ll know
Where do you live??
Trust me she was doing you a favor, she just didn’t know it. Imagine being married to that person
I have four friends who are in their mid 30s and are still single. 2 of them are definitely hooking up with a bunch of younger women. They tell stories about the bullshit lies they tell these women.
The other two are some of the best dudes you'll ever meet. Had their hearts broken one too many times and moved on.
Might as well lie, everything that comes out a womans mouth is a lie. They love liars n players
The first group: the women fall for this
@@tomzadvydas1758yes, the desperate pick me’s. That get left eventually
@@tomzadvydas1758Nope. A lot of women don't care about being in a relationship like men think they do. Especially if the older guys are spending money on them.
Like seriously, there's plenty of women who don't want a relationship with guys either. They can take money, free meals or something expensive from the guys, then give whatever the guy wants and then continue to go their own way and enjoy life. Maybe even find more guys who are willing to spend money on them.
@@sreeyansarout6497 I think you are being a bit disingenuous.
Most women fall for it because most men now days are feminized and have no idea how to be a man. That isn't to say there isn't degeneracy in the culture overall, but women are going to go with the confident guys even if they are full of crap and don't care, over the men who are soft and try to fit into a social justice culture rather than fight against it.
Well, on my last date the young lady told me “men are obsolete, we have sperm banks now” with the most smug smile I’ve ever seen. That shocked me. After that remark, I decided to ask to split the bill & she absolutely Lost Her mind right in front of the waitress.
I do t believe this 😂
Good job, the nerve of those whores.
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I wish it weren’t true 😢
@@Sunday_Swagger well you kmow men should do? Ban abortions, that will make them wanna sleep with ya(this is sarcasm, legalize bortys)
Fake interaction go outside
Not sure how this is surprising. Hypergamy + Social Media = Women are no longer limited to their local pool of men. The sexual market has expanded worldwide, allowing Becky from your hometown to be reached by Dimitri in Russia or Jacob in London or Ahmed in Dubai with a swipe on their phones. You're no longer competing with the popular college player, you're also competing with the millionaire sitting on his Yacht in Miami.
@Freedom Forever Yea that's realistic. Why is the response always "men need to do [x]" instead of the obvious answer which is that "women need to not be allowed to do [y]"
@Freedom Forever I've been in the far remote village of Iran. The 304 there was using instagram to hook some rich dude somewhere else.
@Freedom Forever You make me sick.
@Freedom Forever I don't think that was his girlfriend, I think he's just giving an example of how there are hoes everywhere.
This made me laugh 😂
Girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me. Made me question everything, even myself. Really couldn’t care less for the degeneracy that people my age do (18-26), so I suppose I’m a part of that 63%. Just isn’t worth it. Low quality females, drugs, and lack of discipline make good dudes either turn bad or become disconnected from the world. Just my two cents
Yep (21 m ) same I don’t want a girlfriend because most have been places doing things I never want to think about I’m truly disgusted and can’t be bothered playing detective constantly to find a reasonable partner.
Some people say meet people in real life and all girls my age have phones with a ridiculous amount of men they’re talking to so it’s hopeless because they want to keep this after your commitment because they need a backup guy just in case.
@@beauty_boss2257 with all due respect read the room obviously guys cheat too but bros not gay he’s talking about a women rn
Facts.
Women cheat more and always will. Having dozens of men hit on them 24/7 is a major reason
39 and disconnected at 36 after my ex abandoned me 10 years in...
I was married 15 years, everyone else saw she was draining the happiness out of me. She waited till I lost my job, and my now late father text me he had terminal cancer, she decided to walk out when I needed her the most.
Now in my late 50's the first thing a woman tells me about themselves is that they are on their menopause.
Then she truly never loved u
@@Taxcollector9955do they truly ever love us?
@@andrewevans7992 nope.
skill issue choose bettter
Narcissists
I have a friend who is a firefighter in his late 20’s. He’s handsome, in decent shape, and has had a lot of attractive girlfriends. He desperately wants to meet a woman he can marry, but the girls always play games with him. They never seem to take the relationship as seriously as he does.
It’s actually pretty tragic. He’s doing everything right that would attract a girl, but none of them are ready to settle down.
Tell me about it buddy.
Maybe the dude could start by dating one at a time no fucking wonder lmao
@jwithersooon The phrase "has had" is past tense and implies over a period of time in the past, not all at once.
@@jwithersooonapparently you can’t freaking read. Damn
Your friend has the same problem as me, we can't settle for 6's and only wanna smash 9's and 10's but those girls are all insane. Not one hot girl is a wife. That's why you always see dudes with these dog ass wife's 🤣🤣🤣
I'm in late 30s and have my own house with mortgage paid off, no student debt, no car debt, no debts at all. I tell this to any family member that questions my stoic lifestyle and all of them go silent and never ever ask me the stupid question.
Same. Monk mode is peaceful
It’s cuz your not a 6 foot Chad
@@MomentswithDavid 6 foot Chads don't get into relationshits. They get what they want and move on to next option.
@@memebro3181 They get what they want. If they want a relationship, they get that too. While salty normies and uggos pretend they're "monks" or some sh1t. There seem to be more "monks" in the west now than there are in India and China combined.
I'm 6 foot and is not like I have magic powers or anything. I've had 2 sexual partners in my life (I'm 29). Sometimes I get glanced at, but they always expect from you to chase them like a rabid dog. And that sickness me so I just ignore them.
Happy to know the younger generation of men is continuing to wake up.
23 never had a gf, date , 1st kiss, nothing. It just seems that girls have too many options, and I can't compete. Just look at a girls snap with 20+ guys trying to snap her everyday! I workout, eat good, go to church, and take care of myself financially. It seems like I will never be good enough. Im also scared that when I start making more money, it might be hard to tell which girl is genuinely interested in me.
28 going on 29, and I am in the same boat as you. I will admit I am a romantic nut at times and wish I had a relationship, but seeing how people treat me through body language "your not important enough," even if you do all the right things just tells me not to care at all what everyone else thinks. I tried being a "people pleaser," and I am done doing so.
I was in your shoes at 23. Then I studied attraction, seduction material (this was pre pua craze) and found value in it. Managed to conquer the (then) woman of my dreams at 26, she was my first girlfriend. It didn't last, but managed this feat two times after that. (studied more seduction/pua stuff in between, around the time 'the game' came out). There is a lot of trickery and some mysogyny in the pua material, but the way I did it was try to learn what resonated with my personality and reject all the rest (which was 90+%). YMMV and your way might not by my way. But there is always hope and learning to do. Good luck.
Learn a foreign language and travel. Even if you make an effort it will help. Passport bros are onto something.
You are not missing anything bro . Just keep building your kingdom.
its always about the money
The worst thing about this is that much of the reason many men would previously drive themselves to be their best in life is by virtue of having a partner or family that relied on him. Now that that's gone, and everyone just keeps telling them to work on themselves for eternity, it's no surprise that depression rates have skyrocketed and isolation is increasing.
Go ahead and find that better job, make more money, find a new hobby, go to the gym, be everything that you could ever be. No one will be around to hear the tree fall.
Funny how men have kids with women nowadays and don't want to work
The only sane comment I've read in this comment section so far.
Exactly, why work harder at my job? I only have to support myself so as long as I can do that why should I work harder?
This comment hits. We're told constantly to look inward, yet I suspect we'd be better off looking outward a little more. We need each other.
Whoa
5 women think the man they share is their exclusive partner.
Who says they're with men?
@@KFrost-fx7dt They do.
Completely missing the point there.
@@nickbarber2080 no, I don't think so. More women are gay or bi than men to start with, and women qre more likely to seek relationships than men including gay men. So there ya go.
@@KFrost-fx7dt I think you are letting your fantasies get in the way of the data.
@@KFrost-fx7dtI can confirm 4-9+ of them are with me at any one time, depending on how busy I am. I work between London and Bangkok, so it makes it easier splitting things :)
One of the best phrases I have read:
"Love is like a fart... If you have to force it, its most likely crap".
I always feel so exhausted when I try my best to be in a relationship with a woman, its rarely ever rewarding. All the truly "happy" relationships I see around me seem to have manifested so effortlessly. This is the best way to live imo. If you meet the right person, it will flow effortlessly, if you don't, you'll be alone but at least you won't be in a toxic relationship... Imo, its better being alone than with someone who will drain your emotions and mental well being.
Stop trying. You're looking at this logically and emotional intelligence is designed to be illogical. I could explain to you the evolution behind it but you need to have at least one rotation dating four or more women to unlock the answer.
@@colbalt95 Rotation of 4 women, do you have a job?
I wouldn't say those successful relationships were "effortless", cuz there are sacrifices and compromise involved on both ends. I will say though, that the women have more leverage or steering power than ever before.
A lot of people I know in relationships have cheated on each other at some point but are still together lol
@@DG4444everrrr cheating is a tough habit to break
Being single as a men helped me save money headaches, but above all avoiding STD.
I'm a young man, and thing is we're only single because we don't have a choice. Constantly getting rejected, constantly getting ghosted, we've just had had enough of it so most of us gave up lol.
who says you have to stick to just america? There's a great wide world for you
100% has been my experience. I’m into the idea of settling down, but girls in their 20’s haven’t been about it
@richardy2071 has a good point. If you’re bent on finding love move to a nice Latin American country, learn Spanish and find you a Latina. You’ll know they’re good because they won’t be marrying you to move to the US
Thank you for your sacrifice, you’ve made it easier for guys like me to get laid more
@@jordanwiley1283better wear a rubber dude.
Honestly I’m done with modern dating. It’s all so shallow. I’ve learned that if I ‘chase’ women you’ll often keep finding ones you’re incompatible with.
chase nobody, simp nobody.
Yep , you need to be active and go after your types don't chase but you got to initiate otherwise only ones you will get are some narcissistic or toxic ones based on my experiences every woman who has come to me was to exploit and any successful relationship I had i initiated and carried it on that's my reality
You’re just too picky.
*"Social media was like a good experiment but it just didn’t work. I have a theory that technology should have stopped right around 1995. We could cure enough diseases, cars were good enough.. it was right around there, we should have just stopped, but we’re not. We’re gonna keep going and I don’t know where any of this goes.”*
Bill Burr
I think 2008-2012 was a fine stopping point (GPS) the real issue is high speed internet
White genocide.
yea i thing 2010. but honestly i waouldnt mind removing most internet applications. and just keeping useful shit like messengers and gps.
no, the internet have knowledge important
@@tadeolho3634 so do libraries but there mostly used to rent old dvd's.
29 and been single ever since birth lol
Same
Same at 39
Bro I'm 26 I can't do it much longer
never done anything ?
Same, 29 too haha
Men have realized that it is better being single than dealing with the roller coaster ride of a relationship
i mean...i am the rollercoaster...so..yea...lol (im a man) i am engaged to a very patient lovely woman!
@@fortheloveofnoisegive it some time, youll join the rest of us soon enough
Wrong. They can’t attract women
Nah most men are forced out unfortunately.. women use the average man then treat him like shit cause that’s the best she can do at that time. Then destroy that man’s life to find someone “better”
This is a great comment section. Very relatable and true to what is being said. I feel very connected to your guy's stories.
@SweetChick10101 we do not all want love.
@SweetChick10101I'd rather women stay the fuck away from me.
this has got to be ironic
Just turned 38, and finally accepted I’ll never find a good woman. Nothing has made me feel as worthless as dating western women. God bless everyone still trying.
You just need more cash
Im 40 your not alone i that situation, do yoir hobbies save money to make up for it. Wamen are shallow and selfish. Most women at work divorced and cheated on their so. I dont think the grass is greenee on the other side either.
Read 1 Corinthians 7
@@bluemoon8498amen brother 32 here and i agree with you %100.i rather pay $80 for a quickie when i get lonely. rather than get cheated on with kids and a home.
Don’t give up 28F here I’m looking too! We’ll find something
Joe Rogan learns that women would rather share a "winner" than have a "loser" only for themselves.
Hypergamy and feminism is a deadly combination.
Exactly
Feminism is just hypergamy disguised as morality.
You got that right.
By design
Gonna kill us all at some point. Population declines will start impacting soon.
Try being 41, single, and hoping for just a date. Forget it. Even with a decent job, decent looks, decent life, doesn't matter. You are written off.
I met my husband later in life. My parents also met late in life and this was very unusual for those times. I think around our age we all kind of assume everyone is married or taken.
after 50, it could be better. People have given up on dreams at that point and then we have a chance lol
You have 3 amazing options.
#1 Find a single mom who wants her child(ren) to grow up with a father.
#2 Find an ugly girl who has a great personality
#3 Find a woman outside of the U.S. (that is what I did, and am now engaged to a Swedish woman my age [28])
and now, i have no money...no job...im a deadbeat that lives in a garage....we like each other for who we are, not what we are or what we can give the other. She wont even let me buy her food on dates, sje pays for all her own things.
@@Mel-tw6qv So you settled for a beta provider after you hit the wall? Poor guy. He got to marry used up sloppy 20ths.
You can get a DATE. Women would be happy to eat on your dime. But any type of physical connection is probably not in the cards unless you are a Chad or a Tyrone.
It's simple. A 9/10 man is telling 2 or maybe 3 6/10 women that they are in a relationship but really he's just ploughing 🤣
dude dont tell everyone!
Don't forget women who lie to themselves
Ya a few men are sleeping with most women or most women are delusional, both answers work for me
This is it. Dating apps and social media has made this exact scenario so easy. A smaller group of “desirable” guys are sleeping around.
this is exactly it
Feminism, social media, lack of respect for intimacy, adult content has destroyed men AND women
Yes to all but the last one. The last one is in-play for dudes, because w0men only want to sleep with the top 5%..
100% true. American culture is toxic and a death valley for single men.
Im 34 been single 3yrs now and im actaully injoying it. The lack of sex doesnt bother me. The peace and ability to focus on my goals is refreshing.
Loyalty is dead in this country. The fact that your wife can divorce you at any moment and take half of your hard earned money is scary as shit. It's a complete turn off on dating for me, because i don't want to go through all the effort of dating, marriage, starting a family, only for it all to end with me having nothing but a broken heart
Right there with ya man. It’s sad but it’s true
I'm there too, seen it happen to guys around me. I worry for my best friend, him and his girl are good but you never know and would hate to see it happen to him.
Its made on purpose by the government to create a week womenized society
They got this "skit" from the communsit manifesto
Women shouldnt have a saying in many things in life
You do not want to commit
to a 🙉 and I understand you
THIS TIMES A MILLION
Sounds like the girls are dating the same guys
Most men cannot provide for a family on a single income currently. So while I believe it is deplorable for women to whore themselves out every single date with the top end guys; I also do not expect them to be too excited at the prospect of a guy who cannot provide for a family.
Sadly it is the times we live in. The average man in the US, under 40, currently makes around 39k a year. It isn't feasible in most parts of the country.
That's exactly what's going on and everyone is afraid to say it.
@@someone-ji2zbThis is complete nonsense. You can live more humbly and still live on a normal household salary with kids. What you're unwilling to accept is that this means conceding luxury clothing/accessories and unnecessary vacations.
@@smellypatel5272 Depends where you live of course, but in general most men are making around 39k under the age of 40. If you want a stay at home wife, then that isn't enough in most parts of the US.
The reality is that we are at record low marriage and birth rates across the globe, and the US saw its biggest drop last year. Most men when asked why they are not in a relationship/marriage will respond it is financial. Most women will respond saying they can't find a man who can provide.
I am not saying it is impossible for a man to make it happen, but most are not going to. Most men have always been "poor" throughout history, and it has been the task of governments to figure out how to balance out the issue of poverty with still being able to raise a family/workers. Right now we are not in a good time economically and it is what it is.
@@someone-ji2zb again the cited reason is apocryphal. The reality is that women are indoctrinated into a luxury and career lifestyle mindset instead of sacrificing for family. It's a societal value issue stemming from feminism, not an economic one for the most part. Also the 40k number is not accurate anymore, not to mention tons of subsidies exist for larger families. The reality is much more bleak than mere financial troubles
This will truly end our way of life. If we can’t incentivize men to come back to the table it’s all over.
@chronicblast5505 I’m well aware
Good. This "way of life" should be over. The average man is nothing but a slave in this system.
Men need to stop being feminine. Stop spending 5+ hours a day on video games. Stop jacking off to porn. Start learning skills often and helping others as a part of life. Guys need to be apart of a community rather than self indulge.
my generation is too poor to afford love
It ain’t about happiness anymore
It’s about comfort
The best love , the most important love is learning to love yourself and you can love others .. some from a distance , some up close .. just don’t confuse love with slavery.. be your own person and let others be who they are .. then you know for sure who your right person is.
lol try survival.
Taking someone for a series of dinners to find out if they like you sounds like an awful prospect.
Maybe I can rent some love😢
Plenty of below average looking women you can marry though. Its just that too many guys are so addicted to porn and seeing attractive women all the time on a screen, that they can't stomach the idea of being with someone who is plain. I've now known too many guys who have been like this and they will die alone because they think they can someday find a model.
I’m a man almost 28 years old and I’ve certainly lost all interest in dating.
I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year who I thought I was in love with and was going to propose to. She was very ungrateful and didn’t reciprocate anything I did for her. She was very toxic and had that mentality of “I am a woman therefore I am a prize and I’m not obligated to do anything for you because women are not your slave. If you don’t do certain things for me I can find 100 other guys that can”.
Anytime she came over to my house I had food ready for her, I ran errands for her, picked up and dropped off her mail, taught her how to workout and eat healthy, would drive 30 minutes each way to her house to check up on her cats while she’s at work, fixed her car and put new brakes on it myself, bought her gifts, always treated her to going out to restaurants and bars, etc…
One day I had worked a 12 hour shift and hadn’t really eaten anything. I called and asked her if she could make dinner ready for when I got home because I’m starving (I already had chicken washed, cut, and marinated in a pan with vegetables. All she had to do was put it in the oven).
You know what she said to me? “Hahaha are you kidding me? I’m not going to let a MAN tell me to cook for him. I am not your slave. This isn’t the 1920’s where women are only reduced to being in the kitchen. Go find you another BITCH that will let you disrespect her and boss her around with your toxic masculinity”
I was speechless. Like I’ve gone to great lengths to do everything for this woman and she thinks like that? Treats me this way?
I ended it with her then and there.
But even before dating her and these past couple of months I’ve done pretty well at getting girls. I have a good career, nice house, built physique, tons of hobbies, and a good personality with a big circle of friends so I always had options when it came to women.
The one thing I keep realizing is that most women are opportunists. Meaning that no matter how good of a man they are dating, they will always leave and date someone else that has something that you don’t have.
Oh this guy has a boat
This guy always gets tables in VIP at the club
This other guy owns a jewelry store
This one guy has a lake house
Etc…
Girls have so many options due to social media and dating apps that they don’t see a need to be with one man. They are unable to pair bond and they know that they don’t have to put any effort in and still hundreds of guys will simp for them and provide them with everything. The average girl has the same sexual pull as a male celebrity.
The other day I went out on a first date with this girl and she wanted me to take a picture of her next to my sports car so she can post it on her story (she has about 450 followers on IG). Later in the evening after we hooked up she had 100+ DM’s all from guys who are local asking her to go out for drinks or when they can go out for a date again. Meaning a lot of those guys she’s already gone out with or they are next in line.
Yea no thanks. I don’t want to feel like I have to compete with over 100 men for an average girl.
Good for you bro this story put a smile on my face
Did the ex ever try to come back?
It was an eye opener for me when I realized how much attention women get.
Social media and all this tech absolutely annihilated dating for our generation. Frankly it seems sociopathic to me.
I was out at the bars with some girls and they started talking about tinder, social media and guys. Oh my god literally a women nobody would look twice at has dudes simping every single day, all day every day.
Money, gifts, trips, constant praise and attention, the endless compliments about everything they do, literally dozens of dms and messages every day with like a 2-6~ guys?
What kind of world are they living in man. How is this sustainable?
Dude you're wrong when you say they have tons of options, they have FOR NOW, and they feel omnipotent because of the power of their boobs and genitals, but with great power comes responsibility. Sooner or later they'll it a huge fucking wall sometimes as early as 35 and they will hit it no matter what before they even realize, at that moment it'll be too late, their power they abused instead of putting it to good use is OVER. Relax, they'll get it, it just takes time.
@@howtosnatch not yet. It’s been almost 2 months now since the breakup. I think she’s under the impression that she was the one that got a better deal by getting rid of me because of how misogynist I was and because I didn’t do enough for her 😂
It's because harems are back. Women are okay with sharing the top tier best looking men.
A modern woman would rather share Chad than settle for a Normie.
If you just talked to women and went outside you would realise that’s not true
Some women maybe, not the majority of women. It's a redpill myth that today the _majority_ of women is like that. Most aren't. Maybe if you look at the social media/dating apps and look at few hottest women or 'working girls' (Only Fans, etc.),but that's *not* the majority.
@@joane24based and whitepilled
@@joane24it’s a noticeable portion tho
@@joane24 you only say this because women are incapable of being completely truthful about their own psychology. I don't even say this in a reproachful way, it is just an evolutionary necessity. To select the potentially best mate, you girls have to be brutally selective under the mask of female and maternal empathy you enact at the surface level. This is why one of the great tropes and concerns of men throughout and across civilizations and art has been the subject of female deceit. This is where it comes from, when it's not malignant (because malignant deceit will always have an element of conscious manipulation to it e.g.). To the point discussed: it is a major cultural trope, best exemplified in literature (Madame Bovary is a good example for this), that most women will prefer being the concubine to the king than the wife of the loyal and lowly shoemaker. So the initial argument still holds up in my opinion.
This is truly an eye opener. I've been single throughout my whole life and I know very little of relationships. I've been wanting to engage with women for some time now but everywhere I look, there are even less opportunities to do so. I thought since everyone moved to social media that I could find women there. Apparently it's very hard to find commitment or patience in anyone these days. Nobody knows what the hell they want in life. No wonder why our ancestors were so successful. They had no other choice but to accept whatever they had, whoever they had around them. We reached out too far and are caught up and lost in a vast internet of information that has overstimulated us. Now we are anxious and depressed. Younger generations like myself are hit the worst. This is how depopulation begins.
From what I remember, about 20% of men are going to be relatively undesirable, another 20% being single is normal depending on societal factors. I think 60% is an indicator that somethings wrong. But we might be in uncharted territory when compared to the rest of history.
I honestly agree with this, though the exact numbers may be off. There have always been young men who did poorly with the opposite sex. Look at any university and especially those in fields like engineering or the hard sciences, most of those are not players lol. Then you also have young men that are just quite undesirable, basically what you imagine when the term "incel" comes to mind (bad hygiene, obese, etc.). The thing is, the vast majority of men are relatively normal and otherwise potentially dateable. They don't have severe social issues, mental health problems, are not drug addicts, alcoholics, etc. I am convinced there is some very wrong with the current dating market but I believe there are many variables to blame that are collectively causing this.
I like to use myself as an example. I'm 33 now, white, 6'4" 235 with an athletic build and one of the fittest guys at the gym I go to, I go hiking a lot, etc. I'm taller and in better shape than the vast majority of men, for those over 30 I'm at a whole different level. Anyway, I've gotten a ton of rejections over the years and while some of them were from women that were hot many of them were from women that were completely average and even at times slightly unattractive.
A few years back, 2019, I got this idea to try out a speed dating event from a guy I knew, I thought it would be interesting so I signed up. Anyway, there were about a dozen women around my age, late twenties through early 30s. There were no ugly women, but a couple that were legitimately fat and the rest were within an average range for women that age. Anyway, long story short I got nothing from the event and that experience really opened my eyes, this was back in 2019. Women around my own age that were single and actively looking did not think that a man their own age that was 6'+ and clearly in shape was not good enough to consider for a real date. They literally at face value rejected this, so it's not like they were filtering out for things related to compatibility, which happens after a couple dates. Granted, this isn't the best way to meet women but it's a fantastic example of what I'm talking about here.
@@oglocbaby520 Women aren't like computers, that you put a right code in, and you're guaranteed a success. Not only we have various preferences, but also it's mor actually more about a actual connection than what's on a paper/'bio'.
For me, personally, you'd be too tall, I'm myself not too tall and don't like very tall men. Personal preference.
Also, there's other factors: face, behavior, tone of voice, mannerisms, character/personality, scent - many of the preferences are actually unconscious, and vary across the individual women.
@@joane24 I totally agree and as a man you are NOT going to be every woman's type. However, the point I was getting at is that there is an issue with many women with how picky they are, which is preventing them from potentially getting into relationships with men that are acceptable. That's why I was using myself as an example with that speed dating event I cited. If women at an event like this, who are obviously single and looking, are deeming a man that is 6'+ and in shape worthy of the reject pile I would like to know what it is that they are actually looking for. This is the reason why they are single and looking, it's because they are far too picky. They want a guy that is 6'+, which is the minority of men, but then he is too skinny. They find a guy that is 6'+ and has the right body type for them but they don't like attire. They find a guy that has the height, body and style but he has some quirks that bother them. Do you see what I"m getting at here? I believe the biggest issue is that women have this perception of overabundance due to social media and dating apps, where they feel they can be incredibly choosey. What ends up happening though is they just end up perpetually single because they are programmed to believe they can find some perfect match, which in reality doesn't exist.
@@oglocbaby520 I agree with you that I also see this (worrying) trend, I see it actually in both women and men, though you're right it's probably more often in women, that they're not even willing to give a chance and actually see if maybe he/she has a great character and a relationship partner. It's like people seem to have this ideal in their head and anything less means automatically out. And I agree dating apps skewed many women's expectations, to something that doesn't even make sense in real life when it comes to forming connection and building a relationship. Which is really stupid, it's not how people in the past, and I'm talking now just my parents or grandparents generation, used to date and form families. It used to be you meet someone, you get to know them at least a bit and see if you both 'click', but it wasn't just based on some long checklist, but getting to know someone as a person. It's really sad and I'm sorry for those who have to date today, from what I see it's really hard, especially for men.
Just turned 28 and been single for 10 years. I’ve given up on dating since I’m either rejected or just a friend/brother. The last girl I tried to date put me in friend zone, was ok with it until we had a talk saying she wishes she could find someone like me. I snapped and told her off. That was 3 years ago. My self confidence and self esteem is down the trash. My depression makes it twice as hard to get back but there’s no point for me. I’ve accepted that I’ll live and die alone.
You are not alone.
Don’t say that. Stay up man, this happens to fuckin everybody, or at least every man. I’d know. If she really felt that way she’d be begging to have you back. Now screw your head on right, get strong & get after it. We’re rooting for you.
👇🏻 Give this guy some motivation
Get your money up. Hit the gym, build a social group.
That's horrible man, I'm sorry. You're not alone and you can do it. Idk if my advice will be useful at all because idk 90% of the situation, but I'd say you have to approach everyone in person, not online, and that you just need to approach a shit ton of women to make up for the fact that 9/10 of them will say no. I have no money and I'm not super attractive and talking to people in person and being genuine has worked WAY better than I expected, but I also don't want to say "look it's easy." Could be different in different parts of the country. Just my two cents. I hope everything works out.
@@dylananoellshut up begging for likes as a facade to give some guy motivation apparently lmao you’re so full of it.
If your Mr Average you might as well prepare for a single life.
Today’s women won’t settle for average.
How do you explain all the below average and average people marrying, then?
@@bufficliff8978 Thai brides
Well those women are gonna end up single bitter and alone then aren’t they.
woemn are nutz z
@@bufficliff8978We are talking about dating, not marriage. Average and below average looking men are settled for by women who spend their entire 20s hoeing around. That isn't the type of marriage men want.
Married people always jealous of singles and try to call us weird 😂
All guys who are married these days are indirectly slaves.😂😂
Im 23, Im just burnt out on relationships and trying. Loyalty is dead even in friendships.
I’m 23 too, I don’t even know where to LOOK for a girlfriend.
@@dannyhernandez265 I don't make millions a year, and I don't want to be cheated on so I don't see a point in trying.
People are more fickle than they have ever been. Even your male friendships will fade out. Especially as you get older and they close off their social circles once they get married. It sucks and I've just had to make the most with my solitude because at least it's better than being with the wrong people.
@@Jdoggdarula sadly true. I ain’t rich, I don’t even know how to please a woman. (Date wise) I’m clueless.
@@yt-user03561 exactly. I went to college hoping to have friends, meet girls, party…. Sadly my life isn’t like that. I wish it was, but I just don’t fit it in anywhere at this point in my life. I gave up trying to integrate to society and just have to cope with the fact that I’m an outsider.
Chris Rock said it the best. The number one reason why your lady is mad at you, you're not her first choice. Women have plenty of Men tossing themselves at them. They have limitless options.
Women hold all the cards when it comes to sex and love
@@tomzadvydas1758 except when they are dealing with a rich guy
@@RR-et6zpmajority of men aren’t rich 😂
So Tom Brady wasn't a first choice?
@@abel4776 He was a last pick.
I'm staying single i ain't dealing with anyone's bullshit
I’ve hired many high end escorts and yes they are bought but they are more capable of having an intelligent conversation, prettier, and better in bed than many women on Tinder
That's the root of the problem.
@@simpleuser0001 fuck em let society rot
@@simpleuser0001women are bringing the bullsht.. thats all they offer
@@simpleuser0001exactly right. Nobody can be agreeable anymore it’s always one way or the highway. People used to be able to compromise and negotiate and work through a situation that maybe didn’t favor them.
I’m 35 been single since 21
💀
I was married for 26 years and now all of a sudden she doesn't love me anymore. We are getting divorced and she tell me her boyfriend, who is also married tells her she is beautiful and sexy all the time. To me they are both pieces of shit made for each other. I will remain single and work on myself. She threw away stability and security for attention and validation
the fact that you can call your ex wife, who you shared 26 years of life with, a piece of shit now indicates you were probably never very great to her or loved her in a deep unconditional way. None of the men I’ve been with would ever call me that because they loved me in a profound way that a human being should love another in the sharing of such an intimate space. No man I’ve been with would stoop so low, even if I acted out, because their virtue isn’t dependent on how others respond to it.
@@jan-bean You forgot to take your meds?
@@ANKET47 No I just have found through life experience that the men who talk poorly about their exes usually were abusive and the men who move on and only talk respectfully aren’t. I’m not denying your ex did something awful, but I’m just confused on how people can go from spending 26 years with someone to seeing that person in such a black and white way with seemingly no nuance.
@@jan-beanyou're a bot
She got the lifetime alimony
I spent a lot of time in my early 20s chasing women and not focused enough on a stable life and financials. At some point during the same thing over and over, I decided focusing on and building my career is more rewarding. I am now 28 and made a lot of strides in my career without all the distractions in my way.
More men need to understand that being independent is a great thing and nothing to be embarrassed about. I am 35 years old and have never had a girlfriend, I haven't had sex since the pandemic started and I haven't used a dating app or chased after a woman since that same time. I spent way too much time and energy on trying to chase women in my 20's which got me nowhere and I wasn't even getting rejected by women personally because I couldn't get to that point with them and it was soul crushing and caused too much depression and self hate towards myself until I turned my life around by hitting the gym, getting a better well paying job and most importantly doing skillful hobbies that I love that and have progressed at which occupies my time. Fast forward to now and I have bought my own house on a single income, I have some impressive PBs in the gym (not the greatest but I am chuffed) I play golf 3 times a week, I paint Bob Ross style, I have a little herb garden and succulents to look after amongst other things and I have to tell you that the moment I let go of women as something to be obtained in life my mental health skyrocketed and I am in an infinitely better place now financially, emotionally, health-wise etc why would I ruin my great balance by getting involved with a woman now?
I don't believe in loneliness anymore, I thought I was lonely being alone but really I was just bored with nothing to do and once I started taking my fitness seriously, playing sport and doing fun hobbies my happiness went up the depression went down and "loneliness" was gone. It wasn't "loneliness" dragging me down it was a stagnating life bankrupt of activity.
There is so much more to life than women and sex and it makes me sad to see so many brothers fall victim to the trap that our lives exist purely to chase women. I agree with the "go to the gym and take up hobbies" rhetoric we constantly get told but not as an end result to get women but as the end result to improve our health, our skills and our mental health. We don't need women we need activity
Feel sorry for you
Sounds great. And you sound happy too.
lol cope, theres nothing better than a womans touch, plump, firm, supple, lmao. beta male
@@truthteller3024 pure cope, beautiful women all around you, but you get none
Some people want a family though and being single doesn’t help that
Every girl iv ever dated has requires constant arguing or they get bored. I got better things to do then argue. Sex isn’t worth it
Fr, they need constant attention and reassurance, its fucken annoying how needy and pathetic they are
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Women say they are dating because they don't want to look like a side piece. They know what it is truthfully though
"It doesn't make sense why there's a disparity between the sexes."
No Joe, it makes perfect sense.
Men testing the waters and going on a few dates a month says he’s single. Women doing the same say they are not. Also I think it’s true that more men are unafraid to say they are single, while for a woman to admit that is hard because they worry about what their friends think more than most guys.
All you have to do is think about who controls sex.
It makes perfect sense. Women share the top tier males.
That and some of the Younger women are with men old enough to be their father which skews the stats.
@@eddiewiggles9398 Yeah, sugar daddies. Some of them even married.
or the women are just lying.
its overblown
@@eddiewiggles9398women with daddy issues seek sugar daddies, they don’t even think anything wrong of it
I a 41 year old man. Never been in a relationship. I haven’t been with a woman in 18 years. Whatever it is women want, I just don’t have it.
I got broken up with a year ago, and I was heart broken. I checked my credit score the other day and it shot up 120+ points. It would seem society rewards me for being single.
Western Society punishes Good married men. Get your stuff together and get your passport
My credit score is 0
My credit score just shot up too and I now finally have good credit! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
The single get taxed more sadly.
@@kyleferIt's hardly a difference
If a woman is a virgin or single it’s a choice for men it’s involuntary
*for certain men.
@@chrisstone2506 For all men. Except maybe some religious people who abstain out of conviction. For the rest of young men, I don't think there's anyone out there who wouldn't want to get laid, or at least a real relationship with sex.
@@mr.goldenproductions_0143 But I can get laid if I want and I am in a relationship. It wasn’t granted to me because I can’t. I had the choice to make it happen and I did. Don’t put women in the power seat so much.
A good chunk of the religious population of the world is voluntarily celibate till marriage.
I chose to stay a virgin until I found the woman I knew I would marry...and I found her...but I am a very rare type of man...😂 I am ok looking now, but in highschool I was good looking, but I denied every woman (and a man) because I knew the personality wasn't right for me...that's all that matters, beauty fades and is meaningless.
I am 35, no wife no kids no mortgage. I am using this time to do everything I can to make my dreams a reality. I welcome a wife and kids if that happen's, but if it doesn't, I love what I do and that fullfilment, that purpose, that moment of giving back when My Dreams Become Reality will be all worth it.
Stay Strong Brothers.
the point of life is to procreate brother.
@@AWarriorFromNature8 billion people is already far too many, why would we need more
Get a cat.
@@AWarriorFromNatureand who will afford kids my bro? i wish my parents earned a lot before having me so i can have a chill life instead of this soul sucking job
The single life is so less stressful, modern women are hardwork.
You could probably build 5 businesses before finding a legit woman thats loyal
@@andrewevans7992right
How does it work?
Modern society is designed, not just to benefit women, but actually punish men.
Women also expect to be in a relationship and marry someone of 6 figures. But that is the 1% of men.
So you have these women dating/marrying older men, and having sugar daddies than men who are still working their way up. Plus as you said, modern women and these feminist movement is causing many young men to refuse to date.
@@Austin123. not six figures men, attractive men.
@@jk8301 Like the meme says, 6 feet, 6 pack and 6 figures.
this society ruined me. i used to really care and love people. not anymore, this is what they wanted
Punish average men, the top tier men live like gods.
I've been single my whole life until 32. I stopped dating Mexican, American and European women. I went to the Caribbean and found an amazing wife, you can find a good woman, just not in the States.
it seems like a total mess over in the states, herein the UK, things don't seem that bad. we do have feminists here, but it seems a much worse problem over in america
@@23STEVO23 what do you think about the christian value/family value is much more stronger there? And why do you think this is the case?
Edddeee, I want haff
@@23STEVO23 nope the UK is Americas cousin. Australia and Europe is the same, maybe to lesser extremes than the States.
I found my life changed when I moved away from dating Western Women....too independent, feisty and too much competition. As soon as I dated non western like Asian, my hit rate sky rocketed. If you have POND1 with hot western women but tons of guys competing and POND2 with women just as hot and more lovely and traditional with less competition I decided to fish in POND2!
Why less competition? Because the women in POND2 aren't out dating 5 men at once, meeting tons of guys drinking, clubbing, whatever. It's just a culture difference.
Biggest advice to men, is change the culture of women you go for and your life will change, did for me.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
Me and my ex broke up due to finances and she started dating a doctor twice her age that had other girlfriends as well. Now that women have become the top earning sex but won’t date down. So their sharing the same top 10% of men
how tf does a doctor have the time to handle multiple hoes?
Public humiliation and outcasting is probably the only way to solve this problem
Don’t get me started on stigma
Keep insulting them
@@u-shanks4915 No, repealing the 19th is how you solve this problem. Why can't people just understand?
There’s a reason we had set up society the way we did prior. Then we let pussies and morons into positions of governance, and they completely demolished the Western world. This is why revolutions and wars occur. This isn’t the first time sht like this has happend in human history.
Ya sure
We doing it boys, let's get that 💯 percent 💪💪
LOL
brooo xddd thank you
Then you can pretty much kiss civilization goodbye. It's extremely bad as it is, and this is a problem that we seriously need to address if we don't want to eventually suffer irreparable population collapse.
@@Tyler_W dude, you gotta understand tho, as a man you don't decide to reproduce, women do, so yeah this a women issue not mine you know.
@@Tyler_W It's irreparable in the short-term, but fixable in the long-term. The collapse needs to happen to steer the West on the right course.
The problem isn’t being single, the problem is having to deal and being forced to feel like a loser because you don’t have a gf.
That's a big one, the stigma is unbelievable. It's mind-blowing serious the attacks on single men are.
@@michaeljeffery7466 its the internet and media, remove these 2 and stigma drops by 80% ,
Exactly. That's why being an in cell makes you hate the world
Well, you are a loser, then. Btw, I have no girlfreind myselfe.
I tell any single man I meet, "smart man!".
I saw my grandfather get taken advantage of by his wife, my father get taken advantage of by my mother, I've seen many other men get taken advantage of by their girlfriends, a good deal of my aunts and uncles are divorced. I can understand why people, especially young men, would prefer being single than to being in a relationship. If the sacrifice is high and unappreciated, many men, or women, will not take that risk. This is then compounded by other factors like economics and compatibility. Additionally, when you're single long enough, you realize it's not that bad. It just is what it is. I can firmly say by what I've witnessed, it's better to die alone than to marry the wrong person. In some ways, I think a lot of young men are simply tired and fed up and the results is a kind of strike. They feel that since voicing their concerns, no matter how eloquent or polite they are, they will be dismissed: nothing ever changes. So, they move onto more productive pursuits.
Chads have multiple girlfriends, and the women are in denial. Women are also dating older men as well.
They are in denial, the most unbelievably crazy part of it to me is the mental backflips & rationalizations they'll make to continue seeing themselves as the victims at all costs. It's disturbing, our society is through because common-sense & clear thinking is dead.
Fewer women are dating older men no than ever. Try again
@@mwfmtnman when he says older he does not talk about 50 yo to 60 yo. It was my case when i was 31 and à 18 yo old girl approached me (it was weird and i told to myself it was fishy. Im not an attractive man). Im 34 in the near futur.
@@FrionelzThe number of old men and women in relationships are roughly equal. It's only the 18-29 age group that's screwed. There are not many women dating older men.
😆
No.
There is not 50% men and 50% women. There are more men in this country than women that could be due to various reasons, but there are a lot more men in this country than women so women have more of an option.
I got cheated on in my Earl 20's so I've been single for a decade now. I don't see a relationship any time soon. That kind of pain is one I can't handle, never again.
I didnt get cheated on, but I know what you mean. I was with my ex for 5 years, 20-25. She comes home from a girls day with her sister and says
"I think im going to spend the weekends at my parents, they said they miss me"
SURE DEAR, I know how close you are with them.
She never came home :)
Five years, thats how it ended.
That shit is rough
I've been through that over and over and I can tell you that is just female nature. They all do that. You learned the ugly truth. Congratulations, you're not alone. Exception: There is only one small group of women don't all do that, and those are the religious conservatives - and I mean the ones who go to church every Sunday and pray to be forgiven. They are afraid to go to hell, so they try not to sin. That is a very small minority. So, if you're into that, maybe you can find a faithful wife. Religious Muslims kill their women for adultery. Either way, monogamy is about marriage and marriage is about religion, so monogamy is a religious thing.
Sissy
Good, good. Embrace the hate. It gives you power.
@Constantly Learn And Grow I did move on. My point was REALTIONSHIPS are something I won't get into. Friends with benefits has been the best way to go for me and I don't see that changing.
I’m 38 and I stopped dating years ago. Women just used me for free food, drinks, shows, to do things for them and money with no intention of being intimate with me.
Yeah they just talk shit n when they get beat at their own game they cry online.. or ruin your life
She owes you sex because you spend money on her? Funny how men say women sleep around too much but when a woman waits she's considered a user 😂
It's weird that you only did those things for women under the hopeful expectation that they would be intimate with you. They didn't owe you sex because you spent money on them. What a disgusting mindset. I can see why you struck out and gave up.
@@Kelly-nt2rq Maybe he started out with good intentions, but then realized over time that he was being taken advantage of, which made him cynical. Who knows.
Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television,
feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair
that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy
falling in love is not just about having sex
falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people.
She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner.
As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction,
therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants
his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife.
Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.
I'm 30, and I get hassled at every family gathering about why i'm still single. Very frustrating. Even my parents and sister are going after me, too. Mom tells me I need to 'get on the dating apps' and all that, so to shut her up I did. I met a nice girl there, we were getting along great (so I thought), but she always made an excuse when I tried to ask her out, for a video chat, or even a simple 30 minute phone call. So she kept me on the back burner while she was out actively dating another guy, then finally said to me that 'she should stop leading me on now'
Dating sites/apps suck, living in a small country town doesn't help, meeting someone in real life doesn't work, and being sober now doesn't help anything in the dating department, and having graduated college years ago doesn't allow me to meet a nice girl in school like everyone else seems to have done..
It's difficult, that is 100% certain.
Man that year and a half I spent alone thanks to COVID screwing with my only ability to meet people at the time (through school) really fucked me up. It’s 2023 and I’m still trying to pickup the pieces
You're weak
stay strong!
Yea Biden doing corona time caused so much damage
It's not that bad actually.
Most people hate to be alone because they TRULY don't understand themselves enough to accept themselves being alone!
u sound like a beta
The "I wish I could find a guy like you who isn't you" is an actual thing.
thats why most of women will be 30 and childless. There was a financial insentive for you to settle there isnt anymore. society will disolve together with the family unit
I'm a single man, 40 years old and I never had a GF during the last 20 years. Had sex a few times by paying. I don't even hire prostitutes anymore as I hate women so much. When I'm ready to die, I'll not just leave alone, I'll take a few women with me. You know how it happens. Now you have a reason to live in fear.
delulu
My mom truly believes that women are innocent. She believe it is always the guys fault. I haven’t dated since high school and I’m freshly out of college. Women’s expectations are insane compare to men’s. 12 inch you know what, abs, making a 100k plus a year and having already a house paid is not something anyone in 30s and 20s can provide. But if guys just want someone who is honest and genuine we’re the misogynists one.
I'm a woman fresh out of college as well. I never dated in highschool and never dated in college. I know tons of other girls just like me. I have yet to meet any girls that describe the standards/ expectations you describe. Every other girl I know just wants someone honest and genuine as well, including myself. So this broad generalization of what women want and expect is either anecdotal, meaning the only women you encounter or go after have these expectations, or it is a theory that because you do not meet these expectations and also do not have your desired woman, this must be the only thing women want. Good girls are out there, but they aren't gonna fall into your lap and it's not all of women's fault when we don't. Keep an open mind, women like that.
@@julesb2415 first off a lot of what you’re saying is mainly speculation. The statistics are supporting my experience though. There’s a reason why men are twice as much as single. I am not expecting anyone to fall in anyone’s lap. I am just saying what I have experienced and been verbally told. I don’t doubt the existence of any women that are good out there but I and other men who have told me their struggle cannot seem find anyone that is interested in anything long term and actually real.
@@MattattaxkTo be fair, what you're saying is also speculation. I also know a lot of women with high earning potentials who are looking for a serious relationship. Most of the qualifications that you listed aren't what they're looking for. Most of them want a genuine man who is willing to mature with them, not some hyper- masculine bro. Actually, most of them broke it off with their exs in college because their BFs were static in mindset. Women want someone they can grow old with (have kids, have a life, support them in their own career goals, etc). It doesn't necessarily come down to monetary means either. Support can be given in a lot of ways. Emotional support for instance is a desired trait. Maybe it's all speculation, but I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless.
@@shanemacas-senn6347 "I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless"
this has been my experience too, if you're interested in women that simply want a partner to help each other grow & have children with, you'll find plenty. for the record, i live in europe.
This is escalating quickly, now women are looking for over 6ft dudes. Man I'm praying for something to happen, we need hard times to bring back the normality when survival is a thing. If a economic crash is a thing, men no longer pay OF or donations the women would low the standards and become more trad.
It makes complete sense. Women are sharing men
Men share women too
No people lie
I was with my girl from 1994 until 2019. I have ZERO interest in being with another woman again because I don't want to restart a relationship. I've found the single life to be fucking awesome! I wake up in the middle of the night and play my guitars VERY loud. Nobody tells me to turn it down. I buy my RC cars and nobody asks why i spent my money on "toys". I have my Xbox and gaming PC's setup the way I want. I drive my M4 as fast as I want and nobody tells me to slow down. I'm 47 and living a teenager's dream right now
Good to know for people that never had gf.
🤘
Damn bro that’s awesome I wish I was you.
Rings damn familiar. 😅
Sounds like a total waste of a life. Narcissistic hell.
I'm 60 and stopped looking for a partner 15 years ago because it's impossible to find a woman who is sweet, warm, affectionate and nurturing. Instead, they are too "male" for my liking (cold, competitive, opinionated, etc.). And it doesn't help that the vast majority of women over 40 are overweight, have emotional issues, drink too much wine, and have unhealthy lifestyles.
I'm 66 & same here. Pretty happy by myself.
Lol my previous ex was 40, had emotional issues, drank too much wine, and had an unhealthy lifestyle 😅
Move your ass to countries like Thailand or Philippines asap brother
I don't drink, am not over 40, and not overweight, but I am on the spectrum so I probably come across as 'cold' to my partner. It's something I have been working on but being nurturing does not come naturally to me. Keep in mind that I can't be the only person with this issue
But I thought y’all men said, men dating value gets better with age? Oh so that was a lie. Oh okay. Cuz y’all kept shaming women that the older they got men would stop waning then but here you are saying that’s actually a male problem. Oh well
Growing up I had bad asthma and stopped breathing one day during dinner, that feeling of losing breath was peaceful and every time I feel scared to die alone, I think of that moment and realize once you get there it really goes silent and in the end you go alone even if you’re surrounded by family, you see pretty memories and then that’s it. So live your life
Men can be alone fine. Women need people
That’s not what the data says
Bull crap statement. Both men and women are social creatures, and men have a far higher suicide rate. Most men are not fine being single forever if they have the drive to raise a family. It is simply in our nature to want to do it in most cases.
The more I read these comments in these types of videos, the more certain I become that men have failed society as a whole. Nothing but excuses and avoidance of reality; no different these women.
Think about it Joe.....most men get nothing and the top guys are slamming side chicks.
And it is accepted in our modern society for top guys to slam side chicks.
@@Mnaoke I think it's never changed probably...they control everything.
@@Mnaoke Top guys dont force women. Women want them.
@@Mnaoke and why shouldnt it be? Nobody is forcing women to sleep with these guys they are attracting multiple women because of someting that women are attracted too, be that fitness money status or a combo of all of those. Either become one of these type of men or take a backseat and pick up whats left complaining about it isnt going to change it.
but the side chicks are then lying since they're not in a relationship?
Not only single but sexless. Only a few guys are running through most women
this is the problem. Women dont want men who are working on themselves in their 20s. But then when these men become attractive after years of hard work these same women are ran through by then and the men no longer want them. What real man would marry a girl who gave her body up easily? Modern woke culture will say this is wrong thinking but this is how men have always thought naturally.
Well the world was doing a lot better in regards to moral culture when pre marital sex was taboo anyway. Most people before the 60s lost their virginity in marriage. This was especially true in the US.
Turns out, promoting having uncommitted sex has consequences, and we are living it.
Dating is the #1 thing that have made me feel like the most epic loser one can ever be. When I don't bother with it I feel a lot better. Even good for the most part.
For example my last experience was an absolute nightmare. Got really passionate about a girl and she wasn't into me at all. I don't know if that's even true though, because women aren't always honest and there's always the confusion you get from mixed messages. But, she didn't at least have the feelings on the level that I had. It was a nightmare to be forced to accept that I had to go on without her, while she's living her life with other men. I can sometimes still feel that self doubt from time to time. "What kind of loser am I if I can't even get the woman I want."
I grew up with seeing relatives and family members being romantically successful. Especially some of my relatives are those kind of couples that were always that unit of those two. Couples that met in the 1960s or 70s and they're still together now!
My father ended up getting divorced. But he at least had those good years with a woman he loved and they got three kids.
When it comes to dating nowadays. I don't even have the mental energy for that. My hope is that I might get to know some woman organically, without needing to think of it as taking part in a competitive game. That's just depressing. Constantly overthinking your every move and it causes hatred, anger and resentment towards women to be a part of all the BS that's going on in modern dating. I want a woman to look at me like I'm a human being. Not try to get into the head of some idiot with a checklist containing 10+ points on what she's demanding from a man, while simultaneously not offering anything more special than all the other average women are offering. And perhaps even being a modern feminist who will mostly cause conflict.
Modern dating is like going to a job interview and shopping for a used vehicle at the same time!
It’s got high miles on her lol 😅
I am an 24 apprentice in hospitality.
I just came back from 5 weeks of school with mostly 16-20 year girls around me.
I personally wasn’t attracted to any of them because i like a character in a woman that is just not fully developed at that age.
Another thing i realized tho, was how the very few boys in the school got brutally rejected or cheated on in a 5 week span in the same school… even for me (fairly extroverted) it was a struggle just to have simple talks with most girls in that school.
My approach to dating is to let things fall into place. And if they don’t, i focus on my hobbies and well being.
Actively dating seems rather pointless and exhausting for me.
When you genuinely connect with someone, you don’t need a rulebook of things to be done in order to form a connection. „Only after so and so dates, i do this or that“
If that means you are lonely for long periods times, you gotta look for human connection in other friendships or family.
I feel with alot of stories in the comments here, it really is a bigger trend that dating is so complicated and you shouldn’t only blame yourself if things don’t work out.
Another thing to consider may be looking for women in different continents and countries.
Russian girls are different than South American or African girls etc.
Our world is globalized - explore 😄
The problem is if you let things be as you say.. by the time something extremely bad happens.. all the used us extremely picky women who have slept around will just gravitate towards any dude to stay safe or to just have a man. That generally won’t work cause they will make that mans life hell and secretly hate the guy and leave first chance she can when another opportunity comes along.
Hypergamy makes it so that women by nature want to mate up. Physically and socioeconomically. Social media and hookup culture has compounded this instinct as to where women select top guys in phenotype and status growing more indifferent to the average guy and further sophisticating her taste in men placing a new competitive pressure on men for even average women. The end result is certain guys have a harem of women they have no incentive to commit to(Or have multiple women in situationships that may seem like relationships to them) while less attractive guys are ignored.
In a nutshell....
This has happened in ancient times, the king compared to farmer
@@yeflynne We used traditionalism to solve this side of our nature but now we are back as traditionalism has fallen. Touched-starved sons and harem daughters everywhere.
History repeat itself like the fall of: India, Greek,Roman and in the future the western civilisation
Women want the pretty boys and bad boys now days or want them to be 6 foot something hot and good looking
It still surprises me that people are surprised and shocked about these stats “it doesn’t make sense” bro what?
Right? China is worse in that regard I believe
If you set a one child policy with men being born more frequently what did you think was going to happen?
takes normie society about 10 years to catch up to the Internet LOL
Normies will refuse to accept facts, if the implications of accepting those facts means that their worldview will be overturned. The implications of accepting the truth about female nature is that everything we have been taught about equality and freedom for women being good was a lie that was intentionally pushed to destroy western civilization. That's too much for most normies to wrap their minds around so they just call you names instead.
@@therearenoshortcuts9868 That's right, you can see some shit coming 10 years in advanced & it won't reach surface level until a decade later. People will start debating it, 10 years too late.
Know ya worth Kings. NEVER EVER COMMIT TO A SINGLE MOM
That should be rule number one. Even my mother told me to never do it, she said run the other way
Such a good comment section. Thanks for sharing, fellow men. Personally I'm 31, got bullied at school and was really bad most of my life with girls and throughout the last years I really got a grip by facing lots of inner demons and both inner and outer big challenges (sometimes it's been quite horrible honestly, but also I've experienced lots of truly amazing wonderful blissful moments while developing my social and relational skills. Now I'm quite attractive despite I'm quite broke, and I have a mostly good, sometimes amazing, quite stable but sometimes still very difficult and challenging relationship with a woman my age and she might be the mother of my kids. First time living together with a partner for both and we're learning a lot together. No one said it would be easy. But it's definitely worth it, I think.
Wishing us all the best, truly. Keep it up, warriors.
I’m happy for you brother. I hope one day (the sooner the better) I can experience what it is like to be in a loving and stable long term relationship.
Man i just saw the " First time living together with a partner" and i felt the pain for your future self. find a reason and live seperatly. No relationship holds while co habiting that or she will make you her beta while fucking alphas on the side
Love finds us when we're not looking. Living with someone is the best indicator of whether you can be with them. Conflict resolution redlining on occasion is perfectly normal as long as each time you're there it's not because of the same shit
@@bennycb6256me too man because I can’t win for lose and I’m only 23 being single for 4 years now
^^^
It's funny how this random JR video with shitty quality just has all these dudes calling out woman/ society for its shit.
I'm tired of being gaslit by woman when I mention basic truths.