You missed his point because you're borderline retarded. Of course it's better to be attractive. This video isn't saying that - it's simply giving people the insight that's often overlooked.
Yes, that is true. There's bad sides with everything. Same thing with money, people think there's only good sides that come with having money but there's always a different side of the coin. Thanks.
Im considered handsome. And have been most of my life and thank you for bringing up all those pains, im living extremely lonely, no friend s ,although ive had woman fighting for me most of my life, but i have been blessed with amazing woman as partners, i subbed. Great video. Very rare topic, of course not that many handsome or beautiful people. Keep it up man, your looks will make your channel blow up, just stay consistent ❤
Hey Josh, thank you so much for the kind words. People like you always make me keep going with the channel. Yes, the struggle is real for attractive people AND it is rarely mentioned (some of these beta males in the comments think I'm complaining or what have you but they completely miss the point of the video). Thanks for the sub as well!
As an attractive man l totaly agree with you with these struggles, l remember one time when l hooked up via a dating site with a woman, and when time came for us to exchange pictures, when she saw me she straigt up wrote to me : ''you a re probably full with STDs from all the women '' and after that started acting cold for no reason. l was blown away
You go Tim, yeah I found it tends to happen with insecure or unattractive women a lot, they are very quick to isolate themselves from you because they assume you're all this and that, and that you're probably gonna cheat. It's the same thing that happens when normies see a 9 or a 10 out of 10. Thanks for watching.
All facts! Being attractive combined with doing inner work to become your best version creates a lot of hate from others, especially insecure men. This is sometimes disguised as admiration or constant compliments but overtime, you will start to notice the more subtle jabs they take at you. They are comparing and secretly competing while smiling in your face. It's can be tricky to discern who is a true friend versus who just wants to be seen with you and share the spotlight. Many just want to experience even a minimal amount of attention that they see you getting from others. Little do they know how uncomfortable the constant attention and stares can make us feel. These days, I spend most of my free time completely alone and and working on myself and spirituality. I still socialize here and there but I am at a point in my life where I refuse to have a connection with anyone I sense isn't being genuine. I am kind and personable to the few people in my circle but I am by no means attached and will cut them off if I feel any disrespect or bad energy. I have learned to be my own best friend and life has never been more peaceful.
That's great to hear brother. Keep working on yourself. Yes, a lot of people will attempt to masquerade themselves as being your friend because they want your spotlight and the attention that you got and some will flatter you to appeal to you in a certain way, but deep down they don't like you and will pretend to be your buddy. This has happened to me so many times that I'm just like you, sometimes I feel jaded because most people are so underdeveloped and they can't make genuine connections anymore. Thanks for watching.
This is sooo true. Women and men alike expect me to be perfect. I am not allowed to have any mess ups. If I am on my game perfect they just get offended. It feels like lose lose
Yeah lol, they have these weird ass presuppositions about you and how you should be around them, and they forget really quickly that we're human too! Thanks!
When you're attractive, people can be almost desperate for you to not be intelligent or talented. When they discover that you are, things can get very weird. There's an attitude of "Stay in your lane." And it's general. If I had a nickel for everyone I'd ever heard try to argue that Elvis couldn't sing...
Yeah, do you know what's crazy. I'm not sure if this is a real story or not, but before Elvis became a singer, he used to be a truck driver and he had aspirations of becoming a singer, and his boss told him that his voiced was bad and that he would never amount to anything, and from various resources he had the same kinda attitude towards him by telling him he should stay in his lane. I'm glad Elvis ignored him and went on to become the most famous singer ever, along MJ. Never ever listen to people's opinion when it comes to your talent or potential, because you don't even know what you're capable of doing. Thanks for watching.
Most of those negatives go away if you're humble and down to earth. People will eventually lower their guard and treat you extra nice. I've experienced this myself
Yeah, once they get to know and you open yourself up then it will work, it's just the instant judgement and projection that people have of you when they first create an impression of you. But yes, their guard will lower down once they get to know you. Thanks for watching.
Not necessarily...I've been friendly and respectful to people around and they still wanted to attack me and slander my name...some people are just evil and pathetic!
Yes. Had people say to me ,, Man... I would never believe that i could be so wrong about anyone... '' Guy was simply disappointment that his judgement was so incorrect. BUT, with majority, they - take you for a fool if you come right away with low guard. It's complicated.
Another downside is that people copy you. Copy your style, the way you dress, the car you drive etc. They ask for advice and guidance, take it and never offer anything in return.
This is crazy because I’m not attractive but I’m not ugly. I know this because I’m very true to myself. And this is how people treat me 😤 as far as the downsides. The attractive people around me are treated like kings🤣. Just saying this has been my experience where ever I go for the most part. I’m believe what is being said here but interesting 🧐.
Okay, that's an interesting perspective you've shared here. Work on becoming better than them bro, use it as motivation to get better and you'll surpass them eventually, a lot of attractive people are lazy. Thanks for watching.
Currently I’ve been mostly dealing with the downside, the only positive I get is “choosing signals” but whenever I approach these same girls I get turned down, I tried different approaches where I don’t come off too “arrogant” but the same thing happens, I also get dirty looks by dudes pretty much everywhere I go lmao
It ain't as easy as people think especially when you leave highschool and enter the real world. People will try to put you down aka to "humble" you meanwhile you could be the kindest most approachable guy. Only way forward is to embrace it. Have an air of confidence and those who aren't threatened treat them nice.
If you doubt that you're attractive, you'll laugh because old women will tell you that you look like a movie star, but they'll be mad when they say it.and little kids and teenagers girls too, who can't wipe the smile off their face. Will smile at you and stare. Uglier women will just come out and say (when you're just making chit chat) that you're a good looking man because they feel have nothing to lose
Yeah that's right. You're an older gentleman so most likely women your age are a little bit more risky when they like you - seen the same pattern with older women when they like younger men, they don't think about it twice. Thanks for watching.
If you’re an attractive guy, it’s mostly old bitter women and other men who are jealous of you and treat you poorly, or women with major insecurity issues (they’ve been cheated on and dumped by a Chad, etc.) But most pretty women who aren’t too old will still treat you either very well or decent or okay. If you’re an attractive woman, most of the men will treat you well because they want to sleep with you. But most of the old jealous women or other pretty women who are competitive will treat you badly. So things are hard for attractive ppl because it’s mainly ppl of the same sex who are jealous of you due to competition. But the opposite sex will still treat you better than an ugly person of the opposite sex. So attractive ppl have a privilege and a curse. Men are usually the most jealous to attractive men I have noticed and treat them the worse. The fake alphas who try to challenge you, etc. That said, the lives of very attractive people on a net basis is still easier relative to ugly or average people when status and money are equated. And it is true that there are pretty women who don’t get approached by men, I don’t think it’s because most men are intimidated because they’re pretty. “Intimidated” is a very broad and loaded term. You can be intimidated for many different reasons. You can intimidated because a woman is hot. Or you can be intimidated because you know her standards are likely very high due to her beauty and so you’re intimidated for that reason, not her beauty itself. And in fact, the statistics show that women tend to date and marry up. And if they don’t they’re unhappy. So men do a logical assessment of probabilities and realize that in all likelihood that very hot woman has very high and unrealistic standards and that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Most men would actually rather mess with a 7 who desires them than a 10 who will have crazy standards. And I am sure there are very hot women who are very nice, but the issue is they see things from their vantage point of pretty privilege and not the average man’s vantage point so they’re a worlds apart and that can also intimidate a man. And rightfully so. Being intimidated can also be a logical and natural reaction. If you see a poisonous snake will you be intimidated by it? Yes. Logically so because you take the wrong move and it can kill you. So intimidation or fear can be a logical response that causes us to take intelligent actions for our own betterment. Same with fear. Not all fear is a bad thing. You should have a fear of doing a crime that could land you ten years because that fear keeps you out of jail. Lastly, how do you truly know those pretty/hot girls who say they don’t get approached to make any true assessment? There are many men who know very hot “girls next doors” types whom you would never look at and think they’re 304’s but they’re going clubbing and getting blown out every weekend or doing sex parties and don’t always talk about it. 0:55 But does she really have a very similar pattern or are you just projecting how you/men think onto those women? And I don’t discount she may think that way either, but that doesn’t show up in her actions because if it did, we wouldn’t see 50-70% of women chasing the top 20% of men. So clearly if they do think that initially, it goes through their head but then it’s an afterthought and she goes on to chase those guys because that’s what the numbers show. Very hot girls on average are not dating down. Some do for insecurity reasons, but they’re never truly satisfied or happy just like the woman who married a man who makes less than she does.
Those are some valid points you brought up there, thanks for that. It is true that majority of women only date up, which at the same time plays a subconscious role in most men's minds that she is out of his league, she has a bf or she's high maintenance etc, they keep telling themselves stories as to why she's not for him. And yes, most women do prefer to be with a 7 or lower because of what you stated above, they know she's not necessarily going to look up as much and she's less likely to cheat. In my experience, I found that the most beautiful women (8-10) tend to be more monogamous and committed in relationships than average looking girls. You would think the exact opposite in real life. It's probably due to the fact that when you're a guy that is on your way to be a top man, or maybe you're already at the top 1-2% she knows that you're valuable enough and the chance of her replacing you with a better dude is very slim, so she's less likely to cheat on you and look for an alternative. Sure, there's the occasional 304 who's a 8 or 9 but they tend to be rare, especially here in eastern europe. It might be different in the states and the western world.
Everything this guy said is on point about the dark side of being good-looking...I started watching this and when he said other men envy you, that held my attention. Then when he said loneliness is another part of it, I hit the subscribe button. The other thing that should be added to this is since most women can't take being rejected very well, when they see you as a good looking man and you reject the woman because you're not attracted to her, notice how some of them get jealous when they see you with other women and they also get angry at you because you rejected them. Imagine this happening in the workplace. Imagine you having a supervisor that you absolutely are not attracted to, imagine her being attracted to you and you having to deal with that all the time at work. Work can be the worst as a good-looking man.
Yes man, that's the worst position to be in. I never tried to date any girls from work cuz the consequences are just not worth it. So yeah, when you reject the girl that really likes you and she sees you with another girl that will really make her go crazy over you because people want what they can't have. Thanks for the sub, hope you enjoyed the video.
Honest man, great video. I think it is especially more difficult to handle if you werent as attractive before, and suddenly people react different to you and give you more attention and can put too much weight and presure on you, and as you said they often expect more from you than from "normies" (not to offend anyone). But then again the looks and percieved attention definently help getting the hotter chicks, so we shouldnt whine about it, also not saying we are. And it is good that you talk about some of the struggles that can come with it. Thanks👍
Thanks for watching man. Ya know what, strangers are usually more receptive to you than people that you used to know. Strangers will show you more love and support (like what's happening here on YT), it is a great plus though. It's the old buddies from high school or people that you used to know that are the most jealous and hateful for some weird reason. But I can imagine if you're more of a shy person and insecure, then it can be a big problem because people will have all these expectations about you when you're attractive.
Yes and I think that that is just another good opportunity to grow as a man and become more confident. Btw. I have not met up with the old buddies for a long time (also since I live in another country), but the two ones that I met one of them was really passive aggressive almost offensive towards me, even though I was being nice and honest, funnily enough he seemed to be almost the same somewhat degenerate normal guy as I remembered him from 4 years ago, haha I just realised now.
Yeah, most people will never change. It's crazy how once you progress you can't really look at your old buddies the exact same way. I had a similar situation not too long ago, chatted with a couple of high school buddies and they're still doing the same things like playing video games, watching netflix, working the same job etc. That's why it's important to find new and better friends as you reach the next level.
heavy on the hating men, but I never had problems with handsome and confident men, it's always some dude I barely knew about, with a bad physique and a lot of hate inside. Find your tribe, even if you have to be alone in the meantime, find women who will be confident enough to handle you, and enjoy life. Greetings from France
Yeah I'm the same way dude. Even before my glow up, I was never really hating on other handsome and successful men, it was always an inspiration to me. But sadly most men are not wired that way. Shout out to France bro, thanks for watching.
I never thought of myself as attractive, but I had to deal with all this crap as a youngster. Bitchy women harassment and stalking from men. People treating me as if I was a celebrity, wanting to know everything about me, being put on a pedestal and not being allowed to make a mistake. Life is far easier for average looking people.
Yeah, from your nickname it sounds like you're a woman. For sure, people think that life for handsome or attractive people is all sunshine and rainbows, and they assume it's just a walk in the park for us. No, it's the furthest from the truth. And especially hot women, they get a lot of jealousy and sarcastic remarks from ugly chicks all the time.
Although average in looks I noticed people are much more harsher towards me since getting jacked. If I make a mistake at a new job I get spoken to harsher than giving me the benefit of the doubt from other men.
Hey, thanks for watching man. I appreciate your support so far, tbh it's probably due to the fact that when you try many things at a young age you just grow wiser and more experienced than most people in your age group, sometimes I feel like a 40 year old man. 😂
@ you crushed this topic for sure this has been bothering me a lot. I moved to a smaller city and my life has gotten so much worse. When I lived in a world class city before I never had as many issues. But people are much more “average” here
That's not good man, ideally you should be in a place where you can level up or be in an environment that is congruent with what you want out of life. I'm also living in a smaller city now and I'm probably gonna move to the capital of Poland just to challenge myself more. The environment your in plays a major role in how far you'll come in life.
Great video bro. I consider my self attractive as well and I have noticed everything that you’ve stated in your videos is true. When I’m in public, usually around less attractive people. I feel like I’m stereotypically judged and treated differently just cause I may look different. I may sound self-centered however I’m genuinely a nice guy and I feel like I struggle socially just because the way I am.
Yes, it is usually the individuals from the same sex that treat you the harshest and are overly critical about everything you do. Women tend to like it more. Thanks.
omg don't get me started on the staring! im seriously getting paranoid everytime i leave my house. It's difficult going from invisible your whole life to people staring at you like you have something on your face. It makes my day if a girl gives me a smile or a long stare before she gets off the tube but most of the time i want to be left alone as i am an introvert. It is exhausting. The most annoying thing is attractive women feel entitled to your attention. As if you are automatically going to be thirsting for them.
This is definitely gonna go to a million views. Anyways, this was actually an eye opener for someone who's not attractive like you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Brother, you can always improve yourself. Thanks for the kind words and the compliment, I'm not perfect either lol. Everyone of us should strive for more. It's great to see that you're recognizing there's work to do. Let's go man!
@@rippedkodiak Thanks for the encouragement! I actually just recently started going back to the gym so I'm definitely looking to improve myself 💪 Wishing you the best as well 🙏 Cheers!
A problem i notice is when i meet women in places of constanly contact, like univeristiy, they are shy, but you can build conffort enviroment and all. The problem starts when you met her again and the they start acting shy agian, even if the last interaction go well and ending well, Its like all the progress get lost, and you have to start make the enviroment light and frendly from the begining. It takes me time and not taking personally, but i realized they not dislike you or hate they way you are, because if i talk with them enough time they get comfortable again and being open, and that is gradually, so now i dont see it as something bad, but i find exahusting be the one who have to make the interaction easy everytime, or at least during a period until finally we get more closed but at the end there are to much thoughts in the air wich makes pepole very insecure, even if the other person alredy stablish there are no problem .
Yes, because they perceive you as being better than them, you open them up each time and they feel safe, but then once you're gone they start talking with their friends and they most likely give them terrible dating advice of things like "Oh, don't talk to him, he's going to cheat" or "Oh, he's bangin' other chicks, ignore him", so they're probably dealing with mixed feelings and are hesitant because of it. It is a pain in the ass to be the main initiator every time but that's the role of a man, it's always been that way. Thanks.
Dealt with it all my life. People constantly from a far and near trying to take me down or take out. People expecting this insane high level of standards that I did in fact live up to back when I was your age. I could feel the envy. Feel the hate. Feel the jealousy. At 49 I still deal with the childish shit. I'm not proclaiming that I'm perfect as I've always been expected to be but rather I'm fed up and beyond done. I want to walk alone now and I do jot allow anyone near me anymore. I wasn't always this way. As you get older it will either serve you well if you are selfish but you stay grounded and a good man, you'll find yourself walking life alone. It's not easy but now I prefer it.
Yes man, life ain't easy. You can only really count on yourself at the end of the day, who the f*ck cares what people think of you? Let them hate and be jealous, you only live once. Thanks for watching.
I’m glad to see someone talking about this. In the gay world it’s a little different. Nice looking guys get insecure and start acting all diva because deep down while they don’t want someone ugly they don’t want their boyfriends to look better than them. Ugly men will treat you like a king but that’s only because they want to boost their own ego. All the rest of this is one hundred percent on point
4:42 men have basically never approached me in my entire life. I can count all the men who have ever tried to talk to me in public on one hand. I go around being nice to people, smiling, generally seeming pleasant. Not because I'm trying to, but because I genuinely feel that way. Maybe if I'd had a shitty look on my face and been a bitch, men would have been all over me. Probably. We'll never know. But when I hear men talk about how decent looking women have it so easy, I just laugh.
I think in general today, particularly in 2024 women rarely get approached on a daily basis as compared to let's say 10-20 years ago. Men are so accustomed to social media and dating apps that they don't wanna bother with cold approaching anymore, unless they get a little high and drunk then yeah, they might give it a shot because they're intoxicated. However, it is still rare today. If I see a girl I'm into in real life I always try to smile and have a little chat with her, it makes things so much easier once you break the ice initially. So many men have given up with women in the west it's wild.
@@rippedkodiak If western men don't start approaching women, they're going to lose them to foreign men, or just the few western men who are actually willing to make the moves. Thank God I'm old enough that none of it really matters to me anymore, but for the younger generation coming up today, they better start caring. So what if you get rejected, it's a numbers game. Burn through the rejections until you get some reciprocation. Pursuit of all kinds is the foundation of manhood. Don't let other men come and take what's yours. That's the true plan behind going your own way, 4B, and all the other ridiculous movements that have been fabricated and pushed on the masses. They weaken you and then come and take the loot. So many don't see the plan for what it is.
Yes, so many people are oblivious and distracted by what's going on, and they can't seem past it. Some people are meant to stay inside the Matrix. Dating like everything is really a numbers game at the end of the day. For those that do try, they'll get the most options and they'll improve the most which will then equal to them getting the most dates, kids etc. It's the pareto principle, 20% of men get 80% of women and vice versa. Thanks for watching.
Being good looking is not a skill. For many, it is unattainable and that's where the resentment comes from. You can improve your body with gym or do your hair/makeup but it's just polishing what is already there. The other thing is, relationships work better when the girl is hotter than the guy. The guy feels lucky and the girl doesn't feel insecure. The other thing I'll say is, for the men out there, women's perception of your attractiveness is not just physical. I was never conventionally "hot" but in my late 20's I just gave up and stopped caring, became indifferent to social outcomes, talked to everyone the same and no simping. That attitude was perceived as attractive and women came to me.
That's great to hear man. Yes, how you carry yourself plays a huge role in how attractive you are. It is not just how you look like in the face, it is the total package that you advertise to the public. There's a lot of good lookin' fellas who are shy and unconfident, and then when a guy who's a lesser attractive one comes around, but he's confident, charming and doesn't give af he's going to get way more chicks. Thanks for watching.
I worked my way from being a 7 to about an 8 or so in looks. Dating was a nightmare because every woman writes you off as a player. Though im married, women always tell me im handsome one minute then the next accuse me of cheating on my wife the next
I've always been tall and attractive, although I wouldn't say as much as you are. Over the years I've been ghosted, rejected, messed around, treated horribly by people who are jealous of my looks, etc. Most people just see you as a piece of meat and are not remotely interested in getting to know you.
Yes Lewis, that's the thing. Majority of people only see your looks as a thing, and completely ignore all the other things about your life. Like you can be a good man with skills and certain traits that nobody else has, but people will overlook them and only pay attention to your looks, like you're some sort of gold or what have you. It's annoying for the most part. Thanks for watching.
your best video ive seen, id like to add another big one and that is you will become a "mini celebrity" in your hometown or wherever you live...the smaller the town the worse it will be. lets say you move to a new town within months every girl in the town will know about you even if they havent seen you yet becasue you will be the talk of the town, you will know because complate strangers will look at you like they already know you. if you decide to date in this town every single girl in the town will know everything about you sexually - the good the bad and the ugly....damm bro just said the same thing at the end of the video
Thanks for watching man, hope you liked the video. Yes, if it's a very small town or village, all the girls will know who you are and they'll turn into mini like stalkers LMAO 🤣.
@@rippedkodiak you better perform well with the first girl or your life in that town is 100% over. no pressure 🙃though it works both ways if you perform well you will then have infinate options.
I'm a handsome guy, but far from the norm. I stopped cutting my hair when I was 15 now in my 30's and it's down to my arse. At one point in life I had load's of piercings but I kept losing them in moshing, getting into fights, also keeping them clean after healing. Then one day I took all my piercings out. Now I'm full of tattoos instead. I've had problems with drugs for a long time, mostly opiates and benzodiazepines I also used to get drunk a lot to the point I now have chronic alcoholic pancreatitis. Without going to far into details I'm in my 30's now, I'm a handsome, good looking also I'm cute looking guy. But I'm going to a place that helps people like myself with drugs and drink I also go to AA. In my mind all this makes me a turn off, although I'm one of the nicest guys you'd wish to meet. I went the store and a bunch of girls I'd say 18-23 with a crate of booze at the very most got all excited and immediately started talking to me asking me am I getting pissed tonight. However I'm in my 30's and I've only had 1 girlfriend. Because the others that liked me soon realized I was popping pills, getting drunk in the morning until night. I've suffered from depression, anxiety and derealization. I also have high functioning autism, but that interferes with social skills, for me at least. What I'm saying is from first look yeah I'm handsome. But super long hair on a guy isn't everybody's taste, tattoos are usually a love or hate thing, and my other struggles which I've mentioned.
The worst part is the hostility it comes from guys and girls I don't want to sleep with. And I get fired for random reasons that never make sense. And my friends family members (moms too) will flirt with me in front of my friends. And the guys who don't have animosity towards me try to impress me and it's really uncomfortable and cringe. Also people have an obsession with wanting me to think I'm on their level to make them feel good
Yeah, people will always try to attack your appearance and your looks to bring you down to their level. Or as soon as you show that you're proud of yourself they automatically assume you're an arrogant douche. Moms and milfs will flirt with you, that's legit lol 😂.
Being attractive can be a cross to bear, but you can learn and grow so much as a person from it. As a Christian, I do believe God uses this attribute as a positive tool to help keep you separate from the world. Knowing God is connected to being Holy and being Holy is connected to being set apart. Draw close to God and He will draw close to you. Be blessed you all! ✝️
@ You’re welcome brother. I believe you have a high purpose for your life. When you have the time, read the book of Hebrews in the New Testament. Take care.
I’m an ex model and most of my friends are ex models. I can tell you this and this is Fact. Handsome hetro men are preyed upon by GM in modeling industry esp, also hetro handsome men always have their masculinity challenged by men and women.
Yes, handsome men are in a different situation in life, like you've said yourself, we don't just have to deal with beta insecure males on a daily basis, but women (though I'd say it's a very small percentage cuz most women like attractive guys) will also try to sabotage you.
It feels weird to bring it up because self confidence these days is rare, but I have these issues and many don't talk about it alot because it seems cocky. I am 6,2 with curly hair and honestly a below average face, but i think the first two qualities outweigh the face. Either way, people treat me alot better since i glowed up, i grew from 5,4 and fat to 6,2 and skinny with decent muscle definition all within the span of 3 years ( 14-17 ) and onwards, and before the glow up I was treated by everyone like a disgusting subhuman monster. Nowadays, I'm still incredibly shocked that women will even want to talk to me, and when i'm on dates I made the mistake of bringing up my past because she just couldn't believe how bad I used to look, when I show any sign of insecurity people play it off like I'm a pick me or i'm fishing for compliments, when in reality I feel a sense of disconnect with my life and my look. I will never stop feeling the same way I used too, and many see me and think I'm always well off with life even though I'm struggling incredibly hard as I just turned 19.
Yes because you've gotten yourself to a higher position, you've level up your character and you can no longer look at your life the same way. And yeah, when you start talking about what made you unconfident in the past or even if you give yourself any type of self love publicly for your effort, almost immediately people will think you're bragging or that you're arrogant. Crazy how that works. Thanks for watching young man and keep working on yourself. Don't pay any attention to the negativity around you.
That’s the same way you will see skinny well toned girls that will have a beefy best friend that she hangs with all the time,, that way she feels like she don’t need to compete for the intention of the men they like
Yep, the slim toned attractive lady doesn't need to compete so much for the attention with other males when she's with her chunkier friend, thanks for watching.
Yo I have the same problems!!!! I actually left one of my jobs cause I was getting bullied like that recently! I'm very alone and I'm a handsome guy. Yeah all these things are true unfortunately.
You know it Cameron, it is something that very few people talk about. They only see the good sides of being handsome and ignore the bad that comes with it. We can be very lonely actually. Thanks!
Oh sh*t, yes that is a BIG ONE. I've seen some of these compilations of these old school hot celebrities when they used to be in their primes and to how they look like now and it is so depressing to see your beautiful body lose its shine and glamour and attractiveness as the years roll by. It is unfortunate, and I think every attractive person (man or woman) has to deal with it.
I absolutely completely ignore. Extremely looking women unless they look at me and smile or something like that. And it's because I know that they're already receiving way too much attention and I feel like they don't need even more of that attention from me because how much attention could one person possibly take? So I don't even bother with them. Also, if they're getting an extraordinary amount of attention from many many guys they've got loads to choose from and I don't want to be just another face in the crowd.
12:29- 12:36 This is a much needed video for me I'm really glad to come across this particular video today. Right from the start of the video the points you have talked about is one hundred 💯 % truth, Relatable especially when it comes to social life such as making friends it's really really hard to make a genuine friendship with people either you'll feel left out or still feel lonely even though you are with the group so called friends you can tell they don't vibe or don't talk to you as much as they do with others from the group before I use to think maybe it's cos of my social skills that I lack humor in my conversation or not funny enough but NO I was wrong and on the other hand You'll get tons and tons of attention from women everyday everywhere whether it is at University, Gym, Work, etc most of them are either intimidated or just want your attention and when you finally have the confidence and walk up to these girls you will be doing most of the talking she'll be nervous or give one word reply or never talk to you again the next time you see her. Sure Being Good Looking is really amazing in life but it's a lonely journey really hard to make friends.
Yes, agree with you 100% on what you said above. I was in the exact same boat, I used to believe that it was a problem with me, but once you become more self aware, you'll realize quickly that it was insecurity and lack of confidence from their side. Thanks for watching.
I think attitude and self-image is as important as objective reality in regards to how people's looks are judged. Some people feel attractive. This impacts their choice of clothing, hairstyle, the way they speak, etc. However it happens to be very difficult to feel attractive if you have not put any work into your physique and you eat cookies while watching TV all day long. It's partly because of the way you look objectively but also because of the feelings that these actions generate. As is the case in most areas in life, most ppl don't get anywhere near their maximum potential. I think the difference between most ppl's maximum and minimum potential is so great, that saying "this person is attractive/unattractive" is primarily based around their level of effort, even though of course genetics play a large role. Just not as large as most ppl think, IMO.
Believe me you don't want to be a sub5. Being invisible to everyone and getting threated badly just because the way you look is soul crushing.i would rather get superficial realitionship then nothing.
Being attractive has done nothing for me... I dont get treated any differently and woman usually dont care... Like ive gotten tons of compliments and been hit on by attractive females but most of the time im ignored by woman and treated like shit.
@rippedkodiak Yeah that's what it is. I'm shy and usually don't know how to talk to woman. But I also have come across a lot of narcissistic woman who won't give you the time of day, like their standards are chads and I'm attractive but not a Chad...
they expect you a Handsome man to be righteous, but they are disappointed that you are only kind and nice. the joke hence "looks like an angel but isn't one..." the-same with people who like strong and very unbothered, not merciful and many are scary-looking, so people might be disappointed that they are not wicked but only nice and kind. the joke hence "looks like a villain but isn't one..."
Yeah, people have all types of stories and certain prejudices about how a handsome man is supposed to behave, act and be and then if it fails, they are very quick to judge and point out his flaws. Thanks.
@@k8van420 same here... I always get compliments and I've gotten some female validation for the compliments but I'm ignored by woman the majority of the time.. A lot of woman are narcissistic haters so I wouldn't take it personally.
@@GregAnderson-s7d yeah most of the time they get interested first and give me compliments like “you’re hot” but every time I try to care or just show true me they just get turned off, so yeah maybe I understood the game
Interesting video^ right now the problem for me is that woman have a certain expectation for me to be comforterble around them and are left confused when i dont know what the f to do when i like one. Im just trying to find a real one, but this goes in conflict with the dating scene in what is offered. Also people are genuinly suprised if you have a low body count which is laugheble to me. Spelling 100*
Yeah man, it is not an easy task to find a good loyal woman. I strongly believe that if you know what you're looking for and you go for it, you'll find someone eventually. Thanks for watching.
Being unattractive comes with bigger downsides. Get rejected for everything....jobs, friends, dating, lonely AF. An attractive person can make themselves less attractive. But ugly you're stuck with it. And your point about attractive women who are lonely and never get approached. In my experience if you're not in their league, they look at you with disgust. I've hung out with attractive dudes and they get it easy.
Oh sheesh yes, things are wild in the hood when someone is about to really level up, you see so many examples and tragic stories of famous actors, athletes or upcoming singers in the black community that got assaulted or shot because they got out the hood. Thanks for watching.
Although I am an average dude, I can attest that it applies to women. Way before teaching, I worked in a company that was run by women. The women in the higher up positions would always fire the good looking women. To add, my wife (Phoebe Cates look alike) faced tons of hate from her co-workers for "no reason" and she still does. I think envy and jealousy exist in bad human beings.
@@jakubzajac8585 Well said. The thing is when it takes over, I would not consider them good anymore. I stay away from the very family that I grew up with for that very reason.
Yes, women go through the same sh*t as well, they will always look down on women that are more attractive than them. I've learned that only guys should really judge a woman's appearance, and vice versa, only women should rate guys on their looks because men will lower your looks just to make themselves feel better. Thanks for watching.
Great perspective. I've gotten some of this for being really tall (I'm 6'5" as well). Always been like this, lol. It's the crabs in a bucket mindset. PS. you look like David Hasselhoff!
Haha thanks for watching, tbh I wouldn't change my height for anything, that's another privilege some of us have that is a big thing nowadays. Thanks for the compliment, never got that one before 😂 . "Don't hassle the hoff!", hope you enjoyed the video.
It depends on who you're talking to. Attractive girls imo like handsome guys more because there's the status element to it (aka "I have him, he's mine and he's a chad, no other girl can touch him") and it is something a lot of women want, but will never admit it. So it's a status symbol for a lot of them, especially if she considers herself a high value woman. The less attractive girls, or normies will get more insecure about the fact that you're above them and there's that fear factor that comes with it, aka "Oh, he's going on this business trip, I'm not sure if he's going to sleep with someone there, let me call him etc". They tend to be the most insecure ones because they know you have the ability to pull other women. Thanks for watching.
That unwanted attention is annoying sometimes for real. I lost some weight last year and it brought up hollow cheeks for me and oh boy the attention I started getting went up by like 10x, having wide decently defined jaw and thick dark eyebrows might have something to do with this also. Then there is the clear intimidation you can see on other men, even some that are taller than I am, or even groups of men. Just staring and you can feel the hostility and jealousy out of them. Just few days ago was walking towards grocery store and a group of 4 men around same age as me walked towards me. And each one of them just started staring at me and I could see their faces go "who the hell he thinks he is", I was just looking forwards but could clearly see from corner of my eye. It's just mind boggling for me how even some muscular good looking guys can be so jealous, just because I have few really masculine well defined traits on my face that they don't have. And then ofc there are the people who just want to be nice towards ya, but they have no intention of even trying to get to know you. There are some men who are circling around me, trying to get me to attend all kind of parties and gatherings with them, but I'm not that interested usually to go out with them because they are quite frankly told just your usual bums. I just tell them always the same line "I promise nothing but if I got motivation and time I might come", which is like 95% of the time no, or I really have something better to do. These 2 bums tried to get me to join them in a nightclub just few weeks ago, but I told them that I literally got 0 interest to go into that said nightclub. And they're not even the freaking first bum's who have tried to get me to come with them into a bar or nightclub. So many annoying things and incidents I could write about here and have actually written a lot of stuff what has happened to me and what kind of reactions I've had from people into this one anonymous chatting board that is in my language and usually people don't believe me, or just call everything BS because it has never happened to them.
Good stuff man that you're improving yourself. Yes, and you can look at your life through a different lense now which can only happen once you level up in life. Congratulations. Yeah, it is weird to get that beta male competitive energy from other men, but just remember that it is a good sign. It is just negative energy and vibes from the other party, it is not a problem with you (a lot of people, especially narcissists will blame you for it), so ignore it and use it to fuel you. Thanks for watching.
Jesteś przystojny i atrakcyjny bo masz polskie geny. ☺☺W Polsce jest od cholery przystojniaków. No i bardzo wielu facetów dba o siebie, nawet jak wykonują brudne fizyczne zawody i może dlatego u nas tak to do końca nie działa. 😊😊
Dzieki, haha te polskie geny 🤣🤣. Ta, napewno sa. Wydaje mi sie ze jest ich zdecydowanie mniej np w porownaniu do miejsc jak np. Skandynawii. Tez w PL jest tak ze nie kladzie sie taki duzy nacisk na dbanie o siebie w porownaniu do innych krajow. Pozdrawiam.
@@rippedkodiak O to byś się bratku mocno pomylił. Nie przyglądasz się facetom bo sam nim jesteś, a ja jestem kobietą to wiem co piszę. No i się wydało, że jestem babą, a bardzo to ukrywam w necie. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tylko mnie nie demaskuj jak ci jeszcze coś kiedyś napiszę. ☺☺☺☺☺☺
@@rippedkodiak Ja chodzę po kanałach naukowych, a tu trafiłam przypadkiem i coś mnie podkusiło aby ci odpisać w ramach rozrywki. Zresztą słowo man w języku angielskim oznacza też człowieka, a kobieta jest człowiekiem, czy nie jest? 😂😂 No dobra, wystarczy już tego śmieszkowania. Idę do swoich zajęć, bywaj. 👋👋😊😊
My polacy to ogolnie brzydale, a na pewno przy skandynawach. Kolega z video wczesniej powiedzial, ze mezczyzni w Polsce nie dbaja o swoj wyglad (video o plusach i minusach zycia w Polsce), wiec niestety nie trafilas.
THERE ARE NO DOWNSIDES IN BEING ATTRACTIVE‼️‼️‼️‼️ ONLY A BUNCH OF HATERS TO CONFIRM TO YOU DAILY THAT YOU'RE THE MFING MAN, YOU GOT IT AND THEY AIN'T‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
You are right on point with this video! I dealt with this my entire long life. I still deal with it and I am over 50 now, but most folks think I am in my 30's. When I was very young, I always received sneers and women would rudely gasp and spite at me. Most folks that know me love me to pieces. I don't care what anyone thinks about me never have. I just hated the disrespectful behavior from strangers. Men experience this to, I have seen very handsome men be treated poorly. I am lonely but prefer it that way. I have been given things for free, but I appreciate everyone who has been very generous toward me. I don't talk about this on my TH-cam channels. lol! You just have to get to the point where you don't give a rats diddley poo poo what others think about you.
You know what's crazy, I found that the hate tends to come mostly from the same gender, aka if you're a handsome man (8 and up) you get hate and envy from other men and vice versa, if you're a beautiful lady then you most likely only really receive hate and bad vibes from less attractive women. Women tend to like handsome guys, they may be a little hesitant if they're a little shy but they enjoy their presence. You only really have yourself at the end of the day, and what matters the most is that you like who you are and are proud of yourself if you're doing good deeds and being the best human being around others. The rest and all the gossip that the internet wants to talk about you is irrelevant. Thanks for watching.
I probably agree with most of what u said about what an attractive person goes through in terms of negative experiences in life. probably why I got treated poorly and got nagged very negatively by ex bosses (I hope they get exactly what they deserved). Nagging that is basically harassment, a lot of talking down on you, belittling of your work, I had a boss that harassed me after a certain period I was at the job for every mistake I was making at the job - critical as fuck. After a certain time in the evening he sent me non stop messages through whatsup in order to tell me what I did wrong and what he expected of me at the job. untiol I couldn't take it anymore and shouted my lungs out at him, which of course he told me I need to control my anger issues, yes obviously I have anger issues when I have a rude son of a bitch messaging me non stop messages after work and basically braking me apart, yes obviously.. idiot.. anyway, I had to block him on my phone because the guy would not stop messaging me. he also was the only boss I had who would would want to schedule teem meeting for the company at fucking 8:00 in the morning.
Damn, that takes it to another level. Crazy how some people in positions of power can behave like that to an employee, people will harass you and belittle you nonstop when you're better looking. I've experienced similar treatments so many times in my life. Thanks for watching bro.
@@rippedkodiak I can't obviously tell you 100% that the reason I got treated poorly in my life is because I'm good looking, but I know I'm one of the "chosen ones" not to brag or condescend - for better and worse, I just know I got treated poorly in my life and I have tried figuring out why my entire life. It definitely can come from jealousy- the one that flies under the radar. I know I pissed a lot of people off when I just interacted with them, I just tried to introduce myself to them and I would get mean looks man. I felt a lot in my life that the world was against me and was out to get me for no reason - I'm a very good person and I would get treated badly by a lot of people. but yet again, this world is dark so.. when you're a good person and you want to spread good energy, people want to destroy the good so..
Yes, people would much rather deal with fake people so they can be lied and placated to, instead of dealing with someone who's real and authentic. Sad world we're living in now.
I know,a woman who is very attractive, and she gets attention from men. I said to her how do you feel about that. She said it can be offensive. She's never sure if the guy wants to get to know her as a person or they just are seeking something sexual from her. It doesn't mean anything being attractive. It's not important.
Yeah in general women receive so much attention nowadays it is wild. They're inundated with it to the point where it is like a drug to them (not saying that's the case with the one you know). Yes, it is a challenge for attractive people. Thanks for watching.
When you said that they only want you around as social proof and pretend to want you around, that hurt. This is one of the main reasons I just ended a 12 year old friendship because I started to sense this. My buddy would always tell me how nice I always dress, that I had the nicest haircuts, and how I had a clean face (I used to have cystic acne when we first became friends). I soon started to notice him becoming spiteful when I would get compliments, and hated me being around his girlfriend even though I would never dare to make any type of advance. My friend was a bit of an insecure guy too, but this all only got worse the last few years. My last couple of jobs I got hit on hard after working with all girls. My current one they brush me aside. I work in an all female department but this one is different because I can tell they’re all insecure too. I can tell they try treating me like shit, but due to my past experience I actually deliver when I get assigned projects. You hit the nail on the head my guy, I relate all too well. The best thing to apply is humility in these instances. Thank you for sharing your perspective
Thanks for watching and for telling your story here. Yes, that's what is going to happen ultimately, the people in your circle will either level up with you or stay in their own lane... Can't do anything about it brother. Some people are meant to lose, and some people are gonna be winners no matter what. Learned that lesson too the hard way. Just focus on you and find people who are on the same mission as you (like this channel, other channels, communities etc). 97-98% of humans don't change unfortunately.
The one about getting too much attention is the big one for me. Picture this I’m at a investing event there are about 300-500 people there the speaker says to the audience and I quote.” Not all of us in the room have it easy in life we are not blessed with good looks like Rudy over there points at me then continues”. I once spoke at an event and when announced the chairman says look at this man he is so handsome. My speech was on real estate not looks. Then to make matters worse the guy who spoke after me was so outclassed by me he actually asked the crowd to clap for him he said please audience give me a round of applause. The meeting ended and I was mobbed by women. Most of the men hated me especially the ones there with their wife no one would do business with me but only one guy. The women that were there the 10s all avoided me like I had the plague. And when I say Avoid it was noticeable . I’m older they you so I have more years of experience it’s to the point most people wouldn’t believe all the things I’ve experienced being a handsome man Truth it’s a bit lonely most of the time. But I still wouldn’t trad places with anyone.
Haha yes, it is crazy how that works. It's funny how that man after you got his ass kicked and he wanted the standing ovation... Yes, people can be so shallow and only focus on our appearance and completely overlook the fact that we are competent, intelligent, capable, skilled or what have you. It's ludicrous how some men can treat you just because you're better looking than them, they can't see past their weaknesses. Looks are not everything, but they're so insecure and weird about everything that it makes no sense at all. I'm the same way dude, I wouldn't trade places with anyone either. Thanks!
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Whatever you say it's better to be handsome than the alternative. If you have to choose you'd rather be handsome than ugly.
You missed his point because you're borderline retarded.
Of course it's better to be attractive. This video isn't saying that - it's simply giving people the insight that's often overlooked.
Yes, that is true. There's bad sides with everything. Same thing with money, people think there's only good sides that come with having money but there's always a different side of the coin. Thanks.
Im considered handsome. And have been most of my life and thank you for bringing up all those pains, im living extremely lonely, no friend s ,although ive had woman fighting for me most of my life, but i have been blessed with amazing woman as partners, i subbed. Great video. Very rare topic, of course not that many handsome or beautiful people. Keep it up man, your looks will make your channel blow up, just stay consistent ❤
Hey Josh, thank you so much for the kind words. People like you always make me keep going with the channel. Yes, the struggle is real for attractive people AND it is rarely mentioned (some of these beta males in the comments think I'm complaining or what have you but they completely miss the point of the video). Thanks for the sub as well!
As an attractive man l totaly agree with you with these struggles, l remember one time when l hooked up via a dating site with a woman, and when time came for us to exchange pictures, when she saw me she straigt up wrote to me : ''you a re probably full with STDs from all the women '' and after that started acting cold for no reason. l was blown away
You go Tim, yeah I found it tends to happen with insecure or unattractive women a lot, they are very quick to isolate themselves from you because they assume you're all this and that, and that you're probably gonna cheat. It's the same thing that happens when normies see a 9 or a 10 out of 10. Thanks for watching.
Even worse they think overly attractive men are gay 😂
@@rippedkodiakYou’re wrong. Even very attractive women can be insecure.
People just easy to judge other nowadays, it's sucks. No more positive vibe.
All facts! Being attractive combined with doing inner work to become your best version creates a lot of hate from others, especially insecure men. This is sometimes disguised as admiration or constant compliments but overtime, you will start to notice the more subtle jabs they take at you. They are comparing and secretly competing while smiling in your face. It's can be tricky to discern who is a true friend versus who just wants to be seen with you and share the spotlight. Many just want to experience even a minimal amount of attention that they see you getting from others. Little do they know how uncomfortable the constant attention and stares can make us feel.
These days, I spend most of my free time completely alone and and working on myself and spirituality. I still socialize here and there but I am at a point in my life where I refuse to have a connection with anyone I sense isn't being genuine. I am kind and personable to the few people in my circle but I am by no means attached and will cut them off if I feel any disrespect or bad energy. I have learned to be my own best friend and life has never been more peaceful.
That's great to hear brother. Keep working on yourself. Yes, a lot of people will attempt to masquerade themselves as being your friend because they want your spotlight and the attention that you got and some will flatter you to appeal to you in a certain way, but deep down they don't like you and will pretend to be your buddy. This has happened to me so many times that I'm just like you, sometimes I feel jaded because most people are so underdeveloped and they can't make genuine connections anymore. Thanks for watching.
This is sooo true. Women and men alike expect me to be perfect. I am not allowed to have any mess ups. If I am on my game perfect they just get offended. It feels like lose lose
Yeah lol, they have these weird ass presuppositions about you and how you should be around them, and they forget really quickly that we're human too! Thanks!
When you're attractive, people can be almost desperate for you to not be intelligent or talented. When they discover that you are, things can get very weird. There's an attitude of "Stay in your lane."
And it's general. If I had a nickel for everyone I'd ever heard try to argue that Elvis couldn't sing...
Yeah, do you know what's crazy. I'm not sure if this is a real story or not, but before Elvis became a singer, he used to be a truck driver and he had aspirations of becoming a singer, and his boss told him that his voiced was bad and that he would never amount to anything, and from various resources he had the same kinda attitude towards him by telling him he should stay in his lane. I'm glad Elvis ignored him and went on to become the most famous singer ever, along MJ. Never ever listen to people's opinion when it comes to your talent or potential, because you don't even know what you're capable of doing. Thanks for watching.
I liked listening to you and hearing this perspective from a guy, it's rare to hear. You're eloquent and you are getting your points across
Hey Amanda, thanks for the kind words. Hope you enjoyed the video so far.
Sometimes people will hate you and make it obvious. If they always did this secretly...
Yeah, life would be so much easier wouldn't it! Thanks.
I want to have these problems!!
If given a choice you too would rather go through this than the alternative!
I dunno man, we all go through problems at the end of the day. Thanks for watching!
Most of those negatives go away if you're humble and down to earth. People will eventually lower their guard and treat you extra nice.
I've experienced this myself
Yeah, once they get to know and you open yourself up then it will work, it's just the instant judgement and projection that people have of you when they first create an impression of you. But yes, their guard will lower down once they get to know you. Thanks for watching.
Not necessarily...I've been friendly and respectful to people around and they still wanted to attack me and slander my name...some people are just evil and pathetic!
True, some people can't see past their own weaknesses and it is so obvious.
Yes. Had people say to me ,, Man... I would never believe that i could be so wrong about anyone... '' Guy was simply disappointment that his judgement was so incorrect.
BUT, with majority, they - take you for a fool if you come right away with low guard.
It's complicated.
Another downside is that people copy you. Copy your style, the way you dress, the car you drive etc. They ask for advice and guidance, take it and never offer anything in return.
Yes that's a big one too, they'll imitate everything you do, because they secretly admire you and wanna be like you. Have you experienced this too?
@@rippedkodiak yes I have. It's put a strain on a few friendships over the years.
That means you're doing some good bro, focus on you like always.
I can understand !!!
Sometimes it doesn't matter how good looking you are or others are, when u love someone so perfect, u just don't care !!!
Yep, that's true bro. Thanks.
This is crazy because I’m not attractive but I’m not ugly. I know this because I’m very true to myself. And this is how people treat me 😤 as far as the downsides. The attractive people around me are treated like kings🤣. Just saying this has been my experience where ever I go for the most part. I’m believe what is being said here but interesting 🧐.
Okay, that's an interesting perspective you've shared here. Work on becoming better than them bro, use it as motivation to get better and you'll surpass them eventually, a lot of attractive people are lazy. Thanks for watching.
Currently I’ve been mostly dealing with the downside, the only positive I get is “choosing signals” but whenever I approach these same girls I get turned down, I tried different approaches where I don’t come off too “arrogant” but the same thing happens, I also get dirty looks by dudes pretty much everywhere I go lmao
Your personality is probably too good natured and that gets people to think you're arrogant too
it sucks people are so prejudice and assume attractive people have it easy. its not always the case at all
Yeah, they always have these thoughts about you before they meet you, let them do that, you focus on you. Thanks.
It ain't as easy as people think especially when you leave highschool and enter the real world. People will try to put you down aka to "humble" you meanwhile you could be the kindest most approachable guy.
Only way forward is to embrace it. Have an air of confidence and those who aren't threatened treat them nice.
This is so true. I have experienced every single thing mentioned in this video😢
That means you're doing something good man, keep working and improving yourself!
If you doubt that you're attractive, you'll laugh because old women will tell you that you look like a movie star, but they'll be mad when they say it.and little kids and teenagers girls too, who can't wipe the smile off their face. Will smile at you and stare.
Uglier women will just come out and say (when you're just making chit chat) that you're a good looking man because they feel have nothing to lose
Yeah that's right. You're an older gentleman so most likely women your age are a little bit more risky when they like you - seen the same pattern with older women when they like younger men, they don't think about it twice. Thanks for watching.
If you’re an attractive guy, it’s mostly old bitter women and other men who are jealous of you and treat you poorly, or women with major insecurity issues (they’ve been cheated on and dumped by a Chad, etc.) But most pretty women who aren’t too old will still treat you either very well or decent or okay.
If you’re an attractive woman, most of the men will treat you well because they want to sleep with you. But most of the old jealous women or other pretty women who are competitive will treat you badly.
So things are hard for attractive ppl because it’s mainly ppl of the same sex who are jealous of you due to competition. But the opposite sex will still treat you better than an ugly person of the opposite sex.
So attractive ppl have a privilege and a curse. Men are usually the most jealous to attractive men I have noticed and treat them the worse. The fake alphas who try to challenge you, etc.
That said, the lives of very attractive people on a net basis is still easier relative to ugly or average people when status and money are equated.
And it is true that there are pretty women who don’t get approached by men, I don’t think it’s because most men are intimidated because they’re pretty.
“Intimidated” is a very broad and loaded term. You can be intimidated for many different reasons. You can intimidated because a woman is hot. Or you can be intimidated because you know her standards are likely very high due to her beauty and so you’re intimidated for that reason, not her beauty itself.
And in fact, the statistics show that women tend to date and marry up. And if they don’t they’re unhappy. So men do a logical assessment of probabilities and realize that in all likelihood that very hot woman has very high and unrealistic standards and that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Most men would actually rather mess with a 7 who desires them than a 10 who will have crazy standards.
And I am sure there are very hot women who are very nice, but the issue is they see things from their vantage point of pretty privilege and not the average man’s vantage point so they’re a worlds apart and that can also intimidate a man. And rightfully so. Being intimidated can also be a logical and natural reaction. If you see a poisonous snake will you be intimidated by it? Yes. Logically so because you take the wrong move and it can kill you.
So intimidation or fear can be a logical response that causes us to take intelligent actions for our own betterment. Same with fear. Not all fear is a bad thing. You should have a fear of doing a crime that could land you ten years because that fear keeps you out of jail.
Lastly, how do you truly know those pretty/hot girls who say they don’t get approached to make any true assessment?
There are many men who know very hot “girls next doors” types whom you would never look at and think they’re 304’s but they’re going clubbing and getting blown out every weekend or doing sex parties and don’t always talk about it.
0:55 But does she really have a very similar pattern or are you just projecting how you/men think onto those women?
And I don’t discount she may think that way either, but that doesn’t show up in her actions because if it did, we wouldn’t see 50-70% of women chasing the top 20% of men.
So clearly if they do think that initially, it goes through their head but then it’s an afterthought and she goes on to chase those guys because that’s what the numbers show. Very hot girls on average are not dating down. Some do for insecurity reasons, but they’re never truly satisfied or happy just like the woman who married a man who makes less than she does.
Those are some valid points you brought up there, thanks for that. It is true that majority of women only date up, which at the same time plays a subconscious role in most men's minds that she is out of his league, she has a bf or she's high maintenance etc, they keep telling themselves stories as to why she's not for him.
And yes, most women do prefer to be with a 7 or lower because of what you stated above, they know she's not necessarily going to look up as much and she's less likely to cheat. In my experience, I found that the most beautiful women (8-10) tend to be more monogamous and committed in relationships than average looking girls. You would think the exact opposite in real life. It's probably due to the fact that when you're a guy that is on your way to be a top man, or maybe you're already at the top 1-2% she knows that you're valuable enough and the chance of her replacing you with a better dude is very slim, so she's less likely to cheat on you and look for an alternative. Sure, there's the occasional 304 who's a 8 or 9 but they tend to be rare, especially here in eastern europe. It might be different in the states and the western world.
Everything this guy said is on point about the dark side of being good-looking...I started watching this and when he said other men envy you, that held my attention. Then when he said loneliness is another part of it, I hit the subscribe button. The other thing that should be added to this is since most women can't take being rejected very well, when they see you as a good looking man and you reject the woman because you're not attracted to her, notice how some of them get jealous when they see you with other women and they also get angry at you because you rejected them. Imagine this happening in the workplace. Imagine you having a supervisor that you absolutely are not attracted to, imagine her being attracted to you and you having to deal with that all the time at work. Work can be the worst as a good-looking man.
Dude same..
Yes man, that's the worst position to be in. I never tried to date any girls from work cuz the consequences are just not worth it. So yeah, when you reject the girl that really likes you and she sees you with another girl that will really make her go crazy over you because people want what they can't have. Thanks for the sub, hope you enjoyed the video.
@ Very good video. You should do more like it…
Thx bro, hope you liked the video.
Honest man, great video. I think it is especially more difficult to handle if you werent as attractive before, and suddenly people react different to you and give you more attention and can put too much weight and presure on you, and as you said they often expect more from you than from "normies" (not to offend anyone). But then again the looks and percieved attention definently help getting the hotter chicks, so we shouldnt whine about it, also not saying we are. And it is good that you talk about some of the struggles that can come with it. Thanks👍
Thanks for watching man. Ya know what, strangers are usually more receptive to you than people that you used to know. Strangers will show you more love and support (like what's happening here on YT), it is a great plus though. It's the old buddies from high school or people that you used to know that are the most jealous and hateful for some weird reason. But I can imagine if you're more of a shy person and insecure, then it can be a big problem because people will have all these expectations about you when you're attractive.
Yes and I think that that is just another good opportunity to grow as a man and become more confident. Btw. I have not met up with the old buddies for a long time (also since I live in another country), but the two ones that I met one of them was really passive aggressive almost offensive towards me, even though I was being nice and honest, funnily enough he seemed to be almost the same somewhat degenerate normal guy as I remembered him from 4 years ago, haha I just realised now.
Yeah, most people will never change. It's crazy how once you progress you can't really look at your old buddies the exact same way. I had a similar situation not too long ago, chatted with a couple of high school buddies and they're still doing the same things like playing video games, watching netflix, working the same job etc. That's why it's important to find new and better friends as you reach the next level.
heavy on the hating men, but I never had problems with handsome and confident men, it's always some dude I barely knew about, with a bad physique and a lot of hate inside. Find your tribe, even if you have to be alone in the meantime, find women who will be confident enough to handle you, and enjoy life. Greetings from France
Yeah I'm the same way dude. Even before my glow up, I was never really hating on other handsome and successful men, it was always an inspiration to me. But sadly most men are not wired that way. Shout out to France bro, thanks for watching.
I never thought of myself as attractive, but I had to deal with all this crap as a youngster. Bitchy women harassment and stalking from men. People treating me as if I was a celebrity, wanting to know everything about me, being put on a pedestal and not being allowed to make a mistake. Life is far easier for average looking people.
Yeah, from your nickname it sounds like you're a woman. For sure, people think that life for handsome or attractive people is all sunshine and rainbows, and they assume it's just a walk in the park for us. No, it's the furthest from the truth. And especially hot women, they get a lot of jealousy and sarcastic remarks from ugly chicks all the time.
Thanks bro . Speaking facts.. and your american accent is very good! Stay strong bro...
Haha thanks bro, I try my best to speak in the best way possible here. A lot of people think I'm half American 😂
You're spot on on everything!
Thanks for watching, hope you enjoyed it
Although average in looks I noticed people are much more harsher towards me since getting jacked. If I make a mistake at a new job I get spoken to harsher than giving me the benefit of the doubt from other men.
Yes, attractive people get judged and criticized more harshly from people of the same gender. Thanks for watching.
Man you have wisdom beyond your years.
Hey, thanks for watching man. I appreciate your support so far, tbh it's probably due to the fact that when you try many things at a young age you just grow wiser and more experienced than most people in your age group, sometimes I feel like a 40 year old man. 😂
This video is so accurate for my life great content! This hits home on so many fronts friends, women everything is spot on!
Hey bro glad you liked it, I tried my best here. Thanks.
@ you crushed this topic for sure this has been bothering me a lot. I moved to a smaller city and my life has gotten so much worse. When I lived in a world class city before I never had as many issues. But people are much more “average” here
That's not good man, ideally you should be in a place where you can level up or be in an environment that is congruent with what you want out of life. I'm also living in a smaller city now and I'm probably gonna move to the capital of Poland just to challenge myself more. The environment your in plays a major role in how far you'll come in life.
bro you be spittin facts
Thanks for watchin' bro, hope you enjoyed the video.
Bro looks like Leon S kennedy
I got no idea who that is man, but thanks for the compliment 😂
@@rippedkodiak The character from Resident Evil.
Ya just looked him up, Idk why people think that 😂
Great video bro. I consider my self attractive as well and I have noticed everything that you’ve stated in your videos is true. When I’m in public, usually around less attractive people. I feel like I’m stereotypically judged and treated differently just cause I may look different. I may sound self-centered however I’m genuinely a nice guy and I feel like I struggle socially just because the way I am.
Yes, it is usually the individuals from the same sex that treat you the harshest and are overly critical about everything you do. Women tend to like it more. Thanks.
Yea thats true theres alot of people that will envy you even your own friends they will secretly hate on u
Yes, you'll never really know if they're there for you or because just enjoy your appearance. Thanks.
@rippedkodiak for real bro 💯 keep dropping knowledge man I subbed to u already
Thanks bro, glad you like the content.
omg don't get me started on the staring! im seriously getting paranoid everytime i leave my house. It's difficult going from invisible your whole life to people staring at you like you have something on your face. It makes my day if a girl gives me a smile or a long stare before she gets off the tube but most of the time i want to be left alone as i am an introvert. It is exhausting. The most annoying thing is attractive women feel entitled to your attention. As if you are automatically going to be thirsting for them.
Yeah, and then when you don't want them, they'll automatically assume that you're either a dick or a b*tch. Thanks for watching.
I thought I was alone in this
You're not bro, we're all in this together.
true im attractive and told i have 'sex appeal' women stare and second looks at me, makes me uncomrtable
That's good to hear men, keep working on yourself. Thanks.
This is definitely gonna go to a million views. Anyways, this was actually an eye opener for someone who's not attractive like you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Brother, you can always improve yourself. Thanks for the kind words and the compliment, I'm not perfect either lol. Everyone of us should strive for more. It's great to see that you're recognizing there's work to do. Let's go man!
@@rippedkodiak Thanks for the encouragement! I actually just recently started going back to the gym so I'm definitely looking to improve myself 💪 Wishing you the best as well 🙏 Cheers!
Good luck to you bro, stay strong!
A problem i notice is when i meet women in places of constanly contact, like univeristiy, they are shy, but you can build conffort enviroment and all. The problem starts when you met her again and the they start acting shy agian, even if the last interaction go well and ending well, Its like all the progress get lost, and you have to start make the enviroment light and frendly from the begining. It takes me time and not taking personally, but i realized they not dislike you or hate they way you are, because if i talk with them enough time they get comfortable again and being open, and that is gradually, so now i dont see it as something bad, but i find exahusting be the one who have to make the interaction easy everytime, or at least during a period until finally we get more closed but at the end there are to much thoughts in the air wich makes pepole very insecure, even if the other person alredy stablish there are no problem .
Yes, because they perceive you as being better than them, you open them up each time and they feel safe, but then once you're gone they start talking with their friends and they most likely give them terrible dating advice of things like "Oh, don't talk to him, he's going to cheat" or "Oh, he's bangin' other chicks, ignore him", so they're probably dealing with mixed feelings and are hesitant because of it. It is a pain in the ass to be the main initiator every time but that's the role of a man, it's always been that way. Thanks.
Dealt with it all my life. People constantly from a far and near trying to take me down or take out. People expecting this insane high level of standards that I did in fact live up to back when I was your age. I could feel the envy. Feel the hate. Feel the jealousy. At 49 I still deal with the childish shit. I'm not proclaiming that I'm perfect as I've always been expected to be but rather I'm fed up and beyond done. I want to walk alone now and I do jot allow anyone near me anymore. I wasn't always this way. As you get older it will either serve you well if you are selfish but you stay grounded and a good man, you'll find yourself walking life alone. It's not easy but now I prefer it.
Yes man, life ain't easy. You can only really count on yourself at the end of the day, who the f*ck cares what people think of you? Let them hate and be jealous, you only live once. Thanks for watching.
I’m glad to see someone talking about this. In the gay world it’s a little different. Nice looking guys get insecure and start acting all diva because deep down while they don’t want someone ugly they don’t want their boyfriends to look better than them. Ugly men will treat you like a king but that’s only because they want to boost their own ego. All the rest of this is one hundred percent on point
4:42 men have basically never approached me in my entire life. I can count all the men who have ever tried to talk to me in public on one hand. I go around being nice to people, smiling, generally seeming pleasant. Not because I'm trying to, but because I genuinely feel that way. Maybe if I'd had a shitty look on my face and been a bitch, men would have been all over me. Probably. We'll never know. But when I hear men talk about how decent looking women have it so easy, I just laugh.
I think in general today, particularly in 2024 women rarely get approached on a daily basis as compared to let's say 10-20 years ago. Men are so accustomed to social media and dating apps that they don't wanna bother with cold approaching anymore, unless they get a little high and drunk then yeah, they might give it a shot because they're intoxicated. However, it is still rare today. If I see a girl I'm into in real life I always try to smile and have a little chat with her, it makes things so much easier once you break the ice initially. So many men have given up with women in the west it's wild.
@@rippedkodiak If western men don't start approaching women, they're going to lose them to foreign men, or just the few western men who are actually willing to make the moves. Thank God I'm old enough that none of it really matters to me anymore, but for the younger generation coming up today, they better start caring.
So what if you get rejected, it's a numbers game. Burn through the rejections until you get some reciprocation. Pursuit of all kinds is the foundation of manhood. Don't let other men come and take what's yours. That's the true plan behind going your own way, 4B, and all the other ridiculous movements that have been fabricated and pushed on the masses. They weaken you and then come and take the loot. So many don't see the plan for what it is.
Yes, so many people are oblivious and distracted by what's going on, and they can't seem past it. Some people are meant to stay inside the Matrix. Dating like everything is really a numbers game at the end of the day.
For those that do try, they'll get the most options and they'll improve the most which will then equal to them getting the most dates, kids etc. It's the pareto principle, 20% of men get 80% of women and vice versa. Thanks for watching.
Being good looking is not a skill. For many, it is unattainable and that's where the resentment comes from. You can improve your body with gym or do your hair/makeup but it's just polishing what is already there. The other thing is, relationships work better when the girl is hotter than the guy. The guy feels lucky and the girl doesn't feel insecure. The other thing I'll say is, for the men out there, women's perception of your attractiveness is not just physical. I was never conventionally "hot" but in my late 20's I just gave up and stopped caring, became indifferent to social outcomes, talked to everyone the same and no simping. That attitude was perceived as attractive and women came to me.
That's great to hear man. Yes, how you carry yourself plays a huge role in how attractive you are. It is not just how you look like in the face, it is the total package that you advertise to the public. There's a lot of good lookin' fellas who are shy and unconfident, and then when a guy who's a lesser attractive one comes around, but he's confident, charming and doesn't give af he's going to get way more chicks. Thanks for watching.
me: reads tittle
also me: "dead face emoji"
I worked my way from being a 7 to about an 8 or so in looks.
Dating was a nightmare because every woman writes you off as a player. Though im married, women always tell me im handsome one minute then the next accuse me of cheating on my wife the next
LOL 😂 yes, it's weird how that works. They'll be really weird with that one when you settled down, thanks.
As a handsome guy with bad social skills (gradually improving over time) . This hits home
Don't give up Jesse, keep working on it. This is something you can learn with enough practice.
Just eat doughnuts all day so you can get some
blackpill - "Good looks debunks your flaws"
I've always been tall and attractive, although I wouldn't say as much as you are. Over the years I've been ghosted, rejected, messed around, treated horribly by people who are jealous of my looks, etc.
Most people just see you as a piece of meat and are not remotely interested in getting to know you.
Yes Lewis, that's the thing. Majority of people only see your looks as a thing, and completely ignore all the other things about your life. Like you can be a good man with skills and certain traits that nobody else has, but people will overlook them and only pay attention to your looks, like you're some sort of gold or what have you. It's annoying for the most part. Thanks for watching.
your best video ive seen, id like to add another big one and that is you will become a "mini celebrity" in your hometown or wherever you live...the smaller the town the worse it will be. lets say you move to a new town within months every girl in the town will know about you even if they havent seen you yet becasue you will be the talk of the town, you will know because complate strangers will look at you like they already know you. if you decide to date in this town every single girl in the town will know everything about you sexually - the good the bad and the ugly....damm bro just said the same thing at the end of the video
Thanks for watching man, hope you liked the video. Yes, if it's a very small town or village, all the girls will know who you are and they'll turn into mini like stalkers LMAO 🤣.
@@rippedkodiak you better perform well with the first girl or your life in that town is 100% over. no pressure 🙃though it works both ways if you perform well you will then have infinate options.
Yeah, you'll get a lot of social proof after that one.
No downside and I wish I had a pretty face. I was blown off rejected million times by beautiful women
And that is billions of times worse than what this doofus is whining about.
There's downsides to it man, just like with everything. There are decent looking guys that can still get hot chicks.
Bro you never disappoint, your videos are always on point
Thanks for watching man, I'm always trying my best to deliver as much value as possible on my videos. Glad you like them.
I'm a handsome guy, but far from the norm. I stopped cutting my hair when I was 15 now in my 30's and it's down to my arse. At one point in life I had load's of piercings but I kept losing them in moshing, getting into fights, also keeping them clean after healing. Then one day I took all my piercings out. Now I'm full of tattoos instead. I've had problems with drugs for a long time, mostly opiates and benzodiazepines I also used to get drunk a lot to the point I now have chronic alcoholic pancreatitis. Without going to far into details I'm in my 30's now, I'm a handsome, good looking also I'm cute looking guy. But I'm going to a place that helps people like myself with drugs and drink I also go to AA. In my mind all this makes me a turn off, although I'm one of the nicest guys you'd wish to meet. I went the store and a bunch of girls I'd say 18-23 with a crate of booze at the very most got all excited and immediately started talking to me asking me am I getting pissed tonight. However I'm in my 30's and I've only had 1 girlfriend. Because the others that liked me soon realized I was popping pills, getting drunk in the morning until night. I've suffered from depression, anxiety and derealization. I also have high functioning autism, but that interferes with social skills, for me at least. What I'm saying is from first look yeah I'm handsome. But super long hair on a guy isn't everybody's taste, tattoos are usually a love or hate thing, and my other struggles which I've mentioned.
The worst part is the hostility it comes from guys and girls I don't want to sleep with. And I get fired for random reasons that never make sense. And my friends family members (moms too) will flirt with me in front of my friends. And the guys who don't have animosity towards me try to impress me and it's really uncomfortable and cringe.
Also people have an obsession with wanting me to think I'm on their level to make them feel good
Yeah, people will always try to attack your appearance and your looks to bring you down to their level. Or as soon as you show that you're proud of yourself they automatically assume you're an arrogant douche. Moms and milfs will flirt with you, that's legit lol 😂.
Being attractive can be a cross to bear, but you can learn and grow so much as a person from it. As a Christian, I do believe God uses this attribute as a positive tool to help keep you separate from the world. Knowing God is connected to being Holy and being Holy is connected to being set apart. Draw close to God and He will draw close to you. Be blessed you all! ✝️
Amen to that brother, God is always with us, he's the Holy creator that is in the divine energy within us all. Thanks for watching.
@@rippedkodiakAmen brother. I’ll definitely keep you and Poland in my prayers.
Thank you Enzo. God bless you too.
@ You’re welcome brother. I believe you have a high purpose for your life. When you have the time, read the book of Hebrews in the New Testament. Take care.
Thank you, have a nice day!
Very well said. Greetings Malton
Thanks for watching Malton, hope you enjoyed the video.
I’m an ex model and most of my friends are ex models. I can tell you this and this is Fact. Handsome hetro men are preyed upon by GM in modeling industry esp, also hetro handsome men always have their masculinity challenged by men and women.
Yes, handsome men are in a different situation in life, like you've said yourself, we don't just have to deal with beta insecure males on a daily basis, but women (though I'd say it's a very small percentage cuz most women like attractive guys) will also try to sabotage you.
It feels weird to bring it up because self confidence these days is rare, but I have these issues and many don't talk about it alot because it seems cocky. I am 6,2 with curly hair and honestly a below average face, but i think the first two qualities outweigh the face. Either way, people treat me alot better since i glowed up, i grew from 5,4 and fat to 6,2 and skinny with decent muscle definition all within the span of 3 years ( 14-17 ) and onwards, and before the glow up I was treated by everyone like a disgusting subhuman monster.
Nowadays, I'm still incredibly shocked that women will even want to talk to me, and when i'm on dates I made the mistake of bringing up my past because she just couldn't believe how bad I used to look, when I show any sign of insecurity people play it off like I'm a pick me or i'm fishing for compliments, when in reality I feel a sense of disconnect with my life and my look. I will never stop feeling the same way I used too, and many see me and think I'm always well off with life even though I'm struggling incredibly hard as I just turned 19.
Yes because you've gotten yourself to a higher position, you've level up your character and you can no longer look at your life the same way. And yeah, when you start talking about what made you unconfident in the past or even if you give yourself any type of self love publicly for your effort, almost immediately people will think you're bragging or that you're arrogant. Crazy how that works. Thanks for watching young man and keep working on yourself. Don't pay any attention to the negativity around you.
That’s the same way you will see skinny well toned girls that will have a beefy best friend that she hangs with all the time,, that way she feels like she don’t need to compete for the intention of the men they like
Yep, the slim toned attractive lady doesn't need to compete so much for the attention with other males when she's with her chunkier friend, thanks for watching.
Yo I have the same problems!!!! I actually left one of my jobs cause I was getting bullied like that recently! I'm very alone and I'm a handsome guy. Yeah all these things are true unfortunately.
You know it Cameron, it is something that very few people talk about. They only see the good sides of being handsome and ignore the bad that comes with it. We can be very lonely actually. Thanks!
@rippedkodiak Yeah. Thanks for that video.
they compliment my eyes that are grey/blue and hooded. i hide them under my cap
There are definite downsides to being beautiful.One of the biggest is that aging is much more painful.
Oh sh*t, yes that is a BIG ONE. I've seen some of these compilations of these old school hot celebrities when they used to be in their primes and to how they look like now and it is so depressing to see your beautiful body lose its shine and glamour and attractiveness as the years roll by. It is unfortunate, and I think every attractive person (man or woman) has to deal with it.
@@rippedkodiak You are a cutie!Have a nice Thanksgiving!☺️
I thought it was a guy who wrote this 🤣
You too have a happy Thanksgiving!
All you said is the truth!!!!!
Thanks for watching bro, glad you liked the video.
I absolutely completely ignore. Extremely looking women unless they look at me and smile or something like that. And it's because I know that they're already receiving way too much attention and I feel like they don't need even more of that attention from me because how much attention could one person possibly take? So I don't even bother with them. Also, if they're getting an extraordinary amount of attention from many many guys they've got loads to choose from and I don't want to be just another face in the crowd.
True that man, yes they do receive a lot of attention but does it mean that the guys that are hitting on them are viable options? Thanks for watching.
12:29- 12:36 This is a much needed video for me I'm really glad to come across this particular video today. Right from the start of the video the points you have talked about is one hundred 💯 % truth, Relatable especially when it comes to social life such as making friends it's really really hard to make a genuine friendship with people either you'll feel left out or still feel lonely even though you are with the group so called friends you can tell they don't vibe or don't talk to you as much as they do with others from the group before I use to think maybe it's cos of my social skills that I lack humor in my conversation or not funny enough but NO I was wrong and on the other hand You'll get tons and tons of attention from women everyday everywhere whether it is at University, Gym, Work, etc most of them are either intimidated or just want your attention and when you finally have the confidence and walk up to these girls you will be doing most of the talking she'll be nervous or give one word reply or never talk to you again the next time you see her. Sure Being Good Looking is really amazing in life but it's a lonely journey really hard to make friends.
Yes, agree with you 100% on what you said above. I was in the exact same boat, I used to believe that it was a problem with me, but once you become more self aware, you'll realize quickly that it was insecurity and lack of confidence from their side. Thanks for watching.
I think attitude and self-image is as important as objective reality in regards to how people's looks are judged. Some people feel attractive. This impacts their choice of clothing, hairstyle, the way they speak, etc. However it happens to be very difficult to feel attractive if you have not put any work into your physique and you eat cookies while watching TV all day long. It's partly because of the way you look objectively but also because of the feelings that these actions generate.
As is the case in most areas in life, most ppl don't get anywhere near their maximum potential. I think the difference between most ppl's maximum and minimum potential is so great, that saying "this person is attractive/unattractive" is primarily based around their level of effort, even though of course genetics play a large role. Just not as large as most ppl think, IMO.
Yes, there's a famous saying out there: "There's no such thing as an unattractive man, just a man that's lazy and who's broke", thanks for watching.
Believe me you don't want to be a sub5. Being invisible to everyone and getting threated badly just because the way you look is soul crushing.i would rather get superficial realitionship then nothing.
I'm sorry to hear that bro, there's always room for improvement if you want it. Thanks for watching.
Facts!🍻
Hope you liked the video!
Being attractive has done nothing for me... I dont get treated any differently and woman usually dont care... Like ive gotten tons of compliments and been hit on by attractive females but most of the time im ignored by woman and treated like shit.
It has probably something to do with your personality maybe? Maybe you're more on the shy / introvert side and women can sense that.
@rippedkodiak Yeah that's what it is. I'm shy and usually don't know how to talk to woman. But I also have come across a lot of narcissistic woman who won't give you the time of day, like their standards are chads and I'm attractive but not a Chad...
Bro you can also improve, keep workin' on yourself. Thanks for watching.
they expect you a Handsome man to be righteous, but they are disappointed that you are only kind and nice.
the joke hence "looks like an angel but isn't one..."
the-same with people who like strong and very unbothered, not merciful and many are scary-looking, so people might be disappointed that they are not wicked but only nice and kind.
the joke hence "looks like a villain but isn't one..."
Yeah, people have all types of stories and certain prejudices about how a handsome man is supposed to behave, act and be and then if it fails, they are very quick to judge and point out his flaws. Thanks.
People say I look like I get girls all the time when in reality I don’t 😂
Yes, people will all these presuppositions and images of you in their head but your life can be the complete opposite! 🤣
@@k8van420 same here... I always get compliments and I've gotten some female validation for the compliments but I'm ignored by woman the majority of the time.. A lot of woman are narcissistic haters so I wouldn't take it personally.
They don't want you to feel good about yourself, some women will appreciate you but 90% of the time they don't want you to feel like you're the sh*t.
@@GregAnderson-s7d yeah most of the time they get interested first and give me compliments like “you’re hot” but every time I try to care or just show true me they just get turned off, so yeah maybe I understood the game
I mean I understood being a nice guy doesn’t work
Interesting video^ right now the problem for me is that woman have a certain expectation for me to be comforterble around them and are left confused when i dont know what the f to do when i like one. Im just trying to find a real one, but this goes in conflict with the dating scene in what is offered. Also people are genuinly suprised if you have a low body count which is laugheble to me. Spelling 100*
Yeah man, it is not an easy task to find a good loyal woman. I strongly believe that if you know what you're looking for and you go for it, you'll find someone eventually. Thanks for watching.
Being unattractive comes with bigger downsides. Get rejected for everything....jobs, friends, dating, lonely AF. An attractive person can make themselves less attractive. But ugly you're stuck with it. And your point about attractive women who are lonely and never get approached. In my experience if you're not in their league, they look at you with disgust. I've hung out with attractive dudes and they get it easy.
U got d model look dude 🤓😎
Thanks for the compliment man, hope you enjoyed the video so far.
@ I’m lonely does tat mean I’m ugly lol why would attractive people be lonely lmao 😂 tat doesn’t make sense
Man you just gotta find your tribe that will like you, I don't know what else to say. I'm still struggling with it bro.
Be glad you dont know the downsides of being unattractive
There's a bad to everything brother, thanks for watching
Tell him man
Being attractive is the most privileged someone can be. Its literally like you have cheat codes. And bro's over here complaining.
Bro a lot people listen but they don't hear, pay attention to the message. Thanks for watching.
I've been told both women and men throughout my life that I've been handsome. But guess what? I'm still single af. It's been that way for years
Good for you...more peace and quiet. Have a nice day.
Hey man, the most important thing is that you like you for you, and if you enjoy your time with you. Thanks for watching.
In the black community it's same story being Talented Great Basketball Player/NBA bound in the hood, youll will get robbed, setup, ITS EVEN WORSE...
Oh sheesh yes, things are wild in the hood when someone is about to really level up, you see so many examples and tragic stories of famous actors, athletes or upcoming singers in the black community that got assaulted or shot because they got out the hood. Thanks for watching.
Although I am an average dude, I can attest that it applies to women. Way before teaching, I worked in a company that was run by women. The women in the higher up positions would always fire the good looking women. To add, my wife (Phoebe Cates look alike) faced tons of hate from her co-workers for "no reason" and she still does. I think envy and jealousy exist in bad human beings.
I think there is enviousness and jealousy in all of us including "good people" it is that the weak ones are letting it to take over them.
@@jakubzajac8585 Well said. The thing is when it takes over, I would not consider them good anymore. I stay away from the very family that I grew up with for that very reason.
Yes, women go through the same sh*t as well, they will always look down on women that are more attractive than them. I've learned that only guys should really judge a woman's appearance, and vice versa, only women should rate guys on their looks because men will lower your looks just to make themselves feel better. Thanks for watching.
I agree with these points...i experience it all...if i dont look at a girl who likes me im suddenly gay 🤣
This is the poor man's Rob Lowe.
Great perspective. I've gotten some of this for being really tall (I'm 6'5" as well). Always been like this, lol. It's the crabs in a bucket mindset. PS. you look like David Hasselhoff!
Haha thanks for watching, tbh I wouldn't change my height for anything, that's another privilege some of us have that is a big thing nowadays. Thanks for the compliment, never got that one before 😂 . "Don't hassle the hoff!", hope you enjoyed the video.
Its like saying the downside to being rich. 😂
There's downsides to everything bro
Can you get attractive girls as a handsome man or they prefer medium guys because they are afraid?
It depends on who you're talking to. Attractive girls imo like handsome guys more because there's the status element to it (aka "I have him, he's mine and he's a chad, no other girl can touch him") and it is something a lot of women want, but will never admit it. So it's a status symbol for a lot of them, especially if she considers herself a high value woman. The less attractive girls, or normies will get more insecure about the fact that you're above them and there's that fear factor that comes with it, aka "Oh, he's going on this business trip, I'm not sure if he's going to sleep with someone there, let me call him etc". They tend to be the most insecure ones because they know you have the ability to pull other women. Thanks for watching.
That unwanted attention is annoying sometimes for real. I lost some weight last year and it brought up hollow cheeks for me and oh boy the attention I started getting went up by like 10x, having wide decently defined jaw and thick dark eyebrows might have something to do with this also. Then there is the clear intimidation you can see on other men, even some that are taller than I am, or even groups of men. Just staring and you can feel the hostility and jealousy out of them.
Just few days ago was walking towards grocery store and a group of 4 men around same age as me walked towards me. And each one of them just started staring at me and I could see their faces go "who the hell he thinks he is", I was just looking forwards but could clearly see from corner of my eye. It's just mind boggling for me how even some muscular good looking guys can be so jealous, just because I have few really masculine well defined traits on my face that they don't have.
And then ofc there are the people who just want to be nice towards ya, but they have no intention of even trying to get to know you. There are some men who are circling around me, trying to get me to attend all kind of parties and gatherings with them, but I'm not that interested usually to go out with them because they are quite frankly told just your usual bums. I just tell them always the same line "I promise nothing but if I got motivation and time I might come", which is like 95% of the time no, or I really have something better to do. These 2 bums tried to get me to join them in a nightclub just few weeks ago, but I told them that I literally got 0 interest to go into that said nightclub. And they're not even the freaking first bum's who have tried to get me to come with them into a bar or nightclub.
So many annoying things and incidents I could write about here and have actually written a lot of stuff what has happened to me and what kind of reactions I've had from people into this one anonymous chatting board that is in my language and usually people don't believe me, or just call everything BS because it has never happened to them.
Good stuff man that you're improving yourself. Yes, and you can look at your life through a different lense now which can only happen once you level up in life. Congratulations.
Yeah, it is weird to get that beta male competitive energy from other men, but just remember that it is a good sign. It is just negative energy and vibes from the other party, it is not a problem with you (a lot of people, especially narcissists will blame you for it), so ignore it and use it to fuel you. Thanks for watching.
Jesteś przystojny i atrakcyjny bo masz polskie geny. ☺☺W Polsce jest od cholery przystojniaków. No i bardzo wielu facetów dba o siebie, nawet jak wykonują brudne fizyczne zawody i może dlatego u nas tak to do końca nie działa. 😊😊
Dzieki, haha te polskie geny 🤣🤣. Ta, napewno sa. Wydaje mi sie ze jest ich zdecydowanie mniej np w porownaniu do miejsc jak np. Skandynawii. Tez w PL jest tak ze nie kladzie sie taki duzy nacisk na dbanie o siebie w porownaniu do innych krajow. Pozdrawiam.
@@rippedkodiak O to byś się bratku mocno pomylił. Nie przyglądasz się facetom bo sam nim jesteś, a ja jestem kobietą to wiem co piszę. No i się wydało, że jestem babą, a bardzo to ukrywam w necie. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tylko mnie nie demaskuj jak ci jeszcze coś kiedyś napiszę. ☺☺☺☺☺☺
Haha w zyciu bym nie pomyslal po twoim nicku, moze tak jest jak mowisz. Nie wiedzialem ze sa tutaj babki w czerwonych sukienkach z Matrixa. 😂
@@rippedkodiak Ja chodzę po kanałach naukowych, a tu trafiłam przypadkiem i coś mnie podkusiło aby ci odpisać w ramach rozrywki. Zresztą słowo man w języku angielskim oznacza też człowieka, a kobieta jest człowiekiem, czy nie jest? 😂😂 No dobra, wystarczy już tego śmieszkowania. Idę do swoich zajęć, bywaj. 👋👋😊😊
My polacy to ogolnie brzydale, a na pewno przy skandynawach. Kolega z video wczesniej powiedzial, ze mezczyzni w Polsce nie dbaja o swoj wyglad (video o plusach i minusach zycia w Polsce), wiec niestety nie trafilas.
You look like the guy from vampire diaries, the boyfriend vampire, you know the guy from lost, I can’t think of his name,
Haha bro I dunno whatcha talkin about, thanks for watching though!
THERE ARE NO DOWNSIDES IN BEING ATTRACTIVE‼️‼️‼️‼️
ONLY A BUNCH OF HATERS TO CONFIRM TO YOU DAILY THAT YOU'RE THE MFING MAN, YOU GOT IT AND THEY AIN'T‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Yes, it is a big pain in the ass to deal with it daily. Love the attitude!
For women objectification is a HUGE issue as well.
Yes, that's what they think about immediately when they see a handsome fella, they're just as shallow as us men lol 😂 . Thanks.
You are right on point with this video! I dealt with this my entire long life. I still deal with it and I am over 50 now, but most folks think I am in my 30's. When I was very young, I always received sneers and women would rudely gasp and spite at me. Most folks that know me love me to pieces. I don't care what anyone thinks about me never have. I just hated the disrespectful behavior from strangers. Men experience this to, I have seen very handsome men be treated poorly. I am lonely but prefer it that way. I have been given things for free, but I appreciate everyone who has been very generous toward me. I don't talk about this on my TH-cam channels. lol! You just have to get to the point where you don't give a rats diddley poo poo what others think about you.
You know what's crazy, I found that the hate tends to come mostly from the same gender, aka if you're a handsome man (8 and up) you get hate and envy from other men and vice versa, if you're a beautiful lady then you most likely only really receive hate and bad vibes from less attractive women. Women tend to like handsome guys, they may be a little hesitant if they're a little shy but they enjoy their presence. You only really have yourself at the end of the day, and what matters the most is that you like who you are and are proud of yourself if you're doing good deeds and being the best human being around others. The rest and all the gossip that the internet wants to talk about you is irrelevant. Thanks for watching.
Next : the downside of being rich
Mostly the amplification of your worst traits
Yeah, when people have money it really tells you who they are. Like you're saying, it's an amplifier or like a big speaker.
Or downside of being famous or clever .
Very beautiful women are a rare treat
Tbh I don't think they're as rare as high value men. You can find beautiful women in every country in the world.
Did someone ever told you that you look like Leon S. Kennedy? Very similiar features look it up!
Haha yeah, a couple of people have mentioned it on some of my past videos. Thanks for watching man.
Guys, get jealous of other guys, 😢😮😊
LOL like here in the comments 😂, they make it too obvious sometimes
are you from SA?
Nah brother, Poland all the way. What about you?
I have been thru this too
Work on yourself man, ignore the noise and the clutter. You be you bro. Thanks.
The thumbnail - "blue steel" look ?
Well...looks like you have nothing to worry about then eh?
I probably agree with most of what u said about what an attractive person goes through in terms of negative experiences in life. probably why I got treated poorly and got nagged very negatively by ex bosses (I hope they get exactly what they deserved). Nagging that is basically harassment, a lot of talking down on you, belittling of your work, I had a boss that harassed me after a certain period I was at the job for every mistake I was making at the job - critical as fuck. After a certain time in the evening he sent me non stop messages through whatsup in order to tell me what I did wrong and what he expected of me at the job. untiol I couldn't take it anymore and shouted my lungs out at him, which of course he told me I need to control my anger issues, yes obviously I have anger issues when I have a rude son of a bitch messaging me non stop messages after work and basically braking me apart, yes obviously.. idiot..
anyway, I had to block him on my phone because the guy would not stop messaging me. he also was the only boss I had who would would want to schedule teem meeting for the company at fucking 8:00 in the morning.
Damn, that takes it to another level. Crazy how some people in positions of power can behave like that to an employee, people will harass you and belittle you nonstop when you're better looking. I've experienced similar treatments so many times in my life. Thanks for watching bro.
@@rippedkodiak I can't obviously tell you 100% that the reason I got treated poorly in my life is because I'm good looking, but I know I'm one of the "chosen ones" not to brag or condescend - for better and worse, I just know I got treated poorly in my life and I have tried figuring out why my entire life. It definitely can come from jealousy- the one that flies under the radar. I know I pissed a lot of people off when I just interacted with them, I just tried to introduce myself to them and I would get mean looks man. I felt a lot in my life that the world was against me and was out to get me for no reason - I'm a very good person and I would get treated badly by a lot of people. but yet again, this world is dark so.. when you're a good person and you want to spread good energy, people want to destroy the good so..
Yes, people would much rather deal with fake people so they can be lied and placated to, instead of dealing with someone who's real and authentic. Sad world we're living in now.
I know,a woman who is very attractive, and she gets attention from men. I said to her how do you feel about that. She said it can be offensive. She's never sure if the guy wants to get to know her as a person or they just are seeking something sexual from her. It doesn't mean anything being attractive. It's not important.
You know I have to write COPE for those last two sentences
Yeah in general women receive so much attention nowadays it is wild. They're inundated with it to the point where it is like a drug to them (not saying that's the case with the one you know). Yes, it is a challenge for attractive people. Thanks for watching.
On god!
That's right bro!
When you said that they only want you around as social proof and pretend to want you around, that hurt. This is one of the main reasons I just ended a 12 year old friendship because I started to sense this. My buddy would always tell me how nice I always dress, that I had the nicest haircuts, and how I had a clean face (I used to have cystic acne when we first became friends). I soon started to notice him becoming spiteful when I would get compliments, and hated me being around his girlfriend even though I would never dare to make any type of advance. My friend was a bit of an insecure guy too, but this all only got worse the last few years. My last couple of jobs I got hit on hard after working with all girls. My current one they brush me aside. I work in an all female department but this one is different because I can tell they’re all insecure too. I can tell they try treating me like shit, but due to my past experience I actually deliver when I get assigned projects. You hit the nail on the head my guy, I relate all too well. The best thing to apply is humility in these instances. Thank you for sharing your perspective
Thanks for watching and for telling your story here. Yes, that's what is going to happen ultimately, the people in your circle will either level up with you or stay in their own lane... Can't do anything about it brother. Some people are meant to lose, and some people are gonna be winners no matter what. Learned that lesson too the hard way. Just focus on you and find people who are on the same mission as you (like this channel, other channels, communities etc). 97-98% of humans don't change unfortunately.
@@rippedkodiak that's the crux of the matter. Self improvement WILL make you lonely.
Why would handsome guys be lonely tho lmao wtf I guess I’m handsome I’m a loner 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅 or I’m ugly 😢
It's mostly about who you are man, your personality and character should draw people into you.
The one about getting too much attention is the big one for me. Picture this I’m at a investing event there are about 300-500 people there the speaker says to the audience and I quote.” Not all of us in the room have it easy in life we are not blessed with good looks like Rudy over there points at me then continues”. I once spoke at an event and when announced the chairman says look at this man he is so handsome. My speech was on real estate not looks. Then to make matters worse the guy who spoke after me was so outclassed by me he actually asked the crowd to clap for him he said please audience give me a round of applause. The meeting ended and I was mobbed by women. Most of the men hated me especially the ones there with their wife no one would do business with me but only one guy. The women that were there the 10s all avoided me like I had the plague. And when I say Avoid it was noticeable . I’m older they you so I have more years of experience it’s to the point most people wouldn’t believe all the things I’ve experienced being a handsome man Truth it’s a bit lonely most of the time. But I still wouldn’t trad places with anyone.
Haha yes, it is crazy how that works. It's funny how that man after you got his ass kicked and he wanted the standing ovation... Yes, people can be so shallow and only focus on our appearance and completely overlook the fact that we are competent, intelligent, capable, skilled or what have you. It's ludicrous how some men can treat you just because you're better looking than them, they can't see past their weaknesses. Looks are not everything, but they're so insecure and weird about everything that it makes no sense at all. I'm the same way dude, I wouldn't trade places with anyone either. Thanks!
You think ur attractive?
Obviously he does, and?
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@@jakubzajac8585not to be rude but he is not attractive almost at all. He looks very bad.