12 Reasons Why Life is Better When You're Single

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  • @john-griffin
    @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +316

    This was a bit of a rant.

  • @plundbohm
    @plundbohm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +647

    “I don't hate people...I just feel better when they're not around.”
    ― Charles Bukowski

    • @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303
      @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Me too😅😅😅

    • @ethnocentricfun991
      @ethnocentricfun991 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@plundbohm love it 😊

    • @rickstephan6707
      @rickstephan6707 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      "The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog." - Mark Twain

    • @plundbohm
      @plundbohm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@Cold_Hard_Truth Ironically I may dislike people but I love humanity.

    • @BB-sf7jv
      @BB-sf7jv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Haha

  • @twofarg0ne763
    @twofarg0ne763 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1372

    He's absolutely telling you the truth about sex and marriage; as soon as you're married after a year or two, your sex life is over. I'm 75, retired, and have been living alone since my divorce 20 years ago. My kids are grown. My life is peaceful and quiet. I play golf, go sailing, go to wine tastings, go hiking, and meet friends for lunch or dinner or at sports bars. I'm far happier without women in my life. I don't need the drama or narcissism. I go where I want, when I want, do what I want. Life is good.

    • @twofarg0ne763
      @twofarg0ne763 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Zfast4y0u Thank you for the synopsis of my life. I didn't get married till I was 35. My ex wanted sex until we had our 2nd child, then no more. Women are toxic, demanding drama queens, who only care about themselves. If you haven't found that out yet, you will, unless you're female, then you already know.

    • @attroenergizer8115
      @attroenergizer8115 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

      i felt it when you said i dont need the drama and narcissism so true my man

    • @philyeary8809
      @philyeary8809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      We're here to help men, guys....shitcan the divisions.

    • @RtaniDean
      @RtaniDean 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Perfect.

    • @jarichards99utube
      @jarichards99utube 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      For me the trade 0ff of living single and alone comes down to: PEACE (as in peace & quite) and SELF-DETERMINATION.
      - Divorced, 70SomethingGuy

  • @JS6969tz
    @JS6969tz หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Never be afraid to be alone. It is the greatest blessing of all.

    • @Ron4885
      @Ron4885 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @JS6969tz I think so, too. It took me a while to get used to it. But all the drama is gone. Peace of mind is valuable.

    • @jpowell2603
      @jpowell2603 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Exactly!!!

  • @thewanderingpatriot
    @thewanderingpatriot 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    I got married at 21, divorced by 26. Never looked back. I’m 55 now, retired in Alaska. Life is GREAT. Praise God.

    • @jeremytorgersen
      @jeremytorgersen 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Very similar! I was married at 22, divorced at 27...Glad I never re-married or had kids. Semi-retired at 38 and I have been considering moving to Alaska, Wyoming, or similar. The peace and solitude is where it's at!

  • @rabbiddog
    @rabbiddog 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +759

    Im 61. Went through a divorce 12 years ago. Lost my house, etc. Managed to retire at 60. I spent 27 yrs trying to make her happy and secure, only to have her destroy it. Young men do NOT live for women.

    • @TheBaywork
      @TheBaywork 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Thank you

    • @dannyrwagamba
      @dannyrwagamba 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Thanks 🙏

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      But most do these days the system has broken them

    • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
      @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      25 years in psychology and psychiatric. 6/100 are Narccisists and yes they will destroy you with pleasure or cheat. 3/100 are antisocial b-clusster dark triad people that will lie,manipulate and maybe kill you ? So, 20 year olds had better study Narccisism on you tube and in Amazons best books on the subject.This behavioural science is easy to follow after a few weeks of study.
      GET IT WRONG ,.....and you will enter hell and lose your sanity and health.Don't vet your partner like the catholic church vets priests and the Police vet new recruits because it destrys the institution of marriage. Take 5 years to be sure because Narcicists are actors that leave all kinds of clues.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      And for what then?

  • @RaindogGaming
    @RaindogGaming 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

    Saving this video. Every time someone asks me why I’m not going to get remarried, I’ll send them here.

  • @RunsWithKnives
    @RunsWithKnives 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +179

    I've been single for almost 22 years now and my life has never been so peaceful. I will never give up my peace for a piece ever again.

    • @HK-od5oi
      @HK-od5oi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@RunsWithKnives ‘peace for a piece’. Word

    • @VictorGaikezheyongai-nh4xl
      @VictorGaikezheyongai-nh4xl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      lol

    • @HasselDaHoff25
      @HasselDaHoff25 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@RunsWithKnives what do you do when you are horny hire a hooker ?

  • @terencem881
    @terencem881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +352

    After divorce met a nice lady who lives a distance away. No drama, I have my place she has hers. Physical side is good. We go halves on everything. Can't believe how much my ex cost. Absolute eye opener. Works for me.

    • @tmee3708
      @tmee3708 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Sounds ideal.

    • @trevor6607
      @trevor6607 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Yep this is the way to do it. Keep it fair and keep some separation

    • @jonb8633
      @jonb8633 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I am in a similar situation but I am widowed. The lady I am dating lives like an hour away. Sex is the best. She cooks nice meals. we go out and have fun

    • @comicus6769
      @comicus6769 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Absolutely the way to go, I did that for nearly 20 years. We didn't go haves since I made way more than she did and I was older but I had the time of my life taking her on trips all over and it worked out great for her as well. Win, win. Something I never hear.

    • @thomaspepper2201
      @thomaspepper2201 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm still looking, you lucky dog, enjoy !

  • @spaceted3977
    @spaceted3977 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    I am 70 yrs old and never Married or had Children !!! I would Highly Recommend it !!! Peace and Quiet with my 2 Dogs !!!

  • @raygross1931
    @raygross1931 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +273

    54 here. I was married 23 years and raised two great, well-mannered boys she wanted to divorce, I did not. Now after 2 years single, I can totally 100% agree with you.I have purchased land in the most remote area in the United States and am building MY dream home!
    You have a new follower brother

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Whine on together as a choir. Sounds pathetic.

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      🙂 cool, let me know when its done, i'd like to see it 😊

    • @chairlesnicol672
      @chairlesnicol672 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @Raygross Where is your remote land, cuz I wanna stay there too! LOL!!!@

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chairlesnicol672 😒👍 Lets Go!

    • @mrwolf750
      @mrwolf750 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@marguskiis7711 With a personality like that I bet you are single.

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +536

    Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Marriage is a terrible idea for most ambitious men. Keep state divorce laws out of your business and finances. Stay safe. Stay single! You can still have amazing intimate relationships with beautiful women without getting married.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      Thanks for chiming in man that was really good advice. It’s one thing for people to hear it from some guy on TH-cam, but I am sure that your words carry a lot of weight. Thanks again.

    • @steveburke7675
      @steveburke7675 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ...and varied.

    • @howarddavies782
      @howarddavies782 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      There it is from someone who sees it all the time.

    • @rcas350pilot8
      @rcas350pilot8 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Like it when a lawyer with experience on the issue chimes in. However, I'm not surprised by his comment here.

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agree

  • @RobertNoppers
    @RobertNoppers 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +504

    It's been three years since I retired, and while inflation has made it tough to maintain my lifestyle, especially when I was living in the city. relocating to the countryside has helped me manage things better. Being single, it’s been a bit lonely since most of my friends and family are still caught up in their routines. But at least out here, it's been easier to stretch my savings, and hopefully, I won’t outlive it.

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $4 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now

    • @RobertNoppers
      @RobertNoppers 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m trying to figure out the best approach for my portfolio. How did you find your advisor? I feel like I need that kind of guidance

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you

    • @RobertNoppers
      @RobertNoppers 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for that. I did a quick search and found her page. I was able to email so I sent over a few questions to get more info. Appreciate you sharing

    • @Chuncy566
      @Chuncy566 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@RobertNoppers I'd be extreamly carefull with that one i got a real bad feeling about that one..look out!

  • @fjr3950
    @fjr3950 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +367

    After 25 years of contentious marriage, I became CEO of my own life.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      I like it! CEO

    • @ranganathprahlad
      @ranganathprahlad 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      😂😂😂

    • @r_unner_G
      @r_unner_G 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      and CFO 😁

    • @fjr3950
      @fjr3950 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So true! As much as the whole thing cost me (around $1.5M in my case), at least there is now a "fire wall" and what's left is mine (except what I legally have to keep paying which is also insane).

    • @raisa_cherry35
      @raisa_cherry35 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Mindokwin
    @Mindokwin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +184

    I'm 72 never married and I am a multi- millionaire. I just had a regular job but invested and was frugal. The only time I was broke was when I had girlfriends.

    • @ted.angell7609
      @ted.angell7609 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      You just opened your wallet, and there she was 😸

    • @holisticasmrwithpreem-zm7cp
      @holisticasmrwithpreem-zm7cp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Mindokwin I just love this 😂👌

    • @mehdielatrassi7416
      @mehdielatrassi7416 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      To whom would you consider leaving all you own?

    • @Mindokwin
      @Mindokwin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mehdielatrassi7416 Sisters, not that they particularly deserve it. But they will get the house and most of the remaining cash. Mostly my estate is forestland which will go to a land conservancy along with funds for management. But I am still spending and plan on living for a while yet.

    • @daysgo5514
      @daysgo5514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      im considering of living a life the same way as you. thank you for empowering me.

  • @Barbara-sn5gz
    @Barbara-sn5gz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Im a woman who's been married 1 time, divorced and single for 34 years, and never once have I missed being married.
    Kudos to the advantages of being single!
    You hit the nail on the head!

  • @tbobtbob330
    @tbobtbob330 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +389

    The main thing I wish I knew about women 40 years ago is that the more committed a woman knows you are to her, the less respect and attraction she'll have for you. I spent most of my life thinking that my wife/gfs would be happier, more committed, and more loving towards me if I could just reassure her I was in it for life. No matter what they tell you - showing your attachment is bad for you and bad for the relationship.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Great insight

    • @36handy
      @36handy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

      Bingo. 59 never been married however I’ve been in long term relationships. The threat of leaving keeps them on their toes.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I believe this was one of my downfalls. She knew I hate divorce and would put up with anything and I did. She lost respect and left. There was no 53X for the preceding nine years.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      You must keep her in a "cold war" knowing that you could easily leave if you decided to do so. This way she won't get too complacent and keeps her on better behavior and not take you for granted.

    • @Falconlibrary
      @Falconlibrary 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      We say modern women are selfish, but it's worse than selfishness: they feel contempt for us, especially if expect women to be feminine and nurturing.

  • @peter-e2q
    @peter-e2q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +139

    26yrs with a woman, 5 gfs since break up. Now 68, no gf for 4 years. Retired. Handyman. Single. VERY happy!!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Thank you for sharing your story! It’s great to hear that you’ve found happiness in your own company. Your positivity is contagious!

    • @peter-e2q
      @peter-e2q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@john-griffin so is your video!! :)

  • @LeonardEarnshaw
    @LeonardEarnshaw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +144

    It’s common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my wife and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you’re ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way forward.

    • @LeonardEarnshaw
      @LeonardEarnshaw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @LeonardEarnshaw
      @LeonardEarnshaw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You will be fine

    • @stevechrisman3185
      @stevechrisman3185 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hmmm ... not always.

    • @NoWokeComedy
      @NoWokeComedy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@LeonardEarnshaw bold of you you to assume every women is like your wife. Truth is majority of them women aren't easy to get along with it's like winning the lottery if you find someone that you're compatible with. that's why this redpill and single men YT channels are blowing up.

    • @Rick-i2i
      @Rick-i2i หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes there are always solutions, but it’s always her solution 😮.

  • @MrHabs66
    @MrHabs66 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +189

    I got married at 40, divorced at 50. I’m now 58, retired with no debt and with a boatload of money in the bank. I’ll never get married again. A few single mothers have come after me, but they were easy to shoot down. The peace and quiet is truly addictive. Stay single fellas.

    • @eddieBoxer
      @eddieBoxer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      100% indeed, divorced have money in the bank I never dreamed of, during my marriage I just couldn't buy anything without asking my wife, she had diamond ring, new car, nice clothes, nice house, but I drove an old pick up truck, never again, men do not get married for the love of god, no perpetual love.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      And what you gonna do with your money. The right answer is -- nothing.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@eddieBoxer its your choice.

    • @MrHabs66
      @MrHabs66 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@marguskiis7711 Exactly. I used to piss away so much money on my wife. When we split, I was amazed at how much money I was able to save.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MrHabs66 you not gonna do anything special with the money. Lol.

  • @georgekibblin9924
    @georgekibblin9924 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    I'm sitting here drinking my coffee and trying not to spit it all over the place! As a man that was married for 24 years, your points are SPOT ON! As women age, I believe that they become unhappy with themselves and their own lives, and we have the IMPOSSIBLE task of trying to make them happy. To be honest, it took me a good five years to recuperate both mentally and financially after my divorce (lost home, savings, half of my retirement etc.) but now I am living my best life without all the freaking madness and stress. Great video!

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      My mom was very critical of me. If I gave a wife I will get criticized left and right. I want PEACE and autonomy which you can never have in a relationship

    • @trevor6607
      @trevor6607 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      This is my nightmare right here brother. Sorry this shit happened to you and you lost everything but glad you came out happy and successful in the end. I am still in a long-term eight year relationship but I will literally never get married and this is exactly the fucking reason why

    • @edhovrud
      @edhovrud 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Same here, my wife said I didn’t make her happy anymore. The thing is happiness comes from within, nobody can make another person happy, they can bring them fleeting moments of joy, but true happiness is something only we can bring to ourselves.

    • @mr.h2509
      @mr.h2509 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Nothing new here. Eve wasn’t happy in a garden paradise. I was married 27 years. Now five years divorced. Healed happy and better off financially. It’s chasing the wind trying to satisfy a modern woman. Spend that energy on yourself.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thanks I’m really glad you enjoyed it. I hope your coffee survived.

  • @steveburke7675
    @steveburke7675 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I was married for 30+ yrs...first 10 yrs were pretty good...next 10 were OK, tho I did feel like a walking breathing ATM....the last 10 were a dramatic horror. Been single since 2017 and absolutely love it...don't fear it...take complete control of your life.

  • @steveballard515
    @steveballard515 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +147

    Life is to short to spend it doing what somebody else wants you to do

    • @melissasmess2773
      @melissasmess2773 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Spoken in such beautiful simplicity, thank you! 😂

    • @bobvila6437
      @bobvila6437 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I agree and I'm a woman.

    • @billyliar1614
      @billyliar1614 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Or arguing with her about why you won't do it

  • @bigmoney1723
    @bigmoney1723 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +265

    Amen brother. I am 54 and was married for 25 years. 3 kids. However, I am not divorced. My wife dropped dead on me in 2014. I can honestly say that my life is 100 times better now than at any time I was married. Every thing you said is 1000% accurate. My life now is fair and balanced to me in every regard. There is zero drama, zero stress, and zero chaos. I live on my terms alone. You could not pay me to ever get married again and I dont date so there certainly is no reason to ever bring a woman into my life again to possibly screw things up. Yep, the single life is good!

    • @SausageRoll4u
      @SausageRoll4u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's fucking evil to admit, get therapy dude.

    • @private-private
      @private-private 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      "My wife dropped dead on me"...... thats the funniest thing Ive read. And I totally agree with your comment.

    • @seaotter72
      @seaotter72 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Same thing here basically I'm 52 my wife passed away 6 years ago and my two daughters are grown up and moved out I dated a little bit in the beginning but soon realized why would I go thru all this crap again!Let's see how it's like being single?And I tell ya it's so much better especially when you have already lived that life.CHEERS😅

    • @michaellacroix8029
      @michaellacroix8029 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Singing to the choir man,great great advice for younger fellas, definitely food for thought,

    • @timbimjim514
      @timbimjim514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish mine would drop dead!😂😂

  • @tlsnider4
    @tlsnider4 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I''m 58, was married for 30 years, and have been single for the last 6 years. My mindset mirrors the views you express on this channel. I've really enjoyed the content and watching all the videos. I just wanted to say thanks. I hope all the men out there will listen to the wise advice you're providing. I'd like to add myself as another data point that confirms everything you say is true. I think one of my favorite things you've said is "men are problem solvers, women are problem creators". I don't remember which video this was in, but it really sums everything up so perfectly. Any man who''s every been married or in a long term relationship will know that this is true. He will also know that a women's solipsistic nature will never allow her to understand all the sacrifices he makes to try to make her happy. There is never any appreciation for what you do, only complaints about what you don't do. And married sex(?), infrequent to non-existent, and actually not very good even when it does occur. Why would any man volunteer for this lifestyle? Date women, have sex with women, enjoy women's company, but never, ever, under any circumstance agree to the contract that is called marriage.
    Stay healthy, stay happy, and stay single.

  • @DM-fj1qp
    @DM-fj1qp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +162

    100 percent agree! Once you experience freedom and peace you will never want to go back to being married

    • @handyfisherman
      @handyfisherman 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Be smart. Don’t start!

    • @shinrinyokumusic1808
      @shinrinyokumusic1808 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @ace9840 true. i cant buy a house or rent anything by myself in todays economy. i need another income for that

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I’m over 40 and never married. I have 18 more years till I retire and then I’m going to move out of state. Married life handcuffs you and limits your options. I can go traveling somewhere on a whim which I can’t do if I’m married and most of my expenses would go to raising children

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      💯 agree and 💯 agree

    • @eddieBoxer
      @eddieBoxer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      First 2 years of marriage was good, then sex died down she wanted material things, she cleaned my bank account, divorced and happy.

  • @marklanahan7289
    @marklanahan7289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +279

    Im 64, been married twice and single for 5 years, and totally single for 3. Every female i have ever dated was an undeclared feminist that i unwittingly pandered to. I decided there is no avoiding them so now live alone. Ive never been happier.

    • @tedangle8224
      @tedangle8224 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I would never be with a 'feminist!' they can forever remain single with their cats!

    • @marklanahan7289
      @marklanahan7289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@tedangle8224 Trouble is that my mother was one but never said so I chose women like her, I never realised how toxic they are.

    • @mysticone1798
      @mysticone1798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Find a traditional, conservative woman. They are happier, healthier, and more caring than any feminist.

    • @marklanahan7289
      @marklanahan7289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@mysticone1798 too late. I can't trust them anymore.

    • @mysticone1798
      @mysticone1798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@marklanahan7289 Understandable.

  • @jeffbrown3805
    @jeffbrown3805 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    ❤ NO WIFE = HAPPY LIFE. ❤

  • @roccocarlino067
    @roccocarlino067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +145

    I solved all my relationship problems in my mid 40's when I decided to follow celibacy, and amazingly everything just fell into place. My life as a middle aged man blossomed, I didn't realise just how emotionally draining it was trying to please others, but mostly my own desires! Truly, if you conquer lust, attachment and dependency, life is sooooo much more rewarding and you feel a sense of self-sovereignty.

    • @johnjennings9693
      @johnjennings9693 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@roccocarlino067 you absolutely

    • @johnjennings9693
      @johnjennings9693 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Absolutely, thank you,

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😏 heehee almost like a Demigod or Nephelim 😎

    • @miterball958
      @miterball958 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@roccocarlino067 I like what you say about breaking the just and dependency attachments. I stayed in hell because I was afraid of leaving the cage. Now I have been forced to freedom and I’m beginning to like it.

    • @wandah9468
      @wandah9468 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Good post! And now you understand why more women than ever are staying away from men. Couldnt say it better than you did!😅

  • @JeremyPezzeca
    @JeremyPezzeca 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +123

    50 year old male here. Mostly single last 10 years and its been the best 10 years of my life in everyway Mostly celibate all those years too. The irony is most men think they'll find their greatest happiness in sex and a woman that loves them but it's actually quite the opposite. Your greatest happiness will be found in celibacy and mastering that side of yourself and not needing or even desiring a woman in your life. It took a lot of hard work for me to here And words do not express how happy I am and the peace and contentment I feel. One of the cons about this is you will radiate.This different energy than every other man in women will be throwing themselves at You everywhere you go, but you will not be interested.Because you know they have nothing to offer you of any real depth or weight. And people will hate you for this. Men will particularly hate you and be jealous of you. Because you have conquered something. Most of them will never conquer or even desire conquering. Once you understand female nature you will realize that most of them don't really love the men they're with. Most relationships are built on status,finances, lust and codependency and not love

    • @Monkeypoop533
      @Monkeypoop533 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@JeremyPezzeca spot on.

    • @CharlieBravo887
      @CharlieBravo887 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, other men will envy you. They will, of course, _never_ admit this. They, like the wimmin they've sold their souls for, will try to shame and disrespect you because they envy you and want you to suffer because they see your peace and joy and despise you for it just like Cain despised Abel for doing right and slew him. These men, again like wimmin, will try to tell you that you're selfish or not living right for not selling your soul to a witch.

    • @TheBootywest
      @TheBootywest 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@JeremyPezzeca Sex can be stressful, believe it or not. You're under pressure to perform and satisfy and possibly reproduce. I'm not saying it's bad but can be hard work

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      😏 i rent Services every once in a while, tho i dont care to have any one of them actually move into my homes, dont care for that, besides I need the place free and clear cause i need the space that i can get to lay out all my projects

    • @MrRainbowSprinkles
      @MrRainbowSprinkles 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My only concern with the long celibacy/SR method is do you lose hair on your head? I'm sure the lack of stress also helps, especially if you're transmuting your extra energy into your passions/goals.

  • @bobbyrebholz2183
    @bobbyrebholz2183 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Nothing healthy ever comes from being married. You can achieve everything in life as you would during marriage, the only difference is you didn't sign a piece of paper which legally binds you to someone's BS.

  • @Omar_Zazzle
    @Omar_Zazzle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +199

    At 62 I have never been married = Thank God.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Well done!👍

    • @michaelanthony1797
      @michaelanthony1797 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      65, same here, Thank God

    • @danielboone72
      @danielboone72 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      52, same here.

    • @CITADEL5
      @CITADEL5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      I'm 68 and have NEVER considered letting some woman have the power to blackmail me or steal from me.

    • @davidbowman2035
      @davidbowman2035 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I am 49 and never married.

  • @ttocselbag5054
    @ttocselbag5054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +139

    Yes brother John. A life without criticism is glorious; all men should experience it! Once you taste true peace and freedom, you’ll NEVER want to return to the plantation!! 👊💪

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      I know, it’s very funny because my ex-wife asked me if I wanted to get back together with her after we had been divorced for a few years. I asked her why on earth would I want to do that? I’ve never been happier. I think I upset her. But it’s the truth.

    • @ttocselbag5054
      @ttocselbag5054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@john-griffin - Yeah man. Once they hit the wall, see their appeal drop, and get a sense of what men of value demand from mates/partners, then the whole dynamic changes. Thanks for being a voice for men brother! You didn’t upset the former Mrs. Griffin BTW, she did that to herself by having an over-inflated ego!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@john-griffin
      Whoa!! That was brutal to her!
      😢😂😂

    • @robmcguckin7605
      @robmcguckin7605 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@ianstuart5660 She earned it.

    • @andrewpizzino2514
      @andrewpizzino2514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Preach brother!

  • @richarddubois1141
    @richarddubois1141 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Every word in this video is true. I'm a 54 year old divorced dad and LOVING my bachelorhood. I appreciate it more than before I married. It's wonderfully freeing to invest my energy in myself versus the exhaustive quest to display whatever appeals to women in any given month or trying to make one particular woman happy and secure. In my 20's and early 30's I used to see married men and envy them, thinking someone wanted them enough to marry them. Now, I look at married men and all I see is a dog tied to a pole in the middle of a fenceless backyard watching the world go by.

  • @panamafred1
    @panamafred1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +184

    Story number one: My second wife and I got married after living four nice years together. On our honeymoon, she announced, "I don't want to have sex anymore." I divorced her.
    Story number two: My third wife, before we got married, upon hearing my story of wife number two said, "I will never turn you away." And she didn't. We enjoyed almost twenty years together, honest, loyal, generous, and loving. She died this week; I miss my best friend and lover.
    These days the risks seem too high. At 76, I don't think I will roll the dice again. I think I will just rent.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Very sorry for your loss!..❤❤

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Nice one mate

    • @sauter1
      @sauter1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Condolences!

    • @panamafred1
      @panamafred1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sauter1 Thank you.

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So sorry for your loss :( God bless

  • @larryreis7273
    @larryreis7273 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    I'm with you, man.👍 I did it once, I'll NEVER do it again!! Never had kids thank God. Never wanted them for SO many reasons. She turned out to be a controlling nightmare. I felt like a prisoner. There is nothing worse than being with someone but still feeling alone and losing your FREEDOM. I'm living in harmony and tranquility now.

    • @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303
      @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Why would you marry someone like that?
      I broke up with many of my girlfriend's at the first sign of them trying to control me😅😅😅

    • @PeterNolan-009
      @PeterNolan-009 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      =====> Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that.

  • @Sams911
    @Sams911 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    55 years old here, divorced her in 2015... been with over 100 women age 19 to 56... still single and loving my peace.. Preach brother.

  • @mythically_odd
    @mythically_odd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

    I'm 23 watching this. Just had 1 situation with a girl from my gen....I'm good. I'm still young, got alot of ambition. Not religious but I don't drink, smoke any of that and don't sleep around. Just me and my goals.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      "Youth is wasted on the young". Perhaps not in your case. Best wishes going forward!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Good for you, friend, very impressed!
      ❤❤

    • @redparis9225
      @redparis9225 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I'm in a similar boat as you brother but I'd highly suggest looking into finding God. I know that with the internet and 1000 different perspectives out there it's a bit overwhelming but find Jesus is the greatest anchor in my life

    • @Bass_Playa_Two_Point.O
      @Bass_Playa_Two_Point.O 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      As a 64yo man, I encourage you to stay on your purpose.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@redparis9225
      Good for you!
      ❤️🙏

  • @archstantonainthere4526
    @archstantonainthere4526 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

    I'm 67, married 34 years, separated/divorced for 10. I would rate 3 of my 34 married years as happy. After sooo many attempts to find a happier place in my marriage, I reached the breaking point most men in this forum have reached. Lost most everything, but so worth it. On the comeback trail and will be ready to retire soon. Sure, I'll have a lot less money, but I'll spend my retired years in peace. No amount of money or stuff can numb the anguish of living with a psychological black hole. To my brothers in pain who are worried about surviving after a long-term marriage, you aren't alone. You've fulfilled your obligations. Give yourselves the gift of peace. You'll be ok.

    • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
      @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      25 years in psychology and psychiatric. 6/100 are Narccisists and yes they will destroy you with pleasure or cheat. 3/100 are antisocial b-clusster dark triad people that will lie,manipulate and maybe kill you ? So, 20 year olds had better study Narccisism on you tube and in Amazons best books on the subject.This behavioural science is easy to follow after a few weeks of study.
      GET IT WRONG ,.....and you will enter hell and lose your sanity and health.Don't vet your partner like the catholic church vets priests and the Police vet new recruits because it destrys the institution of marriage. Take 5 years to be sure because Narcicists are actors that leave all kinds of clues.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As a man, isn't odd to whine this way? Who ruled your life? Someone else? Weak as hell.

    • @archstantonainthere4526
      @archstantonainthere4526 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@marguskiis7711 LOL, only a feminist troll would dish hate on a man offering hope and encouragement to other men. Aim your harpie megaphone elsewhere, Karen.

    • @bradleydurbin6784
      @bradleydurbin6784 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It seems like there’s a growing community of older men who are trying to educate men and make them realize that marriage and women aren’t sugar and spice and everything nice. I’m 61 and I’ve never been married or had kids. What relationships I’ve had was hell. I suggest to tune into some of Rich Coopers podcasts on TH-cam.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@bradleydurbin6784 And what for to give up the large part of life? What for? What you have won living without marriage and kids? Can you explain?

  • @2legit2Kwit
    @2legit2Kwit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    I’m a 50 year old female and I absolutely LOVE BEING SINGLE.

    • @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544
      @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@2legit2Kwit that’s not the topic attention seeker!

    • @Catherine_2571
      @Catherine_2571 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Me too. My own marriage was so expensive. I was the bread winner. Realized he was a critic, like my mother. No thanks.

    • @jasminehasan890
      @jasminehasan890 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@2legit2Kwit no unnecessary complications

    • @staroceans8677
      @staroceans8677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely !

    • @saranagh7097
      @saranagh7097 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ✌️🙏👋❤.

  • @burtbakerack1110
    @burtbakerack1110 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    I’m a 44 year old bachelor, I stopped dating at 31 after having a series of long term relationships. Most of them ended because I didn’t want kids and little interest in marriage. Always seemed like a bad deal for men. Reading the comments for this video brought a big smile to my face. So many men in their 60s and 70s single and living their best life. I hope to get there too. Cheers, fellas!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me too on the older happy guys. Very motivating!

    • @u_w5822
      @u_w5822 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Am 34 now and also stopped at 31 😃

    • @FTYC2022
      @FTYC2022 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Two grown behind adults living together never really works, unless you can afford to buy a huge home with 2 kitchens 😂. I'm a woman and I refuse to cook and clean up after a grown man, especially I have to work as well. No one should get married. Live your life on your terms. Good decision.

  • @hump1953
    @hump1953 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +386

    Oh boy , I’m 71, single, never married, own my house, two pensions and a hefty portfolio…I take four international trips per year to Asia and Latin America for sex.. my parents had a horrible marriage and divorced when I was 10 years old and at that time decided I would never marry… what you say is true…I’m living my best life…

    • @minister5643
      @minister5643 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Which region, Asia or South America, is better for meeting women?

    • @hump1953
      @hump1953 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      @@minister5643 I prefer Asia- Thailand, Cambodia, Philippines.. Vietnam is nice but a little more conservative there..

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Man that sounds so good!

    • @Andy-uj1fe
      @Andy-uj1fe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same here!!!!

    • @abbiealverez2960
      @abbiealverez2960 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Gross

  • @timbimjim514
    @timbimjim514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Being responsible for someone else's happiness and financial wellbeing is pretty hard work and quite a burden. Looking after yourself is hard enough!

  • @mattwells5022
    @mattwells5022 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

    After my divorce 10 years ago I had a 3 year custody case for my four children. My Ex wife was in another relationship the kids suffered at school and home local authorities always involved because of mams behaviour my hands were tied for years. Her family suffered and saw me as the bad guy it was heartache for everyone. Then I got custody of my kids and everything changed never a single issue since everyone couldn't be happier and kids doing well. Me staying single has given us all sanctuary.

  • @Autonomous1969
    @Autonomous1969 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I love being single.
    I do whatever I want whenever I want.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Freedom is great and is even better appreciated after having experienced the oppression of the plantation's taskmaster. I now believe she did me a favor by leaving.

  • @sonderman8079
    @sonderman8079 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    As a man, the worst thing I ever did by far, until today that I am 64, was to get married. Anyone telling you otherwise is lying.

  • @bobjames6622
    @bobjames6622 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    I've been fully single for 24 years. Wouldn't change it for the world; peace and quiet to pursue my hobbies, no nagging, no drama, no hysterics, no gossip, no having to be interested in pointless, BORING shit, no being dragged around endless clothes shops in shopping malls, and ZERO chance of being booted out of my own house by the little lady.

    • @andrewpizzino2514
      @andrewpizzino2514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I thought I was shopping all the time. 8 years of peace and have barely seen a store lol

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Be happy then. Commenting here looks pathetic.

    • @bobjames6622
      @bobjames6622 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@marguskiis7711 Ahh, looks like we've found the butt hurt misandrist!

    • @SIB_COMEDY
      @SIB_COMEDY 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@marguskiis7711 not as pathetic as yours. His actually has a place on this thread.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SIB_COMEDY I, for example, despise dogs. A lot. Do I make videos how I living without dogs is good? Nope. Do I comment under dog themed videos how nasty dogs are? No, because its pathetic.

  • @nickwelchoff4677
    @nickwelchoff4677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    I’ve always brought toxic women into my life. Always ignored the red flags. I finally woke up one day decided to get a Cavapoo puppy and told her to pack her bags and get the hell out. Five years later, best decision I ever met. There’s no benefits for a man to get married.

    • @jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798
      @jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Humm......
      So....you thought there were unicorns out there!?
      Think their all toxic!

    • @MrBBaron
      @MrBBaron 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yes 95 percent of todays tic tok brain women will destroy a good man's life. Stay single and have the life you wish to live.

    • @nickwelchoff4677
      @nickwelchoff4677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MrBBaron right on brother

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That’s a great story. I love it. Traded your wife for a dog. I think you should write a book about that. Thanks for the comment.

    • @palapalak.8907
      @palapalak.8907 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@john-griffin
      Love it!

  • @rodneyrosse198
    @rodneyrosse198 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Amen brother John! I'm 55, never been married. No kids. I enjoy my peace and quiet.

    • @fyrish100
      @fyrish100 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      55 next month , same position as you , not many of us about really , it’s good to read these comments and know I’m not the only one .
      Peace & quiet ,no nagging ,no drama 🙏🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @dannypowers4995
    @dannypowers4995 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    A woman does not love you, she loves the things you do for her. The more you do for her the more she tells you she loves you.🤔

    • @leonelmateus
      @leonelmateus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      basically, the core of all truths. thye don't actually love. they are gaming you into a feeling that you as a man truly recognize and are capable of experiencing.. the meaning of love to a woman is narcissistic in nature, unless they are a mother then they understand that feeling towards their offspring. but never the man, he simply fulfills a role.

  • @stevend8785
    @stevend8785 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I’m currently married 22 years. I’ve never felt as lonely as the last 2-3 years. I’ll be in the same room with her in total silence. Sometimes we exchange 10 words a day. Decisions lol - I can’t even roll down the car window.

    • @Chuncy566
      @Chuncy566 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @stevend8785 I have been there ,i know how that sucks, you would do well to get out of that steel trap,and never get back in another one,once is to many. God bless

    • @haroldyazzie3538
      @haroldyazzie3538 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Damn😂

    • @jeremiaharyeetey9877
      @jeremiaharyeetey9877 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Awwww

    • @Gary_oldmans_left_nut
      @Gary_oldmans_left_nut 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@stevend8785 go to therapy.

    • @raymonddelacruz846
      @raymonddelacruz846 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@stevend8785 dude get out now

  • @Falconlibrary
    @Falconlibrary 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    I'm 62 next month, divorced for 30 years, never remarried, and I have no regrets. I compare my life with those of married men my age and I'm visibly happier than any of them. Women used to nurture men and give us both peace and joy, but that's long gone. The modern married man is nothing but a walking ATM and women feel contempt for their husbands. Imagine waking up every day knowing that the person next to you in the bed either secretly or open despises you. Know what the big trend is now? "Silver divorce", where women over 60 are divorcing their husbands.
    My pension, my house, my time, it all belongs to me, and no feminist divorce court judge is going to take it from me.

    • @CharlieBravo887
      @CharlieBravo887 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      "Wimmin feel contempt for their husbands."
      This. Why would you sign a contract to give all your stuff--including your peace---to one who despises you?

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Silver divorce , the karma train stops at every station, choo choooooooo

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@stuartjohnston4353 she hates you because you hate yourself, she knows you want to be elsewhere but you are too piss weak to leave , they know this so punish you

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Foreign women are better, there's a documentary on this I think... American women? Dead last.

    • @drumsnbass
      @drumsnbass หลายเดือนก่อน

      My ex-wife decided she wanted a “silver divorce”. Fortunately I made significant earnings and was good at saving. We’re both financially stable. But… we could have had SO much more if she had been sane & stable.
      No women in my life the last 3 years. I miss them, but it’s peaceful.

  • @RobsNeighbor
    @RobsNeighbor 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    My son is 11, and I have been raising him solo, the other day I thought he has never seen me love and care for a women and share a loving life, I have no interest at this point. His mom abandoned him and I have been a great amazing dad doing all I can and he will grow up to be a great loving caring human. Great video!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks for sharing!! I have been a single dad twice in my life. Its a great job! Thanks again!

  • @lockdot2
    @lockdot2 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I am 75 and most of my single friends are about the same age not one wants to get married again WHY? EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS 100% SPOT ON !!!! If you have 2 or 3 lady friends that like to do what you want to do enjoy their company and have fun because life is short it is not worth all the problems you brought up about being married thanks again been there and done that YOU DID A GREAT JOB EXPOSING THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW GREAT MARRIAGE IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @northernmichigan4108
    @northernmichigan4108 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    You aren't jaded, you are speaking the absolute truth. I'm 53 going through the beginning stages of divorce with my soon to be ex who is 38. Fellas, DO NOT GET MARRIED!!

    • @Carlosbusiness774
      @Carlosbusiness774 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@northernmichigan4108 you mind sharing the reason for the divorce?

    • @northernmichigan4108
      @northernmichigan4108 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Carlosbusiness774 She is no longer happy being with me.

    • @lochnessmunster1189
      @lochnessmunster1189 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@northernmichigan4108 How long were you with her for, if I may ask?

    • @northernmichigan4108
      @northernmichigan4108 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lochnessmunster1189 12 years

    • @lochnessmunster1189
      @lochnessmunster1189 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@northernmichigan4108 Cheers. You made a good effort with it.

  • @rogerjohnson1600
    @rogerjohnson1600 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    You're 100% right
    I'm 61
    Bachelor for over 25 years
    Best years of my life
    Most long term relationships ,men are miserable
    When you're married someone else is controlling yourself worth, thought pattern ,& happiness....
    Most women are unhappy

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I’ve been single for 42 years. I wouldn’t change a thing.

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Nobody controls my thought patterns. Wth is wrong with you?

  • @natemunao3451
    @natemunao3451 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    My divorce started when I was 51, my 50's were the best 10 consecutive years of my life. It was like being in my 20's but with money.

  • @cyberzonie631
    @cyberzonie631 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    There are no “man caves”, there is only your stuff, and yes , being single is so much better for men.

    • @ivearies4187
      @ivearies4187 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      It is for women too! I am just saying 😂

    • @tomlynx2008
      @tomlynx2008 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ivearies4187 That is only partially true.... Being single for men is easier in the sense that we can truly be independent.... We can hang the sheetrock, lay down the carpet, and open our own pickle jars! Be honest, when you make that phone call when one of your appliances breaks down or your car is on the fritz what is the gender of the person that comes to your rescue? Just saying...... The reason women aren't having babies in the corner of a damp cave with a 50 plus percent child mortality rate is because men constructed the world for them to be comfortable in... Women wearing expensive pants suits and making six digit incomes in climate controlled air conditioned environments and complaining about long staff meetings have no real idea what it took to make that world for them..... Look around you and ask yourself who built it?... Just saying....

  • @lpsglitterpaws8536
    @lpsglitterpaws8536 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I am a soon to be divorced woman (20years) and I don’t thinks that you are jaded at all. You have me excited about the next chapter of my life 😊

    • @regallmusiccorp.8052
      @regallmusiccorp.8052 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      The same fun and freedom that goes with being FREE also applies to women for sure- Now you can go out and have FUN!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I am really happy to hear you say that. The truth is the first year or so can be a little challenging, But as time goes by, you really appreciate all the freedom and opportunity you have to explore who you are as a single person. You rediscover yourself for the first time! It great! Thanks!!

  • @arniep740
    @arniep740 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thanks for this video. SO many true and great points. I am now celebrating 2 years since the divorce.... And I do mean celebrating! I now live with SO much less anxiety, NO conflict on a daily basis. I too was married to this woman for 21 years and looking back, I came to realize that I was so unhappy with her for most of that time. The kindest thing she ever did for me was to tell me she wanted a divorce!

  • @PCBFL64
    @PCBFL64 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    I just found your channel, too. It speaks directly to me: 60 years old, divorced for 5 years. Life is getting way better finally. Planning on retiring in a couple years, and doing a bunch of hiking/travelling. I sure look forward to watching more of your videos.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thanks, I’ll do my best to make them worth watching.

  • @johnnyjohnn281
    @johnnyjohnn281 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    I’m in monk mode now since my marriage broke up in 2010. The divorce process was nasty and I witnessed every dirty trick in the book from a woman who claimed prior to 2010 to ‘love’ me. Outcome: I lost EVERYTHING! Since then the scales have been peeled from my eyes with regard to the nature of women. Today I don’t date, I have NO intention of ever being in another relationship, and my life is so much more peaceful and fulfilling. I interact with women, sure, but inwardly I view them as I would view a tiger or a leopard: absolutely beautiful creatures, but no way I would get in a cage with one to be ripped to shreds. 🙂

    • @glorgau
      @glorgau 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Date, but do it on your terms. Your eyes are open.

  • @tonytt9328
    @tonytt9328 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I feel the need to speak for us happily married men (all 3 of us 😊). My take is men who allow wives to bully/control their lives were already Simps at the courting stage, now deep into the marriage they're not happy like they thought it was all gonna somehow change. I've been happily married over 25 years, my wife brings a peace and calmful energy into my life. I've never once known her to put herself before me and our children. Dare I say I love and more importantly 'LIKE' my wife. I think many happily married men will have a similar story and that's largely because from the outset we knew what we were looking for, didn't ignore red flags, didn't compromise to appease and didn't change our core nature to win over women that deep down we NEVER really liked in the first place.

    • @MicheleArbour
      @MicheleArbour 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      And this is why you’re married and this guy yammering his bitter vitriol is alone

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts! We need to hear from you guys too

    • @1winstard
      @1winstard หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tonytt9328 agreed

  • @Ghostrabbit22
    @Ghostrabbit22 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    My GF of 6 years said she was unhappy as I do my own thing after spending a week or so with her including a little camping holiday where I paid for everything fuel camp fees food , I also do the coffee and clean ups in the morning , so now she is missing me , well I like to do what I want and she’s turning this into a almost married thing so it’s GOODBYE from me

  • @orionism42
    @orionism42 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    He's telling the truth. My wife has not wanted it in 5 years, but expects me to sit quietly and just wait for her to decide when we can do it again lol.

    • @thedevilandhertrumpets4268
      @thedevilandhertrumpets4268 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      That’s abusive on her end.

    • @orionism42
      @orionism42 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thedevilandhertrumpets4268 another man hater that’s what you are. This is a men’s channel.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      You are on your way to being single. She is just waiting for the right moment.

    • @graemeadeane8980
      @graemeadeane8980 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@orionism42 she has all the power unfortunately

    • @freddierukundo5742
      @freddierukundo5742 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      She is looking for an excuse to divorce you

  • @blackprospector
    @blackprospector 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Subscribed! Newly divorced (4 months) and I was just telling a young man about the joys of being single today (obviously my phone was listening to me for your vid to pop up on the recommended list). You're spot on and despite the financial devastation, it's better to live suffering alone, than being married feeling, and still suffering, "alone".

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks, I know how tough it is to be in your shoes. I am putting a video tomorrow about the post divorce experience. I hope you like it. thanks again

  • @danbailey1229
    @danbailey1229 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I was married for 33 years and now I happier than I was the last 10 years I was married. Now I have my stereo in the living room and my guitars and big screen TV. I’m not trying to please anybody but me. We never hated each other and remain good friends because we have 2 grown sons and 2 granddaughters so there’s nothing awkward being together for holidays and birthdays. Life is great.

    • @DanHottenroth
      @DanHottenroth 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      My X and me still also see each other and are still friends. 6 months after the divorce I had many friends, both male and female, mention that the old Dan was back. I didn't realize how much I had changed to just keep the peace and get by. As with you, being able to make decisions without the always compromising was fantastic. I have friends that have a similar setup to yours and their place always feels relaxed and fun to be at.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      That sounds a lot like my ex-wife. I like her a lot better now that we’re not married. She’s a good person, just a lousy wife.

  • @NAYR8
    @NAYR8 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Literally, the best day of my life was when I got diagnosed with cancer, and my wife cheated on me and left. At the time it seemed devastating, now I have made a full recovery physically and financially. The joy of being single, and free is immense! I have taken on more time in hobbies, leisure, and travel. Every day is an adventure, without having to be shackled to an unappreciative, manipulative and psychopathic person. Out of a group of 10 friends I currently have, I’d say about seven of them are married with kids, and miserable. One couple has not had sex in over six months. Now I have full control over my life, and I don’t have to be hindered in anyway. The line you discussed about things being held against you is true lol. my ex was actually mad at me for months, because I accidentally broke a wine glass. I said it was no big deal and I’m happy to replace it. She pouted for months because she said I didn’t have a attitude towards breaking it lol

    • @AlexAlex-lg7hc
      @AlexAlex-lg7hc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      She was probably the cause of your cancer. When I was married I had constant pains in my chest. Had blood tests done and all that, doctors couldn't understand what was going on. The day she f@@ked off was the day the pains in my chest stopped. I couldn't thank her more for the cure.

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Jeez... I'm sorry man. I hate that so many men are treated this same exact way...

    • @NAYR8
      @NAYR8 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@restassuredworship bro don’t be like me and suffer! Don’t pay her bills, consign, move in etc. Always maintain your space and emotional health

  • @andrewosso2943
    @andrewosso2943 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I'm 57. Divorced for almost 3 years. The biggest thing I enjoy is not having to fight or argue. She always picked the fights and controlled how little we made love. Also, feeling alone with a partner sucks.

  • @travelguy1564
    @travelguy1564 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    I was married for 12 years, been single for the past 19 years - the older I get, the more I LOVE being single. I spend time around senior couples (50's and 60's), and realize I don't have to put up with the BS from a woman. There are good marriages out there but I believe that probably two thirds of all senior citizen marriages are not pleasant. The women NAG and the men have to go along with it - it's something I'm glad that I'm not stuck in! Cheers!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Two thirds? If true, that is a very disappointing ratio to see.
      Maybe it's an indication of the wider troubles in modern society?

    • @pugsymalone6539
      @pugsymalone6539 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Spread the word to your peers. Introduce them to this channel. Good luck to you!

  • @BankerBoy
    @BankerBoy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    very happily married for years and then she passed and I have been single for 6 years now in my 60s....nothing to be afraid of...peace and freedom...financially secure...I can cook and clean and do what I want when I want....buy what I want when I want...I tell my sons to stay single....its the "new happy" for men

    • @johnballard6725
      @johnballard6725 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think a modern guy who cannot cook and keep his place reasonably clean should be ashamed of himself ?!

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So you're advocating for the end of humanity?

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Marriage only began in the 15th century. Romantic Love in marriage in the 19th century. I think we can manage. 😃

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@john-griffin who is "we"? So in order to keep our species alive, your plan is to impregnate random women and presumably send them child support, and the kid can grow up without a father while you go hiking and traveling? Is that the plan?

    • @tonyvaninetti3429
      @tonyvaninetti3429 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is the new happy for many younger women too.

  • @Anthony-zo3dk
    @Anthony-zo3dk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In a society that is lost, with billions of people who are lost, having a truly deep and meaningful relationship is virtually impossible; so therefore, yes, being single is maybe the best option. But if you are whole, or working on it, as a person, and you truly love another who is whole, or working on being whole, then there is nothing better than to share your life with that person. As a couple it truly makes life easier in all aspects and soulfully complete. Bless you all, and I sincerely hope you will find your own fulfilling experience

  • @athletikonaol
    @athletikonaol 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    65 now. Never have been duped into marriage. In my view, most of the women I dated were emotionally disturbed. There are women who exist that are not unstable. But they are rare. I really enjoy solitude. And I live my life in peace.

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Once you experience solitude and eternal peace, you will never go back, sometimes takes some getting used to but it’s more addictive than crack 😂

    • @jc4evur661
      @jc4evur661 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't believe how many I've met that have had very low self esteem...they feel like **** about themselves.

  • @WildMidwest1
    @WildMidwest1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Turning 60 next month and this video resonates. Central western Sierra is full of adventure. Not dragging a bag of complaints around is so much more fun.

  • @carlosenriquecastanedaguti8130
    @carlosenriquecastanedaguti8130 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    After watching and reading the comments I feel lucky. I'm 37 y/o and my marriage only last 6 months, it was pure nightmare: dramas out of the blue, 3 suicide attempts (her), tantrums, triangulation, violence, flying objects, etc. I lost everything in the separation but gladly after 2 years, I'm recovered and she is financially broken. Now I see life with bright colors again. Looking forward my future. Thanks for sharing your story!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You never know what you are getting until its too late. Try my recent upload "Beware of the Bear in Your Bed". I am sure you will find it both funny and accurate.

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I am glad you got out. You can’t help women like that.

  • @gregory6401
    @gregory6401 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    People look at me as if there is something wrong with me when I tell them I've never been married or had kids.
    I just turned 66, was basically forced into retirement over a year ago, and I will be careful with my remaining funds going forward. Which definitely means I'm staying away from women.
    I stopped dating just after I turned 40 and haven't missed that drama at all.
    There was a time when I wondered why I was always getting the terrible dates and girlfriends but a group of friends at the time did an intervention with me and convinced me that I wasn't the problem. After that, I decided that my emotional health was my top priority.

  • @deliaalvarado847
    @deliaalvarado847 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I’ve never met a married man or woman whose life I envied. There’s a liberating freedom in living life entirely on my own terms. In the end, very few regrets come from what we did-almost all are about what we didn’t do.

    • @billyliar1614
      @billyliar1614 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And that could apply to divorce

  • @scottmorton5379
    @scottmorton5379 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m 60, been divorced 24 years, had girlfriends, as soon as drama starts I’m done. I live how I choose,I let women make their choices, and I make mine. It’s not selfish when you live and let live, it’s freedom.

  • @robertbush8327
    @robertbush8327 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I'm 59, single after a 7 year common law marriage. This last year I've been single I've never been more at peace. I'm planning for my retirement and now that my kids are grown I feel so free, like the world is out there for my exploration.

  • @Bat_Boy
    @Bat_Boy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    Choose your pain.
    Lifting weights is painful.
    Being fat is painful.
    My wife is often painful.
    Being alone is often painful.
    Working is painful.
    Not working is painful.
    Having a relationship is painful.
    Not having a relationship is painful.
    What pain you choose, says more about you than anything else. Pain is the price of admission for being human.

    • @terraflow__bryanburdo4547
      @terraflow__bryanburdo4547 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@Bat_Boy Suffering can be minimized, learn to read the true signals that pain is sending you

    • @IBSteve
      @IBSteve 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You forgot to list Having a fat wife is painful. lol

    • @f12sus
      @f12sus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes… and we can absorb it and alchemize it into new energy…

    • @redfishswimming
      @redfishswimming 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Being alone is perfection.

    • @homiesenatep
      @homiesenatep หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lorenanders702he didn’t say that

  • @safetyman3
    @safetyman3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My marriage is ending after 19 years. I have been to trusting, naive, and to much of a giver. I always strived to ensure she was well taken care of and put her first in so many ways. I have weathered situations with her and always tried to be the one she could lean on, no matter what. It has become abundantly clear that none of my efforts to show my love for her have mattered. Some spouses are takers with never a thought about giving. My soon to be ex-wife is a taker; and her taking knows no limit.

  • @floatswitch
    @floatswitch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Well said! I'm married, 25 years as of a few weeks ago, the only thing i could think about that whole day was everything you just laid out here. I love my wife very much, but love isn't enough anymore. She's getting everything she wants from this contract, I'm not. Recently i realized just how codependent i was with her and i'm determined to break myself of it. No longer will i hang my happiness on if she's happy.
    Anyway, preach brother! You said it all.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Quite a reality check isn't it. You may have taken the "red pill".

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It sounds like you may need to have a conversation with her. Chances are if you feel this way, she does too. Better to plan a mutually agreeable split if thats where things are headed. Good luck!

  • @lightworker4512
    @lightworker4512 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Married for 42 years. Very happy. Blessed that I found my soulmate that understands me and is not narcissistic. Most people get married for the he wrong reasons and end up divorced

  • @Beginnerstarterchannel
    @Beginnerstarterchannel หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Holy moly bro, hallelujah! I'm just 31 years old and I'm never getting married and I can promise you that

    • @Lee-g8h
      @Lee-g8h หลายเดือนก่อน

      31 here, it was brutal man

  • @mikesnaturalroast7748
    @mikesnaturalroast7748 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    Haaaa, 2.5 years into being single, age 63. All he says is true.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thanks for the support!

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      And women age like milk. If I were to date someone it would be someone 20 years younger than me

    • @Randy-tu6sd
      @Randy-tu6sd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@baldeagle4710 "Men age like Sean Connery, and women age like . . . SEAN CONNERY!" 😁
      ~SSM

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Randy-tu6sd 😂

    • @kengaroo5170
      @kengaroo5170 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Marriage is good for a couple of years. Then it goes downhill. Don't waste your life and dreams trying to make a woman happy.

  • @philipswain4122
    @philipswain4122 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I sometimes sleep in my garden, smoke cigars. I travel to the places I want, wear the cologne i want and the clothes i want. I drive the car i want snd go to Vegas for a weekend. Brilliant

  • @rd-dd3us
    @rd-dd3us 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Being single after 17 years of being in a relationship/marriage is amazing, didn't realize what I was missing. Life is great.

  • @searchersearcher8286
    @searchersearcher8286 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    74 yo bachelor the peace & Freedom is amazing

    • @eddieBoxer
      @eddieBoxer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is 2024, you'll never find perpectual love, that was many decades ago, now these ladies are over weight, money hungry, cheaters while you're working, have secret Facebook accounts, been there, no more.

  • @ConnieBrown-gu6bb
    @ConnieBrown-gu6bb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I’m a divorced professional woman and I feel exactly the same way about remaining single. I’ve used up every ounce of compromise I ever had.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It’s funny how society kind of frowns on us for remaining single or wanting to be single. It seems like a perfectly natural state to live in. I think it gets all conflated with religion and politics, and who knows what. But once the kids are raised and gone. What’s the point if you’re not getting along with someone you should get out. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it.

    • @homiesenatep
      @homiesenatep หลายเดือนก่อน

      F*ck compromising

  • @nathanielringdahl
    @nathanielringdahl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great point on “you have autonomy on all issues”
    This one is an amazing relief. To have spaces in the house the way you choose, to be frugal when you know it’s wise rather than capitulating to her overspending, and on and on

  • @jeffreypryor4549
    @jeffreypryor4549 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I'm 56, twice divorced, one son who is 35 and lives out west. I've been single for 14 years now, and I will never marry again. I don't even date anymore and I'm just fine. My life is peaceful.

  • @sallyrobbins7770
    @sallyrobbins7770 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Female here - married once - we were both free spirits - loved him - but it did end in 1999 - never married again - this video makes me laugh A LOT - i am very happy single - never had kids - no drama, bills all paid, do what I want when I want ... NO REGRETS

    • @thedevilandhertrumpets4268
      @thedevilandhertrumpets4268 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right there with you!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am really glad you like it. Being single is a blessing in many ways. The peace of mind and the ability to do your thing is so valuable. But, if you have the right partner, I think it can be good too. It's just finding the right person is a ton of work, and the odds aren't that great. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it, and I'm glad you laughed!

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why do women stop wanting sex?

    • @hendrikvanspankeren251
      @hendrikvanspankeren251 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That’s really cool. I guess it works both ways, for men and women. I appreciate that you laughed at this. I did as well… There’s definitely a very amusing aspect to this.

  • @moisessuarez7643
    @moisessuarez7643 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'll keep staying single! 😊

  • @cecilialaurin414
    @cecilialaurin414 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Great video just came across it I am 54 year old female never been married and have no kids I do not miss any of it, I have my freedom and can do what ever I want when I want you do not have to ask any one’s permission on what you want to do eat and have the whole bed to yourself you can eat what you want and don’t have to always do dishes. I look at my siblings marriage one is separated and the other is always waiting on her husband crazy men and women take advantage of each other and besides I do not trust men they can cheat on you and do not care staying single is the best choice. Thank you

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m really glad you commented. It’s nice to know that these characteristics are universal. I didn’t want to come off as being anti-woman just pro single. Thanks again.

  • @plasmaarmelund
    @plasmaarmelund 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    So true about wresting with anxiety in marriage as a man when your wife has it. It's never ending and a lot men just stop trying to deal with it. You can see it in the eyes of men who've resigned to it in long marriages. They have empty eyes with no spark. Usually, they have been completely emasculated. It's so sad to witness.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I know, I have had some clients like that. I even trained a couple that have been married for over 50 years and that poor guy had to pretend he was deaph in order to get any peace.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I was one of them. I was on a plantation with a demanding taskmaster.

    • @dougb2714
      @dougb2714 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I was married 56 years to one person. I am now 80 years old, and she passed away 3 years ago. I cannot hear women when they talk, not even if they scream in my ear. My eyebrows are drooping. The hospital evicted her for being there too long and had also used all available nursing home and home healthcare benefits. I built an intensive care ward in my living room, and I was her primary caregiver. 18 hours a day, 7 days a week for 13 years. I am tired.

    • @plasmaarmelund
      @plasmaarmelund 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ What was her diagnosis?

  • @hollyleann1825
    @hollyleann1825 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am a woman. I feel exactly the same. This information is great. Thank you.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are so welcome! So many women give me exactly the same response that you did. It makes me very happy to find that we share the same underlying experience. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • @kevingallen1678
    @kevingallen1678 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Neuroticism just increases as they get older.It’s better to adapt to being single when younger and then enjoy life,

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Among women, antidepressant use rose from 10.3% among those aged 18 to 39 to 24.3% among women aged 60 and older.

    • @FTYC2022
      @FTYC2022 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@darylfoster7944honestly its to cope with men. No one really likes be married once they experience it for a while, men or women, trust me. Most do it for society, sex, or money.

  • @matthewaxford655
    @matthewaxford655 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I have been a bachelor my whole life. Never cohabitated with a woman. Now, at 57, it was the best life for ME! I lived in Northern California for 7 years in my 30’s. A year in Rome before that. Universities in Michigan and Vermont. Just go and do my own life. If a woman was ever interested and captured mine…so be it. I had about 10-12 interludes between 25-50. They were beautiful and the moments were good, three of them could have caged me but, I always found me again. Truly blessed to never live on the Domestic Plantation. If you can make it from 30-45 without making a commitment to something that Never Lasts you will be fine; it can be very lonely at times without affection and intimacy. As a man that is all I ever wanted and leave it at that. Women and Men are very different creatures, there is No Shared Mentality however…glad I escaped the years of disappointment after the sex and such. Be Well Gentleman and know this man speaks the Truth!!!

    • @hareeba5879
      @hareeba5879 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wise words. Thank you.

  • @johnnyappleseed2058
    @johnnyappleseed2058 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Marriage and funerals have much in common, one buries you above ground the other beneath it.

  • @guitarsandcheesecake1632
    @guitarsandcheesecake1632 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I've got 3 ex wives. And as good as marriage is. I was bored of living someone else's life. With someone else's children. I now have so much time and money, its crazy. And I get more time to share it with my daughter and grand daughter.........fantastic

    • @rpd2787
      @rpd2787 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Good for you man!,
      However, I am curious, you say you have so much money now, the time thing I understand.
      But how did you escape from 3 marriages without getting completely financially wrecked?

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well said!

    • @homiesenatep
      @homiesenatep หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh god no