I have never left a comment in a TH-cam video before, but yours really changed my breastfeeding experience with my 10 day old baby. 1000% recommended to new and not so new moms. Thank you so much from Panama!!!
I'm struggling so much with breastfeeding. They should teach this to us in high-school so we will know in the future than some of the pointless stuff they teach instead.
I cant thank you enough, honestly! I'm 2 weeks PP and have been exclusively breastfeeding the whole time, but I've also been in excruciating pain the entire time while nursing. I've been to a lactation consultant and she gave me tips, and showed me how to latch( not like your video did though) , but I was still hurting during nursing. Now I realize I was just giving him my nipple not the surrounding area of it. BIG DIFFERENCE. I found you video last night and I've had multiple pain free nursing sessions with my newborn son. I can't thank you enough! Thank you, thank you! Love from Vancouver Canada ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg this is the absolute best video!!! I couldnt properly latch my newborn for 4 weeks and finally today we got it with the help of this video. Thank you
Thank you so so much! I'd been struggling with agonising pain for 6 weeks until I watched this video and tried out this technique. Now I find that I'm actually experiencing a natural high after every feeding with a good latch. Thanks again!!
This is my first ever comment on any TH-cam video ever but I have to say THANK YOU - I was sooo close to giving up breastfeeding until I watched this video (and your other video on getting a deeper latch). Immediately pain free (besides residual damage from doing it wrong) but it’s a GAME CHANGER. THANK YOU.
Thank you thank you thank you!!! I’ve been trying to nurse my 1 month old but it’s always been painful. I tried this and I’m no longer feeling pain thank you so much!!!
Thanks so much for this video. This is the best technique that worked with my newborn almost right away. Latching made easy. He learned to open his mouth wide. Lots of love ❤️
Inshallah in few days going to have my second baby and thank you enough for this valuable information ma'am because with my first one i struggled alot with cracked nipples because of all these latch mistakes i was doing
Thank you for a really helpful video! I’ve been struggling with a shallow, painful latch for a couple of weeks and I’ve had my first pain free feed after watching your video ❤
This video is awesome! So helpful - we are now working to get a deep latch but I noticed my LO is still chomping down in that motion even though the latch is deeper than before. Do you have any tips? An IBCLC said he doesn’t have any oral restrictions
If he’s clamping down it may be muscular rather than tongue restriction related. Does he struggle to open his mouth wide? Or only open wide for a second or two when latching? Does he prefer to always have head on one particular side when resting/sleeping? History or very long or very quick labour? Shoulder dystocia at birth?
Thank you so much for the video it really helped me this came like a saviour for me.And also wanted to know how much feeding time is the best with 3 weeks New born.He is taking for 10 minutes.Is that feed enough for him
You're welcome. I'm so glad it's helpful. How long your baby feeds isn't actually as important as how effectively they're feeding. These two videos will be helpful for you - th-cam.com/video/tCsOhT3pbOI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=4hzKjg3iS4MIGz5V th-cam.com/video/gzhVRPOFjak/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gTZJsviYGJLWwRoB
This is so helpful. My baby girl is 3 days old and was doing nipple feeding which made it so painful. I tried your tips and it definitely is less painful but still not opening her mouth to encompass the entire aereola. Is this maybe because her mouth is still small (she was born at 2.88 kg in an emergency c section at 39 weeks) Or is there something I am still doing wrong?
@@linaabojaradehart there are a number of factors which can cause tension in the neck and jaw muscles which stop baby being able to open their mouth wide. Even small babies should be able to open a wide mouth. Check out this video for some more info/tips: th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=F4oqIagTdRUUWuMd
I know you said reach out to a IBCLC if these tips don’t help. But as an IBCLC, what do I do when these tips still don’t help my son get a deeper latch? He’s 3 weeks, dentist said there’s no tongue tie. He chomps down on my nipples and they’re flat when I pull them from his mouth. He only open his mouth wide for a quick second. And even when I follow these instructions it still hurts. Any advice?
My baby is just over 4 weeks old and I've been in so much pain during breastfeeding. Also I am not able to produce much milk because I keep having to take a day off here and there to allow my nipples to heal so on those days, I hand express and bottle feed her. I was happy before becoming a mom but now im experiencing depression from breastfeeding. I never epuld have thiught it would be do hard. My nipples are extremely flat and dont poke out at all so its hard getting the nipples far back into her mouth and a nipple shield is incredibly painful. She sucks on it but no milk comes out. It just pulls on my raw nipple.
Sounds like you've had such an overwhelming journey so far! I'd definitely recommend some 1:1 support and I'm happy to arrange this for you - just email alissa@motherandmilk.co.uk It's totally fine to take some time off to let your nipples heal but you definitely need to be pumping at least as frequently as your baby is feeding on those days otherwise your milk supply will quickly reduce. If your baby is only 4 weeks old there's definitely time to turn it all around though!
@carolinaalvarez3783 It's tough, right? As moms we just want to provide for our baby and when we struggle with it, it hits hard. I tried for months to breastfeed. Most of the pain finally went away, but I just wasn't able to produce enough milk to properly feed my baby. She was underweight because of it and I got so depressed because I dreaded feeding her store bought formula. That formula is SO bad for babies. That's why so many babies on store bought formula get sick. They have rattly breathing, runny noses, digestive issues, rashes, etc. My husband found an alternative that hits close to human breast milk. If you are still struggling with it to the point where your baby isn't eating much, I can send you the link to the milk alternative website. It costs more than regular formula, but it's much healthier than the stuff with corn syrup and other bad ingredients. It's a mixture of goats milk, goat milk lactose, collagen powder, and some other ingredients. My baby LOVES it and she has zero digestive issues, no rashes and she is very strong and healthy.
@@totallyrufus Hi, thanks for your reply! For sure, show which is it? I'm still fighting for breastfeeding her, however I understand I'll have to make a decision soon. Thanks
@carolinaalvarez3783 I'll send you the link. Yes. Definitely. Fight as hard and as long as you can since breastfeeding your baby is the best for him/her for several reasons.
@@nahlahamed1292 yes absolutely! You may still have some residual discomfort until you are 100% healed but this should really help to avoid that consistant pinching pain from a shallow latch :)
Does the pain go away instantly if the latch is good? What if I have a difficult time using the same hand as the breast is on? Is it possible to use the opposite hand?
Yes you can use the opposite hand, but you'll be using your index and middle finger in a scissor shape from the top of your breast :) It can still feel tender if you've had damage from a bad latch that is still healing but the sharp pinching pain with each suck should go away.
It's not impossible, but the older a baby gets the more they are in the habit of feeding in a particular way so it can take longer. The key to latching no matter what size your breasts are is getting baby positioned at the right angle - you might find these tips helpful --- th-cam.com/video/7aRvJ_UYdMg/w-d-xo.htmlsi=iC2jk9mKKrn4AhyD
When will the baby learn sucking ? Until when shall I continue this? My baby is 6 weeks and it gets tiring, she feeds only when I use this technique and stops when I leave my breast
If your baby is struggling to feed without this technique at 6 weeks then I'd suggest you get some support from an IBCLC - it could be that your baby has restricted tongue function or there may be challenges with your milk supply. Check out these two videos for more on looking for effective sucking and diagnosing challenges with milk supply. th-cam.com/video/tCsOhT3pbOI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=EpYXGVXfEPtih6W8 th-cam.com/video/GgtbSvMyVnA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=YTWKFQq13V0X24Sy
From the bottom of my heart thank you…I am 5 weeks in and was ready to throw in the towel…like many of these women said crying in toe curling pain at every feeding. You are wonderful thank you for your help, I am beyond grateful. 🥲
What do I do if baby refuses to open wide enough to get in more than just the nipple or pushes the breast out of her mouth if more than the nipple goes in?
So if you're struggling to get your baby to open a wide mouth/they're struggling to take more than the nipple this is likely related to jaw tension/hyperactive gag reflex. If you check out my Instagram here (instagram.com/alissapembertonibclc/) I've just posted a reel with some easy at home exercises to help ease jaw tension. Suck training getting baby used to sucking on a clean finger (placed upside down in baby's mouth) is also good to desensitise gag reflex. It would be worth getting your baby checked by an IBCLC for tongue tie, and if you find exercises at home aren't enough to get baby to open a wide mouth then a craniosacral osteopath would be the best person to see :)
Thanks for the video - really useful - what adjustments in the advice would you give for applying that technique to someone with breasts on the larger side?
You're welcome. I'm so glad you found it helpful. You can apply the same technique with larger breasts, but you might find doing it in a stargazing hold type position works well. I've got some pictures and explanation of this on my instagram @mother.and.milk :)
This technique will work well with flat nipples, other mums also find it helpful to use a 'Latch Assist' to help evert the nipples, or use a breast pump for this as well. Some mums also find nipple shields helpful :)
@@rauzana5177 Yes they can do - nipple shields are useful in some situations but babies who are reliant on them for longer periods do find it difficult to transition away from them, certainly not impossible though. If it's a case of baby not being able to breastfeed at all, or breastfeeding with a shield, then it's still a good option. If your baby is struggling to latch and feed, even with using this sandwich technique then I'd suggest you get your baby checked for a tongue tie also. Babies with good tongue function can usually still latch and feed well even with flat nipples :)
If your baby is unable to open their mouth wide enough to latch then it may be to do with muscular tension in the jaw. Assessment with a craniosacral osteopath can help but in the mean time try these exercises - th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=IZa06HewdXgilT6g
Babies are born being able to breastfeed, so it's not so much about baby's mouth being too small, as it is baby having muscular tension in their neck and jaw which is stopping baby opening their mouth wider. Try this ------- th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=A05FVTqRDx9YIgME and this ------th-cam.com/video/7aRvJ_UYdMg/w-d-xo.htmlsi=iC2jk9mKKrn4AhyD
I know you said reach out to a IBCLC if these tips don’t help. But as an IBCLC, what do I do when these tips still don’t help my son get a deeper latch? He’s 3 weeks, dentist said there’s no tongue tie. He chomps down on my nipples and they’re flat when I pull them from his mouth. He only open his mouth wide for a quick second. And even when I follow these instructions it still hurts. Any advice?
I have never left a comment in a TH-cam video before, but yours really changed my breastfeeding experience with my 10 day old baby. 1000% recommended to new and not so new moms. Thank you so much from Panama!!!
That is awesome! I'm so glad to hear it helped! You can follow me on instagram too for more tips/advice @alissapembertonibclc
I'm struggling so much with breastfeeding.
They should teach this to us in high-school so we will know in the future than some of the pointless stuff they teach instead.
2AM and I’m sobbing over here, for the 1st time I’ve fed my baby pain free thanks to you!! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart!!! 🤍
You are so welcome! Thanks for taking the time to comment - it’s made my day to hear it’s helped you :)
I cant thank you enough, honestly! I'm 2 weeks PP and have been exclusively breastfeeding the whole time, but I've also been in excruciating pain the entire time while nursing. I've been to a lactation consultant and she gave me tips, and showed me how to latch( not like your video did though) , but I was still hurting during nursing. Now I realize I was just giving him my nipple not the surrounding area of it. BIG DIFFERENCE. I found you video last night and I've had multiple pain free nursing sessions with my newborn son. I can't thank you enough! Thank you, thank you!
Love from Vancouver Canada ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You’re so welcome! You’ve absolutely made my day with this comment so thank you. I’m so glad to hear it’s been helpful! :)
Omg this is the absolute best video!!! I couldnt properly latch my newborn for 4 weeks and finally today we got it with the help of this video. Thank you
Fantastic Jasmine! So glad to hear that it's helped you :)
@@alissabrownibclc s
M bht try but mra baby nye feed kr pa rha ..m nipple use usy feed k leyem
Thank you so so much! I'd been struggling with agonising pain for 6 weeks until I watched this video and tried out this technique. Now I find that I'm actually experiencing a natural high after every feeding with a good latch. Thanks again!!
You’re welcome! That’s so lovely to hear it’s made such a difference for you! 💕
This is my first ever comment on any TH-cam video ever but I have to say THANK YOU - I was sooo close to giving up breastfeeding until I watched this video (and your other video on getting a deeper latch). Immediately pain free (besides residual damage from doing it wrong) but it’s a GAME CHANGER. THANK YOU.
@@amystrohmeyer1501 that’s amazing to hear it’s been so helpful. Well done for persisting!! 🤩
Why nobody else has made it so clear and concise to follow and learn, I don't know! But thank YOU.
You’re welcome!
Thank you thank you thank you!!! I’ve been trying to nurse my 1 month old but it’s always been painful. I tried this and I’m no longer feeling pain thank you so much!!!
@@BluForestASMR you are so welcome!! 🙏🏻
Thanks so much for this video. This is the best technique that worked with my newborn almost right away. Latching made easy. He learned to open his mouth wide. Lots of love ❤️
You're welcome! I'm so glad that it's worked well for you!
This video is a life saviour 😭💗! Can't be grateful enough!! Tqsm !!!
@@SweetAngel-r7g you’re welcome!
Inshallah in few days going to have my second baby and thank you enough for this valuable information ma'am because with my first one i struggled alot with cracked nipples because of all these latch mistakes i was doing
Hope it’s helpful to you! Make sure you’re following me on Instagram as well for lots of helpful tips :)
The fingers parallel with the lips is such a good thing to say!
Thanks Louise!
Thank you for a really helpful video! I’ve been struggling with a shallow, painful latch for a couple of weeks and I’ve had my first pain free feed after watching your video ❤
That's so lovely to hear Caitlin! I'm really glad it was helpful for you! :) xx
Thank you so much for responding to my comment 😊 sending lots of love & gratitude from Malaysia ❤
You're welcome - so glad it's helpful!
This video is awesome! So helpful - we are now working to get a deep latch but I noticed my LO is still chomping down in that motion even though the latch is deeper than before. Do you have any tips? An IBCLC said he doesn’t have any oral restrictions
If he’s clamping down it may be muscular rather than tongue restriction related. Does he struggle to open his mouth wide? Or only open wide for a second or two when latching? Does he prefer to always have head on one particular side when resting/sleeping? History or very long or very quick labour? Shoulder dystocia at birth?
Thank you so much for the video it really helped me this came like a saviour for me.And also wanted to know how much feeding time is the best with 3 weeks New born.He is taking for 10 minutes.Is that feed enough for him
You're welcome. I'm so glad it's helpful. How long your baby feeds isn't actually as important as how effectively they're feeding. These two videos will be helpful for you -
th-cam.com/video/tCsOhT3pbOI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=4hzKjg3iS4MIGz5V
th-cam.com/video/gzhVRPOFjak/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gTZJsviYGJLWwRoB
Thank you so much. It works. More blessings to you ❤
This is so helpful. My baby girl is 3 days old and was doing nipple feeding which made it so painful. I tried your tips and it definitely is less painful but still not opening her mouth to encompass the entire aereola. Is this maybe because her mouth is still small (she was born at 2.88 kg in an emergency c section at 39 weeks)
Or is there something I am still doing wrong?
@@linaabojaradehart there are a number of factors which can cause tension in the neck and jaw muscles which stop baby being able to open their mouth wide. Even small babies should be able to open a wide mouth.
Check out this video for some more info/tips: th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=F4oqIagTdRUUWuMd
Watching while breastfeeding!🙏🏼❤
Yay!! Good on you super mama x
Same 😅
Thank you so much!! This is literally saving my nipples
You're welcome! That's lovely to hear :)
I know you said reach out to a IBCLC if these tips don’t help. But as an IBCLC, what do I do when these tips still don’t help my son get a deeper latch? He’s 3 weeks, dentist said there’s no tongue tie. He chomps down on my nipples and they’re flat when I pull them from his mouth. He only open his mouth wide for a quick second. And even when I follow these instructions it still hurts. Any advice?
My baby is just over 4 weeks old and I've been in so much pain during breastfeeding. Also I am not able to produce much milk because I keep having to take a day off here and there to allow my nipples to heal so on those days, I hand express and bottle feed her.
I was happy before becoming a mom but now im experiencing depression from breastfeeding. I never epuld have thiught it would be do hard.
My nipples are extremely flat and dont poke out at all so its hard getting the nipples far back into her mouth and a nipple shield is incredibly painful. She sucks on it but no milk comes out. It just pulls on my raw nipple.
Sounds like you've had such an overwhelming journey so far! I'd definitely recommend some 1:1 support and I'm happy to arrange this for you - just email alissa@motherandmilk.co.uk
It's totally fine to take some time off to let your nipples heal but you definitely need to be pumping at least as frequently as your baby is feeding on those days otherwise your milk supply will quickly reduce. If your baby is only 4 weeks old there's definitely time to turn it all around though!
I feel you sister, I am in the same situation here 💔😭
@carolinaalvarez3783 It's tough, right? As moms we just want to provide for our baby and when we struggle with it, it hits hard. I tried for months to breastfeed. Most of the pain finally went away, but I just wasn't able to produce enough milk to properly feed my baby. She was underweight because of it and I got so depressed because I dreaded feeding her store bought formula. That formula is SO bad for babies. That's why so many babies on store bought formula get sick. They have rattly breathing, runny noses, digestive issues, rashes, etc.
My husband found an alternative that hits close to human breast milk.
If you are still struggling with it to the point where your baby isn't eating much, I can send you the link to the milk alternative website. It costs more than regular formula, but it's much healthier than the stuff with corn syrup and other bad ingredients. It's a mixture of goats milk, goat milk lactose, collagen powder, and some other ingredients. My baby LOVES it and she has zero digestive issues, no rashes and she is very strong and healthy.
@@totallyrufus Hi, thanks for your reply! For sure, show which is it? I'm still fighting for breastfeeding her, however I understand I'll have to make a decision soon. Thanks
@carolinaalvarez3783 I'll send you the link. Yes. Definitely. Fight as hard and as long as you can since breastfeeding your baby is the best for him/her for several reasons.
Hello dear can I try this technique while my nipples are extremely sore!! I have been exclusively pumping for 2 days.
@@nahlahamed1292 yes absolutely! You may still have some residual discomfort until you are 100% healed but this should really help to avoid that consistant pinching pain from a shallow latch :)
Does the pain go away instantly if the latch is good? What if I have a difficult time using the same hand as the breast is on? Is it possible to use the opposite hand?
Yes you can use the opposite hand, but you'll be using your index and middle finger in a scissor shape from the top of your breast :)
It can still feel tender if you've had damage from a bad latch that is still healing but the sharp pinching pain with each suck should go away.
@@alissabrownibclc thank you so much!
You’re welcome!
Hi mam, I dont get how to hold the baby when one of my hand is completely engaged with my breast. Please reply someone in detail please
These tips might help :) th-cam.com/video/GxPOFMpzq2A/w-d-xo.htmlsi=bFHtRAkNccJT_5AH
My baby is months old now, but doesn't latch properly and I feed her all the day
Will this technique work now ??
Yes it can still work at any age! :)
Is it possible to fix the latch for 3 month old baby? Please provide a tip for better latching on big breasts wit low pointing nipple.
It's not impossible, but the older a baby gets the more they are in the habit of feeding in a particular way so it can take longer. The key to latching no matter what size your breasts are is getting baby positioned at the right angle - you might find these tips helpful --- th-cam.com/video/7aRvJ_UYdMg/w-d-xo.htmlsi=iC2jk9mKKrn4AhyD
I just fed my 4 week old pain free for the first time 😭🙏
That's amazing to hear!!
When will the baby learn sucking ? Until when shall I continue this? My baby is 6 weeks and it gets tiring, she feeds only when I use this technique and stops when I leave my breast
If your baby is struggling to feed without this technique at 6 weeks then I'd suggest you get some support from an IBCLC - it could be that your baby has restricted tongue function or there may be challenges with your milk supply. Check out these two videos for more on looking for effective sucking and diagnosing challenges with milk supply.
th-cam.com/video/tCsOhT3pbOI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=EpYXGVXfEPtih6W8
th-cam.com/video/GgtbSvMyVnA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=YTWKFQq13V0X24Sy
From the bottom of my heart thank you…I am 5 weeks in and was ready to throw in the towel…like many of these women said crying in toe curling pain at every feeding. You are wonderful thank you for your help, I am beyond grateful. 🥲
You are so welcome! And thank you for taking the time to comment 🙏🏻 I’m so glad it’s helped!
What do I do if baby refuses to open wide enough to get in more than just the nipple or pushes the breast out of her mouth if more than the nipple goes in?
So if you're struggling to get your baby to open a wide mouth/they're struggling to take more than the nipple this is likely related to jaw tension/hyperactive gag reflex. If you check out my Instagram here (instagram.com/alissapembertonibclc/) I've just posted a reel with some easy at home exercises to help ease jaw tension. Suck training getting baby used to sucking on a clean finger (placed upside down in baby's mouth) is also good to desensitise gag reflex. It would be worth getting your baby checked by an IBCLC for tongue tie, and if you find exercises at home aren't enough to get baby to open a wide mouth then a craniosacral osteopath would be the best person to see :)
@@alissabrownibclc Thank you!! I'll try your suggestions.
Thanks for the video - really useful - what adjustments in the advice would you give for applying that technique to someone with breasts on the larger side?
You're welcome. I'm so glad you found it helpful. You can apply the same technique with larger breasts, but you might find doing it in a stargazing hold type position works well. I've got some pictures and explanation of this on my instagram @mother.and.milk :)
Thank you for the video !!!:D
You're welcome :)
Is there any hold for flat nipples. I've flat nipples and I'm struggling to breastfeed my baby.
This technique will work well with flat nipples, other mums also find it helpful to use a 'Latch Assist' to help evert the nipples, or use a breast pump for this as well. Some mums also find nipple shields helpful :)
@@alissabrownibclc will nipple shields cause confusion in babies later on? I've people around me pressuring me on that!
@@rauzana5177 Yes they can do - nipple shields are useful in some situations but babies who are reliant on them for longer periods do find it difficult to transition away from them, certainly not impossible though. If it's a case of baby not being able to breastfeed at all, or breastfeeding with a shield, then it's still a good option. If your baby is struggling to latch and feed, even with using this sandwich technique then I'd suggest you get your baby checked for a tongue tie also. Babies with good tongue function can usually still latch and feed well even with flat nipples :)
I tried this but my baby’s mouth is too small. It doesn’t reach the top :/
If your baby is unable to open their mouth wide enough to latch then it may be to do with muscular tension in the jaw. Assessment with a craniosacral osteopath can help but in the mean time try these exercises - th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=IZa06HewdXgilT6g
Does this work for thick, bulky breasts as well?
Yes it does :) The change that will make the most difference with larger breasts is what position you use :)
Tell me too
My baby mouth too small to take entire part inside the mouth
Babies are born being able to breastfeed, so it's not so much about baby's mouth being too small, as it is baby having muscular tension in their neck and jaw which is stopping baby opening their mouth wider. Try this ------- th-cam.com/video/t_iYSaXwrKM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=A05FVTqRDx9YIgME and this ------th-cam.com/video/7aRvJ_UYdMg/w-d-xo.htmlsi=iC2jk9mKKrn4AhyD
When baby can latch without doing like this?
Most babies will only need support with latching in the first few months, and some can latch without any help from birth! :)
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Thanks
I know you said reach out to a IBCLC if these tips don’t help. But as an IBCLC, what do I do when these tips still don’t help my son get a deeper latch? He’s 3 weeks, dentist said there’s no tongue tie. He chomps down on my nipples and they’re flat when I pull them from his mouth. He only open his mouth wide for a quick second. And even when I follow these instructions it still hurts. Any advice?