Does Silence Make A Woman Miss You! Here’s the TRUTH (This WORKS!) | Apollonia Ponti

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  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2995

    Any time some woman whines "where are all the good men?", I always answer "they're with the good women."

    • @stuford
      @stuford 3 ปีที่แล้ว +140

      Fantastic response...I will remember it.. 😉

    • @leont4062
      @leont4062 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      😂

    • @freshness_ah7534
      @freshness_ah7534 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You on this site here as well?

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  3 ปีที่แล้ว +147

      Love it!

    • @jamessitwala5136
      @jamessitwala5136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Wow... That's good one...

  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2119

    The one who cares the least runs the relationship. get with the girl that adores you the most. Not the one you breakin your neck for.

    • @danpost18
      @danpost18 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      So true

    • @lordvenus7999
      @lordvenus7999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      🤣👍

    • @TraeZoe
      @TraeZoe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      I feel that. But whats the point in it if you dont care?

    • @izzy561
      @izzy561 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      What of you're not attracted to the girl who adores me the most? What if I'm attracted to the one I break my neck for? Do I settle for someone I'm not attracted to?

    • @adamgafa1693
      @adamgafa1693 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks needed this ❤

  • @MrSimpoge
    @MrSimpoge 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1169

    I step away and be silent when I don’t get what I give. If I’m the only one trying, time to walk away and be silent. If they like me, they’ll reach out. Leave the ball in their court.

    • @dRaKaRious
      @dRaKaRious 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Right on

    • @davidcoppotelli3957
      @davidcoppotelli3957 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      100% right carry on.

    • @williamdew6018
      @williamdew6018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Amen

    • @Bornhawk1
      @Bornhawk1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Shouldn't the ball be in your court?! Because the decision should be yours.

    • @MegaDreamOo
      @MegaDreamOo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes sir.!

  • @AlexMageeTV
    @AlexMageeTV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +460

    I go silence when I am completely done. That's when I don't care if she misses me, or what she is up to. I wouldn't go silent as a tactic. Those type of "games" could backfire if someone cares of someone.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That is a good point

    • @jaquariturner6748
      @jaquariturner6748 2 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      Unfortunately the reality women do & want the opposite what they say. You show them love, they think u needy, you spoil them, they think you a trick or simp. You have to go silent especially when you working. If you make her a priority she will make you a fan!!!

    • @musicalgapattack3583
      @musicalgapattack3583 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💯💯💯

    • @Hohmies86
      @Hohmies86 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You use it briefly whether it be a couple hours, half a day or a few times throughout every day.
      Then give attention then no attention
      Too much attention is bad and not enough is also bad
      Ebb n flow

    • @thelegendarycltm7898
      @thelegendarycltm7898 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jaquariturner6748 thats what im doing now

  • @ryanbailey8588
    @ryanbailey8588 3 ปีที่แล้ว +376

    No silence doesn’t make her miss you. When a woman steps out it’s because she doesn’t respect you or have emotions for you. You can’t make someone miss something/someone they don’t care about. When/if a woman returns, it’s not because she misses you, it’s because she tried climbing to the rung above you (the new guy), missed i (he didn’t want her or she found out he wasn’t worth it), fell, and is trying to latch onto you to avoid falling further down the ladder. Let her fall.

    • @TheFishinDad
      @TheFishinDad 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      I've had 3 exes now come back to me and tell me they loved me the whole time... after seeing someone else... I turned them all away. Im not a second choice. I know my value. There is a difference between someone wanting you and someone valuing you and that was a hard lesson to learn.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      You definitely should make her fall

    • @corby1228
      @corby1228 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Blah

    • @FunkyRay2012
      @FunkyRay2012 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Your personal experience do not make your statement true

    • @hummingbird7220
      @hummingbird7220 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Let everything fall and destroy! Be the watcher, enjoy the view like they did...

  • @andhikaranugraha5665
    @andhikaranugraha5665 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    if relationship doesn't work...leave it and find your own happiness...don't make it hard to yourself

  • @jetclntn
    @jetclntn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    It doesn’t matter if she will miss me
    Once she has betrayed me, I won’t put any more effort into her, or call her again

  • @mgu1N1n1
    @mgu1N1n1 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

    • @stevieberisha561
      @stevieberisha561 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahahaha boss move I did this to my. Bipolar ex and got her charged with common assault ✌️

  • @SomXee
    @SomXee ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Silence is my best weapon. I show no emotion at all.

  • @me8999
    @me8999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    Im 34 years of age; I learn so much and the reality something that always works is the following: be there for her but not all the time, you need to become an absent individual at least once a week, make her think she's not all special even if she means the world, women love passive aggressive interactions. You cannot be so good nor be an ashole.

    • @yusufalshmere6585
      @yusufalshmere6585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Looking for a marriage is not the real war of life of the life in Yemen I need helps it's asking me to marry him to travel to his country and then ask her divorce

    • @imshaun4563
      @imshaun4563 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Nice to hear this from a woman. Thx

    • @Moneyoverbullshit850
      @Moneyoverbullshit850 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Damn this coming woman

    • @antoinelyons5323
      @antoinelyons5323 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Facts

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Facts

  • @ceevishus4130
    @ceevishus4130 3 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    I started following Apollonia and others to get over being dumped and heartbroken a year ago. Now I'm here to make sure that never happens again. I've learned as long as you focus in yourself in the relationship, continue to evolve as a man and as a being, you can not go wrong. The woman is not your life, she is one of the many blessings in your life.. Do you 80% of the time and give her 20%.... Never be too available to her even if you want to be.. Learn to say no even when you want to yes..

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What if you like her 🤔.!

    • @gogo-bi9qh
      @gogo-bi9qh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@travisandrews3909 The percent you give her is the percent that will be gutted when she decides she's not happy anymore. I like the 80/20 approach.

    • @samelbamel3500
      @samelbamel3500 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@travisandrews3909 you need to love yourself more. Just appreciate your life and your strengths and goals and look after yourself like you're caring for a loved one who needs you. Ofcourse you want to shower her with love but the end result is you have to give up the time you should spend on yourself to love her. Value your time! And give her what you are willing to.

    • @Veefive5
      @Veefive5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I wish I saw this 3 weeks ago, I gave her way too much of me way too early on and barely said no to her because she's been hurt and I was afraid to hurt her. I broke it off shortly after because I felt I couldn't handle all of her insecurity and self esteem issues. Even though the relationship was short overall the fact that I gave her so much so soon just hurt her more when I broke it off and it made her think all my effort was disingenuous on my end.

  • @11Loso
    @11Loso 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Keep your head up and stay strong king. It may be rough now but times will get better and so will you.

  • @AM-mw2wu
    @AM-mw2wu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I go silent when I've had enough of the BS. And once I go silent...I'm actually gone for good. Checked out of the relationship completely. I don't do tactics and mind games. I'm a straight shooter. If the other person wants to play games, I'll let them, all by themselves. I'm not joining in. I prefer to communicate if something's wrong. Silence turns me off! Once a guy goes silent on me, I'm done!

  • @jaquariturner6748
    @jaquariturner6748 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Silence is Mystery it will have the dumper wondering, if they care they will wonder enough to search you out either online or by phone. But remember even if they call,text, DM you don't answer, don't view text or messages make them hunt you. Until they actually prove it's not just a moment of them trying to see if you still stuck in love. Silence can be just as deadly as yelling. But in silence & disappearing the Mystery is what eats Thier mental an later there heart ❤️

  • @michaellopez9465
    @michaellopez9465 2 ปีที่แล้ว +365

    We still talk. That’s enough for me. Right now I’m giving her space. I need her to know I trust her because I was insecure before. I’ve used this time to focus on myself. It’s given me peace within myself to where I don’t need to be constantly validated. I need her to trust that I can be dependable when she asks for space. I love her more than I love the relationship. I think it’s what has allowed me to let go. Doing that has brought us closer. Emotional control is attractive. Self worth is the ticket to avoiding so much friction. You can hear it a thousand times, but until it’s organic to your own thinking... It’ll be easy to see through. Self worth is everything.

    • @algrande2841
      @algrande2841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Bro to hell with her. You was fine before her. Put her on ice. Have a blah attitude and watch the movement

    • @chadrowe8452
      @chadrowe8452 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@algrande2841 is dude a simp? She's getting some "space" alright

    • @chadrowe8452
      @chadrowe8452 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@emstroop8859 I agree that he probably does love her.

    • @grantrmoore
      @grantrmoore 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@emstroop8859 Idk. How many women. Say they want space just to cheat? The past week my gf of 3 yrs was spending her days with me & her nights with another man. I found out about it.. Idk if I should keep her cut off or fold & go back to the relationship.. I have to cut her off I think despite how much I care about her.. I gotta respect myself

    • @erikwelch18
      @erikwelch18 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@emstroop8859 I don't disagree with your assessment of the above comments. However, the whole, "I need space" line is really an avoidant attachment style, which is toxic in and of itself. Many men are encouraged to have a dismissive attachment style while women are encouraged to have an avoidant attachment. Neither are secure, nor healthy in a relationship.

  • @joseignaciomartinez1782
    @joseignaciomartinez1782 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is so wise, sound and necessary!!!! There are many gurus out there who suggest to use silence or no contact to attract women, but they rarely reveal something: does that silence comes from a place of lack and insecurity or from your wholeness and calmness? If it comes from an insecure place, you will play mind games or power games with her and that’s not healthy. Neither for you, nor for her.

  • @LovingYouDaily
    @LovingYouDaily 3 ปีที่แล้ว +375

    Lol, everything you've said in this video is exactly what women do. Women always play this ghosting game.
    I literally just went through this. Literally!
    I've noticed like 5 weeks ago that my lady was becoming distant and less available.
    I've made mentioned of what I saw via her actions, to her, she denied it and I left it alone.
    Like 4 weeks ago it got worse.
    if I didn't call or text her, I didn't hear from her period🤐.
    Like I said, I've already made mentioned of those ill actions that she was displaying towards me, and she denied it, so I'm not going to bring that up again to create an argument.
    We literally spoke 3 weeks ago via text messaging briefly. I didn't push the issue as it already became apparent/obvious that she's ghosting or want someone else period.
    As I made mentioned we spoke 3 weeks ago, and throughout the 3 weeks I haven't heard from her, and I haven't message or call her either. Now, here comes today, literally 3 weeks later she messages me out of the blue trying to make small talk🤔.
    I'm not responding because I'm done. That's what the ghosting game gets you, nothing at all. At least from me. I'm to grown and mature for childish games.

    • @danieljoza645
      @danieljoza645 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      Text her and ask her to hang out. Ask her to go back to your apartment that same night.
      Her attraction towards you dropped but since you distance yourself it went back up. You were probably too needy and shes definitely talking to other people that are displaying more value and are on a more masculine frame than you. Text her and ask to hang out be direct.

    • @frorasu3949
      @frorasu3949 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Same thing happened to me exactly. Once you see it and bring it to her attention, let her go. She has already emotionally and mentally checked out.

    • @LovingYouDaily
      @LovingYouDaily 3 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      @@danieljoza645 I don't want her back bro. I meant it when I said I'm done. I don't have time for childish games of ghosting. If you can't be an adult, and be direct with me, I don't want you. I mean that. She's done. I have no desire to call or message her. On to the next one who has high interest in me.

    • @markoblanko8377
      @markoblanko8377 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Text her and invite her to your spot for “some chill” time. Then you ghost her after you smash.

    • @jeffsmith8065
      @jeffsmith8065 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      You've talked to her about it and nothing changed,it seems like she doesn't have the courage to tell you the truth and hoping you get the message and she will probably hover around in case things don't work out on the other end if you get my frift

  • @josecruz8915
    @josecruz8915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don't consider myself a therapist, but I do hold a degree in social science. And I have to say this is a very analysis. Good for you. You hit the nail in the head.

  • @chuckhines459
    @chuckhines459 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Don't even bother with relationships follow your dreams do your thing and forget about everyone else. Relationships will drag you down play with your emotions and spit you out like your nothing.

    • @Mrgreen2558
      @Mrgreen2558 ปีที่แล้ว

      Of course, loving women is beautiful and getting married is honey moon but after born children than the problem Start.

    • @SolidGeddoe
      @SolidGeddoe ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I keep hearing this but I just don't agree with it all,for me yes I am bettering myself but I can also smash with some females at the same time,the whole black pill including mindset is horrible I don't like it.

  • @turnbucklemagazine7296
    @turnbucklemagazine7296 3 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    "Going silent wont work against a mature, healthy woman." Me: A guy likely wouldnt go silent to that type of quality woman to begin with.

    • @jackandbenny
      @jackandbenny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Why would you give her that sole power "thinking that she's mature & healthy". What about you?
      With all due respect. Portray that you are an abundant and not a needy player in this romance dance you're part of... or else she'll truly not miss you!!! There's nothing wrong in seeking more emotional equality in your relationship... if that's what you really want to make you happy. You deserve it and it's also healthy.
      Any concurring or opposing thoughts are welcomed.

    • @danpost18
      @danpost18 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      So true but that healthy women have to work to be in a relationship. To me if I text her and she never texts me back. She is telling me to hit the road. A reasonable and Purdent person would think the same

    • @MuhammadAliGOAT
      @MuhammadAliGOAT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      wrong, I have been hot for a girl who was as high-class as they come.. and it repelled her.. she was always playing the game and making you chase even more (when i was young, immature and inexperienced) then when I got older and experienced she reached out to me and I ignored the message for 7 months.. then I replied and she replied back instantly! then I did not get back to her for 2 months, she replied instantly, then I left it two weeks, she got back instantly, I replied 2 weeks later, she replied instantly, I replied and she replied instantly, I left it for 2 days, she replied instantly, I left it for 2 hours, she replied instantly, I left it for 2 minutes, she replied instantly.. then I replied instantly and she dissapeared for 2 weeks and counting. FUCK THIS, NO GIRL IS WORTH THIS MUCH TROUBLE ha ha ha

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MuhammadAliGOAT Look into yourself, why did you engage with her in the first place when you saw her behavior. This says something about you. Probably you have to fix something within yourself to then choose the proper woman , not the woman you have the “ Hots” for but the woman you admire on a deeper level not only superficial.

    • @ommar460
      @ommar460 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True asf, I went no contact. Because she's just not on my level man emotionally.

  • @andrewparker6574
    @andrewparker6574 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I appreciate your presenting silence as a function of our own purpose, rather than a reaction to her or an attempt to draw her attention (though it sounds like that will often be the end result).

  • @davidcasillas285
    @davidcasillas285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Apollonia! You 'hit the nail on the head!' After all of the vids on TH-cam by everyone, what you stated is Golden. I will replay this because it is true. You said, 'be happy with yourself,' or words to that affect. Know who you are and why you possibly want that other person. Again, gonna replay this video, but it's that "aha moment," and I want to hear it again. Thank you so much, but that's what I feel many of us need to realize. I'm happy here in the now, do I really want or need another person in my life. Good stuff Apollonia, we at least for me. Ok, got to replay that portion of the video as it hit me like a ton of bricks-for once..so thanks again! You're wonderful! 🙏🏽

    • @davidcasillas285
      @davidcasillas285 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's it.."seeking happiness within another individual!" Those are the key words you've stated. Thanks young lady, awesome stuff!

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@davidcasillas285 yes it is seeking happiness

  • @johanwaltar5247
    @johanwaltar5247 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Hi Apollonia, you've made a very important Comment that resonate deeply in me and probably to other men.
    You mentioned that we can't seek happiness from others. Which is absolutely right, I have to love myself first before I can genuinely love my partner.
    Thanks for sharing your wisdom, you're a real woman.
    Weloveyou.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks for sharing!!

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ApolloniaPonti yes Apollonia you've did made a very important comment.!

  • @fuzzypanda1684
    @fuzzypanda1684 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Ignoring a girl or giving her the silence treatment will not make her suddenly like or desire you. If she wasn't into you before, all it would do is make her glad that you're leaving her alone, if she hadn't already forgotten you existed. Ignoring a girl only works if she's into you already, in which case, you don't need to ignore her.

  • @Its_antny07
    @Its_antny07 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Your idea of having a silence with the women also can happen with the face to face -Thank you for this !! A great insight

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Who do you become silence with a woman when you are face to face?.!

    • @jimishmong
      @jimishmong ปีที่แล้ว

      @@travisandrews3909 i am assuming smile and go on with whatever you were doing? Maybe?

  • @vanditsampat2768
    @vanditsampat2768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    At times, you just want who will accept you how you are.

  • @adonis6193
    @adonis6193 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    i love how when I do this its taken as a sign I'm not interested and lose a good one.

  • @Kratos70
    @Kratos70 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    If She's Interested In You Then You'll Get Messages From Her, If She Doesn't Message You, Well Then She's Messaging Someone Else. Just Keep That In Mind And Don't Let One Woman Control You, From What I've Learnt Is Just Date Multiple Women And Enjoy Life.
    Unfortunately No Such Thing As A Long Term Relationship Anymore. Lucky They Last 5 Years Today.

    • @Mrgreen2558
      @Mrgreen2558 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How many husbands and wives broke up relationships? The modern day were better than this era were women love their man be with them till they died

  • @NickNotas
    @NickNotas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Preach Apollonia. Thinking that pretending to be aloof is the answer is so short-sighted. You're still coming from a place of neediness and manipulation. You will also encourage this behavior back and attract the wrong people.
    Instead, do what you're actually trying to accomplish: become an independent, confident man. Have your own hobbies, social lifestyle, friends, etc and balance her within it. If you're actually doing that, then naturally won't get obsessed early on with an idea of someone and she can see you're a high-value prospect. Then if you're both investing in one another and excited by what you see, the connection will grow organically.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have hobbies that i do

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pretending to be aloof? Who said anything about Pretending? If you walk away, you walk away. That is independence in itself.

  • @paulhuynh6228
    @paulhuynh6228 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really needed this today. Thank you for the video and the Comments from everyone else

  • @colinlaidlaw7661
    @colinlaidlaw7661 3 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    Man this vid was solid. Beyond the banter, flirtation and game lies the blueprints for healthy relationship dynamics. Pace yourself, prioritise your life and set your sights on someone worthy of your valued attention. So much maturity is lacking but the actual good ones (not the women focused obsessively on her looks) are your green light to success.

  • @ArshadAli-sn2cd
    @ArshadAli-sn2cd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Today's modern life dating is very complex and you have tried successfully to make us understand it in a right way. Silence may be used to improve your love life to lessen unnecessary noise in relationship. Delicate subject, delicately described. THANKS. 🌺🙏

  • @Daniel-bd5ur
    @Daniel-bd5ur 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent tip on knowing women more and more after each video! Keep posting applonia im looking for this type of content as usual

  • @mrgee5752
    @mrgee5752 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    This couldnt of come at a better time, thank you so much🙌🏽

  • @PsychicMedium777-uw4mm
    @PsychicMedium777-uw4mm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    When it's over, it's over, people!
    Hold your head up, and... move on!
    End of story! 🤨

  • @CHill-tj4gw
    @CHill-tj4gw 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I just had this talk with my girlfriend I told her don’t make our relationship like a job she should want ta call and hang out because she likes being around me enjoy each other let things flow when you force things they fall apart great video ✌🏾

  • @matthewellis8626
    @matthewellis8626 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    When women become distant it's already been Over. Show some self respect and move on with your life.
    It's Very Hard but you will Thank yourself later

  • @abilitypeta
    @abilitypeta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    There's nothing like a good man - good woman .. we attract who we are in the inside , what we attract isn't always what we want... the balance between what we attract & what we want is the only good thing , if not ,be positive , make peace with everything , move on.

  • @missingnoglitch520
    @missingnoglitch520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is exactly what I need, thank you

  • @4H54N
    @4H54N 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    YOU ALWAYS SAY THE RIGHT THINGS ✅

  • @nesalonso76
    @nesalonso76 3 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    This is way too complicated, just find someone who love your mess and then try to be a better man everyday.

    • @steeloned
      @steeloned 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Talk about hitting the nail on the head.

    • @CMTEQ
      @CMTEQ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You got it.

    • @FunkyRay2012
      @FunkyRay2012 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Then you’ll never be better

  • @joelombrdo
    @joelombrdo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It depends on the woman. if she really like you it'll bother here that you're silent. If she doesn't really like you she won't give a damn.

  • @langadasun8075
    @langadasun8075 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m glad this video was recommended for me to watch. It’s good to get a women’s perspective.

  • @jacknorton3771
    @jacknorton3771 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So far what I have been picking up here is working. The verbage has helped me talk to women and got me in a better position with a lady of value as well. Thank you so much.

  • @tonyodum5685
    @tonyodum5685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    'You attract what you are not what you want'

  • @leefranks36604
    @leefranks36604 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great Video, Awesome!

  • @sudeepchowdhury4461
    @sudeepchowdhury4461 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Appollonia ma'am I really look forward to your videos. Thank You. For being so honest. Your advices really help.

  • @joemeyer738
    @joemeyer738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I Love your Hair & the Outfits you wear & all the Advice you give !

  • @zenmasterj9497
    @zenmasterj9497 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome advice...Thank You!
    I'm currently in a situation like this right now. I really don't wont to lose her.

    • @tfkvng3187
      @tfkvng3187 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      *Face Palms*
      If you lose her, there's a ton more out in the open wild. Lol If she even gets a whiff of this statement, she's gonna be gone like smoke.

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Just be honest. Tell her you like her. Tell her exactly why you like her and what do you want to form with her. But be brave enough to loose her, as she may say no.
      An upfront “ No “ is much better than you being tagged along for months and years and missing out on other options...

    • @SolidGeddoe
      @SolidGeddoe ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tfkvng3187 Yeah,I don't know why some men like to say she has other options,well us men have options too,I am trying to get with this one female right now but I know there are plenty others that as soon I get a chance I will hook up with them.

  • @nicolasj5940
    @nicolasj5940 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Balance is the key.

  • @Amir76fresno
    @Amir76fresno 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really do appreciate that you share your knowledge and thoughts with us. Wishing you a wonderful weekend. Cheers from Stockholm 🎉❤

  • @denisdadou4213
    @denisdadou4213 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi appolonia...I am following from Rwanda...just to let you know that you are adding value to many men

  • @bentikpaulus4335
    @bentikpaulus4335 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    For a man you need to know what is or will be her role in your life... what men oversee is that women always have more than one option in dating or intimate partners. Work on yourself to become a high value man and women will come and than you will also have options to choose.

  • @anthonyvasquez5128
    @anthonyvasquez5128 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm new to your channel. Your advice is so interesting because over the years and the amount of women I've dated, I've learned to actually think just like the way you advise your subscribers. I don't chase anyone around anymore. I take my time, talk to them and it seems like things fall into place much easier.
    Your suggestions are very much appreciated.
    I'm completely content with myself and don't feel like I need to impress anyone.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks and welcome

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So glad you have reached this realization. No one should chase anyone. Neither a man nor a woman.
      Both should pursue some one and have a “ Miner mindset “ than a “ Chaser mindset “
      A Miner looks for Diamond, a Chaser , chases for immediate hunger fulfillment.

  • @danielkelley7548
    @danielkelley7548 ปีที่แล้ว

    I usually despise this kind of video. But this is spot on. Well done.

  • @4x4recall
    @4x4recall ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Solid distinction on "silence".

  • @fullthrill7314
    @fullthrill7314 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    My problem is I respond quickly to everything. At work I’m instantly responding and solving problems. I don’t like leaving it hanging over my head. As a result, I do the same in dating and some women find me too available or eager. I hate these games.

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i know. women are the only ones who complain about this. but its because they have so much power over men (alot of options.) The one who doesn't give it to them women are out chasing them.

    • @ontumetseqdiane7327
      @ontumetseqdiane7327 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      LIFE should not and does not revolve around women bro. I'm just like you i don't like leaving things hanging, that's being irresponsible plus these women we are chasing don't really know what they want cause they are still in their twenties and just move with trends. Do you and one day the right one will come and will show you what a real women is. TRUST THE PROCESS.

    • @khalilcook3018
      @khalilcook3018 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ontumetseqdiane7327facts bro. Definitely. I definitely think they are all the same. Whether they are 20 30, 40. They All Play games and bullshit. Rule of thumb: if it feels like she isnt interested, she isnt. No intimacy or affection shown towards u, leave her alone. immediately
      She is definitely giving that attention to someone else. Trust me more than likely she is for the streets

  • @righteousiron8216
    @righteousiron8216 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Apollonia, Everytime I view one of your video sessions, I learn something more about the beautiful female mind, from you 😉

  • @Saunatomorrow
    @Saunatomorrow ปีที่แล้ว

    That view you have behind the window is outrageous, that is all ✌🏾❤️

  • @victrillionz
    @victrillionz ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome tips Apollonia Ponti
    Thanks for sharing

  • @dakotastein9499
    @dakotastein9499 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is why I'm thankfully aeromantic

  • @JustinSnow3556
    @JustinSnow3556 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I want to say thank you for your help I found a great woman 💕 and we care alot about the same things

  • @user-im9nj6gd6o
    @user-im9nj6gd6o 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ATTRACTIVE IS 1ST IMPORTANT ROLE IS RESPECT. YOU APOLLIONIA PONTIO YOU NEED RESPECT MORE THAN SEDUCING A WOMAN. RESPECT COVERS ALL BRANCHES OF ATTRACTION

  • @jonathanrolon6963
    @jonathanrolon6963 ปีที่แล้ว

    THANK YOU 🙏🏽, Changed my perspective

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It sucks we have to go through all this. If someone is nice give them a chance. It must be our instant gratification society where no one wants to work for anything. They want the man of their dreams to pop up out of no where.

    • @rickyticky3350
      @rickyticky3350 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      they will never find him because he does not exists.

  • @PeaceAchance-os6lj
    @PeaceAchance-os6lj ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To answer the question, I think it depends on how much she is into you. I've had situations where it felt like a woman is pulling away, so i fell back too, and that was the last I heard from them lol. In those situations, I don't think it really makes a difference what you do. Other times, yeah, they came back strong after my silence.

  • @elarnoldddd3291
    @elarnoldddd3291 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video!!

  • @leandro.c0sta24
    @leandro.c0sta24 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You helped me so much, thanks a lot, loved the video. I have to change some things and get back my girl

  • @ponggabor
    @ponggabor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Women fall in love with you when they are doing things for you, not the other way around.

  • @arthurdane8508
    @arthurdane8508 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    So essentially
    1) Abundance mindset. Dont go completely cold etc but dont go out of your way to initiate contact.
    2) Face to face silence. Learn to pace your interactions with her, dont go out of your way to overly do it when youre even with her.

  • @LeRoyaumeDesCieux.
    @LeRoyaumeDesCieux. ปีที่แล้ว

    great cues, thanks Apollonia, amazing to see honest women give REAL tips for once ;). RSD was the crew i was looking at way back. real socials dynamics was the ish when they we're still in dating and socials dynamics.

  • @kevinanderson7672
    @kevinanderson7672 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're telling me the truth. Thank you The woman that is my friend is established in life. Haven't spoken to her in awhile. She told me that she is wanting to get married. I'm ready to get married to her, but I don't know how to persuade her to marry me. I have to wait for her to open up her heart to me. It's hard just to wait! Thanks Appollonia.

  • @TekkLuthor
    @TekkLuthor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    The fact that I have to do these things is the reason I don't stress relationships. Women come and go, enjoy as they are, know they'll be gone sooner or later.
    Edit: I like your breakdown in your video. I did feel I have a balanced communication style

  • @Josueabrahamluna
    @Josueabrahamluna 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Precisely. Very good advice, as a Christian we always say seek first the Kingdom of God and everything else will come naturally.

    • @niltonsilva3027
      @niltonsilva3027 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, brother becoming spiritual makes you like an alpha because you don't care about things even those that hurts you know the value you have by God

  • @tonyperiles
    @tonyperiles ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your damn right I’m using appolonia for this woman. 🎉

  • @dwightjackson1270
    @dwightjackson1270 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks again for your time ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ghostcarrillo
    @ghostcarrillo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Solid advice.

  • @skyritt15
    @skyritt15 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My girlfriend is in college only 2 hrs away. I initially got anxiety about the separation but that’s gotten a lot better. When she gets in a funk or something I say come across in the wrong way has put a damper on the mood. She has also said things and have been very dry with me at times and she says she can’t get upset at that cause she does the same thing and it would be hypocritical which is true. When those moods pop up the lovey dovey stuff stops and I don’t like when it stops. I try to be lovey and get nothing in return my schedule is pretty open and I live in a small town and there’s not much to do so I always want to talk cause she’s my person. During those weird times I feel like being affectionate should help but I don’t want to push her away if that makes sense. When things are good they are AWESOME and she calls all the time. But when these moods pop up she doesn’t call like normal and when things arnt normal I start to overthink. Any advice will help thank you

    • @KosekVideos
      @KosekVideos ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When she goes cold you gotta match it, don’t reward bad behavior

    • @d-rex6846
      @d-rex6846 ปีที่แล้ว

      Make sure you set boundaries and if her energies changing thats her wanting to explore elsewhere with hypergamy.

  • @user-yu5fo1sw8n
    @user-yu5fo1sw8n 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    BEAUTIFULLY SAID. VERY CLEAR.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for watching!

  • @Confidentman69
    @Confidentman69 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome video,100%🎯

  • @louieibarbol1569
    @louieibarbol1569 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Just like this woman tricked me into watching this video just to get what she wants (to buy her stuff) lol, they all play games- just follow the vibe; if she ain’t giving the same attention it’s time to bounce- it’s a two way communication- 🤷‍♂️

  • @dailyentertainment5460
    @dailyentertainment5460 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I mean my ex went in a relationship with my best friend couple mins after we broke up , stopped talking to her, she left him for me and I didn't want her because she missed me dwl😂

  • @fiftydreamsvlogs
    @fiftydreamsvlogs 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I liked and subscribed ❤️🙏

  • @user-wf1ml7rr1k
    @user-wf1ml7rr1k 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wow!!! i really need to watch more of your vids..... great tips advice etc etc!!! thanx heaps👍🏾👌🏾😊

  • @MattSmith-pg2kx
    @MattSmith-pg2kx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video

  • @pedrojsr6133
    @pedrojsr6133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thanks for the great content, is there any advice on how to deal with an ex who was and is influenced by her friend to finish the relationship and not to come back?

  • @jonathanfactor6688
    @jonathanfactor6688 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video thanks

  • @laurentiusshipipa5004
    @laurentiusshipipa5004 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this lady is truly blessed,

  • @antoniogonzales6096
    @antoniogonzales6096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I don't look for beautiful in a woman I look for a beautiful heart cause looks will fade in time but a beautiful heart will stay forever and I want someone who will stand by me and never give up on me you know what I mean

  • @jordangarza4353
    @jordangarza4353 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That is why I need balance and boundaries two very important objects for me to know a very very understanding woman I always want and feel loved again!

  • @Ali-gv1yw
    @Ali-gv1yw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    ninja apollonia. Uploads unexpectedly

  • @davidrobinson925
    @davidrobinson925 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You can be a good man and if your not good enough for her then you just aren't good enough...but you will be good enough for the right one..

  • @Neptunianist
    @Neptunianist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    So here's the thing: My instinct is to chase, especially if the initial conversation went well and then she pulls away or backs off. My anxiety goes through the roof. I get what you're saying about using paced communication as a way of assessing whether she is a good match but my instinct and anxiety overwhelm me. I can't switch this off so how do I replace it with something that is effective to the point that I can see it working and use the positive result to sooth my anxiety and get what I actually want: her and her love?

    • @Shawn6751
      @Shawn6751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Dude, ignore your instincts as I have to learn the hard way. If she wants you, she would have to put in the work.
      It's best to show respect for yourself by trying to move on.

    • @joshtuk
      @joshtuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Show some self control, dude. Dont be a slave to your emotions.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Where this work???

    • @hamzahkhan4319
      @hamzahkhan4319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      don’t chase avoidants

    • @rider9187
      @rider9187 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You need to take a break. You won’t get anywhere like this.

  • @jacekbil
    @jacekbil 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Guys, if u were prioritizing yourself, goals, Ur vision, friends and her at the end, she would never stop chasing and u wouldn't have to play..the game is natural if Ur mindset is set correctly. Life is simple we build empires,women chase us, that is the dynamic in the relationship that makes her the happiest, to chase best possible, mysterious, strong-willed option she might have.

  • @somethingdifferent4u247
    @somethingdifferent4u247 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Truest words ever spoken.

  • @MrAbass-gx4fd
    @MrAbass-gx4fd ปีที่แล้ว

    Such nice advice 👌👌👌👌

  • @danielsantana540
    @danielsantana540 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Apollonia. you get this alot here on youtube but wow your a very Beautiful Woman. Your Husband is such a blessed Human being to have someome like you in his life

  • @atljames97
    @atljames97 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I'm silent towards my ex because she got out of line with me and she knows it. 3 weeks later she texted me an apology saying she was going to work on herself. Other than checking on her once via text a few days ago, I've been silent towards her. She needs to do her own internal work. She knows how to find me if she wants me.

    • @fitzgerald434
      @fitzgerald434 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How did that go? What happened?

    • @uunz4435
      @uunz4435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@fitzgerald434 of course she moved on lol

  • @explicitantony9623
    @explicitantony9623 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can’t wait for your next video I’m craving for more knowledge :)

  • @Willgking
    @Willgking 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So good. You’re the best !