7 HUGE Mistakes Men Make When Women Pull Away | Apollonia Ponti
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Dont become attached to a women who doesnt care about you. Your feelings making it difficult to see things clearly. Those feelings will trick you into overinvesting she isnt one of a kind, there are many girls like her. Let go of the scarcity thinking & embrace abundance.
yes
U dudes really be that crazy over a girl to have to say this? No wonder i used to bang girls with boyfriends thruout college. Nothn wrong with over pursuing. Jus make sure u got a stop point amd u let her know even if she dont respond that u aint wastin time. Never txt her again until she responds. If she dont. Great. Fuk how she sees u. She will see u different and think about u. And games will stop. Dont get in these games these dumb girls play. Do what u want.
This is it!! Committing anything to a woman before she commits entirely to you is the problem. No free attention. No time investment. No exclusivity. They don't deserve it and won't appreciate it. To not need a woman is to have other women.
@@bbkingme8831 Boundaries, I have.
@@bbkingme8831 you s real man
When a woman pulls away, it means more times than not there is another guy she already has waiting for her, you need believe that as a fact. If she really wanted to be with you, and you are not over pursuing her, and annoying her, she wouldn’t be playing games.
If she was a real woman, she would have open communication with you to tell her feelings about the relationship and not just leave you hanging, or abandoning you, it only means she is totally disrespecting you, and you are just an option to her.
Don’t play her games, leave her immediately, you are too valuable for unnecessary drama, and grief in you life.
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Thanks brother
Thanks bro
On point.
100 percent. On point.
1. Over contacting/over pursuing. Frequency doesn't matter. Nature of communication does. Seeking validation.
2. Sharing emotions too fast/needy. Attraction grows slowly. Should be assessment process.
3. Don't be reactive to her. Be proactive to your own values and goals. Does she fit them?
4. Need to have control. Don't seek acceptance through her. Don't try to fix yourself through her perception.
5. Self worth in her/others. Having self worth and belief that resides only in yourself leads to healthy behavior.
6. Putting on an act. Hard to mask inauthenticity. Will leak out in relationships.
7. Have standards. Not having standards can lead to insecure dating choices. Can lead to dating down.
Bonus -- When she asks for space: Give space. Move on. When/if she re-contacts, don't be over eager. Pace yourself. Allows for dating dynamic to re-emerge once she doesn't want you to pull away.
Do I leave a message acknowledging I’m going to give her space?
just ignore her a lot. she'll be chasing you.
@@delavontaejackson401 leave her alone
@@delavontaejackson401 just don’t reply bro focus on you if she really had some interest In you she will come back to you and next time Realize she misses you
Excellent summary, Lee! Kudos for being straight to the point!
Once upon a time a man asked a beautiful woman to marry him.
She said, "No."
And he lived happily ever after.
The End 😂
Why are you here then?
LMAO
@@Rewws85 to rub it in our faces. 🙎♂️🧐
Hell yea
One thing I’ve learned that had helped me tremendously is REALIZING that I don’t have to contact a woman everyday and always try to keep the convo going omg has that helped me smh they always end up coming around too
After having fun with other dudes?
If she ignores you or distances herself, cut her off, replace!
@@mahombe7452 or just leave her aside for another play! 🙃
3% man
yup
After 1 month of not messaging her. She contacted me and replies straight away. I don't text back straight away. My situation isn't clearcut though. But I'm patient. I know she's into me.
Great video, Apollonian.
Two thoughts:
1. Know your worth. You can’t date up if you don’t know your own value. Dysfunction tends to seek out dysfunction. Look inward before you look outward.
2. If she withdraws, it might be her own dysfunction surfacing and have nothing to do with what you did wrong or did right. Sometimes a loss is a win.
Thank you for so much for these videos!
It really sucks bc a lot of people just want love but are stuck behind the performance of human nature. I recognize when I do those human things and push against it
I might do this
It’s Satan bro. Life shouldn’t be this hard
Be careful reconnecting with someone that rejected or ghosted you. My ex did this to me and I told her off and then she came crawling back a month later and we both rushed back into things…. Cut to me being a single father of my autistic 9 year old daughter I’ve raised her via equal custody for those whole 9 years. She cheated on me after my daughter was born, a lot of women that ghost you need to stay gone.
If she pulls away then you dodged a bullet. Don't be a simp and invest I yourself.
no bruh🤣. It's normal for a female to pull away when you text her alot.
It doesn't necessarily mean you dodged a bullet.
Just when she pulls away don't chase.💀.
Too late at that point
Perfect timing with this video; needed this after experiencing this with multiple women recently. Salute!
I rarely ever comment on youtube videos...if ever...but i felt the need to say that your videos have helped me so much Apollonia, you are a true wealth of knowledge and are doing amazing work.
Thank you, this helped a lot. I was "literally" in this with a girl and all this makes sense.
Holy crap, just went through this. Video couldn’t come at a more perfect time. Thanks so much for helping. Solid video
I did the same thing
Great video! I always like your focus on confidence and having standards
You are such a blessing to mankind. Thanks for guiding us in the right direction. Have a great day!
Hell, this is the first time I've watched one of your videos and your comments on self-worth are so valuable. Something I've been overlooking for a while. You've opened my eyes.
I’m struggling so bad but this video is helping a lot! I’m gonna rewatch this a lot!
I needed this, thank you,,,, looking forward for next video.✌️
This is exactly what happened to me. Everything was going phenomenally for a month. I sent a text, that was misconstrued and taken wrong. It hurt her, even though I tried to explain the context of it. Even though we spoke, she said that she just needed a few days to process it all…. Though we’ve had numerous phone calls, hung out and sent dozens of texts…. Apparently it triggered something her ex used to do…. SMH. Paying for someone else’s mistakes.
I feel you
That's just an excuse she's using to pull away from you/test you/ghost you. It's happened to me.
Me too
Same here bro, everything went well for 6 monthes, booked us a hotel which triggred something that her shit ex used to do and broke up with me an hour before we supposed to leave.. Just a waste of my damn time
As a woman with some trauma issues I try not to allow what someone did to me effect a new relationship. However there are things that partner might do that triggers me and I have to realize that it’s a trigger and doesn’t necessarily mean he did it or said it to hurt me. Sometimes I just need to process instead of reacting. It’s not always an excuse.
Thank you for talking. You've done much to help me get back on my own path and take care of my own path while patiently, slowly examining and nurturing a relationship with a woman I am interested in.
I'm going to use this tip
This is probably the most helpful dating advice I’ve ever had. I’m a 37 year old man who despite being considered extremely handsome by my peers throughout my life so far. For some reason I can’t get a relationship to last more than a month. This is the advice that I’ve been looking for, sucks I found it just after messing things up with someone I really thought I had a connection with. However at least I know now what to do in the future.
these advices are changing the dynamic of my view on relationships thank you for this
How do you know all my feelings and the things in the back of my head Apollonia??? Man thank Yu for this
Set it and forget it! Thank you Apollonia for the education, it can get frustrating at times. These videos give me hope, as they say. knowledge is power, and Patience is a virtue.
This is really a very great video, Apollonia. You really passionately made me understand that “self worth” is the key and “get your standard higher” and showing and really living that experience that “I have a very good life without her” is really great. I believe getting these three things work, is significantly more important than getting the girl I am inclined to get..#ApolloniaPonti @Apollonia Ponti
This is literally what is happening to me and sometimes I tend to do some of these mistakes...thanks for the insight
You have the best advice out of all the TH-camrs out here. Thanks Appolinta!
Your perception will create your reality. I felt that.
Wow she just explained my whole situation.
I love this! I was feeling so much tension after meeting this girl. I think i sub consciously implied that I’m moving fast and we sorta repelled. I was trying to understand what happened and what should i do (get back with her?) she explicitly said she wanted to move extra slow so now I get it. I feel relieved now that I don’t even want to get back. I realized I need to focus and improve my life for now. Thank you!
Nice video Coach ❤️ I wish I saw this video in August of 2020 🥺🥺 I’ll take this advice 🙏🏻
It truly boils down to looks and money, that is it.
No it doesn't. Especially not in highschool.
Thank god im good looking
isnt that the truth.
@@atmant05 Same shit. Money = Status. You a football captain you gonna get girls.
It boils down to money. Looks will go but if you're a billionaire, she ain't leaving. Get a prenuptial agreement if you are rich. Without one your marriage will fail. It's too easy to check out with 50/50. But if she knows the only way she can get anything is by staying with you, she will
The strongest video you've ever made..wow you hit so many points...thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it
She's married but it's so hard for me to pull away...its been 2 years now...we stopped for a while because I couldn't do it anymore...you know the adultery thing...now for some reason I'm chasing again...and now she's playing hard to get..what do I do? 🤨✍
Thank you, you are amazing in your work :-) So good I watched this twice!
Good morning Apollonia great point for men not to put self-worth in a woman and having standards.
I literally had multiple flashbacks listening to you explain, and all of it fit like a puzzle piece with all my frustrations. Like “why is she pulling away? What did I say? Why do all woman do this to me?”
It’s very revealing and I want to thank you sweetheart.
thanks for this video, its all great advice and has given me a lot of truth to digest. My ultimate downfall is texting too much and texting when Im either in an emotional state of some kind or a bit too drunk, Its like an OCD thing kicks in and I ruin things by sending texts too often and they are always far too long rambling texts saying way too much stuff that I would never say in person and ultimately that behaviour in the "virtual world" ends up turning her off and screwing up my ability to present myself to her in "real life" at all.
yes rambling on, just like I did here too.. lol 🙄
Apolonia, you are really awesome! I think you give really good advice.
The problem Apollonia is that you approach this problem as if women are the prize….and when they pull away, here’s the mistake men make. Women are not the prize! Nor are men. The prize is what two people working together can create (ie relationships are a two way street). How about approach the question of when a woman pulls away, how could they have handled that differently? What are the 7 things she might have thought of before she risked losing her guy! Here’s the reality for a high value man. If a woman asks for space, they’re going to get it. And…there’s no assurance that they’ll be able to come back…if/when they change their mind. They might very well be replaced. Just flip the script. If a guy said to a woman….”I’ need to some space”, she’d have him replaced before he even finished his sentence. What’s good for the goose…is good for the gander.
I Agree
Apollonia! Hiiiii.....cant believe im this early seeing this vid hahah (posted 33 min ago) Anyway I love everything that you do and Thank You for all these helpful & informative vids you make for us!!! ❣❣❣
Thank you so so much!
I made exactly the same all 7 mistakes. I know my way forward to be back with my soulmate! thank you! I understand now...
thanks, your videos really help me understand a girl and myself much better!
Fantastic Video Apollonia :D
Thank you for your sound advice..
Awesome and informative video. Great work
I don’t know about all other guys, but most of us have enough work. I don’t know of any women that are looking to support a man financially, but many women are looking to men for financial support. So, once a women becomes work, it’s time to say goodbye. Other than expressing your interest early on, move on. Let her chase you because she wants you. If she doesn’t’ want you, you are wasting your time.
That is.
So true.
Oh my Gosh you are right on time again !! I am dealing with right now at this exact Moment !!!
Thank u for this I believe this has to be your best video yet
Thank you so much 🙏 I honestly felt hurt when she pulled away, because I felt a small connection, I thought she felt the same. I told myself it's not ment to be, and I'll find someone else, which may still be true yet. Either way you validated my feelings and I feel 100% better👍
Brilliant video, I'm doing most of the 7!
Nice video! I sure wish these videos would have existed ten or fifteen years ago
Great vid💯
Thank you for creating healthy relationships for thousands of people.
Woman, I’ll tell you this. When you make a guy really really like you then you withdraw.. what do you think he’s going to do? How do you think he would react?? How could he keep his cool in that situation? and for woman to judge them harshly based on his reaction is just like breaking a guys arm and then complaining about how he screams in pain..
Makes no sense.. grow up.
Also wonder why we dont want to settle down anymore, why we turn in to players. The games and psychology of a woman turns us
"When YOU make a guy really like you?" Are you guys puppets? I apparently "made" a guy really like me just being myself (apparently my fault, he is not an adult loool). He became so clingy, I had to withdraw for my own mental health. We are not your teddy bears or toys that you like and can always do whatever you want with them, but humans with our own feelings and boundaries. It's not my fault or responsibility if someone created our whole future together after a few dates which purpose should be to get to know each other. This is a childish behaviour, sorry.
@@ZawieHa yeah sounds like you’re talking about a couple month relationship what if a girl is attached to you for 3 years then says she wants space and a break to “miss me more” I can’t seem to find an answer for my situation
This is a good point
Agreed !
One thing that pops up with a flash from your seven points is to maintain Emotional Control.
Hey Apollonia. I have been binge watching your videos all day. They are amazing. Can you explain to us men what a woman means when she says that she is in a "dark place" and how to help her escape from that dark place. Thank you and much love ❤
Just move on..she probably wouldn't say that to a dude she really likes..
Thanks for the advice 🙂🙂🙂
Great content! Thanks for posting!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you Ma'am. This video is what i needed
Good advice. It’s easy to be triggered by past experience, e.g. giving an ultimatum after a couple of dates due to a past experience of a woman not being genuine and wasting time. Rather than giving an ultimatum staying confident would have been so much better…
Hahahahaha 🤣 I love it. I'll stop blaming the color of the clouds, I knew that was my main problem... 😁 Love your videos and advice and coachings.
What is the end song? Has a great chill beat to it.
Also, love the videos Apollonia. You helped me a lot this past week when I made a decision I had to walk away for a temporary time. My relationship is back to square 1, rather than square -10, where we can improve things with a healthy and stable mindset. No toxic arguments, no belittling, no more ignoring. Thank you.
This video is so on point!
Thank you so much for watching!
Listen to her. Been watching these videos for a couple weeks. Had a smoking hottt girl pull away. I let her pull away and she reached out to me even stronger than before
GREAT VIDEO from one of the best!!!!
Much appreciated!
I found the last 3 minutes of this video most helpful and applicable to my situation.
I'm waiting now for her to make a move or express something which would rebalance the frame of cooperative shared control.
Thanks Apollonia👌🏼
Facts
Thanks... Wonderful guidance 👍
Excellent advice thanks
Wow you speaking facts. Damn I’m actually going through this now. I haven’t dated in a year and feel like I found someone who’s just perfect. Different from the rest. I got to relax lol.
Thanks so much for the advice.
You are so welcome!
BEST EVER ADVICE.
THANK YOU.
Everything you said Men do wrong. I've been doing. My partner of 4 yrs said last weekend she just needs time to thin, space, she call me in a few weeks.
Ive made all the mistakes you've just spoken about. I've been too needy, didnr project self worth & confidence
I realise now something crucial sbout men/women behaviours when dating.
Gonna follow you're advice 100% starting this minute
Blessings
Kuldip Uk
Hi did your gf contacted u ?I am in this same situation
When she pulled away, so did I.
She learned not to play games.
You’re welcome.
Yup, same here. Now i’m on my purpose and she begs for my validation and attention. See how it worked. It worked out well for me.
Guys just leave women alone being on your purpose in order to be wanted by women is still seeking validation.. love yourself and do what you really love even if women don't like what you in to even if its not cool by mainstream standards. I like to read , sit under trees go to the park smoke weed in my room watching movies I like. that is loving yourself
It’s crazy because this girl I’m talking to now has slowed down on texting me. She stops responding in the middle of conversations. I’ll wait to see if she texts and a few days will go by with no response. I’ve followed up a few times but I don’t like doing that because it makes me think she not that interested. She has done this about 3 times now. I remember she told me she rather phone calls. So I call and she doesn’t answer smh. But she claims she really likes me and I’m attractive. When we’re together it’s great. But when we’re not together she sucks at communication. Then what happens I start over thinking and say the wrong shit. So now I’m feeling like I’m pushing her away now. My last girlfriend was 2014. I haven’t dated in a year. I’m talking my for her hard and fast it’s sad.
@@heatscouters7800 she doesn’t answer the phone because you are not a priority or sh is with another guy or she’s playing games or all three.
The best 20 minutes of advice I've ever heard 👌
I made 2 of these huge mistakes and I’m so heartbroken. I cried myself to sleep after telling her and trying to think I needed space when I shouldn’t have.
I don’t know what to do anymore, everything hurts.
Completely agree. Women get tired quickly of needy desperate men.
blessings Apollonia !
Loaded Video...Awesome
Love the advice!
Thank you so much for watching!
Brilliant video 👍
Thanks so much!
Good information as usual!
Always! 👏
I swear you tell the whole the story of my life with the girl I love. I can't thank you enough for your help and kind to be happy with our relationship 💖remember you always love:)
Thank you for your support, so truly appreciated.
@@ApolloniaPonti when u eat it??!!! 😅😅😅
This was a good one
You're doing a perfect job to be honest.
You're good with your job beautiful lady. I have experienced most of what you said on your video. Thanks a lot and much appreciated 🙏
Masculine energy is aggressive Feminine energy is passive. The key is too make chase you a little which takes patience. She will chase if she is interested. If she won't chase she is not interested
All these games is why there is a lot of single women out here smh 🤦🏻 just keep it real ladies we can work with that. The women that doesn't play a lot of games usually gets the man
100% agree
I swear and they end up staying single cuz dey keep finding the guys that will play the games and be mystyerious but its only because they already got a woman or playing them..but than bring that baggage to us like now we should accept them..hell naw
It is a nice ideal, but most women are going to play games. They will always test you.
@@deantecunningham1241 100 percent games are fun in da beginning but they dont stop
Yup, gets the man and the ring
Real advice!
I just randomly came across this video and now I’m Subscribe
my gf has been distant the past 8-9 days and she told me that she would tell me some things because things in time because things were difficult for her at that time (she is taking 2 exams this week ) .I didnt and still dont know if the things she will tell me are about me us or her but i said i understood .Now im waiting for her to tell me this thursday and even though i told her i loved her couple days ago she didnt say it back ( we have been saying it here and there ).Now im just searching for videos like these and i have to say that these are really helpful ! Thanks for your effort and to anyone else that seems to be in a similar situation i have to say stay strong and give her space . I will do an update on this comment once we talk !
Everything you talk about I see in my dating life as a blk male in his mid 20’s. If I knew this when I was 17 whew world wouldn’t of been ready 🤤
You have no idea how much you've helped me ! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart ❤
You're so welcome!
Very well done
This is the best video on the internet under this topic. Im not too good for any of the advice and it certainly isnt too much work. In fact its great advice for how to deal with women but the substance the gift inside the female advice box is the work we should do to enhance ourselves as men in very healthy ways. Brilliant.
Thank you Apollonia
If a woman really wants you, you are not over pursuing most of the time. That woman will go out of her way to see you.
Thank you great video 😉
Thank you!!
I'd love to schedule a session with you. This is really helpful in the position I'm in. So hard not to just text her plus I work with this girl. She asked for space from "everything" not just me. It's been a week and for the past few months we been "friends" but we have gotten physical I slept over her place a bunch shared a bed now she just quickly went cold. I feel like I know what to do but I'm worried she'll move on. Idk it's hard cuz I already have feelings for her. It makes me feel good watching your videos. Thank you
Wow I almost turned out but at the end your last point was date up and don’t date down more, dating down can make you a little bit crazy and have more drama, This intern can hurt hurt your self-esteem and leave you unfulfilled.
*in turn instead of ‘intern’ - unless you are referring to someone ‘interning’ at your job.
Thank you