The POWER of NO CONTACT! (What To Do When She Breaks Up With You!)
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@@DailamiPuang Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@@peterwilliams6361 Her name is Sylvia Regina White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@@DailamiPuang Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Never be too keen...Its a turn off..
This is so understated. He said if you re-approach “not feeling secure where you are in your own life” you won’t have that level of confidence needed to retain her and she can subconsciously feel that. . So do the work!
No contact is healthy. Focus on things about yourself that need attention (health, career growth, and self reflection). Work on those and reconnecting with friends, they will help keep you occupied and happy. Whatever happens down the road is out of control, but youll be putting yourself in the best position to reconnect or be better for another relationship. Good luck.
take the meth better
I'm a mere 13 days of NC and me and my ex gf slept together 2 weeks ago and ended on amicable terms. When I saw her last she said her daughters and best friend said she should get back with me. We were in a serious relationship for 2.5 years and it ended due to trivial matters and disagreeing on certain things way too much. I miss her alot. But being she broke up with me , she has to reach out. She said there is NOBODY ELSE and I believe her because she is honest and brutally honest sometimes. I definitely added value to her life and her family liked me. I pray she returns after some time apart.
Same boat as you. 2.5 years we were great but I know the flaws I had and said I’d work on them. But it is what it is. She has to reach out…
My divorce taught me a lot about relationships. There's no advantage for a man to get married. Women have all the cards to play At anytime they can file for divorce, take half of your assets and minimize your contact with your own children. So for me no contact is keeping her out of my life.
My Relationship of 8 years ended in February.but she move on so quick with the other man and she is posting the guy.whats really sad is that i think she is been with this man during our staying together.but they deserve each other.she cheated with the guy and now they are together.i wonder what's going on in that guys mind bcz he knows he is in a relationship with the woman who cheated.
Oh lord i needed this 3 years ago however everything he said is the truth now i stand back an realize I was trippin an doing better now but initially i was outta there
I think the main question is: "Is it a good thing to get her back?". Because sometimes the breakup is, after coping with it and overtaking the grieve, a blessing, if you look at it with proper logic and not with your emotions...
Not all the time its a great thing to get an ex back. It all depends on the relationship, if your both willing to grow, and the reason for the breakup :-)
Great guest advice
This video is gold! Thank you so so much!
You're so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it. :-)
@@ApolloniaPonti I have a question for you well first of all I’m thinking about signing up to your program. But my question is my ex girlfriend says she needs space to heal and so do I but let’s say that she gets the space that she needs during no contact and she find someone else. What do I do?
Yesss the break up helpd me get alot of clarity on a whole lot of things
100% I believe no contact and breakups give us a lot of insight.
@Apollonia Ponti yes ma'am sure does , at the time i did all what he said an like the fighter flight mode you've spoke of an now after some help an time im able to see better an live better amen thank you Apollonia for everything you continue to do Happy Early Easter ‼️
This is exceptional information thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Powerful video. Thank you for this guys
Thank you for your comment! Glad you liked this video.
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Epic content as always always like listen so i dont ever get caught slipping
U saving people again appolonia
Appreciate you!
Love your work guys
Thanks so much!
Good details
So you have to break no contact?...then it is to contact the one who dumped you!!... definitely that lowers your value even more...start moving on and find someone better better who will not leave.
I personally know several cases where wives walked out of good marriages with good men with little or no warning, and for no reason (infidelity, abuse or some such). The cost, not just the emotional, but the financial costs were huge. And the suffering the children went through was and is also huge.
Ah the female Narcissist...
they got bored
@@marcoi7035 Bored is not a valid reason for divorce.
Narcissistic women sacrifice their marriage just to gain empathy and compassion from people.
I’m a certified professional coach and I’ll tell any man to never go back unless it’s just for fun. There’s a good chance that she has stepped out with someone and is trying to come back after realizing that she got played. Don’t be a simp and allow her to come back. There’s more out there and more than one person you can love. Just move on and become the best you possible for the next relationship.
I really doubt the kind of coach you are. How do you know s/he didn't leave because you were too needy or clingy or didn't have a goal in your life?
@@daddysharki agree with him. Partner of 6 years stepped out on me, 6 months of no contacts she decides to reach out, whilst shes in that very same mans house btw. Saying it just isnt the same, can we meet up for "closure" etc, Completely delusional. Focus on yourself and never take an unfaithful woman back. Period.
Agree. I lived it. Any vvoman I used to be involved with would come back. It’s fun catching up. But throw them back after a short term. The only time i took someone back it was a Sh*t show. She was disrespectful, unkind and entitled. I had to walk away after a very bad extended period
Dating bf and girlfriend I agree but when a family is involved and you have kids together the dynamic is changed.
This one hit Hard “ No contact is more than a communication strategy , it’s a mind set of pulling away & focusing on you “ 9:19
My situation at this moment: I asked my ex for an item I left at her house Tuesday she didn’t respond for 3 days, I went no contact during these days after I asked. Today she calls, I don’t answer. She says “I’ll just keep it then”. She calls a second time. I don’t answer, she says I’m about to pull up. In the past she used this tactic to get me to respond she doesn’t even know if I’m home. It might turn ugly
This is so difficult. My relationship ended 2 weeks ago after 2 years living together. She was reluctant to start with me because I am 20 years older. She required distance a couple times during the relationship for a few days. The trigger seemed to be when our friends got engaged (3 couples got engaged during our time together). The break-up occurred during our first counseling session where we were going to work on tools for her to coup with the age gap. The love and connection was over the top which is what makes this so difficult. Facts: I am 62 year old male in great shape. She is 41 trying to get her her business off the ground (a lot of stress) and her family is not supporting the age gap. I am working to get my mind off this!
Good luck…. I’m in a similar boat and it ain’t great.
Don't look back, your not going that way
To be honest messaging DR OLOMOOBA was the best choice I have ever made…Thanks for bringing back my ex lover
I didn’t understand what “no contact” was for a year ago. Moving forward I will use it to my advantage. My ex gf put me on the spot when she broke up with me, I was napping after working 10 days straight and she broke up
With me via text then woke me up to see if I got her text.
Toxic woman mess with men’s head. Healthy Woman wouldn’t mess with your head. Simple
Sometimes the damage, heartbreak, and pain inflicted by both parties, even though you really do love and have feelings for each other, you know in your heart that going back is impossible as the betrayal and vindictiveness that occurred will always be there and can never really be forgiven.
She decided to end the relationship yesterday. We’ve been together for 7 months. Twas okay at first but we started having arguments. All minor issues. But she started distancing. I asked her several times and she kept telling me it’s nothing. So now she wants us to be friends. She said we are better off as friends. She’s a single mother of two. I have a very strong bond with the kids already. This is so hard for me.
That’s exactly what my ex told me, that we are better as friends. I’m confident that no contract is the best way to go. It really has the power to build attraction, but you have to stick to it for as long as possible. Good luck bro
That’s why you don’t date single mothers lol. Can almost guarantee you she went back to their father. They have a bond that you will never be able to compete with.
Omg never take single mother unless her husband died and thats the resdon she is single. She already made a mistake before so let her enjoy it.
She did you favor. Who the hell wanna take care of 2 kids that ain’t yours. 😂 congratulations. Time heals all wounds 💯.
Bro heal
In my experience, I’ve found that if a woman is extremely attractive that no contact doesn’t work as she has endless options and a lot of male orbiters to choose from. I just move on!
It's because, It wasn't meant to be
@@MRSTEEL15 I agree. That’s why I just move on. I did have one come back to me 8 years later wanting to reconnect LOL
@@silvermine2033 Never GO BACK! EVER!
@@MRSTEEL15 I didn’t. I thanked her for her apology, but politely declined to reconnect.
@@silvermine2033 id block her on all devices
If it didn't work out the first time (along with therapy) you are done, it will not work out the 2nd time
Correct not all cases are meant to be.
Well I've only had 10 girlfriends in my life so far and all of them Failed. They broke up with me so what I did is to just accept it, deal with it and move on and get a new girlfriend. I never cry on any women, I always shows them my strength and where do I stand. If they ask for breakup then I'm ok with that I'm straight forward. Let them go! Who am I to hold them back??? Maybe they needed freedom, they needed some space or maybe did I just go too close? I don't know but I've been faithful all the time. But with all that being said when they ask for breakup I always let them go, deal with it accept it and move on get a new girlfriend. It's their mistakes though because they're the ones who's crying like a baby because my previous ex girlfriends they can't have me back anymore. And I don't play games. When there's a break-up my own listed rules it's always a One Way ticket no coming back. No goodbyes it's always a Fair well no comeback. So my ex girlfriends made a mistakes for testing me. Don't test me! I don't play games 🤣 they ask for break up I let them go and deal with it and get a new girl, then so on and so on again and again. But I can't change who I am it's me. Superman doesn't exist! Women needs to be realistic not fantasy.
Find your purpose
More then just that
@@TomFox1 what else?
Her Loss - Drake
How you read my heart? 🙏😔
Hardest part 😔
I started no contact with my ex and she started coming hard. But she don’t want a relationship right now 😮💨 so weird
I did all the wrong things😂
I am that woman who finds NC not easy and currently finding it really hard and we weren't even dating - just been chatting for over 3 months then after 1 date that seemed to have gone so well even him texted later that 'he wanted more of that feeling' but me with a habit of too long expressive texts I believe I put him off :(
Why do I feel so heartbroken when we were not even officially dating??? Does this make me insane and naive???
Coach Adrian/Appolonia! Does this information also apply in a LDR friendzone situation? She was interested in a romantic relationship at one point,then I started becoming clingy/needy at one point,she pulled away,and lost interest
How were you able to sort this out man....???
Insecurities and neediness are the main issues. 99.999999% of all breakups are because IT WASN'T MEANT TO BE........The universe brings us together with someone for a brief period of time, for whatever reason it has. Once the Universe feels ITS TIME to split and move on? Things will start to shake things up. A spiritual person can see this and just go with the flow. Once the first break up happens? There's no turning back. Don't look into the rearview mirror of life......Full steam ahead and into the next Karmic Debt and so on............Of course it's easier said than done. But this is how life works
The Dali Rick 😊
If you don't look into the rear view mirror of life how do you hope to learn anything from your mistakes? Sounds like I should be blaming the universe for making my girl run instead.
@@norswil8763 It means to not go back where you came from. Toxic Relationships, Toxic friendships, Toxic Jobs...etc.....let it go and move on....
@@MRSTEEL15 if it's toxic then I agree, but that's not always the case. If you did try again with a willing dedicated partner, and it did work you'd have to agree it was meant to be.
Yes im experiencing a lot of break up with my LDR for almost 5years. Hard now cause we meet in person and now he's back to his live in partner and we're still connected in social media. My case is im with him and he is suffering from mental illness. How can I walk away from this complicated relationship though I always want to help him.. please advise. Thank you 🙏
I had a 9 year relationship. And had two kids with the girl. And she went cold
One day. And I found out she was cheating on me for
Over a year. I went mad! Called her every name under the sun. The tears everything. Then 3 weeks later, we started flirting. Got
On and I moved back in. Then a month later she went cold again. I then started the grieving process and admitting it was over! THEN, 3 weeks later she started flirting with me.. the girl just doesn’t know what she wants. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do here? Or even what the hell she’s playing at. I’ve gone no contact from the last break. Has that played with her mind?
4 months no contact done perfectly as suggested with my DA ex yet she never reached out. Definitely doesn't always work to have them reach out. Only good to help you heal but I'm still traumatised.
yeap, it absolutely sucks doesn't it?
(NC doesn't always bring them back)
NC doesn't work on DA's they are generally broken people and tend to also be those with the most trauma. Never go back for a DA as I can bet you now within a few days after you broke up they were in bed with someone else as they are broken and broken people break people, stay away and thank the universe it didn't work out.
I want her back so bad. I messed up, I cheated. I’m committed to change but she does not believe that I can
Move on, cheating is a one way road, it destroys everything. Be an adult and move on.
Where’s the advice on how to break no contact
Im confused with one thing now.. its the NO CONTACT RULE.. which technically suppose to create attraction.. but then he said "if you're not talking you're probably not gonna get back together"
The no contact rule is to build mystery, create fear of missing out, create fear of loss etc.
You then use that time to rebuild yourself back to be better especially become 10X better.
When she gets curious, she'll want to see you and that's when she realized you were always the one.
As a very good woman, your comment after 9-45! Also wondering how a woman feels when a beta guy starts doing this? If it's not a relationship, just a friend zone? What does a woman feel? That you don't care about me? Did he go off to do his own thing? Am I not important anymore? Are you starting to see him as a man? Is this attractive in all cases? Or does it just make you curious as to why this is? There are many videos about getting out of the friend zone, but not enough about how a woman feels when that happens?? Many people would be interested in this, what is going on inside you!!
This is why you never put her on a pedestal and make her the center of your life. If she goes no contact then view it as her loss and move on. I have zero tolerance for ghosting. You ghost me you’re gone no exceptions
"What to do when she breaks up with you" ? Umm, move on....like why wouldn't you unless you want her back. And, why would you want her back when she broke up with you? Straight forward questions.
This expertise 😚🤌🏾
Question, what if we are in the no contact not because we fell out of love, but she was emotionally unavailable due to past trauma from her ex that she still has to deal with because of thier child? Should I ever break the no contact to see how she is doing? She broke it once in the first week, apologizing how she was in such a dark place and missed me.
i wonder what happened in your case? i am living the same one....
no contact and ignoring are the same things?
The BIG question is - Is it worth to take her back? No contact or otherwise.
This is the real truth
Apollonia, There is a lot of good info on your videos.
However, I wish you would address the damage that 3rd, now going on 4th, wave Feminism is doing to family formation, marriage formation and the building of healthy male-female relationships. It is extremely risky today for a man to marry. Women are incented to walk away from marriages by just the way society has become structured.
NC never works actually.
Which stage am I at in my mind? Genuine question, 17 years together over 6 married. I was 40 In January my wife went in for major surgery on my birthday and she messaged me saying happy birthday love you all I told her I loved her then a week later I was asking what she wanted and she said she needed space etc and I probs annoyed her keeping asking his can you not know what you want then I sent her 1 last message saying I’ll leave you alone now you won’t hear from me and deleted everything we don’t do a lot of social media so every single thing was deleted and I kept to NC then out the blue she asked me to go to a wedding with her I kept to NC and a couple other questions I kept to NC then she was going on about going to her friends wedding and I said no. She hasn’t officially finished with me as in said that’s it she’s just asking me questions now and again and I keep the answers very short and always respond when it’s to do with kids. I’m at the stage I don’t know if I even want to be with her now but she’s on my mind all the time. I’m so confused it’s unbelievable. Any help is greatly welcomed.
Any girl who breaks up with you does not deserve you. Leave her be and move on… Don’t try to get her back for any reason. If she’s on the fence about both of you, forget her totally….
Sounds like some petty pride thing, you can keep fking up relationships or fix your flaws. If you screw up a happy, otherwise healthy relationship with a compatible hottie and you have the chance to get your head straight and gain some clarity you'd be a fool to apply your policy.
What if we broke up (she left) and I kept in touch with her. It's been little over a month since the break up. We still hang out and talk. Would this work if I stopped contacting her or is it too late to reconcile?
The staying friends after breakup is for a woman to cope, they use you for attention and think it lets you off easier so they don't feel guilty. You can't be friends if you dated romantically, once that barrier was crossed you can't go back. It's not healthy to keep in contact unless they are trying to get back together which in most cases is not happening. Go no contact and dethatch from your ex partner and focus your energy back on yourself to prepare and build yourself for the next person. Nothing worse than a person stringing you along because they are emotionally immature.
@apolloinaponti
My now ex wife uncle death anniversary and her grand mother passing are this week and next.. I'm in limited contact because we have kids.. should I reach out or stay in no contact??
What if my ex asked for us not to contact each other?
Then don't contact her, she has expressed she doesn't want you in her life. Most probable case is she found someone else probably while you were still together(i know it sucks) and wants you out of the picture to focus on that person as you bring guilt back for them as they are reminded of what they did. Do you really want to be with a person that does not want you?...No, have self respect, suck it up and use your energy on yourself. It gets significantly better with time especially once the rose tinted glasses come off. For me if the case makes sense she left me for someone else, I would lose ALL respect for her and wouldn't want her back knowing she was with someone else already after me, but that's just me, but makes moving on a LOT easier.
This happened to me dating a girl about a month she was so into me but then I text her to much and called one day . Abd I think I looked needy then she said few day later she wasn't intetested anymore . She blocked my number after bc I told her ok that's fine but I wanted tocall her. I'm hoping to try this
You were probably a rebound
If we can't discuss what happened or what went wrong then what is the point?
I'm going through a break up and I think I've realised that part of it is realising yourself what went wrong rather than relying on them telling you because that'll put them off
Economicism isn't just about the opposite sex relationships or love relationships. Narcissism can be friendships. Family problems, co-worker problems, and boss, problems as well as lovers. I just wanted to state that there was way too much narcissism between man and woman videos. You need to start exposing more friendship. Narcissistic problems and possibly more workplace, narcissistic problems. And family narcissistic problems. And romantic narcissistic problems. It's the romantic and the family ones that you hear the most about. You never hear about the workplace hardly and you don't ever hear about friendships. There needs to be more of that.
Will it work if she lost feelings before breaking up in the first place?
No it won't as what will she miss if you don't reach out? It's the same when you spoke to a woman then realized you don't like her and stopped talking, do you miss that woman? No because you have no feelings for them.
I feel like anyone who has been with someone for over a year and have to result to “no contact “ to try to get them back are selfish as hell , the hell I want someone back who doesn’t want to work with me and leaves ? fuck em
First one to comment 😅
What if we separated end of Aug 2022 and she started dating someone in Oct/Nov 2022, then left him and came back to me end of Nov, and now she left me for the same guy again end of Feb 2023 ?
And she tells me that she wants me to leave her alone and never wants to be with me.
Is it still possible for us to be together ? (When we have 2 kids together)
You should ask yourself why you don't mind being a woman's #2. Don't let any woman toy with your emotions. When she went back to you, you proved to her that when it gets rough with the other guy, she can always run back to you for emotional, physical support, and that you'll still be there waiting......like you are now. Has it occurred to you this is probably a blessing? She's showing you all the red flags in the clear day and you are still willing to be with her
Don't use the kids as an excuse for someone to treat you like shit chief
You need to RUN !!!!
She keeps monkey branching because no contact worked the first time but Idk if your behavior changed enough for her
O wow
my gf and i broke up 1 week ago cuz of long distance, she is in a new city new study, (its only 2 years then she is back here) trying to get new friends etc and said distance with me and with all that going on for her is just to much for her, she wants to be able to just walk to my house spontaniuslly she said and with a flight distance between us that is not possobile..we both stil love eachother, i miss her like crazy,she said she needed a bit space to figure things out there.... any tips? is it over for good, should i move on?
update? im in the same situation
@@juanyanez755 it didnt work out brother…2 years is a long time :// i still think about her
Had a DA with serious abondonment issues tell me "Im done this isnt going to work out" . Sounded quite final. I think she sees no contact as a game of chicken. To reach out after a few months sounds like she will take satisfaction on going silent. She is extremely stubborn and uses silence as a weapon.
how to reply a girl who say she doesn't have feelings right now
watch video.
Give it time. She might have said it in anger, some time will pass and she might change her mind.
Don't even respond to her and go ghost on her. Hit the gym, buy clothes, upgrade yourself! She will be back to you within a month
@@killakilla1038 This!!
Hi, I do not want to contact her. She dumped me I want her to contact me.
Which is very uhm considering you're situation two women with the same values and outlooks on life it won't happen, all I'm gonna say is welcome to mens world. Men always have to break no contact because women don't, trust me it will be a very long time if she does even consider breaking it. Women rarely break it, I'm going through it where she took a social media break and cut me off and broke up with me but I know I'm not some dog on a leash and won't feed her ego boost, eif she doesn't come back that's it. I'm not xhasing
This content is splendid. A book that covered these topics reshaped my entire outlook. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
Been hurt for a week after my breakup from my gf over a text message from a woman way back in december but wasn't that serious. She felt crushed tried to get together with her ex who is my best friend and have sex but we still talked for about four days
she told me she is moving to ny. She tells me im gonna text u in the am. Welp no text around 3pm that next day and was told she is dating another guy out there.
15 women to one man, just keep moving forward and dont look in that rear view mirror😊.
The never break up with me to love I can give to you
You'll love me forever
You disappear
Didnt know Bill Cosby was doing dating advice ?
@@billy77511 ha ha ha
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8:07 "This man can provide for me." And that's the crux. The man who fits the bill is the man who pays the bill. Always been and always will be. I'll take a pass on that! And men in general are also taking a pass-check out the record low marriage rates. Women bleat about no decent men ie no men willing to provide a free meal ticket. Pump and Dump!
Someone I knew in my former word dumped her husband after starting college, then met another man ‘not long after’ , moved in with him, and has lived rent free with him while attending university. It’s my opinion she’s just using him until she graduates.
@@JohnM... Yep. Monkey brancher alert
Absolute fake information
GO OUT WITH HER FRIEND WHIO HAS A CAR AND GAS MONEY// SHE CAN START COLLECTING CATS EARLY/NOW NO ONE WANTS HER//