I rlly needed this video. I was able to automatically answer yes or no(Only 1 sometimes) to every question immediately and it automatically changed my point of view about alot of things so drastically that it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you sm!
This video was just confirmation that breaking up with him 8 months ago waa the right choice for me. He sent me a birthday text this week, where at first I didn't even recognize the number (shows I'm healing). And he must of smelled that I'd energetically detached - FINALLY. So, finding your video helped me augment my feelings behind my choice with no regrets. I'm still moving in the right direction without him.
Hello Terri, I have learned so much from you over the past few months. I’m in my third semester of a mental health counseling program. This message speaks volumes to me. I just got dumped a month ago for the second time from a 16 month relationship. What hurts most is I poured out my heart and soul to her only to feel betrayed. When we first met I was in school working on my degree. We both are divorced with teenagers. We both agreed that poor communication was a major factor that led to our divorces. So she wanted to learn along with me about communication, relationships, family, attachment styles, and more. So after about a year she sent me a text saying she been pulling away for a while and wanted to break up. She lost her job a few months before this text. During this time she joined a cycling group and started riding 5 days a week and if affected our time together. I still wonder if she possibly connected with another guy in this group or at the gym during this time. She ended up getting another job then sent this text two months later. I basically begged and after a couple weeks we got back together but things technically was never the same. She kept saying thank you for fighting for us. My birthday was in December and she went all out in a special way. She was talking about our future for 2018 and a possible engagement. But then only a few days after Valentine’s Day she sends me another text wanting to break up. We talked on the phone and she did not have the guts to even set me down face-to-face either time. Which means all of the learning on her end was in vain. I tried to convince her to let us do couples counseling and she wasn’t even willing to do that even though she told me I was special above any other guy she’s ever met. Which makes me wonder if she ever truly loved me. It hurts!!! Question: she has a poor relationship with her mother. She is an only child as well. And her parents divorced when she was two. Would this explain some of her actions? Thank you and keep up the good work.
I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak, Maurice. I feel you. Your ex's family history definitely informed her attachment style, in some way. Divorce and a problematic relationship with her mother could also inform her ability to maintain an intimate connection. I think processing your own experience will give you the most important insights. Thank you for sharing here with us. Sending you healing vibes.
Maurice Braxton this doesnt sound like love. Because when we love someone we have no doubts that we wanna be with them 💯. This sounds like she’s using u as a nice emotional cushion and u fall for it every time. Let her go. U deserve to be with someone who is sure about u. Not someone who goes back and forth. If she’s confused let her be confused on her own time. Not on yours. U’ve got to move on. She’ll bring u lots of doubt and exhaustion.
I just want to thank you for the amazingly helpful videos, and the introspective clarity of impact they have had on me (a man). I feel the issues tackled within your topic choices not only apply to women, but men, and everyone who faces the challenges of learning to have healthy relationships.
Hi Terri! I really appreciate your videos and this one particularly - I feel that these questions are great to reflect on many relationships and even situations in my life. To be honest about what my heart really desires - and let go of what isn't really working anymore. Blessings, Sister!
Great video thank you! I love your information and how you deliver it. Thoughtful but clear and honest. You pose tough questions that make one really self reflect and look within. Much love!!!
In the beginning it was beautiful we talked about everything we was each other true love,her mom and my girl got into a big argument a couple of months in the relationship I was so confused.As we kept on I notice her mom telling her what to do, telling her Think about yourself, don't depend on no man. We used to live in the same building so my girl would to tell me I'm going down to my moms house I use to say ok when she used to come back she was a whole different person all mad and upset trying to pick a fight with me but before she went down she was happy so I started picking up her mother has to do with arguments.Time went by and I noticed she was starting to do everything the mother told her to do.now I figured out why she fight the first time she wanted to have control and me being in a relationship with her,her mother felt that was taking her control.again time went by.The decisions her mom was telling her to do was so wrong and when she made a bad move her mom would back off and I had to help her. Bottom line we was together for 7yrs,last year my girl wanted to move to Georgia with me and her daughter I couldn't go because I have my kids here and they won't be able to go so I said no, she kept begging me but I couldn't.she goes to her moms they talk about it,she just moved and we split I broke it off cause that hurt me a lot her mom made me put my kids to make a move.im dealing with the pain and we haven't spoke for three weeks.i don't know how to feel cause I love her,so she tells her brother she misses me she's hurt but that was her moms choice.
Two years too late but she’s an adult she’s old enough to make her own decisions. It ain’t because of anybody egging her on - her decisions and mistakes are on her. Don’t let it manipulate you. Good luck and hope you’re doing better.
I rlly needed this video. I was able to automatically answer yes or no(Only 1 sometimes) to every question immediately and it automatically changed my point of view about alot of things so drastically that it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you sm!
I'm so glad it was helpful for you 💕
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This video was just confirmation that breaking up with him 8 months ago waa the right choice for me. He sent me a birthday text this week, where at first I didn't even recognize the number (shows I'm healing). And he must of smelled that I'd energetically detached - FINALLY. So, finding your video helped me augment my feelings behind my choice with no regrets. I'm still moving in the right direction without him.
I am so glad this video helped you stay strong ❤️
Iv been struggling to get over my ex but I know answering these questions now I’m along way more than I was xx
Right on, Bob!
Hello Terri, I have learned so much from you over the past few months. I’m in my third semester of a mental health counseling program. This message speaks volumes to me. I just got dumped a month ago for the second time from a 16 month relationship. What hurts most is I poured out my heart and soul to her only to feel betrayed. When we first met I was in school working on my degree. We both are divorced with teenagers. We both agreed that poor communication was a major factor that led to our divorces. So she wanted to learn along with me about communication, relationships, family, attachment styles, and more. So after about a year she sent me a text saying she been pulling away for a while and wanted to break up. She lost her job a few months before this text. During this time she joined a cycling group and started riding 5 days a week and if affected our time together. I still wonder if she possibly connected with another guy in this group or at the gym during this time. She ended up getting another job then sent this text two months later. I basically begged and after a couple weeks we got back together but things technically was never the same. She kept saying thank you for fighting for us. My birthday was in December and she went all out in a special way. She was talking about our future for 2018 and a possible engagement. But then only a few days after Valentine’s Day she sends me another text wanting to break up. We talked on the phone and she did not have the guts to even set me down face-to-face either time. Which means all of the learning on her end was in vain. I tried to convince her to let us do couples counseling and she wasn’t even willing to do that even though she told me I was special above any other guy she’s ever met. Which makes me wonder if she ever truly loved me. It hurts!!! Question: she has a poor relationship with her mother. She is an only child as well. And her parents divorced when she was two. Would this explain some of her actions? Thank you and keep up the good work.
I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak, Maurice. I feel you. Your ex's family history definitely informed her attachment style, in some way. Divorce and a problematic relationship with her mother could also inform her ability to maintain an intimate connection. I think processing your own experience will give you the most important insights. Thank you for sharing here with us. Sending you healing vibes.
Thank you Terri for your words of wisdom. Many blessings to you!
Maurice Braxton this doesnt sound like love. Because when we love someone we have no doubts that we wanna be with them 💯. This sounds like she’s using u as a nice emotional cushion and u fall for it every time. Let her go. U deserve to be with someone who is sure about u. Not someone who goes back and forth. If she’s confused let her be confused on her own time. Not on yours. U’ve got to move on. She’ll bring u lots of doubt and exhaustion.
I just want to thank you for the amazingly helpful videos, and the introspective clarity of impact they have had on me (a man). I feel the issues tackled within your topic choices not only apply to women, but men, and everyone who faces the challenges of learning to have healthy relationships.
Hi Terri! I really appreciate your videos and this one particularly - I feel that these questions are great to reflect on many relationships and even situations in my life. To be honest about what my heart really desires - and let go of what isn't really working anymore. Blessings, Sister!
Great video thank you! I love your information and how you deliver it. Thoughtful but clear and honest. You pose tough questions that make one really self reflect and look within. Much love!!!
You look great love those brows excellent xxxxx
In the beginning it was beautiful we talked about everything we was each other true love,her mom and my girl got into a big argument a couple of months in the relationship I was so confused.As we kept on I notice her mom telling her what to do, telling her Think about yourself, don't depend on no man. We used to live in the same building so my girl would to tell me I'm going down to my moms house I use to say ok when she used to come back she was a whole different person all mad and upset trying to pick a fight with me but before she went down she was happy so I started picking up her mother has to do with arguments.Time went by and I noticed she was starting to do everything the mother told her to do.now I figured out why she fight the first time she wanted to have control and me being in a relationship with her,her mother felt that was taking her control.again time went by.The decisions her mom was telling her to do was so wrong and when she made a bad move her mom would back off and I had to help her. Bottom line we was together for 7yrs,last year my girl wanted to move to Georgia with me and her daughter I couldn't go because I have my kids here and they won't be able to go so I said no, she kept begging me but I couldn't.she goes to her moms they talk about it,she just moved and we split I broke it off cause that hurt me a lot her mom made me put my kids to make a move.im dealing with the pain and we haven't spoke for three weeks.i don't know how to feel cause I love her,so she tells her brother she misses me she's hurt but that was her moms choice.
She says I'm wrong for not going with her
Two years too late but she’s an adult she’s old enough to make her own decisions. It ain’t because of anybody egging her on - her decisions and mistakes are on her. Don’t let it manipulate you. Good luck and hope you’re doing better.