Attachment theory is the science of love | Anne Power | TEDxWaldegrave Road

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  • NOTE FROM TED: This talk only represents the speaker's personal views and understanding of the nervous system and attachment. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/t...
    Attachment theory now has a global reach through social media and provides insights and
    support to individuals, parents, couples and professionals who provide care. This talk tells
    the story of attachment theory’s emergence in 1950s London and provides three key takeouts from John Bowlby’s thinking:
    • All behaviour makes sense in context
    • Security enables curiosity
    • Learning to regulate our feelings gives us new opportunities in relationships.
    Anne Power is a couple therapist who writes and speaks on attachment. Her book, Contented Couples: Magic, logic or luck? provides a voice for couples in diverse cultural settings to describe how they achieved long-term satisfying relationships. Annie posts accessible attachment theory on Instagram @and_attachment / and_attachment . She has a TH-cam channel sharing interviews with therapists speaking about attachment.
    / @contentedcouples
    Or use the handle, @contentedcouples This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @chafaq
    @chafaq หลายเดือนก่อน +301

    Attachment theory should be thought early on at schools. It would save the world so much pain and struggles. Not so many therapists know about it actually. I went to couple's therapy with different therapists and none of them understood that the biggest problem in my couple was the anxious-avoidant trap. Broken up since but here i am now working hard to heal my avoidant attachment to be in a better place the next time love comes knocking on my door 😊

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      thank you so much for writing. I agree 100% about how useful it would be for kids to learn about attachment. I congratulate you on getting to know your own attachment strategy and I hope you can be compassionate towards the part of you which developed that - for all of us it was the best way to deal with th particular family we grew up in.

    • @Shaiyene
      @Shaiyene หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I've been saying this too. We need to teach this early, not after mistakes are made.

    • @sam.my5064
      @sam.my5064 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      💯💯💯

    • @AnaMaria888
      @AnaMaria888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Parents should be taught before they have babies.

    • @frattman
      @frattman 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      So right about that ^ This video found me just in time. We've not found too much progress with various therapists and it's because none of them have gotten to the bottom of our problems. Seen from the right perspective, all of the problems we've had make sense. It's like all of the pins in a lock lining up and finally being able to open a door. Good luck on the next relationship, I'm sure your hard won lessons will serve you well!

  • @user-md9gz4tc7c
    @user-md9gz4tc7c 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    I loved the gentle pace of this talk. it enabled me to really take in the ideas the speaker was putting across. Ideas which are so important but which require reflective attention. Really important and informative talk. Thank you

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      So glad that this was digestible :)

  • @s.h.3622
    @s.h.3622 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    with curiosity and respect can we look at our emotions♥

  • @waterlilynymph
    @waterlilynymph หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    It’s true. I fell in love with an avoidant at a distance and it caused my anxious/disorganized style to become more secure because when I learned to slow down, trust and give him space to feel, he always comes back. We have been talking for two years long distance and can’t seem to let go of each other. In the beginning it was rough with me questioning him, going off on him, but I pulled way back with my anxiety and just now observe and love him, and I truly feel it’s been a healing process to bring me more into security within. I believe he is feeling more safe as well, which is why he still tells me can’t wait to marry me one day.
    The more secure I become in his love, as well as my self love, I think that day is soon to come. But either way I will be ok cause through this experience I healed my anxious attachment style.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      It's inspiring to read of such a process of learning. Great that you could think about the big picture and the push pull between you. Sometimes that is too hard for people and they are more comfortable blaming the other person for having 'attachment issues'

    • @TheVeggiekat
      @TheVeggiekat หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Good on you. My relationship with an avoidant as an anxious attachment made me give up on love. I tried giving him space and communication methods, timing, and quantity as he wished but it just kept becoming the more I gave to make him feel secure the more he did to let me know i was unlovable and he would not be controlled by me or anyone. No matter how small I made myself it was never enough. I’ve ended things with him but just never want to risk feeling so bad about myself ever again. Some people just aren’t meant to be loved

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@TheVeggiekat I'm really sorry that you had the experience of becoming small in a relatioship and no wonder that's made you very very cautious. I hope your sense of being loveable is growing back.

    • @davidefacchinetti2084
      @davidefacchinetti2084 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I feel like I am in a similar situation as i can be quite anxious but I am trying to slow down and reflect on what I can do better. When you say 'give him the space to feel', what exactly do you mean by that?

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@davidefacchinetti2084
      I think slowing down is a great step. It allows you to notice your triggers and have more choice over how you respond.

  • @rizishere19
    @rizishere19 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    She is so gentle and calm, with a saintly demeanour. Loved the talk ❤

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      So glad the talk is helpful. Nothing saintly I can promise you - having my own attachment story to keep on managing/ healing/ forgiving:)

    • @rizishere19
      @rizishere19 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@annepower2912 So glad to see your message. This is your humility and modesty. Forever your fan ❤️

    • @Ensource
      @Ensource 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      more like boring. put me to sleep

  • @juneyang1400
    @juneyang1400 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Absolutely. The attachment is the science of love. It saves our child.❤

  • @MariBe.
    @MariBe. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    My dear Annie. I love your soul, spirit and speech, your deep, loving thoughts, your clarity and purity and sensitivity. Great talk.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you so much for watching and for your very generous comment.

  • @asayeed2853
    @asayeed2853 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Eloquent, articulate and engaging right from the start! A pleasure to watch x

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for watching and for your comment.

  • @islandbreeze2102
    @islandbreeze2102 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Excellent talk. I love the slow and easy pace of the lecture. It allowed me time to think and let what you were saying sink in. Thank you for giving us the formula to self sooth ourselves: Slowing Down!

  • @johnbeveridge6060
    @johnbeveridge6060 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    'The gift that keeps on giving...' Thanks Annie for a beautiful and clear talk on the science of loving.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm very happy to have grown up as a therapist beside you.

  • @carliesheehy7136
    @carliesheehy7136 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This Waa so beautifully articulated. Thank you.

  • @user-vc6xc7wo1j
    @user-vc6xc7wo1j 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Fantastic, Anne! You have truly captured the essence of attachment science! This is one more excellent contribution from you! I'm proud to be your colleague and friend!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm proud to have you as my teacher :)

  • @mai2415
    @mai2415 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I very much need this explanation now. Thank you Annie

  • @louisecundy1084
    @louisecundy1084 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    So clearly articulated - thank you for telling this 'science' as such an engaging story. It really makes sense

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @nicj5354
    @nicj5354 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    I'm anxious avoidant - best of both worlds 😊

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Our attachment strategies always develop to help us get through the best we can in our early family life. So we have a lot to thank them for, but they can give us a lot of work too...

    • @anamseraj8189
      @anamseraj8189 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You mean worse? Yep both of us bruh

    • @vintkh629
      @vintkh629 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      or fearful avoidant (they can be both anxious and avoidant)

    • @nicj5354
      @nicj5354 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@vintkh629 same thing

    • @nicolaisnpain03
      @nicolaisnpain03 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Hahab.. same .. it’s kinda confusing.

  • @cassandramaetowle6053
    @cassandramaetowle6053 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    so gentle & calm 😢😢

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    An examplar of great teaching.

  • @rolfzartner7267
    @rolfzartner7267 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Do well presented Annie . It reminded me to my time in school when we spoke about attachment. My wife wasch big fan of your speech. You were so calm .. well well done Annie

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for this support.

  • @markgreen2714
    @markgreen2714 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Learning about it after a twin flame relationship with a disorganized woman led me to a DNOTS and i am finally healing and life will never be the same.

  • @shivaniuberoi5767
    @shivaniuberoi5767 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    so much wisdom in this talk and such practical takeaways for me to use in my relationship with my daughter, partner and others. Thank you Annie for such a thought provoking speech!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for commenting it great to hear of it being useful:)

  • @nadaabdelnasser1396
    @nadaabdelnasser1396 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I needed that, thank you ❤

  • @maryscurr924
    @maryscurr924 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Clearly & beautifully expressed Annie. Thank you & I look forward to more

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dear Mary, Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @user-lk7zd5ux3s
    @user-lk7zd5ux3s 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brilliant - so calmly and clearly presented. Thanks Annie XX

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @rowenahutchison4822
    @rowenahutchison4822 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very clearly and sensitively expressed. I love your talk, it really is the science of love and if only it could become a more mainstream understanding of how each one of us functions. Keep sharing Annie! ❤

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @juliadinizrios8950
    @juliadinizrios8950 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I needed this sooo much!

  • @sallyvaughan1231
    @sallyvaughan1231 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I read the piece on you in Therapy Today this morning, not a lot draws me in these days but I thought who is this woman, I need to know more! This talk and presentation really fulfils my style of learning. In the middle of some Carolyn Spring training too, this is perfectly in line with my needs. You talk from heart and mind combined. Thank you.

  • @rafet744
    @rafet744 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love her gentle Informative style 😊

  • @user-pd3gv8ns4i
    @user-pd3gv8ns4i 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    A beautifully told story about life to take to heart.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for watching and for commenting

  • @AnthonyHeston
    @AnthonyHeston 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I absolutely loved this speech. Great job Annie!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate the feedback:)

  • @_meta_data_9992
    @_meta_data_9992 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    From Belgium, listening and repeating all day today, so amazing

  • @ayushayurveda83
    @ayushayurveda83 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Phenomenal talk..thank you!!!

  • @SheriJacobson
    @SheriJacobson 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such an impactful concept, eloquently delivered. 👏

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @handan2927
    @handan2927 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    excellent talk! Thank you!

  • @IRSamsara
    @IRSamsara หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent. Thank you.🥰

  • @Beccanator007
    @Beccanator007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Phenomenal! This is resonating on many levels. Thank you Raphy!

    • @CouplesCoping
      @CouplesCoping 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate your feedback

  • @lorenachen2768
    @lorenachen2768 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Beautiful insights. Thank you

  • @louisehatch4874
    @louisehatch4874 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Beautifully spoken

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Huge thanks to you Louise:)

  • @user-pv8dm6lt6s
    @user-pv8dm6lt6s 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you Annie for your wonderfully clear and well paced talk. I will be sharing this!

  • @alicelennard
    @alicelennard 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    She us so so good and to the point! Always love the English

  • @JQWELLIN
    @JQWELLIN หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I could listen to her speak all day what a lovely person

  • @user-uo1sw8up9t
    @user-uo1sw8up9t 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Excellent talk Anne, so calm and sensitive.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @louisehatch4874
    @louisehatch4874 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This idea resonates so much!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      this makes me happy!

  • @DD-pz3kf
    @DD-pz3kf หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have a conjoined twin and I can relate so much to this talk

  • @lemawiffen4719
    @lemawiffen4719 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very thought provoking. Great speech Annie.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much Lema :)

  • @user-le8zf8vb7t
    @user-le8zf8vb7t 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wow fantastic presentation! Thanks for explaining Annie.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate your feedback:)

  • @jamesforshall3318
    @jamesforshall3318 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I enjoyed that and found it very interesting. Very well told. Thank you.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @onthatileprincess555
    @onthatileprincess555 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I enjoyed watching this

  • @christinedriver7509
    @christinedriver7509 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great talk Anne - really informative, beautiful, clear and moving.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @pilateswithjessica6089
    @pilateswithjessica6089 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Beautiful speech. Very well spoken and engaging

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate the feedback:)

  • @user-lw7pn5li9j
    @user-lw7pn5li9j 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    A fantastic speech well done Anne!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @FloraCruft
    @FloraCruft 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Annie what a wonderful talk, well done.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate your feedback Flora:)

  • @rayandrews566
    @rayandrews566 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Annie. Very clear and engaging. .

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate your feedback :)

  • @user-fv9dd7wj3o
    @user-fv9dd7wj3o 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Such a concise and helpful discussion!!

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @ekaj07reltub
    @ekaj07reltub 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Excellent talk. Very informative.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate you commenting.

  • @arthurthomasware5004
    @arthurthomasware5004 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Enjoyed this talk. There is always a however, and my however is this: Why are the removal of fears described as love? Is relief from stress love? Is reliance on a safe relationship love? Certainly it better enables love to rise into consciousness, where it can be felt and radiated. But love is our Essence. Love is what we are when ego, or the imagined self is - albeit only for a moment - laid aside. Love does not flow from our conditioning, it penetrates through it. To me, attachment is not love.

  • @karingelxringel
    @karingelxringel หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Most amazing ted talk I’ve ever seen.

  • @ayushayurveda83
    @ayushayurveda83 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Eloquent speaker...truly ..attachment theory ..the science of love

  • @esthercollins4323
    @esthercollins4323 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Interesting talk Annie, thank you. Well done ! x

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for your comment

  • @tamandua67
    @tamandua67 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Very insightful, and with clear takeaways. Thank you!

  • @alexmursell1758
    @alexmursell1758 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard. I really feel that this exceptional woman should marry David Attenborough and make documentaries on life. A place of safety and a platform for growth, of which you can provide for yourself??? Beautiful understanding, a massive progression in humanity is achievable when we understand and respect the fundamentals of our existence.

  • @user-pq1jr6ye1d
    @user-pq1jr6ye1d 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Than you for your Talk, it was great❤

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching and commenting :)

  • @charlies4015
    @charlies4015 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very informative and eye-opening.

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for viewing.

  • @morryswigs2005
    @morryswigs2005 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent talk.

    • @CouplesCoping
      @CouplesCoping 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I really appreciate your feedback

  • @happilysara
    @happilysara หลายเดือนก่อน

    Phenomenal

  • @sajithomas2158
    @sajithomas2158 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amazing

  • @nadiasanza7568
    @nadiasanza7568 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    We all need someone...

    • @annepower2912
      @annepower2912 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely - thank you.

  • @IsabellaMPipitone
    @IsabellaMPipitone หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    this queen in her button up

  • @marianarodriguez-gn5kh
    @marianarodriguez-gn5kh 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Idk why I am having a hard time understanding this TEDtalk... lol I have been watching it over and over

    • @bitofwizdomb7266
      @bitofwizdomb7266 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Are you familiar with attachment theory ?

    • @Kristi-vq3qe
      @Kristi-vq3qe 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      She has lots of wonderful theories but most of it is so abstract that it’s for no use. How do you stop adrenaline rush, increase the feeling of safety when you are alone and finances are running low or when you partner is lashing out and so on…
      I agree with you

    • @bitofwizdomb7266
      @bitofwizdomb7266 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Kristi-vq3qe but you can recondition limbic system

  • @potterb39
    @potterb39 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    imo, this is dead on, thank you. now I don't need to read that book attached, phew. ❤

  • @user-wf6wt5ol2n
    @user-wf6wt5ol2n 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you, very helpful. I would love to hear more ❤

  • @Dan1ell
    @Dan1ell 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Besides anxious and avoident, what other types of attachment are there?

  • @mississippiatheistette8769
    @mississippiatheistette8769 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i had to look to see if i had accidentally put the video on .75 speed or something. XD If you speed it up to 1.5, its almost tolerable

  • @kristinhanssantos2907
    @kristinhanssantos2907 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow

  • @maya_unplugged
    @maya_unplugged หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Attachment style is a traumasymptom, not personality. Heal that issue But don’t victimize yourself by identifying with your symptoms.

  • @LauraJohnson-wh8jx
    @LauraJohnson-wh8jx 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is why loneliness impacts so significantly on mental health

  • @AnaMaria888
    @AnaMaria888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ambivalent attachment style is the most difficult. Borderline is linked to this attachment style I think.

  • @serenemary873
    @serenemary873 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    4:40

  • @kyrareneeLOA
    @kyrareneeLOA หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Good, but there are 4 attachment types, and she does not mention this. The 4th, a blending of the anxious and the avoidant. Called fearful-avoidant. Good speech.

  • @treyweeeee
    @treyweeeee หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The audio on this is so odd...

  • @SpeoLori
    @SpeoLori 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It is about the importance of emotional safety, quite shallow otherwise.

  • @lalhmachhuani1897
    @lalhmachhuani1897 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    what's the main takeaway/summary of this please?

    • @lalhmachhuani1897
      @lalhmachhuani1897 หลายเดือนก่อน

      anyone?

    • @beccalove8791
      @beccalove8791 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lalhmachhuani1897 be vulnerable if you want to be close to someone.

    • @lalhmachhuani1897
      @lalhmachhuani1897 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@beccalove8791 thank you :)))

  • @danielnosuke
    @danielnosuke 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    “He noticed that young creatures attach to their caregiver. They attach to the one who provides safety and comfort and he stressed that this attachment to a supportive other is not just for babies we all need someone to whom we can turn, whose presence soothes us when we're troubled.”
    I don’t see how that’s not obvious.
    “People seek seek closeness when they need protection and they protest when they're separated.”
    Um, yes… is that so ground-breaking?

  • @AltheaTorres-co6zv
    @AltheaTorres-co6zv 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    13:15

  • @Hailey_1507
    @Hailey_1507 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Does attachment theory only applies to couples?

    • @AnaMaria888
      @AnaMaria888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      The attchment style affects also the social life of a person

  • @AnaMaria888
    @AnaMaria888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    People if you have anxious style, avoid the avoidants. They will activate your fears and wounds.

  • @drkarenbukharibukhari9931
    @drkarenbukharibukhari9931 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My love attached to my biological mom Syeda farzana

  • @aaronsinspirationdaily4896
    @aaronsinspirationdaily4896 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Beware the covert narcissist that has you convinced they are dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant.
    Not enough people talking about this.

  • @TheJessierb
    @TheJessierb 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    why do we think it appropriate to torture other species in the name of science? I admire Bowlby's work and have benefited from it but surely the human studies like Mary Ainsworth 'strange situation' studies and the films made in the UK of real children in painful separation situations (Like John who spent 10 days in an impersonal 24 hour nursery setting) and many many more, provide us with the kind of information we need rather than subjecting sentient beings like baby monkeys to this psychological horror. There is no LOVE in this. Only human arrogance and cruelty.

    • @AnaMaria888
      @AnaMaria888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      In the last there was not a lot of ethics in the science. Read about Albert baby experiment and you will be shocked

  • @thomasmcnamara576
    @thomasmcnamara576 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s attachment theory, but not the science of love.

  • @ShivakshiChaudhary
    @ShivakshiChaudhary 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why wasn’t marriage taught in school?

  • @mariamccormick564
    @mariamccormick564 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Are you single? lol

  • @manager6041
    @manager6041 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Interesting topic; delivery was poor

    • @majo5431
      @majo5431 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      you just have poor comprehension

    • @eliza_km_hanson
      @eliza_km_hanson หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Interesting statement, too bad the thought process was poor

  • @ted2136
    @ted2136 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So after attachment is broken can you still see the other person e.g. if kids involved re divorce?
    I think i need to let go of attachment with my ex but find that easier not to be around her. So for me i have to avoid her. Hard with kids