I come into earlier and thank you for making me laugh. When I kept going in the video I was mesmerized because literally just about every single thing you mentioned has applied to me in my life and more intensely since menopause. I laugh because one of the big definers of my ADHD is if I'm interested in something I go to the bottom of the rabbit hole and then keep exploring through the Warren..... I've listened to so many podcasts and read a lot of books about the diagnosis in women. This is by far the very best explanation done in simple terms, about A DHD ( drawing was perfect) did I have read or listened to and in such a concise manner. WOW!! I DESPERATELY NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR WHO IS KNOWLEDGEABLE ABOUT THIS PARTICULARLY IN OLDER WOMEN, because I suddenly have to move after living in a house for 40 years and I'm just wondering around like an idiot from one room to the other and exactly the manner You described above trying to figure out what to take what to get rid of how to do it where to start. I thought I could do it up until now I've only made things worse and I am on a time limit. I am wondering if you can recommend to someone in the Seattle area who accepts Medicaid?? I would be forever in your debt. Only one person knows I have ADD, no one's around family has passed, And I really need professional help would someone who really understands what's going on. A couple years ago, Two people I was referred to earlier where pretty young and didn't know much how to help me they said and I appreciated their honesty. I don't want to be evicted I want to leave with some pride and I really need to get going on organizing sorting etc. Also I would gladly participate in a study of how much ADHD is affected after menopause or aging or anything like that. Thanks so much for what you were doing I'm so happy for all the younger people who won't have to go through what I did growing up. So now I'll listen to other podcasts you've done thank you again.
I'm 42 and only last week did I consider the possibility that I might have ADHD. Never came up once growing up. I felt like this guy made a video specifically about me. I'm getting evaluated by my doctor next week.
it took me 4 breaks to reach the end xD + 10-12 times going 10sec backwards the video bcs i got triggerd to some of his words and start thinking vividly my thoughts/expiriences about it xD
Lmao me 🤣, its 5 mins later you realize that you zoned out or took 15 mins to write a comment while you forgot to pay attention on the video. And you never want to read about ADHD, its videos or maybe small reddit posts
MY brother failed high school. He was ADHD. Expelled from 4schools. He is 34 now, he’s doing his first year as an orthopedic surgeon . Proud sister ...
This man almost made me cry. I have been struggling with these experiences my whole life and people have always brushed them off as just a lack of discipline and motivation. Hearing him perfectly describe everything that I have gone through just makes me emotional. Thank you.
I teared up too, I had a lot of trouble in school when I really wanted to succeed. I’d disappoint my dad and he’d brush my thoughts of maybe having ADD/ADHD as me making excuses. Being out of high school now it’s become a goal of mine to be sophisticated and a lot of the people I look up too have that and a great memory to go along with it, I’m just so hesitant on taking aderral because for one I don’t want to have to depend on medication and what if you become addicted? It’s a weird spot to be in but nice to be validated on what I think is wrong upstairs 😂
not me reading the comment and being distracted from watching the video lmao. And the whole "cant do my work until its an emergency" is my biggest struggle with adhd and the reason why i often times stay up late finishing things. CANT FOCUS
I just allways believed I lacked discipline... still struggling to give me self-worth :D I thought its "normal" to concentrate/do things that are not interesting, but Im just making a big deal about it and looking for excuses to not do them.. it was never really an issue in school, because it was "easy" enough and I also liked a few topics, but omg in university... the thesis nearly killed me... and then Im starting the master and meet people who finished their bachelors in time and are so eager etc.... :') How am I supposed to gain confidence when most others are super productive while I cant get started because I wanted to quickly check the anno- ego perspective and need to wait for the download of the upload -.- should.. just turn the light on and get started buuut.. yeah excuses.. :/
Yea either depression or anxiety there. You have to figure that out first. Learn to love yourself again and don't take life to seriously. when I start feeling that way I remind myself that we are all just bits of matter and none of it really matters. So just enjoy this life while you've got it cuz u aint gonna get it again
It's literally 11pm, my roomate's already asleep, I still stayed awake to finish this video because the first time I watched I found another interesting video so I clicked off • _ •
I feel you. I have the same issues. I actually switched to audiobooks because it takes me so long to read a book due to reading the same paragraph multiple times, or having to go back several pages to read something again to get context for something later because I either forgot what happened, or...... shit.... oh yeah, completely missed something. Even with audio books, I find myself rewinding upwards of a half hour because I zoned out and missed a bunch of shit. I have been independent of my medication for 5 years now. I am a full time student and working full time. For the first time in my life I have maintained a 3.8 GPA and am set to graduate next year. Just wish I hadn't waited so long to return to school sometimes. My biggest issue that I am dealing with while being unmedicated is like he said, putting things off until it's more of an emergency. My procrastination has gotten so bad, but I am able to complete all of my coursework in about 12 hours and submit within an hour of the deadline no problem. My biggest fear is if I continue staying off my medication, that I will not be able to enter my career field and be successful (computer programming). Programming deals with deadlines, and I am incapable of completing things prior to a deadline in my current form. Perhaps I should find a doc and get back on my medication, but I have gone so far and proven so many doctors wrong who told me I would never be able to function without it. The doctors were simultaneously correct, and incorrect. I can function fine, I just have a hard time with time management. In fact, I have no sense of time. 5 minutes can pass, and it will feel like 5 hours. 3 hours will pass, and it will feel like only seconds has passed. I only know the days of the week by whether or not I work, or whether something is due and I need to knock it out in an hour......... It's frustrating, but sometimes I feel like a superhero at the same time. Now that I've finished this comment, I need to rewind about 5 minutes.... I think. [edited to make the comment less word vomit] [edit again, I completely forgot that months will pass without me realizing it as well... But I think that may have to do with aging.... Though I'm only 30, so time shouldn't be moving that fast yet...]
@@kluxklean7679 I'm 100% sure it's generalization because I was born with ADHD but didn't get diagnosed with it till I was in 2nd grade, if it was I'm sure there would be a cure to it but there is none. Yes there's medicine for it but it won't get rid of it, it'll just help you do daily things for only a couple of hours
THISSS. The more time I have to do something, the worst it is... I know myself and say stuff like ''ok, we're gonna do little by little each day and so you don't have to do it all in one at the last minute!'' yet still.... the next day, and the next, and the next one. Only when the day is looming over is when I feel pressured enough to DO SOMETHING with the stuff I'm not really interested in doing.
i've been late for multiple assignments from my boss and she hasn't fired me/yelled at me so it doesn't feel like enough of an emergency to get started and i hate it
Me too. To be able to complete something, and not get distracted. I actually feel guilty to continue doing what I'm doing when somebody interrupts me, I feel I ha e to stop and look at them and act as if I'm interested... It sucks
@@harrycontos3847 literally me I dont know what to say, instead i mentally say to myself when will this person piss off im trying to do something here and then before i know it i've completely sidetracked. Currently I have a plan for today that im barely following because each task makes me feel heavy and uninterested. i should be reviewing what i learnt today prepare my materials for tomorrow do my homework and ready for tommorrow but im here in the comments because learning about ADHD is more interesting and this video was easy to focus on. I went to the bathroom and came straight back and continued watching. That speaks volumes to myself because normally I dont want to continue and start doing something else right away.
Find the thing you can do that allows you to focus. It's going to take a lot of experimentation. Try exercise. Try tai chi. Try singing. Try art. Try gaming. Try reading out loud. Try all the things until something clicks.
funny thing is , that i unconsciously have to imagine how other deal with the situation at hand just so i can deal with it too , so you know the drill make a long an intricate scenario when me isn't me but normal me and run throw it fast and with this way i can deal with stuff better i think , because on the normal circumstance if i had to deal with it exactly natively it will end in disaster or a super confusion to every one else
holy cow no kidding, when i was in grade one they sent me to some collage because i would do that watching the pencil hit the floor thing for five minutes. i guess back in the early 70's they did really have a handle on what this was..im sending this video to my mom and taking back all my apologies to her for parent teacher day that she had to sit through..lol..
a mental disorder can be your greatest strength. people seem to assume that anything other than the norm is a deficiency or a harmful attribute while we can actively make it the opposite.
Some people think I'm extremely intelligent because of adhd causing me to over analyze things and when my mind is working properly I perform very well and enjoy talking about complex topics. Most people though usually think I'm lazy or a bit slow because I forget so much and I'm as organized as a small child at recess.
Yes bro I got goosebumps listening to all the symptoms he just called off like the one biut watching countless videos on the internet till u just pass out and not focusing on stuff ur not interested in the list gos on been an everyday battle since I was a kid I hate it
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I'm 35, diagnosed ADHD at 33. I've been reading and learning as much as possible about ADHD but this man still casually talking about things that slap home and I never even realised.
Besides being amazingly accurate, this man's perfect pauses in his speech gave me the time to process what he's saying and a goal to shoot for. He knows his audience.
100% agreed, EVERYTHING he’s talking about is something I relate to, it’s completely accurate, and it doesn’t help when all we have is people telling us to focus, that doesn’t help
ikr when he was talking about the woman imagining the worst-case scenario with the truck I'm like...yes that's me, I do that for almost everything and my mother keeps telling me to stop thinking so much but like I can't stop
I'm currently at 16:50, with both hands on top of my head. Realized I need to pause the video to make this comment: How does this guy know so damn much about me? I couldn't even describe everything he mentioned in the video to my therapist. Yet here he is, speaking about everything I've experienced growing up, in the most fluent way possible.
Yes, it does help a lot. Also, I've always struggled with either reading books or listening to audiobooks, but If I do both simultaneously I can focus very easily. Another sort of hack I use for audiobooks is to play any simple game on my phone like 2048 and I can go for hours without any random thoughts disrrupting me.
It’s so overwhelming to hear him explain this so accurately. I’ve spent years getting yelled at, losing jobs and being disappointed In myself. Knowing I’m trying as hard as I can and not getting results. I’ve never heard someone get it dead right like this.
for reals like my parents just think i’m lazy or it’s my will like i was born like this and likely thing is it’s one of yours fault. like they’ll never understand that i just can’t focus same way a person who’s paralyzed can’t run like no matter how hard they try they’ll never run it impossible.
"He's smart but just needs to apply himself more", "He just needs to prioritize better", "He just needs to work harder", "Why can't you just listen?", "Stop fidgeting!". These are the most commonly heard phrases of my life...
So smart could be top of his class if he just focused !always disruptive doesn't concentrate !smart when he applies himself which isn't often was every report card. Why didn't anyone notice instead I was ostricized put outside class Nd eventually expelled !very sad
Really annoys me when people say I’m smart but just need to apply myself. I’m trying - Well, feel like I am but struggling. In school I was put in side rooms away from the rest of the class; called a distraction to others. I fail at all things academic and feel stuck in a world where I want to be ‘something’ but can’t “apply myself enough” to get there.
I have ADHD and I've got goosebumps from watching this as this sounds as an accurate description of my life, as if someone just stalked me and described it. Thank you for spreading awareness! And thank you for the reminder that it is not the matter of willpower and people with ADHD are not just "lazy" or "care free" (or whatever people around them label them with). I might mistaking because I am not a professional but I have an assumption or a hypothesis that neorotypical people are more linear in their development, meaning that if they can do a "hard" thing they also can automatically do something that is considered "easier" on the scale, whereas for ADHD people the complexity levels system is rather nonlinear, which is why e.g. people can't understand why I speak 4 languages, play music instruments and study a technical study field but can't remember or can't make myself doing laundry/dishes or do a lot of accident mistakes while filling the bureaucratic forms or can't concentrate on something very "simple". That's why it's considered to be laziness, because the level of complexity of the task is not linear anymore, so other people who know what you achieved *assume you should not have problem* with the tasks that are "simpler" compared to your previous achievements (without taking into consideration such parameters as boredom, the level of emergency, if the task is monotonous, if it's something you can hyperfocus one day vs. something you have to remember to do everyday etc.). However, please correct me if I am wrong because I am not sure with about this "linear/ not linear complexity" hypothesis P.s. I just got out of depressive episode caused by ADHD related everyday struggles and trying to get an ADHD diagnosis appointment but it is hard to find one for state insurance in Germany
I think your linear hypothesis is really good! I only just got told I have ADHD on Monday so I'm just starting to learn about it but it's helping make sense of a lot of things in my life.
yeah, people think that some are just comepletely helpless people, and the rest are perfectly fine. the thing is, we’re inbetween, where we can do things ourself and we’re just considered as bad people in general
I’m right there with you, I’ve been dealing with these symptoms ever since I can remember. Now being an adult and on my own has made everything that much more apparent. Wishing you the best
I always felt so wrong for not being able to concentrate in college and dropping out but most subject I just could sit through and my disorganization didn’t help at all
I see you 🥺 I also have severe depression which is robbing me of all of my energy. A friend helped me understand that I have a problem and that I need to go see a psychologist. The most damaging thing to me as a teenager was being seen as lazy and undisciplined. Ugh. I want to hug this comments section 🥺❤️
Thank you for making this video. I am a 74 year old woman who grew up “orbiting another planet” and hearing my mother tell every teacher that I was lazy. I have learned how to manage time better and am mostly as organized as I need to be but many ADHD traits live on. And, we have 3 sons diagnosed with it. Dr. you are right on with every aspect. Thank you again for making this video.
"Sleep like a dead person, I have a hard time resurrecting myself" I'm blessed with the company I work for and my boss. He personally calls me every single morning 7am Without him I would have lost this job a long time ago, like I did with all other jobs I had before
@@HoloScope both me (diagnosed) and my father (undiagnosed but probable gene giver) use like 5 alarms because we cannot trust ourselves, and even then sometimes we end up sleeping through it all, meanwhile my mother wants to smack our phones againdt the wall because of how obnoxious the sound gets and yet we just don't get up, even of we're slightly conscious/awake. And don't get me started on how that, sleeping late and being chronically late to everywhere works like a charm to get chronic fatigue and being fired lol
Same. I just broke down right now because he’s describing me. I’m 30 and never knew I had this. Always knew something wasn’t right. But really had no idea. It’s been so debilitating for me.
Even at 62, I'll NEVER forget the first time I took a stimulant. It was as if my brain re-booted for the first time. It wasn't a prescribed medicine & the use of illegal stimulants in an effort to stay "booted" certainly didn't do me any favors. It was after an honest talk with a good Dr that I finally had a legal & fairly safe way of treating this. I believe the rise in stimulant use may be caused by folks self-medicating as I did & the addiction is more to the feeling of thinking clearly than the actual drug, at least at first. Anyone else relate?
Man ill be in my lecture listening and ill think about something, then all of a sudden i realise I havent heard a word he said. And then ill try focus. Then without realising ill be thinking about something else
I actually almost cried watching this video. Never in my entire life have I ever heard someone explain this so well. I felt cared for and that this man held sympathy for me and what goes on. I dont know why this is such a big deal for me but I love this video so much. Thank you.
I'm begging you to add Arabic translation so I can show this to my parents..really hope you can do that Edit: can this comment get attention please so my parents would actually believe that it's a real thing, thank you!
Important you find other ways to express your emotions about ADHD to them. It may be difficult to talk to them about it. But perhaps if you started the translation, you'd find saying it in his words, in arabic, would help you to cross the bridge with them. Good luck! I also have ADHD and relationships are the hardest thing in the world for me. Hope you find strength to run that marathon !
For all those lovely people that replied, mental health is rarely recognized as a real thing in the Middle East, his parents reaction is unfortunately the typical norm. Only if the disability (psychiatric be it) is visible like someone having hallucinations, then they deem it mental health but in most cases label the person as crazy.
This is the best explanation of ADHD that I’ve ever heard. I can’t believe I couldn’t get a diagnosis until I was 40 and that I had to advocate so hard. All of this is my experience. Wow!
@@UnderstoodOrgfor me did not only find this helpful but also made me feel belonging. I can’t believe that so many things I do everyday were caused by my ADHD I have been living with it my hole life and did not even know all my own symptoms that were a cause of it and you helped clear some of that up for me!
ADHD.... God bless those that have it. Educators never understood us. They always told me to just focus and not try doing multiple tasks at the same time. Now I'm 70. I love reading books and watching movies at the same time. I work in chemistry and material science. I love working on several projects at the same time. I develop other products during the down time, while waiting for my current projects to finish mixing and or running thermal or aging tests and or adhesion testing. Thats my ADHD. I drove my co-workers,parents,step parents, teachers, and my wonderful German,highly organize,and virtually perfect wife crazy all my life. But I love being ADHD. I learned everything from how to... water purification, explosives, armor, horse shampoo, pie baking, nuclear radiation shielding, industrial coatings, and a dozen other interests that no one would believe or understand. When you are so called diagnosed with ADHD celebrate! You are going to drive so called normal people crazy all your life,but you are a rare and really cool person,with very few friends if any. Live with it.
Jim Henry your story is amazing, thanks for sharing! It's lovely to hear how you've made it although there was no understanding of the condition back in the days. I feel familiar! 🌷 Love the internet bc of this peer support.
Dear Jim Henry....you have made me feel alot better after watching this this morning and beating myself up all day at how ineffective I am.... but in retrospect...you are right. I am amazing at being multi teaching/ tasking little ol me. Cheers!
jim henry thank you for speaking out as an achiever. I was all for this video right up until the ending. Suppose I was on the fence all the way through about the speaker wondering if he was trying to help or condescending, which his closing identified unfortunately. He did get a lot of views so congratulations for his success. Thank you for proving people with ADD are capable of being good hearted, hard working, very valuable members of our society. God bless you Sir, from a retired 60 year old Automotive worker. Thank you. 🙏 😊
That's sad, i hope you have someone eho will listen and help you get the tools you need. It can be a blessing or a curse if not handled. It's like your eye color always with you. At least you know, get the help you need and move past your dad's opinion. I'm greatful I got treatment.
I’m sorry. I’m a mom and both my sons 17&19 both have ADHD and it’s pretty bad. As a parent I can tell you it’s hard. It’s a fine line. I want to be understanding but also hold them accountable for their behavior. I’ve seen parents blame all on adhd because it’s easy and others who just “no excuse” because they want to teach kids to learn not to “blame the adhd” It’s just so hard for a parent. I try my best to understand my sons and love them and show lots of mercy. It’s a view from a parent. Try to (if you can) send educational videos to your dad. That helps a lot.....
My parents understood but society in general is pretty shitty about it. My best friend got me a job as a fiber splicer and he's a quick learner and a judgmental person, lets just say it put a strain on our friendship.
I grew up with this. All I can advise is to do your best to get through and talk to anyone who will hear you out. You know and understand how you operate, so you have to adjust your surroundings as best you can and adapt to what you can't change as best you can.
I love that a video about ADHD is 28 minutes long Edit: I have no idea what to say, but I cannot thank this video enough. I'm not even kidding, it is responsible for my diagnosis. There was a night in August last year where I listened to this video in the background and just listened in awe, realising that practically everything this doctor said, was something relatable. I had suspected it was ADHD well before but we didn't have absolute proof. In September I got my actual diagnosis and was provided with medication (But this is not the only solution to ADHD! Some people find that alternate methods work just as well, everyone is different), and ever since, it has been life changing. I've been getting the support and arrangements needed in school, I can finally relax a little bit and not be so hard on myself for who I am, it's just incredible, and it wouldn't've happened if not for this video. So huge thanks to Understood for uploading, and to Dr Thomas E. Brown!
It was so relatable that I ended up driving in BeamNG while listening to it and I ended up listening to the entire thing. It's so weird hearing everything about you be described in perfect accuracy
'it makes it look like it's a problem with willpower' I CRIED when he said that. My mother used to tell me 'you just lack willpower, try developing it'. I still don't know if I have ADHD and probably won't be even diagnosed, 'cause I live in a country where it's not considered a disease. I lived my whole life in a cage of my own mind, feeling like I am an incomplete human with this defective brain. Always tried to 'just focus' and push myself, thinking maybe it's all in my head, but it never worked. Man I am so tired
You are not alone and there's nothing 'wrong' with you. ADHD can be maddening but it can be managed. Your brain is not defective it just functions differently than other's. Medication has helped me considerably. I understand that may be hard for you to get where you are but don't lose hope. I know exactly what you mean when you say "I'm so tired", I could never count the number of times in my life that I've said out loud to myself "Please just shut the f*** up!" when my mind seems to be filled with noise that I can't make stop. It can be exhausting but don't give up man. Do the things that you are good at and do your best at the things you're not and keep looking for help. The fact that you are here means that you are working to improve your situation and that matters.
I don’t think ADHD is actually a disease but rather just a difference in how we as human beings are created. You may find a place to just be yourself without expectations in the virtual world of Second Life. I usually don’t comment here but your comment touched my heart.
@@alex_poly1147 What you're saying certainly leads to more comfort and relaxation. But unfortunately, ADHD isn't a problem with someone's thoughts. It's more of a motivational disorder where most of what you set your mind into doesn't give you the energy to get up and execute it. I hope that makes sense to you.
Try being in the shower about to wash your hair - putting shampoo in your hands, then rubbing it into your face. You realise, wash it off, put shampoo in your hands again....then put it on your face again....
I can't stop crying as I watch this...Everything he is saying is spot on with what I go through every day and I'm almost 30. I've always just been labeled depressed, bi polar...lazy...I'm going to try and get help, I hope someone will help me...
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns hello me too and I'm 41.would u like to be friends, I'm on fb jemma Lewis. My cover pic says 'I have so much left to say to u'. X
Yea I know the feeling. I am 30 as well, my father pretty much disowned me after realizing I am not doing so well in school. My mother constantly thinks I am lazy and won't amount to much. Worst of all, I am actually tryign to change but unable to sit long enough in one place to achieve my goals.
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns I agree this was very insightful I have been diagnosed bipolar but always felt like I had some attention deficit disorder after watching this I know for sure I do I'm going to ask to be reevaluated
It's a little embarrassing to say, but this made me bawl my eyes out. I've needed an explanation that's straightforward, accessible and thorough like this is to show my parents since the beginning. I've known I've had it for almost 20, but hearing this - it sounds like he has been following me around with a notebook, and I feel so validated. There is a lot of shame that goes with the problems that ADD causes for me and sometimes I just want so bad for the people I care about to really know how hard I am trying to work through it. Thank You.
the way he keeps reassureing that it's not something under voluntary control makes me want to cry, that's more emotional comfort than my own parents have ever given me combined lol
“Was all about little boys” I felt that. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 23. I was smart but stupid. Funny but shy. Fatigued but full of energy. I’ve never been able to fall asleep to silence.
Your comment, like this video, resonates so deeply with me. There’s such a dichotomy with having ADHD, and that could be why many people who have it are prone to getting easily frustrated. Internally, they are saying to themselves, “Get it together already!”
When you have ADD/ADHD and you literally just smile and clap when you realize it's totally describing you but after you're like: I don't think I should be happy about this
I agree completely! It’s so hard to describe what ADHD is like to someone who doesn’t have it. My wife and I both work in mental health and even when she knows everything about it from the textbooks and working with her patients at, she doesn’t know what it’s like to live with it. I also think the fact that we can’t describe what ADHD is really like makes it harder for the ones who need the medication‘s to talk with their providers about it because a lot of us know that people like to abuse and amphetamines and Ritalin and will pretty much describe everything that we know from experience and it’s hard for the clinicians to tell the difference.
EXACTLY, i actually never thought i had ADHD, because i thought a person with ADHD is the typical hyperactive kid at the back of class always cracking jokes and can't shut up, but after seeing this video I can relate so much to it, it's unbelievable
Bruh Ive been sitting here for 28 minutes being like wait that's my adhd? I thought that was normal?? I literally thought everyone paid attention to the pencil dropping thing. Sending this to all my friends lmao
The same way your affirmation is somehow funny and totally true, family, and specially my wife have great difficulty to help me out... congratulations 👏👏👏
Facts, but it may be due to how Im used to watching decently edited youtube videos to keep me engaged. Plus the way he talks is relatively quiet and monotone so thats also why I started to get bored
I actually stayed focused on this because it drew interest for me and described everything that I've been dealing with for many many years. I did have to stop it a few times and replay some sections because one of the videos on the side looked very interesting as well -lol.
I don’t comment online, I don’t feel the need to share my opinions. Believe it or not this is the first time I’ve ever made a post. The reason being is that this is the first time in my life that someone has effectively and clearly explained the issues I have dealt with living with ADHD, and for that reason, for the first time I have felt strongly enough to make an online post to voice my support for everyone who doesn’t ADHD to watch so they can understand. HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS VIDEO
thats also ADHD we always feel wrong... or hard to explain.... but for me if i do something in an order & say like wake up. brush teeth, take shower eat snack n jump on bus BUT if something screws up that order i usually dont end up finishing up the rest.... of w/e i had to do.... its hard too explain why but ive had to tell my dad that listen if im in my mode lemme finish what iwas doing before i do anything else n sometimes he would be like just do this 1 thing for me quick n it would screw everything else up n its like idk why my ADHD does that to me
i mean my body is too so they can shake one anothers hands... if i need to catch a bus or see a wasp i will bolt like a cheeta.. however if i have to run for long times i won't be able to
Everyone needs help sometimes or with some things. Don't feel bad about yourself. Asking for help is honestly an amazing sign of strength and self-awareness. You've got this!!
This... I'm 26 and have always known something wasn't the same with me as everyone else and almost every thing he said is me. I'm simultaneously relieved because nobody has ever understood me like this and frustrated because it's possible that things could have been so much easier for me if someone had caught it when I was younger and I received a formal diagnosis and treatment. I've been reading about inattentive ADHD and I have all of the signs/symptoms. So it's time I seek a formal diagnosis and treatment.
I have exactly what you describe. My dads answer to it was the beating will continue till results improve. And he even sent me to a child psychologist. Problem was, I was scared to-talk to him because I was afraid of the beating. He figured that I was just stupid and never missed an opportunity to convey that to me. It really messed me up.
@@nerad1994 I think she was making a joke about how someone with add/adhd watching this probably couldn’t sit through it lol. But yeah it’s a really interesting topic. It’s crazy and we’re so focused on space exploration when there’s still so much we don’t know about our own brains.
I did too. It seems like it's one thing to recognize our symptoms ourselves, and sometimes that's recognizing a couple of symptoms in one situation and a couple of other symptoms in a different situation. It was really interesting to hear all of these things I struggle with described at once; plus, he describes them in such a way that doesn't make our symptoms sound like deficiencies or failings but like they're just differences -- though it seemed subtle, I think that meant a lot to me.
Same here. I'm a 35 year old male with atrocious sleep. It feels liberating to hear an educated person describing all those things I've always struggled with, but always having blamed it on my really bad sleep. Maybe there is still hope!
I cried watching this because it’s so hard for me to explain or other people to understand that I don’t do it intentionally. I don’t zone out or cut them off or finish their sentences intentionally.
My girlfriend has ADHD. I sometimes get irritated or mad at her because she forgets things, she’s easily distracted, or when we’re walking our dogs, she can’t just enjoy the silence but has to say something about everything she sees. This video helps me understand her better. I feel bad for getting upset at her. I understand it’s hard for her but it’s also hard for me too. I hope I’ll learn to accept and deal with it.
I have ADHD I'm 41 I've only just been diagnosed. I got that diagnosis as a result of getting my 11 year old son diagnosed. My poor husband has to manage both me and my son's disordered behaviours. We also have 2 other sons who thankfully don't seem to have ADHD. I really empathise with you and it's so nice to see you wanting to empathise with your girlfriend. Hope you guys stay together. We are good fun us ADHDers! Hard work but worth it!x
i recently learned that i have adhd and i was broken up with by my ex girlfriend maybe a year ago now. i realize now that she was probably sick of my adhd symptoms that i didn’t know about at the time. and i felt like an asshole the whole relationship for forgetting things, not being able to make time for her, or getting super irritated with her because of serious sensory issues.
The whole intelligence bit at the beginning really was important. I've been diagnosed with adhd since I was 7 and ,in school, teachers always just assumed I was a troubled idiot. Jokes on you, I'm smart, just in things that don't matter
This guy just explained what I couldn't explain. I try to explain but it don't come out right. This guy explained me to a T. I thought I was bipolar. But damn it man this explains everything now.
Wow, I've asked multiple GPs if they thought I may be Bipolar, and they said no. Just the typical depression/anxiety. Now, I'm pushing to talk to someone about a potential ADHD diagnosis. Almost everything he said here sounded like me.
@@iettord3124 same here, i must have spent a year looking back over all those jobs and relationships or even interactions which went wrong , and thinking of course, bound to fail.
and now that y'all have a new "label" on which to pin the blame, how has that HELPED you become self-motivated? or has it just given you one more excuse?
Yeah, agreed. I really relate to the whole thing about parents pointing out, well they can do this perfectly fine, so why can't they do that? Like okay, mom, it's not that frickin easy
Albert Einstein had ADHD I have always wanted to be a scientist but I thought I couldn't because of my ADHD but after hearing Albert Einstein had ADHA I felt a lot better and now I'm about to graduate at 16 and I have been accepted into Harvard University
I feel so exposed. When he said you’d need someone to wake you up or hit the snooze endlessly and forgetting if you did or not etc etc…. This is me every morning 😢
Talk about feeling validated. I tell everyone I could remember the tiniest details from years ago, but will forget what I had for breakfast that morning. Damn.
I asked a psychiatrist once if he thought I might have ADHD. He replied, "Were you diagnosed with it before you were twelve? No? Then you don't have ADHD." and that was the end of that discussion. Pretty cool to see someone recognize it as something that might not be obvious until a little later in life... Update: I got a new psychiatrist who seems about just as interested in listening to me as the last one did. Told her that basically everything psychiatrists say about ADHD lines up very well with my experience and my struggles. Her response to that pretty much boiled down to neither me nor any other doctor I've heard from has any idea what we're talking about. And no single piece of information about mental health that exists on the internet can possibly be correct. How much do you have to pay to get a doctor who will at least pretend to respect you?
That doctor is really bad at his job if he says that you need to be diagnosed before you are 12. The official criteria states that you only need some symptoms of hyperactivity/impulsiveness before 12, not that you need to be diagnosed before 12. You should get a second opinion.
Idk 2 Doctors told you that you don't have ADHD... Then you probably don't have ADHD and it's probably something else or you should definitely look into border personality disorder.
Listening to this, while re-organizing my life... again, while also watching a tutorial on programming, but also my hair started feeling frizzy so I started to comb it, while also stressing about having to leave the house for a date with a friend. Pretty sure I forgot at least one important thing today. Good luck to the rest of ya crazy bunch. Happy new year
Something that I find frustrating...is from the outside, I appear to be so incredibly normal and capable. And a lot of times I absolutely feel more than capable. So that when I struggle and start falling behind...I feel like a big major piece of crap. I feel like people get frustrated with me because I "should" be able to keep up and there's nothing visually wrong with me so there's no reason that I'm not keeping up...so I'm just a piece of crap. And it sucks.
You shouldn't feel like crap, I went from a dishwasher to a grill cook to sauté cook in a restaurant I had a tough time picking things up harder time than others doubted myself many times, but I always kept it in mind that I have ADHD, of course others will get mad but it doesn't matter as long as you're trying as hard as you can.
I feel you. Ever since I got scores in the 98th percentile on the PSAT, my parents have been really confused why I am not doing well and forgetting homework and all the other stuff that I’m sure you can relate to. Both of them are doctors, incredibly smart, and wanting to understand and help me as much as they can. You’re not a failure for forgetting stuff or getting distracted or anything else you tear yourself up about. It’s because the world was built for neurotypical people. Last year I almost failed like 4 classes just because I couldn’t keep up with my homework. Am I a dumb, lazy, stupid idiot that always forgets his stuff every two seconds? NO! And neither are you! Your brain just isn’t built to do what everyone is trying to make it do.
It's like raw energy, that just needs a little support to channel it correctly early on in a way to provide them with the skills to maintain and grow sustainably throughout the course of their life without falling short at some later stage because they were Ill equipped to deal with this mental health condition. In my honest opinion, a person with ADHD who knows he has ADHD and can accept it and wield it to his benefit would be incredible because he hasn't conquered just any ordinary normal mind but one that is burdened by abnormality. That would be one dangerously incredible man. I salute to the strong minded people who suffer, but make the suffering their drive. The suffering that plagues their mind before any emotion or environment can reach them.
Everyone was shocked to find out my whole life ive struggled horribly with adhd….i was so good at mask wearing….most thought i was a very secure person when the opposite was true….i learned how to just seem normal……
And what did you think? I believe they're on a different planet when it comes to ADHD. IF you watch/read about their work then you know more than the all the clinicians in the world.
Most nights I cry myself to sleep knowing that everyone around me doesn’t understand people have called me lazy because I’ve forgotten things but they never realized I’m trying.. Thank you for understanding
How hurtful and frustrating for you. FYI, you aren't lazy. Be compassionate and kind to yourself. Hope you can get some support. Virtual hugs. Blessings.
I just don't understand how there are so many people with depression and ADHD, yet I am seemingly the only one. If more people knew what bullying, depression and attention problems are, there would be more (or any) people understanding me. I guess it is very rare but the internet kind of brings us together. Just know that somewhere on a different continent someone is reading your comment and understands.
My way out was religion as nothing else was working. I have tried asmr meditation all sorts. . Yes people can be cruel. I feel your pain. Your are not crazy you are very kind person. It's world thats cold. There is someone wanting up there with open arms. I not an evangelical. I was in the same position as you still am just not as bad. I'm no creepy religious l weirdo or anything. . In these times we just love others . I am attacked for my religion as well. None of my family are religious. Yet it doesn't matter. Well it does l goes they don't feel the love god.
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This is one of the best videos describing the experience of ADHD I've ever seen.
Thank you!
I come into earlier and thank you for making me laugh. When I kept going in the video I was mesmerized because literally just about every single thing you mentioned has applied to me in my life and more intensely since menopause.
I laugh because one of the big definers of my ADHD is if I'm interested in something I go to the bottom of the rabbit hole and then keep exploring through the Warren.....
I've listened to so many podcasts and read a lot of books about the diagnosis in women.
This is by far the very best explanation done in simple terms, about A DHD ( drawing was perfect) did I have read or listened to and in such a concise manner.
WOW!! I DESPERATELY NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR WHO IS KNOWLEDGEABLE ABOUT THIS PARTICULARLY IN OLDER WOMEN, because I suddenly have to move after living in a house for 40 years and I'm just wondering around like an idiot from one room to the other and exactly the manner You described above trying to figure out what to take what to get rid of how to do it where to start. I thought I could do it up until now I've only made things worse and I am on a time limit.
I am wondering if you can recommend to someone in the Seattle area who accepts Medicaid??
I would be forever in your debt. Only one person knows I have ADD, no one's around family has passed, And I really need professional help would someone who really understands what's going on. A couple years ago, Two people I was referred to earlier where pretty young and didn't know much how to help me they said and I appreciated their honesty.
I don't want to be evicted I want to leave with some pride and I really need to get going on organizing sorting etc.
Also I would gladly participate in a study of how much ADHD is affected after menopause or aging or anything like that. Thanks so much for what you were doing I'm so happy for all the younger people who won't have to go through what I did growing up.
So now I'll listen to other podcasts you've done thank you again.
Listening to a man describe your entire life experience is kind of surreal
Just finished the video now and I had so many "wow that is me!" moments. I had the diagnose at 16, but I never got to learn about it.
While hearing him explain my life I have the x-files theme in my head
I'm 42 and only last week did I consider the possibility that I might have ADHD. Never came up once growing up. I felt like this guy made a video specifically about me. I'm getting evaluated by my doctor next week.
Yeah. I'm here like damn that's my mom, wait that's ME too. Shoot I think I see it in my kids too!
Exactly what I was thinking
ADHD culture is wanting to know more about ADHD but struggling to get through a half hour informative video about it.
Me while watching this ughs lmfao
it took me 4 breaks to reach the end xD + 10-12 times going 10sec backwards the video bcs i got triggerd to some of his words and start thinking vividly my thoughts/expiriences about it xD
@@lewon3423 in my case i just keep pausing to see smth on my phone for no reason 😂 them continue again.
Lmao me 🤣, its 5 mins later you realize that you zoned out or took 15 mins to write a comment while you forgot to pay attention on the video. And you never want to read about ADHD, its videos or maybe small reddit posts
This is true. I have ADHD, and I'm struggling to remember the things the guy is talking about. I'm trying, but I miss key points and stuff.
MY brother failed high school. He was ADHD. Expelled from 4schools. He is 34 now, he’s doing his first year as an orthopedic surgeon . Proud sister ...
It's funny isn't how they allow us with ADHD to be surgeons but not soldiers
I'm so happy for your bro 😁😢🥺
@@ContraryClipsHub Wait what? I'm pretty sure that's not a problem with my country, where are you from?
He was ADHD
That's so amazing. It inspires me to do better. ❤️
watching this instead of doing what i need to do
Classic ADHD
same im supposed to my math homework
This man almost made me cry. I have been struggling with these experiences my whole life and people have always brushed them off as just a lack of discipline and motivation. Hearing him perfectly describe everything that I have gone through just makes me emotional. Thank you.
It's a great sense of validation!
Glad it positively affected you as well 🥰
All those years... now what feel a bit lost now
Look at my comment i just left on the top maby you will understand after reading
I just watched to stair at his interesting head.
I teared up too, I had a lot of trouble in school when I really wanted to succeed. I’d disappoint my dad and he’d brush my thoughts of maybe having ADD/ADHD as me making excuses. Being out of high school now it’s become a goal of mine to be sophisticated and a lot of the people I look up too have that and a great memory to go along with it, I’m just so hesitant on taking aderral because for one I don’t want to have to depend on medication and what if you become addicted? It’s a weird spot to be in but nice to be validated on what I think is wrong upstairs 😂
That made me cry because for the first time someone explains it without making me feel stupid for it
Me too. At last I realise I'm not a lesser personality.
I just always feel like a burden or like I can't ever be reliable enough to help anyone
I felt stupid my whole life until I was diagnosed at age 30 after taking a 6 month psych study where I found out I actually had a high IQ.
Same
Now I must rewind
Me too. Always feel bad about myself.
"And then they drift off, and then they're back, and then they drift off" this snapped me out of my daydream, ironically
Hahaha Lol
Hahahaha it literally did the same thing I kept looking at my ceiling and back to my phone 😂
@@wkelly_1574 bruh im cheesed because this man said everything that happens to me all the time.
not me reading the comment and being distracted from watching the video lmao. And the whole "cant do my work until its an emergency" is my biggest struggle with adhd and the reason why i often times stay up late finishing things. CANT FOCUS
I thought this was the normal... do I have adhd?
It was a shock to me to learn that people who don’t have ADHD don’t need to find something interesting to be able to concentrate on it.
I just allways believed I lacked discipline... still struggling to give me self-worth :D I thought its "normal" to concentrate/do things that are not interesting, but Im just making a big deal about it and looking for excuses to not do them.. it was never really an issue in school, because it was "easy" enough and I also liked a few topics, but omg in university... the thesis nearly killed me... and then Im starting the master and meet people who finished their bachelors in time and are so eager etc.... :') How am I supposed to gain confidence when most others are super productive while I cant get started because I wanted to quickly check the anno- ego perspective and need to wait for the download of the upload -.- should.. just turn the light on and get started buuut.. yeah excuses.. :/
The worst part is when you can't even focus on the things you like
I think depression may play a role into it. I could be wrong. It is miserable.
So painfully relatable. I know this feeling all too well...
Truly awful
same bruh
Yea either depression or anxiety there. You have to figure that out first. Learn to love yourself again and don't take life to seriously. when I start feeling that way I remind myself that we are all just bits of matter and none of it really matters. So just enjoy this life while you've got it cuz u aint gonna get it again
A wonderfully bizarre experience: Listening to a person you've never met describe you in nearly perfect essence and detail for 28 minutes.
Holy crap, no joke.
no joke... 100% me
Yeah agreed me 100 percent. Im diagnosed with adhd and ocd what a nice combination to have
Yes. This dude is awesome.
He answered my question it is hereditary.
Am I the only one who will delay sleeping even though I am sleepy and torture my health just to _do something_
I feel like I didn’t deserve it
bruh same
Want to sleep but can't ... adhd
It's literally 11pm, my roomate's already asleep, I still stayed awake to finish this video because the first time I watched I found another interesting video so I clicked off • _ •
If you have kids, it's normal.
This is the best description of ADHD I've ever heard (ADHD sufferer for 52 years).
as a person with ADHD the amount of times i had to rewind is embarrassing
No need to be embarrassed for who we are. Everyone is different and that's ok
I can’t watch tv for too long, I totally start thinking about something else, very random thoughts 😬
I feel you. I have the same issues. I actually switched to audiobooks because it takes me so long to read a book due to reading the same paragraph multiple times, or having to go back several pages to read something again to get context for something later because I either forgot what happened, or...... shit.... oh yeah, completely missed something. Even with audio books, I find myself rewinding upwards of a half hour because I zoned out and missed a bunch of shit.
I have been independent of my medication for 5 years now. I am a full time student and working full time. For the first time in my life I have maintained a 3.8 GPA and am set to graduate next year. Just wish I hadn't waited so long to return to school sometimes. My biggest issue that I am dealing with while being unmedicated is like he said, putting things off until it's more of an emergency. My procrastination has gotten so bad, but I am able to complete all of my coursework in about 12 hours and submit within an hour of the deadline no problem. My biggest fear is if I continue staying off my medication, that I will not be able to enter my career field and be successful (computer programming). Programming deals with deadlines, and I am incapable of completing things prior to a deadline in my current form.
Perhaps I should find a doc and get back on my medication, but I have gone so far and proven so many doctors wrong who told me I would never be able to function without it. The doctors were simultaneously correct, and incorrect. I can function fine, I just have a hard time with time management. In fact, I have no sense of time. 5 minutes can pass, and it will feel like 5 hours. 3 hours will pass, and it will feel like only seconds has passed. I only know the days of the week by whether or not I work, or whether something is due and I need to knock it out in an hour......... It's frustrating, but sometimes I feel like a superhero at the same time. Now that I've finished this comment, I need to rewind about 5 minutes.... I think.
[edited to make the comment less word vomit]
[edit again, I completely forgot that months will pass without me realizing it as well... But I think that may have to do with aging.... Though I'm only 30, so time shouldn't be moving that fast yet...]
But it is worthy, ain’t it?
For real man..
The awkward moment you realise he’s describing every aspect of yourself.
this strange feeling in my chest i just had
@@DropdownDUB i feel that may be your lungs collapsing
Is this really a disease or is it a generalization
@@kluxklean7679 I'm 100% sure it's generalization because I was born with ADHD but didn't get diagnosed with it till I was in 2nd grade, if it was I'm sure there would be a cure to it but there is none. Yes there's medicine for it but it won't get rid of it, it'll just help you do daily things for only a couple of hours
Willow Tree instantly
"They can't get started until it's becoming an emergency" This.
I just started an essay the day it was due... we had 5 weeks to finish it
THISSS. The more time I have to do something, the worst it is... I know myself and say stuff like ''ok, we're gonna do little by little each day and so you don't have to do it all in one at the last minute!'' yet still.... the next day, and the next, and the next one.
Only when the day is looming over is when I feel pressured enough to DO SOMETHING with the stuff I'm not really interested in doing.
So... Humans then?
i've been late for multiple assignments from my boss and she hasn't fired me/yelled at me so it doesn't feel like enough of an emergency to get started and i hate it
So true…
This dude just casually describing all my life's struggles in under 30 mins
i can’t imagine what it’s like to NOT have adhd. it must be so nice to just be able to focus clearly
Me too. To be able to complete something, and not get distracted.
I actually feel guilty to continue doing what I'm doing when somebody interrupts me, I feel I ha e to stop and look at them and act as if I'm interested...
It sucks
@@harrycontos3847 literally me I dont know what to say, instead i mentally say to myself when will this person piss off im trying to do something here and then before i know it i've completely sidetracked. Currently I have a plan for today that im barely following because each task makes me feel heavy and uninterested.
i should be reviewing what i learnt today prepare my materials for tomorrow do my homework and ready for tommorrow but im here in the comments because learning about ADHD is more interesting and this video was easy to focus on.
I went to the bathroom and came straight back and continued watching. That speaks volumes to myself because normally I dont want to continue and start doing something else right away.
Find the thing you can do that allows you to focus. It's going to take a lot of experimentation. Try exercise. Try tai chi. Try singing. Try art. Try gaming. Try reading out loud. Try all the things until something clicks.
funny thing is , that i unconsciously have to imagine how other deal with the situation at hand just so i can deal with it too , so you know the drill make a long an intricate scenario when me isn't me but normal me and run throw it fast and with this way i can deal with stuff better i think , because on the normal circumstance if i had to deal with it exactly natively it will end in disaster or a super confusion to every one else
me too
"My minds a great sprinter but it's a lousy distance runner" this analogy resonated with me
it’s funny because my body works the opposite
I seen this right as he said it
I read this just a second after he said it lol
It hit my heart, why can this touch base so hard :( I'm away from work bc I can't focus on getting task done. Sign
Yes!
This guy just explained my condition better in 20 minutes than I have been able to in 15 years.
This is exactly how I feel though like wtf I never felt so understood before
If only we had the ability to master it also ;)
holy cow no kidding, when i was in grade one they sent me to some collage because i would do that watching the pencil hit the floor thing for five minutes. i guess back in the early 70's they did really have a handle on what this was..im sending this video to my mom and taking back all my apologies to her for parent teacher day that she had to sit through..lol..
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I need this man to be my doctor, counselor, psychologist, friend...whatever! I'm down
“ADHD has nothing to do with how smart you are.” I really felt this one. The stigma is very real.
YES!!! To the point that one loses self-esteem and confidence!
a mental disorder can be your greatest strength. people seem to assume that anything other than the norm is a deficiency or a harmful attribute while we can actively make it the opposite.
Some people think I'm extremely intelligent because of adhd causing me to over analyze things and when my mind is working properly I perform very well and enjoy talking about complex topics. Most people though usually think I'm lazy or a bit slow because I forget so much and I'm as organized as a small child at recess.
My adult brother has ADHD and that comment was emotional for me, I know how smart he is!
@@casey8533 I m like that and my mom and I get in to problem due to my problem
Should be entitled: "A man talking about you for 30min... but no you don't know him"
I just told my dog the same thing, haha
Indeed!!
Edit “Should be re-titled” but I agree with you completely 🥰
true that
Yes bro I got goosebumps listening to all the symptoms he just called off like the one biut watching countless videos on the internet till u just pass out and not focusing on stuff ur not interested in the list gos on been an everyday battle since I was a kid I hate it
“They can’t get started until it’s becoming an emergency” wow did not need to attack me like that😭😭
I don't know where I sleep in two days, in a new town, I need to find something ^_^.
Falk Oomikami same I have an eviction notice & I gotta leave until March 30 my parents are forcing me to move out lol
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Right? I didn't realize it wasn't just a "me" problem, until now.
If i invented disposable razors id be a millionaire.
I'm 35, diagnosed ADHD at 33.
I've been reading and learning as much as possible about ADHD but this man still casually talking about things that slap home and I never even realised.
Imagine making a 28 minute video about ADHD...this will stay it my watch later playlist for years
EXACTLY, that's so hard to even watch 5 minutes without going nuts.
He had me for twenth words...
So true! 😂
@Justin Anstine I'm att X2 still 14 min long...... 🤣
I’ve already walked away to do dishes twice and I’m at 5 minutes
Besides being amazingly accurate, this man's perfect pauses in his speech gave me the time to process what he's saying and a goal to shoot for. He knows his audience.
Exactly
100% agreed, EVERYTHING he’s talking about is something I relate to, it’s completely accurate, and it doesn’t help when all we have is people telling us to focus, that doesn’t help
I came here to acknowledge the well articulated video description and realised it was your comment LOL
i know right? i also agree to the top comment too.
Yeah, I only had to skip back once at the end cause I got distracted..
He's describing it and I'm like... Other people don't see life that way?!
It’s an actual disorder that I’ve been diagnosed twice with by two different physicians
@@christopherblackhall2832 I have it as well, i was being silly 😊
me too ohmg
ikr when he was talking about the woman imagining the worst-case scenario with the truck I'm like...yes that's me, I do that for almost everything and my mother keeps telling me to stop thinking so much but like I can't stop
Same. I learned some things about myself that I didn't realize were specific to this.
I'm currently at 16:50, with both hands on top of my head. Realized I need to pause the video to make this comment: How does this guy know so damn much about me? I couldn't even describe everything he mentioned in the video to my therapist. Yet here he is, speaking about everything I've experienced growing up, in the most fluent way possible.
Does anybody else with ADD have to always have subtitles on? Like even if it's just in English? I feel like it helps me to focus on what I'm watching.
Yes! It helps the information sink in better
even with with subs, oftentimes i still scrolling 9gag, facebook, or other youtube vids...
Yes, it does help a lot. Also, I've always struggled with either reading books or listening to audiobooks, but If I do both simultaneously I can focus very easily.
Another sort of hack I use for audiobooks is to play any simple game on my phone like 2048 and I can go for hours without any random thoughts disrrupting me.
Forget ADHD ... but I do this lol
Meeee
It’s so overwhelming to hear him explain this so accurately. I’ve spent years getting yelled at, losing jobs and being disappointed In myself. Knowing I’m trying as hard as I can and not getting results. I’ve never heard someone get it dead right like this.
It’s so incredibly validating. It’s listening to someone articulate what I’ve been trying to articulate my entire life.
for reals like my parents just think i’m lazy or it’s my will like i was born like this and likely thing is it’s one of yours fault. like they’ll never understand that i just can’t focus same way a person who’s paralyzed can’t run like no matter how hard they try they’ll never run it impossible.
"He's smart but just needs to apply himself more", "He just needs to prioritize better", "He just needs to work harder", "Why can't you just listen?", "Stop fidgeting!". These are the most commonly heard phrases of my life...
I think a lot of us can relate.
So smart could be top of his class if he just focused !always disruptive doesn't concentrate !smart when he applies himself which isn't often was every report card. Why didn't anyone notice instead I was ostricized put outside class Nd eventually expelled !very sad
Really annoys me when people say I’m smart but just need to apply myself. I’m trying - Well, feel like I am but struggling. In school I was put in side rooms away from the rest of the class; called a distraction to others. I fail at all things academic and feel stuck in a world where I want to be ‘something’ but can’t “apply myself enough” to get there.
I can definitely relate
Amen to the first one. I hear it every school day.
I have ADHD and I've got goosebumps from watching this as this sounds as an accurate description of my life, as if someone just stalked me and described it. Thank you for spreading awareness! And thank you for the reminder that it is not the matter of willpower and people with ADHD are not just "lazy" or "care free" (or whatever people around them label them with).
I might mistaking because I am not a professional but I have an assumption or a hypothesis that neorotypical people are more linear in their development, meaning that if they can do a "hard" thing they also can automatically do something that is considered "easier" on the scale, whereas for ADHD people the complexity levels system is rather nonlinear, which is why e.g. people can't understand why I speak 4 languages, play music instruments and study a technical study field but can't remember or can't make myself doing laundry/dishes or do a lot of accident mistakes while filling the bureaucratic forms or can't concentrate on something very "simple". That's why it's considered to be laziness, because the level of complexity of the task is not linear anymore, so other people who know what you achieved *assume you should not have problem* with the tasks that are "simpler" compared to your previous achievements (without taking into consideration such parameters as boredom, the level of emergency, if the task is monotonous, if it's something you can hyperfocus one day vs. something you have to remember to do everyday etc.). However, please correct me if I am wrong because I am not sure with about this "linear/ not linear complexity" hypothesis
P.s. I just got out of depressive episode caused by ADHD related everyday struggles and trying to get an ADHD diagnosis appointment but it is hard to find one for state insurance in Germany
I think your linear hypothesis is really good! I only just got told I have ADHD on Monday so I'm just starting to learn about it but it's helping make sense of a lot of things in my life.
The worst thing in ADHD is when it gets treated as a moral problem, that you're just "not trying hard enough" to stay on task or organize things.
yeah, people think that some are just comepletely helpless people, and the rest are perfectly fine. the thing is, we’re inbetween, where we can do things ourself and we’re just considered as bad people in general
basically all the farmers telling the hunters that they're lazy when there's no need for hunting.
"They can’t get started until it’s becoming an emergency"
exactly! thats why im watching youtube instead of doing my assignment due in 2 days
Good luck!🍀
Or my assignment due 3 days ago 😬
Same
Did you get it done 😂
Same
I'm fighting back tears...ADHD as an adult is a constant struggle and exhausting.
I literally started tearing up when he mentioned the school stuff was so misunderstood
I’m right there with you, I’ve been dealing with these symptoms ever since I can remember. Now being an adult and on my own has made everything that much more apparent. Wishing you the best
I always felt so wrong for not being able to concentrate in college and dropping out but most subject I just could sit through and my disorganization didn’t help at all
Yeah I feel like I have spent my entire adult life in a state of being completely overwhelmed.
I see you 🥺 I also have severe depression which is robbing me of all of my energy. A friend helped me understand that I have a problem and that I need to go see a psychologist. The most damaging thing to me as a teenager was being seen as lazy and undisciplined. Ugh. I want to hug this comments section 🥺❤️
Thank you for making this video.
I am a 74 year old woman who grew up “orbiting another planet” and hearing my mother tell every teacher that I was lazy. I have learned how to manage time better and am mostly as organized as I need to be but many ADHD traits live on. And, we have 3 sons diagnosed with it.
Dr. you are right on with every aspect. Thank you again for making this video.
You're very welcome!
"Sleep like a dead person, I have a hard time resurrecting myself"
I'm blessed with the company I work for and my boss. He personally calls me every single morning 7am
Without him I would have lost this job a long time ago, like I did with all other jobs I had before
That's so sweet of your boss 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Oh is that a symptom of ADD/ADHD? I have my alarm on full blast and my brother gets mad because I can't wake up
@@HoloScope both me (diagnosed) and my father (undiagnosed but probable gene giver) use like 5 alarms because we cannot trust ourselves, and even then sometimes we end up sleeping through it all, meanwhile my mother wants to smack our phones againdt the wall because of how obnoxious the sound gets and yet we just don't get up, even of we're slightly conscious/awake. And don't get me started on how that, sleeping late and being chronically late to everywhere works like a charm to get chronic fatigue and being fired lol
@@OsmosisHD How thoughtful/kind …
the world needs more people like your boss !
UNDERSTANDING /SUPPORT IS EVERYTHING !
I have never felt so understood.
Facts
Same. I just broke down right now because he’s describing me. I’m 30 and never knew I had this. Always knew something wasn’t right. But really had no idea. It’s been so debilitating for me.
Tell me about it brother
Even at 62, I'll NEVER forget the first time I took a stimulant. It was as if my brain re-booted for the first time. It wasn't a prescribed medicine & the use of illegal stimulants in an effort to stay "booted" certainly didn't do me any favors. It was after an honest talk with a good Dr that I finally had a legal & fairly safe way of treating this. I believe the rise in stimulant use may be caused by folks self-medicating as I did & the addiction is more to the feeling of thinking clearly than the actual drug, at least at first. Anyone else relate?
I'm 7 minutes in... This is crazy.
Man ill be in my lecture listening and ill think about something, then all of a sudden i realise I havent heard a word he said. And then ill try focus. Then without realising ill be thinking about something else
Dude on god
Yeah familiar feeling. Your just lost in your thoughts and you sudden wake up from it and notice that you not listening at all.
I can relate 🤣
and then you realize you forgot about everything you payed attention to lmao
You know me so well. Everything you said is me. I drive me nuts.
I actually almost cried watching this video. Never in my entire life have I ever heard someone explain this so well. I felt cared for and that this man held sympathy for me and what goes on. I dont know why this is such a big deal for me but I love this video so much. Thank you.
I feel you
I know i was just nodding my head the whole time
same....
Ok so its not weird because I was crying
I am also glad that I am not the only one crying
He was spitting fire but then I zoned out
I'm begging you to add Arabic translation so I can show this to my parents..really hope you can do that
Edit: can this comment get attention please so my parents would actually believe that it's a real thing, thank you!
Do you have closed captions? It may not be perfect but it may translate the major ideas.
Important you find other ways to express your emotions about ADHD to them. It may be difficult to talk to them about it. But perhaps if you started the translation, you'd find saying it in his words, in arabic, would help you to cross the bridge with them. Good luck! I also have ADHD and relationships are the hardest thing in the world for me. Hope you find strength to run that marathon !
"Understood" doesn't allow adding translation to the video otherwise I would do the translation for you!
For all those lovely people that replied, mental health is rarely recognized as a real thing in the Middle East, his parents reaction is unfortunately the typical norm. Only if the disability (psychiatric be it) is visible like someone having hallucinations, then they deem it mental health but in most cases label the person as crazy.
Omg I feel the same way 😭😭💔 my parents refuse to take me to the doctor
This is the best explanation of ADHD that I’ve ever heard. I can’t believe I couldn’t get a diagnosis until I was 40 and that I had to advocate so hard. All of this is my experience. Wow!
I always go back to this video, this doctor describes ADHD so accurately
Hi ADHD Patrick - Live With ADHD & Conquer Anxiety - Thanks for your comment. We're happy to hear you have found this helpful.
I just sent to my husband so he can understand why I am the way I am as well as my therapist and my mom!! Oh and Facebook too of course! ❤️
@@UnderstoodOrgfor me did not only find this helpful but also made me feel belonging. I can’t believe that so many things I do everyday were caused by my ADHD I have been living with it my hole life and did not even know all my own symptoms that were a cause of it and you helped clear some of that up for me!
Holy crap! Well said... That's so me.
YES OMG THIS IS SO ACCURATE, THANKSSS
ADHD....
God bless those that have it.
Educators never understood us.
They always told me to just focus and not try doing multiple tasks at the same time.
Now I'm 70.
I love reading books and watching movies at the same time.
I work in chemistry and material science.
I love working on several projects at the same time.
I develop other products during the down time, while waiting for my current projects to finish mixing and or running thermal or aging tests and or adhesion testing.
Thats my ADHD.
I drove my co-workers,parents,step parents, teachers, and my wonderful German,highly organize,and virtually perfect wife crazy all my life.
But I love being ADHD.
I learned everything from how to... water purification, explosives, armor, horse shampoo, pie baking, nuclear radiation shielding, industrial coatings, and a dozen other interests that no one would believe or understand.
When you are so called diagnosed with ADHD celebrate!
You are going to drive so called normal people crazy all your life,but you are a rare and really cool person,with very few friends if any.
Live with it.
Jim Henry your story is amazing, thanks for sharing! It's lovely to hear how you've made it although there was no understanding of the condition back in the days. I feel familiar! 🌷 Love the internet bc of this peer support.
I’m 20 and I never really bothered until they made all classes online.
Dear Jim Henry....you have made me feel alot better after watching this this morning and beating myself up all day at how ineffective I am.... but in retrospect...you are right.
I am amazing at being multi teaching/ tasking little ol me.
Cheers!
Thank you Henry
jim henry thank you for speaking out as an achiever. I was all for this video right up until the ending. Suppose I was on the fence all the way through about the speaker wondering if he was trying to help or condescending, which his closing identified unfortunately. He did get a lot of views so congratulations for his success. Thank you for proving people with ADD are capable of being good hearted, hard working, very valuable members of our society. God bless you Sir, from a retired 60 year old Automotive worker. Thank you. 🙏 😊
Anyone else completely lose focus on the video to read the comments
Junez yes i still hear him but reading comments also lmao
Yup pmsl
Caught me!
I’m at 2:35 I can’t even focus anymore
how are you now
My mind began to wander even listening to this
Having adhd with a stubborn dad is the worst. He refuses to believe my disability exists. It's just an excuse to him
That's sad, i hope you have someone eho will listen and help you get the tools you need. It can be a blessing or a curse if not handled. It's like your eye color always with you. At least you know, get the help you need and move past your dad's opinion. I'm greatful I got treatment.
I’m sorry. I’m a mom and both my sons 17&19 both have ADHD and it’s pretty bad. As a parent I can tell you it’s hard. It’s a fine line. I want to be understanding but also hold them accountable for their behavior. I’ve seen parents blame all on adhd because it’s easy and others who just “no excuse” because they want to teach kids to learn not to “blame the adhd” It’s just so hard for a parent. I try my best to understand my sons and love them and show lots of mercy. It’s a view from a parent. Try to (if you can) send educational videos to your dad. That helps a lot.....
My parents understood but society in general is pretty shitty about it. My best friend got me a job as a fiber splicer and he's a quick learner and a judgmental person, lets just say it put a strain on our friendship.
He probably has it as well
I grew up with this. All I can advise is to do your best to get through and talk to anyone who will hear you out. You know and understand how you operate, so you have to adjust your surroundings as best you can and adapt to what you can't change as best you can.
I love that a video about ADHD is 28 minutes long
Edit: I have no idea what to say, but I cannot thank this video enough. I'm not even kidding, it is responsible for my diagnosis. There was a night in August last year where I listened to this video in the background and just listened in awe, realising that practically everything this doctor said, was something relatable. I had suspected it was ADHD well before but we didn't have absolute proof. In September I got my actual diagnosis and was provided with medication (But this is not the only solution to ADHD! Some people find that alternate methods work just as well, everyone is different), and ever since, it has been life changing. I've been getting the support and arrangements needed in school, I can finally relax a little bit and not be so hard on myself for who I am, it's just incredible, and it wouldn't've happened if not for this video. So huge thanks to Understood for uploading, and to Dr Thomas E. Brown!
It was so relatable that I ended up driving in BeamNG while listening to it and I ended up listening to the entire thing. It's so weird hearing everything about you be described in perfect accuracy
S called hyperfocus haah
I watched at 1.5x speed, but also got distracted midway😂... Still is nice seeing someone put into words what you go through every day.
I am assuming it's for muggles without ADHD
@@yoshianyaponte9371 Yeah. It's absolutely mad though, everything in this video was bloody spot on to what happens to me.
I see why this segment is called Understood. Because this gentleman truly does..
Absolutely...keeping this to show my family....thankful that it also explains a lot of my ways 😌
Man dude hearing someone say "How can you say such smart things but you don't pay attention." Is the story of my fucking life.
'it makes it look like it's a problem with willpower' I CRIED when he said that. My mother used to tell me 'you just lack willpower, try developing it'. I still don't know if I have ADHD and probably won't be even diagnosed, 'cause I live in a country where it's not considered a disease. I lived my whole life in a cage of my own mind, feeling like I am an incomplete human with this defective brain. Always tried to 'just focus' and push myself, thinking maybe it's all in my head, but it never worked. Man I am so tired
You are not alone and there's nothing 'wrong' with you. ADHD can be maddening but it can be managed. Your brain is not defective it just functions differently than other's. Medication has helped me considerably. I understand that may be hard for you to get where you are but don't lose hope. I know exactly what you mean when you say "I'm so tired", I could never count the number of times in my life that I've said out loud to myself "Please just shut the f*** up!" when my mind seems to be filled with noise that I can't make stop. It can be exhausting but don't give up man. Do the things that you are good at and do your best at the things you're not and keep looking for help. The fact that you are here means that you are working to improve your situation and that matters.
I don’t think ADHD is actually a disease but rather just a difference in how we as human beings are created. You may find a place to just be yourself without expectations in the virtual world of Second Life. I usually don’t comment here but your comment touched my heart.
adhd is more of neurotype thing than will power
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@@alex_poly1147 What you're saying certainly leads to more comfort and relaxation. But unfortunately, ADHD isn't a problem with someone's thoughts. It's more of a motivational disorder where most of what you set your mind into doesn't give you the energy to get up and execute it. I hope that makes sense to you.
I have no problem starting projects. Finishing them is another matter.
Me Too
For me its the other way around
That's not just adhd.
i have a million hobbies but i rarely ever finish my projects, most of my direct family seems to have this too
Other way around for me. If I start something I will work on it for 18 hours straight. I just never start anything.
I never felt so understood in my life, it makes want to cry.
Lol I just realized the channel name is understood 😂
read the book scattered minds from gabor mate... but get ready hahaha
Same feelings..
Same I'm crying here 😭
th-cam.com/video/W_ALpvLadQI/w-d-xo.html
Finally, someone explained the struggles of a person with ADHD.
"The problem is often short term memory" ... mostly by the time I have opened a new browser tab, I already forgot what i wanted to look for 😂
same, but then I think of something new anyway
When someone interupts me when I'm talking I completely forget what I was talking about
@@astrcr1t same
Try being in the shower about to wash your hair - putting shampoo in your hands, then rubbing it into your face. You realise, wash it off, put shampoo in your hands again....then put it on your face again....
Lol
I can't stop crying as I watch this...Everything he is saying is spot on with what I go through every day and I'm almost 30. I've always just been labeled depressed, bi polar...lazy...I'm going to try and get help, I hope someone will help me...
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns hello me too and I'm 41.would u like to be friends, I'm on fb jemma Lewis. My cover pic says 'I have so much left to say to u'. X
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns I cried too I totally feel you on this
Yea I know the feeling. I am 30 as well, my father pretty much disowned me after realizing I am not doing so well in school. My mother constantly thinks I am lazy and won't amount to much. Worst of all, I am actually tryign to change but unable to sit long enough in one place to achieve my goals.
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns did you get help from a mental health professional? (Psychiatrist)?
Sara's Simply Sweet Reborns I agree this was very insightful I have been diagnosed bipolar but always felt like I had some attention deficit disorder after watching this I know for sure I do I'm going to ask to be reevaluated
Almost in tears here at a guy who actually understands what the hell it is that my life is like. Comparing his knowledge to my GP is truly enraging.
Same!!!
I'm there with you, it started bringing tears to my eyes also that 98% of people just don't understand.
It's a little embarrassing to say, but this made me bawl my eyes out. I've needed an explanation that's straightforward, accessible and thorough like this is to show my parents since the beginning. I've known I've had it for almost 20, but hearing this - it sounds like he has been following me around with a notebook, and I feel so validated. There is a lot of shame that goes with the problems that ADD causes for me and sometimes I just want so bad for the people I care about to really know how hard I am trying to work through it. Thank You.
me too
@@curtiseverett1671 me three
@williambultman6817 - this guy totally 💯 nails it. I would love to see his work exposed more on mainstream media.
the way he keeps reassureing that it's not something under voluntary control makes me want to cry, that's more emotional comfort than my own parents have ever given me combined lol
word. sadpepe
I know it's not a real hug but I'd like to give you an internet hug C: you deserve to be understood
Your parents are supposed to give emotional comfort?
“Was all about little boys” I felt that. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 23. I was smart but stupid. Funny but shy. Fatigued but full of energy. I’ve never been able to fall asleep to silence.
I'm 42, and this video has diagnosed me!, my son has it he's 12, and on medication.
ALWAYS need music i literally cannot sleep if i dont have music
@@finnegan728 I listen to an audio book or a sound like ocean surf.
@@finnegan728omg yes finally. Music is the only thing that can make me relax I have ADHD tics so I have an extremely hard time staying still
Your comment, like this video, resonates so deeply with me. There’s such a dichotomy with having ADHD, and that could be why many people who have it are prone to getting easily frustrated. Internally, they are saying to themselves, “Get it together already!”
When you have ADD/ADHD and you literally just smile and clap when you realize it's totally describing you but after you're like: I don't think I should be happy about this
LOL IKR
lmao exactly what I was doing while watching this vid
lmfao yeh but also i think i was smiling bc ive finaly been understood but a random american man
@@lumbago9379 ikr lmao
Smile and clap? You sound Autistic hahaha
This man said exactly all the words I had been trying to explain to my parents my entire childhood.
THIS GUY KNOWS ME BETTER THAN MY WHOLE FAMILY
I agree completely! It’s so hard to describe what ADHD is like to someone who doesn’t have it. My wife and I both work in mental health and even when she knows everything about it from the textbooks and working with her patients at, she doesn’t know what it’s like to live with it. I also think the fact that we can’t describe what ADHD is really like makes it harder for the ones who need the medication‘s to talk with their providers about it because a lot of us know that people like to abuse and amphetamines and Ritalin and will pretty much describe everything that we know from experience and it’s hard for the clinicians to tell the difference.
EXACTLY, i actually never thought i had ADHD, because i thought a person with ADHD is the typical hyperactive kid at the back of class always cracking jokes and can't shut up, but after seeing this video I can relate so much to it, it's unbelievable
Bruh Ive been sitting here for 28 minutes being like wait that's my adhd? I thought that was normal?? I literally thought everyone paid attention to the pencil dropping thing. Sending this to all my friends lmao
The same way your affirmation is somehow funny and totally true, family, and specially my wife have great difficulty to help me out... congratulations 👏👏👏
This guy has taken a full length scan of my brain and is now describing it to millions of people
Literally drifting off while a man talks about how you drift off was the funniest part of the video for me
Facts, but it may be due to how Im used to watching decently edited youtube videos to keep me engaged. Plus the way he talks is relatively quiet and monotone so thats also why I started to get bored
LMAO best comment 🙂
literally! lol
This
I got up to 1:22 before I started craving new content. I really need to force myself to pay attention to most things.
2:15 For Me 😂😂
I actually stayed focused on this because it drew interest for me and described everything that I've been dealing with for many many years. I did have to stop it a few times and replay some sections because one of the videos on the side looked very interesting as well -lol.
I don’t comment online, I don’t feel the need to share my opinions. Believe it or not this is the first time I’ve ever made a post. The reason being is that this is the first time in my life that someone has effectively and clearly explained the issues I have dealt with living with ADHD, and for that reason, for the first time I have felt strongly enough to make an online post to voice my support for everyone who doesn’t ADHD to watch so they can understand. HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS VIDEO
Thanks, Miles Hart, for your kind words. We're so glad this video has helped you.
Best,
The team at Understood
thats also ADHD we always feel wrong... or hard to explain.... but for me if i do something in an order & say like wake up. brush teeth, take shower eat snack n jump on bus BUT if something screws up that order i usually dont end up finishing up the rest.... of w/e i had to do.... its hard too explain why but ive had to tell my dad that listen if im in my mode lemme finish what iwas doing before i do anything else n sometimes he would be like just do this 1 thing for me quick n it would screw everything else up
n its like idk why my ADHD does that to me
ur not alone bro :) guess we are special hehe
same, i cant give myself time for a break because 10 minutes on my phone will end up being 1h.
I've never heard someone describe me so accurately.
Me too
felt that
Me too 😢😭😭😭😭😭i don’t know how to fix it cause I don’t want to live with it 😭
Same
"My mind is a great sprinter but a lousy marathon runner" im going to use that.
i mean my body is too so they can shake one anothers hands... if i need to catch a bus or see a wasp i will bolt like a cheeta.. however if i have to run for long times i won't be able to
Hahahaha Back in high school I signed up for long distance running and lasted one day before switching to sprinting. This quote is so literal to me
the human mind was never "meant" (cough*evolution*cough*) to be a marathon runner
This is me exactly. I keep forgetting how hard it is having ADHD. I feel so bad about myself. Thank you. I need help.
Everyone needs help sometimes or with some things. Don't feel bad about yourself. Asking for help is honestly an amazing sign of strength and self-awareness. You've got this!!
it feels so good to hear someone explain what you cant
I can't believe it, my whole life I've struggled and this man literally explained it without ever speaking to him, I'm just amazed
This... I'm 26 and have always known something wasn't the same with me as everyone else and almost every thing he said is me. I'm simultaneously relieved because nobody has ever understood me like this and frustrated because it's possible that things could have been so much easier for me if someone had caught it when I was younger and I received a formal diagnosis and treatment. I've been reading about inattentive ADHD and I have all of the signs/symptoms. So it's time I seek a formal diagnosis and treatment.
Same
What’s up ADHD crew? I love that everyone here can relate, it’s really difficult to describe to normal people. You guys are amazing.
My mom lost her focus when the teacher notified her about my ADHD.lol🤣
Really enjoyed this talk and it will help me to help others with adhd!
@Star Trek Theory
Have you ever said that too anyone with ADHD. Only who's an, idiot would repeat to say something so stupid. As that🗣🥱
Star Trek Theory funny part is, I have it and I had that happen to me my whole childhood. Did it help? Absolutely not. You’re an idiot
@Star Trek Theory dont be mad
I have exactly what you describe. My dads answer to it was the beating will continue till results improve. And he even sent me to a child psychologist. Problem was, I was scared to-talk to him because I was afraid of the beating. He figured that I was just stupid and never missed an opportunity to convey that to me. It really messed me up.
my man really did a video about ADD/ADHD and made an almost 30 minute long explaining it
It’s a very in depth and intricate topic for sure
@@nerad1994 I think she was making a joke about how someone with add/adhd watching this probably couldn’t sit through it lol. But yeah it’s a really interesting topic. It’s crazy and we’re so focused on space exploration when there’s still so much we don’t know about our own brains.
@@TH-io9yw I’ve learned to watch TH-cam at 1.5x speed or higher. It helps with schoolwork too.
@@rdc_bdos same, doing that rn as I read comments
agony
Not me tearing up because all the struggles I’ve had growing up were just explained to me
I honestly started to get a little emotional watching this. So much of my life makes sense to me now. Thank you.
I have the same experience right know. Oh man.
yaappp
Same here...
I did too. It seems like it's one thing to recognize our symptoms ourselves, and sometimes that's recognizing a couple of symptoms in one situation and a couple of other symptoms in a different situation. It was really interesting to hear all of these things I struggle with described at once; plus, he describes them in such a way that doesn't make our symptoms sound like deficiencies or failings but like they're just differences -- though it seemed subtle, I think that meant a lot to me.
Same here. I'm a 35 year old male with atrocious sleep. It feels liberating to hear an educated person describing all those things I've always struggled with, but always having blamed it on my really bad sleep. Maybe there is still hope!
I cried watching this because it’s so hard for me to explain or other people to understand that I don’t do it intentionally. I don’t zone out or cut them off or finish their sentences intentionally.
Big hugs to you! If you haven't already joined we'd love to invite you to join our Women ADHD support group! facebook.com/groups/adhdsupportforwomen
I will never know how many times i zoned in and out during this video
I went into the comments to say that
XDD
this is currently happening
My girlfriend has ADHD.
I sometimes get irritated or mad at her because she forgets things, she’s easily distracted, or when we’re walking our dogs, she can’t just enjoy the silence but has to say something about everything she sees.
This video helps me understand her better. I feel bad for getting upset at her. I understand it’s hard for her but it’s also hard for me too. I hope I’ll learn to accept and deal with it.
I have ADHD I'm 41 I've only just been diagnosed. I got that diagnosis as a result of getting my 11 year old son diagnosed. My poor husband has to manage both me and my son's disordered behaviours. We also have 2 other sons who thankfully don't seem to have ADHD. I really empathise with you and it's so nice to see you wanting to empathise with your girlfriend. Hope you guys stay together. We are good fun us ADHDers! Hard work but worth it!x
You legend Rebecca..❤
i recently learned that i have adhd and i was broken up with by my ex girlfriend maybe a year ago now. i realize now that she was probably sick of my adhd symptoms that i didn’t know about at the time. and i felt like an asshole the whole relationship for forgetting things, not being able to make time for her, or getting super irritated with her because of serious sensory issues.
I don't know why but this means a lot to me. Thank you.
The whole intelligence bit at the beginning really was important. I've been diagnosed with adhd since I was 7 and ,in school, teachers always just assumed I was a troubled idiot. Jokes on you, I'm smart, just in things that don't matter
My Grammer really isn't helping my case but eh
@@ghostcoffee5112 lol grammer
@@ghostcoffee5112 I can't fucking type in English too. People get strock from my texts.
This guy just explained what I couldn't explain. I try to explain but it don't come out right. This guy explained me to a T. I thought I was bipolar. But damn it man this explains everything now.
Wow, I've asked multiple GPs if they thought I may be Bipolar, and they said no. Just the typical depression/anxiety. Now, I'm pushing to talk to someone about a potential ADHD diagnosis. Almost everything he said here sounded like me.
@@RS54321 me too but i still cant explain everything to my doctor i freeze
does anyone else just make entire movies in your head like every time you try to go to sleep
all the time ahah it's one of the few things that relax me enough to hep me sleep to be honest
Yeo bro that’s so funny lol I thought I was the only one 😂😂😂😂
way too many times,lol
Wait it isn't normal? Okay
That's called Maladaptive daydreaming, I also have it, look it up its actually pretty interesting
the fact that i haven’t been diagnosed with anything but you described me 100% probably means i should get checked out
Everyone thinks that they have ADHD, because the symptoms are so common. But if you didn't have a problems with it, I don't think you have it.
He's like aggressively describing me, but I dont have the money to get checked out. I'm probably fine.
@@AkshayKumar-ue1fp they said it described them 100%. i would go get checked if i was them.
I have never heard a more clear, concise, near 100% correct definition of what it is like for me any given day.
I agree. You have expressed it perfectly.
SAME!!! I'm glad ADHD is starting to really gain traction.
I agree as well
Yep
For me too wow
ADHD can look different for everyone. Raising awareness helps break down the stereotypes and create understanding. 💙🧠
Absolutely correct
7 minutes in and I already want to cry. 21 years have passed for me, always thinking I was lazy as hell. Thanks you, thank you so much
12 minutes in talks about difficulties managing emotions
I took 50 years for me, constantly failing and not knowing why.
@@iettord3124 same here, i must have spent a year looking back over all those jobs and relationships or even interactions which went wrong , and thinking of course, bound to fail.
I got a stoner mate who is 27 It's all food mate
and now that y'all have a new "label" on which to pin the blame, how has that HELPED you become self-motivated? or has it just given you one more excuse?
This video made me cry. It’s nice to hear someone who understands what it’s like living with ADD.
its hard to be so smart and cant find stability.
Yeah, agreed. I really relate to the whole thing about parents pointing out, well they can do this perfectly fine, so why can't they do that? Like okay, mom, it's not that frickin easy
I never knew what was wrong with me until I watched the video
A bunch of tvs set to different channels.... some of them for me are set to static lol. Concussion plus adhd suuuper fun.
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Albert Einstein had ADHD
I have always wanted to be a scientist but I thought I couldn't because of my ADHD but after hearing Albert Einstein had ADHA I felt a lot better and now I'm about to graduate at 16 and I have been accepted into Harvard University
Congratulations bro 👏 🙌 wish you good luck
Congrats!
@Ki Love People with ADHD are extremely good thinkers.
Good on you!! 👍👍👍 You're important and have your own gifts to share with the world. 🤗
go for your dream. find ways that suits you to mantain focus
I feel so exposed. When he said you’d need someone to wake you up or hit the snooze endlessly and forgetting if you did or not etc etc…. This is me every morning 😢
Talk about feeling validated. I tell everyone I could remember the tiniest details from years ago, but will forget what I had for breakfast that morning. Damn.
Good on you! Keep going.
I asked a psychiatrist once if he thought I might have ADHD. He replied, "Were you diagnosed with it before you were twelve? No? Then you don't have ADHD." and that was the end of that discussion. Pretty cool to see someone recognize it as something that might not be obvious until a little later in life...
Update: I got a new psychiatrist who seems about just as interested in listening to me as the last one did. Told her that basically everything psychiatrists say about ADHD lines up very well with my experience and my struggles. Her response to that pretty much boiled down to neither me nor any other doctor I've heard from has any idea what we're talking about. And no single piece of information about mental health that exists on the internet can possibly be correct. How much do you have to pay to get a doctor who will at least pretend to respect you?
That doctor is really bad at his job if he says that you need to be diagnosed before you are 12. The official criteria states that you only need some symptoms of hyperactivity/impulsiveness before 12, not that you need to be diagnosed before 12. You should get a second opinion.
How dumb. Unbelievable leaves one dumb founded. Head in hands🧐🤯
Idk 2 Doctors told you that you don't have ADHD... Then you probably don't have ADHD and it's probably something else or you should definitely look into border personality disorder.
My man talking about how people with adhd cant manage their sleep:
me, watching this at 3 am:
LOL ME TOO! It’s 3:40 am. Wonder if we could take a poll, how many who watched this did so after midnight ? 😆
same omgsj😭😭
1 am for me haha
4:30am for me rn 😭
True that 2am have to look after my kids tomorrow need to sleep arh
Listening to this, while re-organizing my life... again, while also watching a tutorial on programming, but also my hair started feeling frizzy so I started to comb it, while also stressing about having to leave the house for a date with a friend. Pretty sure I forgot at least one important thing today. Good luck to the rest of ya crazy bunch. Happy new year
So true. I can relate. Happy New Year to you, too!
lol i got distracted reading your comment
Something that I find frustrating...is from the outside, I appear to be so incredibly normal and capable. And a lot of times I absolutely feel more than capable.
So that when I struggle and start falling behind...I feel like a big major piece of crap. I feel like people get frustrated with me because I "should" be able to keep up and there's nothing visually wrong with me so there's no reason that I'm not keeping up...so I'm just a piece of crap. And it sucks.
You shouldn't feel like crap, I went from a dishwasher to a grill cook to sauté cook in a restaurant I had a tough time picking things up harder time than others doubted myself many times, but I always kept it in mind that I have ADHD, of course others will get mad but it doesn't matter as long as you're trying as hard as you can.
I feel you. Ever since I got scores in the 98th percentile on the PSAT, my parents have been really confused why I am not doing well and forgetting homework and all the other stuff that I’m sure you can relate to. Both of them are doctors, incredibly smart, and wanting to understand and help me as much as they can. You’re not a failure for forgetting stuff or getting distracted or anything else you tear yourself up about. It’s because the world was built for neurotypical people. Last year I almost failed like 4 classes just because I couldn’t keep up with my homework. Am I a dumb, lazy, stupid idiot that always forgets his stuff every two seconds? NO! And neither are you! Your brain just isn’t built to do what everyone is trying to make it do.
@@ZRob23523 adhd people probably outclass the smartest people if they were nurtured with the adhd in consideration.
It's like raw energy, that just needs a little support to channel it correctly early on in a way to provide them with the skills to maintain and grow sustainably throughout the course of their life without falling short at some later stage because they were Ill equipped to deal with this mental health condition.
In my honest opinion, a person with ADHD who knows he has ADHD and can accept it and wield it to his benefit would be incredible because he hasn't conquered just any ordinary normal mind but one that is burdened by abnormality.
That would be one dangerously incredible man.
I salute to the strong minded people who suffer, but make the suffering their drive. The suffering that plagues their mind before any emotion or environment can reach them.
Everyone was shocked to find out my whole life ive struggled horribly with adhd….i was so good at mask wearing….most thought i was a very secure person when the opposite was true….i learned how to just seem normal……
This is the most accurate thing I've ever listened to.
He's very good and easy to follow.
Check out Russel Barkley if you wanna know even more!
Skedaren Seen everything he's filmed.
And what did you think?
I believe they're on a different planet when it comes to ADHD. IF you watch/read about their work then you know more than the all the clinicians in the world.
I think it needs to be mandatory viewing material for psychiatric certification.
totally agree
Most nights I cry myself to sleep knowing that everyone around me doesn’t understand people have called me lazy because I’ve forgotten things but they never realized I’m trying.. Thank you for understanding
I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. Stay strong
GOD DAMN. youre not alone know that, real ones understand you myself included dont be sad. im in the same situation.
How hurtful and frustrating for you. FYI, you aren't lazy. Be compassionate and kind to yourself. Hope you can get some support. Virtual hugs. Blessings.
I just don't understand how there are so many people with depression and ADHD, yet I am seemingly the only one. If more people knew what bullying, depression and attention problems are, there would be more (or any) people understanding me. I guess it is very rare but the internet kind of brings us together.
Just know that somewhere on a different continent someone is reading your comment and understands.
My way out was religion as nothing else was working. I have tried asmr meditation all sorts. . Yes people can be cruel. I feel your pain. Your are not crazy you are very kind person. It's world thats cold. There is someone wanting up there with open arms. I not an evangelical. I was in the same position as you still am just not as bad. I'm no creepy religious l weirdo or anything. . In these times we just love others . I am attacked for my religion as well. None of my family are religious. Yet it doesn't matter. Well it does l goes they don't feel the love god.