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You can’t control what or how others treat you, but you can control yourself how to respond. Toxic people are not worth for your words, walk away or ignore them. Your silence is the best answer to them.
Master superb thank you
Forgive me for sharing this view please, because I feel, so many of us know these truths from Buddha teachings, but we overlook to acknowledge 🙏
Whatever that happens outside of us, is what's within us, it's universal law to reflect what we may feel we have healed, but if any not so good behaviours show up, it's like a check up to remind us and envisage our reaction to give clarification if we have healed or still need to work on healing.
I hope I make sense please 🙏 I feel, it is for us to thank the energies of the person who have behaved in a not so good manner so that globally we can vibrate to heal those energies in them too, so they don't have to behave in such ways to hurt others, but also heal the ones who are affected as pain is just a part of a thought that looks in the perceptions of each's own experiences.
Thank you 🙏
So true
Somehow I don't understand this point of view. We can control how ppl treat us. When unjust or toxic ppl are treated assertively, they will stop treating us like like that or be more cautious. Some sick ppl need to be ignored, but most will respond to assertiveness.
@@jasminesarahalexander the point here is you want to live in peace and happy and not to lower yourself to the same level of toxic or bad people treated you. Bad people do bad things to you doesn’t mean you do bad things back to them. They don’t deserve your words or time, walk away is best solution. By the way, control yourself is already difficult, it’s impossible to control others. May you live in peace and happy!
"Sometimes, toxic people can be found in our family." This hits me so hard.
Always
Sigh
So true
True, alwaz
Sadly so true. I am surrounded by them. Heaven and the Budda help me.
hit a little too close to home
Note to self
6:00 smile, never show your anger
6:48 weak people express anger
7:30 be the best version of yourself
9:07 don't try to prove them wrong
9:43 stay silent
10:30 love yourself
Thank you for this wonderful video 🙏
Thank you Dr. For documenting the teachings in short bullets 🙏🏽 I’ll write this down on my personal journal
Ys that's very true
Weak ppl express anger? Hmmm
@@GigiEtienne Yeah i also feel kinda weird about that one. Like shouldn't a healthy person acknowledge all their emotions?
@@GigiEtienne Expressing anger is not the same as feeling anger. We can feel angry without acting on it.
“If you need to prove them wrong, don’t get angry with them- prove them wrong by your success!”
“Toxic people come to you to get your anger, so don’t provide that anger!” Good advice
He s my boy friendk
Not talk
Not react
Not show your angry
Not show your sad face
Only listen
--> You Not receive toxics --> They keep toxic !!
"Prove them wrong with your success, not with your words."
@@ranc1977 what if we r not intelligent or smart enough to be successful in life , then what is the solution in life ?
@@shreyasreenath9197 "what if we r not intelligent or smart enough to be successful in life"
Then you need to redefine the definition of success. And also you need to realize concept called "External reference locus of control" where herd mentality, or groupthink is forcing you to believe what is success.
The world is full of paradoxes, biases, double binding which means there is no absolute truth unless unkind or violent - there is no generally accepted truth.
If you allow other people to define truth for you - you will lose your self worth, you will lose your identity and you will develop toxic shame and mental instability - since society will give you contradictory messages how to manage, handle and make decisions in life.
Remember the donkey story - where other citizens condemn and criticize man and woman riding the donkey. Whatever they do with the donkey: ride on it, walk by it, carry it - there will always be criticism and mocking and dissatisfaction coming from other people.
Being kind and treating people with respect even when they do not deserve it, does not take much IQ, and that is successful in itself.
@@ranc1977 I need to practice it from today with lots of patience . thank you @ranc 1
@@shreyasreenath9197 Yeah, when you understand this, it will make earthquake shifts inside ourselves. For starters, we will become aware how many toxic people we attracted in our lives, it will be like awakening from coma or hypnosis, and - natural consequence will be cutting contact with many of them. This also include making new contacts or reinforcing old ones, which are more healthier.
Up next are toxic habits.
And it will be coming up with new radical ideas which may entail many changes - for the better. This is what will happen when our self worth is inside us and we are focused on it as oppose to other people's opinions and orders and criticism.
If people disrespect you, give them
The gift of missing you
Nicky put. Thank you ♥️
Nicely put, that is 💕♥️
Yes..we have to do only this..
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I am not Buddhism... but i love this teaching. if you love your self you wont your self get angry...
I’ve suffered with serious toxic people all my life it’s only very recently I’ve opened my eyes to protect myself by cutting myself off from them thank you for your video
Don't give them what they expected to get. Calmness is a marvellous virtue.
Thanks very much for this information. 👏
True. Such a shame it's not one of mine. It's honestly my biggest struggle. It sounds so easy, doesn't it?
Toxic people dominate and degrade me….
I love it 🔥🌈🤭🤭😘
People need to learn not to give a shit lol
Sociopaths and narcissists use "calmness" and a soft voice to manipulate and to control, and to play innocent in order to blame the real victim.
Walking away from toxic people is a therapeutic step forward & positive. No words need to be exchanged, just a letting go, is all that's needed.
You'll only know how great the feeling is, once you do it.
Thankyou
I agree completely & live by this 🙏
Yes walking away is a solution but what if they start triggering you.
How can we let go everytime?
@@sakshibagga3771 it’s hard, so hard, but not impossible. The more you practice, the easier it will get. Don’t beat yourself up for slipping up, just commit to trying again the next time. Something that helped me was asking myself if I wanted this person to have power over me, because when someone gets a reaction out of you, that is their power over you. Nobody treating you poorly should get that power. Besides, what they want is to get a rise out of you, so by not reacting or by walking away, you completely remove their power over you, you deny them what they want, and, most importantly, you are protecting your peace. ❤️🩹 You got this!
how I walk away from super toxic mother/brother-in-law?
I am muslim but I follow gautam buddah and it makes me such a good human.. I always watch your videos and try to improve my self as I can do…and have a dream to meet with you gurujiiii face to face. Namo budhdhai..💐🌺
I'm here again listening to you. I seriously appreciate you very much. Your videos help me so much to become better. Namo budhaya 🙏❤️🇵🇭
What a beautiful person. I have two toxic people in my life. They have caused me a lot of stress. I am very old and have had beautiful lifelong friends who sadly all passed now. I have never come across this situation before and this program has encouraged me enormously. Thank you so much, you kind and gentle man.
age just a number if u young inside I have very toxic hatefull someone my gift to him silence because he's pure evil for so many years
I love your stories
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It's been two months. Has your stress disappeared ?
Smiling at angry, toxic , screaming ppl can be dangerous in certain situations. Your smile- no matter how positive- can be misinterpreted as arrogance and sarcasm, and the situation can easily escalate
Lara D true
I knew i felt uneasy about his advice, and you articulated it well why. These are impossible standards to meet to be completely unphased by a dude screaming at you.
The message is not that you should smile at angry people. It’s that you shouldn’t let their anger and harsh words in your head.
Yes, I love what he says but I have to agree with that. I vividly remember one time i decided to try not to hear what my husband was screaming at me, just be positive and smile..he got so angry I had to run out of the house and hide in the woods. I guess the advice is good if you sre dealing with normal people, but not with batshit crazy ones.
100% correct! “WIPE that SMILE off your face or I’ll do it for you!”
Have been blessed with times when people were ‘blame shifting’ or ‘shame dumping’ on me & was instantly able to see that it was THEIR ISSUE & my silent look was one of curiosity on many levels.
it just hits different when the toxic people are your own blood
So glad I watched this again! This is now at the top of my Health folder.
Ten Wholesome Ways
1. No killing
2. No stealing
3. No sexual misconduct
4. No lying
5. No abusive speech
6. No slander
7. No enticing speech
8. No greed
9. No anger and
10. No ignorance/delusion/attachment
11. Be vegan.
That would go against point #1.
Plants are living beings.
@tansuee7757 What do you mean by No sexual misconduct?
@@globe2555 lol, raping or misconducting with other humans , except ur accepted partners .. it's for lay men , afterall monks don't have partners but eventhey can misconduct , so simply as that ... it's to remove ur lust ..
@@rabbitcreative That should be on the top of the list
Veganism is the future
ඔබ වහන්සේට මේ ජීවිතයේදීම උතුම් චතුරාර්ය සත්ය අවබෝධ කර ගැනීමට වාසනාව ලැබේවා 🙏🙏🙏
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എന്താണ് ചതുർഭുജ സത്യങ്ങൾ
Dukkha, Samudaya, Nirodha & Marga.
The Four Noble Truths
They are the truth of suffering, the truth of the cause of suffering, the truth of the end of suffering, and the truth of the path that leads to the end of suffering. More simply put, suffering exists; it has a cause; it has an end; and it has a cause to bring about its end.
@@elizabethvarghese5511 The Four Noble Truths are central teachings in Buddhism that outline the nature of suffering and the path to its cessation. They were the first teachings given by the Buddha after his enlightenment.
1. Dukkha: The Truth of Suffering
- **Understanding Dukkha**: The first noble truth is often summarized as "life is suffering," but this is an oversimplification. Dukkha encompasses not only overt suffering like pain and sorrow but also a more subtle dissatisfaction that pervades all forms of life due to impermanence. Even joy and happiness are seen as dukkha because they are impermanent and eventually lead to suffering when they cease.
- **Types of Dukkha**: Traditionally, dukkha is categorized into three types:
1. **Dukkha-dukkha**: The suffering of suffering. This refers to obvious suffering and pain.
2. **Viparinama-dukkha**: The suffering of change. This refers to the suffering caused by the change, such as the loss of loved ones or the end of pleasure.
3. **Sankhara-dukkha**: The suffering of conditioning. This is a more subtle form of suffering that arises from our mental formations and attachments, even in the absence of overt pain or change.
### 2. Samudaya: The Truth of the Cause of Suffering
- **The Role of Desire**: The second truth identifies desire or craving as the root cause of suffering. This includes not just desires for pleasure but also the desire for existence or non-existence.
- **Three Types of Desire**:
1. **Kama-tanha**: Craving for sensual pleasures.
2. **Bhava-tanha**: Craving for existence, or becoming.
3. **Vibhava-tanha**: Craving for non-existence, or cessation.
### 3. Nirodha: The Truth of the Cessation of Suffering
- **Achieving Nirvana**: The cessation of suffering is achieved by extinguishing tanha (craving). Nirvana, the ultimate goal of Buddhism, is a state of liberation and freedom from suffering. It's described as a state of peace and release where there is no more craving, aversion, or delusion.
### 4. Magga: The Truth of the Path to the Cessation of Suffering
- **The Noble Eightfold Path**: This is the practical guideline to ethical and mental development with the goal of freeing the individual from attachments and delusions; it leads to understanding the truth of all things. It is often divided into three core sections:
1. **Wisdom (Panna)**:
- Right View: Understanding the Four Noble Truths.
- Right Intention: Commitment to ethical and mental self-improvement.
2. **Ethical Conduct (Sila)**:
- Right Speech: Speaking truthfully and kindly.
- Right Action: Acting in non-harmful ways.
- Right Livelihood: A non-harmful occupation.
3. **Mental Discipline (Samadhi)**:
- Right Effort: Cultivating positive states of mind.
- Right Mindfulness: Being aware and mindful of thoughts, feelings, and actions.
- Right Concentration: Developing deep concentration through meditation.
### Practical Application
To apply these truths in one's life, one begins with understanding and accepting the reality of suffering and its cause. Practicing mindfulness and meditation helps in observing one's mind and reducing attachments and aversions. Ethical living strengthens this practice by minimizing harm to oneself and others, creating a supportive environment for spiritual growth.
The Eightfold Path is not necessarily sequential; it's a holistic practice where progress in one area can support growth in others. By walking this path, one gradually uproots the causes of suffering, leading to greater peace, liberation, and enlightenment.
What the world needs is more love and kindness ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Intelligence
Master, i am a Catholic, I learnt this afternoon from my lady colleague, that a male colleague, who is new, made false allegation against me etc etc. The interesting part of me is, I didn’t feel anything, like anger, hurt etc. because I know the Lord is with me. I also remember your sharing, always smile
I think it's helpful to remember that at some point in all of our lives, we have manifested toxic behavior. This humble realization can allow one to develop true empathy and compassion. That being said, one should try to remove oneself from abusive situations when possible.
True! Also you can manifest toxic behavior just from the environment and/or people around you! Please don’t always point the finger at yourself! As the culprit
Yes
Wow! This is so true and humbling. Wise words for those of us on the journey.
absolutely true.
I don't think so only those who think they are too great turn out to be toxic I have never done anything toxic so far
I have always justified toxic people.. I believe toxic people are just victims of their own stories, experiences, decisions etc. But I came to the point where instead of letting them draining me, my happiness and my energies I put a distance with them, to me that’s the way to love them but to love myself too
I so much agree n believe the same, it'll not easy though, but I try as much possible.. Coz of course I distance myself Or nott even enter that place, but the thoughts are there in mind which somewhere hurts me badly..
But still I try to avoid such people.. And keep telling them in mind.. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
So true they are projecting their own fears on us !
"That's the way to love them but to love myself, too." Thank you for this. ❤
It is not your job to save anyone and you will be go down with them if you try to save them! This isn’t Christianity which is the point lol
Everyone is basically in a 3-foot deep kiddy pool choosing to drown and refuse to just stand up and stop drowning
Your smiling face and silence is answer for those toxic people nice sermon. Never provide them what they want 👏
❤️Budhisam ❤️ is not a religion ❤️it is Culture of uplifting life values ❤️ peace ❤️calm ❤️ happiness ❤️ Life ❤️❤️love u supreme BUDDHA ❤️❤️..
It is a philosophy which encourages you to dig down and find and apply your own philosophy ❤
Thank you
Iam dealing with my whole toxic family ..Iam too scared to get any news from them .. it’s alway stressful thing and troubles time after time for 20 year..
And they expect me to take care of thier problems and finances..
Just like it’s my job and responsibility for all of them ..
I live my family a lot but they treat me like dirt and no respect to me ..
I have enough of them .. I cut the contact with them and living happily ever after ..
They will never change and I feel hurt for a long line time until I recognize they all toxic to me ..and they all selfish ..
So true, I wish we could get away from toxic relationships, but they are a result of our own karmic accounts with them. It is better to finish the accounts in this life itself so that there is hope to get harmonious happy people in next life. For me there is no escape...so, I drown myself in spiritual activities and knowledge. It gives a lot of solace .
What a session!! I have always reacted horribly when attacked or treated badly. Now i know the wise to handle that. Many thanks
I'm Christian but I always love listening to the wonderful Buddhist teachings❤
@user. Yes, both Buddha & Jesus taught loving kindness. And when we view the world & respond to it from a spiritual perspective we are protected by the Dhamma.❤
I am a big fan of Buddha's teachings because it not only soothes me but calms my mind and body. His teachings develop a sense of positivity not only around but also in my own aura. Sharnam buddham ghachami 🙏🏼
I am so proud to hear when someone praises our lord buddha.he is above all the gods and brahmas in this universe.thank you for mentioning good about our lord Buddha.
what about a WADDDLING TORNADO Woman huge ranting irate woman!
@@stepstoknowinggod PM
@@kalpanikaushalya2948 I’m
Smiling and looking at the toxic person! From Gautama Buddha k!
I am suffering from toxic people,i saw this video and this video totally teaches me how to stay away from toxic people and now I am feeling better. My mind feels relaxing 😊
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My 42yr old daughter is mean.My anxiety is so bad because of the games she plays. She is vindictive towards me. My anxiety is so bad.And she lives inside me.There is no getting away
May Almighty God bless this monk ❤️🙏
Really a great lesson ❤❤
It's actually better to be in a holy unviolent silent path leading to success rather than to be on the path of anger and revenge. 💞💞
This is so true … I recently did this to a violent man that is used to deal with people in a bad way. He kept silence after I said to him: I’m so full of joy that nothing can’t disturb the peace inside of my soul
powerful words
Was he really a violent person??
@@rruwanweerasinghe4482 yes … it was, unfortunately
Oh I love that! Well done 🙂
Edit: in how you handled it. I hope you're not around that person anymore and are safe
Yea this is very true its 2023 so far I've been letting go of toxic people and family members and neighbors in my neighborhood so I've been ignoring toxic people now I'm focusing on my big goals and dreams in my notebook and been doing meditation for 5 years I learn everyday and been getting better of making me happy everyday 😎👍🏽
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I have a lot of toxic people in my life and most of the time if someone yells at me I yell at them but now I learned that I should be positive in front of bad people after watching your video, thank you❤❤❤❤
This is so true and it is amazing how people suddenly change before your eyes.
I am loving the lessons from Buddha, I'm dealing with toxic people in my life now. This is a good lesson.
Claire Willatt. If you want to learn and understand more about God’s Word in depth. Listen to this podcast titled, Steps To Knowing God
It’s available on all podcast platforms and it will help you grow spiritually. Blessings
@@stepstoknowinggod it’s my understanding Buddha is not god… sooo what are you promoting?? Just curious what your message is here…
@@suecastillo4056 exactly! Buddha is not God and will never be God. Am promoting the the true and living God. The creator of the heavens and earth.
@@suecastillo4056 - ❤️ your ‘SILENCE’.
@@stepstoknowinggod omg Bible basher
Wow it helped me so much. Yesterday, I faced this situation at work where it was not my mistake still some1 scold at me. I tried to explain myself first but the person kept on blaming me. Then I said sorry. Coming back home I was disturbed & thinking why I didn’t reply differently. But You said it right sometimes Silence is the best answer.
When I became a student of Vipassana, that story of the Buddha was shared with us. I loved it. Thank you so much. Thank you for words of truth.
Your advice is so lovely, thank you. A few years ago in my journey for peace I began to learn a better mindset very much like this and am thankful to have found your video. I am continually learning and practicing
People can throw the ball at you but you don't have to catch it...and then throw it back.... you can simply allow the ball to fly straight past you as though it was never even thrown (as its had no effect on you whatsoever)!
Sending peace and love to all ♥️
Yeah....what if the ball hits you in the eye, breaks your glasses and you need medical attention.
Pay it no mind, just smile, it's just a toxic ball in your face.
This. Thank you. 😊
What happens when that ball smashes you in the face while unaware of it in front of many familiar people who laugh hysterically aiming to humiliate you?
Sometimes the ball hits you in the head though.
Wow❤
I was a Christian for 30 years . Till I discovered that if the kingdom of God is within us….. we must go within through meditation . So grateful that I was lead to discover this truth !
Good one mate. Charles Bukowski and Allan Watts, will remind you, you are a miracle, a God. Hoe amazing life is .. 'aroha' from New Zealand. Nicko
I heard the saying that prayer is you talking to the universe and meditation is the universe talking to you. I find listening to be preferable to talking.
@@cherylkeys1284 - Well ‘SAID’.
Same here. Namaste.
I like this Mexican Buddhist
He doesnt have to talk when i see him smile i feel immediately calm and peacfull...
again thank you for making these videos, they go right to the core, without any hatred or judgement. Very helpful.
This is a wonderful teaching and very timely for me. Peace to all who hear this teaching. May all beings be free from suffering. 🙏☸️
Great advice, 🙏
So true but easier said than done
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This is practical advise. When somebody is yelling at you or abusing you, it is his problem, not yours. Just think that something is wrong with them....he is suffering from some issues...
Good advice. I dont smile I dont talk but keep quiet . But it takes on my health.
ධර්මය මේ ආකාරයට මුලු ලෝකයටම ප්රචාරනය කරන ආකාරය දැක්කම සතුටු කදුලු එනවා...
Ow eka aththa yaluva..math dakka godak vena rata vala ayage Camments 🙏🙂❤🧡
All my gratitude to you for keeping the Light On to each human soul .
Thank you for this lesson. I really needed to hear this today! 🙏🙏🙏
Makes sense, when I'm angry, I can't see or hear, but my mouth is going 100mph... Silence is the key. I must practice this technique. Thank you kind person
පින්වත් ස්වාමීන් වහන්සේට මාගේ නමස්කාරය වේවා !!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼May triple gem bless ,everybody who listened this great dhamma...🙏🙏🌼🌼
What an amazing thought! Thank you so so much for sharing the story Sir.
This video reminds us that we have the power to choose how we respond to toxic people and situations. By cultivating inner peace and focusing on our own growth, we can create a positive ripple effect and potentially even inspire positive change in those around us.
Keeping silence n bursting with tears ..why can't people love n care as we do..why they don't see that they are hurting someone's feelings..😭
Thank you... I have been surrounded by toxic people my whole life😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒but I grateful to those who still make me happy in different ways....🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
Life is a mysterious experience and we can always learn something along the way, being it good or bad ❤ stay safe
Such an inspiration. Unfortunately it’s true some toxic people comes from our own family. I feel it rn 😢
I noticed toxic people insists on TALKING to you…, you see whether they’re aware of it or not when you actually speak you release your energy and the toxic person feeds on that. They get better and stronger and you get their garbage and lose your good energy. Ignore them .
Not all
This is so true. I have noticed this also. And they will seek you out. They know that you're avoiding them, but they will literally hunt you down.
Relatable
Correct! These people just want to get into a conversation and they are quite desperate in doing so. Their dedication is highly commendable. 😂🤦
I was literally in this moment about an hour ago. And the treatment and words I received was hard for me to hear and be treated as such. I prayed so hard in my mind I wanted to cry from the hurt but I made it guy’s
Dionna. If you want to learn and understand more about God’s Word in depth. Listen to this podcast titled, Steps To Knowing God
It’s available on all podcast platforms and it will help you grow spiritually. Blessings
Buddha means happiness.!.. .
You did it and you are the real diciple of lord Buddha
Aw! Congratulations! I truly relate!! 🫂
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Thank you so much! I'm dealing with someone in a hobby group that has been a real pain and it was triggering my anxiety really hard. This video truly helped me ❤
I can listen your teaching peacefully while working or reading, thank you so much.
Words of wisdom. I have toxic neighbors who used to really make me angry and sad. But I liked your advice to never let them see your angry/sad face because thats giving them what they want! Namaste
Me too; I was offered mediation, but I thought that once they know for sure the impact of their behaviour, that will encourage them to continue.
People don't have the power to hurt us.
The emotion of hurt is created by us alone.
This is the essence of Stoicism as well. 😊🙏🏻
I can't thank you enough for this video. I'm going to repeat every word you've just said. Thank you very much indeed
This is great. Reminds me of the saying that anger is a poison you want to give to others , but you end up drinking yourself.
i think it is best to stay away from toxic people, they bring one down,and they talk nonsense and insist you listen, because they think they are always right, they take no notice of what one says, they don't like one to have an opinion, it can be very depressing.
@@manasirpriyogaan9438 thankyou, rose
You nailed it.
There is so much love and kindness in your eyes that I find you incredible healing. Thank you for helping us. So appreciate.
Thank you for this video. I prefer not to think of the problem as "toxic people" but to think of it as toxicity in people in general.
Most people aren't toxic people, but many are capable of toxic behaviors sometimes and it's important to know how to deal with that when it happens.
I love this.
Thanku so much..i needed it the most today...and tomorrow I will handle the situation just like this .and I am sure ...i am going to win it with compassion ❤...
Thanks. I needed this today.
I have a student (im a teacher) who is very toxic. This was a lovely lesson.
When I see this there, I feel he is so happy to teach us Buddhism and also he is a smiling thero.
Thank you for guidance set out in your video. I have the upmost respect for lord buddha. The way he handled the angry person is definitely the way to do it. We can all learn from this wise action. 🙏🏽❤
Thank you so much for this golden advice.
I appreciate this so much!
Namo Buddhaya 🙏❤
Totally agree...been experienced with my neighbor just listening for their lies and just smile at them every time we see each other☺️Namo Buddhaya!
You are right. Love and kindness are more important than anger.
beneath anger lies grief
This video, these words you have given, have helped me alot. I'm struggling with a person whom is mentally ill having grudges towards me, husband and my son. I have to dela with hers constant hatred, cursing words, anger behaviour all the time. There have been few times where I have to deal with her also by words and end up hurting myself for a very long period of time. It takes a very long time for me to forget. But, your advice gives me light for this problem. The best part is" don't receive their treat". A smile and a strong positive attitude is what all I need to deal with this person. I love myself so much that I'm not going to give any more chances for toxic people to teat me down. Thank you so much for this wonderful video.
This is fantastic. Loved the accompanying music also. Not too loud not too soft and not too busy. Much appreciated.
බොහොම පින් ස්වාමින්වහන්ස මේ වටිනා ධර්ම කරුණු කියලා දෙනවට.......
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WOW I have something to learn here, thank you most humbly for this lesson Bhutan. I was in such a situation quite recently and it hurt me the most afterwards to get angry!
Thank you very much your beautiful words healing me, I'm in a toxic situation I cry every day under my blankets, I hope one day God will take me out of this situation I'm facing right now.
This is such an eye opener for me as in my practice I try to be accepting of everything... While acceptance is a large part of Buddhism in many ways this is powerful in recognizing the scrutiny we should have in what and how we interpret our experiences. There are things we don't have to accept and that can still be done with a smile in loving kindness.
"thus have I heard" - One of the great Buddhist teachers (Atisha?) of long ago traveled from India to Tibet , choosing to take along a very difficult man to assist him so that he could practice meeting the challenges of a difficult companion.
Excellent video-but remember NO CONTACT with those that hurt you with on going abuse (including relatives-family members) otherwise you become part of the problem (victimology and you become angry and will lash out)-and no judgment-we can’t judge however we need to stay away from them!
I don't think the Buddha taught to cut people off.
@@hellofromdave actually my friend a catholic priest on EWTN just commented sometimes it’s best to stay away from someone to avoid sin! I wonder if a monk would agree?
@@hellofromdave NO CONTACT with those that hurt you---mentally or physically. Blessings to all that do not understand or have not experienced this kind of hurt in their lives...yet
@@christophercardenas157 but the best thing is to train your mind to not be affected by toxic people. Avoiding them is not the best way. But if you feel like you can't do it yet it's better to avoid. But if you learn how to not be affected then even if you meet toxic people in the future you can live without pain
@@lillilmeowmeow4262 Avoiding them is...the best way...it's better to avoid...(and) not be affected (by) toxic people...(then) in the (present and) future you can live without pain. Again, Blessings to all that do not understand or have not experienced this kind of... toxic people... hurt in their lives...yet
Thank you very much for your words of wisdom. I have been living in a world of toxic and aggressive people. I will endure your teaching. Namaste master.
Thank you for sharing. My work deals with people, and now I begin to see light in your message. Bring a smile no matter what the situation calls. ❤I will try and work on this
Great advice! Remember folks you have to practise this for a long time before you get good at it in every situation.
We have to live with toxic people. Noble lessons for us. Many thanks 🙏🙏🙏
Just wanted to leave a comment for this buddhist monk, thankyou.
Your videos have helped me so much with my depression and anxiety, in such a very short time.
I appreciate you sharing your teachings with all of the world 🌎 ❤
Are you incorporating buddhist wisdom more in your life?
Thank you so much sir.... U saved my life mentally..cause i was dying inside my mind..... It was killing me from inside ... ☘️
Actually I thought people around me will understand me and help me in tough times. Now after knowing abt toxic people and experimenting it practically I found that 99% of people around me r very toxic. These many days I was expecting some support from them but now I understood no one will support me. I have to support myself. Thank you Sir for ur lectures. I will constantly hear ur lectures.
I always try to keep silent when dealing with toxic situations with those people but acting is very hard and complicated when expressing our inner feelings within our facial expressions. I think I have to more practice to improve my mentality to be strong. Thank you very much for your valuble thoughts .....🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Great ! I had been listening to different versions of this story. But the way you explained is fantastic and made me listen to your talk again.
I am aware when I get angry and realise it exposes my weak mind.
Hence in the process of acquiring that state of compassion, self-love, calmness and positivity.
Thank you on this Guru poornima Day!
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I am a believer in keeping silent when I deal with the toxic person in my life. You see, when he is abusing me verbally, I have found that by reacting, no matter how innocently, like sometimes I have said I didn’t do that it’s not my fault. You see saying that always makes him say more rude things to me. So ifHe says rude things to me, I usually just sit and innocently listen to his crap. I have tried to defend myself, and he never listens to my self-defense or supports me in any way when he is being abusive.
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Yes me too. It’s so hard when it’s your family hurting you. I also am working on this. Not reacting.
So much wisdom here, said so peacefully, I am blown away!
Thank you for sharing heart-warming wisdom. I really needed this teaching.
Greetings from Slovakia. Thank you for your valuable presentations enabling people to change their lives in positive way.
This video absolutely helped me so much right now. I have a toxic family. Thank you so much and I hope that this video keeps reaching people🥺❤
I understand you, I feel you.
@@angelsraziellaino6122 good 🙏🙂
Thank you so much, im dealing with this situation in my life now, but im okey, because of this teaching
Thanks. I really could get out of a recent problem faced by me at my office after listening to your wonderful advice.
At this moment onward i became your disciple .you given me an insite in my mind . i got relaxed a lot m now i can sleep well and fear in my mind gone away thank you my great guru.budhaya namaha ❤️🎈
I have got much and more power to control our anger by listening this story
Thank You Sir
WONDERFUL EXPLANATION TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE..DON'T BOTHER TOXIC PEOPLE AROUND US...LOTS OF LOVE ❤️ &PRANAM JANYE..NAMASTE JOY BUDDHA ❤
You have such a beautiful face! Your kindness radiates from every facial expression you make. You’ve really inspired me. Thank you🥰
Thx for the teaching. Which I very well know, for a long time. I've done this so many times in my life, even way before I knew about the teaching. Being a very compassionate person and an empath, it's natural to me. Alas, I haven't experienced any positive reactions by just smiling, or asking that question. Maybe it may work with mild anger. It absolutely doesn't work with a narcissist, nor a pervert. Angry people don't listen. Never. You can't tell them a story !! They need to be stopped in their tracks. And the best way I have experienced is, after trying to calm things down, smiling etc., they are worse, I had to send them back their anger in kind of the same mode they did. Alas. It demands very much from me, but at least they diminish or stop, and I'm not full of their hate. If one lets someone just go on and on, and just smiling or saying nothing, or wanting to discuss, forget it! It's going to escalate. That's just a fact, out of experience. I wish it were different. And even when the person is calmed down, the story is maybe heard, but later not applied. Anger comes from way further, deep down. And needs intense therapy to get that into grip. But, anyway, it's always nice listening to Buddha's teachings! At least for inner peace. 🙏🌸