Why do men lie so much?

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  • @vamanm
    @vamanm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +784

    Stop telling men everything you are looking for in a man. Reason, he will put on a show and act like he is at your standards when in reality he is manipulating you into thinking he is the man you're looking for. Once he has you hooked, he will drop you like a hot cake.

    • @quincyjackson4377
      @quincyjackson4377 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Woman do the exact same without ever hearing what a man wants.

    • @StephaniesWorld7
      @StephaniesWorld7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen

    • @vamanm
      @vamanm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@StephaniesWorld7 :)

    • @pooh4025
      @pooh4025 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      .... shut up and listen...that's all we have to do.

    • @northernroots6807
      @northernroots6807 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's what some of them do.

  • @LanetteMo917
    @LanetteMo917 4 ปีที่แล้ว +292

    I've said it over and over..Alot of women talk to much..Tell to much..If he dont ask you..Dont volunteer the information...Sit back and let him lead..You follow..

    • @Nekole1
      @Nekole1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Love this comment. This is exactly how I am.

    • @laurenlocd3180
      @laurenlocd3180 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      And even if he does ask ... still only tell half the truth . Don’t give him a cheat code to your heart.

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly...

    • @musicsoullove12
      @musicsoullove12 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      But you know what’s funny?? You can still give them the code, the full password to your heart, and they’ll still fumble and fall short

    • @SAlex-uy1io
      @SAlex-uy1io 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Uchenna Esomonu that’s why you don’t give a man all of your heart

  • @greengoddessof75
    @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    I'm not taking a lie from another man!! If your broken go get fixed!!!🙏🏾✊🏾

    • @tishc24
      @tishc24 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Janice R Handy ‼️‼️‼️‼️

    • @scooby1970m
      @scooby1970m 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Then you gonna have to stop talking to men😆

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@scooby1970m Tony,is proof that there's good men left.

    • @scooby1970m
      @scooby1970m 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@greengoddessof75 Just joking, Tru, Tony give us hope!

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@scooby1970m Yes he does!!!✊🏾

  • @sherryager4722
    @sherryager4722 4 ปีที่แล้ว +326

    They lie because they want to lie. Lying takes energy. And men put more energy into their lies than they do their lives.

    • @kaynone1726
      @kaynone1726 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Truth....damn shame..

    • @musicsoullove12
      @musicsoullove12 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Preach! Lying takes way more energy

    • @marybraidot5675
      @marybraidot5675 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why men brag?

    • @OhSoCarmen
      @OhSoCarmen 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Preach Queen!!! No truer words have ever been spoken!

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right? Why don’t you improve yourself? Girl I have no problem calling him out at his church right in front of his pastor. It’s a real church so I got to do the calling out his pastors would. Lol! They sure were wondering about me when I showed up there with him at church. I think if everyone just came to church and didn’t fake anything the world would be a better place kind of like how people act in AA. Lol!

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    A married man told me he was single. I found out he was married later on my own. Why did he lie to? He wanted me to have no issue sleeping with him. I could care less about his pain when I have pain of my own: Men trying to use me for sex. I am no man's therapist. That is a job I don't want.

  • @StephaniesWorld7
    @StephaniesWorld7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +335

    “When a man lies, he is lying from his insecurities” 🙏🏽🙌🏽

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Eternity With Christ .. I agree with both of you. It could also be because of greed

    • @taramay8174
      @taramay8174 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel like its insecurity

  • @louisejones9253
    @louisejones9253 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    All lies cost you... if he lies about the little things, he’ll lie about the big things

  • @Nekole1
    @Nekole1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    Men do tell alot of lies to get the woman they want especially if the woman seems to be out of his league. Getting to know someone and being in a relationship is a risk because you just never know how truthful someone is being.

    • @logic888
      @logic888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Noelle Kennedy hmm... the last ting i went through makes sense now🤣😭😂

    • @amilllion1
      @amilllion1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Let the actions speak ( long term consistent actions)

  • @CoachHC
    @CoachHC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    Sometimes men just lie for no reason. This is good stuff. Be Blessed

    • @CoachHC
      @CoachHC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know those kinds to, but I had an ex husband who I knew who drank but would lie about drinking, hide his 211 behind our daughters bed, under sink. The alcohol was coming out of his pores. Again lying for no reason to convince yourself.

    • @ZfenProductions
      @ZfenProductions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Coach H Cohane the reason was that he don’t want u to know that he is an alcoholic 🤔

  • @LeafsIn2024
    @LeafsIn2024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    😞 So much selfishness... so many double lives... too many lies... all their anxiety and treating us like a prescription without any regard for the damage they're causing. Thank you for addressing this very painful, deceptive, hidden agenda and far too common and timely topic, Tony. Be blessed.

    • @tashaequeen8935
      @tashaequeen8935 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Well said sis, a lot of these men are f'd up seriously. Smh

    • @tashaequeen8935
      @tashaequeen8935 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@LeafsIn2024 You are welcome love!💕

  • @lourdeslee4429
    @lourdeslee4429 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The last man I dated lied to me and said he dated one of his female friends. He then told me he never said it and made me feel like a fool for “believing” him.

  • @TT-ht5lu
    @TT-ht5lu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Always observe and listen men tell on themselves...pray God will direct you

  • @lynnerene
    @lynnerene 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    My father once told me that you can tell when a man is lying because his lips are moving 🤣.🤷🏾‍♀️ That was it. Thanks, Bro. Tony for the context & explanation! #blessedtribe

    • @weareallone6148
      @weareallone6148 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      😂😂😂😂😂😂
      That was a good one from Dad!

  • @nicoelle
    @nicoelle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    "Neospeern"... lol

    • @JONTEBEAUTY1
      @JONTEBEAUTY1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Nicole I rewind that part twice 🤣🤣🤣 I’m so silly 😜

    • @lionelluva
      @lionelluva 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Nicole 😂😂😂😂

    • @MzzTPC
      @MzzTPC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I was like a what?? 2nd time around was better. Love me some Tony Gaskins accent. Lolol

    • @ShanBaby80
      @ShanBaby80 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      😂😂😂

    • @Trinitys_lifestyle1233
      @Trinitys_lifestyle1233 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I almost died! 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Shae_3
    @Shae_3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    If he married and separated he definitely lying!!!!!

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Or in an open marriage lying about he single. I been in this situation for 3 yrs and just finding out he is marriage.. He have his own house and she have hers. How sad people are nowadays!! Why marry?

    • @danaallen6946
      @danaallen6946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@greengoddessof75 Now that you know he is married, just leave him alone. Because what he will do to his current wife, he will do to you if you continue with him onto marriage.

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@danaallen6946 I am,but she is the one that wanted it open. She is 53 and he is 46.

    • @danaallen6946
      @danaallen6946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@greengoddessof75 I made the comment because I learned the hard way about men. I married a man of what society would consider a hoe or player. You cant believe anything a man tells you. Especially one willing to have a romantic relationship with you knowing he is still married. If anything he should have divorced his wife 1st, then started back courting. The bottom line is he is a married man that lied to you or was not upfront with you about it. You deserve better.

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@danaallen6946 You are 100 percent right! And I have moved on, but that was out of her mouth.

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    It’s scary to deal with men who don’t understand...you don’t have to lie to kick it. When a man’s self esteem is grounded in the self...it does not matter who bombards him with ideas of who he should be! Lies keep him from being seen as a positive, necessary, and welcomed addition to the lives of others. Who wants to deal with this???

  • @AllThingsTiffanyTV
    @AllThingsTiffanyTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    This video is so valid and true. I love to listen anyway. I use to fire back when i was younger but now i live in peace and healing. My friends always say we call to vent to Tiffany because she listens and have great feedback. Even in dating, males have said dang i talk too much with you and i say nooo tell me more please. Whole time I’m doing a full evaluation 🧐🧐 lol

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You and I are so much alike!

    • @dcryptospace1284
      @dcryptospace1284 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      TiffanyB TV Right!! Lol😂👍🏾

    • @weareuniqueforareason7503
      @weareuniqueforareason7503 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here sis

    • @luulips
      @luulips 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah they tell me all kinds of stuff 🙌🏽 🙌🏽 🙌🏽

    • @logic888
      @logic888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      TiffanyB TV wisdom.

  • @jaymibowie241
    @jaymibowie241 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    We as women are so blessed, that you're breaking the man code for us, Thank you!!

  • @lonnicadarden
    @lonnicadarden 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    "They say money don't buy happiness but everyone wants to find out for themselves. " Wow. Such a powerful statement!
    And as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, you are so right Tony. I've told clients this as well. When someone lies, it's not a reflection of you but instead of themselves.

    • @mrs.atkins3930
      @mrs.atkins3930 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      A year later. Yes, that saying about money is a good one. I first heard it said by motivational speaker Les Brown here on TH-cam. I absolutely enjoy his "It's Possible" series.

  • @phillyflytee9849
    @phillyflytee9849 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Again this is why I stay single. Period.........

  • @cherh
    @cherh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    At this point in my life it's all about me. I have to take care of me so 3 Bs in full affect! Ladies at this point focus on yourself and if a man comes along he's a bonus feature 🤷🏾‍♀️ Be blessed! 💫

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cher H Facts

    • @freedom123-j8j
      @freedom123-j8j 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yap!🙌

    • @lynnerene
      @lynnerene 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      100%

    • @cherh
      @cherh 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Glamrocs ☑❗

    • @cherh
      @cherh 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@freedom123-j8j 💯❗

  • @ruthwells3990
    @ruthwells3990 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I’m not even 5 minutes into it and you have said a mouth full. This was my son father; losing his soul to gain an empire and too self absorbed to be a father. I’m going to finish this video, Be Blessed Mr Gaskins, and safe travels

  • @CaramelKissez
    @CaramelKissez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    For women it's having a child making you a women. They feel like you don't know what life is if you have no kids. I prefer to bring one into the world with my husband. We have enough kids with dysfunction .

    • @CaramelKissez
      @CaramelKissez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Eternity With Christ When the time is right. Thank you

    • @amilllion1
      @amilllion1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen

  • @missj5564
    @missj5564 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I let the men do most of the talking and I listen and HEAR exactly what they are saying, which has saved me from going into some very bad relationships and also getting out of a few after a short while. I will continue to let the man talk and I listen, this will be a great way to find out his true intentions and also to learn about him. I also watch to see if his actions match his words.

  • @sunmoonstars1611
    @sunmoonstars1611 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Thank you, Tony. I’m heading to the Himalayas to become a monk. This is soooo messed up. I don’t have the time for the games and someone to deal with their issues. In their 20s, is acceptable. What about a man 35, 40 or 50? I used to wonder why a lot of older women used to say they want to be by themselves. Now, I see. I think I’m getting to that point...

    • @marciloni12
      @marciloni12 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yup, it only gets worse more messy as they get oler

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      As long as there's life, there is hope

    • @jacquiewilliams6699
      @jacquiewilliams6699 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      As an older woman, I feel you SunMoon Stars and as much as I feel lonely at times and for the 2 I've met my age or 4-5 years older I prefer to stay to myself the lies and the drama are not worth the headache.

    • @jacquiewilliams6699
      @jacquiewilliams6699 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marciloni12 I agree big time

    • @sunmoonstars1611
      @sunmoonstars1611 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jacquiewilliams6699 I'm up in age, too. NO MORE.

  • @northernroots6807
    @northernroots6807 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    A lie don't care who tell it.

  • @skinchampagne
    @skinchampagne 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    The way you explained their reasoning in the first 5 mins is SO TRUE and that can apply to anyone with things stacked against them.

  • @triinab960
    @triinab960 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You are speaking the truth. I'm currently dealing with a man that has deal with a lot in his life, and its soooo hard to understand him ALOT since I been with him. He is a hard worker, but after the work is over, he tend to forget the importance that surrounds or in his life. He drinks ALOT, not compassionate at all its like I have to be the one getting affectionate & its getting old. He said he been hurt in his past with woman, but I'm not them & I let him know that several times. I'm getting to the point where I'm tired of trying. I'm a good women with a good heart.. I deserve BETTER..

  • @SimplyFitwithJay
    @SimplyFitwithJay 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “If a man is not married and faithful, he is a liar.” My husband literally told me this a couple of weeks ago.

  • @tab2go675
    @tab2go675 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    These are lies/betrayal to himself that manifest in our relationships.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Eternity With Christ .. that's true and it takes time to build trust. Trust must be earned. However, lies can quickly tear that trust down

    • @shugg881
      @shugg881 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow that is exactly what happened to me. You at soooooo on point. I'm so glad to have a real mans perspective now cause my friends dont know what they're talking about, lol. I've never been a big talker. When he realized I wasnt putting up with his crap and I left him, he woke up and I only started to listen more to see where he is really coming from. He opened up more and things changed for the better and I learned a lot more about him. We have a real friendship now. Ladies you will know if a man really cares for you. It''s just within us to know and we dont even realize it. Just really watch the signs!

  • @parvoxlox5532
    @parvoxlox5532 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Lord have mercy. I'm sharing this with all my girls

  • @marilynking527
    @marilynking527 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    The question of the century 😩

  • @cireyes92
    @cireyes92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I need to implement interviewing the men. I’m the worst for talking over someone 😞

    • @reginac9793
      @reginac9793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Christian Reyes hey, so am I, because I was never able to voice my opinion when I was groaning up. I was told to be quite when adults are speaking. That’s why I’m so voice rouse now, and part of the healing I need to go through.

    • @cireyes92
      @cireyes92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Regina Conner I saw a post on the page The Holistic Psychologist about how when we are quick to give advice rather than sit in silent support we are acting out in ego. When I’m getting to know people I want to say too much. It’s like I want to be sure I’m heard/noticed 🤷🏻‍♀️ definitely something to work on

    • @reginac9793
      @reginac9793 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christian Reyes thankyou

    • @liabw05
      @liabw05 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Christian Reyes thanks for your comment! That makes sense.

    • @veradellossantos4092
      @veradellossantos4092 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me to but sometimes its because my husband was not. listening or changing. The questions I would ask when catching him when he was lieing and looking me in my face saying i was crazy and insecure.

  • @Brittanirachelle1
    @Brittanirachelle1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    " This sun on me now" "Im out here like a snicker bah" .. "I be done lost my eye sight" looool!!

  • @lanabeauty3302
    @lanabeauty3302 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    my Ex lied about almost everything...
    - He lied about his age,
    - He lied about him temporarily living with his parents because his dad was sick while He actually never moved out of his parents’ house at 35+,
    - He lied about being a man of Integrity while he cheated on almost all of his exes (Me included, and even got that woman he cheated on Me with pregnant),
    - He lied to the woman he was cheating on me with that he can’t break up with Me because I’m his boss’ daughter and he will loose his job if ever try to leave me,
    - He lied about wanting to start a business so that he can secure a good future for us and our future kids, while the whole time He was trying to get me to invest my parents’ money, but got frustrated with Me because I was too smart and difficult to convince (according to his pastor and his ex)...

  • @yomiaramills
    @yomiaramills 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Anytime that I am out with a man, I just ask questions. I volunteer little or no information about myself or what I want in a man. I realized long ago that they are liars. I just let them talk, talk and talk. Plus they love talking about themselves. I don't know why or how we ladies put up with them. It is all so draining.

  • @Luuve
    @Luuve 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Hershey's kiss...milk dude..and today Snicker's bar! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂 Tony, you crazy!! Lol

  • @Listening_2_Still_Small_Voice
    @Listening_2_Still_Small_Voice 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    As a wife of 13+ years, it is definitely a turn on when a man can fix things or build things around the house as opposed to having to call someone else and pay them to fix it. But you are right that no one is perfect and we all do the best that we can.

  • @lizzylewis5793
    @lizzylewis5793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Yes lawd!!! Because inquiring minds want to know why...smh. Too much lying going on!

    • @queennkosi4659
      @queennkosi4659 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Guy ur videos are so informative but you should be a comedian!!

  • @Misssixty510
    @Misssixty510 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I agree that women shouldn’t expect for people to be honest and well intentioned by default, it’s not practical - in business it’s you, your desires and instinct.
    That was my mistake.
    I spent so many years working on and refining myself - therapy, books, spiritually, audio books 8-10 hours a day (just like you) while I was building my business out of my kitchen.
    At some point my default (trauma based) view of life changed, I became more heart centered and deeply authentic. Somewhere along the way I just started to assume that everybody was that way.
    You get to a space where you are so healed, you “Become Love” (I Love that BTW) loving of everyone and everything that you want nothing more than to contribute to Humanity in a positive way.
    I went into corporate Tech with this line of thinking and logic - it made me a great leader and I advanced quickly right to the top without trying. We ended up build the fastest growing Unicorn in Silicon Valley history ....in 18 months.
    I found out the hard way that my view of life and people....I had to keep myself isolated, most people, especially pathological traumatized men are absolutely NOT about connection or growth.
    They are anti social and anti Life.
    Vet all men with callous ruthlessness - that’s my advice.

    • @lw4294
      @lw4294 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I relate so much!! I healed and become so pure that it only effed me over because I assumed everyone else was like that too. Why wouldn’t they be? Now I am healing from being tossed and turned around by people. I will heal and be love again but I will have the strictest boundaries and non naive outlook ever again

  • @DynamicallyDC
    @DynamicallyDC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    So real Tony 💯..."Do less talking and more listening when dating a man"...it's about us knowing what we need to know because this man may be insecure, hurting, lost & broken which leads to a whole bunch of lies. 🙌🏽

    • @Nekole1
      @Nekole1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      So true. To many men have alot going on. They say they do not want a woman with drama but have more drama going on than some of these women.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Taylor Metoyer .. my heart goes out to him

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Nekole1 .. you said a mouthful right there and it's the truth

    • @Ms88Chick
      @Ms88Chick 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What if they don't talk alot

    • @DynamicallyDC
      @DynamicallyDC 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ms88Chick I know Tony mentioned in another video that a man is never shy, or mute when it comes to a woman or pursuing one. Communication is key and if he refuses to do so that's a problem/red flag.

  • @debbiel7906
    @debbiel7906 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The pronunciation of “Neo Spurin” Just Took Me Out!!! 🤣🤣🤣 #Neosporin

  • @lolarodriguez9284
    @lolarodriguez9284 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    The thinking i was with him lie costed me a lost baby a marriage and years of my life why i don’t understand... he had multiple women thinking he was with him. It made me into a terribly angry and mean person.

    • @freedom123-j8j
      @freedom123-j8j 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ask god for help and he will heal you. Be Blessed😊

    • @sherryharvey9873
      @sherryharvey9873 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Lola Rodriguez yes it does. However if you become love. It will transform your anger and bitterness. Brother Gaskins teaches if you become love you'll attract love. Amen

    • @timeisnow1673
      @timeisnow1673 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Betrayal is terrible. Grieving is a normal process of getting through any type of loss, Death, still living, lost future, lost dreams. You can get unstuck and healed.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@timeisnow1673 ..well said

    • @lolarodriguez9284
      @lolarodriguez9284 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I just wish i knew. Man i wasted what was supposed to be some of the best years. im just so devastated at the losses. He gave he took and he destroyed everything i cannot believe who raised him so terribly. Im just now learning to live in the moment. Nobody taught me to love myself better than this but i love god and i WILL teach my children so much better i wont ever forget it! im just really greatful for tonys advice cause i would have never ever known NEVER. Thank yall

  • @sharlenebrown4129
    @sharlenebrown4129 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Tony is 1000% correct especially the point about listening. I have done that in every relationship and men tell me that they love how attentive, open minded and a good listener I am. They feel safe to express themselves without judgement but the downside is...when I'm ready to walk away they have a hard time letting me go because they've never had that type of interaction with other women so they hold on for dear life making promises to change 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Nekole1
      @Nekole1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sounds like men may use you for emotional support only.

    • @sharlenebrown4129
      @sharlenebrown4129 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Nekole1 They do not, these are all long term relationships to include a 10 year marriage but in order to provide an example of how applicable Tony's message is in my life, I provided a synopsis. The point is, when I walk away from the relationship they always want to remain friends because I allowed them to express themselves and they've never experienced that with other women which validates Tony's point.

  • @fancyfacesstudio
    @fancyfacesstudio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Be blessed. It takes a healed woman to bring the best out of a man. As women we complain about no good men but fail to look at ourselves and realize that we just may be a no good woman. We need to value ourselves by being patient and not desperate for love. Ask the right questions and make sure his actions line up with what he says. #EyesOpenLegsClosed in my TG voice. I’ve learned and am still learning so much from you Tony! Thank you for walking in your purpose!

    • @tanitrarobinson7477
      @tanitrarobinson7477 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes Queen, yes!!!!! Aintnobodygettingshi...! Point, blank, perioood!

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol! Legs closed. Both our legs are closed. 👍

  • @jacquiewilliams6699
    @jacquiewilliams6699 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    My bestest friend from JHS til this day, her boyfriend at the time called me inviting me to dinner of course I wondered what happened he said they were not together anymore, well I called her asked her how did her man get my number I told her what he said. Well she said keep the date and we both showed up at his front door, well the lying back stabbing sob was choked for words.

    • @jacquiewilliams6699
      @jacquiewilliams6699 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Men who lie make it hard for we as women to trust and listen to any man that might be a good man. Then they wonder why we question them and have no trust.

    • @AE-106
      @AE-106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Smart ladies...if only women would do this kind of thing more, it would SHuT DOWN some of this foolishness and bad behavior. I often say, if just one sex Wouldn't Play, there would be NO Game!

    • @reginac9793
      @reginac9793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jacquie Williams honestly, did you real feel he was worth the time you took to do that? You both knew the truth....your blessed to move on and not give this person one ounce of thought.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I would have paid good money to have been there and seen that! I would love to have seen the expression on his face when the two of you showed up.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@reginac9793 ... I'm sure it was a very little expense to them. I don't think they did this for themselves but just to let him know that he couldn't play these games and get by. Hopefully, it was a wake-up call to him and helped him in some way. I believe she said they were both in junior high school. Maybe she would handle it differently now but I think it was an excellent strategy regardless of grade level. I'm glad they did it.

  • @karenwiggins8512
    @karenwiggins8512 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Women you don't have
    to compromise when you know
    your worth.!! Learn, unlearn an
    relearn.the game is always changing.😎🤔😐😐

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts

  • @shaunabee
    @shaunabee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Oh, I know this is going to be good!

  • @elizabethschilling7178
    @elizabethschilling7178 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The last part was the most important of this video be a good listener. Thank you!

  • @ghisellesimon162
    @ghisellesimon162 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    When he reenact a woman i be laughing so hard that really how it is .

    • @angelicagabrieli7169
      @angelicagabrieli7169 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      GHISELLE SIMON me too😁😁😁 Brilliant 👏🏻👏🏻

    • @ghisellesimon162
      @ghisellesimon162 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@angelicagabrieli7169 i couldnt say it better it so funny but that how we are

    • @beauphomasterpiece3795
      @beauphomasterpiece3795 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      GHISELLE SIMON right who are these women ? Lol 😂

    • @Mochaadamodel
      @Mochaadamodel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      GHISELLE SIMON on tha floor!!!!

  • @AllThingsTiffanyTV
    @AllThingsTiffanyTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’m out here like a snicker bar 😂😂😂 time to go Tony

  • @evavidal2171
    @evavidal2171 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Be blessed! I pray for all these men that are under trauma and past hurt... that they seek the way to heal forgive and forgive themselves so they can move on to better and more fulfilling relationships in general! God bless us ladies too so that we know how to listen with compassion and kindness... that can be very healing for all involved!

  • @marshaholmes8412
    @marshaholmes8412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I said in my alarm, “All men are liars.”
    Psalms 116:11 AMP
    Be blessed and healed in the name of Jesus.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Marsha G.. I'm going to look that scripture up and I'm going to pray and ask my pastor about that, also. I think what it means is that it is in the sin nature of a person to lie and that doesn't just mean the male gender. It means the human race.

    • @marshaholmes8412
      @marshaholmes8412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lyndapeoples8127 King David said, in my ALARM meaning: an anxious awareness of danger or cause (someone) to feel frightened, disturbed, or in danger.
      I actually read the entire chapter of Psalm 116. That particular scripture stuck out. Not looking for some DEEP revelation I actually took it for exactly what it meant. And the fact that even King David FELT and EXPERIENCED and EXPRESSED this same generalized distress about men or humans. Of course Liars are not specific to gender. However, this particular TH-cam message was.

  • @mntw6062
    @mntw6062 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Hey, Hey Tony! My day is looking up just bc you took the time to the time to teach us again! 2 months ago I was going astray in regards to my dating habits but because of your teachings I have repented and I am abstaining and waiting on the Lord to be my fulfillment. Thank you for your ministry to us.

    • @m.williams3497
      @m.williams3497 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      mtim Wesson that’s awesome wishing you the best going forward 🙏🏽

    • @mntw6062
      @mntw6062 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you 😊 Same to you!

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts

  • @nykolh4515
    @nykolh4515 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Lmao your woman impersonation is so funny “ooohhhh” 😂😂 i love your videos !!

  • @JaneDoe-dn4wk
    @JaneDoe-dn4wk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A lie is a lie is a lie. They all cost you.

  • @jdiscovered6686
    @jdiscovered6686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    You have my full attention. I mean they will lie about anything.

  • @JussKina
    @JussKina 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “Oooooooooo” in my Tony voice “ooooooooooo” ( inserts woman’s complaints) oooooooooo Lol

  • @aneshrathomas
    @aneshrathomas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They say you lie when your scared or insecure, that figures💯

  • @PapayaPepper202
    @PapayaPepper202 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He is less than a man until he gets Becky. I'm not responsible for this, I'm responsible for self. If he is broken send him to therapy. Not my problem.

  • @shanellesealy3072
    @shanellesealy3072 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My God the lies are sooooooo ridiculous, help your male children lord.

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Volunteered lies

  • @LNS128
    @LNS128 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is "GOOD WORD".....food for life. I thoroughly enjoyed. 👍🏽👍🏽

  • @feleciajones6690
    @feleciajones6690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Why do married men lie and still be lying about every thing

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Eternity With Christ .. this is the same things I told somebody the other day

  • @annetteresto7587
    @annetteresto7587 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    PREACH IT 👌🙌👏👍👋💒🙏🤗 AMEN HALLELUJAH 👌🤗🙏💒👍👍👏🙌 PRAISE HIM 💒🙏🤗

  • @bridgettesweeney9809
    @bridgettesweeney9809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It takes a secure man to be truthful even at the cost of hurting your feelings.

  • @Marie34694
    @Marie34694 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Understandably, most of us are adult children with childhood traumas.
    Nevertheless, it is not a Man’s fault that he is broken, but it’s his fault if he chooses to stay broken, and set out to break other people.
    Broken people, men and women, need to fix themselves before they try to date.

    • @sylviasylvia8551
      @sylviasylvia8551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kendra Wilson-Hello and well said and truthful. The society as we know it; are always putting loads of double-standards on women from the time you are born; yet they allow many men to fall thru the cracks that their responsibilities to themselves and anyone and everyone that they have touched, conversated with is accepted; whether it is in a positive way or not. Many of their characteristics go unchecked by their mothers and fathers; so, therefore, we have a mixed bag of personalities that have not matured very well.

    • @taramay8174
      @taramay8174 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I get that. But at some point men need to come themselves, and realize what it takes for them to be a man. They need to stop letting society tell them who they are supposed to be, and seek who they are supposed to be in God. I understand some people have a rough upbringing, and all of that. But it comes a time when we have to stop making excuses.

  • @deaionbanks4784
    @deaionbanks4784 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for your time. You are truly appreciated and a Blessing. Thank you🙏🏾 Be Blessed 💜🤴🏾

  • @imspecial2286
    @imspecial2286 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Be Blessed Mr. Gaskins.
    Keep dropping that knowledge.
    Much appreciated. 😎

  • @grlwnder1317
    @grlwnder1317 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    People in general lie about the life they wish they had, not the one they have.

    • @Nekole1
      @Nekole1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is very true. Many ppl lie about having a degree and the type of work they do.

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts

  • @11071874
    @11071874 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This man done brought the house down with this message. 🙌🏾

  • @aliseclkkc
    @aliseclkkc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Do KNOW that this Video here has Blessed me!! Another confirmation!! Sometimes we can run across ppl that are use to operating in certain ways due to their inner pain. But it don't mean its required for us to stick around. What they have to offer, may not fulfill our cup. Then we wonder why our relationship/ marriage is so miserable. ONLY GOD can help change man. The best we can do is Pray for others. Thanks Tony for your Advice! Sound Advice

  • @ThoroughbredDiva
    @ThoroughbredDiva 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    2:27 NeospErin 😂😂😂 i love my bro, he's so country!

  • @sethlyte
    @sethlyte 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    “Out here like a snicker bar” last video it was a milk dud 🤣😂🤣. Lovin the videos, the truth and the transparency is needed. Can’t wait for the event in Atlanta next week. Keep doing what you doing!

  • @ellesam3348
    @ellesam3348 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Ladies...let’s all get some tissues and shed some tears for all of these hurt grown boys that hurt women on purpose! 😢🤪🤣

    • @sylviasylvia8551
      @sylviasylvia8551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes, maybe a towel as well...there are many so-called men who do not have Tony's type of mindset (Tony knows that I am very sure); and you cannot make a grown-up man attend to his business in being a man. These are not infants, toddlers or teenagers; as a matter of fact. This is why 'our Black community' is stronger with Black women; because of this. It is sad. What are Black decent, healthy, educated women suppose to do? Wait for them to catch up? NO!!

    • @ellesam3348
      @ellesam3348 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sylvia SYLVIA you/we shouldn’t be focusing on color but more on a man’ s character :)

  • @jdiscovered6686
    @jdiscovered6686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "Swagu on Ragu" lol

  • @saforniajohnson1676
    @saforniajohnson1676 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Safe travels, thank you Tony!

  • @urbanlovegoddess2242
    @urbanlovegoddess2242 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    People lie and manipulated at the level of their personal internal pain..... People lie out of fear....I just feel that many individuals shouldn't date until they figure out how to heal. as

  • @pat4eva09
    @pat4eva09 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Dang, what about the woman that loves to cook, makes the goodT money AND loves to workout 6 days a week, +no kids, 800+ credit score....sheesh. 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ Keep teaching me TonyG. I appreciate you.

  • @justsomeideas9594
    @justsomeideas9594 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This explains alot and puts the pieces of the puzzle together for me!

  • @tishc24
    @tishc24 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Point blank periodddd❗️

  • @amraharbas9517
    @amraharbas9517 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    “point blank, periodt” Bye 😭😭😭😭

  • @rashedah9780
    @rashedah9780 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Be blessed😊
    This was surely a powerful and insightful word today☀️👍🔥

  • @coachnatishamommatish185
    @coachnatishamommatish185 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Good afternoon Blessed Tribe❤, Ears are open Bigbro Tony 🗣🧠👂👩‍💻✍

  • @cynthiarunge4858
    @cynthiarunge4858 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The men I have been out with men who lied; and yes they were almost paralyzed in fear and insecurity. Ofcourse, I perceived; and kept thinking it would stop. If they lie, they are liars...No worse sin...and they will not change . Period. No liar will be in my life. Nonnegotiable

  • @natalies2798
    @natalies2798 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    A-maz-ing! I really needed to hear this. In the past and present...I have been dealing with men lying to me. I could not understand why. You have put my puzzle pieces together. I see the picture now. I know what I need to do...Be a better listener and try to understand-instead of dismissing him because of his lying record. Thank You!

  • @erikalondon5720
    @erikalondon5720 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for your message and your ministry...you are increasing my awareness. Stay blessed Tony!

  • @sharonkeggins290
    @sharonkeggins290 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bring the truth Bro! “The truth will set us free”🙏💕

  • @mizzcoxx3923
    @mizzcoxx3923 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Hello Mr Gaskins. Thank you for the all the awesome advice that you're giving I have been a cross watcher on your videos when you talk about men I love it it's making me value myself more. And also given me more to think about who to invest my time and who not to..

  • @angelicaangel2624
    @angelicaangel2624 4 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    I think they lie for two reasons:
    1. So they can have their cake and eat it.
    2. So they can avoid confrontation whilst having their cake and eating it.

  • @ninachanell
    @ninachanell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was needed so much!!! It helps so much to hear the underlying truths behind a man's behaviors and mindsets. It is helping me understand what & who I'm Really dealing with. The part that made a Large Impact was LISTENING Instead of talking so much. That advice is Priceless! Thank you Tony! Please don't stop letting GOD Use you in this way. It is a True Blessing❤

  • @webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453
    @webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Remember, Satan is the Father of all Lies!

  • @mariewalton7079
    @mariewalton7079 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yes Tony you hit the nail on the head. Today I'm asking everyone to take a moment everyday to pray that we will break this chain. BE BLESSED!!!!

  • @godspurposefuldaughter
    @godspurposefuldaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This makes perfect sense. It makes you rethink some things reflective on previous relationships. God bless you.

  • @robincrawley311
    @robincrawley311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    PERFECTION!!! Undestood Sir!!! WOW, Love That Ending BAM💥!!!
    😇😇😇

  • @mirchld
    @mirchld 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The “not to cut you off part” that woman do is so true😂😂😂😂😂😂. Thank you; Be blessed Tony!

  • @ThePrettyHermit
    @ThePrettyHermit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hey tony love your advise u should get a shirt thats says you hear meee!!!! 😂

  • @dananewman6148
    @dananewman6148 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Awesome advise -> well received
    God Bless🤗

  • @JanineDada
    @JanineDada ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m just seeing this now and I want to thank you Tony. You are consistently helping me and other women and I appreciate you!!

  • @DeeDee-no7bb
    @DeeDee-no7bb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video changed my whole understanding!! Keep coming with that good knowledge... you hear me 💯😊