80 Year Olds Share Advice for Younger Self
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We asked strangers in their 80s to share advice for their younger self, offer advice to young people, and much more. Video shot in Canada.
If you've ever been interested in hearing about wisdom from those much older than you, this is the video.
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This video should be mandatory viewing in schools and colleges. Excellently done.
why? it is depressing
@@MrPathorock No it isn't. It is about life, love and loss. That's life. You missed the point.
@@MrPathorock This is actually a very positive video. These seniors are doing about as well as you could hope at 80+, mentally and physically. If you wanted to make a depressing video, show older people who are poverty stricken, living in a state home with broken bodies. Forgotten.
Tax churches. Atheists need to stop carrying the freeloading churches. And outlaw executives getting paid more than any other worker. And outlaw the mass breeding holocaust mass murder of factory farming. Go vegan.
Do THAT, before you start having kids. I'm 60 and my advice to young people is the same as when I was 20.
Nothing special nothing important about these old people's opinions. Biased reporting, biased interviewing.
Ask PRISONERS for THEIR opinions. Ask POOR old people for THEIR opinions. Get an OBJECTIVE perspective. Not biased sampling.
Great idea!
"If you live in the past, you're depressed. If you live in the future, you're anxious. If you live in the present, you're at peace." Fuck, man. Spot on.
This is a very good advice! Thank you for sharing with us!
hard knowledge!
This is definitely not true. I live in the past and it’s what drives me. I wouldn’t change it. If you live in the past and take drugs which also includes alcohol, then you will be depressed
@@steelearmstrong9616eh, okay buddy.
How do i achieve this?
I applaud you for giving older people a voice! The society tends to forget them.
They do, and some of them have sooooo much wisdom. I'm grateful that I've listened to them growing up and along my adult journey.
WE forget Them
Amen
I am sorry, but older people are the only people who have a strong voice in western societies, because they are the majority. Steering with the US president
Yes everyone simps for kids and people.in their 20s
Then people become forgotten unless they are like Putin or trump
Having your mom until you’re 70….wow ❤😞
Well even some of my grandparents got to around 90. And even one great grandfather. Minus 20, for the age when people had kids.
That's one reason having kids early helps. Though personally I didnt and wouldnt.
theres a very famous Croatian actor who also played in some international movies, called Rade Šerbedžija, he is 77 as of now, his father died in 2017 while being 104 years old
I once watched an interview with him (and I knew he was in his 70s) and almost spit my coffe when he said "well my father the other day said to me..."
The guy in the red shirt talking about his mothers loss hits very hard. I (age 36) just lost my dad 2 weeks ago (age 78). It's so fresh I can't wrap my head around to write a great comment right now. But my dad was very healthy and active along with my grandma, his mother... who is currently alive at 97 almost 98. A lot of my grandmas siblings are alive and are in their 90s including one that is 102 and healthy. Being so adapted to my dads side of the family having this longevity, I didn't think about how lucky it is for my dad to have his whole life with his mom around.
@@Nicole-ul1im I’m so sorry for your loss 😞 …most people in my family have passed away around 60 yrs old so hearing some people still have parents at an older age, blows my mind. Sending you lots of positive vibes ❤️
Not a single person spoke about money, property, cars, skyscrapers or wealth!
Love them all!
😊
Yet that's what most influencers brag about...
*Skycrapists
That's because they live in the first world. They have their basic needs met.
@@IAMALLMUSIC I doubt someone from a so called "3rd world country" would say they wanted more cash to be happy.
@deniss.6205 try living without money and good medical care yoo
These guys have free medical health
"Can you define the word love?"
"Wishing the best for the other person."❤❤❤
Catholic definition
"Willing the good of the other".
That's what I always wanted for anyone
❤
Exactly, unconditional love. Infatuation is different from love. Infatuation is more of an energizing feeling while love is calming and empathetic.
in Greek language there are 4 types words for love, Eros, Philia, storge and agape. Agape is the highest form of love
The man in red t-shirt broke my heart when he cried remembering his wife😢
Me too I wanted to give him a hug
💔😢😭😘😘😘😘😘🙏
@@LB-zc1hjI am a nurse. I love my job. I make a difference in my patients lives every day. I get advice from my seniors all the time. And I TAKE IT!!
It's been a few years for me and I can tell you; when those feelings come over me it's a blessing to know that I have loved. It's especially hard at first when it's fresh and frequent but those "visits" get sweeter as time goes on. The wet eyes and tight throat are like a quick homecooked meal these days.
Just suffered the losses (Mother and Wife) two weeks apart, these wounds are still too fresh. 😢
I love how the interviewer stopped in the middle of the video to acknowledge the conversations that were being shared and to cause us to reflect. Awesome job!
My grandmother is 92 and bed-ridden in a nursing home. I asked her what she does all day. She said she mostly thinks about the days when her kids were young. That short window of her life was the most meaningful and memorable. That was eye opening
I'm only 40 but, I wish I could tell my younger self ...Quit being affraid of everything. If you want to talk to a girl, just do it. If you want to say something to someone, do it. Most people let fear rule their life and don't even realize it.
This is me & I’m only 31.
So true! Fear is paralyzing
I dont let fear get me but then people think you're crazy or aggressive. All I'm doing us not letting others dictate fear to me. Try it sometime.
You took the words out of my mouth. Well said. ❤🙏
Even if you fall on your face at least put the effort to fall on your face!! I have hold myself back from running up because I don’t a F what anyone thinks of me in any capacity and with that alone the rejection wouldn’t matter one bit because you can’t get wet unless jump in the water first 😂😂😂😂😂
to the lady in the white hat who said that what we need is usually in the effort we‘re avoiding out of fear or boredom or laziness - your words resonated so hard
That was wisdom right there!
this lady is an Absolute G.
Same this was one of the greatest wisdom I have ever heard
She was definitely the standout.
“In sterquiliniis invenitur”-in filth, it will be found.
Carl Jung interpreted it as “that which you need the most will be found where you least want to look”
I lost my mom suddenly to a heart attack last October. She was only 62 and healthy. No signs or symptoms, it was a day like any other. One minute I was talking to her while she was eating and drinking water on her bed. I walked into my room for a minute and when I came out she was gone. You really never know, my life has never been the same since. She was my best friend, my mom, my teammate and we loved each other deeply. I can’t explain the feeling I have now that she’s gone. Cherish the time with people you love because you really never know.
That's terrible, I'm truly sorry. I lost my mom a few years ago after a very long illness. It hurts.
I’m so sorry for your lost, Same Happend for me i’ve lost my my mother 52 years to Heart attack while she was in hospital one day before she cane home, this year 23 february
Very sorry. RIP Mom. A loss like no other😢❤
I feel sorry for your loss! It must be very painful for you and your relatives. Your mother must have been a nice person if she had been blessed with such an easy death.
I’m really sorry for ur loss, I lost my dad at an early age and the loss always leaves a huge hole, but then I remember they never truly leave you spiritually
"What costs us the most to do, that's what we need the most."
Ooh, boy. Truth bomb.
Not really, it's just a goal you crave for. Things you already got - are not goals anymore. You still need them, but you have them, so they are not goals anymore.
To the guy in the red t. shirt, you achieved something huge; you made your wife happy and feel loved ❤
I agree. After certain life events, I’ve learned nothing really matters but your loved ones.
@@ericamendez2434damn straight
True❤
@@ericamendez2434 God is the Giver of life. He matters most.
@@user-qd4td7yb8e I agree. When God is first, family is blessed.
"Youth is wasted on the young." I take care of senior citizens for a living and while it doesn't pay that much, the relationships that I've made over the years are priceless to me. That generation is very lonely and have tons of wisdom to offer. It's sad how neglected and left behind it has become.
Right. But what I find so interesting is how the younger generation is complaining about being lonely as well. It’s a really sad thing to think about when you really look at the reality of what the younger generation will experience when they are this old. We all have to start prioritizing giving genuine love to one another that has no strings attached. It’s worth it in the end.
NOT ALL but some of them need to be left alone. They were evil when they were young and as they grew older they continued to be evil and treat people as objects to be used instead of people. Again I'm stating this is not all of them but some.
yeah thats life, you get old and if you dont have your family around you, you will be alone. If you failed as parent and get shitty kids, they wont take you in their home and you wil be alone too. ( most likely you were a shitty parent, if the kids turn out crap)
And if you have no kids, then you will be garanted alone in your old days, so having kids and raisig them right is the best insurance for every aspect of life.
@@1armeddrummerinaprisonrock244 People shouldn't have kids just so they have someone to take care of them as they age. That's the same as a person getting married just so they have someone to take care of them. Very selfish and entitled. Also just because the parents are toxic doesn't mean the children will be and just because the children are toxic doesn't mean the parents were. We all have a choice and despite what hardships we go through people choose how they want to be in life.
Agree... and its not just the very old who are getting overlooked.
I'm Gen X in my 50s. Young college grads have told me to my face that I should retire so they can have my job. If any of them bothered to ask, I could easily pass along my knowledge and experience and insure their job security for life. Yet they don't ask. They just tell me "step aside old man" without having any comprehension or ability to do what I do. Its silly.
The older generations are the greatest untapped source of knowledge and wisdom.
They've always been. But it is often the case that they will be considered by the younger generation to be quaint.
It has always been.
bullshit
The only knowledge they have is knowledge of their own life at a perspective of how they lived through it. Think for yourself and think yourself.
In my country old people are the most vulnerable part of society. They are not used to certain threats like social engineering that were not present during their younger days. You get experience and learn everyday and old people loose their ability to learn new things the older they get. The world around you changes every day and you must adapt to it constantly. Most old people either refuse to adapt or fail to do so. They are stubborn and their experience gets dated and useless as time advances.
You are are being to rigid and lack understanding. These people were born in the 1930s when life was much more simple. 99% of humanity before then had no technology. Technology will end just like our time in earth will end.
@@Hepycckuuwhat an angry take. Are u 40?
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I'm getting close to retirement and having a financial advisor has really paid off. I started investing later than most, so I couldn't just rely on compound interest from index funds. Even so, I've done quite well, earning more than some long-term investors. I'm set to retire with at least $6 million
Your financial advisor seems impressive. Could you share how I might get in touch with them? My retirement portfolio has slowly declined, I could really use some guidance.
I usually avoid giving specific recommendations since everyone's situation is unique. However, having worked closely with Emily Ava Milligan for years, her service has been outstanding. You might want to see if she meets your criteria
I looked up her name online and found her page. I emailed and made enquiries. Thanks for the help
You are not alone
11:00 "she ended up choosing some good people, me included I guess..." - damn... I started tearing up too.
So many tears were shed
@@Sprouhtme too, this broke my heart but also filled it. I’m so happy he had that love in his life ❤
I did too that was powerful
That got me too 😢
Raw grief for this beautiful man
I once saw an interview with Betty Davis. The host asked her “does age bring wisdom”. She quickly snapped back “if your stupid when your young, you’ll be stupid when your old”. 😂
Don't have children, it's unethical to them ❤
@@FtnastI completely agree. It’s incredibly immoral.
These comments are so sad and not what you are seeing these wiser older people saying. In your old age all you'll have or care about is your family and to a lesser extent other relationships.
I've seen several quotes from Betty Davis. She seemed to have learned nothing that matters from her life. I think Hollywood must destroy and ruin the people who are caught up in it.
@@laveniajohnson2283 If you have a family that you like and you fit into. Not everyone has a great family.
I wish I remembered the source, but I came across a study surveying people in their 70s, 80s, and 90s that asked them what time of their lives they missed the most. The most common response was their 30s. They missed having people rely on them, need them. They missed having responsibility and a sense of purpose. I'm in my 30s now. The things that tend to stress me out the most are having so many responsibilities and having people relying on me.
Learning about this study helped me appreciate that the things that stress me out today may be the things I one day miss the most. Ultimately, I've learned that every stage of life has special aspects that we can enjoy, and a secret to happiness is focusing on those things that we have worked hard for and on those things we may someday miss - even if they're imperfect or cause us stress. It's a helpful practice to frequently reflect on the things we take for granted and to express gratitude for those things.
Wow that's really good to know about that survey. I understand that and it resonates. That's the worry and stress I have now, though perhaps it'll be the most important time
The fact that this is filmed in Westmount park, which is in one of the richest neighbourhoods in Montreal, yet none of these people (who probably live there) talked about money, wealth etc. Love that ❤️
Because it was never an issue for them
"What would you tell to your younger self?" "No! Everything was perfect. It led me to my present self." Wisest woman in this presentation. Perfect advice.
Totally agree! She seemed the wisest.
Nah, simple advice, floss. 🤣
@@KaizenOz if your parents couldn't convince your childhood self to do so, doesn't seem like childhood you is gonna be willing to listen to time traveling grown up dork you if you traveled through time just to deliver lame-o advice like that. I know childhood me wouldn't have, at least 🤣
@@KaizenOz It certainly better than all those "make children" , "make a family" crap.
@@malapertfourohfour2112 depends on how convincing you are 😉 I am certain that it is more likely for you to find a way to convince your younger self on doing something than what it was for your parents. You lived his life and know the outcomes of events yet to come, making it easier for you to gain his trust. You parents act from position of authority, superiory and force - all those thing young age people don't like, not much of opportunity to gain someones trust. You on the other hand can act from the position of a helping friend and in time make him do stuff willingly.
In my job as a doctor, I am fortunate to get to talk with the elderly about their loves and worries and fears often. As a 31 year old, I think something I try to do is not to think as these people as old people who are seeing me, but people my age who are now in an old person’s body. That closes the perceived distance which, to be perfectly honest, is an illusion because we’re all closer than we think to each other.
This was a wonderful video.
Yes, I grew up without grandparents and then had the chance to spend a lot of time with my elderly parents - if you have patience, which is sometimes required, you will get amazing wisdom, advice, stories - and knowledge - even if you are treating them medically, I am amazed at how aware older people are of their own bodies, time, limits, what they need to keep them going and strong. It's knowledge for the medical professionals, too! You have a great perspective and it will pay off for you, too.
I was touched by your comment, I love that you do that as a doctor. You reminded me I used to do the same, I used to like seeing photos of my elderly patients when they were young - usually war time photos, so I could picture the full humanity and life experience when I spoke to them. Strange how just seeing elderly folk sometimes we unthinkingly dehumanise or minimise them.
@@ec1222 Exactly - as if they had never been young, made huge life decisions, started businesses, climbed mountains, etc. It's sad so it's amazing to hear people who can remember that! It will be all of us one day - if we are lucky enough! Good for you and this doctor.
31 and you're already a doctor?
Amazingly put! I lived with my grandfather for couple years when I was 25-30 and looked at him and talked to him like he was my age (he was 86-91 back than). And I knew he wanted me to perceive him like that...
Met an old guy walking my dog he looked in 80's he was like me but I was in my 40s no kids, no one close, he told me have a family your regret it, your so called friends will not be there for you in the later years. I got to know John over 17 months before he died and went to his funeral. It was me and his carer it hit me hard and I promised him I'd act on his advice. Today 8 years later I have been lucky and blessed I have a great partner 3 children and a lovely family, my only regret is that I should have not listened to the media, corporations and so called friends and wished I did it sooner. Thank you John for your advice all those years ago.
Brings a tear to my eye 😥
I cried reading this. You did a great thing. If you had not spent the time to continue to see John, it would have only been his carer at the funeral 😭
Thank you, you make me tear up❤
this is horrible. bringing life into this atrocious world just so you aren't lonely when you're old is the definition of soul-rotting selfishness. shame on you.
@@mechtistI don’t see it like that… I think, he may have realized it later that having to share the love, and be loved is the most wonderful feeling in the world anyone can experience… There’s nothing wrong with realizing that having kids and a great partner is truly a gift. One that was shared with him by John, a friend that didn’t get to experience it… There’s no shame in that and clearly it’s not selfish either especially if he get’s to share it with someone he loves…
I hope you get to have a partner that is truly meant for you too to experience all the love and joy in having a family someday… Blessing❤
No one talked about their work or career... That's what moved me the most 🙂
The artist lady did. She said it's great that she can keep doing it indefinitely (she doesn't have to retire).
I agree, at least they didn't talk about chasing money! Which most people currently are doing so, at a cost of their health. Just saddening
@@prerana863 It's how this world works and you can do nothing about it, so either embrase it or stay in it's shadow.
Bloody hell man, give that man in the red ferrari polo top a big hug.
I thought that too...❤❤❤
He choked me up 😢
He really needs a hug, he's got a lot going emotionally.
I am alone. Because I’ve gained a lot of weight in the last years. The more I was gaining weight, the more I became lonely. I’m 34 years old. I think is time for me to stop thinking about others but think about me first. I want to loose this weight and retrieve my true self. I’m afraid to go older and not doing it and regret it.
I wish everyone health and love.
Weight shouldnt affect Ur social life. Dont let ur self confidence influence by this. But in Terms of Ur health i agree.
It seems many of us have isolated ourselves for different reasons in the past years from the pandemic. I'm truly hopeful that you'll be able to get back out there. I just started after 2 years of being completely antisocial & it feels amazing. You got this.
Thank you guys for your kind words. I decided yesterday to go subscribe to swim lanes just 2 corners away from my place. Began to go every morning. I wish you also to find joy and hapiness ❤️
Walk and swim ❤
Hey if it helps at all, I am 32 and this read almost exactly like my life the past few years. Please know you’re not alone. And don’t hesitate to get support in the form of therapy and doing fun things with friends.
I'm 57 years old & embracing getting old. I have friends in their 80s and I'm taking their lead. They are active socially & have relationships beyond their family. This keeps them going & attentive. Yeah, we can eat better and exercise, but #1 is focusing on relationships. Finding your person to share your life. It's a good feeling. I'm lucky to have found my person 30 years ago. The down side of having a long marriage is that we get to the 'death do us part' and it can be heart breaking.
You can appear and feel I 0-20 year difference if you control yourself and don't do excess.
so all you do is relationships ?
Look after your back, knees, teeth, hair. Accept you have long-term responsibility for your health and finances even if you can't plan beyond 1-2 years into the future.
Social anxiety is normal for a large population, so 'dance' with it until you build confidence. 50 year olds still have fears, pains and problems, so get used to the idea that your fears are far more commonplace than you might expect.
I love the woman who talked about pursuing what takes effort, and also that she wouldn't tell herself anything because she likes where she wound up. Truly inspiring.
I feel sorry for those who lost their loved ones and feeling lonely😢
I wish i were old, near the end...
I dont see kids or nieces or nephews in my life, and wonder if i can even make it to 60 to have some government pension and such.
I wish a doctor would give me 6 months to live. I'd visit family, curl up on a couch with them. No more bs
@@WaryofExtremes why you do not visit your family and wait for this moment . Take the step and visit cheer up dear and never think this way . Just enjoy the moment . Have your spirituality practiced everyday it would help you a lot.
@user-hu8vb9vn3o 'read more' doesn't seem to be working. Expensive and busy...partner's demands, partially
At least they had many years with someone they loved and who loved them back. A rarity these days.
@@chantakchantal6065 that’s true
I am never impressed by what people wear, how much money they make, the things they own... but every once in a while, someone shares some insight, experience, or wisdom, and I can't help but be fascinated and in awe. Character and strong personal values matter more than anything.
I don't have much 😂 ask me how it feels what having less money n income feels like, nobody likes you much if you earn less not even wife children noone
I am impressed when people have nice musical instruments and can play them well.
❤❤ go veggie x
@@mcs5917 it's a lie
Having your mom with you to age 70 is a huuuge blessing! I hope he heals well and I pray I get to enjoy my mom for a long time as well. ❤
The sooner you'll accept it, the better i'll be after.
That first guy 88 !! NO way ! He looks amazing, More than 10 years younger. He did something right.
He loved his wife and his life...
Yes indeed....I thought the same.
@@wendyeskelin8765 he chose his parents well
@@jeanc819. If he wants a lady friend in Scottsdale, Arizona USA - I will volunteer.🙋🏼♀️
Called genetics... it's not that people do something do look that way
That “gut” feeling and him realizing it was him breaking out of the matrix, learning the ability to say “no”. Grabbing life by the balls.
Why the inverted commas around gut?
"If you live in the past, you are depressed. If you live in the future, you are anxious. If you live in the present, you are at peace."👏
My mother is living with my grandmother when she is 70
right now, and my grandmother still treats her like a child and takes care of my mother in her best way.I can tell how happy my mom is.
I like how that guy said if you are still creative and benefiting someone
Then you are not aging
Love that
The 70-year-old with the red shirt and dark grey baseball cap brought tears to my eyes. I could relate to so much of what he said. Nice man.
He is grieving for his wife big time. I wish sorry for him
You could tell he just wanted to talk ❤
When I watch these videos I feel like I’m an 85 year old travelling back in time to my 30s and realizing I get the chance to live my life again. Thank you.
My grandfather was 97 when he died. He lived a great life, full of work in different places that I can't even imagine, great energy and a loving grandpa.
Sadly he had already lost all his brothers and sisters, wife (my grandma) and friends, he was very lonely if you think about it, of course he had us his sons, daughters and grandkids, but it was not the same because the people who would share memories with him of his youth were no longer there
I hope I get to live a good life like him, but I kind of don't want to live as long because it really feels like it can be very lonely
I miss my grandpa and granma, but I hope now they are together with the people who better understood them
❤
I'm "only" 60, but I see people around my age falling apart because they sit too much and don't exercise. Walking is a great exercise - brisk walking, not just strolling with the dog. If you can, you should take your body for a walk every day, and lift weights a few times a week. Now the rubber is really hitting the road, and I see the difference between people who have treated their bodies well and those who drugged and drank and overate. Bodies are just machines, after all.
Perfectly said 🙏🏾
true, I’m a little older, but walking the dog, yoga & sitting on the floor a lot (because you have to be able to get up) do not hurt
I hear you, but it is a worldwide phenomena. I am in my 40ies... I have been 'sitting' severely ill due to C-vacc!ine injury for 2 years now. I was a perfectly healthy and hugely active woman before that. Millions share the same fate. They may not even know why they suddenly feel so exhausted.
today i just realized brisk walk is a speed version of the normal walk !
I'm "only" 61, but I'm one of those people who seems so much older😅 Here's what I did wrong:
Ignored health concerns since age 18
Believed doctors..."they MUST know!"
Put people's needs before my own
Stopped doing yoga
Stopped learning Karate
Stopped walking, dancing, riding bikes
Stopped drinking 6 to 8 straight water
Etc etc🤦🏽♀️
All I can tell anyone out there is...
Make your health... mental, physical, emtional and spiritual... make those your priorities. Put those things at the top of your list. Be good to you. Neglect leads to being a prisoner of bad health within your own body.
My aunt lived 101 years old and she had a great nugget of wisdom too. She said "Everything you do or say in this world, good or bad, you always get it back... in a different way, but it always comes back to you! Be kind as much as you can... It means everything." ❤
I didn't know, I was going to click on this video before work and cry my eyes out. I'm 45, I've already lost both my parents and much of my extended family. I'm grateful to have the most amazing husband and 3 beautiful children. Thank you for these videos, you have no idea how much they mean to those of us who no longer have the older generation in our lives. They have so much wisdom
I'm sorry for your loss❤❤ You know you are loved because they are always with you. ❤❤
Wow, I could have written this. Early 40s, lost parents, and no extended family. But 3 amazing kids and husband. So, SAME ❤
Yes. I cried like a baby while watching this. I thought it was going to be a fun video, but here we are. I wish we valued older people more in our society. We tend to throw them away like garbage, we don’t prioritize seeing them, we don’t make it a point to be friends with older people outside of our families, when older people are our MOST valuable resource for wisdom. We all have a LOT to learn from those of us who have been around for 70 or more years.
Same, but I’m 40, no husband or kids. I still have a little hope for kids. I have no extended family or family at all. Life is not worth it without family.
Im sorry you lost your parents. It’s a different life, isn’t it? Im 42 and I also lost both my parents before the age of 40 even. Thank God I also have 3 wonderful kids and a husband who loves me. They make life worth waking up for. Hang in there ❤
I am literally in tears and I am only three minutes in. 😢 I just set an alarm to call my great aunt this afternoon. My great uncle died about eight months and they were married for 52 years. ❤
The lady with the white hair and sunglasses is exactly who I wanted Tilly (my book character) to be. She's got a lot of wisdom. ❤️
Advice to younger self: you don't need to be impressive. You only need to keep growing into yourself. ❤
He just happened to pick some of the coolest older folk walking this earth today. What a video. The gentlemen who lost their wives had very emotionally evoking thing to say my goodness.
Yeah, I wonder how many people he asked that were not good enough to make the cut 😂. These were all genuine beautiful people.
Most of them seem to be Anglophone (or mainly) as well. I noticed that.
Please, don't stop doing this, your videos helped me through dark times. Bless your heart and thank you!
Hey Deb- I hope you're doing great!
I'm 57 years old. I honestly hope I live long enough to see the younger generations change this crappy system we live under. I might not live long enough to enjoy a world where people don't have to suffer and starve and work themselves to death, but I would love to be around long enough to see that world come into existence.
The U.S. population simply does not understand where and how they have been so screwed..It’s getting depressing. I have about $700k in emergency fund and I have been seeing good news about the stock market and would like to gain from that since I can’t let my savings be corroded by inflation. What stocks should I invest into as a newbie to safely grow my money.
Truth, the suffering and stress caused by capitalism is just sad, life is so short, we’re allowing man to torture man…
All our problems today is the result of 40 years of neoliberal rightwing success. The Reagan policies left everyone behind but the wealthy owners. Until then the U.S. economy was the greatest economy in world history. After we went from the biggest lender nation to the biggest debtor nation and never looked back. The wealthy and business elites know exactly what has happened. They just don’t want the public to know how badly the wealthy have screwed them. That would cause a great revolution.
In my opinion, now is not the moment to rely on hearsay. Every individual, regardless of their level of experience as an investor OR in a financial market, requires guidance at some stage.
That's really great. I've tried doing some research myself to hire a financial advisor, but it's really overwhelming. Could you recommend who you work with please?
This is beautiful. I want to hug the man who was emotional about his wife. His pain and love for her is palpable. She must have been a lovely person. 💜
I read once a proposed reframing for bearing with the loss of your partner. By being the one not dying first, you have saved your partner to go through the suffering you are going yourself through. I thought it was extremely powerful.
Frankl.
I cried hearing him talk about it. My grandfather was pretty lonely I think when my grandma died. They were together around 40 years. He didn’t talk about it much because he was a “tough guy” and very old school, but you could tell. But I don’t think my grandma could bear losing anyone else. It was a gift in a way since my whole life I wasn’t very close to my grandpa, mostly my grandma because he was much I’m more introverted in a sense. When she passed he moved in with us and it gave my mom and I a chance to know him better before he passed a few years later. It gave me a whole new appreciation and love for my grandfather and who he was in my life. I didn’t realize this until after he passed away.
Best advice was from the lady with the white hat. "What we need to do most is what will take the most effort from us, the one that scares us and what we don't want to do"
"Maybe if i had had them, i might have actually achieved them..."
That struck a chord in me!
The interviewer has such a sweet spirit. God bless you
I just turned 70 and retired over 2 years ago. I have felt lost with no sense of purpose. The new president of the company I had worked for asked me to come back, which I did. It has been great the second time around. I am much better at my job now than ever before. I plan to be more prepared the next time I retire.
I'm glad. Working because you want to work is liberating.
I literally cannot comprehend something like this. There is soooooooo much to do in a house! And soooo much to learn, so many books to read, movies to watch, languages to learn, cities and countries to visit.
But even just running a home!
Cooking every meal, cleaning, gardening…….
How do have the time to do all that while working?
@@nataliaalfonso2662I think working outside of the home allows someone to complete objectives. The home always has work to be done. It doesn’t feel like something was accomplished.
Glad it's working for you!
@@nataliaalfonso2662 agreed. I can’t wait to retire so I can actually pursue my hobbies! I have 20 years to go 😔
In tears. Thank you for the video. That’s why I wanna make friends with seniors. Talking to them brings me serenity and joy.
I love how the interviewer stopped in the middle of the video to acknowledge the conversations that were being shared and to cause us to reflect.
For anyone watching this and feeling utterly heartbroken at the loneliness some of these people feel, I'd urge you to give some of your time reaching out to your grandparents, or elderly neighbour's, or give time to your local aged care home. I visit a few residents fortnightly in an aged care facility close to my house and I can't tell you how much I enjoy my visits with them, and they have told me the same. As society we need to do better at giving our time to connect with people so that it's baked in to how we exist as a community.
Yes!! Great advise!!❤❤❤
I made friends with my neighbour who was 85. Or rather, she became friends with me. She was so friendly and invited me over for cup of tea. She must have had self-confidence despite sight and hearing issues. She became such a dear friend to me and my little toddler. I miss her so much. She taught me a lot. She was single after difficult life events. But she still knew how to make friends at her age. I invited her to our family Easter celebration. She felt like a great aunt or something. She liked playing with my daughter. Some people know how to find friendship at any age and stage of life
@emmy-kz1pj what a beautiful friendship you had with her!
I would, however, ⅕ of my paycheck gets stolen every week. That ⅕, is all of my free time.
I've been married for 30 years. I don't know how long I would last without my Wife. Seeing how much pain these guys are in, makes me even more nervous... Time is a clicking clock that never runs in your favour. Hug the one you love often, never argue about pointless stuff. And always tell her you love her everyday....
You're right to be concerned about that possibility. My husband died suddenly in 2018. We were together 32 years, married for most of those years. Loss of husband or wife is absolute agony and its relentless.
If you think about the future, you’re anxious. It was documented in this video.
Just enjoy the present dude
Well, lost my wife in '22. We were married 35+ years. No words can fathom the depth of this loss.
What did I do right? I invested in my wife and children. For this, I have no regrets. I would say also that I should have made more friends than acquaintances. But what is is.
Believe me, its the worst tragedy, l lost my husband 2 and a half yrs ago, some days l just think why l am still here,. No matter if you have children, they have their own life.
Many people never get married, have a companion, share a life.
That doesn’t lessen the loss but hopefully you can be grateful for what you had.
What I got from this:
Wow! Wishing the best for someone. Keep producing. Everything has a beginning and an end. Enjoy your life and do what you can. Be patient with others and yourself.
Follow your gut. Follow your expansion. And balance.
If you live in the past you’re depressed if you live in the future you’re anxious and if you live in the present you’re at peace! LOVE IT!!
That was my favorite! ❤️
That's Eckhart Tolle
Honestly though, I hear way more people living in the present more miserable than in the past though due to high living expenses. And they’re anxious for the future bc if it’s expensive now, life will just be more expensive later in the future.
That's an old classic
She clearly had gone thru deep meditation
What I see as the common denominator with these people is that he runs into them when they are OUTSIDE. WALKING. Hello! They are vital, vibrant, and, literally, getting out there. They, for the most part, have taken good care of themselves. They are dressed well, because they respect themselves and the people they might run into. Good, no, GREAT examples for all of us.
As far as eating alone, you don't need to. Call a friend. Start a dinner or lunch club. Here in small-town Indiana every fast-food joint has a group of seniors eating breakfast every day. In a big city it should be even easier to connect. Regards from Indiana!
Great point man. I’m from NYC and we really are all on top of each other with no real connections
So true about getting outside!!!!
This street reporting is the heart and soul of what content creation stands for.
I lost my grandma exactly 2 months ago today, she was 97 and lived through so many things. I’ll never forget her smile, her hands and her little white head. She taught me, without even realizing it, to enjoy the moment and the simple things, have patience and to always treat older people with love and kindness.
Me too, my grandma died on May 20th and she was 97. The most gentle loving person. Sending my condolences ❤
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Touch is important. Touch someone's arm or hand. Give them a light hug. I lost my husband about 12 years ago, and I can count how many hugs I've been given since them. We need touch.
I touch myself, does it count ? 😉
This is very sad to watch, but they are so INCREDIBLY lucky to have found love. I've had to face a life without love and I would have given anything to have found it. These are the luckiest people in the world.
You can love anyone you meet. There’s no piece of paper or contract required. Just treat them like you’d want to be treated, be kind to every living thing, and you’ll be loved everywhere you go. Be it to receive it.
Sad on the surface but incredibly meaningful and beautiful if you actually take it an soak in the words they are saying! THIS LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL WHILE WE ARE ALIVE!!! God bless you all!
@@treesoul00that’s not what they mean; they mean a partner. not everyone gets one
Such a good point. But then there's also a lot of people who find love and then lose it too and get divorced or whatever. A life partner I feel is rare. I think if I were single id get more pets and maybe adopt or help with foster kids activities or something.
You will find love someday, a kind, smart, and a beautiful girl, you will meet her someday, don't loose hope.
Love is "wishing the best for the other person" is beautiful. I also love the humility of the host. Honestly a video that I needed right now.
“Enjoy the moment !”
“I would encourage more to trust your gut feeling.”
“Risk It!
“Do the right thing!”
Well said 👏👏👏 great advices
+ Relationships are the most important.
@@carmenlux1775❤
do a barel roll!
The lady that says what costs us the most effort /trouble is what we need to look into /deal with . I felt that!
I have watched other people interview older people and enjoy yours the most. You seem to put your heart into what you are doing, interested in what they say. Someone who will take their advice knowing you can benefit from it. Thanks, enjoy your interviews very much I might add I am almost 76 and these people are spot on!!
This one I identify with … I lost my husband three years ago this July 17th 2021 … and it’s so hard! He was 78 and at the time I was 73. Massive heart attack … gone suddenly … to say the least … I was in shock for a year at least!
My world was turned upside down! Your feelings don’t die with them … we were married 40 years and I miss him so much!
I love your vlog … very enlightening and since I am now 76 … easy to understand their views!
Thank You for doing this! You’re helping a lot of people … 🌈🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸
I live in that solitude which is painful in youth but delicious in the mature years - Albert Einstein. SO TRUE!
I’m 70, divorced, retired, living alone with my dogs…and happier than at any point in my life. I feel so free with no obligations to any one or any thing. Definition of success in my book!! I meditate daily, practice the piano daily, and exercise. Oh, and eat. I learned how to be a better cook.
I can die tomorrow feeling blessed.
@@Lee-wk3cb bruh
The red shirt guy really brought tear to my eyes, I didnt expect it.. wish blessings to those interviewees.
These pure and kind people made me want to give a big hug to each one of them
Living in the present , being calm, leave the rat race, let those you care about know that you care about them , help out , assist those in need , get 100% out of debt (dont feed the beast by paying interest), pray daily and read from the scriptures, eat right , be acrive , be gratifull, be caring and kind, imagine Jesus the Christ and try to think and act like you imagine he might. Endure to the end .. I'm married to the wife of my youth and the choice of my heart 47 years. Still going strong... knock on wood..
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Thank you. God bless.
It's so beautiful to see people that have or had long loving relationships! I think that's the hardest thing to find today : (
Because people are greedy these days and expect perfection. Just because a couple has been together for 60 years doesn’t mean it’s been roses the entire time. They may have gone through a million ups and downs, but it’s about perseverance and the ability to fall back in love again. And the commitment you make to one another to always make it work.
@@Sarah-ft8jr I don't think it's fair to say people expect perfection. I've never expected perfection in any of my relationships. I've been cheated on, physically and sexually abused, stolen from, etc. There are some seriously bad people out there and many of us encounter them when trying to have relationships. Not everyone is single because they're too picky. I'd love to meet a nice, kind, normal man but it has never happened for me.
Love, friends, family, and good health. None of these gifts should ever be taken for granted.
I want to give every person in this video a hug, I was tearing up listening to this. Older people are far more interesting than young people, honestly.
These people are so right. I am a 72 year old nurse that chooses to still work, BECAUSE I WANT TO. As long as I can remember, I have had wonder & curiosity. Keep moving, keep exploring. Kindness, empathy. Have a good wholesome code of ethics, be true to yourself, be accountable. Hang out with people that have good, happy personalities, and who are genuinely GOOD. These points of view have served me well. I have been trying to cruise thru life having few regrets; so far no complaints. Thank you for these videos, I REALLY enjoy them.
I'm surprised none of them said "have kids" like in the thumbnail, let alone the fact that none of the interviewees even alluded to it.
The first interviewee mentioned having 3 sons and 7 grandchildren. Aside from that, I agree that the content was not consistent with the thumbnail.
Clickbait
I know! I watched the entire video waiting for one of them to say it.
Because they're realists, they know that the world is completely different now and inferior in many ways compared to when they were young or their prime. The "nest" isn't so secure anymore, or if there is even one anymore.
Exactly, what a lying click-bait thumbnail. I had to watch the whole video to find out that nobody actually said it.
I hope I am not the only one here who wants to give a hug to everyone answering the author's questions or at least suggest them all to be hugged, just for the matter of appreciation of that short time with these polite and wise strangers
Love this! I work as a physical therapist in a hospital and work a lot with elderly people. Exercise & maintaining a healthy social life will give you the best quality of life as you age.
I'm 39 years old and to care of my Mom with Alzheimer's for 20 years. About 10 years into taking care of her I took photos and videos of her. About the last 8 years I made sure to kiss her every time I left the house everyday. Now that she's gone I have tons of photos and videos. No regrets about how I spent time with her. I could've taken her outdoors more but she was hard to pick up and take her out of bed.
❤such a good child to your parent.
You are blessed man.
May G-d continue to bless you.
You're a great son.
Now that she’s gone, make your extended family a real priority in your life. You will need them if you never had children.
Ooooh l deeply feel for the 1st two gentlemen. Loneliness and Anxiety /depression is real
Thank you🙏
Hadn't spoke to my mum in a little while
Decided to call her after watching your video ...turned out she was down with a fever.
Glad I spoke to her.
The world needs more videos like this
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Hey man, most wanted to say I’m so stoked to see your channel growth. On my old channel I remember sending you messages back and forth, supporting each other’s channels. So grateful you made it man
Bless those old people with love, health and happiness. Their advice is gold.
I'm 59 and stopped dating 9 years ago. I'm just done with all of it. It doesn't work for everyone. I have no regrets. i have inner peace.
you have to bite your tongue a lot & look the other way (guys, gals AND non-binary pals) instead of demanding justice & I could not do it
I'm exactly the opposite. I was suddenly widowed in 2018 after 32 years together, most of those married. I'd love another partner, I miss the sense of being someone's favourite person.
@@sonyavincent7450 Everyone is different. If you had a good relationship you were lucky. It doesn't happen to the vast majority of people because monogamous relationships just do not work for the most part. It's not natural for humans. Those still married after decades, many are mostly roommates. i know more divorced people than married people. I am a sociable introvert. I like people and socialize but need my alone time. I just cannot imagine being legally bound to another human being for potentially the rest of my life, living day in and day out, every day seeing that person and not having my personal space and freedom. Some people NEED to constantly be with someone and that is beyond comprehension to me. Living together full time is a relationship killer for many people. To each their own but I've never felt more inner peace than when I left all that behind.
Honestly, as long as you have peace within yourself then you don’t need a relationship, do what works for you!
Hey bro. Im 35 and married. I tell you, you are doing great!!!
“If you know how to channel your creativity, and you let others benefit from it, you’ve defeated age.” 🤯
What a quote❤
God bless the man in red T-shirt because he’s definitely going through a rough time. I wish the best for him.
"If you live in the past, you are depressed. If you live in the future, you are anxious. If you live in the present, you are at peace". That was one of the best advice I have heard in a long time. That phrase could've come from Seneca. Great video!
I wish i were old, near the end...
I dont see kids or nieces or nephews in my life, and wonder if i can even make it to 60 to have some government pension and such.
I wish a doctor would give me 6 months to live. I'd visit family, curl up on a couch with them. No more bs
What an incredible group of people and so generous to share their wisdom. Your ‘time out’ was very thoughtful, Will!
The guy in the orange/red shirt breaks my heart. He was blessed to experience exactly what life is about. True love❤️
😢 them loosing their wife’s and husband’s made teary 🥲.. life is so precious, I love my wife ..
“Everything was perfect as it was because it took me to this moment.”
Yes that was a beautiful statement.
Perfect
I’ve suffered a lot, but I wouldn’t be the person I am today without that suffering. So I only look forward. I don’t live in the world of “what ifs”.
I love the comment “ if you live in the past, you’re depressed. If you live in the future, you’re anxious. If you live in the present, you’re content .” Well said! God bless them all. 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you so much for this. We dont hold our seniors with as much regard as we should. I just turned 60 and it really messed with my mind. Like one of your guests said, i too never had a real "goal" or "passion" my family is my greatest achievement, i am proud of that. And the way that gentleman spoke of his late wife.... well, that he feels that kind of love, thats one big achievement many will never know.♥️
the gentleman in the ferrari t-shirt - smart man. his pain is palpable, his wisdom too.
This is one of the most exhilarating video I’ve watch. There’s so many amazing life lesson that one could learn this! This is by far the best 12 mins I’ve spent on TH-cam. Thank you!
4:35 "If you know how to challenge your creativity and you make others benefit from it, then youve defeated age"
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Wow! Thats a quote worth screenshotting and remembering! That is amazaing for a older person and younge rperson i have to admit!
Agree! I screen-recorded him saying that quote and took a screenshot of your writing it in quotes. Amazing advice and valuable secret for life moving forward!
What's YOUR advice to your younger self? Drop a comment below 👇🏻
Why u asking just white old people?
Do not place your children in a extremely tough situation by being determined to force them to stand on their own two feet. When they call pleading to come home from college, open your doors and arms. Some just aren’t ready for this world. When they tell you indifference kills and then they die, it’s may not be on you but you will feel that pain. Remember the Bible tells the story of the father who welcomed his son home. I failed to remember that story. I did show my son indifference, I was cold to his plea. He died. Don’t be so hasty to prove your point.
@@budeiri123 exaclty. this guy gets it
Buy #bitcoin
Don't leave anything for later, it may never come.
Ask that girl out, call that guy, tell people close to you that you love them.
Whatever you do in life, don't chase money, it will never make you happy.