As a female INTP who went to an all girls school ages 11-17, I can tell you it was not fun and I really didn't connect with many people. It led me to having lots of confidence issues and believing that I was someone people just didn't like. I've had a skewed view of who I am which has made me super self conscious. I've had to unpack a lot of that recently after realising that I am an INTP and that it wasn't because there was something wrong with me and you're videos are really helping me with that. I really like how you explain about Ti hero in all your videos as it's gives me a confidence boost which I was severely lacking. It's nice to know that I can use MBTI to grow. There's not many people who are willing to put this kind of content together. So again, thank you!
You had nothing to worry,take it as positive, you are rare very rare...so you feel lonely...you are the smartest,logical and loyal..you are unique and like an out of box being....infjs and intp feels like they are aliens....be proud of being different and rare.............. And one question ,how many times did you edit your post after reading it many times..............me =three times....
Yes INTPs are not built for the Se dominated high school scene. But once we realize that we are just built differently we can really come into our own and kill it. Thank you for the kind words really appreciate you watching and commenting on my content!
“Felt like something was wrong with me” I remember the first description of INTP I read. I had just taken a test for the first time and during that read I realized the same thing. I wasn’t messed up, I was just another type which blew my mind with new perspectives.
there's a sentiment that i've heard in academia that i feel applies to this video, and that's "If you can't be right, be entertainingly wrong." That's what I try to embrace as a general rule of thumb nowadays.
At the end of the day though the truth is still the truth! But it is hard when you can't compete with someone's emotional appeals. The world is half feelers after all
At 82 years of age, I am very happy with my life! I have learned that when you accept yourself, the whole world will accept you. Have the courage to admit your vulnerabilities and even ask for help. I am enjoying my strengths, learning new things all the time and thankful I am dealing logically with problems.
I am very uncomfortable with my emotions, always have been. But about four years ago I thought it wouldn't hurt me if I tried to learn to process them a little bit and share my feelings as thoughts with people. And nowdays I can talk about why my feelings are working the way they are with my mom. It doesn't sound much but it's a huge progress. So what I'm saying is: you can have better connection with your feelings. It won't be the same as people who are comfortable with their feelings but you can learn to analyze them and learn new things from yourself in that process.
Yes! I truly struggle to unpack supressed emotions piling up since my childhood. Espacially my anxiety climbs to the roof being in the same environment with people who are angry, hatefull and yelling at my face(usually happens in family conflicts and work) and it almost feels like, the more I am willing to unpack my emotions the more they got conscious and annoying. I wonder how I will be dealing with these negative emotions in this semester ugh 🙄🤮. How do you deal with it though?
@@berkaytugrel9084 it depends. If it is a very serious situation, like people arguing, yelling and the enviroment becomes too dark to stay in peace, I cry. Crying allows me do get rid of the stormy emotions and then I meditate for at least 25 minutes as soon as possible. Listen to peaceful songs, learning japanese, get into my own world and watching videos showing the best paradisiac places to travel, disappear with the hurricane of the emotions that makes me feel down.
I enjoy emotions. I felt that I could feel every emotion, enjoy every emotion by putting myself in a third person perspective. It's like being the hero of your own movie.
Good point about the people not liking you when you're too nice. To put in more logical terms, people can sense that you're insecure about popularity and being well liked by people is a social resource so due to human nature that people always gravitate towards those with more social resource, you come off as lower in the hierarchy when you're being nice for no other purpose. I feel like female INTPs (like me) suffer more from this because of what is socially expected of women, but once we figure it out it can give us an edge that male INTPs generally may not come into until later in life. Anyway, really good content and it would be very cool if you could do a video on gender advantages and disadvantages of the INTP type? Either way, I really appreciate your videos! Thank you
To "tune in" to a person, I have found it helpful to wait about 10 seconds and try to observe them before I begin speaking to them. Sometimes it takes a few extra seconds to be able to tell what emotional level they are in. I have often wanted to begin talking to someone about something I was excited about but after this brief pause I have repeatedly been able to tell if someone is not in a good head space. Then I ask what is going on with them and try to focus on them if they are upset about something. Doesn't come naturally but we can use our analytical skills to our advantage. I think it's not that we can't observe body language as well as others, it just sometimes we are a bit slower or don't really want to do it. At least for me anyway.
Absolutely! I do this too. I pause and take my time. Unless I bump into someone, where conversations are immediate, I can still very quickly work out what their states are.
I'm an INTP with ADHD.. School for me was absolute hell.. Had to just try and slip under the radar until I could do my own thing. I've spent several minutes mulling over the wording in this comment and almost abandoned it twice.. and I'm waaaaaaaay behind on two jobs I'm working on. There are just too many interesting things out there.. "MORE DATA!!" Is the battle cry of an INTP. Hope you're all coping, weren't the lockdowns great?? 😊
Yes schools are not designed for INTPs (especially high school). You have to deal with the social situations along with trying to learn. High school is more designed for ESTPs, ESTJs, ESFPs, etc.
The part about trying to open up and connect with others and just being ignored or even rejected harshly is definitely relatable. I gotta work on being less insecure about my awkwardness and desire to be well liked. I have to stop fearing failure/rejection and taking things too seriously. Otherwise it will cause the opposite effect. Thank you.
Gold. If you could do one on dating and casual relationships. I think it would be cool. I'm a bit tired of recieving the message that INTPs can only manage long-term relationships and are super loyal e.t.c. it is generally ignored that top Ne and Se users are natural commitment-phobes. We can settle down and be loyal of course but I hate how that's sold as the only option.
You should do a video about the decision making process and procrastination. Its a highly joked about theme in INTP circles and would make a great deep dive subject.
Me and INFJ male, searching up for this to understand my girlfriend even better, and crying by just watching the video because I feel bad for you Intp, especially around 15:30 where you explain the problem of Fe inferior 😅 As an INFJ I can tell you that if people are not good with Fe it does not matter, we can easily see the effort, so even if you're not good at it we truly appreciate you for just trying and make us feel better
Timestamps 0:00 Intro 0:45 Use your Ti hero to solve Fe problems 4:18 INTP Cognitive function stack 5:15 Fe (Extraverted Feeling) 11:58 The INTP and Fe inferior 21:04 Ways to improve your Fe inferior 32:00 Outro
Thank you so much for your videos. They have helped me understand myself so much better, and I've already researched so much stuff about INTPs in the past. The way you explain it and encourage us makes me realize our gifts rather than our weaknesses (which everyone else tends to focus on)
I guess it's because Ti is not obvious to the outside. Unless it's someone close with whom we tend to talk a lot and share our ideas with. Our awkwardness on the other hand, is written all over our existence whenever we got out lmao.
Thanks for the advice and encouragement, Tyler. I REALLY like your videos! I can feel and relate with the reflective sharing and encouraging message in a logical way!😁👍👍👍👍👍 Have a blast day, all INTPs and people!!
I think I figured most of this stuff out on my own, but it has taken almost my entire life (69 years), and I'm still learning. Probably, like many others who commented below, one of the biggest breakthroughs for me was discovery of MBTI, more than 30 years ago.
Thanks for sharing! So damn true. The nicer i am, the more haters I got. People either feel me being pretentious or too perfectly good-hearted that they envy. The truth is, im bad at talking about sad things, bc im afraid to cry and feel embarrassed. So i never show or talk about these things, then people think my life is perfect and I feel they envy me. Its real difficult to get people to like me.... i feel this all my life, every single day.
Excellent videos. I've watched the one about the ni critic and including this one. You're one of the best that I've seen break it down into practical terms. I know that strange to say about INTP, but it seems like that's what you're doing. 😄. maybe it's the encouragement that you bring to it maybe that's what it is, not sure. Looking forward to other videos.
Fortunately i had a good amount of control over my Fe for a while. I self taught myself. But regardless its still a helpful video as it helps to point out the minor things i could adjust. Idk about other intp's but i always had the idea of wanting to be the best person i can be
Please keep these videos up man. You're doing great. I feel like gained a lot of insight with your videos, especially getting over Si Child. Thank you man, sincerely. Keep the videos up.
Thanks so much for your channel, it really helps a lot !! Could you maybe do a video on how to survive as an INTP at work? I really struggle with SJ's especially ISTJ's and ESTJ's, they just drive me nuts. How do you deal with people who value rules, procedures, hierarchy and tradition over logic all the time???
Certainly not applicable to all persons and companies, but this is what I did: Blow them out of the water with your brilliant ideas and revolutionary improvement suggestions! Then you carve out a free role in the company with the goodwill and trust this will earn you. That will in turn allow you to pursue things that interests you. Excel in your new and interesting projects, and enjoy even more freedom to do whatever you feel like, free from hierarchy, procedures and traditions. How can I follow procedures when the procedures for what I am working on dont even exist 🤷♂️ Also worth mentioning is that I have several close colleagues whom I trust to back me up in any situation.
Totally agree. Can we have an INTP survival at work guide? I think I am a fairly evolved INTP woman. I am confident to express my ideas and speak up. Not a surprise that rubs my insecure ESTJ manager the wrong way. Not gonna hide my light so please help.
11:40 had this happen to me at work. Other coworker was in the wrong but somehow turned everyone against me. Too bad INTPs dont care about what people think, spent the next 2 years setting up cameras and microphones in my cubicle and documenting their work ethics and mistakes or doing something they shouldnt do. Drop the bombshell when the ring leader was up for promotion and got his ass fired. Now nobody at work bothers me and i cant be happier.
Psilocybin turns up the volume on your Fe sensitivity. I did one therapy session and for 2.5 months I was a mega empath. I’m a calloused funeral director but after the mushrooms, I actually cried with people. I felt their pain.
Oh,, how true this rings!! Especially not knowing how to offer emotional support . My friend had a lousy spouse that made her cry often. Finally, I had to tell her "if you need help fixing or figuring something out, I'm your go-to, but if you're crying, don't call me. I'll only make you cry more. Not that I want to, I just don't know how to fix crying"
Very helpful and insightful. Thank you, it helped me to view myself from a more positive perspective. Keep doing what you're doing - you are great at it. Tip - try having more visuals.
How about intp being the jokers we can be, and how this collides where CONCRETE thinkers are involved in the situation..... It can get nightmarish because they don't comprehend JOKES
I have tried to be more in your face Se in spaces open to all publics where I have been ambushed by tall and strong angry people who unleashed their dogs onto me and my chihuahua--or who persistently ran in circles around me and my chihuahua in the early hours of the morning. Then the Se dominants all got together and surrounded me. I tried to point out the inconsistencies in their affirmations etc. but basically it was very scary because they could have beaten me to a pulp in seconds. Someone called the police. I also tried to answer back on several occasions when I was insulted or my dog was insulted--but very loud people just shouted back and I did not garner any respect. Mostly people laughed at me or insulted me. It was extremely unpleasant and unrewarding. So now I usually only interact with other people on the Internet--like now in this moment. I avoid going out altogether. But thanks for your insights. I hadn't really analysed the Se aspects. more info would be welcome.--INTP
I feel you as INTP myself i value my space i do understand that as me people is going to embrace their space as much as possible, my Ti-Ne doesnt care at all i just want the world i dont have to be nice with you only because want to feel nice with yourself even if you want to point out my value as a person, what is my real value, do i dress terrible? Only one may knows thinking deep mean while you can go back and try organise your bullshit life and sure let you know how stupid is all this, how pathetic and managable is your life just for the bliss of plessure and the need of control, or how easy is to make insecure those people that are so concern about you. The funny thing i will forgive those persons (Fe) if their true and honest with their concerns but this only happens with specific types dont be that logic with that ExxJ lol
In true into fashion I have found a way to out-think and help others in emotional distress. I volunteered at a crisis center for several months. They gave intensive training on de-escalation through active listening. It has helped me a lot in connecting with others. A good book on the topic is called "Never Split the Difference".
I'm reasonably certain I Am an INTP based on information I've gained from yours and others videos on INTPS, And I'm not sure if this is an INTP thing completely but I've noticed that I tend to almost rigidly follow a system I am not familiar with, including socializing. For instance, When trying to learn formal logic, I try and follow every step precisely because I'm not exactly sure what the principles of it are yet. This often takes a very long time, and instead of finishing quickly like most sj types probably would, I end up taking much longer because I am trying to learn as much as possible so that I can indirectly figure out the principles of something because most people don't explain principles very well in my opinion. But I find that in social situations, this is precisely the wrong thing to do. Perhaps this is why some say that INTPS are robots, not because they are necessarily, but because they tend to hold themselves very straight, and speak very formally which is seen as not normal to most people. Also, I find that I make more mistakes in social situations because things are happening so fast That my TI cannot keep up because it it is focusing on something that may have happened earlier within the social situation and trying to find the proper way to respond. Also, It just made me realize that this is why the se trickster is a trickster function in the first place, not because we were born this way inherently, but because Ti is such a detailed and focus oriented function that not much can enter into the reality of the INTP. Thus SE, which is almost the natural opposite to TI, cannot enter into the INTP reality. Lol, sorry for the long and overly detailed comment. My point was, and you mentioned this a little as well is to not do this in social situation. ONCE I stop or minimize the TI function and just focus on what's going on, and what's being said, I start acting more naturally and can interact a lot better. Once the social interaction is done, then you can use TI to analyze what happened if you want. But during any social interaction, act natural, don't use TI as much to find the right thing to say. I find that people respond to me better when I do this. But, of course, I could always be wrong. ,
same here. When i just go with the flow and dont use my brain, the better the social situation will be for me personally. But one problem is, even though people around me feel better, i feel im not making any efforts and act in the exact way when i dont care about someone.
Thank you so much for this channel. You’ve managed to put my feelings into words, something I could never do, and on top of that also provide advice. Please keep doing what you do, even though you don’t have as many views! You don’t know how much this meant to me. I’ll be truly implementing the things you say.
I would like to know some of your thoughts on how Ti, Ne, Si and Fe manifest differently on ENTP's and INTP's. I've been trying to define either I'm more of an Ti dominant or Ne dominant for quite some time and it seems like I'm just an INTP with some decent level of Fe development over the years. On an unrelated matter, I've been dealing with anxiety and some kind of impostor syndrome for the past few years, which has made me insecure about my Ti abilities once in a while. I've been doing well on college actually (I'm studying electrical engineering here in Brazil) and throughout my whole life in general but I can't help to feel sort of an underachiever. I think this may be a common issue for xNTP's but I'm not sure about it. I think you kind of addressed this in your Ni video but maybe you could talk more directly about the syndrome as well. P.S.: One of the best things I've done for improving my Fe was putting effort on being honest and giving to people exactly as much I was willing to, while waiting nothing in return. I do what I'm willing to do and force myself to not even think about it anymore. I think your take on this issue was quite precise. Great job, man!
Thank you for the kind words. Not really sure which type you are I see signs of both. A video I will make sometime down the road is leading with Ne and let Ti support. You could be a healthy INTP doing this already. As far as the imposter syndrome, you need to realize either way (type wise) that you have a great ability to think logically. Whether it is hero or parent it still puts you near the top. So I think you should be confident in your abilities. This could be a topic for a future video as well. Hope that helped!
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 Thank you, Tyler. I think it helps a lot! And I probably should have made clearer how spot on and helpful I think your videos are. Thank you for taking the time to put up the work, make such a great content and help so many of us!
about the teasing ppl part, most of the time I can't tell if my face can show that I'm just teasing/if my voice sounds like teasing so they end up taking me seriously and i die inside but for dry humor a few friends thought i was pretty funny (tho unintentionally) and liked the dry humor so yay :D
We INTPs "deal" with misunderstanding going through the roof. I once had a date with a guy and I'm not even sure he understood I really was into him (you genuinely think you say "white", they hear "black"). No need to say it went nowhere. I will try to improve myself and become less of an INTP alien and more of a nice hooman to be with and take a second chance with him one day.
The more I tried to hone my FE, the more I lost interest in making superficial friendships, so I stopped. If they don't like me, I don't like them. Just because I don't like them doesn't mean I can't work with them, i prefer not though. I just can't help but see the bs in people. Now that I'm older, I look back, now I realize why I was the odd one out. Only had few friends. I'm really picky about who to hang out with. Hard being this way.
Not going to lie. Every MBTI test I've taken since grade 4 has been in hopes I score something other than INTP. It has not been a pleasent journey feeling like an alien species your whole life, and almost everyone around you reinforcing that feeling. It is a fight everyday not to turn into professor moriarty, or Darth Vader TBH.
I can’t tell if I am a INTP or INFP. I have a big heart and really care for people and I value emotions but I also find them confusing and overwhelming.
... well. I'm fine with myself, including awareness that there are certain areas that maybe deserve further unfolding and specific exercise. but what others think | how others feel why is per se their business and thus out of reach of my self-development. So in all afore, even with me being confident with me (i.e. with what's in my span of control) so far, that won't warrant fit | match with others' wantings | motives | interests whatsoever - and it doesn't make sense to waste oneself offering gifts to world of those who won't | can't appreciate these as are - and to force anything in will succeed even less. there certainly are blackpills to take, intellectually.
I think I can handle social stuff okay, the big thing is feer of conflict, and that you have to be so damd fast or people move on to other things. Thees two sometimes makes me quieter than I really want to be.
It's true, as with everything though easier to say than to do. As you say in the video confidence is important. Had more of it when I was younger, have gotten some battle scars since then. But I feel I am on my way back hopefully a good deal wiser this time. Thanks for your videos and the comment!
When I was younger I was always in situations where two friends fought and they each would come to me and I was able to calmly tell each one that I didnt think the other person was thinking what they thought then later they would talk work it out then dump me.. Happened over and over so for years I thought I was incapable of having friends. Now I see using logic and a calm presence I am able to be a voice of reason?
I am a Cancer, ruled by the heart, so I have a different, more sensitive reaction to other people's feelings. One thing I think we need to remember, is that in times of tragedies, there really is very little that ANYONE can say to take away the pain of others. I often write that when sending condolences, but, let them know that I love them, and care for them, and I am there for them.
Okay so, after watching all these videos about personalities, I am seriously doubting the existence of free-will. Our will is dependent on our personality, and since its dependent on something, it is not free
I think I struggle with my memory. Doesn't seem like I have a very good long term memory, but then again that cud really be the result of all d fucking weed 😣
Very interesting video. Part of the reason being that I could not really identify with many of the typical issues, but towards the end I realised that it is most likely because I have been put into or put myself into situations or roles where I have been forced to do many of the things you recommend towards the end of the video. One thing I can say greatly improved my ability to interact with other people is speaking in front of a crowd. Not talking about 1000 people, but 20-100 people. In the past I used to be terrified whenever I was talking to more than 5 people, but a few years ago I was asked to travel abroad for a conference. I said yes, and then realising afterwards that I would be speaking in front of about 100 CEOs and college professors.... I was incredibly nervous, but survived the ordeal. And it really was a turning point in my life. Also, look up the story about Warren Buffet and his speaking course. (Pretty sure he is an INTP btw)
I don’t have Fe on my first 4 in my function stack. My question 🙋🏼♀️ is why is it so important that people like you (INTP)? It’s a very sincere question. I just want to understand... the way I think, if I’m liked then I’m liked... if not then that’s ok too.
You have to remember that everyone has an insecurity. We know that we are awkward and don't do well in social situations, and we hate that about ourselves. We would love nothing more than to be social butterflies loved by everyone, but it just does not happen. That's why I talk about getting over your insecurity is very important in your life. Hope this helps!
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 Thank you. Yes we all have insecurities, very true. I have noticed and I hope you feel better in knowing that being liked by many has its disadvantages. So much more is expected of you. Fe has a disadvantage where trying to please “the tribe” can cause someone to make choices they wouldn’t normally make, for the sake of creating what they perceive as harmony for the tribe. Ex: A young Fe user trying to keep a rowdy party happy with substance abuse and not considering the repercussions. Of course, this is an extreme example but happens often in colleges known to be “party” colleges with fraternities and paternities. I’ve told this to my INTP bf as well.
@@jennahudson3420 I think your question strikes two chords, one obvious, one subtle. The obvious answer is that we (INTPs) want to be liked but know that we are sometimes awkward, abrasive, alienating, condescending, or just plain know it all. We don't often realize we are doing this (thanks Fi demon and Se trickster). We are just trying to share our excitement for information with others. Knowing THAT we do it, but being unable to see WHEN we are doing it until after the fact, creates a lot of anxiety about IF we are being well received. And that's assuming we are dealing with a blanket/ general social situation. Enter the dark horse reason. Vested interest. We see others being happy, and we want to be happy to. We see them being happy when they are social (a perception) and feel like "why oh why didn't I take the blue pill". Is it better to suffer in knowledge, or be blissfully ignorant? (Again, this is a skewed perception). What is really happening is that we want something. Jovial interactions, effortless success, a pretty girl or hot guy... whatever. Then we hyper analyze all the outcomes relating to this interaction (Ne parent), doubt or capability (Ni critic), and have the reliable past failures (Si child) nagging at us. So social interaction is like a tool that we have no idea how to use (Fe inferior) because while we are aware (poorly) of other people emotions, we don't know how they will react, because we don't really understand our own emotions (Fi demon), so how could we understand, much less predict others. And if (Ne parent) the situation goes bad, which it reasonably could (Ti hero), then how the heck are we gonna deal with it, much less fix it, with out go to tool (Ti logic). We have the best tools to fix any problem (Ti/Ne)... except emotions. Because emotions don't play by the rules.... or at least, that's how it feels. On top of all that, first impressions count, so if you mess it up, it's really unlikely to be able to try again. And because we struggle with being motivated enough to want something, when we want something enough to try, we better get it right.
Hi Jenna! Im an INTP and may have some idea about the question. Since i was young, whoever im with, a friend or boyfriend, or colleague, i seem to be the one everyone like less compared to the other person. It happened hundred times to me & really make me feel desperate about the idea of someone liking me better over another person, like literally anyone. And it became my deepest insecurity. Hope it make more sense to you!
As female INTP what if my T is just only slightly above like 53% I think I'm good with feeling as well, definitely not like Tyler or lab mice/or robot. As working as a counselor I feel inferior comparing my INFP friend but also I'm not that good at academic or logics even though I'm curious and intrigued all kind a different subjects and some theories, etc. still I'm easily overpowered by my emotions and other ppl's feelings (almost like empath) but not necessary handle it properly..
"Logic isn't sexy" as an INFJ I highly disagree xD, I'm very attracted to INTPs high lvl of logic and honestly it turns me on more than any sexual connotations 😂 Edit: but I also realise that applies to a small group of people in society as INFJs like INTPs are one of the rarest personality types. Regardless, INTPs, own your intelligence and logic, it's hot af xD
When I add emotion to my words and voice to me it comes across as I'm being insincere and faking it like in drama class because I am but everyone likes it and then I can't take emotions because I see them or at least know there fake towards me people just don't notice what they do, I know the rules I've watched for years but no one else seems to know and they're happy 😅
Have you been in a situation when you don't want somebody to like you? You purposefully do things to make them dislike you, and when they actually start not liking you, it bothers you
The misconception of INTP having an under develop feeling function is wrongly construed that it meant its not yet develop! It quite easy to prove it is a poor assumption for psychology people think and assume the feeling function is undeveloped. First of all, most animals that is less intelligent than humans can sense things what humans cannot! In the category of sense special forces? Human do have the poorest sensory organs compare most species... does this mean our senses are underdeveloped? You think any person with a decent mind will accept this assertion and conclude that this is logically true conclusion? I bet not.... since any one celled organism can sense to what humans cannot would mean such organism must be more evolve since our senses hasn’t yet develop to detect what it detect? i think thats pure hogwash obviously! Logically. evolution isn’t about having more complex senses but it’s only a compensation for other creature for having the lack of brain to figure out things... like the BS people say where no dog or bear will ever smell it ever... no matter how complex their olfactory nerves, right?! Therefore... evolution is the development of cognitive function to the devolving height of the development of the senses to survive in an ever-complicated dynamics as ite move along to more complicated level of perception that senses becomes futile to perceive or interpret things properly! The evolution of the mind starts here... where the drama of predator and prey become a dance of the 2 opposing nature.... using the senses to defend itself in all potential harm and the other using the brain to beat the senses by hiding, trapping and pushing the prey to a preferred route of escape and take the prize there! Its not only a pretty common drama in the wilds of Africa but also the most visible drama in action than any other locations! That perspective show... that the feeling function where most people are expert with do often make them bias to their interpretation to what they see in reality and even deny things for the sake of their feelings to be hurt! INTP doesn’t have undeveloped feeling function but set the function to be least dominant and letting the logical function to compensate in containing wild emotion in interfering in deducing the right culprit that cause the turmoil and find the logical solution that addresses what triggered the cause and how to deal with it without making it worse for anybody in the near future! Being sentimental doesn’t curing the emotional diseases but only makes things worst! Since INTP doesn’t rely on emotion to deal with things then INTP is using sentimental way less and but it doesn’t mean INTP don’t use feelings to double check their concluded deduction if its appropriate action that is mindful to people sentiments and fine tune it that the least hurtful and yet most effective action must took place or the only other option will be worse and painful if people find the action seem brutal.... Well, INTP is your last resort and chance to learn you lesson as humanely as possible or Nature will take over the class and teach you with a lesson in the language of pure pain, so you will get the lesson and make sure you will never ever doubt it again! That how nature make sure you know why you really need to learn your lesson without speaking a single syllable. Nature is a very efficient teacher of all time... better don’t ever doubt that fact! So choose which class you will be on hmm? INTP is no stranger of nature's teaching methods and all INTP know exactly what i meant about this... Most will get always get to be blame to almost everything from people who doesn’t take responsibility of their actions but eager to blame it to some else and most often it happens to an INTP, even if they’re not in the vicinity of the turmoil in some cases! Like walking thru hell and come out exactly the same in the same in the outside... but exponentially profound in the inside with tangible evidence to back it up! A deduction from an INTP friend!
Arrogance and confidence are sometimes seen as the same. If you feel like you are becoming too much you might have to pull back a little. I have had to do this myself recently because I was becoming a little rude. People still love it though honestly
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 It is strange yes? I stopped being overly nice at work some years ago because they started to use me as an easy solution tool for their problems. I drew a line. I give advice if somebody needs it but stopped doing their jobs. Now I got respect, and I feel even more confident.
… I‘m not agreeing with the ‚cannot follow through projects until completion‘ detail - rather I knew to stay in some for far too long. But maybe, the known (misery) feels more comfortable than the yet-unknown (wild). another - more severe !!! - disagreement relates to the idea that complexities (in particular in the autopoeitics of socio-psycho-cogno operational interpenetrations | actualities) would lend themselves to mere problem-solving, if only the brightest intellectual would try hard enough. in contrary. the more intellectual one gets, the less one believes this - see 2nd order cybernetics (h v foerster | g bateson), sociological systems‘ theory (n luhmann … and maybe h whyte), organisation theory (k weick), design theory and ‚bounded rationality‘ (h simon), and ‚redpill fundamentals‘ for ‚rational males‘ (r. tomassi) in context of inter.sexual mess.
The way I see it, INTPs are like dogs. I can relate to dogs more than actual people... with that in mind, I just try to act less like a dog and more like a trainer. I just need to understand what kind of animal everyone is and treat them as such. 😅
You give them respect, you should the same right? You're telling me i have been believing this LIE my whole life? Mann Well let me just finish the video ig. Im so confused rn
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As a female INTP who went to an all girls school ages 11-17, I can tell you it was not fun and I really didn't connect with many people. It led me to having lots of confidence issues and believing that I was someone people just didn't like. I've had a skewed view of who I am which has made me super self conscious. I've had to unpack a lot of that recently after realising that I am an INTP and that it wasn't because there was something wrong with me and you're videos are really helping me with that. I really like how you explain about Ti hero in all your videos as it's gives me a confidence boost which I was severely lacking. It's nice to know that I can use MBTI to grow. There's not many people who are willing to put this kind of content together. So again, thank you!
You had nothing to worry,take it as positive, you are rare very rare...so you feel lonely...you are the smartest,logical and loyal..you are unique and like an out of box being....infjs and intp feels like they are aliens....be proud of being different and rare..............
And one question ,how many times did you edit your post after reading it many times..............me =three times....
Yes INTPs are not built for the Se dominated high school scene. But once we realize that we are just built differently we can really come into our own and kill it. Thank you for the kind words really appreciate you watching and commenting on my content!
Same happened to me
@@adonai6256 probably she still counting it
I'm a intp and I feel like leaving comments but then I'm like... what's the point and don't leave one.
“Felt like something was wrong with me”
I remember the first description of INTP I read. I had just taken a test for the first time and during that read I realized the same thing. I wasn’t messed up, I was just another type which blew my mind with new perspectives.
Yep, you feel just a little less lonely when you find out that it's okay to be someone that the other people in your life don't understand.
You’re still messed up
@@amdinstartor6867 yea but everyone is messed up in their own way.
there's a sentiment that i've heard in academia that i feel applies to this video, and that's "If you can't be right, be entertainingly wrong." That's what I try to embrace as a general rule of thumb nowadays.
At the end of the day though the truth is still the truth! But it is hard when you can't compete with someone's emotional appeals. The world is half feelers after all
Agreed.
At 82 years of age, I am very happy with my life! I have learned that when you accept yourself, the whole world will accept you. Have the courage to admit your vulnerabilities and even ask for help. I am enjoying my strengths, learning new things all the time and thankful I am dealing logically with problems.
When it comes to emotions I want to die. I just can't deal with emotions.
I am very uncomfortable with my emotions, always have been. But about four years ago I thought it wouldn't hurt me if I tried to learn to process them a little bit and share my feelings as thoughts with people.
And nowdays I can talk about why my feelings are working the way they are with my mom. It doesn't sound much but it's a huge progress.
So what I'm saying is: you can have better connection with your feelings. It won't be the same as people who are comfortable with their feelings but you can learn to analyze them and learn new things from yourself in that process.
@@piraattipupu I try hard to deal with my emotions even if they are like a hurricane.
Yes! I truly struggle to unpack supressed emotions piling up since my childhood. Espacially my anxiety climbs to the roof being in the same environment with people who are angry, hatefull and yelling at my face(usually happens in family conflicts and work) and it almost feels like, the more I am willing to unpack my emotions the more they got conscious and annoying. I wonder how I will be dealing with these negative emotions in this semester ugh 🙄🤮. How do you deal with it though?
@@berkaytugrel9084 it depends. If it is a very serious situation, like people arguing, yelling and the enviroment becomes too dark to stay in peace, I cry. Crying allows me do get rid of the stormy emotions and then I meditate for at least 25 minutes as soon as possible. Listen to peaceful songs, learning japanese, get into my own world and watching videos showing the best paradisiac places to travel, disappear with the hurricane of the emotions that makes me feel down.
I enjoy emotions. I felt that I could feel every emotion, enjoy every emotion by putting myself in a third person perspective. It's like being the hero of your own movie.
Good point about the people not liking you when you're too nice. To put in more logical terms, people can sense that you're insecure about popularity and being well liked by people is a social resource so due to human nature that people always gravitate towards those with more social resource, you come off as lower in the hierarchy when you're being nice for no other purpose.
I feel like female INTPs (like me) suffer more from this because of what is socially expected of women, but once we figure it out it can give us an edge that male INTPs generally may not come into until later in life. Anyway, really good content and it would be very cool if you could do a video on gender advantages and disadvantages of the INTP type? Either way, I really appreciate your videos! Thank you
That is a good idea! I do not have much info on female advantages/disadvantages though. But might be something to look into
That is probably why that seems to have the opposite effect.
as to be expected with INTP, this is genius. great stuff here 👍🏾
Thank you for the kind words. I think us as INTPs have the world in our hands, if we can just get over these insecurities. Have a great day!
To "tune in" to a person, I have found it helpful to wait about 10 seconds and try to observe them before I begin speaking to them. Sometimes it takes a few extra seconds to be able to tell what emotional level they are in. I have often wanted to begin talking to someone about something I was excited about but after this brief pause I have repeatedly been able to tell if someone is not in a good head space. Then I ask what is going on with them and try to focus on them if they are upset about something. Doesn't come naturally but we can use our analytical skills to our advantage. I think it's not that we can't observe body language as well as others, it just sometimes we are a bit slower or don't really want to do it. At least for me anyway.
Absolutely! I do this too. I pause and take my time.
Unless I bump into someone, where conversations are immediate, I can still very quickly work out what their states are.
I'm an INTP with ADHD.. School for me was absolute hell.. Had to just try and slip under the radar until I could do my own thing. I've spent several minutes mulling over the wording in this comment and almost abandoned it twice.. and I'm waaaaaaaay behind on two jobs I'm working on. There are just too many interesting things out there.. "MORE DATA!!" Is the battle cry of an INTP. Hope you're all coping, weren't the lockdowns great?? 😊
Yes schools are not designed for INTPs (especially high school). You have to deal with the social situations along with trying to learn. High school is more designed for ESTPs, ESTJs, ESFPs, etc.
LoL same intp with ADHD life's hard
this comment is an attempt at socializing, haha.
Thanks for the info, I subbed.
The part about trying to open up and connect with others and just being ignored or even rejected harshly is definitely relatable. I gotta work on being less insecure about my awkwardness and desire to be well liked. I have to stop fearing failure/rejection and taking things too seriously. Otherwise it will cause the opposite effect. Thank you.
Gold. If you could do one on dating and casual relationships. I think it would be cool. I'm a bit tired of recieving the message that INTPs can only manage long-term relationships and are super loyal e.t.c. it is generally ignored that top Ne and Se users are natural commitment-phobes. We can settle down and be loyal of course but I hate how that's sold as the only option.
True, we are too loyal ,that is our problem with this corrupted world....
I have quite a few ideas on the dating topic. Thanks for the recommendation!
For me it's not that it's the only option, is just the only option I buy
@@TheHighCooker Same. I'd rather not waste time, energy, and mindspace on worthless encounters and connections
Damn James sounds like you got burnt at least once
You should do a video about the decision making process and procrastination. Its a highly joked about theme in INTP circles and would make a great deep dive subject.
Me and INFJ male, searching up for this to understand my girlfriend even better, and crying by just watching the video because I feel bad for you Intp, especially around 15:30 where you explain the problem of Fe inferior 😅
As an INFJ I can tell you that if people are not good with Fe it does not matter, we can easily see the effort, so even if you're not good at it we truly appreciate you for just trying and make us feel better
How to help ppl with emotional stuff: give them reality checks. Half the time they'll understand.
Timestamps
0:00 Intro
0:45 Use your Ti hero to solve Fe problems
4:18 INTP Cognitive function stack
5:15 Fe (Extraverted Feeling)
11:58 The INTP and Fe inferior
21:04 Ways to improve your Fe inferior
32:00 Outro
Thanks
As an INTP, I like Einstein, did poorly in school. Because I care more about my own thoughts than studying other's.
Thank you so much for your videos. They have helped me understand myself so much better, and I've already researched so much stuff about INTPs in the past. The way you explain it and encourage us makes me realize our gifts rather than our weaknesses (which everyone else tends to focus on)
Thank you for the kind words!
I guess it's because Ti is not obvious to the outside. Unless it's someone close with whom we tend to talk a lot and share our ideas with.
Our awkwardness on the other hand, is written all over our existence whenever we got out lmao.
Thanks for the advice and encouragement, Tyler. I REALLY like your videos! I can feel and relate with the reflective sharing and encouraging message in a logical way!😁👍👍👍👍👍 Have a blast day, all INTPs and people!!
Thank you so much for the kind words!
Thanks Tyler for being precise and not losing yourself, we all need this
I think I figured most of this stuff out on my own, but it has taken almost my entire life (69 years), and I'm still learning. Probably, like many others who commented below, one of the biggest breakthroughs for me was discovery of MBTI, more than 30 years ago.
This is the best video ever. I’ve struggling with my inferior fe lately and I feel so much better
Glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching!
Thanks for sharing! So damn true. The nicer i am, the more haters I got. People either feel me being pretentious or too perfectly good-hearted that they envy. The truth is, im bad at talking about sad things, bc im afraid to cry and feel embarrassed. So i never show or talk about these things, then people think my life is perfect and I feel they envy me. Its real difficult to get people to like me.... i feel this all my life, every single day.
Excellent videos. I've watched the one about the ni critic and including this one. You're one of the best that I've seen break it down into practical terms. I know that strange to say about INTP, but it seems like that's what you're doing. 😄. maybe it's the encouragement that you bring to it maybe that's what it is, not sure. Looking forward to other videos.
Thank you so much for the kind words. Comments like this keep me from being lazy. Thank you sir!
Thank you so much! Your video made me feel accepted as I am, subscribed!
Fortunately i had a good amount of control over my Fe for a while. I self taught myself. But regardless its still a helpful video as it helps to point out the minor things i could adjust. Idk about other intp's but i always had the idea of wanting to be the best person i can be
Please keep these videos up man. You're doing great. I feel like gained a lot of insight with your videos, especially getting over Si Child. Thank you man, sincerely. Keep the videos up.
Thank you for the kind words. Working on one today!
Overcompensating by being nice, making people like us less. Holy cow that hit hard. I did have fear and shame, wanting to be liked and popular
Thanks so much for your channel, it really helps a lot !! Could you maybe do a video on how to survive as an INTP at work? I really struggle with SJ's especially ISTJ's and ESTJ's, they just drive me nuts. How do you deal with people who value rules, procedures, hierarchy and tradition over logic all the time???
Great video suggestion I will probably make one of these in the future. Glad the content is helpful!
Certainly not applicable to all persons and companies, but this is what I did: Blow them out of the water with your brilliant ideas and revolutionary improvement suggestions! Then you carve out a free role in the company with the goodwill and trust this will earn you. That will in turn allow you to pursue things that interests you. Excel in your new and interesting projects, and enjoy even more freedom to do whatever you feel like, free from hierarchy, procedures and traditions. How can I follow procedures when the procedures for what I am working on dont even exist 🤷♂️
Also worth mentioning is that I have several close colleagues whom I trust to back me up in any situation.
Totally agree. Can we have an INTP survival at work guide? I think I am a fairly evolved INTP woman. I am confident to express my ideas and speak up. Not a surprise that rubs my insecure ESTJ manager the wrong way. Not gonna hide my light so please help.
11:40 had this happen to me at work. Other coworker was in the wrong but somehow turned everyone against me.
Too bad INTPs dont care about what people think, spent the next 2 years setting up cameras and microphones in my cubicle and documenting their work ethics and mistakes or doing something they shouldnt do. Drop the bombshell when the ring leader was up for promotion and got his ass fired.
Now nobody at work bothers me and i cant be happier.
Your videos are Godsend! Thank you!
Glad you like them!
Psilocybin turns up the volume on your Fe sensitivity. I did one therapy session and for 2.5 months I was a mega empath. I’m a calloused funeral director but after the mushrooms, I actually cried with people. I felt their pain.
Great! Thank you. ❤
Yes feeling inadequate to help people emotionally. Try to encourage always sounds stupid and awkward but will keep trying.
What I have learnt is that you can solve the problems with logic only up to a certain level of complexity.
Oh,, how true this rings!! Especially not knowing how to offer emotional support . My friend had a lousy spouse that made her cry often. Finally, I had to tell her "if you need help fixing or figuring something out, I'm your go-to, but if you're crying, don't call me. I'll only make you cry more. Not that I want to, I just don't know how to fix crying"
Hey, Tyler. I just wanted to say that your insight is priceless. Thanks. ~INTP (5w48)
Very helpful and insightful. Thank you, it helped me to view myself from a more positive perspective. Keep doing what you're doing - you are great at it.
Tip - try having more visuals.
How about intp being the jokers we can be, and how this collides where CONCRETE thinkers are involved in the situation..... It can get nightmarish because they don't comprehend JOKES
I have tried to be more in your face Se in spaces open to all publics where I have been ambushed by tall and strong angry people who unleashed their dogs onto me and my chihuahua--or who persistently ran in circles around me and my chihuahua in the early hours of the morning. Then the Se dominants all got together and surrounded me. I tried to point out the inconsistencies in their affirmations etc. but basically it was very scary because they could have beaten me to a pulp in seconds. Someone called the police. I also tried to answer back on several occasions when I was insulted or my dog was insulted--but very loud people just shouted back and I did not garner any respect. Mostly people laughed at me or insulted me. It was extremely unpleasant and unrewarding. So now I usually only interact with other people on the Internet--like now in this moment. I avoid going out altogether. But thanks for your insights. I hadn't really analysed the Se aspects. more info would be welcome.--INTP
I feel you as INTP myself i value my space i do understand that as me people is going to embrace their space as much as possible, my Ti-Ne doesnt care at all i just want the world i dont have to be nice with you only because want to feel nice with yourself even if you want to point out my value as a person, what is my real value, do i dress terrible? Only one may knows thinking deep mean while you can go back and try organise your bullshit life and sure let you know how stupid is all this, how pathetic and managable is your life just for the bliss of plessure and the need of control, or how easy is to make insecure those people that are so concern about you. The funny thing i will forgive those persons (Fe) if their true and honest with their concerns but this only happens with specific types dont be that logic with that ExxJ lol
I become rude in social situations because people are illogical. How can I stop being rude as an intp?
Develop goals idk -
-Mistyped ixfj
In true into fashion I have found a way to out-think and help others in emotional distress. I volunteered at a crisis center for several months. They gave intensive training on de-escalation through active listening. It has helped me a lot in connecting with others. A good book on the topic is called "Never Split the Difference".
Just commenting to hopefully promote this video
I'm reasonably certain I Am an INTP based on information I've gained from yours and others videos on INTPS, And I'm not sure if this is an INTP thing completely but I've noticed that I tend to almost rigidly follow a system I am not familiar with, including socializing.
For instance, When trying to learn formal logic, I try and follow every step precisely because I'm not exactly sure what the principles of it are yet. This often takes a very long time, and instead of finishing quickly like most sj types probably would, I end up taking much longer because I am trying to learn as much as possible so that I can indirectly figure out the principles of something because most people don't explain principles very well in my opinion.
But I find that in social situations, this is precisely the wrong thing to do.
Perhaps this is why some say that INTPS are robots, not because they are necessarily, but because they tend to hold themselves very straight, and speak very formally which is seen as not normal to most people.
Also, I find that I make more mistakes in social situations because things are happening so fast That my TI cannot keep up because it it is focusing on something that may have happened earlier within the social situation and trying to find the proper way to respond.
Also, It just made me realize that this is why the se trickster is a trickster function in the first place, not because we were born this way inherently, but because Ti is such a detailed and focus oriented function that not much can enter into the reality of the INTP.
Thus SE, which is almost the natural opposite to TI, cannot enter into the INTP reality.
Lol, sorry for the long and overly detailed comment.
My point was, and you mentioned this a little as well is to not do this in social situation.
ONCE I stop or minimize the TI function and just focus on what's going on, and what's being said, I start acting more naturally and can interact a lot better.
Once the social interaction is done, then you can use TI to analyze what happened if you want.
But during any social interaction, act natural, don't use TI as much to find the right thing to say. I find that people respond to me better when I do this.
But, of course, I could always be wrong. ,
same here. When i just go with the flow and dont use my brain, the better the social situation will be for me personally. But one problem is, even though people around me feel better, i feel im not making any efforts and act in the exact way when i dont care about someone.
Thank you so much for this channel. You’ve managed to put my feelings into words, something I could never do, and on top of that also provide advice. Please keep doing what you do, even though you don’t have as many views! You don’t know how much this meant to me. I’ll be truly implementing the things you say.
This is good advice. I wish I could have found this when I was a young adult.
Oh God......😞😞....27:40.... I now can understand my teenage daughter cringe moments caused by me in FE grip......
Entertaining
I always thought i was an istp after watching this now i realize i am 100% an intp
ISTP also have Fe inferior so who knows!
I have an ISFJ significant other, and have learned a lot from him!
You're videos are very comforting to listen to. Thank you.
I would like to know some of your thoughts on how Ti, Ne, Si and Fe manifest differently on ENTP's and INTP's. I've been trying to define either I'm more of an Ti dominant or Ne dominant for quite some time and it seems like I'm just an INTP with some decent level of Fe development over the years.
On an unrelated matter, I've been dealing with anxiety and some kind of impostor syndrome for the past few years, which has made me insecure about my Ti abilities once in a while. I've been doing well on college actually (I'm studying electrical engineering here in Brazil) and throughout my whole life in general but I can't help to feel sort of an underachiever. I think this may be a common issue for xNTP's but I'm not sure about it. I think you kind of addressed this in your Ni video but maybe you could talk more directly about the syndrome as well.
P.S.: One of the best things I've done for improving my Fe was putting effort on being honest and giving to people exactly as much I was willing to, while waiting nothing in return. I do what I'm willing to do and force myself to not even think about it anymore. I think your take on this issue was quite precise. Great job, man!
Thank you for the kind words. Not really sure which type you are I see signs of both. A video I will make sometime down the road is leading with Ne and let Ti support. You could be a healthy INTP doing this already.
As far as the imposter syndrome, you need to realize either way (type wise) that you have a great ability to think logically. Whether it is hero or parent it still puts you near the top. So I think you should be confident in your abilities. This could be a topic for a future video as well. Hope that helped!
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 Thank you, Tyler. I think it helps a lot! And I probably should have made clearer how spot on and helpful I think your videos are. Thank you for taking the time to put up the work, make such a great content and help so many of us!
about the teasing ppl part, most of the time I can't tell if my face can show that I'm just teasing/if my voice sounds like teasing so they end up taking me seriously and i die inside
but for dry humor a few friends thought i was pretty funny (tho unintentionally) and liked the dry humor so yay :D
We INTPs "deal" with misunderstanding going through the roof.
I once had a date with a guy and I'm not even sure he understood I really was into him (you genuinely think you say "white", they hear "black").
No need to say it went nowhere.
I will try to improve myself and become less of an INTP alien and more of a nice hooman to be with and take a second chance with him one day.
Sometimes things don't work out and thats fine. Trying and failing is better than never trying at all. Lessons can be learned
Thank you for the encouraging video. It's so helpful!
The more I tried to hone my FE, the more I lost interest in making superficial friendships, so I stopped. If they don't like me, I don't like them. Just because I don't like them doesn't mean I can't work with them, i prefer not though. I just can't help but see the bs in people. Now that I'm older, I look back, now I realize why I was the odd one out. Only had few friends. I'm really picky about who to hang out with. Hard being this way.
Not going to lie. Every MBTI test I've taken since grade 4 has been in hopes I score something other than INTP. It has not been a pleasent journey feeling like an alien species your whole life, and almost everyone around you reinforcing that feeling. It is a fight everyday not to turn into professor moriarty, or Darth Vader TBH.
Thank you
Thanks for watching!
I can’t tell if I am a INTP or INFP. I have a big heart and really care for people and I value emotions but I also find them confusing and overwhelming.
Sound like an INFP but not sure!
... well. I'm fine with myself, including awareness that there are certain areas that maybe deserve further unfolding and specific exercise. but what others think | how others feel why is per se their business and thus out of reach of my self-development. So in all afore, even with me being confident with me (i.e. with what's in my span of control) so far, that won't warrant fit | match with others' wantings | motives | interests whatsoever - and it doesn't make sense to waste oneself offering gifts to world of those who won't | can't appreciate these as are - and to force anything in will succeed even less. there certainly are blackpills to take, intellectually.
I think I can handle social stuff okay, the big thing is feer of conflict, and that you have to be so damd fast or people move on to other things. Thees two sometimes makes me quieter than I really want to be.
It is helpful to move away from trying to keep the social harmony. This is not your best suit so it should fall to someone else.
It's true, as with everything though easier to say than to do.
As you say in the video confidence is important. Had more of it when I was younger, have gotten some battle scars since then. But I feel I am on my way back hopefully a good deal wiser this time.
Thanks for your videos and the comment!
When I was younger I was always in situations where two friends fought and they each would come to me and I was able to calmly tell each one that I didnt think the other person was thinking what they thought then later they would talk work it out then dump me..
Happened over and over so for years I thought I was incapable of having friends. Now I see using logic and a calm presence I am able to be a voice of reason?
I am a Cancer, ruled by the heart, so I have a different, more sensitive reaction to other people's feelings. One thing I think we need to remember, is that in times of tragedies, there really is very little that ANYONE can say to take away the pain of others. I often write that when sending condolences, but, let them know that I love them, and care for them, and I am there for them.
Very true. Especially for INTPs it can be hard to find the words to say in these situations
Very helpful!!!! Could you also do a video on Ne ?
Good idea I will have to do that in future
People get offended when I speak my mind 😂
Okay so, after watching all these videos about personalities, I am seriously doubting the existence of free-will. Our will is dependent on our personality, and since its dependent on something, it is not free
I don't think that is necessarily true because we can make changes to ourself. It really is just a guiding point for many of the decisions we make
So in most of ur vids we only have ti ne as helpful and need to use it to fix everything else. its exhausting.
I think I struggle with my memory. Doesn't seem like I have a very good long term memory, but then again that cud really be the result of all d fucking weed 😣
It's the weed especially my short term memory took some hits (it's already shit low SE)
Concerning the small talk thing, can't do that 'cuz it's useless...
and we're not good at it (but that' s not the reason we don't do it...).
Very interesting video. Part of the reason being that I could not really identify with many of the typical issues, but towards the end I realised that it is most likely because I have been put into or put myself into situations or roles where I have been forced to do many of the things you recommend towards the end of the video. One thing I can say greatly improved my ability to interact with other people is speaking in front of a crowd. Not talking about 1000 people, but 20-100 people. In the past I used to be terrified whenever I was talking to more than 5 people, but a few years ago I was asked to travel abroad for a conference. I said yes, and then realising afterwards that I would be speaking in front of about 100 CEOs and college professors.... I was incredibly nervous, but survived the ordeal. And it really was a turning point in my life.
Also, look up the story about Warren Buffet and his speaking course. (Pretty sure he is an INTP btw)
I don’t have Fe on my first 4 in my function stack. My question 🙋🏼♀️ is why is it so important that people like you (INTP)? It’s a very sincere question. I just want to understand... the way I think, if I’m liked then I’m liked... if not then that’s ok too.
You have to remember that everyone has an insecurity. We know that we are awkward and don't do well in social situations, and we hate that about ourselves. We would love nothing more than to be social butterflies loved by everyone, but it just does not happen. That's why I talk about getting over your insecurity is very important in your life. Hope this helps!
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 Thank you. Yes we all have insecurities, very true. I have noticed and I hope you feel better in knowing that being liked by many has its disadvantages. So much more is expected of you. Fe has a disadvantage where trying to please “the tribe” can cause someone to make choices they wouldn’t normally make, for the sake of creating what they perceive as harmony for the tribe. Ex: A young Fe user trying to keep a rowdy party happy with substance abuse and not considering the repercussions. Of course, this is an extreme example but happens often in colleges known to be “party” colleges with fraternities and paternities. I’ve told this to my INTP bf as well.
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I think your question strikes two chords, one obvious, one subtle. The obvious answer is that we (INTPs) want to be liked but know that we are sometimes awkward, abrasive, alienating, condescending, or just plain know it all. We don't often realize we are doing this (thanks Fi demon and Se trickster). We are just trying to share our excitement for information with others. Knowing THAT we do it, but being unable to see WHEN we are doing it until after the fact, creates a lot of anxiety about IF we are being well received. And that's assuming we are dealing with a blanket/ general social situation.
Enter the dark horse reason. Vested interest. We see others being happy, and we want to be happy to. We see them being happy when they are social (a perception) and feel like "why oh why didn't I take the blue pill". Is it better to suffer in knowledge, or be blissfully ignorant? (Again, this is a skewed perception). What is really happening is that we want something. Jovial interactions, effortless success, a pretty girl or hot guy... whatever. Then we hyper analyze all the outcomes relating to this interaction (Ne parent), doubt or capability (Ni critic), and have the reliable past failures (Si child) nagging at us. So social interaction is like a tool that we have no idea how to use (Fe inferior) because while we are aware (poorly) of other people emotions, we don't know how they will react, because we don't really understand our own emotions (Fi demon), so how could we understand, much less predict others. And if (Ne parent) the situation goes bad, which it reasonably could (Ti hero), then how the heck are we gonna deal with it, much less fix it, with out go to tool (Ti logic).
We have the best tools to fix any problem (Ti/Ne)... except emotions. Because emotions don't play by the rules.... or at least, that's how it feels.
On top of all that, first impressions count, so if you mess it up, it's really unlikely to be able to try again. And because we struggle with being motivated enough to want something, when we want something enough to try, we better get it right.
Hi Jenna! Im an INTP and may have some idea about the question. Since i was young, whoever im with, a friend or boyfriend, or colleague, i seem to be the one everyone like less compared to the other person. It happened hundred times to me & really make me feel desperate about the idea of someone liking me better over another person, like literally anyone. And it became my deepest insecurity. Hope it make more sense to you!
As female INTP what if my T is just only slightly above like 53% I think I'm good with feeling as well, definitely not like Tyler or lab mice/or robot. As working as a counselor I feel inferior comparing my INFP friend but also I'm not that good at academic or logics even though I'm curious and intrigued all kind a different subjects and some theories, etc. still I'm easily overpowered by my emotions and other ppl's feelings (almost like empath) but not necessary handle it properly..
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You think your logic is sexy? Its not! Haha good point
Sad but true 😂
"Logic isn't sexy" as an INFJ I highly disagree xD, I'm very attracted to INTPs high lvl of logic and honestly it turns me on more than any sexual connotations 😂
Edit: but I also realise that applies to a small group of people in society as INFJs like INTPs are one of the rarest personality types.
Regardless, INTPs, own your intelligence and logic, it's hot af xD
When I add emotion to my words and voice to me it comes across as I'm being insincere and faking it like in drama class because I am but everyone likes it and then I can't take emotions because I see them or at least know there fake towards me people just don't notice what they do, I know the rules I've watched for years but no one else seems to know and they're happy 😅
Have you been in a situation when you don't want somebody to like you? You purposefully do things to make them dislike you, and when they actually start not liking you, it bothers you
The misconception of INTP having an under develop feeling function is wrongly construed that it meant its not yet develop!
It quite easy to prove it is a poor assumption for psychology people think and assume the feeling function is undeveloped. First of all, most animals that is less intelligent than humans can sense things what humans cannot! In the category of sense special forces? Human do have the poorest sensory organs compare most species... does this mean our senses are underdeveloped? You think any person with a decent mind will accept this assertion and conclude that this is logically true conclusion?
I bet not.... since any one celled organism can sense to what humans cannot would mean such organism must be more evolve since our senses hasn’t yet develop to detect what it detect? i think thats pure hogwash obviously! Logically. evolution isn’t about having more complex senses but it’s only a compensation for other creature for having the lack of brain to figure out things... like the BS people say where no dog or bear will ever smell it ever... no matter how complex their olfactory nerves, right?!
Therefore... evolution is the development of cognitive function to the devolving height of the development of the senses to survive in an ever-complicated dynamics as ite move along to more complicated level of perception that senses becomes futile to perceive or interpret things properly! The evolution of the mind starts here... where the drama of predator and prey become a dance of the 2 opposing nature.... using the senses to defend itself in all potential harm and the other using the brain to beat the senses by hiding, trapping and pushing the prey to a preferred route of escape and take the prize there! Its not only a pretty common drama in the wilds of Africa but also the most visible drama in action than any other locations!
That perspective show... that the feeling function where most people are expert with do often make them bias to their interpretation to what they see in reality and even deny things for the sake of their feelings to be hurt! INTP doesn’t have undeveloped feeling function but set the function to be least dominant and letting the logical function to compensate in containing wild emotion in interfering in deducing the right culprit that cause the turmoil and find the logical solution that addresses what triggered the cause and how to deal with it without making it worse for anybody in the near future! Being sentimental doesn’t curing the emotional diseases but only makes things worst!
Since INTP doesn’t rely on emotion to deal with things then INTP is using sentimental way less and but it doesn’t mean INTP don’t use feelings to double check their concluded deduction if its appropriate action that is mindful to people sentiments and fine tune it that the least hurtful and yet most effective action must took place or the only other option will be worse and painful if people find the action seem brutal.... Well, INTP is your last resort and chance to learn you lesson as humanely as possible or Nature will take over the class and teach you with a lesson in the language of pure pain, so you will get the lesson and make sure you will never ever doubt it again!
That how nature make sure you know why you really need to learn your lesson without speaking a single syllable. Nature is a very efficient teacher of all time... better don’t ever doubt that fact!
So choose which class you will be on hmm? INTP is no stranger of nature's teaching methods and all INTP know exactly what i meant about this... Most will get always get to be blame to almost everything from people who doesn’t take responsibility of their actions but eager to blame it to some else and most often it happens to an INTP, even if they’re not in the vicinity of the turmoil in some cases! Like walking thru hell and come out exactly the same in the same in the outside... but exponentially profound in the inside with tangible evidence to back it up!
A deduction from an INTP friend!
How would you do to get confident by not being arrogant?
Arrogance and confidence are sometimes seen as the same. If you feel like you are becoming too much you might have to pull back a little. I have had to do this myself recently because I was becoming a little rude. People still love it though honestly
@@intpsurvivalguide2473 It is strange yes? I stopped being overly nice at work some years ago because they started to use me as an easy solution tool for their problems. I drew a line. I give advice if somebody needs it but stopped doing their jobs. Now I got respect, and I feel even more confident.
Thanks, that helped
My ability to start and carry on conversations is weak. Terrible at small talk
How did you develop this insight? Have you met a wizard?
Ti hero I believe! Thanks for watching
… I‘m not agreeing with the ‚cannot follow through projects until completion‘ detail - rather I knew to stay in some for far too long. But maybe, the known (misery) feels more comfortable than the yet-unknown (wild). another - more severe !!! - disagreement relates to the idea that complexities (in particular in the autopoeitics of socio-psycho-cogno operational interpenetrations | actualities) would lend themselves to mere problem-solving, if only the brightest intellectual would try hard enough. in contrary. the more intellectual one gets, the less one believes this - see 2nd order cybernetics (h v foerster | g bateson), sociological systems‘ theory (n luhmann … and maybe h whyte), organisation theory (k weick), design theory and ‚bounded rationality‘ (h simon), and ‚redpill fundamentals‘ for ‚rational males‘ (r. tomassi) in context of inter.sexual mess.
Ugh... Confidence...
can you recommend a good site where I could learn about the theory of the MBTI and INTP ? thank you
But what is the definition, when u optimized ur FE?
Wtf bro my mom is esfj😂 and yes she's really good in maintaining relationships with all but my father he's an istj so you know what happen here 😂
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The way I see it, INTPs are like dogs. I can relate to dogs more than actual people... with that in mind, I just try to act less like a dog and more like a trainer. I just need to understand what kind of animal everyone is and treat them as such. 😅
You give them respect, you should the same right?
You're telling me i have been believing this LIE my whole life?
Mann
Well let me just finish the video ig. Im so confused rn
Thank you