Honestly, when you are a loyal fan and watch the show all the time, that repetitive commercial to get you to subscribe is getting beyond annoying. At least make a different one or better yet, stop showing it to people that have already subscribed.😩😩
Clearly I have wasted my life with no ambition, status or power. I moved to a foreign country at 23 and never grew up, just kept on feeling and experiencing new things. So why am I so content with my life as I sit here about to turn 70? Some people want to leave their mark on this world but I guess I want to leave no trace of my passing, same as I do out on the trails. Some people need to live big, but hey, it's okay to live grounded in the present and let others carry all that angst of ambition and competition.🙏
I resonate with this quite a bit. I personally have liked to just be an observer and commentator on what I’ve found in this world, myself, and others. Perhaps that’s what people like us were “meant for”?
I don’t think you’ve wasted your life at all. Your personal goals are yours and yours alone. You’ve reached 70 years which is in itself a milestone achievement. You took a gamble to relocate to a foreign country and made that decision work for you at a young age, again an achievement, and I’m sure there is much more too! Who says that we actually need great ambition, status and power, because with that comes huge responsibility and potential complications?
Your work has helped me a lot. I’m proud of how far you’ve come. Your choice to become a writer, and share the knowledge you’ve gained is what I admire the most.
My oldest sister hated me most of my life, and I spent inordinate amounts of time and energy trying to make her happy. It didn’t even occur to me that she was jealous, and nothing was ever going to make her happy. And the harder I tried the more she hated me. Until recently. And I’ve finally given up. And it’s so freeing. ❤
My older sister was the same. It wasn’t until my 40s that I realized I operated my life in response to her hatred of me by people pleasing, overworking myself, taking tasks on to show how hard I would work. She was diagnosed with a terminal illness 2 years ago & I went to care for her for 8 weeks straight. I fed her, dressed her, changed her, cleaned up after her. I wore sweatpants & tees daily, no makeup, no nails, hair in a bun specifically to dampen any jealous feelings. She was then visibly jealous I was helping with her grandkids, jealous I was connecting with her kids, jealous I was speaking with her friends to update them, visibly jealous I was living, basically. Part of me felt guilty I couldn’t stay longer to help but I realized my very presence ignited her jealousy & it was hurting her for me to stay on and help her. So I left without regret. She died three months ago & as her friend and I grieved together, the friend disclosed the level of jealousy she felt toward me ran deep. I admired & loved her so much it was very painful to hear what I knew all along, out loud. But the admission also validated what I suspected & lifted any negative feelings I had about it because those feelings didn’t belong to me. I let them die with her.
Absolutely agree, I had a similar experience in the family I lived with, the pain stopped when I let go. Sometimes to move forward you have to leave people behind.
I feel this, have my own experience with a older brother who I've bent over backwards for every chance I could get just to be of help to him, always looked up to him and thought he was the coolest person in the whole world.. not until my 30s and a bunch of disappointment along the way did I realize we would never have the brotherhood I thought we did.. he was my biggest enemy and had great jealousy for me and I never knew.. from trying to take my girlfriends and friends to badmouthing me and embarrassing me for absolutely no reason every opportunity he could.. it still sucks.. but the last few years been more rewarding now that I'm not trying to hold him up on a pedestal anymore 😂😅
Same, I recently realised this myself. I have three sisters and for most of my life I’ve blamed myself for not having a good relationship with them. I really started to believe it was my fault because, it’s three sisters! It had to be me. Recently realised that those around me saw the truth but for whatever reason wouldn’t acknowledge it. Thirty years of pain 😢
I sussed people out years ago. My now husband told me I was naive when I met him. He was right. I assumed everyone was nice. I've learnt lessons and I now I see. I didn't realise that there was unscrupulous nasty people smiling in my face and working against me in the background. I've learnt to call people out and not give a S#it about what people think, I'm transparent and I keep the bad people away, the people who caused me pain when I didn't understand why. I realised I'd grown up with a narcissistic mother and I was empathetic and I had allowed that pattern to carry on. Im at peace now ❤
I'm exactly the same as you minus the good husband. Never known love or true acceptance. No1 has ever had my back and I pray one day that at least I'll have a good man by my side, so far I only attracted narcissists. Pray for me and thank you for reading
Also from a dysfunctional family my mother Narc, father is passive aggressive , brother psychopath , cull the toxic people and happy to live alone.. take care wish l had known this 25 yrs ago..walked away from my toxic Marriage.. all good..take care .
“When you show yourself to the world and display your talents, you naturally stir all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity... you cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others.” ― Robert Greene
At 67 years old. I have “no friends” I have slowly stopped contacting them to see if they contacted me first. They didn’t. I feel happy in my own company.
At 73 I like friends around but not a fan of hearing judgements about my lifestyle coupled with the Christ Complex preaching from the woman at the well. After spending 44 years in prison (marriage) I’m finally free to be openly who I am. You’d be surprised at how many people want me back in a prison. Why is this? A woman who needs no validation is unworthy to live her life choices?
@salisiharmony I'm truly proud of you for being strong and getting out of such confinement...I'm still living in my prison due to lack of strength and confidence. You did something that I so want to do and by reading your story of such strength has given me a true gateway of hope and courage to do exactly what you have done. I honestly want to thank you for sharing in your breaking the chains off of you so to speak and the wonderful will to live your life the way you want to and not how others want you to. Always hold that beautiful head up and keep living you.. Many blessings and thanks again
I applaud you for finding this at 33. I finally at 59 started letting go of people. You know those people you finish the call and you wonder why I spent an hour of my life to hang up and feel bad about my life choices. And keeping the people who I felt good about talking to.
Stay grounded with Earth,basic is home safe base for mental health.give your self time to process events ,the world will show you what you already knew,take control and enjoy what you allow
When i discovered my mother was a narcissist and then learned 1 in 6 are narcissists, it has changed my whole world. I never thought so many were so fake. Makes me want to go on a solo hike for eternity.
@@zenostrixsterliterally half of my self discovery journey has been between settling the desire for me to grow an ego and me thinking that if I do that I will be a narcissist like my father.
rural wife hell over 60, my peers yes. b/c they got married and have a mini van they always are wagging that tongue and ruling everywhere they go. Got an education, what for they say?
Maybe you missed what the guest was saying at around 1:13-14 about the guy who laid tile for him being a master in his own quiet way. I guess you should go back and check that out....
@@coloraturaElise No, I watched that. I also watched the part where he says he doesn't critize people for not wanting fame etc. Take this as you will but even though you and I might consider the person laying tile as being a master of his craft a success story relative to being a good person and living a good life it's NOT what society in general sees as "successful", unfortunately. We are being spoonfed this alternate hustle culture through so other sources I'm sure you know what I mean.
When you notice the same set of people who never seem to be around to help but are consistently there to watch you fail and profit from it you have an imposter for a friend in your midst.
This is just a new platform for the programming. The black Brit is just more malleable than Rogan was in the beginning. He’s a bit of an empty shell actually. And these talks and topics are 100% tied to the liberal, atheist, follow the narrative agenda. Greene is a creep. And Rogan was captured and sequestered to a smaller platform for cash to carry on the other part of the narrative. And they memory holed his controversial (truthful) guests. This Brit is owned and won’t steer “off course”
My dear friend wanted nothing her whole life but to have a child. She finally got that opportunity at age 39. Her son was diagnosed with autism at age 1. And was diagnosed as one of the worst cases. She never gave up on him and today he has graduated top of the class in his high-school and college straight through to his masters from Georgia teck. This fall, he starts his new career at a fortune hundred company. Proof that nothing should be treated as a category.
Not a Debbie Downer but I have known two autistic kids. Even with great, caring, loving intelligent parents they met a point they could go no further. Some autistic people choose these positions before they ever got here not only for their growth but others and they all planned it..
I see so much growth in this comment thread. So much of what is awesome about humanity. It truly warms my heart. This comment thread will strengthen your faith in humanity!
Your comment is so much of what is awesome about humanity. As I listened to this interview I was in pain, and the pain grew deeper, ❤which is not always a bad thing. There are a lot of comments and yours really spoke to me. Acknowledging the growth of others within the thread goes a long way to let people know this is a safe space 🫂
I got changed by God when I kept trying to like people who were worthy of it but I just couldn't stand them and felt bad about it. I was macho and proud and He changed me. But first He showed me a vision of Hell...my own version I guess...and asked me if I actually wanted help, to go to Heaven instead...
I spent 30 yrs practicing my instrument, building my business, i tried to be an exceptional parent and musician and what a lesson in futility. My kids are grown and never call, my body broke down i lost my business and my retirement was stolen from me. Relax, stop chasing the wind! Enjoy sleeping in, listening to the birds… just be content.
That's genius, what you wrote! A whole book in four sentences for free! I've read a lot of books and I love reading but these comments I occasionally come across are precious! All this fuss to do this and that, to accomplish, to be someone, is fine just to keep the world going though it doesn't seem to be going very well these days and probably never has. So, be content, the best conclusion EVER! Thank you!
@@LouiesLogsooo independent that they don't even call their dad just to check up on him. Sounds like a bunch of ungrateful children. But than again, there could be a different side to the story since we only read his side.
I had it all, the children, the husband, the beautiful small house, success....... then I sold everything moved back to Europe a year before Covid. I lost everything and at age 60 had to return to the town I was living before I moved.I had 2 suitcases and a few thousand dollars. I started all over again. I am renting, I bought a used car and I am happier than ever. People who were jealous before are still jealous. I don't understand why? I am not rich, I am not young anymore. I love my work and I am a master in my field. I think I upset people because no matter what nothing destroys my joy.
Probably! You’re bouncing back. People don’t like to see you being successful. Shame on them. Their loss. I’ve experienced similar. It used to make me sad, now I don’t give a toss.
@@aisoaification my children moved away one to Australia and the other an hour flight from where I lived accept for one and I brought her and my husband came , I told him on our first date that I will be moving to Europe.
Jealousy a lot of time has less to do with you and more to do with them. People are jealous because of their own inadequacies and shortcomings. I find that a person who is insecure will envy those that walk with their heads high; a person whose been in the same deadend job will envy a person that has the courage to chase their dreams. It all comes back to self
Omg the part about how peoples personalities are contagious. I befriended someone like that. I slowly realized that she was like that when all our conversations were about her and her problems, and anytime i talked about my problems, there was sooo much disinterest and disconnect. So much negativity i started to dread having l7nch together. After she got fired from work i cut things off. And i feel so much lighter. I do miss part of our friendship, and i do care for her, but I couldn't handle the constant negativity
I felt this and I can relate. I recently cut off a friendship of 20 years when I just couldn’t stand the constant complaining. Everything was a problem. Everyone was ‘weird/gay’. Outside of the moaning, she would lace conversations with concealed put downs. I realised that it was ok for us to be friends when I was going from job to job and rented Accomodation. The moment I started to move up the professional ladder and buy property? It made her strangely insecure. I had to cut the cord.
don't feel guilty..we all have problems/issues but draining others is draining their life source/energy.. energy is all we've got.. we all need to learn how to deal with our issues..she's a psychic vampire so to speak..
I dropped a career direction when I was 50! I left my career, my relationship, and my house. It felt like a nervous breakdown. It was painful. BUT I am now living the life of my dreams! Learn the lesson of choosing change before it becomes a big drama
Wow! That's very encouraging. Did you pursue something you had always wanted to do or something entirely new? I am in my 50s and feeling like I need to make such a radical direction in my life.
He made me cry. My heart goes out to him for suffering a stroke when he was and is doing so much for humanity. He speaks for so many of us that have had a health crisis and it has forever changed our lives.
Robert made me cry also. His interview was candid, insightful and thought-provoking. He allowed himself to be vulnerable, and I believe he has truly reached his potential. Thank you and bravo Robert!
I have had so many frenemies…I have serious trouble trusting anyone at all anymore. I am really cautious. It’s horrible to be on the other side of someone’s unnecessary jealousy. I’m completely OVER it. 🙏💛
For real, you always have to be wary of other people because of the things they've been doing and what they could have done to you. It gets exhausting and tires you out.
Yes, but being on the side which they live on must be a horrible miserable world . Which they will never be content in their own skin. just remember, they have to look at their evil self in the mirror every day.
@@coloraturaElise Up until a certain level of awareness, it can be useful to protect yourself, but it is still also a limitation, apart from being addictive, and it should therefore not be the focus. The goal is to get to the level where this protection becomes obsolete. This state is sometimes called inner freedom, but is known under many other names as well.
Ok. The expression on someone's face when you take them by surprise is not all about you, it's where there head is at until they recognize you. Where I work I have a "safe word", pineapple, so that when I'm too in my head and intense he can snap me out of it. Where one's thoughts are is the first expression you'll get. Talk about self obsession.
I have found that when I recite “ help me, Father God and thank you, Father God” I am filled with the inner strength to do and go beyond what is needed. Amen! Hallelujah!
I'm like Miss Edie Brickell.....🎶I'm not aware of too many things, but I know what I know, if you know what I mean"🎶🙄🤣 ** (And according to Carrie Fischer she was aware of how to get Paul Simon for herself??🙄🙄) ** From the song "What I Am" (In case one didn't get the joke)
A real friend, by definition, is someone who believes in you. I judge people by their heart. It's amazing how some people's heart is minuscule. Anyways, have a nice day.
I'm reading people frommy childhood.And all life I try stay away, wheh I found who person are...but bad people always found me, they wathing and falow me in the back...so, later they using all anger to put on me and do something ugly to me. And I always fighting, I need do that to not let enger win...I have very tuff life .
Self comparison is a natural human response so it's not something we can extricate or eliminate, what we should avoid however is unhealthy comparison, when our comparison with others make us act in transgressive ways
It is so important to KNOW that no money, no position, no amount of fame, ....is worth our God-given health! Nourish it Take best care of it And do not run after money!
but i need money man...i want a job i want to atleast have security! i dont wanna chase money but i goddamn need it to atleast raise the quality of my life
@@sasaha8389 That is fine, provided your number one priority is ALWAYS your health. Do not ruin your health in pursuit of money, security, raising living standards, ....
FOR REAL. Darin Olien is the most absurd host I've ever had the misfortune to listen to. I didn't know who he was but I was excited to get another opportunity to hear Robert Greene speak. Well this Darin guy spoke for 90% of the podcast and had nothin of value to share. Even Huberman, who I like, was fangirling over Robert in the most recent one and trying to make thoughtful connections that fell flat.
He’s so right about the smile. The other day I was out getting groceries and this disabled guy riding a scooter said something really kind with the most real smile I’ve ever seen and it wasn’t anything physical it was about me struggling with things in my cart lol. It was like a split second of the universe glitching and being seen, really SEEN by an angel. Just a middle aged guy not super in shape and obviously for whatever reason couldn’t walk to get his groceries. omg I fell in love with him in that second and can’t forget it. Probably relive that moment for the rest of my life. I hope I give people those moments. It’s my life goal now.
I'm 76 and when he mentioned that was life worth living if he couldn't do certain things anymore, my answer to myself and everyone else is find something new that you can do, and do that!
I became disabled. It was very hard to adjust to.. very true. But i have learnt new lesson that people can be cruel to disabled people. I fought not to feel sorry about it. It opened different doors. Closed some I wish it had not.
When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it's crucial to focus on understanding the dynamics of the abusive relationship and the impact it has on the victim, rather than making assumptions or generalizations about their behavior. Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and complex effect on victims, often leading to emotional trauma, low self-esteem, and a distorted sense of self-worth. It can erode trust, create feelings of isolation, and manipulate the victim's perception of reality. Some victims of narcissistic abuse may struggle with maintaining healthy boundaries, trusting others, or recognizing their own value. In some cases, individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse may engage in behaviors that are out of character, including cheating or seeking validation outside the relationship. These behaviors can be a response to the emotional turmoil and manipulation they have endured. It's important to approach this with compassion and understand that these actions may stem from a desire for validation, escape, or a misguided attempt to regain a sense of control or self-worth. However, it's essential to note that not all victims of narcissistic abuse engage in infidelity or seek external validation. Each individual responds to abuse differently, and their actions may vary depending on their coping mechanisms, personal values, and circumstances. If you or someone you know has experienced narcissistic abuse, it is crucial to seek support from professionals such as therapists or counselors who specialize in trauma and relationship dynamics. They can provide guidance, healing strategies, and help rebuild a healthy sense of self-worth and trust. Remember, the effects of narcissistic abuse are complex, and the healing process is unique to each individual. Judgment and assumptions can hinder the understanding and support that victims need. Providing empathy, compassion, and access to appropriate resources can contribute to the healing journey and empower survivors to rebuild their lives. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narc; send a request to: Barryinvestigation@gmail. com
It's tough when you are being abused like it's normal, and there is also deep and sincere love and attachment that comes with it. It's like a mosquito : it's not evil in itself, maybe even cute, but it's only there to drink your blood and drain your life force.
There’s a lot of pain in being your authentic self, too. Many people don’t know how to handle that in someone else, get passive aggressive or just outright hostile. But as you get older, you stop caring what other people think and stop putting up with other people’s bs.
It is called "shadow-work" ( C.G. Jung ) and is a main work in the therapeutic world since decades. People also have downsides from that: getting lost in the dark and looking for failure only in themselves. Without a rational moral compass this work may also confuse and worsen things. So it really needs to be balanced with a very positive goal-setting.
@@biancavonmuhlendorf2608it's important too see the shadow as a branch of your self and not as your whole existence. You may associate with it too much. It is a part of you and you are very complicated mix of qualities therefore treating it like it defines you is a bad idea. Instead it's best to be aware of it and use it contructivily, explore where it comes from, when did you repress it? Why ? How can you make it a part of your life.
A Podcast for Pause and I don’t mean the button… as a registered nurse, I fully understand what a stroke can do to someone. It is impressive to see how intact your mind is Mr. Greene after such a life changing event. Thank you for the clarity, and the depth of your knowledge, and the delivery in this interview. I believe your best is yet to come. To the host of this podcast keep creating life changing contents cause this is exactly what this podcast will do for quite a lot of people. Thank you.
you don't need to be a registered nurse to know what a stroke can do to someone. I never understood why people have to throw in their profession in their comment.
@@TheSteveMeister you don’t know as I do not know for sure. Where is your proof? Are you going to put creative boundaries on God? Regardless of your beliefs, God means creator. Creator does not necessarily mean a conscious man in the sky. It is what started and what has always been. Much better that science and religion work together in tandem and not against eachother. Extremists on both sides do neither justice
I just got goosebumps when I found this interview. Robert Greene my favorite current living intellectual I've had the blessing to have found and listened to being interviewed by my favorite interviewer/podcast personality. Im so excited for this... and this isn't the only one?? Well there goes my day and I couldn't be more excited about what I'm going to walk away with from this. With Robert Greene I'm always blown away. Thank you both for the education and knowledge I've received from listening to both of you separately.
My entire life changed at 50, I’m now 58. Losing your health changes everything, not only for you but everyone in your life. So live in the moment and enjoy the journey, I’m still very blessed, God is so great. One of my favorite podcast! 🤩🇺🇸
I have always been bullied, as a child in Holland and even as an adult in the US. I was feisty but so insecure. I survived a skydiving accident at age 24, leaving me severely disabled. I still became a physician assistant until after 10 years, but had to stop. I became more disabled and was diagnosed with adhesive arachnoiditis. This type of neuro-inflammatory spinal cord inflammation (meningitis) is incurable and the pain is intractable. By now the sacral nerves are adhesed to the bone part and everything hurts. But I got my life back and a lot of time to think and contemplate. I am high IQ and gregarious, not understanding why I was treated badly, also as a crippled comic. Well I had another crisis forcing me find my cojones. I'm finally proud of my accomplishments, and people treat me nicely and with respect. It's a new world fot me, one I enjoy living in. Best wishes, Kaatje
Not everyone. I see so many people’s character are worse with illness. They never realised anything and they stay the same way of behaving no matter what.
Your lifedestiny is sometimes hard to see and understand. It's an really individual experience, the most important is to forgive and that is not to forget beacuse it's important to learn from life events. Wish you the best and remember you are your own best friend. 💜🤗
i stopped speaking to my mom and i never felt better. she was the most fakest and most manipulative person i know and the more she was in my presence the more i felt i was becoming her. I just wished i realized sooner
This is how I felt in my marriage. Being brave and leaving was the best move of my life. Then I did it again with my career. Facing fears is always better than marinating in misery. Thank you for this validation!
DID YOU LEAVE YOUR MARRIAGE BECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND GOT TIRED OF SCREWING THE OLDER YOU? IT HAPPENS ESPECIALLY IF HE HAD YOU SPREAD EAGLE WAY BACK DURING YOUR BEST YEARS..
The humility Robert shows in owning his narcissistic like traits literally is opposite the definition of a classic narcissist. Narcissists are NOT open in looking at themselves with intention to grow/change. They love talking about themselves to stay the same, not evolve. But even brings more credibility to his work. Love it
Most people have narcissistic tendencies. But everyone has different levels, to the point where they could be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
@@JoeyiOiexactly this. I find myself questioning my more narcissistic qualities. They are “dark”, bc it takes you to dark places and breeds all sorts of other feelings. It takes work to realize and it fall into those mindsets.
Robert Greene is a gem to society. I am grateful he is still alive to share this wisdom with the world. Looking forward to his book on the sublime. Cheers :)
@@androidbluatGenerally speaking, people who have suffered a stroke tend to have a shorter lifespan and as a consequence can develop additional life limiting health conditions. There is also an increased risk of a further stroke or strokes which could end up being life threatening?
I’ve found multiple purposes over 64 years, keep discovering myself as I age both the dark and light . The one thing that brings me most joy is hard physical blue collar labor type work that leaves me exhausted but allows me to see results of my labor everyday so I build custom homes for people, flip houses, load airplanes for air cargo company. On off days I take care of my grandchildren as my favorite humans are children, so open so unmasked and curious and funny and full of joy. I also love volunteer work with local rescue mission dealing with alcoholics and addicts in recovery . My biggest challenge… I’m a complete recluse if not working . Zero friendships cuz I find it so hard to talk with other “ grown ups” without putting my foot in my mouth and have learned to avoid social situations entirely but that’s just me… I enjoy solitude if not with children.
Hard work is a blessing - you said it very nicely *too see the results of work everyday* - i, major in food science, turned into alcoholic, lost a decade in a bad relationship, broke up, suicidal thoughts, the whole nine yards. Now? Booze is gone, depression is gone, i am healthy as never in life, lost significant weight. All that thanks to working as a farmer, my life turned 180 in a year
Well said, I’m exactly the same. I find Im the type that loves building business relationships but personal relationships kind of drain my inner spirit knowing that I have to watch everything I say to avoid saying the wrong things that may cause for a person to misread my words and in turn try to make my life miserable from behind!
I remember someone telling me that she may look like she cares about others, but in reality she said she did not care at all. It shocked me to the core. I realised that she wasn't the compassionate person I thought. I now quedtion my perception of everyone around me.
@@AdrianDittman mammals have to be mothered for so long compared to other animals because they are born with less development of the brain, allowing more room for growth than other animals down the line! "The moment you say "I know everything" is the moment you stop growing"-proven true by my boss lol. I play dumb, but friendly, social, and ask lots of questions, psychologically putting people at ease and more comfortable to relay information to you than a know it all, bluntly spoken, arrogant subhuman.
As a horrible human being who easily compare myself to others, feeling sad or envy and jealousy all the time, this interview relieved me a lot for various reasons. First, the fact that we all have dark side make me feel less horrible about my self. Second, as author said if this is the last moment of my life, I would not sit with jealousy. I would rather celebrate my life and my friend’s success. Today I meet some of my highschool friednds who are more successful than me, and who will gonna be marry soon. I felt kind of envy toward them. But after seeing this video, I say to myself. What if this is the last moment I can meet them, what if I die tomorrow. I want to say congratulations to them. And I want to focus on myself what I want in my life and be more strategic. Thank you for great interview
Jealousy comes from insecurity. If you think you can’t have what they have it’s an illusion, you can! But once we realize we’re in full control it takes radical accountability. But we all have dark sides, we’re human animals
@@Rebecca-fo4nn hey thanks for the comments. I think i know and understand what you are talking. but sometimes I feel I cannot achieve some things, and it bothers me. For example, I am queer person who wanna marry, but it's impossible where I live. Also, When I think about lots of people who have disability, it is true that they can't have that some people have. What should we do when we realize that sometimes, I can't achieve what I really want, and How can we be happy after all? just wanna talk about it. Thank you
@@TT-bg1fj Way to happiness? Gratitude; Focus on what good And what you want/like. And give. Because, everything good we received are given, In complex way. 2020 I had joined a group about something like "gratitude by Deepak Chopra" Practice for 21 days. It works. ✨✨💫❤❤❤ You can search it. And Try it. Thank you. 🙏🏻
@TT-bg1fj I personally think anything that is for our highest good is possible.Work on your limited beliefs.Don't compare your life to of others,only use it as a fuel.Some people might have it all & stay jealous ,some might barely have anything & be happy & content...Stay in the moment & work on your confidence, if u can imagine what u want then that timeliness is out there..Confidence, action is the keys..of course how you feel ,how you think ,what you belief is important. .Use the mirror to boost your confidence & self worth
This is why i have always said Trust NO one! Been following that logic my whole life and it hasn't let me down. We are humans, and humans are manipulative. It's not personal, it's just business.
I met someone who said they give their trust to anyone until they prove them otherwise. I don’t believe in that 100% as an adult in this world we live in, that is dangerous.
I feel like it's hard for most people to quantify the small amounts of trust necessary to exist without succumbing to the pressures of "what could happen" in this world. We trust painted lines on the road will guide others into paths that don't collide with ours "Trust no one" is a big lofty phrase that's just as toxic as the inverse. Trust your gut and live your truth. No ideology or catchy slogan is one size fits all
@@PerpetualNotion Agreed 100%. You trust particular people for particular life events. For example: I trust my mother and daughter 100% with my life but wouldn't trust them to make money decisions for me at all.
I have read your book several times ,48 laws of power ,and I’ve recommended it to many people . Some people have criticized me for this recommendation that somehow this book is Machiavellian I don’t see it that way ,I think that your perceptions are very real and sharp . I’m listening to you on this TH-cam podcast and I realize that you have so much wisdom that you are imparting to your listeners ; it is a great gift that you exist on this planet.
Im way too good at reading people.. that's why i stay inside mostly. Everywhere i go i see the true intentions and feelings of people and i don't like it.
Haven't finished the video yet but I do know enough people that say they are good at reading people and it's not the people there reading. It's the intentions that they are perceiving in order to protect themself. Normally it's a Trauma response. Your brain is trying to protect you but it does more harm then good. Considering we are described as creatures that need social interaction to survive, staying inside would be considered harmful, in the long run. I'm a gamer myself and though we can get social interactions online, if we have this issue with reading people, we tend to start isolating even in gaming situations to avoid feeling uncomfortable. Or you know, I'm reading to much in to this and I'm not doctor. Just a dude, playing a dude, playing another dude 😅 So take any of this with a grain of salt. 👍🏽
I am a highly sensitive intuitive type with high empathy which cripples me since I also have the gift of understanding. Where I get hurt repeatedly is that there is no understanding in return when I merely react to abuse. However, none of us are perfect, or even good all the time and most of our good radar comes from trauma and hypervigilence..I'm still in therapy for it because 4 decades of patterns of my attracting people who admire me for these traits, plus my passion and outspokenness....I end up getting angry at them and resentful of them, so that means...I'm not a saint, therefore, there are others who don't like that about me. I mistook my whole life, the 'quiet ons' for being calm, strong, a rock. It turns out that 'rock,' growing up, stood by and didn't protect and defend me against my physically and mentally abusive parent, their spouse who I was more scared of but still screamed bloody murder, when assaulted .....but the quiet one who didn't find me worth the fight to protect me, was just as abusive actually. So, we all have work to do! Humility is key. Tough stuff, really.
I used to dream big because all the people around me saw great potential and I wanted to satisfy them, I'm 27, I'm leading teams and reaching success in my job, but I feel nothing. I will quit soon because I want to work from home and start traveling. I really feel connected when the writer explained their dreams like going to the desert and swim with whales and he preferred to leave that dream to write his last book and accomplish that goal. I reached the success that others wanted for me, but I think that is time to reach the success that I want for me. I got transferred five months ago to a whole new city, without friends nor family and I think that it is my time to disappear and start my journey. Do what you want, but do it for yourself ❤
Hey, I think you do the right thing. I believe humans would be better without leaders. We don't need them anymore really. People can and should guide themselves.
This was so interesting! One thing I realized a while ago is that envy/jealousy is your psyche telling you that there is something in your life that needs fixing. Whether that person has what they have, or they don't, won't change what's wrong in your life. When you fix your own life, it is easier to be happy for others, less envious.
Agree. If you are happy and fully invested in what you are doing - what others have or do won't register the same way at all. You will either be genuinely happy for them or indifferent
I haven't achieved much and I never feel jealous of anyone. It doesn't mean I don't want more for myself. But does that mean I don't have to change anything just because I'm not jealous of other people's success?
This was such an incredible interview.. Robert Greene is an amazing soul. Thank you Steeve along with your team for sharing the gifts of this interview.. ❤❤❤❤ much love
You know what’s funny. If someone just wanted a piece of you and you are aware of the opportunity and that it’s very well an illusion you have the advantage in knowing why not ride the opportunity until it stops bringing you benefits because you were well aware that it was not a opportunity the whole time you can’t be manipulated and convinced that you need to do whatever it takes to keep the opportunity. Exit because you were the one who was manipulating
There's also a difference between being narcissistic versus arrogant. When he talks about finding things in himself that he doesn't like, he seems to be talking about arrogance, but he's using the word narcissist, which could be confusing from a psychology perspective, because he's not an actual diagnosable narcissist.
“Just because something isn't a lie does not mean that it isn't deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.” ― Criss Jami
@kelvinpell4571 Unpopular opinion: the climate is changing, and nature will adapt. Whether or not humans will be in the mix is the question. Climate anxiety is not selfless, its about people trying to save their own ass. 😂
I never realized the speaker was disabled until he started talking about it. Probably the best motivational speaker I've heard in a quite a long time. Thank you.
Say we all are so indoctrinated and they have the labels on us I mean yeah this guy's the best motivational speaker ever okay well know we all are amazing motivational speakers we just all are at different stages of doing it and some do it better than others. We should I think the greatest human act that Nipsey Hussle say that the greatest human act is to inspire and it honestly it really is.
Robert doesn’t look at things with empathy, he sees strategic manipulation of people as the way to dominate life. And I’m not criticizing; he is clearly a fascinating narcissist in recovery. And I believe he might recognize his warpy way of thinking. So good on him. But if you’ll notice, his methods are appealing to those 1 in 6 narcissists who are looking for ways to manipulate with pseudo-authenticity, because narcissists cannot be authentic. He realizes that when people are understood in depth, there comes the true ability to act and to achieve to one’s ultimate life’s desire. He cannot conceptualize the idea that some people do not hide shadow. In expression of shadow, authenticity is being expressed. There are those who take control and do not “act.” Only a grandiose person understands that “weak asks” make them look weak and that “strong asks” hide weakness and are “convincing” to others of your strength. Only narcissists believe that everyone is fake and potentially threatening. Essentially, he is more of a self-conceptualized narcissist than the others. His thoughts are intriguing but you’ll never hear him talk about how to really tap into the emotions of another with care, love, and consideration. At the other end of the spectrum, the ability to be empathetic can also be used to one’s advantage, but narcissists don’t consider that method. He’s learned how to leverage his narcissism for success through identification of the weaknesses in others and himself and realizing where his tendencies have caused him to fall short of control.
@@justtired123I used to be scared Now I am strong and aware. Alone but not lonely. No Envy...No jealousy...No comparison just love for God, self and others with very little need to enter their world until I meet the right people or the right one! 🎉
46:40 “I don’t know about you but I appreciate politeness…I know they’re not necessarily meaning it but it’s nice…it’s kinda smooth. If people weren’t polite it’d be…grating” I just LOVE this. I don’t know why but this just HIT. I am forever going to think of politeness as being smooth from now on. There have been times where when day to day politeness in some circles felt so artificial I wanted to just ram my head in the wall but this… this just resonated so much it’s going to forever make that artificial feeling totally alright now.
Absolutely true. People who have gone through things read the book (48 laws) with a different lens - enlightening. I also remember this one guy who told me "reading it makes you evil, it teaches you to be manipulative". And he was/is the master manipulator (one who you have to watch). I realized that decisively years later. Be very careful of 'frenemies' and narcisits - they totally hate when you are aware of all these tacts or counter-respond in manners that they can no longer put a choke hold on you. Thanks for this episode and continuing to share knowledge and insights.
❤ In my thirties my body broke down. Fibromyalgia took over. Gone was a social life which I loved and was a big part of my life. Pain left me with no desire to teach out or have others reach in to me. I have learned to live with my best friend. God. I talk to Him daily and somehow get through each day by His grace. Being elderly now how grateful I am for peace, quiet, few demands, beautiful music, sitting on my porch and enjoying the view. God bless everyone as we go through this school of life.
YOUR BIG MISTAKE IS THINKING GOD IS A MALE! THE GOD SOURCE IS WITHIN ALL THINGS! INCLUDING YOU! NEITHER MALE OR FEMALE! ENERGY AND LIGHT! IF YOU RELY ON THST HUMAN WRITTEN BIBLE BULLSH1T YOU WILL NEVER FIND PEACE, WELLNESS , CALM AND HAPPINESS
❤I've watched several times now and each time, I gain a different level of understanding. *VERY INTERESTING* episode. Raw, real, engrossing, thought provoking. Praying that Robert Green makes a full recovery. He truly is a treasure. Your questions added an entirely new dimension of richness. Thank you so much!!!! xxx ❤
"Emotionally engaged" whether in work or in love with someone or even something, where you "lose your ego" and "fall" into vulnerability and let go of defenses, where you care more about someone else rather than yourself is WONDERFUL to hear. To lose yourself for something or someone from a place of Love suddenly sounds incredibly healthy and human in the best sense even if or when it isn't returned. And I can look back in thanfulness even at some of the brokenness. And that makes me smile, love and embrace myself. Thank you.
42 right here and never been more peaceful but don't feel bad girl I've been set up and put in jail hell I mean it is ridiculous the f****** lynx these idiots will go to
"I've forgiven the wasp." I love this more than anything else I heard this entire interview." Forgiveness is the key...no matter how big or little it is. LOVE this podcast. Thank you Robert and Steven. You are both amazing.
I became disabled two years ago. Roberts perspective on being disabled, was so helpful for me. I can relate so much to feeling like I’ve lost the ability to do all of the things that I love. Your story is encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing your brilliance.
@@thabomabuza7340 Stop trying to gaslight people into thinking not being able to move/think is somehow a positive or neutral thing. It's objectively negative.
@@thabomabuza7340 No, I'm disabled. I have come to accept that, and I'm perfectly fine with that fact. Fact is, there are things I will never be able to do again, and that list will only grow as my neuro degenerative disease progresses. I will never be able to pull the transmission from my 1968 F100 and replace the clutch. There is no manner of doing it differently that will change this fact. Being on my back and wrestling nearly 300 pounds of cast iron just isn't going to happen. I will have to pay someone to do it for me the next time the clutch needs to be replaced. The only people that I have known that insist on using "differently abled" have not been able to accept their disability fully, and live their best or better life then before. They struggle to fully emotionally accepting their current reality. In turn they try and force themselves into intellectually rejecting that which they know to be true. That they have become disabled, and have lost some level of functioning. Overcoming that hurtle of emotionally and intellectually accepting their disability is the step needed to not only gain full acceptance, but to thrive going forward. An intellectual or emotional rejection of this prevents moving foward. As you spend your energy trying to disprove what you already know to be true.
Dear Dr Green, I was in a huge crisis a year ago with a work situation. I saw you on Jordan Peterson, and I bought the 365 book for my son... But I kept it and read it. It did help me sort through things. As you say, however, the biggest the thing I did was stop seeing myself as perfect and to understand that i really had no clue what other people were thinking. That was HUGE. A year later I'm at the same job but I feel very differently about myself and the people I work with. 100% that is the first thing to do... Stop seeing yourself as perfect, or wonderful, or a victim. You. Are. Not.
Here. Here. All identy is a stumbling block. To give up my desire to be perfect I began calling myself mediocre. I'm a mediocre wife, mother, friend ect... I eventually let go of those too, but it was a good first step to letting go of a major part of my ego. Then as I let go of more layers, it got easier and easier Find out who you truly are. Who you've always been. It's not your thoughts. Or other people's thoughts. You find your true self by being still inside.
Wow!! I just turn 25 years old and Im falling in love with this kind of content i can feel How is changing my perception of life. Even writing this comment because my english is between 60% to 80%, but i wrote it perfectly thanks lord 🙏 thanks God 🙌
Clearly the best interview I have listened to in a long time. I live with Cerebral Palsy and I have had to rise above, several of these situations to be the person, I am today. Life is a gift, you get to live effectively when you take your eyes off of others and focus on what is possible with you. My ability to read others and their thoughts and finding the motivation to continue with my dreams and aspirations, is my strategy.
It's not having received the Spirit from above to clean up the old nature of sin that makes man do evil . Without the Spirit from above we will always bear bad fruits.. It's impossible to clean up our lives without the seed being planted in us by God himself . What's flesh is flesh and what's Spirit is Spirit Jesus told Nicodemus.
@@immanuelkant1911 Because many profess with their lips snd claim they are God's children but God said they are without His Spirit and are not His . One must GENUINELY believe in tbe Son of God and be baptized into Jesus' death before receiving God's Spirit from above. It's the key to Heaven . And God can ONLY be worshiped through the Spirit and Truth that we have received. Jesus told the woman at the well that there is NO other way to worship God because God is Spirit not flesh and God will SEEK those who will worship Him this way .
He went back to where the wasp stung him and said a prayer to it "I'm sorry about your little life...". What a great person he is 😄🥲 I've learned a lot listening to this great man. ✌
I say prayers every time I accidentally hit a moth or insect while Im driving, and it causes me sadness. I will stop and pull roadkill off the road no matter how small or large or what stages of decomposition (carry gloves, sanitizer in cars exactly for this reason) and pull them off to the side to a clearing in woods or somewhere peaceful, find flowers if only weeds and leaves, say a prayer that their life mattered and how sorry I am that everyone just runs over you as if your life and existence didn't matter. I'm also Hawaiian and didn't grow up knowing very much about my Hawaiian ancestry or spiritual connections to animals and nature. I now know the ancient Hawaiians, like the indigenous Australians and Americans, had a deep respect and connection to animals, sea, lakes, plants, sky, clouds as if these other species and weather phenomenon were inter-connected as mystical, mythological, spiritual forces and entities. Our Paganism beliefs ultimately replaced by Puritanical Christian missionaries and western colonialism sadly. If we were to return to those beliefs, I do believe we would do more to save, protect, shepherd nature and wildlife. So I hug trees, try not to hurt insects, thanking them, talk to squirrels, flowers, and don't worry anymore if anyone sees me or laughs. Our Hawaiian ohana Aumakua (an animal spirit that is a deceased ancestor) is the Mako Mano, a Mako shark. So advocate on behalf of sharks, who are hunted and endangered now from false fear-based marketing campaigns and entertainment. I love this interview and Robert Greene's beliefs about animals, and I love the comments. Animals keep us sane. Ravens leave me gifts of flowers and tree branches with leaves, after I leave them treats of food on a stone pillar on my gate. They've been doing this for 6 years. I met the Corvid professor John Marzluff from UW and his books on Ravens and Crows. We should strive to live to respect and honor and live in mutualism with other species, animals and plants. I was very moved by the book When Elephants Weep. 🤙🌺🦈
Robert Greene has helped me bring myself awareness to life. At age 57 years old... I have recently been diagnosed with adhd and autism. His way of thinking is my way of thinking. However,, I didn't live that way. I was hiding in a world of neurotypical humans, follow or be left be behind. I was groomed to live like the rest. Fighting internally daily, my body has taken the toll. I didn't use drugs or alcohol to mask. I just suffered through it. I feel as though this is a testimony. My heightened awareness has brought my truth self to the world. . What a gift I've been giving. I get to live the rest of my journey being exactly who I am with grace and acceptance. ❤ Thank you
how did you you fight with ahdh and autism without medications? how strong! I have ADHD myself, i don't use medication either. However, i cannot avoid times when I feel like a failure and feeling of guilt when i cannot control or aware of my actions that affect people around me.
You would be shocked how many people do appreciate honesty. And there's a thing called tact. It is possible to get your point across without being rude. You're not doing anybody a favor by lying to them you're not doing yourself a favor by lying and thinking of yourself as a liar. In fact if you can only say two words a day that are true then only speak two words. Sticks and stones may break your bones but words,, words have power and if you don't believe so then your words don't have any power. My words have power I believe what I say because it's true and so does the universe the universe uses my words as a ruler.
Yes I actually felt the power of your words as I read this. You intended to impact someone positively with your words, and that is exactly what happened. Bravo indeed.👏🏻
You can read people without no words. Trust actions, not words. Some people have this fake ability to put candy in their mouth and talk to you. Watch their actions more.
I did that surprise micro aggression experiment with all my co-workers, they all wants to kill me. Their mind had a satanic look when it recognized me, then they corrected it (for less than a second).
After years of being raised by narcissistic parent then first 20 years of marriage.I’ve did plenty of looking inward thinking I was in the wrong . Done with that and have learned when people show you who they are believe them . Don’t make excuses for them or try to fix them . Move on and find freedom within yourself un -encumbered by bullsh&t .
@Meatball.number1 Dude. Why are you here? You don’t like the host. Fine. Your prerogative. By why stay somewhere that you don’t like? You don’t like his voice so why listen to it? Why make your your own self miserable? Hate watching is really a thing I suppose. lol
Awesome interview! As a psychologist, I verify that Robert is absolutely spot on re: the importance of learning to read others’ non-verbal cures (e.g., micro-expressions). I particularly love that he encourages us all to honestly look inward and reflect on ourselves (we must do this in order to improve our relationships with others - and the overall impact we have in the world). Robert makes countless excellent points and is a very genuine and engaging speaker. I could listen to him for hours! 👍
The thing about micro-expressions is that a negative one might be a reflection of what a person happens to be thinking about at the time when they have been caught off-guard. I am aware I have done this many times and make it up to the person so they know it was not directed at them.
I have always had a large, framed poster of The Desiderata on my wall as a reminder that I wrote it on my heart when I was young and still feel the same way now in my later years. All the mistakes Ive made in life, and low periods occurred when I forgot its beautiful advice.
Here's the rub, people don't hate you. They nothing you. As you get older you understand that. People are so absorbed in themselves, they don't even have time or energy for others. 🤷♀️
I don’t know you. I am certain I wouldn’t hate you. My brother acts like he hates me & I have never done anything bad to him. My husband’s family really likes me. Sometimes it’s jealousy but you can’t please everyone. Just shrug your shoulders and move on.
All my life I’ve been searching for a name for this talent/intelligence that lives within me that has burdened me. I am so fluent in Non Verbal Communication, that I’ve started loosing the need to verbally communicate with people who’s vibe/aura speaks volumes.
I had a hard time explaining to my sister, who was constantly complaining about being shut down for being too honest. The segment about showing up as different actors to deal with different people was exactly the point I was trying to convey. Many excellent ideas in this podcast!!
@@darrinmitchell7660 Dude, go somewhere and sit down, because that's not how that works and you know it. Since when was the word, 'in moderation' added to this saying, and when it comes the government who has lied to us, saying what you just said is dangerous. Can't you hear these men sitting there telling us not to trust our truth... like literally, go away
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq plzzz conspiracy theorist articulate what your trying to convey, bc up to my knowledge this post was abt a sisters concern for her lil sister to fit in with society. Yess life in moderation has always been the best policy, but like the government I see you have your own agenda.😂
What he says 20 minutes in is exactly what my husband is going through right now. He has been in the body shop industry his whole working life (started at the front office and worked his way to head painter) He is now 35 and altho he is the top painter in the area and every shop wants him, he quit so he could become a pilot. (his dream job ever since he was a kid) He said he couldnt stand the toxic cultre, drama, and crappy pay any longer and is ready to make the change and finally get paid what he deserves for all his hard work. I fully support him and even offered to go to work again (currently a stay at home mom and homeschool our 9 and 7 year olds) so he could go to school full time. He told his step mom and when she realized he was actually serious she told him that he couldn't become a pilot without a degree and he was a college dropout. I dont think anyone else is taking it seriously either. Its sad he only has my support but i think thats enough for him to push through. The pain of being the same is getting worse for him than the pain of changing...
I was abused by an x girl she cheated on me so much I got 3 stds from her. Hep-b,hpv and clamitia she cheated on me so often it took me 10 years to get over this scum.sleeping with her ma wasn't enough to get her back she lied to my face so many times hate is too kind of a word to describe her
For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever. However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes. And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
My dad had a stroke and than cancer, year before hes death he went too the libery and just read his last year on this erarth. He was always in his Ego in job, frendships and family. Lisenng your podcast I realazed that in his last dais he was realy in a state of calmness and peace. My strategy today is not to have a strategy and is so hard but I'm learning just too be alive. Love from Croatia❤️🤗🙏
The only class I failed in college and had to retake was “social influence”. Call it an art, science etc, it’s evil. You need to be a very kind and well-balanced human to use this skill with compassion.
Robert, I don't know if you'll read this... You are the most fascinating living writer who has touched and changed my life and mind. I am chocked up with just the thought of you leaving us. Your impact was HUGE on this earth. Thank you for existing! 🙏🏾
Great Conversation The Word of God says some of what you say this way: Overcome evil with good...also we as humans are born with all these awkward insecurities etc. and need awareness of our purpose and to walk in that purpose while here on earth . It (our purpose) is given to us as we explore , believe and apply the Word of God to our lives. Many times God uses rock bottom situations to move us towards that purpose because HE created us for HIS PURPOSE NOT OUR OWN. WE ARE FULFILLED AND HAPPY AND ENERGETIC WHEN LIVING OUT HIS PURPOSE HE DESIGNED FOR EACH OF US.
How is it not natural to be happy for other’s success. Perhaps more so for some then others. The sound of others joy is laughter. Laughter is infectious.
So true! I learned about this years ago from the tickle me elmo toy, whose laughter brought me joy. Watching him laugh until he fell over made me feel better. His laugh was more real than most human fake laughter, which made me feel sick to my stomach! Now I get that same joy from a bird named tico! Watch him here on youtube and you will laugh with tears of joy.
As we call it, "code switch". To survive in cooperate, you have to adopt a persona. I absolutely cannot be the person at work that I am on personal and I am glad for the self-edit as it's kept me employed.
No shade to you but in 2020 that's when I was like are you kidding me I couldn't believe how many people and I realized some people did not have an option or they thought they didn't but I promise you that's why I'm going to make my channel not to preach but to share my experience and show what I have learned and I swear there is enough to go around in their little money game I mean if we're in The matrix we might as well do play their rules right and I'm telling you learn your state laws learn just learn things I promise you I will share it with everyone what they're doing is keeping secrets and stuff how to do social media how to do this blah blah blah blah blah and there's all the stuff to do it's quite very simple and you just literally I mean I don't know there's just a blueprint already and I don't know how I didn't see this before but it just wasn't the timing wasn't right. Believe it or not I'm literally living on Netflix movie so I'm in the middle of my book but I promise you I want to make sure that the hacking that I and identity theft which will be in it and I want to share that with all of you so that you will be protected as well and I guarantee you you're not.
As someone who suffers from a chronic condition that has caused physical limitations, I am inspired by Robert's commitment to writing Sublime and his notion of amor a fate. I'm reminded of all that I can still do and that everything I've experienced is a purposeful part of my journey. Thank you!
If you like this episode please can you do me a little favour and hit the like button on the video! I really appreciate your kindness x ❤👊🏾
Another great video topic man!
Honestly, when you are a loyal fan and watch the show all the time, that repetitive commercial to get you to subscribe is getting beyond annoying. At least make a different one or better yet, stop showing it to people that have already subscribed.😩😩
your video edits suck !!!
Robert Green is amazing! I hope you'll have the chance to invite Robert Sapolsky as well, I listened to all his lectures
Please get Tim Armoo!!
Clearly I have wasted my life with no ambition, status or power. I moved to a foreign country at 23 and never grew up, just kept on feeling and experiencing new things. So why am I so content with my life as I sit here about to turn 70? Some people want to leave their mark on this world but I guess I want to leave no trace of my passing, same as I do out on the trails. Some people need to live big, but hey, it's okay to live grounded in the present and let others carry all that angst of ambition and competition.🙏
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I resonate with this quite a bit. I personally have liked to just be an observer and commentator on what I’ve found in this world, myself, and others.
Perhaps that’s what people like us were “meant for”?
I don’t think you’ve wasted your life at all. Your personal goals are yours and yours alone. You’ve reached 70 years which is in itself a milestone achievement. You took a gamble to relocate to a foreign country and made that decision work for you at a young age, again an achievement, and I’m sure there is much more too! Who says that we actually need great ambition, status and power, because with that comes huge responsibility and potential complications?
this felt angery… i think everyone has a place on this earth and in society. be you
@@diariesofsb Not angry at all. So sorry my sense of humor didn't come through.🙏
Thank you for having me back on the podcast Steven.
Thank you for calling out all my bullshit, I love this
You a legendary your books helped me alot in life thank you very much 🔥 🔥 🔥
Learned so much from your books and listening to you. Thank you so much!
Your work has helped me a lot. I’m proud of how far you’ve come. Your choice to become a writer, and share the knowledge you’ve gained is what I admire the most.
Thanks you for sharing your wisdom
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My oldest sister hated me most of my life, and I spent inordinate amounts of time and energy trying to make her happy. It didn’t even occur to me that she was jealous, and nothing was ever going to make her happy. And the harder I tried the more she hated me. Until recently. And I’ve finally given up. And it’s so freeing. ❤
Of course
My older sister was the same. It wasn’t until my 40s that I realized I operated my life in response to her hatred of me by people pleasing, overworking myself, taking tasks on to show how hard I would work. She was diagnosed with a terminal illness 2 years ago & I went to care for her for 8 weeks straight. I fed her, dressed her, changed her, cleaned up after her. I wore sweatpants & tees daily, no makeup, no nails, hair in a bun specifically to dampen any jealous feelings. She was then visibly jealous I was helping with her grandkids, jealous I was connecting with her kids, jealous I was speaking with her friends to update them, visibly jealous I was living, basically. Part of me felt guilty I couldn’t stay longer to help but I realized my very presence ignited her jealousy & it was hurting her for me to stay on and help her. So I left without regret. She died three months ago & as her friend and I grieved together, the friend disclosed the level of jealousy she felt toward me ran deep. I admired & loved her so much it was very painful to hear what I knew all along, out loud. But the admission also validated what I suspected & lifted any negative feelings I had about it because those feelings didn’t belong to me. I let them die with her.
Absolutely agree, I had a similar experience in the family I lived with, the pain stopped when I let go. Sometimes to move forward you have to leave people behind.
I feel this, have my own experience with a older brother who I've bent over backwards for every chance I could get just to be of help to him, always looked up to him and thought he was the coolest person in the whole world.. not until my 30s and a bunch of disappointment along the way did I realize we would never have the brotherhood I thought we did.. he was my biggest enemy and had great jealousy for me and I never knew.. from trying to take my girlfriends and friends to badmouthing me and embarrassing me for absolutely no reason every opportunity he could.. it still sucks.. but the last few years been more rewarding now that I'm not trying to hold him up on a pedestal anymore 😂😅
Same, I recently realised this myself. I have three sisters and for most of my life I’ve blamed myself for not having a good relationship with them. I really started to believe it was my fault because, it’s three sisters! It had to be me. Recently realised that those around me saw the truth but for whatever reason wouldn’t acknowledge it. Thirty years of pain 😢
I sussed people out years ago. My now husband told me I was naive when I met him. He was right. I assumed everyone was nice. I've learnt lessons and I now I see. I didn't realise that there was unscrupulous nasty people smiling in my face and working against me in the background. I've learnt to call people out and not give a S#it about what people think, I'm transparent and I keep the bad people away, the people who caused me pain when I didn't understand why. I realised I'd grown up with a narcissistic mother and I was empathetic and I had allowed that pattern to carry on. Im at peace now ❤
I'm exactly the same as you minus the good husband. Never known love or true acceptance. No1 has ever had my back and I pray one day that at least I'll have a good man by my side, so far I only attracted narcissists. Pray for me and thank you for reading
I was this way too. If you keep believing that it won't get better
Also from a dysfunctional family my mother Narc, father is passive aggressive , brother psychopath , cull the toxic people and happy to live alone.. take care wish l had known this 25 yrs ago..walked away from my toxic Marriage.. all good..take care .
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@@jbuntine1255🎯💯
“When you show yourself to the world and display your talents, you naturally stir all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity... you cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others.” ― Robert Greene
💯
Andrew Tate, Alex Jones, Jesus Christ, Trump...all truth seekers....
yeah, fuck'em!
Right. Worry is a wrong response.
No kidding!
At 67 years old. I have “no friends” I have slowly stopped contacting them to see if they contacted me first. They didn’t.
I feel happy in my own company.
And this is also wisdom.
At 73 I like friends around but not a fan of hearing judgements about my lifestyle coupled with the Christ Complex preaching from the woman at the well. After spending 44 years in prison (marriage) I’m finally free to be openly who I am. You’d be surprised at how many people want me back in a prison. Why is this? A woman who needs no validation is unworthy to live her life choices?
Liz I’m 38 and I can relate
I can honestly relate...I'm 60 years old with no friends and not going to lie that I do get very lonely at times....
@salisiharmony I'm truly proud of you for being strong and getting out of such confinement...I'm still living in my prison due to lack of strength and confidence. You did something that I so want to do and by reading your story of such strength has given me a true gateway of hope and courage to do exactly what you have done. I honestly want to thank you for sharing in your breaking the chains off of you so to speak and the wonderful will to live your life the way you want to and not how others want you to. Always hold that beautiful head up and keep living you.. Many blessings and thanks again
33 old, since last year, I realized that I don’t want to be around anyone who makes my soul tired. That’s the key to many things in life
I applaud you for finding this at 33. I finally at 59 started letting go of people. You know those people you finish the call and you wonder why I spent an hour of my life to hang up and feel bad about my life choices. And keeping the people who I felt good about talking to.
i know. good on you man.
The next step is saying no whenever you feel that
I've never heard it said that way, but this sounds like a good way to live.
Damn. You're early to this party. Welcome
I've never looked up at anybody. I consider Robert Greene as a friend. He endured so much to give us all this wisdom. This is truly inspiring.
Stay grounded with Earth,basic is home safe base for mental health.give your self time to process events ,the world will show you what you already knew,take control and enjoy what you allow
I like that Stephen lets his guests talk without interrupting
Me too! ❤
Best quality about an interviewer. Michael Parkinson was one.
hear hear
This!
Lost form of respect these days
When i discovered my mother was a narcissist and then learned 1 in 6 are narcissists, it has changed my whole world. I never thought so many were so fake. Makes me want to go on a solo hike for eternity.
ill come with
Then again you are also a narcissist we all are kinda like that the only ones that hurt are the ones who are too deep. Legit have zero self-esteem
Hi. I’m 39 and I just found out my mom is a narcissist. Welcome. We need a support group.
@@zenostrixsterliterally half of my self discovery journey has been between settling the desire for me to grow an ego and me thinking that if I do that I will be a narcissist like my father.
rural wife hell over 60, my peers yes. b/c they got married and have a mini van they always are wagging that tongue and ruling everywhere they go. Got an education, what for they say?
I'm so tired of feeling like I have to "achieve greatness" (whatever that means) and success. I'm so incredibly tired of the hustle culture.
Well said. I agree.
Maybe you missed what the guest was saying at around 1:13-14 about the guy who laid tile for him being a master in his own quiet way. I guess you should go back and check that out....
@@coloraturaElise No, I watched that. I also watched the part where he says he doesn't critize people for not wanting fame etc. Take this as you will but even though you and I might consider the person laying tile as being a master of his craft a success story relative to being a good person and living a good life it's NOT what society in general sees as "successful", unfortunately. We are being spoonfed this alternate hustle culture through so other sources I'm sure you know what I mean.
Same here
@iseeu-fp9po I read your comment just as he said exactly what you said at 1:07:09.
You define what greatness and success means for yourself.
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
I like the way Stephen interviews .. he let's his guests finish their thoughts and follows up with great questions.
Makes all the difference.
When you notice the same set of people who never seem to be around to help but are consistently there to watch you fail and profit from it you have an imposter for a friend in your midst.
@@moyamontgomery1468 I think you responded to the wrong comment lol
THANK GOD BC THIS GUY IS HORRIBLE "etc. Etc., etc.” (HOW ANY TIMES DID HE SAY THAT) talking about he wrote a book about seduction lol OK
This is just a new platform for the programming. The black Brit is just more malleable than Rogan was in the beginning. He’s a bit of an empty shell actually. And these talks and topics are 100% tied to the liberal, atheist, follow the narrative agenda. Greene is a creep. And Rogan was captured and sequestered to a smaller platform for cash to carry on the other part of the narrative. And they memory holed his controversial (truthful) guests. This Brit is owned and won’t steer “off course”
@@marenight33? Hey?
My dear friend wanted nothing her whole life but to have a child. She finally got that opportunity at age 39. Her son was diagnosed with autism at age 1. And was diagnosed as one of the worst cases. She never gave up on him and today he has graduated top of the class in his high-school and college straight through to his masters from Georgia teck. This fall, he starts his new career at a fortune hundred company. Proof that nothing should be treated as a category.
. The power of love can move mountains. That young man was very lucky to have such a wonderful mom. God bless both of them. ❤
Not a Debbie Downer but I have known two autistic kids. Even with great, caring, loving intelligent parents they met a point they could go no further. Some autistic people choose these positions before they ever got here not only for their growth but others and they all planned it..
Did you hear of the grace's dad podcast?
Proof that God is real
Prayer is powerful
Nothing is impossible for God
Amen!!!❤❤❤. Agreed! We never give up on our loved ones! Loyalty!
Our biggest haters are people who are close to us and observe us.
Effing Twighlight Zone 😢
Put your faith and trust in Christ. He”ll never let you down.
The haters don't even have to observe you. They can hate you based on a fairy tale.
Why do they hate 😕
@@heaty007 becuse they are jealous of your inner light and inner strength
I see so much growth in this comment thread. So much of what is awesome about humanity. It truly warms my heart. This comment thread will strengthen your faith in humanity!
Your comment is so much of what is awesome about humanity. As I listened to this interview I was in pain, and the pain grew deeper, ❤which is not always a bad thing. There are a lot of comments and yours really spoke to me. Acknowledging the growth of others within the thread goes a long way to let people know this is a safe space 🫂
People don't change until it becomes too painful for them to stay where they are.
region beta paradox
Deep
I got changed by God when I kept trying to like people who were worthy of it but I just couldn't stand them and felt bad about it. I was macho and proud and He changed me. But first He showed me a vision of Hell...my own version I guess...and asked me if I actually wanted help, to go to Heaven instead...
Yes certainly
@@precocioussibanda3413Lol. Astrology for men. Here’s your sign.
I spent 30 yrs practicing my instrument, building my business, i tried to be an exceptional parent and musician and what a lesson in futility. My kids are grown and never call, my body broke down i lost my business and my retirement was stolen from me. Relax, stop chasing the wind! Enjoy sleeping in, listening to the birds… just be content.
Sounds like you did a good job making your kids independent :) well done
@@LouiesLog😂
That's genius, what you wrote! A whole book in four sentences for free!
I've read a lot of books and I love reading but these comments I occasionally come across are precious! All this fuss to do this and that, to accomplish, to be someone, is fine just to keep the world going though it doesn't seem to be going very well these days and probably never has.
So, be content, the best conclusion EVER! Thank you!
@@LouiesLogsooo independent that they don't even call their dad just to check up on him. Sounds like a bunch of ungrateful children. But than again, there could be a different side to the story since we only read his side.
Do they pick up your calls?
I had it all, the children, the husband, the beautiful small house, success....... then I sold everything moved back to Europe a year before Covid.
I lost everything and at age 60 had to return to the town I was living before I moved.I had 2 suitcases and a few thousand dollars.
I started all over again. I am renting, I bought a used car and I am happier than ever.
People who were jealous before are still jealous. I don't understand why?
I am not rich, I am not young anymore.
I love my work and I am a master in my field. I think I upset people because no matter what nothing destroys my joy.
Probably! You’re bouncing back. People don’t like to see you being successful. Shame on them. Their loss. I’ve experienced similar. It used to make me sad, now I don’t give a toss.
Did you leave the kids and husband as well? Just curious. Also, what field of work are you in. Also, what helps you have that unbreakable joy?
@@aisoaification my children moved away one to Australia and the other an hour flight from where I lived accept for one and I brought her and my husband came , I told him on our first date that I will be moving to Europe.
Aww thanks you answered, I was curious thank you for answering 🙌🏿
Jealousy a lot of time has less to do with you and more to do with them. People are jealous because of their own inadequacies and shortcomings. I find that a person who is insecure will envy those that walk with their heads high; a person whose been in the same deadend job will envy a person that has the courage to chase their dreams. It all comes back to self
Omg the part about how peoples personalities are contagious. I befriended someone like that. I slowly realized that she was like that when all our conversations were about her and her problems, and anytime i talked about my problems, there was sooo much disinterest and disconnect. So much negativity i started to dread having l7nch together. After she got fired from work i cut things off. And i feel so much lighter. I do miss part of our friendship, and i do care for her, but I couldn't handle the constant negativity
I felt this and I can relate. I recently cut off a friendship of 20 years when I just couldn’t stand the constant complaining. Everything was a problem. Everyone was ‘weird/gay’.
Outside of the moaning, she would lace conversations with concealed put downs. I realised that it was ok for us to be friends when I was going from job to job and rented Accomodation. The moment I started to move up the professional ladder and buy property? It made her strangely insecure. I had to cut the cord.
don't feel guilty..we all have problems/issues but draining others is draining their life source/energy.. energy is all we've got.. we all need to learn how to deal with our issues..she's a psychic vampire so to speak..
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I dropped a career direction when I was 50! I left my career, my relationship, and my house. It felt like a nervous breakdown. It was painful. BUT I am now living the life of my dreams! Learn the lesson of choosing change before it becomes a big drama
Same
Wow! That's very encouraging. Did you pursue something you had always wanted to do or something entirely new? I am in my 50s and feeling like I need to make such a radical direction in my life.
How were you able to make such a major change?
What life is that? Are you living on a boat?
As long as we're breathing it's never too late! ❤
He made me cry. My heart goes out to him for suffering a stroke when he was and is doing so much for humanity. He speaks for so many of us that have had a health crisis and it has forever changed our lives.
Robert made me cry also. His interview was candid, insightful and thought-provoking. He allowed himself to be vulnerable, and I believe he has truly reached his potential. Thank you and bravo Robert!
Thanks I couldnt figiure sometjhing out so compelling I thought what am I missing?
I have had so many frenemies…I have serious trouble trusting anyone at all anymore. I am really cautious. It’s horrible to be on the other side of someone’s unnecessary jealousy. I’m completely OVER it. 🙏💛
From the unnecessary bullying and discrimination, gets so tiring
For real, you always have to be wary of other people because of the things they've been doing and what they could have done to you. It gets exhausting and tires you out.
Yes, but being on the side which they live on must be a horrible miserable world . Which they will never be content in their own skin. just remember, they have to look at their evil self in the mirror every day.
Yes,and if you learn how to see them before hand you develop a weapon that you can completely strengthen. And have peace of mind.
@@rachelledavis1681 well said! 💛🙏
I constantly appreciate how he thoughtfully rewords the question if the guest didn't track on it the first time.
“It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”
~ Jiddu Krishnamurti
But it is helpful to protect yourself against the sickness.
@@coloraturaElise Up until a certain level of awareness, it can be useful to protect yourself, but it is still also a limitation, apart from being addictive, and it should therefore not be the focus. The goal is to get to the level where this protection becomes obsolete. This state is sometimes called inner freedom, but is known under many other names as well.
😂😂😂😂 so true!!!!
Adjusting consciously can benefit working from within.
Ok.
The expression on someone's face when you take them by surprise is not all about you, it's where there head is at until they recognize you.
Where I work I have a "safe word", pineapple, so that when I'm too in my head and intense he can snap me out of it.
Where one's thoughts are is the first expression you'll get.
Talk about self obsession.
Self awareness is the big key. There is no going forward or anywhere until you know what you are.
I have found that when I recite “ help me, Father God and thank you, Father God” I am filled with the inner strength to do and go beyond what is needed. Amen! Hallelujah!
"What" you are and not "who" you are. I like that.
Exactly 👍
I'm like Miss Edie Brickell.....🎶I'm not aware of too many things, but I know what I know, if you know what I mean"🎶🙄🤣 **
(And according to Carrie Fischer she was aware of how to get Paul Simon for herself??🙄🙄)
** From the song "What I Am" (In case one didn't get the joke)
No one is your friend and no one is your enemy, they are your teachers. Learn something and move on 👍
Beautiful ❤
Love that
And they teach you what? That some of them are your friends and some aren't your friends.
I've never heard that before. It really made me think.. like it!
This one🎉🎉
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called the manipulation enigma
what's it about?
@@filistata2546 everything about manipulation
@@filistata2546 probably the manipulation enigma
@@filistata2546 realy??
It’s about the enigma of manipulating
I’ve had so many frenemies in my life, and was very easy to manipulate. It took me 10 years to start reading people.
A real friend, by definition, is someone who believes in you. I judge people by their heart. It's amazing how some people's heart is minuscule. Anyways, have a nice day.
I'm reading people frommy childhood.And all life I try stay away, wheh I found who person are...but bad people always found me, they wathing and falow me in the back...so, later they using all anger to put on me and do something ugly to me. And I always fighting, I need do that to not let enger win...I have very tuff life .
@@liakayte7734 same here . Im so sorry to hear what you went thru too as a child . God bless you my friend < 3
Same and it’s usually when you need them the most at your lowest point their true colors show
Better later than never!!
Note to self: Avoid the trap of comparing your self to others.
Comparison is the thief of joy
Well said bro😅
Self comparison is a natural human response so it's not something we can extricate or eliminate, what we should avoid however is unhealthy comparison, when our comparison with others make us act in transgressive ways
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Wear your Pj's to the shop one day. Then you will not be able to compare. The individual carefree little kid reappears from within.
It is so important to KNOW that no money, no position, no amount of fame, ....is worth our God-given health!
Nourish it
Take best care of it
And do not run after money!
Amen!!!
but i need money man...i want a job i want to atleast have security! i dont wanna chase money but i goddamn need it to atleast raise the quality of my life
@@sasaha8389 That is fine, provided your number one priority is ALWAYS your health. Do not ruin your health in pursuit of money, security, raising living standards, ....
@@sasaha8389checkout dr Joe dispenza. Your mindset is keeping you poor
I needed to see this THANK YOUUUU ❤
Robert, you're helping people who have been used and walked on their entire lives. From the bottom of my heart, thank you
This is the only guy that can interview Robert! He lets him speak and get his thoughts OUT!!!!!!! I love it
FOR REAL. Darin Olien is the most absurd host I've ever had the misfortune to listen to. I didn't know who he was but I was excited to get another opportunity to hear Robert Greene speak. Well this Darin guy spoke for 90% of the podcast and had nothin of value to share. Even Huberman, who I like, was fangirling over Robert in the most recent one and trying to make thoughtful connections that fell flat.
Lewis Howes is one of the best interviewers ......allows the guest to speak without unnecessary interventions ❤❤
Only is a bit extreme. I am sure there are other people on the planet that could do a good job.
He’s so right about the smile. The other day I was out getting groceries and this disabled guy riding a scooter said something really kind with the most real smile I’ve ever seen and it wasn’t anything physical it was about me struggling with things in my cart lol. It was like a split second of the universe glitching and being seen, really SEEN by an angel. Just a middle aged guy not super in shape and obviously for whatever reason couldn’t walk to get his groceries. omg I fell in love with him in that second and can’t forget it. Probably relive that moment for the rest of my life. I hope I give people those moments. It’s my life goal now.
that's so beautiful. ❤
@@kosmisdead 💗
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Wonderful. Thank you for sharing
Being truly seen is huge.
I'm 76 and when he mentioned that was life worth living if he couldn't do certain things anymore, my answer to myself and everyone else is find something new that you can do, and do that!
You are absolutely right ma 'am you sound like a positive person if don't mind it would be a great pleasure for us to get to know each other
I started learning how to play the guitar at 64. It has been wonderful. Life saved something new for me to end my days with.
I became disabled. It was very hard to adjust to.. very true. But i have learnt new lesson that people can be cruel to disabled people. I fought not to feel sorry about it. It opened different doors. Closed some I wish it had not.
I've had to do that many times over and I agree.
Wishing you all the best in life. @@AngelEyes-xm7el
When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it's crucial to focus on understanding the dynamics of the abusive relationship and the impact it has on the victim, rather than making assumptions or generalizations about their behavior. Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and complex effect on victims, often leading to emotional trauma, low self-esteem, and a distorted sense of self-worth. It can erode trust, create feelings of isolation, and manipulate the victim's perception of reality. Some victims of narcissistic abuse may struggle with maintaining healthy boundaries, trusting others, or recognizing their own value. In some cases, individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse may engage in behaviors that are out of character, including cheating or seeking validation outside the relationship. These behaviors can be a response to the emotional turmoil and manipulation they have endured. It's important to approach this with compassion and understand that these actions may stem from a desire for validation, escape, or a misguided attempt to regain a sense of control or self-worth. However, it's essential to note that not all victims of narcissistic abuse engage in infidelity or seek external validation. Each individual responds to abuse differently, and their actions may vary depending on their coping mechanisms, personal values, and circumstances. If you or someone you know has experienced narcissistic abuse, it is crucial to seek support from professionals such as therapists or counselors who specialize in trauma and relationship dynamics. They can provide guidance, healing strategies, and help rebuild a healthy sense of self-worth and trust. Remember, the effects of narcissistic abuse are complex, and the healing process is unique to each individual. Judgment and assumptions can hinder the understanding and support that victims need. Providing empathy, compassion, and access to appropriate resources can contribute to the healing journey and empower survivors to rebuild their lives. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narc; send a request to: Barryinvestigation@gmail. com
It's tough when you are being abused like it's normal, and there is also deep and sincere love and attachment that comes with it. It's like a mosquito : it's not evil in itself, maybe even cute, but it's only there to drink your blood and drain your life force.
I have ptsd due to narcissistic abuse and neglect its hard to heal
There’s a lot of pain in being your authentic self, too. Many people don’t know how to handle that in someone else, get passive aggressive or just outright hostile. But as you get older, you stop caring what other people think and stop putting up with other people’s bs.
So true ❤
Best comment ever….you have clarity
Understanding the 'dark side' is such an underated advice-knowing your own weaknesses helps you mitigate them more effectively.
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It is called "shadow-work" ( C.G. Jung ) and is a main work in the therapeutic world since decades. People also have downsides from that: getting lost in the dark and looking for failure only in themselves. Without a rational moral compass this work may also confuse and worsen things. So it really needs to be balanced with a very positive goal-setting.
@@biancavonmuhlendorf2608it's important too see the shadow as a branch of your self and not as your whole existence.
You may associate with it too much. It is a part of you and you are very complicated mix of qualities therefore treating it like it defines you is a bad idea. Instead it's best to be aware of it and use it contructivily, explore where it comes from, when did you repress it? Why ? How can you make it a part of your life.
A Podcast for Pause and I don’t mean the button… as a registered nurse, I fully understand what a stroke can do to someone. It is impressive to see how intact your mind is Mr. Greene after such a life changing event. Thank you for the clarity, and the depth of your knowledge, and the delivery in this interview. I believe your best is yet to come. To the host of this podcast keep creating life changing contents cause this is exactly what this podcast will do for quite a lot of people. Thank you.
you don't need to be a registered nurse to know what a stroke can do to someone.
I never understood why people have to throw in their profession in their comment.
@Recite_GodHealMeCreateMiracles the universe contradicts religion
@@TheSteveMeister you don’t know as I do not know for sure. Where is your proof? Are you going to put creative boundaries on God? Regardless of your beliefs, God means creator. Creator does not necessarily mean a conscious man in the sky. It is what started and what has always been. Much better that science and religion work together in tandem and not against eachother. Extremists on both sides do neither justice
#steathmeister2024
#stealthmeistert00
I just got goosebumps when I found this interview. Robert Greene my favorite current living intellectual I've had the blessing to have found and listened to being interviewed by my favorite interviewer/podcast personality. Im so excited for this... and this isn't the only one?? Well there goes my day and I couldn't be more excited about what I'm going to walk away with from this. With Robert Greene I'm always blown away. Thank you both for the education and knowledge I've received from listening to both of you separately.
My entire life changed at 50, I’m now 58. Losing your health changes everything, not only for you but everyone in your life. So live in the moment and enjoy the journey, I’m still very blessed, God is so great. One of my favorite podcast! 🤩🇺🇸
I agree
I have always been bullied, as a child in Holland and even as an adult in the US. I was feisty but so insecure.
I survived a skydiving accident at age 24, leaving me severely disabled. I still became a physician assistant until after 10 years, but had to stop.
I became more disabled and was diagnosed with adhesive arachnoiditis. This type of neuro-inflammatory spinal cord inflammation (meningitis) is incurable and the pain is intractable.
By now the sacral nerves are adhesed to the bone part and everything hurts. But I got my life back and a lot of time to think and contemplate.
I am high IQ and gregarious, not understanding why I was treated badly, also as a crippled comic. Well I had another crisis forcing me find my cojones. I'm finally proud of my accomplishments, and people treat me nicely and with respect. It's a new world fot me, one I enjoy living in. Best wishes, Kaatje
Not everyone. I see so many people’s character are worse with illness. They never realised anything and they stay the same way of behaving no matter what.
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My own family members became more toxic than my enemies and it took me a long time to eliminate them from my life.
@amryan7571. But the freedom after walking away from them. Absolutely Wonderful 💯❤
Your lifedestiny is sometimes hard to see and understand. It's an really individual experience, the most important is to forgive and that is not to forget beacuse it's important to learn from life events. Wish you the best and remember you are your own best friend. 💜🤗
I woke up in jail couse of toxic people... and I felt freedom for the first time in years@@rosiepercy3486
i stopped speaking to my mom and i never felt better. she was the most fakest and most manipulative person i know and the more she was in my presence the more i felt i was becoming her. I just wished i realized sooner
@@saokoc The main thing is that you realised that she was toxic to your life. Take care
This is how I felt in my marriage. Being brave and leaving was the best move of my life. Then I did it again with my career. Facing fears is always better than marinating in misery. Thank you for this validation!
“Marinating in misery”
Well put!
Right! I’ve worked in the operating room 26 years I’m working on going in a completely different field and hope to work mostly from home.
DID YOU LEAVE YOUR MARRIAGE BECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND GOT TIRED OF SCREWING THE OLDER YOU? IT HAPPENS ESPECIALLY IF HE HAD YOU SPREAD EAGLE WAY BACK DURING YOUR BEST YEARS..
Wells said
Women always destroy families over their "happiness"
I always observe body language and it never dissapointed me when judging in my mind aother human being🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
The humility Robert shows in owning his narcissistic like traits literally is opposite the definition of a classic narcissist. Narcissists are NOT open in looking at themselves with intention to grow/change. They love talking about themselves to stay the same, not evolve. But even brings more credibility to his work. Love it
Most people have narcissistic tendencies. But everyone has different levels, to the point where they could be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
@@JoeyiOiexactly this. I find myself questioning my more narcissistic qualities. They are “dark”, bc it takes you to dark places and breeds all sorts of other feelings. It takes work to realize and it fall into those mindsets.
Lol. That's one of his masks. Narcissists/Sociopaths are amazing at showing what they think is appealing.
@@simplybeautiful9885 Good observation, but he’s still being honest.
Covert narcissism is different.
Robert Greene is a gem to society. I am grateful he is still alive to share this wisdom with the world. Looking forward to his book on the sublime. Cheers :)
He is 64, why would he die? Lol, it reads like a subtle threat
@@androidbluatGenerally speaking, people who have suffered a stroke tend to have a shorter lifespan and as a consequence can develop additional life limiting health conditions. There is also an increased risk of a further stroke or strokes which could end up being life threatening?
EU SOU CINCERO EM DIZER QUE ELES NÃOTEM MINHA AREA E NEM ME VER POR TANTO EU TOU FORA DA MINHA PARTE VOCES TEM ESSA PROVA VIU#ACT
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@@Bailiolthat wasn't my interpretation of what he was saying
I’ve found multiple purposes over 64 years, keep discovering myself as I age both the dark and light . The one thing that brings me most joy is hard physical blue collar labor type work that leaves me exhausted but allows me to see results of my labor everyday so I build custom homes for people, flip houses, load airplanes for air cargo company. On off days I take care of my grandchildren as my favorite humans are children, so open so unmasked and curious and funny and full of joy. I also love volunteer work with local rescue mission dealing with alcoholics and addicts in recovery . My biggest challenge… I’m a complete recluse if not working . Zero friendships cuz I find it so hard to talk with other “ grown ups” without putting my foot in my mouth and have learned to avoid social situations entirely but that’s just me… I enjoy solitude if not with children.
I also work on houses. I am laying a 3/4” wood floor. I haven’t talked to anyone the whole time and it’s wonderful. Hard hard work helps me so much.
Amen to that!! Hope the floor is beautiful
Hard work is a blessing - you said it very nicely *too see the results of work everyday* - i, major in food science, turned into alcoholic, lost a decade in a bad relationship, broke up, suicidal thoughts, the whole nine yards. Now? Booze is gone, depression is gone, i am healthy as never in life, lost significant weight. All that thanks to working as a farmer, my life turned 180 in a year
I adore my grandchildren as well they cheer me up no end. Children are precious and they all need protecting in this crazy world we are living in.
Well said, I’m exactly the same. I find Im the type that loves building business relationships but personal relationships kind of drain my inner spirit knowing that I have to watch everything I say to avoid saying the wrong things that may cause for a person to misread my words and in turn try to make my life miserable from behind!
I remember someone telling me that she may look like she cares about others, but in reality she said she did not care at all. It shocked me to the core. I realised that she wasn't the compassionate person I thought. I now quedtion my perception of everyone around me.
You dont have to always be proving yourself! Theres nothing wrong with “ just being”! There is happiness and joy in existing.
THIS!!! people forget our last name!!! Human BEINGS
KNOW it is okay NOT to KNOW
Just existing I ve got nothing to prove to anyone
@@AdrianDittman mammals have to be mothered for so long compared to other animals because they are born with less development of the brain, allowing more room for growth than other animals down the line! "The moment you say "I know everything" is the moment you stop growing"-proven true by my boss lol.
I play dumb, but friendly, social, and ask lots of questions, psychologically putting people at ease and more comfortable to relay information to you than a know it all, bluntly spoken, arrogant subhuman.
@@miproduction6196 😂
As a horrible human being who easily compare myself to others, feeling sad or envy and jealousy all the time, this interview relieved me a lot for various reasons.
First, the fact that we all have dark side make me feel less horrible about my self.
Second, as author said if this is the last moment of my life, I would not sit with jealousy. I would rather celebrate my life and my friend’s success.
Today I meet some of my highschool friednds who are more successful than me, and who will gonna be marry soon. I felt kind of envy toward them.
But after seeing this video, I say to myself. What if this is the last moment I can meet them, what if I die tomorrow. I want to say congratulations to them. And I want to focus on myself what I want in my life and be more strategic. Thank you for great interview
Jealousy comes from insecurity. If you think you can’t have what they have it’s an illusion, you can! But once we realize we’re in full control it takes radical accountability. But we all have dark sides, we’re human animals
@@Rebecca-fo4nn hey thanks for the comments. I think i know and understand what you are talking. but sometimes I feel I cannot achieve some things, and it bothers me. For example, I am queer person who wanna marry, but it's impossible where I live. Also, When I think about lots of people who have disability, it is true that they can't have that some people have. What should we do when we realize that sometimes, I can't achieve what I really want, and How can we be happy after all? just wanna talk about it. Thank you
Beautiful epiphany. Now go change your relationships!
@@TT-bg1fj
Way to happiness?
Gratitude;
Focus on what good
And what you want/like.
And give.
Because, everything good we received are given,
In complex way.
2020 I had joined a group about something like "gratitude by Deepak Chopra"
Practice for 21 days. It works.
✨✨💫❤❤❤
You can search it. And Try it.
Thank you. 🙏🏻
@TT-bg1fj I personally think anything that is for our highest good is possible.Work on your limited beliefs.Don't compare your life to of others,only use it as a fuel.Some people might have it all & stay jealous ,some might barely have anything & be happy & content...Stay in the moment & work on your confidence, if u can imagine what u want then that timeliness is out there..Confidence, action is the keys..of course how you feel ,how you think ,what you belief is important. .Use the mirror to boost your confidence & self worth
This is why i have always said Trust NO one! Been following that logic my whole life and it hasn't let me down. We are humans, and humans are manipulative. It's not personal, it's just business.
I met someone who said they give their trust to anyone until they prove them otherwise. I don’t believe in that 100% as an adult in this world we live in, that is dangerous.
I feel like it's hard for most people to quantify the small amounts of trust necessary to exist without succumbing to the pressures of "what could happen" in this world. We trust painted lines on the road will guide others into paths that don't collide with ours
"Trust no one" is a big lofty phrase that's just as toxic as the inverse. Trust your gut and live your truth. No ideology or catchy slogan is one size fits all
@@PerpetualNotion Agreed 100%. You trust particular people for particular life events. For example: I trust my mother and daughter 100% with my life but wouldn't trust them to make money decisions for me at all.
@@goldenlioness868I used to think that way. I don't any longer!
@@chrismills9620 what did you used to think?
I have read your book several times ,48 laws of power ,and I’ve recommended it to many people . Some people have criticized me for this recommendation that somehow this book is Machiavellian I don’t see it that way ,I think that your perceptions are very real and sharp . I’m listening to you on this TH-cam podcast and I realize that you have so much wisdom that you are imparting to your listeners ; it is a great gift that you exist on this planet.
Im way too good at reading people.. that's why i stay inside mostly. Everywhere i go i see the true intentions and feelings of people and i don't like it.
Haven't finished the video yet but I do know enough people that say they are good at reading people and it's not the people there reading.
It's the intentions that they are perceiving in order to protect themself. Normally it's a Trauma response. Your brain is trying to protect you but it does more harm then good.
Considering we are described as creatures that need social interaction to survive, staying inside would be considered harmful, in the long run.
I'm a gamer myself and though we can get social interactions online, if we have this issue with reading people, we tend to start isolating even in gaming situations to avoid feeling uncomfortable.
Or you know, I'm reading to much in to this and I'm not doctor. Just a dude, playing a dude, playing another dude 😅
So take any of this with a grain of salt. 👍🏽
Well that's a stupid reason imo to stay inside
Most people you see everywhere don't care enough about you to wish you ill.
I feel the same way ngl
I am a highly sensitive intuitive type with high empathy which cripples me since I also have the gift of understanding. Where I get hurt repeatedly is that there is no understanding in return when I merely react to abuse. However, none of us are perfect, or even good all the time and most of our good radar comes from trauma and hypervigilence..I'm still in therapy for it because 4 decades of patterns of my attracting people who admire me for these traits, plus my passion and outspokenness....I end up getting angry at them and resentful of them, so that means...I'm not a saint, therefore, there are others who don't like that about me. I mistook my whole life, the 'quiet ons' for being calm, strong, a rock. It turns out that 'rock,' growing up, stood by and didn't protect and defend me against my physically and mentally abusive parent, their spouse who I was more scared of but still screamed bloody murder, when assaulted .....but the quiet one who didn't find me worth the fight to protect me, was just as abusive actually. So, we all have work to do! Humility is key. Tough stuff, really.
I used to dream big because all the people around me saw great potential and I wanted to satisfy them, I'm 27, I'm leading teams and reaching success in my job, but I feel nothing. I will quit soon because I want to work from home and start traveling. I really feel connected when the writer explained their dreams like going to the desert and swim with whales and he preferred to leave that dream to write his last book and accomplish that goal.
I reached the success that others wanted for me, but I think that is time to reach the success that I want for me. I got transferred five months ago to a whole new city, without friends nor family and I think that it is my time to disappear and start my journey.
Do what you want, but do it for yourself ❤
Hey, I think you do the right thing. I believe humans would be better without leaders. We don't need them anymore really. People can and should guide themselves.
This was so interesting! One thing I realized a while ago is that envy/jealousy is your psyche telling you that there is something in your life that needs fixing. Whether that person has what they have, or they don't, won't change what's wrong in your life. When you fix your own life, it is easier to be happy for others, less envious.
Agree. If you are happy and fully invested in what you are doing - what others have or do won't register the same way at all. You will either be genuinely happy for them or indifferent
@@karmasutra4774this comment was pretty helpful to me, I struggle a lot with jealousy and realize I need to focus harder on my own life and goals
I haven't achieved much and I never feel jealous of anyone. It doesn't mean I don't want more for myself. But does that mean I don't have to change anything just because I'm not jealous of other people's success?
I am wondering if this also applies to being jealous of others material possessions or their lives.
This was such an incredible interview.. Robert Greene is an amazing soul. Thank you Steeve along with your team for sharing the gifts of this interview.. ❤❤❤❤ much love
Robert, it is not narcissistic to refuse when people want to take a piece of you, disguised as an opportunity. Its just having boundaries.
You know what’s funny. If someone just wanted a piece of you and you are aware of the opportunity and that it’s very well an illusion you have the advantage in knowing why not ride the opportunity until it stops bringing you benefits because you were well aware that it was not a opportunity the whole time you can’t be manipulated and convinced that you need to do whatever it takes to keep the opportunity. Exit because you were the one who was manipulating
That's a great way to word it !
There's also a difference between being narcissistic versus arrogant. When he talks about finding things in himself that he doesn't like, he seems to be talking about arrogance, but he's using the word narcissist, which could be confusing from a psychology perspective, because he's not an actual diagnosable narcissist.
@@chelseacheckington7421 absolutely true, and self-reflection is definitely not narcissists’ strong side.
@@chelseacheckington7421
100%, and i think it’s harmful to label it narcissism
“Just because something isn't a lie does not mean that it isn't deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.”
― Criss Jami
Interestingly. That is how Satan tried to tempt Jesus to sin. Satan mixed truth with lies. He twisted the truth.
The ego and desire to win is the driving force to win at all costs and leads to this behaviour.
woah, this quote is amazing ^w^
A perfect description of a climate hoaxer!
@kelvinpell4571 Unpopular opinion: the climate is changing, and nature will adapt. Whether or not humans will be in the mix is the question. Climate anxiety is not selfless, its about people trying to save their own ass. 😂
I never realized the speaker was disabled until he started talking about it. Probably the best motivational speaker I've heard in a quite a long time. Thank you.
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Say we all are so indoctrinated and they have the labels on us I mean yeah this guy's the best motivational speaker ever okay well know we all are amazing motivational speakers we just all are at different stages of doing it and some do it better than others. We should I think the greatest human act that Nipsey Hussle say that the greatest human act is to inspire and it honestly it really is.
Robert doesn’t look at things with empathy, he sees strategic manipulation of people as the way to dominate life. And I’m not criticizing; he is clearly a fascinating narcissist in recovery. And I believe he might recognize his warpy way of thinking. So good on him. But if you’ll notice, his methods are appealing to those 1 in 6 narcissists who are looking for ways to manipulate with pseudo-authenticity, because narcissists cannot be authentic. He realizes that when people are understood in depth, there comes the true ability to act and to achieve to one’s ultimate life’s desire. He cannot conceptualize the idea that some people do not hide shadow. In expression of shadow, authenticity is being expressed. There are those who take control and do not “act.” Only a grandiose person understands that “weak asks” make them look weak and that “strong asks” hide weakness and are “convincing” to others of your strength. Only narcissists believe that everyone is fake and potentially threatening. Essentially, he is more of a self-conceptualized narcissist than the others. His thoughts are intriguing but you’ll never hear him talk about how to really tap into the emotions of another with care, love, and consideration. At the other end of the spectrum, the ability to be empathetic can also be used to one’s advantage, but narcissists don’t consider that method. He’s learned how to leverage his narcissism for success through identification of the weaknesses in others and himself and realizing where his tendencies have caused him to fall short of control.
Monsters are not those under our bed. They are the ones that held us close and whispered "I love you".
I'm scared😂
❤ 100% all I ever saw under my bed was a little dust but in life others were the real monsters 😢 No more tears just strength because now I know!🎉
@@justtired123I used to be scared Now I am strong and aware. Alone but not lonely. No Envy...No jealousy...No comparison just love for God, self and others with very little need to enter their world until I meet the right people or the right one! 🎉
@@justtired123 LOL Boo!
exactly bro this is deep deeym
46:40
“I don’t know about you but I appreciate politeness…I know they’re not necessarily meaning it but it’s nice…it’s kinda smooth. If people weren’t polite it’d be…grating”
I just LOVE this. I don’t know why but this just HIT. I am forever going to think of politeness as being smooth from now on.
There have been times where when day to day politeness in some circles felt so artificial I wanted to just ram my head in the wall but this… this just resonated so much it’s going to forever make that artificial feeling totally alright now.
Absolutely true. People who have gone through things read the book (48 laws) with a different lens - enlightening. I also remember this one guy who told me "reading it makes you evil, it teaches you to be manipulative". And he was/is the master manipulator (one who you have to watch). I realized that decisively years later. Be very careful of 'frenemies' and narcisits - they totally hate when you are aware of all these tacts or counter-respond in manners that they can no longer put a choke hold on you. Thanks for this episode and continuing to share knowledge and insights.
Thank you. I wrote this down to remember it
The 48 power of law It’s a book of deceit.
❤ In my thirties my body broke down. Fibromyalgia took over. Gone was a social life which I loved and was a big part of my life. Pain left me with no desire to teach out or have others reach in to me. I have learned to live with my best friend. God. I talk to Him daily and somehow get through each day by His grace. Being elderly now how grateful I am for peace, quiet, few demands, beautiful music, sitting on my porch and enjoying the view. God bless everyone as we go through this school of life.
In my walk to find God and now trying to walk w/ Him I have also become very grateful for similar things. ❤👏🏻🙏👍🏻🙂
Someone I know had great success with Lyrica for fibromyalgia. I’m
Not into drugs but ya know. It’s nice to get relief sometimes.
Are you sure it’s fibromyalgia? Please rule out Lyme disease. Have adequate testing. And keep in mind false negatives.
It can be vitamin deficiency….plz check it out….I’m so glad you know the Lord, He never lets us down✨🙏🏼
YOUR BIG MISTAKE IS THINKING GOD IS A MALE! THE GOD SOURCE IS WITHIN ALL THINGS! INCLUDING YOU! NEITHER MALE OR FEMALE! ENERGY AND LIGHT! IF YOU RELY ON THST HUMAN WRITTEN BIBLE BULLSH1T YOU WILL NEVER FIND PEACE, WELLNESS , CALM AND HAPPINESS
❤I've watched several times now and each time, I gain a different level of understanding. *VERY INTERESTING* episode. Raw, real, engrossing, thought provoking. Praying that Robert Green makes a full recovery. He truly is a treasure. Your questions added an entirely new dimension of richness. Thank you so much!!!! xxx ❤
What happened to Robert Greene?
"Emotionally engaged" whether in work or in love with someone or even something, where you "lose your ego" and "fall" into vulnerability and let go of defenses, where you care more about someone else rather than yourself is WONDERFUL to hear. To lose yourself for something or someone from a place of Love suddenly sounds incredibly healthy and human in the best sense even if or when it isn't returned. And I can look back in thanfulness even at some of the brokenness. And that makes me smile, love and embrace myself. Thank you.
😢 Wow
THIS INTERVIEW MADE ME CRY. IT FELT LIKE A TALK WITH THE DAD YOU NEVER HAD.
bro caps lock has no dad
@@wakegarylmao
I’m 62 and it’s taken me all this time to realise the fake user friends I had thank god I’ve woken up and finally got rid of them
42 right here and never been more peaceful but don't feel bad girl I've been set up and put in jail hell I mean it is ridiculous the f****** lynx these idiots will go to
Thx for revealing that, I’m 54 and in the middle of seeing that stuff…..
I've realized most friends are fake.
I don't have friends, i think i am ok
so important
"I've forgiven the wasp." I love this more than anything else I heard this entire interview." Forgiveness is the key...no matter how big or little it is. LOVE this podcast. Thank you Robert and Steven. You are both amazing.
I became disabled two years ago. Roberts perspective on being disabled, was so helpful for me. I can relate so much to feeling like I’ve lost the ability to do all of the things that I love. Your story is encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing your brilliance.
May the Lord heal you.
Correction* You didn't become disabled but you became differently able.
@@thabomabuza7340 Stop trying to gaslight people into thinking not being able to move/think is somehow a positive or neutral thing. It's objectively negative.
@@thabomabuza7340 No, I'm disabled. I have come to accept that, and I'm perfectly fine with that fact. Fact is, there are things I will never be able to do again, and that list will only grow as my neuro degenerative disease progresses. I will never be able to pull the transmission from my 1968 F100 and replace the clutch. There is no manner of doing it differently that will change this fact. Being on my back and wrestling nearly 300 pounds of cast iron just isn't going to happen. I will have to pay someone to do it for me the next time the clutch needs to be replaced.
The only people that I have known that insist on using "differently abled" have not been able to accept their disability fully, and live their best or better life then before. They struggle to fully emotionally accepting their current reality. In turn they try and force themselves into intellectually rejecting that which they know to be true. That they have become disabled, and have lost some level of functioning. Overcoming that hurtle of emotionally and intellectually accepting their disability is the step needed to not only gain full acceptance, but to thrive going forward. An intellectual or emotional rejection of this prevents moving foward. As you spend your energy trying to disprove what you already know to be true.
Dear Dr Green, I was in a huge crisis a year ago with a work situation. I saw you on Jordan Peterson, and I bought the 365 book for my son... But I kept it and read it. It did help me sort through things. As you say, however, the biggest the thing I did was stop seeing myself as perfect and to understand that i really had no clue what other people were thinking. That was HUGE. A year later I'm at the same job but I feel very differently about myself and the people I work with. 100% that is the first thing to do... Stop seeing yourself as perfect, or wonderful, or a victim. You. Are. Not.
Well said
Here. Here. All identy is a stumbling block. To give up my desire to be perfect I began calling myself mediocre. I'm a mediocre wife, mother, friend ect... I eventually let go of those too, but it was a good first step to letting go of a major part of my ego. Then as I let go of more layers, it got easier and easier
Find out who you truly are. Who you've always been. It's not your thoughts. Or other people's thoughts. You find your true self by being still inside.
Well sometimes people are victims of the situation, and we should not devalue their experience either , if it’s rooted in the objective reality.
If you’re not wonderful or a victim
Then what are you?
I almost never heard a more relatable interview. Thank you, Gentlemen!
Thanks. Now I wana marry again
Wow!! I just turn 25 years old and Im falling in love with this kind of content i can feel How is changing my perception of life. Even writing this comment because my english is between 60% to 80%, but i wrote it perfectly thanks lord 🙏 thanks God 🙌
Clearly the best interview I have listened to in a long time.
I live with Cerebral Palsy and I have had to rise above, several of these situations to be the person, I am today.
Life is a gift, you get to live effectively when you take your eyes off of others and focus on what is possible with you.
My ability to read others and their thoughts and finding the motivation to continue with my dreams and aspirations, is my strategy.
So true how you have to know yourself first then adapt yourself to difficult situations.Never let anyone define you.
“Much of the evil in this world is due to the fact that man, in general, is hopelessly unconscious.”
― C.G. Jung, Modern Man in Search of a Soul
It's not having received the Spirit from above to clean up the old nature of sin that makes man do evil . Without the Spirit from above we will always bear bad fruits.. It's impossible to clean up our lives without the seed being planted in us by God himself .
What's flesh is flesh and what's Spirit is Spirit Jesus told Nicodemus.
@@PenelopeLambert-xp4vf why jesus isnt putting spirit in their believers?
"Wake up and go to sleep!"
Jim English, 1976
Scoutmaster
Troop 76, Sea Isle City, NJ
@@immanuelkant1911
Because many profess with their lips snd claim they are God's children but God said they are without His Spirit and are not His .
One must GENUINELY believe in tbe Son of God and be baptized into Jesus' death before receiving God's Spirit from above.
It's the key to Heaven .
And God can ONLY be worshiped through the Spirit and Truth that we have received.
Jesus told the woman at the well that there is NO other way to worship God because God is Spirit not flesh and God will SEEK those who will worship Him this way .
@@PenelopeLambert-xp4vf spot on
He went back to where the wasp stung him and said a prayer to it "I'm sorry about your little life...". What a great person he is 😄🥲
I've learned a lot listening to this great man. ✌
I say prayers every time I accidentally hit a moth or insect while Im driving, and it causes me sadness. I will stop and pull roadkill off the road no matter how small or large or what stages of decomposition (carry gloves, sanitizer in cars exactly for this reason) and pull them off to the side to a clearing in woods or somewhere peaceful, find flowers if only weeds and leaves, say a prayer that their life mattered and how sorry I am that everyone just runs over you as if your life and existence didn't matter. I'm also Hawaiian and didn't grow up knowing very much about my Hawaiian ancestry or spiritual connections to animals and nature. I now know the ancient Hawaiians, like the indigenous Australians and Americans, had a deep respect and connection to animals, sea, lakes, plants, sky, clouds as if these other species and weather phenomenon were inter-connected as mystical, mythological, spiritual forces and entities. Our Paganism beliefs ultimately replaced by Puritanical Christian missionaries and western colonialism sadly. If we were to return to those beliefs, I do believe we would do more to save, protect, shepherd nature and wildlife. So I hug trees, try not to hurt insects, thanking them, talk to squirrels, flowers, and don't worry anymore if anyone sees me or laughs. Our Hawaiian ohana Aumakua (an animal spirit that is a deceased ancestor) is the Mako Mano, a Mako shark. So advocate on behalf of sharks, who are hunted and endangered now from false fear-based marketing campaigns and entertainment. I love this interview and Robert Greene's beliefs about animals, and I love the comments. Animals keep us sane. Ravens leave me gifts of flowers and tree branches with leaves, after I leave them treats of food on a stone pillar on my gate. They've been doing this for 6 years. I met the Corvid professor John Marzluff from UW and his books on Ravens and Crows. We should strive to live to respect and honor and live in mutualism with other species, animals and plants. I was very moved by the book When Elephants Weep. 🤙🌺🦈
@@Waikiki1976you are to be treated with the upmost respect always and after your passing always, I wish this for you, you beautiful soul 🪽🦋🦄🐬🌸✨🌈
@@CatsOverTheMoon awww...MAHALO NUI LOA to you and may you also be protected by our Aumakua Mano when you swim in the sea.🙏🤙🦈
Haha😂
Robert Greene has helped me bring myself awareness to life.
At age 57 years old... I have recently been diagnosed with adhd and autism.
His way of thinking is my way of thinking. However,, I didn't live that way. I was hiding in a world of neurotypical humans, follow or be left be behind.
I was groomed to live like the rest. Fighting internally daily, my body has taken the toll. I didn't use drugs or alcohol to mask. I just suffered through it. I feel as though this is a testimony.
My heightened awareness has brought my truth self to the world. . What a gift I've been giving. I get to live the rest of my journey being exactly who I am with grace and acceptance. ❤
Thank you
how did you you fight with ahdh and autism without medications? how strong! I have ADHD myself, i don't use medication either. However, i cannot avoid times when I feel like a failure and feeling of guilt when i cannot control or aware of my actions that affect people around me.
I feel like I’m truly in the matrix 😢
You would be shocked how many people do appreciate honesty. And there's a thing called tact. It is possible to get your point across without being rude. You're not doing anybody a favor by lying to them you're not doing yourself a favor by lying and thinking of yourself as a liar. In fact if you can only say two words a day that are true then only speak two words. Sticks and stones may break your bones but words,, words have power and if you don't believe so then your words don't have any power. My words have power I believe what I say because it's true and so does the universe the universe uses my words as a ruler.
Yes I actually felt the power of your words as I read this. You intended to impact someone positively with your words, and that is exactly what happened. Bravo indeed.👏🏻
Body language, the tonality of a person’s voice means so much in a successful relationship.
I know what u mean but can u elaborate more, it's an interesting point ur making
You can read people without no words. Trust actions, not words. Some people have this fake ability to put candy in their mouth and talk to you. Watch their actions more.
U think u have said something wise? Everyone knows that
@@RedRumble14 you’re a wise person then 🙏💜🙏
I did that surprise micro aggression experiment with all my co-workers, they all wants to kill me. Their mind had a satanic look when it recognized me, then they corrected it (for less than a second).
Make ur own world live ur life fullest take care of ur health and keep people surrounded u with high quality, and value
After years of being raised by narcissistic parent then first 20 years of marriage.I’ve did plenty of looking inward thinking I was in the wrong . Done with that and have learned when people show you who they are believe them . Don’t make excuses for them or try to fix them . Move on and find freedom within yourself un -encumbered by bullsh&t .
The interviewer really knows how to ask good questions, spot on.
He just does these silly pauses blankly looking at guests as if he knows something. The dude is so basic and 80% is done for him by the team
@@RedRumble14 Be gone with your negative energy, since you are obviously envious of his success!
@Meatball.number1 Dude. Why are you here? You don’t like the host. Fine. Your prerogative. By why stay somewhere that you don’t like? You don’t like his voice so why listen to it? Why make your your own self miserable? Hate watching is really a thing I suppose. lol
@@marie-francoiset9402 what should I do Marie?
He's allowed his opinion. This isn't the Steven Bartlett Podcast
Awesome interview! As a psychologist, I verify that Robert is absolutely spot on re: the importance of learning to read others’ non-verbal cures (e.g., micro-expressions). I particularly love that he encourages us all to honestly look inward and reflect on ourselves (we must do this in order to improve our relationships with others - and the overall impact we have in the world). Robert makes countless excellent points and is a very genuine and engaging speaker. I could listen to him for hours! 👍
The thing about micro-expressions is that a negative one might be a reflection of what a person happens to be thinking about at the time when they have been caught off-guard. I am aware I have done this many times and make it up to the person so they know it was not directed at them.
What happened to Robert Greene?
I have always had a large, framed poster of The Desiderata on my wall as a reminder that I wrote it on my heart when I was young and still feel the same way now in my later years. All the mistakes Ive made in life, and low periods occurred when I forgot its beautiful advice.
I don’t need to work out if people hate me, I already know everybody does.
But I think I’m almost at a stage of total acceptance.
Sounds like you have some personal issues that you don't want to address rather than other people having issues with you.
Here's the rub, people don't hate you. They nothing you. As you get older you understand that. People are so absorbed in themselves, they don't even have time or energy for others. 🤷♀️
How about not firing a F! Life is too short. Miserable jealous insecure people hate others so let them drown in their misery 😂
I don’t know you. I am certain I wouldn’t hate you. My brother acts like he hates me & I have never done anything bad to him. My husband’s family really likes me. Sometimes it’s jealousy but you can’t please everyone. Just shrug your shoulders and move on.
😮💨...... Hate is better than envy .....
All my life I’ve been searching for a name for this talent/intelligence that lives within me that has burdened me. I am so fluent in Non Verbal Communication, that I’ve started loosing the need to verbally communicate with people who’s vibe/aura speaks volumes.
I had a hard time explaining to my sister, who was constantly complaining about being shut down for being too honest. The segment about showing up as different actors to deal with different people was exactly the point I was trying to convey. Many excellent ideas in this podcast!!
I hope you never shut down your sister but It's good to show her an alternative on how to be successful and act around ppl in today's society.
One can 'show up different' and still choose to be 'too honest'
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq honesty in moderation is always the best policy.
@@darrinmitchell7660 Dude, go somewhere and sit down, because that's not how that works and you know it. Since when was the word, 'in moderation' added to this saying, and when it comes the government who has lied to us, saying what you just said is dangerous. Can't you hear these men sitting there telling us not to trust our truth... like literally, go away
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq plzzz conspiracy theorist articulate what your trying to convey, bc up to my knowledge this post was abt a sisters concern for her lil sister to fit in with society. Yess life in moderation has always been the best policy, but like the government I see you have your own agenda.😂
"If you cant see them you can't change them" ...beautiful
I love what he said about love. This is what good people feel towards those around them, not just their husbands and wives and children.
So nobody in New York is a good person by your definition lol
What he says 20 minutes in is exactly what my husband is going through right now. He has been in the body shop industry his whole working life (started at the front office and worked his way to head painter) He is now 35 and altho he is the top painter in the area and every shop wants him, he quit so he could become a pilot. (his dream job ever since he was a kid) He said he couldnt stand the toxic cultre, drama, and crappy pay any longer and is ready to make the change and finally get paid what he deserves for all his hard work. I fully support him and even offered to go to work again (currently a stay at home mom and homeschool our 9 and 7 year olds) so he could go to school full time. He told his step mom and when she realized he was actually serious she told him that he couldn't become a pilot without a degree and he was a college dropout. I dont think anyone else is taking it seriously either. Its sad he only has my support but i think thats enough for him to push through. The pain of being the same is getting worse for him than the pain of changing...
"Pilot without a degree?" Hogwash. Good for him. Plus so great to get out of toxic environments!
his step mom is trash and wants for him to be miserable also why does he need such trash approval in the first place you have one life avoid the trash
@@acebilbo thank you! Your words mean so much! :)
I admire people who know their occupational purpose... Godspeed.💛
I’m glad your husband is pursuing his dream. I wish him all the best.
He won’t regret his decision.
From experience 44 years of Narcissistic abuse leads to liberation and spiritual awakening. Total awareness of ego in myself and others 🙏 ❤ 🌎 👻
Same !
I was abused by an x girl she cheated on me so much I got 3 stds from her. Hep-b,hpv and clamitia she cheated on me so often it took me 10 years to get over this scum.sleeping with her ma wasn't enough to get her back she lied to my face so many times hate is too kind of a word to describe her
Did I deserve to waste my life on her
Tim Fletcher is also great on the topic of trauma and narcissistic abuse.
@@as2223 thanks, I'll check Tim out later
For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever. However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes. And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
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Holy s#&% spot on! 💯
Holy shit these ad bot comments are everywhere (at least they are well written)
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You are so correct!
My dad had a stroke and than cancer, year before hes death he went too the libery and just read his last year on this erarth. He was always in his Ego in job, frendships and family. Lisenng your podcast I realazed that in his last dais he was realy in a state of calmness and peace. My strategy today is not to have a strategy and is so hard but I'm learning just too be alive. Love from Croatia❤️🤗🙏
The only class I failed in college and had to retake was “social influence”. Call it an art, science etc, it’s evil. You need to be a very kind and well-balanced human to use this skill with compassion.
Robert, I don't know if you'll read this... You are the most fascinating living writer who has touched and changed my life and mind.
I am chocked up with just the thought of you leaving us. Your impact was HUGE on this earth. Thank you for existing! 🙏🏾
Wait, did he die? 😢
@@mifnp8887 No, it was just talked a lot about in the podcast.
@@mifnp8887no, but he did talk about being suicidal at one point of time and not feeling "enough". A lot of people go through it and so did he
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Great Conversation The Word of God says some of what you say this way: Overcome evil with good...also we as humans are born with all these awkward insecurities etc. and need awareness of our purpose and to walk in that purpose while here on earth . It (our purpose) is given to us as we explore , believe and apply the Word of God to our lives. Many times God uses rock bottom situations to move us towards that purpose because HE created us for HIS PURPOSE NOT OUR OWN. WE ARE FULFILLED AND HAPPY AND ENERGETIC WHEN LIVING OUT HIS PURPOSE HE DESIGNED FOR EACH OF US.
Glory to God
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How is it not natural to be happy for other’s success. Perhaps more so for some then others. The sound of others joy is laughter. Laughter is infectious.
So true! I learned about this years ago from the tickle me elmo toy, whose laughter brought me joy. Watching him laugh until he fell over made me feel better. His laugh was more real than most human fake laughter, which made me feel sick to my stomach! Now I get that same joy from a bird named tico! Watch him here on youtube and you will laugh with tears of joy.
As we call it, "code switch". To survive in cooperate, you have to adopt a persona. I absolutely cannot be the person at work that I am on personal and I am glad for the self-edit as it's kept me employed.
No shade to you but in 2020 that's when I was like are you kidding me I couldn't believe how many people and I realized some people did not have an option or they thought they didn't but I promise you that's why I'm going to make my channel not to preach but to share my experience and show what I have learned and I swear there is enough to go around in their little money game I mean if we're in The matrix we might as well do play their rules right and I'm telling you learn your state laws learn just learn things I promise you I will share it with everyone what they're doing is keeping secrets and stuff how to do social media how to do this blah blah blah blah blah and there's all the stuff to do it's quite very simple and you just literally I mean I don't know there's just a blueprint already and I don't know how I didn't see this before but it just wasn't the timing wasn't right. Believe it or not I'm literally living on Netflix movie so I'm in the middle of my book but I promise you I want to make sure that the hacking that I and identity theft which will be in it and I want to share that with all of you so that you will be protected as well and I guarantee you you're not.
As someone who suffers from a chronic condition that has caused physical limitations, I am inspired by Robert's commitment to writing Sublime and his notion of amor a fate. I'm reminded of all that I can still do and that everything I've experienced is a purposeful part of my journey. Thank you!