The Manipulation Expert: You're Being Manipulated! Use Jealousy To Manipulate People! Robert Greene
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 เม.ย. 2024
- Robert Greene is a New York Times bestselling author, whose books include, ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, ’The Art of Seduction’, and ’The 33 Strategies of War’.
00:00 Intro
02:35 Why did you write a book about human nature?
04:34 How do we reverse a lack of self-awareness?
07:01 How to get rid of qualities we don’t like about ourselves
11:55 Where does our dark side come from?
15:29 How to pursue that thing you’ve always wanted to do
27:54 The unseen importance of creating a sense of urgency
29:47 How to know if you’re following a false purpose
36:17 Should a young person just be saying yes to everything?
40:14 How to manage other people that get in the way of what we want to do
43:06 Do we have to lie to be successful?
51:51 How to read someone's body language
54:32 A smile says loads about how someone feels about you
56:51 People's personalities are contagious
57:18 Frenemies, what they mean and how to spot one
01:06:42 What's the most controversial point from your book?
01:09:25 Does equality exist when we all strive for power?
01:12:29 Becoming the best, what it really means
01:18:11 Is death a motivator for you?
01:24:49 The importance of relationships
01:27:01 How to deal with dark thoughts
01:29:09 Advice for people going through self-doubt & hard moments
01:33:17 Why did you write this book, The Sublime?
01:37:43 What would be your parting message to the world?
01:43:34 How can we rise above our emotional reactions?
01:45:15 How has your research influenced how you view politics?
01:52:38 The last guest's question
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Another great video topic man!
Honestly, when you are a loyal fan and watch the show all the time, that repetitive commercial to get you to subscribe is getting beyond annoying. At least make a different one or better yet, stop showing it to people that have already subscribed.😩😩
your video edits suck !!!
Robert Green is amazing! I hope you'll have the chance to invite Robert Sapolsky as well, I listened to all his lectures
Please get Tim Armoo!!
Clearly I have wasted my life with no ambition, status or power. I moved to a foreign country at 23 and never grew up, just kept on feeling and experiencing new things. So why am I so content with my life as I sit here about to turn 70? Some people want to leave their mark on this world but I guess I want to leave no trace of my passing, same as I do out on the trails. Some people need to live big, but hey, it's okay to live grounded in the present and let others carry all that angst of ambition and competition.🙏
💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
I resonate with this quite a bit. I personally have liked to just be an observer and commentator on what I’ve found in this world, myself, and others.
Perhaps that’s what people like us were “meant for”?
I don’t think you’ve wasted your life at all. Your personal goals are yours and yours alone. You’ve reached 70 years which is in itself a milestone achievement. You took a gamble to relocate to a foreign country and made that decision work for you at a young age, again an achievement, and I’m sure there is much more too! Who says that we actually need great ambition, status and power, because with that comes huge responsibility and potential complications?
this felt angery… i think everyone has a place on this earth and in society. be you
@@diariesofsb Not angry at all. So sorry my sense of humor didn't come through.🙏
At 67 years old. I have “no friends” I have slowly stopped contacting them to see if they contacted me first. They didn’t.
I feel happy in my own company.
And this is also wisdom.
At 73 I like friends around but not a fan of hearing judgements about my lifestyle coupled with the Christ Complex preaching from the woman at the well. After spending 44 years in prison (marriage) I’m finally free to be openly who I am. You’d be surprised at how many people want me back in a prison. Why is this? A woman who needs no validation is unworthy to live her life choices?
Liz I’m 38 and I can relate
I can honestly relate...I'm 60 years old with no friends and not going to lie that I do get very lonely at times....
@salisiharmony I'm truly proud of you for being strong and getting out of such confinement...I'm still living in my prison due to lack of strength and confidence. You did something that I so want to do and by reading your story of such strength has given me a true gateway of hope and courage to do exactly what you have done. I honestly want to thank you for sharing in your breaking the chains off of you so to speak and the wonderful will to live your life the way you want to and not how others want you to. Always hold that beautiful head up and keep living you.. Many blessings and thanks again
Our biggest haters are people who are close to us and observe us.
Effing Twighlight Zone 😢
Put your faith and trust in Christ. He”ll never let you down.
The haters don't even have to observe you. They can hate you based on a fairy tale.
Why do they hate 😕
@@heaty007 becuse they are jealous of your inner light and inner strength
I like the way Stephen interviews .. he let's his guests finish their thoughts and follows up with great questions.
Makes all the difference.
When you notice the same set of people who never seem to be around to help but are consistently there to watch you fail and profit from it you have an imposter for a friend in your midst.
@@moyamontgomery1468 I think you responded to the wrong comment lol
THANK GOD BC THIS GUY IS HORRIBLE "etc. Etc., etc.” (HOW ANY TIMES DID HE SAY THAT) talking about he wrote a book about seduction lol OK
This is just a new platform for the programming. The black Brit is just more malleable than Rogan was in the beginning. He’s a bit of an empty shell actually. And these talks and topics are 100% tied to the liberal, atheist, follow the narrative agenda. Greene is a creep. And Rogan was captured and sequestered to a smaller platform for cash to carry on the other part of the narrative. And they memory holed his controversial (truthful) guests. This Brit is owned and won’t steer “off course”
@@marenight33? Hey?
My oldest sister hated me most of my life, and I spent inordinate amounts of time and energy trying to make her happy. It didn’t even occur to me that she was jealous, and nothing was ever going to make her happy. And the harder I tried the more she hated me. Until recently. And I’ve finally given up. And it’s so freeing. ❤
Of course
My older sister was the same. It wasn’t until my 40s that I realized I operated my life in response to her hatred of me by people pleasing, overworking myself, taking tasks on to show how hard I would work. She was diagnosed with a terminal illness 2 years ago & I went to care for her for 8 weeks straight. I fed her, dressed her, changed her, cleaned up after her. I wore sweatpants & tees daily, no makeup, no nails, hair in a bun specifically to dampen any jealous feelings. She was then visibly jealous I was helping with her grandkids, jealous I was connecting with her kids, jealous I was speaking with her friends to update them, visibly jealous I was living, basically. Part of me felt guilty I couldn’t stay longer to help but I realized my very presence ignited her jealousy & it was hurting her for me to stay on and help her. So I left without regret. She died three months ago & as her friend and I grieved together, the friend disclosed the level of jealousy she felt toward me ran deep. I admired & loved her so much it was very painful to hear what I knew all along, out loud. But the admission also validated what I suspected & lifted any negative feelings I had about it because those feelings didn’t belong to me. I let them die with her.
Absolutely agree, I had a similar experience in the family I lived with, the pain stopped when I let go. Sometimes to move forward you have to leave people behind.
I feel this, have my own experience with a older brother who I've bent over backwards for every chance I could get just to be of help to him, always looked up to him and thought he was the coolest person in the whole world.. not until my 30s and a bunch of disappointment along the way did I realize we would never have the brotherhood I thought we did.. he was my biggest enemy and had great jealousy for me and I never knew.. from trying to take my girlfriends and friends to badmouthing me and embarrassing me for absolutely no reason every opportunity he could.. it still sucks.. but the last few years been more rewarding now that I'm not trying to hold him up on a pedestal anymore 😂😅
Same, I recently realised this myself. I have three sisters and for most of my life I’ve blamed myself for not having a good relationship with them. I really started to believe it was my fault because, it’s three sisters! It had to be me. Recently realised that those around me saw the truth but for whatever reason wouldn’t acknowledge it. Thirty years of pain 😢
Thank you for having me back on the podcast Steven.
I’m glad you forgave the wasp! ☮️💜
Thank you for calling out all my bullshit, I love this
You a legendary your books helped me alot in life thank you very much 🔥 🔥 🔥
Learned so much from your books and listening to you. Thank you so much!
Your work has helped me a lot. I’m proud of how far you’ve come. Your choice to become a writer, and share the knowledge you’ve gained is what I admire the most.
“Much of the evil in this world is due to the fact that man, in general, is hopelessly unconscious.”
― C.G. Jung, Modern Man in Search of a Soul
It's not having received the Spirit from above to clean up the old nature of sin that makes man do evil . Without the Spirit from above we will always bear bad fruits.. It's impossible to clean up our lives without the seed being planted in us by God himself .
What's flesh is flesh and what's Spirit is Spirit Jesus told Nicodemus.
@@PenelopeLambert-xp4vf why jesus isnt putting spirit in their believers?
"Wake up and go to sleep!"
Jim English, 1976
Scoutmaster
Troop 76, Sea Isle City, NJ
@@immanuelkant1911
Because many profess with their lips snd claim they are God's children but God said they are without His Spirit and are not His .
One must GENUINELY believe in tbe Son of God and be baptized into Jesus' death before receiving God's Spirit from above.
It's the key to Heaven .
And God can ONLY be worshiped through the Spirit and Truth that we have received.
Jesus told the woman at the well that there is NO other way to worship God because God is Spirit not flesh and God will SEEK those who will worship Him this way .
@@PenelopeLambert-xp4vf spot on
I have had so many frenemies…I have serious trouble trusting anyone at all anymore. I am really cautious. It’s horrible to be on the other side of someone’s unnecessary jealousy. I’m completely OVER it. 🙏💛
From the unnecessary bullying and discrimination, gets so tiring
For real, you always have to be wary of other people because of the things they've been doing and what they could have done to you. It gets exhausting and tires you out.
Yes, but being on the side which they live on must be a horrible miserable world . Which they will never be content in their own skin. just remember, they have to look at their evil self in the mirror every day.
Yes,and if you learn how to see them before hand you develop a weapon that you can completely strengthen. And have peace of mind.
@@rachelledavis1681 well said! 💛🙏
“When you show yourself to the world and display your talents, you naturally stir all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity... you cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others.” ― Robert Greene
💯
Andrew Tate, Alex Jones, Jesus Christ, Trump...all truth seekers....
yeah, fuck'em!
Right. Worry is a wrong response.
No kidding!
When i discovered my mother was a narcissist and then learned 1 in 6 are narcissists, it has changed my whole world. I never thought so many were so fake. Makes me want to go on a solo hike for eternity.
ill come with
Then again you are also a narcissist we all are kinda like that the only ones that hurt are the ones who are too deep. Legit have zero self-esteem
Hi. I’m 39 and I just found out my mom is a narcissist. Welcome. We need a support group.
@@zenostrixsterliterally half of my self discovery journey has been between settling the desire for me to grow an ego and me thinking that if I do that I will be a narcissist like my father.
rural wife hell over 60, my peers yes. b/c they got married and have a mini van they always are wagging that tongue and ruling everywhere they go. Got an education, what for they say?
People don't change until it becomes too painful for them to stay where they are.
region beta paradox
A man without enemies is a man without qualities.
“It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”
~ Jiddu Krishnamurti
But it is helpful to protect yourself against the sickness.
@@coloraturaElise Up until a certain level of awareness, it can be useful to protect yourself, but it is still also a limitation, apart from being addictive, and it should therefore not be the focus. The goal is to get to the level where this protection becomes obsolete. This state is sometimes called inner freedom, but is known under many other names as well.
😂😂😂😂 so true!!!!
Adjusting consciously can benefit working from within.
Ok.
The expression on someone's face when you take them by surprise is not all about you, it's where there head is at until they recognize you.
Where I work I have a "safe word", pineapple, so that when I'm too in my head and intense he can snap me out of it.
Where one's thoughts are is the first expression you'll get.
Talk about self obsession.
I'm so tired of feeling like I have to "achieve greatness" (whatever that means) and success. I'm so incredibly tired of the hustle-culture.
Well said. I agree.
Maybe you missed what the guest was saying at around 1:13-14 about the guy who laid tile for him being a master in his own quiet way. I guess you should go back and check that out....
@@coloraturaElise No, I watched that. I also watched the part where he says he doesn't critize people for not wanting fame etc. Take this as you will but even though you and I might consider the person laying tile as being a master of his craft a success story relative to being a good person and living a good life it's NOT what society in general sees as "successful", unfortunately. We are being spoonfed this alternate hustle culture through so other sources I'm sure you know what I mean.
Same here
@iseeu-fp9po I read your comment just as he said exactly what you said at 1:07:09.
You define what greatness and success means for yourself.
I’ve found multiple purposes over 64 years, keep discovering myself as I age both the dark and light . The one thing that brings me most joy is hard physical blue collar labor type work that leaves me exhausted but allows me to see results of my labor everyday so I build custom homes for people, flip houses, load airplanes for air cargo company. On off days I take care of my grandchildren as my favorite humans are children, so open so unmasked and curious and funny and full of joy. I also love volunteer work with local rescue mission dealing with alcoholics and addicts in recovery . My biggest challenge… I’m a complete recluse if not working . Zero friendships cuz I find it so hard to talk with other “ grown ups” without putting my foot in my mouth and have learned to avoid social situations entirely but that’s just me… I enjoy solitude if not with children.
I also work on houses. I am laying a 3/4” wood floor. I haven’t talked to anyone the whole time and it’s wonderful. Hard hard work helps me so much.
Amen to that!! Hope the floor is beautiful
Hard work is a blessing - you said it very nicely *too see the results of work everyday* - i, major in food science, turned into alcoholic, lost a decade in a bad relationship, broke up, suicidal thoughts, the whole nine yards. Now? Booze is gone, depression is gone, i am healthy as never in life, lost significant weight. All that thanks to working as a farmer, my life turned 180 in a year
I adore my grandchildren as well they cheer me up no end. Children are precious and they all need protecting in this crazy world we are living in.
Well said, I’m exactly the same. I find Im the type that loves building business relationships but personal relationships kind of drain my inner spirit knowing that I have to watch everything I say to avoid saying the wrong things that may cause for a person to misread my words and in turn try to make my life miserable from behind!
He made me cry. My heart goes out to him for suffering a stroke when he was and is doing so much for humanity. He speaks for so many of us that have had a health crisis and it has forever changed our lives.
Robert made me cry also. His interview was candid, insightful and thought-provoking. He allowed himself to be vulnerable, and I believe he has truly reached his potential. Thank you and bravo Robert!
Thanks I couldnt figiure sometjhing out so compelling I thought what am I missing?
My dear friend wanted nothing her whole life but to have a child. She finally got that opportunity at age 39. Her son was diagnosed with autism at age 1. And was diagnosed as one of the worst cases. She never gave up on him and today he has graduated top of the class in his high-school and college straight through to his masters from Georgia teck. This fall, he starts his new career at a fortune hundred company. Proof that nothing should be treated as a category.
. The power of love can move mountains. That young man was very lucky to have such a wonderful mom. God bless both of them. ❤
Not a Debbie Downer but I have known two autistic kids. Even with great, caring, loving intelligent parents they met a point they could go no further. Some autistic people choose these positions before they ever got here not only for their growth but others and they all planned it..
Did you hear of the grace's dad podcast?
Proof that God is real
Prayer is powerful
Nothing is impossible for God
Amen!!!❤❤❤. Agreed! We never give up on our loved ones! Loyalty!
I have had it all, the children, the husband, the beautiful small house, success....... then I sold everything moved back to Europe a year before Covid.
I lost everything and at age 60 had to return to the town I was living before I moved.I had 2 suitcases and a few thousand dollars.
I started all over again. I am renting, I bought a used car and I am happier than ever.
People who were jealous before are still jealous. I don't understand why?
I am not rich, I am not young anymore.
I love my work and I am a master in my field. I think I upset people because no matter what nothing destroys my joy.
Probably! You’re bouncing back. People don’t like to see you being successful. Shame on them. Their loss. I’ve experienced similar. It used to make me sad, now I don’t give a toss.
Did you leave the kids and husband as well? Just curious. Also, what field of work are you in. Also, what helps you have that unbreakable joy?
@@aisoaification my children moved away one to Australia and the other an hour flight from where I lived accept for one and I brought her and my husband came , I told him on our first date that I will be moving to Europe.
Aww thanks you answered, I was curious thank you for answering 🙌🏿
Jealousy a lot of time has less to do with you and more to do with them. People are jealous because of their own inadequacies and shortcomings. I find that a person who is insecure will envy those that walk with their heads high; a person whose been in the same deadend job will envy a person that has the courage to chase their dreams. It all comes back to self
As a horrible human being who easily compare myself to others, feeling sad or envy and jealousy all the time, this interview relieved me a lot for various reasons.
First, the fact that we all have dark side make me feel less horrible about my self.
Second, as author said if this is the last moment of my life, I would not sit with jealousy. I would rather celebrate my life and my friend’s success.
Today I meet some of my highschool friednds who are more successful than me, and who will gonna be marry soon. I felt kind of envy toward them.
But after seeing this video, I say to myself. What if this is the last moment I can meet them, what if I die tomorrow. I want to say congratulations to them. And I want to focus on myself what I want in my life and be more strategic. Thank you for great interview
Jealousy comes from insecurity. If you think you can’t have what they have it’s an illusion, you can! But once we realize we’re in full control it takes radical accountability. But we all have dark sides, we’re human animals
@@Rebecca-fo4nn hey thanks for the comments. I think i know and understand what you are talking. but sometimes I feel I cannot achieve some things, and it bothers me. For example, I am queer person who wanna marry, but it's impossible where I live. Also, When I think about lots of people who have disability, it is true that they can't have that some people have. What should we do when we realize that sometimes, I can't achieve what I really want, and How can we be happy after all? just wanna talk about it. Thank you
Beautiful epiphany. Now go change your relationships!
@@TT-bg1fj
Way to happiness?
Gratitude;
Focus on what good
And what you want/like.
And give.
Because, everything good we received are given,
In complex way.
2020 I had joined a group about something like "gratitude by Deepak Chopra"
Practice for 21 days. It works.
✨✨💫❤❤❤
You can search it. And Try it.
Thank you. 🙏🏻
There’s a lot of pain in being your authentic self, too. Many people don’t know how to handle that in someone else, get passive aggressive or just outright hostile. But as you get older, you stop caring what other people think and stop putting up with other people’s bs.
I like that Stephen lets his guests talk without interrupting
Me too! ❤
Best quality about an interviewer. Michael Parkinson was one.
hear hear
This!
Lost form of respect these days
It is so important to KNOW that no money, no position, no amount of fame, ....is worth our God-given health!
Nourish it
Take best care of it
And do not run after money!
Amen!!!
but i need money man...i want a job i want to atleast have security! i dont wanna chase money but i goddamn need it to atleast raise the quality of my life
@@sasaha8389 That is fine, provided your number one priority is ALWAYS your health. Do not ruin your health in pursuit of money, security, raising living standards, ....
@@sasaha8389checkout dr Joe dispenza. Your mindset is keeping you poor
I needed to see this THANK YOUUUU ❤
I have discovered i have a narcissitic mum. Its scary when she plays guilt trips, plays the victim and clearly has fake/no empathy. Its horrible feeling to know your mum is not real.
The only thing you can do is play along now....i tried ignorinf her and its too hard she starts drama then. Its best just not to give her any important info.
I feel for you ❤
Omggggg saaameee
Are we siblings ?😂😂
how did you detected that she is faking the empathy? Also, if you don’t give her information about you , than to who? To strangers ?
You're not alone. It kind of feels surreal when the realisation first hits you and then come along a whole host of emotions.
33 old, since last year, I realized that I don’t want to be around anyone who makes my soul tired. That’s the key to many things in life
I applaud you for finding this at 33. I finally at 59 started letting go of people. You know those people you finish the call and you wonder why I spent an hour of my life to hang up and feel bad about my life choices. And keeping the people who I felt good about talking to.
“Just because something isn't a lie does not mean that it isn't deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.”
― Criss Jami
Interestingly. That is how Satan tried to tempt Jesus to sin. Satan mixed truth with lies. He twisted the truth.
The ego and desire to win is the driving force to win at all costs and leads to this behaviour.
woah, this quote is amazing ^w^
A perfect description of a climate hoaxer!
@kelvinpell4571 Unpopular opinion: the climate is changing, and nature will adapt. Whether or not humans will be in the mix is the question. Climate anxiety is not selfless, its about people trying to save their own ass. 😂
I dropped a career direction when I was 50! I left my career, my relationship, and my house. It felt like a nervous breakdown. It was painful. BUT I am now living the life of my dreams! Learn the lesson of choosing change before it becomes a big drama
Same
Wow! That's very encouraging. Did you pursue something you had always wanted to do or something entirely new? I am in my 50s and feeling like I need to make such a radical direction in my life.
How were you able to make such a major change?
What life is that? Are you living on a boat?
As long as we're breathing it's never too late! ❤
"Emotionally engaged" whether in work or in love with someone or even something, where you "lose your ego" and "fall" into vulnerability and let go of defenses, where you care more about someone else rather than yourself is WONDERFUL to hear. To lose yourself for something or someone from a place of Love suddenly sounds incredibly healthy and human in the best sense even if or when it isn't returned. And I can look back in thanfulness even at some of the brokenness. And that makes me smile, love and embrace myself. Thank you.
1. I learned very useful and unexpected things here
2. I also learned that I am not the most ugly man in the world
This man is pure gold!
I’ve had so many frenemies in my life, and was very easy to manipulate. It took me 10 years to start reading people.
A real friend, by definition, is someone who believes in you. I judge people by their heart. It's amazing how some people's heart is minuscule. Anyways, have a nice day.
I'm reading people frommy childhood.And all life I try stay away, wheh I found who person are...but bad people always found me, they wathing and falow me in the back...so, later they using all anger to put on me and do something ugly to me. And I always fighting, I need do that to not let enger win...I have very tuff life .
@@liakayte7734 same here . Im so sorry to hear what you went thru too as a child . God bless you my friend < 3
Same and it’s usually when you need them the most at your lowest point their true colors show
Better later than never!!
I’m 62 and it’s taken me all this time to realise the fake user friends I had thank god I’ve woken up and finally got rid of them
42 right here and never been more peaceful but don't feel bad girl I've been set up and put in jail hell I mean it is ridiculous the f****** lynx these idiots will go to
Thx for revealing that, I’m 54 and in the middle of seeing that stuff…..
I've realized most friends are fake.
I don't have friends, i think i am ok
so important
I almost never heard a more relatable interview. Thank you, Gentlemen!
Thanks. Now I wana marry again
Robert Greene is a gift to the human race... I bought all his books. His God -given wisdom has helped me unravel the masks of family and friends. Thank you, Robert Greene🙏🏾💕💕💕
You are so right. The book "The body keeps the score" describes how our bodies reveal our inner feelings, stressors, traumas. We need help to navigate being stuck.
Awesome book
@@psychshell4644 I second that: awesome book!
nah
Based upon the first 15 minutes of this interview, Greene obviously has no clue about demonic influence upon humans.
Sad that he is giving advice based upon ignorance he seems to believe is true.
Yes exactly,
This is the only guy that can interview Robert! He lets him speak and get his thoughts OUT!!!!!!! I love it
FOR REAL. Darin Olien is the most absurd host I've ever had the misfortune to listen to. I didn't know who he was but I was excited to get another opportunity to hear Robert Greene speak. Well this Darin guy spoke for 90% of the podcast and had nothin of value to share. Even Huberman, who I like, was fangirling over Robert in the most recent one and trying to make thoughtful connections that fell flat.
Lewis Howes is one of the best interviewers ......allows the guest to speak without unnecessary interventions ❤❤
Only is a bit extreme. I am sure there are other people on the planet that could do a good job.
This world is not for me.
That exact same sentence used to be my Twitter 'about me' statement. It certainly feels like this, glad to know it isn't just me.
I have absolutely no passion for “making” it in this world we live in and its systems, I wish to live by a natural flow and that requires no money systems and games being played with my basic needs. Hopefully we as a human species are moving towards a free world where any type/individual can live their lives how they want to without having to earn money for it. Its ridiculous! Give me any problem in the world and I’ll show you how the money system is directly or indirectly connected to it, its the head of the beast and why so many people are fake and narcissistic! Loved this podcast a lot, despite not resonating with everything 💜🔥
I totally agree..it's a never ending toxic cycle with the 2% being the puppet masters..folks really need to wake up and stop drinking the Kool Aid....
@@thelmahardy6827 Islam fixes all the financial and societal problem
My entire life changed at 50, I’m now 58. Losing your health changes everything, not only for you but everyone in your life. So live in the moment and enjoy the journey, I’m still very blessed, God is so great. One of my favorite podcast! 🤩🇺🇸
I agree
God bless us and the U. S. A.! 👍
I have always been bullied, as a child in Holland and even as an adult in the US. I was feisty but so insecure.
I survived a skydiving accident at age 24, leaving me severely disabled. I still became a physician assistant until after 10 years, but had to stop.
I became more disabled and was diagnosed with adhesive arachnoiditis. This type of neuro-inflammatory spinal cord inflammation (meningitis) is incurable and the pain is intractable.
By now the sacral nerves are adhesed to the bone part and everything hurts. But I got my life back and a lot of time to think and contemplate.
I am high IQ and gregarious, not understanding why I was treated badly, also as a crippled comic. Well I had another crisis forcing me find my cojones. I'm finally proud of my accomplishments, and people treat me nicely and with respect. It's a new world fot me, one I enjoy living in. Best wishes, Kaatje
✨Recite if you want " thank you universe " continusly during days more if need create miracles ✨
Not everyone. I see so many people’s character are worse with illness. They never realised anything and they stay the same way of behaving no matter what.
Understanding the 'dark side' is such an underated advice-knowing your own weaknesses helps you mitigate them more effectively.
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It is called "shadow-work" ( C.G. Jung ) and is a main work in the therapeutic world since decades. People also have downsides from that: getting lost in the dark and looking for failure only in themselves. Without a rational moral compass this work may also confuse and worsen things. So it really needs to be balanced with a very positive goal-setting.
@@biancavonmuhlendorf2608it's important too see the shadow as a branch of your self and not as your whole existence.
You may associate with it too much. It is a part of you and you are very complicated mix of qualities therefore treating it like it defines you is a bad idea. Instead it's best to be aware of it and use it contructivily, explore where it comes from, when did you repress it? Why ? How can you make it a part of your life.
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Wow, it’s so natural for me to feel genuinely happy for others. Watching this reminds me how blessed I truly am to have empathy.
this.I mean, i concur with the rationale of a lot of what he says, but i'm a bit sad that it's... idk something active he needs to do.I'm happy my brain isn't wired like that, even though it has caused me some grief.
I'm naturally kind and respectful to others, treat everyone as an equal, and stick to my commitments to friends and acquaintances. I dont mind apologising for mistakes or for unintentionally hurting peoples feelings. I am always willing to listen and open to a dialogue. I get enthusiastic about new connections and would often show they are important to me through finding time for meetings and chats in my busy schedule. I'm always responsive (though sometimes with a delay as running errands etc) yet make sure not to initiate too much / be clingy or creepy and give space. I observe my language not to offend unintentionally or be dismissive. I have been called "pure" and "loving" by my current and past partners.
In return I have, in 95% of cases, come across people who initially seem nice then test my boundaries, try to mock me, ghost me, are dismissive and contemptuous, passive or even openly agressive, then eventually become disinterested in my acquaintance OR they meet up with me occasionally only to monopolise conversation and brag about everything in their life. Yet if I share anything positive from my life they dish out a put down or mockery.
After a series of such experiences I can only conclude I'm an outlier, and that humans are at best 50-50 split between the good and the bad traits, and cannot comprehend or accept a person who does not display or have a dark side. The fact that Richard believes the dark side is so internal to all of us is upsetting to me, equally I don't think his advice re introspection and working on one own's ego applies to everyone.
Yes you just exposed my neighbours to the T. This woman called the police on me for no reason and he reason was because I was being me and it bothered her. I am a single mom raising 2 kids and mind my own business in my flat and never talk to the neighbours so one day a new tenant moved in and she noticed that I am young and carry on living my life doing my own thing. Mind you this neighbour has just moved in so she started bullying I and my kids for no reason whatsoever so I let it slide. Then she continued then at 2am she started hitting the top roof because i leave top floor and I noticed and went to her flat and knocked on her door and told her my kids are sleeping and shes disturbing our peace at 2am in the morning and weve got things to do that day and need sleep. This woman became rageful and started throwing accusations at me and even accused me of chasing her daughter downstairs I was confused of what shes talking about then she threatened to call the police and she called the police and police came and she told them that its because she lost her job and took her anger on me and that I was aggressive towards her ( all lies). It from that day when she called the police , she crossed the line with me Ive kept my distance ever since because I started to see who she was and someone like that can hurt me and my children. We stay away from them. People hate you just for you being you and I'll never change for hateful jealous and envious people because they refuse to work on themselves and its not my responsibility to change them. I walk away
I’m so sorry that you went through this. I can relate to people being irrationally cruel. I’m glad they’re not getting to you. Single moms don’t get enough respect 🫡
Self awareness is the big key. There is no going forward or anywhere until you know what you are.
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I have found that when I recite “ help me, Father God and thank you, Father God” I am filled with the inner strength to do and go beyond what is needed. Amen! Hallelujah!
"What" you are and not "who" you are. I like that.
Exactly 👍
The humility Robert shows in owning his narcissistic like traits literally is opposite the definition of a classic narcissist. Narcissists are NOT open in looking at themselves with intention to grow/change. They love talking about themselves to stay the same, not evolve. But even brings more credibility to his work. Love it
Most people have narcissistic tendencies. But everyone has different levels, to the point where they could be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
@@JoeyiOiexactly this. I find myself questioning my more narcissistic qualities. They are “dark”, bc it takes you to dark places and breeds all sorts of other feelings. It takes work to realize and it fall into those mindsets.
Lol. That's one of his masks. Narcissists/Sociopaths are amazing at showing what they think is appealing.
@@simplybeautiful9885 Good observation, but he’s still being honest.
Covert narcissism is different.
How is it not natural to be happy for other’s success. Perhaps more so for some then others. The sound of others joy is laughter. Laughter is infectious.
So true! I learned about this years ago from the tickle me elmo toy, whose laughter brought me joy. Watching him laugh until he fell over made me feel better. His laugh was more real than most human fake laughter, which made me feel sick to my stomach! Now I get that same joy from a bird named tico! Watch him here on youtube and you will laugh with tears of joy.
I used to dream big because all the people around me saw great potential and I wanted to satisfy them, I'm 27, I'm leading teams and reaching success in my job, but I feel nothing. I will quit soon because I want to work from home and start traveling. I really feel connected when the writer explained their dreams like going to the desert and swim with whales and he preferred to leave that dream to write his last book and accomplish that goal.
I reached the success that others wanted for me, but I think that is time to reach the success that I want for me. I got transferred five months ago to a whole new city, without friends nor family and I think that it is my time to disappear and start my journey.
Do what you want, but do it for yourself ❤
I'm 76 and when he mentioned that was life worth living if he couldn't do certain things anymore, my answer to myself and everyone else is find something new that you can do, and do that!
You are absolutely right ma 'am you sound like a positive person if don't mind it would be a great pleasure for us to get to know each other
I started learning how to play the guitar at 64. It has been wonderful. Life saved something new for me to end my days with.
I became disabled. It was very hard to adjust to.. very true. But i have learnt new lesson that people can be cruel to disabled people. I fought not to feel sorry about it. It opened different doors. Closed some I wish it had not.
Robert, it is not narcissistic to refuse when people want to take a piece of you, disguised as an opportunity. Its just having boundaries.
You know what’s funny. If someone just wanted a piece of you and you are aware of the opportunity and that it’s very well an illusion you have the advantage in knowing why not ride the opportunity until it stops bringing you benefits because you were well aware that it was not a opportunity the whole time you can’t be manipulated and convinced that you need to do whatever it takes to keep the opportunity. Exit because you were the one who was manipulating
That's a great way to word it !
Even is not narcissism when you take advantage of someone who wants to take a piece of you. This is the real boundary, the consequences.
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There's also a difference between being narcissistic versus arrogant. When he talks about finding things in himself that he doesn't like, he seems to be talking about arrogance, but he's using the word narcissist, which could be confusing from a psychology perspective, because he's not an actual diagnosable narcissist.
Valuable insights and questions.
In terms of greatness I agree-you dont have to be Steve Jobs (Mandela or Gandhi more needed these days...).
I was thinking of my neighbour Emmi, whom I knew since I was a child. She lived alone, died at 93, her only son whom she raised alone, became a medical doctor, died many years before her from cancer.
No bitterness dealt out, every birthday me and my brother received handknit socks - unconditional - , she celebrated everything we were happy about. And she participated in life, took care of her two gardens cultivating Fruit snd vegetables; and served anyone who visited her old-fashioned Advocaat with chocolate sprinkles. Sweet memories...
I love this man. Such a breath of realistic fresh air. I couldn't stop listening if I tried. So glad you had him as a guest. ❤
Im way too good at reading people.. that's why i stay inside mostly. Everywhere i go i see the true intentions and feelings of people and i don't like it.
Haven't finished the video yet but I do know enough people that say they are good at reading people and it's not the people there reading.
It's the intentions that they are perceiving in order to protect themself. Normally it's a Trauma response. Your brain is trying to protect you but it does more harm then good.
Considering we are described as creatures that need social interaction to survive, staying inside would be considered harmful, in the long run.
I'm a gamer myself and though we can get social interactions online, if we have this issue with reading people, we tend to start isolating even in gaming situations to avoid feeling uncomfortable.
Or you know, I'm reading to much in to this and I'm not doctor. Just a dude, playing a dude, playing another dude 😅
So take any of this with a grain of salt. 👍🏽
Well that's a stupid reason imo to stay inside
Most people you see everywhere don't care enough about you to wish you ill.
I feel the same way ngl
I am a highly sensitive intuitive type with high empathy which cripples me since I also have the gift of understanding. Where I get hurt repeatedly is that there is no understanding in return when I merely react to abuse. However, none of us are perfect, or even good all the time and most of our good radar comes from trauma and hypervigilence..I'm still in therapy for it because 4 decades of patterns of my attracting people who admire me for these traits, plus my passion and outspokenness....I end up getting angry at them and resentful of them, so that means...I'm not a saint, therefore, there are others who don't like that about me. I mistook my whole life, the 'quiet ons' for being calm, strong, a rock. It turns out that 'rock,' growing up, stood by and didn't protect and defend me against my physically and mentally abusive parent, their spouse who I was more scared of but still screamed bloody murder, when assaulted .....but the quiet one who didn't find me worth the fight to protect me, was just as abusive actually. So, we all have work to do! Humility is key. Tough stuff, really.
Body language, the tonality of a person’s voice means so much in a successful relationship.
I know what u mean but can u elaborate more, it's an interesting point ur making
You can read people without no words. Trust actions, not words. Some people have this fake ability to put candy in their mouth and talk to you. Watch their actions more.
U think u have said something wise? Everyone knows that
@@Wolf_runner12 you’re a wise person then 🙏💜🙏
I did that surprise micro aggression experiment with all my co-workers, they all wants to kill me. Their mind had a satanic look when it recognized me, then they corrected it (for less than a second).
Needing to make a change for my own physical health greatly helped me in going no contact since 2016.
I thought walking away from all of my family and not turning back was tough. I'm learning that reparenting myself is the biggest mother of them all.
Thank you Robert. I am 37 years old, freshly aware, and thankful for every step. You are partly responsible for this metamorphosis I’ve experienced in my life. It means so much to hear your sincerity. Long live Robert Greene!
THIS INTERVIEW MADE ME CRY. IT FELT LIKE A TALK WITH THE DAD YOU NEVER HAD.
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This video does make you think and reflect a lot.
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A Podcast for Pause and I don’t mean the button… as a registered nurse, I fully understand what a stroke can do to someone. It is impressive to see how intact your mind is Mr. Greene after such a life changing event. Thank you for the clarity, and the depth of your knowledge, and the delivery in this interview. I believe your best is yet to come. To the host of this podcast keep creating life changing contents cause this is exactly what this podcast will do for quite a lot of people. Thank you.
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you don't need to be a registered nurse to know what a stroke can do to someone.
I never understood why people have to throw in their profession in their comment.
@@Recite_GodHealMeCreateMiracles the universe contradicts religion
@@TheSteveMeister you don’t know as I do not know for sure. Where is your proof? Are you going to put creative boundaries on God? Regardless of your beliefs, God means creator. Creator does not necessarily mean a conscious man in the sky. It is what started and what has always been. Much better that science and religion work together in tandem and not against eachother. Extremists on both sides do neither justice
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I am tearing up from the end . Thank You Robert and God bless you. I have to listen to audio of your books because I have difficulty reading at times. I have been listening to Robert from my twenties. I have to go back as I'm near my 40s and listening to you now....there's so much underlying messages and new perspectives to look at things now.
I don't put on a mask. I dealt with people who did that most my life. I became an expert at reading people and letting go of those who are fake.
After listening to this podcast I was thinking to myself: it is such a privilege to have genuine faith in God
This is so true. To have my faith in Jesus Christ and knowing 100% that He died for me on that rugged cross instills a true Joy that those only taking it for themselves can experience. We have the problem of our sin. That is why Jesus came. To save us. Salvation is available to all. ❤ Love listening.
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It's called putting the whole armour of God on. Do onto others as you want done to you. Jesus Christ is Lord.
How so trur
Amen, the full Armour of God is the only way to navigate this life
The interviewer really knows how to ask good questions, spot on.
He just does these silly pauses blankly looking at guests as if he knows something. The dude is so basic and 80% is done for him by the team
@@Wolf_runner12 Be gone with your negative energy, since you are obviously envious of his success!
@Meatball.number1 Dude. Why are you here? You don’t like the host. Fine. Your prerogative. By why stay somewhere that you don’t like? You don’t like his voice so why listen to it? Why make your your own self miserable? Hate watching is really a thing I suppose. lol
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He's allowed his opinion. This isn't the Steven Bartlett Podcast
Coco my daughter had some lessons to learn in life always walked around trusting people would give the last dollar to help then reality happened she woke up seen the truth now she's healing now shes cut out all the bottom feeders . Mr.Greene your creativity has inspired my family to open our eyes . Thanks you, change is always good .
I’ve seen all of your podcasts and many others but this one has been one of the most wholesome and just best podcast about life I’ve encoutered in my 30+ years of age and I know it aint much. Thank you for this🙏🏻
I never realized the speaker was disabled until he started talking about it. Probably the best motivational speaker I've heard in a quite a long time. Thank you.
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Say we all are so indoctrinated and they have the labels on us I mean yeah this guy's the best motivational speaker ever okay well know we all are amazing motivational speakers we just all are at different stages of doing it and some do it better than others. We should I think the greatest human act that Nipsey Hussle say that the greatest human act is to inspire and it honestly it really is.
Robert doesn’t look at things with empathy, he sees strategic manipulation of people as the way to dominate life. And I’m not criticizing; he is clearly a fascinating narcissist in recovery. And I believe he might recognize his warpy way of thinking. So good on him. But if you’ll notice, his methods are appealing to those 1 in 6 narcissists who are looking for ways to manipulate with pseudo-authenticity, because narcissists cannot be authentic. He realizes that when people are understood in depth, there comes the true ability to act and to achieve to one’s ultimate life’s desire. He cannot conceptualize the idea that some people do not hide shadow. In expression of shadow, authenticity is being expressed. There are those who take control and do not “act.” Only a grandiose person understands that “weak asks” make them look weak and that “strong asks” hide weakness and are “convincing” to others of your strength. Only narcissists believe that everyone is fake and potentially threatening. Essentially, he is more of a self-conceptualized narcissist than the others. His thoughts are intriguing but you’ll never hear him talk about how to really tap into the emotions of another with care, love, and consideration. At the other end of the spectrum, the ability to be empathetic can also be used to one’s advantage, but narcissists don’t consider that method. He’s learned how to leverage his narcissism for success through identification of the weaknesses in others and himself and realizing where his tendencies have caused him to fall short of control.
What he says 20 minutes in is exactly what my husband is going through right now. He has been in the body shop industry his whole working life (started at the front office and worked his way to head painter) He is now 35 and altho he is the top painter in the area and every shop wants him, he quit so he could become a pilot. (his dream job ever since he was a kid) He said he couldnt stand the toxic cultre, drama, and crappy pay any longer and is ready to make the change and finally get paid what he deserves for all his hard work. I fully support him and even offered to go to work again (currently a stay at home mom and homeschool our 9 and 7 year olds) so he could go to school full time. He told his step mom and when she realized he was actually serious she told him that he couldn't become a pilot without a degree and he was a college dropout. I dont think anyone else is taking it seriously either. Its sad he only has my support but i think thats enough for him to push through. The pain of being the same is getting worse for him than the pain of changing...
"Pilot without a degree?" Hogwash. Good for him. Plus so great to get out of toxic environments!
his step mom is trash and wants for him to be miserable also why does he need such trash approval in the first place you have one life avoid the trash
@@acebilbo thank you! Your words mean so much! :)
I admire people who know their occupational purpose... Godspeed.💛
I’m glad your husband is pursuing his dream. I wish him all the best.
He won’t regret his decision.
I learned a lot about body language in my work in a forensic psychiatric hospital. But also a lot about my own darkside. And still new parts of that are coming to light after so many years. I am 64 now and still learning 😁
This was life changing... Steven, you ALWAYS have the BEST INTERVIEWS! Interviews that either challenge or empower your viewers to become the very best version of themselves. I love this channel ❤️
Robert Greene is a gem to society. I am grateful he is still alive to share this wisdom with the world. Looking forward to his book on the sublime. Cheers :)
He is 64, why would he die? Lol, it reads like a subtle threat
@@androidbluatGenerally speaking, people who have suffered a stroke tend to have a shorter lifespan and as a consequence can develop additional life limiting health conditions. There is also an increased risk of a further stroke or strokes which could end up being life threatening?
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He is unbelievably cynical. I agree he does have some very useful insights, but he has such an unrealistic and terribly cynical view of humankind.
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After years of being raised by narcissistic parent then first 20 years of marriage.I’ve did plenty of looking inward thinking I was in the wrong . Done with that and have learned when people show you who they are believe them . Don’t make excuses for them or try to fix them . Move on and find freedom within yourself un -encumbered by bullsh&t .
I could watch this podcast forever. What a fantastic duo! So well balanced, tremendous dialog. Bravo.
That was incredible! Learned more about what it is to be human in the last 2 hrs, than I learned on my own in 50yrs. Amazing interveiw.
Dear Dr Green, I was in a huge crisis a year ago with a work situation. I saw you on Jordan Peterson, and I bought the 365 book for my son... But I kept it and read it. It did help me sort through things. As you say, however, the biggest the thing I did was stop seeing myself as perfect and to understand that i really had no clue what other people were thinking. That was HUGE. A year later I'm at the same job but I feel very differently about myself and the people I work with. 100% that is the first thing to do... Stop seeing yourself as perfect, or wonderful, or a victim. You. Are. Not.
Well said
Here. Here. All identy is a stumbling block. To give up my desire to be perfect I began calling myself mediocre. I'm a mediocre wife, mother, friend ect... I eventually let go of those too, but it was a good first step to letting go of a major part of my ego. Then as I let go of more layers, it got easier and easier
Find out who you truly are. Who you've always been. It's not your thoughts. Or other people's thoughts. You find your true self by being still inside.
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Well sometimes people are victims of the situation, and we should not devalue their experience either , if it’s rooted in the objective reality.
I don’t need to work out if people hate me, I already know everybody does.
But I think I’m almost at a stage of total acceptance.
Sounds like you have some personal issues that you don't want to address rather than other people having issues with you.
Here's the rub, people don't hate you. They nothing you. As you get older you understand that. People are so absorbed in themselves, they don't even have time or energy for others. 🤷♀️
How about not firing a F! Life is too short. Miserable jealous insecure people hate others so let them drown in their misery 😂
I don’t know you. I am certain I wouldn’t hate you. My brother acts like he hates me & I have never done anything bad to him. My husband’s family really likes me. Sometimes it’s jealousy but you can’t please everyone. Just shrug your shoulders and move on.
😮💨...... Hate is better than envy .....
Robert Green is so HONEST and open in this! This is suchhh a powerful episode!
Great conversation. When you were describing envious ppl and frenemies, you was describing a friend of mine that I cut loose. He always made slick comments when it came to my accomplishments. As much financial help I gave him it wasn’t enough. I realized he felt I didn’t deserve what I had and it should’ve been him…
From experience 44 years of Narcissistic abuse leads to liberation and spiritual awakening. Total awareness of ego in myself and others 🙏 ❤ 🌎 👻
Same !
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I was abused by an x girl she cheated on me so much I got 3 stds from her. Hep-b,hpv and clamitia she cheated on me so often it took me 10 years to get over this scum.sleeping with her ma wasn't enough to get her back she lied to my face so many times hate is too kind of a word to describe her
Did I deserve to waste my life on her
Tim Fletcher is also great on the topic of trauma and narcissistic abuse.
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“I don’t know about you but I appreciate politeness…I know they’re not necessarily meaning it but it’s nice…it’s kinda smooth. If people weren’t polite it’d be…grating”
I just LOVE this. I don’t know why but this just HIT. I am forever going to think of politeness as being smooth from now on.
There have been times where when day to day politeness in some circles felt so artificial I wanted to just ram my head in the wall but this… this just resonated so much it’s going to forever make that artificial feeling totally alright now.
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It’s so cool to put a face to the name! I went to find his book on audible and realized I already read it which is why I agreed with the interview so much 🤣
Loving Diary of a CEO! I send all the interviews to at least 3 people every time!!!
When i was 56 i was in a head on collision so i now know limitations that seemed to come too early. I understand. I enjoyed this podcast
You can never know 100% for sure whether someone loves you or not. Because they can always do everything it takes to act and seem like they do, whilst not. So there is no way to know for sure whether someone likes you or hates you and you could drive yourself crazy into paranoia.
Maybe don't worry about that and just worry about whether they treat you right. Do what works for you but its none of our business what goes on in other's heads. Its more of our business of whether we are being respected or not.
Seriously don't you think that love is something that most of all you feel or sense so it's more about what your instict tells you?! I don't think I can never mistaken someone who doesn't love me for someone who genuinely do.
Absolutely true. People who have gone through things read the book (48 laws) with a different lens - enlightening. I also remember this one guy who told me "reading it makes you evil, it teaches you to be manipulative". And he was/is the master manipulator (one who you have to watch). I realized that decisively years later. Be very careful of 'frenemies' and narcisits - they totally hate when you are aware of all these tacts or counter-respond in manners that they can no longer put a choke hold on you. Thanks for this episode and continuing to share knowledge and insights.
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Thank you. I wrote this down to remember it
The 48 power of law It’s a book of deceit.
Man, your interviews are really so good. It s really pure quality!
Robert, thanks for sharing. I agree, and as I grow older, my tolerance for bad behavior diminishes. When someone shows their true colors by saying something nasty, I believe it’s a clear indication of their character. Second chances are a luxury I no longer extend to those who choose negativity.
Wow, I hope people do their own research after listening to this. Huberman did not leave his position at Stanford. He is still a tenured professor there. He does podcasting in addition. Also, identity disturbance is a hallmark of narcissistic personality disorder - it causes narcissists to over-identify with what others think about them, thus the "need" to "transform yourself" when people "project an identity" onto you. Although Robert Greene can have some insights, I find his perspective to be wildly distorted by his narcissism. Normal people without high levels of narcissism have a strong sense of a core identity which is not shaped by what other people think about them.
Hmmmmm......what's your story, I wonder?
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There is something about him that is quite off putting. Also I don’t find anything that incredibly insightful about what he says.
Thanks for pointing that out and correcting this! It was truly annoying to hear how Green kept misrepresenting Huberman’s career to fit his own perspective. It made not want to listen any further…
Right! Huberman states that in the introduction to each of his podcasts (regarding his current position at Stanford)… weird that there wasn’t a video cut or some text edit from DOAC about that huge mistake.
The only class I failed in college and had to retake was “social influence”. Call it an art, science etc, it’s evil. You need to be a very kind and well-balanced human to use this skill with compassion.
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I feel exactly the same way.
sometimes I listen to myself, I feel like I don't understand myself, then I realize why people don't understand me. It is a weakness I fight every day, I have so far maneuvered using these tricks...
Thank you 🙏🏻 Robert green. And what a beautiful voice you have so calming .. and what happens to you (stroke) it was written for you so thank the lord that you still here and pray to the almighty that you are finish your book 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻
God willing.
"We have to learn to look behind people's masks" - YES, this is why intuition is vital, because their energy cannot lie, even if their words and actions do, our gut/heart/nervous system will feel when their energy does not align.
I am myself and that includes being kind but with confidence… I will not act to jeopardize my integrity and my values. I don’t care if others envy me, I pity them for their misery. Being envious is a very dark place.
I feel the same I’m just happy being me nothing special but I’m ok with that
I feel the sa😂me. I feel myself. I don't put on an act. I would have liked to be more successful in a worldly way, but i have not or would never try to get ahead by hurting others. I think kindess is most important.
Isn't jealousy the dark place whereas envy can be inspirational?
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I fully agree with u KB, however it is a necessary evil to discover who is envious of us, bcz while we are focused on continuing to our goals with confidence, kindness, empathy , forgiveness and love , THEY are working hard to destroy us. They are not fixable , so we must stop them before irreparable damage is done. I learned the hard way and i still don't understand WHY I was worth all their efforts
I loved the jabb at the podcast, that was a classic interview challenge for the interviewer! This is one of the best interviews I've seen on this channel.
Very, very authentic. Nice work (1h 15min to 1h 22min)
Bumped onto this video randomly but it has a lot of great principles and makes total sense... the comment about the frenemies really hit me.... I am an artist and it's incredible to see how the people closest to me, that I repute best friends and see regularly, never like my art on social media or make a nice comment about it ... that for me is a sign that someone is jealous for sure. Stay away from those people.
The sad truth is if u happen to be smart, talented, successful, appear to be financially successful, have a loving partner, are thin, good-looking, are content or any combo of the above.... u'll attract the wrong people, because they want what u appear to have, and will turn on u on a dime. 😢
Sure, I've had dark thoughts, but I'd never devote effort to destroying someone's reputation. My sad realization is how some of the people I cared about the most turned out to be the most angry, entitled, delusional and envious.
My ex actually admitted he was attracted to me because he wanted what I had. 😮 I didn't have much...I was a divorced mom with two preteens, owned a cute little home and going to school. 🤔🤔.
But I was really optimistic, hardworking and had lots of great friends. Marrying him was a terrible decision, followed by many more. C'est la vie!
What is thin? Is that a good quality or your preferred look?
Many men see a good looking woman like they see a car. They want to own it as an object for their own ego.
@@sallywilton2236 Yes, true. But it goes both ways...many women want a hunky mate....with a fat...bank account!! 🙃
Slim women have a greater chance of being level headed as opposed to being sloths in many areas of their lives. Essentially gaming for less problems down the line.
@@MrWhite-7 I don't know how much validity that statement has. I had a beautiful friend who was tall, blonde and very slender. She was married to an older and successful engineer, but their romantic life was non-existent. She had numerous affairs, but were extremely short-lived, (all older men) and I later discovered she was bulimic.
She had very low self-esteem and had been abused as a child by her mother while her father had been on the road. She suffered from severe claustrophobia from being locked in a dark closet for days, and wouldn't ride an elevator. There's a lot more, but my point is that PTSD manifests in people in very different ways. Don't forget beautiful but bulimic Princess Diana. Obsession with physical beauty can be problematic just as much as gluttony can. Appearances can be deceiving for anyone.
I became disabled two years ago. Roberts perspective on being disabled, was so helpful for me. I can relate so much to feeling like I’ve lost the ability to do all of the things that I love. Your story is encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing your brilliance.
I hope you find lots of new things to ❤
May the Lord heal you.
Correction* You didn't become disabled but you became differently able.
@@thabomabuza7340 Stop trying to gaslight people into thinking not being able to move/think is somehow a positive or neutral thing. It's objectively negative.
@@thabomabuza7340 No, I'm disabled. I have come to accept that, and I'm perfectly fine with that fact. Fact is, there are things I will never be able to do again, and that list will only grow as my neuro degenerative disease progresses. I will never be able to pull the transmission from my 1968 F100 and replace the clutch. There is no manner of doing it differently that will change this fact. Being on my back and wrestling nearly 300 pounds of cast iron just isn't going to happen. I will have to pay someone to do it for me the next time the clutch needs to be replaced.
The only people that I have known that insist on using "differently abled" have not been able to accept their disability fully, and live their best or better life then before. They struggle to fully emotionally accepting their current reality. In turn they try and force themselves into intellectually rejecting that which they know to be true. That they have become disabled, and have lost some level of functioning. Overcoming that hurtle of emotionally and intellectually accepting their disability is the step needed to not only gain full acceptance, but to thrive going forward. An intellectual or emotional rejection of this prevents moving foward. As you spend your energy trying to disprove what you already know to be true.
This was one of my top 5 favorite interviews so far. Thank You for having Robert on.
Stephen, you never seem to amaze by the choice speakers you interview.
I love what he said about love. This is what good people feel towards those around them, not just their husbands and wives and children.
So nobody in New York is a good person by your definition lol
I had a hard time explaining to my sister, who was constantly complaining about being shut down for being too honest. The segment about showing up as different actors to deal with different people was exactly the point I was trying to convey. Many excellent ideas in this podcast!!
✨Recite if you want " thank you universe " continusly during days more if need create miracles ✨
I hope you never shut down your sister but It's good to show her an alternative on how to be successful and act around ppl in today's society.
One can 'show up different' and still choose to be 'too honest'
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq honesty in moderation is always the best policy.
@@darrinmitchell7660 Dude, go somewhere and sit down, because that's not how that works and you know it. Since when was the word, 'in moderation' added to this saying, and when it comes the government who has lied to us, saying what you just said is dangerous. Can't you hear these men sitting there telling us not to trust our truth... like literally, go away
Robert’s writings changed my life and the life of people around me. I am forever in dept for the efforts you have put into the transformative books and what you went through to convey your ideas. I call one of you books my bible ❤.
Wow! This is probably the best video I’ve encountered till date. I learned so much and the topics spoken about in this video resonated with me on a deep level. Thank you !❤
What he says about not taking things for granted, really hits home with me. I'm now 47, and while I'm not yet "elderly", I am definitely starting to feel the effects of aging. Having to actually worry about my health, and getting regular check-ups. I was never in the slightest worried when I'd go for an annual physical in my 20s and 30s, but now I dread it because I don't know what might be found, and I really struggle with this.
I absolutely took my youth and health for granted. In fact, I just never thought much about it, and just figured that's just how life is. You can run and play sports for hours. You can eat anything on still look good. I could see others who were old and the struggles they would go through, but somehow I didn't think it would happen to me. I know how absurd that sounds, but it's true. So if you're young, just do your best to appreciate those things, and don't focus on the negative or the things you don't have but wish you did. Nothing is better than being young and healthy, not even money.
I am relatively wealthy now, and I'd give it all away if I could be 19 years old again.
To be 19 without the experience and knowledge you have now? Might just lead down the same or similar road
I once heard an expression, “Youth is wasted on the young.” I grew into understanding its meaning.
Breaks my heart to see young people worrying themselves over things that dont matter.
@@vicki-leealomes1716 I'm 30. I've always loved hearing wisdom from older folk. Always been obedient and interested in gaining knowledge/ wisdom from my elders. That said, life is learned through living. My experience has been that regardless of the knowledge I gained through books or others life experience, it was my own experience that I grew most from. " Youth is wasted on the young" yes, I guess but " life is lived forward and understood backwards" Soren Kierkegaard. Regardless if you became 19 again, you would only have the experience of a 19 year old( unless you imagine living in a Benjamin Button world and not this one)Again, I am relatively young so what do I know.
I do agree with the worrying about small things , still a problem I hope to eradicate with age.
@@vicki-leealomes1716it’s the truest expression!
100% For me, the magic number is 27 years old. Just finishing medical school. Girls were trying to ring ME upbefore i graduated, thinking i was too dumb to know what they're doing. Then I left that college town and started my life: making up for lost time with youth, energy, and finally....a paycheck.
I didnt take ANY of those minutes for granted....except for sleep. I worked out to be in shape, almost never turned down a party, ate as healthy as I could, and came back into work, maybe tired, but not much else (I dont drink). And I'd been going sleepless for years anyway during my studies so this felt like MORE sleep than I'd had in a long time. I crammed every minute of fun I could into those days. Got an old Jeep Sahara, painted it like Jurassic Park, got an Australian shephard puppy and took in a kitten I found under the stairs.
Life was the best.
I'm 50 now, with zero regrets and a crap ton of images....framed in pictures and framed in my head. My knees crackles, my hairline and gumline are receding, and i just dont feel like going anywhere or doing anything. It's a graceful aging: I had my time in the sun. I'd be BITTER if I waited this long to live life and had to do with TODAY's aging body. I walked through that door at the right time.
But still....to go back. Sometimes, I'll hear a song....and there I am. For a second. Then I hear my knees.
Robert, you are the most beautiful person and I'm so happy you made it through your stroke, whilst being so sad for you that it happened at all.
You have the love of your wife and family which is worth more than anything and something that not everyone experiences.
Although it was fate that brought you the stroke you can do all you can to prevent another, so I hope you are researching that and have an excellent functional medicine doctor to guide you.
I always love hearing you speak, you make me think deeply about life and relationships and you are so wise. I look forward to your next book, but take your time dear friend x
I'm ADHD so I find it hard to stay engaged in certain conversations because my mind gets distracted or I'm bored, it's hard as I don't want to be rude, I'm often exhausted after social events so I try not go to them!
As we call it, "code switch". To survive in cooperate, you have to adopt a persona. I absolutely cannot be the person at work that I am on personal and I am glad for the self-edit as it's kept me employed.
✨Recite if you want " thank you universe " continusly during days more if need create miracles ✨
Jung was the one who called it " the persona", we all have it and need it, it is not a flaw to not be the same person everywhere, as long as you stay true to your core values and truths. Your persona doesn't just keep you employed, it keeps you sane.
No shade to you but in 2020 that's when I was like are you kidding me I couldn't believe how many people and I realized some people did not have an option or they thought they didn't but I promise you that's why I'm going to make my channel not to preach but to share my experience and show what I have learned and I swear there is enough to go around in their little money game I mean if we're in The matrix we might as well do play their rules right and I'm telling you learn your state laws learn just learn things I promise you I will share it with everyone what they're doing is keeping secrets and stuff how to do social media how to do this blah blah blah blah blah and there's all the stuff to do it's quite very simple and you just literally I mean I don't know there's just a blueprint already and I don't know how I didn't see this before but it just wasn't the timing wasn't right. Believe it or not I'm literally living on Netflix movie so I'm in the middle of my book but I promise you I want to make sure that the hacking that I and identity theft which will be in it and I want to share that with all of you so that you will be protected as well and I guarantee you you're not.